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Monogamy is it relevant?

Enlightenment to Intimacy

Vol. 3 Issue 1 august 2014

It’s a Party


the winner within

Finding Faith

by believing in yourself

Kenise Taylor

Jet magazine beauty of the week and a super model on the rise


The road to becoming authentic



It’s a celebration: Join the party

Welcome Back we missed you


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It’s a Party


the winner within

Kenise Taylor

Jet magazine beauty of the week and a super model on the rise

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fROM THE EDITOR Welcome Back!. I want to say that you have been missed. Over the last two years so much as happened. We look forward to bringing you more information on understanding intimacy and redefining sexuality. This welcome back issue is all about celebration. From the winner within with Jet magazine beauty of the week Kenise Taylor to IG port and visionary @_chrisclassic., We uplift the joy of life.

Editor In Chief

Nikeema Lee,

Art Director

Upscale Desires Design,


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Sales Office

Nikeema Lee (973) 531-7545

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He is a Classic @_chrisclassic IG: poet & visionary

22 Understanding intimacy

Finding Faith

by believing in yourself Postive energy is more powerful than negative energy


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redefinding sexuality

Authors corner

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What is blocking Love?

Postive energy is more powerful than negative energy

Lack of trust S

Finding faith by believing in yourself

Here are the 5 things you can do to rebuild your confidence in yourself

• Ground Yourself • Focus on the positive • Speak positive • Take a Break • Surround yourself with positive people

oon after I moved to Charlotte, NC to begin my career in radio, I began to doubt whether or not I could do the job. I often wondered if this was the right choice to make. I didn’t have a place in the city so I commuted 96 miles one way from Greenville, SC. I travelled back and forth 4 days a week in a car I leased from a friend. I had taken a chance on making this career move and was willing to do what it took to make

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it work. It just had to work. Boy was it hard to show up and deal with the unexpected work environment while working for a 20% commission of nothing for weeks on end. I noticed that I began to worry and stress about every little thing. From how I was going to put gas in the car to whether my children remember what I looked like. My thoughts began to wander to the dark side of questioning my abilities,

Understanding intimacy

When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” – Honore de Balzac” the same abilities that had landed me the job in the first place. I didn’t trust myself. I questioned myself and my decision. Let me explain something, losing control and trusting yourself are difficult things to do. Trust and acceptance - which go hand in hand, are the most powerful tools you have, it is the most potent energy available to you. When you have confidence - or, trust, within you, it produces a positive energy that quiets doubt, worry, fear and negative expectations. It has a

profound effect on you and others. But to trust yourself is also the most empowering decision that you can make. Just think what would happen, if you trusted all your choices and accepted all your decisions - you would be successful in just about everything you do. YES! Everything you do. Positive energy is more powerful than negative energy. Trusting yourself is a learned skill. It requires a deep understanding and acceptance of who you are and

what you represent. If I were to ask you, “what do you trust most about yourself?” How would you answer? The rule of thumb is if you don’t trust yourself, you don’t trust others. The reason you don’t trust yourself is because it’s a learned emotion, but the actions of others should not affect you. Trusting yourself is about allowing those around you to experience the real you. It’s about being authentic. Now - you must change it and choose to trust yourself and others. UD

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Authors corner


The road to becoming authentic Guidance on how to better one’s life and relationship(s) through selfreflection, honest communication, balance and dream building, is how I would describe this book. Readers will have the tools needed to make informed choices about themselves in order to determine the best direction to proceed with their current life and relationship situation. The Road to Becoming Authentic is a journey of SELF-DISCOVERY. It’s really just the beginning of what will be a cycle of beginnings and endings. This book comes with a playful theme. This imaginary trip reads as if you were on a voyage, making stops along the way. Know these stops are not detours but instead, collection and drop off points where exchanges will be made, items will be sold and opportunities will be purchased.

As the road before you unfolds, please take the time to look within and record your experiences. Take account of the points of interest, taking not just mental notes, but capture the moments that strike you emotionally and spiritually. Don’t let life weigh heavy on your heart, for change is only as close as you allow it to be. It will take you 30 Days to complete this book. Applying these principles to your daily life for the next 30 days will allow you to receive what you intend to have. 30 Days to Freedom: Becoming Authentic: Ultimate Guide to Falling in Love with the Real You is a traveler’s guide to breaking out of the emotional prisons we all have built for ourselves. Consider this a Get Out of Jail Free Card.


It’s a Party


the winner within

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Model: Kenise Taylor Photo: 7545 Photography MUA: Contour faces White crochet top from Greensboro Thrift Store

Kenise Taylor

Jet magazine beauty of the week and a super model on the rise

win路ner | win / r/ noun

: a very good or successful person or thing

If you believe in yourself and

have dedication and pride - and

never quit, you’ll be a winner. The

price of victory is high but so are

the rewards.

Paul Bryant

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From Henerson, NC to Jet Magazine beauty of the week. Kenise Taylor is blazing a trail with her unremarkable beauty. This experienced bikini and runway model is a winner.

You were born to win, but

to be a winner, you must

plan to win, prepare to

win, and expect to win.

Zig Ziglar

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redefinding sexuality

Monogamy is it relevant? Open Relationships, Open to the Public


hy are there so many blogs about open relationships? As I searched the realms of cyberspace I quickly encountered over 300 million listings on the subject. What is it about open relationship and being polygamous interest people? An open relationship is when two people want to be together but agree to a form of a polygamous relationship. What is polygamous? It is a marriage or relationship which includes more than two partners. This means that they agree that a romantic or sexual relationship with another person is accepted, permitted, or tolerated. Generally, the concept of an open relationship has been recognized since the 1970s. However within the

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last 5 years there has been a surge in the conversation sparked mainly but celebrities like Jade Pickett-Smith. She recently wrote an open letter stating that her relationship was open and grown. A related concept to open relationships is swinging, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swingers or what some call “being in the lifestyle”, engage in casual sex with others for a variety of reasons. For many, an advantage is the increased quality, quantity and frequency of sex. Whether it’s to garner a deeper connection with your partner or to feed ones sexual desires, many see open

relationships as a form of infidelity and

anyone who participates

as cheaters. An open relationship may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but for some couples, it’s the only way to go. Of course, there are rules and boundaries that need to be drawn up before any exploration can take place. Having mature and conscious understanding built into the foundation of your relationship gives any union the support its needs to maintain though the highs and low of multiply partnerships. In short, people like to do what they want, when they want and how

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why do men cheat top 10 questions

Published on Jul 10, 2014 The age old relationship question is answered. Intimate Relationship Coach Nikeema Lee explains it all. Top 10 relationship questions. check out

If you don’t like your mate seeing other people and they want to. You have a choice; leave and find what’s for you or stay and don’t complain. Life is too short to be unhappy. If someone you love also loves being with multiply partners, who are you to change them. Love is about acceptance. If your not willing to accept there desires, choose a different way of living. It’s OK. To give up on something that doesn’t bring you happiness.

For more Top 10 Questions , log on to www.

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Who is Nikeema Lee

Published on Oct 9, 2012 The Smile with TaNisha Fordham season 1, episode 1 about Love and Intimacy, special guest starring Nikeema Lee an intimacy coach with a powerful story and Candi Herbin a vocal performer. CONTACT US WITH YOUR THOUGHTS AND IDEAS: WEBSITE TWITTER @smilewtf and/or @tanishafordham FACEBOOK

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Celebrity couples such as Comedian Mo’Nique, actor and actresses Brad Pitt, Angela Joie, Will and Jada Pinkett Smith are know to have and support the idea of open marriage. Jada Pickett-Smith wrote an open letter that stated she and hubby (Will) communicate with each other and understand that they are in this marriage together and forever.

they want, why not let them. It’s not up to you to control the actions and desires of others. However is the reward worth the risk? Is having multiply orgasms and flattery worth opening up Pandora’s Box of pleasure? The answer to these questions lies in your ability to be honest with yourself and your partner. Always do what’s right for you and it will always be right for you. Here are a few tips to having and maintaining a healthy open relationship Be Honest

Know the rules

Understand special circumstances Keep an open mind

While an open relationship is outside the realm of most couples, it can work if done with compassion and understanding from both partners, and both are on the same page at all times. For many, sex does not equal love, and pursuing additional relationships can actually help an existing relationship grow stronger. UD

However, is the reward worth the risk? Is having multiply orgasms and flattery worth opening up Pandora’s Box of pleasure?

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The Summer Classic 3 groundbreaking Mobile Mixtape. available completely by phone 7/11/11 via QR scan or text to phone. @MrChrisClassic

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He is a Classic @_chrisclassic IG: poet & visionary How a chance encounter on Instagram help enlighten my perspective on love, cloud and the single life...

-Stop creating scorned untrusting people. There wont be any to complain about. Had to post this. This is the last #classicbeknowin post for awhile”

Chris Classic, recording artist, executive producer and senior writer at DeeTown Entertainment in New York City. He has written, recorded and licensed countless titles for Film, Television and Advertising. Received his start from legendary hip hop pioneers Run DMC in 1999. Connected with film music mogul Ali Dee Theodore in 2002 to become an expert in creating custom music for music supervisors and film producers. Classic and the DeeTown team won the American Music Award for Best Soundtrack in 2008 for writing and producing the Alvin & The Chipmunks Soundtrack and score. He divides his time between his son, his music, fascination with clouds, instagram and single malt scotch. - IMDb Mini Biography By: Chris Classic I know Chris Classic, actually I don’t know him. I ran across his Continue on pg 27

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5 paths to love

Lessons that open your heart to recieve unconditional love -(excepts from 7 Love Blocks)


trust people with an open heart live in the moment believe in yourself trust your judgement seek love with an open mind

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Trust people

When people tell you that they love you, believe them. Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to accept the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of their love for you because you are afraid that they do not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do. It also might push them away from you, so that if you change your mind it may be too late. Let love in and don’t block it.


Simply open your heart, live in the moment and cherish the fact that other people care so deeply about you that you are connected needed, wanted, and included in the affairs and lives

of others. Being open and receptive to the love from others can be learned with practice, provided you don’t let cynicism and toughness take over. Let down some of those defenses and pride and let others know that you enjoy their deep care and support for you. And forget about keeping score; love others even if it is not reciprocated. As one large human family, it keeps going around and we receive it back again anyway.


Beware the voices of societal negativity.


Show love.

Social conditioning has a habit of making us feel wary of being effusive about and openly accepting of compliments, generosity, caring, and kind acts, lest we are seen as greedy, prideful, or selfish. Do not push aside the caring, wonderful things people have to say about you just because of such negative overlays; be appreciative and embracing of the love given out by others in all its forms. To do otherwise is to block the receipt of love.

Receiving the love is also about having love within you. Kiss your spouse and children, hug your friends, compliment your colleagues, and say friendly and complimentary items to the grocery store clerks. Do this regularly.


Watch the experts at receiving love.

Children are expert at receiving love because they believe what said ... is. What is also natural is that being able to receive love creates a balance in which you give and receive in equal measure. Take note of how children manage this beautifully - they ask for help when needed, they give help when asked. They offer compliments without a thought, and they accept at face value the compliments that they are given. Re-learning what was once innate for you can restore a lot of happiness and trust in your life. UD

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coming soon

Make Fetch Happen, The Go Getter’s Guide to Greatness is the newest book from Author & Everyone’s Favorite Intimate Relationship Coach Nikeema Lee. Remember the movie Means Girls? The character Gretchen tried really hard throughout the movie to make the word “Fetch” the newest catch phrase. She repeatedly tried to use the word to describe the mood or circumstance. Working the word into conversation, “that’s so fetch.” Until finally they told her to stop trying to make Fetch happen. STOP TRYING TO MAKE FETCH HAPPEN.

Author Nikeema T. Lee M.S. is an Intimate Relationships Coach, Author, & former WGIV 103.3 FM Morning Show Host in Charlotte, NC. Nikeema Lee focuses her energy on coaching people on how to LOVE themselves. She is a beacon of insight on self-love and reconnection. Nikeema aids many to self-discovery of the internal hurdles that prevent many from making intimate connections in relationships, by helping many to get in touch with their true Authentic selves

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Often in life we are told to stop trying to make things happen. We are told to expect things as they are and stop going against the status quo. Its frowned upon anyone who chooses to try and make things happen for themselves. In the face of backlash and ridicule the Go Getter never backs down from life. They tend to take life head on and look for moments to win at all cost. Becoming a successful Go Getter, I believe, takes a few key principles that will lead to Greatness. Each one of us tries to make something out of nothing. We often look to be the first to create a new “catch phrase” or in the case of our lives, a new path. We seek to find a new way to explain why our lives mean something. We strive to provide the world with a purpose. We wish to “Make Fetch Happen.” I’ve often wondered, “Why Gretchen couldn’t make Fetch happen?” Why we can’t make Fetch happen in our own lives? Make FETCH Happen, The Go Getter’s Guide to Greatness answers that question for me. I hope that it will do the same for you. Contact Information Nikeema Lee, MS | Twitter @NikeemaLee | IG @Nikeemalee For Booking (973) 531-7545 | |

A coke and a smile #classicsmile

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IG (Instagram) account earlier this year and simply for a lack of a better term fell in love. Well not really in love but I have developed a place for him and we have never meet. Chris, according to his IG post, shows himself as this strong but gentle man that can have any woman he wants. Its his relaxed yet direct approach that I believe woman find attractive. Post after post @_chrisclassic reminds ladies to be queens mixed with a little freak and men to be kings in the struggle to find their voice. From notable friends and family, he shares he love for his son Juju, food, women and clouds.

The hashtag #classiccloud, shows his artistic eye. Don’t believe me, check it out yourself. This month we celebrate @mrchrisclassic (twitter). I am inspired by this man who loves his son, a great meal, a soft pair of thighs and himself all in the same breath. He is a man who doesn’t mind standing up for what he believes in. But also is wise enough to be silent when he doesn’t know the answer. He has perfect imperfections. We celebrate his CLASSIC. UD

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