August 2013

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Head lice?

What you need to know {page 44}

LATCH KEY KIDS

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Considering the pros and cons {page 38}

Postpartum

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Bountiful breakfast {page 14}

savo r wani tHe sUMM ng out & er! abou t {Page 26}

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ConTEnTS Departments 6 editor’s note

14 in tHe KitcHen Recipes and more

Beloved characters

By Kathleen Stoehr 8 cHatter A bit of news and info for your quiet time reading

By Kathleen Stoehr

12 asK tHe pediatrician Answering your questions about health

10 BaBY on Board Postpartum style

By Dr. Peter Dehnel

By Shannon Keough

16 tween scene Accentuate the positive

By Joy Riggs

20 grows on trees It starts at home

By Kara McGuire

18 Hot stUFF Back to school

By Emily Mongan

24 relationsHips Sleep. The final frontier

By Sean Toren 22 BooK sHelF It’s elementary

By Emily Mongan

Calendar 26 aUgUst at a glance 28 parent picKs 28 oUt & aBoUt

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50 real liFe Real parent Jim Henry

By Kathleen Stoehr

Minnesota Parent August 2013

Features

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40 Head lice how-to

Unsupervised Is your child ready for latchkey?

The first step?

Don’t freak out

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By Julie Kendrick

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GYMNASTICS TUMBLING TRAMPOLINE

From the editor

Beloved characters

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n March 1967, You’re a Good Man, Charlie Brown, a musical, premiered off-Broadway in New York’s East Village and lasted almost 1,600 performances, closing five years later. Within the year, it opened again, this time on Broadway; then had a revival in the late ’90s, and has been performed all over the world since.

Middle schools and high schools across the nation have made it a staple of their stages, due to its simple sets and small cast. But that’s not the only reason.

This play is 46 years old now, and it’s still as vital and telling about the dynamics and learning environments of middle school as it was back then. The character monologues are so revealing and universal.

Charlie talks about lunchtime in the cafeteria and how it is the worst time of day for him because he always sits alone, and he is lonely. He yearns to sit next to and speak to the little red-headed girl, but instead puts his lunch bag over his head, so she won’t see him.

His sister, Sally, rails against the establishment for the ‘C’ grade she received on her coat hanger sculpture—because truly—how does one assess art? She also espouses, “If I was judged on my effort, then I was judged unfairly, for I tried as hard as I could!

Was I judged on what I had learned about this project? If so, then were not you, my teacher, also being judged on your ability to transmit your knowledge to me?”

And Peppermint Patty expresses her confusion about the intersection of how looks affect love when she says, “Chuck, what do you mean, ‘if you happen to see a cute little girl walk by?’ Why does she have to be cute? Can’t someone fall in love with a girl who isn’t cute, and has freckles and a big nose? Explain that, Chuck.”

All of these beloved characters exist in the hearts and minds of your child’s classmates.

We see our children after they have returned home from school, but their thoughts, the way they interact at school—for many of us is just a guess. Are they happy? Do they have friends? Are they being bullied? Are they able to cope with not being chosen? Or are they like Lucy, pointing out character flaws and expecting the world to fall into their laps?

These formative years are tough going, not just for children, but for you as well. I wish you luck, and I wish you happiness as you help your children navigate the road to adulthood.

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In brief A bra boutique dedicated to teens and early 20-somethings is slated to open this month at 50th and France in Edina.

Braboleta (inspired by the word Borboleta, which means butterfly in Portuguese) is an offshoot of the La Bratique shop on the same block.

Owner Tracy Anderson said she’s opening the new store because she wants teens to “love what they have.” She said plenty of stores cater to teens, but their bras often don’t fit correctly. Sizes at Braboleta range from 30A to 40HH. “We are all pretty self-conscious at that age,” she said. “I want to give them the tools to feel comfortable with what they have.”

A high-end Italian children’s clothing store has sold around the world since 1973, and it’s now open at Calhoun Square, 3001 Hennepin Ave. The clothes at iDO Bambini Creattivi are designed and made in Italy using all-natural fabrics. Manager Katalin Nagy says the company takes a strong stance against child labor and supports

environmentally-friendly production and materials.

“You pay more, but the value is tremendous,” she says. “[The clothes] have been put through numerous tests so they wash well, wear well, and last a long time. I’m talking 10 years.”

Buttons are triple-stitched, and the designers think about the details—baby jackets have an extra layer of fabric at the neck, for example, so the zipper doesn’t irritate the skin.

Kids receive fruit snacks and can play in a corner of the store filled with coloring books and toys.

“Once in a while, we get a child that doesn’t want to leave,” Nagy says.

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Chic nursing attire We love Bon Appetee’s range of innovative styles for nursing mothers who want to eliminate the restrictions of normal clothing, while also being comfortable and (especially great!) fashionable. This Australian product (available online at bonappetee.com and also on Facebook) offers feminine style with invisible front zips for discreet access, as well as a double faced front for extra support to the chest and midsection. No need to stretch a top out of shape when pulling it down to feed, just unzip. Available in sizes small to extra voluptuous, the colors are bright and after breastfeeding is through, you still have an adorable garment for years to come. bonappetee.com; about $80 and up

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Bellies to Babies, a “gently used”

maternity clothing shop, has opened a second location in St. Paul on West 7th Street. The shop also includes nursing and baby to 2T clothing. Visit belliestobabies.net for more information. The belliestobabiesstp.com site was under construction as this issue went to press.

The nonprofit Minnesota Optometric Association is launching a Pre-K Eye Exam Day, August 1, offering a onetime, no-cost eye exam for children entering kindergarten. This statewide campaign underlies the importance of good sight for learning. Vision screenings are not a substitute for eye exams, but screenings do identify a number of eye disorders that affect eye health. A list of participating offices is available at minnesota.aoa.org.

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Shannon

Keough

Postpartum style

“I

walked around the house wearing the comforter off our bed—as a clothing item—more often than I would like to admit.”

“My son is eight months old. It took me until last month to finally find time to get a haircut!”

“Most of the time I was sitting at home in my underwear and a tank top.”

This is some of the feedback I received from Facebook friends when I posed a question about their experiences with postpartum style.

Writing about style in the postpartum period initially struck me as a bit frivolous. After all, new mothers have more important priorities, right? Like learning to care for a newborn, making sure that nursing is off to a good start, and dealing with sleep deprivation. Talking about personal style seems a little silly in the face of these huge life changes.

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However, I know from my own experience that matters of style were important to me in the postpartum period. I encountered a variety of challenges that many mothers are familiar with—a difficult C-section recovery, breastfeeding challenges, a colicky baby—things that I kept telling myself were “more important” than the problem of what I was wearing.

But what I was wearing—or no longer able to wear—weighed heavily on my mind. I felt selfish for secretly caring about my (bedraggled) appearance: “Taking care of Lydia is more important than trying to look presentable!” I would admonish myself as I pulled on my maternity jeans and frumpy black nursing tank for the fifth time that week.

“This period of life does not have to be spent in sweats, nor does it have to be spent with a muffin top and a bad sense of self,” writes Alison Gary on her style website,

Wardrobe Oxygen (wardrobeoxygen.com).

“Clothing shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself, clothing shouldn’t stress you out. Clothing should be the armor to get yourself through this period.”

So put down the comforter, pick up a properly fitting pair of jeans, and read on for more style tips from a variety of mothers who’ve been there.

Plan for nursing Sure that turtleneck sweater dress is cute, but what if you need to pump or breastfeed? This is the challenge that keeps many new moms lounging around in tank tops and yoga pants during their maternity leaves.

It can pay to think ahead when preparing for the postpartum period. If you’re planning to breastfeed, go through your wardrobe and set aside all the nursingfriendly items—wrap dresses, deep v-neck shirts and sweaters, drape-y cardigans and stretchy tanks, for example. One experienced mom highly recommends a circle scarf, which she uses as a stylish nursing cover. Hers is from American Apparel, but they’re available from a variety of other brands, too. Also, take a look at the Chatter section on page 8 of this issue for parenttested nursing apparel from Bon Appetee—the zip bodice feature is terrific.

You will probably also want to purchase a couple of good nursing bras. You might want to wait until after you deliver your baby, since you won’t know what size works for you until your milk comes in. Many mothers complain about the lack of support that most nursing bras provide, so do your research and ask your friends for recommendations. I’ve heard good things about Anita brand nursing bras, available on Amazon and at Nordstrom.

Seek support After you have a baby, your body just isn’t the same. That’s not to say that you’ll never fit into your pre-pregnancy jeans

I encountered a variety of challenges that many mothers are familiar with—a difficult C-section recovery, breastfeeding challenges, a colicky baby—things that I kept telling myself were “more important” than the problem of what I was wearing. again—you just probably won’t two weeks after giving birth. Give yourself a break and don’t try to fit into the clothes you were wearing back when you did yoga fives time a week.

Meanwhile, you might want to pick up some foundational “support” items for the short-term—belly wraps or shaping camisoles, for example, can give you a feeling of extra support when your body is recovering from birth and nine months of pregnancy. One local mom highly recommends the Blanqi Body Styler, a support garment designed for pregnancy but also used by many women postpartum.

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Keep it simple Consider narrowing down your wardrobe, at least for the short term. A few pairs of jeans and leggings that fit are better than a closet full of too-small hip huggers and work pants. Long, flow-y tunics with leggings are go-to postpartum look that many mothers rely on—it’s comfortable, it’s forgiving to your midsection, and it can still look pulled together.

“Keep it simple, keep it quality, keep it comfortable, yet keep it well fitting, and having some style,” says Alison Gary.

“These pieces will be your suit of armor— your way of meeting up with old friends and not feeling like a schlep, to attend that first board meeting after maternity leave, to feel more you when leaving the house.”

Shannon Keough lives in south Minneapolis with her husband, Nick, and daughter, Lydia. She can be reached at mnga@mnpubs.com.

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number of over-the-counter oral and eye-related medications available, some of which are much less sedating than the old standby of diphenhydramine (Benadryl, others). Prescription medications are the next level of treatment that can significantly reduce the misery.

Finally, allergy shots can be a very effective treatment if nothing else seems to be working.

As always, this is just general information and does not constitute specific medical advice. Please talk to your health care clinician if you have additional questions.

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My sons, ages five and seven, are fighting a lot lately. How do I deal with sibling rivalry?

Q

My kids all have pretty bad allergies beginning in late summer.

What can I do to minimize their symptoms of sneezing, runny noses, and itching eyes?

Seasonal allergies are very common in children and teens. They can range from a mild inconvenience to a major disruption in day-to-day life. The symptoms described above are the most common indicators, but they can also include asthma, eczema (drying and redness of the skin), and even recurrent and persistent hives. The allergens most commonly associated with late summer and fall are grass-related pollens (ragweed is one of the most common offenders). Tree-related pollens, on the other hand, are usually more of a problem in spring and early summer, as trees release pollens into the air. Animal 12 August 2013

dander, mold, and dust mites are year-round causes of allergy irritants and can add to the symptoms caused by these seasonal irritants.

Allergies tend to be an inherited condition, so chances are that one or both parents are at least mildly affected as well. The good news is that there are a number of ways to safely and effectively treat the symptoms. Minimize exposure to the allergens if possible, which may include closing the windows and turning on the air conditioner, especially during dry and windy conditions. Showering before bed can work to rinse off adhering pollens. There are a

Sibling rivalry—competition between children—is very common and generally cannot be completely prevented, even under the best of circumstances. Children of the same gender and closeness in age seem to be risk factors.

While not avoidable, there are some interventions that you can use to try to manage and minimize their fighting. One big triggering factor can be trying to get the attention of parents. Ignoring the unwanted behaviors can go a long way to minimize these skirmishes. Separating the children as appropriate can be an effective intervention for some siblings.

Consistent imposing of a consequence may be needed for some situations.

Rewarding more cooperative behavior— catching them being good—can work to improve cooperation. The rule here is to try a variety of things until you find something helpful.

You will also do well to refrain from any type of comparative statements, such as “if only you were like a good reader like your brother,” or “your sister won first place in track when she was your age; I’m surprised you didn’t even place.”

Comparing “apples to apples” is generally unfair to your younger child, regardless of the behavior. In addition, children have different skills, different talents, and

different developmental timelines. A comparison of this nature usually does not help your position as a parent and only frustrates your kids.

Finally, if there is a lot of stress or disruption in your family—loss of a grandparent, loss of a job, a new move, and so on—fighting between siblings can reflect that increased stress.

I have a six-month-old who has begun teething. What do I do to take care of my baby’s teeth, and what age does he need to go to the dentist?

When teeth first come in, simply wiping them off before naps and bedtime is the best way to prevent cavities. Actual brushing of the teeth with a soft tooth brush usually begins when six to eight teeth have erupted—certainly by the time the first molars come in. Fluoride varnishing is something that may be available through your child’s health clinic and does a good job of preventing cavities.

Not having your infant or toddler go to bed with a bottle is very essential.

Finally, there are two general opinions regarding when children should first see the dentist. The traditional recommendation has been about three years of age, when the second molars are generally well established, and cooperation with the exam is more likely. More recently the recommended first visit has been changed to one year of age by some professional organizations. Please consult your child’s care professional for a recommendation on that first trip to the dentist’s chair.

This column is intended to provide general information and guidance only and not specific medical advice.

If you have specific questions about your child, please consult your health care professional. Dr. Peter Dehnel is a board certified pediatrician and medical director with Blue Cross Blue Shield of Minnesota. Have a question for Dr. Dehnel? Email mnga@mnpubs.com.

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Whole grain raisin muffins ½ cup boiling water ½ cup raisins 1 ½ cups quick-cooking oats 1 cup bran cereal ½ cup all-purpose flour ¼ cup sugar 1 ½ tsp baking soda 1 tsp ground cinnamon ½ tsp salt 1 cup low fat or fat free milk ¼ cup honey ¼ cup canola oil 1 tsp vanilla extract 1 tsp lemon juice 1 egg 1. Preheat oven to 375°F. 2. Line a standard-size muffin tin with paper liners. In a small bowl, pour boiling water over raisins and let stand for 15 minutes.

3. Mix oats, cereal, flour, sugar, baking soda, cinnamon, and salt together in a large bowl. In another bowl combine the milk, honey, oil, vanilla, lemon juice, and egg. Make a well in the center of the dry ingredients and pour the wet ingredients and raisins (along with any residual soaking water) into the well. Stir just to combine, taking care not to overmix.

4. Fill muffin tins 2/3 full and bake for 18 to 20 minutes, or until muffins spring back when touched in the center.

5. Let stand 10 minutes in the pan then transfer to a rack. Serve warm or room temperature.

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Great Grains The time between that final smack of the snooze button and loading the kids onto the bus can often be summed up in one word: chaos. Breakfast can often turn into a stressful, rushed affair or even neglected completely on busy mornings. That’s where muffins can come into play.

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time; bake up a batch or two of muffins over the weekend, wrap them tight in foil once they’re cool, and freeze them. During the week, unwrap them, pop a few into the microwave for 30 seconds when you’re ready for breakfast.

Avoid recipes that load up on sugary coatings or chocolate; instead, opt for lower-calorie recipes (such as our featured recipe for whole grain raisin muffins) and pair with fruit for a healthful start to your day.

—Emily Mongan

Minnesota Parent Tested

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Joy

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Accentuate the positive

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he transition between summer vacation and the start of the school year reminds me of New Year’s Eve. It’s an opportune time to shed unhealthy habits and initiate positive ones that will lead to a more balanced life. And like New Year’s resolutions, school year resolutions are most successful when you realize that good intentions alone don’t get you anywhere; you also need patience, persistence, and an action plan.

I’ve been giving more thought than usual to my back-to-school approach this year because this is the last fall that all three of my kids will be home; my 17-year-old daughter, Louisa, is a high school senior.

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Our remaining time together as a family of five is fleeting, and I’d like to make every minute count, while also ensuring that Louisa and her two younger brothers are developing the skills they’ll need to be responsible adults.

I found it inspiring and affirming to talk about back-to-school resolutions with certified parent coach Mary Upham, who has one daughter starting college and two tween daughters at home. Upham’s business, Positive Path Coaching, is based in Northfield, but through the wonders of technology she can meet with clients anywhere via phone, email, or Skype.

More responsibilities Upham says that the last few weeks of summer vacation are an ideal time to address family routines that are causing stress. Before imposing a new strategy, though, she recommends that parents ask tweens for their ideas. That’s what she did when her two younger daughters were having trouble getting out the door in time to catch the bus.

One daughter suggested, after some

Parents should be prepared for their tweens to go through emotional ups and downs in the first few weeks of school, especially if they’re transitioning from elementary to middle school. reflection, that they get a clock for the upstairs hallway. So Upham bought a big analog clock and set it five minutes fast. She then told the girls that she would wake them in the morning, but that they were responsible for getting themselves ready and out to the bus on time. The solution worked.

“Sometimes kids have really great ideas and knowledge about what will make it work for them, if we give them time to think about it,” she says.

Several weeks before school starts, Upham also considers whether her daughters are ready to take on new responsibilities around the house. When she assigns them a new task, she tries to be clear about her expectations and about what happens if they’re not met.

Creating a reminder list and posting it in a visible place can reinforce this.

The final step is for the parent to hand over the responsibility of the task to the child. It can be difficult for parents to fight the urge to step in and help, Upham says, but it’s necessary to make kids feel capable and valued.

More engagement The school year also is a great time to rethink the “more is better” approach to family scheduling.

Even though our society might say otherwise, Upham says it’s OK for parents to place limits on kids’ extracurricular activities. This leaves more room for unscheduled down time that tweens need to think, dream, create, and problemsolve. It also leaves more room in the day for family time, which can include regular meals together, movie nights, or activities

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that change with the seasons.

Despite the attitude they may display outwardly, tweens still crave attention and reassurance from their parents. Parents can make themselves available mentally as well as physically by taking the time to sit down, step away from their own screens, and focus on their child. Turning off the radio when you’re driving in the car together, and sharing funny or embarrassing stories about your own tween years can also invite conversation.

Upham says parents should be prepared for their tweens to go through emotional ups and downs in the first few weeks of school, especially if they’re transitioning from elementary to middle school. Discern from what they say, and from what they don’t mention, whether they just need someone to listen to their concerns, or if there’s a deeper issue that requires parent advocacy.

As the school year progresses, Upham says parents should continue to help their tweens focus on what is working well.

“If we only focus on what’s bad, hateful, or hard, that’s what we’re going to feel the most. But if we can find the positive, and help them focus on that, that’s a lifelong skill,” she says.

That sounds like a great resolution— one that’s worth keeping all year. Happy back-to-school, everyone!

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o t k c a B l o o h c S Send your child back to school in style with these handy accessories.

By Emily Mongan

reuse it It’s estimated that 20 million plastic sandwich bags go into U.S. landfills each day. Help your kids do their part to reduce that number with ReUsies reusable snack and sandwich bags made from 100% cotton. They’re lined with leak-resistant nylon, and come in adorable designs that can make them useful for holding more than just munchies.

— reusies.com; about $16 for two

Zip it

Pack it

With its googly eyes and toothy grin, the Zipit Monster Pouch is more ferocious than your run-of-the-mill pencil bag.

Made entirely of one long zipper, this pouch can gobble up stray pens, pencils, and other supplies and can be clipped into a binder for easy storage. Available in blue, pink, green, and orange.

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Give your child a backpack that’s as unique as they are. Squid Packs let your kid create their own bag and strap color combos, and choose charms and accessories to stick on the easily adjustable straps. Additional straps, bags, and charms can be purchased and swapped out to change up the look without having to buy entirely new.

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staples.com; about $6

Tote it Pack your snacks in this adorable pachyderm-shaped Trunk box. Its simple design is as functional as it is cute, with a clear top that lets you see everything inside without opening it.

The divided storage compartments work great for carrying smaller items, like arts and crafts supplies, while keeping them organized.

— creativekidstuff.com; about $17

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Cool it Gone are the days of warm lunches and ice packs that drip everywhere. Place your PackIt in the freezer until it’s time to pack for lunch, and you’re ready to go. Each bag is lined with non-toxic, eco-friendly gel that keeps food cold for up to 10 hours.

Plus the nifty designs mean that food won’t be the only thing staying cool at school.

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Sip it Keep your kids hydrated during the day with a CamelBak eddy bottle. It’s portable, BPA-free, and has a unique bite-valve straw so it won’t spill if knocked over.

Available in a variety of colors, they’ll complement your child’s personal style while keeping thirst quenched.

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Admittedly, I have a hard time myself with charitable giving, feeling overwhelmed by choosing the right charity out of millions, nagged by the organizations that never stop calling, and disconnected to the causes I do end up funding.

Determined to making giving a family affair, I asked Jenny Friedman, executive director of the Minneapolis-based nonprofit Doing Good Together, for ideas.

Doing Good Together promotes family volunteerism, “spending intentional time weaving the focus of giving back into families’ lives,” says Friedman, who also authored The Busy Family’s Guide to Volunteering. Here are some thoughts.

Kara

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How old does a child have to be to incorporate giving into family life?

It starts at home

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hen I read stories of children who start charitable foundations at age nine, or donate their birthday gifts to homeless kids, I can’t help but wonder what makes these givers so different from my seemingly selfish brood.

My kids seem to possess little interest in helping others, focused more on how to increase their collection of LEGOs and stuffed animals than aiding those in need.

I’ve tried to point out how fortunate we are and explain empathy and the importance of helping others. But it’s in-one-ear, out-the-other—kind of like when I ask them to close the screen door. We use the Spend, Save, Share concept in our house, splitting allowance into a jar for spending, saving for 20 August 2013

the long term, and sharing with others.

We’ve had some success, donating share jar money to Project Smile through school and to the animal rescue when we dropped off an abandoned baby bird. But for the most part, the money just sits there, forgotten.

it’s important to talk about how people help your family as well because we all have something to offer to others and giving should not be a one-way street, or a polarizing concept.

—Jenny Friedman

“Whatever age your children are, that’s a good age to start. The earlier you start, the more kids see it as part of what we do. Slowly they get it at a deeper and deeper level,” Friedman explains.

“Empathy develops with age but some kids develop it more quickly and easily.

With others it takes a lot of effort to think about what it might feel like to be somebody else.”

How do you start having a conversation about giving with your family?

“Have a nightly dinner table conversation.

Ask ‘Who did you help today and who helped you?’” Friedman says it’s important to talk about how people help your family as well because we all have something to offer to others and giving should not be a one-way street, or a polarizing concept.

“Don’t divide the world between givers and receivers,” Friedman says.

How can parents get kids more involved in charitable donation decisions?

It’s natural that kids won’t have their own ideas about where to donate money at first. Adults find that overwhelming too.

Have a conversation about what really matters to them. Is it animals, other kids, the environment? Once you have that conversation, “pick three organizations and explain what they do,” Friedman says. “The more hands-on and easy to understand, the better.”

She likes Heifer International because it has a catalog of animals to choose from and a book, Beatrice’s Goat, that tells the story of how one animal can change a family’s life. Kids get that.

Another way to connect kids to causes is to use their “share” money to buy supplies for hands-on projects. Buy art supplies and make cards for sick kids.

Purchase fleece to make blankets. Or use the money to buy supplies on a shelter’s wish list and bring the items to the shelter with kids in tow. The shelter might even give you a tour. Use the money “to do something hands on,” Friedman suggests. “Money can be kind of abstract.”

What are some resources for parents interested in adding volunteerism into family life?

Cheerfulgivers.org This organization gives birthday gift bags to food shelves and shelters so parents living in poverty can celebrate their child’s birth with a gift.

Family-to-family.org Connects families with families in need.

Can send monthly care packages and exchange letters with the family you are helping.

Bigheartedfamilies.org A new project from Doing Good Together, the site has “recipes” for simple charitable projects that require little preparation.

Families can complete them at home with kids of all ages.

Heifer.org Works with communities to end hunger and poverty, and care for the earth.

You can get there. We can help.

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It’s elementary These fun picks are great for fostering a love for reading in elementary school-aged children.

By Emily Mongan

The Quirks: Welcome to Normal Molly Quirk thinks she’s found the perfect place to fit in: Normal, Michigan. Full of small town charm, it seems like just the place for an ordinary new life. But her family isn’t known for being ordinary…especially with a mom who can control minds and a little brother who can turn invisible. This chapter book is filled with goofy illustrations and plenty of laughs as the Quirks adjust to their new life in Normal. Ages 8 and up

By Erin Soderberg Bloomsbury, $13.99

The Boxcar Children Beginning

Junie B.’s Essential Survival Guide to School

Life on the farm may be difficult, but the Alden family is happy. When a blizzard hits the countryside, they offer shelter to a traveling family who soon become their friends. But life doesn’t go back to normal after the blizzard, as the coming months bring events that will forever change their lives. For grades 2 to 4

In this guide, Junie B. Jones shares “a jillion helpful hints” that will help young readers survive elementary school, including tips about report cards (don’t bury them in the neighbors yard!) and the cafeteria (no hitting people on the head with lunch trays). The diary-like illustrations add to the hilarious hints that Junie B. provides. Ages 6 to 9

By Patricia MacLachlan

Random House, $12.99

By Barbara Park

Albert Whitman & Company, $16.99

The Mostly True Story of Jack Jack has been overlooked his whole life. When his parents divorce and he is sent to live with his relatives, however, things begin to change. Jack starts getting noticed and making friends, but his newfound attention also brings him enemies as mysterious things start happening. This chapter book is full of mystery, magic, and horror that will keep readers riveted until the last page. Ages 8 to 12

By Kelly Barnhill Little, Brown and Company, $16.99

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Jake’s 100th Day of School The 100th day of school is an exciting time for Mr. Thompson’s class, especially for Jake. But excitement turns to panic when he realizes he has left his project of 100 photos at home. With a little creative thinking, Jake pulls together the perfect substitute project, and a special surprise makes the day even more memorable.

Picture book

By Lester L. Laminack Peachtree, $16.95

First Grade Stinks!

Haley and Ryan have been eagerly awaiting the start of the new school year, but first grade isn’t anything like they expected. No ice cream, no sharing time, no fun classroom decorations, and worst of all, a teacher that is nothing like their beloved Ms. Lacy. But the two soon find that change can be exciting, and first grade just might not stink after all. Picture book

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the big, responsible buzzkill lying in bed next to her.

And we’re just talking about getting into bed, not actually falling asleep.

Again, I’m no sleep saint. I have a mouth guard and various pillow supports for chronic athletic injuries (A.K.A., middle age)—but then I’m ready to saw some logs. Even after I’ve taken away Edna’s headlamp, however, she often has to ‘decompress’ from her job doing psychotherapy with kids. Some of the kids’ problems are enough to keep a guy up at night. (And they do! Especially when those problems are ‘shared’ at 1:00 a.m.!)

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Sleep.

The final frontier.

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’m a rough customer for the Sandman. I’ve never slept a lot, and I’m such a light sleeper that anything can wake me: a bird welcoming the morning, the cats practicing night ops, even Edna’s quiet, dreamy mumbling. If I get six hours I’m human; seven and a half and I’m a new man.

Edna is the opposite. Eight is not enough. We’re talking 10 hours to make her happy. Nine only gets a grudging smile. But she never gets that much shut-eye during the week, and rarely reaches it on the weekends.

Part of it is how much ‘work’ she has to do to get to bed. I just brush and floss, splash my face, and call it a wash.

Edna has ablutions.

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flossing and sonic brushing and gum health gargling. To help with her chronic sinusitis battle, asthma inhalers, nasal inhalers, and allergy medications are deployed. I won’t mention the nail clipping.

Worse is the reading. Edna can shuffle past a magazine only to have her nose twitch and her bunny slippers freeze as she catches some racy “Savage Love” headline. She’ll find herself halfundressed and sitting on the edge of the bed as she finishes the article, unsure of where she is.

That’s just an appetizer for the main course: those big, break-your-toe non-fiction books. Books that pull you under their hard, seductive covers, and don’t actually end…until you get to the end. Edna would gobble down one chapter after another—if it weren’t for

We also struggle with the classic male/ female temperature problem. Edna gets into bed with her hands half-frozen and uses three blankets (and then my ribcage as a hand warmer—Yeow!), while I run hot, usually only needing a single sheet and often waking in a sweat.

This is around when my stomach begins complaining. Add Edna’s light sensitivity (even the alarm clock is too bright) to a kid who started to jump on us at 6:15 a.m. on the weekends, and it was getting pretty hard to stay in bed. Fortunately, we’ve been able to cook up a few tricks.

Sound. We now fire-up a rumbling old air filter, which happens to make the perfect white noise. In the summer, a couple of fans do the job. And I can’t even turn out the light without first stuffing in my earplugs.

Edna uses ‘eye pants’ to complete her cocoon. Turns out that a single leg of athletic pants offers a better balance of weight and ‘give’ than those fancy eye masks.

Light. Edna uses ‘eye pants’ to complete her cocoon. Turns out that a single leg of athletic pants offers a better balance of weight and ‘give’ than those fancy eye masks.

Temperature. Sisters to the ‘eye pants’ are the fleece ‘hand socks’ (who needs gloves?), which keep Edna warm and protect my ribs from shocking ‘accidental’ encounters. We’re also using an oil space heater on her side of the bed in the winter, and a second fan, blowing directly on me in the summer.

Yakity yak. We’ve instituted a ‘no talking about work’ rule—plus, to help avoid having to point out the rule, I always ask earlier in the evening about any stresses Edna might need to share.

This has worked wonders.

Hunger. For years I tried to wait out my growling gut, tossing and turning for hours until sleep pulled me under again.

But I’ve started to hack my body a little.

I now eat a lighter dinner, then take a heavy dose of protein and complex carbs right before bed (yogurt or Grape-Nuts).

After big workout days, I’ll even keep a thermos of milk next to the bed to shut my belly up.

When it all becomes too much: I now boldly go where I never went before: into my home office, which now has a day bed and an alarm clock. I’ll start out in the big bed, then move in the middle of the night if I need to. It’s brought me a lot more of those buzzy, blissful Zzzzs.

Our sleep program is a work in progress. Two frustrated pillow plumps for every sweet toss and turn. We’ve found no way to cut down on Edna’s ablutions, for example, but Saturday morning sleeping in has gotten easier now that Ed, Jr. can fly solo with Netflix at 6:00 a.m. Of course, this brings up the bad-parent problem of whether he’s getting too much screen time. But I think I’ll let that sleeping dog lie for another column.

Sean Toren loves living the full catastrophe in Minneapolis with his wife and son. He can be contacted at mnga@mnpubs.com with thoughts or suggestions.

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ongoing Uptown Art Fair ÎÎCelebrating its 50th anniversary, this three-day fine arts festival allows you to browse both professional and youth artist’s booths, watch live art and kid-friendly acts on the performance stage, enjoy activities at the family imagination station, nosh on festival food and beverages, win prizes at the Uptown booth, and more!

When: 2nd through 4th Where: Uptown Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: uptownartfair.com

Minnesota Fringe Festival ÎÎIf you thought the shows were all for adults, you’d be wrong. Over the years, the Fringe has welcomed more and more family-friendly acts. This year, the Fringe Festival is offering a whole host of shows that the whole family can enjoy together—making it a fast, easy, and affordable summer outing for families. Events include Ole Olson, Norwegian Boy Wonder; La Bella Cinderella; and Shine, among others.

When: Various times 1st to the 11th Where: See website Cost: Kids 12 and under, $5, no festival button needed. Adults need button ($4), admission is $12 per show Info: fringefestival.org

Parent pick

OZ ÎÎAudiences will encounter a curious gypsy-circus wandering a bleak and windswept landscape, sweeping along an enigmatic magician, an odious fortune teller, and an organ grinder with a mischievous monkey—but watch out for the Kansas-sized twister that will sweep you up, twist you dizzy, and hurtle you over the rainbow. Come face-to-face with acrobatic Munchkins and a glittering witch afloat in a bubble, and of course a ruminating scarecrow with no brain, a tin man with no heart, and a quaking lion with no courage.

When: 1st through the 18th Where: Circus Juventas, St. Paul Cost: $14 and up Info: circusjuventas.org or 651-699-8229

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Vintage Band Festival ÎÎA four-day celebration featuring bands from across the US and abroad.

Over 100 concerts will fill the streets of historic Northfield showcasing a variety of genres, heritage influences, and period-style performances.

When: 1st to the 4th, beginning at noon Where: Northfield area Cost: FREE Info: vintagebandfestival.org

Irish Fair ÎÎThe nation’s largest free celebration of Irish culture is on Harriet Island.

Performance and social dance, plenty of bands, sports, and cultural and music tents.

When: 9th to 11th Where: Harriet Island, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: irishfair.com

Open Eye Driveway Tour ÎÎAll summer long, Open Eye Theatre performs puppet shows in backyards, front yards, parks, and driveways— bringing communities together with original family-friendly theater. Four shows this summer, in rotation.

When: Various dates in August Where: Across the Twin Cities Cost: FREE Info: openeyetheatre.org/tour

renaissance Festival Î King Henry and his court invite one and all to his 16th century European village featuring 12 stages of musicians, magicians, jugglers, and mimes. when: 17th to Sept. 29, 9:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m. where: Intersection of Hwys 169 and 41, Shakopee cost: Adults $22; children $13 at gate info: renaissancefest.com or 952-445-7361

Minnesota State Fair Î The Minnesota State Fair is one of the largest and best-attended expositions in the world, attracting nearly 1.8 million visitors annually. See Hanson (26th & 27th); Okee Dokee Brothers (24th & 25th); Sean Emery (each day); The Choo Choo Bob Show (30th & 31st); more! when: 22nd to Sept. 2 where: State Fairgrounds, St. Paul cost: Adults $12; children and seniors $10 at gate info: mnstatefair.org

Walker on the Green Î Artist-designed mini golf, two eight hole courses in the Minneapolis Sculpture

Garden with garden gnomes, a scale model of a French chateau, gopher holes, and contours mapped from the course at the legendary Augusta National Golf Club. when: Open every day, though hours vary where: Minneapolis Sculpture Garden cost: $9 and up, includes gallery admission to the Walker Art Center info: tinyurl.com/o85j6ke or 612-375-7600

Art In nature Geocache Î Explore Saint Paul’s regional parks through geocaching! Geocaching is an outdoor treasure hunting game using GPS-enabled devices like smartphones, tablet computers, or receiver units. Natural Resources staff hides caches monthly from May through October with activities designed to encourage learning and exploration of regional parks. Participants who successfully navigate to the provided GPS coordinates, find the cache, and complete the activity described inside are entered in a monthly prize drawing. when: Through October 31 where: Saint Paul’s Regional Parks cost: FREE info: tinyurl.com/43ava97 or 651-632-2455

Amma Parenting Center is the top resource for new and expecting parents. Childbirth classes, breastfeeding help, new parent classes, and the best baby boutique in town! Trusted by hospitals and families since 2009.

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Î Designed primarily for children, visitors of all ages will enjoy exploring Minnesota’s distinctive places from the prairies and forests to the cities, along the way they’ll meet the people who have made their homes here. when: Ongoing where: Minnesota History Center cost: $6–$11; FREE ages five and under info: mnhs.org or 651-259-3000

Minnesota & the Civil War Î The Civil War holds a pivotal place in the history of the United States. Citizens of the new state of Minnesota were a major part of the national story, from being the first state to offer troops through their dramatic role at Gettysburg to Appomattox and beyond. when: Through Sept. 8; closed Mondays except for holidays

Helping Clothe the Twin Cities’ Newborns in Need Collects new and gently used baby clothes for distribution to disadvantaged infants and new moms.

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Out About Where: Minnesota History Center Cost: $5 and under FREE; 6 to 17, $6; seniors and college students, $9; adults, $11 Info: minnesotahistorycenter.org or 651-259-3000

Disney’s Aladdin Jr. ÎÎTake a magical carpet ride this summer when Princess Jasmine, Genie, and Aladdin embark on an adventure filled with magic and mayhem.

When: Through August 4 Where: Stages Theatre Company, Hopkins Cost: Admission fee Info: stagestheatre.org or 952-979-1111

1 Thursday Wendy’s Wiggle, Jiggle and Jam ÎÎFree music and dance in the park.

When: 11:00 a.m.

Where: Town Green, 7991 Main. St. N., Maple Grove Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/ly78zkl or 763-494-6500

Moonlight Movie: The Avengers

2 Friday Movie by Moonlight: Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory ÎÎFree PG movie in the park.

When: Sunset Where: Town Green, 7991 Main. St. N., Maple Grove Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/ly78zkl or 763-494-6500

Moonlight Movie: The Avengers ÎÎSee this PG-13 action movie outdoors on a 30-foot screen.

When: 8:30 p.m.

Where: Normandale Lake Bandshell, 84th and Chalet Road, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/mmv9y47

3 Saturday Free First Saturday: Grassroots

ÎÎThis daylong extravaganza features dance performances and collaborative crafting—including a giant crocheted rug— as part of locally grown talent.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (family activities until 3:00) Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

Red House Barnfest ÎÎA full day of folk, bluegrass, Americana, and blues music plus expanded Kidfest with children’s activities and even more music at the family stage! A fun event in a beautiful farm setting; food available too.

When: 1:00 to 7:30 p.m.

Where: Hobgoblin Music Barn & Outdoor Amphitheater, Red Wing Cost: $25 in advance; 12 and under FREE Info: redhouserecords.com/barnfest.html

Saturday Live!

Coyote Stories ÎÎNimisee the clown will tell some favorite trickster tales of that lovable scamp, Coyote.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

Free Family Flicks: Disney Nature Chimpanzee ÎÎEnjoy a free movie. First-come, first-served to theater capacity.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: theatresmoa.com

5 Monday Mike Monson ÎÎMike will demonstrate games, juggling and perform tricks for the entertainment of children.

When: 10:30 a.m.

Where: Moir Park, Bloomington

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6 Tuesday Clicks, Claps, Clunks! ÎÎFamily Fun Series: Minnesota Percussion Trio will use simple or found instruments to unlock musical possibilities.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park, Eagan Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/7aflfz8 or 651-454-9412

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7 Wednesday Mary Hall Show for Pipsqueeks ÎÎEnjoy a lunch time concert.

When: 11:00 a.m. to noon Where: The Shops at West End Arcade area, St. Louis Park Cost: FREE Info: theshopsatwestend.com

8 Thursday Paul Spring ÎÎFree danceable upbeat folk and fun in the park.

When: 11:00 a.m.

Where: Town Green, 7991 Main. St. N., Maple Grove Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/ly78zkl or 763-494-6500

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ArtStart’s Scrapmobile ÎÎCreate wearable, recyclable art!

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

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rockin’ the Bakken Î Fabulous science-related programming and plenty of fun for no charge every second Saturday of the month. when: 11:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. where: The Bakken Museum, Mpls cost: FREE info: thebakken.org/Saturday or 612-926-3878

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Free Family Flicks: Disney nature African Cats Î Enjoy a free movie. First-come, first-served to theater capacity. when: 10:00 a.m. where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington cost: FREE info: theatresmoa.com

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Peace Games Î Participants learn about Minneapolis’ diverse cultures through dance, art, music, sports, and snacks. This program is a partnership with MPRB’s Youthline program, the Minneapolis Institute of Arts, and many neighborhood organizations.

Activities include India Henna painting, Chinese Calligraphy, soccer, Thai dancing, rugby, and Kufi hat making. when: 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. where: Washburn Fair Oaks Park, Minneapolis cost: FREE info: tinyurl.com/bo35m59 or 612-330-6474

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Î Celebrate the great outdoors at Family Day and Peace Games. Collaborate on a work of art inspired by bees.

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Out About The Adventures of Don Quixote

Movie by Moonlight: Ghostbusters

ÎÎFamily Fun Series: An interactive, bilingual, and entertaining show about the adventures of the famous character from the novel by Cervantes.

ÎÎFree PG movie in the park.

14 Wednesday Bob and the Beachcombers ÎÎEnjoy a lunch time concert.

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Moonlight Movie: Iron Giant ÎÎSee this PG adventure movie outdoors on a 30 foot screen.

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When: 8:30 p.m.

Where: Normandale Lake Bandshell, 84th and Chalet Road, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/mmv9y47

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ÎÎWhile the grownups get their groove on with some of the Twin Cities best bands, the kids will be entertained by a climbing wall, bouncy house, and lawn games. This week: Steve Sullivan & The Factory

ÎÎSee Civil War re-enactors, military drills, and weapons displays. Learn about the fort and slavery, the U.S.Dakota War of 1862 and Civil War events of 1863.

Okee Dokee Brothers ÎÎFree interactive bluegrass in the park from these Grammy Award winners.

When: 11:00 a.m.

Where: Town Green, 7991 Main. St. N., Maple Grove Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/ly78zkl or 763-494-6500

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When: 6:00 to 8:00 p.m.

Where: Visitor Center lawn, Como Park Zoo Cost: FREE Info: comozooconservatory.org or 651-487-8200

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When: 11:00 a.m. to noon Where: The Shops at West End Arcade area, St. Louis Park Cost: FREE Info: theshopsatwestend.com

Montessori

When: Sunset Where: Town Green, 7991 Main. St. N., Maple Grove Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/ly78zkl or 763-494-6500

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Where: Caponi Art Park, Eagan Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/7aflfz8 or 651-454-9412

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Minnesota Parent’s Education Fair features a variety of schools:

1225 Estabrook Drive Saint Paul, MN 55103

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Historic Fort Snelling Cost: $11 adults, $9 seniors & college students; $6 kids 6–17; Kids 5 and under and MHS members FREE Info: historicfortsnelling.org or 612-726-1171

Saturday Live! The Mystery of Chemistry ÎÎJoin a science educator from Mad Science of Minnesota and learn about chemistry in this exciting science demonstration program.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

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Out About Frogtown Fall Festival ÎÎFun for all ages, including youth football scrimmages, community resources, K9 unit, fire and police vehicles, jump castle, climbing wall, senior bingo, basketball tournament, entertainment, concessions.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: 685 W. Minnehaha Ave. Park and Rec Center Cost: FREE Info: frogtownconnections.com or 612-462-1720

Dakota Day ÎÎA celebration of the Dakota people.

Visit our Dakota village with summer lodge and seasonal tipi. Join us for the unveiling of an authentic Dakota hide tipi modeled after those used in the early 1800s.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.

Where: Gibbs Museum of Pioneer & Dakota Life, Falcon Heights Cost: $8 Adults, $7 Seniors (65+), $5 Children ages 3 to 16; FREE for RCHS members Info: rchs.com or 651-646-8629

Free Family Flicks: Disney Nature Oceans ÎÎEnjoy a free movie. First-come, first-served to theater capacity.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: theatresmoa.com

20 Tuesday Roe Family Singers ÎÎFamily Fun Series: Old time sound with rock and roll passion.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park, Eagan Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/7aflfz8 or 651-454-9412

21 Wednesday Kid Power with Rachel ÎÎLive animals!

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Assessing readiness Kristin and Bill Nielsen of Maplewood experienced a situation similar to the Monroes. When their kids were about seven and 11, their involvement in evening activities increased. “We could tell they were struggling to go from afterschool care to evening activities without any down time at home in between,” says Kristin.

“For a couple of years we were able to negotiate some flexibility with our bosses to limit the amount of time the children had to spend in afterschool care,” adds Bill, but he noted that as the kids got older, he and his wife realized that they were becoming quite independent. “We both started to think they were probably ready to take on the responsibility of coming home on their own,” says Bill.

“It’s extremely important for parents to understand and respect their children’s strengths and limitations to be able to assess accurately if they’re ready to stay home alone,” says pediatrician Kristin Davis of Allina Medical Clinics.

“There are many children that are within the age guidelines that aren’t ready to be home alone due to impulsivity, mental health issues, behavioral issues, lack of focus, or simply lack of desire to be home alone. Parents are key players in making a safe assessment.”

Davis doesn’t usually get too many questions related to supervision of children. However, she has begun to share the MN State Guidelines with parents and talk with them about signs of readiness. “I’m very honest with parents if I feel a child isn’t ready to be home alone based on what they’ve shared with me during an appointment.”

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Tips for parents Leaving a child to get to school on his or her own or to come home to an empty house is a bigger responsibility than just leaving your child while you run a few errands. There are more variables involved when your child is leaving or entering the house alone. If your child is given this responsibility, it’s important that he has a strong awareness of his surroundings. Think about when your child gets off the bus, for example.

Would he notice if there was an unfa-

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How about if there is a car continuing to drive by or circle around while he waited at the bus stop? If your child lacks an awareness of his surroundings, he isn’t ready to be home alone either.

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They also alerted a couple of trusted neighbors, which provided a level of comfort for the family.

When children are ready to be home alone, parents often see their child grow in confidence from the added responsibility. “We really noticed that both kids started to show even more responsibility once we gave them the opportunity to be home alone,” says Bill Nielsen, noting that, “they actually started taking on more household jobs without being asked and needed fewer reminders to get their homework done.”

The two families continue to revisit and discuss how to handle situations that might arise when their children are home alone. They have set rules and guidelines about acceptable home alone activities and what things are not allowed. “We’ve had very few problems,” says Jeff Monroe. “I think taking the time to talk about it and gradually build up to it really helped. Our kids take it seriously and we’re grateful for that.” •

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Head lice ( J U ST I n C A S E ) Step one, don’t freak out

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are as many different types of parenting styles as there are parents, but there is one way in which we’re all pretty much the same: the minute we find out that our child has head lice, we Freak Out, big time. The questions, the stress, and the shame can seem monumental: How did this happen? How did I not notice this earlier? Does this mean our house is infested, too? How will I ever tell the other parents in the carpool?

These days, though, freaked-out parents don’t have to deal with head lice alone.

There are local services to help you calm down and get your kid lice-free, and they offer everything from in-salon treatment, to house calls, to herbal “lice repellent” potions to make sure this never, ever happens again.

“The first thing I do when we see a family is get everyone ‘off the ledge’ of feeling like they’re in crisis,” says Gonne Asser, whose Minnesota Lice Lady salon is in the Sunnyside neighborhood of Edina.

“I try to take the stress down and sympathize with the parent, who is feeling very overwhelmed,” she adds. Asser, the mother of three children, did research during her kids’ lice outbreaks, and found that she was eventually giving advice to friends when their kids were infested. “I have a background in human services, and I used to work with homeless youth, so I’m 44 August 2013

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kind of a crisis personality,” she jokes.

The business development story is pretty much the same for Simply Nitty, an in-home lice removal business that covers the metro area. By the time her “lice magnet” daughter had suffered through a fifth outbreak, and she’d had two infestations herself, Dana Mead-Chapman began to feel like something of an expert on the creepy crawlers. That personal experience was the impetus behind the business that she founded 18 months ago with Krista Morley. “Both of us had backgrounds in the medical industry, and we threw ourselves into research on lice treatments, products, and removal methods,” says Mead-Chapman.

Beware of resistant strains The field of pediculosis (the official name for an infestation of head lice) is changing rapidly, and the Internet contains a great deal of outdated or misleading information, but there do seem to be some key facts that experts agree upon. One of the scariest prospects has to do with resistant strains. Asser says, “Lice are evolving faster than correct information is being circulated, and many over-the-counter products are no longer effective.” Mead-Chapman agrees, noting, “If you try an over-thecounter treatment and still see live lice after 20 minutes, it might mean that the treatment won’t be effective because your child is infested with a resistant strain.

Most of our clients have already tried and failed with at-home treatments before, which is why they call us.”

Have you started scratching your head yet? Here’s another grim thought—even if your kid isn’t scratching, that doesn’t mean lice aren’t around. Some children can be “asymptomatic,” which means that they can carry lice on their head for weeks— even months—before anyone notices.

1,000 lice: one mom’s story One such Twin Cities parent, who wishes to remain anonymous, recounted the story of her daughter, whose long, dark hair fell just about two inches above her elbows. “The infestation happened when she was in fourth grade. I had seen white flakes on her scalp, but I thought it was dandruff, especially since she never 46 August 2013

scratched her head or complained,” the mom recalls. “Then she told me one day that she had found a bug on her pillow in the morning, and, that afternoon, when we were driving together in the car, she took off her headband and said, “There are bugs on this.” I was sitting at a stoplight, using my phone to Google what head lice look like, because I suddenly realized that’s what was happening.” The mom, who took the child first to a pediatrician and then to Minnesota Lice Lady, says that the staff there worked for over three hours to remove more than 1,000 lice from her daughter’s head. The mom herself and the girl’s two siblings turned out to be infested, as well. “They told me she had probably been had head lice for months, and just wasn’t a kid who felt itchy.”

Schools, lice, and public policy While most schools used to operate under a “no nit” policy, which mandated that children remain out of school until all nits were removed, that is no longer the case in many. Multiple districts made a shift after 2002 revisions to policies from American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)

and the National Association of School Nurses (NASN). Along with a recommendation to strongly discourage “no nit” policies, the groups offered the opinion that classroom-wide or school-wide screening is not merited.

The elimination of “no nit” policies was, strangely enough, strengthened by the No Child Left Behind Act, which tied school funding to absenteeism and 95 percent attendance records for standardized tests.

Schools had more reason than ever to encourage every child to be in class, every day, so “no nit” policies were often struck down.

While schools and classrooms are still free to conduct head checks, and while many local businesses offer the service at no charge to schools, this has become a problem that increasingly calls for parental, rather than school, detection and intervention. Indeed, the AAP noted, well over a decade ago, “Parents should be encouraged to check their children’s heads for lice if the child is symptomatic; school screenings do not take the place of these more careful checks.”

Also, “It may be helpful for the school nurse or other trained persons to check a

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student’s head if he or she is demonstrating symptoms.” But, “because of the lack of evidence of efficacy, classroom or school-wide screening should be strongly discouraged.”

Additionally, in 2011 the NASN stated, “Children found with live head lice should remain in class, but be discouraged from close direct head contact with others. The school nurse should contact the parents to discuss treating the child at the conclusion of the school day. Students with nits only should not be excluded from school.”

How to check Okay, now are you scratching? If you want to round up the kids and do an immediate scalp check, you’re actually on the right track. Experts say that you should conduct routine checks with a professional-grade lice comb on everyone in the family.

Mead-Chapman says, “LiceMeister and Terminator are two good brands with lifetime guarantees. When you conduct the check, look for evidence of live lice or white-ish nits, which are the eggs, and which are about one-quarter-inch up the hair shaft. If it feels like a grain of sand and it’s hard to remove, it’s probably a lice nit.”

Prevention Most lice are spread through direct head-to-head contact. Think of how your kids snuggle up with friends on the couch to watch a movie on TV, and you’ll get the picture. One prevention method that most experts recommend is to reduce that contact whenever possible, and to keep long hair pulled back in braids, ponytails, or buns. And while many lice repellents haven’t yet been subjected to clinical trials, lice are smell-driven and might be put off by a head that smells more like an herb garden than a kid, so they might be worth a try. •

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