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Congratulations!

CELEBRATING OUR 10TH ANNIVERSARY

Welcome to the joy of planning your wedding!

2013 EDITION If we could offer you but one guiding inspiration as you design this very special occasion, it would simply be to always remember that “Love is a force more formidable than any other... It cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment and offer you more joy than any material possession could.” ~ Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. There will be much to consider as you move through your planning process. So when it all seems just a bit too overwhelming, remember who you are, who you love, and the importance of staying true to yourself. A large part of the fun is to collect all the ideas and information and then consider what best fits with you and your fiancé.

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Marjie Grove Megan Cooper Judi Privett Emily German Suzanne Geist Kelcie Keeling

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Studio Graphics Suzi Velinsky

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Megan Cooper

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Suzanne Geist Marjie Grove

Beyond the cover of this Nebraska WeddingDay magazine, lies pages and pages of stunning images, fresh ideas, and valuable information — all in the hopes of helping you craft an inspired wedding!

This day is about you as a couple connecting with one another and with your cherished guests in celebration of your love and commitment.

Holly Lafferty Joy Armstrong

FOR THE WEDDING PROFESSIONAL If you have a product or service to sell in the bridal market, Nebraska WeddingDay provides a variety of advertising opportunities, bride lists, as well as a popular website and blog geared specifically to the wedding industry.

NEBRASKA WEDDINGDAY is published annually by Uncommon Delivery, LLC. © Copyright 2013.

All rights reserved. Reproduction of any part of this publication without the express written consent of the publisher is strictly prohibited.

We are honored to be part of your planning process and as we celebrate our tenth anniversary, we are very proud that NWD marks this milestone of providing a comprehensive resource to area brides through our magazine, website, and blog. As you move through the pages of this issue marking your favorite images and ideas, remember to connect with your passion. Our goal is to help you fall in love — again and again — with refined wedding inspiration. When it comes to style, there is no right or wrong, but only tasteful and true. Whether you love rustic vintage, sophisticated chic or something in between, stay true to yourself and your day will be simply stunning!

Also, remember to rely on the invaluable expertise of your wedding vendors. These dedicated folks are the people who can truly make your wedding dreams come true. These amazing professionals are experts in their field and will work tirelessly to provide you with the very best for your special day.

So no matter where you are in your wedding planning, consider this – “Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment… can you receive whatever gift, lesson or delight that moment has to offer.” ~ Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. Wishing you an abundance of delightful moments as you plan your wedding day!

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The Nebraska WeddingDay Team

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SPRING COVER Photo by Megan Pomeroy Photography on location at Lied Lodge and Conference Center at Arbor Day Farm, Gown from Ellynne Bridal, Tux from Tip Top Tux, Floral Design by Blooms and Bouquets, Hair by Sweet Jane Salon, Makeup by One Makeup Artistry.

SUMMER COVER Photo by Geoff Johnson on location at Bella Terre Reception Hall and Vineyard, Gown from My Blue Whimsy, Tux from Tip Top Tux, Floral Design by Hy-Vee, Hair by Thomas Sena for T’eez, Makeup by Anastasia Ruhland for T’eez.

IN THIS ISSUE FEATURES

23 DELIGHTFUL DESSERTS

Sweet Displays of Delectables

86 HONEYMOON DIARIES Discover Your Ultimate Getaway Destination

102 NEWEST NEWLYWEDS 2012-2013 Nebraska Newlyweds

112 SEASONAL INSPIRATION

Fashion Décor Real Weddings

113 TOSS AND TOAST BAR Celebrate Your Vows With a Selection of Tossings and Champagne

PHOTOGRAPHY BY Megan Pomeroy

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IN THIS ISSUE 2013 Nebraska WeddingDay

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Beauty

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44

Fashion

17

Beauty Guide

66

The Perfect Fit

18

Looking Lovely

70

The Ideal Ring

76

Money Matters

Décor

Home

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Delightful Desserts

28

The Right Question

82

Choosing Wisely

38

Maximize the Meeting

84

Making It Legal

44

Transforming the Space

50

Handcrafted Details

53

The Handcrafted Guide

86

Honeymoon Diaries

56

Invitation Etiquette

90

Beyond Your Backyard

Honeymoon

Meet The Expert

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Meet The Expert – T. Free Photography

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Meet The Expert – TMS–The Lighting Specialists

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Meet The Expert – Porridge Papers

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Planning

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142

Receptions

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My Daughter’s Day

106

Reception Guide

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Signature Drinks

113

Toss & Toast Bar

94

Spending Secrets

116

Climate Control

98

Showered With Love

122

Music For Every Moment

102

Newest Newlyweds

126

Party Protocol

158

Mix & Mingle

132

United In Love

160

Savor The Moment

138

Selecting Your Setting

163

Build A Better Welcome Basket

142

An Intimate Affair

146

Seating Essentials

149

Seating Guide

Bridal Tools

150

164

It’s A Wrap

150

Navigating The Guest List

168

Your Ultimate Countdown

154

Let The Truth Be Told

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Bridal Guide

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Meet The Expert Nebraska’s top wedding pros answer our questions and share tips, tricks and top advice from the industry HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR STYLE? All-encompassing. We see the moments that most people never even notice and capture them on camera. Some people think in terms of words; we think in terms of pictures. Our goal is to tell a story – the full story – through thoughtful images.

T. FREE PHOTOGRAPHY Travis Freeland, Owner tfreephotography.com Just like no two people are the same, no two weddings are the same. T. Free Photography takes the time to get to know each and every couple so they can bring a higher level of customized creativity to the big day. T. Free captures personalities, moments, memories, and more.

WHAT IS A FAVORITE ELEMENT OF YOUR WORK? As a photographer, I get to participate in thousands of moments that most people only get to experience once in a lifetime.

We may shoot a wedding every weekend, but the love story is always different. Watching it unfold and getting to know the leading characters will never get old.

WHAT DO YOU FIND REWARDING ABOUT THIS BUSINESS? For most couples, the big day can be a blur. We help put it in focus – literally and figuratively. Seeing a couple relive the best day of their lives through images we captured is an incredible feeling.

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WHAT IS THE BEST ADVICE YOU CAN GIVE A COUPLE WHEN IT COMES TO SELECTING A PHOTOGRAPHER? While there are many decisions a couple has to make as their wedding day approaches, choosing a photographer is truly the most important. Your photographer should be seen as the glue that holds the day together. Invest wisely in the person responsible for the photographs that will be part of your family’s history forever.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LOCATION TO PHOTOGRAPH? From the charm of the farms, to new memories in the Old Market, Nebraska is truly a photographer’s dream! It may sound corny, but the heartland is a great place for lovers and we are psyched every time we can feature a couple getting married in the state.

WHAT IS YOUR TOP ADVICE? Meet with your photographer face-to-face and really get to know them before you sign a contract. Realize that you will work with this person on a consistent basis in the months leading up to the nuptials.

That said, not only should they be able to take a great picture, but the ideal photographer should also be friendly, easy going, and responsive to your input.

Little known secret? Good chemistry with your photographer is the secret behind a fabulous photo.

My Daughter’s Day Advice and reflections from one Mother of the Bride

By Suzanne Geist

THE DAY I HAD BEEN WAITING FOR WAS finally here, my daughter’s wedding day.

I approached this day with so many mixed emotions—happiness for her and her future, bittersweet that my baby is grown and no longer “my baby,” and relief that the day is finally here.

Now that her most memorable day has come and gone, I reflect on it and ask myself, “If I had to do it again, what would I do differently?”

As it inevitably does, the day passes quickly.

Several times since the wedding, friends have asked my advice on navigating the year-long journey of planning as the Mother of the Bride.

Well, I operated by a few, sometimes unorthodox, principles.

THE BRIDE’S DAY This is your daughter’s and future son-in-law’s day. That seems like a logical and obvious statement, right? Well, not so fast! Keeping this simple fact in the forefront can be especially challenging if you are paying for the wedding.

It is so easy to get caught up in planning a gathering for your friends and theirs, that you momentarily forget the true focus of the day.

You must always remember that the little touches and personality of this event are of the couple and no one else. Keep them involved! Ask questions about what they like, what their vision is, and what things they do not want as part of their day.

LET HER TAKE CENTER STAGE Sorry Mom, it’s not about you. I know I just said that, but it bears repeating. This is where I have seen planning hit the skids. This is the day that you step aside and let your daughter take center stage. Always remember and plan accordingly.

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look your best; but your daughter is the one who should be grabbing their attention. Select attire that suits your body style and personal style, yet does not distract from the wedding party. Be mindful that the colors need to blend nicely. You definitely don’t need to match the bridesmaids, but you don’t want to clash with the color palette either. Beware of plunging necklines or high hemlines. It will be a long day and those choices limit your ability to move about freely as well as compromise you and your guests’ comfort.

As you tackle the long list of details, keep repeating, “It’s not about me, it’s about them.” If you do this, you will be on a good path toward planning a wedding that is truly personal to the couple while keeping the relationship with your daughter intact.

KEEP YOUR POISE Stay poised. Planning a wedding will present stressful times.

This is where you can shine! Freak-out moments are had by most; but if you stay calm and rational, it will give your daughter so much assurance. It’s also contagious. Almost every detail can be fixed, planned around or adapted. I made it my goal to assure the planning was as stress free for my daughter as possible. Now, I’m not Wonder Woman and I cannot control every event. I just realized that if I was a “mom-zilla” to the florist or had a meltdown over the color of the party mints, my

daughter was likely to feel that stress. She should not have to worry about my behavior along with the minutia of planning. So if you take care of both of those concerns, you will have a wonderful event and keep your relationship intact.

Behind every relaxed, beautiful bride is a mother with big shoulders who can deflect any negativity and keep smiling. Do your best to dispel any frustrations and the day will be grand!

COMMUNICATION IS KEY Keep communicating! Talk about the details as much as time will allow. Talking through the day will almost always bring up something you haven’t thought about. Also, talk to the groom’s family. They often like to be involved in some aspect of the planning and it’s your job to initiate that communication. Visit with the Mother of the Groom about your dress. That way she will be more comfortable about making her own selection.

Communicate about budgets. Whether high or low, talking about it keeps everyone informed and on track.

Mom, remember that you are the “mood setter,” initiator, and allaround problem solver of this event. I can’t guarantee your day will go without a hitch. But if you keep these principles in mind, I do know that you will look back on the day with great pride, joy, and anticipation about what is to come! |NWD|

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Looking Lovely Simply relax and be pampered

THE MOST AMAZING TIME DURING YOUR wedding planning is often the time between finalizing your budget, locations, and vendors through to your actual wedding day. This is the time to select all the final details for your menu, flowers, dĂŠcor, rentals, and most importantly, your look. Between follow-up phone calls, dress fittings, and finishing up handcrafted details, you may likely be distracted from your makeup and hair for the big day. Rather than looking at your beauty consultations as simply items to check off your to-do list, use them as a time to sit, relax, and be pampered by the professionals. Also, when considering your hair and makeup styling, remember that your groom fell in love with YOU and wants to see you walking down the aisle, not someone he hardly recognizes. By implementing just a few easy suggestions, not only will you be well-prepared for these sessions, you will truly enjoy them!

BRIDAL MAKEUP CONSULTATION When approaching your wedding makeup, remember that less is more. Your wedding day is not the time to try a new smoky eye shadow or bright red lip color if you’ve never worn these dramatic looks before. Your makeup artist will get a great reading on your beauty routine, if you follow these few steps. It is important to show your true self on your wedding day, not to dawn a new alter ego.

WEAR YOUR EVERYDAY MAKEUP On the day of your consultation, wear your everyday makeup to your appointment. Your makeup artist will then see how much makeup you wear on a day-to-day basis and she can discuss with you any features you might like to accentuate. If you only wear concealer and mascara to work, discuss some neutral eye shadow colors and light lip gloss options.

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If you love to wear eyeliner and darker shades, your makeup artist will see that you do not shy away from a bold look and she can consider this when discussing options for the day of your wedding.

BRING PHOTOS Bring a few inspiring images with you such as photos of celebrities or Pinterest finds. Do not hesitate to pick and choose! Explain what you like and do not like about each image. You may love the rosy cheeks on one and a full lash line on another. Most women have a difficult time describing their makeup wishes, so bringing along an image or two can illustrate for your makeup artist what look you would like to achieve for yourself on your big day!

PLAN A NIGHT OUT The best way to test the longevity of your makeup and to fully enjoy your consultation is to plan an evening out on the town or to go on a date with your fiancĂŠ that evening. This will not only serve as a test to see if you love sporting those false lashes for a few hours, but you will have a longer period of time to really get a feel for your makeup and what you like about it. Snapping a few images of yourself is also a great way to see how comfortable you feel with the results. You want your makeup to look flawless, all the while highlighting

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|beauty| your gorgeous features. Be certain to take note of any changes you would like to make after this test.

BRIDAL HAIR CONSULTATION Much like your makeup consultation, your wedding-day hairstyle should be comfortable and reflect your personality and fashion sense. Your fiancé fell in love with you and wants to see your radiant self walking down the aisle without a surprise last minute bang cut or extra-long extensions. Be true to yourself and wear your hair in a style that makes you feel comfortable and beautiful.

HAIR CARE Many hair stylists will agree that your “day-after” hair is typically the best to style. By not arriving with freshly-washed, squeaky

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clean hair, your stylist will have some texture and body to work with. As always, when scheduling your consultation, ask your stylist’s preference.

COME ONE, NOT ALL Since most salons are smaller spaces, it can quickly become distracting and intimidating for a stylist to practice your wedding-day style with a crowd surrounding the chair. By only bringing one or two guests, you will relieve the stress and boost the enjoyment factor of your session. Remember 20 | nebraska weddingday

this is a practice run through. While you should be very satisfied with your bridal hairstyle before leaving the salon, it is not the time to obsess over every bobby pin inserted in your updo.

Focus on (a) how comfortable you feel with the style, (b) how long the look will last throughout the day and into the evening, and (c) if you have any desired changes such as more or less volume, curl, etc.

BRING YOUR ACCESSORIES If you plan to wear a veil or other hair accessory, don’t forget to bring it along to your consultation. Allowing your stylist to practice with the piece in advance will insure that the appointment on your wedding day will be a breeze. Plus, you will have the chance to try different positions for your veil or accessory and then snap a few photos of your finished look to decide which you like best.

WEAR MAKEUP If it does not work into your schedule to plan your makeup and hair consultations back-to-back, at a minimum wear your everyday makeup to your hair consultation. Wearing makeup to your hair appointment will allow you to feel more comfortable visualizing your final bridal look and your hairstylist can also consider your personal beauty routine and style when designing your look. |NWD|

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Signature Drinks treat guests to refeshing and unique cocktails

garitas Lime Sorbet Mar INGREDIENTS: 1 lime, cut into 8 wedges 1/4 cup sugar 2 pints lime sorbet 1/2 cup tequila

Rub the lime wedges around the rim of the glass. Place sugar on a small plate. Turn each glass upside down and coat the rim in sugar. Place 2 scoops of sorbet in each glass. Pour 1 tablespoon of tequila over the top.

Lemon-Thyme Soda

INGREDIENTS: 1-1/2 cups sugar 2 cups water 1 oz. fresh thyme Juice of 6 lemons Soda Water Bring sugar and water to a boil, add thyme and let steep until cool.

Pass through a fine strainer. Pour 1-1/2 ounces of thyme syrup and 1/2 ounce of lemon juice over ice.

Summer Breeze INGREDIENTS: 1/3 cup pineapple juice 1/4 cup pink grapefruit juice 2 ounces gin Fresh mint leaves Seltzer

Combine pineapple juice, grapefruit juice, gin and several mint leaves. Pour seltzer and juice blend over ice.

Sources: Real Simple, Culture Club, Martha Stewart

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DESSERTS Present guests with a sweet display of delectables at your wedding reception.

With an array of details and design, these cakes are too delightful to showcase just one.

Photography By Megan Pomeroy

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LACE Delicate and romantic, lace overlay creates interest and texture to this pale yellow cake.

Created by Sweet Art Wedding Cakes

BLOOMS A simple bloom can add just enough texture and interest to the sweetest cake.

Created by Russ’s Market

RUFFLES Charming ruffles add texture and color to this cake design.

Created by Sweet Cakes & Roses, Inc.

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BUTTONS Simple yet sweet, this cake adorned with white buttons is perfect for a rustic wedding.

Created by Bliss Old Market Bakery

PETALS This cake is whimsical and feminine with cascading petals down the side.

Cake stand from Nostalgia Rentals Created by Alotta Brownies

PATTERN A unique pattern is modern and chic for your wedding cake. Play around with colors and shapes for a custom design.

Created by Butterfly Bakery

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The Right Question Tips for asking the right questions and managing the information

By Holly Lafferty

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE ASKING the right questions or if they are providing you all the details you need to make an informed decision? We have all been in situations where you didn’t have a clue what questions to ask, because, after all, how can you know what you don’t know? One of the biggest challenges you will face in your wedding planning comes from the avalanche of questions and volumes of information you will compile relating to your vendors and their services. Luckily, Nebraska WeddingDay is here to give you the scoop!

Here is a list of critical queries we believe will help minimize the possibility of incurring unexpected costs and enduring unpleasant surprises. Please consider this list simply a baseline of questions to ask, as you may very well have a great number of questions rolling about in your head to add during the interview process.

First things first—come to your appointments prepared. It is always wise to review your questions before the meeting. Also, bring a notebook or journal to jot down all the information. It is best to not rely solely on your memory for all the details. During the planning process, you will have many appointments and many different conversations, so taking notes is a great way to stay organized. Once you have completed your research, you will have a set of organized notes to review all the options, helping you make the most appropriate decisions about your vendors with the necessary information close at hand.

Begin by requesting from each vendor at least three references. Don’t skip this step, as it is an important question to ask. From there, you can use the questions in this article as a guide. We have the questions broken into categories by vendor to provide an organized reference guide for you. Keep in mind this list is not all inclusive.

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|décor| You may have questions to add. Keep in mind that your vendors want to ease any concerns you may have about using their services, so ask away!

EVENT PLANNER QUERIES 1. Will you come up with a timeline and communicate it to all vendors? This one is fairly basic, but many brides make the assumption a planner will do this without confirming it. When the big day arrives, she may be shocked to learn that her planner didn’t confirm a drop-off time with the florist. Do not let this simple expectation be overlooked!

2. Are you willing to do the “dirty work” for me? In other words, if your future mother-in-law is overstepping her bounds or your maid of honor is complaining about helping, will your planner be okay with stepping in and addressing the situation so you don’t have the added stress?

3. Do you have connections with other wedding professionals? Often the added expense of a planner can be justified simply because her relationships with vendors will provide you special discounts. This is a huge plus and definitely a selling point for certain planners.

4. Are you well-versed in wedding vendor contracts? You want your planner to be familiar with a wide variety of vendor contracts.

She should also be familiar with the fine print that may be part of a contract. It may save you many headaches if she catches something that would have resulted in significant additional cost.

5. Will you stay within my budget? You don’t want a planner that tries to pressure you into hiring her favorite photographer if that photographer costs significantly more than you budgeted. Your planner should respect your budget limitations and work within them rather than try to push you beyond your means.

PHOTOGRAPHER QUERIES 1. What is your style? One example includes a classic/traditional style with formal shots. Another style is photojournalistic with more artistic, editorial, and illustrative shots. The best way to get a feel for a photographer’s style is to see their work. You definitely want a photographer whose style meshes with your preferences. Don’t consider someone based solely on your budget, because you most likely will not be happy with the end result. Always ask to see a full wedding portfolio, rather than just the highlight photos. Consider how many useable photos the photographer captures when shooting 1,000+ images. What is the ultimate question when reviewing the portfolio? Do you like what you see?

2. How many photographers will be shooting the wedding? If they have someone else shooting with them, this can be crucial to ensuring all of the special little moments are captured. But you also want to be certain you will not be charged extra to have another photographer on hand. Make sure you inquire about potential hidden costs, such as for overtime or an extra photographer.

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|dĂŠcor| 3. Can you provide me with a list of photos to be taken? When it comes to posed family photos, your photographer should either provide a list of common images shot or accept from you a list of the images you wish to be captured. Since you cannot recreate the day, it is important to talk about all the images that are meaningful to you beforehand.

4. How does proofing/printing work? Many photographers provide access to online proofs from which you choose images for printing. Other photographers provide you a CD of all images shot.

It is important for you to know (1) exactly when to expect your images to be available, (2) how you will be able to view them and whether others will be able to view them, (3) how to order images, and (4) what is included in your selected photo package. Find out what desired add-ons will cost, such as photo booths, digital archiving, wedding albums, etc. These questions apply to your engagement session as well. Be certain to ask whether the engagement session is included in the wedding package.

5. Have you shot weddings at this venue before? It is quite helpful when a photographer is familiar and comfortable with your venue. However, if a photographer has not shot a wedding at the venue you selected, do not necessarily count them out. If he/she is willing to schedule a walk-through to check out the property before the wedding, that should be enough to alleviate any concerns.

Willingness to take the time for a walk-through provides you reassurance that customer service is a high priority to the photographer and that she/he is motivated to do excellent work.

VENUE QUERIES 1. Is my wedding date available? How many people can the space accommodate? Will there be other events going on during my wedding? Are outside caterers welcome? While these are the most common questions to ask, they remain important to clarify the details.

2. What is the inclement-weather contingency plan? If you are having a tented or open-air outdoor ceremony and/or reception, does your location have a back-up space available in case of inclement weather? You may not want to risk an outdoor ceremony/reception in the pouring rain if your venue does not have another option.

3. Are tables, chairs, linens, and glassware/dishware available? If so, are you going to be charged extra to use them or are these items included in the rental price of the space? If not available, does the venue arrange for rental or will you need to provide these items? Rental companies can provide all these items should you need them, but factor in the cost of outside rentals when selecting your venue.

4. What are your accommodations for entertainment?

Does the venue have an area for a live band to perform or is there only room for a deejay? How large is the dance floor? How late can the band or deejay perform? These are all important questions to ask as you consider your entertainment options.

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|dÊcor| 5. What are the service charges? Make sure you are fully aware of all service charges, including those that may not seem necessary at the time of booking, but may become necessary as the planning unfolds. Don’t forget to inquire about local applicable taxes as well.

Finally, clearly define all deposit and refund policies.

FLORIST QUERIES 1. Will you be handling my floral design personally or will someone else? If you make a strong connection with your floral designer and you love his/her style, you want to be certain that particular designer will be the one creating your designs. If that particular designer does not work on the day of your wedding, that may or may not be a concern. If your floral designer works as part of a team, you will want to confirm that she/he is part of that team.

2. What floral recommendations would you make for my budget? You may have a specific floral design in mind, but your florist should know alternative blooms that will assure you stay within budget while maintaining the flow of the design scheme you envisioned. The designer should be up to speed on trends and knowledgeable about how to work desired details into your style.

3. Are you familiar with my ceremony and reception locations? It is important for your floral designer to be knowledgeable about your venue as you will want the floral design to enhance the positive attributes of the site, while accommodating your preferred style. Similar to the photographer, the floral designer should be willing to tour the space if he/she is not familiar with the location.

4. How many weddings do you typically schedule for one day? This is a critical question when considering whether the florist can provide you the services you require on your special day. Some florists are smaller operations that can only handle a limited number of events across any given weekend. Then again, a larger floral operation may be able to comfortably handle a greater number of weddings/events due to the large team of professionals involved in the process. Ask the question and listen carefully to how it is handled. If you are uneasy about their ability to make your day a priority, it might be best to consider other floral vendors.

5. What design styles are you comfortable executing?

Every florist has a distinct style, so you will want to confirm that your visions align. If the floral designer leans toward modern and cutting-edge but you are looking for something traditional and simple, you may end up being taken aback by the results on your wedding day. The designer should have a portfolio of real wedding designs that are similar to your vision. Carefully considering the responses you receive when asking questions will help eliminate any surprises on the day of your wedding.

CAKE ARTIST QUERIES 1. How do you price your cakes? Some bakers price them by the slice, with certain styles and flavors costing more than others.

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|dĂŠcor| In addition, some cake artists have a required minimum per-person cost. With numerous options available, confirm that you are clear on the associated costs before selecting your cake.

2. What flavors do you offer? Nearly every cake artist provides traditional white cake. But if you want something outside the norm, confirm that your prospective baker offers the fillings, cake coatings, and decorations that you have in mind. Without a doubt, taste tests are an important and welcome element of the interview process!

3. Are additional fees charged for delivery and setup of the cake? Many cake artists will include delivery and setup in the pricing structure. But don’t assume anything. Ask about those details as some bakers may bill those services as an additional charge, especially if your venue falls outside the normal service area of the cake artist.

4. What happens if the cake is damaged during delivery or setup? While this is unlikely, occasionally it occurs. Ask if the baker or an assistant will be available for last-minute repairs or touch ups.

Also, inquire as to whether there will be a refund or adjustment in price should such an unfortunate occurrence take place.

5. Am I able to create a custom cake or are there specific designs from which I choose? If you have a specific cake design in mind, provide photos to the cake artist. He/she should be able to create the cake based upon the photos and description you provide. However, if you have nothing particular in mind, most cake artists will have examples that may provide you inspiration.

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CATERER QUERIES 1. How does your pricing work? This element of the planning can often be the most expensive. Ask all the questions you deem important to become comfortable with the decisions you need to make about the food and drink that will be served. Since the list of options may be long and varied, it might be helpful to contact the caterer prior to the appointment to have them send you information.

Many caterers have a website with their menu options listed.

(Be aware that it is not unusual for pricing to be omitted from online menu information.) Review any information prior to your appointment to narrow your choices and to minimize the chance of leaving the appointment without all the information you need to make a final decision. Once you are at the meeting, a good place to start would be to ask whether the caterer has a minimum cost per person. Also, ask if the gratuity is included in the per-person cost or will it be an additional charge? It is critical that you fully understand the pricing structure and how your caterer will bill you.

2. What do you recommend for my event? Given your guest list and the location of your wedding, your caterer should have some suggestions about whether a buffet or plated dinner will work best.

As a seasoned professional, the caterer also will have some suggestions for you about the type of food that would work well with the style of your event.

3. How will you present the food? Most caterers will have put some thought into presentation and how the food will be

arranged on the buffet table or plated for service to the guests.

4. How much and what type of catering experience do you have? Find out how long the caterer has been in business. Ask how many weddings they cater per year. The answer to these questions will provide insight into the depth of their experience.

5. Will there be someone to manage things on-site the day of the wedding? It is important for your caterer to have a reasonable number of servers on hand and also to have an experienced banquet manager assigned to your event to assure everything runs smoothly. The banquet manager will coordinate with your wedding planner to make certain food and drink service is executed at the designated time.

As you can see, there is a broad range of questions that are important to ask your vendors. The responses you receive will provide valuable information that will aid in your decision-making process as well as put your mind at ease. This list is by no means all inclusive, but it should give you a good start as you meet with your prospective vendors. Since these professionals will be an important part of your big day, they understand the importance of outlining for you all the procedures, policies, and details of their services. When you are comfortable with all your vendors and the services they offer, your special day will run much more smoothly. You will have peace of mind that your wedding day will go off without a hitch! |NWD|

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Maximize The Meeting Simple tips for insuring a successful consultation

THROUGH ALL THE EXCITEMENT OF selecting your wedding vendors, it is easy to forget about asking key questions or expressing any concerns you may have. When meeting with a vendor, always bring along information about the basics of your wedding plans (date, time, locations) and keep an open mind to any suggestions your vendors may have. Here are a few simple tips for ensuring you have a successful meeting with your hired local talent.

FASHION You probably have ripped pages out of your favorite magazines or scoured the web to save images of your favorite wedding gowns. If you have a certain designer in mind, research where that line is sold. You will want to keep those images handy for when you visit a bridal store. However, keep in mind that your tastes may change once you see how flattering some styles look on you. Tap into years of valuable experience and expertise by telling bridal consultants your wishes and allowing them to incorporate those wishes into your wedding dress the best way possible. They are knowledgeable on brands, fabrics and silhouettes, offering great advice and options to create your unique and stunning bridal look.

WHOM TO BRING Most often your bridal gown selection process is the most sensitive and special time during your wedding-planning process. You may have dreamt of your wedding gown for years and it is important for you to feel stunning, yet comfortable in the gown you select. By only inviting one to two friends or family members to your appointment, you will feel more comfortable. We suggest bringing your mother, PHOTOGRAPHY BY Paula Moser Photography

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|décor| sister, aunt, or maid of honor with you. They know your style, comfort level, and can gently remind you of your price point.

Avoid bringing any small children, as they may distract you from the task at hand.

BE UPFRONT One of the most important aspects of purchasing your bridal gown is not only loving your selection, but also staying within budget. Be honest with your bridal consultant about your price point. They will be able to select gowns without breaking the bank or breaking your heart. Also, be upfront with your style and fashion preferences. If you dreamt of an all lace trumpet silhouette, tell your bridal consultant that lace is very important to you. They will appreciate your honesty and clarity when pulling gowns for you to try on.

But also remember to give some other gowns a try.

Wedding dresses can look very different on your body than they do on the rack. Stay open minded when trying on different styles. Even if you end up not loving a dress you try on, it will ultimately give you greater confidence about your final dress selection.

WHAT TO WEAR Nude undergarments are always encouraged when trying on bridal gowns. They are not distracting and look the best under any sheath gowns. Also, wearing your makeup and doing your hair will allow you to feel more confident and comfortable when trying on dresses. If you have any heirloom sashes, broaches or items you wish to incorporate into your gown, bring them along as well.

FLORAL AND DÉCOR Finalizing your décor and floral designs often is one of the most difficult areas of wedding planning for most brides.

After years of dreaming of your perfect wedding, it becomes challenging to commit to ideas and designs, fearing you may change your mind. Keeping an open mind to suggestions made by the floral designers and event planners will allow you to create a wedding day exactly how you pictured it, and often times better!

SELECTING A DESIGNER It is nearly impossible to compare floral designers side by side without asking very detailed questions regarding supplies and labor. When interviewing floral designers, be upfront about your budget and what elements are important to you. Keep an open mind to their ideas and visions while trusting their knowledge and expertise as designers. They know what type of flowers will be in season, what will last the longest for an outdoor wedding, and will have new ideas and designs that 40 | nebraska weddingday

you may love. The best designers work with your vision to create the day you dreamt about. You are not always paying for just a floral designer, but rather you are often paying for an event designer who will help construct your entire wedding day dĂŠcor.

WHAT TO BRING As always, arrive prepared with your wedding details in hand.

Bring along to your floral consultation any information about your wedding date, time, and location. As much information as you can gather beforehand about what is available to use at your ceremony and reception sites, the smoother your floral meeting will go. Also, you should have a ballpark budget to give your floral designer during your first consultation. Be certain to determine that amount prior to your appointment.

Be true to your budget and allow your designer to give you options on how to create your dream arrangements using that budget. You can also bring along any images of floral arrangements and bouquets to provide your designer a sense of your taste. They will ask you what you like about each image so they are able to pick up on any trends or styles you favor. Remember to focus on the overall look you wish to impart, rather than the specific bloom type. This will dramatically open up the possibilities for the designer to create what you truly desire, all within your budget. |NWD|

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Meet The Expert Nebraska’s top wedding pros answer our questions and share tips, tricks and top advice from the industry (continued) decorations and more dramatic lighting. Custom monograms projected with light are also very popular.

WHAT KIND OF LIGHTING CAN BE RENTED? We rent a wide variety of lighting equipment, from small LEDS all the way up to moving lights that will do full-color mixing and pattern projection. But we pride ourselves on our full-service package. Let us handle all those details on your special day!

Theatrical Media Services TMS–The Lighting Specialists TMSOmaha.com TMS is a leader in the lighting industry.

From weddings to concert lighting, they have it all. TMS has been nominated for “Lighting Company of the Year” multiple times for their work with the Dave Matthews Band. TMS has also won “Pro Lights and Sounds” Hometown Hero award for best lighting company in the Midwest. They employ a staff of over 50 lighting experts from all different fields of lighting.

HOW HAS LIGHTING CHANGED IN THE PAST FIVE YEARS? LED lights (light-emitting diode) have taken over the lighting world in the last five years. Their bright colors and low heat are the biggest change to come along in quite some time. Prior to LED lights, we had to use par can lights that became very hot and did not have color mixing.

WHAT TRENDS ARE YOU SEEING NOW? These days we are seeing less fabric

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HOW DO YOU USE LIGHTING TO CONVEY A CERTAIN MOOD? Color creates mood. For instance, having a nicely lit reception in sky blue is very calming.

WHAT ARE YOUR TIPS FOR OUTDOOR LIGHTING? Call a pro! TMS takes great pride in not only lighting your event, but also helping you plan for unseen obstacles. Outdoor weddings have special needs. For example, knowing what all your vendors need for electricity is a tedious process and we are happy to handle that legwork for you!

HOW DO YOU USE LIGHTING TO CHANGE THE SPACE? We have a couple of different philosophies when it comes to lighting a space. If the room has beautiful architecture, we want to highlight those features. However, if the room has imperfections, we use the light to focus attention away from those spots.

WHAT IS YOUR TOP ADVICE? Call us for a complimentary consultation. We are happy to meet with you at the reception venue and go over all your ideas. We can explain the best way to use our lighting to create something extraordinary!

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Transforming The Space Enhancing reception dĂŠcor with stylish touches

REGARDLESS OF THE VENUE, RENTALS can add a special touch or completely transform the space. When it comes to weddings, rentals have the power to enhance your venue in ways that you never imagined.

Rental pieces can transform the space into a stylish, elegant and personalized atmosphere just for you. Here is a rental walk-through that will assist you in selecting pieces, outline what to expect, and illustrate why it is all worth it.

SEATING The most important consideration when imagining your reception is to envision the tables in the space. What will be the size or shape? If you are working with a large venue, consider using rectangular and square tables.

This will give you a sleek look while seating guests comfortably. Long, banquet tables will give guests a more intimate and interactive experience. If you opt for long banquet tables, keep your guest list in mind. This typically works best for weddings of 75 or less. Your linen costs may increase when dressing tables that are not round. Consult your wedding or reception planner about the options. They will know what will work best in the space and with your guest list. These professionals also know how many different linens you may need.

For seating options, there are many different styles and treatments to transform reception chairs. The most popular chair rental is the chavari, an elegant, spindle-back chair that can be rented in a variety of colors. Although these chairs are a fabulous option for completely transforming the space, they may not be one of your top budget priorities. If this is the case, consider chair covers. There are many different styles and treatments to choose from in chair PHOTOGRAPHY BY Shane and Sunny Photography

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|dĂŠcor| covers. You can consider covering the entire chair or just the back. If you plan on covering your chairs, keep your guest count in mind. Completely covering a large numbers of chairs (150-200) can quickly make your space look like a sea of fabric.

It is important to consider the entire scene, while keeping the table centerpieces as the main focus.

TABLE TREATMENT The options for table linens are virtually endless. There are many different hues in standard linens and some gorgeous textured linens as well. Simply covering tables in floor length linens can easily dress them up and add a pop of interest to the space.

Many reception venues will include their china in the facility fee. If you are looking to save a few hundred dollars on china rentals, simply dress up the standard white china with colored napkins and plate chargers. However, if your vision includes really dressing up your table, consider renting china and flatware. Simply adding gold flatware and gold-rimmed china will give off an elegant and sophisticated feel. Be certain to bring your menu along when selecting china rentals to ensure you are providing the correct dishes for each course.

The best way to make guests feel special and welcomed is to pay attention to the details. Providing a unique table experience will leave a lasting impression. Add special touches through napkin rings, menu cards, or small tokens of thanks. Having your guests find a thoughtful touch at their place setting will immediately put them at ease.

FILL THE SPACE Many reception venues are large, open rooms. To create a cozier atmosphere and to separate the space into smaller sections, consider renting lounge pieces to create unique areas for guests to gather after dinner. Another rental musthave is an assortment of cocktail tables for guests to gather around during the cocktail hour.

VINTAGE RENTALS Vintage rentals are very versatile and can be used with any theme or style of wedding. If you love the rustic look, renting vintage birdcages, suitcases or tree stumps would be a great way to incorporate that look and feel. Looking for a more refined reception? Vintage rentals often carry gold and silver pieces that can be used for floral centerpieces or serving trays to impart a sophisticated and charming feel. Regardless of your style, vintage rentals can add a unique look and feel to your dĂŠcor.

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OUT-OF-THE-ORDINARY There are many rental items that would never occur to you prior to planning a wedding. Many companies rent dance floors, partitions and lighting. Special lighting can be a significant enhancement to your reception. Spotlighting certain elements such as your wedding cake or simply lighting the walls with your wedding colors can pull guests into your unique atmosphere. You can use lighting to showcase elements that you want your guests to notice or to hide aspects of the space that you wish to downplay.

Whether you are hosting your reception in a tent, a barn or a traditional reception venue, rentals are terrific tools to transform the setting. Use them to dress up your tables, provide proper lighting, and add interest to your space.

HOW TO RENT RIGHT Here are some quick tips and tricks to keep in mind when addressing wedding rentals.

KNOW YOUR NUMBERS – Always ask if they have enough of each item to accommodate your guest list. If you have a large guest list, consider combining two colors to get the volume you need. Reserve first, confirm later.

KNOW YOUR NEEDS – Ask your venue what is included in the facility fee. If they provide the tables, chargers and china, your budget may open up and leave room for upgraded rental chairs and linens.

DELIVERY FEES – Clarify your venue’s rules and guidelines on rental delivery and pick up. Chances are your venue and the rental company worked together on prior events and so they are familiar with the protocol and the space. Also, inquire about rental company delivery or late fees.

LIMIT YOUR HELPERS – Only bring one or two others when selecting your rentals. In fact, it may be best to make the visit solo or only with your fiancé. There will be many choices to consider and decisions to make. Decisions can become more difficult and uncomfortable when too many opinions are interjected into the process. When in doubt, keep it simple because little touches do make a difference. |NWD|

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Handcrafted Details Focusing on the basics and making it your own

THE DO-IT-YOURSELF CRAZE HAS BEEN prominent for many years, but brides are quickly learning the truth behind the tape, glue, glitter, and rhinestones—it doesn’t always save you money when you rely on your own craftiness.

BALANCE We have spent months contemplating the perfect balance of handcrafted details for the average bride and we have dreamt up one fantastic scenario. What if you can have your dream wedding and stay within budget while still looking like you hired Martha Stewart herself? By focusing on just a few distinctive design elements, you can pull off a wedding that is in perfect balance.

SIGNAGE By adding interesting signage to your ceremony and reception space, you are not only adding function, but you are adding style and personality as well. When determining signage options, take a good look at the space you are using. Are there any remarkable focal points you would like to highlight or possibly you caught yourself missing a critical turn that would take attendees to the ceremony location?

If so, that is a great opportunity to create some signage for your guests. The key to successfully executing any handcrafted project is to focus on practicality.

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backdrop. Purchase a can of chalkboard paint for less than $20 and transform a thrift store silver tray or ceramic serving platter for a menu board to be displayed at the start of your buffet line. Certain fabrics, like canvas, can be painted with your names, monogram, or even a simple “welcome” and hung from a flag hook. If you do not have the highest confidence in your calligraphy skills, rent or borrow a projector to perfect any monogram or text. Remember to use the same font and/or motif throughout your pieces to provide a common style with all signage.

PLACE CARDS Are plain white tented place cards not your style? Well, there are literally hundreds of unique and cost-efficient ways to direct your guests to their designated tables. Some of our favorite double-duty place cards are old-fashioned soda bottles with name tags tied around the necks. Or, how about using mini loaves of bread with guests’ names tied around them with baker’s twine. Another option would be to consider a fun and unique way to display traditional place cards. Craft a frame from chicken wire and tie on each place card with colored string. Even mimicking bowties with scraps of fabric tied and glued onto the place cards can add interest and creativity for minimal cost.

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TABLE NUMBERS Grab your guests’ attention with unique table numbers.

Use a numerical rubber stamp on fabric, or carry your chalkboard signage theme through to table numbers by using small white ceramic dinner plates. Paint the center of the plate with the chalkboard paint and then use plate stands to prop up each plate on the table. Purchase a neat set of dinner plates at a thrift store or collect unique plates at flea markets or garage sales for around 50 cents each.

Painted papier-mâché letters look great as well and make a large statement for about a dollar each. For a more rustic feel, scraps of wood can be simply stunning adorned with white lettering.

PLACE SETTINGS You do not need to break the bank to wow your guests as they arrive at their seats. Small details like sprigs of herbs or fresh greenery make a huge impact on white china. Some of our favorite ideas include menus printed on craft paper or small muslin bags stamped with a monogram or emblem, then stuffed with salted caramels or salt water taffy and tied off with a ribbon or twine. Using striped ribbon or twine tied around a simple folded napkin can also make a large impact for just a few dollars.

FAVORS Many couples are opting out of giving guests wedding favors due to the potential price tag, but here is one solution to that concern. Double-duty your guest favors to stretch your budget. Items like mini mason jars filled with fruit crisp or cobbler doubles as a favor and a dessert. Another fabulous idea is to arrange small craft paper bags full of gourmet popcorn or chocolates tied closed with ribbon or folded down and sealed with a monogramed self-adhesive sticker.

Display them on a cake stand for pretty decor at your cake table. This also allows easy access for your guests to take home with them.

The key to keeping your handcrafted projects stress free is to know your limits and consider your timetable. Many brides become overwhelmed with the countless projects they have planned and often fail to calculate the true time needed to complete each project. Our advice is to simply focus on the basics. Use an idea you have seen and make it your own. The smallest detail added to a place card or menu may be all that is needed. Remember, often less is more. In the end, your guests will be impressed with the thoughtfulness behind your day, rather than the extensive projects you have displayed in every corner. |NWD| 52 | nebraska weddingday

WOODEN FRAME Stain or paint each frame to use as a table number, menu or sign. ($1.00, michaels.com)

BAKER’S TWINE Tie together invitations, programs or favors with this fun and charming twine. ($7.95, paper-source.com)

CHALK PEN An amazing tool for chalkboard signs or windows, this pen makes for easy clean up. ($5.95, paper-source.com)

WOODEN DOWELS Perfect for ribbon wands, table numbers or escort cards. ($2.95 for 20, michaels.com)

The Handcrafted Guide A buying guide to the handcrafted details found throughout the magazine.

Photograph by Megan Pomeroy

WASHI TAPE MUSLIN BAGS We used these gems for our toss bar and favor bags. ($5.95 for 6, paper-source.com)

We love using this tape for accents on printed goods or to decorate a basic tea light. ($3.00, etsy.com)

CHALKBOARD PAPER INK STAMP Use an ink stamp to create a custom look to favors or printed goods. ($5.95, paper-source.com)

This paper can be found in the scrapbooking section and is ideal for signage. ($1.00, michaels.com)

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Meet The Expert Nebraska’s top wedding pros answer our questions and share tips, tricks and top advice from the industry (continued) make sure a design is fitted perfectly to the event, thereby avoiding unexpected costs.

Aside from that, when we begin the second round of pieces (programs, menus, table numbers and place cards) it can often be quite a surprise when these items tend to be the same cost as the invites themselves. If you think about it, there are quite a few additional pieces.

Most people don’t realize that until they hit that particular stage of the planning process for their event.

Porridge Papers Christopher James, Owner porridgepapers.com The sky is the limit for custom paper, letterpress printing, and turning ideas into reality. Porridge Papers loves to work with clients from start to finish, gathering ideas and presenting options that allow the invites to be a true reflection of the couple and the memorable event.

HOW EARLY IN THE PROCESS SHOULD COUPLES START PLANNING THEIR INVITATIONS? We always say six to eight weeks.

It depends on what they need us to do.

If it is the entire package, everything from design to custom paper, then the more lead time the better. That said, we will go out of our way to rush a client what they need in time for their big day.

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WHERE DO YOU SUGGEST SPLURGING? That’s a hard one. If we are addressing a budget, I usually ask them what elements they like best. Is it the paper or the printing? You can always choose a less expensive, yet beautiful paper when letterpress is most important. Or choose the luxurious paper and consider offset for your printing. Embellishing the invite with wax, ribbon, washi tape, fabric, or crystals, (and the list goes on) will add a dramatic touch to your invite.

WHAT OTHER TYPES OF PAPER GOODS SHOULD COUPLES CONSIDER? We love creating the whole package, including menus, table numbers and place cards! We have created tags for honey jars, wine labels, letterpress muslin bags and handkerchiefs.

Coasters, buttons for table numbers, or even a custom guestbook are just some of the extra items that can be created.

WHAT IS YOUR TOP ADVICE? Use your imagination! Don’t feel like you’re restricted to just one kind of paper or one type of printing.

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Invitation Etiquette Regardless of style, the details do matter

By Joy Armstrong

KEEP IN MIND THE FIRST IMPRESSION OF your wedding is made by your invitations. Are you planning a wedding that will be formal or casual? … contemporary or classic? …refined or quaint? In addition to your style, paper selection, font type, and colors, you will want to pay close attention to the other details that make your invitation the best it can be. Below we have outlined a variety of situations that will serve as a helpful guide as you consider appropriate phrasing as well as the many other details that are part and parcel of your invitation.

Also remember, your paper goods vendor is an expert in his/her field and can answer your questions or make recommendations on the best way to accommodate your special needs or concerns.

SAVE THE DATE A Save-the-Date announcement notifies guests to mark their calendars well in advance of the wedding date. It allows out-of-town guests to plan early for travel arrangements and time away.

The ideal time to send a Save the Date is five months to a year in advance of your wedding date.

A Save the Date notice can be a postcard, magnet, or any other creative medium you choose.

WEDDING INVITATION About six weeks before the wedding, guests should receive your invitation in the mail. Upon opening that special envelope, your wedding style will be revealed and from the invitation, your guests will know what type of wedding you have planned. So choose carefully when selecting your invitations, and remember to have fun with them! Your invitations should be a reflection of your personal style and your personality as a couple. Are you and your fiancé modern, classic, fun, or funky?

Traditionally, wedding invitations utilize two envelopes, an inner and an outer envelope.

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However, current trends are omitting the inner envelope. If your selection includes an inner envelope, the invitation is inserted into the inner envelope facing the back flap, with the names of those invited handwritten on the front. The inner envelope is addressed as follows and if children are invited, do not use “and family” to include other family members. Each family member should be listed by name, such as: Mr. and Mrs. Rogers and Marissa, Colin, and Emily An address is not included on the inner envelope. If using an inner envelope, it will also hold the other pieces of the wedding invitation such as a reception card, RSVP card and envelope, accommodations card, and a map or directions card.

After the inner envelope is properly addressed and stuffed, it is slipped into the outer envelope. The inner envelope usually does not have a gummed flap and can be ordered with a colored liner which may increase the invitation cost slightly, but adds a splash of color and style.

All envelopes should be handwritten rather than using printed mailing labels. If your handwriting is not legible, consider using a calligrapher or asking a friend with attractive handwriting to address the invitations. If neither option is available to you, run the envelopes through your computer printer and select a font that coordinates with your wedding style. We recommend that you have your return address printed on the outer envelope flap.

When deciding on the appropriate verbiage in your wedding invitation, you will want to be mindful of both families. Using proper language is important as your family circumstances may be a delicate matter when parents of the couple have separated or divorced, passed away, or are no longer part of the couple’s lives.

From time to time, the bride’s parents, together with the groom’s parents, host the wedding. Below are various examples of verbiage which may be helpful in addressing these sensitivities.

Please note that the more formal phrase “the honour of your presence” is traditionally reserved for weddings that take place in a house of worship. For less formal places or more casual ceremonies, “the pleasure of your company” or “the honour of your company” usually indicates that the ceremony will not include a worship service. When deciding on the use of “honour” versus “honor,” consider the style of your wedding and your personal preference. For formal invites you should use “honour,” which is the British spelling, but used in America for more formal functions. Also, be consistent by using “favour” instead of “favor,” if you are utilizing a reply card.

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|décor| of their children” or “invite you to join them at the wedding reception of…” The key to properly wording the invitation is to be socially appropriate while remaining comfortable with the verbiage.

Hosted by bride’s parents Mr. and Mrs. David Strong request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Christy Diane to Donald Dayton Fellows Saturday, the twenty-seventh of July two thousand and thirteen at five-thirty o’clock St. Martin United Methodist Church Omaha, Nebraska Hosted by both sets of parents Mr. and Mrs. David Strong request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Christy Diane to Donald Dayton Fellows son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Fellows Saturday, the twenty-seventh of July two thousand and thirteen at five-thirty o’clock St. Martin United Methodist Church Omaha, Nebraska OR Mr. and Mrs. David Strong and Mr. and Mrs. Robert Fellows request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children Christy Diane and Donald Dayton etc.

When the bride’s parents are divorced, the invitation is often issued by the parent who raised the bride.

If both parents raised the bride, the names are listed on separate lines with the mother always named first and without “and” between them. If the mother of the bride is remarried, use her married name.

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|décor| When divorced parents send a joint invitation Ms. Sara Jo Strong [or Mrs. Sara Jo Henderson, if remarried] and David Robert Strong request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Christy Diane to Donald Dayton Fellows Saturday, the sixth of July two thousand and thirteen at two o’clock in the afternoon Grace Baptist Church Lincoln, Nebraska Hosted by relatives The relationship between the host and the bride replaces “their daughter” on the invitation.

Hosted by friends The invitation lists the bride’s full name with Miss or Ms. preceding it.

Hosted by the wedding couple The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of Ms. Christy Diane Strong to Mr. Donald Dayton Fellows Saturday, the twenty-seventh of July two thousand and thirteen at five-thirty o’clock St. Martin United Methodist Church Omaha, Nebraska When parents, the bride, or groom have professional or military titles Doctor and Mrs. David Strong request the honour of your presence, etc.

Doctor Sara Jo Strong and Mr. David Strong request the honour of your presence, etc.

When both the mother and father are doctors Doctor David Strong and Doctor Sara Jo Strong request the honour of your presence, etc.

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Military titles for parents Captain and Mrs. David Strong request the honour of your presence, etc.

Mr. David Strong and Major Sara Jo Strong request the honour of your presence, etc.

Military titles for the bride or groom Mr. and Mrs. David Strong request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Commander Christy Diane Strong United States Army to Major Donald Dayton Fellows United States Navy etc.

While it is not traditional to include a deceased parent, many couples feel strongly about doing so. The verbiage should make it clear that the deceased parent is not issuing the invitation and courtesy titles are omitted.

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|décor| When a parent is deceased The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of Christy Diane daughter of David Strong and the late Sara Jo Strong to Donald Dayton Fellows etc.

RECEPTION LINE OR CARD When the ceremony and reception are being held at the same location, a single invitation can be issued. However, if the reception is held at a different location, a separate card is helpful but not necessary. It is not considered acceptable to invite guests only to the ceremony and not the reception.

R.S.V.P. LINE OR REPLY CARD It is a good idea to include a reply card with a stamped, selfaddressed envelope to encourage guests to respond to their invitation in a timely fashion. Even though it is not required by traditional etiquette, doing so increases the probability of receiving a reply.

If you choose to use an RSVP line on the invitation, proper placement directs it to be printed in the lower left corner. You can also include mailing address, phone number, email address, or website. If you prefer to use a separate card, the traditional fill-in-the-blank version provides the first letter of Mr. or Mrs. or a more casual option reads, “Please let us know whether you will join us” with space for writing.

If your reception includes a plated meal wherein the guests are to choose from a selection of entrees, those options should be printed on the reply card, one on each line with a short blank line to fill in a number before each selection.

SPECIAL DETAILS ON THE WEDDING INVITATION If your reception will not include a meal, it is courteous to inform your guests by using a phrase such as “and afterward for cocktails” rather than the classic “at the reception.” If you wish to stress the importance of the style of dress, for example black tie or casual attire, print that notation in the lower right corner or the invitation or on the reception card.

It is important to note that your registry information should never be indicated anywhere on the invitation or the inserts.

Before ordering your invitations, make certain it contains all the critical pieces of information, such as the host, the request, the bride and groom, the date and time, the ceremony location, the reception location, and the RSVP. This information can be worded and arranged in a variety of ways to reflect the style of the occasion and the changing times. It is always important to consider proper etiquette, but also consider your personal style when selecting your invitation and the appropriate phrasing. |NWD| 62 | nebraska weddingday

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The Perfect Fit A shopping guide for a real world bride

By Holly Lafferty

WELCOME TO A DOSE OF WEDDING GOWN reality. While you may be familiar with the reality show, Say Yes to the Dress, it obviously is not an accurate depiction of the ideal bridal gown shopping experience. Keep in mind that reality TV shows are produced with one purpose in mind – to produce good television by creating the maximum amount of drama.

You are seeking the polar opposite, since less drama equals less stress.

Remember, it’s within your control to make your bridal gown shopping an experience that dreams are made of – rather than nightmares.

In the reality show, brides flock to a famous bridal salon in New York City with close friends, family members, and assorted others to select a wedding gown. As the bride tries on dresses, her large entourage “oohs” over each gown. Usually, the bride enters the salon with a budget in mind, but often ends up convincing her father to blow the budget when the gown of her dreams is significantly more expensive than her budget allows.

While the show is highly entertaining, it is not quite reality for most Midwestern brides.

Sadly, some brides have come to emulate this popular television show at their own local bridal salon. Well, Nebraska WeddingDay is here to set the record straight on a few key misconceptions that have arisen as a result of this popular show.

TOO MANY COOKS IN THE KITCHEN When you are dealing with a smaller bridal boutique, bringing your entire entourage just won’t work. It may sound like a great idea to have your entire family and all your girlfriends there to help you choose your PHOTOGRAPHY BY Shane and Sunny Photography

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gown, but inevitably the situation will cause much more confusion and stress, making the entire experience less enjoyable for you.

You will find that everyone has their own opinion. As the bride, you know the opinion that matters the most is yours.

So, while it’s nice at times to get feedback from one or two loved ones, bringing along more people could create unnecessary anxiety for you, rather than provide you with the quality feedback you were searching for. There is a simple solution to limiting your shopping crew. Inform others who wish to come along that your mother and your maid (or matron) of honor are going to be helping you with your gown search. Often, that will stem the tide of volunteers as they realize those are the women closest to you.

For friends or relatives that still press to be part of the experience, simply ask them to come support you later at a gown fitting. If your resolve begins to weaken with persistent friends, find a way to politely decline and don’t forget that having an unplanned guest along often is more stressful than helpful.

KNOW YOUR LIMITS Before you set out for gown shopping, make certain you set a budget that reflects the exact amount you can afford.

If setting a higher budget for your gown is a top priority, look for other areas of your wedding budget to trim, thereby allocating a little more for your gown. Just be cautious about eliminating any of the necessary elements of your wedding simply to inflate your gown budget. Ultimately, you will not be happy if you have not allocated enough money to pay for the cake or to provide sufficient tips for the wedding vendors who worked so hard to make your day perfect.

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|fashion| to make other sacrifices – like rethinking those delicious mini-cakes you wanted to provide as guest favors, or the expensive orchids you were having flown in for the centerpieces. If you have a strict budget, you need to honor it. Trying to negotiate more money for a gown from your fiancé or parents can cause stress in every other area of your wedding planning as well as add tension to the relationships.

BE HONEST WITH THE BRIDAL BOUTIQUE ABOUT YOUR MAXIMUM BUDGET Nothing causes more frustration for both the bride and the bridal boutique as when you are uncertain about what you can truly afford. If you tell your salon attendant that your budget is around $4,000, she will bring out breathtaking couture gowns within the $4,000 budget. But if in reality your maximum budget is $3,000, you risk falling in love with a gown that is beyond your means.

At some point, you will have to be honest with the salon attendant about your true budget and then the process must start all over with gowns in your true budget. At this point you may find yourself frustrated because you’re longing for that $4,000 couture gown you simply could not afford.

Don’t set yourself up for disappointment and don’t frustrate your salon attendant by wasting time on gowns you cannot consider purchasing. You will benefit most from building a relationship with your salon attendant. When it comes to shipping, measurements, and all the details of the dress fitting, you want to make sure you’re getting the best service possible. A good relationship goes a long way toward that end. Taking up unnecessary time not only costs the salon money, but it is also disrespectful to other brides waiting to shop for their dream gown.

Many salons work on an “appointment only” basis, so those brides with appointments following yours will have to be pushed back or rescheduled to another day if you’re not shopping with a purpose. So the best approach is to always be totally honest from the get go, with both the salon attendant and yourself! The bridal salon will want to work within your budget no matter how high or low it may be. Above all else, they want you to leave a happy customer. Being straightforward and upfront ensures your gown-buying experience will be a positive one.

Fortunately, Nebraska is filled with many wonderful bridal salons with attendants just waiting to help you find the perfect gown at the perfect price. Come prepared with your wants and needs outlined. Above all, enjoy the experience! |NWD| 68 | nebraska weddingday

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The Ideal Ring A guide to finding the ring that makes your heart sing

By Holly Lafferty

WHEN IT COMES TO SELECTING A diamond engagement or wedding ring, you have probably heard that it is important to consider the 4 Cs – cut, color, clarity and carat weight. These are the four characteristics of diamonds that are graded and categorized by the diamond industry. A diamond’s cost is based on these quality elements. The higher the grade, the rarer the diamond, and the more expensive it will be. However, equally important to these quality factors is how it makes you feel when you are wearing it.

This is not something that can be measured and is only something that you alone can determine. When considering the 4 Cs, together with the price and your emotions, shopping for your engagement and wedding rings can sometimes seem overwhelming.

Let us guide you through the basic considerations so when it is time to make the final decision, it will be a comfortable one for you and your fiancé. There are numerous trends and styles available in engagement and wedding rings and some of the most popular right now have real staying power. If you are not sure just where to start, think about whether some of the recent trends actually reflect your own personal style.

VINTAGE RINGS One extremely popular and timeless trend is that of vintage-inspired rings. Vintage or antique-inspired rings usually feature intricate details, such as gemstone baguettes or floral accents. A vintage ring will never be outdated simply because of the nostalgic sentiment it provides the person wearing it.

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|fashion| for good reason – they have stood the test of time. While white gold is increasing in popularity, yellow gold remains a highlypopular characteristic of a classic ring. Simple round-cut solitaire diamonds also convey a very classic feel.

EMERALD-CUT STONES Choosing an emerald-cut diamond for your engagement ring makes a statement. Emerald-cut diamonds are more unusual than the ever-popular princess-cut diamond. Wearing an emerald-cut stone will set you apart from the crowd. One advantage to this cut is that these stones are also more affordable than other shapes. You can generally get a larger stone for the same price as a smaller stone in another cut.

Since flaws are more visible in an emerald-cut diamond than with other cuts, it is important to pick a top-quality gem when selecting this cut.

COLORED STONES While colored stones have been a trend in celebrity circles for years, it is now growing in popularity among the general public. Selecting a colored stone for your engagement ring is another way to showcase your personal style. Considering a colored stone also broadens your options. While many brides opt to go with a colored diamond, it is now acceptable to choose an entirely different type of colored gem for your ring. Brides are choosing anything from rubies to sapphires to opals as either the primary stone or as accent stones.

Anything is possible and will definitely draw attention to your unique sense of style.

MULTIPLE DIAMONDS Solitaires are still extremely popular, but more and more brides are choosing a large diamond framed by tiny diamonds all around. Such a design gives a nod to vintage styling while also creating the illusion of a larger stone. Brides also love the look of either three-stone or five-stone settings, which provide a traditional yet glamorous quality. The broader range of design options available when choosing a ring with multiple diamonds adds to the appeal of choosing this style of ring.

MODERN STYLES The modern, streamlined trend in home decorating has carried over into the bride’s jewelry selections. Think clean and simple, usually in platinum or white gold settings. Tension-set diamonds are characteristic of this look. Modern rings have a sleek appearance that border on plain, but work well for everyday wear. If you are not looking for a flashy or ostentatious setting, but still desire something cutting-edge, a modern design might be the right style for you.

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PLATINUM Platinum is still the go-to choice of many brides. Platinum is a much harder and stronger metal than gold, which makes it a better investment for the long-term. It is also pricier than gold, which is why some brides who love the white-silver color of platinum end up choosing white gold. White gold offers the look of platinum without the higher price tag. However, if durability is very important to you, it is probably worth the added expense of platinum.

While engagement rings are still an ideal way to show off your individual style, wedding bands are becoming more personalized as well. Once you have settled on your dream engagement ring, you and your fiancé should go shopping together for your wedding bands. Here are some tips when it comes to selecting wedding bands.

• Mix it up. You don’t have to get a matching his-and-her set (although you will often save money by doing so). It is not a problem if you and your fiancé have different tastes in wedding bands. Each of you should be able to wear what you love, whether it matches one another or not. You will experience the art of compromise soon enough in marriage; you shouldn’t have to compromise with your wedding bands.

• Incorporate your personality into your selection. Consider including a special engraving on the ring or adding other meaningful details.

Have the jeweler design a ring with stones from your greatgrandmother’s ring. Designers today can do just about anything you can think of to make your ring more personal.

• Think through what you will be doing day-in and day-out as you wear your ring across the years. If your fiancé is in construction, simple is probably better because the ring will endure much wear and tear.

Consider that certain stones or less durable metals combined with an active lifestyle can diminish the beauty of your ring over time.

• Stick to your budget. Decide on the maximum amount you can spend before you go shopping and don’t sway from that amount.

It is easy to be tempted when you see the vast offerings, so it is important that you and your fiancé hold one another accountable on price. While a common rule-of-thumb is that the wedding rings

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should account for about 3% of your budget, it is up to you and your fiancé to decide the right budget.

• Think long-term. When narrowing the choices, a key question to ask yourself is if you will love it as much in thirty years. If not, it is a good idea to continue your search.

• Take your time. You don’t have to buy wedding bands at the first jeweler you visit. Visit several jewelers and never feel pressured to buy anything.

• Find inspiration online. You can still make it a special time with your fiancé by scheduling it as a date. Cook dinner, pour some wine, and settle down in front of the computer for a romantic night of perusing.

• Plan accordingly. Get your rings two to three months before your wedding to allow for sizing, engraving, or any other modifications that will need to be made. The last thing you want is to wait until the eleventh hour and then not have a wedding band to slip on your finger on your big day!

The best advice when shopping for your rings is to always keep in mind that your engagement and wedding rings are an important symbol of the commitment between you and your husband. Long after your flowers have wilted and the music has faded, your rings will still be on your fingers as constant reminders of the vows you made to one another. Remembering their significance during the selection process will help you make the best decision you could possibly make. |NWD|

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Money Matters Straightforward steps to establishing and managing your wedding budget

YOUR BUDGET IS THE MOST IMPORTANT element in your wedding planning. It sets the stage for every aspect included in your special day. Setting a budget is a crucial first task and keeping track of your expenses throughout your engagement is critical to avoiding surprises.

Tradition calls for the bride’s family to pay for most of the wedding; but over the years, brides and grooms have relied on alternative methods for delegating the wedding budget. By following these straightforward steps, you will not only have an easier time establishing your budget, but you will be well prepared to overcome any obstacles along the way.

FIRST STEP: WHO IS FOOTING THE BILL? PARENTS OF THE BRIDE If the bride’s parents are paying for the wedding, it is recommended that the bride sit down with her parents to agree on a specific monetary amount they feel comfortable contributing. Once this amount is established, the bride’s parents and the engaged couple should create a list of the top three wedding priorities. For example, the bride may have her heart set on special wedding photography, while her parents may feel that an open bar during the reception is essential. Once the parties are aware of each other’s wishes, delegating the budget to specific areas of planning will be easier to negotiate. As wedding vendors are researched and secured, the budget will be a helpful guide in narrowing the various options, as it may be necessary to exclude some vendors that would exceed your budget. The final step in the budget process is determining who will be in charge of tracking each payment made PHOTOGRAPHY BY Attanasio Photography

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|fashion| to wedding vendors. This will minimize questions during the final planning process regarding the remaining balance on each account and when that balance will be paid. Since the bride is often very busy making decisions and appointments, it is wise for the father or mother of the bride to be responsible for overseeing the budget.

PARENTS OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM If both families are contributing to the wedding budget, separate conversations need to occur between the engaged couple and their respective parents. The first topic of discussion is the monetary amount each family feels comfortable contributing.

Some families would rather delegate the budget by paying for specific elements like the alcohol, entertainment, and floral design rather than allotting a specific dollar amount for the total budget. Once this is established, both families should feel more comfortable with the wedding budget. The couple and their families should discuss a payment plan for contributions to the wedding and delegate a single person, preferably not the busy bride or groom, to track the budget and any balances throughout the planning process. If the bride and groom are overseeing the budget, be certain to clearly communicate necessary obligations to both families throughout the wedding planning process. Each family will then know their current balance owed and any upcoming payments, well in advance of the due date.

THE BRIDE AND GROOM It is not uncommon for many couples to pay for their own wedding, especially if they have been independent for several years or are planning a second wedding. Establishing a realistic budget for yourself is critical when paying for your own wedding. Many financial planners suggest formulating a budget that can be paid one-half before the big day and one-half within the twelve months following. If you are comfortable with this payment plan, then you most likely have set a realistic budget.

Your wedding budget should never put you in significant debt.

You do not want to start your new lives together buried by a mountain of debt! Some smart budgeting upfront will help to prevent that from happening. Simply review your plans and make cuts to expenses that are not really necessary, such as an ice sculpture or a chocolate fountain. The best way to discover potential areas that could be considered for budget cuts is for the bride and groom each to write down their top three wedding priorities. Anything outside of that list should be considered for potential cuts.

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other desires most on the big day and allows you to be more respectful of your partner’s wishes when making necessary cuts. Also, it will often reveal areas you both do not feel strongly about.

Finally, it may be helpful to hire a financial planner or wedding planner if you are undertaking your budget yourselves.

A financial planner not only can assist in creating a realistic budget and payment plan, but can also establish helpful financial goals and tools for your future as a married couple.

A wedding planner can assist in establishing a budget, in monitoring your budget, and in assisting with making necessary cuts. The wedding planner may also be able to work with vendors for discounts or specials, which in turn could more than recoup the cost of a wedding planner.

SECOND STEP: FORECASTING THE BUDGET It is often difficult to establish a wedding budget when you have no point of reference. The most important thing to remember is everyone views budgets differently. One bride may want to spend a large percentage of the overall budget on her wedding gown and settle for a cake and punch reception.

Another bride may want a large wedding with a plated dinner for 400 guests and would trim her budget by purchasing a gown straight off the rack. It is up to you to prioritize your wishes. If you are still a bit unsure after attempting to outline a budget, consider this: (a) 40-50% of wedding budgets typically are spent on the reception food, drinks, and rentals; (b) 10% of the budget is typically spent on flowers; (c) 10% on attire; and (d) 10% on music and entertainment. Midwestern brides usually have large weddings of 200 guests or more, thereby shifting the budget toward accommodating a higher guest count. If you are looking at a smaller budget but a large guest list, it may be best to revisit your guest list and consider cutting some guests to stretch your dollars.

It is always best to breakdown your total budget amount in order to better forecast how much money you believe each element will cost. This will keep you focused on the smaller dollar amounts that you have allotted when working with each vendor. If you are “under” budget in certain areas, either delegate that amount to another area of need or put that amount aside. Typically, most brides spend 10% to 20% more than budgeted. It is wise to place the money aside, rather than finding areas to spend it. This will ensure that you come in under budget after all expenses have been paid.

THIRD STEP: STAYING ORGANIZED During your wedding-planning process, you will have many contracts, brochures, menus, and paperwork to organize.

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to be in charge of charting and managing your wedding budget and all associated information. This includes forecasting the budget, tracking actual payments, documenting all down payments, and scheduling when the subsequent payments are due. It is important to have periodic meetings about the status of your budget, addressing areas where you exceeded the target budget, and areas where you are under budget. You will be more comfortable meeting with vendors when you know the status of your budget as a whole and how much money you are able to spend.

Any time you notice yourself getting stressed or overwhelmed by your wedding budget, just remind yourself of the bigger picture – your wedding day! Remind yourself of your priorities in your wedding plans and stay focused on the end result. Most couples have to sacrifice a few elements to afford their dream wedding. Trust in your wedding vendors and allow them to assist you in getting the most for your allotted budget. Finally, if your parents are contributing to your wedding, it is essential that you remain grateful for any financial assistance they provide for your big day. Most importantly, by following these simple steps, you can achieve your dream wedding on any budget, large or small! |NWD| neweddingday.com | 79

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Choosing Wisely How to make the most of your gift registry

AS YOU PLAN TO ESTABLISH A HOME IN the upcoming months, your registry experience should be filled with fun and excitement. From basics like linens and towels to potential heirloom pieces like silver candlesticks and serving platters, your gift registry should cover a large array of your household wants and needs.

We have a few rules of thumb and helpful suggestions to consider before reaching for the scanner to register.

WHEN TO REGISTER Some wedding professionals suggest registering for a few pieces right after you announce your engagement. These selections provide close friends and family potential engagement gifts. This is especially helpful if you are planning an engagement party. If you are not planning an engagement party, you can create your gift registry four to six months prior to any showers or your wedding date. Keep in mind that many products you list may become unavailable over time, so periodically check on your registry accounts to determine if you should select additional items.

WHERE TO START It is best to select two to three stores when registering for your wedding. These stores should include gift selections spanning a price range from low to high. Since guests will have their own budgets to follow when selecting your gift, it is thoughtful to include options across a wide array of price points. Also, keep in mind where your guests are located. If you select retail stores that are not located within driving distance to your guests, it will force them to purchase your gifts online. This may be helpful for out-of-town guests, but it may be an added expense for those who live in the area.

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An important step in determining where you wish to register is to educate yourself on the store’s registry set up and returns policy. Large retail stores have simplified the registry process.

These stores are able to record your guests’ purchase history and any shipping addresses, thereby making thank you notes a breeze. However, some stores may limit the number of returns or exchanges without a proper gift receipt, making it difficult to return or exchange duplicates. A one-of-a-kind boutique or smaller retail store may have a printed copy of your registry available in the store, but not available to out-of-town guests.

Simply ask the store (1) about their return policy, (2) if they keep a purchase history of your items, and (3) how guests will be able to access your registry selections.

Another option increasing in popularity is online gift registries.

There is a wide variety of sites offering services – some with a particular niche appeal, such as a site for the environmentally conscious bride. On this site, a couple can register for gifts from green merchants, as well as cash gifts, such as donations to charities. Many sites also include a “partial” purchase option to accommodate the couple that wishes to include more expensive gifts. Some sites even include the option for guests to contribute a cash gift to the wedding couple’s honeymoon fund or house fund. Whether using a cash or product-driven online registry site, a benefit is that guests can save time and money by avoiding busy stores, expensive gift wrapping, and shipping costs. Should you decide to register with an online service, remember it is important (1) to make certain the site is user friendly, (2) to fully understand the associated fees for the site, and (3) to understand the site’s registry and return policies.

GETTING STARTED Before you begin listing items on your registry, take a thorough inventory of your belongings and those of your fiancé to determine your needs. Are you still using towels from college?

Do you have a complete dishware set? Take note of any items that you are currently missing or that need replacing. It is easiest to make a list categorized by room so you can easily remember these items when you hit the stores.

Another consideration before you visit the store to make selections is to not only think about your current wants and needs, but also how you envision your home in five to ten years.

You may not host dinner parties now, but will you in a few years? Do you see yourself hosting any holiday events, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner, now that you’re married?

Before you skip over certain areas like serving ware, think of your future lifestyle. That wine decanter may seem foreign now, but in a year or two you may find a need for it.

mattress pads, towels, pots and pans, cutlery and stemware are every day needs that you will use for years to come. When looking at the basics, we suggest sticking to white or ivory in color. Crisp white sheets and towels not only match any change of décor, but are easy to treat and protect. Investing in a neutral palette will extend the life of your gifts much better than those trendy animal prints that you may desperately want in your master bathroom.

After you cover your basics, move on to other items that you wish to acquire. Items like crock pots, kitchen mixers, coffee makers, laundry baskets, decorative lamps, and soap dispensers are great registry items that guests love to give.

Keep in mind that selections should include low, medium and high price points.

The last items that you should add to your registry should be unique and special gifts like china, silver serving ware, or engraved picture frames. These items may appeal to close family members and friends who wish to give you a wedding gift that will stay in the family for many years. These items should not be trendy, but rather classic in design and timeless, assuring that you will use them over and over again. If you can’t resist something on the less practical side, by all means select a few fun and charming items that strike your fancy. They will likely become conversation pieces in your home for years to come.

FINAL STEPS After you finish registering for all your selections, check back with the stores after your bridal and couple showers. This is the time to add any items that you missed the first time through and to rebuild the list after receiving items from your showers. When receiving gifts prior to the wedding day, it is proper etiquette to send a thank you note within a week or two, that way the guest knows that their gift has arrived and that it is deeply appreciated.

If there are gifts remaining on your registry after your wedding, many stores offer a completion program. This program may provide you a discounted price, often 10% to 20%, off any items remaining on your list. Some stores send your completion coupon weeks after your wedding date, so it may be wise to wait before splurging on any big ticket items. |NWD|

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Making It Legal An overview of marriage license requirements for Nebraska EVERY STATE IN THE UNITED STATES requires a license to legally marry. Obtaining a marriage license is the responsibility of you and your groom. In Nebraska, both parties about to marry need to sign the application in person at your local county clerk’s office. Proof of identity is always a requirement and can be fulfilled by using your driver’s license, military identification, passport, or birth certificate. Social security numbers must be included on the application and the marriage certificate. If a marriage has been validly contracted under the laws of another state or another country, it is effective in Nebraska.

WHAT ABOUT A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE? In Nebraska, if you or your groom have been divorced or have had a spouse die, the date of divorce or date of the spouse’s death must be provided. A divorce decree dissolving marriage becomes final and operative six months after the decree was rendered or upon the death of one of the parties. A new license will not be issued and you cannot remarry until at least six (6) months and one (1) day have passed from the date the divorce decree is signed by the judge and filed with the district court clerk. The applicants will be required to submit the date the previous marriage ended. A divorce obtained in another jurisdiction is not effective if both parties are Nebraska residents at the time the divorce proceedings were begun.

HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? The fee for a marriage license is $15.00 with an additional $5.00 fee for a certified copy of the license payable at the time of application. The certified copy is required to execute any legal name changes and will be mailed to you after receiving the completed marriage license. Additional certified copies may be purchased at a cost of $5.00 per copy. Nebraska no longer has a requirement for a blood test. Also, Nebraska no longer has a waiting 84 | nebraska weddingday

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period. So when all required information is provided, you will leave with the license when you apply. The licenses are valid anywhere in the State of Nebraska for a period of one year.

HOW DO WE GET FROM LICENSE TO MARRIAGE? So you have your license and now you can get married. No particular elements are required in the marriage ceremony, although each party must solemnly declare in the presence of the officiant and witnesses that they take each other as husband and wife. The ceremony may follow the rites and customs of the religious society to which the parties belong, with the moderator or officiant completing and returning the certificate of marriage to the appropriate county clerk. Every judge, retired judge, or clerk magistrate, as well as every preacher authorized by the church to solemnize marriages, may perform the marriage ceremony in Nebraska.

After the ceremony, spouses, witnesses, and your officiant sign the marriage license. The officiant then files for a certified copy of the marriage license and a marriage certificate. The difference between the marriage license and marriage certificate is that the marriage certificate is more of a keepsake. You will receive an original of both the certified license and the marriage certificate.

HOW DO I CHANGE MY NAME? Changing your name is a very personal decision. You may certainly choose to keep your name. However, if you decide to change your name legally, you should complete the paperwork as soon as possible after you are married or after returning from your honeymoon. Below is a list of items that may need to be updated with a name change. Many entities will require you to present a certified copy of your marriage license as proof of legal status to make your name change. We recommend that you request a few extra copies of the marriage license ($5.00 per copy) because when changing your name, many of these entities require you to provide an original copy.

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DAY 3 MORNING We started the day sharing a raspberry, ham, egg, and cheese crêpe. It was a surreal experience enjoying the street food in the shadow of Notre Dame Cathedral. After breakfast, we waited in line to take the tour of Notre Dame. We appreciated the quiet of the church and took some time to light a few candles and say a few prayers.

AFTERNOON After an early lunch, we doubled back towards the left bank of the Seine, and walked among the street vendors that sold a variety of art, trinkets, prints, and posters. We purchased some art from a man painting on the Pont des Arts, a famous bridge covered in locks placed by people in love. As a way of proclaiming everlasting love, couples etch their names on a lock, place it on the bridge, and throw the keys into the river. Of course, we took part in this ritual as well.

EVENING We stopped back at our hotel to change into more formal evening wear, and headed off for a night at the Crazy Horse cabaret (lecrazyhorseparis.com/en). The show was what the French consider a more modern, more risqué cabaret. Both of us raved about the show as we walked in near-perfect weather back to our hotel.

DAY 7 MORNING An early morning pastry at Paul (paul.fr), a metro ride to the train station, and a 25-minute train ride led us to the Palace of Versailles. The lines were long, but the Palace was beautiful. We went on a Sunday, which we quickly found was the busiest day to visit. Rick Steves, an authority on travel, provides excellent information for many major attractions, but we found his guide for Versailles especially helpful.

AFTERNOON We had yet to visit the Latin Quarter, so we took a quick detour to a local grocery store, bought some french bread, cheese, ham and wine and walked to the Jardin du Luxembourg. A massive fountain with small tables and chairs made a wonderfully romantic setting for an afternoon meal.

AFTER TOUCHING DOWN IN PARIS, we found most of our luggage and made our way to the information center in Charles De Gaulle airport. Our home base for the week, the Artus Hotel, was a modern boutique hotel with 30 intimate rooms located just a few blocks south of the Seine River in a part of town known as Saint-Germain-des-Prés. On the fifth floor, we had a view of Rue de Buci, a lively street lined with small cafés, shops, and street performers.

We loved being in a vibrant part of town, so if the late-night noise overpowered the cool-night breeze, the central air was a welcomed benefit.

EVENING For our evening meal, we chose the famous café, Les Deux Magots (lesdeuxmagots.fr). It was here we had our best meal in Paris, and it was only a few blocks from our hotel. After the meal, we passed on dessert at the restaurant to walk back towards our hotel and eat some street-side gelato. A few cocktails and a setting sun meant our time in Paris was nearly over. With each sip we took a little longer as we tried to drink in as much of our surroundings as we could. Paris was everything we’d hoped for, and we cannot wait to return.

DAY 1 MORNING Our hotel reservation offered us complimentary breakfast every morning, and we quickly took advantage. We had a hard time choosing each morning between the eggs, sausage, fresh crêpes, french breads, and fruits.

After making sure the international plans on our phones were working properly and that we had our money and passports secured, we set out to explore the city.

AFTERNOON Although everything around us let us know we weren’t in Nebraska anymore, standing in the gardens before the Eiffel Tower let us know we’d really arrived. Bypassing the long lines for the elevators was a smart idea for us, and we trekked the 300+ stairs to the first level of the tower. We spent our time circling the tower, taking pictures and soaking in our first real panoramic view of the city. From here, we marched to the Arc de Triomphe, picking up sandwiches in a local shop along the way.

EVENING We settled into a small café for dinner, appropriately named the Café de Paris. Our waiter was charming and very patient. After commenting how great our food was, he responded with a smile saying, “Of course, my love, you’re in Paris. Everything is fantastic.” He was spot on.

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DAY 3 MORNING Our resort offered many activities that were included with our stay. We decided to take a long bike tour to the neighboring port, Puerto Morelos. While there, we were able to spend time going through the shops, seeing the historic lighthouse on the beach, and enjoying the local courtyard and diners. The bike tour was a great way to see more of Riviera Maya while doing something more active!

AFTERNOON Lunch was always served at Alhambra, but we actually enjoyed getting room service sent to our room almost daily. Marina El Cid’s beach included games throughout the day. We joined a game of “Bags” and spent time soaking up the sun. There is nothing better than napping to the sound of the waves and feeling the hot sun on your skin!

EVENING We made it a priority that at least one night of our trip we would dress up and go to the nicest restaurant at the resort. We enjoyed exquisite food and drinks at El Alcazar. The staff put on a very special meal and made sure everything was perfect. We finished the night by going to the beach bar club.

DAY 6 MORNING This was our last full day at El Cid and we wanted to make sure we spent plenty of time at the beach and pool. We spent the morning by the beach and enjoyed breakfast at La Alhambra.

AFTERNOON As luck would have it, we had lunch at Hacienda Arrecife and it was one of our favorite meals. We were craving some American food because we had been trying all the authentic dishes.

We stayed by the pool in the afternoon and I joined in more pool games. We met a very fun couple from the United States and the entertaining pool bar staff kept the drinks flowing for the four of us!

AFTER WHAT WAS A MUCH LONGER car ride than we anticipated, my husband and I breathed a sigh of relief as we pulled up to what looked like the most relaxing spot on earth. We were greeted with fresh drinks and the most helpful staff. We were excited to be at a beautiful all-inclusive resort that we could call “home” for the next six days.

DAY 1 MORNING Marina El Cid was exactly what we wanted, a place to do nothing but spend uninterrupted time together and relax. We woke up to the sound of tropical birds right outside our room and took time to explore the resort. Marina El Cid includes a large marina of yachts and a very large beach. We ate breakfast at La Alhambra Restaurant, which offered many options, as well as a large variety of authentic Mexican dishes. We enjoyed sipping on cool smoothies while relaxing under the beach palapa hut.

AFTERNOON We found that the pool was our favorite spot from day one.

There were plenty of activities, music, and entertainment that made our afternoons fly by. A swim-up bar was a fun place to meet other couples and enjoy all-inclusive drinks. When we grew tired of all the noise, families, or games, we would move over to the adults-only area that was a quiet zone. We loved the tranquility of the quiet zone!

EVENING Since we were so close to fresh seafood, there was no doubt that we wanted to try the seafood restaurant at our resort first. La Marina overlooked the marina of yachts and a beautiful sunset! I’ll never forget that meal and how much fun we had trying fresh seafood dishes that were full of flavor.

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EVENING For our last dinner, we made reservations at Hacienda Arrecife. Of course the menu was much different than our lunch and we devoured fajitas, tostadas and tacos. Hacienda Arricife overlooks the beach and palapa huts. We ended the night with a nice surprise-a phenomenal saxophone player had a performance in one of the most beautiful lounges. This was a perfect ending to our week because Dan loves jazz music and we couldn’t have asked for a more relaxing evening. It will be a night I’ll never forget!

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DAY 3 MORNING We took a morning stroll on the beach at sunrise and enjoyed a light breakfast on the patio at Seaview Terrace. We had a full day ahead of us and wanted to enjoy some downtime.

AFTERNOON We took a short drive to Blue Hawaiian Helicopters (bluehawaiian.com) to take a tour of the island from the air. Not only was the tour something that we will remember forever, but it was extremely professional and safe. Despite a minor fear of heights, I felt comfortable with our pilot and the ride. We flew over the lush gardens, over the Napoli Coast, and throughout the canyons.

EVENING After our concierge recommended Keoki’s Paradise (keokisparadise.com), we drove a block down the road to discover the restaurant and a small shopping district. We enjoyed the garden pools, waterfall and live Hawaiian music during dinner.

Don’t forget to order dessert---the Hula Pie was something we will never forget!

DAY 6 MORNING Ilima Terrace had an amazing breakfast menu that we enjoyed overlooking the ocean. The fresh fruit and breakfast buffet was a great start to our busy day on the island.

AFTERNOON The island of Kauai is not large, but there are so many different scenic spots to discover. We drove the east coast of the island to discover the Spouting Horn and waterfalls. After stopping for some shopping in Old Koloa Town (oldkoloa.com), we headed to Puka Dog Hawaiian Hot Dogs (pukadog.com) for one of our favorite lunches. Puka Dog was located in the Poipu Shopping Village near our resort.

WITH A SHORT DRIVE from the airport, we pulled up to the Grand Hyatt Kauai Resort and Spa and were greeted with fresh leis and a friendly staff.

The resort is located in the Poipu area of Kauai with a gorgeous coastline and garden landscape. When you enter the lobby, there is a picture-perfect view showcasing the gorgeous beach and ocean horizon. Our room had a partial ocean view and overlooked the pools and lagoon. We were greeted with champagne in our room as a honeymoon gift. Our room was not only really spacious with a large balcony, but our bathroom was so modern and large, we were beyond impressed. The Grand Hyatt Resort and the island of Kauai quickly felt like home to us.

EVENING We ended our trip with a fantastic meal and sunset at Merriman’s Fish House (merrimanshawaii.com). Our service was excellent and our seafood selections were fresh and delicious.

The view was absolutely stunning and one we will always remember.

DAY 1 MORNING We wanted to soak in the ocean air and discover the beautiful grounds surrounding our resort. We grabbed a light breakfast at the Seaview Terrace at our resort and sat on the patio overlooking the ocean. We took full advantage of the helpful resort concierge to assist us in scheduling a luau and helicopter tour of the island during our stay.

AFTERNOON The Grand Hyatt Kauai has amazing grounds and scenery surrounding it. We decided to enjoy the resort and spent the afternoon reading and swimming in the salt water lagoon. For lunch we walked to The Dock at our resort and enjoyed a poolside meal.

EVENING We drove two blocks from the Grand Hyatt to Kalapaki Joe’s Poipu (kalapakijoes.com) that had open windows and a relaxed setting.

We enjoyed their delicious onion rings and the sun setting on the horizon.

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Beyond Your Backyard Planning your wedding in another locale offers unique opportunities

By Holly Lafferty

DESTINATION WEDDINGS HAVE EXPLODED in popularity in the last decade and for good reason. When done right, a destination wedding can be surprisingly budget friendly while making your day uniquely memorable. However, planning your wedding hundreds or even thousands of miles away presents a set of challenges completely different from planning a wedding in your hometown. We offer this “crash course” on how to plan your wedding when it’s beyond your own backyard.

CHOOSE YOUR DESTINATION Think carefully about the locale of your wedding. Is it best to select somewhere that will not require significant travel for your guests – like the Rocky Mountains? Or would you prefer to go all out and enjoy the sand and surf of Hawaii or Jamaica? Do you dream of a European destination? There are countless breathtaking locations which would be ideal for a destination wedding – from Estes Park to Tahiti to London.

Just be certain to educate yourself on which locale is best for you and your husband-to-be.

The options are vast. An all-inclusive resort can be an excellent money saver if it fits with your dream destination. Most destination locations have special packages available for out-of-town weddings. Do not forget to take into account the weather conditions that are inherent to a particular location and season. You don’t necessarily want to plan a Florida wedding during hurricane season. Likewise, a fabulous winter affair at Lake Tahoe could be beautiful, but not if many of your guests are trapped in a snowstorm. Be prepared!

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SEND OUT YOUR SAVE THE DATES Proper etiquette dictates mailing your Save The Date announcements at least six months in advance, thereby allowing your guests plenty of planning time. Some may wish to turn the wedding trip into a family vacation, while others may need time to save up for such a special trip.

Giving your guests plenty of time to plan will be deeply appreciated and will provide you plenty of time to receive accurate RSVP responses. The attendance count becomes highly critical when planning from afar. Be sure to include important travel information in your Save The Date announcement, such as passport requirements, destination airport suggestions, and lodging recommendations. You should communicate to guests that a reserved block of hotel rooms has been arranged for their convenience. Providing this information to your guests early in the planning process is important.

HIRE AN EXPERT For all the things you believe you can do from a distance, there are twice as many little details that are more difficult to attend to from afar. Hire a wedding coordinator in the area or look for another expert to assist you. Travel agents are excellent resources for everything from booking a venue to finding great rates for you and your guests.

Hotel coordinators will also be obliging, as many have a wealth of knowledge and experience assisting brides when planning destination weddings. This person will be your advocate in your absence. More and more hotel coordinators are taking on full planning responsibility – particularly if it is a popular destination wedding location.

CONSIDER LOCAL WEDDING PROS Countless talented local vendors love to travel for destination weddings. The travel costs often balance out, as destination vendors may charge much more for their services. There are numerous benefits to hiring Nebraska vendors, many of which you can find through Nebraska WeddingDay or by personal referral. Hiring a local vendor can assure better communication during the planning process, as well as ease your stress about hiring a competent wedding professional long distance.

Meeting face-to-face is often the best option and is obviously easier to accomplish when utilizing local vendors.

Some local vendors may also be able to help you in choosing a location, as many have traveled to a variety of areas and are willing to recommend favorite spots. You will enjoy the benefits of a seasoned, proven professional who may also be familiar with your destination location – truly a win-win! neweddingday.com | 91

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PLAN A VISIT Ideally, you will want to visit the location of your destination wedding at least once before you head there to pronounce “I do.” Scout out special spots where you want to take your vows. Most likely if you are planning a destination wedding, you are looking for the perfect outdoor scenery. Whether beachside or mountaintop, you will want to select the best backdrop available.

Also during your preview trip, make it a point to visit with as many of your long-distance vendors as possible, such as your wedding planner, florist, officiant, photographer, caterer, and cake artist. This will not only ensure you are able to clearly communicate your wishes for your wedding day, but will also establish a positive rapport between you and your destination vendors – a vital element to successfully executing a fabulous event planned from afar.

When the time comes, be certain to arrive at your wedding destination with plenty of time before your big day. Allow yourself several days prior to the wedding to make sure the finishing touches are all in proper order.

Giving yourself this extra time will ensure everything runs smoothly and will ease the stress of planning your wedding long distance.

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EMBRACE THE LOCAL FLAVOR A destination wedding is the perfect chance to go all out.

Research the local wedding traditions and unique customs of your destination to create an authentic feel. That does not necessarily mean you need to wear tribal garb for a wedding in Kenya, but you can still add some local flavor to your wedding.

Choosing a destination with a personal connection could be a great way to honor your family heritage. Maybe your family is French, so a traditional wedding in the Cognac countryside is a perfect fit for you and your guy. Or perhaps you’re a college transplant looking to get married in your home state of North Carolina with a classic Southern affair. Take your location into account when adding those special details.

DOT YOUR I’S AND CROSS YOUR T’S Be certain to check into the legal ramifications of getting married in a different locale. Research what must be done to obtain a proper wedding license in that particular locale. Each state has its own set of rules to follow and if you are heading out of the country, the rules may become even more complicated. You do not want to have a beautiful wedding in the Turks and Caicos Islands to then undertake a second “ceremony” to make it official once you return home.

BE FLEXIBLE! Be aware that a destination wedding is not for the faint of heart.

The margin of error and likelihood of miscommunication is definitely greater. If your candles won’t stay lit from the ocean breeze or if your officiant is ten minutes late, keep in mind that it is not the end of the world. Be prepared to accept that things may not go off without a minor hitch or two, so just keep a sense of humor about it. Don’t let the little things ruin a beautiful destination wedding – just remember why you wanted to marry your man and enjoy the unexpected! |NWD| 92 | nebraska weddingday

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Spending Secrets How to pinch a few pennies with no one the wiser

WHETHER YOU’RE PLANNING A BIG BASH or an intimate dinner with close friends and family, there are always opportunities to save money during your wedding planning process.

These cash-saving strategies just may allow you to splurge on that fantastic honeymoon you have always dreamt about.

SPENDING SECRETS: THE VENUE Rental prices for your reception venue may vary depending on the month you are looking to wed. Typically, prices are lower in the off-peak months of October through April. So, if you don’t have your heart set on a summer or early fall wedding, saying “I do” in the cooler months may save you up to a thousand dollars on your reception venue.

Consider selecting a weekday as your wedding day. Many couples are opting for Thursday or Friday evening celebrations, simply to save on wedding costs. Not only do many reception venues have special pricing for weekday weddings, but other wedding vendors also may offer discounts to couples who wed on a weekday. If you feel a single evening is just not enough, consider making your Friday wedding into a weekend celebration with friends and family. It can be a great way to celebrate the occasion and gather the entire family together for a few days.

Many reception locations provide rentals in their reception rental price. Items may include tables, chairs, linens, basic china and stemware.

However, if you’re looking at an outdoor venue or even a non-traditional location, you may be faced with a larger rental fee. If you are pinching your pennies, consider celebrating at a location that provides all the essentials. This may save you money that you can devote to bringing PHOTOGRAPHY BY Brighten Photography

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in vintage china or upgrading from standard white linens to linens with a texture or pattern.

SPENDING SECRETS: FOOD AND DRINK Many couples select a buffet option for their reception because they believe they are getting a better value and the most food for their money. But often times they are spending more than they would if they selected a plated dinner. Not only are plated dinners often less expensive per person because of portion control, but your guest’s dining experience is more relaxing without the interruption of standing in a buffet line.

Drink options are many and varied. For those brides and grooms who do not wish to have an open bar at their reception, the perfect solution would be to provide guests a complimentary signature drink during the cocktail hour and dinner. Another option is to host beer, wine and a special signature drink instead of a full open bar or cash bar. This provides your guests a selection of beverages without the risk of a hefty price tag. Work with your bartender for a customized drink that reflects your personality as a couple, your wedding style, as well as the season.

It is common practice to host a cocktail hour with appetizers between the ceremony and reception. Many couples shy away

from a cocktail hour because they don’t have room in their budgets to spend an extra $5 to $8 per guest. But, if you are looking to save some cash without sacrificing your cocktail hour, ask your reception coordinator to have appetizers “butler passed,” rather than hosting a buffet table. This controls the number of appetizers needed to appropriately serve your guests, and in turn, controls the cost.

SPENDING SECRETS: FASHION AND ATTIRE If you’ve always dreamt of wearing a designer gown, but can’t afford the price tag, look into local trunk shows at area bridal salons. Often these events are posted online or you can even be notified by social media sites like Facebook and Twitter.

Trunk shows give you the opportunity to purchase a designer gown at a discounted price. If you have your heart set on a certain designer, visit their website for any listed trunk shows in the area.

Another way to save some money when purchasing a wedding gown is to attend sales events hosted by local stores. In order to make room for new wedding gowns hot off the runway, stores often have blowout sales for gowns that are from the last season or two. Not only will you score a stunning designer gown, but you will also save money that you can put towards new bridal shoes or jewelry.

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|planning| The tradition of “something borrowed” has taken on a modern twist when it comes to bridal jewelry. Rather than borrowing your grandmother’s string of pearls, borrow expensive and stylish jewels from websites like adorn.com or renttherunway.com. Both of these sites offer weekend rental pieces that will make you sparkle at a fraction of the retail price.

SPENDING SECRETS: FLOWERS Rather than focusing on the type of flowers in your bouquet and centerpieces, focus on the color and shape of the blooms.

Brides often set their hearts on certain flowers, such as peonies which only bloom in the spring. But by focusing on the hues of your favorite flowers, the floral designer is free to use different stems that may fit your budget better while still giving you the look and feel you desire. If you simply cannot imagine your special day without white peonies, use them sparingly by limiting their use in only your bridal bouquet. Most wedding guests do not notice your bridesmaids’ bouquets, but their attention will be on you, the bride. Ask your florist to use a few stems in your bouquet and you will have the look you love without draining your floral budget.

baker’s twine, ribbon, or a customized stamp. Not only are you getting a gorgeous, well-printed invitation from a designer, but you are saving money by creating the finished product yourself.

Using plenty of mixed greens is not only on trend, but can also help stretch your floral budget. Be open to using different textures and colors with your floral stems to create a unique and stylish centerpiece. Trust in your florist’s vision when discussing floral elements, but be sure to ask questions if you are unsure of what they are suggesting. After all, they are the floral experts and may have some beautiful on-budget ideas that you will simply love.

There are no rules when it comes to ceremony programs. If you are looking to cut costs, opting out of a ceremony program can save you over $200. If you still want something to outline your ceremony procession, consider designing your own program.

Many websites like dafont.com offer free fonts that will give you a customized look. Also, taking your document to a local copy center for printing not only saves time, but can save you from a sizeable headache for only an extra $40.

SPENDING SECRETS: PAPER GOODS Paper goods add character and flair to weddings and often carry the theme or monogram from ceremony to reception.

If your wedding budget is unable to accommodate much in the way of custom paper goods, get crafty with handmade embellishments. Opt for a simple and less expensive wedding invitation suite and purchase some embellishments, such as

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You can double-duty your Save The Date announcements by reusing them as place cards or even as a guest book at the reception. Some fun ideas include asking guests to jot down their favorite recipe, love advice, or scripture passage and then mail back their Save The Date cards. Once returned, the cards can be displayed in a recipe box or on a wishing tree at your reception. This is a fabulous way for your guests to feel more intimately involved in your wedding and as an added bonus, can save you some cash by replacing the traditional guest book.

Simply speaking, the key to saving money while planning a wedding is to think outside the box. Work closely with your wedding professionals and be upfront and honest about your budget. It will cause undue stress and will not serve you or your vendors well to agree to expenses that you are not comfortable with. Finally, listen to their ideas and be flexible with design and décor. Local vendors hold a wealth of knowledge and expertise.

Wedding professionals understand that brides are working within a budget and therefore, they are often willing to accommodate them. |NWD|

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Showered With Love Celebration possibilities leading up to the big day THERE ARE MANY CELEBRATORY EVENTS leading up to your wedding day. From engagement parties to bridal showers, you will have many occasions to celebrate your engagement with friends and family. Not only is this an excellent time to pop some bubbly and chat away with friends, but it provides you a unique opportunity to spend some quality time with those closest to you. Nebraska WeddingDay has provided you with this go-to guide for special events leading up to your wedding day, complete with etiquette examples and creative ideas for party themes.

ENGAGEMENT PARTY Your engagement is an unforgettable and exciting time! Your engagement party, where all of your family and friends have gathered in honor of you and your new fiancé, is often times the initial meeting for most of your family and various groups of your friends.

An overwhelming sense of excitement and sheer joy often sets in at your engagement party. Intended to be a celebratory occasion, the engagement party is thrown shortly after the proposal and can be an intimate affair.

Traditionally, the bride’s parents host the engagement party. However, it is acceptable for the bride and groom’s friends or the groom’s family to host an engagement party, provided the bride’s parents are first offered the opportunity.

The options for engagement parties are diverse.

The guest list may be short, providing for a more intimate gathering, or you may opt for “the more, the merrier” with a large cocktail hour event. The engagement party guest list should be limited to only those guests who will also be invited to the wedding. Both sides of the family should be invited; however, due to geographic location, separate parties may be held. Some grooms discuss the engagement party plans with the bride’s family prior to the 98 | nebraska weddingday

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proposal and then surprise the bride immediately following with the party. Engagement parties can be a simple cocktail party, a special dinner party, or even a casual backyard barbeque.

The event should reflect the couple’s style and personality.

When possible, a couple is encouraged to create a preliminary gift registry before the engagement party so guests who wish to bring a gift to the party can access the couple’s selections of gift ideas. A good guideline for registries is to select items of varied price points to give your guests the most flexibility in choosing a gift. Please note that it is not appropriate to list the gift registry on the invitation. However, since it is likely that some guests will wish to bring a gift, it is perfectly acceptable for you to inform close friends and relatives of your registry preference in case someone asks them. It is important to keep in mind that unless all of your guests bring gifts to the party, it is best to open your presents after the festivities to avoid embarrassing those who did not bring a gift.

Also, it is proper etiquette for the bride and groom to give the host/hostess of the engagement party a gift as a token of thanks and appreciation.

BRIDAL SHOWER Bridal showers have been a tradition for many years and are a terrific opportunity to gather with friends and family to honor the

bride and shower her with gifts. It is not common for the bride’s mother or family to host a shower, but rather the bride’s maid of honor and bridesmaids or friends. A bridal shower should be hosted months or weeks prior to the wedding and only wedding guests should be invited. Also, this is the one occasion that it is appropriate to list where the bride is registered on the invitation.

There are many traditional games and activities for bridal showers.

However, themed showers are becoming very popular for bridal shower hosts. Depending upon the size of the guest list, bridal showers can become a challenge when entertaining and accommodating guests. Themed showers are fun and provide a unique way to entertain the guests while pampering and showering the bride with gifts. Below are some of our favorite themes and activities to consider when planning a shower.

BAKING THEME If the bride enjoys spending time in the kitchen, encourage guests to bring a shower gift inspired by baking. Set up a display of three to four desserts or baked goods for guests to sample. For the invitations, include a recipe card for each guest to jot down their favorite recipe to bring along to the shower for the bride to include in her recipe box. Send guests home with a jar of jam and a loaf of bread, tied with some colorful string and the recipe.

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|planning| QUILT This theme is perfect if the bride has a family member who loves to quilt. Prepare fabric squares in the bride’s wedding colors or consider a neutral palette for each guest to write a special message on the square. After the party, have a family member or friend sew the squares together to create a beautiful and meaningful quilt for the bride.

PARFAIT BAR Brunch showers are great for larger gatherings. Host a parfait bar for guests to build their perfect parfait with different yogurts, fruits, nuts, and granola. This allows guests to mingle and also provides an easy food option for the hostess. This theme could carry throughout the party by pairing a variety of fruit juices and champagne to create a flavored-mimosa bar. This is a deliciously light and easy self-serve beverage option for guests.

Guests preferring a non-alcoholic beverage could simply opt for the fruit juice.

DATE NIGHT The bride and the groom alike will love this theme, as it will supply them with months of activities and ideas for date nights throughout their first year of marriage. Encourage guests to bring a date-night themed gift pulled together with items from their gift registry. For example, movie passes and popcorn bowls, or a blanket and a bottle of wine. As a shower activity, supply guests with note cards and markers so they can jot down date-night ideas. Ideas can range from free activities, such as a walk at sunset, to more expensive options like a date night at a fine-dining restaurant. Put each note card in a sealed envelope and mark it with an estimated cost. After their wedding day, the couple can pick from the envelopes to fund a special date-night idea.

SCRAPBOOK It is always a successful event when guests are able to mix and mingle and easily strike up a conversation. By supplying scrapbooking materials, guests are able to meet one another while engaging in an activity. Encourage guests to bring a few items that remind them of their relationship with the bride. These items may be movie tickets, concert tickets, special notes passed in grade school, or even a special photograph. Each guest is given a page to decorate for the bride. The hostess then collects the individual pages and slips them into a scrapbook for the bride to keep and cherish for years to come.

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where the bride and groom’s friends are invited to celebrate the couple’s upcoming nuptials. These showers are typically more casual and relaxed and are ideal for the couple who already share many household items. Yard games and cold beverages are perfect for this type of shower, allowing guests to get to know one another and mingle.

BACHELORETTE PARTY Many brides are shying away from limos, boas, and bachelorette games for their special evening out with their closest girlfriends.

In fact, some brides are gathering their girls and heading out of town to relax by a hotel pool or they are joining their friends for a local cooking class. The most important element of the bachelorette party is for the bride to feel comfortable with the plans, especially since this is a time for her to truly kick back and relax before the wedding day. Looking for some fun and creative activities that are a bit out of the ordinary? Below are a few of our favorite bachelorette party ideas.

COOKING CLASS Perfect for the bride who loves to spend her time in the kitchen, invite a small group of girls to participate in a cooking class.

This gives the bride an opportunity to spend quality time with her friends while the guests are entertained and may even pick up a cooking tip or recipe.

Local Resources include Art & Soul in Lincoln (lincolnartandsoul.com) or Old Market Gourmet in Omaha (oldmarketgourmet.com).

VINEYARD TOUR This is a simply fabulous way to host a relaxing bachelorette party. Invite guests to a local vineyard to taste wines while catching up and chatting about wedding plans. The scenery itself will provide a relaxing experience for the bride and her guests.

Local Resources include Bluestem Vineyard (bluestemvineyard.com) or James Arthur Vineyards (jamesarthurvineyards.com) near Lincoln and Bella Terre Reception Hall & Vineyard (bellaterre.com) or Soaring Wings Vineyard (soaringwingswine.com) near Omaha.

ART CLASS Give guests an opportunity to create a gorgeous piece of art without the need for any true artistic talent. At some area art classes, guests are given step-by-step instructions to help create a memorable painting, while also affording the opportunity to enjoy a glass of wine in celebration of the occasion.

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Reception Guide This invaluable guide to area reception venues is designed to introduce engaged couples to a variety of great reception possibilities. This guide provides only a glimpse into all that these venues have to offer.

Please visit our website www.neweddingday.com to view virtual tours of many of the facilities listed here.

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Our lush landscaping and elegant decor offer the perfect backdrop to your special day. To complement our facilities, we customize each event to meet your exact needs and provide a staff that cares.

Elegance and affordability are what awaits you at the Apothecary Lofts. With beautiful exposed brick, rustic wood ceilings, a cozy fireplace and relaxing overnight accommodations, The Apothecary Lofts provide all guests with the perfect intimate setting for a wedding. Our “Weekend Wedding Package” gives you the opportunity to utilize the venues for other wedding activities such as rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, gift opening and much more. Contact us today!

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350 Yes No No Yes Call for rates 144

50-250 Yes Yes Call for rates Call for info N/A 136

402-331-7575 7220 F Street Omaha, NE 68127 www.anthonyssteakhouse.com

402-474-1812 140 N. 8th Street Lincoln, NE 68508 www.lincolnhaymarket.com

Bluestem Vineyard

Brix at Midtown Crossing

Arbor Hall

Bella Terre Reception Hall and Vineyard

With a spacious interior, outdoor garden and ample parking, Arbor Hall is the perfect venue for your wedding reception and ceremony site.

With over 10 years of experience, we specialize in stress free weddings. Let us take care of all your wedding needs including food, beverages, cakes, flowers and decor, DJ service, photography and hair and makeup.

Located on eight acres of vines, Bella Terre Reception Hall and Vineyard is a truly unique venue fashioned after old world Italy. It was designed to provide an amazing atmosphere for wedding ceremonies, receptions, rehearsal dinners, corporate meetings and other events and celebrations. Our facility can comfortably accommodate up to 400 guests.

BLUEstem Vineyard is the perfect romantic location for elegant outdoor weddings and receptions. From our stellar wedding pavilion to our outdoor/indoor reception sites, BLUEstem offers gorgeous vistas looking out over the vineyard as the sun sets on your perfect day.

The property is available for private rental for entire weekends. Most groups plan a Friday night rehearsal dinner through a Sunday morning event. Visit our website for virtual tours of the property.

Enjoy the same exceptional Brix experience at Midtown Crossing! With full audio visual capabilities in a contemporary atmosphere, the event centre is the ideal setting for intimate rehearsal dinners and wedding receptions accommodating up to 40 people in a round table seating arrangement and up to 75 people in a meet and greet format. Let us custom design a catering plan to accommodate your next event.

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250 indoor, 400 outdoor Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Yes Outside Caterers Welcome Yes Room Rental Fee Email Us Outdoor Site Yes Catering Price Per Person N/A Ad Page Number 152

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

300 Yes No $500 + Yes $12.95 + 143

402-884-2269 14040 Arbor St Omaha, NE 68144 www.arborhallomaha.com

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400 Yes No Call for info Yes Call for info 147

402-657-5543 23375 Barrus Road Glenwood, IA 51534 www.bellaterre.com

402-817-8733 5895 West Sprague Road Crete, NE 68333 www.bluestemvineyard.com

40/75 Call for info No Call for rates No Call for rates Seasonal Section

402-991-9463 Ext. 107 220 S 31st Avenue, Ste 3103 Omaha, NE 68131 www.brixomaha.com

Creighton University - Skutt & Harper Centers

Brix at Village Pointe

Chez Hay

The Club at Indian Creek

Let Brix at Village Pointe create a one-of-a-kind experience for your rehearsal dinner or small wedding reception. A state-of-the-art facility with full audio visual capabilities in an intimate winestyled atmosphere, the event centre can comfortably host up to 60 people in a round table seating arrangement and up to 100 people in a meet and greet format. Let us custom design a catering plan to accommodate your next event.

Chez Hay offers a beautiful urban loft-style banquet space located in the heart of downtown Lincoln, only a few blocks from the UNL campus. Our space features large windows overlooking the city, a spacious wood dance floor and exposed brick walls.

With full food and beverage service, we promise to keep every guest satisfied, whether there are 2 or 260.

The Club at Indian Creek is the perfect choice for your wedding ceremony, reception or rehearsal dinner. Our banquet facilities can accommodate groups from 20-400 with an outdoor veranda, beautiful golf course views & classic mahogany decor. The outdoor ceremony area provides a lush and beautifully landscaped backdrop for your wedding ceremony. Our professional event coordinators will give every detail of your event their personal attention to make it all you dreamed it would be.

Situated in the midst of the beautiful Creighton University campus, the Skutt and Harper Centers’ ballrooms can accommodate up to 350 guests for your wedding reception.

Pricing includes all setup/teardown, A/V, dance floor, staging and complimentary, convenient parking. Our full-service, on-site caterer can customize an affordable menu.

Our staff will work with you to ensure every detail of your special day is perfect!

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

60/100 Call for info No Call for rates No Call for rates Seasonal Section

260 Yes No Call for info No Varies 120

400 Yes No Varies Yes $16 + 129

350 No No $600-$1,600 No Varies 143

402-991-9463 Ext. 107 225 N 170th Street Omaha, NE 68118 www.brixomaha.com

402-489-7445 210 N. 14th Street Lincoln, NE 68508 www.chezhay.com

402-289-0900 3825 N. 202nd Street Omaha, NE 68022 www.theclubatindiancreek.com

402-280-1493 2500 California Plaza Omaha, NE 68178 www.creighton.edu/reservations

Divots Conference Center

DoubleTree by Hilton Omaha Downtown

The Durham Museum

Embassy Suites La Vista

Begin your marriage in a magical setting with panoramic views of the wide-open countryside!

Divots offers a beautiful destination, custom catering from an onsite chef, plenty of things to do to keep guests busy, and onsite lodging for family and friends attending your wedding and wedding reception! Our wide array of flexible event spaces make us the ideal location for wedding receptions, rehearsal dinners, parties, showers and even the wedding ceremony itself!

When it comes to making your wedding special, DoubleTree is committed to making every moment memorable. Our planners will help you create a wedding that is luxurious, personalized and unique. Offering upscale accommodations and amenities at our full-service hotel, DoubleTree can accommodate weddings of all sizes. This is the day you have been dreaming of and DoubleTree will create the spectacular day you so richly deserve.

Whether an intimate gathering or an elaborate affair, you will find the perfect setting at The Durham Museum. The breathtaking array of setting options ensures that your event will be both successful and memorable. One visit to The Durham Museum and you will see why it is considered one of Omaha’s most unique treasures. Create an event with your own special flair by selecting your preferred event planner, caterer, photographer and florist.

The Embassy Suites-LaVista Hotel & Conference Center offers a beautiful setting for grand gala weddings as well as smaller intimate weddings.

Available for ceremonies, wedding receptions, bridal showers, and rehearsal dinners, the Embassy Suites-LaVista is conveniently located at I-80 and Giles Road. Contact our professional and experienced catering staff to turn your big day into everything you dream it to be.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

900 Yes Yes $300-$1,200 Yes $12.95-21.95 144

402-844-2980 4200 W. Norfolk Ave. Norfolk, NE 68701 www.divotswedding.com

900 Yes No $350-$1,000 No Varies 119

402-636-4900 • 1616 Dodge Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.webeventplanner.com/ directory/doubletreeomaha

1000 Yes Yes Varies No N/A 139

402-444-5071 801 South 10th Street Omaha, Ne 68132 www.durhammuseum.org

1000+ Yes No Varies No $32 + IFC

402-331-7400 12520 Westport Pkwy La Vista, NE 68128 www.embassysuitesomahalavista.com neweddingday.com | 107

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The Fountains Ballroom and Vineyard

The Fountains Ballroom West

Embassy Suites Lincoln

Embassy Suites Omaha

Make your day a memorable one by holding your wedding at Embassy Suites. Our experienced catering team will help you plan, book and celebrate your wedding in style. Fullservice function space caters to events both large and small. There’s plenty of room to relax in our spacious two-room suites and open-air atrium; all while enjoying our evening Manager’s Reception and free cooked-to-order breakfast.

Embassy Suites Omaha-Downtown/Old Market; located in the heart of the historic Old Market, offers a perfect location and ideal setting for the Perfect Wedding Day. Experienced catering staff are onsite to take care of all the details.

Available for ceremonies, wedding receptions, rehearsal dinners, Embassy Suites - Omaha offers a lavish menu, all-inclusive packages and wide-ranging décor selections. Call our wedding specialist today!

The Fountains Ballroom, a unique, metro-area wedding venue nestled in the picturesque Loess Hills and 15 minutes from downtown Omaha, is designed as a blank canvas for you to create the wedding of your dreams. At the Fountains, no two weddings are ever alike.

Escape to Omaha for your Wedding Ceremony!

What if we took the charm of an Italian villa, added the crisp feeling of the Greek Islands, offered the grandeur of a bollywood wedding, threw a party like we were Irish and yet left a blank canvas for you to create the event of your dreams? Get ready for Omaha’s first wedding destination in the heart of the city.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

1490 Yes No Call for info No Call for rates IFC

500-800 Yes No Varies No $25 + IFC

580 Yes Yes $2,500 Yes Call for info 9

275 Yes Yes $2,000 Yes Call for info 9

402-474-1111 1040 P Street Lincoln, NE 68508 www.lincoln.embassysuites.com

402-346-9000 555 South 10th Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.omaha.embassysuites.com

712-526-2426 51496 230th Street Glenwood, IA www.thefountainsballroom.com

402-496-3000 4714 North 120 Street Omaha, NE 68164 www.thefountainsballroom.com

Full Circle Venue

Grand Manse Events and Lodging

Havelock Social Hall

Hidden Valley Golf Club

Count on Full Circle Venue to bring your dreams of a beautiful, stress-free wedding to life. Our staff has been coordinating remarkable weddings, parties and special events for years.

We will make your special day everything you ever dreamed it would be. We cater to your every need. This is ‘your’ day. Why shouldn’t it be just exactly as you envisioned?

The Grand Manse provides unique rooms each rich in character, history and architectural beauty. Pose for wedding portraits on the marble staircase, be married in the regal Grand Hall that once served as a federal courtroom and celebrate your wedding reception in the dramatic Jasmine Room with its soaring walls, sky-lit ceilings and original antique fixtures.

Complete your Grand Manse experience with a stay in one of our luxurious lodging suites.

At Havelock Social Hall we dedicate ourselves to providing you with a worry free wedding reception. With over 18 years of experience, we can help you with every detail of your special day. We will provide you with high quality food, excellent service and reasonable prices. Seating for up to 400, large dance floor, separate stages for D.J. and wedding party, and large private parking lot.

Located just outside the city lights, Hidden Valley is fast becoming the destination for wedding ceremonies and receptions, special events, and outdoor parties. The ballroom seats up to 170 guests and has a beautiful attached patio overlooking the luscious golf course.

Further, our golf course provides an outstanding backdrop for an outdoor ceremony. With many options from catering to room setup, Hidden Valley offers outstanding service and a unique experience!

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

350 + Yes No Varies No Call for rates 130

308-227-6470 1010 Diers Ave Suite 4 Grand Island, NE 68803 www.fullcirclevenue.com

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80-850 Yes Yes Varies Yes N/A 127

402-476-4560 129 N. 10th Street Lincoln, NE 68508 www.grandmanse.com

250/400 Call for info No $650/$750 No $9 + 145

402-467-3002 4538 N. 62nd Street Lincoln, NE 68507 havelock@havelocksocialhall.com

170 Yes Yes Call for rates Yes Varies 136

402-434-5150 10501 Pine Lake Road Lincoln, NE 68526 www.HiddenValleyLincoln.com

Holiday Inn Downtown Lincoln

Hillcrest Country Club

Hilton Omaha

HiMark Banquet Facility

Hillcrest Country Club…where your dream wedding becomes reality. Built in 1928, Hillcrest offers over 75 years of tradition and excellence.

Whether you are planning a casual or formal event, we offer a unique and elegant atmosphere with first-class service. Our experienced staff puts its heart into ensuring your evening will never be forgotten. Rehearsal dinners, bridal showers, and wedding party golf outings are also available.

Elegance & Style – Your perfect marriage at Hilton Omaha, recognized as the premiere venue for weddings and receptions. Hilton Omaha features more than 39,000 square feet of flexible event space including the dazzling 10,000 square-foot Grand Central Ballroom and the new 7,000 square-foot Blackstone Ballroom.

We provide a professional coordinator to assist with the planning of your special day. Other features include catering by our renowned chefs and spa options in our health club.

HiMark Banquet Facility features two beautifully decorated Banquet Rooms with scenic Golf Course views. We can accommodate groups of all sizes – perfect for Wedding Receptions and Rehearsal Dinners. Our experienced staff will work with you to customize your event, making it everything you have imagined. Included amenities: Linens, Table Settings, Centerpieces, Dance Floor and Bar Services.

The Holiday Inn Downtown has two ballrooms; The Lincoln Ballroom, which holds up to 500 people and the Nebraska Ballroom, which holds up to 250 people. We provide you with a dedicated wedding coordinator to personally assist in planning all the aspects of your reception, a professional staff to provide you with uncompromising service and superior food quality. For inquiries, call our wedding coordinator – Hollie Waldo.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

300 Yes No Varies Call for info Varies 151

700 Yes No Varies No Varies IBC

400 No No Varies No $13.95 + 134

500 No No Varies No Call for rates 125

402-489-7111 9401 O St. Lincoln, NE 68520 www.hillcrestcountryclub.com

402-998-3400 1001 Cass Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.omaha.hilton.com

402-488-3900 8901 Augusta Drive Lincoln, NE 68526 www.himarkgolf.com

402-475-4011 141 N 9th St. Lincoln, NE 68508 www.holiday-inn.com/lincolnne

Holiday Inn Downtown Omaha

Holiday Inn Lincoln Southwest

Hotel Deco XV

Lauritzen Gardens

There is a new wedding venue in south Lincoln! The Holiday Inn Southwest is a fullservice hotel with on-site catering. From light hors d’oeuvres to an elegantly served dinner, our culinary team prepares the finest food in Lincoln. We can help you plan your wedding from the rehearsal dinner, to the gift opening.

You and your guests will love our modern ballroom and guest accommodations.

Hotel Deco XV is Nebraska’s only 4-Diamond Boutique Hotel. The beautiful open lobby space serves as the perfect spot for an intimate ceremony. Various spaces, all decorated in sophisticated class makes every reception memorable.

Lauritzen Gardens, with event sites nestled among elegant gardens and in sophisticated rooms, is a spectacular site for your special day.

The garden blends uncommon natural beauty with exceptional amenities and service. We offer a variety of stunning indoor spaces that allow for your event, large or small, to take place in any of the four seasons. Lauritzen Gardens is the ideal location for wedding ceremonies and receptions, prenuptial dinners and bridal showers.

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Celebrate your special day in style at the Holiday Inn Downtown Omaha’s Bacardi Ballroom. With floor to ceiling windows overlooking the downtown skyline, the Bacardi Ballroom is sure to provide the perfect backdrop for your special event. Located in downtown’s up and coming NODO district, Holiday Inn is the ideal location for guests with catering from our on-site facility, romantic suites and indoor water park. Call for more information.

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250 Yes Yes $1,000 + Yes Varies 131

402-341-0124 • 1420 Cuming St Omaha, NE 68102 banquet@omahaholidayinn.com gm@omahaholidayinn.com www.holidayinn.com/omahadowntown

200 No No $900 No $12.95 + 131

402-421-1893 2500 Tamarin Ridge Road Lincoln, NE 68512 www.holidayinn.com/lincoln-sw

160 Yes No Varies No Varies 140

402-991-4981 1504 Harney Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.hoteldecoomaha.com

10 to 320 Yes No $500 to $4,250 Yes Varies 144

402-346-4002 100 Bancroft Street Omaha, NE 68108 www.lauritzengardens.org neweddingday.com | 109

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Lied Lodge & Conference Center at Arbor Day Farm

Lincoln Firefighter’s Reception Hall

The Living Room

Magnolia Hotel

Lied Lodge & Conference Center at Arbor Day Farm offers a naturally gorgeous backdrop to a day that is uniquely yours. Reception and ceremony venues accommodate groups up to 280 and range from timeless, traditional banquet rooms to historic barns and rustic lodges. Treat your guests to award-winning food and exemplary service while you embrace every moment of your special day.

The Lincoln Firefighter’s Reception Hall boasts modern conveniences and affordable elegance to create the perfect atmosphere for your event.

• Choose Your Own Catering Service • Full Use of Our Commercial Kitchen Included • Seating for up to 300 Guests • Convenient, Free Parking • Projector & Screen for DVD or Laptop • Cash or Host Bar Services with Bartenders • Dimmable lighting, lighted ficus trees, decorative arch, centerpiece items, plus much more!

Located in a former furniture factory, our industrial aesthetic is something you won’t find anywhere else. Clerestory windows pour in natural light on our exposed timbers and uncovered brick, making The Living Room the perfect place to hold your unique event.

The space is equipped with a state of the art A/V system, among many other amenities.

We host weddings, corporate or social events, community gatherings, holiday parties and everything in between.

Nestled in one of Omaha’s most treasured landmark buildings, the Omaha Magnolia Hotel creates a perfect blend of historic features, elegance and class. Our renowned outdoor courtyard is the premier space for wedding ceremonies while the chic ballrooms accommodate up to 250 guests. Each wedding includes a personal wedding coordinator, bridal suite, tables, chairs, linens, china and dance floor. Let your memories together begin here.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

280 Yes No Varies Yes Varies 151

300 Yes Yes Call for info No N/A 147

225-450 Yes Yes $500-$1,650 Yes N/A Seasonal Section

275 Yes No Varies Yes Varies 121

402-873-8705 or 800-546-5433 2700 Sylvan Road Nebraska City, NE 68410 www.liedlodge.org/weddings

402-477-6001 241 Victory Lane Lincoln, NE 68528 www.firefighterhall.com

402-681-0214 1111 North 13th Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.livingroomomaha.com

402-231-6040 1615 Howard Street Omaha, NE 68102 www.magnoliahotelomaha.com

Millard Plaza Ballroom

Nebraska Champions Club

The Nebraska Club

Omaha Marriott Hotel

While being pampered at the salon, our team is at work! While slipping into your wedding gown, our team is at work. While exchanging vows with the love of your life, our team is at work.

While walking down the aisle as husband and wife, our team is putting the finishing touches on the wedding reception of your dreams.

Relax! We’ll see you when you’re married.

Make your wedding reception an unforgettable event at the Nebraska Champions Club.

With multiple catering options, you have an endless selection of delicious menu options to accommodate a variety of tastes and budgets.

Located next door to Memorial Stadium, the Club provides free on-site parking, audio visual packages, and outstanding service from our team of champions. Call or email to schedule a tour of this beautiful venue!

Our 20th floor view of downtown Lincoln, along with our outstanding kitchen and professional approach to events, has made The Nebraska Club a traditional location for events, banquets, rehearsal dinners and wedding receptions.

From expert culinary advice to the flawless coordination of event details, we will help make your special day one everyone will remember.

Located in beautiful Regency, the Omaha Marriott is a full service hotel that is dedicated to assisting you with every detail of your special celebration! Whether you’re planning a Rehearsal Dinner, Ceremony, or Wedding Reception; we have the perfect formal Grand Ballroom and elegant outdoor Courtyard to accommodate your every need. Your JOY will last a lifetime and will begin with us at the Omaha Marriott Hotel. Call today to arrange your private tour!

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

350 Call for info No $975-$1,650 No $10.00 + 157

402-891-0779 5339 S. 139 Plaza Omaha, NE 68137 www.millardplazaballroom.com

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350 Yes No N/A No $18 + 145

402-472-6435 707 Stadium Drive Lincoln, NE 68508 www.huskeralum.org

250-300 Yes No Call for info No Varies 140

402-476-3228 233 South 13th Street, 20th Floor U.S. Bank Building, Lincoln, NE 68508 www.nebraskaclub.net

375 Yes No Varies Yes Varies 155

402-516-3617 10220 Regency Circle Omaha, NE 68114 www.facebook.com/marriottomaha?fref=ts

The Players Club

Ramada Plaza Omaha Hotel & Convention Center

Regency Lodge Hotel

The Ridnour Room

The Players Club is proud to offer you first-rate accommodations with the finest amenities.

We invite you to host your wedding, reception, rehearsal dinner or bridal shower here at our spacious, state-of-the-art, full-service clubhouse.

We include everything from a dance floor to linens and candles. Let us make your special day unforgettable.

Details should be your last worry! Make planning simple by taking advantage of all the services and amenities we have to offer.

Conveniently located at 72nd Street and I-80, our formal banquet rooms offer the perfect venue for a grandeur wedding for 500+ to an intimate celebration for 50. We’ll take care of all of your ceremony, reception, rehearsal dinner or bridal shower needs!

Distinctive surroundings…Extraordinary events!

From the ceremony to the reception, enjoy exceptional accommodations in a unique atmosphere. Located in west central Omaha, we can accommodate up to 300 guests and provide you with all the amenities necessary to ensure a successful event. Some of these amenities include: professional wedding coordinator; complimentary whirlpool suite for bride and groom; reduced guestroom rates for guests.

First Class quality at an affordable price!

Nestled in the Heart of Lincoln’s Historic Haymarket District, The Ridnour Room provides an extremely elegant atmosphere to fulfill all of your wedding dreams. After reserving The Ridnour Room, located inside the Apothecary Building, you will receive complete control over the food and beverage catering – you can even host the food and beverages yourself.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

325 Yes No Varies Yes Varies 133

1500 Yes No $300-$1,600 No Call for rates 3

225-300 Yes No Varies Yes $19.95 + 123

300 Yes Yes Call for rates No N/A 136

402-963-9950 12101 Deer Creek Drive Omaha, NE 68142 www.playersclubomaha.com

402-517-3072 3321 South 72nd Street Omaha, NE 68124 www.RamadaPlazaOmaha.com

402-397-8000 909 South 107th Avenue Omaha, NE 68114 www.RegencyLodge.com

402-474-1812 140 N. 8th Street Lincoln NE 68508 www.lincolnhaymarket.com

Sandhills Convention Center

Scott Conference Center

Sheraton Omaha Hotel

Simply Ballroom

The Sandhills Convention Center is the perfect setting that offers impeccable service for your special day. Our guests have come to appreciate and expect the personalized attention, professional service and quality of food for which we are known. Our experienced wedding coordinators will work closely with you to create a carefree, wonderful day, filled with memories to be treasured for a lifetime.

Great events don’t just happen; the Sandhills Convention Center makes them happen!

The Scott Conference Center is the ideal backdrop for an unforgettable reception.

Our beautiful, versatile space can accommodate up to 500 guests. An onsite coordinator is with you from the moment the first guest arrives until the lights are turned off. Our talented culinary team is excited to execute a perfected menu or create items unique to your tastes. At the Scott Conference Center, you’ll end your big day with a night to remember.

Truly a gem in the heart of Central Omaha, the Sheraton Omaha Hotel is the perfect place to make your wedding day dream come true.

From our first handshake to wishing you farewell on the night of your wedding, we make you our number one priority. Remember, “Life is Better when Shared.” See you soon!

Located in the new Mid-Town of Omaha just seconds from the interstate, we are the ideal choice for wedding receptions and countless other functions. Advantages: Free off-street parking, close to hotels, shopping and restaurants, seconds from the interstate, use your own caterer, decorate as you wish! All tables, chairs, linens and set up of these items are included in the rental rate. Come see Omaha’s best kept secret!

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700 Call for info Yes $450-$1,400 No $14.95 + 141

308-535-6162 2102 South Jeffers St. North Platte, NE 69101 www.sandhillcc.com

500 Call for info No $600-$1,200 No $16 + 148

402-778-6317 6450 Pine St Omaha, NE 68106 www.scottcenter.com

200-220 Yes No Varies No Varies 152

402-496-0850 655 North 108th Avenue Omaha, NE 68154 www.sheraton.com/omaha

150-300 Yes Yes $650-$1,200 No N/A 151

402-933-6678 2679 Farnam Street, Suite 204 Omaha, NE 68131 www.simply-ballroom.com neweddingday.com | 111

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The Thompson Center

Tiburon Golf Club

Celebrate your special day at the Thompson Center! Our elegant, affordable facility accommodates as many as 350 guests, is beautifully decorated, centrally located and perfect for weddings, receptions & prenuptial dinners. Your family and friends will enjoy our country club-like atmosphere, professional and friendly service and outstanding catering. And outdoor weddings are our specialty – many couples have exchanged vows under our beautiful canopy of shade trees. See it today!

Tiburon Golf Club is perfect for wedding receptions, rehearsal dinners, bridal showers and other special occasions. From the time you first enter the grand lobby until the last song of the night, our professional staff will be waiting to assist you. We can customize the perfect menu for your evening, along with bar service to accommodate your needs. Leave the worrying to us so you can enjoy every moment of your special day!

Tower Hall offers you the opportunity to create the special event you’ve always wanted at an affordable price. With in-house and off-site catering, seating for 450 and hundreds of decorations for you to choose from, we invite you to view Tower Hall, conveniently located just ten minutes from downtown Lincoln.

VFW Post 2503 is honored to accommodate you for such a wonderful event. Our two spacious ballrooms include a dance floor, entertainment stage, private bar, and ample parking. We offer assistance in arranging your catering or bring in your own. With our brand new outside garden, enjoy your evening under the stars. We are a budget friendly facility with a wedding coordinator to help with your arrangements in making this day as special as possible.

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Maximum Capacity Ceremony Site Outside Caterers Welcome Room Rental Fee Outdoor Site Catering Price Per Person Ad Page Number

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350 Yes No Varies Yes $18.95 + 135

400 Yes No Up to $1,800 Yes $18.25 + 1

Tower Hall Banquet Facility

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VFW Post 2503

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402-554-3368 6705 Dodge St. Omaha, NE 68182 www.thethompsoncenter.org

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Come visit us at the Wick Alumni Center in the heart of the University of Nebraska-Lincoln campus. Our affordable reception hall features stunning, award-winning architecture, with a 55-foot vaulted ceiling and twin staircases rising to the unique second-level mezzanines. The Wick Alumni Center is the perfect backdrop for outdoor weddings, receptions, rehearsal dinners or other special events. With multiple catering options, you have an endless selection of delicious menu options.

Our grand Yellowstone Ballroom features a fireplace and wrap around veranda. With plenty of room, a dance floor, and accommodations for all of your food and beverage, our spacious Yellowstone Ballroom is sure to impress. The Lodge at Wilderness Ridge has become one of Lincoln’s most coveted locations for wedding ceremonies and receptions.

Yankee Hill Country Club features spacious rooms with beautiful golf course views.

Whether you are looking for a reception site, pre-nuptial dinner or even your bridal shower, our experienced staff will work with you to customize your event, making it everything you have imagined. Included amenities: Linens, Table Settings, Centerpieces, Dance Floor, Bar Services, and beautiful golf course views perfect for your photo backdrop.

Younes Conference Center is Central Nebraska’s largest and newest facility and is the premier venue for your special day.

We provide a professional wedding consultant, delicious on-site catering, and discounted room rates for your guests in any of Younes Hospitality’s 4 adjacent hotels, and a complimentary guest room for the bridal couple.

Younes Hospitality prides itself in offering a superior product at a competitive price.

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402-434-5121 1800 Wilderness Woods Place Lincoln, NE 68512 www.wildernessridgegolf.com

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402-488-3900 7600 San Mateo Lane Lincoln, NE 68516 www.yankeehillcc.com

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AUTUMN SUNSET Photography by Brighten Photography Located at Hillcrest Country Club Hair by Salon Deja Vu MakeUp by Spa De Da

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Shoes and jewelry from Pattino Shoes, Tuxes from Tip Top Tux, Bridal gown from Blush Bridal Boutique, Bouquets by Petal Creations.

AZURE ACCENTS compliment the heather grey suits worn by the groom and best man. A graceful lace gown, adorned with a bow around the waist, creates a sophisticated bridal look.

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CASCADING PETALS LINE THE AISLE FOR THE BRIDAL ENTRANCE. BRIDESMAIDS clasp BOUQUETs that debut the darker hues used in the color palette.

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CANARY COLLECTIONS of autumn blooms create a centerpiece that is sure to get guests’ attention. using brighter hues from the ceremony, the tables are brought to life with vibrant florals and terra cotta accents.

Centerpiece designed by Petal Creations, Paper goods by A to Z Paperie, Linens from AAA Rents & Event Services.

DINING AT DUSK creates an atmosphere that is truly unique. garden lights provide a twinkle overhead that illuminate each table.

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This season dress your leading ladies in stunning gowns that are perfectly paired with breathtaking blooms.

Bouquet by I Bloom.

Dress from Ellynne Bridal Hair by Sweet Jane Salon MakeUp by One Makeup Artistry

Photography by Sarah Elizabeth Photography Located at Grand Manse Events and Lodging

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Hair by Urbane Salon & Day Spa MakeUp by GretchElizArtistry Bridal gown from My Blue Whimsy

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Garden PARTY

Nebraska WeddingDay is celebrating its Tenth Anniversary this year. We invited friends, local wedding vendors and family to share a toast to another fantastic year.

Photography by Brighten Photography Located at Bluestem Vineyard

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mix & mingle Guests were welcomed by oversized floral arrangements created by I Bloom. Food stations greeted guests with several light and fresh options.

Green Gateau Reception Center prepared canapes, caprese spoons and several hummus spreads. Bluestem Vineyard offered five wines for guests to select for their perfect pairing. Venue Restaurant & Lounge presented guests with beef sliders on a pretzel bun, shrimp shooters and chicken skewers. Top Shelf Beverage Services created a signature drink, the Pink Lotus, that guests enjoyed along with several craft beers.

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sweets display Several vintage chairs from Nostalgia Rentals, accented with a lovely arbor of greenery by I Bloom, created a lounge area for guests to enjoy a sweet treat or cocktail. Also, a vintage stand and floral arrangement by I Bloom brings life into the space while coordinating beautifully with the vintage furniture.

An assortment of gourmet chocolates from The Cordial Cherry, delicious cupcakes from Le Cupcake and a stunning cake

by Bliss Old Market Bakery created the perfect sweets display for guests to enjoy. Small pink boxes allowed guests to take a treat home with them.

OPPOSITE A dropcloth painted with a custom design created the perfect backdrop to a table display of chocolates and cupcakes.

The display was created with wine barrels from Nostalgia Rentals and a burlap linen from Elite Events Rental.

Rustic wooden tiered stands provided by Nostalgia Rentals served mini cupcakes.

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|planning| Tables lined with burlap runners and lush florals, created by Petals to Platinum, welcomed guests to take a seat and get to know one another.

special thanks LOCATION Bluestem Vineyard PIPE & DRAPE Takes Two Bridal & Event Rentals LIGHTING J&S Audio Visual RENTALS Elite Events Rental Nostalgia Rentals FLORAL DESIGN I Bloom.

Petals to Platinum INVITATIONS Porridge Papers CATERING Green Gateau Reception Center Venue Restaurant & Lounge BAR SERVICES Bluestem Vineyard Top Shelf Beverage Services SWEETS DISPLAY Bliss Old Market Bakery The Cordial Cherry Le Cupcake TRANSPORTATION Extreme Limousine PHOTOGRAPHY Brighten Photography MUSICAL PERFORMANCES Bathtub Dogs Harris Academy of the Arts Karlyn Music & Kaitlyn Maria Filippini MUSIC A Sound Impression fall | 32

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WHIMSICAL SOIREE Photographed by Andrea Bibeault: A Wedding Photojournalist Ceremony Location: Countryside Community Church, Reception Location: 1316 Jones Street, Flowers: Old Market Habitat - Kyle Robino, Hair & MakeUp: The Hair Market Salon, Men’s Formalwear: Men’s Wearhouse, Music: On the Fritz, Cake: Glaze Your Way, Invitations and Paper Goods: Méldeen - Kaleigh Wiese, Catering: Hap Abraham Catering

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lucille & tyler

CHARMING VINTAGE Photographed by Nikki Moore Photography

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LOCAL VENDORS Ceremony & Reception Location: Joslyn Castle, Cake: Cupcake Island Catering: Patricia Catering Music: Premier Sound LTD Officiant: Thomas Joyce - Beyond Illusion Men’s Formalwear: Tip Top Tux

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clarissa & brent

COUNTRYSIDE GRACE Photographed by Jessica Blex Photography

Catering: Sue Bantz, Floral Design: Lee Douglas Interiors and Cutts, Rentals: AAA Rents & Event Services and Nostalgia Rentals, Hair: Artistic Edge, Bridesmaid Dresses: Zara, Bridal Gown: Ready or Knot {Wedding Chic}, Men’s Formalwear: Halberstat’s, Event Planner: Clarissa Tuxhorn

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Index of Wedding Professionals We wish to warmly welcome these talented wedding vendors to Nebraska WeddingDay. For a full list of wedding vendors, visit neweddingday.com

Catering Brandeis Catering Green Gateau Reception Center Top Shelf Beverage Services and Wine Concierge Venue Restaurant & Lounge

Event Design J&S Audio Visual Takes Two Bridal & Event Rentals

Floral Bouquets and Bling

Receptions The Cornhusker Marriott Hotel The Georgetown Club Green Gateau Reception Center Livestock Exchange Building Tip Top Ballroom

Rehearsal Dinners

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Top Shelf Beverage Services and Wine Concierge Venue Restaurant & Lounge

Registry Habitat

Rentals J&S Audio Visual Takes Two Bridal & Event Rentals

Cover Credits Image by Brighten Photography Bouquet by Petal Creations Bridal gown from Blush Bridal Boutique Tux from Tip Top Tux Hair by Salon Deja Vu MakeUp by Spa De Da Located at Hillcrest Country Club

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Climate Control Considerations for outdoor wedding celebrations

IT IS HARD TO BEAT THE NEBRASKA countryside, city skyline, or about anything inbetween for a stunning wedding backdrop.

Despite our beloved state’s reputation for variable weather conditions, outdoor weddings can offer a uniquely beautiful experience, if you get the weather’s cooperation. Beauty is often found in the most natural of settings. So, if you have been dreaming of an outdoor wedding, we have provided a few tips for our brides to consider while planning your big day with an outdoor element.

LOCATION When considering the location of your ceremony and/or reception, determine where in the sky the sun will be positioned at the time of your event. To determine where the sun will be at the time of your ceremony, you can download a smart phone sun-setter application that will track the placement of the sun throughout your wedding day. If both the ceremony and reception will be held outdoors, think in terms of functionality. How will guests transition through the evening? What outdoor spaces will provide shade for guests? Be courteous and avoid seating your guests in direct sunlight or facing them into the sun. You would not want sun glare to interfere with their view or enjoyment of the occasion.

Also, depending upon the time of year, the temperature may be a factor. Simply speaking, you will want to do everything possible to make your guests comfortable in an outside environment. If covered or shaded areas are limited, consider having a mid-morning or early evening wedding to avoid everyone being subjected to the heat.

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However, before you order a tent, tables and chairs, and other necessities, check with your local parks and recreation department. Many city parks require event permits and may have other regulations in place that you must consider.

avoid serving fried foods as they will become soggy in short order due to the humidity.

Baked chicken and fresh vegetables are always a crowd pleaser that will remain tasty despite a high-temperature environment.

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OUTDOOR ELEMENTS If you are hosting a summer reception, guests will often drink more to stay cool. By offering Serving refreshing drinks, such as iced tea, lemonade or water, non-alcoholic beverages, guests can enjoy many fun and fruity as people arrive at your outdoor celebration will keep guests drinks without mixing high-alcohol beverages with high cool and comfortable. To avoid bug bites and sunburn issues, temperatures. offer guests repellent wipes ($25 for 48 at lafreshgroup.com) and sunscreen wipes ($5 for 30 supergoop spf wipes at sephora.com).

FLOWERS AND DECOR

FOOD AND BEVERAGE Try to avoid serving heavy foods when hosting an outdoor reception. Guests will appreciate a fresh and light menu when trying to beat the heat. Replacing potato salads with pasta or tomato selections are great alternatives. You will also want to

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Be aware of the challenges that the outdoor elements will create when selecting flowers. Try to choose blooms that will be able to stand up to the heat, such as orchids and roses. Keep arrangements in the shade and out of the wind to extend their life. Avoid tall dĂŠcor pieces as they may become hazardous on a windy day. Elements like driftwood, clear lantern candles, low

|receptions| floral arrangements, and heavy vases are great outdoor décor alternatives that should withstand whatever the weather presents.

LIGHTING Rent outdoor lights or hire a company to hang outdoor lighting to enhance the setting and to keep guests safe. Strings of large bulbs are a gorgeous way to add ambiance to your reception space. Battery-operated lanterns look beautiful hanging over a dance floor. If you plan to hang mason jars or tea lights from trees, opt for battery-operated candles to avoid any fire hazards.

FAVORITE OUTDOOR RECEPTION IDEAS TENT Tents can be glamorous and perfect for a Nebraska spring, summer, or fall wedding. They offer protection from most weather elements while also allowing guests to enjoy the great outdoors. Tent rentals can vary, so discuss your ideas with your rental company. The multitude of options can span from traditional white canvas tents to tents with plastic, see-through roofs allowing you to dine under the stars.

BARN If you have a friend or family member with a spacious barn, this can be a chic way to host a rustic wedding. If you don’t have a personal connection to a barn space, don’t worry as there are some venues that offer a barn for rent. The key to hosting a dinner in an old barn is to clean, clean, and then clean some more! Sweep and power wash all floors if concrete; rake dirt floors for debris. Hanging lights or large chandeliers will add sophistication to the venue and provide plenty of ambiance and lighting for guests.

GARDEN For a smaller wedding, hosting your reception in a garden is as romantic as you can get. A long, family style dinner table is very elegant and brings an intimate feeling to a smaller reception.

Renting lounge furniture and a dance floor will encourage guests to sit, relax, and enjoy the evening, surrounded by fresh flowers and the moonlit sky.

No doubt outdoor weddings are beautiful, romantic and memorable. Just remember the importance of thinking through all possible threats in advance. Also, be certain to walk through your reception venue more than once, considering the experience from the vantage point of your guests. You will want to be assured of their safety and comfort throughout your special day. Finally, always have a backup plan if the weather takes a turn for the worse. Being prepared with a plan will allow your day, no matter the weather, to be everything you dreamt it would be. |NWD| 120 | nebraska weddingday

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Music For Every Moment And the night shall be filled with music THE MUSIC YOU SELECT FOR YOUR cocktail hour and reception can influence the mood and actions of your guests. Music can be used to cue guests for room movements, mood changes, or program transitions. Use music to set the tone for each progression of the reception and to guide your guests throughout the evening.

SELECTING THE MUSIC While it is not necessary to develop a 15-page playlist, it is a good idea to discuss genres, decades and artists with your deejay or band. If you are hosting an elegant ballroom reception, light jazz plays wonderfully. If you are hosting your reception in a barn and want to keep the tone casual, consider playing light country tunes. Although it can help the deejay construct a playlist, sometimes strict guidelines create an unnecessary challenge. Give your professional deejay or band their own creative license and let them use their expertise and experience when reading the crowd for your event.

ON THE MIC If you prefer that the deejay is not involved in announcing activities or releasing tables, speak up. Often deejays may mingle throughout the reception and interact with guests. Many guests will be reuniting with family and friends and prefer not to be disturbed throughout dinner for casual banter or announcements. If you wish the deejay to only announce your entrance and the toasts, remember to provide an itinerary on each table so your guests know when to expect the cake cutting and first dance.

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|receptions| Bride will address the guests, thanking them for coming. He will then turn the microphone over to the Maid of Honor and Best Man. Once the toasts are complete, the first dances take place.

The best time to shift the mood and encourage guests to dance is preceding the first dance. Upbeat music will encourage guests to take to the dance floor for the remainder of the evening.

TAKING CARE OF YOUR PROFESSIONALS Regardless of whether you hire a live band or a deejay, breaks will be needed throughout the evening. Bands typically take a few 15-minute breaks to rest and refresh. Your deejay is able to take breaks throughout the evening while keeping the music playing. Since these professionals work long hours with an early afternoon set up, music during your reception, and a late-night tear down, remember to notify your caterer to provide food to them during dinner.

BE PREPARED Ask your vendor in advance about any additional equipment rental fees. Also inquire about their contingency plan should a band member or deejay not show or become ill. Remember to address what the deejay or band plans to wear that evening. They should be properly dressed for the wedding’s level of formality. When planning an outdoor reception, remember to design a contingency plan should the weather take a turn towards rain. |NWD|

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Party Protocol Handling with style and grace the oddities that may occur

WHILE MOST OF THE DETAILS ARE down, a few elements to the planning still require thoughtful consideration. The flowers have been selected, the menu has been finalized, and the bridal gown has been fitted, but how do you properly handle those odd little occurrences that may pop up? These situations usually relate to proper decorum and often require just a little patience and poise to navigate. Traditional etiquette and modern manners sometimes differ in the best approach to resolving such matters. So carefully consider what seems most appropriate to you in each situation. We have given you a guide to dealing with some of the most common social blunders, all the while maintaining proper manners and handling each with style and grace.

UNEXPECTED GUESTS The overarching emphasis whenever handling guest list surprises is to always make your guests feel welcome. Regardless of whether your guest brought their date without including them in the RSVP or you spot an uninvited distant relative, everyone should feel welcome and comfortable at your ceremony and reception. To accommodate any unexpected guests, be prepared by assuming more guests will attend than have replied. Rent three to five percent more of any linens, chairs, plate chargers and china. Also, when designing your table seating chart, don’t completely fill every table. This will allow room for a guest to join at the last minute, even if they are not specifically included on the seating chart. To accommodate children you did not expect, ask your caterer or chef to have a plan in mind for a simple children’s meal. Finally, if a guest informs you at the last minute that they cannot attend, remove their seating card immediately.

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WEDDING GIFTS Tradition suggests all wedding gifts should be sent to the home of the bride or groom. However, the majority of guests in the Midwest present their gifts at the reception. To accommodate these gifts, prepare a table in an out-of-the-way spot. Ask a relative or close friend to direct guests where to set their gifts upon arrival. Many guests will bring a card, so it is wise to prepare a basket, box, or other decorative receptacle to collect them thereby avoiding the chance of any being mislaid.

CEREMONY AND RECEPTION TIMELINE There are many reasons why your reception may not begin immediately following your ceremony. Often, it is because the church will not allow wedding ceremonies to take place after a certain time on Saturdays. If you are facing a two to three hour gap between your ceremony and reception, it is important to consider the comfort of your guests. If the majority traveled from out of state and are spending the night, they are able to retreat back to a hotel room to freshen up. If the majority live in town, they are able to return to their home for a few hours before arriving at the reception. However, if your guests do not have an appropriate place to go before the reception begins, consider hosting a trolley tour of the city. Arrange for guests to take a tour of local landmarks or attractions. It is nice to prepare bottles of

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water and some light snacks for the ride. Another option is to provide your guests a map with local highlights, allowing them to take a self-guided tour if they desire.

RECEIVING LINE Many churches no longer allow a receiving line to take place after the ceremony due to an overlap with services. If this is the case, consider greeting guests near the entrance of your reception venue or at their tables between courses during dinner. It is important to make each guest feel welcomed and special. However, also take time to enjoy your husband and your reception without getting stuck in conversation the entire time.

INTIMATE CEREMONY, LARGE RECEPTION Many couples prefer a small private ceremony, but would like to invite all of their friends and family to help celebrate at their reception. The key to having the best of both worlds is proportion. To avoid any hurt feelings, keep the number of invited guests to the ceremony to a minimum. A good rule of thumb is to have a 1-to-10 ratio of ceremony guests to reception guests. An example of this would be to invite 15 people to the ceremony if you are expecting 150 to attend your reception.

However, keep the meaning of your wedding day in mind as well. Guests wish to share in your excitement, love, and the promises you make to one another. By including them as guests at your ceremony, they will feel honored and blessed to witness your vows.

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ASSIGNING WEDDING ROLES It is an honor to be asked to stand by your side as a bridesmaid or groomsman, or to serve as an usher or reader.

Often brides try to include as many friends and family members in their wedding day to avoid any hurt feelings.

However, unless the role is something truly special, think twice before reaching out to your cousins and distant relatives.

Small children will be overjoyed to hand out bubbles or programs, but your 16-year-old cousin may not. Sometimes it is best to keep wedding roles to a minimum and allow your friends and family to enjoy the day celebrating.

BALANCING GUESTS AND ALCOHOL If your family members love to drink and get down on the dance floor, you may want to reconsider utilizing the open bar concept. Guests are not as likely to order a drink when the drinks are not complimentary. Consider having a “hosted� bar serving beer, wine, and a signature drink.

This will cater to all tastes without allowing guests to order strong alcoholic beverages or shots of liquor. If you simply must host an open bar, yet wish to ensure your guests do not overindulge, ask the bartenders to use a light touch when mixing drinks.

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Also, during the last hour of your reception, consider shifting available drinks to non-alcoholic options and complementing the drink bar with a simple snack bar. This usually does not increase the cost of your reception by much, as you are shifting alcohol expense to snacks. Utilizing a snack bar will serve to sober up guests before they depart. Some popular ideas are nachos, tacos, or pizza.

Finally, don’t lose sight of your own alcohol consumption.

Avoid having more than a few drinks and be certain to eat some food throughout the day and during the event so you may fully enjoy your wedding reception while maintaining your poise and grace. |NWD|

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United In Love Honoring your union with a symbolic element

By Holly Lafferty

LIGHTING THE UNITY CANDLE TO represent two becoming one can be a uniquely intimate moment during the wedding ceremony.

You and your spouse demonstrate to one another and all your guests that you are truly committed to the union. This symbolic gesture represents the joining of you and your husband as a team – a united front. But if the thought of marking this special moment with the typical candle lighting seems outdated to you, there are other options. Consider utilizing an equally sweet gesture in a way that better represents you as a couple. Nebraska WeddingDay offers some ideas on creative alternatives to the traditional unity candle, while still honoring the significance of that special moment for you and your guests.

A KNOT CEREMONY For this simple gesture, use a decorative cord or ribbon. You tie a knot on one end and your husband ties a knot on the other. Then, tie the two knots together as a symbol of your coming together as one. This tradition comes with many cultural variations. For example, a Mexican tradition has the wedding couple wearing a lasso together over their shoulders.

HAND FASTENING Similar to the knot-tying ritual, you can have your officiant gently tie you and your husband’s hands together with a decorative cord, ribbon, or special strip of cloth. This gesture symbolizes the act of marriage – binding you to one another. Hand fastening is an ancient Celtic wedding tradition and also a wonderful way to honor your Celtic heritage.

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|receptions| front at the beginning of the ceremony. During the unity tradition, you and your hubby can transfer the small bouquets into a larger vase, symbolizing the beauty of your relationship and your union.

UNITY CUP Have your mother and your fiancé’s mother each pour wine (or a non-alcoholic beverage) into your respective family cups. Then you and your husband can pour a portion from each family cup into a unity cup that you can both drink from together. If you wish to honor your individuality as well, you can each take a sip from your family cup before pouring the drink into the unity cup simultaneously.

SAND Pouring two containers of sand into one larger container is another meaningful way to represent your unbreakable bond.

You can purchase two different colors to represent the blending together of yourselves. Have your mothers bring the sand and pour it into two individual containers for a ceremony echoing the classic unity candle, but with a twist.

SOIL As an alternative to using sand, you and your groom can each bring a sampling of soil from your childhood homes to pour into

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a beautiful receptacle or pot. The soil will signify your childhood dreams being realized with the two of you having found one another and becoming one in a new life together. A variation might include having a special plant or tree sapling already planted in the pot to which you add your soil. Later the plant or tree could be transplanted when you purchase your first home.

For example, a jasmine plant denotes love and a lavender plant signifies love, protection, and longevity.

LOVE LETTERS This heartfelt alternative holds much emotion that will be cherished for many years to come. Before your wedding day, write a love letter to your spouse and have him do the same.

Find a small decorative chest where you can each place the love letters during the ceremony. Make plans to open the chest on your tenth wedding anniversary to relive the day of your wedding and the love you felt for each other.

TIME CAPSULE Another unique option includes you and your husband both bringing a variety of items that represent different elements of your relationship – a CD with your special song, a ticket stub from your first movie date, a photo of the two of you together.

You can place the items in a time capsule to be opened on

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WINE If permitted at your ceremony venue and as long as you don’t mind making a little noise, you and your hubby can place a bottle of wine into a special box and together nail on the lid.

This is another tradition that can be celebrated on your tenth anniversary. Like a fine bottle of wine, your marriage only gets better with age. On your anniversary, open the box and enjoy!

PLANT Another variation includes planting a tree or other shrub together after the ceremony. If you don’t mind getting your hands a little dirty, this is a wonderful way to create a natural lasting bond between you and your man. As a bonus, it is a perfect gesture for couples hosting an earth-friendly wedding.

These are only a few suggestions as there are truly an endless number of ideas for representing your unity at the conclusion of your wedding ceremony. Any variations on these ideas that will serve to make it your own are also perfectly acceptable. If you have a unique idea, don’t hesitate to go for it! If it honors the relationship between you and your husband, it is guaranteed to be a special moment you will remember forever. |NWD|

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Selecting Your Setting Just imagine the possibilities with a variety of reception options

THE RECEPTION VENUE SETS THE TONE for the wedding and is a crucial element in implementing your planned dĂŠcor and design.

Depending upon the size of the guest list and your wedding budget, there are many uniquely beautiful reception venues available. From a wistful blooming garden to a well-manicured country club lawn, here are a few options to help you discover your ideal venue.

BARN Many couples love a rustic barn setting for their reception venue. It provides shelter while also allowing guests to dance under twinkling lights or a moonlit sky. A barnyard reception can also serve as a very special nod to family history or a cultural significance. The toughest challenge for this venue is arranging catering, restrooms, and entertainment. Also, remember to consider the seasonal temperatures, as usually a barn is neither heated nor air-conditioned.

COUNTRY CLUB If you dream of a classic space, a country club may be your most fitting option. Set on tailored greens, country clubs offer a sophisticated style and space. One of the few challenges posed by this venue is that your event may not be totally private due to club members accessing the pool or grounds.

PARK Depending upon your ideal landscape, a reception comfortably settled in a park may be just the casual venue you are looking for.

Arranging family-style tables, with your ceremony location nearby, gives guests a wonderfully intimate feeling. Prior to making your arrangements, be sure to check with the

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city offices for any necessary permits or special permission.

Also, scope out the space to make certain there are adequate restroom facilities and sufficient resources to meet your electrical needs.

RESTAURANT If you are planning a small, intimate wedding, a restaurant is an excellent option. With possibilities for a unique menu and cozy ambiance, this type of reception venue is stress free and relaxed. You could even allow guests to order directly from the menu. Prior to booking your reception, consult with the restaurant owner or manager regarding space limitations and noise level of the restaurant during the time frame you are considering. If the noise inherent in a restaurant environment concerns you, simply inquire about the availability of a separate area for your reception, such as a party room. Otherwise, just prepare yourself not to be overwhelmed or distracted by other diners during your event.

PRIVATE HOME In the movies, there are countless fabulous weddings arranged at private homes. This venue provides a private and special space, uniquely your own. While most parents may shy away from the option due to the workload and preparations, hosting your reception at a family estate can be very intimate.

The toughest challenge to overcome is arranging adequate kitchen space, restrooms, and parking. If you are planning your event at a private home, inform the neighbors of your plans so they will not be frustrated by the traffic and possible noise that evening. If they know what is going on, they will be more understanding of the special occasion and not call law enforcement with a complaint.

GARDEN Nestled around fragrant blooms and a beautiful landscape, a garden reception can be transformed into a dreamy affair.

Allow the garden setting to speak for itself. With nature as your backdrop, your table arrangements and other dĂŠcor can be simple and subtle. For this reception venue, be certain to outline a rain plan, just in case the weather is not in your favor on your special day.

TENT A tented reception is a fantastic option that can comfortably accommodate a large guest list. While providing guests with shade and cover, everyone is still able to enjoy the sunset and dance into the evening under the stars. A tent company will have many options for you to choose from, including lighting.

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MUSEUM Surrounded by beautiful works of art, a museum is a stunning and sophisticated venue for your reception.

Many museums have staff members who are experienced in executing weddings and can offer great insight for creating your ideal event. You may find that some museums may have a list of preferred vendors, which may limit your options for catering or dĂŠcor.

HOTEL If you picture a large wedding in a grand ballroom, a hotel reception may be perfect for you. Hotels are easily able to accommodate a large group and usually are also able to arrange an appropriate space more suitable for a smaller guest list. The staff is knowledgeable and experienced with events. The only challenge is that you may be sharing the venue with a neighboring wedding or other large event on the same day or evening.

BANQUET HALL Similar to a hotel, banquet halls often provide full-service packages thereby making the planning process easier and more affordable. Depending upon the space, banquet halls are easy to transform into your dream wedding space.

Also, the staff members are experienced and have worked with many local wedding vendors, creating an easier flow of communication. The only challenge for this venue is the possible turnaround time for decorating, especially when an event is scheduled the evening before.

For a full list of reception venues, review our reception guide on pages 106-112 in this issue or visit neweddingday.com for more details. |NWD|

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An Intimate Affair Advantages to a short guest list

A SUPERSIZED WEDDING WITH 500 guests is a rarity these days. Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a large wedding, but when your budget is a factor, a more intimate affair can be just as stunning as a large gathering. Actually, intimate weddings are highly popular now. Before considering which is right for you and your groom, take a few moments to consider the many advantages of a smaller wedding.

Everyone can fit into that quaint chapel you’ve been dreaming about. You may have thought that picturesque little church with a seating capacity of only 75 was not an option. But if you trim the guest list, you can say your vows in a lovely little space that truly speaks to you and your fiancé.

Fiji, here we come! Consider allocating the money you saved by downsizing your wedding plans towards an unforgettable honeymoon.

Enjoy an awesome adventure in paradise and still have the wedding of your dreams.

Let your DIY diva cut loose. With a smaller wedding, those special little details that would be overwhelming with a large guest list become more manageable. Handcrafting name cards for 50 guests rather than 400 becomes an enjoyable project instead of a chore. Everyone will reap the rewards of that extra personal attention to detail.

Trim those guests you were hesitant to omit.

If it’s only immediate family and a few close friends, you don’t have to worry about offending your second cousin twice removed or the former co-worker that you only see once a year.

Simply say, “We are only including immediate family.” Granted, there may be some disappointment, but everyone will understand if you are consistent with your guest list.

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|receptions| Revel in the extra time you can spend with those closest to you. Fewer guests in attendance will allow you more time with each guest and also with your new husband. You will be able to take a few extra moments with each and every loved one, instead of madly flitting from table to table for a quick hug and thank you. A more intimate affair will also make your guests feel special for being included.

Save yourself time. If you’re having 40 guests instead of 300, you won’t be spending nearly as much time addressing invitations, designing a seating chart, handcrafting favors, and writing thank-you notes. Everything will be on a smaller scale, including your time commitment.

Take the pressure off. Don’t worry about impressing all of your distant relatives and former co-workers. You won’t need to fret over whether everyone will get served before the food is cold.

Hosting a smaller wedding will mean less people-pleasing and more fun for you, your husband, and your guests.

It is a little easier to see why an intimate wedding may be very appealing. Saving money is only one benefit among many. If the thought of a huge guest list makes you feel overwhelmed and overextended, maybe it’s time to think about paring down your list and giving yourself a break. You can have the wedding of your dreams without having a big headache to go along with it! |NWD|

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Seating Essentials A place for everyone and everyone in their place ALTHOUGH IT SEEMS LOGICAL THAT guests would enjoy sitting with whomever they wish, an open seating plan may cause stress for many guests. The main focus for your reception should be to make your guests feel comfortable with the surroundings and to put them at ease with the event. Think of your reception as a very large dinner party at your home wherein you would want each and every guest to feel welcome and completely comfortable. Seating charts can be an essential element when creating a welcoming atmosphere for your guests.

Assigned seating has the added advantage of putting your guests at ease since they will not find themselves in search of an open seat.

Whether you select a seating chart or decide upon an open plan for your reception, there are some important aspects to keep in mind.

HEAD TABLE It is proper etiquette that your wedding party should never be separated from their dates or spouses during your reception. By including the bridal party and dates at the head table, everyone will be more comfortable and will not be retreating to other tables to visit and check in on their loved ones. If your wedding includes a large bridal party, there are several options for seating arrangements. The first option is to construct a large rectangle with your bridal party seating situated around all four sides.

This can be arranged as a beautiful focal point, while still allowing you to converse with your bridesmaids and groomsmen.

The second option is to seat your maid of honor, best man and their respective dates with you and your groom at a table. This allows you to spend the dinner hour with them, while allowing your bridal party to still sit together with their dates at nearby tables. The final option is to have a sweetheart table. This table is set for only you and your groom allowing for some private time together.

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|receptions| The head table should be the main focus of the reception space since the attention will always be on you throughout the evening. You can showcase the head table in a variety of ways, such as with a larger floral arrangement or a collection of candlesticks. Make certain your table dĂŠcor is not too tall however, so guests can enjoy watching the special toasts as well as first dances from their vantage point.

RESERVING TABLES If you are opting for an open seating plan, arrange a few tables for immediate family members or special guests near the head table.

Your parents, grandparents, ushers, readers, and special attendants should be the closest to you. By placing a few reserved signs on nearby tables, other guests will know that these should remain open. Prior to the reception, inform your family members and special guests that they will be seated at these designated tables so they know their seat has been prearranged.

STAYING ORGANIZED The key to any seating chart is organization. The best advice is to start assigning guests to tables as soon as your RSVP cards come in the mail. Group guests by mutual friends, family members, or simply common interests. A thoughtful hostess always thinks of her guests’ comfort first and foremost. If you know two family members often clash, simply seat them at separate tables.

When designating guest placement on your seating chart, only assign table numbers. This way they are free to select their seat at the table and you will have less stress planning each and every seat. Keep the number of guests at each table low. The highest number of guests at each table should be twelve. Most often, you will seat eight at a standard round table. Guests should be able to sit comfortably and enjoy the meal without feeling crowded. When you plan a realistic number at each table, it provides an opportunity for guests to visit with each other around the table.

SAVING SPACE To ensure each guest has a place to sit at your reception, regardless of whether they have sent their RSVP or not, leave several spots open at tables while also planning an extra table for last minute RSVPs. Keep track of any tables that have not reached capacity so you know exactly where to place any guest who attends your reception without notice.

If your reception will have an open seating plan, it is especially important to provide extra space for guests. Since those in attendance will be able to select their own table, they may leave an odd number of chairs at some tables. By planning an extra reception table or two, you will ensure all guests have a place to sit even if they arrive late. |NWD| 148 | nebraska weddingday

Seating Guide a guide to table size and seating arrangements

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Navigating The Guest List Winning guidelines for developing your guest list CREATING THE GUEST LIST CAN BE ONE of the most stressful aspects of your wedding. With parents and family requesting the inclusion of coworkers and distant cousins, it can quickly become a bit challenging to navigate the “in” and “out” lists. Not only can your guest list be challenging to decide upon, but it is a significant factor in shaping your wedding day. By following a few simple guidelines, you can avoid any social blunders as you develop your ideal wedding guest list.

MANAGE YOUR BUDGET The most significant budget item is the amount spent on your guests’ food, drink, and entertainment. A traditional buffet or plated dinner will cost anywhere between $15 and $50 per person. After you decide your budget for your reception food and drink, you will need to do the math with your guest list. If you are over budget, reevaluate your guest selection and make the necessary cuts.

If your parents are paying for the wedding, they may wish to include their friends on the guest list. Discuss your vision for the day and the number of guests you wish to have. Also, establish a reasonable number of guests to be invited by the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents. This will eliminate any confusion and will relieve you from additional stress.

SELECTING YOUR LOCATION It is ideal to have settled on your budget and your guest list before selecting your ceremony and reception venues. This will provide you guidelines that will assist you in making decisions on a site.

So, if you have your heart set on a small country chapel wedding, your guest list should reflect the intimate size and feel of the location. Think realistically when coordinating the size of your guest list with the capacity of your location. Ask yourself what is more important – the venue or the number of guests. If the number of guests cannot be scaled down to accommodate your dream venue, look for a larger space. It is better to relocate the reception than to crowd guests around tables with little room to move and no room for a dance floor.

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ESTIMATING THE RSVPs The invitation RSVP is not only an important courtesy, but it will assist you in estimating the actual attendance at the wedding.

The standard RSVP estimation tool calls for you to double the number of invites you send (since an invitation usually includes two people) then subtract 33%. Or in other words, two-thirds of your guest list will most likely attend your wedding. While this rule of thumb usually rings true, there can be factors which affect attendance. If your guest list includes a high percentage of out-of-town guests, your rate of attendance may be a bit lower due to guests not being available to travel.

One thing is for certain, there are always a few surprises when receiving RSVPs. When guests are asked to pencil in their names and the number attending, they may add a friend or child that you were not including on your guest list. They do this intending no harm and often unaware that this is a social blunder. Should this occur, do not despair as most likely it will not affect your budget. Should a guest add multiple children’s names and you do not wish for children to attend the wedding, politely call and explain your wishes. Just be certain you make no exception for other children attending, as this could cause hurt feelings among your guests.

CREATING THE LIST The first step after reaching an estimated guest count is to divide that number by three. List the names of all the people you wish to invite on one of three worksheets. (Microsoft Excel is common software that can be used to organize these lists and allow for easy changes as needed.) The first sheet should represent the bride and groom’s guest list. The second sheet should include the bride’s parents’ guest list and the third sheet should delineate the groom’s parents’ guest list.

In the first column on each sheet, enter the guest’s name. In the second column on each of the three lists, designate “A”, “B” or “C” next to the name. The names designated as “A” are musthaves that include siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.

Your “B” names are should-haves, such as good friends, distant relatives, etc. This is the most difficult category to decide. Many couples struggle with coworkers or friends from high school or college. The final category, “C,” is like-to-haves that may include neighbors, sorority sisters, former coworkers, and the like.

Should it become necessary to trim the guest list, sorting the names by category will allow you a clearer picture of who could be cut. Also, as RSVPs are returned, you may find some expected guests cannot attend. At that time you can reevaluate your “cut” list to reconsider extending an invitation to any of those guests. You could send out a second group of invitations, but only if just a brief time has passed since mailing the first group so as to avoid potential hurt feelings for those not included in the first mailing. |NWD| 152 | nebraska weddingday

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Let The Truth Be Told Differentiating the truth from the common myths

By Holly Lafferty

YOU WILL BE OFFERED A GREAT DEAL OF well-intentioned advice as you plan your wedding.

So, how can you possibly determine the right information from the wrong information? In some situations, what is acceptable in 2013 is very different from what was appropriate at your grandmother’s wedding over 50 years ago.

Since the wedding industry is forever evolving, even some advice you receive from a bride of ten years ago may no longer apply.

That is exactly why Nebraska WeddingDay is here to serve you! We are your trusted advisor on all things wedding. Not only do we bring you the latest in bridal fashions, floral design, handcrafted details, and so much more, we also aid you in determining what is appropriate and what is not. There will always be information floating around that is not necessarily accurate. We are here to help you handle the misperceptions and to guide you through the wedding myths.

Wedding Myth #1 A wedding planner is an unnecessary expense.

Sure, wedding planners cost money. But keep in mind that a wedding planner can offer invaluable advice, assist in making decisions, and ultimately save you from a multitude of headaches.

Additionally, a wedding planner may actually end up saving you some money with her business connections within the industry.

Consider this scenario: You are trying to negotiate a group rate with a hotel for your out-of-town guests.

They are not budging from what you consider to be an unreasonable amount of money for your guests to spend on accommodations. You have your heart set on this particular hotel and are beginning to get frustrated. Here is an example of where your wedding planner can really shine.

You’ve been wasting valuable time on an issue that isn’t going to be resolved by you alone.

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Your wedding planner has worked with this hotel before and has brought them significant business over the years. She can use that previous business relationship with the hotel sales manager to not only settle on a more satisfactory cost, but also save you the time and effort of trying to work through an issue that wasn’t going your way. Everyone wins!

Wedding Myth #2 Only the bride should wear white.

Thanks to the high-profile wedding of Prince William and Catherine Middleton, the tradition of white being worn only by the bride is no longer a steadfast rule. After all, if the Duchess of Cambridge doesn’t mind her maid of honor wearing a white dress, why should you give it a second thought when your cousin shows up in white? Ideally, close family members should check with the bride before selecting a white dress for the occasion.

When it comes to your wedding party, thankfully there is a wide selection of colors, fabrics, and styles available to choose from.

It is entirely up to you whether your bridesmaids are decked out in different shades of green, blue, or ivory. You can even mix and match similar styles and hues, as long as the end result is tasteful and coordinated. Regarding shades of white or ivory – as long as you are comfortable sharing your color, everyone else should be as well!

Wedding Myth #3 A DIY wedding will save you money.

If the truth be told, handmade details can be time-consuming and expensive. You may end up learning the hard way after you and your five bridesmaids have logged over a hundred hours creating absolutely stunning handcrafted invitations.

Once you have accomplished the invitation project, you realize you also planned on crafting the reception decorations, designing and assembling your own floral arrangements, as well as creating your own wedding favors for a guest list of 200.

Your head is spinning! But that’s okay because you are saving a bunch of money, right? Well as it turns out, you realize your beautiful invitations ended up costing you about $7 per invitation, when factoring in manpower and materials. Suddenly, a DIY wedding doesn’t sound so wonderful after all.

Cheer up! Handcrafted details do not have to overwhelm you as long as your plans are realistic and achievable. Also, keep in mind that there are hundreds of fantastic wedding vendors waiting to do the job for you. Their sole purpose is to help ease your burden and give you what you desire for your special day.

Unlike many DIY projects which you may be trying for the first time and praying it works, these vendors have years of experience to draw upon in creating a perfect product for your wedding day. Trying to take on everything yourself is just begging for a stress level that will be off the charts. Pick a few neweddingday.com | 155

|receptions| handcrafted details that truly speak to you, and then decide if those projects are something you can tackle or whether executing those details would be better left to the professionals.

Wedding Myth #4 Seating char ts are a waste of time.

While it’s true that seating charts are not the etiquette requirement they once were, there is still a huge benefit to taking the time to put one together. Keep in mind that if you hire a wedding planner, she can do a lot of this tedious work for you.

Consider how using assigned table seating shows your guests that you put great consideration into caring about their comfort and ease at the reception. You will certainly breathe a sigh of relief knowing your Uncle Eddie won’t be getting flirty with your friend Alyssa when they accidentally end up at the same table.

Remember there are many fun options with seating charts and cards these days! If you are having an outdoor reception, consider something more creative. Utilize the awesome skills of an artsy friend, a little chalkboard paint, and some colorful twine. You can hang the place cards off the backs of the chairs rather than cluttering the tabletop. If it is an elegant indoor reception, have some classy table numbers and place cards printed. This is an easy handcrafted project to accomplish with some nice cardstock and a good quality printer.

Just remember to be considerate of your guests. It is wise to have your parents and others close to the family review the chart to make certain you have not overlooked a feud or uncomfortable relationship and placed those parties at the same table.

Wedding Myth #5 Buffets are cheaper than plated dinners.

In the past, it has been assumed that buffets are a moneysaving option for dinner receptions. While this has generally been the case, it is not always true. While buffets can be fantastic for offering your guests a variety of choices, some food options can still be rather costly, especially when choosing to include one or more carving stations. While a self-service buffet minimizes necessary waitstaff, it does not allow for portion control. If not properly managed, a self-service buffet can leave the last guests in line with food that is past its prime or even without food at all. One option to control portions in a buffet line is to have your caterer provide waitstaff to “serve” portions from one side of the buffet to the guest as they move through the line on the other side of the buffet. This not only provides some portion control, but it also allows waitstaff to more closely monitor when food is running low.

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There’s nothing quite like being served a delicious meal to make a guest feel pampered and satisfied. Be certain to include the entrée choices on your response card and track the selections for your caterer.

Wedding Myth #6 A big second wedding is inappropriate.

Just because you had a big wedding before, doesn’t mean you can’t do it again. Don’t let anyone guilt you into toning down your wedding simply because things didn’t work out with your previous marriage. You do not have to be relegated to a city hall ceremony for your second wedding. Your vows are just as important for your second wedding as they were the first time around, so why shouldn’t you be able to celebrate your love in a big way? Every bride deserves her day. If you and your groom can afford it, plan a wedding that truly celebrates your union.

Just remember, it really does not matter what others think. Your wedding day is about celebrating the love you and your fiancé share for one another. If you want to share your joy by throwing a big party for your guests, it doesn’t matter who might object.

Wedding Myth #7 It is bad luck for the groom to see you before you walk down the aisle.

It is definitely not bad luck for the wedding couple to see one another before the bride walks down the aisle. Honoring this age-old tradition is a matter of choice for the bride and groom.

Since great wedding photos are a top priority for brides, it is much more convenient, and just as romantic, to photograph a “first look” before you walk down the aisle.

Plus, think of all the benefits that come from taking photographs early. Your guests will not be waiting for two hours before the wedding party arrives at the reception. Also, you and your groom will be able to spend much more of the day together enjoying each other. It even affords you the time to sneak off and take some wedding couple photos in a unique location, capturing precious memories from your big day.

If you want to follow tradition and wait for your man to see you walk down the aisle, there’s nothing wrong with that either.

The moment will be special either way. Just decide what is comfortable for you and not what you think you “should” do.

Keep in mind there are no longer steadfast rules when it comes to proper decorum for today’s weddings. The best advice is to always be tasteful in your choices and considerate of your wedding party, family, and guests. Make your decisions based upon how best you can celebrate your love on this very special day with people that truly care about you. |NWD| neweddingday.com | 157

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Mix & Mingle A guide to your personalized pre-reception party FAR TOO OFTEN, THE COCKTAIL HOUR IS an afterthought in wedding planning. But, it is important to remember that you have sixty minutes to set the tone for your reception and kick off the party. Why not do it with style! Think about it this way – the cocktail hour is an invitation for your guests to seamlessly transition from the ceremony to the reception, rather than letting them flounder about trying to kill time.

The cocktail hour should be a relaxing atmosphere where the guests can mix and mingle, sip and sample, while the wedding party makes its way to the reception. Keep in mind that this is a little sneak peek for your guests as the evening begins to unfold. The cocktail hour can be styled in many different ways. Nebraska WeddingDay has compiled a few pointers to help transform your cocktail hour into an unforgettable experience, as well as setting the stage for your reception.

THE SETTING Take a moment to reflect on how you want your guests to feel as they move from the ceremony to the reception. View the space as a whole and consider the atmosphere you hope to create.

For example, you may choose to have your guests led on a stroll through the “countryside,” encountering a local farmer’s market serving artisan cheeses with grapes, baguettes, and complementary wines. Setting up the cocktail hour with satellite drink bars and food stations will create a casual feel, whereas serving drinks and appetizers via butlers or waitstaff is a more formal approach.

As you plan, consider the following: • The space should be open and free-flowing, so guests find it easy to mingle.

• Music can influence mood, so don’t forget to include appropriate background music.

• Select vintage pieces to rent (chairs, settees, love seats, and benches), which are situated to create an open seating plan.

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• Incorporate yard games, if your space allows.

• Food and drink should be easily accessible.

• Keep the area well lit to encourage guests to mix and mingle.

occasion to maximize your individuality. Your guests will be smiling and talking about it all night long!

THE TIMETABLE THE MENU You have finalized the menu for your reception, so now you need to zero in on details of the cocktail service. You may want to develop a signature drink (both an alcoholic and nonalcoholic version) to coordinate with your hors d’oeuvres menu. Don’t forget to think in terms of food and drink pairings.

Some of our favorite pairings include wine and cheese, beer and burger sliders, or margaritas and mini-tacos.

The cocktail hour is the perfect time for you to show off your personal style with a “his” picks and “her” picks menu. Infuse the cocktail hour with your favorite foods, as well as local flavor.

Think of this as your opportunity to include some personal favorites that may not be included at your reception. Don’t hesitate to be creative and present your pairings with a little style. This little bit of personalization will create an unforgettable experience for your guests.

If you are working with a caterer, you may want to ask about specialty drinks as an addition to the regular offerings. Some couples are opting for an array of micro-brewed beers, signature drinks, mojitos, or martini bars. If you’re looking for a festive beverage, champagne is always a special option. Additionally, it coordinates well with most celebrations and is a tradition in toasting. Plus, champagne cocktails pair nicely with hors d’oeuvres, as well as wedding cakes.

Consider going for a jazzy presentation and serve the drinks in specialty glasses with customized stir sticks.

Be sure to keep your cocktail hour to sixty minutes. It is called a cocktail “hour” for a reason. Sixty minutes is the perfect timeframe for your guests to relax and mingle while the bride and groom regroup and the wedding party prepares for the reception. Etiquette dictates that keeping your guests waiting any longer than sixty minutes is discourteous.

THE TRANSITIONS The planned transition from the ceremony to the cocktail hour and then to the reception can be conveyed to guests in several different manners. We recommend including information about the cocktail hour on the wedding program. Verbiage on the program might read something like, “Following the ceremony, the happy couple invites you to a Mix & Mingle Cocktail Party preceding dinner at 6:00 p.m.” When it comes time to announce the wedding party, instruct the Master of Ceremonies (MC) or your deejay to invite guests to grab a drink, take a seat, and welcome the bride and groom as the wedding party makes their entrance. The MC or deejay, a parent, a special friend, or a spiritual leader should make a dinner announcement after the wedding party has arrived at the reception. |NWD|

As you are working through your options, be certain to consider the weather. Guests often prefer a lighter drink, such as wine or champagne, in warmer weather and a richer drink option, such as cranberry cocktails or mint mojitos in cold weather. You could even consider warm-drink options in cooler weather such as hot apple cider spiked with apple brandy or butterscotch schnapps. We recommend that you provide a variety of seasonally-appropriate beverage choices during cocktail hour and don’t forget to include a few nonalcoholic options. We are always charmed by the nostalgia of root beer floats and old-fashioned soda pop stations.

THE ACTIVITIES & ENTERTAINMENT Keep your guests entertained while they pass the time waiting for your wedding party to arrive. For example, hire a string quartet to enhance the mood of your cocktail hour. If a string quartet isn’t quite your style, ask a friend to play guitar as your guests mix and mingle. Yard games, dancers, silhouette artists, and photo booths are other fun options to entertain your guests during the cocktail hour. Remember to think a little outside the box. Consider bringing in an unexpected element to the neweddingday.com | 159

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Savor The Moment Options abound for kicking off the wedding weekend AFTER ALL THE DECISIONS HAVE BEEN made, dĂŠcor selected, and arrangements set in stone, the rehearsal dinner is a wonderful opportunity to savor your wedding weekend with family and close friends. Depending upon the guest list, budget, and wishes of the hosts, the rehearsal dinner can be anything from a formal sit-down affair to a casual outdoor barbeque.

WHO SHOULD HOST Traditionally, the groom’s parents are the hosts of the rehearsal dinner. However, given that many couples are paying for their own weddings, the dinner can be hosted by both sets of parents, grandparents, or close friends and family. It is recommended that the host of this event confer with the wedding couple regarding the theme, menu, decorations and location. This assures that the event does not conflict with any of the wedding plans. The cost of a rehearsal dinner can vary widely as there are several factors to consider. Some factors include the size of the wedding party, the size of the families, the venue for the dinner, as well as the menu chosen for the event.

WHEN TO SCHEDULE Rehearsal dinners often follow the ceremony rehearsal the evening before the wedding.

However, the rehearsal event can be a brunch or lunch and is most often found to be a casual and informal event. If it is a dinner event, it is recommended that the festivities conclude relatively early in the evening to allow the bride and groom, wedding party, and family members an opportunity to relax and unwind for the wedding day.

WHOM TO INVITE Depending upon the budget and capacity of the venue, the hosts of the rehearsal dinner decide on the number of guests. The bride and groom, wedding party, parents of the couple, officiant and spouse, readers, and their guests must be invited to the dinner. However, you may also wish to 160 | nebraska weddingday

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|planning| include out-of-town guests and close friends to make the event more of a welcoming party for them. Written invitations are not required; however, it is a good idea to send invitations when the guest list includes more than family. Unless all wedding guests are invited to the rehearsal dinner, no information regarding the rehearsal event should be placed on your wedding website.

park, it is a welcome change of pace to hire a food truck to arrive after the rehearsal. Prepackaged dinners are a fun way to treat guests and this option is perfect for a rehearsal dinner that includes the wedding party only. Bring some refreshments and picnic blankets for guests to relax on the lawn and enjoy their dinner picnic style.

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Rehearsal dinners can be a terrific way to give guests a warm and welcoming experience for the weekend festivities. The event should always be more casual than the actual wedding, but it can be a plated gourmet dinner, a tasty backyard barbeque, or anything in between. It is often a great time for outof-town guests to visit with family and spend time with the bride and groom before the big day. Stumped on what type of dinner to host? Here are some of our favorite ideas.

For small rehearsal dinners, hosting the meal at a restaurant is ideal for the parents of the couple. This option minimizes any stress or mess the evening prior to the wedding. Either allow guests to select their meals off a limited selection menu or ask them to RSVP with their favorite option. It is always recommended to include a note on the dinner invitation addressing dress code.

RECEPTION VENUE

BACKYARD BARBEQUE Hosted at a family member’s home or acreage, this option is relaxed, cost efficient and perfect for couples with large families and small children. To make things easy and enjoyable, consider including yard games, setting up a self-serve beverage stand, and hosting a bonfire for roasting marshmallows.

Many reception venues offer a discounted rate when you host your rehearsal dinner at their facility. Some locations have both large and small areas to accommodate any size guest list. This option is truly ideal if you are both getting married and hosting your reception at one venue site. Consider an “appetizer only” menu as an alternative to a full meal to slim down your rehearsal dinner costs while still providing a fun and relaxed evening for guests.

FOOD TRUCK If your ceremony is at an outdoor location such as a public

PROPER PROTOCOL Toasts are often a large part of the evening and often are found to be spontaneous. In this casual setting, guests often feel more comfortable sharing memories, stories, and well wishes for the couple. If the groom’s parents are hosting, the groom’s father will often greet guests and offer a toast to the bride and groom.

The father of the bride can toast next, followed by any of the attendants or guests who wish to speak. The bride and groom also have the opportunity to greet guests, to say a few words of thanks, and to present any gifts to the members of the wedding party in thanks for their support.

POTENTIAL SCHEDULE 5:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. – Rehearsal 6:00 p.m. to 6:30 p.m. – Travel to Venue 6:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. – Cocktail Hour 7:45 p.m. – Toasts and Dinner The best advice is to always focus on your guests’ comfort and experience while showing appreciation for their time commitment. Your wedding day is about your vows and celebrating with friends and family, but your rehearsal dinner should honor the loved ones present who may have made a long drive or difficult flight to celebrate and support your nuptials. Treat your guests to an evening of fun entertainment, tasty food, and refreshing beverages to kick off a weekend that they will never forget. |NWD| 162 | nebraska weddingday

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Welcome Basket Treat overnight guests with a basket of fresh-baked bread, homemade cinnamon butter, coffee beans and an assortment of toiletries.

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A WARM WELCOME Guests will be thankful for fresh-baked breakfast bread, cinnamon butter and coffee beans in the morning.

Tuck in a handwritten note for an extra thoughtful touch.

SMALL FAVORS Several small toiletries tucked inside a muslin bag will be appreciated by your visiting guests. Mints, pain reliever, lip balm, an antacid and mouthwash are common favorites.

SWEET DREAMS Ask your hotel staff to hang a “sweet dreams” door hanger on guests’ rooms before they return for the evening. A small gesture at the end of the day will be forever remembered by your overnight guests.

TO CREATE Print your desired message on cardstock.

Punch two holes at the top and string twine or ribbon through. Tie knots at the ends to secure.

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It’s A Wrap Tying up loose ends after the big day THERE ARE STILL A FEW TASKS LEFT TO check off on your list after the bouquet has been tossed, the champagne has been toasted, and you hang up your wedding gown.

Following a few simple “to dos” in the days following your wedding will have you wrapping up the details stress free.

RENTAL RETURNS Unless arranged prior to your wedding day, you may find you have a few rentals, such as linens and cake stands, to return to your rental company. If this is the case, designate a family member or friend to gather the rentals as directed and return them the first business day following your wedding.

If rented, your groom’s tux will also need to be returned. Often policies require all rentals to be returned the next day as most formal attire shops are open on the weekends. Make certain to check any pockets for keys, money, heirloom handkerchiefs, or other items. Ask your father or father-in-law to return your groom’s tux along with his. If you plan to open gifts with family over brunch the day after your wedding, this is a perfect opportunity for the men to hand off their rentals to the designated person for one simple return.

CLEAN UP Items like picture frames, guest cards, table numbers, and other décor will be left at your reception venue. Many venues allow you to store these leftover items with them until the following day, allowing your wedding night to be stress free.

Remember to ask a family member or friend to pick up these items and/or discard them following your wedding day. Make a list of things you would like to keep or items that should be wrapped or packaged in a specific way.

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MARRIAGE LICENSE You will need a certified marriage license with the official seal and your new last name on it to change your name. You should receive this document after filing for a marriage license, but if you did not, call the county clerk’s office to follow up.

SOCIAL SECURITY CARD Fill out the social security application for a new social security card. Your number will remain the same, but your new name will appear. You can visit the office or mail in your application. This process takes about ten days. Visit online at socialsecurity.gov/ssnumber/ss5.htm for more information.

DRIVER’S LICENSE Visit your local Department of Motor Vehicles to get a driver’s license with your new last name. You should bring your old driver’s license and official marriage certificate with you.

BANK ACCOUNT The most efficient method of changing bank account

information is to visit a local branch of your bank. Bring your new driver’s license and official marriage certificate with you.

You will need to arrange for new checks, new debit cards, and new credit cards.

INSURANCE After changing your last name, you will want to get your insurance needs squared away as soon as possible. Meet with your local insurance agent to combine any of your current insurance plans or to set up new coverage. You should also consider discussing life insurance policies and change current beneficiaries. You may not feel the need to cover this information so early in your marriage, but it is the best time to think about and plan for your future together as husband and wife.

FINANCIAL PLANNING If you and your husband have recently combined bank accounts, it may be a great opportunity to discuss any financial goals as well. Chances are you just returned from a honeymoon and now may wish to begin saving some money for a large purchase or new home. The key to any successful marriage is clear and open communication. Discussing your finances is important and crucial for a successful marriage.

PRESERVATION You spent a significant amount of time and often a great deal of money selecting and purchasing your wedding gown. Before hanging it up in a closet and forgetting about it, consider taking your bridal gown to a professional cleaner who specializes in stain removal and preservation. They will thoroughly clean your gown, treat it for any possible stains, and preserve it – allowing you to enjoy it well beyond your special day.

Your floral bouquet can also be transformed into a precious keepsake with floral preservation techniques. Have your bouquet treated and preserved in a shadow box, along with any jewelry or wedding day mementos. This is perfect for preserving a special heirloom to cherish for years to come.

THANK-YOU NOTES The general rule for preparing thank-you notes after the wedding is to handwrite and mail them no later than eight weeks following the wedding. If you received any gifts prior to your wedding day, you should immediately send a thank-you note acknowledging the gift’s arrival. Avoid writing generic thank-you notes. Your guests have taken time to select a special gift for you, so mention the gift and also how you plan to use it.

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Your Ultimate Countdown FIRST AND FOREMOST– CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!

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Before publicly announcing your engagement, inform your families. Traditionally, the bride’s parents are told first, followed by the groom’s parents. If your families have not yet met, it is customary for a get-together to be arranged by the groom’s family.

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If you are having an engagement party, set a date, choose a location, create a guest list, and mail invitations.

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Start a small gift registry immediately if you are having an engagement party. This will allow guests to select an engagement gift from your registry if they wish. You can add selections to it as you continue planning your wedding.

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Shop for engagement and wedding rings. If you desire custom-made rings, factor this into your schedule early.

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Start your wedding workout routine now. Eat well, exercise regularly, and get plenty of sleep.

Consider joining a gym or hiring a personal trainer to provide motivation. Taking good care of yourself will help minimize stress levels.

NINE TO TWELVE MONTHS PRIOR

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Establish your budget with maximum amounts for each event or activity. Within each event or activity, break out amounts for the larger elements of your budget, such as venue rental, food and beverages, flowers, and entertainment.

Nebraska WeddingDay has a sample budget planner available online to make the task easier.

Just check us out at neweddingday.com.

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Determine expense responsibilities for each event, such as the bride’s family, the groom’s family, and the couple’s expense.

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Decide on the style, formality, and size of your wedding.

If you are choosing to plan a destination wedding, research legalities and marriage license requirements.

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Set a timetable for your wedding date. Narrow down possible dates to a few tentative weekends.

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Choose your wedding planner early in the process as this person can assist with decisions.

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Prepare your tentative guest list.

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Set rehearsal dates and times with your officiant and ceremony location.

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Begin planning the particulars of your ceremony and determine any pre-marital requirements, such as marriage classes or religious counseling sessions.

Search for a ceremony musician and/or vocalist.

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Choose a color scheme.

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Choose and reserve the reception location.

Select the style and coordinating colors for your ceremony and wedding attire.

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Make final selection of bridesmaids and flower girl dresses.

Schedule fittings and delivery dates. Notify your attendants.

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Discuss rehearsal dinner plans with your groom’s parents. Verify who will host. Create a guest list for the rehearsal dinner.

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Choose and reserve the location for your rehearsal dinner.

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Consult a travel agent or visit websites for honeymoon plans.

Book your honeymoon.

Begin shopping for your bridal gown and headpiece.

Select your bridal gown. Schedule your gown fittings, alterations, and delivery date.

Begin shopping for your bridesmaids and flower girl dresses and accessories. Consider various hues and styles for different body types.

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Research caterers, if not determined by your reception site.

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Begin the selection process for your florist and/or ice sculptor.

Decide your preference in entertainment and research appropriate vendors.

Consider your mode of transportation, such as limousine, classic car, or trolley.

Determine any party rental needs and review appropriate vendors.

Review options for invitations, thank-you notes, and other paper goods, such as wedding programs.

Ceremony/Reception Rentals Photographer Videographer Caterer Florist Cake Artist Ceremony Musician and Vocalist Reception Entertainment Stationer Transportation Others

SIX TO NINE MONTHS PRIOR

Select an event designer to help create the atmosphere of your wedding.

Choose your wedding party attendants, such as maid or matron of honor, best man, bridesmaids, groomsmen, ring bearer, flower girl, and ushers. Invite them to take on these roles.

Finalize your wedding vendor choices and secure each with a deposit. (Secure early, as some are booked up to a year in advance.)

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Select your ceremony location. Consult with the officiant who will perform the ceremony and reserve a wedding date.

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Choose your gift registry store(s) and begin recording your selections. If you started a gift registry for your engagement party, check with the registry and add selections to your list, if necessary.

Submit your engagement announcement to your local newspaper.

Choose groom’s attire. Schedule fittings and delivery options.

Select and order the groomsmen’s attire. Schedule fittings and delivery options. Notify your attendants.

Finalize your wedding guest list.

Send Save The Date announcements. Include your wedding website as well as hotel information for out-of-town guests.

FOUR TO SIX MONTHS PRIOR

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Research vendors for bridal hair and makeup. Schedule a consultation for each.

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Begin and maintain your beauty regimen including drinking plenty of water, exercising regularly, deep conditioning your hair weekly, cleansing, toning, and moisturizing your skin twice daily, visiting your dentist for a healthy and beautiful smile.

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Meet with your florist to complete your selections for bouquets, boutonnieres, table arrangements, and other floral decor. Confirm delivery times for each venue.

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Purchase wedding accessories, including ring pillow, flower girl accessories, toasting goblets, cake knife, guestbook with several nice pens, and other desired accessories.

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Choose and reserve accommodations for all out-of-town guests.

Compile a list of local activities for them to consider during their stay in Nebraska. Add accommodation and travel information to your wedding website so guests know what to expect.

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Reserve your accommodations for your wedding night.

Finalize your invitation selection and order invitations and other paper goods.

Finalize honeymoon and travel plans.

Confirm bridesmaids and flower girl dress order delivery date.

FOUR TO SIX WEEKS PRIOR

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Organize and maintain a record of all gifts received. Begin sending thank-you notes.

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Confirm with florist the number of bouquets, boutonnieres, centerpieces, and other floral needs.

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Purchase your bridal accessories, including shoes, undergarments, jewelry, and purse.

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Design your ceremony programs and print them. Create reception table menu cards, if needed.

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Choose bridesmaids’ accessories such as shoes and jewelry.

Purchase or pass along purchasing information to your bridesmaids.

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Write your vows, if you wish to personalize them. Inform your officiant of your special vows.

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Finalize ceremony music selections and inform musicians and vocalists of your choices.

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Prepare list of “must play” music for band or deejay. Be certain to include choices for first dance, cake cutting, father/daughter dance, anniversary dance, and last dance. Do not forget to include “do not play” songs, if any. Send list to band or deejay.

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Finalize any special preferences such as readings and ceremony details with your officiant.

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Develop a wedding day schedule and send it to your attendants and vendors.

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Remind your wedding party of the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner plans.

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Make pre-wedding beauty appointments for you and your attendants for manicures, massages, facials, etc.

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Reserve wedding day appointments with your hair stylist for you and your attendants.

Confirm makeup artist appointment for wedding day.

Design and create or order guest favors.

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Compile RSVP guest list.

Purchase wedding bands if they have not been previously purchased.

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Make a list of who should speak at each event and contact each person to request their participation. After confirming all participants, outline the order of speakers for each event.

Create your seating chart and make place cards. Give chart to catering manager, reception venue manager, and wedding planner.

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Finalize all attire fittings.

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Help your parents and your groom’s parents select and coordinate formal attire.

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Research all legal requirements, such as blood tests and marriage license.

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Check on the status of your bridal registry. If items on your list have been discontinued or if remaining selections are limited by gift purchases, make additional selections to update your registry.

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Discuss and confirm plans for the bachelor and bachelorette party, as well as wedding showers.

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Provide appropriate guest lists for showers, the bachelor and the bachelorette party.

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Contact a calligrapher to address your invitations, if desired.

Arrange timetable for invitations to be completed.

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Select a makeup artist for your wedding day and your bridal portrait session.

Finalize the menu and service details with your caterer.

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Get bridal portrait taken and framed for reception.

Confirm plans for the attendants’ party.

Address and mail all local wedding invitations, including maps to all event sites.

Call guests who have not responded for the wedding or rehearsal dinner for a final head count.

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Pick up wedding rings.

Select and purchase attendants’ gifts, parents’ gifts, and a wedding gift for your spouse.

Obtain your marriage license.

Finalize all moving details, if you are moving.

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Attend the bachelor/bachelorette party.

Share gifts with wedding party, family, and fiancé.

Attend the rehearsal dinner.

Pick up gown and confirm no additional alterations are needed.

THE DAY BEFORE If you are having a reception line, determine the order.

Determine all wedding day assignments for the wedding party and inform them.

Prepare your toasts and thanks to friends and family members.

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Finish packing for the wedding night and honeymoon.

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Assure that the “getaway” car will be at reception site – packed and ready to go.

Gather all wedding day items. Entrust payment envelopes to the best man for the wedding day.

ONE TO TWO WEEKS PRIOR

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YOUR WEDDING DAY (FINALLY!)

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Meet with hairdresser and makeup artist early in the day.

Confirm head count, delivery location and time with your cake artist.

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Relax ... if you followed your countdown, the rest of the day will be a breeze!

Finalize all seating arrangements.

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ENJOY EVERY MINUTE!

Confirm all ceremony and rehearsal details.

Confirm all guest counts with food and beverage caterers.

Transfer engagement ring to the right hand.

Be dressed and ready two hours before the ceremony for photographs.

Finalize all rehearsal dinner details.

AFTER THE WEDDING Finalize all entertainment details.

Finalize photographer and videographer details.

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Arrange for your gown and veil to be cleaned and preserved.

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Complete all name and address changes for your bank, driver’s license, social security, and voting.

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Finalize arrangements for all transportation needs.

Confirm guest accommodations.

Plan honeymoon wardrobes and luggage needs.

Obtain all travel tickets and confirm reservations.

Arrange for cake preservation.

Compile wedding day emergency kit including hair spray, makeup, safety pins, pain reliever, breath mints, lotion, and Band-Aids.

THE LAST WEEK

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Arrange for pickup of bridal ensemble.

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Write a special note to your fiancé for delivery on your wedding day.

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Assign post-wedding tasks to wedding party, such as picking up gifts and other items from the reception site, returning tuxedos, returning rented equipment, and returning borrowed items or accessories.

Write and mail thank-you notes. Traditional etiquette provides an eight-week grace period.

Arrange for your bridal bouquet to be preserved.

Exchange duplicate or damaged wedding gifts. Use cash gifts to purchase desired items that you did not receive, such as completing stemware, china, and linen sets, or other registry items.

Notify best man to confirm the final fittings for the groom, groomsmen, and ushers. Remind him to return the groom’s tuxedo and any rental equipment the day after the wedding.

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BRIDAL GUIDE a guide to the details of your wedding day

6:00 PM (First Hour): Cocktail hour 7:00 PM: Introduce the wedding party, bride and groom 7:15 PM: Dinner 8:30 PM: Toasts by maid of honor, best man 8:45 PM: Cutting of the cake 9:00 PM: First dances 9:30 PM: Bouquet / Garter toss 10:00 PM: Open dancing 11:00 PM: Bride and groom sendoff

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July Average Temperature: 90 (high) / 66 (low) Average Precipitation: 3.5 inches Hot & Humid Chance of thunderstorms Breezy

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Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.

- Emily Bronte

The greatest achievement in my life thus far has been to love you and be loved by you.

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To love someone deeply gives you strength.

Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.

- Lao Tzu

Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.

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Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.

They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.

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Index of Wedding Professionals Beauty Raymond L. Grove, Jr. DDS................................................................................21

Hair Salon Deja Vu..........................................................................................................19 T’eez - A Thomas Sena Salon ...........................................................................20 Urbane Salon & Day Spa ....................................................................................21

Preservation Memories Bi-Design .............................................................................................52 Omaha Lace Cleaners .........................................................................................67 Williams Cleaners...................................................................................................74

Rentals

Norfolk’s Bridal & Prom Extravaganza............................................................96 Omaha Bridal Showcase ....................................................................................95

AAA Rents & Event Services..............................................................................37 Chair Cover Elegance ..........................................................................................45 Country Elegance..................................................................................................40 Crete True Value.....................................................................................................47 Elite Events Rental.................................................................................................46 Honeyman Rent-All................................................................................................41 Memrical......................................................................................................................9 Nostalgia Rentals ...................................................................................................61 Platinum Event and Wedding Rentals............................................................60 TMS - The Lighting Specialists...................................................................42-43 United Rent-All ........................................................................................................51 Weddings Across America .................................................................................49

Décor

Fashion

Cakes

Alterations & Cleaners

Alotta Brownies Bakery ........................................................................................41 Bliss Old Market Bakery......................................................................................30 Butterfly Bakery ......................................................................................................31 Le Cupcake .............................................................................................................32 Pettit’s Pastry...........................................................................................................34 Russ’s Market ........................................................................................................48 Sweet Art Wedding Cakes .................................................................................33 Sweet Cakes & Roses, Inc. ..............................................................................143

Omaha Lace Cleaners .........................................................................................67 Perfect Dress (The) ...............................................................................................67 Williams Cleaners...................................................................................................74

MakeUp GretchElizArtistry....................................................................................................19 Lashes & Love ........................................................................................................20 One Makeup Artistry.............................................................................................21 Spa De Da ................................................................................................................21

Bridal Shows

Event Design Fade Up Design Group........................................................................................61 Grand Illusions .......................................................................................................51 TMS - The Lighting Specialists...................................................................42-43

Favors Cordial Cherry (The) .............................................................................................46

Floral

Bridal Fashion Azurite Bridal ...........................................................................................................75 Blush Bridal Boutique ..........................................................................................68 Bridal Traditions .....................................................................................................78 Elegant Occasions Gowns .................................................................................78 Ellynne Bridal....................................................................................................64-65 My Blue Whimsy...........................................................................Seasonal Section Pattino Shoes ..........................................................................................................74 Ready or Knot {Wedding Chic} ...............................................Seasonal Section

Jewelry Borsheims.................................................................................................................16 Elisa Ilana........................................................................................Seasonal Section Sartor Hamann Jewelers .....................................................................................71

Blooms and Bouquets ...................................................................................26-27 Burton Tyrrell’s Flowers .......................................................................................36 Field’s Flower Shop ..............................................................................................40 Floral Expressions .................................................................................................30 Florals Etcetera.......................................................................................................32 Hy-Vee ......................................................................................................................35 I Bloom ......................................................................................................................34 Mulhall’s Floral........................................................................................................48 Petal Creations .......................................................................................................29 Petals to Platinum ..................................................................................................58 Something New Floral Design ..........................................................................60 Sweet Cakes & Roses, Inc. ..............................................................................143

Men’s Formalwear

Invitations

Jeff Munns Agency, Inc.......................................................................................85

A to Z Paperie .........................................................................................................58 Ally B Designs.........................................................................................................57 Cornhusker Beverage & Bridal..........................................................................57 Porridge Papers...............................................................................................54-55

Registry

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Gentleman’s Choice .............................................................................................72 Savvi Formalwear...................................................................................................72 Suit Up! Tuxedos, Florals & More.....................................................................75 Tip Top Tux......................................................................................................80, BC

Guest Accommodations Chase Suite Hotel ...............................................................................................166

Home Insurance

Borsheims.................................................................................................................16 Dinner 4 Two by Royal Prestige........................................................................81 Shopping Tripps.....................................................................................................85

Honeymoon Cornerstone Travel Group ..................................................................................92 Custom Cruises & Travel .....................................................................................91

Photography Allure Photographic Studio ..............................................................................100 Andrea Bibeault: A Wedding Photojournalist ...............................................97 Andrew Joseph Johnston – Johnston Studio ...........................................137 Attanasio Photography .......................................................................................33 Bellus Photo + Film...............................................................................................69 Brighten Photography ..........................................................................................63 Christine McGuigan Photography ...................................................................36 Christopher Tierney Photography ..................................................................124 Colleen Dustin Photography ..............................................................................62 Corey Rourke Photography .............................................................................104 Daniel Dunlap Wedding Photographer........................................................130 Douglas Gunder, Photographer........................................................................59 Dwyer Photography ...........................................................................................102 Elwood Photography ............................................................................................73 Foto Eleven ..............................................................................................................99 Geoff Johnson, Photographer .....................................................................12-13 Gleason Photography ........................................................................................165 Jessica Blex Photography ................................................................................167 MaKenzi’s Photography and Gifts .................................................................105 Megan Pomeroy Photography .................................................Seasonal Section Moment It Clicks (The).........................................................................................77 Nikki Moore Photography ...................................................................................93 Paula Moser Photography ..................................................................................31 Sarah Elizabeth Photography ..........................................................................153 Shane and Sunny Photography........................................................................39 T. Free Photography ........................................................................................10-11 T. Sterba Photography .......................................................................................101 Tammy Muecke Photography .........................................................................103

Receptions Catering Catering Creations...............................................................................................117 Patricia Catering ...................................................................................................118

Art & Dance Simply Ballroom ...................................................................................................151

Entertainment A Sound Impression ...........................................................................................161 Complete | Lincoln-Norfolk ............................................................................124 Harris Academy of the Arts..............................................................................128

Reception Halls Anthony’s Steakhouse .......................................................................................144 Apothecary Lofts (The) ....................................................................................136 Arbor Hall ...............................................................................................................143 Bella Terre Reception Hall & Vineyard..........................................................147 Bluestem Vineyard ..............................................................................................152 Brix at Midtown Crossing ..........................................................Seasonal Section Brix at Village Pointe ...................................................................Seasonal Section Chez Hay................................................................................................................120 Club at Indian Creek (The)...............................................................................129 Creighton University - Skutt and Harper Centers .....................................143

Divots Conference Center ................................................................................144 DoubleTree by Hilton Omaha Downtown ....................................................119 Durham Museum (The) .....................................................................................139 Embassy Suites - LaVista...................................................................................IFC Embassy Suites - Lincoln ..................................................................................IFC Embassy Suites - Omaha ..................................................................................IFC Fountains Ballroom and Vineyard (The) ...........................................................9 Fountains Ballroom West (The) ...........................................................................9 Full Circle Venue..................................................................................................130 Grand Manse Events and Lodging ...............................................................127 Havelock Social Hall...........................................................................................145 Hidden Valley Golf Club....................................................................................136 Hillcrest Country Club........................................................................................151 Hilton Omaha ........................................................................................................IBC HiMark Banquet Facility ...................................................................................134 Holiday Inn Downtown Lincoln .......................................................................125 Holiday Inn Downtown Omaha .......................................................................131 Holiday Inn Lincoln Southwest .......................................................................131 Hotel Deco XV ......................................................................................................140 Lauritzen Gardens...............................................................................................144 Lied Lodge & Conference Center at Arbor Day Farm.............................151 Lincoln Firefighter’s Reception Hall...............................................................147 Living Room (The) .......................................................................Seasonal Section Magnolia Hotel......................................................................................................121 Millard Plaza Ballroom .......................................................................................157 Nebraska Champions Club .............................................................................145 Nebraska Club (The) ..........................................................................................140 Omaha Marriott Hotel.........................................................................................155 Players Club (The)...............................................................................................133 Ramada Plaza Omaha Hotel & Convention Center ......................................3 Regency Lodge Hotel ........................................................................................123 Ridnour Room (The)...........................................................................................136 Sandhills Convention Center ...........................................................................141 Scott Conference Center ..................................................................................148 Sheraton Omaha Hotel......................................................................................152 Simply Ballroom ...................................................................................................151 Thompson Center (The)....................................................................................135 Tiburon Golf Club.....................................................................................................1 Tower Hall Banquet Facility ..............................................................................141 VFW Post 2503....................................................................................................156 Wick Alumni Center............................................................................................145 Wilderness Ridge ................................................................................................156 Yankee Hill Country Club .................................................................................134 Younes Conference Center ..................................................................................5

Rehearsal Dinner Brix at Midtown Crossing ..........................................................Seasonal Section Brix at Village Pointe ...................................................................Seasonal Section

Transportation Extreme Limousine .............................................................................................159 Millard Plaza Party Bus......................................................................................157

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Celebrating 10 Years We have seen countless couples tie the knot, handcrafted projects perfected by area brides, and endless inspiration. We have also been blessed to work with the most talented wedding vendors, who grace the pages of this magazine. As we raise our glass to celebrate ten wonderful years of wedded bliss, we want to thank you -- the brides, the mothers, the friends, and the wedding vendors who have made this magazine what it is today.

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