Think of your business like a luxury ocean liner. And you are the captain. You are proud of your BY NATALIE TOLHOPF ship, you keep it shipshape!
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Where is your business right now? Ask yourself these questions: • Do you jump on board every day and know where you are heading? Working reactively from your emails and other people’s agenda is a problem. You may find that your own business goals aren’t being met. Take a look at how you start your day - is it from your own itinerary? • Are the actions you are taking, moving you closer to the destination? Sometimes we don’t want to do the harder tasks first. So, we keep ourselves busy doing the fluffy stuff. But that ‘stuff’ isn’t moving us closer to achieving our goals.
• What about the moving parts of your business, how often do you maintain them? You could be going full steam ahead but about to hit an iceberg. Or worse, one of your moving parts could fall off. We juggle so much in business and lose sight of the basic mechanics. Stop and check regularly. Find a plan that suits the kind of person you are - Is it intrepid, guided or a mix? Once you know where you are going and are certain of your destination. You can cruise.
Natalie Tolhopf is a business coach and founder of Natalie Tolhopf.com, helping business owners to smash
• Do you even have a destination? If you don’t know where you are going, you can’t look forward to it and prepare for it. Have clear ports of call - smaller destinations. A plan for the day, month, quarter and year makes decisions easier and you become less reactive. Plus, a plan becomes your anchor. Powerful!
through imperfection and mindless scrolling, to create a business of simplicity through action and intuition. www.natalietolhopf.com
Is it time to break up with praise?
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o matter how many awards I won growing up, how many times I came first in a dance comp, or how many workshops I ran, I never felt true happiness or a sense of pride in my success, unless I received praise from someone. As a result, I would jump straight into picking apart what I could’ve done better, I’d immediately look for the next learning opportunity so I could improve, and I’d get pulled into negative thought patterns around whether I was good enough, if people liked me, or whether or not it was even worth me trying anymore. All because no one said anything. I knew I had to get to the bottom of this, or else I’d spend the rest of my life running an endless and fruitless race, and, more importantly, it was holding me back from being able to enjoy my life. In a nut-shell, I had to learn how to break up with praise.
Sarah is an internationallycertified Health and Lifestyle Coach, passionate about helping you live your best life - a life that’s healthier, happier, and way more fulfilling.
As I started down this journey, I discovered I was not alone. There were many others suffering from an addiction to approval, and the need for validation in their work, relationships, and even their bodies. So, how can we break up with praise, and start enjoying our own successes?
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YOU ARE THE CAPTAIN
magine leaving the harbour with no map, no GPS coordinates, no destination and no idea of where the next port is. That would be crazy!
BY SARAH TRASS
Would you like to live a life untethered from the approval and praise of others? Do you want to start living a life that feels good on your terms? Book your FREE 30-minute consultation today and let’s get you moving! www.sarahtrass.com
1. Address your fears – Attachment to praise is less about the external situation, and more about our own internal needs and motivations. If we were honest with ourselves, the validation we seek comes from a negative belief we believe, or fear, to be true about ourselves. Therefore, stop and ask what limiting belief, or doubt about yourself, is driving your need for validation? 2. Find a bigger meaning – When we put all the attention on ourselves and get caught up in how WE feel and OUR thoughts, our view becomes very narrow. Turn your attention outwards, and ask yourself what’s more important to me here than receiving praise? 3. Take back your authority – When we are seeking praise and validation from others, we are giving away our authority and rights on the matter. This leaves us wide open to the whims and opinions of what other people think about who we are, how we look, our work, our abilities, our worth. In reality, what others have to say is a direct reflection of their beliefs and needs, not yours. Therefore, learn to trust yourself first and foremost, and if praise or criticism comes your way, ask yourself what does it tell you about the preferences, priorities, beliefs and needs of them, not you?
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