Contact March 2025

a publication for the OKUMC connection

THE EMPOWERMENT ISSUE March 2025 • Volume 7, Number 3

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Communications Ministry Staff

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from the editor When I was a kid in the 80s, media options were not as abundant as they are today. When I was very young, we had five channels on a clear day. As I got older and cable became a thing, we had as many as 30 channel options, including MTV.

of pastor.

For the 80s, it was a pretty risqué costume.

It was not, however, unusual. Pretty much all of our female superhero characters and sidekicks had a few things in common - scanty outfits, impossible bust-to-waist ratios, and long, flowing hair. Even today, when women detectives are depicted, they invariably wear five-inch stiletto heels while running around fighting crime.

like this: Women saw him; then they ran and got someone who could actually figure out what was going on, someone with authority, someone who was a man.

I say I never saw female superheroes in the church, but that would discount all the women who served as Sunday school teachers, nursery workers, youth directors, and more. They were definitely superheroes.

really speak to my heart, even when my brain is plotting an early lunch with my stomach.

I promise, I did pay attention in Sunday school.

Unfortunately, I don’t know if the people teaching me paid that much attention.

I don’t recall ever seeing Judy preach, except Our superheroes included many of what we during children’s moments and maybe on an see today - Superman, Spiderman, Batman, occasional UMW Sunday.

He-Man, GI Joe - you get the picture. The Even though I had heard, every single year, first female superhero I remember seeing was that women were the ones who found Jesus Wonder Woman. She had an invisible airplane at the tomb - and even though I knew that no and a Lasso of Truth, I think. Mostly, though, I one would have known about it if not for the remember her outfit. women, I supposed that story was cast more

Interestingly, as I became more active in the conference, I got to know some pretty amazing female preachers. My friend Rev. Emily Robnett, the fabulous Rev. Dr. Bessie Hamilton, Disney princess/ revolutionary Rev. I didn’t see my first female church “superhero” Aly Shahan, Rev. Carol Cook Moore, Rev. until I was in my 30s. Her name was Judy and Margaret Johnson, Bishop Laura Merrill, and she wore a special stole. Since the men wore too many more to name. stoles that fell across each shoulder, and Judy Sometimes, those very women can reach me in was the only one whose stole crossed one ways a male pastor, no matter how great he is shoulder and met at her waist on the other - and you know, though I might be biased, that side, I assumed female clergy had special I’m married to the greatest - cannot. Women stoles. It wasn’t until much later that I found have a unique capacity to use their empathy, out that stoles actually designate elders and their insight, and their intuition, along with deacons. their wit, intellect, talent, and diligence, to

It’s important for women and girls to see strong women in positions of leadership. It’s equally important to see soft, nurturing women in The thing is, I assumed - right up into my positions of leadership. Women can be both, feminist forties - that women were not or either, and that’s something little girls need preachers. Women did lots of things for the to see more of. church, but - as far as I could tell - not that most sacred and powerful of all positions, that

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Recognizing the Call: Addressing the Disparity Between Women in the Pews and the Pulpit

by Rev. Emily Robnett

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s a Campus Minister, I have the opportunity to meet a lot of young people (call it an occupational hazard).

The other day, I crashed the Catholics’ Super Bowl party and found myself in a conversation with one of their full-time FOCUS missionaries.

Recognizing one another as (relatively, on my part) young women in ministry, we made the inevitable “call-to-ministry” story exchange, and I discovered that this young woman had been raised in the United Methodist Church, but never felt a connection to her faith. She later converted to Catholicism in college through campus ministry, pursuing her calling to serve as a Catholic missionary at the University of Tulsa after graduating.

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“That’s just incredible. Maybe if I had had a pastor like yours,” she sighed, “I would have recognized my calling sooner.”

Our conversation echoed in my mind for days. As the Chair of the Commission on the Status and Role of Women in the Oklahoma Conference, I know a missed opportunity for the advancement of women in ministry when I see one. As I have reflected on the above interaction, I cannot help but think that this woman’s story could have easily been mine had someone not seen within me the gifts to serve God and God’s people as ordained clergy.

The difference? I doubt I would have ended up in the church at all. And that’s the truth. Ask all the clergy you know, and most will say the same: it often takes someone noticing and naming gifts in us for us to discern our call to ministry. Few of us see it within ourselves.

I recounted my own call story, as I have so many times throughout my years in ministry: as an eighteen-year-old high school student, my beloved pastor, Rev. George Warren, Even after I had accepted recognized my gifts for my call to ministry, I still ordained ministry and needed strong, dedicated asked me a question that mentors to guide me. changed my life: “Have Early on, a male friend you ever considered from my hometown becoming a pastor?” sowed the seeds of doubt Though I laughed at the in my heart: he drew out impossibility, the sheer all the greatest, cherryridiculousness of the picked hits to discourage notion of my becoming me from pursuing clergy, I never could quite ministry (see 1 Timothy shake that question. By 2:11-12, 1 Corinthians the time I walked across 14:34-35, etc.).

Such the stage at graduation, discouragement was I had accepted my call to an easy sell for a young Rev. Emily Robnett with some of her ordained ministry. girl who had never met many mentors and supporters at her a clergywoman, heard a ordination ceremony in 2019.

The Catholic missionary woman preach, or even remarked, with amazement, been taught that women that she was surprised I had felt called to were welcome in this role in the local church. ministry so early in life.

As God would have it, I met Rev. Dr. Leslie Long “Well,” I said, “It is something I never would on a tour of my now alma mater, the University have considered for myself, had my pastor not of Central Oklahoma, and through her I saw, named the gifts he saw in me and encouraged for the first time, a woman who embodied the me to discern my call.” calling I had begun to question. She not only

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Through her careful and dedicated mentorship, I found the confidence to embrace my calling.

But it wasn’t just Dr. Long who mentored me—it was a whole host of clergywomen: Rev. Dianne Peters mentored me through the remainder of my discernment process; Rev. PJ Stewart mentored me through candidacy; Rev. Jeannie Himes mentored me through my ministerial internship; Rev. Dr. Tish Malloy shepherded me through my first appointment; Rev. Kathy Brown taught me what collegial partnership should look like.

And it wasn’t just clergy people. It was laity from my home church and laity from my district, who interviewed me and recommended me as a candidate. It was classmates and colleagues who supported and encouraged me along the way, who reviewed my papers and sat with me in moments of doubt or fear, or stood beside me as Bishop Nunn finally laid his hands on me at ordination.

It took the connection—a network of faithful people who lifted me up, challenged me, and propelled me forward in ministry. It wasn’t just one mentor or one moment; it was a tapestry of relationships woven together by God’s grace. Through the connection, I was not only equipped for ministry but also reminded that no one person can step into leadership alone. Just as the Body of Christ relies on many members working together, we can only step into these roles when others are willing to invest their time, wisdom, and advocacy—opening doors, clearing paths, and lifting us up along the way.

There’s a reason some candidates (very often, talented young white men) for ministry seem to rise to our collective attention early in ministry— and it is because people have recognized their gifts and poured into them. Imagine what our conference could look like if we empowered women of all backgrounds and identities— BIPOC women, LGBTQIA+ women, disabled women, neurodivergent women, women of all body types, immigrant women, and women of all socioeconomic statuses—the same way.

Seriously—imagine it.

“It wasn’t just one mentor or one moment; it was a tapestry of relationships woven together

by God’s grace.”

Robnett and Rev. Dr. Leslie Long, “a woman who embodied the calling I had begun to question,” her mentor, her example, and her friend.

In addition to her ministry, Robnett has parented two sons through one of the toughest seasons in our history evidenced by the Covid masks.

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The Statistics - And What They Tell Us As of 2020, women comprised approximately 32% of full-time clergy in the United Methodist Church (UMC) in the United States. This reflects a gradual increase from previous years; for instance, in 2011, women made up about 25% of UMC clergy. Despite these gains, men continue to hold a majority of clergy positions within our denomination, which is particularly noteworthy when approximately 56.6% of United Methodist Church (UMC) members are female, while 43.4% are male.

Why is it that nearly 60% of our membership is female, but only a little more than 30% of our clergy are female? It cannot be that women are less gifted for ministry than men. After all, women have been serving the church since its inception. We’ve carried the Word from the womb to the tomb and beyond. Who could be better equipped than us, entrusted by God to carry and nurture the Messiah, and to proclaim the Good News when the stone was rolled away?

all of us to dismantle a system that does not serve all of God’s people.

So rather than offer an “easy solution,” I pose instead a series of questions for our reflection and discernment: Bias Awareness What biases (implicit or explicit) exist within our congregations regarding women in leadership? How can we address them?

How are the challenges facing women in ministry compounded by other identities, such as race, sexual orientation, gender identity, or socioeconomic background?

How can we ensure that our efforts to promote women in leadership also address these intersecting concerns?

Visibility of Women in Leadership How often do we see women preaching, leading, or in senior clergy roles in our conference or local church? What impact So, where is the disconnect? does this visibility have on the church’s The answer lies partly in church culture (and our culture? culture at-large), which shapes our understanding Encouraging the Next Generation of leadership. To truly create space for women Are we actively encouraging young women in ministry, we must re-imagine a theology and girls to explore a call to ministry? When that uplifts all of God’s people, regardless of was the last time you personally supported gender, and dismantle long-held patriarchal or mentored a young woman in considering interpretations of scripture. But this is only ministry? one solution to a multifaceted problem. Like many issues facing the church and the world, Equity in Appointments & Opportunities the problem is complex—it is shaped by long- Are female clergy in our Conference being standing traditions of male leadership, slow appointed to churches with the same cultural shifts, biases in the appointment process, growth potential and salary as their male work-life balance struggles, lack of supportive counterparts? How can we ensure equal policies, resistance to female leadership, and access to these opportunities? misinterpretations of scripture. Addressing this inequity will require a multi-pronged approach, Mentorship & Development and it cannot be done alone—it will take all of us Are there sufficient mentorship opportunities to make a real and lasting difference. It will take for women in ministry, including support from

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development programs?

Inclusive Language Are we being intentional about using inclusive language in our sermons, prayers, policies, and church communications? How can we ensure Family Support & Policies that our language reflects the equal value and Does the UMC provide adequate parental leave, worth of women in leadership and ministry? childcare, and flexible policies for clergy with Sustaining Long-Term Change families? Where can we improve?

How can we create an environment where Addressing the Pay Gap women in ministry are continually supported, What steps is the UMC taking to address wage celebrated, and equipped for leadership, gaps between male and female clergy? When ensuring that their voices are not just heard, but was the last time our Conference assessed the lead to transformative change within our church? pay gap between male and female clergy?

How can we become advocates—not just for Representation in Leadership Roles women, but for justice? Advocacy means more Are women well-represented in conference than calling for change; it means speaking up leadership, bishop roles, and decision-making when we see inequities, amplifying the voices bodies? Are women well-represented on our of those who have been silenced, and taking personal church’s leadership teams, committees, intentional action to ensure our spaces are and decision-making bodies? truly inclusive. Are we committed to this level of advocacy in our church communities? In our Breakdowns in the Connectional System state? In our country?

Where do we sense breakdowns in our connectional system (e.g., early childhood Church, there is much work ahead of us, and none Christian education, college ministry, etc.) of us are exempt from the task at hand. If we truly that prevent called and equipped women believe in the connection, we must be willing to from advancing in clergy leadership? How can live it out and play our part in someone else’s we strengthen mentoring, networking, and journey. We must remain open to the ways God advocacy to ensure women do not fall through works through us for the good of the kin-dom. the cracks?

Let’s take intentional, concrete steps today— whether it’s engaging in a conversation with a Studies and Resources on Women’s Roles young woman exploring ministry, reviewing Are we investing in studies and resources that our appointment processes, or committing to focus on women’s roles, experiences, and the use of inclusive language. Every action, contributions within the Church? How can we no matter how big or small, contributes to the intentionally incorporate these perspectives collective effort for equity and justice. into our theology, education, and leadership

While there is room for improvement in how we encourage and advocate for women in ministry, the Commission on the Status and Role of Women recognizes individuals who make a significant contribution to the advancement of women in ministry every year with the Frances E. Willard Award. We want to celebrate those who have dedicated themselves to strengthening our church through building up the next generation of leadership, even as we reckon with the work that still needs to be done to create a more equitable church. Nominations are now open for the 2025 Frances E. Willard Award and can be submitted here.

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Report on Representation at the 2024 Oklahoma Annual Conference Prepared by the Commission on the Status and Role of Women (COSROW) Introduction The Commission on the Status and Role of Women (COSROW) is committed to advancing equity and justice in church leadership. As part of this mandate, COSROW monitors inclusivity at Annual Conference, most recently conducting real-time assessments at the 2024 General Conference. In 2024, Oklahoma COSROW resumed this monitoring after a multi-year hiatus.

This report presents a quantitative analysis of gender, racial, and age representation among presenters at the 2024 Oklahoma Annual Conference, comparing speaker demographics to overall clergy composition. Data collection relied on observer assessments, as presenters did not self-identify gender, role, or race/ ethnicity, introducing potential inaccuracies, particularly in age and racial classification.

To improve data precision, future monitoring efforts will encourage self-identification. We pray for your grace as our team continues to strive towards perfection in this important work.

Note: GNC means “Gender NonConforming.”

Gender Representation by Role Role

Women (%)

Men (%)

GNC (%)

Clergy

45% (14)

55% (17)

0% (0)

Lay

56% (25)

44% (18)

0% (0)

Observations: While women were more visible in laity leadership, clergy women remain underrepresented compared to clergymen. Given that only 33% of clergy in the conference are women (177 out of 540), their presence as presenters (45%) exceeded their overall representation. This is a promising step, yet it does not fully address the systemic barriers that continue to limit women’s leadership in clergy spaces.

Findings indicate progress in representation but highlight persistent disparities, especially in clergy leadership and racial diversity. These results emphasize the need for structural reforms to promote a more inclusive and equitable church.

Age Representation Breakdown

Overall Representation Breakdown Category

Women (%)

Men (%)

GNC (%)

Total 52% (39) Presenters

46% (35)

1% (1)

Age Group

Percentage (%)

Total Presenters

Youth (Under 18)

2%

1

Young Adult (18-35)

17%

7

Adult (36-64)

60%

27

Older Adult (65+)

21%

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Older adults had a stronger presence, but the lack of younger voices highlights a gap in leadership development and succession planning. It should be noted that age categorizations were based on subjective observations and may not reflect precise age data.

Race/Ethnicity Breakdown Race/ Ethnicity

Women (%) Men (%)

GNC (%)

White

78% (31)

80% (28)

100% (1)

Black

7% (3)

9% (3)

0% (0)

Hispanic

8% (3)

6% (2)

0% (0)

Native American

5% (2)

6% (2)

0% (0)

Pacific Islander

3% (1)

3% (1)

0% (0)

Observations: White individuals continued to dominate the leadership landscape, comprising 79% of presenters. The presence of presenters of color (21%) was slightly higher than their proportion within the total clergy body (9%), reflecting some progress in racial and ethnic representation. However, true equity remains a challenge, particularly in clergy leadership, where diversity remains disproportionately low. It should be noted that race/ethnicity categorizations were based on subjective observations and may not reflect precise demographic data.

Fig A: Multilingual scripture and worship

Session Breakdown Session

Women Men (%) GNC (%) White (%) POC (%) (%)

Clergy (%) Lay (%)

Laity Session (9:00 AM, May 30)

67%

33%

0%

83%

17%

0%

100%

Clergy Executive 50% Session (9:30 AM, May 30)

50%

0%

100%

0%

100%

0%

Conference Business (2:00 PM, May 30)

38%

62%

0%

63%

37%

50%

50%

Conference Business (4:00 PM, May 30)

40%

60%

0%

100%

0%

100%

0%

Conference Business (9:00 AM, May 31)

67%

33%

0%

83%

17%

50%

50%

Service of Worship (7:00 PM, May 31)

Most diverse

See Fig A

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-

-

-

Conference Business (8:30 AM, June 1)

60%

40%

0%

80%

20%

40%

60%

Conference Business 50% (10:10 AM, June 1)

43%

7%

79%

21%

64%

36%

Summary Observations Gender Representation: While women were well represented in lay leadership, men continued to hold a majority in clergy-focused business sessions. The higher representation of women in lay roles highlights a structural imbalance in clergy leadership.

Race/Ethnicity: Though there was a slight increase in representation for people of color among presenters, the overall leadership remained overwhelmingly white. The most inclusive spaces were found in worship services, underscoring the need for greater diversity in decision-making roles.

Clergy vs. Laity: Lay presenters were notably more diverse than clergy presenters.

This reflects the broader reality of clergy demographics, where white men continue to be the dominant group.

Age Representation: Young adults and youth remain significantly underrepresented across all sessions, limiting opportunities for emerging leaders to shape the church’s future.

Strengths & Celebrations Lay leadership has demonstrated an intentional commitment to increasing diversity, particularly in age representation. Efforts to include younger voices and broader racial and ethnic participation were evident in several sessions.

Women’s leadership was strong in laity roles, and their representation among clergy presenters exceeded their overall percentage in the conference.

Worship services were the most inclusive, featuring multilingual elements and the most diverse leadership, and highlighting an intentional effort towards diversity across the spectrum.

Some sessions showed higher Hispanic and Native American representation than in

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previous years, indicating progress toward inclusion.

Areas for Growth

Women clergy remain underrepresented, highlighting the need for intentional efforts to support and elevate women in ordained leadership.

Racial and ethnic diversity in clergy roles remains a significant challenge, with white clergy continuing to hold a vast majority of leadership positions.

Young adult and youth participation was minimal, pointing to a need for proactive engagement in leadership development.

The presenters (not including leadership) in the Clergy Executive Session were reported as entirely white, demonstrating the persistent racial imbalance in decision-making spaces.

Business sessions showed a continued pattern of male over-representation, particularly among clergy.

Conclusion: While incremental progress has been made in some areas, systemic barriers to equity remain prevalent. Women continue to be underrepresented in clergy leadership, and racial and ethnic diversity remains a challenge in decision-making roles. These disparities highlight the urgent need for intentional, systemic change to foster a more inclusive and equitable church. Moving forward, the conference must prioritize leadership development, equitable representation in clergy roles, and the active inclusion of diverse voices in decision-making processes.

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by Rev. Valerie Steele

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ask, along with so many African Americans before me, “How long? How long before the moral arc of the universe is not simply bending towards justice, but steadied on justice?” In nearly every denomination, the Black church in the U.S. has served as even more than a place of worship and Christian discipleship. The Black church has been a bastion of hope, a groundswell for justice activism, a shelter in the time of storm and so much more. To have an eye on the prize in a nation where morality must be legislated for injustice to be squashed, we must remember the good of our past to navigate towards a healthy, helpful future. As the late Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

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history bears out that the hearts of humanity take time in bending that direction. Time marched on. In an Annual Conference that was 98 percent white, the outspoken Lucille Vanzant offered bold reminders to this annual conference— do not forget the people of color who are among its members.

The first African American District Superintendent was Rev. Dr. Joe Harris appointed to the Ardmore District under Bishop Solomon in the early 90s. Dr. Harris was also the first African American elected delegate to General Conference in this Conference and was elected six more times after that. He also served as the first director of the newly formed General Conference Agency—United Methodist Men. He was instrumental in establishing the Wesley Foundation at Langston.

Sankofa is an African word and symbol that means “to go back and get it.”

The first cross-racial It is a reminder to appointment to a learn from the past large membership, to inform the future. predominantly white Once we know congregation was better, we should do the Rev. Frankye better. Over many Johnson who served years, there have Lawton-First UMC. been various African She later became the American laity and first African American clergy who have Rev. Valerie Steele describes African American history woman in this used their voices to and the Oklahoma Conference of the UMC at a Black conference appointed History Month luncheon. hold this denomination District Superintendent accountable to its serving what was then uniting rhetoric of 1968 here in Oklahoma. the Oklahoma City South District.

Lucille Vanzant, laity from Wynnewood The second African American District First UMC was one such voice. She was Superintendent appointed by Bishop Bruce considered either a thorn in the side of Blake was the Rev. Maurice Majors who served and/or voice for the voiceless to many a the then Bartlesville District. bishop in the Oklahoma Annual Conference.

She held this conference’s feet to the fire Rev. Don Scott served in leadership capacity regarding promises made for equality during with General Board of Global Mission as well the reunification of 1968. Unfortunately, as various churches in our conference. our Conference had difficulty keeping that Other names of known African American promise. Remember, the moral arc of the pastors who have made an impact in this universe bends towards justice. However,

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In 1981, the Oklahoma Annual Conference could boast of having 31 African American UMCs. Within roughly ten years, only 11 of those churches were still open. At the current time, there are only five predominantly African American churches in the Oklahoma Annual Conference.

Sankofa. How do we reach back for that in our past which was good and bring it forward with us into a glorious future? Our differences are a gift. God has created us all so uniquely. Why

not celebrate the differences and embrace our similarities altogether? The loss of any more predominantly African American churches and African American leadership in our conference would be tragic. The unique style and cultural flavor these churches and the leadership bring to the whole make us a stronger conference.

No need to wait for “by and by.” When we pray the Lord’s Prayer we are petitioning God for “Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” The kingdom of God is diverse. The kingdom of God is inclusive. It is before us all to find creative, intentional ways to help strengthen the Black church in this conference.

We will ALL be blessed in unimaginable ways for its continued existence.

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African-American UMW-UWF Salute

by Rev. Valerie Steele

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District UMW in 1992. At the conference level, she was a coordinator for the committee of Christian Global Concerns. As a gifted leader, she was a selected member of the 1980 South Central Jurisdiction’s Core Planning Group and became chair of the jurisdiction’s Committee on Nominations. As a longtime member of OKCQuayle UMC, Wanda Irby was active in the local church UMW where she held the offices of president and vice president.

appy Women’s History Month! In Methodism’s history women have played an integral role in shaping this denomination. While we may be familiar with the impact of Frances Willard, Fanny Crosby or Anna Howard Shaw, we may not be as familiar with how the leadership of African American women has been important in Methodism, this annual conference, and the broader society.

There were other African American women who served as officers in various capacities Sojourner Truth, born enslaved and later within their districts. Sharon Migliorato served freed due to the abolishment of slavery in the as an officer for 8 years. state of New York, co-founded Sarah Hardimon, Thomasena Kingston Methodist Church in Allen Moten, Shirley Franklin 1827. Truth became a staunch have been leaders at the and outspoken abolitionist and district level of the United women’s rights proponent. You Methodist Women. Marsha may recall her powerful speech, Lyons served on the national “Ain’t I a Woman?” advisory board of the United Methodist Women.

Following the uniting General Angela Brown was the first Conference of 1968, Teressa African American woman Hoover became the first African elected vice president of American woman to work in a the conference UMW. She top executive position in the was also elected to serve newly formed, United Methodist in leadership roles with the Church. She led what was then UMW national board, district called the Women’s Division for level and her local church. over two decades.

Sojourner Truth, American abolitionist and icon, coThis is not an exhaustive list.

In the Oklahoma Annual founded Kingston Methodist However, the women noted Conference after General Church in 1827. have been part of making a Conference 1968, at the difference through their roles conference, district and local levels, United Methodist Women (UMW) offered within the United Methodist Women and now a space where laity African American women the United Women in Faith. The significance could serve and even be elected as leaders of their direction has made an impact in in a not so racially diverse conference. Wanda their communities, local church, district, this Irby is one such leader. In 1976, Irby served as Conference and beyond. We take this time to mission coordinator for supportive community appreciate them for their guidance, support, at the district level. She was elected the first care and most of all their gifted leadership!

Black president of then North Oklahoma City

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Discover Your True Nature at Summer Camp

by Wanda Coder

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Summer camp is almost here! ou may not believe it, but summer camp registration has already been open for about a month! That means the perfect time to get the children and youth in your life excited about camps is….NOW!

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Two of our youth camps are a part of our ecumenical model, CYC and CLUE Camp.

What does that mean for you? Hopefully, over the next few pages, we can give you all of the information you may need to promote summer camps (and register your own campers!).

First, we have Joy Camp. This is another camp for our older elementary school campers, but it focuses on workshop-style learning where they can choose from all different types of hands-on experiences.

What Camp Should We Choose?

We offer a variety of camps allowing you to choose the best experience for your children and youth. Let’s break them down.

Specialty Camps: Some of our camps do not fall under the three umbrellas above.

5th and 6th Graders have a special experience for them at Egan! Our 5th and 6th Grade Camp is a weeklong experience to help bridge the gap for those who are not quite Elementary and not quite Youth yet. We think that this is a perfect opportunity for these ages to start a longer camp experience.

Sonshine Camp: There are Sonshine Camps for our youngest campers to be able to start exploring camp with a short twoday experience.

We love it when parents come with For our 7th their campers 8th graders, Worshiping together at Growin’ in Grace Camp at Egan. for this camp; Wilderness it becomes a Camp offers bonding experience for the family! the unique experience of being able to tent Growin’ in Grace: Our Growin’ in Grace Camps are our traditional experience for our older elementary campers. They will be at camp for three days, learning in small groups, worshiping with each other, and exploring the sites.

Youth Camps: Each of our youth camps looks a little different, but they all have the same goal: to create a safe and fun environment for our youth to explore their relationship with God and create community with each other.

Our youth camps are around five days long.

camp, learn about nature in a hands-on and safe environment, and learn to make decisions together by consensus.

Our youth have the chance to go to LEAD Camp. This is a Christian Leadership experience that you won’t want your student to miss.

New (and Returning) Opportunities: We have one new and one returning camp that we are excited about this summer!

New is an experience being offered at Cross Point called Cross Point Kids Camp. It is a

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Returning this year is Trek.

This camp for our older high schoolers will take them on a hiking adventure in Colorado’s Weminuche Wilderness. Trek will utilize a “base camp” approach – begin and end each day at the trailhead base campsite while hiking to new places daily.

The trees in fall are one of the many beautiful sights at Egan.

Each of our camps offers opportunities for campers to connect with nature, learn about God, and learn about themselves. We cannot wait to see which camp you go to this summer!

Curriculum Sneak Peek Our specialty camps each use a specialized curriculum, but our three main categories, Sonshine, Growin’ in Grace, and Youth Camps, use a curriculum that we work each year to provide. This year, we’re thrilled to align all our activities around the captivating Creation Story!

All participants will walk away with shared

values while discovering their own unique insights! Don’t miss this fantastic opportunity for your child to learn, grow, and have a blast with friends. Join us and be part of this amazing experience!

Registration Registration is now open!

To learn more about our camps and find the registration link, please visit the virtual camp book. Here, you’ll find all the details on dates, prices, locations, and deans for each camp.

We are using a new registration system this year! What does that mean for you and your campers?

You will still go to okcamps.org and click “Register Now” to sign up for camp.

You will need to make a new account this first time. Then it will save all of your information for future seasons!

(If you attended a Winter Retreat, you already have your new account!)

All churches will have a transfer/church code for you to use at registration so that you can link to your church! This Rock, paper, scissors is still the go-to decision maker at 5th is in place of the button in previous and 6th Grade Camp. years that said “Pay Through My

Church”. With this code, churches will have more access to view campers and pay online.

This code allows us to link you with your church so that they can see in real-time who has registered and how much the church owes! If your church has not received a code yet, please have the church staff contact us at oklahomacamping@okumc.org!

Scholarships We are so thrilled to offer a wide range of scholarships so that any of our campers have access to an affordable camping experience.

Let’s go over them all.

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North Central District Partnership: The North Central District provides individual scholarships through the Ripley Scholarship.

Contact the District Office for more details on how to apply.

Dangott Opportunities (based on registration timing and available funds): Adult Leaders from UMC Churches: We offer free camp registration to adult leaders from United Methodist Churches based on available funds. The office will apply these discounts manually and notify each leader depending on the timing of registration and available funds.

“First Time Free” Camper from UMC Promotion: Through the “First Time Free” promotion, new campers from UMC churches can attend their first camp at no charge! Simply select this option during registration, and Campers serve communion at Egan Youth Camp. we’ll inform you about availability based on the timing of your application and available funds per program.

Partnership with Prison Fellowship: In collaboration with Prison Fellowship, we UMC Church-Based Scholarships: We allocate are offering a free camp experience for a portion of our scholarship funds to support any camper involved in the Angel Tree UMC church-based scholarships. Apply Christmas program. Families can apply for the through the online form linked here and on registration code using the link provided in the our website. application.

For more information on these scholarship Southeast District Partnership: Thanks to opportunities and how to apply, click here. our partnership with the Southeast District, both campers and adult leaders can attend camp at a 50 percent discounted rate! For the registration code, please contact your church.

Individual Scholarships: Our needs-based scholarships are designed to help campers from UMC churches who require financial assistance. These scholarships aim to make camp possible for those facing financial hardship. Apply via the online form available during registration and on our website.

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Five Reasons This Is the Summer to Go to Camp

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ending your child to camp is an exciting decision, one that offers more than just a fun break from everyday life. This summer, consider sending your child to camp for an experience that combines adventure, spiritual growth, and lasting connections. Here are five great reasons why this is the summer to go to camp!

backgrounds, develop social skills, and gain confidence in making new connections. These friendships often extend beyond the summer, creating lasting bonds and cherished memories.

2. Make New Friends and Build Lasting Connections

scholarships for new campers! This is limited based on timing and the availability of funds per program, but it is still a great opportunity for families to experience camp without the financial strain. Don’t miss this chance to let your child experience something truly special!

3. Build Stronger Bonds Between Children, Youth, and Adult Leaders

Camp isn’t just about new connections – it’s a space for your church to strengthen 1. A Fun-Filled the meaningful Experience That r e l a t i o nships Strengthens Faith that already exist Camp is all between peers and about fun— their adult leaders. exciting outdoor Whether through adventures, friendly group activities competitions, and or meaningful unforgettable conversations, your moments with child will experience new friends. But the power of it’s also a place positive adult role where campers models and form can deepen their relationships with Sitting with Jesus at Sonshine Camp at Egan. relationship with peers that can God in a meaningful deepen their sense of way.

Through belonging. engaging activities, uplifting conversations, and time spent in God’s creation, they’ll grow 4. First-Time Free Scholarships Make It in their faith while making lifelong memories. Accessible It’s the perfect blend of adventure, friendship, We understand that cost can be a barrier, so and spiritual growth. this summer, we’re offering first-time free

Camp is a unique place where kids come together to share experiences, try new activities, and build friendships in a fun and welcoming environment. It’s an incredible opportunity for your child to meet peers from different

Contact | 22 5. Experience the Great Outdoors, Step Out of Your Comfort Zone, and Learn Something New There’s no better way for your child to develop a love for nature than through camp. Surrounded by the beauty of the outdoors, they’ll have the chance to unplug, recharge, and deepen their connection with God’s creation. Camp also encourages kids to step out of their comfort zones—whether it’s trying a new activity, conquering a challenge, or making new friends.

Each day brings opportunities to grow, learn, and gain confidence in a fun and supportive environment.

While fun and adventure are key, safety is always our priority. Our staff is fully trained to ensure a safe, supportive, and structured environment. Activities are carefully planned, with the wellbeing of every camper in mind, so parents can rest easy knowing their child is in good hands.

Getting some Bible reading in at Clue Camp.

Ready to sign up? This summer offers an experience that your child won’t forget! With a mix of fun activities, new friendships, spiritual growth, and the chance to connect with others in the church community, camp is the perfect way to spend the summer. Visit our website to sign up, apply for a scholarship, and learn more about the camp experience. Don’t wait—secure your child’s spot today!

The fishing pond at Canyon Camp is a beautiful place to visit during camp.

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Testimonies from Last Year’s Camps: A Season of Growth, Inclusion, and Holy Moments

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ast year’s camps were filled with incredible moments of transformation, connection, and faith. Below are some highlights from campers and leaders that illustrate the lasting impact these experiences had.

Overcoming Challenges at 5th and 6th Grade Camp:

Tony came to camp facing a tough challenge— he had broken his leg right before camp.

Navigating camp with a knee roller wasn’t Faith and Fun at Joy Camp: easy, but the community at 5th and 6th Grade Camp embraced him. Despite his struggles, At Joy Camp, the story of Elijah and the battle Tony felt supported of the two altars came by the campers and to life in a unique leaders alike, reminding way. After hearing the us that camp is about story, a 4th-grade girl overcoming obstacles approached Susan with and finding acceptance, excitement, connecting no matter the the buckets used in circumstances. the story to the water games they enjoyed later. Her curiosity and These are just a few understanding of the of the many stories Bible were beautifully that make our camps sparked through both so special. Each year, the story and the fun campers experience activities at camp. personal growth, build A Place of Belonging: lifelong friendships, and connect with God A middle school girl in ways that are truly at Egan Youth Camp life-changing. We’re so shared a touching grateful for the ministry A night activity at Camp Spark. moment with Shana Dry that happens at camp after camp when she and look forward to more holy moments in the expressed how much she values being included. future.

“I love going to camp because I don’t stand out, I am just included and not excluded,” she said. As an interracial adoptee, this camper found a space where it wasn’t about her color, but about being herself. Her words remind us all that camp is a place of deep acceptance.

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Three sites?

What’s the difference?

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ach of our sites does a marvelous job of creating a safe space in nature where we can step away from the outside world and just let ourselves be. We take time to rest, renew, and learn something new. We take time to strengthen old friendships, create new bonds, and focus on God. You can go to any of our sites and feel you are in a thin space that puts you closer to God.

Outside of our Conference Summer Camps, our sites are open year-round to host retreats, reunions, and any other gatherings you may need! Contact them, letting them know what dates you may be looking for, the size of your group, and any other details, and they will be happy to help you get booked!

Canyon Camp: canyoncamp@okumc.org, (405)542-6967 (Hinton, OK)

But why three campsites? Besides proximity to separate parts of the state, each site offers Cross Point Camp: crosspointcamp@okumc. some unique opportunities and charms that we org, (580)564-2505 (Kingston, OK) will explore here.

Egan Camp: egancrc@okumc.org, (918) 4566489 (Tahlequah, OK)

Egan Camp Egan Camp and Retreat Center is located in Tahlequah, OK. They are right off of the Baron Fork Creek with opportunities for creek walks, hiking, or kayaking depending on the time of the year. Hiking up to Egan’s cross can be strenuous, but the view of the river early in the morning really cannot be beat.

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Cross Point Camp Cross Point Camp is right on Lake Texoma. Being right on the lake gives you a variety of experiences. Their cross and amphitheater are great places to take in the lake and create a wonderful worship experience. Down at the lake access, you can enjoy the beach, go kayaking and canoeing, or (when it is warm enough) enjoy the inflatables pulled by the boat. If you are the adventuring type, you may take a chance on their challenge course. It is a great way to take a risk and they even have a low ropes option for team building!

Canyon Camp Canyon Camp is nestled in a Red Rock Canyon with great opportunities for hiking and serenity. Walking to the cross at Canyon gives you the opportunity to see the Red Rock Canyon and ends with a view of the whole campsite down below. Canyon Camp recently put in a fishing pond which adds just one more thing you can do while at camp! Canyon Camp is a great getaway that is close to Central and Western Oklahoma.

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I give up...

by Rev. Sheri Lashley

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am rebellious when it comes to Lent. OK, so maybe I am rebellious other times, but I am willing to admit it at the time of Lent.

I haven’t always been so honest in past years, but I’m OK with telling you now. In the past, when someone asks me what I am giving up for Lent, I make something up, like….I like to keep that private, or that is between me and God. Sometimes when asked that question, I have just smiled, mysteriously I like to think, and I never answer the question.

You see, when I first learned that during Lent, we are to give something up, or fast perhaps, I didn’t understand what it meant.

Fasting for me has a bad rap, for I have always been overweight, and there have been days that I have jump started a diet with a fast. I had never put together God,

and self-examination, repentance, or Jesus, with fasting, or giving something up…..when I knew that I would likely take it back up on Sundays, (cheat days) or when I was finished.

I was kind of bothered by those who “complained” about what they had given up; it seemed to me that in a way, they were bragging - “I gave up coffee for Lent,” and “I sure am dragging;” “I gave up desserts, can’t wait until Sunday. I might have to eat a whole cake.” I couldn’t understand what that has to do with Lent. You see, the “giving up” thing is so that you can fill it up with God stuff, you and God stuff, real working-on-your-soul-youand-God stuff...and if you don’t use it for that, well, you might want to eat cake, and have a cup of coffee with it.

I started thinking of the words, ‘I give up.’ I leave off what I am giving up. Just I give up.

I was trying to figure out what I give up on. I rarely give up on people. I hate giving up on a task, for when I get to the point of where it just isn’t working, I must find another way. So, giving up is usually not an option for me, and when it is, I have tried most everything.

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on the ways that I cannot do it all. I resign myself to God’s will, not my own. I remember that I will die, and pain and suffering will remain, but I will have lived. I will live without the need to be right every time. I will live without the need to follow my plan, without the need to check every box, without the need to fix everything. Out of dust I was formed, and to dust I will return, but in between I am going live. I am going to live!

I give up. When you say it like that, it is as if I am defeated. I can’t do it, I give up. My life is a shambles, I give up. I don’t know what to do I fall on my knees and cry out to God, “I give up.” God smiles, embraces me and says, or how to do it, I give up.

“Finally. Now, allow me…” And suddenly Relationship is broken, I give up. Children the dam is lifted, and a tidal wave of grace aren’t doing what they should do, I give up. I comes pouring out. Not because my actions can’t find a job, I give up. I don’t have enough will solve the world’s problems, but simply money, I give up. I hate my job, I hate school, because God is. God is justice. God is mercy.

I’m fat, I’m sick, life really just sucks right now, God is kindness. God is love.

I give up.

This same God took a pile of dust and Sometimes, as I live in these times, I feel breathed life into me, so how else can I live? weary, and I don’t think I’m alone. I feel weary I give up. I get up with God, and I live again. of a world torn by violence. I feel weary Breathe in. Breathe out. Fill yourself with the of impending war. I feel weary of divisive silence, the peace, just for a moment. And politics. I feel weary of debating. I feel weary in the next few minutes, know that God is of social media, being bombarded every day breathing right next to you, seeking for you by this post, this article, this meme. I feel to give up…everything that is not a part of weary of my to-do list, which seems to be the good, that is not a part of the Kingdom, growing faster than I can check things off. that stuff you need to get rid of…

I feel weary of the list of things that I can’t get done, the paper pile on my desk, and the Say it with me...I Give Up boxes I have yet to unpack.

And now Lent comes and I’m supposed to give something up, and I decide if I should or I shouldn’t give something up, so that I might fill up, and with all the things that are going on around me, I don’t even know if I could keep it up…So I give up.

Pass me the ashes, I give up. I give up my plan. I give up my power. I give up my ability to affect other peoples change. I rub ashes on my head, and mark myself “given up.” Hurt.

Depressed. Weary. Tired. Defeated.

I remember that out of dust I was formed.

To dust I will return. I give up. I confess my failures. I examine my shortcomings. I reflect

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What will future Christians say about us?

by Rev. Carlos Ramirez

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ince very early, Christianity has been wrestling between living to the highest values of Jesus’ calling (love our neighbors as ourselves) and fitting in with society at large. One would assume that it is an easy choice to make: “of course we are going to abide by Jesus’ greatest commandment! Duh!” Yet, in reality, it is more complex than we can imagine. Take the community in Corinth. Here is a community that was founded by Paul (one of the all time champions of the faith) riddled with internal fights: who has the higher sign from the Spirit, how to present themselves for worship and the Eucharist, doubting Paul’s credentials, just to mention a three of the many issues Paul had to address. Scholars think that Paul wrote at least four times to these congregations.

If we read the writings in the Christian

Scriptures (New Testament), aside from the gospels, we find conflict in these early Christian communities. One of these early conflicts was women in leadership positions within the Christian communities. Or putting it in other words, women in ministry. Paul, the earliest writer in the Christian Scriptures (writing in the 50’s C.E.), understands that “in Christ” all the norms of the “world” have been destroyed and those “in Christ” live under a new reign. “There is neither Jew nor Greek; there is neither slave nor free; nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Gal. 3:28 CEB). “In Christ” determines under which “rules” Christians live. If one is a Christian, then any other rules or reigns do not have the same effect upon our lives as before.

In this new reign, women can be in leadership positions.

Proof of this is Paul’s letter to the churches in Rome. In Chapter 16: 3-16, Paul sends greetings to 6 different women (not to mention the unnamed sisters and mothers he lists in this chapter). Paul addresses these women as co-workers, leaders and even apostle (Junia). In this same chapter, Paul introduces “Phoebe… who is a deacon.” διάκονον or deacon can be translated as servant or commissioned minister or preacher of the Gospel. For all of those who live “in Christ,” life is different now. Christians live under a new standard of society. Paul, in his letter to Philemon, advocates for Onesimus the runaway slave. Paul asks Philemon to receive Onesimus back “no longer as a slave but more than a slave—that is, as a dearly loved brother” (Phil. 1:16 CEB). Paul indeed believed and conducted himself as one who lives under the reign of Christ Jesus. Paul asked the communities he founded to do the same.

Yet, this battle to be in the world but not of the world is hard. As Christianity keeps growing (expanding throughout the Roman Empire), the pressure of “fit in” with the world grows. By the 120’s C.E., the tone regarding women in ministry has changed dramatically from that of Paul. Most scholars agree that First and Second Timothy were not written

by Paul but by somebody else using Paul’s name (a very common practice in antiquity).

The tone is completely different to that of Galatians or Romans: “A wife should learn quietly with complete submission. I don’t allow a wife to teach or to control her husband. Instead, she should be a quiet listener. Adam was formed first, and then Eve. Adam wasn’t deceived, but rather his wife became the one who stepped over the line because she was completely deceived.

But a wife will be brought safely through childbirth, if they both continue in faith, love, and holiness, together with self-control” (1 Tim. 2: 11-15 CEB). The letter to the churches in Ephesus (another letter thought not to be written by Paul) has a similar tone as that of

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Timothy: “so wives submit to their husbands in everything like the church submits to Christ” (Eph. 5: 24 CEB).

It seems that the pressures of the world go into the churches and opted to compromise part of their witness. Perhaps Christians would not worship Caesar but they would submit women and not let them be in leadership positions. Now this small study only touches the surface of a larger struggle. In the gospel according to Luke women are lifted up as the champions of the faith. Elizabeth and Mary are the “heroes” of the nativity story. Luke also provides plenty of evidence of women following and even sponsoring Jesus’ ministry (Lk. 8:1-3). Yet, Acts, the second part of the gospel of Luke, does not mention women in leadership anymore. The order has been established with the 12 apostles (all men) and them bestowing authority upon other men only.

What about us? The United Methodist Church has ordained women since 1956. Which, let us be honest, is not that long ago. We, like Christians before us, have to wrestle with living under the reign of Christ and aligning all of our actions to this reality or succumbing to the pressures of the “world” to better fit in.

This period of history is demanding an answer from us: will we live “in Christ” and by doing so living in a reality where there is neither male or female, citizen or immigrant, able or disabled, straight or gay, white or person or color, but ONE IN CHRIST JESUS? Or will we opt to “fit in” and confine our Christian witness to an hour on Sunday morning or to the premises of our houses of worship? The encouraging thought is that we are not alone in this choice. Many before us have been faced with it. We know their responses. It is not our turn… What will future Christians say about us?

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UMC Constitutional Amendments (#2 of 4)

by Rev. Dr. Derrek Belase As we introduced in this column last month, one of the unique elements of United Methodist Polity is that while the General Conference can consider and approve amendments to the constitution of the United Methodist Church, those amendments have to also be approved by members of the annual conferences around the connection.

For a constitutional amendment to be finally approved, two thirds (2/3) of the aggregate of all Conferences have to also vote to approve those amendments.

At this year’s session of Annual Conference in May, there will be four constitutional amendments considered by members of the conference. Three of those amendments are very simple and straightforward, but another series of amendments deal with the “Regionalization” of the church.

Over the next three months, we will run informational articles so you can know more about the content and context of each amendment.

The second amendment being considered is to paragraph 4, article IV of the Constitution.

The amended portion of the Constitution adds ability and gender to existing social categories that clergy in The United Methodist Church cannot use to discriminate against a potential member. Said another way, a pastor may not deny a person membership in the church because they have a disability, are female or male, married or single, young or old.

While this amendment may seem quite simple, people in our society have been observed mocking persons with disabilities, talking about physically attacking women, making assumptions about the lifestyles of single persons, or blatantly disregarding the contributions of the young or old. These are all examples of the ways people are pushed to the margins of our society.

This amendment aligns the church even further with our adage, “Open hearts, Open minds.

Open doors.”

If you have questions on this or other amendments, please send those to regionalizationQandA@okumc.org.

¶ 4. Article IV. Inclusiveness of the Church - The United Methodist Church is a part of the church universal, which is one Body in Christ. The United Methodist Church acknowledges that all persons are of sacred worth. All persons without regard to race, gender, ability, color, national origin, status or economic condition, shall be eligible to attend its worship services, participate in its programs, receive the sacraments, upon baptism be admitted as baptized members, and upon taking vows declaring the Christian faith, become professing members in any local church in the connection. In The United Methodist Church, no conference or other organizational unit of the Church shall be structured so as to exclude any member or any constituent body of the Church because of race, color, national origin, status or economic condition.

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The Transformative Action of Listening to Another

by Dr. Robin Goggs

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arch is Women’s History Month — a time to reflect on the complex journey of gender equality and to celebrate the immense contributions women make across the world. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge the struggles we’ve faced, the progress we’ve made, and the gifts women offer in every corner of society. This month invites us to shift away from judgment and oppression and toward a future rooted in equality and empowerment. It’s a chance to hear the stories of women who have shaped our world, and to honor those who have lifted them up along the way.

One powerful example of this is found in

Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4. This exchange is a reminder of how listening can transform lives. Jesus didn’t just speak — He created space for this woman to find her voice. In a culture that often overlooked her, she found empowerment simply by being heard. Through their conversation, she discovered a new path, one that led her to embrace a different life for herself, becoming one of His most devoted followers.

When we pause to reflect on this moment, it’s clear: the true miracle wasn’t just the message Jesus shared, but the space He created for a vulnerable, authentic exchange. Their

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Jesus knew that it wasn’t just about changing someone’s circumstances, but about shifting their perception of themselves. By listening, He acknowledged her inherent worth and helped her see her potential. This wasn’t a grand show of power, but a simple, profound act of kindness that altered the trajectory of her life.

What stands out to me in this story is the absence of fear between them. Instead, they leaned into one another with curiosity and care. It was through this openness and active listening that the Samaritan woman experienced profound transformation.

The vulnerability in their exchange was the foundation of true empowerment.

In my own life, I’ve been learning the power of listening. There was a time when I spoke more than I listened, but now, I focus on understanding others before seeking to be understood. There are countless theories on what makes a great leader, and throughout history, we’ve seen both admirable and flawed examples. According to Gallup research, the number one trait of a good leader is empathy — the ability to truly understand and share in the feelings of others. But empathy doesn’t come without effort. It requires us to listen deeply, to create a space where others feel seen, heard, and valued. When we actively listen, we elevate others, and they begin to feel that their voices matter.

This is where empowerment begins: when we listen, we acknowledge another person’s worth. We offer them the resources, opportunities, and skills they need to grow.

It’s a small step to open ourselves to others, but the challenge often lies in carving out the time and emotional space for it. It can be easy to get caught up in our own busy lives, but we must recognize that the connections we build through genuine listening are some of the most meaningful interactions we can have.

So, what would it look like to become a source of empowerment in your life?

Where could you begin? Maybe it’s in your workplace, in your church, or within your family and personal relationships. Perhaps it starts with something simple: sitting down across from someone, eye to eye, and asking, “How are things in your world?”

By creating that space for someone to share, we not only validate their feelings but also help them see that they are not alone. We become partners in their journey, and in doing so, we empower them to rise above their challenges and achieve more than they thought possible.

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