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Departments 6 Editor’s Note Birds, bees, bed

By Kathleen Stoehr 8 BaBy on board Working parents/successful childcare

By Shannon Keough 10 Ask the pediatrician

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it down. We’re going to have a little talk. Being we are finally in the season of birds and bees, I don’t think there’s a better time than now. To begin, if there is one thing I hope you take away from our little chat today, it’s that our own standards related to sexuality and intimate expression should not change once we have children. You should absolutely not modify who you are because you have kids. Leave the nipple ring in, wear pajamas only if you have always done so, and for the love of pete, get a lock for your bedroom door.

But here’s something I’d like to address that a lot of women seem to struggle with. There is a time, after a long day of mothering, or working and then mothering, or working, mothering, cooking, nursing—whatever the case may be, that a woman reaches a point of saturation where she just needs her body for herself…just for a minute. But unfortunately, those “me times” are fleeting. So you go from this to that to the other thing…and then it’s time for bed and it almost seems like one more task to fulfill…to have sex, too.

I will allow that kind of thinking now and again. It’s legitimate to feel that way. I hereby validate your need for alone time and wide berth in the “no touch” zone.

Unfortunately, the one with the lower sex drive often controls sexy time, while also expecting monogamy and acceptance of these terms. Often, this becomes a deal breaker.

What to do? First, teach your children a little self-reliance once they get to the stage that they can be self-reliant. You do not need to hover, fetch, watch Yo Gabba Gabba, or entertain every moment. You do not have to sit and read the same book over and over to little Goliath until your entire evening has devolved in a haze of Goodnight Moon. Let the little one make up his own words after the second read, go pour yourself a half glass of wine (not too much, or drowsiness will overcome), and take a breath.

Understand this, too: as much as time to calm your brain and body is important, there is nothing more powerful than touch.

Treasure the person you have chosen to spend your life with and respect them for the remarkable person they are. You could have chosen anyone, but here you are. Because once the nest is empty, your significant other will still be by your side—at least, as long as you both have kept that nest well feathered.

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hen my daughter was born, I was ambivalent about returning to work.

I’d spent three years as a writer for a big corporation and while I enjoyed my job, I wasn’t so sure about going back. My manager, who I loved, had exited the company shortly before I left on maternity leave, and my future at work seemed dicey. Who would be my new boss? Would he or she “get” the whole parenting thing?

How would I manage a stressful job when I was chronically exhausted?

“I think most women are ambivalent about returning to work,” says Marisa Thalberg, founder of Executive Moms, an organization that offers support and networking opportunities for working mothers. “While they may look forward to the validation that their careers provide and may enjoy a break from changing diapers, they are often distressed about leaving their babies for

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extended periods of time and worry about what life back in the office will bring.”

Changing gears In my case, I ultimately decided to resign from my position so I could attempt to make a living as a freelance writer. The work was a little slow to come at first, but soon enough I was juggling several projects while simultaneously caring for a baby who was about five months old. I was happy to get the work and excited about completing it from home on my own schedule.

But I quickly discovered that the “flexibility” I’d been idealizing was significantly less often than what I’d expected, primarily because I didn’t initially see the need for childcare. “I’ll just work when she sleeps!” I told myself.

Inevitably, I’d accept a rush job assignment on a day when my daughter decided naps were unnecessary, and I’d end up cranking out the work late at night when she was finally asleep.

Other parents have faced similar challenges. “Once I brought my son to work when he was sick because another employee offered to watch him while I saw clients,” says Jenny, a therapist in Minneapolis. “Apparently, that was a novice mistake, and I was scolded by my otherwise extremely supportive—and a mom herself—boss. I feel like what people say is true—that in cases like this you’re doing everything halfway instead of one thing well.”

Tips for working parents Eventually it became clear to me that while I might be saving money on childcare, I was making myself exhausted and potentially shortchanging my clients by doing my work in fits and starts throughout the day. I started hiring a babysitter for a few hours several times a week and worked like crazy at a local coffee shop. I was amazed to discover how much more productive I could be when I had some uninterrupted time to work, instead of the pockets of quiet time doled out by my unpredictable infant.

“Finding—and keeping—good childcare is one of the hardest, most critical, least understood components to working parenthood. You simply cannot go to work, or do a good job once you’re there— without it,” says Leslie Morgan Steiner, a work-life columnist for the Washington Post.

But how do you find

this elusive good childcare? And what can parents do to make the transition back to work easier?

“Start looking for childcare early— ideally, right after you find out you’re pregnant,” says Sarah, a project manager from St. Paul. “I didn’t start looking until after my first child was born, and I was scrambling to find care when it was time to go back to work.”

Many parents I spoke with repeated this advice—start the childcare search early, and check out many options. Consider all the possibilities, like in-home childcare, a daycare center, or a nanny or nanny-share arrangement. And if you settle on an arrangement early on, be sure to revisit that choice later in the pregnancy and after your baby is born.

“I was so proud of myself for reserving our place in daycare during my second trimester,” says Emily, a graphic designer from Minneapolis. “I didn’t go back for another visit until after our daughter was born…then I realized I had misgivings about the place. I couldn’t leave her there!

We had to find a nanny at the last minute.”

Once you’ve settled on a childcare provider and it’s time to make the transition back to work, many parents suggest building some flexibility into a schedule the first few weeks. If possible, ease your child into the new arrangement with shorter days at the beginning. Make sure your employer understands the situation and that you might need leave work early occasionally to pick up your child.

One of the most common themes that came up in my conversations, however, was the importance of letting go of any guilt you might have about using childcare. “Studies show that quality care helps children bond with other caring adults and children in productive, healthy ways that strengthen a child’s self-esteem and self-reliance. Teaching your child to trust others—and himself—is part of good parenting,” says Steiner.

Shannon Keough lives in south Minneapolis with her husband, Nick, and daughter, Lydia. She can be reached at mnga@‌mnpubs.com.

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Should I apply SPF lotion to my baby and if so, what number should I apply?

Protecting all children and teens from excessive sun exposure and the damaging effects of ultraviolet light is an important effort to make as a parent. Starting early in life and continuing throughout childhood and adolescent years will go a long way to help reduce the rising rates of a number of preventable skin cancers, including the most aggressive cancer— malignant melanoma.

For infants, it is generally recommended to wait until six months of age before applying much sunscreen/SPF lotion. This is because infants under six months have more “permeable” skin than older infants and children, allowing for more of the chemical from the lotion to be absorbed through their skin. There are products designed for older infants and

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lake or outdoor pool begins to increase as the final snow banks are melting away.

Swim lessons can start at an early age, but it is important to consider what you hope the lessons will do for your child.

Parent-infant and parent-toddler classes typically can start at six to nine months.

Getting comfortable with being in the water and learning basic swimming strokes can start as early as three years of age. Classes are available through a variety of community groups and are also available through private organizations and fitness clubs.

However, parents should remember this important “heads up” if they choose to put their children in swimming lessons at an early age: this does not replace the basic safety measures you should take with children being around the water. Parents or caregivers should closely supervise children when near water, even if a young child can jump from the side of a pool into the “deep end” or off of a diving board. Also, lake swimming is a different experience from pool swimming and care needs to be exercised with this change. A gradual sloping pool bottom with clear water has few surprises, whereas lakes have cloudier water and frequently have sudden drop offs.

toddlers who have more sensitive skin.

Generally, a SPF level of 30 or higher is recommended if they are going to have a lot of direct sun exposure. However, it is important for parents to note that keeping children out of direct exposure is always a good idea, even if they have SPF lotion applied.

How early can I begin swim lessons for my child?

Swimming is a great recreational activity.

It is one that you can involve your children in at a very young age, and most generally like the sport. In an area of the country like Minnesota where the outdoor swimming season is fairly limited, anticipation for swimming in the

Parents or caregivers should closely supervise children when near water, even if a young child can jump from the side of a pool into the “deep end” or off of a diving board.

What can I do with the precious time I have left with my son before he leaves for college?

This transition can be very challenging for parents and students alike. Parents are “sending off” their students to campuses near and far and even if it is only a handful of miles away, a family unit will no longer be as closely connected. You may view this as a transition that only you are feeling uneasy about, but this is often a very challenging transition for the student as well, as he or she will have the sudden responsibility to be an independent “adult.” Additionally, the student has to acclimate to a new environment, often with one or more roommates that he or she has never met before. Acknowledging these transitions ahead of time, along with the challenges that they may include, is an excellent first step.

A short list of “lessons that I wish I had shared with you” is an acceptable approach for you to take. Your son may accept it very reluctantly, but will likely appreciate it after he has had some time away from home. Some talk about “keys to success in life” is also a good discussion to have before he leaves for college.

Finally, remember that this is just the start of a new phase in the relationship between you and your son. It will take some learning and some time figuring out how to conduct it, but you both will learn. And, this may surprise you, considering how little your son has probably listened to you over the years: you will always be seen as a source of advice and support regardless of what your son eventually does with his life.

Best wishes to the both of you.

This column is intended to provide general information and guidance only and not specific medical advice. If you have specific questions about your child, please consult your health care professional. Dr. Peter Dehnel is a board certified pediatrician and medical director with Blue Cross Blue Shield of Minnesota. Have a question for Dr. Dehnel? Email mnga@‌mnpubs.com.

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teens protect themselves effectively from the sun, and less than half use sunscreen. Fortunately, most skin cancers can be prevented if young people take practical steps to protect themselves from sun damage.

Joy

Riggs

What to avoid Dr. Lynn Glesne, a Minneapolis dermatologist, says avoiding tanning booths is a huge protective factor because tanning is harmful to the skin, and tanning in an indoor booth is worse than tanning outside.

“We’ve had some recent, really good epidemiological studies showing the strong link between going to a tanning booth and the increasing incidence of melanoma, especially among young women,” Glesne says.

One study released in April 2012 showed that indoor tanners were 74 percent more likely to develop melanoma than those who had never tanned indoors, and those who tanned indoors just four times a year increased their risk of developing melanoma by 11 percent.

That’s why groups like the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American Academy of Dermatology support laws prohibiting youth under age 18 from going to tanning booths.

Glesne says another main protective • One blistering sunburn in childhood factor is to avoid sunburn. There’s a good more than doubles a person’s chances of correlation between even one sunburn in developing melanoma—the deadliest form childhood and the development of skin of skin cancer—later in life. cancer 20 to 30 years later. Although some • Even a mild to moderate increase in people believe that getting a base tan sun exposure, with or without a resulting helps protect them sunburn, can from burning, significantly spur the Glesne says that’s a growth of pigmented There’s a good correlation myth; a tan is not moles in children, between even one protective for which greatly sunburn in childhood and sunburn. increases their risk of “I travel a lot to skin cancer. the development of skin sunny places, and • Melanoma rates cancer 20 to 30 years later.

I’m constantly in the U.S. have been amazed that people rising for at least 30 are proud that they got a sunburn. I years, and melanoma is one of the more think, ‘What’s wrong with you—this is an common cancers in young adults. injury to your skin!’”

The statistics also confirm what I Avoiding the sun completely is not easy suspected, as the mom of two teenagers or practical for Minnesota kids who look and a tween: less than one-third of U.S.

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y son Sebastian received a nasty sunburn last summer after a spending a day at the pool. The tender pink blotches spread across his shoulders and across the back of his neck, emanating heat like a built-in furnace. Ouch. Although he had applied sunscreen before leaving home, he forgot to reapply it after the first few hours of swimming. It’s the sort of thing that can slip the mind of a 14-yearold boy without a parental reminder.

I hope to avoid that scenario this summer. My concern for Sebastian and my two other kids goes beyond their short-term discomfort; as a fair-skinned person who’s had a few problem moles removed as an adult, I worry about the long-term risks of sun exposure—and with good reason, considering these statistics from the Skin Cancer Foundation: 12 June 2013

forward all year to outdoor summer activities. If possible, they should limit those activities between 10:00 a.m. and 3:00 p.m., when the sun is strongest. If they must be outside, covering up with a broad-brimmed hat and protective clothing is recommended.

Companies like the Minneapolis-based Coolibar make specialty clothing that has built-in SPF protection. Regular clothing can also provide protection if it’s densely woven or worn in layers (if you hold the clothing up to the light and can see through it, the sun will also get through).

If youth can’t avoid the sun and can’t cover up, they should use a broad-spectrum sunscreen. Make sure it has an SPF of 15 or higher that blocks both UVA and UVB rays, and realize that it takes an ounce of product to cover the whole body.

Apply the sunscreen at least half an hour before exposure to the sun (not 10 seconds before jumping into the pool), and reapply it at least every two hours.

It’s also helpful to teach kids the slogan Australians created to counter an alarming increase in melanoma in that country. “Slip! Slop! Slap! Wrap!” reminds people to slip on a protective shirt, slop on sunscreen, slap on a hat and wrap on sunglasses.

And recognize that actions speak louder than words. If we want our kids to take sun protection seriously, even when we’re not at the pool to remind them, we adults must practice those healthful behaviors, too.

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or many parents, setting money aside for higher education begins before they select a daycare or preschool. It’s no wonder: College is expensive. Whether we’re talking about state schools or Ivy Leagues, a calculator once told me I’d have to save an amount nearly double our mortgage to cover tuition for my young kids (late night pizzas and whatever passes for a textbook in 2023 sold separately).

We have a few thousand bucks in a college account to split between the three kids. Before I’m labeled a terrible parent, let me state my case. The simple truth is that most parents with young kids haven’t addressed more pressing financial needs such as building a cash cushion for emergencies, purchasing life and disability insurance, and paying off any credit card debt. Paying down debt 16 June 2013

at 18 percent is wiser than setting aside cash in a conservative college fund earning six percent.

Then there’s the matter of retirement.

Parents are used to putting their kids’ needs in front of their own. A 2011 study conducted by Allianz Life found nearly half the parents questioned said college and retirement are equally important goals. Most financial advisers don’t see it that way.

Despite retirement being further away than college for most parents, it’s easier to borrow for college than it is to borrow for retirement.

What about crushing student debt?

That’s definitely a concern. No parent wants a college-bound teen to have to borrow too much. But what many parents forget is that they will be able to help pay for college with cash flow. Just

think about the high cost of childcare and extracurricular activities, or keeping enough food in the fridge to feed a hungry high school athlete. Those costs will ebb and the money can be used to help with college.

Saving up Say paying for college is a core value of yours and you feel strongly that you need to start planning today, even if it means being less prepared for emergencies or retirement. Then consider one of these three accounts.

Maxing out a Roth IRA is my first choice and how we are planning for college at this time. You can only save $5,500 annually if you are under 50 and an extra $1,000 beyond that if you’re 50 or older. This account is designed for retirement savings, but has flexible rules

that let you take the money you contribute out at any time, for any reason. If you need the cash when the first college bill comes, you can tap the account. If you don’t need the funds, use them in retirement or pass the funds to your heirs.

A 529 college savings plan is a simple way to save as little or as much as you want for college. It’s important to note that money in a 529 plan must be used for qualified college expenses. The nice thing about a 529 plan is that grandparents and other relatives can contribute to a 529 plan for your child, which makes for a nice alternative to yet another Lego set. As for selecting a 529 plan, that’s for another column. But in a nutshell, make sure the fees are low and that there are a good set of fund choices. You don’t need a financial adviser to open and purchase a 529 plan.

Visit savingforcollege.com for more info.

Consider the Private College 529 plan if you have your heart set on sending your progeny to a small, liberal arts college.

The idea behind the plan is that you lock in today’s tuition prices at about 270 colleges nationwide, including seven liberal arts schools in Minnesota. If your child does not end up attending a participating college, the money can be rolled into a traditional 529 plan, or refunded.

Like with the traditional 529 plan it’s important to note that this is only a good savings vehicle for the child who is very certain they will end up in college. For more info, visit privatecollege529.com.

Kara McGuire is a St. Paul mom of three who spends her days studying how people spend and save their money.

Send questions or comments to: kara@‌karamcguire.com.

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Summer skill sharpening These books are so fun your child will be hoodwinked into keeping school skills sharp over the summer months.

By Kathleen Stoehr

Math + Fashion = Fun This colorful spiral bound book has fun math puzzles, games, secret number codes, and mathematical mazes.

Learn how to spot a “good deal” by putting fractions and percentages to work; organize “earrings” Sudokustyle; figure out the exact change when buying something with a $20 bill, and more. For ages 8 and up By aubre andrus american Girl; $12.95

10 Minutes a Day Math Young students learn best when activities last five to 10 minutes, before they drift off-task. This series for grades K to 5 (one book per grade) takes this research to heart, providing quick math exercises for children ages 3 to 11 years. This is a great “do this 10 minute exercise and then you can go to soccer practice” kind of book. Ten minute timer is included, too. For ages 3 to 11 By deborah lock dk; $10.99

Success in Preschool Workbook This comprehensive workbook provides parents with activities to do with their children that extend appropriate foundational skills for home learning. Activities focus on fine motor and gross motor development. Oh, and did we mention there are stickers? Kids will work with colors, shapes, patterns, pre-writing skills, and beginning writing. For ages 3 and up Mead; $12.99

Daily Summer Activities Practice basic skills in reading comprehension, vocabulary, grammar, math, spelling, and geography in this colorful activity book. Do two pages a day for 10 weeks; weekly parent sign-off sheet included. Stories, math problems, and ideas for writing make this a fun daily practice.

For between grades 3 and 4 (other grade levels also available)

By Martha cheney Evan-Moor; $12.99

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I Love Reading Phonics books A new reading series, these books offer beginning readers a structured literacy program that combines illustrated fiction with phonics learning. Six different levels build upon each other to increase skill.

For example, Level 1 represents all 26 alphabet sounds and pairs of letters representing one alphabet sound; Level 4 offers alternative spellings of consonant sounds; and Level 6 shows letters that represent more than one sound. Pronunciation sound guide included in each book.

Various authors octopus Books; $3.99 each

Puzzle Words Okay, it’s not a book but we like this anyway! Put the puzzles together, then write the word below it on the dry erase board. Helps young learners practice letter recognition, spelling, reasoning, writing, and creative expression. Each box contains 24 word puzzles, board, and marker. For ages 4 and up Mead; $12.99 MELSA MNP 0613 2-3page.indd 1

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Early to bed,

closing window between exhausted ablutions and passing out. Who has energy for snatching, Indiana Jones-like, some…well, you know what I’m getting at.

I can’t say I hadn’t been warned. Since the dawn of time, or at least since Twitter, friends have told child-bearing friends that things would get rough before they could get out the rough riders. But I didn’t believe how hard it would be to compete with the insanely cute and much more cuddly suitor who moved into the house with us—our son, Ed, Jr. Add to Ed, Jr. a beloved dog and two dog-like cats, then the death of the dog, Edna’s burgeoning private psychotherapy practice, the complications of daycare, and things got downright heavy. I realized that we’d gotten sucked into a sexual black hole, our time and space warped by the gravity of our son. To get out of the mess I grabbed a napkin and worked out my own little theory of relativity involving time and space—and gratitude.

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f you’re a parent of young kids and you’re like me (that is an overworked, under-exercised, time-robbed zombie of the new millennium), you’ve been through the wringer and seen it all, so I’ll cut right to the chase: have you and your partner been busy lately? If your answer is ‘no’ or simply ‘not enough,’ then read on, my friend, and find out how you can stack the deck in your favor!

After my partner Edna’s pregnancy and then the ineluctable birth of our son, after the years of breastfeeding and co-sleeping, 20 June 2013

after the hectic life of two working parents and one very busy boy, we finally discovered that something was missing (no, not just the remote): Sex! It snuck up on us like a pan of water on two proverbial, brain-dead frogs, except the water was cooling down instead of heating up. ‘Suddenly’ there was no more morning sex. No more Sunday sex. No more accidental “Hey, you got your chocolate in my peanut butter” sex.

Perhaps you know of what I speak? Sex gets relegated to a very narrow, ever-

You have to make time to make love, as my Irish Nana used to say.

We all get 24 hours in a day, right?

1,440 minutes to get some action. So how can it be that there’s not enough time for sex—the very thing that got us all into this full catastrophe in the first place?

Here’s the secret: Sex is 99 percent mental. So put in a good word for the good deed early in the day. You know: plant the figurative seed. If there’s a silly slap-and-tickle in the kitchen that in the pre-child past might have turned into more, don’t drop the ball. Use a ridiculous euphemism to suggest that maybe there could be more to come when the kids are conked out. Heck, you might even say something as straightforward and brash as, “Maybe we should, you know, tonight?” (While saying this, be sure to look your partner in the eye so he or she knows you don’t mean staying up too late watching Netflix.)

The hardest part for most of us is getting to bed in time, and this means that if you want to rut you’ll have to avoid old

ATTENTION WOMEN 21-33: Would you like to be an egg donor? ruts. If the night starts to slip like so many others, getting late before lunches are made and the wash is done (even if it’s ‘his’ or ‘her’ job), then don’t just sit there!

Help out, get things done! Who said everything was going to be fair?! Life’s not fair! Over time, everything rebalances and redistributes, so get to work. Early to bed, early to rise, if you know what I mean.

Space: The final frontier Is your child (dare I say, children?) often sleeping in your bed? If it’s time for the change, then begin transitioning them out. If there’s still some co-sleeping to be done, then you just might need to establish, like some feral animals, a new locale for your trysts. Think old-school couch-time, like back when you started dating. Got a garage? Drop those minivan seats! Why not the laundry room (bonus if the washer is running). Or, heck, turn the tables and sneak back into your kid’s room. Just find that place where you can be private, and concentrate on one another exclusively.

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Gratitude is an attitude Finally, there’s no sex if there’s resentment. That frustration over who cleaned the fridge last has to be cleared up before connection can begin. I’m talking about sharing gratitude—and chores.

Here are a few suggestions (and their likely results) to try on your own: A heartfelt “Thank you, sweetie, I know you worked harder than I did today,” can turn those boots that were made for walkin’, into boots that were made for knockin’.

“Let me do that, hey?” can turn into a roll in the hay.

Cutting each other some slack can turn into making the beast with two… …well, I think you’ve got the knack!

Good luck gettin’ lucky!

Sean Toren loves living the full catastrophe in Minneapolis with his wife and son. He can be contacted at mnga@mnpubs.com with thoughts or suggestions.

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Out About Parent pick

Flint Hills International Children’s Festival

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During the Family Weekend, downtown Saint Paul comes alive with family-friendly events! The parks around the Ordway fill with free arts activities, art exhibits and performances! The Ordway proudly presents a vast array of performances on the Festival’s two outdoor stages—the World Stage and Landmark Stage—and in the surrounding parks…all for free. Indoor performances are $5.

When: 1st and 2nd, 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: The Ordway area, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: ordway.org/festival/weekend/

Parent pick

War Horse

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The powerful story of young Albert’s beloved horse, Joey, who was conscripted to fight for the English in World War I. Albert, not old enough to enlist, embarks on a treacherous mission to find his horse and bring him home. At the heart of the show are life-sized puppets which bring breathing, galloping, charging horses and other animals to thrilling life on stage.

When: 12th to 23rd Where: Orpheum Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: Ticket prices start at $39 Info: 800-982-2787 or hennepintheatretrust.org

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A perennial favorite, the Silly Sisters start a normal day as flowers smell like being tickled and bicycles are ridden indoors.

Interrupted by a phone call, the sisters are suddenly packing for a picnic, but things don’t always go as planned and one silly mishap after another leads to a hysterical misadventure! Full of silly games, puppet surprises, and ice cream cones for all, it’s the perfect summer fare for families! when: 28th through July 21 where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Minneapolis cost: Adults $10; Children $5 info: openeyetheatre.org or 612-874-6338

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Explore Saint Paul’s regional parks through geocaching. Natural Resources staff hides caches monthly through October with activities designed to encourage learning and exploration of regional parks. Participants who successfully navigate to the provided GPS coordinates, find the cache, and complete the activity described inside are entered in a monthly prize drawing. when: Through October 31 location: Saint Paul’s Regional Parks cost: FREE info: tinyurl.com/43ava97 or 651-632-2455

Then now Wow

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Dedicated entirely to Minnesota history, Then Now Wow is the largest exhibit ever created by the Minnesota History Center.

Designed primarily for children, visitors of all ages will enjoy exploring Minnesota’s distinctive places from the prairies and forests to the cities, along the way they’ll meet the people who have made their homes here. when: Ongoing where: Minnesota History Center cost: $6–$11; FREE ages five and under info: mnhs.org or 651-259-3000

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Alice in Wonderland

Alice in Wonderland

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The classic tale of rabbit holes and wonder. For grades K+ When: Through June 15 Where: Children’s Theatre Company, Minneapolis Cost: Prices vary depending upon seat selected Info: childrenstheatre.org or 612-874-0400

Minnesota & the Civil War

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The Civil War holds a pivotal place in the history of the United States. Citizens of the new state of Minnesota were a major part of the national story, from being the first state to offer troops through their dramatic role at Gettysburg to Appomattox and beyond.

When: Through Sept. 8; closed Mondays except for holidays Where: Minnesota History Center Cost: $5 and under FREE; 6 to 17, $6; seniors and college students, $9; adults, $11 Info: minnesotahistorycenter.org or 651-259-3000

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Nature Valley Bicycle Festival

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Kids fun races, family festival, live music, world class pro racing.

When: Various dates in June Where: Various locations (St. Paul, Minneapolis, Stillwater, etc.)

Cost: Spectating is FREE Info: naturevalleybicyclefestival.com

Dora and Diego— Let’s Explore!

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The exhibit features beloved characters Dora and Diego from Nickelodeon’s hit preschool series Dora the Explorer and Go, Diego, Go!, along with their friends Boots, Map, Backpack, Isa, Tico, and Swiper, now in their own exhibit for your preschooler to explore as they learn and play along. The exhibit gives children and their families the opportunity to engage in problem-solving and active play.

When: Through September 22 Where: Minnesota Children’s Museum, St. Paul

Cost: $9.50 ages 1 to 101 Info: mcm.org or 651-225-6000

Disney’s Aladdin Jr.

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Take a magical carpet ride this summer when Princess Jasmine, Genie and Aladdin embark on an adventure filled with magic and mayhem.

When: 28th through August 4 Where: Stages Theatre Company, Hopkins Cost: Admission fee Info: stagestheatre.org or 952-979-1111

The Bremen Town Musicians

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This high-spirited adventure tells of four animals who escape the clutches of their mean owners and set out to start new lives as musicians. On their journey to Bremen Town, the four use their combined talents to outwit a gang of robbers and discover what the word “family” really means.

When: 18th through August 3 Where: Old Log Theater, Greenwood

Out About

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat

Cost: Admission fee Info: oldlog.com or 952-474-5951

If You Give a Mouse a Cookie

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It all starts innocently enough: a boy and his cookie. Along comes a mouse who unleashes a whirlwind of crumbs, dust bunnies, unfortunate choices and utter chaos. Capturing the sheer joy of the much-loved picture book, it’s a celebration of true friendship and a whole mess of fun.

When: 21st through July 21 Where: Children’s Theatre Company, Minneapolis Cost: Admission fee Info: childrenstheatre.org or 612-874-0400

Preschool Playdate

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Each Tuesday, the Science Museum

offers preschool appropriate activities that will keep little hands busy and little minds buzzing. A Preschool Playdates ticket includes admission to the exhibit galleries, take-home science experiment, Science Live performances and science demonstrations, and various discounts.

When: 10:00 a.m. to noon Where: Science Museum of Minnesota, St. Paul Cost: Under five, FREE; $13 for adults Info: smm.org/playdates or 651-221-9444

Wee Wednesdays

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Wee Wednesdays have plenty to see and do for toddlers and their families. Free, educational programming geared toward children five and under; also features hands-on activities and more.

When: Every Wednesday beginning at 10:30 a.m.

Where: Midtown Global Market, Mpls Cost: FREE Info: midtownglobalmarket.org or 612-872-4041

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat

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A secular version of the powerful and beloved story of Joseph, favorite son of Jacob, who is given a splendid coat of many colors. With 22 major production numbers filled with colorful costuming, creative staging, upbeat music and exuberant choreography.

When: Through Fall 2013 Where: Chanhassen Dinner Theatres, Chanhassen Cost: Prices vary depending upon seat and date selected Info: 952-934-1525 or chanhassentheatres.com

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Free live music, a children’s play area, and free balloons for the first 50 children.

Businesses will validate your parking (for up to three hours) with purchase if you park in the 10th Avenue parking ramp.

When: Every Friday from 5:00 to 8:00 p.m.

Where: Midtown Global Market, Mpls Cost: FREE Info: midtownglobalmarket.org or 612-872-4041

Run! Jump! Fly! Adventures in Action

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Run! Jump! Fly! Adventures in Action motivates children to be more active by experiencing the fun in physical activity. It features four adventure scenes, an action star training center, and a toddler pyramid. Each adventure scene provides an imaginative setting in which kids can try out a high appeal physical activity.

When: May 25 to September 8 Where: Minnesota Children’s Museum, St. Paul Cost: $9.50 ages 1 to 101 Info: mcm.org or 651-225-6000

HOBT Puppet Show

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Every Saturday, different artists perform engaging puppet shows—a great alternative to television! Families can also attend hands-on Make-n-Take puppet workshops based on that day’s puppet theme.

When: Shows at 10:00 a.m. and noon; Make-n-take at 11:00 a.m.

Where: Heart of the Beast theatre, Minneapolis Cost: Suggested donation for show between $2 and $4; Make-n-take admission $5/child, $3 adult Info: hobt.org or 612-721-2535

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1 Saturday Edina Art Fair

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It’s Edina Art Fair weekend, the first official art fair of the year and the second largest in Minnesota, featuring over 340 fine artists and crafters. Highlights include

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Out About live music and lifestyle demos, a Kids Art Zone, food vendors, fashion shows, cooking demos, and more.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.

Where: 50th and France, Edina Cost: FREE Info: 50thandfrance.com or 952-922-1524

Flint Hills International Children’s Festival

Free First Saturday: At Home in the City

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Many species call the garden home— animals, plants, and humans! Come to the Minneapolis Sculpture Garden to help kick-off Foraging Circle, a new project by artist Fritz Haeg, and consider ways that we share the land through a range of activities.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (family activities until 3:00) Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

Saturday Live!

Bill the Juggler

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Join us for a special program with library favorite, Bill the Juggler. Be amazed as Bill juggles things that just shouldn’t be juggled, like baseball bats and bowling balls!

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

Free Family Flicks: Fly Away Home

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Enjoy a free movie. First-come, firstserved to theater capacity.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: theatresmoa.com

Flint Hills International Children’s Festival

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During the Family Weekend, downtown St. Paul comes alive with events! The parks around the Ordway fill with free arts

activities, art exhibits, and performances on the Festival’s two outdoor stages and in the surrounding parks…all for free. Indoor performances are $5.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: The Ordway area, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: ordway.org/festival/weekend/

WaterFest 2013

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Families from around the Twin Cities are invited to a day of lakeside fun at WaterFest 2013, a celebration of our clean lakes and offers an opportunity for outdoors, hands-on learning about the water quality, wildlife, and special ecological features.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Where: Lake Phalen Park, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: rwmwd.org or 651-647-6816

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Out About 2 Sunday Edina Art Fair

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See description, Saturday, May 1 When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Flint Hills International Children’s Festival

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See description, Friday the 1st When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

10,000 Lakes Concours d’Elegence

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A gathering of rare and impeccably preserved automobiles displayed along the shores of Lake Minnetonka. From the pre-1924 Brass Era to pre-1974 foreign cars; treasured classics and popular collectables from the ’20s, ’30s and ’40s to American production cars from the ’50s, ’60s and early ’70s; more than 100 collectible autos will grace the Excelsior Commons. Car parade, food, music, and more.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Where: Excelsior Commons at the intersection of Water Street and Lake Street, Excelsior Cost: $20 in advance; $25 day of event; active military and under 12, FREE Info: 10000lakesconcours.com

Grand Old Day

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On its 40th anniversary, the annual parade theme is “Through the Decades,” honoring the four decades this event has spanned since 1973. Also, live music, delicious food, and entertainment for all ages; hot dog eating contest, children’s petting zoo, and more.

When: 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.

Where: 40 blocks along St. Paul’s Grand Avenue Cost: FREE Info: grandave.com

3 Monday SpotLight Showcase

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The SpotLight Showcase is Hennepin Theatre Trust’s annual celebration of musical theater students and musicals from among 56 Minnesota high schools.

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Students will be honored for their amazing work and perform highlights from awardwinning shows they have presented during the past year.

When: 7:00 p.m.

Where: Orpheum Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: $15 Info: hennepintheatretrust.org or 800-982-2787

4 Tuesday Toddler Tuesdays: The Smurfs 2

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Come meet the Smurfs, participate in fun Smurfy activities, and receive advance screening passes, while supplies last. Wear your favorite blue outfit and receive a free movie poster.

When: Shows at 10:00 and 11:00 a.m.

Where: Mall of America, Rotunda Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/3vbfhly

6 Thursday Gorilla Forest

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It’s opening day of Como Park Zoo’s Gorilla Forest showcasing an $11 million exhibit redesign and overhail, featuring seven gorillas, six of who are new to the zoo.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.

Where: Como Park Zoo & Conservatory, St. Paul Cost: FREE (voluntary donations appreciated) Info: comozooconservatory.org or 651-487-8200

7 Friday The Amazing Cow Boat

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Charlie has been outside playing all day and needs a bath. He loads all his favorite toys into the tub and creates an adventure all for himself. His cow toy magically turns into a boat that is part cow, part boat, and PART AMAZING. When: 7:00 p.m.

Where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: By donation Info: openeyetheatre.org or 612-874-6338

8 Saturday Northern Spark

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Northern Spark is an active celebration of the creativity of artists and the creative programming of cultural organizations.

Last year, there were 118 artist projects in 28 venues in Minneapolis. This year, Lowertown area in St. Paul gets the bragging rights.

When: From sunset on the 8th to sunrise on the 9th Where: Lowertown, St. Paul Cost: FREE Info: northernspark.org

Great Outdoors Day

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More than 2,000 national parks, national forests, national wildlife refuges, and other federal lands offer free entrance admittance to the public on this day.

When: All day Where: Throughout the U.S. Cost: FREE Info: nps.gov/findapark/feefreeparks. htm or 202-208-6843

Wind & Weather @ The Bakken

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Fabulous science-related programming and plenty of fun for no charge every second Saturday of the month.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Where: The Bakken Museum, Mpls Cost: FREE Info: thebakken.org/Saturday or 612-926-3878

Saturday Live! Brodini Comedy Magic Show

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Scarves, coins, cards, balls, ropes, and ordinary items become animate objects of wonder and curiosity in Brodini’s hands, but never without some help from children and adults in the audience.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

Looking for moms and their 3-5 year old children!

Study on preschool children’s social understanding; Starting in June

Free Family Flicks: TMNT

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Enjoy a free movie. First-come, firstserved to theater capacity.

$40 gift card provided as payment for a 1 ½ to 2 hour visit at the University of St. Thomas.

Fun games for your child included!

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: theatresmoa.com

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The Amazing Cow Boat

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9 Sunday Family Day at the MIA: In Detail

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Focus on delightful details at this free family event. Practice pointillism or make a mandala. Zoom in on your favorite works of art in the MIA’s collection.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Minneapolis Institute of Arts Cost: FREE Info: 612-870-3000 or artsmia.org

11 Tuesday Toddler Tuesdays: Monsters University

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Prepare your little monsters for college.

Fill your report card with stars by completing all the activity stations and receive your very own diploma.

When: 10:00 a.m. to noon Where: Mall of America, Rotunda Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/3vbfhly

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Arty Pants: Your Tuesday Playdate

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Features activities for adults and youngsters ages three to five. Art projects, films, gallery activities, and story time.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE with gallery admission; Walker members and kids ages 12 and under are always free.

Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

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Out About 14 Friday Stone Arch Bridge Festival

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Three days of art, music on three performance stages and activities right on the beautiful Minneapolis riverfront. Family arts area, Father’s Day car show.

When: 6:00 to 10:00 p.m.

Where: Northeast Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: stonearchbridgefestival.com

Tucker’s Robot

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Tucker is an adventurer with an unstoppable imagination. When he discovers an old robot in the garbage, of course he has to take it home. Tucker’s usually ready for anything but can’t believe it when this robot travels through time and takes him along!

When: 7:00 p.m.

Where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Mpls Cost: By donation Info: openeyetheatre.org or 612-874-6338

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Free Family Flicks: Ice Age 2: The Meltdown

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Enjoy a free movie. First-come, firstserved to theater capacity.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Theatres at Mall of America, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: theatresmoa.com

16 Sunday Stone Arch Bridge Festival

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See description, Friday, June 14 When: 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Free 3rd Sundays at the MN Children’s Museum

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Grab the kids and roam the museum free of charge every third Sunday of each month.

When: 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Minnesota Children’s Museum Cost: FREE Info: mcm.org or 651-225-6000

Stone Arch Bridge Festival

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See description, Friday, June 14 When: 11:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m.

Tucker’s Robot

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See description, Friday the 14th When: 11:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m.

Saturday Live! Splashy, Flashy Frogs

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Dive into the fascinating (and sometimes noisy) world of frogs! Participate in a frog “chorus,” and then live animal visitors will help children learn the difference between frogs and toads.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/bulsmwh or 651-266-7034

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18 Tuesday Toddler Tuesdays: Clifford

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Join us for stories about our favorite big, red, furry friend and enjoy a fun craft project.

When: Storytime at 10:30 and 11:30 a.m.; meet Clifford at 10:00 and 11:00 Where: Mall of America, Rotunda Cost: FREE Info: tinyurl.com/3vbfhly

19 Wednesday The Splatter Sisters

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Enjoy a lunch time concert sponsored by Creative Kidstuff.

When: 11:00 a.m. to noon Where: The Shops at West End Arcade area, St. Louis Park Cost: FREE Info: theshopsatwestend.com

20 Thursday Third Thursdays at the MIA: Get Local

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Hear local band, Strange Names; draw local connections to the MIA’s global collection; create your own MNcentric screenprint with a local artist.

When: 6:00 to 9:00 p.m.

Where: Minneapolis Institute of Arts Cost: FREE; refreshments for sale Info: artsmia.org or 888-642-2787

21 Friday Opening Day: Maya: Hidden Worlds Revealed

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It’s the world premiere of Maya: Hidden Worlds Revealed, a brand-new, original exhibition that sheds light on this mysterious and majestic ancient culture.

When: End date TBD Where: Science Museum of Minnesota, St. Paul Cost: Admission fee Info: smm.org/maya or 651-224-9444

Molly and the Magic Boot

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Molly grew up in the city and is excited to spend a whole week at her Grandma’s farm! Grandma tells her to play outside, but only gives her one old boot for her

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is, after all, how you got into this mess in the first place.

An evening walk, a talk until sunrise, a glass of wine, and that song on the jukebox. Infatuation, love, commitment, sex. This is how it happens.

Romance, relationship, and the physical expression of both is what—essentially—brings about parenthood and yet, those very things often seem alien and unattainable after a baby’s birth.

On one hand, couples often enjoy a new level of closeness after the birth of a child. Finally, you are a family. You share a common set of worries, a mission, and a previously unimaginable capacity for love and compassion.

Running alongside this new current of camaraderie, like a twisted barbed wire fence, is the feeling that while in many ways you and your partner are closer than ever, you are also quite changed— instantly—and therefore somewhat foreign and fumbling.

Before baby, you were Hot Lips. After? Mama—an actual new identity to add to a new body, new hormones, and a taxing new nighttime routine. This is what doulas refer to when they describe “the new normal,” however, to the postpartum parent, the slew of new feels anything but.

A new body, new

hormones, and a taxing new nighttime routine can play havoc

By Jen Wittes

34 June 2013

Body image Katrina, a St. Paul adoptive mother of two and first time birth mother was surprised by the emotional side effects brought on by the physical changes of pregnancy. “I didn’t expect to feel so physically vulnerable,” she says, admitting that although she didn’t actually fear her husband, she felt frightened when he ran his hands over her C-section scars and residual sagging stomach.

Their first intimate experience actually went quite well, with both achieving orgasm, however Katrina felt as if she were “having sex while in someone else’s body.”

The body image issue is almost universally problematic for new parents.

“New parents should never forget that they are in this together and that any unaddressed concerns will only fester and grow.”

Most mothers focus on the extra baby weight, but express other concerns as well: stretch marks, incision scars, sagging breasts, varicose veins, swollen feet, a traumatized perineum, and leaking nipples. Yep. You could write a book on society’s influence and just what women are up against when—while nursing a newborn— they are faced with a Victoria’s Secret commercial. They are reminded— constantly—of what is supposedly considered desirable. The message that the general hum of pop culture sends is so deafening that a new mother can’t even hear when her partner tells her that she is beautiful.

Says Lisa Erbes, Minneapolis-based lactation counselor, childbirth educator, and doula, “Mom needs to talk about her body changes with her partner and be willing to hear and believe that her partner still finds her sexy and beautiful.

Partners are often quite turned on by the changes and curves that come with pregnancy and motherhood and women don’t even consider that! When a partner says they find Mom sexy…it’s true!”

Partners, friends, practitioners, and neighbors could and should drown out the media shove of unrealistic and unhealthy physical standards by complimenting new mothers on the very things that make them unique. We may be a long way from praising stretch marks; however, we can view them as proof of a strong woman and we can compliment that woman on how lovely she looks with a baby in her arms. We can choose to glorify the right kind of beauty.

Reconciling change Occasionally, a partner will be put off by the transition to motherhood, but rarely for the reasons a woman might suspect.

Sometimes witnessing traumatic birth might make the other parent feel hesitant around the woman’s body, having seen it

go through so much. Of course, sometimes it simply takes a while to reconcile the pure and noble idea of a “mother” with the irresistible “lover.”

The postpartum mother herself often has a hard time blending her new physicality with her sexual self. Says L, a San Francisco executive assistant; “I remember being in a lovely post-coital snuggle and then hearing my son on the baby monitor, demanding to be fed. It was so strange and confusing to shift from sexuality to breastfeeding.”

The bottom line with physical changes and body issues is that all fears and feelings are valid, should be communicated respectfully, and met with an effort to understand where the other parent is coming from. New parents should never forget that they are in this together and that any unaddressed concerns will only fester and grow. It must be OK to feel shy about a postbirth body. It must be OK for a partner to feel conflicted about their mate’s shift to motherhood, at least temporarily. You talk about it, you practice great patience, and appreciate that these lean and mean “baby days” are fleeting— wonderful, miserable, hard, and fleeting.

In the bedroom OK. Say you’ve talked about the wild changes and misgivings, have perhaps even addressed some minor jealousy over the bond between your partner and your child; everyone involved has accepted the idea that moms—whoa—can be sexy, and yet, those once radiant embers still remain cold and grey.

Exhaustion, anyone?

No matter what evidence-based sleep training program you diligently adhere to, no matter if the two parents develop an elaborate schedule of naps and shifts, and even when you receive overnight assistance from a family member, a nanny, or a doula,

the new parent will always—without fail— suffer from sleep deprivation.

Nothing, save an innuendo-dropping great-grandmother, kills the libido faster than exhaustion. Both parents are tired and to make matters worse, they fight about it! Who gets more sleep? Who has the harder life? Who cares? Go to bed!

Yes, bed. That once familiar place that now sits near a bassinet, a baby monitor, and a Diaper Genie. What used to be “where the magic happens” is now where the breast milk flows.

For new parents, the use of the bedroom for anything other than sleep can seem daunting. In theory, you want to have sex, but you don’t have the energy.

Again, patience is a must.

Try baby steps toward intimacy. Too tired and touched out from baby-care to even think about making love? Try a gentle back rub or a simple cuddle instead. Carve out time for a date or even a less-ambitious walk around the block.

Establish early on that foreplay need not play out by the end of the night. It might take days to embrace the spark started by a tender good night kiss.

This takes time, and in the beginning, time is scarce.

Most couples wait at least two months postpartum to have intercourse and for many it takes quite a bit longer.

The first sexual experience as new parents is often quite like the first time ever. Love, attraction, and excitement mixed with anxiety, awkwardness, and shyness. Furthermore, contrary to vulgar myth, the woman is not usually “loosened” by childbirth—it’s quite the opposite. Stitching and healing combined with a low-estrogen induced lack of lubrication conspire to make a woman feel virginal. Often, the first time hurts.

But it gets better.

Candid conversation, a focus on the positive, and prioritizing the clichéd but crucial “date night” help smooth this bumpy, lumpy, tired transition into a new life as parents. Yes, parents who—believe it or not—have sex.

Jen Wittes is a St. Paul based mother of two and freelance writer. She also works as a postpartum doula with Welcome Baby Care in Edina.

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Surviving

summer

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By Julie Kendrick

36 June 2013

Boredom, rising tensions, and sibling issues make for a long three months

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ancy Pratt is, to put it mildly, something of a planner. Interviewed for this article in mid-March, she had already enrolled her two boys, ages five and nine, in every one of the day camps they’d be attending this summer. “I keep a copy of last year’s schedule in my designated

‘summer’ folder,” she says, “and then I refer to it to plan for the next year.”

Do you even have to wonder if this highly organized woman owns a label maker?

(She does.) But, even as prepared as she is for the onslaught of summer planning, she acknowledges that it’s challenging to have summer camp enrollment deadlines arriving earlier each year. “When I enrolled my oldest in Humane Society summer camp last Valentine’s Day, I thought, ‘this is just too early.’”

Endless summer drives (not the good kind) The Golden Valley resident admits that, no matter how hard she tries, summer usually throws her a few curveballs. The former advertising executive and current stay-at-home mom says that her greatest source of summertime stress is driving: “Because of my kids’ four-year age span, they are almost always enrolled in two different activities. So by the time I drop them both off in the morning, it seems as if it’s time to pull out of the driveway and do pickups for the afternoon. By September, I feel as if I’ve spent my whole summer driving in a loop around Golden Valley.”

She also has learned from hard experience that all those fun day camps seem to dry up around August, and even the community pool closes early to accommodate college students’ schedules.

“I always make sure to save some of our favorite activities, like a visit to the Science Museum, for August,” she says.

Pratt aims, she says, for a balanced mix of activities and downtimes, and says that the boys are usually enrolled in a structured activity for half the summer—

or, the way she figures it, about two weeks out of every four. “If they have three weeks of activities in a row, they get too tired, but after two weeks of just hanging around together, they start to argue more,” she observes.

Why summer can be challenging Increased arguments between siblings can be one of the many signs of increased summer stress, says Natalie Kendrick [no relation to the author], the Family Focused Program Supervisor at Washburn Center for Children, and a licensed marriage and family therapist. Herself the parent of two girls, ages four and eight, Kendrick says that both working and stay-at-home parents can face challenges in what is typically considered an “easier” time of year for families.

“Kids are usually super excited for summer and parents are usually less so,” she says. “The parents I talk with tell me about feeling as if they have three full months to deal with issues like boredom, rising tensions, and sibling issues. Often, when kids experience unpredictability in their schedules, they can become

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One of the biggest behavioral impacts can stem from a change of regular sleep schedules. Parents often relax bedtime rules once school is out, and then find themselves—and their kids—feeling overly tired when morning rolls around and everyone needs to leave the house for work or day camp.

Keeping busy Many parents try to keep kids busy.

Kristin Rinker Kowler, of southwest Minneapolis, says, “As soon as our kids were seven years old, they started sleep-away camp. Last year, Emmet, who is now 17, was away most of the summer working at Camp Menogyn or on trail.

When the kids were younger, I had a flexible schedule at work, but summer planning still required me to create a spreadsheet and rely on many car pool buddies. Both boys were taught to ride their bikes and take the bus safely to their activities. Summer was challenging, but 38 June 2013

they also learned so much, did cool stuff, and learned to be independent, too.”

Elizabeth Mayotte, who lives in Hopkins, says she learned the hard way that she needed to schedule her kids’ activities in advance. “When our oldest, Robert, was in second grade, we scoffed at signing him up for summer activities, believing that he could have fun with the neighborhood kids in the summer, as we had done growing up. It turned out to be a horrible and lonely summer for him, since all the other kids were signed up straight through the summer and no one was around to play. From then on, we started scheduling summer activities as early as February and March, so that he wouldn’t have another summer like that one. Still, it’s sad to think that those relaxed, unscheduled summers of my youth have disappeared.”

Fight boredom with chores and reading “We hear a lot from parents about how

much kids complain about boredom. I suggest that parents begin the summer by engaging children in helping out around the house. There should be a daily chore list for everyone, and tasks should be completed before privileges like screen time are allowed,” Mayotte says. While the activities will vary by age and ability, she suggests they include chores like making beds, helping with meal preparation, or weeding in the garden.

Summer can also be a great time to learn something new. “Consider teaching your child a craft or skill over the summer. If grandma knows how to knit, ask her to teach your kids. Or ask every child to make a photo album of their summer activities,” she says. She also suggests that kids keep their brains sharp—and allow their bodies time to relax—with a mandatory period of daily reading. “I’d suggest starting with about 20 minutes for second graders, and moving up from there.”

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BeSt Summer ever Make a list. Before the last day of school, ask your kids to make a list of all the things they’d like to do over the summer. It can be as simple as “Have a lemonade stand,” or a personal goal such as “learn to ride my bike without training wheels.”

Keep the list in a prominent place and be sure to check off activities as they’re completed. (Come September, tuck the list in a scrapbook or photo album.) the gift of boredom. You don’t necessarily have to rush in to amuse your child the minute you hear that first “I’m bored” complaint of the summer. Give your kids some time to feel bored, and you might be surprised at the creative activities they can devise for themselves. listen to your child. Everyone needs the right balance between activity and downtime. As a parent, you can help your child achieve that. “If your child says, ‘I’m too tired for soccer practice’ every night, you might consider dialing down the activity level a bit,” Kendrick says. communicate the plan. Keep a family calendar that shows the dates of planned camps, family trips, and weekends at the cabin. Kendrick says she makes sure to include pre-arranged “nothing” days for her family, in which no activities are scheduled, and she marks those on the summer schedule. consistency can help. If your child becomes anxious when there is no set schedule, consider keeping things a little more tightly structured this summer. Consistent bedtimes, mealtimes, and chore times can help kids feel more secure.

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