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Stuff We Love
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Explore
GREAT OUTDOORS 42 THE 11 New Jersey hikes we love
GAME ON Up the fun in your backyard this summer with these ideas.
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COVID VACCINES & KIDS What to know before getting your kid vaccinated. HEALTH CHECK A complete guide to screenings every woman needs
Raising Smarties
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RETURN TO NORMAL Make the transition back to full in-person school days this fall a little easier.
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NEWSWORTHY WNBC co-anchor Natalie Pasquarella on juggling her high-profile job with raising kids in Bergen County
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BURNOUT 30 BEAT Expert tips to help recharge your
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STAY & PLAY These staycation ideas are perfect for impromptu fun.
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secrets. DAY 35 SPA Plan an afternoon just for you with one of these special treatments.
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FAIR PLAY Many of NJ’s best fairs and festivals are back! Plus: Fourth of July events
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DENTISTRY 38 COSMETIC Boost your confidence—and smile—with a dental procedure.
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Editor’s Letter
The struggle is real (and hilarious) as WNBC’s Natalie Pasquarella hopes to get smiles from her adorable kids at our cover shoot.
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Time for Self-Care With a much more normal summer underway, we’re scheduling camps, vacations, day trips, barbecues, beach days and more to keep the kids busy. But how many of you are scheduling time for yourselves? I know I’m not alone in sharing that I often put self-care at the bottom of my list. That’s why we’re dedicating much of this issue to inspiring you to find time for yourself, even if it’s just 20 minutes a day. When you carve out that time, you’ll feel more energized as you take on the seemingly endless to-dos that come with parenting, home and work responsibilities. If you’re feeling burned out—and so many of us are—we’re sharing expert tips to help you recharge your batteries on page 30. We also asked NJ moms to share what self-care looks like for them and listed some of our favorite spots to treat yourself to a spa day. Because getting outside and moving is a proven stress reliever, we’re highlighting 11 NJ hikes we love. We hope you’ll get outside this month and explore a new trail. We’re so excited to have WNBC anchor and reporter Natalie Pasquarella, a Bergen County mom, on our cover. Between co-anchoring four newscasts a day and parenting two young kids, Natalie’s idea of self-care is sometimes as simple as taking a drive with the music blasting. Find out how she juggles it all and what she loves to do with the kids in New Jersey on page 23. Also in this issue, we asked experts to share tips to help kids get ready—physically and mentally—for a more normal school year in the fall. But in the meantime, we hope you’ll savor every bit of summer!
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Prep Your Child for the COVID Vaccine Making sure all your kids’ vaccines are current is critical, too.
COVID ISN’T THE ONLY DANGER When routine immunization rates decline, other communicable illnesses such as measles and mumps, can make a comeback. For example, in 2019 local outbreaks of measles occurred in New Jersey due to kids not being vaccinated. If you’re not sure what routine shots your child needs, call your pediatrician’s office.
administered alone to monitor potential side effects. But the American Academy of Pediatrics and the CDC now say it’s not necessary for kids to wait until after routine immunizations to get the COVID vaccine. In fact, most kids do well with no or minor side effects, such as a sore arm, fatigue, fever, headache or muscle pain. “Generally, kids’ side effects only last a day and are milder than adults’,” says Cennimo.
CALL YOUR PEDIATRICIAN WITH CONCERNS If you have questions about the COVID vaccine for your child, talk to your pediatrician. “We don’t have all the answers yet, such as how long immunity will last or if we’ll need a booster due to the development of variants,” says Cennimo. “But we do know the risk of COVID in the U.S. is not zero, and some kids get very sick with COVID.” Getting your kids vaccinated is a step toward protecting them and those around them and resuming the activities your family loves.
DON’T PUT OFF THE VACCINES Previously, COVID vaccines were recommended to be
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THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO WOMEN’S HEALTH SCREENINGS Because you can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first. By Arricca Elin SanSone
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taying strong for your family starts with making sure you’re getting the health tests you need. But with COVID halting checkups and elective procedures last year, many of us are off-schedule—and you may wonder how critical it is to get in to see your doctor. “For any symptoms you’re having, call your primary care doctor and ask when you should come in because we’re here to help you navigate those kinds of decisions,” says Jacqueline Fincher, MD, past-president of the American College of Physicians. “But if you have chronic health conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes or abnormal findings on a mammogram, for example, you should be seen now.” Another reason to be seen ASAP is if you have new concerns. “Symptoms that should be addressed include issues such as new breast masses or lumps, discharge from nipples, rectal bleeding, vaginal bleeding after intercourse, new pelvic pain, postmenopausal bleeding and unintentional weight loss,” says Jenna Marcus, MD, gynecological oncologist and assistant professor at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School. “Trust yourself. If something doesn’t ‘feel’ right, don’t put off calling your doctor.” Pre-appointment screenings may include questionnaires about symptoms or travel, temperature checks, waiting in your car, cleaning protocols and PPE for staff and patients. “We also now offer telehealth options we didn’t previously have,” says Fincher. “Some evaluations, such as going over blood work, following up on blood pressure or blood sugars or mental health conditions don’t have to be done in person.” Read on for a list of essential screenings, checkups and guidance about when each should be done.
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Every year at your physical or your doctor may recommend more frequently. If higher than 130/80, you should be checked annually. Also, if you have underlying conditions such as diabetes, you should be screened more frequently based on your doctor’s recommendation.
CHOLESTEROL TEST
Checked at age 20, then every 4 to 6 years if normal and you have no risk factors such as smoking, diabetes, high blood pressure and family history. After age 40, you may need more frequent screening based on your personal history.
COLON CANCER SCREENING
Initial screenings are now recommended at age 45, or sooner if you have risk factors such as personal or family history of colorectal cancer or uterine or ovarian cancer before age 50. If normal, then every 10 years. African-Americans may need to screen even earlier.
DENTAL EXAM
1 to 2 times a year, or more frequently as your dentist recommends.
DIABETES SCREENING
Initial screening at age 45, or sooner if you have risk factors such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol or being overweight. If initial results are normal, testing should be done every 3 years.
EYE EXAM
Following your childhood and adolescent exams, get checked at age 20, then twice in your 30s, and once at age 40; sooner if you have risk factors such as diabetes, high blood pressure or a family history of eye disease. Then at regular intervals as recommended by your eye doctor.
IMMUNIZATIONS
Flu shot every year; Tdap booster if pregnant, or every 10 years; shingles vaccine if older than 50. The COVID vaccine is recommended, with a possible booster.
LUNG CANCER SCREENING
If 55 or older with a history of smoking one pack a day for 30 years or two packs for 15 years, and a current smoker or if you’ve quit in the last 15 years.
MAMMOGRAM
Individualized decision based on risk factors as assessed by your doctor. In general, it’s recommended annually from age 40 or every two years from ages 40 to 44, then annually from ages 45 to 54 and continuing every two years from age 55 as long as you’re in good health and at average risk for breast cancer.
PAP TEST/ HPV
For women ages 21 to 29, a Pap alone every three years; women ages 30-65, a Pap and HPV test every five years or a Pap test alone every 3 years; or any time you have a new partner.
SKIN CANCER SCREENING
Frequency is based on your dermatologist’s recommendations if you’re at high risk, such as a personal history of skin cancer, being fair-skinned, having red or blonde hair or a history of excessive sun exposure; or anytime you find a new or changing mole or skin spots or bumps that won’t heal or are itchy, bleeding, scaly or red.
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amilies have weathered the worst of the pandemic and somehow managed to cope with remote learning, hybrid models and a new reality where kids socialize mainly through devices. Now that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel, it’s time to think about how kids will return to regular school this fall. There will definitely be a learning curve and a period of adjustment. “To say the past year-and-a-half has deeply affected our kids is underplaying it,” says Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, a Princeton-based psychologist specializing in parenting and child development and author of Growing Friendships. “Parents are concerned about everything: social and emotional development, academics, executive function, drive...you name it.” Whether kids flourished or floundered with virtual learning, one thing all parents can agree on is that we don’t know what to expect this fall after so much time at home. Will masks still be mandatory? Can kids play together indoors again? Will they remember what it’s like to have a daily in-person school routine? “My prediction is that it’s going to be even harder in the fall,” says Kennedy-Moore. “Kids lost a year-and-a-half of social and emotional development, and interaction with their peers and teachers. But we’re going to get through this.”
BUILD STAMINA FOR SCHOOLING Staying attentive, enthusiastic, seated and likely masked for the entire school day will probably be difficult after a routine of rolling
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from bed to desk with easy access to breaks, snacks and hugs. Kids need to build up a tolerance for rule-following again. Some ways to practice this include rising with an alarm, getting dressed for breakfast and facing the day. Little ones need to be active and out and about. “Lying around isn’t good for them,” says Kennedy-Moore. “And it’s hard to fight it when there’s nothing else to do.” Parents can plan daily activities, enroll kids in camps or classes and push older kids to get a job or volunteer.
CREATE OPPORTUNITIES TO SOCIALIZE Socially savvy kids were mostly okay—it was the introverted ones who lost out without the routine interactions to cultivate relationships. “Try to inch kids back towards doing some sort of group activity,” suggests Kennedy-Moore. “Ideally, you want them in a new situation with new people. The closer you can get it to being what it will be like at school the better—the easier it will be for your kid to slide into the new routine.”
FOCUS ON EVERYDAY LEARNING Our fears over a “lost” year were, thankfully, mostly unfounded. “Teachers were teaching and students were learning during this pandemic,” says Leslie Calabrese, instructor of professional practice in special education at Rutgers. “While it did not look
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the same as previous years, teachers were able to adjust and teach via the new platforms.” These new formats may have led to even greater opportunities for students to learn. If parents are worried about maintaining gains, Calabrese suggests incorporating math and literacy skills into daily activities such as shopping with a budget, reading together or discussing history. “Learning and thinking should not only happen in school,” she says. For those truly in need of a boost, tutoring and academic camps can also help kids get caught up.
GET ORGANIZED AS A FAMILY With the return to in-person learning, teachers may no longer post assignments online or be quite so available for questions. Parents won’t have the intimate access to daily lessons and will need to rely on their kids to keep them informed. Set up systems and routines your child can implement, from weekly backpack clean-outs to a communal workspace for a shared calendar where students can add their assignments along with short and long-term goals necessary for completion, suggests Calabrese. “Parents can also add a checklist of what the child is responsible for to ensure a successful school day and year,” she says. “Intentionally making children an active part of their successes and failures is a great way to ensure success in school, and ultimately in life.”
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FOCUS ON KINDNESS AND UNDERSTANDING This is a big transition fraught with emotion and anxiety. “Meet your child wherever they are with lots of love and empathy,” says KennedyMoore. “Kids need to feel heard and that’s something you can give them through reflection. Echo your kids’ thoughts and acknowledge their feelings without trying to fix things. After they vent, then you can prompt them to problem-solve. For example, if they’re struggling to keep their mask on in class, ask what they think might help. Perhaps it doesn’t fit well. Either way, let them arrive at the right solution. “It’s better to ask questions than to give answers,” Kennedy-Moore says.
MANAGE EXPECTATIONS Your kids are probably going to get excited about a normal fall but you need to set realistic expectations. “It’s going to be a bit of a come down,” says Kennedy-Moore. “Friends are going to be annoying, homework will be annoying. And there will be some longing: ‘Remember when I could just lie in my bed?’” On the other hand, they’ll be fully engaged with friendship, learning and community. “Trust in your child’s strength that they’ll get through this and it will become normal again.” —Jennifer Kantor is a parenting and lifestyle writer. She lives in Maplewood with her husband and two kids.
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Contreras says self-care is essential for women right now. “We focus on the medical part of women’s health but there’s a lot of emotional self-care that needs to happen, too,” she says. “Over the last year, you may have had changes in your weight, but as you start to get active again, try not to put too much pressure on yourself to lose the weight in the next three months. People need to be kind to themselves and go at their own pace.” Contreras says there’s been a drop off in women getting routine screenings. “From mammograms to visiting the dentist, it’s time to start taking care of you,” she says. “Make a list of which appointments and screenings you missed over the last year,” she advises. “If you need to get a mammogram or a colonoscopy don’t schedule them all the 18
same week. It’s okay to spread them out.” “Make an inventory about your health, then start working on that list slowly. Small goals like beginning to walk for exercise can have a huge impact. Let’s not add more stress to our lives.”
Turn to Your GYN
Contreras advises women to turn to their GYN for much more than routine pap smears. “For a lot of women, the GYN is their primary care physician,” says Contreras. “The conversation should go beyond that of sexual health and reproduction. We need to empower women to talk about osteoporosis, breast health, anxiety and depression. It should encompass the whole woman, her emotional and medical needs.” Your GYN can discuss all the issues that affect your overall health, including topics like sleep. “Sleep is affected by stress and anxiety,” she says. The GYN is also the doctor you can turn to during different life stages, such as perimenopause and menopause. Contreras says women don’t need to suffer through the challenges of these changes alone and the first step is to speak to your GYN.
Know the Facts
Getting vaccinated is one proactive thing women can do to take charge of their health, and Dr. Contreras says many of the fears surrounding COVID-19 vaccines are unfounded. “More and more data is available to help everyone make decisions about the vaccine. I think it’s really important that women get science-based information. There’s no
science behind the whole idea of infertility and the vaccine,” she says. “We do know that millions of women have been fully vaccinated in the U.S. and that it’s safe and effective.”
Do a Mental Health Check-In
When it comes to our mental health, Elana Monchar, MD, Department of Psychiatry, Atlantic Health System, says there are a few things we can all do to feel better. “Setting a routine and sticking to it, that’s really necessary in a world where we feel out of control,” Monchar says. What you put in your body can actually affect your mental health, says Monchar. “Fuel your body with nutritious, wellbalanced foods,” she says. She also suggests prioritizing sleep. “It’s hard to function at your optimum when you’re sleep deprived.”
Find Healthy Ways to Manage Stress
Therapy can be the right choice for some women and has become even more accessible due to telehealth, says Monchar. Activities such as coloring, kickboxing, gardening or going out for a stroll can also help keep stress in check. “It’s been a very stressful year, and it’s going to take time to get back to a lot of things we did before,” says Contreras. “You don’t have to do everything today. Give yourself time. Women have gone through a lot.”
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the only one of its kind in northern NJ— using only a fraction of the radiation compared to standard X-rays. Our facilities are staffed with nine musculoskeletal clinicians, including our nationally certified orthopedic physician assistant. We are proud to boast seven pediatric orthopedists, all of whom have been board certified and/or fellowship trained at nationally and internationally renowned programs. Additionally, we have a pediatric specialized foot and ankle specialist who is board certified by the American Board of Foot and Ankle Surgeons. Our surgical staff has advanced training in the pediatric orthopedic subspecialties of: Adolescent sports, Trauma, Spine deformity, Hip disorders,
Cerebral palsy, and Foot and ankle surgery. We have the only urgent care center in the state providing a fully staffed pediatric orthopedic team of specialists. Our walk-in clinic is available Monday through Thursday, and Saturday. Your children’s health is our main concern, and we take pride in providing safe and compassionate care while earning your trust in every way.
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he prevalence of anxiety, depression and substance abuse have increased among New Jersey residents amid the pandemic–especially among young people. That is the finding in a new analysis from the New Jersey Hospital Association. Since COVID-19’s arrival in New Jersey in March 2020, NJHA has produced a number of data reports examining the impact of the pandemic on the health and wellbeing of NJ residents. NJHA’s report, The Other Epidemic: The Mental Health Toll of COVID-19, shows a significant increase in the number of children coming to the hospital with symptoms of depression or anxiety during the pandemic. “The burden of COVID-19 in New Jersey cannot be measured solely by confirmed cases and lives lost. It’s important that we JULY 2021 | NJFAMILY.COM
also understand the invisible toll of COVID– the mental health impacts brought on by fear, loss, isolation and, for many families and frontliners, the emotional trauma of this pandemic year,” said NJHA President and CEO Cathy Bennett. NJHA analyzed claims data from hospital emergency departments along with survey responses from NJ residents who participated in a U.S. Census Bureau survey. Key findings show: Forty-two percent of NJ adults surveyed reported having anxiety or depression symptoms, compared with 40 percent nationally. Among survey respondents, the prevalence of anxiety or depression was highest among young adults ages 18 to 29, with 58.6 reporting that they have experienced such symptoms during the pandemic. In the state’s hospitals, the proportion of
those under 18 years coming to the hospital with a diagnosis for depressive disorders increased by about 84 percent between 2019 and 2020 in the midst of the pandemic. (1.37 to 2.53 percent). Anxiety among this age group increased more than 74 percent (1.22 to 2.12 percent). “We are only beginning to see the impact on the second victims of COVID-19, and New Jersey must be prepared to address these very real health needs evident across generations,” said Bennett.
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On The Cover
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Beyond the
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WNBC co-anchor, mom of two and Bergen County resident Natalie Pasquarella talks news, kids and life in the Garden State. By Dina El Nabli
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“I cannot remember a more intense year of news in my 16-year career…the stories that deeply impacted me were the healthcare heroes who sacrificed so much to keep everyone else safe.”
e all remember exactly where we were when we went into labor with our kids. WNBC News co-anchor Natalie Pasquarella’s labor story, almost fittingly, played out on the air. She was anchoring the 11 pm news when her water broke toward the end of the newscast. Co-anchor David Ushery finished reading a story and they ended the show as usual before the studio was quickly cleared and security walked Pasquarella out of 30 Rockefeller Plaza to a car headed to Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City. Twelve hours later, she and husband Jamin welcomed their first child, Jamin, born five weeks early. As the co-anchor of the 4, 6, 7 and 11 pm daily newscasts, a reporter and mom of two (daughter Jada was born in 2019), Pasquarella’s birth story illustrates how she juggles the demands of a high-profile journalism career with parenting young kids. A four-time Emmy award-winner who has interviewed former President Barack Obama and covered countless breaking news stories and everything from food insecurity to the toll COVID has taken on mothers, Pasquarella relishes the title of mom most of all. We chatted with the Steubenville, Ohio native about the news, motherhood and what drew her to settle down in Bergen County’s Northern Valley. New Jersey Family: There’s no such thing as a typical day in news but what does a weekday tend to look like for you? Natalie Pasquarella: Because I work the night shift, mornings are when I soak up all the time I can with my kids. Post-coffee, we usually play in the yard, head to the park or stop at our local library. We have lunch together and I always make a big deal out of my kids’ nap time routine because I’m not home at bedtime. Once it’s lights out, I get ready for work and I get into 30 Rock by 2:30 pm. It’s full speed ahead to prepare for News 4 at 4 pm with my co-anchor David Ushery and then News 4 at 6 pm with my co-anchor Chuck Scarborough. We launched News 4 at 7 pm in June. We record pre-show promos, read through scripts and talk with producers about any breaking news. After the early evening newscasts, I shift my focus to any stories I may be working on that week and prepping for our 11 pm newscast. I Facetime the kiddos at bedtime and then I see you all on TV on News 4 at 11 pm. Weekdays are nonstop but my husband and I try to squeeze in workouts together or coffee runs
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during the week when we can. The majority of our family time is spent on the weekends—and as you can imagine, we cherish it. NJF: At the height of lockdown, you were co-anchoring the news from home. What was that like? NP: My kids are so young that we were fortunate to not have many of the same challenges that parents with school-aged children did. Like many parents working from home, we had to create our own workspace while the kids were taking over, too. My ‘studio’ consisted of a camera and blue backdrop in our guest room. I had a tablet that acted as a small teleprompter. I always made it a point to lock the door before I went on air— just in case my son made a run for it from the kitchen! Luckily, that never happened but I did hear his voice from afar during the newscasts. Honestly, I was so grateful for the extra time at home because, as I said, I miss dinner and bedtime when working nights. It was awesome to be able to kiss my kids good night during the week and tuck them in. I loved that time with my husband and children. NJF: Which stories most deeply impacted you over the past year? NP: I cannot remember a more intense year of news in my 16-year career—covering the pandemic, the murder of George Floyd, the fight for racial equality and an election like no other. The stories that deeply impacted me were the healthcare heroes who sacrificed so much to keep everyone else safe. I remember being in awe of the frontline workers who had to leave their own families every day to fight this unrelenting virus. I’m so grateful for them. I covered stories of the mothers who were disproportionately affected in the pandemic and forced to leave the workforce this past year. I interviewed moms in Bergen County who were working hard to navigate the pandemic with their own families. I also reported on the racial disparities in healthcare for pregnant Black mothers. In that story, I interviewed a Brooklyn mother who was pregnant with twins during the pandemic and sadly, one baby didn’t make it. She opened up about how she believes race played a part in her pregnancy journey—and we looked into the numbers and the data was stunning. Her courage and resiliency moved me. Her story will make a difference.
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Natalie’s Musts
•F AVORITE WORKOUT: HIIT (High intensity Interval Training) because it doesn’t take too long. •B REAKFAST: Avocado & scrambled eggs • FAMILY MEAL: We love Carmine & Ray’s Pizza in Closter & Blue Moon Mexican Cafe in Englewood. At home, I make a pretty good zucchini lasagna. •S HOW TO BINGE WATCH: I love Dateline and all things Bravo. Anything hosted by Andy Cohen is a guilty pleasure that I never feel guilty about.
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FROM LEFT: NATALIE AND JADA IN CENTRAL PARK; WITH HUSBAND JAMIN, WHO SURPRISED NATALIE WITH A BACKYARD BIRTHDAY DINNER IN AN IGLOO DURING QUARANTINE; AT ABMA’S FARM IN WYCKOFF WITH HER MOM, JADA AND SON, JAMIN; NATALIE, JAMIN AND THE KIDS SMILE FOR A SELFIE.
NJF: How do you manage to carve out time for self-care? NP: For me it’s as simple as taking a solo drive for a bit while turning up my favorite music. I love R&B and hip hop and it always puts a smile on my face. The drives clear my head. Workouts, even if only 30 minutes, always feel good. When I carve out that time, I feel great. On the weekends, I try really hard to get the kids in bed on time so I get some quiet time to myself. I also just got my first manicure in a year-and-a-half for your photo shoot so I’m looking forward to more of those, too! NJF: You grew up in an Italian/Lebanese family as the oldest of four kids. What are your favorite childhood memories? NP: Big family dinners, playing outside all hours of the day and summer swims at our local community pool. We grew up right down the street from my grandparents so we were always running back and forth from their house. My mom is the oldest of 11 children so we were always around a lot of
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family. While we didn’t ever go on big family vacations there was always a lot going on locally in the Ohio Valley area. My parents would drive us to Pittsburgh Pirates baseball games and local arts festivals. NJF: Tell us something viewers don’t know about you. NP: I’m a Disney fanatic. I never went to Walt Disney World as a child but I ended up interning there in college. I worked in the Magic Kingdom and have been hooked ever since! NJF: What was it like to interview President Obama? NP: I had a total of seven minutes for the interview. We discussed the economic benefits of U.S. trade with Latin America. I’ll admit I was a bit nervous beforehand but I stayed focused—and I brought the discussion back to the viewers in Charlotte—and the impact on their lives. It was a good discussion. And before you knew it, it was over. We shook hands and I headed to the airport. NJF: What attracted you to New Jersey and Bergen County? NP: My husband and I loved the proximity to the city of course. We also knew we wanted a yard and we just really like the people. When we moved here, everyone was so welcoming. There is so much to do with the kids, too. It’s just a great place to raise a family. NJF: What do you love to do in New Jersey with your family? NP: We love Van Saun Park in Paramus where we can ride the carousel and the train. We also enjoy Abma’s Farm in Wyckoff. I took my mother there when she came to visit and we went pumpkin picking with the kiddos. The playgrounds in New Jersey are just fantastic. Now that the pandemic restrictions are loosening, we look forward to heading to South Jersey and trying out Diggerland. My son has been talking about that place for a year!
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NJF: After Jamin’s birth, you became a champion of the March of Dimes. Tell us about your work with them and other causes that are near and dear to you. NP: I’ve always been a supporter of the work that March of Dimes does, hosting events throughout my career for them even before I was a mother. But when my son came early and we had a relatively brief stay in the NICU, I felt the importance of their work even more. There are so many great nonprofits in New Jersey. The March of Dimes is definitely one of them. I’ve enjoyed working with the Boys & Girls Club and the Community Food Bank of New Jersey, too. Fighting homelessness is another cause close to my heart. I recently hosted an event for Jericho Project in New York City which works to provide housing, employment and mental health services to the homeless.
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Making Time for
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Putting yourself last can lead to burnout. These ideas will inspire you to take time to de-stress.
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Tips and inspiration to help recharge your batteries
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orn out from juggling all the things, moms have been on the fast track to exhaustion for far too long. From childcare and months of virtual school to home and remote work responsibilities, we’ve been extended far beyond our limits. On the best of days, this reality of ours is overwhelming; the toughest moments can knock us to our knees in full-on crisis mode. To avoid major burnout, self-care is more essential than ever, but with our jam-packed schedules, it’s become all the more elusive. If you’re at the end of your rope with little time to focus on your own needs, don’t
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worry; experts say small doses of self-care are just as effective as longer stretches—fit it in wherever you can swing it. KNOW YOUR LIMITS AND SHARE THE LOAD Being aware of what you can handle and respecting your limits is vital in preventing burnout. “Don’t compare yourself to others,” says Nicole Martin, a NJ-based co-founder and head career coach at Transition Talent Group. “Everyone has different thresholds of stress that they can tolerate, and some people burn out sooner than others. Someone might
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look like they’re balancing the world on their shoulders with grace and ease, and that may work for them, but if it doesn’t work for you, that’s okay.” Martin suggests reflecting on how you feel when you’re nearing your limit—maybe you’re grumpy, snapping at your kids or your motivation has tanked. Next, identify exactly what is making you feel this way. “Is it someone’s specific actions?” she asks. “Are you taking on too much? Be mindful of what the causes are versus pushing through and trying to survive each hour of the day.” If you’re starting to feel frazzled, do something that makes you feel good—even briefly. “If you’re a working mom, just step away from the computer for 5 to 10 minutes,” she says. “Small breaks are cumulative— they add up, so if you’re taking time throughout the day to give yourself a little bit of that self-care, it’s going to continuously fill your cup versus totally depleting it.” If we wait until we’re at our maximum stress level to decompress, it may be too late to do damage control. IF YOU CAN’T AVOID BURNOUT, MANAGE IT We asked more than 100 NJ moms on social media how they’re preventing pandemic-era burnout, and most said it’s not entirely possible. Instead, they’ve switched to management mode, combatting stress by setting boundaries, asking their partners for help and letting go of things they can’t control (in other words, not sweating the small stuff). With endless to-do lists, maxed-out moms are left with very little breathing room, says South Orange mom of two Nina Essel, parenting coach and founder of Balanced Kids. So stop being so hard on yourself. “As moms, we are constantly evaluating what we are doing and whether we are doing enough,” says Essel. “Being realistic—and then truly letting go of expectations that don’t make the cut can be an incredible stress reducer. What’s helped me is setting realistic expectations for myself about what I can and want to accomplish daily/weekly, setting boundaries and blocking out time to do nothing.” To even out the workload at home, communicate clearly with your parenting partner. “Do a brain dump of all your to-dos and tasks, and then sit down and divide them up,” says Essel. “Weekly check-ins with your partner to coordinate schedules, meal plan and review weekly tasks can also be helpful to ensure everyone is on the same page.” Divvy up those responsibilities—after all, that’s what partners do.
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FIND SIMPLE WAYS TO KEEP YOUR CUP FULL Waking up at the crack of dawn to bask in self-care may sound great in theory, but If you aren’t a morning person (or you’re sleep deprived), it probably won’t work for you. Martin recommends squeezing in small increments of self-care throughout the day. “Make sure your batteries are consistently near full, if not full,” she says. “Self-care doesn’t have to be something long and drawn-out. It could be as simple as making sure you’re hydrated and eating well-balanced meals so that you don’t get foggy and fuzzy by the end of the day because your body is hungry and craving nutrients.” “Self-care is not selfish, and self-care isn’t all spas and pedicures,” says Essel. “Booking out time in your schedule to do nothing is important. Not every moment of our day needs to be filled with productivity and meaning, sometimes we just need space to be.” TRY THESE SELF-CARE IDEAS FROM NJ MOMS New Jersey moms recommended gardening, cooking/baking, petting the family dog, taking long baths, listening to podcasts and audio books, learning a new instrument or language, singing, crafting, practicing breath work or meditation, getting together with friends, family car rides and indulging in simple pleasures such as fresh flowers, sushi or pizza. A major sanity saver across the board? Exercise. Whether their movement of choice is Pilates, online yoga, Zumba, long walks outside, running or family-friendly workouts, getting moving keeps moms going. Activity is a priority for Manville mother of three Jennifer Esposito. “I look at my schedule every week and plan time to do things that help me feel balanced, like walking the dog, bike riding or running—spending time outside refreshes me,” says Esposito. “Knowing I have that time to unwind helps me get through stressful and challenging moments.” South Orange mom of three Meg Berry says an overall approach to wellness has helped her stave off burnout. “I’ve adopted a specific workout and diet protocol geared toward fending off burnout which involves short HIIT workouts, long walks in nature, talking with friends on the phone or inperson, taking a 10 to 30-minute nap every afternoon and lots of hot baths and long, hot showers,” Berry says. “I have to say I feel like I’m staying one step ahead of burnout. It’s a marathon.” Whatever it is that rejuvenates you (even if it’s doing absolutely nothing), let go of the guilt and make time for it to happen. No one can run on fumes, and you deserve some down time. —Heidi L. Borst is a mother, writer and nutrition coach based in Wilmington, NC.
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Self-Care Secrets
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We asked New Jersey moms how they make time for themselves amid the daily demands of family, work and life.
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I’m not trying to endorse anything but I bought a Peloton back in January and that was such a game-changer since all the gyms were closed and there was weight gain. I really needed to keep up with my kids so being able to work out, being on the Peloton and getting my miles in helped me keep up with them. Reading as well, I love reading. Right now I’m reading Stephen King, On Writing.
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I’m a firm believer in the idea that you can only give what you have inside, and I’ve learned that if I’m not taking care of myself, I’m not able to take care of the people who rely on me at home or at work. I’ve also learned that I need to take care of myself on a daily basis. My favorite forms of daily self-care are getting a good night’s sleep every night, exercising every day—I love Bar Method or a walk with friends—and reading every day.
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Self-care for me looks like meditation, going for a run or working out, a good facial or cuddling up and reading a book in peace and quiet. And don’t forget, sometimes it’s okay to just roll your windows down and blast your favorite song in the hustle and bustle of life!
“Self-care for me is about connecting with others. I’m lucky enough to have other members in my house and touching them and giving them hugs and kisses makes a huge difference. Disconnecting from social media helps too. I highly recommend that. For me, it was a bigtime zapper.”
One of my favorite forms of self-care is getting a massage! I also find cooking and baking relaxing when I can do them uninterrupted, which can be hard as a mom to a toddler and currently expecting baby number two! Something else I’m working on is to be more present and soak up whatever it is that I’m doing with my daughter at the time.
—ATOYA BURLESON, inSIDELINES PODCAST HOST AND LIFESTYLE BLOGGER
—ELANA MONCHAR, MD, DEPARTMENT OF PSYCHIATRY, ATLANTIC HEALTH SYSTEM’S MORRISTOWN MEDICAL CENTER
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“ I schedule time during each day just for me. I place a specific and scheduled time in both my personal and business calendars and block out one hour a day for myself. This time is only for me. I read my favorite magazines, reconnect with friends, shop online, anything that makes me a priority. It has made a world of difference and provides me with the balance and focus I need to tackle my life both personally and professionally.” —CHELDIN BARLATT RUMER, THIS IS IT NETWORK FOUNDER
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A full-body massage uses heated Himalayan salt stones with 84 naturally occurring minerals and elements designed to soothe and relieve stress, maximize therapeutic benefits of the stones and promote restorative healing. Two hours of free access to the spa’s amenities and valet parking are included with the massage. Cost: $195 for 60 minutes
Serenity Now These treatments are the perfect cure for stress and burnout.
Stretching
Kika Stretch Studios Morristown, Montclair, Short Hills, Summit, Westfield Gentle, assisted stretching can help alleviate muscle pain, tension and fatigue. During a one-on-one session, a trained Kika Stretch therapist will gently stretch you, using your center of gravity to release problem areas. Athletes and non-athletes report more flexibility and lowered stress levels after a session. Owner Kika Wise is a New Jersey native and former professional dancer who applies a dancer’s approach to stretching and fitness. Passive stretching done at the studio means the therapist does all the work and you relax! Cost: $80 for a 45-minute session
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Salt Therapy
Ashiatsu Massage
Relieve respiratory issues and skin conditions with the healing power of salt. Also known as halotherapy, this holistic healing treatment is contactless and allows you to sit in a private salt cave for 45 minutes with the lights dimmed. As you relax, or even nap, the salt particles are gently dispersed in the air around you. Breathing in the salt aerosol will help clear your sinuses, and the dry air can help relieve rashes and eczema. You’ll leave feeling well-rested and like you’ve spent a day at the beach. Cost: $35/session
This is a type of massage where the therapist uses overhead bars for support and balance while using gravity and their body weight to sink deeply into the muscle tissue using bare feet. Ashiatsu is a slower and more forceful type of deep tissue massage that uses the broad surface of the foot on large muscle groups and allows for deep but painless compressions. This treatment can help to reduce chronic pain, increase flexibility and reduce stress. Cost: $130 for a 60-minute session focusing on the back of the body, $170 for a 90-minute full body Ashiatsu massage, $210 for 2 hours.
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THE PROS AND CONS OF
Cosmetic Dentistry Read this before upgrading your pearly whites.
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huge impact on someone’s life. People don’t get how emotional it can be.” Good oral aesthetics not only boost self-esteem and social confidence, but also overall oral health. As we age, teeth suffer wear and tear: darkening, yellowing, chipping, cracking, shifting, crowding, erosion and decay. Improving their look can one-up their fitness and function, as well. “Straighter teeth in the right position are easier to maintain, and create a healthier environment in your mouth,” says Ed Romano, a 20+ year member of the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry (AACD) and former president of its New Jersey chapter. From bleaching to veneers, here’s the lowdown on the options:
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id Zoom make it clear that your smile was less than ideal? Or maybe you’ve always felt self-conscious about your teeth? Either way, we feel you. Thanks to cosmetic dentistry, the days of hiding your smile are numbered. Trained in the latest techniques, cosmetic dentists can restore integrity to damaged teeth or upgrade smiles to ones that light up a room. And while the beauty boost is real, so are the benefits to the body and mind. “I want to dispel the idea that cosmetic dentistry is superficial,” says Jerry Stahl, former president of the Greater New York Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry and a Fair Lawn-based dentist. “A decent smile has a
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WHITENING
For a quick pick-me-up—and the best bang for your cosmetic dentistry buck—you can’t beat bleaching, “as long as your teeth are fairly straight,” says Romano. Home brighteners like whitening strips, painton serums and LED-boosted tray systems will do the trick (albeit slowly over a few weeks), while an in-office laser treatment will lighten teeth several shades in an hour. Expectations need to be managed, though, since whitening teeth is an ongoing process requiring maintenance. Pros: Numerous options; noncommittal and noninvasive Cons: Doesn’t work for certain stains; can cause temperature sensitivity; must avoid certain foods and drinks like berries, red sauce and wine; requires continued upkeep
BONDING
Narrow gaps and chipped, broken teeth can look good as new with bonding, the application of porcelain or composite resin (a highdensity plastic) filling material matched to a tooth’s original enamel and dentin. “Composites can look great quickly,” says Romano, making it ideal for a quick fix, like a chipped tooth right before a big event. Durable, if not especially long-lasting (expect 5-7 years), bonding is ideal as a placeholder for a more permanent treatment. Pros: Teeth can often be fixed in one visit; relatively affordable ($400800 per tooth) Cons: Bonding stains over time and lasts only 1/3 as long as veneers
CROWNS
Unless you’ve been blessed by the tooth fairy, you probably already have at least one of these babies topping a damaged tooth. Traditionally customized in a lab to replace and improve the shape and function of original teeth, crowns and partials typically take two weeks or two appointments. Increasingly, however, they can now be fashioned affordably in office in about 90 minutes using 3-D imaging and a magical milling device that carves crowns out of a block of porcelain. Pros: Versatile; long-lasting; looks natural Cons: Requires reducing and shaping the healthy tooth; possible gum recession and sensitivity; color may not match teeth over time; insurance may not cover full cost
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VENEERS
If you want a dazzling starlet smile, you’ll need veneers. They’re thin porcelain or composite resin shells fitted and bonded to teeth in order to transform stained, chipped, crooked, worn, uneven or oddlyspaced chompers. There’s a price to pay for perfection, however, beyond the $800-2,000+ you’ll pay per tooth (four to eight are usually required for a makeover). Even though newer, thinner versions such as Lumineers allow dentists to be less aggressive, healthy teeth still need to be shaved down to make room for the shell, according to Romano. Given the cost and commitment, look for an AACD member with experience in occlusion since a poor bite will shorten your veneers’ lifetime (which can be as long as 20-25 years). Ask to see before and after pictures. The best veneers boast customized color, so if you see chalk-colored teeth, move on. Pros: A faster fix than braces; Hollywood-level perfection
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Cons: Expensive and irreversible, but don’t last forever; people who grind and clench teeth may need to wear a night guard
IMPLANTS
Implants are customized crowns that cover metal screws anchored in the jaw or skull bone. The two-part procedure (initial implants need several months to heal before the crown can be placed) is a bit of a haul, but nothing beats results in terms of natural looks, oral stability and facial structure support. Implants thwart facial sagging, bone loss and unflattering looks that come from missing teeth no longer supporting the structure of your face. Typically done only when medically necessary, they can also be used to provide superior support for dentures and bridges. Pros: A secure, natural-looking smile; improved long-term oral health; improved facial aesthetics Cons: Expensive; risk of infection; process can take several months
ORTHODONTIA
Are your teeth crooked despite spending your preteens in headgear? Aging can cause teeth to shift and crowd, requiring an orthodontic revisit. From conventional bracket-and-wire braces to removable clear aligners, options depend on the severity of spacing, crowding and bite issues. If straighter teeth are all you want and you don’t have major issues, Stahl suggests looking into short-term braces focused on aesthetics. Pros: Straight teeth; properly aligned bite; lasting (if retainer is worn) Cons: Expensive; typically requires at least a one-year commitment
PERIODONTAL SURGERY
Periodontists graft gum tissue to hide and protect recessed roots, sculpt gum lines into more pleasing, symmetrical shapes or excise tissue at the crown to make teeth appear longer. Called crown lengthening ($1,000-4,000 all in), the procedure can turn the clock back. “To a point, longer teeth, especially incisors, give the illusion of a more youthful smile,” says Stahl. Although most gum procedures require a periodontist, some cosmetic dentists can reshape minor asymmetries using a laser. Healthier gums are a happy side effect of making them prettier. Pros: A dramatic new look; healthier gums and teeth in an hour Cons: Post-surgical tenderness; risk of infection, sensitivity and postsurgery bleeding
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Stay Play These close-to-home spots are great destinations for staycation fun.
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American Dream
Camelback Resort
American Dream is the ultimate mix of shopping and fun experiences under one roof. Newly opened are the LEGOLAND Discovery Center, an indoor LEGO haven with an interactive ride and mini-NJ landmarks, SEA LIFE Aquarium, an underwater NYC with walk-thru tunnels, sharks and stingrays and TiLT museum, an interactive 3D art museum from Tracy Lee Stum. Other attractions include Big SNOW, a year-round indoor ski/snowboard park, DreamWorks Water Park, North America’s largest indoor water park and Nickelodeon Universe, a family-friendly indoor theme park along with two mini-golf courses, a mirror maze and an ice skating rink. Shopping standouts include JWoww’s new Heavenly Flower, trendy Primark or IT’SUGAR, which is a Willy Wonka fantasy come to life. (americandream.com)
This scenic resort is a popular family destination in the Poconos that has year-round fun, from skiing and the indoor water park Aquatopia in the winter, to the outdoor Camelbeach Waterpark in the summer, along with a host of zip lines, Segway tours, an awesome mountain coaster and a TreeTop Adventures course. This summer, the resort is launching a unique Sunbowl Tubing experience where the winter snow tubing park is transformed for summer fun. You’ll be able to hop in a tube, ride to the top of the mountain and slide down the lanes on water. Also new is the Adventure Zone area, which has a Euro Bungee experience and climbing wall, and Ultimate Terrain Vehicle guided tours of the mountain. Stay a day or two at the resort so you have time to explore it all. (camelbackresort.com)
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Crystal Springs Resort This stunning resort in Vernon is a great choice for your family getaway or your own restorative self-care vacation. Choose from one of two hotels, the Grand Cascades Lodge or Minerals Hotel, with indoor and outdoor pools, including the Biosphere Pool Complex, which will make you feel like you’ve landed on a tropical island and the Vista 180° Pool Complex, which boasts stellar mountain views. Dine at one of the beautiful on-site restaurants, or tour the wine cellar. Make time for treatments at one of two day spas, Elements and Reflections, where you can pamper yourself with a variety of massages, scrubs and facials. Go outdoors to try hiking, horseback riding, goat yoga or golfing. If the kids want more action, take them to nearby Mountain Creek for a host of adventures, including zip lines, mountain bike courses and more. (crystalgolfresort.com)
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New York Resort The much-anticipated LEGOLAND New York Resort is now open for visitors. So far, six of the seven lands are open to guests. With loads of rides, NINJAGO fun and a cool castle, this theme park won’t disappoint. The signature MINILAND, which features replicas of New York destinations, is a must. Kids can get their license at the LEGO City’s Jr. Driving School and don’t forget to take a factory tour. The new LEGOLAND is located in Goshen, NY and is a doable day trip. In the near future, you’ll be able to stay over at the LEGOLAND Hotel which will have themed rooms. (legoland.com/new-york)
New York City Broadway isn’t reopening until September, but the city is ready for business and full of fun. The Harry Potter flagship store just opened in the Flatiron district. This magical shop is home to the world’s largest HP and Fantastic Beasts collection and authentic props, 10,000 wands, unique photos ops and a Butterbeer Bar. Also open is the Immersive Van Gogh exhibit, which showcases oversized versions of the artist’s paintings projected on the walls so you can experience “The Starry Night” in a whole new way. And one of our favorite places to soak up history is the Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum complex. Recently reopened, visitors can explore the submarine Growler, the Space Shuttle Pavilion and more. (harrypottershop.com, vangoghnyc.com, intrepidmuseum.org)
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POWER NATURE The
11 NJ hikes to revitalize and restore your spirit
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These days, it’s all too easy to get stuck in an endless
cycle of worry, our thoughts consumed by things we can’t control. During the worst days of the pandemic, most of us were stuck at home interacting with technology at all hours of the day and night. Even now, if we don’t give ourselves a chance to decompress, all that time indoors on electronic devices can take a toll. Luckily, a powerful healing resource is widely available, and it’s free for the taking. An important form of self-care, immersion in nature revitalizes our overscheduled minds and weary souls. Spending time in the natural world is a way to counteract the effects of screen time and de-stress, a therapeutic buffer for the chaos of our modern world. With its numerous physical and mental health benefits, nature elevates our overall well-being. Research shows exposure to nature decreases anxiety and increases working memory and cognition, making it easier to manage the stress that life throws our way. By consciously connecting with nature, we open our senses to its calming energy, says Julia Scalise, Ph.D, a Margate-based holistic health practitioner and naturologist. 42
“Hiking in natural settings enhances not only physical well-being but emotional and physiological wellness as well,” Scalise says. “Many studies show improvements in blood pressure, immunity and mood all by spending time in nature. Most people express an increase in feelings of calm and joy.” To reap nature’s full benefits, slow down and pay deliberate, mindful attention to your surroundings, says Shannon Albarelli, Ph.D, a Summitbased clinical psychologist and certified mindfulness and meditation instructor. “In meditation, we speak about a ‘beginners mind,’ where you look at the world as if you were seeing it for the first time,” Albarelli says. “This is a great way to experience nature.” “Nature is innately healing in that it connects us to something larger than ourselves. It holds space for us to slow down and be in awe and wonder. I always feel more grounded and clearer after [walking] in nature,” she says. New Jersey is bursting with beautiful, easy-to-access outdoor hiking spots. The next time you’re in need of a mind-body refresh, check out one of these favorites.
MONMOUTH COUNTY PARK SYSTEM
Monmouth County A hilly, 794-acre site overlooking the Navesink River, this family-friendly coastal attraction is a popular hiking destination and historic district.
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Lewis Morris Park Morristown With 2,196 acres and over 22 miles of trails, the park boasts both open fields and wooded areas and is a popular hiking destination offering opportunites to recharge in beautiful, natural surroundings.
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Delaware Water Gap NJ and PA This 28-mile section of the Appalachian Trail located in the National Recreation Area provides visitors with opportunities for stunning views, wildlife sightings and hiking challenges.
Columbia Trail
Point Mountain Reservation
Morris / Hunterdon Counties If you prefer flat ground, this 16.5-mile trail from High Bridge to Washington Township is for you. Travel along the trail in restorative solitude while enjoying views of nearby farmland and the Raritan River.
Hunterdon County With four miles of trails near the Musconetcong River, Point Mountain is the third highest peak in Hunterdon County, offering stunning views of wetlands, streams, forests and fields.
D&R Canal State Park Trenton to New Brunswick A historic towpath along the Delaware and Raritan rivers, this 70-mile trail with combined natural and crushed stone surfaces serves as wildlife corridor connecting fields and forests.
Hacklebarney State Park
Round Valley Reservoir
Long Valley Attractions here include the freshwater Black River, which cascades around big boulders in a hemlock-lined ravine, as well as woodlands and trails perfect for hiking.
Lebanon Covering 2,350 acres and 180feet deep, Round Valley Reservoir is the second largest lake in New Jersey. Its four hiking trails are open year-round, passing through open and heavily wooded areas.
South Mountain Reservation Essex County Spanning 2,110 acres, this nature reserve is packed with hiking trails among the Watchung Mountains. Prepare to be impressed by breathtaking views, including a majestic waterfall.
Blueberry Hill Trail
Ken Lockwood Gorge
Gibbsboro The perfect place to wander in the woods and spot wildlife, this South Jersey trail system boasts hills, wetlands and woodlands. Paved trails make it easy to stay on track throughout your nature journey.
Lebanon Township Adjacent to the South Branch of the Raritan River, this spot is heralded by many as one of NJ’s most beautiful; Visitors can hike along an unpaved, car-free road parallel to the gorge next to the river.
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It’s festival season and with the end of many COVID restrictions, it’s back to a more normal summer of fun!
New Jersey Lottery Festival of Ballooning This massive balloon fest was grounded last summer, but now it’s back and launching bigger and better than ever at Solberg Airport in Readington. See 100 unique hot-air balloons in flight each day and listen to music from the Barenaked Ladies, Styx and Laurie Berkner. Get tickets at balloonfestival.com.
July 1-11
L.E.A.D. Fest
Mercer County Park will host this big festival that includes rides and games (you can get unlimited ride passes in advance), as well as and an agricultural farm with live animals. Get tickets at leadrugs.org.
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Keyport Fireman’s Fair June 18 – July 11
State Fair Meadowlands
This annual event features six days of summer fun, with games, carnival rides, face painting, funnel cakes and more. Head to campys.com for tickets.
For 24 days, this fair takes over the parking lot at MetLife Stadium in East Rutherford and fills it with 100 rides, tons of carnival games, live music, magic shows and all the fried food you can stomach. Get tickets at njfair.com.
July 9-11
New Jersey State Barbecue Championship
This annual music festival is held in conjunction with the Angelsea Blues Festival in North Wildwood. Come for the music and food which includes chicken, pork, brisket and other BBQ faves. Go to njbbq.com for details.
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New Jersey Beer Festival
The annual 21+ festival takes place on the deck of the Battleship New Jersey in Camden Harbor, filled with music, tours of the ship, food and more. Visit battleshipnewjersey.org for more info.
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All events are subject to cancellation and COVID restrictions so call ahead before heading out.
July 31 – August 7
83rd Warren County Farmers’ Fair and Balloon Festival
August 7
Watershed Butterfly Festival
This festival combines hot-air balloons and county fair fun, with animals, food and rides, and evening balloon launces. Visit warrencountyfarmersfair.org for info.
August 7-14
New Jersey State Fair The Sussex County Farm & Horse Show in Augusta is one of the biggest events of the summer. It has everything from dressage competitions to carnival rides and delicious foods to a monster truck show. Go to sussexcountyfairgrounds.org for details.
August 14-15
Annual Fireman’s Carnival
A fundraiser for the Chester Volunteer Fire Company, this carnival is a fun tradition with plenty of rides for the kids, plus food and music at Chubb Park. Fireworks night is usually part of the fun. Go to chestertownship.org.
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The 21st annual event in Hopewell Twp. will share the wonders of nature, and put the spotlight on beautiful butterflies. Dress in your wings, explore the butterfly chalk art gallery and learn about Mother Earth. Visit thewatershed.org for more details.
August 27-29
Michael Arnone’s Crawfish Fest
You’ll feel like you’ve traveled to Louisiana at this music and crawfish festival, which is usually a Memorial Day staple, but has been moved to later in the summer. Go for the day, or camp out and stay the whole weekend. Head to crawfishfest.com for more info.
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On July 4, we celebrate our independence, and that means fireworks, food and fun. Check ahead for rain dates, COVID protocols and more before heading out. Head to Battleship New Jersey on July 4 to watch fireworks over the Delaware. The deck opens at 7 pm, and as the fireworks light up the sky, there will be food and drinks to buy and you can bring a blanket to sit on the deck. Visit battleshipnewjersey.org for more info. Historic Cold Spring Village will celebrate Independence Day weekend July 3 & 4 with patriotic family fun, music and more. Don’t miss the reading of the Declaration of Independence at 12:30 pm. Check hcsv.org for more. Long Branch’s summer staple Oceanfest is cancelled, but the city’s fireworks celebration is a go on July 4. Visit Pier Village for shopping and food during the day, before fireworks light up the beach at night. Go to longbranchchamber.org for details. You don’t have to travel to Coney Island for a hot dog eating competition. Westfield Rocks the Fourth has events from July 2-4. Watch contestants stretch their stomachs on the 4th at Frank’s Franks competition. There’s also a kids zone filled with inflatables plus music and fireworks. Go to westfieldwelcome.com for details.
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