Summer Edition Mediation Works 2013

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Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme Newsletter

Students' Feedback from the Auckland/Northland Secondary School Symposium 2012

What does PEACE mean to you?

N.B. The larger the word, the more times it has been mentioned therefore the greater the importance.

In this issue ...

TERM ONE - Handy Hints for Cool Schools Coordinators Peace Week 2012 - Peace Song Competition Results Auckland/Northland Secondary Symposium 2012 Something NEW - Support ProPeaceWork Panda Island Game now online!!!

Silence Speaks Volumes White Ribbon Campaign 2012 Resources - AUTUMN SPECIAL and more ...

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Attention LEADR Trained Mediators: If you wish to volunteer at a secondary school training, please contact Christina Barruel.

Email: christina@peacefoundation.org.nz

Kia Ora Whanau Happy New Year!

A new initiative for 2013 ... sending out a MediationWorks summer edition to our Cool Schools during Term One. I think this is a great idea as it is during this term that most schools are actively engaging in the Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme by revisiting the learning areas in classrooms and training the school peer mediators so that they are ready for playground duty throughout the year. Therefore, a relevant time to receive MediationWorks to help keep schools motivated and informed.

On that note, I will be including some Term One - Handy Hints for Cool Schools Coordinators on Page 3 of this edition to provide some valuable reminders for programme implementation at the beginning of the new school year.

Highlights from the second half of 2012 have included: National Schools’ Peace Week 2012 – Theme: Music4Peace: Music Heals the World A total of 38 schools registered for Peace Week during August 2012 … a record! Our national song competition, which ran during Peace Week, was supported by 3 secondary and 7 primary schools throughout the country. The quantity of entrants had no relation to the quality of original songs produced which were superb!!! The judges had a difficult job to decide who were the finalists. (Refer to Page 5 for more details on competition prizewinners).

Auckland/Northland Secondary School Symposium 2012 – Theme: Music4Peace: Music Heals the World This event was held on Friday 17th August.

There were nine colleges present with a total of 92 students and 10 teacher coordinators. Five schools performed their original peace songs as part of the symposium programme. This was easily the best symposium to date; well organized with a dynamic programme that left everyone ‘buzzing’ at the end of the day! (Refer to Pages 6 and 7 for more details).

LEADR NZ (Association of Dispute Resolvers) LEADR NZ has an alliance with The Peace Foundation so that those volunteering to assist with coaching and role-plays on the training are able to count these hours towards their professional development log for accreditation; while at the same time contributing to a great cause. Secondary school trainings with LEADR trained adult mediators acting as mentors, coaches and storytellers, are very inspiring for the student participants … win/win for all concerned!

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Janine Edge, head trainer for TalkingWorks, facilitating a secondary training at St Davids College, Llandudno, North Wales.

Experience with TalkingWorks (United Kingdom) During September 2012, I spent a week working in the United Kingdom joining Janine Edge as her co-trainer. Janine is the founder and lead trainer for TalkingWorks.

This programme provides intensive one day training in mediation skills for secondary school students in the UK Janine spends three months a year at her residence on Waiheke Island and has joined me on a number of Auckland secondary school trainings in recent years. She has contributed valuable ideas to the development of our secondary programme.

During this week I was able to experience TalkingWorks first hand and share best practice onsite in the UK. This was helpful in providing motivation, inspiration and ideas for further development of our secondary programme.

Christina Barruel with Unnsteinn Johannsson, project manager for The Peace Thing Conference held in Reykjavik, Iceland.

The Peace Thing – Conference organized by the Icelandic Scout Association I was invited to be a keynote speaker and to present a three hour Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme workshop at “The Peace Thing” Conference during October, 2012. This international conference was a 100 years celebration of the Icelandic Scouts and Guides Association and was held in the capital city of Iceland, Reykjavik. I presented a workshop which gave participants awareness on basic peaceful conflict resolution and peer mediation skills for both personal and professional use.

I discussed how the Cool Schools primary and secondary programmes are implemented

in New Zealand. At the end of the workshop participants had a clear idea of how The Peace Foundation is actively creating and sustaining peace education in New Zealand schools, while simultaneously achieving positive social and health outcomes for New Zealand youth.

I joined various activities on The Peace Group Camp before the conference. This camp was organised by the Icelandic Scout Association and was an opportunity for young scouts, aged between 18-32 years from countries all over Europe, to come together to discuss their views on ‘peace’ and to create an action plan for pro-active initiatives to promote peace in their own communities. I found it an inspiring opportunity to hear the opinions/ideas of others and to share my own points of view on the topic.

I was proud to represent The Peace Foundation at the lighting of the Imagine Peace Tower on Vevey Island near Reykjavik. This event happens every year on October 9th and is dedicated to the memory of John Lennon on his birthday. It is sponsored by Yoko Ono who is the event patron. She was present to open and close the ceremony. Hundreds of people attended from all over the world.

I would like to take this opportunity to say a big THANKS to Merran Spath who has left The Peace Foundation to spend time with her family and explore other directions. Merran has contributed a huge amount to our organization and will be sadly missed for her innovation, superb organization skills, passion and boundless energy! We welcome Neil Cameron as our new Cool Schools Administration Assistant. Neil has worked for The Peace Foundation previously and returns to be challenged in a different role.

Lastly, I would like to wish you all a successful, smooth running, safe, peaceful year. Remember: “Peace begins with a smile…”

(Mother Teresa)

Happy mediating … arohanui …

Christina Barruel (Cool Schools Manager and Trainer)

The team who helped facilitate the secondary school peer mediation training at Wellington Academy, Wiltshire, England.

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Handy Hints

TERM ONE Handy Hints for Primary Cool Schools Coordinators As you plan for Cool Schools implementation during Term One, you might like to consider the following:

Schools has been implemented the previous year, find out through your survey how effective staff think the programme has been. Example: SWOT (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats). Graph the results and give feedback during a staff meeting. Refer to Section 3, Page 134, of the new primary manual for an example. Send your results to The Peace Foundation. They are very helpful in assisting with Ministry report writing.

Check through the programme material at your school to make sure you have the updated resources, especially the new manual,

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Coordinator’s Kit and Primary Training DVD (Refer to Pages 12, 13 and 15 of MediationWorks). If your school has not had full staff training within the last 3 years, it is highly recommended so that you are familiar with the new programme material. Contact The Peace Foundation and ask for the possibility of a ministry funded training.

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(a) The purpose of having whole school implementation and how this works at your school. Both Sections 1 and 3 of the new manual will be very helpful in motivating your staff to ‘get on board’. (b) Planning for the learning areas teachers need to cover in their classes. Refer to Section 2, Pages 22-24 of the new manual. (c) Setting up a Cool Schools Corner in the classroom – Section 2, Page 24. (d) Sharing Cool Schools resources such as the Primary Training DVD. (e) Rostering ‘on duty’ class mediators. Teachers of senior students can keep an eye out for students to be recommended for the school team. (f) If you plan to have school peer mediators on duty during the first term, discuss how teachers can be supportive in the playground. This includes being aware of the difficult situations peer mediators on duty may face and how teachers can help out when appropriate. Refer to Section 2, Session 10, Pages 120 – 124 of the new manual, Handling Difficult Situations. (g) Make sure your colleagues are aware of what conflict situations are not appropriate for student peer mediators both in the classroom and in the playground.

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(h) Check there is a school policy on safety/non-violence/ anti-bullying/anti-harrassment/relationship management. Make sure each teacher has a copy of this.

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as badges) and for other activities involving peer mediators throughout the year. Example; materials needed to make a peace banner or/and ‘peace bracelets’ during National Schools’ Peace Week in August.

to establish an effective whole school peaceful conflict resolution (with peer mediation) programme. It contains key steps, resources, ideas, and innovations from Cool Schools Coordinators all around New Zealand. Page 139 has some great tips!

Ask for all the things you need to do your job effectively as the Cool Schools Coordinator. This may include class release time for training student peer mediators and holding regular meetings with the school team. Check that you are a Partnership School and that your Principal has signed the School Agreement with The Peace Foundation. Partnership Schools have definite advantages such as priority to ministry funded trainings. Contact The Peace Foundation if you wish to receive a School Agreement.

Procedures Manual. This manual should contain everything useful for effective implementation and is the key to programme sustainability at your school.

on Page 11 of MediationWorks). It may be time to request a Cool Schools revisit or a full staff training. Remember that ministry funded trainings are limited so book at least 6 months ahead. Keep an eye out in the Notices Section of MediationWorks (Page 11) for regional teacher training workshops or/and network meetings. Attendance at these events is invaluable in keeping you resilient in your role as Cool Schools Coordinator.

By Christina Barruel (Cool Schools Manager and Trainer)

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Parents Programme

Silence Speaks Volumes “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” - Martin Luther King, Jr. When you’re in conflict with another person, you both are usually aware of it at some level. There’s a sense of disruption, unease, something is not right. The communication between you might change, perhaps becoming superficial or terse. Or … there’s silence.

Once you’re aware that you’re in conflict, what you do next really matters.

Too frequently, we silence ourselves when we have feelings, we think or feel sure, the other person won’t want to hear. We often do this because we value the relationship and are afraid that it will worsen or even end if we say how we really feel. Ironically, without honest and open dialogue, there is no possibility of a deeper and better relationship. Silencing yourself contributes to the very thing you want to avoid. Furthermore, if it’s anger, resentment or another strong negative feeling that you have, keeping silent doesn’t make that feeling dissipate.

by Lisa Gibson (Parent Programme Trainer)

Infact, the opposite happens - the unspoken problem remains, distancing occurs and the relationship suffers as a result.

At other times, you can feel hurt, angry or upset by something another person says or does. Because letting them know how you feel makes you vulnerable, you decide to keep those feelings inside and withhold them from the other person. Sulking, pouting, pursed lips, not answering, abrupt answers, ignoring the other person, giving them the ‘cold shoulder’ are signs of this kind of silence, otherwise known as the ‘silent treatment’. Invariably, the ‘silent treatment’ is hurtful to everyone involved. Even so, many of us have a tendency to withdraw and withhold when we’re in emotional pain, especially from the person we perceive is causing it.

The alternative to ‘silent treatment’ doesn’t have to be lashing out in anger at the other person. That just causes the problem to escalate and become an even bigger issue. A far better approach is to be willing and able to talk to them honestly about how you

feel and why – without blame. For example, imagine your partner forgot your anniversary (or birthday) which was very hurtful to you. Instead of giving them the ‘silent treatment’ or lashing out at them, a better alternative would be to say: “I’m so hurt that you didn’t remember our anniversary.” Or … your boss didn’t give you a promotion you thought was a ‘done deal’. Instead of saying nothing and suffering in silence (and resentment), say: “I feel very confused and disappointed that I didn’t get the promotion that I expected and I’d like to talk with you about it.”

When we drop our pretences and defences and are authentic in our significant relationships, we experience relief, heightened self-worth and a deeper sense of meaning. It is one of the joys of existence.

I invite you to join us on one of our Peaceful Family Communication Courses and learn skills on how to be more authentic and express yourself so that the real you gets heard!

For more information, please contact Virin Gomber: virin@peacefoundation. org.nz

Peaceful Family Communication

A FREE communications skills course for Parents, Caregivers and Educators Delivered by The Peace Foundation and Funded by the Ministry of Social Development

We are now taking bookings!

This 15 hour programme is designed to give parents, teachers and caregivers a set of skills that can be used immediately in their family and work environments. The course focuses on simple, proven ways for adults to increase their effectiveness with children, teenagers and their own partners.

Participants learn effective communication skills including how to: • Communicate with assertiveness • Skilfully respond to unwanted behaviours • Deal resourcefully with conflict and successfully solve it • Communicate more effectively as a family

Feedback examples: • A really clear, effective and well delivered approach to understanding how to communicate effectively.

• Well-paced, good variety, playful and profound, encouraging and empowering!

• A fantastic course that should be offered to more parents. Great information and tools for everyday life.

• Thank you so much for running this course. It has had a huge impact on our lives.

• Very worthwhile! A course every adult would gain something from.

This programme has been highly recommended since its inception in early 2010, and has been hosted by various schools in the Auckland area. If your school is interested in hosting a programme for your parents and/or teachers, please contact Virin Gomber ph 09 373-2379 or virin@peacefoundation.org.nz 4 MediationWORKS

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Peace Week 2012

Te Wiki o te Rangimarie Schools’ Peace Week Aotearoa 2012 Schools’ Peace Week Aotearoa 2012 was held on the 6th -10th of August with the theme Music4Peace: Music Heals the World. It mobilized 40 schools and thousands of students to celebrate ‘peace’ in their own unique way with music being the focus to spread the message of peace and love for one another. The support of Cool Schools Coordinators and peer mediators who led the peace activities in their school was overwhelming.

Parua Bay School in Northland was the lucky prizewinner of the $150 cash prize draw for registering their participation to the Schools’ Peace Week with their planned activity by the due date.

The Peace Foundation organised a Peace Song Competition during Peace Week 2012. Original songs were composed and performed by students then emailed through to Head Office.

The standard of entries was very high and represented schools from all around New Zealand. Nathan Peseta, Andrew Cowie and Fraser Bruce kindly accepted to be our judges. It was not an easy job to decide on the finalists.

Congratulations to:

Children with Learning Disabilities (Christchurch) 3rd: $100 Te Muri, Annie and Layla Nelson Central School (Nelson) Secondary Category: 1st: $300 Mt Roskill Grammar School (South Auckland) 2nd: $200 Auckland Girls’ Grammar School (Central Auckland) 3rd: $100 De la Salle College (South Auckland) (N.B. There were only three secondary schools who entered the competition.)

Secondary students in mixed groups from different schools create ‘music for peace’ at an afternoon workshop held at the Auckland Secondary School Symposium held in August 2012.

to express gratitude to all those who registered and supported Schools’ Peace Week 2012 … students, teachers, parents, judges, sponsors, volunteers and others! Your participation has really been appreciated!

National Schools’ Peace Week 2013

Peace Song Competition Prizewinners - Secondary Category. From left to right: Mt Roskill Grammar (1st), Auckland Girls’ Grammar (2nd), De la Salle College (3rd).

Christina Lilo was a guest performer at the Auckland Secondary School Symposium and the Mt Roskill Grammar School team first prize winners featured in the Auckland Central Leader newspaper. Their song was performed on the PeaceDay Global broadcast on Friday 21st September (International Day of Peace).

The Peace Foundation would like

National Schools’ Peace Week 2013 will be Week 2, Term 3, (5th-9th August 2013). The theme for this years Peace Week is: Action4Peace: Making a Difference in Our Community.

We would welcome any refreshing, innovative, creative ideas of what students, teachers and parents can do to support our theme during Peace Week 2013. The Peace Foundation would like to put a collection of ideas into a Peace Week 2013 ACTION KIT. This will be emailed to schools well before Peace Week so that they have a pool of ideas to work with around our theme. So ... put your thinking caps on and email your Peace Week 2013 ideas to: peaceweek@peacefoundation.org.nz Due date: Monday 2nd April, 2013. Thank you.

Peace Song Competition 1st Prizewinner Primary Category - Christina Lilo from Wiri Central School (South Auckland).

Primary Category: 1st: $300 Christina Lilo, Wiri Central School (South Auckland) 2nd: $200 Callie Hitchcock, Seabrook Memorial School for

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Peace Song Competition Judges from left to right: Nathan Peseta, Andrew Cowie and Fraser Bruce.

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Events

Symposium Reflections from Mt Roskill Grammar School Music is a language that brings everyone close together. This was the theme for the 2012 Peace Symposium where 10 schools, including us, Mt Roskill Grammar, united to celebrate National Peace Week.

We were very ecstatic as we made our way to the venue with 16 mediators, our peace banners, a guitar and wearing our amazingly designed peace t-shirts. The t-shirt design was a colourful blend of the peace sign and treble clef to represent music and peace together.

The day was lined up with many inspirational speakers including some well-known New Zealand music artists such as RIA and Anonymouz. Anonymouz told us while he was growing up, he heard different genres of music wherever he went, such as Hip Hop in the streets of South Auckland and classical music at church. His passion for music allowed him to unite these two totally opposite genres to create wonderful music, which has allowed him to have a unique identity in the music industry. He

adopted music as a child to escape from the harassment around him to achieve a more peaceful life. We were also very fortunate to have been accompanied by SIFE students from the AUT who volunteered to spend their day with us.

Every school performed with enthusiasm to deliver an amazing performance, singing their song they had practiced for Peace Week. It was finally our turn to dazzle the audience. We took a different approach to our performance by giving prime examples of racial harassment in a humorous way.

This approach worked really well as it got the audience chuckling but also made them realize how little comments/jokes can affect people in a community. We then performed a song composed by Saale Ilaua, which encouraged us to make a stand in getting rid of war and poverty. This song helped us win the peace song competition as the lyrics had a defiant meaning for achieving peace by solving inner community problems and also issues on a global scale.

The Mt Roskill Grammar School team prepare to perform their winning peace song composed by Saale Llaua (student with guitar in photo).

To add to this glorious day, we got a chance to make our own beats after having a yummy lunch. The room was filled with laughter as everyone united through music and this brought an end to an amazing day organized

by The Peace Foundation. We would like to say a big THANK YOU to everyone involved in making the day such a success.

by Sadhika Jogia and Akshay Kumar (Peer Mediators)

‘Cool’ Symposium Reflections from Otahuhu College

Otahuhu College students stand with their 2012 peace banner

The Otahuhu College team perform their peace song for symposium participants

- meeting people, making new friends from other schools providing the same service as us - re-connecting with 2011 symposium participants - participating in music for peace - having fun with different people - other schools’ items - yummy food - sharing serious views - recognising importance of what we do as mediators - guests performers especially “Anonymouz” Thanks to The Peace Foundation team for an uplifting and inspiring experience.

by Mark, Ieti, Taase, Ferila, Finau, Jacinta, Luti, Pagan and Elizabeth

The Auckland/Northland Secondary Schools’ Symposium 2012 Theme: Music4Peace: Music Heals the World On Friday 17th August, 2012, the 8th Auckland Secondary Symposium was held at the Western Springs Garden Community Hall. There were nine colleges present with a total of 92 students and 10 teacher coordinators. The two new colleges in attendance this year were Kelston Girls College and Marcellin College. Five schools performed their original peace songs as part of the symposium programme.

The guest performers were; Richard and Michael representing the Auckland University Peer Mediation Service,

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Christina Lilo (Winner of the Peace Week Song Competition Primary Category), Andrew Cowie, Matt Faiumu Salapu from “Anonymouz”, Roots of Babylon – Acoustic and RIA (young New Zealand female singer on the charts!). Fraser Bruce facilitated a creative music workshop with an Auckland City for Peace flavour in the afternoon. Many students commented on their evaluation form that they enjoyed a real sense of unity by participating in a drum and beat workshop as a whole group. This was one of the programme highlights.

A BIG THANK YOU to our fantastic volunteers: Ari Blake, Aly Roberts and the great team from SIFE AUT: Sepi Moala, Jiahuan Li, Nicollette Newport, Erica Tilley, Michelle Tan, Sisyliana Halim, Malu Malo and Jackson. The Peace Foundation would like to acknowledge the wonderful support of our 2012 symposium sponsors and partners: SIFE AUT, Auckland Council, Starbucks, Charlie’s, Domino’s Pizza, The National Institute of Creative Arts and Industries, FilmStationz. Your contribution has been very much appreciated!

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Events

White Ribbon Campaign 2012 On Friday 23rd November, The Peace Foundation was involved in the White Ribbon Campaign 2012. Jonnie Black, White Ribbon Ambassador and Peace Foundation staff member, attended the men’s breakfast supporting this very good cause. He commented that the breakfast was a fantastic opportunity to bring together men within the community to support

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such an important campaign and spread the message of non violence especially towards women. The event itself, held in Manukau Square, was a BIG HIT among local primary school students who enjoyed painting peace flags. Jonnie had an opportunity to speak and was asked to close the event. Jonnie also attended the very first Puketapapa/ Mt Roskill hui. He was joined by

45 White Ribbon riders on their Harley Davidsons. These events were held in support of the message ‌ we want a non-violent community.

Jonnie took the pledge to never commit, condone or remain silent about violence towards women.

Here are a selection of photos taken at the White Ribbon event held at Manukau Square on Friday 23rd November 2012.

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Youth Wing

Enact – Youth Enabling Action The youth team at The Peace FOUNDATION would love to receive a constant flow of content from our community and YOU for sharing on our website. We encourage everyone; students, parents, teachers, friends, and volunteers to contribute to our website.

If you are a writer of any kind, do not hesitate to contact us and share your ideas with the world. Here are some examples of content we are looking for: • Personal stories of life-changing experiences • Reflections from past trips to Hiroshima or Nagasaki • Poetry • Photographs • Opinion pieces • Videos

• Book or film recommendations • Inspirational or thought provoking quotes • Articles from newspapers, magazines or online publications • Personal essays • Links to great websites related to our mission

The possibilities are endless. The contributions you make do not have to be large. It can be as simple as a short quote or a one-paragraph reflection piece. If you would like to contribute, please contact us on: enact@peacefoundation.org.nz.

We look forward to receiving your awesome work!

Have you caught up with Panda Island?

Panda Island is a fun computer game, that gives children another way to learn the skills taught in the Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme. This year we have had the pleasure of working with three 3rd year Bachelor of Information Technology students from Otago Polytechnic. Matthew Norman, Chris Barbour and Darryl Sell worked with The Peace Foundation on a project that was a major part of the students’ final year assessment. We were all very happy to learn that Matt, Chris and Darryl achieved a grade of distinction for their Panda Island project and all three have now graduated with a Bachelor of Information Technology. Congratulations!

The Otago Polytechnic students knew very little about ‘Cool Schools’ so our Otago trainer, Carolyne Smith, took them through the Cool School Peer Mediation training. With experience from this training and assistance from the Cool Schools primary manual, the students began developing their ideas. Darryl said that the programming of the game wasn't a huge issue as they were all very skilled at that.

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that was fun and in a way children would enjoy to use.

Macandrew Bay School pupils tested the game. Darryl said; “at this stage of the project it had the potential to go terribly wrong, however, everything went perfectly.

We had a bit of a laugh with the students and it was very enjoyable as well as providing us with heaps of useful feedback.”

Darryl, Chris and Matt said that they tried to develop the game so that it teaches children not only peaceful conflict resolution skills, but also how important it is to slow down, listen and become aware of what is around you.

In Panda Island, the Maze Mini game was developed to show that if you listen to the helpful instructions, you can find your way through the maze much more easily. They also put in a compass, and use compass directions as hints. “We never drew any attention to the compass in the upper right corner, but the children quickly learnt to use their surroundings to help them out. We found that this also teaches children how to use a compass and a few other skills that are useful to have.”

They had worked out that they needed to show the compass in the game as most

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Carolyne Smith with the 3 students from Otago Polytechnic who created Panda Island. Left to right: Darrly Sell, Chris Barbour and Matthew Norman.

of their peers, in their 20s, didn't know their compass directions!

Thank you to Darryl, Chris and Matt for your hard work in developing Panda Island and to the staff and students of Macandrew Bay School, Dunedin, for testing the new game. Now it is ready to play!!!

Why not visit Panda Island yourself and see what Darryl, Chris and Matt have created for you to enjoy? The game can be downloaded at: www.pandaisland.co.nz. Have fun!

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Peace Foundation Interns 2012 Guinevere Alai

Talofa lava and warm Pacific greetings!

Guinevere Alai is a New Zealand born Samoan who is currently completing a Postgraduate Diploma in Peace and Conflict Studies with the National Centre for Peace and Conflict Studies, at the University of Otago. Guinevere had chosen to carry out her course practicum with The Peace Foundation in Auckland during October because of her passion to work with New Zealand's Pacific Island community, and to further promote

peace in our multi-cultural communities in any way possible. In her spare time she likes to stay active in Dunedin's cold weather by facilitating Zumba classes.

She is a certified Zumba instructor, and also likes playing social netball and volleyball. We would like to thank Guinevere for her valuable contribution to the youth project’s at The Peace Foundation, and wish her all the best for future endeavors.

Ari Blair

Shalom!

Ari Blair is a recent graduate from AUT University with a Bachelor of Arts in Crimi-

nology and Conflict Resolution. During his study period, Ari had to carry out a work placement in an organization which aligned to his degree, thus he chose The Peace Foundation. Throughout Ari’s internship, he assisted with; (1) the development of the NEW youth initiative, Youth Peace Ambassadors’, Aotearoa, (2) helped plan and organise an awesome Secondary School Symposium held in Auckland, and, (3) assisted with the Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme. Ari was awarded the Deans’ Award upon completion of his placement for an outstanding effort. He brought great value and youth perspective to The Peace Foundation. We would like to thank Ari for his superb contribution and wish him well for an exciting future!

Calling for Nominations …

Are YOU passionate about people especially, young people? The Peace Foundation is launching a new youth initiative this year called Youth Peace

Ambassadors’ Aotearoa (YPAA) and we need YOUth on board! Does this ‘light your fire’?

Here is a great opportunity for you to be a leader and represent youth in your community. You can nominate yourself as a Youth Peace Ambassador or someone else you know who is passion-

ate about creating peace in their world.

Think about being a role model in your school, community, or whanau. Nominations are now open for the YPAA project which will be launched during 2013. You will be part of a national youth network, working on youth projects in local communities.

If you wish to join or you are nominating someone else, please email Jonnie Black at The Peace Foundation for more details: jonnie.black@peacefoundation.org.nz

REACT - Responding to Armed Conflict Calling for bookings now!

This is a FREE workshop provided to schools which is a unique presentation package combining the elements of an effective oral presenter, interactive group discussions and a captivating visual slideshow.. The REACT presentation has two components: 1. Raising awareness about issues surrounding international armed conflict and disarmament.

2. Motivating the audience to build peaceful communities and demonstrating this through current events.

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The project is aligned to the New Zealand Curriculum under Social Studies. The workshop can be tailored to suit the needs of each individual school. Thank you to the Disarmament United Nations Implementation Fund for providing this FREE workshop to schools.

Please email Jonnie Black jonnie.black@peacefoundation. org.nz at The Peace Foundation for more information or/and to make a booking.

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Notices

Reminder to Partnership Schools: Please renew your subscription of $150 + GST to The Peace Foundation. Thank you to those schools who have already done so.

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Upcoming Events

2013 Auckland/Northland Secondary Schools Symposium WHEN: VENUE: THEME:

Friday 16th August (Week 3, Term 3, 2013) Western Springs Garden Community Hall Action4Peace: Making a Difference in Our Community

Pink Shirt Day

Friday 17th May, 2013

WHEN:

International Day of Peace WHEN:

Saturday 21st September Event Proposed: Music4Peace Concert (watch for notifications on Facebook: Cool Schools – New Zealand Peace Foundation)

Auckland Primary Teachers’ Cool Schools Training Workshop - Term 1, 2013 WHEN:

VENUE:

COST:

Friday 22nd March from 9 am-3.30 pm (Week 8, Term 1) Seminar Room, Level 1, National Library, 8 Stanley St, Parnell. $150 + GST per person which includes; 5.5 hour training, helpful

Cool Schools Network Meetings 2013 Nelson/Tasman Bay WHEN: Tuesday 19th March (Week 8, Term 1) from 12.30 pm-3.30 pm.

VENUE: Library, Birchwood School, 15 Durham Street, Stoke, Nelson Wellington WHEN: Wednesday 20th March (Week 8, Term 1) from 12.30 pm-3 pm VENUE: Seminar Room, Mana Education Centre, 3 Selby Place, NZ Post Building, Porirua North Auckland WHEN: Friday 14th June (Week 6, Term 2) from 12.30 pm-3.30 pm VENUE: Library, Upper Harbour Primary School, 140 Kyle Road, Albany

NB: Look on The Peace Foundation website for more details: www.peace.net.nz FOUR TERM 2011

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Monday 5th August-Friday 9th August (Week 2, Term 3, 2013) Action4Peace: Making a Difference in Our Community

West Auckland WHEN: Friday 21st June (Week 7, Term 2) from 12.30 pm-3.30 pm VENUE: Ranui Primary School, 16 Ranui Station Road, Ranui, West Auckland Hamilton WHEN: Friday 28th June (Week 8, Term 2) from 12.30 pm-3.30 pm.

VENUE: Insoll Avenue Primary School, 95 Insoll Ave, Enderley, Hamilton

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handouts, morning tea and lunch.

Cool Schools Coordinators and teachers who have not had the updated, revised training (within the last 3 years), new staff members of schools who have had recent training, coordinators who need a refresher course and familiarisation with the new resources now available, school management interested in future implementation.

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Please can all article contributions be emailed to: christina@peacefoundation. org.nz Due Dates:

2013 WINTER EDITION due by Friday 5th July (Week 9, Term 2, 2013) 2014 SUMMER EDITION due by Friday 22nd November (Week 6, Term 4, 2013)

Trainer Contact Details Name

Regions

Phone/Mobile

Fax

Email

Christina Barruel CS Manager and Trainer Pri/Sec

Auckland, Northland, Waikato, Hawkes Bay, Taranaki

09 373 2379 027 272 9331

09 379 2668

christina@peacefoundation.org.nz

Jonnie Black Māori Programme Coordinator

Auckland, Northland, Chatham Is.

09 373 2379 021 058 1700

09 379 2668

jonnie.black@peacefoundation.org.nz

Lisa Gibson Pri/Sec/PP Trainer

Auckland

jprgibson@xtra.co.nz

Andrea O’Hagan Pri/Sec/PP Trainer

Bay of Plenty, Gisborne, Waikato

09 528 4706 021 464 910

07 307 9085 027 711 2072

andrea.ohagan@peacefoundation.org.nz

Lynn Scott Pri/Sec

Taranaki, Wellington, Manawatu/ Wanganui, Tasman/Nelson

04 384 6613 027 542 3665

lynne-scott@xtra.co.nz

021 055 9575

tracy.scott@peacefoundation.org.nz

Virin Gomber Parents Programme Coordinator

Auckland

09 373 2379 021 188 4969

virin@peacefoundation.org.nz

Tracy Scott Pri/Sec

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Canterbury, West Coast, Marlborough, Otago, Southland

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New Mediator Uniform Badges now available for purchase!

Uniform badges are visual icons for peer mediators to wear when on duty

Secondary Uniform Badge $2.50 each

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Primary Uniform Badge $2.50 each

They are ideal to use once mediators have trained and have received their ‘trained mediator’ certificates. When a mediator has met the school criteria for graduation, they can be issued their presentation or graduation badge, with their ‘graduated mediator’ certificate.

The graduation badge is ideally a badge presented to mediators at a Graduation Assembly and is ‘for keeps’. Uniform badges are often kept by the Cool Schools Coordinator and are issued with the mediators duty uniform each year. (Refer to Order Form on Page 15 for more details).

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Resources

The Resource Cupboard

Give your Cool Schools Peer Mediator Programme a boost with our fantastic NEW resources!

New Resources!

To complement this new manual we also have the revised Coordinator’s Kit available. This consists of additional information, forms, templates, power point presentations etc on a USB stick. All designed to make a Coordinator’s job much easier. $35

The Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme is a proactive programme that teaches essential life skills for peaceful conflict resolution. The skills taught in this programme empower individuals to build positive, caring relationships with others especially in times of conflict.

‘Cool Schools provides a sound framework for teachers and students to resolve their differences in a positive way’ PrinciPal

‘I have learnt to be more understanding and patient by being a peer mediator’.

Student

‘Cool Schools eases up the pressure on teachers. They can refer minor conflicts to the peer mediators on duty who assist their peers to come up with solutions to their problems.’ teacher

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Conflict does not have to be like this, there are other choices we can make when dealing with conflict.

2. Brainstorm or list: Constructive Ways of Dealing with Conflict and the Benefits.

3. Compare the Costs and Benefits lists — what is a statement you can make in one sentence that summarises what you are observing?

Learning Intentions

Resources

Students will:

• Whiteboard or large pieces of paper and pens.

• Define what conflict means.

• Explore destructive and constructive ways of dealing with conflict.

• The benefits of dealing with conflict in a constructive way far out way the costs of dealing with a conflict in a destructive way.

• Key messages handout (optional).

• Destructive destroys relationships. Constructive builds relationships.

4. Write these statements underneath the ‘Costs verses Benefits’ lists and place this on the wall in the Cool Schools Corner.

Teaching Process WArM up Select a warm up activity from the Warm Ups, Energisers and Cooperative Games selection. A sharing circle exploring things students appreciate or that make them happy would be a positive way to start this topic. Alternatively a ‘getting to know one another’ activity if it is a newly formed group of students.

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What is conflict?

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1. As a class or small group discuss and define the term conflict.

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ways of dealing with conflict

ways of dealing with conflict

anger win/lose attitude maintain fixed positions blame violence accusations ‘you’ statements

empathetic listening win/win attitude consider needs of both parties understanding other’s viewpoints Problem solving approach options ‘I’ statements

Conflict • A disagreement between two or more people.

• Conflict is a normal part of life.

• Conflict happens when your needs are different from the needs of somebody else.

• Conflict can be positive or negative — it depends on how you handle it.

• Conflict can be a positive force for personal growth and helping things work better.

2. Brainstorm ‘When I get into an argument I tend to…’

Think of when you might argue with your brother, sister, parent or friend. Record the ideas on the whiteboard.

COSTS

• What do you notice about many of the words?

BENEFiTS

• Underline the negative contributions.

of dealing with conflict destructively

of dealing with conflict destructively

• Why are many of the words negative? Often due to our experiences of conflict in the past — negative experiences often relate to destructive ways of dealing with conflict.

damages relationships.

enhances relationships

Physical, emotional and mental damage.

Prevents individual and group goals being achieved.

DESTruCTivE AND CONSTruCTivE WAyS OF DEALiNG WiTh CONFLiCT 1. Either brainstorm or list: Destructive Ways of Dealing with Conflict and the Costs (see summary chart for ideas)

creates an environment for self-growth and achievement

wastes time and money.

enables individual and group achievement of goals

damages self esteem.

enables peaceful resolution of problems

limits personal potential.

enhances self-esteem

Possible discussion questions: • Can we relate to this list?

• Is it similar to some of the words we have brainstormed under ‘When I get into an argument I tend to…’ brainstorm?

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Active listening

Active listening helps create an atmosphere where people feel comfortable speaking.

What I am hearing you say is that you feel upset when…

Keys to Good Listening:

Can you help me understand what you mean when you say...

Use eye contact where possible.

Can you give me an example of…

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New 40 page (A5) handbook for primary and intermediate Peer Mediators. This resource is designed to complement your Peer Mediators training. It is full of information and activities to help your mediators become effective, peaceful and wise owls. This handbook covers all the learning areas within the Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme including: Understanding conflict The mediation process The role of the mediator Active listening & paraphrasing Effective questioning Helping disputants to generate solutions Handling difficult situations

Here are some examples. Write some more of your own…

A mediator needs to be a very good listener.

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Useful phrases to show you are actively listening

Active listening is essential to the mediation process.

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note: Violence — when you force yourself over another person and cause harm to get your way. a violent act can be physical, verbal or emotional.

Violence is not the same as conflict.

Violence is a negative way to deal

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Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme - Primary manual We are pleased to release the new Cool Schools Primary Manual. This manual is an essential resource for Cool School Coordinators and classroom teachers at the primary and intermediate school level. It is now double in size and full of new and interesting information, tips and activities for implementing and maintaining a successful peer mediation programme.

This 156 page manual comprises of the following three sections: Section one provides an overview of the programme, benefits of peer mediation and the relevant links to the New Zealand education curriculum.

Section two is jammed full of lesson plans and activities designed to teach the mediation skills and process. This section covers the 10 key learning areas within this programme and is user friendly for all classroom teachers.

Section three is of particular relevance to the Cool Schools Coordinator who will be implementing the whole school programme.

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Books

Books

Adolescent Volcanoes By Éliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney. Suitable for parents of children aged 12-18.

Divided into two sections, one each for adults and adolescents, this book helps identify and deal with anger and abusive behaviour. It includes activities to teach a range of skills $15

Thanks Not Spanks Practical ways you can make child raising easier and parenting more rewarding.

By Mary Cornford. Suitable for parents of children aged 0-15.

A suggestion-packed guide

on how to raise children using positive methods.

Teaches skills to deal with anger and stress and provides 50 alternatives to physical punishment for addressing behavioural problems. $8

The Volcano Manual A Professional Helper’s Guide for Using ‘A Volcano In My Tummy’.

By Warwick Pudney. Suitable for people working with children aged 5-12.

Based on the insights and experiences of teachers who have made extensive use of ‘A Volcano In My Tummy’ (VIMT). This manual is designed to ensure that teachers, counsellors and other professionals working with angry children can make the optimum use of VIMT. $13

Little Volcanoes Young Children’s Anger and Happiness.

By Éliane Whitehouse and Warwick Pudney. Suitable for parents of children aged 0-5.

A practical book that helps teach children to handle their anger in a constructive way. It looks at the causes of anger such as hurt, loss and fear. It helps parents and other caregivers to help children under 5 to deal more positively with their angry thoughts and feelings. $12 Happier Parenting Happier Children Why You Parent the Way You Do and How You Could Change It. By Éliane Whitehouse.

Why do we parent the way we do? Based on countless parenting courses run by the author, this book is full of practical, easily understood suggestions, exercises and approaches for parents to enable them to:

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Better understand their parenting style and what factors influence it Get clearer insights into the needs of their children at various stages Learn to “re-parent” themselves whilst still parenting their children Be positive, effective and happier in this all-important role

Learning Peaceful Relationships Edited by the Peace Foundation and Women’s International League for Peace and Freedom.

Suitable for ages 5-12.

A popular book featuring a progression of activities for primary aged students, promoting communication, co-operation, respect and a peaceful classroom. This was the book that inspired the founding of the Cool Schools Peer Mediation Programme! $4

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The Volcano Manual

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Learning Peaceful Relationships

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Please send this slip along with payment (cheque) to: The Peace Foundation, PO Box 8055, Symonds St, Auckland 1150.

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Resource Items

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Primary and Intermediate Cool Schools Primary Manual

$75.00

The Essential Peer Mediator Handbook

1 copy $15.00 10 copies $100.00 20 copies $180.00

Co-ordinator’s Kit (USB stick)

$35.00

Poster: The Mediation Process

$6.00

Poster: The Problem Solving Owl

$6.00

Poster: A Good Listener

$6.00

Poster set: (3 posters - one of each) BUY 5 SETS GET 1 SET FREE

$15.00

Training DVD

$40.00

Badges: Presentation/Graduation Uniform Vests:

$4.00 $2.50 $30.00

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Sign (weatherproof 60x40cm)

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Secondary Cool Schools Secondary Manual

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Training DVD Mt Roskill Grammar

$30.00

Training DVD Takapuna Grammar

$20.00

Badges: Presentation/Graduation

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Uniform Sign (weatherproof 60x40cm)

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In Focus

ProPeaceWork - Pilot Programme ProPeaceWork stands for Positive Relationship Options for Peace at Work Nowadays, more and more managers are handling work-related conflicts. Studies show that "up to 30% of a typical managers time is spent dealing with conflict." Companies that provide conflict resolution training have higher staff retention, better performance outcomes, less conflict related illness and happier staff.

This impacts positively on customers, families, communities and society as a whole.

The Peace Foundation is pleased to announce the development of a pilot training programme which uses components of our Cool Schools and Peaceful Family Communication parents programme to provide awareness and skills on how to overcome conflict and maintain peaceful relationships in the work place environment.

This new programme is called ProPeaceWork which stands for Positive Relationship Options for Peace at Work. In partnership with One Big Voice, a new online campaigning platform, we are currently raising funds to support the development, trial and role out of our ProPeaceWork programme.

One Big Voice has been designed to accelerate and progress the way social change happens.

Anyone 12 years and older can use: www.onebigvoice.com to start a campaign and therefore help to make a real difference in the world.

You can help our ProPeaceWork programme in three ways: 1. Donate money.

2. Support our programme by sharing our campaign and fundraisers on Facebook and Twitter or emailing the link below to your friends, members, colleagues and other contacts.

3. As an organisation or school you can volunteer for a FREE pilot workshop.

To support and get more information about our campaign, follow this link: onebigvoice.com/campaign/building-positive-peacefulrelationships-at-work

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