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ENLIGHTENMENT TO INTIMACY

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REASONS TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE RIGHT THIS SECOND THE

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15 Reasons to Build Your Confidence You’re going to have to build your confidence, if you want to have an extraordinary relationship.

Get 3 reason to change NOW!!!

18 The Seven Best ways to make love to Yourself The idea of self-pleasure never felt this good.

20 How to Balance your Vagina A women’s vagina is a precious gift not to be taken for granted, as it is what makes a woman a WOMBman!

23 My Daily Orgasm You can achieve an orgasm...DAILY!!!

Hedonism II breaks the boundaries of other

nudist resorts. Here, there’s never too much of a good thing. People travel from far and wide to live out their fantasies and escape all inhibition. Leave the mundane dayto-day behind, explore yourself as you explore the spectacular environment of Negril, Jamaica.

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Motivational

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Relationship

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Inspirational

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Sexuality

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partner you can explore the realms of what spiritual sex has to offer.

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hen relationships become routine and you become comfortable with your partner, many people believe that your relationship is now set and no further action is required in order to maintain a happy union.

Unfortunately, in order to have a long healthy, well balance sexual relationship, one must continuously contribute. Whether it’s through developing mature communication or finding new ways to do old tricks, you have to put in the work. Growing up sexually will require you to define what intimacy is and how it relates to you. Finally once you truly understand yourself and your

In our November/December issue we explore unique and interesting ways to turn on the passion jets in your relationship. Our First Desires recognize the first step to developing, maintaining and enhancing your self-esteem.

Throughout this issue we aim to touch, spark and enlighten the unlimited possibilities of better your relationship.

Returning contributor “The Relationship Master” Michael Santonato and newcomer Certified Holistic Health Practitioner Angela Elizabeth MS gives us ground breaking insight on how men can build their confidence and women can balance their vaginas.

Finally we visit the legendary adult playground, Hedonism II in Jamaica. This Caribbean hotspot lets us in on the secrets on why so many visit year after year. Enjoy!

UPSCALE READING & LEARNING

Outwitting the Devil is a book that was written

by Napoleon Hill and annotated by Sharon Lechter. It was originally written in 1938 by Hill, but was said to be too controversial to be published during that time period. Later released

by Sterling Publishing in June, 2011, the book is

an interview between Hill (Mr. Earthbound) and The Devil (Your Majesty).

Hill uncovers the secrets to freedom and success by evaluating the greatest obstacles that humans face in order to attain their personal goals in life.

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Self-Awareness Caring about you is the first step you can take to developing, maintaining and enhancing your self-esteem. That’s right I said self-esteem. How you feel about yourself is a direct reflection on how you will behave sexually. If you feel over weight and don’t like the way your skin feels you will be more reluctant to be naked in front of your partner or allow them to freely explore your body. Great sex starts with you.

Developing a good relationship with you is essential to an amazing sex life. Many simple steps can be taking to improve your self image.

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Author’s Corner PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT NAPOLEON HILL

(October 26, 1883 – November 8, 1970) was an American author in the area of the new thought movement who was one of the earliest producers of the modern genre of personalsuccess literature. He is widely considered to be one of the great writers on success. His most famous work, Think and Grow Rich (1937), is one of the best-selling books of all time (at the time of Hill’s death in 1970, Think and Grow Rich had sold

At Andrew Carnegie’s bidding, Hill studied the characteristics of these achievers and developed 16 “laws” of success meant to be applied by people to achieve success. Think and Grow Rich condenses these laws further and provides the reader with 13 principles in the form of a philosophy of personal achievement.

International Speaker Mark Victor Hansen says time has proven 2 of the laws/principles to be most important:

The MasterMind principle/process & Know very clearly where you want to go.

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The 13 Success Principles

1. Desire 2. Faith 3. Auto-suggestion 4. Specialized Knowledge 5. Imagination 6. Organized Planning 7. Decision 8. Persistence 9. Power of the Master Mind 10. The Mystery of Sex Transmutation 11. The Subconscious Mind 12. The Brain 13. The Sixth Sense

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The text of Think and Grow Rich is founded on Hill’s earlier work The Law of Success, the result of more than twenty years of research based on Hill’s close association with a large number of individuals who achieved great wealth during their lifetimes.

20 million copies). Hill’s works examined the power of personal beliefs, and the role they play in personal success. He became an advisor to President Franklin D. Roosevelt from 1933 to 1936.

“Anything the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can be achieved,” is one of Hill’s hallmark expressions. How achievement actually occurs, and a formula for it that puts success in reach of the average person, were the focal points of Hill’s books.

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Reasons to Build Your Confidence RIGHT THIS SECOND

ou’re going to have to yourself. If you can’t handle yourself here, well, you’re missing build your confidence, out on a major opportunity to if you want to have experience something amazing an extraordinary about yourself and your partner. relationship. Otherwise you can Confidence makes sex better. count on your relationship being totally ordinary, most people.

3. Meeting and being with your Confidence is super important in partner’s family - I saved the best many areas of life, but we’ll look at reason to build your confidence three reasons to build it right now for last. You’re always a little for your relationships. anxious and stressed at the first and future family meetings, aren’t you? You know it’s important 1. Confidence is uber attractive – to your partner. And a big part When you’re starting out and of that is how you talk to their you’re beginning to date someone, family. How you come across, what’s going to keep them around and how you convey your overall is your confidence level. No one awesomeness to them. Why? wants to be with someone who is Because they want their parents filled with self doubt, and regret. to see what they see in you.

It isn’t attractive. Especially Because you know they’re going if you’re using The Organic to be nervous about it. So be your Method of Dating which you can best self and let your confidence learn more about over at www. show! If all goes well, you and upscaledesires.com your partner (and their parents) will breathe a deep sigh of relief.

2. In the bedroom – There are two And who knows, you might kinds of sex in the bedroom. get a little extra love from your Making love and the other one partner for taking the weight off that starts with an F. Yes, you and shining as the bright shiny know the one I mean. And confident star that you are. there is a time and a place for both. Sometimes you’ll do one and sometimes you’ll do the other. But both of them require you to be confident and to be

MICHAEL SANTONATO is the founder of The Organic Method of Dating. The Organic Method is a fun way for singles to learn how to meet each other easily and effortlessly while they’re living their life, and going about their day. It’s an alternative to Online Dating which doesn’t work for millions of singles, and leads to horror stories and bad experiences in dating. Michael is the co-author of the International Amazon Best Seller “Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life” and “Single & Stuck: Three Massive Mistakes Women Make in Their 30’s”. Michael is an often called upon Host, Emcee, and Speaker for Dating Events and Relationship Debate Panels in the city of Toronto. To learn more about The Organic Method of Dating visit www.UpscaleDesires.com

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Inspiration

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hen you judge the messenger, you miss the message.

– @nikeemalee.

Everyday we are given the answers to our deepest desires. Whether loud and clear and quiet and subtle, the answer is always there.

Take time to focus on the message and not the messenger. Allow for that still small voice to guide you to your ultimate on-purpose life.

Believe in the power of the words that speak to your soul. Take no discord with the package, just receive the gift.

30 Days to Freedom: Becoming Authentic

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Sexual Healing THE

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elf -pleasure is good for you and is considered to have actual health benefits.

Self-pleasure is great ; you get to do it by yourself, on your own terms, you can also experiment to find out what you like and what turns you on. Unfortunately growing up many people are raised with little information about our genitals and sex. Self-pleasuring does not really come naturally for everyone. The secret to bringing each person to orgasm is different.

Women can climax through clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation. There is no wrong way to self-pleasure we are all different.

Here, in this article we will just try and point you in the right direction ladies.

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Setting the mood

If you are going to get the most from the experience you must give yourself plenty of time.

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I would advise that you give yourself at least half an hour. Get yourself in a relaxed mood; take a bath or pour yourself a generous glass of wine.

It is as much about state of mind as it is about technique ladies. Next make sure that you can’t be disturbed. That means turning off the mobile/ cell, locking the door and if you have children send them round a neighbors. Then get yourself in a position you feel comfortable and relaxed in.

Women generally start out on their backs, legs bent and spread apart, with their feet on the ground.

Make sure that you have plenty of support and cushioning.

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Fantasize/romanticize for self-pleasure

This is your alone time and recalling a past sexual encounter or elaborate on a favorite sexual fantasy can really set the mood. If you need a little of bit of help getting started then read an erotic story, look at a sexy publication or even indulge

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in a bit of adult entertainment. Ladies this is you time anything goes as long as it get the pulse racing.

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Explore all parts of your body

Experiment and run your hands all over your body and if some thing feels good then linger there and just enjoy the feeling it creates. Look at your genitals in a mirror (especially if you are unfamiliar with it) and caress the different parts to see what feels good to you. There are the inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.

Ladies get those fingers working; use one or two fingers and start to stoke different parts of you vulva and remembering to stimulate your clitoris and labia. Find the rhythm that works for you this means experimenting with pressure, speed and motion. I suggest placing fingers either side of the clitoris and stoking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion.

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Life is about surprises

Unless you are willing to open up your mind girls and let yourself be comfortable with your own skin and trying everything you will not get the most from your own body. When self-pleasuring try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead or why not even try gently pulling your genitals. Anything goes ladies. Use one or several fingers, the palm of the hand even your knuckles. Don’t be afraid it will only take you to a better place.

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It is a long and winding road

The thought of reaching that climax is all part of the fun. The thought of riding the wave will build the anticipation. You can add to that by enhancing the excitement yourselves girls. Learn to hold on to your sexual excitement by building up and then reducing temporarily the stimulus. Listen to what your body is telling you. Your own body will tell you when you have

the right tempo or when a certain tickle feels good.

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Remain relaxed

As the sexual energy starts to build it is critical to let it take you and not to fight it. Breathing deeply rather than holding your breath will help as will rocking your pelvis as in intercourse will help. I would also suggest rhythmically clenching and releasing your PC muscle (if you are looking for vaginal penetration then a dildo will help).

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Ride the wave

When the climax starts please continue to stimulate through the orgasm. The body starts to get more sensitive so lighten up during those first receptive seconds but keep going to enjoy the pleasurable aftershocks. The first orgasm may feel like a blip or an explosion however the more you practice the more range you will develop and understand.

Self-pleasuring is obviously a very personnel thing. It is something to be embraced and with practiced will only lead to a better orgasm as you find what works for you. Experimentation through self-pleasure will not only lead to personnel self-satisfaction but can only benefit your sex life as you work out what you like and then pass on that information to your partner.

“It’s amazing but a lot of women really don’t know their own bodies at all.” @nikeemalee

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HOW TO BALANCE YOUR

VAGINA

By Angela Elizabeth MS, CHHP

A women’s vagina is a precious gift not to be taken for granted, as it is what makes a woman a WOMBman! Unfortunately many women do not give their vagina’s the attention it deserves until something goes wrong. Many times, the “attention” given is subpar, only focusing the “symptoms” of an imbalance and not the deeper causative factors. We will delve into the top 3 women’s vaginal health complaints, and provide natural holistic health solutions to relieve, and release the causative factors of these issues.

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Goddess Body

Angela Elizabeth MS, CHHP is owner & creatress of Goddess Body Wellness www.GoddessBody.org Check out her story at www.UpscaleDesires.com

Painful Menses:

After puberty, a woman should experience her menstrual period every 28 days, approximately once a month, for 3-5 days. This may include some very minor cramping while the endometrium lining is being shed, more so the 1st 1 or 2 days. If a woman experiences intense pain during her period she is headed down the path of uterine ailments (fibroids, cyst, uterine prolapse etc.). Your period should not be some painful event that you hate to experience. Hating any aspect of your natural self, leads to stagnation, and destruction of health and well-being. This pain as a SIGN that something is imbalanced and needs to be rectified. Taking pain killers only mask the problem, making the issue worst overtime.

Some holistic natural solutions to relive the pain are herbal teas that include raspberry leaf alone or combined with: black cohosh, red clover, hibiscus, chaste berry, cramp bark, feverfew , and wild yam root. These herbs will help to not only relieve the pain but will help to release toxicity pent up in the uterine tissues and help the body to rectify hormonal imbalances that cause the pain to exist. Toxicity was likely introduced by unhealthy dietary habits, environments, and negative mental and emotional states and/or trauma. The most effective option to relieve pain indefinitely is to CLEANSE your body ( 2 to 4 times yearly) with a FEMALE based herbal detox system that also institutes a healthy dietary change to catalyze the effects of the herbs and maximize the results of your body to heal itself of womb imbalances. The Goddess Body CleanseTM Women’s herbal detox system, available on www.GoddessBody.org will do just that and also provides many other wonderful benefits!

Foul Vaginal Odor:

The nectar of a women’s vagina should range between a mildly sweet aroma to no scent at all depending on her biological makeup. Any scent far outside of that i.e. sour, fishy, sulphuric (think rotten eggs) etc., is a symptom of an imbalance occurring inside her body manifesting itself outward. Foul odor could be a sign of unhealthy diet (diets excessively high in meats, acids &/or sugar),Yeast or other bacterial buildup, UTI, STI or STD. Utilizing toxic OTC concoctions, again only masks the bigger issue.

A topical and internal vaginal solution called Yoni OilTM can be used to help with this issue. Yoni is the Sanskrit word meaning vagina, or womb. Yoni OilTM is a natural oil that includes plant based ingredients that work to balance viral and bacterial colonies, tone the vaginal walls, rectify the pH of the vagina, and prevent over buildup of bacterial organisms. It can be used both externally on top of the vagina and under labia or internally for daily maintenance or minor infections. The Goddess Body CleanseTM mentioned above will also help to re-set your vagina chemistry from inside out if this is a re-occurring issue. If you wish not to cleanse be sure to at least eliminate sugary and processed foods like candy bars, pies, cakes, breads, white rice, & pastas and replace with higher fresh fruit & veggie intake.

Loose Vaginal Walls:

The vagina contains muscle lining that allows the walls to expand and contract as needed. Many women find that after vaginal childbirth(s), or encounters with well-endowed men over time, has caused them to lose the elasticity of these muscle fibers. Like any other muscle in the body, it can be trained to regain its ability to contract harder, and remain tighter with time, consistency and natural aids.

Natural effective solutions for tightening and strengthening vaginal walls include weighted kegels, which involves the use of a yoni egg (also available on www.GoddessBody. org). Yoni eggs, also known are non-porous egg-shaped genuine gemstones! You cleanse them, insert them into your vagina, and perform a series of squeezing and releasing for 5-10minutes daily! This daily practice will serve to tighten vaginal canal overtime, increase blood flow yielding a more heightened sexual experience for you and your partner, cleanse stagnant blood from your vagina, and tones the womb and lower abdomen! The Yoni OilTM mentioned above will also help to tighten vaginal walls and may be used in conjunction with your yoni egg! I would also recommend to do at least 20-50 squats daily, with weights, as well as limiting sexual activity to 3x a week or less if possible while building your sexual kung foo practice.

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MY DAILY ORGASM

rgasm

(from Greek /ργασμός orgasmos “excitement, swelling”; also sexual climax) is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure. Experienced by males and females, orgasms are controlled by the involuntary or autonomic nervous system. They are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation and, frequently, body movements and vocalizations are expressed. The period after orgasm (known as a refractory period) is often a relaxing experience, attributed to the release of the neurohormones oxytocin and prolactin, as well as endorphins (or “endogenous morphine”).

Human orgasms usually result from physical sexual stimulation of the penis in males (typically accompanying ejaculation), and the clitoris in females. Sexual stimulation can be by self-practice (masturbation) or with a sex partner (penetrative sex, non-penetrative sex, or other sexual activity). Blah, blah, blah,

What I know as true is ORGASMS allow you to feel good, the chemical release is essential to healthy living and it is a way to break through the skin of life to its divine essence.

Can I achieve an orgasm daily?

YES, by climaxing in the state of the orgasm. The euphoric feeling and rush of sensory overload gives you a sense of out-of-body experience. The high can be duplicated just but enhancing the thoughts of your mind. When you allow you thoughts to be fixed on the pleasure it will yield to you the ORGASM. Daily Exercise • Drink Water: at least double your weight in ounces • Stretch: simple basic stretches to loosen your muscles or for the more advance yoga. This helps your body become more receptive to the intense flow of energy that is released.

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SELF-DISCOVERY

THE ROAD TO BECOMING AUTHENTIC Guidance on how to better one’s life and relationship(s) through selfreflection, honest communication, balance and dream building, is how I would describe this book. Readers will have the tools needed to make informed choices about themselves in order to determine the best direction to proceed with their current life and relationship situation.

The Road to Becoming Authentic is a journey of SELF-DISCOVERY. It’s really just the beginning of what will be a cycle of beginnings and endings.

This book comes with a playful theme. This imaginary trip reads as if you were on a voyage, making stops along the way. Know these stops are not detours but instead, collection and drop off points where exchanges will be made, items will be sold and opportunities will be purchased.

As the road before you unfolds, please take the time to look within and record your experiences. Take

account of the points of interest, taking not just mental notes, but capture the moments that strike you emotionally and spiritually.

Don’t let life weigh heavy on your heart, for change is only as close as you allow it to be. It will take you 30 Days to complete this book. Applying these principles to your daily life for the next 30 days will allow you to receive what you intend to have.

30 Days to Freedom: Becoming Authentic: Ultimate Guide to Falling in Love with the Real You is a traveler’s guide to breaking out of the emotional prisons we all have built for ourselves. Consider this a Get Out of Jail Free Card.

ALL ROADS LEAD TO BETTER ORGASMS

Definition: he·don·ism Noun /hēdn/iz/m/ 1. The pursuit of pleasure. 2. The ethical theory that pleasure is the highest good and proper aim of human life.

Everything You’ve Heard Is True The rumors, the legends, the myths are all true. For more than 30 years, Hedonism clothing optional resorts have enjoyed a reputation for shattering inhibitions and provoking the kind of behavior people don’t talk about in polite circles. It’s what happens when you combine warm water, a white-sand beach, open bars, and open minds.

Our lifestyle resort is about as far as you can get from your everyday life. And best of all, just about everything you can eat, drink, and do is included.

Sooner or later, it’s gonna happen.

The primal urge to just let go, unwind, and unplug.

Hedonism II on world-famous Negril Beach of Negril, Jamaica was created as a reward for all those times you’ve had to deny your basic instincts. In these lush gardens of pure pleasure, the word “no” is seldom heard.

After a week at Hedonism II, you’ll view the world from a slightly different angle. You’ll be tanned and relaxed, and at times you’ll find yourself smiling for no reason whatsoever. Hedonism II, unlike all other clothing optional resorts.

ADULT PLAYGROUND PARADISE

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K… here is the truth. Everything you’ve heard isn’t absolutely true about this Adult Playground Paradise. Yes you will have the time of your life and yes you can leave all your cares and worries behind. But there is something more surprising in store.

ENJOYMENT! PURE UNINTERRUPTED ENJOYMENT Imagine arriving to one of the most beautiful islands in the world and being welcomed by a friendly face. Imagine a cool drink by the pool and an exotic woman dressed as your favorite fantasy? Well envision that entire scene and more.

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Hedonism II offers much more than naked and prude beaches and top shelf all you can drink cocktails. They promise enjoyment. Hedonism delivers a powerful punch of entertainment and luxury. It’s a non-stop ride that’s only limited by your very own imagination.

Come for the debauchery but come back for the laughs, friends and memories.

I say that to experience Hedonism II is not by reading the words on this page but rather soaking up the rays of a Jamaican sun while sipping a ice cold Appleton Rum cocktail.

What Guest are Saying “FIRST TIME TO HEDO II - EXCEEDED EXPECTATIONS!” “….One big draw for this resort is the water sport activities for no extra charges. Many repeat guests did Scuba dives everyday from the resort, and I went out at least 3 times a day on the 16 foot Hobie Cat with jib sail (they also had three 14 foot single sail Hobie cats). You can also enjoy stand up paddle board, twice daily snorkel trips, and sea kayaks.” - WebMonkey54, Oct. 26, 2014

“WE DON’T WANT TO VACATION ANYWHERE

ELSE!”

“From the moment we arrived, we loved Hedo! The food was great EVERYWHERE! You could never go hungry…Love it here! Can’t wait to come back and be nekkid with everyone! Be sure to bring money to buy a rock and have a wooden sign made; they are awesome mementos.” – clmagic, Oct. 17, 2014

“GREAT PLACE TO VACATION” CanadianCouple69, Oct. 17, 2014

“… There are many other places to stay in Negril but none have the warmth, kindness and lust for life that occurs on a daily basis at Hedonism II. Staff members like Serena, Lorna, Paulette and Winston make your vacation dreams come true with stellar service and really go out of the way to ensure guests are having a great time. If you plan to go away and leave the kids at home - consider a stay at Hedonism. This is the adult’s version of Disney World….” MMMATL2014, Oct.23, 2014

“hello this was my first trip to hedo....i was a little afraid at first.” – “I got over that real fast. My companion had been there more than he had fingers and toes. I had never experience a resort of this magnitude. I was over whelmed and overly excited. I won a few contest too....the whole experience was wowwowwow!!!!! I can’t wait to get there again…” – loreedix, Sept. 27, 2014

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ach of us has five significant parts in our lives. We have the physical, the emotional, the mental, the social, and the spiritual. All five of these parts are designed to work together in harmony. In our search for intimacy we want the solution today, or yesterday.

One of our problems is that we want “instant” gratification. When the need for intimacy in a relationship is not met, we look for an “instant” solution. Where do we look? Physical, mental, social, emotional or spiritual? It’s the physical. It is easier to be physically intimate with someone than to be intimate in any of the other four areas. You can become physically intimate with a person of the opposite sex in an hour, or halfhour -- it just depends upon the urge! But you soon discover that sex may only be a temporary relief for a superficial desire. There is a much deeper need that is still unmet.

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What do you do when the thrill wears off and the more you have sex, the less you like it? All across America, men and women are searching for intimacy, going from one relationship to another hoping, “This time will be it. This time I am going to find a relationship that will last.”

I believe that what we really want is not better sex. What we really want is true intimacy.

-Nikeema Lee Editor-in-Chief

COMING SOON

Make Fetch Happen, The Go Getter’s Guide to Greatness is the newest book from Author & Everyone’s Favorite Intimate Relationship Coach Nikeema Lee. Remember the movie Means Girls? The character Gretchen tried really hard throughout the movie to make the word “Fetch” the newest catch phrase. She repeatedly tried to use the word to describe the mood or circumstance. Working the word into conversation, “that’s so fetch.” Until finally they told her to stop trying to make Fetch happen. STOP TRYING TO MAKE FETCH HAPPEN.

Author Nikeema T. Lee M.S. is an Intimate Relationships Coach, Author, & former WGIV 103.3 FM Morning Show Host in Charlotte, NC. Nikeema Lee focuses her energy on coaching people on how to LOVE themselves. She is a beacon of insight on self-love and reconnection. Nikeema aids many to self-discovery of the internal hurdles that prevent many from making intimate connections in relationships, by helping many to get in touch with their true Authentic selves

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Often in life we are told to stop trying to make things happen. We are told to expect things as they are and stop going against the status quo. Its frowned upon anyone who chooses to try and make things happen for themselves. In the face of backlash and ridicule the Go Getter never backs down from life. They tend to take life head on and look for moments to win at all cost. Becoming a successful Go Getter, I believe, takes a few key principles that will lead to Greatness.

Each one of us tries to make something out of nothing. We often look to be the first to create a new “catch phrase” or in the case of our lives, a new path. We seek to find a new way to explain why our lives mean something. We strive to provide the world with a purpose. We wish to “Make Fetch Happen.” I’ve often wondered, “Why Gretchen couldn’t make Fetch happen?” Why we can’t make Fetch happen in our own lives? Make FETCH Happen, The Go Getter’s Guide to Greatness answers that question for me. I hope that it will do the same for you.

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