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features January 2015


Get Your Goat

by Jonathan Scott Goats are the star performers in Celebrity Dairy, a local farm and inn run by two accidental entrepreneurs.


Repurpose with a Purpose: Sir Walter Raleigh Hotel

by Jonathan Scott A Roaring Twenties hot spot for local movers and shakers is transformed into a historical building that serves the community.


Fit to Ride

by Michelle Goetzl One man, one bicycle, many roads.


Wild and Free

by Carrie Frye The Corolla horses of the Outer Banks and the sanctuary dedicated to their preservation.


Carolina Conversations with Jaki Shelton Green

by Ann Robson 2014 North Carolina Literary Hall of Fame writer, Jaki Shelton Green, talks about her twists and turns in life and how they influenced her art.

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48 departments 9  Literary Circle by Cos Barnes 10 B  elle Weather by Celia Rivenbark 11 Cooking  Simple by Rhett Morris 13 S  enior Moments by Barb Cohea 15 S  entimental Journey by Jennifer Pollard 16 Game  On by  Thad Mumau

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18  O  ver My Shoulder by Ann Robson

47 Ask the Expert by Amy Natt

52 G  ray Matter

48 Eye  Health by Lisa Fulghum

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An Exciting New Year! We have a lot to celebrate as we enter our fifth year of publishing, and OutreachNC is welcoming many of the customary traditions. Dressed for success, we are plunging into a fresh, clean look, highlighting the amazing features, photography, and expert advice our magazine offers. OutreachNC was launched in 2010 as a community resource to help readers navigate aging life experiences with success (or gusto). We believe the second 50 years of living are the best and create many opportunities for engaging in life, embracing tradition and experiencing new things. Our editorial team has an exciting year planned, providing readers with content that is motivational, inspirational and educational. The truth is we’re all aging; whether you are embracing being in your 40’s, a baby boomer, an older adult, adult child, caregiver or life care professional, we have something for you. Good music and delicious food are just two ways we usher in 2015. Some of the other areas we will focus on include gratitude, designs for small space living, taking on technology, creating your legacy, entertainment (because we know laughter really is the best medicine) and the value of relationships later in

life. What’s old is new again and we are looking forward to being there with you as you live life to the fullest, navigate changes, and plan for the future. The New Year is often a time for change and bringing in the new. As we launch our 2015 series, we would like to welcome Gayvin Powers as our new editor. Gayvin brings over 20 years of writing, editing, photography, e-commerce and technology experience to OutreachNC. Most recently, her focus has been on writing both in novel and magazine formats. Her creativity and enthusiasm for our publication, readers and advertisers is invigorating, and we are looking forward to the perspective and direction she brings. Thank you to Carrie Frye, our editor for many years. Carrie took what was once a company newsletter and built a magazine publication we are all so proud of each month. As she moves on to new opportunities, the legacy she built here will endure. Her dedication and loyalty to OutreachNC is extraordinary, and we wish her only the best. As the publisher, and from the entire team at OutreachNC, we are dedicated to continue bringing articles that fit our readers' lifestyles, stunning photography, and advice that assists adults over 40 navigate lifestyle choices. We know readers have a choice, and we want to be yours. Sincerely, Amy Natt Publisher

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elcome OutreachNC readers! I’m delighted to be the new editorin-chief and to present this January issue. Wellness starts from within, and we’re starting 2015 off right by focusing on a healthy lifestyle, sure to inspire positive living. Raised living close to my grandparents, I learned from them the importance of good health. It can be summed up in a simple act that my grandfather performed after Sunday night dinners. Bellies full, away my brother and I rushed to the davenport where our grandfather ritualistically laid out newspaper on the coffee table. On top of the news of the day, he set down a carving knife and juicy red apple. The next act he performed always inspired “oohs” and “aahs” from my brother and me. He slowly swirled the knife around the outer edge of the apple, creating long, delicate curls of apple skin more akin to a coiling ribbon dangling off a fancy box. Most of the time, he could peel the apple in one long, swirling piece. Other times, like in life, the masterpiece broke off too soon. While waiting for a wedge of apple, I indulged on the waxy, bitter edge that sometimes revealed a hint of the sweetness that was yet to come. With a bit of patience and hard work, he’d finally cut into the apple, revealing the reward just below the surface. A healthy lifestyle is a little bit like uncoiling an apple. Sometimes we achieve our goals the first time out, and other times our plans get cut short. Either way, we make the best of it. Sometimes, we’re unaware of the beauty and excitement that is available in life until our plans are interrupted, revealing unimagined treasures and gifts. This issue is filled with inspiring stories and people who are living their lives to the fullest and making the best of living. I wish each and every one of you a healthy, happy and joy-filled 2015. Sincerely,

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"Proof of Heaven" Book Review by Cos Barnes

How do I write a review of “Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Near-Death Experience and Journey into the Afterlife,” the narrative of Dr. Eben Alexander III's journey into the afterlife? It deals with not only the scientific aspects of a near-death experience but also the spiritual realization that there is a loving God out there. Stricken with a form of bacterial meningitis in 2008, Alexander fell into a coma and was hospitalized at Lynchburg General Hospital in Virginia, where he remained for seven days. He describes those days when he journeyed beyond this world and encountered an angelic being who led him through the darkness of the “Core, the Gateway,” riding on a butterfly’s wing. He witnessed the home of the “Divine,” an inky darkness that was also full to brimming with light. Adopted as a youth, Alexander had a deep-seated yearning to be loved, because he felt he had not been loved by his parents. As his biological siblings rally to sit with him and hold his hand constantly, he also has the support of his adoptive siblings as he pulls himself out of the morass that has him captured. Alexander’s brain went from inactivity to awakening. He made a full recovery and was certain of life beyond death. After his recovery, his son wisely advised him to write his experience down. Bit by bit, that part came back to him, and a lifetime of education and experience are at work again. He found there is really a loving God out there.

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How My Car Company Got Mileage out of False Claims by Celia Rivenbark

I drive one of those cars made by a company that recently got busted for lying about gas mileage and ended up having to return $300 million in cash and prizes (greenhouse-gas emission credits) to the feds and some customers. A car company being less than honest about its product's performance? How is such a thing possible in a just and peaceful world? All this time, I blamed my lead-footed driving style for the 6-8 miles per gallon difference from the sticker claim that was one of the biggest reasons I bought the car.

true that they had accidentally miscalculated a bit but were still a leader in fuel economy. Fortunately, the EPA rolled its collective eyes and said in an extremely paternal tone, "No, you're not. Please stop saying that you are." One more lie and they weren't going to get to go to Timmy's house for a sleepover. Kia/Hyundai was engaging in a tactic marketing types know as "spin." This is where you say something that sounds great but when its veracity is questioned, you find yourself telling an even bigger whopper to cover up the

Alas, my Kia doesn't get 34 mpg on the highway but usually can muster 28 if I drive exactly 60 mph, don't run the air

and set my jaw just right.

In fact, I distinctly remember asking the salesman: "Wow! 34 mpg sounds great. Is that really true?" And his response: "That's what the sticker says." Which, now that I think about it, isn't exactly a glowing endorsement. This is not a tiny car, and it has a fair number of bells and whistles, so 34 would be quite respectable if only it were true. Of course, American women are accustomed to being lied to when it comes to numbers. We all know that we can wear a "4" at the nice store but a 12 at the cheap store. I prefer to split the difference and be totally honest and say I wear a 6. We all fudge the numbers, so who can blame Kia/ Hyundai for joining in? The problem isn't just that they lied on the sticker; it's that they lied over a period of years, saying they were leaders in reducing greenhouse-gas emissions. Turns out, not so much. Even after they were busted by the EPA, Kia and Hyundai responded that it was 10 JANUARY 2015

first lie and, next thing you know, you've faked your own death. No. Sorry. That was on "Days of Our Lives." But you get where I'm headed with this. Alas, my Kia doesn't get 34 mpg on the highway but usually can muster 28 if I drive exactly 60 mph, don't run the air and set my jaw just right. To tell the truth, I would never have known the gas mileage was less than advertised if not for this handy little button on the steering wheel that tells the mileage instantly. Kia/Hyundai might want to rethink that. It's like how McDonald's now puts the calorie content right in big numbers next to the price of all its "food," and once you've seen something like that, well, you can't un-see it.

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Kale and Quinoa Rolls by Rhett Morris

A new twist on the traditional New Year’s Day dinner, dating back to the Civil War and thought to bring prosperity in the coming year, is a succulent, healthy dish using kale and quinoa.

Ingredients 2 cups cooked rice 2 cups toasted quinoa 1 small onion diced small 1 carrot diced small 1 stalk celery diced small 2 cloves garlic chopped 1 cup shredded mozzarella 2 eggs beaten 12 to 15 Tuscan kale leaves 1 jar tomato sauce


Cook vegetables until clear and add garlic and cook for 3 more minutes. Combine with rice, quinoa, cheese and eggs in a bowl. Blanc leaves in simmering water for 1 minute and remove and pat dry. Lay 3 leaves together and put 1/3 cup filling in and roll up and repeat with rest. Put in baking dish and pour tomato sauce over and bake for 30 minutes.

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There's No Such Thing as a Free Cat by Barb Cohea

I learned a lot of things from my dear departed father and one of those is, “There is no such thing as a free cat.” When he said it, it had something to do with eating lunch. My father spoke in parables and as time passed the lunch part morphed into there’s no such thing as a free wheel alignment, a free wifi connection, a free trip to Arizona, or a free cat. Which, of course, means all of my cats have been “free.” Of all my free cats, Ra is the best and most expensive. Believe me when I say, if I had to choose between dragging the drowning ex-sister-in-law of my first ex-husband into the life boat or saving Ra . . . it would be the cat every time. Over the years Ra has cost me the equivalent of two colonoscopies depending on which private health insurer you have and what hospital you go to. For me, that’s about $3,000 total. Although, if I lived in Oregon I hear it would be closer to $1,200 and I’d have four colonoscopies left. Whatever! That’s a different story. Anyway, I’m sitting here drinking coffee surrounded by $34 worth of cat oral care products and having flashbacks to Ra’s $538 vet bill because he had a tooth resorption necessitating a tooth extraction. His teeth have cost more than mine and now I’m supposed to brush his teeth. And his sister’s teeth. The vet gave me a helpful brochure complete with a full-color picture of a snarling openmouthed cat with a “Warning! 30 very sharp teeth. Enter at your own risk,” disclaimer at the bottom. Seriously, I have the brochure to prove it. Let me just say, that does

nothing for my self-confidence, yet I applaud their truth in advertising. I’ve got poultry-flavored, salmon-flavored and tunaflavored toothpaste, two different toothbrushes, a rubber finger tip with tiny bristles, and a piece of gauze to wrap around my finger--must be to stanch the bleeding after Ra bites me. Oh, it says it’s an if-all-else-fails fallback; I’m supposed to rub it over the angry cat’s teeth and “let’s not forget” his gums. I really wish they had a section called “when and how to subdue your cat” (perhaps a tranquilizer dart in the buttocks?) or maybe “there is no shame in quitting,” now that would be useful. Also something about what to do when the cat’s head starts spinning like that girl’s in "The Exorcist." I love that movie. They did some extensive cat observing to get all the demon moves just right. But no, it’s all let your cat taste the yummy toothpaste and then “introduce the toothbrush.” I can see it now. “Hello, Ra. I’m your cat toothbrush. You can call me Morry. Can I please brush your teeth while you sit quietly and act like you’re a dog?” “Hi, Morry. You have to catch me first!”.

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A Musical Resolution by Jennifer Pollard, MSW

It’s that time of year again, when you make resolutions and promises of healthy habits and eating that often end before February. Resolutions that are small and manageable will most likely produce success. What is a resolution can stick to? How about enjoying life? Would you like to reduce stress? you Adding music in your daily routine can do just that. Here are 10 facts about the benefits of making a musical resolution in your life. Music can... Ease Pain Music can meaningfully reduce the perceived intensity of pain.

Relax Patients Before Surgery and Ease Stress in Recovery Music’s calming effect has been shown as a great stress

Improve Motivation and Performance Upbeat music can boost your motivation and help you accomplish more things.

reducer before surgery and a positive way to increase recovery time. This helps you relax and get better sooner!

Improve Sleep Quality Listening to classical music has been shown to effectively treat insomnia, making it a safe alternative to sleep-inducing medications. Reduce Stress While listening to music, biochemical stress reducers are triggered, helping to ease stress and anxiety. Relieve Symptoms of Depression Research suggests classical and meditative sounds can be calming and upbeat. ‘Happy’ music can be uplifting. Improve Cognitive Performance Studies show music can elevate people’s mood. Music can also improve cognitive function and performance on tests. Keep in mind, music affects five areas of our brain, whereas, language centers are only in one area.

Increase Blood Flow Music has a healthy effect on blood vessel function and can increase blood flow. Ease Recovery in Stroke Patients A research study in Finland concluded that when stroke patients listened to music for two hours a day, their verbal memory and attention improved. It was concluded that they had a more positive mood compared with those who had not listened to music. Helps You Eat Less A study found that playing soft music during a meal helps people slow down while eating, allowing your body to be more mindful of fullness cues.

Music can be the cognitive bridge to keep our minds sharp! Reduce Anxiety as Much as Massage One study found that the effect music produces on anxiety is similar to getting a massage!

As you make New Year's resolutions, consider ways to add music in your home and your life to maximize a happy and healthy year for you! Pollard is a care manager with a background in music. Share your music memories with Pollard at jenniferp@aoscaremanagement. com.

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lifestyle GAME ON!

An Old Kid's Comeback by Thad Mumau

Baseball was always my sport. When a demolished knee stopped me from playing before I was ready, I reluctantly turned to slow-pitch softball, a game I once scoffed at and declared I would never play. But I did. And I grew to like—won't say love like I did hardball—taking my swings at that high-arcing big ball. One day, a friend asked if I would pitch in a baseball game. He played weekends for a semi-pro team from Robeson County, the Rex Raiders. Injuries and other circumstances left them short of pitching on Sunday. I laughed, saying I had never pitched, other than batting practice. But I agreed to give it a try. I was two months short of my 34th birthday and was as excited as a kid over my pitching debut. All day Saturday, I practiced different windups. I decided to go with an abbreviated version, really a no-windup delivery. I kept doing phantom windups—with no ball or glove—so much that, without thinking, I did a couple when my wife and I were in the grocery store. When she glared at me, I said, “What?” And she told me to quit acting like the “other” kids. That night, after the lights were out and we were in bed, I lay there staring toward the ceiling into the blackness. I was too excited to sleep … and a little concerned that I might embarrass myself the next day. That Sunday, after attending church with my wife, I went home and changed into shorts and a T-shirt. My wife, who was not nearly as excited about my comeback as I was, stayed home to take a nap. I drove to my parents’ house, picked up my dad and we set out for Lillington, Rex Raiders’ opponent. When we got to Lillington, there was a pine tree by the side of the road with a piece of a cardboard box tacked on it. The words “Game Today” were scrawled in black crayon with an arrow pointing to the right. Turning onto a dirt road, I followed it through a tobacco field, which wound on and on before becoming tall, green grass that would one day be harvested as golden hay. Smack dab in the middle of the hayfield was the ball field. Uneven bleachers consisted of long slats of boards, which were gray and warped, weather beaten by years of 16 JANUARY 2015

rain and sunshine. Pieces of tin covered the seats, giving the look of grandstands. Fifteen or so feet in front of the bleachers was a backstop constructed of chicken wire that was rusted and dotted with numerous holes eaten into the tiny octagons by time. The dugouts resembled coffins, wooden rectangles lying on their sides and open for viewing. Beside the visitors’ dugout, which was located down the third-base line, was a small American flag on a short wooden pole stuck into a holder like the ones seen in VFW halls. Next to the home dugout was a much larger Confederate flag. The day was a scorcher. People in attendance wore shorts, T-shirts, tank tops, assorted ball caps, and straw hats. More of them sat in lawn chairs around the bleachers rather than on the unsteady boards. I walked over to the Raiders’ dugout and was handed a uniform and a hat by one of the players. The uniform was not particularly attractive, though it was eye-catching. It was dark gold trimmed with brown, and the cap was brown with an “R” on the front. I was happy just to be wearing a baseball uniform again. The Raiders’ manager, my catcher, was a tall man named Robert. He put his arm around me and said we would keep our signals simple. He asked how many pitches I had, and I said just two, a curve and a fastball. Robert handed me a baseball and walked away from me, that 60 feet and six inches practically programmed into his steps. When he finished, he crouched in a catcher’s stance and said, “Let’s see what you’ve got.” The ball felt so light in my right hand. After 10 or 12 pitches, the big catcher walked a few feet in front of his hat and said, “You can go ahead and cut loose with your fastball. I thought you said you only had two pitches, but that’s a pretty good sinker you’ve got there.” I almost laughed, replying, “First of all, I am cutting loose, and second, the ball is sinking from lack of speed.” I was excited as game time approached, and I was noticeably nervous. I felt pretty sure I could get the ball across the plate, but I was unsure what the batters would do with my pitches. My first pitch of the game was right down the middle. The leadoff batter let it go by, then popped up the second

pitch to our shortstop. The second hitter he jumped all over one of my pitches; luckily, center fielder made the catch a couple of feet from the fence. The third hitter tapped a one-hopper right back to me, and I trotted off the field following a six-pitch inning. Sitting in the dugout, I found that I was breathing hard and that I could feel my heart almost leaping out of my chest. It was adrenaline. I took a bunch of deep breaths, exhaling slowly. When it was time to return to the mound, I walked slowly, trying to calm myself down and avoid burning every ounce of energy. I gave up a one-out double in the second inning and left the runner stranded by getting my first strikeout and a grounder to short. I was experimenting as I went along, trying different grips on my so-called fastball. Occasionally, I threw it sidearmed, putting my first two fingers between the seams of the ball. A couple of the Lillington hitters bailed out when I went sidearm. My natural motion was overhand, straight over the top, and I found that the most effective way to throw that fastball was with my fingers parallel with the seams. I got more sinking movement that way. That was the pitch I used most. My curveball became better as I went along. I started to feel like a pitcher out there. Back on the bench, I was more relaxed, and when I looked at my chest, the letter “D” in RAIDERS was not doing the rhumba anymore. I took a sip of water, rinsed my cottony mouth and spit it out. I drew myself a second cup of water from the plastic container, removed my cap and poured that one over my head. Boy, did that feel good. I never liked the designated hitter rule, but I was grateful that it was used in the Rex Raiders’ league. I could not imagine standing in the batter’s box and facing speedballs thrown by youngsters with strong, live arms. The opposing pitcher threw very hard, and after seeing nothing but lazily tossed softballs for so long, his fastballs seemed like bullets. The fourth inning ended when Lillington lined back-toback two-out hits, only to run itself out of the inning.

As I sat and cheered for my teammates to score some more runs, I thought about how great it felt to be playing baseball again. It didn’t matter that it was in the middle of a tobacco field or that the bleachers and dugout might blow over in a light breeze. The main thing was that I was playing … playing baseball. I felt a silly grin spreading across my face and knew I must have looked like a little boy who was granted a wish. And I guess that’s what I was—a boy again. I sat there, thinking how fortunate I was to have another chance to wear a baseball uniform and participate in what I called “The Game.” I retired Lillington in order in the seventh, but the home-team hitters were starting to time my pitches, and all three outs were on hard-hit balls. Between innings, I noticed I was growing tired, really tired. All of the adrenaline had been used up. My right arm seemed a little dead. My undershirt and jersey were soaked. Sweat dripped off the bill of my cap. I didn’t know how much longer I could last. My legs were rubbery, and when I breathed deeply, trying to reach down for something extra, the tank was empty. I didn't know if I could keep standing up, much less throw another pitch. “Man, you gave us a good game today,” Robert said, “but I think you’ve had it. I don’t think you have anything left.” I agreed and accepted pats on the back from my infielders before trotting to the dugout. Our shortstop went to the mound and threw nothing but fastballs to get the last five outs of the game. The Raiders scored another run and won, 6-2. I was the winning pitcher. I was very pleased, and I had a whole lot of fun. So much that I thought I wanted to pitch again, and Robert assured me I would be welcome. But the thought of playing every Sunday made me decide to quit while I was ahead and stick with softball. I still think of my comeback sometimes, of that bright, sunny afternoon on the pitcher's mound on a little ball field in a little town. I can remember almost every pitch I made. JANUARY 2015 17


Here We Go Again by Ann Robson

Well, it’s happened again. Another year gone and a new one ready and waiting for us, anxious to see what we’ll do with this precious gift. It will be hard to top my outgoing year for highlights—a 75th birthday spent with family all in one place, a rare occasion these days. Co-celebrants for the month of August included those turning 4, 5, 40, and 78. I think my niece’s 40th was the most traumatic. There were many pictures taken that day and as I review them, I see my mother sitting in my place. (She died in 2000 at 92, but I’ve been told since earliest memory that I looked like her. I now believe it, whereas I used to tell myself it was a foggy mirror or not having my glasses on.) To celebrate, OutreachNC allowed me to participate in the hot air balloon story so that major item has been crossed off my life list. Two other items were removed. I had always wanted to meet and interview Maya Angelou and Pete Seger, but they left this earth before I got to them. The list still lives and changes according to world events or opportunities that I may meet. Long ago, I gave up making resolutions to give up something or start something else. I really wonder how many of us make and keep resolutions. Everyone needs a goal of some sort. For some of us, it’s getting from one day to the next. Yet, we should enjoy the journey. Sometimes life tends to sneak up on us and throw a curve in the form of an illness, a loss or something else we didn‘t want. Yet, when you look back on some of the speed bumps of 2014, you discover that you did make it after all. 18 JANUARY 2015

“No” is such a negative word that I’m trying to use it sparingly. Instead of not doing something in the new year, I think we should all try to do something— something we enjoy doing, something that will make another happy, something that says we are all in this together, so let’s get on with it together. Many groups appeal to our kindness during the holiday season, and usually, we respond in a wonderful way. But what happens when the wrapping paper is gone, the food is gone, the money is gone but the need is still there? Money should not determine whether a senior pays for a prescription or heat. A parent shouldn’t have to constantly worry about the health and comfort of her children. Those who are unable to live on their own shouldn’t have to be alone. If we could find it in our hearts to be kind and giving before Christmas, can we not try to do the same after? If poverty is a year-round thing, then should we respond however we can yearround? I find it shocking that national statistics show the middle class gives a greater percentage of what they have than those who are at the top of our monetary heap. If we take Warren Buffett’s financial advice, then shouldn’t we follow his charitable lead? We don’t have to look very far to find a need in our communities. What a wonderful way to start a new year by making sure that at least one other person can enjoy life, too. Happy New Year! Robson has over 50 years' experience writing; she enjoys writing about helping people and those who have re-purposed their lives in retirement. Email Robson at














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Located 15 minutes west of downtown Pittsboro on a knoll beneath 250-year-old oaks, the owners of Celebrity Dairy and their staff lavish good care on both residents and guests of the four-legged and two-legged kind, bringing fresh, artisan cheeses to the local community.

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"Cheese is Milk's Leap toward immortality." - Clifton Fadiman

“Nobody intends to get into goats. It's always an accident,” says Brit Pfann, one half of the dynamic duo that owns and runs Celebrity Dairy goat farm in Siler City, North Carolina. Celebrity Dairy is the realized dream of Brit and Fleming Pfann, considered the “Top Pioneer Farmstead Cheese Makers” in North Carolina, who have been raising goats on their farm since 1987. Located 15 minutes west of downtown Pittsboro on a knoll beneath 250-year-old oaks, the owners and their staff lavish good care on residents and guests of the four-legged and twolegged kind, bringing fresh, artisan cheeses to the local community. How did this couple, who are now grandparents balancing work and life, become innovators in cheese? The couple moved from Florida to an abandoned farm in the North Carolina Piedmont and needed help clearing the brush around their house and 200-year old barn. Instead of bringing in power equipment to resolve the issue, the Pfanns bought goats, and then something miraculous happened. Fleming Phann is lactose-intolerant and unable to drink cow's milk. One day she decided to taste the milk that her husband produced from his tiny flock. “You're not going to believe this,” she told him. “I drank goat’s milk two hours ago, and I feel fine.” That changed what had been an amusing pastime into a passion. After a couple of years, with the help of inspectors from the North Carolina Department of Agriculture and a trip out to Arizona for the equipment, the Pfanns started a commercial goat dairy. When it came time to name the business, Fleming Pfann says they wanted the goats to be the “stars” of the

farm. After all, the goats were the ones producing the milk. Even so, it's hard not to smile on first seeing their logo—a glamorous goat sporting jeweled shades as if to keep her incognito from the attention of fans and the paparazzi. By 1991, they were licensed and on their way, learning as they went about maintaining the health and good working order of goats and dairy equipment. Success, however, brings its challenges. Goat milk doesn't last forever, and there are only so many markets for the fresh product. That same year, Brit Phann had an engineering assignment in Paris. There, a chance meeting led to a friendship with a French goat cheese maker. Cheese was the perfect answer to an overabundance of perishable goat's milk, and it plunged the Pfanns into years of education, trial and error, and the perfecting of the many—and always changing—flavors of Celebrity Dairy cheeses. The goats have been and always will be the center of the entire operation. The cheese, produced by the herd—or more lyrically, the family—of 80 Alpine and Saanen goats, Celebrity Dairy’s goat cheese is savored in restaurants and sold in stores in Chatham County, the Triangle and across North Carolina. The basic style of cheese developed by Fleming Pfann is called a Montrachet log. These are sold plain or coated with dried herbs. There's no end to the possibilities, and she is always on the outlook for new ideas from customers or from her own inspiration. Then there are accidents, like the time her daughter, Lea, forgot an ingredient during the cheese-making process. The batch never hardened, but the result JANUARY 2015 21

was a spreadable cheese that has earned its place in the constellation of chévre. In addition to the varieties of cheese with intriguing names like “Silk Hope” and “Morbier,” the dairy also churns out its own ice cream, “Gloria's Goat Milk Gelato.” They even have a product they've named with their trademark sense of humor “Cud-Zu Goat Milk Soap,” with a double play on their goats' diet and method of digestion. In that vein, their brand name non-chemical soil amendment is aptly named “Celebrity Dirt.” Along with their delicious cheeses and milk products, over the years Celebrity Dairy has attracted all types of interested people to come to work and learn, including the Sustainable Agriculture Program at Central Carolina Community College. Specifically, the students gain experience by helping raise, tend, and milk the goats. The Pfanns feel fortunate to be in the right place at exactly the right time to realize their dreams and have others recognize what they have to offer. Not long ago, Brit 22 JANUARY 2015

Pfann attended a conference on small-scale farming in the Southeast. One of the speakers referred to Chatham County as “the center of the universe of sustainable agriculture.” When Pfann recounts this, his eyebrow raises as if to offer a few grains of salt with the observation. Yet, this assessment might not be as far-fetched as it sounds. The Carolina Farm Stewardship Association, the oldest and largest sustainable agriculture organization in the Southeast, is headquartered in the county seat. They offer five farm tours a year, giving the public a delightful window into the world of small-scale farming. Their network of over 20 farms includes Celebrity Dairy, which sees up to 800 guests during the spring weekend tour. This is in addition to the Pfanns' “Lunch & Tours” and “Open Barn” days, which are equally well-attended. It's a testimony to the area's passionate interest in sustainable agriculture. Then there is the local food movement. “The Chapel Hill-Carrboro Farm Market is the best market in the country for local and seasonal food,” Brit Pfann adds. Celebrity Dairy has been one of the regular vendors at the

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Chapel Hill-Carrboro Farm Market, so it's not a surprise the Pfanns' local goat cheese products were “discovered” years ago by Ben and Karen Barker. “The Barkers are the rock stars of the food world,” says Brit. “Their Magnolia Grill in Durham, which they voluntarily closed in 2012, was the region's most award-winning restaurant, known for its use of locally produced food. Ben set the standards in the area for generations of culinary students.” Brit Pfann discovered that his goats are very social, each with her own personality, but goats aren't known for being great conversationalists. As a result, in 1991, the naturally gregarious Pfanns looked for more opportunities to enjoy human companionship. At the time, a friendly chef suggested they open the farm to the public for occasional dining. The Pfanns JANUARY 2015 23

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liked the idea of people visiting and getting a taste of what they were doing—both figuratively and literally. It would be a type of agritourism. Before long, every third Sunday in April, May and June, diners were enjoying the Pfanns’ unique offerings that included ingredients as local as possible, with the sources being steps away, rather than miles. The dinners were so successful, according to Fleming, that they brought about a mid-life crisis for Brit Pfann. “He didn't get a blonde or a Beemer,” Fleming Pfann says. “He got a bed and breakfast.” That's the story of how the Inn at Celebrity Dairy, now a highly popular B&B, became an addition to the other enterprises the farm operates. Brit Pfann still joins the inn guests at breakfast in the sunlit dining area, even though he's all but turned the inn over to 24 JANUARY 2015

WE'RE KIDDING, OF CO U R S E ! February is the peak of kidding season. Celebrity Dairy will host their “Open Barn” on the weekend of the 7th and 8th of February, from noon to 5 p.m. There will be opportunities for children (and the young at heart) to play with baby goats or possibly see some being born. For directions visit


his wife. He also enjoys going into the barn and paddocks, spending quality time with their goats. “In a couple of hours, I always start feeling better,” Brit Pfann says. “The animals give a lot back.” Last year one of the kids was born severely underweight. In a large operation where profits determine procedures, the baby goat would have been destroyed immediately, but not here. “She was near death for the first two or three days,” says Brit Pfann. “I had to feed her until she was strong enough to nurse.” Slowly, the goat named, “Sweet Pea” began to thrive. Today, she romps with the other kids her age, but when Brit comes by their pen, she nearly sprouts wings to get close to him. She nestles her head in his hand in an expression of affection mixed with something that's hard not to interpret as gratitude. Meanwhile, back at the inn, Fleming Pfann clears breakfast dishes. Their guests seem to have enjoyed the meal down to the last crumbs. She looks out to the winter morning, cold but bright, cheery through the ancient oaks and rolling hills. “There's no place we'd rather be,” she says. “We're happy.”

Celebrity Dairy offers its “Lunch & Tour” to groups of 15 or more for $15 per person. Cost includes a catered lunch and a personal tour of the farm by Britt Pfann. To schedule a group, call Fleming at 919-742-5176.

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Sir Walter Raleigh Hotel By Jonathan Scott | Photography by Diana Matthews

In 1970, William Benton carried a lit flashlight through dark, winding hallways of the Sir Walter Raleigh Hotel, an abandoned 10-story building in downtown Raleigh. One of the dismal paths opened up to the once grand Virginia Dare Ballroom with dilapidated arched windows, dusty chandeliers and marble floors. A mural of Sir Walter Raleigh, in his iconic pose laying down his coat in the mud, kept vigil on the wall since the ballroom and hotel were built in 1924. Glimpses in the dark revealed the hotel’s elite past during the Roaring Twenties, when 80 percent of the state’s legislators – alongside lobbyists, aides, jurors, journalists and North Carolina power brokers – called the hotel “home.” With a historic and scandalous past, by the 1970s the Sir Walter Raleigh Hotel was a forgotten relic that was about to get needed rehabilitation that would end up bringing it back to its original glory and help the local community. Intrigued by the dimly lit walk, Benton and his business partner, David Weill, decided to buy the building in 1970. The partners had a choice. They could have removed of all traces of the 1920s and gone head-to-head against the ultra-modern hotels that were competing for the lucrative convention business. But there was one more interesting discovery that influenced their decision on how to rehabilitate the historic building. There was another, albeit slightly scandalous, side to the hotel

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and it involves the area that ended up being untouched during the remodel. The dark, cavernous speakeasy downstairs, complete with a dance floor, private booths and a network of egresses were used in the event of uninvited law enforcement officers. A look at the speakeasy today appears that it is caught in time, left when the coppers were raiding late one night and politicians were drinking their vodka martinis in the face of Prohibition. In discovering this treasure, Benton and Weill decided to go against common practice at the time and turn it into a night club for upscale clientele. Instead, they appreciated the history of the building and kept the speakeasy as it was left in the 1920s while converting the hotel into usable apartments. Today, the lobby gleams as if it were still full of bellhops in red high-collar jackets and pillbox hats. The mail chute beside the elevators has been brought back to its original condition and still serves as a mailbox for the residents. The original bathroom fixtures were restored, even though the owners had to search overseas for parts. The service elevator is

still in use, lacking only a full-time elevator boy from a bygone era. The Virginia Dare Ballroom, which displays the 90-year-old wallpaper, has as much grandeur as ever. The building is now known as the Sir Walter Raleigh Apartments. It provides an affordable home-based lifestyle for men and women, age 62 and older. Subsidized by the Department of Housing and Urban Development, rent is based on a percentage of income. Down the street from the State Capitol, the residents, many of whom struggled all their lives, can live proudly in an apartment building that still displays much of the elegant ornateness of the Roaring Twenties. It's not only available to the public for weddings and special occasions, but the building owners and staff hold functions there for the residents. Service co-coordinator Donna Ebron looks after the residents who reside in the mostly onebedroom and studio apartments. “Not too long ago,” Ebron says, “we held a starlight ball we called our 'Senior Prom.' There were red carpets and period limos from the 1920s. It was completely free for the residents.”

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Felise Knight, the building's property manager, is quick to give credit for these unusual perks to the owners. Knight is sincere when mentioning that the owners of the building care for the building and its residents, and as a result the residents to care about the building too. She adds, “This is not the kind of place people think of when they hear about subsidized housing.” Curtis Conyers has been a resident of the Sir Walter Raleigh Apartments for 10 years. Partially disabled, but intent on staying involved with the world, he's taught himself to play piano in the Commons Room. He's grateful for the life he now has. “Back in the day,” he says, “I wouldn't have been able to even come in.” Ebron explains, “When this was a hotel, AfricanAmericans weren't allowed as guests. Now the apartments' diverse population is slightly over 50 percent African-American.” When Conyers thinks back to the first time he visited the apartments, he says, “It was a lot better than I expected. It’s an honor to be able to stay.” 28 JANUARY 2015

The hotel, built during the heydays of the 1920s, offers history, architecture, scandal and a home to Raleigh residents. Upstairs, the dark, looming halls shrouded in years of neglect now gleam, while downstairs, lawbreaking secrets remain hidden in the walls. With all of that history, the hotel now welcomes a new era where residents, owners and staff proudly maintain the beauty and dignity of their home while honoring the past.


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January is here, and for millions of Americans that means a new resolution aimed at getting healthy. However, health and fitness are not just things to focus on once a year. Getting active and staying active often requires finding true enjoyment in an activity. Whispering Pines resident David Wall has done just that with a passion for cycling. As a physical education major in college with a lifelong interest in sports, Wall is a longtime runner who transitioned to cycling in his late 40s. “Running wasn't quite the option, because as I got older, I had some joint issues,” explains Wall. As a result, he shifted gears from running to cycling about 15 years ago and hasn’t looked back. Inspired, he joined a local cycling club, began competing and pedaled his way into events, including Cycle NC, a seven-day ride from the mountains to the coast. “I feel fit,” says Wall, 62. “I get to compete in the senior games, and I am able to do well.” Wall, who encourages others to pick up cycling, is quick to point out the many healthy benefits. “It is a wonderful low-impact way to exercise,” he says. Wall takes solitary jaunts, beginning at his home, averaging 20-30 miles per ride. He also appreciates the camaraderie of riding in the Sandhills Cycling Club, making treks with his fellow riders over the past 15 years. 32 JANUARY 2015



“Cycling is also very social,” says Wall. “I’m a big fan of having the buddy system in general from a support standpoint,” adds one of Wall’s cycling cohorts, John Mueller of Rainbow Cycles in Southern Pines, the home of the Sandhills Cycling Club. “It makes it a lot easier to go for longer rides when you have someone to talk to, and it is safer to have a group – you have more eyes looking out for each other and help if you have a breakdown.” Quite a few of the riders in this group are riding into their 60s, 70s and 80s. “The beauty of road cycling,” says Mueller, “is that you can do it for a lot of years. It doesn't create a lot of wear and tear on your body.” Wall chose to focus on recumbent bicycle riding about 10 years ago to reduce that wear and tear even further. A recumbent cycle is one that places the rider in a laid-back reclining position. “The bad thing about recumbents before is that they were heavy and didn't climb hills well,” Wall says. “Now, technology has caught up and they are very light and climb hills well. And as for speed, recumbents are tremendously more aerodynamic and can be extraordinarily fast.” This past year, Wall competed in the Senior Games in the Pines and won the bicycle race on his Vendetta recumbent bicycle. He accelerated to the regionals and

also competed well. Recumbent bikes, however, were not allowed in the finals, so Wall remains hopeful that the Senior Games’ board will reevaluate recumbent cycles for future games, especially since they are quite popular with boomer riders. Wall is quick to point out that there are plenty of other venues where riders can compete on recumbents. After purchasing his bike from Cruzbike in Lumberton, Wall became fast friends with the co-owners, Dr. Jim Parker and his wife, Maria Parker, a cyclist who has set speed records for recumbent bikes. Last year, Maria Parker finished the Race Across America, a 3,000-mile crosscountry race, as the first female over the finish line. Dr. Parker, a radiologist, has researched and written many papers on the health benefits of riding a recumbent cycle. “The standard bicycle design makes you choose between riding in a vertical position,” he explains, “which is absolutely the worst aerodynamic position you could possibly be in, versus riding in a tuck position, where your lungs are constricted and your neck is fully extended to allow you to see ahead of you. Both positions often place a lot of weight on the hands and wrists. The recumbent position of the Cruzbike takes weight off the wrists, allows the lungs to fully expand, supports the back, and provides a great forward view without arching the neck…all while in an aerodynamic position.” “It’s like sitting in an easy chair,” adds Wall, who loves the speeds he can reach. “I've never had a bike this fast, it climbs hills like a cat.” Residents around Moore County may have seen Wall in action. When the weather is colder, he can often be found on his bright yellow Velomobile, a three-wheeled human-powered vehicle that can be enclosed for aerodynamic advantage and protection from weather and collisions. Wall recognizes the risks associated with cycling, like riding among and around cars, but enthusiastically acknowledges that there are risks in nearly everything. JANUARY 2015 33

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As an employee of the Department of Motor Vehicles for 27 years and now a driver’s education instructor, defensive driving and awareness of other drivers are forefront in Wall's mind. “My Velomobile is 10 times more visible than standard bicycles,” Wall says. “It has headlights, taillights, turn signals and daytime running lights.” Winter, spring, summer or fall, Wall can continue to be found running errands with his Velomobile since it has plenty of storage and can easily hold his groceries. And it isn't just for short rides. Wall and a fellow Velomobile enthusiast are already set for their next adventure in another Cycle NC ride this spring. At any age, cycling could be the right ticket to ride as an enjoyable, new fitness resolution that provides the benefits of being outdoors and getting a cardiovascular workout that is easy on the joints.

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During chilly winter months, beach visitors along North Carolina’s northernmost coast associate sightings with those of dolphins, sea gulls and sand crabs, but the Outer Banks has one of the most unique sightings around, that of Corolla wild horses. These Colonial Spanish Mustangs freely roam the beach year-round and are recognized as the state horse, having inhabited the isolated stretch of coast since the 16th century when they were brought to the area by Spanish explorers. Today, these animals are a treasured part of North Carolina history and wild life, being cared for in a sanctuary dedicated to their preservation.

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The history of those caring for and about these horses dates back as far as the horses themselves with Native Americans, explorers and early settlers. The horses have roamed this land for centuries. In 1985, N.C. Highway 12 was paved north of the town of Duck, and the horses faced direct interaction with humans in negative ways. The road linked the area for tourism, but horses and cars turned out to be a deadly combination. This led a group of dedicated and committed volunteers to organize the Corolla Wild Horse Fund in 1989. The group was able to protect the horses by creating a sound-to-sea barrier and moving the horses further north into the unpopulated areas of the Outer Banks. Today, that good work continues. In 2006, the Corolla Wild Horse Fund became an official nonprofit, employing a handful of full-time staff to carry on the care of these cultural treasures. The herd, approximately 100 horses, roams free on 7,544 acres that are shared with Currituck County homeowners and tourists. In a four-wheel drive truck, Karen McCalpin, the Corolla Wild Horse Fund’s executive director, powers down the 11 miles of beach with a watchful eye, offering protection to any horses along the way. During this journey, she educates visitors who wish to touch or feed the majestic animals. Meanwhile, McCalpin does visual checks for any signs of distress among the horses. “They are very curious, and they are very tolerant of people,” explains McCalpin encountering a harem with a stallion and four mares walking the coastline. “That’s a bay and four chestnuts,” she says, pointing out the coloring of the horses. McCalpin offers educational pamphlets that explain that the law requires staying back 50 feet to protect the horses from interactions with people. “It takes a lot of patience,” says McCalpin, who is not always given a warm welcome by tourists. “Our mission is all about education, history, protecting and preserving the horses.”

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A horsewoman, who learned to ride at age 10, McCalpin and her husband had a vacation home in Corolla when she first saw an ad for executive director of the Corolla Wild Horse Fund. At that time, other people she knew were contemplating retirement. However, McCalpin dove into the job, not foreseeing how her life was about to change. After she left her position as the statewide director for therapeutic riding at Pennsylvania State University, the wild horses gained a friend and champion for their cause in McCalpin. Accepting the assignment and responsibility was no small feat; McCalpin moved into her vacation home full-time and took to the task of fundraising. “Ten percent of our budget comes from a grant from Currituck County, generated by the occupancy tax, and the rest I have to raise,” says McCalpin, which leaves her with nearly $700,000 to bring in each year. McCalpin gives all the credit to her staff, which includes a director of operations, herd manager, program director, seasonal part-time workers and generous volunteers. “In the summertime, I have 19 part-time (staff) helping patrol the beach…(I)t is 11 miles of beach, and all that acreage behind the dunes, so we can’t be everywhere all the time,” McCalpin says. “Everyone who works here has to have a passion.” That passion pours out of McCalpin as she describes her work throughout her tenure and the horses themselves. “Each year, we do an aerial count of the horses, and of that acreage, two-thirds is public land and one-third is private land. They are consistently on the private land,” she says. “Our horses have a very 40 JANUARY 2015

specialized diet, and that doesn’t include apples or cherries or celery or bread. They just cannot process it, and it can give them a fatal colic. They utilize the sea oats only eating the tops and drink fresh water from the wet meadows and canals in the maritime forest.” These horses, also called, “Banker Spanish mustangs,” have stolen McCalpin’s and her staff’s hearts; they average 14 hands tall (approximately 5 feet), travel in harems and have laid-back dispositions. Wandering over the dunes to the ocean’s edge, the horses seek to cool off in the ocean breezes on hot days. It’s not unusual to find a pair of young mares frolicking and rolling around in the sand on their backs after being cautiously guided through the beach traffic by McCalpin. “Our policy,” she says, “is only if a horse has an injury that is life-threatening do we intervene. I have pulled fish hooks out of horses and even a tomato cage off one." McCalpin recounts stories of daring rescues when one of the horses was carried out into the ocean. A coordinated effort saved the horse that day. “Every horse that comes off the beach that is older than 3 years old is saddle-trained and goes into our adoption program,” she says. “We’ve placed 56 horses from Texas to Maine since 2006.” With many successes, there is also heartbreak. A horse was seriously injured after stepping on roofing materials left behind at a home. McCalpin and a team including a veterinarian waged a Herculean effort capturing, tranquilizing and getting the animal into a horse trailer and off the beach. It was a long ride to a Virginia veterinary hospital, only to be told the injury was fatal.

The horse

through all its trials has preserved the sweetness of paradise in its blood."

- Johannes Jensen

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“I have noticed over the years a change and that more of the horses come out onto the beach at night when there are less people,” she says, the pain of the horse’s death still fresh. “It worries me, because it is so dark, and it makes them more susceptible to being hit by vehicles.” With no limit on the number of people allowed onto the fourwheel drive beach area, these wild horses face interaction with people every day. Private tours bring large groups onto Carova Beach to see the wild horses, capitalizing on these natural North Carolina jewels of the Outer Banks but not offering to support or protect them. Only one tour operator works in conjunction with the Corolla Wild Horse Fund, which also provides tours, but limits them to six people and all of the proceeds from the tours go back into funding, caring, raising awareness and education of the majestic horses. There are other ways to interact with the horses and support them. Corolla Wild Horse Fund maintains an interactive, educational museum and store in Old Corolla Village, within walking distance from the Currituck Lighthouse, where visitors can participate in activities including “Meet a Mustang.” Visitors can meet and pet a gentle, rescued horse from the beach. McCalpin takes special interest in naming those horses rescued from the beach, and visitors have an opportunity to meet them one-onone. Freedom is one of the horses now coming to the museums for visitor rides, and most recently, Creed, a mustang born in May 2006, was adopted in October and has a new home in Asheville. Another way to be involved is through the seasonal museum store, which is also located in Duck. All the funds raised at the museum stores are put back into the wild horse programs, including herd management, habitat preservation, sanctuary patrol, rescue and rehabilitation, training and adoption programs, breed conservation and most importantly, emergency response. The preservation of these incredible animals is an essential part of North Carolina history and wildlife. Their legacy in the Outer Banks has spanned 400 years and with support by organizations like the Corolla Wild Horse Fund, they will hopefully thrive for another 400. “This job has been my greatest joy and my greatest sorrow,” says McCalpin, a mother of five and grandmother of eight who took this undertaking when others might have pondered retirement. “But, it is my honor, and whenever I get discouraged, I just look at the ones we’ve been able to save.”


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Approximately 100 horses remain in the herd of Colonial Spanish Mustangs in Corolla. For more information on the Corolla Wild Horse Fund, call 252-453-8002 or visit


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Jaki Shelton Green by A n n R ob s on | P h o t o g r a p h y by Di a n a M at t h e w s

Jaki Shelton Green was one of four inductees into the North Carolina Literary Hall of Fame in 2014. She has received many awards for her poetry, including becoming the first poet laureate of the Piedmont region of the state in 2009. She was born in Mebane, leaving there for brief periods to attend school and get married. She has lived in Connecticut, and later traveled to many places around the globe. But North Carolina is “home,� says Green, who now lives in Hillsborough. Green has conducted workshops and presented readings throughout the U.S., Europe, the Caribbean islands and Central and South America. Groups such as the African American Dance Ensemble have choreographed her poetry. She is a strong voice for women writers and continues to educate and advocate on their behalf. At 62, Green has severe rheumatoid arthritis but has learned to accept and embrace the technology that permits her to continue her work. 44 JANUARY 2015

ONC: What did being named poet laureate for the Piedmont of North Carolina mean to you? JSG: I’ve always been attracted to nontraditional writers— writers whom I’ve worked with in homeless shelters, in prisons, women on death row. I want to enhance the world of literature one person at a time. As the Piedmont poet laureate, I got a chance to roll around the area and meet with many writers. I don’t always get excited about the everydayness of poetry. People often ask me what inspires me. As a working-class writer, I don’t have the privilege of saying, “I’m going to my cabin, or beach house to write now.” Writing is as natural as breath for me. In all the other jobs I’ve had, my poet is always present for me. Poetry is everywhere. You have to listen. All of our stories are valuable and valid. I am proactive about garnering that excitement for everyone. Hear poetry everywhere. Poetry lives inside of our stories, you just have to learn to glean them out. Do you remember when you heard your first poem? First poem? In my mom’s womb. My mother loves books; she reads everything, and at age 96, she still reads everything. Reading poetry? In elementary school. I’ve been writing since childhood. I have always loved paper and remember getting paper as a child and still love good paper. There was a family friend who worked in the pulp mill, and he often brought me paper. It was very precious. I remember cutting paper into strips and writing on them then putting them in mason jars and burying them. I guess I thought there was an underground tunnel, and there were people out there reading my stories. As I grew up, I continue to love fine paper. I don’t write on a computer. I write on paper, in my journals. I feel connections between the paper and pen and my thoughts. Often I get my poems from my journal. I tell children that there is nothing magical about writing poetry. I’m always writing poetry, but do I write it all down? No. I have given myself permission to not write every poem that comes to me. I can be cutting vegetables at the kitchen sink and notice something about a tree outside and think of many words to put down about it, but not everything becomes a poem. ONC: What poets have influenced you? JSG: Growing up in rural North Carolina was a blessing in all of its beauty and ugliness. Space and place influenced stories I heard. There are memories of stories, told and retold, that truly direct my writing and sometimes it’s the absence of memory. We have to remember to remember. Sometimes, I have to dig deep for my writing. I’ve been doing a lot of genealogy research and coming up with a lot of things that I know are going to be a guide for some

writing. I discovered that my great-grandmother married a freed slave of Irish descent. I have been attracted to all things Irish for the past two decades. I began to wonder if writing is in my DNA. I feel Ireland is calling me. My African-American heritage calls me, too. Research has taken me down roads I didn’t expect. I love those twists and turns. ONC: Why do you think North Carolina has such an abundance of writers and poets? Not just writers and poets, but excellent ones? JSG: I think North Carolina is very nurturing. I think historically we have been a nurturing community. We have been very serious about the tradition of supporting the arts—writing, art, sculpture, music. In 2011, I became deathly ill, and it was the literary community that rushed to my aid. We were in dire straits, and I’m going to tell you that if weren’t for the literary community, I’m not sure where we’d be. You’ve heard of the kindness of strangers? I heard from people I’d never heard of who expressed kindness, compassion and support. Some would send me $2 or $5 or more saying they heard I was having a rough time and they wanted to help. One day as I was going for treatments, the receptionist told me that two sessions had been paid for. It was a very powerful and humbling experience for me that I’m just so grateful for. I was sent home to die. A holistic doctor told me that it was my job to heal. Where does that happen? I don’t have the means that I could ever return or repay. ONC: Punctuation is rare in your work. Why is that? JSG: It’s intentional. It’s very, very intentional. When I started writing seriously in the '70s, I was married and my husband was a very good writer. We taught in Connecticut, but I was the little “wifey” who did Mommy duty, and when the kids were napping, I would get out my typewriter and just bang the heck out of it. Well, it was just “cute” to him, and I realized early on that the woman’s voice has been disenfranchised as it had been for many, many years. I decided to be a voice, and there would be no containment, so that explains the no punctuation. When I was teaching, my students would ask why they had to learn punctuation when I didn’t use it in my work. I would tell them you have to learn the rules. You have to know the rules before you can break them. I don’t write that way (with punctuation) but I can. Several years ago, several of my students surprised me with a reading of some of my poems. It amazed me that they saw things (in the poetry) that I had not. I realized I was putting it (my poetry) out there, and after that, it’s not mine anymore. JANUARY 2015 45

ONC: Were you a part of the Civil Rights Movement? JSG: I was. My family indeed were, very much so. I have lots of memories of when I was young, in church on Sunday and we would stay inside the church and be covered up with coats because someone warned us there were white men with guns surrounding the church. My father put us children under the pew and covered us. I remember the fear in “that boy from Georgia is coming through town.” The whole community was involved in his visit. The women bustled around making food, straightening their homes, so “that boy” (Martin Luther King Jr.) and his people would have a safe place to stay. I had a scholarship to a Quaker school in Pennsylvania, where we were taught nonviolence as the way to change things. When we left there, we were shocked by what was going on in Vietnam and Cambodia and here at home. ONC: Are you disappointed by the way things are going in the world regarding race relations? JSG: I am. I’m sad. It’s a very sorrowful time in our culture. There is a collective crisis of memory in Southern memory. I don’t really know how to enter the conversation. There’s a lot of tension in the world—not just racial, but of the earth, of people killing their children. There is an energy that is sinister in our society. We can be the good we want. ONC: “Who will be the messenger of this land” (from “Breath of the Song”) rings very true. Did you intend it as a call to action? JSG: I wrote that piece after being in Brazil and coming home and talking to some farmers. We are the only ones who can heal the earth; we cannot count on a knight in shining armor to save us. ONC: What are your future plans? JSG: Working on several things—a business to help facilitate women’s writing, workshop retreats, working on a novel for many years, co-editing a poetry anthology to be published in the spring by the Chapel Hill Press; always the unanticipated. Good thing that I’m able to do all this. It’s fun.

who will be the messenger of this land by Jaki Shelton Green

 ho will be the messenger of this land w count its veins speak through the veins translate the language of water navigate the heels of lineage who will carry this land in parcels paper, linen, burlap who will weep when it bleeds and hardens forgets to birth itself who will be the messenger of this land wrapping its stories carefully in patois of creole, irish, gullah, twe, tuscarora stripping its trees for tea and pleasure who will help this land to remember its birthdays, baptisms weddings, funerals, its rituals denials, disappointments, and sacrifices

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who will be the messengers of this land harvesting its truths bearing unleavened bread burying mutilated crops beneath its breasts who will remember to unbury the unborn seeds that arrived in captivity shackled, folded, bent, layered in its bowels we are their messengers with singing hoes and dancing plows with fingers that snap beans, arms that raise corn, feet that cover the dew falling from okra, beans, tomatoes

we are these messengers whose ears alone choose which spices whose eyes alone name basil, nutmeg, fennel, ginger, cardamom, sassafras whose tongues alone carry hemlock, blood root, valerian, damiana, st. john’s wort these roots that contain its pleasures its languages its secrets we are the messengers new messengers arriving as mutations of ourselves we are these messengers blue breath red hands singing a tree into dance

© Breath of the Song. Carolina Wrenn Press, 2005.


Siblings Caring for Parents


by Amy Natt, MS, CMC, CSA

My brother and I are now taking care of our 92-year-old father. He lives about two hours from each of us, but we take turns coming to see him on the weekend. He is adamant that he remain in his home, where he has lived for about 25 years. We are noticing that he needs more and more care, but each of us work and cannot be there during the week. Last week, he had a fall, and it was chaos. We all have different opinions about where Dad should live and what care he needs. Can you help?


Many children of the baby boom generation are facing a similar issue. According to MetLife, there are about 10 million, or 25 percent, of adult children now caring for an aging parent. It is becoming the norm to have parents live into their 90s and having to determine the best way to care for them. The number of siblings involved and the number of parents, including step-parents, needing care can complicate things. The good news is that there are conversation starters and more resources available. Open communication and planning are two of the biggest keys to success. Waiting until a crisis happens to create a plan is typically the more stressful approach. Care often becomes a family affair, and that means you have multiple opinions and emotions to sort through. Knowing what your father wants and finding the resources to make that happen will take some work, but it is worth the effort. There are many questions to ask and a real cost associated with many of the solutions. Time, money, emotion and your own health are all factors in the equation. Here are some things for your family to address: •What does Dad want and how can you best meet his needs? Consider using an online planning guide, such as AARP’s “Prepare to Care” or “A Siblings Guide to Caring for Aging Parents” by the Family Caregiver Alliance. An aging life care professional, care manager, social worker or senior care adviser can also help assess the situation and develop a plan of care to meet immediate and future needs. They can help you facilitate the conversation and ask the right questions. • Who will be the primary caregiver for Dad? Will this be one family member, multiple family

members, paid professionals or a combination? This may be determined by legal documents such as a power of attorney (decision-making authority), proximity or time and funds available. Defining clear roles now may prevent conflict later. Typically, one point of contact is helpful and that person can share information and sort through opinions. •H  old a family meeting. There is no need to put off this task until there is a crisis. Set up a time to meet and discuss potential issues, possible resources and identify what concerns exist. Do not make assumptions about who will provide care or push someone into a role she or he may not be willing or able to take on. This should be a time for listening and understanding. •G  et a good financial picture of Dad’s resources. Creating a plan means knowing what income, savings and possible funding sources are available. This has a significant impact on care setting, type of care and how long Dad might really be able to remain at home. It will also trigger other financial planning decisions that might need to be made now. • Know your family dynamics. We all have trigger points for conflict and history in our families. Identifying and understanding those will help avoid increased conflict that could have a negative impact on caring for Dad. Bring in a neutral third party to help navigate these challenges. Caring for an aging parent can be hard work, but it can also be very rewarding. Many adult children have feelings of guilt and want to give back to a parent who has provided a lifetime of love and support. Others harbor hurt feelings over past conflicts. Adult children are often pulled in other directions by work, family, distance and financial obligations. There are many ways to support an aging parent and many available resources, so be realistic and create a plan that you can all feel good about. Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at JANUARY 2015 47

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Tiny Telescope, Huge Promise CentraSight Treatment Program Offers New Hope for Patients with End-Stage Macular Degeneration This month a Carolina Eye Associates team of surgeons, John French, MD, Greg Mincey, MD, and Arghavan Almony, MD, will be among the first surgeons to implant in an outpatient setting a miniature telescope for patients with advanced macular degeneration. The CentraSight® treatment program features the first-ever telescope implant surgical option for patients with endstage age-related macular degeneration (AMD), the most advanced form of AMD and the leading cause of blindness in older Americans. More than 15 million Americans are affected by some form of AMD. The number of Americans afflicted with macular degeneration is expected to double with the rapid aging of the U.S. population. End-stage AMD results in a loss of central vision, or blind spot, and is uncorrectable by glasses, drugs or cataract surgery. This blind spot makes it difficult or impossible for patients to see faces, read, and perform everyday activities such as watching TV, preparing meals, and self-care. The telescope implant has been demonstrated in clinical trials to improve quality of life for those with central vision loss in both eyes by improving patients’ vision so they can see the things that are important to them, increase their independence, and re-engage in everyday activities. It also may help patients in social settings as it may allow them to recognize faces and see the facial expressions of family and friends. 48 JANUARY 2015

The telescope implant offers a new hope to patients living with end-stage AMD. The device is integral to CentraSight® a new patient care program. It is the only surgical option that improves visual acuity by reducing the impact of the central vision blind spot caused by end-stage AMD. Smaller than a pea, the telescope implant uses microoptical technology to magnify images that would normally be seen in one’s “straight ahead,” or central, vision. The images are projected onto the healthy portion of the retina not affected by the disease, making it possible for patients to see or discern the central vision object of interest. The telescope implant is not a cure for End-stage AMD. As with any medical intervention, potential risks and complications exist with the telescope implant. Possible side effects include decreased vision or vision impairing corneal swelling. Potential candidates must have loss of central vision in both eyes and cannot have had previous cataract surgery in both eyes. Dr. Mincey states, “Although the implanted telescope is not for everyone with advanced AMD, the device offers great promise." He cautioned, “Success comes not from just the surgical procedure and requires commitment and extensive rehabilitation training. The patient must also train his or her brain to use the new vision.”

If you think you might be a candidate, call Lisa Fulghum at 910-295-2100, ext. 801, or visit or


Build a Caregiving Team by Beth Donner

When the time for caregiving is necessary, it can become crucial to build a team of supportive professionals. Given the wide range of need in addressing long-term care, having a variety of people you can look to for reliable support can prove beneficial. When needs go beyond just family and friends, it’s important to know what types of professionals can meet your needs. It’s also critically important to seek guidance from licensed professionals that have proven to be trustworthy. Here’s a sampling of credentialed professionals that can offer assistance: • Elder Law Attorney: An elder law attorney is a specific type of estate planning attorney that is knowledgeable in Medicaid planning and Veterans' benefits and can offer valuable guidance on obtaining these types of benefits. The attorney will provide legal advocacy and help you address general estate planning issues with regards to a will or powers of attorney and offers counsel regarding incapacity with health care decision-making documents. • Financial/Insurance Advisers: Financial planners and insurance agents can assist with a variety of financial, investment, insurance, retirement and estate planning issues. In addition to the obvious, they can provide valuable guidance with the topics of life insurance, annuities, long-term care insurance, beneficiary designations and re-titling of assets at the attorney’s directive. It’s in your best interest to make sure your financial/insurance adviser works closely with the attorney to ensure your assets are titled and allocated accurately. If a financial/insurance adviser seems averse to becoming part of this planning team, it might be a warning sign. • Geriatric Care Manager: A care manager, and especially one who specializes in the area of geriatrics, can provide a holistic approach to caring for older adults. Their thoughtful guidance can lead a family through actions

and decisions to ensure quality of care. They can provide assistance and insight in the areas of housing, home health care services, medical management, communication between multiple parties involved in decision making, social activities, federal and state entitlements and safety issues. They are well versed in tailoring a customized care plan for the person in need. Although they may not be professionally licensed, it can be just as important to seek services that provide general community support. These are businesses and individuals that provide assistance with nutrition, transportation, residential maintenance and adaptation, shopping, laundry, paying bills and direct patient care, etc. The number and variety of community services now available to our aging population is growing exponentially and will continue to do so as baby boomers continue to age. As with any professional you hire, you’ll want to do your research before making a decision to employ one. Ask for references from each professional and make sure you understand how they are paid. Obviously, you should feel comfortable with the person whose services you are retaining, and they should be willing to speak with you directly about the services they offer. Many will provide a no-obligation/no-cost consultation. Remember, you are hiring someone to help you plan for your future - and there’s little more important than that.

Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing, is licensed in Med/Supp & LTC and is NAIC Partnership Certified. She can be reached at 919-460-6076 or .

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Gadgets to Look for in 2015 by Ted Vickey

These eight apps and gadgets may very well change the way you approach fitness, nutrition and overall health in 2015. 1. ResMed s+ This system essentially monitors everything going on in your room—and in your body—that affects your sleep. It detects breathing patterns, ambient light, noise, temperature and how much you toss and turn. Record what you eat and what kind of exercise you do. The goal is to paint an overall picture of your sleep patterns and to pinpoint what might be interrupting them. 2. Pact Pact encourages users to make healthier choices by putting money on the line. You can make weekly pacts to exercise more or eat healthier, or log your meals on MyFitnessPal. com. Every day you break your pact, you lose $5 or $10. But live up to your word, and you earn anywhere from 30 cents to $5 per week—courtesy of those who broke their pacts. 3. LG’s Heart Rate Earphones Track your heart rate, listen to music and make phone calls via Bluetooth—all with the same set of earphones. The audio quality is good (if not outstanding), and the earphones can send data to LG’s Lifeband fitness band, the LG Fitness smartphone app or both. 4. Apple HealthKit Apple’s Health app works as a fitness tracker, assessing movement throughout the day. HealthKit presents this data, along with data from a variety of apps, all in one place. Working with the Mayo Clinic, HealthKit also aims to connect users directly with doctors, keeping users updated on wellness plans, and doctors updated on their patients’ health data. 50 JANUARY 2015

5. Microsoft Band Microsoft Band fulfills all the functions of a wearable fitness tracker, but adds the functions of a smartphone— notifications on incoming calls, Facebook updates, calendar alerts and more. It includes a GPS system, tracks sleep patterns and works with just about any existing phone. 6. Google Fit Fit works as a health and fitness tracker, but also brings together data from third-party platforms—such as popular apps like Withings and Runkeeper. Fit is adding more partnerships, aiming to be compatible with a wide variety of apps and gadgets, making it the go-to source for users (and health specialists) to outline virtually any pattern, set any goal or track any plans. 7. Jaybird Reign Should all forms of exercise be judged by the same standards? The Jaybird Reign doesn’t think so. It’s a fitness tracker that uses different settings for activities like running, swimming and cycling. It also works as a sleep tracker, and can tell you when your body is ready to exercise, when you can continue moving and when it’s time to take it easy. 8. Muse Headband The Muse Headband, based on EEG technology, detects brain signals during three-minute sessions of focused attention. It’s like a heart-rate monitor for your head. Muse connects to smartphones and tablets to display mental patterns, such as stress levels and attention span. The exercises serve to enhance your mental fitness and ability to relax, which is important to overall health.

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The Difference between Alzheimer’s Disease and Dementia by MaryBeth Bailar, PsyD

Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease are frequently referred to in the media but often are not defined specifically and may be used incorrectly, leading to confusion. Dementia is a general term that means an individual is experiencing a significant decline in memory and at least one other area of cognitive functioning (e.g., attention, language, planning/organization, reasoning), and these difficulties are interfering with the individual’s ability to carry out everyday tasks (e.g., driving, managing medications, preparing meals). Dementia tells us there is a problem, but it doesn’t tell us what is causing the problem. There are many diseases and medical issues that can result in dementia. One type of dementia is dementia due to Alzheimer’s disease. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type of dementia, accounting for 50 to 80 percent of all dementia cases. Alzheimer’s disease is a neurodegenerative condition, meaning that it worsens over time. In Alzheimer’s disease, certain brain cells begin to have difficulty doing their jobs and communicating with other brain cells. Research is being done to investigate exactly why this happens. Unfortunately, there is no cure at the present time. To understand the definition of dementia, it may be helpful to think of dementia as an umbrella term. Underneath the umbrella of dementia, there are various diseases such as Alzheimer’s disease, vascular dementia (which can result from a stroke), and many others. Sometimes, dementia is reversible if the underlying medical issue is corrected. For example, an individual may have dementia due to a vitamin deficiency. If this is the case, the dementia will likely go away once the vitamin levels are increased and maintained at the appropriate level. Finally, what can appear to be a dementia may actually end up being an emotional problem such as depression, which is affecting a person’s ability to concentrate and remember. In such cases, treatment of the emotional difficulty will result in clearer thinking and memory. It is important to note that dementia is not a normal part of aging. There are normal, mild changes that occur over

time in the brain’s ability to process and remember new information; however, most older adults will not develop a significant problem in these areas. In fact, large studies estimate that only 14 percent of people age 71 and older in the United States have dementia. Therefore, if a person is having problems with memory and thinking, it is crucial to seek medical attention to determine the cause of the problem. Often, individuals or concerned family members will start by speaking with their primary care physician. A primary care physician may oversee diagnostic tests and enlist the assistance of a specialist, such as a neurologist and neuropsychologist. Specialized testing, in combination with a review of the patient’s medical history as well as knowledge about common risk factors and clinical symptoms for various types of dementia, can assist in determining whether a dementia is present, and if so, what may be causing the dementia. Knowledge is power. The early and accurate diagnosis of dementia, including the underlying cause of the dementia, has many benefits including: • A better chance of benefitting from disease-specific medications that may slow symptoms; • Individualized recommendations regarding how to reduce risk factors that contribute to further memory decline and functional impairment; • Lessened anxiety about unknown problems; • Information about what to expect; • An opportunity to participate in decisions about care; • More time to plan for the future and develop a relationship with doctors and care partners; and • Support and advice for both the patient and family.

Dr. Bailar, a clinical neuropsychologist at Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at 910-420-8041 or www. JANUARY 2015 51

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