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Vol. 24 • December 2013

INSIDE THIS ISSUE • Six Ways to Have a Jolly Holiday in Florida • Veterans Corner • Mid Life Crisis- No Sports Car Needed

Lifestyles After 50 • December 2013 • page 2

Sleigh Bells Ring and We’re Listening—Together Dear Readers,


um it, sing it or just nod your head as the music plays “Sleigh Bells Ring” or “The First Noel. ” Like most Janice Doyle, of the old Christmas Editor songs and carols, they are familiar within the first few notes. These are songs of the season, a part of our common culture. For decades Christmas carols and songs have started filling the air before we finished off the Halloween candy. We may not admit it, but we welcome the return of seasonal music, even if the calendar says we have several weeks to go before Dec. 25, because we crave the sense of community the songs bring. The songs are a part of cultural rituals we are drawn toward. Whether your favorite holiday song features a warbling chorus of Peanuts characters accompanied by a toy piano or a pitch-perfect boys’ choir accompanied by a Steinway, the songs of the season have a way of bringing us together, particularly in Western culture, says Jeffrey Sharkey, Director of the Peabody Institute at The Johns Hopkins University. Carols have a particular place in people’s hearts because they are one of the rituals of the season. Maybe one of the most important rituals, it turns out. Sharkey says, “We take comfort in ritual, in hearing familiar songs, familiar melodies expressing familiar sentiments at a particular time of

year. It is something that both brings us together and binds us together.” Ask Dr. Ruth Westheimer, iconic radio sex therapist, about the binding quality of common music. In a seminar about Jewish music, I heard her relate the story of her childhood when her father was taken away by SS soldiers at age 10. Her mother and grandmother, realizing the dangers in Germany, put the young Ruth aboard an evacuation train full of children headed for Switzerland. On that train filled with children newly ripped from their families, the young Ruth took charge. She said she realized the one way to bring them together was to sing their common songs. So she began singing the songs they had learned at school. One by one the children of all ages stopped crying and began singing along, even as the train took them farther away from families. Singing together the familiar songs served to fill them with courage to face the unknown that lay ahead. How is it that familiar songs bind us together? Songs like “Silent Night” and “Deck the Halls” are anchors to our past experiences. They provide guideposts for the season. Hearing those first few familiar notes of “Joy to the World” frees us up to recognize the season and enjoy a common set of memories. Researchers say singing and listening to familiar songs creates a synergy with others, an “acting out” of familiar thoughts or beliefs. As

we share in hearing or singing our common holiday songs, we feel a sense of belonging to community, to a larger circle of people.

Lee, Collier & Charlotte Edition Published monthly by News Connection U.S.A., Inc General Manager Dave Tarantul Publisher/Director of Events & Marketing Kathy J. Beck Editor Janice Doyle Office Manager Vicki Willis

Today schools and offices and communities are cowering under threats tied to the traditions and rituals of American Christmas. We are told that someone might be offended by a song or something with the word Christmas in it. Traditionally, Americans heard the same songs on the radio and TV as well as at school, church, club meetings and community gatherings. No longer. We are losing a common bond and a cultural identity that serves a good purpose, the very thing young Dr. Ruth Westheimer understood amid a trainload of frightened children. In a world of fast changes and commercialism, it seems we might need the common music of the season more than ever. Be sure you find a way to share those traditional carols and songs! Sing out!

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These Women Prove That “Tennis is a Lifetime Sport” BY ANN SMITH


e have 19 ladies in that group and they give it everything they have,” says Linda Kleitch, Local Leagues Coordinator for Collier Tennis. She’s speaking about two over-70 age women’s teams and says, “They have a greater love of the game than a younger group and appreciate what it can do for them healthwise.” The oldest player in the League is 95. The others range from 70 up; all have played before, some more than others. They play in the USTA Women’s 70’s, 4.0 League in teams from Sterling Oaks and Longshore Lake Tennis Clubs which play at Longshore Lake Tennis Club. Pat Bova didn’t start playing tennis until her youngest child turned two. She says, “Since the beginning, it has been my passion. I was a faithful wife, a doting parent (now grandparent) and active community volunteer. And tennis never moved

to the back burner; my family and my volunteer work happily accepted my hours on the court.” Another player, Marcha Moore, recalls that there were no competitive sports for women when she went to high school or college. She says, “Women have always had the competitive spirit, and now we have the opportunity to really compete. Tennis and the USTA Leagues have opened that competitive door for all the women in this age group.” After suffering a heart attack on the tennis court five years ago, Sharon Gammell wasn’t sure she’d ever play again. But she’s back, saying, “I was encouraged by a friend to join the Dream Team of Pelican Bay. Now I am thrilled to be on one of the first 70+ teams in Collier County. I welcome every new day and game!” As the women play, the balls whiz by with accuracy and finesse. Their games are women’s tennis at its best, made up of good-natured rivalry

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mixed with power and delicacy in their accurate strokes. After they play, sitting in the clubhouse, their talk may go to grandchildren (some even to great grandchildren) and doctor appointments. But on the courts, it’s all about tennis. They don’t worry about not being younger; they just move on the court like youngsters. The Women’s 70’s League captains are Bobbie Thompson, Ladies over-70 tennis teams after play at Longshore Tennis Club. the Longshore Lake captain, and Ann As Kleitch says, “It’s a fun, fun Smith, the Sterling Oaks captain. wonderful sport. It’s truly a lifetime They say, “We are planning on lots sport.” These teams prove that of good tennis and competitive fun. every week. For more information, We want to encourage other clubs call Kleitch at 239-348-9827. to form 70’s teams and join us.”

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Around Town

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hrough 8 “Cactus Christmas” at Cultural Park Theatre, 528 Cultural Park Blvd., Cape Coral. $18. Info at 239-772-5862.


hrough 22 “My Three Angels” (from the Humphrey Bogart movie (“We’re No Angels”) at Fla. Repertory Theatre, 2267 First St., Fort Myers. $25 to $45 tickets. 239-332-4488.

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Fort Myers Beach Lighted Boat Parade begins at 6:10 pm. Free. Info at 239-454-7500. Great Outdoor Adventure Day on Lovers Key, Fort Myers Beach. Guided adventures by kayak, bike, geo-caching, fishing, walks. Music, food, nature. Admission $4/single motorist; $8/vehicle; $2/cyclist or walker. 10 am to 3 pm. 239-463-4588 for info.


– 8 Caloosahatchee Bromeliad Society of Southwest Florida show and sale. Free parking and admission. Terry Park, 3410 Palm Beach Blvd., Ft. Myers. Info at 239-694-4738.


Lee County Community Band Concert. 3 pm, Auditorium, Cape Coral High School, 2300 Santa Barbara Blvd., Cape Coral. Free (donations accepted); seating first-come basis. or 239-945-2554.

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Bluegrass in the Theater at Alliance for the Arts, 10091 McGregor Blvd. $7/door. 2 to 5 pm. 239-939-2787. Monthly Pancake Breakfast by Bayside Men’s Club, Bayside Recreation Hall, Bayside Estates, San Carlos Blvd. and Pine Ridge Rd. 8 to 11 am. All-you-can-eat. $5. Bayside Estates, San Carlos Blvd. and Pine Ridge Rd. Info at 609-226-9955.


History of the Everglades and efforts to restore it – free illustrated presentation by local author Marya Repko at Collier Seminole State Park, 20200 Tamiami Trail E. (U.S. 41), Naples. 2 pm. 239-394-3397.


– 21 “A Christmas Carol” presentation at Laboratory

Theater, 1634 Woodford Ave. $20 tickets. Phone: 239-218-0481.

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Pine Island Boat Parade in St. James City. Begins 6 pm. Phone: 410-703-4462.

Bonita Springs Boat Parade. Bleachers at Imperial River public boat ramp area. Free. Call 239-495-0455.


Jingle-PAWS in the Park Pet Adoption and Holiday Festival in Cape Coral’s Jaycee Park! Vendors, arts and craft activities, photos with Santa for pets and kids. Adoptable dogs and cats. Call 732-997-7387. Free admission.


23rd Annual Holiday Carol Sing to feed the hungry. First Presbyterian Church, 2438 Second St., Fort Myers; sponsored by the Galloway Family of Dealerships. Bring non-perishable food and a voluntary cash donation. 1 pm, 4 pm and 7 pm. 239-334-2261 or


through 31 Holiday Spectacular, a winter wonderland celebration. Tickets: $35/$5 children. BIG ARTS Theater, 2200 Periwinkle Way, Sanibel Island. Call 239-472-6862.


through Feb 15 “South Pacific” musical performance at Broadway Palm Dinner Theatre. Great music and dancing. $35 to $55 tickets. Phone: 239-278-4422.


Holiday Party, 1031 Estero Blvd., Fort Myers Beach. 1 to 3 pm. 7 pm. Live music; fireworks at midnight.


Street Party in downtown Fort Myers. Entertainment; dining choices; craft beer garden; ball drop and fireworks at midnight. Free admission. 855-732-3836.

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es, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist… Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus!” That iconic answer by a newspaper editor to a little girl’s question about Santa in 1897 is happily lived out every day of every year by two West Central Florida men. Virginia would find both the appearance and spirit of Santa in Jim Heichelbech, 87, of Arcadia (on our front cover) and Santa R.G. Holland, 67, of Inverness. The Christmas season finds the two men appearing daily in handsome Santa robes (costumes).

Santa R.G. Holland spreads Christmas cheer.

Santa R.G. says, “I don’t play the role of Santa. I assume his personnae of generosity, kindness and caring.” Santa Jim is at Burlington Mall near Boston this year. His appearances began November 1 and will finish at 6 pm Christmas Eve. The retired executive says, “I don’t know any position that allows me to do the things Santa does. I have an obligation that God has given me… to give people love. I bring happiness to so many. I figure I’ve been Santa for over a million and a half people in 57 years.” A 94-year-old lady visited him with a group from a nursing home. She said, “I’ve never sat on Santa’s lap before. Can I sit on your lap?”

If a child asks for a pink pony, Santa Jim says, “We never say no.” He laughs a hearty laugh and adds, “You never know what a parent can do for a child.” Or, according to Santa R.G.: “Promise nothing, but nourish hope.” “In my heart I get a very big kick out of being Santa.” Santa Jim just plain looks like Santa whether wearing his robes Santa Jim Heichelbech makes appearances or not and knows going with his “Mrs. Claus,” — wife Marilyn. out to eat any time of Santa Jim willingly obliged. “Santa year means being spoken is a lifter-upper,” he adds. “I often to 14 or 15 times by both children find that adults will come up next to and adults. If an adult says “I still me and tell me they are depressed. believe in you, Santa,” Heichelbech They just want to have a hug and may respond by encouraging them stand close, and I give them love.” to always keep the spirit of Santa As Christmas draws closer, parents alive. “I try to give an act of love, dress their children up and bring like a handshake. If the other person them to visit Santa with toy requests initiates it, I will give a hug.” and for the photo op. Sleds, Betsy Wetsy dolls, Tinker Toys – all are Santa University toys of the past, and Santa must be Both Santas hone their craft prepared. Starting in August, Santa year-round. Last summer they were Jim begins visiting toy stores, doing at Noerr Pole, headquarters for his homework. “I look at and examine The Noerr Programs and training and know what toys and electronics center for Santa University in Arvida, are going to be hot this year so when Colorado. The company places Santas a child asks for it, I know what it is in over 165 malls in 37 states. The and can pronounce it correctly.” 4-day program assisted more than “Children used to be most 80 naturally bearded Santas in all interested in what they could get things Santa-related. Physical stamina for Christmas. In the last three or is important, for example, and so is four years, more and more children being ever mindful of their alter-ego. have been asking for things for Santa Jim teaches an ethics class, someone else,” says Santa R.G. giving help for avoiding possible “That’s the true spirit of Christmas.” sticky situations. Santa must be

aware that digital media can capture a moment anywhere and bad moments can go viral. “You have to be cognizant of what you’re doing at all times, even in the off-season. Santa doesn’t go where he shouldn’t be, and he doesn’t do what he shouldn’t do. And both of Santa’s hands are visible in every picture.” Santas are taught to check every e-mail twice to make sure what they are writing is appropriate.

At the Santa University in July, Santas-in-training packed gift bags for children who survived a tornado in Moore, Oklahoma

Many practical tips come with the university as well. Examples: Parents always lift the child onto Santa’s lap (it spares his back). Too hot in the Santa robes? Special vests are available with pockets to hold cooler packs. And so when Virginia sees love and generosity and devotion, she would do well to look closely to see if it might be Santa Jim or Santa R.G. If so, she will always have reason to BELIEVE! Cover photo and story photos courtesy of Noerr Programs;

Santa University members attend yearly conferences to stay in top “St. Nick” shape. Lifestyles After 50 • December 2013 • page 7

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Veterans Corner

Bill Mauldin: Cartoonist for GI Joe and a Country Mourning a President


illie, Joe and Bill in WWII. Bill Mauldin, one of America’s favorite cartoonists, travelled through Europe with the “grunts,” the GIs. Through Mauldin’s characters—Willie and Joe— soldiers saw themselves as they lived on the front lines through his cartoons in Stars and Stripes. A civilian audience back home got an idea of what life was like for soldiers when his popular cartoons ran in their local papers. The end of Mauldin’s life story is a grand tribute to the muddy, exhausted whisker-stubbled infantrymen who fought. These were the men who came home, worked, raised families and lived their lives with what they’d seen and experienced during the war. During the late summer of 2002, as Mauldin lay in a California nursing home, some of the old World War II infantry guys caught wind of it. They didn’t want Mauldin to go out that way— alone. They thought he should know he was still their hero. Gordon Dillow, a columnist for the Orange County Register, put out the call in Southern California for people in the area to send their best wishes to Mauldin. Others helped spread the appeal nationally. Soon, more than 10,000 cards and letters had arrived at Mauldin’s bedside. Better than that, old soldiers began to show up just to sit with Mauldin, to let him know that they were there for him, as he, so long ago, had been there on the front lines for them. So many volunteered to visit Bill that there was a waiting list. Here is how Todd DePastino, in the first paragraph of his biography of Mauldin, described it: “Almost every day in the summer and fall of 2002 they came to Park Superior

nursing home in Newport Beach, California, to honor Army Sergeant, Technician Third Grade, Bill Mauldin. They came bearing relics of their youth: medals, insignia, photographs and carefully folded newspaper clippings. Some wore old garrison caps. Others arrived resplendent in uniforms over a half century old. Almost all of them wept as they filed down the corridor like pilgrims fulfilling some long-neglected obligation.” One of the veterans explained: “You would have to be part of a combat infantry unit to appreciate what moments of relief Bill gave us. You had to be reading a soaking wet Stars and Stripes in a water-filled foxhole and then see one of his cartoons.” Mauldin is buried in Arlington National Cemetery. In 2010 he made it onto a first-class postage stamp. It’s an honor that most generals and admirals never receive. What Mauldin would have loved most is the sight of the two guys who keep him company on that stamp. There’s Willie. There’s Joe. And there, to the side, drawing them and smiling that shy, quietly observant smile, is Mauldin himself. With his buddies, right where he belongs. Forever. He won two Pulitzer Prizes, and he should have won a third for what may be the single greatest editorial cartoon in the history of the craft: On the day President John F. Kennedy was assassinated, he drew the statue at the Lincoln Memorial slumped in grief, its head cradled in its hands. He was still Mauldin, the enlisted man. (Editor’s note: Many thanks to the reader who sent this information.)

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t will be easy to stay home this month and just enjoy the season in Florida. Plan a few overnight trips and see the magnificent lights and bling around the state.

Williams House, Amelia Island

Amelia Island

Amelia Island is always a great destination. The Amelia Island Williams House is offering several holiday packages. The 2013 Christmas Package starts at $795 and includes a three-night stay, breakfast each morning, Christmas Eve hors d’oeuvres buffet, followed by a horsedrawn carriage ride through historic Fernandina Beach, and Christmas day dinner at David’s Restaurant. Additional nights may be added to the package. Visit williamshouse. com for more information.

Travel St. Augustine’s Nights of Lights

Selected by National Geographic in 2012 as one of the ten best holiday lighting displays in the world, St. Augustine’s Nights of Lights features millions of tiny white lights that create a magical atmosphere in the Nation’s oldest city. Events of note:

7 Holiday Boat Regatta 14 – 15 Holiday Tour of Historic B&Bs

31 Beach Blast and Fireworks Show


Gaylord Palms Resort

A stay at the Gaylord Palms Resort in Orlando is becoming a tradition for some families, who relish the two-million lights amid all the lush displays and all the Christmas decorations you could want. The Luminescence show and DreamWorks Animation characters make for kid-fun too. ICE! features Frosty the Snowman this year. Ask for package prices to have it all!

Manatee swim, Crystal River

Candlelight Processional

Epcot Center’s nightly Candlelight Processional is an annual holiday event. A full orchestra and choir fill the theatre as a celebrity narrator takes the stage. It’s the Biblical story of the babe in a manger, accompanied by traditional and inspiring holiday music.

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Take family to Crystal River where visitors swim with the West Indian Manatee. It’s Candlelight Processional, the only location in North Epcot, Orlando America where you can legally swim and interact with these sea It’s the Biblical cows in the wild; sometimes as story of the babe in a many as 350 are in the area playing. manger, accompanied Plantation Adventure Center & Dive by traditional and Shop offers enclosed boats and a inspiring holiday hot shower facility for those guests music. Purchase a not staying at the resort. Plantation Candlelight Dinner on Crystal River is located at 9301 Package to have guaranteed seating W. Fort Island Trl., Crystal River.

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Nights of Lights, St. Augustine

for the processional, a dinner and VIP fireworks viewing.

The Singing Christmas Trees

The long history (since 1980) of Singing Christmas Trees at the First Baptist Church of Orlando makes their presentation of note. 300 singers, a full orchestra, dancers and 250,000 lights create a one-of-a-kind spectacle. It’s been named to Orlando Local Guide’s Best of Orlando list as the Best Christmas Event to attend in the city to celebrate the season. Tickets for $5 to $18. Singing Christmas Trees, First Baptist Church, Orlando

Cruising On Megaships BY CONNIE MOODY, CTA, DS Senior Cruise Specialist


egent Seven Seas Cruises and Silversea Cruises, small, deluxe all-inclusive ships with passenger capacities from 300 to 700 cruisers, are the mainstay of my cruise business and my own personal travel. However, I do have a curiosity about the megaships, Allure of the Seas and Oasis of the Seas, two Royal Caribbean sisters that cruise with a maximum 5,400 guest capacity. Onboard Royal Caribbean International, innovation and imagination rule supreme—and never has it been truer than on the groundbreaking Oasis® class ships. Each features seven incredible neighborhoods packed with first-at-sea experiences: the oceanside AquaTheater, Starbucks®, Broadway hit musicals Chicago and Hairspray, 3D movie theater, zip line, designer shopping at Coach® and GUESS® stores, and much more. There’s something for everyone to discover on the most awe-inspiring ships the world has ever seen. Since I have not cruised on either of these ships, I have enlisted the aid of Wilma Boyd, President and CEO; Olga Placeres, Manager; Sandi Hamann, Travel Specialist; Preferred Travel of Naples and my identical twin sister, Bonnie Arnold, who cruises the small ships with me and the megaships with her husband and son. I asked them all the same questions. 1. What surprised you most about your cruise experience? Olga – Considering the number of passengers, the ship did not feel crowded. It was large enough for

everyone to spread out. I was also amazed at the ease of embarkation considering the number of cruisers. Sandi – I was surprised at how easy it was to navigate the ship.

2. What was your favorite spot on the ship and why? Sandi – The Royal Promenade because of the atmosphere, especially the Coffee Shop and Pub. Bonnie – The Solarium because it was a private little adults-only oasis that also offers healthy food selections for breakfast and lunch. 3. What entertainment did you especially enjoy? Wilma – The Broadway quality shows including Chicago and Hairspray. Olga – Aqua Theater – the performances were a great hit for the entire family. Most intriguing was the great dive off a tiny platform that appeared to be 100 feet high. 4. What activities did you enjoy most? Olga – Watching the teens attempt surfing on the FlowRider as well as the variety of games in the Casino Royale. Bonnie – Reading in the Solarium was incredibly relaxing, just what a cruise should be. 5. What advice would you give to someone about to embark on the Allure or Oasis of the Seas? Sandi – Explore it all and sleep when you get home. Bonnie – Book your restaurants and entertainment as soon as you pay for your cruise so you are not disappointed. Arrive at the port around noon to embark before the Northerners who fly in for the cruise. Thanks to my colleagues and sister for contributing their megaship experiences. I hope their observations will enhance your next cruise aboard The Oasis or Allure of the Seas. Whether you are planning your next family reunion or getaway vacation, please call 800-523-3716 for more information.

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rom Saturday, Dec. 7 through Sunday, Dec. 15, Lee County sports venues will be the sites for the 2013 Florida International Senior Games & State Championships, an Olympic-style competition for athletes age 50 and over. Approximately 2,000 senior athletes are expected to compete during the nine days of competition. Florida residents must qualify by finishing in the top five of their age group in their sport at one of 18 Florida Local Senior Games (held earlier in the year) to qualify in most sports. In all, senior athletes have the opportunity to compete in 23 sports, most requiring a qualifying performance at a Local Senior Games. No qualifying performance is required for Archery, Bag Toss,

Billiards, Bocce, Croquet, Pickleball, Powerlifting, Power Walk/Race Walk, Racquetball, Road Race-5K and 10K and Volleyball. Sports needing a qualifying performance include Badminton, Basketball Shooting, Basketball (3-on-3), Bowling, Team Bowling, Cycling, Golf, Horseshoes, Shuffleboard, Swimming, Table Tennis, Tennis and Track & Field. The most convenient way to find details or to register is online at From archery at the Sherman Soccer Complex, to croquet at Estero Recreation Center and from Sarasota Bath & Racquet Club to the Fort Myers Aquatic Center, senior athletes will star in Lee County Dec. 7 through 15. Don’t miss it. Need further assistance? Call 866-354-2636 (FL-GAMES) or email

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– 8 Charlotte Players presents: “Deck the Halls” - A Holiday Musical Show. Showtimes at 7:30 pm and 2 pm. $18 tickets/ info at

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Christmas With a Tan. Holiday songs, Florida-style. 7 pm. $18. Fun and Frolicking French Luncheon. 11:30 am to 2 pm. $20. Cuisine, dancing, raffles, more.


Christmas Day Dinner. Traditional favorites. Noon to 2 pm. $15. All events at Cultural Center of Charlotte County, 2280 Aaron Street, Port Charlotte. Tickets, times and info: 941-625-4175.

New Year’s Eve Extravaganza at Fishermen’s Village, 5 pm until 12:30 am. Enjoy live music by Gator DJ on the Center Stage. Family friendly festivities include: fun photos, airbrush art for face and body, Luis the Balloon Man, hair glitter designs and stiltwalker, “Too Tall Torrie”! Village Restaurants will be offering New Year’s Eve specials; call early for reservations! Singer/Guitarist Michael Hirst will perform in the first section of the Village from 8 pm to 12:30 am. 1200 West Retta Esplanade #57A, Punta Gorda. Info: 941-639-8721.

FEATURED EVENTS • A Doo Wop Christmas Celebration With the Reflections, Dec. 11: The Cultural Center will host this classic vocal harmony group at 7 pm (doors open at 6). Hear all your favorite songs including their hit “Just Like Romeo and Juliet” as well as holiday classics. Meet & greet and autograph signing after the show. $14. Charlotte Cultural Center. 941-625-4175. • Festival of Lights, Through Dec. 31. Dusk. View over one million lights and themed decorations throughout Fishermen’s Village daily and enjoy holiday-themed entertainment, lighted canal cruises, visits with Santa, treats, holiday shopping and more. 941-639-8721. • Lifestyles After 50 Fun Fest: Jan. 14. Enjoy live entertainment, Senior Sports Area, Free Bingo, Free Health Screenings, and a Prize-A-Palooza with chances to win $100 throughout the day. 10 am to 3 pm at Robarts Arena in Sarasota. Please call for more info: 888-670-0040.

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and 8 Fine Arts & Crafts Show, noon to6 pm. Pottery, jewelry, ceramics, fne art and more. Info at 352-344-0657.

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• R.S.V.P. (Retired & Senior Volunteer Program): 941-613-2299. • Meals on Wheels/Friendship Cafe Dining Sites: 941-255-0723. • Elder Helpline of Southwest Florida: 1-800-398-4233.

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Lighted Boat Parade on Charlotte Harbor. Dusk. Live orchestra music at 5:30 pm. Call 941-639-3720 for info. Venetian Harmony Chorus, women’s barbershop music. 5 – 7 pm. Center Stage.

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Does a Mid-Life Crisis Require a Sports Car? DR. BILL THOMAS


uman infants, adorable as they may be, have no story, no past, no loves gained and lost, no triumphs and no acquaintance with grief. Those fortunate enough to reach elderhood, however, possess all these things in abundance. Elders spend a lifetime exchanging newborn perfection for something infinitely more valuable—a story. Nowadays, we have unprecedented opportunity to think about and choose between many different narrative arcs for our own life story. Unfortunately, as people approach midlife and beyond, the kinds of clear-cut cultural signals that stimulate growth and change become far less common. The false belief that aging equals decline, combined with the lack of


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cultural direction, leads millions of people to become stuck. These limbo episodes make it much more difficult to continue the story of our lives. One way to approach this problem is known as the “midlife crisis.” Some respond to the growing need for change by moving; others by adopting much less sensible tactics which embrace adolescent fantasies (most famously cars and younger sexual partners) during midlife.

What is a midlife crisis?

A midlife crisis is the consequence of our changing relationship with memories of our younger self. Those memories form the foundation of our identity, and we normally suppose them to be fixed and unalterable. In fact, they are subject to a nearly constant but unconscious process of revision. As we move past midlife, the memories of our youth become more distant, and in the press of daily responsibility, they are recalled less frequently.

Dr. Judah Ronch describes the results of this process: The more remote an unused memory gets, or the more you retrieve it without strengthening it by real experience, the more memories of youth change to conform to contemporary experience. If the major activity that our memories of self gets is reminiscing, rather than doing and storing new experiences, then memories of self become less and less about the person and more about the memories. Our youth-obsessed culture places a premium on maintaining an authentically youthful self-identity. Living life as a harried adult makes it increasingly difficult to maintain such an identity. The muchmaligned balding man with the too-young girlfriend is actually engaged in a reconstruction project. He is trying to maintain the authenticity of his memories, and therefore his self, by rejoining them with real-life experiences.

What to do

Fortunately there is an effective approach to solving the developmental difficulties that arise in late adulthood. Instead of attempting to reanimate memories of youth, we can revisit our past with an eye toward understanding the person we might yet become. We can reject the dominant cultural narrative of loss and decline and embrace instead a personal narrative or story based on growth and change. We can design an approach to life beyond adulthood that restores to us, in its mature form, the experience of living with many “possible lives” in front of us. Best of all, there is no sports car required. From “Second Wind: Navigating the Passage to a Slower, Deeper and more Connected Life” by Dr. Bill Thomas.

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5 Tips for Stress Free Festivities • Be a team player – Regardless of who is hosting, compliment, ask questions, offer help, be interested. • Don’t take things personally – During the holidays, you can be certain it’s not all about you.


ere it comes. That time of year when family drama can get you down! Options? You can leave town, hope your relatives have changed or face it all with a plan not to get overstressed. Deanna Braun says there are some ways to build a foundation for a happy holiday, even with relatives you don’t always see eye-to-eye with. Here are five tips for (nearly) stress free festivities:

• Find the humor – Look at what happens as a great story to tell later about what she did “this” time.

• Find some down time – Reflect and re-energize to get your energy back. • Establish ground rules in advance – Talk to your companion and agree on how long to stay or take two cars. Let your family know what time you plan to leave so there’s no “But I thought…” about meals or activities. Relax. Nothing lasts forever.

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Hip Relief: Understanding Options For Dealing With Hip Pain


rom exciting tennis matches to impressive rounds of golf in Southwest Florida, the winter months provide opportunity for enjoyment and sometimes, unfortunately, for hip pain. Hip pain develops when the hip joint is damaged due to disease or overuse. Symptoms may include discomfort or stiffness in the groin, buttock or thigh area. The good news is athletes of all ages have many options when it comes to dealing with hip pain. For mild to moderate overuse injuries, the RICE method is typically recommended:

• Rest: Take a break from the activity that caused the pain. Consult with your orthopedist for recommendations on the use of assistive devices. • Ice: Use cold packs for 15 – 20 minutes at a time, several times a day. To avoid damaging the skin, do not apply ice pack directly to the skin.

• Compression: To prevent swelling, wear an elastic compression bandage. • Elevation: To reduce swelling or

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Minor hip pain can be prevented through proper warming up and stretching activities. Athletes who do warm ups are less likely to incur injury compared to those who do not. Jumping jacks, walking or jumping in place are just a few warm ups that can be done. Following the warm up, athletes should practice slow and gentle stretches for 30 seconds on each side and for each muscle area. Since many injuries are multifaceted, it is critical to visit an orthopedic surgeon to rule out any potential underlying disease. At times, pain in the hip area can be an indication of disease such as osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, avascular necrosis or bone cancer. Pain, stiffness, swelling and loss of function can result in a person’s inability to engage in activities altogether, so seek treatment if the pain is unmanageable and extends well beyond the tennis court or golf course.

For those dealing with hip pain that limits everyday activities, today’s treatments for chronic hip pain include both non-surgical and surgical treatment options. Your orthopedic surgeon will review your medical history, perform a thorough evaluation and conduct necessary tests such as X-rays or scans. In general, medications such as analgesics, narcotics and steroid injections may be the first course of treatment, depending on your condition. In addition, water therapy, exercise and physical therapy may be recommended. When non-surgical options fail to relieve pain and symptoms, surgery may be recommended. More than 260,000 hip replacement surgeries are performed in the U.S. each year to help relieve pain and restore mobility. Hip replacements are performed successfully for people of all ages. Recommendations for surgery are based on the patient’s pain and disability level, not age. The surgery involves removing the head of the thighbone (femur) and replacing the ball-andsocket part of the hip with artificial implants. The ball component of the implant is typically made from a metal or ceramic material and the socket component is made of a durable form of plastic, ceramic or metal. Benefits of hip replacement include less pain, greater mobility and better alignment. While recovery from hip replacement differs for everyone, post-surgery medication, physical therapy and instructions will be prescribed by your surgeon, as well as appropriate follow-up visits to aid in recovery. The physicians of Athletic Orthopedic and Reconstructive Center (AORC) are devoted to providing the highest level of quality care and treatment of the musculoskeletal system which includes the bones, joints, ligaments, muscles and nerves. For more information on ways to maintain healthy joints and bones or to discuss treatment options, call 239-936-6778 or visit —Dr. John C. Kagan



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ccording to the National Cancer Institute, there are over 12 million cancer survivors in the United States, and almost two million of them have survived for 20 years or longer. The reason cancer survival rates have dramatically increased over the past two decades can be traced directly to clinical trials. The cures for various types of cancer will all come from clinical research, yet not many adult cancer patients participate in clinical trials. Why? Many times it is because clinical trials are misunderstood and patients fear being “a guinea pig”. In clinical trials for a life-threatening disease like cancer, no one who participates in a clinical trial is ever treated like a guinea pig. In fact, such great precautions are taken on behalf of patients who participate in clinical trials that, most often, their cancer treatment is actually superior to standard care protocols.

What is a Clinical Trial? Clinical trials are research studies in which patients help doctors find ways to improve cancer care and assess new therapies and treatments for the disease. Each study tries to answer scientific questions and

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Two of the top three cancer advances determined by the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) for 2012 were available through clinical trials at Florida Cancer Specialists. Understanding the Myths Aside from the misunderstanding about being a guinea pig, patients who are considering participating in a clinical trial for cancer are often concerned that they might be given a placebo or a drug that will prove to be ineffective. The truth is that in some types of clinical trials (specifically those that are investigating something simple such as a new cold medication) some participants are given only a placebo. However, in clinical trials for cancer, a participant is never given anything less than the current standard of care.

Participating in a Clinical Trial All participants in oncologic clinical trials will be given the best treatment available for their particular type of cancer… then in addition to that standard treatment, they may be given either a new drug that is being tested or a placebo. No participant is ever given a placebo alone. According to the American Cancer Society, there are over 850 promising new drugs and therapies undergoing research currently. The average time for a new drug to be approved is seven years and many times clinical trials cannot be conducted because of a lack of patient participation. If more cancer patients participated in clinical trials, there would be more new drugs available sooner in the future. Don’t miss the opportunity to be a part of finding the cures for cancer.

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. I’ve been losing some hair, which is no surprise for an old lady, but I was wondering if there’s anything I can do to hold onto what I have.

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hair loss. Androgenetic Alopecia, or pattern baldness, is the most common type of alopecia; it affects about onethird of us. I’m in that third with you. Men start to get pattern baldness at the hairline and crown. This can lead to complete baldness. Women’s hair loss is usually limited to thinning; they rarely go totally bald.

There are a few steps you can take to preserve your hair: 1. Avoid tight hairstyles that pull on the hair. So, forget braids, ponytails, cornrows and tight hair rollers. The pulling causes some hair loss, especially along the sides of the scalp. This type of hair loss is called traction alopecia. If the pulling scars the scalp, it can cause permanent hair loss. 2. Brushing or combing too much can break hair, so keep them to a minimum. Use combs with wide teeth and brushes with smooth tips. Wet hair is more fragile than dry hair, so show care when you do your hair after a shower. 3. Shampooing too often is bad for your hair. Use a cream rinse or conditioner after shampooing to make it easier to comb. And don’t dry your hair by rubbing it with a towel.

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4. Don’t use hot-oil hair treatments or chemicals in permanents. These may cause inflammation of the hair follicles, which can lead to hair loss.

There are about 100,000 hairs in the average scalp. About 100 hairs are lost from your head every day. Each individual hair survives for an average of 4 1/2 years and grows about a half inch a month. In its fifth year, the hair usually falls out and is replaced within six months by a new one. We lose hair as we age. Pattern baldness affects many more men than women. About 25 percent of men begin to bald by the time they are 30 years old, and about two-thirds have at least a balding pattern by age 60. Androgenetic alopecia is caused by heredity; a history of it on either side of your family increases your risk of balding. Medicines may help slow or prevent the development of common baldness. Rogaine is available without a prescription. It is applied to the scalp. Both men and women can use it. Propecia is available with a prescription. It comes in pills and is only for men. It may take up to six months before you can tell if one of these medicines is working. Hair transplants and scalp reduction surgery are available to treat androgenetic alopecia when more conservative measures have failed. During transplantation a dermatologist or cosmetic surgeon takes tiny plugs of skin, each containing one to several hairs, from the back or side of your scalp. The plugs are then implanted into the bald sections. Scalp reduction, as the name implies, means decreasing the area of bald skin on your head. If you would like to read more columns, you can order a copy of “How To Be A Healthy Geezer” at All Rights Reserved © 2013 by Fred Cicetti.




If you are over age 70½, the Federal government permits you to rollover up to $100,000 from your IRA to All Children’s Hospital Foundation without increasing your taxable income or paying any additional tax. These tax-free rollover gifts could be $1,000, $10,000 or any amount up to $100,000 this year. The gift satisfies your RMD for this year.

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Lydia E. Bailey, CFRE All Children’s Hospital Foundation 500 7th Avenue South St. Petersburg, FL 33731 727-767-8914 All Children’s Hospital Foundation qualifies under Section 501 (c)(3) of the IRS Code. Our Federal Tax Identification Number is 59-2481738. Our Florida Solicitation of Contributions Act Registration Number is SC- 07080-IM. A Copy of the official registration and financial information may be obtained from the Division of Consumer Services by calling toll free 1-800-435-7352, within the state. Registration does not imply endorsement, approval, or recommendation by the state. We retain no professional solicitors and our Foundation receives 100% of each contribution.

While you have the opportunity to give through your IRA now, there are other options available for making future gifts from your IRA account to All Children’s Hospital Foundation.

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One option is to designate a All Children’s Hospital Foundation as the beneficiary of your IRA. This permits you to continue to take withdrawals from your IRA during life and then leave the remaining value of your IRA to All Children’s Hospital Foundation.

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Another option would be to use your will to fund a gift annuity with your IRA. The annuity will provide your family with income for their life or a number of years and will also provide a nice gift to All Children’s Hospital Foundation.

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You could also use your will to transfer your IRA to a special “Give it Twice” trust. These trusts usually provide income to children for up to 20 years. Once all the income has been paid to family, the remainder of the trust is given to All Children’s Hospital Foundation.


If you are like many individuals, your IRA has increased in value over the years and you have more income than you may need. The IRA rollover gift is a simple and easy way to provide for All Children’s Hospital Foundation while not increasing your taxable income. Simply contact your custodian and request that an amount be transferred to All Children’s. Charity receives a nice gift and you avoid any additional tax and satisfy your RMD for the year.


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Six Foods That May Help Win the Blood Pressure Battle I

n the United States more than 77 million adults have been diagnosed with high blood pressure, which can cause heart disease and stroke. In Food Technology magazine, Linda Milo Ohr noted six foods shown in studies to have a beneficial effect on lowering blood pressure.

Health Grape Seed Extract: Grape seed extract may help lower both systolic and diastolic blood pressure after just eight weeks. Grape seed extract is derived from the ground-up seeds of red wine grapes. There’s strong evidence that grape seed extract is, in fact, beneficial for a number of cardiovascular conditions, including circulation (chronic venous insufficiency) and high cholesterol. Nuts: One study showed that 56 g of walnuts a day reduced systolic

blood pressure and did not lead to weight gain. Walnuts not only taste great but are a rich source of heart-healthy monounsaturated fats and an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids. In addition, they are an excellent source of vitamin E and an important B-complex group of vitamins such as riboflavin, niacin, thiamin, pantothenic acid, vitamin B-6, and folates They also are a rich source of necessary minerals. Beetroot Juice: Beetroot juice contains dietary nitrate which may help relax blood vessel walls and improve blood flow. Through a chain reaction, the body converts the nitrates in beet juice into nitric oxide, a compound that enhances blood flow throughout the body and helps lower blood pressure. A study showed that a cup of beetroot juice a day may help lower

systolic and diastolic blood pressure. Recent research is placing beet juice right up there nutritionally with salmon and blueberries. Dairy Foods: Several studies have showed that a diet with more dairy and nuts, but less meat, is related to a lower risk of developing hypertension and associated with having lower systolic blood pressure. Milk is a source of many nutrients including potassium, magnesium and calcium, all of which have also been linked to lowering blood pressure. Milk also contains peptides (breakdown product of milk proteins) which lower systolic and diastolic pressures. The Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension (DASH) diet shows a diet containing fruit and vegetables, low-fat dairy products and reduced salt intake lowers blood pressure within two weeks of starting the diet.

Raisins: Researchers eating raisins showed a significantly reduced systolic blood pressure. The study did not identify how raisins lower blood pressure. However, what is known is that raisins are high in potassium and have fiber, polyphenols, phenolic acid, tannins and antioxidants. Flaxseed: Dietary flaxseed (30 g daily) has been shown to lower systolic and diastolic blood pressure in subjects with narrowed arteries (peripheral artery disease) as well as lowering cholesterol levels in people with high cholesterol. Various flaxseed preparations—including ground flaxseed, partially defatted flaxseed, and flaxseed bread and muffins—seem to significantly reduce total cholesterol and the “bad cholesterol,” low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol, in some people. But flaxseed doesn’t have much effect on “good cholesterol,” high-density lipoprotein (HDL) cholesterol. (Newswise and other sources)

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Limit animal protein: Eating too much animal protein increases the odds of developing kidney stones.

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eople visit our practice looking for ways to improve their vision. Sometimes this simply requires getting a prescription for glasses; but many times patients are looking for a way to permanently improve their vision without depending on glasses or contacts. Younger people may choose to have iLASIK, which changes the shape of their cornea. However, as we age, the lens inside of our eye loses its ability to focus both near and far. So someone over 45 may choose a procedure called a Refractive Lensectomy, which corrects nearsightedness or farsightedness by replacing the eye’s natural lens with an artificial intraocular lens that has the correct power for the eye to see well. Presbyopia, a progressive condition typically requiring individuals over 40 to use reading glasses, can be corrected using a multifocal ReSTOR lens which allows them to see at all distances.

Refractive lensectomy uses the same techniques as bladeless laser cataract surgery with the LenSx laser, which Dr. Frantz introduced to southwest Florida in May 2012. Insurance does not cover refractive lensectomy as it is considered an elective procedure. We can discuss out-of-pocket charges and flexible payment plans when you visit our office for your evaluation. To make an appointment online, visit or call Frantz EyeCare at (239) 418-0999. Jonathan M. Frantz, MD, FACS, is named in Best Doctors in America and The Guide to America’s Top Ophthalmologists. He and his team of doctors at Frantz EyeCare offer a broad spectrum of patient-focused comprehensive care from eye exams and eyewear to bladeless laser cataract removal, treatment of eye diseases, bladeless iLASIK, and eyelid surgery with offices in Fort Myers, Naples, Cape Coral, Punta Gorda, and Lehigh Acres.

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The National Highway Transportation and Safety Administration (NHTSA) has an excellent guide online for families and physicians on this area. Some primary care physicians can perform office tests such that those scoring below a cutoff are unsafe to drive. There are also centers devoted to testing elderly drivers to see if they are safe. Family members can help assess driving skills by having a family member ride with or follow the individual occasionally to evaluate for impaired driving judgment. You can also monitor the mileage on the car to see if it is longer than the short trips they say they are taking (which could mean they are getting lost.) Look for new dents or scrapes, as this can show that there is trouble when driving. For many families, the potential need to stop driving is an extremely

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Heart-Healthy Holiday Vegetables Baked Cauliflower and Beets 1 head cauliflower (about 1 pound), in florets 3 large beets, peeled and cut into chunks ¼ c balsamic vinegar 1 tsp olive oil ¼ c fresh chopped dill Salt and pepper to taste


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Orange-Sauced Broccoli & Peppers 3 1/2 cups broccoli flowerets 1 red or yellow sweet pepper, cut into 1-inch pieces 1 Tbsp butter 2 Tbsp chopped onion 1 clove garlic, minced 1 1/2 tsp cornstarch 2/3 c orange juice 2 tsp Dijon-style mustard

Directions: Steam broccoli and pepper until crisp-tender. For sauce, melt butter. Add onion and garlic; cook until tender. Stir in cornstarch. Add orange juice and mustard. Cook and stir until mixture is thickened and bubbly. Cook and stir for 2 minutes more. Pour the sauce over the broccoli mixture; toss gently to coat.

Directions: Remove strings and tips from pea pods; set aside. In a 12-inch skillet, cook shallot in the oils over medium heat until tender. Add pea pods and teriyaki sauce. Cook and stir for 2 to 3 minutes or until pea pods are crisp-tender. Add tomatoes; cook 1 minute more. Sprinkle with sesame seeds. Recipes from Cleveland Clinic

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an Balagna, commissioner of Collier County Senior Softball League (CCSS) in Naples says 14 softball teams are available at Veterans Park off Immokalee Road (between Airport Road and Goodlette Frank) on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Whatever your skill level, you can fit into one of the two divisions. Competitive play is January through March with “pick-up” games the rest of the year. The league is open to all men and women over the age of 50. If you’d like more information, you can visit their website at or call 989-305-1759 or 239-434-6933.

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id you know the library has Books-by-Mail and Talking Books for people who have disabilities or can’t get to the library? Books-byMail is a fast and convenient service that supplies printed books, audio books, DVDs and music CDs to adults and children with valid library cards who are unable to visit a Lee County Library System location due to temporary or long-term physical and medical disabilities. Caregivers also qualify for

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ive years after meeting at Hidden Oaks Assisted Living, Holly McCarter, 71 and Robert Stucki, 78, were married in November. When Stucki proposed, he went to Holly’s room, gave her the ring and they said a prayer together. She cried and said yes. They agree that their religious beliefs were a big part of what brought them together. Randy Reber, executive director of Hidden Oaks, was Stucki’s best man. Reber said, “Their love for each other is so evident.” Three of the couple’s five children attended the wedding, which was held in the Gazebo at Hidden Oaks by Pastor Bruce Plummer. A reception followed for residents and family.

When asked about his love for McCarter, Stucki clearly lit up. “Love is better the second time around,” he says. “Holly is my angel.” Hidden Oaks is at 3625 Hidden Tree Lane, Fort Myers.

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