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CAN YOU AFFORD PRIVATE SCHOOL?

Experts say parents may not be asking the right questions when it comes to this big choice.

BRIGHT SMILES Is your child brushing twice a day—the correct way?

New Year, New Journeys

If you’ve been itching to plan a family vacay in the new year, you’re not alone. According to a recent U.S. Travel Association report, travel spending is at its highest since the pandemic began. Beyond giving us an escape from routine, travel is also an important part of our kids’ development. Being in a new place helps children see the world in different ways and gets them out of their comfort zone. In this issue, we highlight what our kids can learn from taking a vacation or going on a day trip. We also share some of our favorite road trip destinations plus ideas for beach, lake and mountain getaways closer to home.

We’re so excited to have Mendham mom and fashion influencer Teggy French on our cover. If you follow her on Instagram, you know she’s all about taking comfy to a stylish new level with her signature kaftans. If you can’t imagine pulling off that look, Teggy says it’s all about having the confidence to embrace it. In this issue, we ask her about fashion, family, fun in NJ and more.

As 2023 gets underway, you may be thinking about resolutions, or maybe that’s not your thing. Either way, if you’re looking to try something new this year, our story about the benefits of finding a hobby will inspire you to set aside some much-needed time for yourself.

In our annual private school guide, we showcase some of NJ’s best independent schools. If you’re considering making the switch but worried about the cost of financing a private education, our story has tips to help.

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MICHAEL SHUGRUE, LCSW Psychotherapist | Cedar Knolls

Mike is one of the only therapists my child would open up to! He is straightforward, honest, easy to talk to and very kind. He truly cares!

—C.H., WHITEHOUSE STATION

MELISSA MEYER, MA, LPC

Psychotherapist | Flanders

She’s just an amazing person and relates so well to my son and has changed his ways of thinking and we see a smile on his face once again. We will forever be grateful to her.

—S.F., HACKETTSTOWN

CORRINNE KALAFUT, PHD Psychologist | Chester

Dr. Kalafut was patient in developing a relationship built on trust and respect with my child. Her insights and approach are incredibly helpful.

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MERRITT HUBSHER, MD Child & Adolescent Psychiatrist | Cedar Knolls

He is a skilled observer who sees and understands the challenges of the whole child.

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EILEEN ZHIVAGO, MD Child & Adolescent Psychiatrist Allendale, Westfield

Dr. Zhivago is so knowledgeable in child psychiatry, she immediately made me feel like we were in the right hands from the beginning. She has been supportive, an advocate, and alliance for my child to succeed.

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POOJA BAKRI, LPAT, LCAT Psychotherapist | Montclair

Our child is very introverted and smart, but didn’t respond to any of the therapists we tried before we met Pooja. Now she loves going to her appointments each week.

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Did your kid see an amazing therapist during the pandemic? Spread the word and let other parents know!

Kick off 2023 with a focus on wellness, self-care and good vibes.

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As we get further into winter, we get deeper into cold and flu season. Over the last few years, COVID has been added to the list of illnesses to watch out for. And there’s also a resurgence of respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) this year, too. Of course, you’ll want to discuss vaccinations for flu and COVID with your pediatrician. But when the sniffles start, how do you know which illness your kid has? And does it really matter?

Paying attention to symptoms may help you identify what your child has. Or not. “The symptoms are so similar, and there’s some overlap with all of these illnesses,” says David Cennimo, MD, FACP, associate professor of medicine and pediatrics in infectious disease, Rutgers New Jersey Medical School. “It’s very difficult to tell from symptoms alone, especially if your child is vaccinated, which modifies presentation of symptoms.”

In general, all of these illnesses may include runny nose, stuffy head, cough, fatigue, headache, sore throat, body aches and fever. “One indicator it’s the flu is that it comes on suddenly,” says Anat Feingold, MD, MPH, division head, pediatric infectious disease, Children’s Regional Hospital at Cooper University Health Care. “There’s usually also a high fever of above 101.5, and there also may be nausea, vomiting and diarrhea.” But it’s important to remember that everyone is different and symptoms vary from kid to kid.

RSV also has similar symptoms. “For most older children and adults, RSV presents as a bad head cold,” says Cennimo. “It usually involves a lot of runny nose and upper respiratory congestion. It’s also a significant source of wheezing.”

Here’s what you should know about colds, flu, COVID and RSV:

Encourage handwashing. It’s okay to repeat yourself to get your kids to wash their hands. Make sure they know to use soap, sing “Happy Birthday” twice through and do it at times such as before meals, after bathroom breaks and after nose blowing. “Handwashing is just as critical as ever,” says Feingold.

Keep sick kids home. If your child isn’t well, don’t send him or her to school or daycare, says Feingold. If you’re unsure about whether your child’s symptoms warrant staying home, call your pediatrician. That goes for parents, too; stay home if you’re sick.

Test when needed. If your child has an underlying chronic illness such as asthma or kidney disease, you should test because they are

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at greater risk of severe illness or complications, says Cennimo. It’s also recommended if your child is around very young children, older adults or people who are immunocompromised in order to protect these high-risk individuals.

Manage the symptoms. You can help them feel better by providing supportive care, says Cennimo. Make sure kids get plenty of rest and fluids, give acetaminophen to manage fever and body aches and use saline nasal spray to loosen and thin secretions to blow them out. Antihistamines can help with drippiness, but don’t use cough medications or decongestants, which aren’t effective. You also can offer kids who are older than one year a mix of hot tea and honey or a spoonful of honey, which has antibacterial properties, to soothe a tickle or sore throat.

Watch for more serious symptoms. If your child seems to be getting worse, is wheezing or is struggling to catch their breath, call your pediatrician. If you’re fairly sure it’s the flu—perhaps it’s been going around at school—your child’s doctor may prescribe an antiviral medication, as long as it’s within the first 48 hours, says Feingold.

Don’t forget about all the other bugs out there. While we’re focused on colds, flu and COVID, there are plenty of other bugs making the rounds. Enterovirus, which also causes a mild coldlike illness, is also being seen frequently this season. RSV is usually mild but can cause inflammation of the small airways of the lungs, so it’s especially dangerous to the very young and older adults. It’s definitely on the upswing this year, says Feingold. For infants, young kids and people with lung disease, RSV can be relentless and lead to severe viral pneumonia and significant respiratory distress. “For this reason, prophylaxis is recommended for some very high-risk infants who were born prematurely, to prevent or reduce infection,” says Cennimo. The medication is palivizumab, a monoclonal antibody injection given monthly during RSV season.

Most seasonal illnesses last a week or two at most for younger kids. But if your child isn’t getting better beyond that or seems to have gotten better then suddenly worse, call your pediatrician, says Cennimo. You know your kids best, so trust your gut.

— Arrica Elin SanSone is a New York-based health and lifestyle writer.

What to know about this winter’s respiratory illnesses and when to call your pediatrician

Are They Brushing Correctly?

By Arricca Elin SanSone

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been guilty of letting the kids fall asleep before brushing. Yep, we’ve all been there more than a few times. While the rare slip isn’t a big deal, it isn’t something we should let them get away with on a regular basis. “Cavities are a disease that affects overall health,” says Mario Ramos, DMD, of Pediatric Dentistry and Orthodontics of Midland Park. “It’s important to teach kids good dental health habits now so they’ll keep them for a lifetime.”

At the top of the list: Making sure your kids brush every single day—and more than once. But your child may need additional hygiene steps because some kids are at higher risk for cavities.

“Almost every recommendation should be customized to the individual child,” says Elisa Velazquez, DMD, president of the New Jersey Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, and owner of Ocean Pediatric Dental Associates, with offices in Toms River, Cream Ridge and Manahawkin. “That’s why it’s helpful to have a relationship with a dentist so your child’s risks can be evaluated, and hygiene and cleanings can be customized.” Whether your child has one tooth or a whole mouthful, here’s

how to make sure they are set up for good dental health:

Have them brush at least twice a day for two minutes each time. “Kids need to brush in the morning and before bed, although kids with orthodontics need to brush more often, such as after lunch, too,” says Velazquez. Studies have shown that two minutes is the ideal amount of time for brushing in order to remove all the plaque from every tooth surface. Make sure to brush the tongue, too, because the majority of bacteria in the mouth are on the tongue, says Ramos. While the tongue obviously doesn’t get cavities, it can hold onto bacteria, which then spreads to teeth. These bacteria cause bad breath, too, especially overnight.

Do it for them. Even though your little one wants to be independent, you’ll need to brush for little kids because they don’t yet have the manual dexterity to do it themselves. If they fight you, let them do it first before you finish up. Make sure you brush the whole mouth, even if they don’t have a full still of teeth yet. “You’re always going to do a better job

than they will,” says Ramos. Most kids are ready to brush solo sometime between the ages of 8 to 10 (though this can vary) when you can supervise the brushing.

Use fluoridated toothpaste. New Jersey has the least amount of fluoride in drinking water than any state except Hawaii. “Topical fluoride hardens enamel, making it stronger and more resistant to cavities, so make sure you’re using a toothpaste that contains fluoride,” says Velazquez. If your child is too young to spit, use just a tiny smear. Then work up to a grain of rice, then a pea-sized amount. Even adults only need the amount that fits cross-wise (not lengthwise) along the bristles.

Get the right toothbrush. “Everyone—and I mean adults and kids—needs to use soft bristles,” says Ramos. Stiffer bristles wear down enamel and damage gums. Look for the right head size, too. They’re sometimes sold by age, which corresponds to the size of the brush that will fit well in your child’s mouth. An electric toothbrush is fine, too, if it motivates your kid to brush, says Velazquez. Some electric

toothbrushes also feature favorite characters or have music, lights and beeps to help that two minutes go by more quickly.

Don’t forget to floss. This is probably not your child’s favorite part of the routine, but it’s essential. “Brushes cannot get in between teeth, and that’s a common place where kids get cavities,” says Ramos. If you find using regular dental floss awkward inside your child’s mouth, it’s fine to use a flosser with a handle. Those come in fun shapes and colors to encourage kids to use them.

A fluoride rinse adds another layer of protection. If you’d like to add tooth protection to your child’s hygiene regimen, look for a rinse, especially if your child is at high risk for cavities. “But don’t use it as a substitute for brushing or flossing,” says Velazquez. Floss, brush and then use the rinse, making sure kids swish for a total of 60 seconds. It can be in 20-second increments, if necessary. Don’t let kids eat or drink—not even water—for at least 30 minutes after use. Any type of rinse is fine, as long as it contains fluoride and is alcohol-free so it doesn’t dry out your child’s mouth.

If you’d like to add tooth protection to your child’s hygiene regimen, look for a rinse, especially if your child is at high risk for cavities.

Mendham mom and fashion influencer Teggy French talks style, family and what she loves most about the Garden State.

By Dina El Nabli

tyle influencer Teggy French has loved fashion for as long as she can remember. When her parents would go to open houses when she was a kid, Teggy would open people’s closets to look at their clothes. Her earliest fashion memory came at age 4, when her mom bought her a blue velour sweatsuit with little ice cream cones on it. She couldn’t wait to model it for her dad.

In second grade, when most kids were obsessed with New Kids on the Block, Teggy couldn’t get enough of Buddy Holly and wore poodle skirts to school. Those early experiences in fashion inspired an affinity toward all things retro and vintage. Add her deep love of Palm Springs and Lilly Pulitzer and her distinct Teggy French look was born. She describes it as preppy with a twist—an old school glam vibe channeling a mix of pretty pastels and bold colors, statement earrings, vibrant bows and her signature kaftan, which offers a stylish and equally comfortable alternative to leggings and a sweatshirt.

Her mantra: Less is never more and life is too short not to be glamorous. Teggy lived that mantra as an actress and real estate agent (her legal name is Alexandra French) before launching her fashion blog, Teggy French, in 2014. She has since grown her brand on social media with a huge presence on Instagram @teggyfrench. In October 2020, she launched a line of kaftans harkening back to 1960s glam. Beyond her own line, Teggy curates clothing, home décor, accessories and jewelry on her website, shopteggyfrench.com, and via pop-up shops and trunk shows in and around New Jersey.

We asked Teggy about the evolution of her style, her family (she and husband Russ happily co-parent son Lawrence with his dad, her ex-husband James) and what she loves about living in New Jersey.

New Jersey Family: Let’s talk about Teggy French. How did you come up with the name for your brand?

Teggy French: My maiden name is Tegenborg, and in high school, people called me Tegs. Then in college, it evolved to Teggy. My middle name is French, which is my mom’s maiden name. When I started Teggy French, I always had the vision that it would one day become a brand. A lot of people know me by Alex. Alexandra is my birth name.

NJF: You’ve talked a lot about making fashion accessible. What’s your approach to making fashion affordable and how do you put together a great look on a budget?

TF: I’m of the mindset that style is something one possesses and it has nothing to do with your financial situation. Some of

the best outfits I’ve ever worn have come from consignment stores. When I was growing up, I would get a 20-dollar-a-week allowance and I would take that 20 dollars and go to the mall every week and see what I could buy with it. I think that’s how I learned to get creative with not having a lot of money to spend but still wanting to go to the mall and have that experience. As my lifestyle changed, I wanted to show people that it doesn’t matter what your budget is to spend on clothes. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you should be spending all of it on clothes because you really can look amazing for under a hundred dollars.

NJF: You’ve made kaftans and turbans your thing. How did this look come about and what would you say to women who think they can’t pull off that look?

TF: Anyone can pull anything off. It’s just having the confidence to do it and not caring what anybody else thinks. As long as it makes you feel good, then that’s going to come across when you wear it. People are attracted to that confidence. I think that people misunderstand comfort and what that has to look like. A lot of people are ‘okay, workout clothes, that’s my comfort clothes’ and for me, a kaftan is way more comfortable than putting on athleisure because it’s just one piece. It’s one size fits most. Back in the day, women had house dresses and they would wear those, and it was a way that they were comfortable but still looked put together. I always adored that. You could wear it around the house with your slippers, but you could also throw on a cute pair of sandals and go out for lunch and throw on a pair of heels and go out to dinner. To me, it was a one-stop shop and great investment and I had the idea of starting my own kaftan line on shopteggyfrench.com. We were just going to sell kaftans and then it evolved into a full website where we now sell from different clothing brands and sell homeware, jewelry and more.

NJF: Let’s talk about how fashion makes you feel. I remember a post on Instagram where you, as always, looked so fabulous and someone asked, ‘What are you so dressed up for? Where are you going?’ and you said something like, ‘I’m dressed up for life.’

TF: We’re so busy nowadays and so much is expected of us that I think it’s very easy to lose track of doing those small things that really can make a difference in how we feel and what we’re exuding to others when we’re out in the world. Audrey Hepburn has a quote where she says, ‘Life is a party, dress like

“I’m of the mindset that style is something one possesses and it has nothing to do with your financial situation.”

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it.’ It’s so true. We’re here, let’s have some fun. I always find I feel so much better. On the days where I’m in a rush and I can’t put myself together, I notice that my day doesn’t feel as put together whereas if I spend a little time for myself in the morning, I’m going to have a much better experience because I’m a visual person.

NJF: A few years back, you were asked to design homes for Mansion in May, a prestigious fundraiser of the Women’s Association for Morristown Medical Center in which designers design a lavish mansion for public tours. What was that like?

TF: It was terrifying because I’m not an interior designer by trade. Actually, my mom had done Mansion in May many moons ago, probably in 1991. She was familiar with it. She was able to guide me through it. I love interior design and I love picking everything out. It’s an art form and it goes so beyond just picking out things that are pretty. It didn’t come as naturally to me as I would’ve hoped but I absolutely loved it.

NJF: On a more serious topic, beyond the fun style you share on Instagram, one thing people are so inspired by is your honesty. You’ve been very open about some of the biggest struggles you’ve faced in life from divorce to miscarriage. Now you’re remarried and happily co-parenting. I think what sharing this did is made a lot of other women who’ve gone through similar experiences feel less alone, heard and understood. What has this journey been like for you and your family?

TF: To help people feel not so alone, I think, is so important because when you’re going through a divorce, you feel painfully alone and you don’t know what’s going to happen day to day. It’s like this emotional roller coaster and you can go into a very dark, sad, lonely place. I did keep it to myself for a long time and it didn’t feel natural to me to not be fully myself. I think Instagram is tricky because you’re showing everybody the best parts of your life and you’re creating this image that people are buying into but behind the screen are real humans who are dealing with the same things as everybody else. I think it’s really dangerous if we don’t share the real side of things because it sets these expectations that are not attainable. I don’t want to make it seem like it just appeared that we’re this great modern family. We had to work really hard at that. I think that keeping Lawrence in mind and making it about what’s best for

his future helped us to really come together and be able to get to the point we’re at now. I think when people go through divorce, it’s very easy to blame and to be angry. At the end of the day, you both chose to bring this child into this world and they owe you nothing and you owe them everything. Everything means being the best parent and family that you can be no matter what that looks like on paper. When James and I got divorced, it didn’t have to mean that we stopped being a family. It just meant that we were no longer married.

NJF: You shared a lovely photo on Instagram of Lawrence with you, his dad and your husband. How has co-parenting been for you?

TF: Co-parenting is really great for us. We’re really good at communicating, which I think is key. He and my husband really get along beautifully. Again, I think with time and with work, you can all come together. Those photos were actually taken on the one-year anniversary of Russ and I losing our son Lukas to miscarriage and the photo shoot had been rescheduled because of rain. It occurred to me when we were there what a big part Lukas played in us coming together because we were co-parenting and everything was fine but having that tragedy happen and seeing how everybody came together and really showed up for each other really solidified that we are still a family. It was a really magical day because I was mourning, but I also was seeing that this beautiful family came together in tragedy and that we were able to get through it and come out stronger. I’m so beyond grateful for the three men in my life.

NJF: How has motherhood changed you?

TF: Motherhood is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I see the world so differently now, and I just want everything to be the best that it can in the world and at home to help this little boy have the tools to become an incredible man. Watching him grow up, it’s like you go through all the different stages, you don’t think it’s going to get any better and then it just does as you’re evolving with him. Now he’s got this sense of humor that I’m seeing and he’s hysterically funny.

He’s got comedic timing and he loves to make people laugh and he challenges me more than anybody ever has. He’s set in his ways and watching him, it’s joy. Motherhood is so hard some days, but I just love everything about it.

NJF: Your son is always very well styled. What do you think

“I think it’s really dangerous if we don’t share the real side of things because it sets these expectations that are not attainable.”

he thinks about style?

TF: I’ve always dressed him and he has never questioned what I put on him. Everyone asks, ‘How do you get him to wear that? My little boy only wants to wear sweatsuits.’ I’m just like, ‘We didn’t have sweatsuits. It wasn’t an option.’

NJF: You’ve lived in New Jersey most of your life. What do you love most about living here?

TF: New Jersey is the country’s best-kept secret. We have beaches, we have the mountains that we can get to in 45 minutes to an hour. We have the seasons and we can be in New York City in 45 minutes. It’s a beautiful place and New Jersey people are really special. First of all, do you know there’s more famous people from the State of New Jersey than any other state? I think that there’s a confidence to New Jersey people and a sense of pride that you oftentimes see in the south. We’re so similar. We love our teams, we love big hair, we love our families.

NJF: What do you love most about living in Mendham?

TF: It feels like you’re on the set of a Hallmark movie but it’s real life. I know the mayor and she takes such pride in everything and the parades and the sense of community and the camaraderie. It’s a magical place. I’ve lived in New Jersey and I’ve lived in all different places, but I have to say Mendham is the most special place that I have lived in New Jersey. It’s just charming. From my house, I can walk to town, which I love, and it’s amazing that my son goes to the preschool where I went.

NJF: What do you do for yourself that keeps you grounded and happy?

TF: I pray every day. I don’t think you have to go to church every day and pray that way but I talk to people who have passed and I ask for continued guidance. There’s a great app called Calm and that’s a really nice way to kick off your day. It’s meditation mixed with a thought for the day. I also am very much into my supplements. I recently started acupuncture. I am going through the IVF journey again. I work out with Tina Baker, who’s amazing. I do virtual workouts twice a week and she makes it super fun.

NJF: What are your hopes for Teggy French, the brand, and for your life in 2023? Do you believe in resolutions?

TF: I believe in it all. I believe in whatever makes people be better people, whatever that is for you. If it’s a resolution, whatever you decide you’re going to do or give up, if it’s helping you mentally, I’m such a big proponent of manifestation. I believe that our minds have so much power to give us all of our hopes and dreams. It’s taking that time to manifest and to do the things like take care of yourself and meditate and all of those things. For me, in 2023, I hope Teggy French continues to grow. We’re a small retail site now, but I want to start designing more products, so not just kaftans but I would love to bring in other things that are vintage-inspired. I want to continue to show people how to look great on any budget and to look pulled together while still being super comfortable. I’d like to go global one day. That’s my ultimate goal.

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An Insider’s Guide to Paying for Private School

Experts share their best advice on how to finance an independent school education.

By Jennifer Kantor

f you’re considering an independent education for your child, you’re not alone. Whether you’re seeking smaller class sizes, a more rigorous curriculum or a faith-based education, there are so many reasons to consider private school. Maybe you loved your own independent school experience or are making the choice to go private to support your child’s athletic goals. Whatever the reason, the first question parents typically ask themselves is: Can we afford it?

“Too often parents will dismiss the idea of investigating an independent school, rushing to the notion that it will be too expensive and that they will not qualify for any assistance,” says Carole J. Everett, executive director of the New Jersey Association of Independent Schools (NJAIS). In reality, there is no single income cap and each family has a different financial profile, she says. Although financial aid is typically

need-based, what constitutes need varies widely and every school has its own way of determining who gets aid and who doesn’t.

FINDING FINANCIAL AID

The amount of available aid may depend on a school’s endowment, as well as its track record in attracting full-paying students. Schools gauge a family’s ability to pay based on income and assets but many also consider debt, living expenses, the number of dependents, the age of the parents, elder care costs and the number of children in tuition-charging schools.

Traditional application platforms like TADS Financial Aid and School and Student Services (SSS), for example, even factor the high cost of living in New Jersey into their financial aid formula. It’s for this reason

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that many schools don’t have a maximum income above which a family won’t qualify for assistance. For example, at Newark Academy, 45 percent of recipients have parents earning more than $200,000, says Alexis Sommers, the Livingston-based school’s director of admission and financial aid. “Families are often surprised at how wide the income range of those receiving financial aid is,” she says.

Increasingly, schools are courting socio-economic diversity to create well-crafted, well-rounded classes and avoid what Edwin Nunez, director of enrollment management at The Pingry School, located in Short Hills and Basking Ridge, calls a “barbell effect.” In essence, he says, middle income students can serve as a bridge between full-pay and full-ride students, creating a more connected, cohesive student body—not a stratified class of haves and have-nots. Aware that by-the-numbers aid algorithms penalize this segment of potential students, some schools are working to correct this bias by taking a more personal approach to assessing each family’s unique ability to pay, taking in the real-world circumstances. “The formula is black and white, but life isn’t like that. We truly understand. If we think a student is a great fit, and we really want him to be part of the school, we do what we can,” says Nunez.

BOOST YOUR APPLICATION

And there’s the catch. Prospective applicants must apply to find out how much help they’ll receive—as one admissions representative said: “You have to be in it to win it.” And though there’s no doubt it can be a time-consuming slog—and a heartbreaker for kids whose financial package isn’t enough—at least applying for aid is becoming easier. According to Nunez, the industry used to put up so many obstacles that people wouldn’t go through the “intimidating and foreign” process (“It was like an IRS audit, truly daunting.”). Today, tech is helping to change the game in the form of Clarity, the first financial aid platform to directly accesses tax returns from the IRS (instead of finding, scanning and mailing years of 1040s). Clarity allows parents to apply for aid in less than 30 minutes, even using a phone. When schools talk about removing barriers for families applying, this is an example.

Other tried-and-true tips for boosting your family’s chances include applying early (when the fund runs dry, it’s dry) as well making sure

your favorite institution knows it’s your number one—especially if you think the love is mutual. “It’s worth taking the risk,” says Nunez. “Give your family a chance, and the schools a chance, to use their resources for your children.”

A flush financial aid package, though major, isn’t the only way to make private school a reality. Here are some additional ways to afford an independent education.

INVEST FOR SUCCESS

Did you open a 529 plan the day your child was born? You can tap this tax-advantaged education fund for up to $10,000 a year, per child, to pay toward private primary and secondary school tuition. Even at a private school, parents qualify for Child and Dependent Care Credit for before and after care ($3,000 for one qualifying child or $6,000).  And since every little bit counts, parents can invest up to $2,000 per year in a Coverdell Education Savings Account, which grows tax-free and can be used to pay for tuition and related expenses.

SEEK OUT SCHOLARSHIPS

Every little bit counts. Children’s Scholarship Fund works with Catholic Partnership Schools (Camden and Pennsauken) and the Tri-County Scholarship Fund (Morris, Passaic and Sussex counties) to help families afford a K-8 private education in New Jersey.

“Too often parents will dismiss the idea of investigating an independent school, rushing to the notion that it will be too expensive...”.

TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH

Religious schools (Catholic schools in particular) are the state’s not-so-secret best option for affording an independent education. You don’t have to be Catholic to attend (about 20 percent of secondary school students are not, according to the National Catholic Educational Association) and the cost can be half the tuition of secular private schools, though Catholic prep schools can be equally costly. The draw? Stellar academics, a faith- and values-infused curriculum and often top-notch athletics (especially in the upper grades).

ASK ABOUT THE EXTRAS

Uniforms, field trips, materials, donations, gala events at some schools—tuition isn’t the only cost, not to mention the pressure on kids to keep up with wealthy classmates. Before committing to a school—even one with generous aid—inquire about the extras and the culture. Some schools have expanded the school’s budget to absorb incidentals traditionally borne by families. “Newark Academy has made the monitoring and limiting of costs beyond tuition an important institutional priority,” says Sommers.

FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS

If your student’s special needs aren’t being met, out-of-district placement to an approved special education school (and occasionally a non-approved one) is possible via two methods. “Parents convince the district to agree to provide it, or they sue for it,” says Will Meyer, a Maplewood dad and a special education lawyer practicing in NYC. It won’t be easy. “Generally speaking, a school district is going to want you to run the bases, so to speak,” he says. This means IEPs, testing and legal support all to prove to your district that it’s absolutely necessary. It’s a slog, but it’s your right courtesy of the Naples Act.

SEEK AND SAVE

Some parents turn to their families to help support their kids’ private school journey. According to a 2018 NAIS survey, 15 percent of parents relied on grandparents to help with private school and 12 percent sought out a loan. Families can also choose to prioritize education over discretionary spending on eating out vacations and other major purchases. The decision to send your child to private school is a big one and it’s up to each family to decide if funding a private education is worth the significant investment.

—Jennifer Kantor is an education, parenting and lifestyle writer and a Maplewood mom of two.

Local town halls, houses of worship and civic organizations may also be resources for additional funds.

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ABOUT THIS GUIDE

The schools featured in this special section are preschools, primary and/or secondary schools. Some schools serve students with special needs exclusively, others with accommodations. Hours indicate the regular school day plus any before- and after-school hours.

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Town/School/Address

BASKING RIDGE

Saint James School 200 S. Finley Ave.

Somerset Hills YMCA Early Education Center 140 Mt. Airy Rd.

BERKELEY HEIGHTS

Phone/Hours/Website Grades No. of Students

908-766-4774 / 8:30–6 sjsbr.org Pre-K–8th 318

908-766-7898 / 7:30–6 gscymca.org/sy-eec Pre-K 20

Primrose School of Berkeley Heights 246 Springfield Ave. 908-286-0900 / 7–6 primroseschools.com Infant–K -

BRIDGEWATER

Blaustein Early Education Center at Shimon & Sara Birnbaum JCC 775 Talamini Rd. 908-443-9021 / 7:30–6 ssbjcc.org Infant–K 125

CHATHAM

Gingham Giraffe Preschool 234 Southern Blvd. 973-635-0033 / 8:15–2:30 ginghamgiraffe.com Pre-K–K 135

CLIFFSIDE PARK

Apple Montessori Schools 600 Gorge Rd. 201-877-0001 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

DEMAREST Academy of the Holy Angels 315 Hillside Ave. 201-768-7822 / 7:30–2:05 holyangels.org 6th–12th/Girls 600

EAST BRUNSWICK

Primrose School of East Brunswick 138 Summerhill Rd. 732-723-5900 / 7–6 primroseschools.com Infant–K -

EDGEWATER

Apple Montessori Schools 8 Adelaide Pl. 201-580-3945 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

EDISON

Apple Montessori Schools 2825 Woodbridge Ave. 732-395-7489 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

Apple Montessori Schools 1876 Rt. 27

732-494-4111 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

The Wardlaw + Hartridge School 1295 Inman Ave. 908-754-1882 / 7–6 whschool.org Pre-K–12th 470

ENGLEWOOD

Ability School 75 Knickerbocker Rd. 201-871-8808 / 8:30 - 4:00 abilityschoolnj.org

The Elisabeth Morrow School 435 Lydecker St.

FAIRFIELD

Pre-K–8th 50

201-568-5566 / 7:30–6 elisabethmorrow.org

Banyan Elementary School 12 Hollywood Ave. 973-439-1919 / 8:30–3 banyanschool.com

Pre-K–8th 390

1st–8th/Special needs 78

Glenview Academy 24 Dwight Pl. 973-808-1998 / 8:45–2:45 gramonfamily.org 5–15 yrs./Special needs 45

Town/School/Address

Gramon School 24 Dwight Pl.

Phone/Hours/Website

Grades

No. of Students

973-808-9555 / 8:45–2:45 gramonfamily.org 16–21 yrs./Special needs 45

New Beginnings 28 Dwight Pl. 973-882-8822 / 8:45–2:45 gramonfamily.org 3–21 yrs./Special needs 150

FAR HILLS

Far Hills Country Day School 697 Rte. 202

FLANDERS

Fun-N-Friends Nursery School 58 Drakesdale Rd.

GLADSTONE

Gill St. Bernard’s School St. Bernard’s Rd.

The Willow School 1150 Pottersville Rd.

HILLSBOROUGH

Hillsborough YMCA Early Education Center 19 East Mountain Rd.

908-766-0622 / 8–4 fhcds.org

973-584-0365 / 8:45–3:15 funnfriends.com

908-234-1611 / 7:45–5:30 gsbschool.org

908-470-9500 / 7:30–5 willowschool.org

908-369-0490 / 6:30–6:30 gscymca.org/sy-eec

Primrose School of Hillsborough 32 Falcon Rd. 908-222-7030/ 7–6:30 primroseschools.com

Pre-K–8th 275

Pre-K 90

Pre-K–12th 607

Pre-K–8th 150

Pre-K–K 22

Infant–K -

Town/School/Address

HO-HO-KUS

Gain Ville Learning Center 119 1st. St.

HOBOKEN

Phone/Hours/Website

Grades

No. of Students

201-507-1810 / 10–7:30 Tue–Sat gaincontact.com Pre-K–12th 120

Apple Montessori Schools 1055 Maxwell Ln. 201-275-0724 / 7–7 applemontessorischools.com

Apple Montessori Schools 220 Sinatra Dr. 201-898-5807 / 7–7 applemontessorischools.com

Mustard Seed School 422 Willow Ave.

KINNELON

Pre-K–K -

Pre-K–K -

201-653-5548 / 8:10–6 mustardseedschool.org

Apple Montessori Schools 10 Maple Lake Rd. 973-850-4176 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com

LAWRENCEVILLE

Saint Ann School 34 Rossa Ave. 609-882-8077 / 8–5:30 saintannschool.org

LINCROFT

Christian Brothers Academy 850 Newman Springs Rd.

732-747-1959 / 7:30–3:30 cbalincroftnj.org

Pre-K–8th 210

Pre-K–K -

Pre-K–8th 215

9th–12th/Boys 850

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Town/School/Address

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Phone/Hours/Website

Grades

Banyan High School & LIFE Academy 471 Main St. 973-785-1919 / 8:15–2:45 banyanschool.com 9th–12th/HS, Special needs 18–21 yrs./LIFE Academy, Special needs

LIVINGSTON

No. of Students

61

Newark Academy 91 South Orange Ave. 973-992-7000 / 8–3 newarka.edu 6th–12th 671

MADISON

F.M. Kirby Children’s Center of the Madison Area YMCA 54 East St. 973-377-4945 / 7–6 madisonareaymca.org

MAHWAH

Infant–Pre-K 200+

Apple Montessori Schools 75 E. Ramapo Ave. 201-762-4407 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

MENDHAM

Westmont Montesssori 577 Rte. 24 908-879-6355 / 8–5 westmontmontessori.org Pre-K–K 120

METUCHEN

Apple Montessori Schools 12 Center St. 732-395-6404 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

MONTCLAIR

Deron School II 130 Grove St. 973-509-2777 / 8:30–2:30 deronschool.org 14–21 yrs./Special needs 130

Montclair Cooperative School 65 Chestnut St. 973-783-4955 / 9–3:15 montclaircoop.org Pre-K–8th 131

Montclair Kimberley Academy 201 Valley Rd. 973-746-9800 / 8–2:50 mka.org Pre-K–12th 1,052

MONTVILLE

The Craig School 24 Changebridge Rd. 973-334-1234 / 7:45–3:15 craigschool.org 9th–12th/Special needs 150 both campuses

MORRIS PLAINS

Apple Montessori Schools 1339 Littleton Rd. 973-936-9732 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

MORRISTOWN

Morristown Beard School 70 Whippany Rd. 973-539-3032 / 7:30–6 mbs.net 6th–12th 610

Villa Walsh Academy 455 Western Ave. 973-538-3680 / 7:45–3 villawalsh.org 7th–12th/Girls 200

MOUNT LAUREL

Apple Montessori Schools 1401 S. Church St. 609-360-6261 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

MOUNTAIN LAKES

The Craig School 10 Tower Hill Rd. 973-334-1234 / 7:45–3:15 craigschool.org 2nd–8th/Special needs 150 both campuses

MOUNTAINSIDE

Primrose School at Mountainside 1038 Springfield Ave. 908-228-5589 / 7–6:30 primroseschools.com Infant–K -

NORTH EDISON

Primrose School of North Edison 23 Nevsky St. 732-554-8554 / 7–6:30 primroseschools.com Infant–K -

Town/School/Address

NORTH HALEDON

Phone/Hours/Website

Mary Help of Christians Academy 659 Belmont Ave. 973-790-6200 / 7–5 maryhelp.org

OAKLAND

Apple Montessori Schools 192 Ramapo Valley Rd. 551-231-0356 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com

OLD BRIDGE

Primrose School of Old Bridge 3647 Rte. 9 N

732-252-8694 / 7–6 primroseschools.com

POMPTON LAKES Windsor Schools 226-234 Wanaque Ave. 973-839-4050 / 8–2:50 windsorschoolsnj.com

PRINCETON

Princeton Friends School 470 Quaker Rd. 609-683-1194 / 7:45–3:30 princetonfriendsschool.org

RANDOLPH

Grades No. of Students

8th–12th/Girls 200

Pre-K–K -

Infant–Pre-K -

K–12+/Special needs -

Pre-K–8th 125

Apple Montessori Schools 470 Millbrook Ave. 973-933-0919 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

Primrose School of Randolph 2A Middlebury Blvd. 973-531-7743 / 7–6 primroseschools.com Infant–K -

ROSELLE

Children’s Corner Learning Center 258 E. 6th Ave. 908-445-7014 / 7–6 childrenscornerlearningcenternj.com Pre-K 10

Town/School/Address

RUTHERFORD

Gain Ville Learning Center 17 Ames Ave.

SADDLE RIVER

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Phone/Hours/Website

Grades

No. of Students

201-507-1800 / 10–7:30 Tue–Sat gaincontact.com Pre-K–12th 120

Saddle River Day School 147 Chestnut Ridge Rd. 201-327-4050 / 8–3 saddleriverday.org Pre-K–12th 435

SCOTCH PLAINS

Union Catholic High School 1600 Martine Ave.

SHORT HILLS

908-889-1600 / 7:30–3:00 unioncatholic.org 9th–12th 588

Far Brook School 52 Great Hills Rd. 973-379-3442 / 7:45–6 farbrook.org Pre-K–8th 252

SOMERSET

The Center School 2 Riverview Dr. 908-253-3870 / 8:35–2:35 thecenterschool.com

STIRLING

K-21/Special Needs 100

HudsonWay Immersion School 249 Bebout Ave. 908-598-8088 / 8:30–6 hwis.org Pre-K–8th 140

TEANECK

Community High School 1135 Teaneck Rd. 201-862-1796 / 8:20–2:50 communityschoolk12nj.org 9th–12th/Special needs 170

The Community School 11 W. Forest Ave. 201-837-8070 / 8:20–2:50 communityschoolk12nj.org 2nd–8th/Special needs 95

TINTON FALLS

Ranney School 235 Hope Rd. 732-542-4777 / 7:30–5:45 ranneyschool.org Pre-K–12th 750

Trinity Hall 101 Corregidor Rd. 732-291-1297 / 7:30–5:30 trinityhallnj.org

TOWACO

9th–12th/Girls 312

Apple Montessori Schools 9 Waughaw Rd. 973-352-7381 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

UNION

Deron School I 1140 Commerce Ave. 908-206-0444 / 8:30–2:30 deronschool.org 3–14 yrs./Special needs 95

UPPER MONTCLAIR

Lacordaire Academy 155 Lorraine Ave. 973-744-1156 / 7:45–3:45 lacordaireacademy.com

WARREN

Pre-K–8th/Coed 9th–12th/Girls 282

Apple Montessori Schools 117 Mt. Bethel Rd. 908-660-0031 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com Pre-K–K -

WATCHUNG

Mount Saint Mary Academy 1645 US-22 W.

WAYNE

908-757-0108 / 7:30–2:30 mountsaintmary.org

Apple Montessori Schools 25 Nevins Rd. 973-587-6435 / 7–6:30 applemontessorischools.com

9th–12th/Girls 266

Pre-K–6th -

Primrose School of Wayne 45 French Hill Rd. 973-988-3993 / 7–6 primroseschools.com Pre-K–K -

WHIPPANY

Winston Prep New Jersey 901 Rte. 10 E.

973-500-6480 / 8:30–4 winstonprep.edu

K–12th/Special needs 90

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Have a Hobby?

Why parents (and kids) benefit from a pursuit of their own.

Who has time for a hobby? Between taking care of your family, working, caring for your own parents and somehow getting dinner on the table each night, it may feel like there’s little time left over to explore an outside interest. But cultivating a hobby can be one of the most beneficial things we do as parents. Not only is time away from our families crucial so we can reset and recharge but developing an interest outside the home can help busy parents de-stress, connect with others and spark creativity that serves as inspiration to our kiddos.

Hobbies serve as self-care, and that is anything but selfish, says Frank J. Sileo, PhD, a licensed psychologist in Ridgewood. “Hobbies are critical to creating a healthy balance both physically and mentally in our lives. We are our children’s role models. If we don’t model self-care and being open to hobbies, what example are we setting for them?”

Sileo says the benefits of hobbies run the gamut from allowing us to relax to forming connections with others in the community. “You can also develop a hobby with one of your kids,” he says. “It’s a great bonding experience, creates memories and allows you to connect

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with your kids in a different way other than being the ‘Homework Mom’ or ‘Chore Dad.’”

Hobbies can help us cultivate new skills.  “Perhaps we want to learn to cook healthier foods or get in better shape or learn how to crochet,” says Sileo. “When we develop new skills, we feel good about ourselves and our confidence grows. Sometimes this can help us in our jobs or even help start a new career.”

Pursuing an interest also bolsters parents both physically and emotionally. “Doing something for ourselves helps to create a healthy balance,” says Sileo. “Some hobbies have more of a physical focus but they also enhance our mental health.” It can also give you something to look forward to.

For John Frigo, a father of a 13-month-old in Princeton, taking on a new hobby has been a way to revisit his lifelong love of sports and to stay in shape.

“I’ve recently taken up volleyball as a hobby. It started when my coworkers put together a rec league at the park district and I enjoyed it so much I started finding meetup groups of other people who played

volleyball,” he says. Frigo also spends time at a local bar with indoor volleyball courts that puts on tournaments several times a month.

“I used to be an athlete in high school and college and I didn’t realize how much I missed being on a team and the competition of sports,” he says.

Frigo says he and his girlfriend trade nights to go out. Giving each other that time has been a great way to support a new hobby.

“As far as benefits it’s fun getting out of the house and doing something,” Frigo says. “I’m in better shape because of it and the camaraderie of being on a team and having some competition is fun.”

While some parents might feel too guilty taking time for themselves, Karen Tom, certified health and life coach, owner of PEAK Health & Life Coaching in Chatham, says taking that time deeply benefits the kids.

“Parents can only be at their best when they take care of themselves,” she says. “While we may think that spending time away from our families is selfish, it is actually the most generous thing we can do, so that they get our best when we are with them.”

Tom says scheduling time to devote to your hobby is essential and you shouldn’t cancel on yourself unless there’s a true emergency. “Schedule any time, even 10-15 minutes,” she says.

“In working with patients, I often find that people waste a lot of time such as doom scrolling news or spending an inordinate amount of time on social media,” says Sileo.

Having your partner on board can help you put your hobby into action. While you don’t need their permission to start a new hobby, you can share your feelings as to why it’s important to you. “Open communication will certainly go far in helping you feel less guilty about taking time for yourself,” he says.

Michele Sobel, a mother of two from Scotch Plains, always painted as a hobby, but turned her passion into a side hustle, doing handpainted artwork on designer bags and luxury goods when her firstborn was a toddler. She says painting helps her relax and embrace time to herself, both of which help make her a better mom.

“Whether it’s sketching, exercising or simply picking up a book, I would highly recommend trying out new hobbies to new parents as a

way to relax and find time for oneself,” she says. “Parenting is my life’s greatest gift, but it’s also hard! So, self-care is important.”

When Sobel’s kids were little, she would paint to wind down at night or during naptime. “Now I paint while they are in school, and sometimes after they go to sleep at night,” she says.

Her kids, now 5 and 7, love helping put her paints in “rainbow order” in her studio and proudly wear their custom painted sneakers to school every day.

“Explore different activities until you find the right one for you,” she says. “You don’t have to be the best at everything but making time for yourself or trying an activity to clear your head can make you feel like a more patient, engaged and present parent. We are always proud of our children for their own accomplishments but it’s really special when they vocalize that they are proud of us.”

Find Your Passion

Not sure what your new hobby should be? Sileo says to do your research. “Look online, in your communities, your houses of worship, local/national charities and other community organizations,” he suggests. Your town’s community school is the perfect place to launch a new hobby and your local library or Y may have resources, too.

Do anything that’s fun for you and puts a smile on your face, says Tom.

Possible hobbies include exercise (hiking, biking, walking, dancing, yoga), fishing, painting, drawing, anything artsy, studying a language, joining a book club, listening to interesting podcasts, gardening, cooking, wine tasting, playing a musical instrument–the list goes on.

“Think of anything you enjoyed as a kid, or before you had kids, and just have fun!” she says.

“Hobbies aren’t going to knock on your door,” says Sileo. “Go out and explore the many possibilities!”

These family vacations will help you relax, recharge and reunite. From the Jersey Shore to across the Canadian border there’s tons of exploring to do. Get insider tips on Disney, discover lake and mountain destinations and land in a foodie town you and your crew will love!

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Montreal, CANADA

Why It’s Awesome: This drivable international destination has so much to offer families. From arts, culture and sports to natural beauty, your crew will never be at a loss for things to do. Savor the chance to sample French food, learn a bit of the language and check out the mix of old world charm and modern attractions.

Where to Stay: Hotel Bonaventure Montreal will be a big hit with the kids due to its heated outdoor rooftop pool that you can enter from inside the building, even in cold weather! The hotel is a short stroll to the historic and charming Old Montreal where you’ll find plenty of dining and entertainment options.

What to Do: Trek up to Mount Royal Park for an amazing view of the city. The park is host to concerts, BBQs and biking in the warmer months and ice skating and snow tubing in the winter. Head to Old Montreal and take a step back in time on the cobblestone streets. La Ronde, the city’s amusement park, offers everything from thrill rides to amusements for the little ones. In summer, don’t miss their fireworks displays at night. The Montreal Botanical Garden is a beautiful place to spend the afternoon. Stroll through the Japanese Garden and then check out the greenhouse and the aquatic garden. Let the kids run around while you relax and take in the beauty!

What Else to Explore: One way to get a feel for Montreal is to taste all of its signature dishes. Poutine, which translates to “mess,” is French fries covered with gravy and cheese curds, and will be a hit with the kids. Chez Ma Tante is a reliable place to try this delicacy, and you can eat at outdoor tables or on the go. A sweet or savory crepe is a must on your trip. Visit Breizh Café on St. Laurent Boulevard or Creperie Chez Suzette. Try an authentic Montreal bagel, thinner and more pretzel-like than New York/New Jersey ones. St-Viateur or Fairmont Bagel are both popular choices.

Head to the Old Port for a ride on La Grande Roue de Montreal, an observation wheel with amazing views of the St. Lawrence River. The Biodome is an indoor zoo with five different ecosystems. You can enter an ice tunnel with penguins and a rainforest with tropical birds all in the same place.

See the Notre-Dame Basilica in a unique way with the AURA Experience. It’s a light and music show that uses the architecture of the basilica as its canvas. Montreal is known for its festivals and many occur at Place de Festivals, a large public urban space. Many shows are free and there’s also an interactive 235-jet fountain that kids will marvel at.

Details: Hotel Bonaventure rates are around $154-$265/night depending on room size and season. hotelbonaventure.com

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Asheville, NORTH CAROLINA

Why It’s Awesome: Asheville is casual, laid back and filled with great places to eat and drink. An artistic city that’s a haven for history buffs and foodies, your family will have so much fun exploring the area and taking in the natural beauty of the Blue Ridge Mountains.

Where to Stay: Families can rent an Airbnb downtown or check out the Village Hotel on Biltmore Estate which is family-friendly with modern rooms and a swimming pool. Located in the Biltmore Village, kids will have plenty to do from checking out the playground to farmyard visits. The Restoration Hotel in Asheville is brand new and another great option in the center of downtown.

What to Do: Older kids will love learning about the history of the Biltmore Estate (fun fact: it’s the house in Richie Rich!). Kids of all ages will have fun frolicking in the gardens, designed by Frederick Law Olmsted (the same guy who designed Central Park). The beauty of the house is great to experience in all seasons so there’s no bad time to go. The estate has many activities kids will want to participate in, from biking and hiking to falconry (ages 8 and up). The Blue Ridge Parkway is one scenic drive that won’t make them ask, “Are we there yet?”. The views of the Great Smoky Mountains are unparalleled. Try this drive in the fall. Hike in the Blue Ridge Mountains or swim under a waterfall.

There are a multitude of hikes for all levels and lengths in these beautiful mountains.  In summer, take a tube ride (paddleboard or kayak, too) down the French Broad. This “lazy river ride” has some minor bumps the kids will love!  Rent electric bikes and head off on the French Broad Greenway or take a tour through downtown neighborhoods. If you’ve got younger kids, KidZip offers the country’s first zip line for children 4-10 years old!

What Else to Explore: Asheville has plenty of family-friendly events and some are even free like the Downtown Asheville Drum Circle on Fridays in warmer months in Pritchard Park. Head to Splasheville when the weather’s warm to cool off in the fountains in Pack Square Park or visit Elijah Mountain Gem Mine. Grab a casual meal at 12 Bones Smokehouse. Asheville is famous for food trucks and Foothills Food Truck has the best burgers and tallow fries. Don’t miss Asheville Chocolate for handmade truffles. No trip to Asheville is complete without a stop at Chai Pani—this restaurant serving Indian street food was named the best restaurant at the 2022 James Beard Awards. They don’t take reservations but the food is worth the wait.

Details: Rooms at the Village Hotel are around $250/night and the Restoration rooms start at $255/night. biltmore.com

Lake Placid, NY

Why It’s Awesome: Situated in New York’s Adirondack Mountains, Lake Placid offers downhill and cross-country skiing, ice skating and more snow sports in the winter and picturesque hiking in the spring, summer and fall. Home to the 1980 Winter Olympics, the village is teeming with history from the games, amazing local food and drink and lots of shopping in its charming downtown.

Where to Stay: High Peaks Resort (highpeaksresort.com) is located in the heart of downtown Lake Placid on the shores of Mirror Lake. The pet-friendly resort (dogs are welcome both at the resort and throughout the pet-friendly mountain village) offers tons to do no matter what season you visit. In the winter, guests get free snowshoe rentals with a list of nearby trails for snowshoes and cross-country skiing. In the summer, paddle boarding and kayaking are included with your stay. There are three pools, one of which is indoors, and the kids can play pool and games in the resort lodge year-round. The resort’s location makes it easy to walk to all the village’s restaurants and shops.

What to Do: In the winter, you and your crew can go ice skating on the Olympic Oval, zoom down the Lake Placid Toboggan Chute,

try skeleton sledding and bobsledding on the Olympic track and ride a gondola up the Olympic Jumping Complex. In the summer, there is no shortage of spectacular hikes in the Adirondack Mountains. High Falls Gorge is a must-see nature park that offers beautiful views of its waterfalls as you walk through its suspension bridges. Whiteface Mountain is the fifth highest peak in New York. Drive to the summit and then ride an elevator to the top and take in views as far away as Canada. A visit to the Lake Placid Olympic Museum is another must-do.

What Else to Explore: Save a day to visit Ausable Chasm, a sandstone gorge also known as the Grand Canyon of the East Coast. Choose from rafting, rappelling, rock climbing, riverwalking, tubing float tours and more. Plan your meals with stops at some of the village’s best eateries. The Cottage at Mirror Lake Inn features spectacular views with fresh, local fare. Head to 46 Sandwiches for amazing breakfast and lunch sandwiches (it’s worth the wait), Smoke Signals for BBQ and the Great Adirondack Brewing Company for steak, brews and beautiful lake views.

Details: High Peaks Resort rates start at $230 per night. Go to highpeaksresort.com for more info.

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Cape May, NJ

Explore this Victorian seaside town that’s family friendly and so much fun.

1. Check in to your hotel—the Beach Shack (205 Beach Ave.) is a laid-back resort with a swimming pool, nearby bike rentals and beach service. Book the Bunk Shack so the kids can have a bunk bed in their own separate area. Be sure to hit the hotel’s Rusty Nail, a surfer bar and restaurant.

2. Have breakfast at the Mad Batter (19 Jackson St.) and try their stack of three pancakes, either with blueberries or chocolate chips. You may have to wait in line but it’s a Cape May tradition!

3. Take a walk past all of the Victorian houses you’ll find here. Pass by The Southern Mansion (720 Washington St.) built in 1863 and recently renovated into a bed and breakfast. Head on to the Emlen Physick Estate—you can tour the house, which is also a museum, or book a trolley tour.

4. Have lunch at The Lobster House (906 Schellengers Landing Rd.), an old school seaside restaurant. You can sit in the restaurant but dining dockside and ordering from the raw bar is better.

5. Do some serious shopping on Washington Street Mall, a pedestrian-only area filled with great clothing stores, gourmet foods

and local goods.

6. Treat yourself to ice cream at Fine Fellows Creamery (313 Beach Ave.). Their dark chocolate ice cream with dark chocolate sprinkles is decadent and delicious.

7. Rent bikes at The Bike Shop at Congress Hall (200 Congress Pl.). They even have surreys to accommodate your family! While there, be sure to look around this historic beachfront hotel that dates back to 1816.

8. Ride to the Cape May Lighthouse (215 Lighthouse Ave.) and climb 199 steps to the top. Located in Cape May Point State Park you’ll see stunning views of the Delaware Bay and the Atlantic Ocean.

9. Have dinner at Blue Pig Tavern at Congress Hall. This casual restaurant has a rustic dining room and burgers and fish and chips.

10. Head to the beach. Even if the weather isn’t right for swimming, you’ll still appreciate the sound of the waves and the perfect sand beach that’s been called one of the most notable in the world. Head to Sunset Beach to find some sea glass as the perfect souvenir.

Long Beach Island, NJ

Families are drawn to the beaches and boardwalk and a downtown that’s no frills and so much fun.

1. Check in to your resort—Hotel LBI (350 W.8th St., Ship Bottom) will be your summer home away from home. With suites equipped with kitchens, you can enjoy that laid-back feeling as you spend hours at the beach and even enjoy an indoor pool with a retractable roof.

2. Have breakfast at The Chicken or the Egg (207 N. Bay Ave., Beach Haven) and try their cinnamon roll French toast. This fun, eclectic eatery is also a great option for lunch and their huge menu features everything the kids will love from chicken fingers to egg sandwiches.

3. Go to Fantasy Island Amusement Park (750 N. Bay Ave., Beach Haven) for carnival rides, a classic carousel, boardwalk games, an awesome arcade and all the seasonal snacks you can imagine like funnel cake, churros and cotton candy.

4. When it’s time for lunch, head to Wally’s (712 Long Beach Blvd., Surf City), a family-owned dining destination for over 50 years where you can get sandwiches, burgers and huge salads. Their outdoor dining options make it a great spot to peoplewatch and soak up the nice weather.

5. Visit Island Beach State Park to swim, surf or fish. This barrier island is home to maritime plants and diverse wildlife including the state’s largest osprey colony.

6. Head to Ship Bottom Ice Cream (1801 Long Beach Blvd., Ship Bottom) for handmade ice cream including inventive flavors such as Nilla Banana, Carrot Cake, Blueberry and Biscoff Cookie as well as the classics. Note they are open seasonally.

7. Visit Barnegat Lighthouse (208 Broadway, Barnegat Light) located at the northern tip of LBI. “Old Barney” just had a renovation so visitors should be able to climb up again and enjoy the surrounding park and plenty of photo ops.

8. For a dinner to remember, go to the Tavern at Black Eyed Susans (7908 Long Beach Blvd., Harvey Cedars) for artisan pizzas, housemade pasta and fresh seafood.

9. End your vacay with a round of mini golf at Hartland Golf & Arcade (2801 Long Beach Blvd., Ship Bottom) with different holes for different skill sets, a friendly staff and a prize wheel at the end that will thrill kids of all ages.

Presents

How to Talk to Kids About Race at Home and in the Classroom

With Jeffery Robinson and Khalil Gibran Muhammad, Ph.D. Thursday, Jan. 19 4–5 p.m. ET

Don’t miss this essential talk by Jeffery Robinson and Khalil Gibran Muhammad, Ph.D., two of the nation’s leading scholars on race, democracy, inequality and criminal justice. Their message: Forging a more equitable society now and in the future requires that the history of race and racism be honestly represented in our nation’s classrooms.

Attendees will be eligible to win a $100 Amazon gift card at the end of the talk.

The Poconos, PA

This all-season resort area is known for great hiking, swimming, skiing and its water parks.

1. The all-inclusive Woodloch Resort (731 Welcome Lake Rd., Hawley, PA) is one that families return to season after season for their lakefront activities.

2. Take a hike or go horseback riding at Mountain Creek Riding Stables, Malibu Dude Ranch or Triple W Riding Stables.

3. For a destination lunch, head to Joe Bosco Authentic Smokehouse BBQ (55 Broad St., Delaware Water Gap, PA) and try the family meal for four featuring your choice of a whole chicken, pulled pork or beef brisket.

4. It’s time for a swim so head to one of the Poconos’ state park beaches. Promised Land, Gouldsboro, Ricketts Glen or Tobyhanna are all great choices.

5. Head to Aquatopia, the indoor water park at Camelback Resort (193 Resort Dr., Tannersville, PA) for rides from mild to wild all year.

6. For a fun and festive dinner, try Mi Casa (112 Cleveland Ave., Mt. Pocono) for authentic Latin American cuisine and Mexican dishes plus a kids’ menu. There’s also a full bar.

Virginia Beach, VA

Hit the beach, the boardwalk or the wildlife refuge to make great memories.

1. Hit the beach then stroll the 3-mile boardwalk and check out the nautical-themed sculptures such as King Neptune. Rent bikes! Cherie’s Bike Rentals has 14 locations on the boardwalk.

2. Grab lunch at Beach Bully BBQ (601 19th St.) and dig into a pulled pork or brisket sandwich. Don’t skip the sauces and the sides!

3. See wildlife at Backbay National Wildlife Refuge (4005 Sandpiper Rd.). This 9,000-acre refuge is home to turtles, falcons and even Bald Eagles.

4. Have dinner at Waterman’s Surfside Grille (415 Atlantic Ave.) and try the Crabby Fries, followed by the catch of the day.

5. Stop in at Lolly’s Creamery (414 Virginia Beach Blvd. & 4000 Virginia Beach Blvd.) for a scoop or two on a waffle cone. Their classic flavors include Cookie Monster, Real Deal Vanilla and Double Dark Chocolate.

6. Walk around the VIBE district and take some family selfies in front of the cool murals.

Disney World, ORLANDO, FL.

Planning a vacay to the “happiest place on earth” can be as exciting as it is overwhelming. Whether you’ve been to the magical theme parks many times or are taking your first trip, there’s lots to consider as you plan your itinerary.

SPECIAL EVENTS AT THE PARKS

Disney World’s 50th Anniversary, dubbed “The World’s Most Magical Celebration,” is extended through March 31, meaning you have a few more months to see special shows like The Beacons of Magic lights display at Animal Kingdom, Disney Enchantment nighttime spectacular at Magic Kingdom and Harmonious fireworks at EPCOT. Don’t miss the 50th anniversary statues at all four major parks and the Electrical Water Pageant Parade: Shimmer Edition that has beautiful lighted sea creatures on barges floating outside of Magic Kingdom on the Seven Seas Lagoon and Bay Lake. And of course, a big draw for foodies is the 50th anniversary snacks, which range from a lemon chiffon cupcake to a larger-than-life Mickey cinnamon bun to a corn chip pie with Walt’s chili to a Firefly Margarita.

If you caught the D23 expo, the ultimate Disney fan event, either in person or virtually last fall, you already know the popular “Happily Ever After” nighttime show at Magic Kingdom will return this year. Fans have missed this show of almost 20 minutes of lasers, lights and projections onto Cinderella’s Castle, and of course, fireworks, since it’s been on hiatus since September 2021.

NEW RIDES IN THE WORKS

Longtime favorite ride Splash Mountain will be closed starting on Jan. 23 but return in 2024 as Tiana’s Bayou Adventure rethemed with characters from “The Princess and the Frog.”

The most highly anticipated ride in recent Disney history is TRON Lightcycle / Run in the Magic Kingdom. With a planned opening this spring, the movie-based high-speed adventure will have visitors climb aboard their own Lightcycle for a ride on one of the fastest roller coasters at any Disney theme park in the world.

Journey of Water, inspired by “Moana,” was supposed to open at EPCOT last year but that’s been pushed back to late 2023. This walkthrough interactive experience is “where water comes to life” and visitors will stroll along a self-guided outdoor trail. That’s just part of the reconstruction of two of the four neighborhoods of EPCOT, including World Celebration and Dreamers Point.

Also in EPCOT, Guardians of the Galaxy: Cosmic Rewind is creating lots of buzz, as it’s the first coaster to ever start backwards and is an “omnicoaster” meaning each car in the train can move by itself.

At Disney’s Hollywood Studios, Galaxy’s Edge is probably the biggest draw second to Toy Story Land. On Millennium Falcon: Smugglers Run, you’re at the controls of the famous ship, acting as a pilot, a gunner or

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an engineer. Nearby, Star Wars: Rise of the Resistance is a 20-minute experience that brings the movie to life through the ride—but be sure to book your launch well in advance.

Hollywood Studios also has Minnie & Mickey’s New Runaway Railroad, the first time the couple stars in their own attraction. Board the train with Goofy as the conductor and go on an adventure before the love-mice get to their picnic.

Cool down at the new “Frozen” kids area in the recently reopened Blizzard Beach. Tike’s Peak has miniature slides and attractions, Anna and Elsa’s igloo castle is now in the area, and Olaf and his Snowgie pals hang out in the warm wading pool. Typhoon Lagoon is currently closed for refurbishment.

NEW EATERIES

For a sit-down meal, La Creperie de Paris in the France pavilion at EPCOT, Space 220 in EPCOT and Steakhouse 71 at the Contemporary Resort will be well worth time off the rides. The kids will love Woody’s Roundup Rodeo BBQ, a new table-service restaurant in Toy Story Land in Hollywood Studios, where Woody and Jessie make appearances. If you’re heading to Disney’s Boardwalk area, there will be a table service restaurant and a bakery opening, The Cake Bake Shop, where beloved baker Gwendolyn Rogers serves up beautiful cakes.

TICKET CHANGES AND PRICE INCREASES

The different theme parks require tickets and reservations because of changes made during the pandemic, but the process changed slightly in December. There is now park-specific pricing on 1-day, 1-park tickets. That means you’ll have to select a date and theme park before buying your ticket and your reservation will be made automatically at the time of purchase. That also means ticket prices increase depending on park popularity (with Magic Kingdom being the most popular park).

The cost for Park Hopper add-ons also increased, as did the cost for annual passes. Along with this, the My Disney Experience app has a Disney Genie option where a virtual itinerary can be created based on your park location, preferences and wait times to create a virtual itinerary. You can book dining reservations and activities, too.

The FastPass system has been replaced by Genie+ and Lightning Lanes. For a fee, you can select two to three attractions per day using a separate entrance (similar to the old FastPass) if your first selection is made early in the day. Some Lightning Lane rides can be purchased a la carte if you don’t have Genie+.

Make sure you have your MagicBand so you can link everything to your wrist: entrance tickets, Lightning Lane access, hotel room key, credit cards, etc. MagicBand+ features color-changing lights, haptic vibrations and gesture recognition, plus two interactive mini-games including the Disney Fab 50 Quest.

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From special events and new rides and restaurants to ticket changes and a price increase, here’s what you should know before you go.

TRAVELED A ROAD MORE

Whether you’re taking a trip overseas or visiting a new place close to home, getting away with the kids has teachable moments and long-lasting benefits.

By Heidi L. Borst

Despite inflation, families in the United States are splurging on travel. In fact, according to data from the U.S. Travel Association’s October 2022 report, travel spending is at its highest since the pandemic began. And after the last couple years, who doesn’t need a little vacay to unwind? While travel time with your clan is a great way to have fun and relax, it’s also an important part of your child’s development. Here’s what traveling teaches children, plus how you can maximize its benefits, according to experts.

FOSTER CHERISHED MEMORIES

Travel is an opportunity to form significant, meaningful memories, says Steven Tobias, Psy.D., director of the Center for Child & Family Development in Morristown and author of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting. “A lot of the things we remember as adults are the special experiences we had as children,” he says.

Marian Goldberg, a Japan and Asia tourism expert based in Rutherford, says her children’s lives were shaped by travel to Asia.  When they were 4 and 8 years old, the family traveled to Japan to experience the hot springs in the snow. Goldberg recalls staying at a gorgeous inn on Matsushima Island that was attached to a glass museum. “We toured the museum and wound up in an outdoor gazebo where they served us hot green tea. That is, they served everyone except my 4-year-old son, Gavin, who was so little, he looked 3. Well, Gavin was so upset. He wanted green tea like everyone else. We convinced the staff to get him tea, too,” remembers Goldberg.

That moment had a lasting impact. “To this day, my son drinks green tea, never coffee,” says Goldberg. “In fact, when he went to his college dorm, he brought an electric tea pot and a large cardboard box full of enough green tea packets for the semester.”

WHAT KIDS LEARN

When it comes to instilling life lessons in your children, travel gives you a lot of bang for your buck. Just being in a new place and experiencing different foods, cultures and people helps our brain see the world in different ways, Tobias says, and that really helps with perspective-taking, or the ability to see the world through someone else’s eyes.

From an emotional standpoint, travel helps you grow by getting you out of your comfort zone and into the unknown, which is both stressful and exciting, says Tobias. With travel, no matter how much research you do, or how detailed your itinerary

is, at some point you’re going to have to deal with things that are new. “Learning how to cope with that and to deal with the stress associated with coping with the unknown really helps from a psychological perspective,” he says. Catching your plane, finding where your Uber is parked at the airport and arriving on time to a meal reservation can all add to the stress of travel, but it presents an opportunity to problem-solve as a family, too. “Having kids cope with challenges and succeed is what builds resilience.”

Travel also helps develop planning skills. When traveling together as a family, Tobias recommends involving the kids in the decision-making process. That means planning the activities, what the schedule is going to look like each day and what each person wants from the trip. By taking each individual’s needs into consideration, the experience is maximized for everyone. Another perk? Planning together as a unit increases family bonds.

MAXIMIZE GROWTH

To get the most from your journey, take a cue from your kids, says Michael Brein, Ph.D., known as “The Travel Psychologist,” based in Bainbridge Island, Washington, and author of multiple travel guides. Whereas adults fall into routines that are predictable and reliable, children are more adaptive, he says.

“Children are open, they’re receptive, they’re eager to learn, they make friends quickly. It’s just amazing how a kid [who is traveling to another country] will suddenly make friends with a local child. Maybe they don’t even speak the same language, they just learn how to interact together,” he says.

But it’s not necessary to travel abroad to get the benefits of a new experience, says Brein. The key is breaking from your day-to-day routine. That could mean taking a staycation–as long as you’re doing something different, like taking your kiddos to museums, zoos, concerts, festivals and other local events. Engaging in activities like these helps family members bond in a meaningful way, he says.

Before you set out on your next journey, near or far, talk over your goals for the trip, says Tobias. For example, maybe it’s to have new experiences, to learn different things or to strengthen the relationships within the family. “If we focus on the goal as being together as a family and experiencing new things, wherever the family goes and whatever they do is secondary,” he says.

—Heidi L. Borst is a mother, writer and lifestyle coach based in Wilmington, NC.

READY. SET. CAMP!

Schedule time to attend a fair to find the right fit for your child.

If your kids are already dreaming about returning to camp (or going for the first time) they’re not alone. Camp is one of the best experiences of childhood— a time and place to learn, grow and have fun. In order to find the best fit for your camper, a camp fair should be your first stop.

“Camp fairs are a wonderful way for parents to research many different camp programs all in one location,” says Renee Flax, camper placement specialist for the American Camp Association, NY and NJ. If you’ve never attended a camp fair, the thought can be overwhelming, but the prospect of getting all the info you need in one place (and the chance to meet representatives from the camps) means it’s a mustdo. “Each camp will have its own table with representatives from their program to give you materials, answer questions and explain how their program works,” says Flax. “These free events often have 25 or

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more programs attending and include day, overnight and specialty programs.”

If you’re not sure whether to bring the kids along or hire a babysitter, pile ‘em in the car. “Bringing your child or children to the camp fairs is a great way of engaging them in the process of choosing a camp,” says Flax. “Once they see for themselves all the wonderful activities that can be done at camp, they will be more enthusiastic about wanting to go.”

FIGURE OUT WHAT YOUR CHILD WANTS

Before you attend, give some thought to the type of camp you’re interested in for your child.  “Knowing ahead of time what you are looking for will help you decide what camps are good for you to be speaking with at the fair and you won’t be overwhelmed,” she says.

Some questions you might want to ask yourself are: If you are looking for a day camp, do you want one with bus pickup? Do you need before and after care hours as a working parent? Is swim instruction important to you? “When looking for an overnight camp, consider how many weeks you want your child to go to camp for, if you have a strong preference for coed or single sex, what types of activities you want the camp to offer and if you want an elective camp where your child will make their own choices for activities or a traditional camp where they travel as a bunk to activities,” says Flax.

BE SURE TO BOOK EARLY

Asking a camp if they are accredited by the American Camp Association is a parent’s best evidence of a camp’s commitment to health and safety, she says.

While it might seem like summer is far away, parents should do their homework now and book their child’s spot early to ensure they get the placement they want.

“Camps are filling up very quickly and many already have waiting lists,” says Flax. “If you’re interested in a camp, ask about availability in your child’s specific age group.” Due to COVID, parents realized the benefits of camp for their kids, which explains the high enrollment

numbers. “Many parents discovered that camp is a wonderful environment for children to socialize, be outside and try new things in a structured environment.”

Ready to attend your first camp fair? See the list below. You can also contact Renee Flax (renee@acanynj.org) at any point during your search for the right summer camp.

All’s Fair

Check out a camp fair and solidify your child’s summer plans. All fairs are 1-3 pm.

Sat., Jan. 21: Paramus Camp Fair, Bergen Town Center

Sun., Jan. 22: Summit Camp Fair, Oak Knoll School

Sat., Jan. 28: Livingston Camp Fair, Livingston Mall

Sun., Jan. 29: Ridgewood Camp Fair, Ridgewood Community Center

Sat., Feb. 4: Princeton and Lawrenceville Camp Fair, Quaker Bridge Mall

Sun., Feb. 5: Montclair Camp Fair, Montclair Art Museum

Sat., Mar. 4, Edison Camp Fair, Menlo Park Mall

Presents

Modeling a Loving, Equal Partnership for Your Kids

Jan. 21-22

Jan. 13-15

North Jersey Orchid Society Show

Rutgers University’s New Brunswick campus has some areas of beautiful landscape and farmland, but probably none more beautiful in January than at the Douglass Cook Student Center where a thousand blooming exotic orchids from around the world will be on display. aos.org

Jan. 14

Wild-Con Collectibles Festival

Take a day trip to Wildwood to meet comic book stars like Bob Petrecca (Batman, Superman), Philip McNulty (Marvel Comics), Jude Martys, Criss Madd, Tom Schloendorn, Tony DiGerolamo (The Jersey Devil) and Eric Cooper (Knight Seeker) - plus the Star Wars 501st Legion. jerseyshorecomicbookshow. com/wild-con

Jan. 16

Snow Globes & MLK Day Activities

Celebrate the spirit of Martin Luther King Jr. with this drop-in craft workshop. Your kids will engage in a hands-on activity by designing and creating their own snow globes. There will also be MLK-themed paper crafts and books at the Museum of Early Trades & Crafts in Madison. metc.org

Jan. 13-15

Jan. 12-16

Feb. 5

Jan. 21-22

Year of the Black Water Rabbit

Nai-Ni Chen Dance Company will celebrate the Lunar New Year at NJPAC to welcome the coming of spring. Red Lions move to a hip hop beat, performers dance Ashes of “A Dead Frog” and guest artists from the Chinese Music Ensemble of New York play on classical and folk Chinese instruments. njpac.org

Jan. 12-16

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the Magic Sing along with Miguel from “Coco,” watch Rapunzel from “Tangled” twirl her beautiful hair and follow Moana on her journey across the ocean. You can also add a preshow Character Experience where the kids can do crafts with Belle and Mickey Mouse. prucenter.com

A flower show, an immersive art experience, Harry Potter in concert and more indoor fun awaits this winter!

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For more events near you or to add your own, go to njfamily.com/calendar

Feb. 11

Feb. 4

“Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2” in Concert

The final battle begins! The New Jersey Symphony will perform Alexandre Desplat’s iconic score as the film is projected onto a high-definition screen at NJPAC. If your kids (or you) are into the “Harry Potter” series, this is a great new way to experience the movie. njpac.org

Feb. 5

“Llama Llama Live!”

If your kids have seen the Netflix series or have read the “Llama, Llama Red Pajama” books, they’ll be thrilled to see a live version

All events are subject to cancellation so call ahead before heading out.

Feb. 5

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at the State Theatre NJ in New Brunswick where Llama’s mother helps him find his favorite PJs. But when he can’t fall asleep and she doesn’t come back in, he wonders, will she ever return? stnj.org

Feb. 5

“Pinkalicious”

Little ones four years and older will be tickled pink at this show at the Mayo Performing Arts Center in Morristown which follows a girl who eats too many pink cupcakes and gets a severe case of Pinkititis that turns her pink from head to toe. There’ll be two performances, including a special sensoryfriendly version. mayoarts.org/shows/pinkalicious

Feb. 11

Cirque Zuma Zuma

As seen on “America’s Got Talent!” this African-style Cirque du Soleil will storm through MPAC, with the performers executing acts of balance, agility and flexibility. The kids will be clapping and tapping to the beats of African music, drumming and dance. mayoarts.org/shows/cirque-zuma-zuma

Through April 2 Night Forms: Infinite Wave

A sculpture park by day, Grounds for Sculpture in Hamilton transforms into a multi-sensory light and sound experience at night that uses projection mapping to give a new perspective to its works of art. groundsforsculpture.org

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Take your Valentine out on the town for a loved-up celebration. Central Jersey’s seventh annual Chocolate & Wine event is finally back. Enjoy the sweeter side of life on Feb. 4 and indulge in some delectable wine and chocolate pairings. nmg.ticketleap. com/chocolate7/details Also happening on Feb. 4, if you and your paramour have an athletic side, think about competing in the Valentine’s Day Massacre at Infinite Fitness & Health in Wharton. It’s a heart-racing day of competition with a nationwide leaderboard. facebook.com/Ifandhealth Newark’s own Bill Bellamy kicks off an evening of laughs during the Valentine’s All-Star Comedy Show at NJPAC on Feb. 11. Adele Givens and Smokey Suarez, who both appeared on “Def Comedy Jam” will have you rolling in your seats. njpac.org/event/valentines-all-star-comedy-show-3 Plan a Galentine’s Day party with your girlfriends and paint a Valentine’s scene on Feb. 13. Pinot’s Palette provides all the supplies you need. You bring the snacks and wine. Multiple locations. pinotspalette. com For an event with a view, book a New York Valentine’s Day Brunch Cruise along Liberty Cruise Line. Take in the NYC skyline while listening to music by a live DJ, sipping mimosas and eating chocolate-covered strawberries on Feb. 11 or 14. libertycruise.nyc/ events/valentines-day-brunch-cruise Plan a weekend getaway at the Hard Rock Hotel

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Atlantic City. The Valentine’s Soul Jam on Feb. 19 features The Whispers, The Stylistics, Bloodstone and Heatwave. hardrockhotelatlanticcity.com

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The State Ballet Theatre of Ukraine Sun, Jan 15 @ 6PM

The State Ballet Theatre of Ukraine performs Sleeping Beauty, Tchaikovsky’s fairytale masterpiece.

sleeping beauty dance series

Year of the Black Water Rabbit Jan 21 & 22 @ 2PM

Bring the whole family to welcome the Year of the Black Water Rabbit with the spectacular Nai-Ni Chen Dance Company