Know Your Worth

Know Your

WORTH “Number one in your life’s blueprint should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your own worth, and your own somebodiness.

Don’t allow anybody to make you feel that you are nobody.

Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.”

— Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

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oin Lynn in an intimate workshop in taking a deep dive into finding your worth. Lynn is a leader, clinical social worker and registered clinical counselor who has been working with leaders and professionals for over 30 years.

She will bring with her a wealth of experience in developing holistic wellness programs that have been delivered across Canada.

Although we have an unlimited amount of information obtainable to us, we continue to struggle with chronic illness, stress, addiction, and loneliness more than ever before.

Building a foundation of selfworth is paramount to achieving whatever we want out of our life.

It starts with us. In this work we will uncover the barriers that keep us from doing what we want to do and being who we want to be.

This workshop will provide an opportunity to become selfaware and build renewed faith, courage and self- compassion so you can begin the process of developing your life’s blueprint.

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Workshop 8:00 a.m. – 9:00 a.m.

Breakfast

9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.

Workshop

12:00 p.m. – 1:00 p.m.

Lunch

1:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m.

Workshop

Our first job in life is to get to know ourselves.

We often do not do this. We spend our time pleasing and looking out the world to define who we are.

Take the time to know who you are.

Have a clear sense of yourself. Practicing mindfulness helps to increase empathy and compassion for others and for ourselves. It reduces stress and negative emotion, increases positive emotion and altruistic responses. (Shapiro, 2013) Loving kindness has been shown to increase positive emotions such as love, joy, contentment, gratitude hope. Will reduce negative emotions and improve a sense of purpose, reduce stress, illness and depressive symptoms, and increase life satisfaction.

(Seppala, 204, Kang, Gray, & Dovidio, 2013)

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DISCOVERING YOU

Do you know what you believe in?

When you’re making a decision, ask yourself: Does this support my values? Do you know what your values are? Now’s the time to get in touch with them. Look at the list below. What words stand out to you? Grab a pencial and circle the top five values that you truly connect with in this very moment. Don’t be afraid to choose. Your values can change depending on where you’re at in your life. You can also choose values that aren’t on this list. Once you’ve chosen, write them on the following pages.

ACTIVITY: CIRCLE YOUR VALUES •

Creativity

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Comfort

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Education

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Wealth

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Health

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Empathy

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Meaning

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Romance

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Family

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Respect

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Passion

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Freedom

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Courage

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Communication

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Love

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Purpose

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Community

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Adventure

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Nature

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Inspiration

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Power

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Fun

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Peace

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Integrity

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Connection

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Gratitude

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Growth

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Compassion

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Relationships

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Intelligence

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Success

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Abundance

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Financial security

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Kindness

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Trust

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Balance

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Humor

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Stability

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My values ACTIVITY

Now, spend a moment thinking about which three of our chosen values are the most improtant to you. Answer this: How do you want to feel every day? How do you want to live your life? Your answers will help you understand what values matter to you most.

My top three values 1 2 3 When you look at these values, do you feel that you are you living in alignment with them every day?

Do you make decisions based on these values?

Write them somewhere you’ll see daily, whether it’s in your diary, by your bed, on your vision board or next to your computer screen. Let them guide you to choose opportunities that are fullfiling and meaninful to you, to say yes to things that make you feel alive and to say no to things that don’t. You’ve got this.

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Leading a discussion on

SELF-WORTH

Self value and self-worth. At the root of every disfunction and every problem often lies a sense of lacking self-value and self-worth.

Our first job in life is to get to know ourselves. We often do not do this. We spend our time

We live in a world where we are constantly bombarded with images that encourage us to be liked.

Take the time to know who you are.

ACTIVITY What do you value in yourself?

What do you value in others?

pleasing and looking out the world to define who we are.

Have a clear sense of yourself. Practicing mindfulness helps to increase empathy and compassion for others and for ourselves. It reduces stress and negative emotion, increases positive emotion and altruistic responses. (Shapiro, 2013) Loving kindness has been shown to increase positive emotions such as love, joy, contentment, gratitude and hope, reduce negative emotions and improve a sense of purpose, reduce stress, illness and depressive symptoms, and increase life satisfaction.

(Seppala, 204, Kang, Gray, & Dovidio, 2013.)

ACTIVITY Write speech about who you are and what you value for someone who will be introducing you to an audience at a women’s conference.

Please welcome

to the stage.

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Mindful exercise

WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? Joy of giving

Be gracious and helpful. Have meaning and laughter.

Be a joy master. Provide an atmosphere of warmth, openness and acceptance. Images and experiences are life changing. Make it your mission in determining how you want to show up in your life.

Stand in your own truth

In the course of living you learn how to take in what you need. What defines you is your values and how you live your life. Life speaks for itself. How do we tell their stories? You know your value. You understand who you are. And like yourself. It takes work to get to this place.

I know who I am. My actions speak for themselves.

How do I lift people up?

The awakening

“You alone are enough”. Mya Angelou When you have your disappointments, surround yourself with goodness, and people who hold you up.

Turn off the world to give yourself space to be quiet.

People remember what you do.

Do something of value. Let that speak for itself. Have a portfolio of what you did. The best revenge is good work.

Shift your paradigm to service. Conscious intentional decision. People know when you are not what you appear to be. Be authentically yourself, and do what you care about.

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CONTRIBUTION I get energy from people.

I am energized by the people I meet. Be a voice and shine a light on people who need that light. What is fulfilling for you?

Public service gives you inspiration to do something greater than yourself. You need people to connect to. Greatness is determined by service. Growth is the gift from giving. The ever-evolving journey.

No one gets everything.

You can have it all but not all at the same time. Manage expectations. Know who you are. There are phases or our journey. Life is hard. Life is long. Take care of yourself. The work continues, we are never done. Don’t be complacent. Be vigilant. Be inspired. How are you going to be better? What work needs to be done? What did this mean, and what can I do with what I have received?

ACTIVITY How would you like to contribute?

How do you want to show up in your life?

Who would be in your tribe of people?

What and who inspires and supports you?

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The journey is in knowing who you are

FINDING YOUR ANCHOR

Know who you are.

Like who you are.

It is the thread that runs through everything.

You alone are enough.

Designing a Self- care Road Map.

Active nurturing of our well-being requires on-going self-care practice. Aim for a holistic balance between our physical, mental and emotional centres. The investment is a proactive plan for building your resiliency. Change happens from within. When you begin to care for yourself, you will begin to believe your worth.

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MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS Life to life connections Gratitude Giving back “Because to make change happen in real life, empathy—the ability not just to know, but to feel—only happens when we are together with all five senses.” —Gloria Steinem “Most people who care for others in a selfless manner do so because of a genuine desire to help and improve the world around them. At the same time, modern psychological research has shown that caring has benefits for all involved — people who volunteer or care for others on a consistent basis tend to have better psychological well-being, including fewer depressive symptoms and higher lifesatisfaction. Caring behaviour even has physiological benefits, as current research shows that individuals who receive social support (a form of caring behaviour) are better protected from disease and even death.” — Broadhead et al., 1983 Having a strong network of social support is critical to resilience.

“Very few highly resilient individuals are strong in and by themselves. You need support.”

—Reliance: The Science of Mastering Life’s Greatest Challenges. 2012 Charney and Southwick.

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THE GRATITUDE TREE The Science of Gratitude

Dr. Holder, UBCO presentation October 2016 Gratitude is correlated with life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and hope. Gratitude is negatively correlated with depression and anxiety. Focusing on abundance increases well-being. A very impactful intervention is the gratitude letter, or the gratitude journal. Why does it work? Savoring life experiences promotes your well-being, boosts self-esteem/self-worth, improves one’s ability to cope with stress, encourages moral behavior, decreases social comparisons, enhances our meaning in life, and helps you move on from difficult times or suffering.

ACTIVITY

Self-care Log

Caring: How did you do?

Plans for tomorrow:

Gratitude is what connects the world with the world. Having meaning in life is the strongest indicator of life satisfaction.

Connecting:

A Facebook study showed that posts with the most ‘likes’ had to do with family, friends, jobs and music.

How did you do?

However life is not a flat line; we can’t know light without knowing darkness. So ignoring times when life is tough, is not good either. The last of human freedoms is the ability to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.

Giving and sharing is the secret to abundance. Positive psychology identifies this element of ‘giving to others’ as one of the key sources of happiness.

Plans for tomorrow:

Serving: How did you do?

Plans for tomorrow:

Show gratitude: How did you do?

Plans for tomorrow:

Care (3 times per week). Connect (3 times per week).

Serving (3 times per week). Show gratitude (every day).

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ACTIVITY

Write down 10 things you’re greateful for right now. Don’t think about it. Just put pen to paper.

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joy

EXERCISE, NUTRITION, DEEP REST, MAINTAINING GOOD HEALTH, WATER, FRESH AIR. Nourishing the heart: Love and connection Serenity Loving kindness Joy Gratitude Emotional wellbeing Creation

Nourishing the mind: Education Perspective Peace

Nourishing the spirit: Spiritual practice Prayer Community Pilgrimages

When do I feel peace?

When do I feel Joy? What brings meaning in my life?

What do I need?

What do I really love?

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself”.

— Rumi

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What are 5 things you can do to add a little joy to your life?

WHERE DO YOU GO TO CONNECT TO YOURSELF? ACTIVITY What is your perfect day?

“Your tiredness has dignity to it.

There is no shame in admitting that you cannot go on.

You have been on a long journey from the stars.

Even the courageous need to rest.”

— Jeff Foster

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The Blue Print for Your Life

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND. WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE? How is achieving this going to change who you are?

What will this contribution look like?

Who will you need to become in order to be who you want to be?

ACTIVITY Take notes about your plans to build up your Blue Print for your Life.

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“If you see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know is not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.”

— Joseph Campbell

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