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July 2012

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July Features

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North, South, East, West

Encouraging words

by Kelly Bartlett

Every corner of Minnesota offers something great for summer visitors

by Kathleen Stoehr and Valerie Turgeon

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test your sun safety iQ

by Sandra Gordon

Departments 8 CHattER

10  tWEEn SCEnE I Can Camp program 12 GRoWS on tREES One click paying 14 FiGHt LESS, LoVE MoRE Picking your battles

40  it’S MY PaRtY Cake ball fun 42 Book SHELF Olympic gold 43 Hot StUFF Summer fun

46 REaL LiFE Real mom Elizabeth Mennel

calendar 24 oUt & aBoUt

Cover photo courtesy of SwimZip. See Chatter for more on this unique product. Alexandria photo above courtesy of Explore Minnesota Tourism.

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FROM tHE EDItOR

Traveling Minnesota A group photo recently posted on Facebook shows my daughter being held by her daddy. Next to them is his best friend, Scott, holding his daughter, Carmela, on his shoulders. Next to Scott is his wife, Laurie, and next to Laurie stand my mother-in-law and I. I figure it was my father-in-law, Ed, who snapped the photo.

In the background is a beautiful lake, probably Burntside. My husband and I had driven up to Ely for a long weekend…and wouldn’t you know it, Scott and Laurie were there as well—and my in-laws. We all had gotten the bug for a bit of summer travel and we all ended up in the same city on that same weekend.

Three people involved in that photo have now passed, which makes looking at it so bittersweet. I can get past how ridiculous I look in my oversized glasses when I think about how much these people are missed.

Every trip adds to the pages of our family lexicon and history book, from songs we made up en route, to funny happenstances in restaurants and campgrounds, to kooky roadside attractions and Ripley’s Believe It or Not museums. These trips bonded us as family, and with that kind of strength and history behind us, nothing can separate us—despite the wild curveballs that life throws, seemingly without warning.

In May, we look at the approaching summer with great anticipation. There are three long months ahead to go to the lake, maybe fly to Montana to see relatives, take a couple of day or weekend trips…and then suddenly the summer is halfway over!

It’s almost as if we take June to rev up and get ready, and then by the time we actually get going, the summer is drawing to a close.

If you find that is the case, I hope our feature beginning on page 16 will help you plan a few trips to get your family going on short notice. From the far southern corner of Minnesota where the prairie seems to stretch endlessly, to the lapping waves on the shore of Lake Superior, you really should consider Minnesota as this year’s vacation destination. It’s interesting how we will spend big bucks to go to some other state and sit on someone else’s shoreline instead of our own, as if it’s more beautiful or more important than what we have here. Why is that?

Pack up the car. Go. And who knows—maybe you will run into some of your favorite people while you’re there.

Kathleen Stoehr, Editor

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In brief

Minnesota Parent Likes

Enlightened Mama, a new company

founded by Liz Abbene to help women and their families have a wonderful birth experience and begin parenthood with confidence, has opened. Offering evidence-based Lamaze childbirth education, DONA-certified birth doula services, breastfeeding education and counseling, and other classes, you can find more information online at enlightenedmama.com; Ice cream, espresso, and mini golf combo shop Maltees has opened at 6335 Portland in Richfield; Babies“R”Us recently announced the launch of a brand-new multi-level partnership benefiting families of the U.S. armed forces in collaboration with Operation Shower, an organization that hosts joyful baby showers for military wives to ease the stress of their husbands’ deployment. Babiesrus.com/operationshower will serve as an online information portal, where visitors can learn how they can support this charitable program and ensure that military moms-to-be, who are often far away from friends and

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family, receive basic essentials for their newborns; Do Good Diaper Service announced that it has been awarded

Minnesota Parent Likes

Baby B’Air The FAA-approved Baby B’Air Flight Vest is great for lap-held children while traveling in an airplane. Parents usually have to either keep babies in their laps and contend with hours of squirming and near-falls; or go through the difficult and extra expense of purchasing an extra seat, carrying a carseat on board, and making sure it fits in the airline seat. The vest secures baby safely to a parent. Constructed of 100% cotton; connect it to the seat belt of the adult. The baby can then be held, fed, and even changed while both parent and child remain securely fastened in the seat.

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accreditation from the Real Diaper Industry Association, a California-based nonprofit trade association that establishes quality standards for the cloth diaper service industry. “We are excited to be the first diaper service in the Twin Cities to be accredited. It is important that we provide the highest quality product so our clients can have confidence in our product and our process,” says Peter Allen, owner. Random diapers are sent to an independent lab to be tested. The testing process makes sure that the diapers are properly sanitized, pH balanced, absorb in a timely manner, and are residue free. “By applying for and receiving the RDIA Diaper Service Accreditation, Do Good Diapers has demonstrated a commitment to safe laundering practices,” says Allen. “Safe and sanitary washing conditions are crucial to our industry and it is important to have organizations that are willing to measure themselves against national standards.” For more information visit dogooddiapers.com.

I Can Camp State program fosters family fun

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By Joy Riggs

e aren’t camping people. That’s the apologetic explanation my husband often gives when a conversation turns to the topic of outdoor recreation. And it’s somewhat true; no one would confuse us with a family of dedicated, experienced hikers who belong on the cover of Outside magazine. But we would sometimes like to be those people. That’s why we have dabbled in camping, hiking, and fishing over the past several years as our three children have grown from toddlers into tweens and teens.

Turns out, we are the type of people that the Minnesota Department of Natural Resources hopes to attract through its “I Can” programs. Offered in state parks and recreation areas throughout the state, the workshops teach parents and children basic skills in camping, paddling, climbing, fishing, and archery. Hands-on instruction and equipment are provided for the classes, and many of the programs are free.

“They’re been highly successful in reaching young families and getting new people outdoors,” says DNR spokesperson Pat Arndt.

The program began four years ago with “I Can Camp.” Fishing and archery classes were added next, and the paddling and climbing classes debuted last summer.

The programs grew out of research conducted by the DNR in 2007 that showed fewer young families were accessing the state’s parks and trails. This was around the time that author Richard Louv published his influential book Last

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Child in the Woods, about the growing disconnection between kids and nature.

“We decided instead of trying to fix the problem, we’d try to understand the problem first,” Arndt says.

Barriers The DNR formed focus groups to learn why some people weren’t using the parks, and what motivated those people who were making use of the facilities. They discovered that one barrier was time; people are pulled in so many directions by kids’ activities, it was difficult to find the time to schedule and organize a family camping outing. Another barrier was equipment; parents didn’t have the necessary equipment and didn’t want to invest in it without knowing whether their family would enjoy it.

“We thought, let’s try to take these elements and put them together in a nice little package, and see if it would bridge

that gap for people,” she says. “With ‘I Can Camp,’ it’s all put together for you. All you have to do is show up with your sleeping bag and your food; we take care of the planning.”

Families can sign up for “I Can Camp” for either one or two nights. They receive a packing list beforehand, and a reservation is made for them at the campground. Trained instructors spend the afternoon and evening with the family, demonstrating how to set up a tent and how to build a fire. Recreation programs are also available, like geocaching and naturalist talks, which takes care of another concern parents expressed— wondering what they would do with their children during all that unstructured time, a rarity for many harried families.

“The programs are really developed to help the parents. We know that if parents bring the children outdoors they’re going to have a great time and they’re going to come back,” Arndt says.

The “I Can” workshops are supported by funding from the Clean Water, Land and Legacy Amendment. Reservations

are required for some activities.

Although many programs are free, participants should be aware that they will need a vehicle permit to enter a state park or recreation area, either a $5 daily pass or a $25 year-round pass good for all the state parks.

Since the inception of “I Can Camp,” the DNR has continued to receive positive responses from participants, like the reluctant, spider-fearing mom who ended up loving the camping experience, and the family that went camping on their own eight times the summer after receiving personal instruction. Response has also been enthusiastic for the archery, paddling, fishing, and climbing offerings.

I was excited to learn that the “I Can” classes are searchable online by date, activity, and location. My husband and I plan to take our kids to the North Shore in August, and although we’re not camping—because, as I already

Resources I Can Program Minnesota Department of Natural Resources dnr.state.mn.us/state_parks/ can_series.html or call the DNR Information Center at 651-296-6157 between 8:00 a.m. and 4:30 p.m.

Monday through Friday.

Children & Nature Network Tips for reconnecting kids with nature childrenandnature.org Richard Louv Author of Last Child in the Woods richardlouv.com

mentioned, we’re not camping people—we might be inspired to dabble in some recreational activities while we’re in the area. We may just make that magazine cover after all.

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One click Is our pay-with-a-wave society too effortless?

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By Kara McGuire

aper or plastic? I almost always choose plastic, as far as payment type is concerned. It’s a habit I developed years ago, as credit card companies fought for consumers using increasingly rich rewards. For me, it started with frequent flier miles—we paid for our honeymoon flights to Banff with our Worldperks miles.

When it became tougher to redeem airline tickets (and besides, with toddlers who flies much anyway?) I switched loyalties to cash-back credit cards, amassing such a collection in my wallet that for a time I jotted down the various offers in masking tape on each card. It’s June and we’re eating out?

Reach for the card with the bonus in that category. Buying gas? Was it the American Express or MasterCard that earns three percent cash back?

Another child, and less spare time for tending to my peculiar hobby, I settled on the American Express Retirement Rewards card. It’s a straightforward, consistent two percent reward, which we’ve been using to slowly build savings in a Roth IRA. Last year, we saved more than $500 with this benefit.

I use the card everywhere American Express is accepted. That is, unless I’m at Starbucks, where I’ve become a regular only so I can use the gee-whiz technology of paying with my smartphone. I open up the Starbucks app, hit “touch to pay,” and wave the barcode of my electronic

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prepaid card in front of the card reader.

It’s so slick that I don’t even feel as if I’m buying my black coffee.

And that’s the problem.

A recent survey from the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants found 56 percent of Americans say technology has made it easier to spend money, while 37 percent say technology makes both spending and saving easier.

Just three percent said saving is now easier.

My family, which axed cable years ago because of its expense, is seeing our entertainment spending skyrocket, one dollar at a time. The ability to instantly download movies, books, and apps to our multitude of devices with one-click payment has curtailed the thoughtful moment we used to have while writing a check or counting change. Paying today is so fast and easy, we don’t have the time or will to ask: “Do I really need that?” “Can I afford this?” Or “Would I even buy this if I gave it more than a moment’s thought?”

Now I’m not pining for those Friday nights when I waited too long to hit Blockbuster, only to find the new release I

was dying to watch was only available on Laserdisc. And it’s very convenient not to reach for a wallet when shopping online with a sleeping child on your lap.

Not only that, but technology has made consumers smarter about their financial state, providing real-time access to bank balances and budgets.

But making purchases in our one-click, pay-with-a-wave society is too effortless, too mindless. And it will only get worse as mobile wallet technology catches on.

My six-year-old frequently counts his money, separating his nickels, dimes, and dollar bills into neat stacks in order from highest to lowest value. He still refuses to believe that his million dollar bill wasn’t issued by the U.S. Mint, but he’s smart to develop a visual, tactile relationship with actual coinage. To him, money is real, something that must be emptied out at the register and meticulously counted. Only

then will he be handed a new Lego set, packet of Pokemon cards, or bottle of soda.

Inspired, I used a wad of cash scored by the sale of some items on Craigslist to make all of our purchases for a few days.

I went to the mall, and felt a mixture of regret and apprehension when I handed over $79 for a blazer and a shirt that weren’t perfect fits. Then I felt a thrill realizing there would be no reckoning after the 25 day grace period, no calculating to see if and when we could pay the credit card balance in full without dipping into savings.

But the cash ran out, and so did my patience with the experiment. There wasn’t an ATM nearby. Plus, it’s easier to pay with plastic.

Kara McGuire is a personal finance expert and mother of three living in St. Paul.

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Pick your battles

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By Laurie Puhn

e’ve all heard the saying, “pick your battles.” That sounds like a good way to reduce unnecessary fights, but exactly how are we supposed to pick the right ones?

When I ask audiences at my speaking events about this, many respond with comments like, just pick those that are

worth it, or pick those you think you can win. But, if you follow that advice, prepare yourself for more battles, not less.

If you want to reduce the number of fights you have with your spouse, children, and/or friends, then there is only one way to do it: Smarten up! How do you do that? It’s easy. Before you open your mouth to give some unwanted advice or criticism, ask yourself this single best question: Does this affect me? If your answer is no, then say nothing and don’t pick the battle.

To give this wise question a reality check, I’ll share a little story. A husband (who shall remain nameless) was heading to work one summer day when his wife thoughtfully suggested he take an

“Before you open your mouth to give some unwanted advice or criticism, ask yourself this single best question: Does this affect me?”

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umbrella because according to the weather report there was a high chance of rain. When that same husband returned home that evening with dripping wet hair, his wife watched him shake off his coat and pull off his wet shoes. She instinctively blurted out, “I told you to take an umbrella,” to which the husband naturally and expectedly replied, “I don’t mind getting a little wet.”

“A little wet?” questioned the wife. “You look like you were in a hurricane.” And so, the husband responded a little louder, “I like the rainfall on a warm day and I will never take an umbrella because they are too annoying to carry around.” The wife felt she couldn’t let such a ridiculous comment go unchallenged…and then the fight began.

In retrospect, it’s clear that this was the wrong battle to pick. But in the moment, how could this woman have known? The answer is that she could have smartened up and asked herself how this situation personally affected her. Was she sopping wet? No. Was her husband asking her to blow dry his hair or dry his clothing? No. His getting wet did not personally affect her, even though it did annoy her.

Therefore picking that battle was a bad choice.

I’m sure there are many things that that your spouse does that may bother or annoy you, but how many of them truly affect you and take up your time or money? Remember that your spouse is not perfect, but you are not there to fix him or her. Rather than jumping in with unnecessary criticism to spark a fight, be smart, take a breath, and hold your tongue. This too shall pass.

Resources Laurie Puhn is a lawyer, couples mediator, relationship expert, and bestselling author of Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In. You can find her online at fightlesslovemore.com.

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Split Rock Lighthouse in Northeast Minnesota.

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CORNERS Your next great vacation starts here

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By Kathleen Stoehr and Valerie Turgeon

ooking to change up your family getaway and take a short jaunt somewhere new? Take a peek at these sleepy Minnesota destinations, just a bit off the beaten path. What does this mean for you? Well, it’s all about quality family time instead of fighting for space on an overcrowded shoreline beach. It’s about hitting a celebrated small town community event that will enchant your kids and create wonderful memories. It’s about spending less time on the road and more time exploring. So what are you waiting for? Let’s go!

NORTHEAST Partially situated along the banks of Lake Superior (the largest of the Great Lakes at 31,700 square miles), sits the northeast corner of Minnesota, running from about Pine City up to the tip of Minnesota at Grand Portage, over to International Falls and down to Grand Rapids.

Outdoor recreation abounds year-round with the beauty of the Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness and Voyageurs National Park contained within.

—Kathleen Stoehr

Destination:

TWO HARBORS

Yes, you might be tempted to stop in Duluth and call it good, but don’t hesitate, keep going another half hour and you will be in the lovely lakeside town of Two Harbors, an area perfect for those who love the water, and nature, in spades. With state parks, national and state forests

nudging right up to its perimeter, plus the largest body of water at its doorstep (the north shore of Lake Superior, but you knew that, right?), there is so much to do you may not know where to start!

I’d suggest a trip to Split Rock Lighthouse first. The visitor center, museum store, and historic buildings are open seven days a week and then after exploring, if you are hungry, you must hit Betty’s Pies, in business since 1956 and a

regular stop for anyone on their way to or from the area.

Top rated B&Bs abound this area, coupled with nice hotels and vacation rentals—but you can also camp in Gooseberry Falls or Tettegouche state parks, both nearby. Tettegouche, about 30 miles away, is located on the Baptism River and offers everything from drive-in to walk-in sites plus updated bathroom facilities and electricity hook-ups; Gooseberry Falls at about 12 miles away is a little more rustic, with no electricity offered.

Distance from downtown Minneapolis: about 185 miles Best known for: Two Harbors Lighthouse and museum located on Lighthouse Point as well as Split Rock Lighthouse State Park; its proximity to the beauty of Lake Superior and Gooseberry Falls State Park; The Legend of John Beargrease Town adage: It all starts here…

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Hit the Superior Hiking Trail, consider an afternoon at Stoney Point, a great place to enjoy the majesty of Lake Superior (a short trail will take you right down to the water); and noodle around Sawtooth Mountain Trading Post with over 2,500 square feet of gifts, souvenirs, and home décor items. This place has a lot of nice stuff—it’s not a junky gift shop at all. Finally head over to Thomas Owens Park on a Thursday night to enjoy music from the Two Harbors City Band, plus ice cream social. Friday nights you will find more live music or movies on a big blow up screen.

Upcoming :

community events

15th Annual Two Harbors Kayak Festival, August 3–5

Four different races, local exhibitors, kayak and outrigger equipment demos, stand up paddle boarding demos and classes, beginning level instructional tours, kids kayaking, treasure hunt, climbing wall, live music, food, fun, and more!

Under the Spreading Walnut Tree Art Fair, August 4–5

A yearly event since 1995 with a manageable number of quality artisans showcased under a magnificent walnut tree in the center of town.

Two Harbors Block Party, August 18

Live music all day, kids carnival, karaoke, food, and classic cars at Thomas Owens Park and 1st Ave. Kids love it. FREE

PITSTOP:

HINCKLEY

Shake your sillies out in: Hinckley

At the junction of Interstate 35 and Highway 48 is the small town of Hinckley, offering up the siren song of a little place called Tobie’s Restaurant & Bakery. Okay, it’s not so little.

In fact, it is a bakery, a coffee shop, a gift shop, a convenience store…and did we mention the bakery? Oh yes, we did. We were mesmerized by the caramel rolls yet again. Pop in for a treat and a leg stretch and enjoy the tradition of a Tobie’s respite.

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NORTHWEST Home to the largest lakes as well as the headwaters of the Mississippi River, the Northwest region of Minnesota is a remarkably lovely area, replete with forests, miles of scenic trails, and plenty of family resorts and campgrounds. In the northwest, the open prairies of North Dakota join Minnesota in the far areas of East Grand Forks and Moorhead, cut across the top of the state bordering Canada with Roseau and Warroad, and then continues down through Bemidji, Park Rapids, and Detroit Lakes.

—Valerie Turgeon

Destination:

Vergas

For our trip to the northwest area of Minnesota, we chose the small town of Vergas, population of just over 300. If you’ve never heard of Vergas, it’s a shame because this town is keeper of serene landscape, lakes, and cabins/resorts that are away from major interstates. What makes Vergas a unique destination is the very small town feel, but its close proximity to Detroit Lakes—a city that provides a larger town setting.

Aside from the beautiful array of cabins, resorts and lake properties, all of the shopping and eateries are located on Main Street, which is just about a two minute walk from one end to the other (we did say small, right?). Unless it’s Looney Days weekend, the town is a calm and relaxing place to be. The people are friendly and glad to welcome you. Vergas takes pride in its past, so don’t be shy to ask about the history of the buildings you are eating or shopping in, to discover the stories that can be told. History is scattered throughout the town with portraits from the early 1900s used to decorate Skaal’s Restaurant and there is even a dairy museum in the basement of the Vergas State Bank.

Right before you enter town while Distance from downtown Minneapolis: about 200 miles Best known for: The world’s largest loon statue; Looney Days event.

Town adage: We are small enough to know you, but big enough to serve you!

traveling on Highway 4, you will see what Vergas is best known for; it’s home to the world’s largest loon statue at over 20 feet tall. A trip to Vergas is not complete without a family picture next to this gigantic bird. Located in Long Lake Park, there is also a playground and it is right next to City Beach, which is ideal for swimming and picnicking. After seeing the gigantic loon, be sure to stop at the Eagle’s Best—a walk-up fast-food restaurant where you can order ice cream treats and burgers. You can also pick up some live bait for your next fishing trip.

Are the kids getting bored at the lake?

What if it rains? No problem, because Detroit Lakes provides many places for activities and is less than a half hour drive from Vergas. There is tubing, bowling, a movie theater, Shooting Star Casino, a community and cultural center, and an amusement park with mini-golfing, go-carts, bumper boats, and batting cages.

There is also plenty of shopping down Washington Avenue from family department stores to boutiques. Detroit Lakes is also home to one of Minnesota’s largest flea markets. The dining is also diverse so there are plenty of choices, and many restaurants have lake views.

Upcoming :

community events 77th Northwest Water Carnival, July 13–22

Located in Detroit Lakes, this event is 10 days of fun, encompassing water fights,

The 20-foot Vergas loon.

kids’ games, leap frog races, face painting, geocaching, bed races, music, food, and also a family day with a parade on Sunday the 15th. FREE. Looney Days, August 9–12

The biggest event in Vergas every year is Looney Days. People from all over the country come to town for food, shopping, a Loon calling contest, dancing on main street with live music from a local bands, karaoke, parade, bingo, kids games, and other family fun activities. You are guaranteed a looney good time! FREE.

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ROyALtON

Shake your sillies out in: Royalton

Royalton is just about halfway to your destination (about 1 hour and 45 minutes into your drive) and is where the piratethemed Treasure City, a souvenir store with “something for everyone,” is located.

A kid’s dream come true, it’s easily spotted right off of Highway 10—just look for the massive peg-legged pirate sign and yard decorations out front. It’s the ideal place to rest and to gather some booty before setting sail on your way up north. Open Monday through Friday, 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday, 10:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.

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photo courtesy of Explore Minnesota Tourism

CENTRAL Just a bit northwest of our metro area, certainly a quick jaunt for most, is the slice of our state that some might consider the equivalent of “flyover country.” But look closely: this section is full of wonderful towns (St. Cloud, Brainerd, Fergus Falls, Willmar, Hutchinson) offering up a plethora of activities for families.

—Kathleen Stoehr

Destination:

ALEXANDRIA

Along Interstate 94 is Alexandria, affectionately known as “Alex” or “Alec” to its some 11,000 inhabitants, the town is considered a tourism center due to its many lakes and resorts. Its legacy of hospitality dates back to the late 1800s when Midwesterners traveled by train to the Alexandria lakes area. Early vacationers, says its 2012 Visitors Guide, found lodging at luxurious lakeside hotels, casual fishing camp, and some of Minnesota’s earliest resorts. The Alex chain of lakes encompasses 1,700-plus acres including Lake Le Homme Dieu, Lake Carlos and Lake Geneva, all connected by channels that are easy to navigate. Additionally, nearby are Lake Ida, Miltona, Maple, Osakis, Minnewaska… well, the list goes on.

There are also plenty of B&Bs and lodge resorts in the area, along with the usual suspects in the form of Super 8s, Best Westerns, and Hampton Inns. And if you want something else do to than spend the day on the water, consider the Kensington Runestone Museum with exhibits on Norse history, Minnesota wildlife, and pioneer life; the Douglas County Historical Society, located in the historic residence of Senator Knute Nelson; and the Minnesota Lakes Maritime Museum, showcasing lake traditions and legacies.

inboards, rowboats, and vintage fiberglass boats, sponsored by the Minnesota Lakes Maritime Museum. FREE. Art in the Park, July 28 & 29

This popular arts festival is held in the city park, featuring crafts, artisans, music, and as always, lots of food choices. Now in its 36th year, it’s sponsored by the Alexandria Area Arts Association. FREE.

Rose City Threshing & Heritage Festival, August 10–12

Head to Miltona, about 15 miles away, for the Rose City Threshing festival where rural farm life in the early to mid-20th century will be recreated with steam engines, sawing and threshing demonstrations, horses, pony rides, antique tractors, tractor pulls, parade, children’s barn, games, and prizes, and plenty to eat. Under 12 FREE; $7 all others.

PITSTOP: Distance from downtown Minneapolis: about 135 miles Best known for: Big Ole, a 25-foot tall statue of a Viking originally built for the 1964 World’s Fair; the controversial Kensington Runestone, which some say indicates the presence of Vikings in the area in the 14th century; and is the hometown of actor Peter Krause (Three Feet Under, Parenthood) and WWE superstar Brock Lesnar Town adage: Easy to get to; hard to leave.

SAUK CENTRE

Shake your sillies out in: Sauk Centre

You want Main Street? Then take the exit off Interstate 94 to Sauk Centre, the birthplace of Sinclair Lewis and inspiration for the fictional town of Gopher Prairie, in his book, Main Street. After taking a tour of the city and its lovely downtown avenue, head to Sinclair Lewis Park, offering live music in the bandstand every Wednesday night at 7:00 p.m., plus a playground for the kiddos.

Upcoming :

community events

Chain of Lakes Classic Boat Show, July 14

Head to Lake Darling (about four miles from the center of town) for classic

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Rose City Threshing & Heritage Festival. submitted photo

New Ulm Glockenspiel. photo courtesy of Explore Minnesota Tourism

SOUTH In the far southern corner of our state, bordering South Dakota and Iowa, scenic valleys, open prairie, and a surprisingly great area for rock climbing combine to provide a lovely getaway. At the far southwest corner lies Luverne, where the great western writer Frederick Manfred spent his last years; spanning across to Albert Lea; then over to Winona, Red Wing, and finally up to Northfield. But wait—cut across and you will have Saint Peter, New Ulm and Granite Falls, all wonderful places to visit.

—Kathleen Stoehr

Destination:

LUVERNE

Along the Rock River you will find the peaceful city of Luverne, Minnesota, population 4,745 as of the 2010 census.

First stop is Blue Mounds State Park, for its stunning open prairie, coupled with Sioux quartzite cliff, a magnet for rock climbers of all skill levels. If you are fortunate, you will see a bison herd grazing on the windswept prairie (most easily seen in the early morning), and catch a glimpse of blue as the eastern bluebird or blue grosbeak flits by. The park also offers camping facilities (it’s part of the DNR’s “I Can Camp” program as well, see this month’s Tween Scene for more info), and hiking trails, too.

In town, your first stop should be native son and photographer Jim Brandenburg’s gallery, at the Rock County Courthouse Square on East Luverne Street. This beautiful non-profit gallery includes captivating images with a focus on the vanishing prairie. Profits benefit the

Brandenburg Prairie Foundation to promote, preserve, and expand the native prairie in southwest Minnesota. Other points of interest include the Palace Theater, which underwent a $1 million renovation in order to host the world premiere of Ken Burns’ documentary; the Verne Drive-in movie theater; and a visit to the fascinating home of writer Frederick Manfred, now a visitor center for Blue Mounds State Park.

Note that one side of the home is incorporated bare rock, including a fascinating stairway carved right into it.

Hungry? Then off you go to town, where suggested dining venues include the pleasant Coffey Haus, (the most expensive item on the menu appears to be about $6.95) or Dang Fine Dine Café for the bacon cheeseburger topped with an egg.

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community events

Blue Mounds State Park.

Bash in the Grass & Barbeque Rib Cook-off, July 14

photo courtesy of Explore Minnesota Tourism

Enjoy a great day of festivities at the Distance from downtown Minneapolis: about 200 miles Best known for: Blue Mounds State Park; Touch the Sky Prairie; being one of the four U.S. cities anchoring Ken Burns’ 2007 15-hour PBS documentary, The War; hometown of famed photographer Jim Brandenburg Town adage: The best of yesterday and today.

Luverne City Park. Join Habitat for Humanities for their 3rd annual Barbeque Rib Cook-off. Free music and beer garden while talented grillers create their great ribs. Join the Luverne Hockey Association for Bash in the Grass at the grass dance at Luverne City Park. Beer garden and food available. Tickets for the dance — $10 person (age 18 and older) 6th Annual Art Rocks, August 25

Over 30 fine artists from the region display and sell their work at this juried art show. All art mediums are exhibited in this show developed by artists for artists.

Live music performed throughout the day, food vendors. Saturday night at 7:00 pm enjoy the Blue Mounds Writers Series with Robert and Ruth Bly. Join the Rock County Historical Society for Stories from the Graves at Maplewood Cemetery with tours, tales, food, music, and fellowship beginning at 11:30 am on Sunday

Pitstop:

New Ulm

Shake your sillies out in: New Ulm

Head to Schonlau Park (Intersection of 4th North and Minnesota streets) to take in the 45-foot tall Glockenspiel, one of the few freestanding carillons of its size in the world. Watch the 12 figurines from New Ulm’s history “perform” from their perch inside at noon, 3:00 p.m., and 5:00 p.m. every day. It’s worth the short detour you will need to make off the highway. •

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Different than praise, encouragement builds character in a different way

Encouraging words

By Kelly Bartlett

It’s no secret that kids need encouragement to thrive. But what exactly does encouragement sound like? It’s different than praise or admiration or guidance.

It is common to want to give evaluative feedback to kids for their work: (“Good coloring!”), or to tell them what we like about their accomplishments: (“I like how you set the table.”), or what we expect of their behavior: (“You need to try your best at school today.”). Though these kinds of responses are well meaning, they teach kids to rely on our evaluations rather than to learn to form their own judgments about behavior.

Alfie Kohn, researcher and author of Punished by Rewards, says that kids can come to depend on praise and external validation instead of finding satisfaction in doing the right thing simply because it’s the right thing to do. “Rather than bolstering a child’s self-esteem, praise may increase kids’ dependence on us. It leads

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them to measure their worth in terms of what will lead us to smile and dole out some more approval,” says Kohn. He recommends that parents focus on supporting and encouraging their child’s efforts, rather than on praising the results.

Encouragement is about teaching kids to see the value of their own accomplishments and to be in charge of their own success. It fosters internal strength and motivation by keeping the focus of children’s behavior on themselves instead of anyone else. As psychologist Rudolf Dreikurs said, “A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.” Here are five encouraging things to say to your kids on a regular basis:

“thank you!”

For tasks that a child has completed, let him know his efforts are appreciated. Tell him, “That helped a lot,” and “I appreciate the time you spent on this.” It lets him

know that his work is meaningful and he is an important contributor to the family.

Saying ‘thank you’ is no less celebratory than saying ‘good job.’ Expressing gratitude for a job well done still communicates excitement and pride. The difference is you don’t need to tell your child that what he did was “good”; he will inherently feel it.

Claire, a stay-at-home mom of three boys, said that at dinner one night, she thanked her three-year-old, Tucker, for giving each family member a napkin to use. When Tucker climbed into his chair and replied, “Mama, I like you thanking me. That feels nice,” she was struck by the power of those simple words. Without any praise, Tucker felt significant and appreciated; he felt his “good job,” and he was motivated to do it again.

tion than a one-sided monologue. When a child is heard, she feels known.

“You did it!”

“I trust you.”

Use this kind of encouragement for when a child has achieved a goal or milestone.

Cheer for your child by focusing on the effort it took to get there, rather than on the outcome. Instead of saying, “I like how you built that LEGO tower,” respond with, “Wow you worked hard on that!”, “Look at what you accomplished!”, or, “You must feel proud.” Responses like these focus the accomplishment on the child’s inner work, rather than on a parent’s external evaluation. It’s much more encouraging to say, “You sure never gave up during your game!” than, “You won your game, good job.”

Instead of providing the answers and directing kids toward what to do, encourage them to make decisions and solve problems by letting them know you trust their ability to decide for themselves.

Say things like, “I know you can figure this out,” “I have faith in you to find a solution,” “I know you’ll make an appropriate decision,” or “You lead the way on this.” Entrusting kids to make their own decisions is very empowering for them!

It shifts the dynamic from a parent’s control over a child to one of shared control. It encourages kids to think through problems and come up with their own solutions.

Remember that by opting for encouragement over praise, you’re not ignoring your kids’ accomplishments or successes.

Encouragement is simply about keeping your response focused on their efforts and feelings as opposed to only the outcomes. Encouraging words not only reassure kids during times of success (“Wow, that took a lot of concentration!”), but also in times of disappointment (“I have faith in you to fix this mistake.”). Instead of looking to a parent for affirmation, kids are able to decide how they feel about themselves. Their failures and successes, as they should be, are about them, not anyone else.

“I’m listening.”

What could be more encouraging than to know someone is receptive to what you have to say? Active listening validates a child’s sense of significance and belonging in the family; they know they’re important and they matter. Let kids know you’re taking their thoughts seriously by echoing their statements back to them. There should be some back-and-forth with open-ended questions (“What would you do about that?”), empathy (“Wow, you must have felt scared.”), and reflections (“Oh, you decided to take a break so you could calm down.”).

Good listening sounds more like a conversa-

“It’s okay to cry.”

It’s important for kids to know that their feelings are always okay. Learning how to manage these feelings takes support, acceptance, and lots of practice.

Encourage kids by communicating that they are not wrong to experience unpleasant feelings like sadness, anger, or fear. Instead of saying, “You’re okay. Don’t be upset,” let your child know, “You have the right to feel angry. I understand; I would feel mad, too.” Or, “I can see you feel very sad right now, and that’s okay.”

Validating your child’s feelings leads to his own acceptance of them, and the realization that he is capable of handling them.

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Out About

Move and Groove Family Fest Î Celebrating kids’ fitness, healthy eating, and wellness in a fun, interactive environment, there will be myriad fun things for families to see and experience, including the Music & Dance stage featuring the Laurie Berkner Band, Okee Dokee Bros., hands-on culinary demonstrations, the Move & Groove playground and video games for fun and fitness. Plenty of activities that encourage kids to develop their creativity and imagination too.

When: July 8th, 10:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Where: Basilica of St. Mary, Minneapolis Cost: FREE admission; concerts are $10 per person, FREE age 2 and under info: moveandgroovefamilyfest.com

Eat Local Farm Tour Î Sponsored by 10 Twin Cities area food co-ops, this tour will highlight 10 to 15 Minnesota farms, allowing you to meet directly with local producers to learn more about our local food system and its importance. Visit one or more, see plants, animals, meet the people behind what you eat! Ample taste-testing, too!

When: July 21, Hours of operation differ Where: 100 miles radius of the Mpls./St. Paul area, FREE guidebook available Cost: FREE info: facebook.com/EatLocalFarmTour.coop

ONGOING Minneapolis Aquatennial Î The 2012 Minneapolis Aquatennial is the official civic celebration of the City of Minneapolis. It’s the 73rd annual event.

Flagship events include the Star Tribune Beach Bash on July 15, the CenterPoint Energy Torchlight Parade on July 18 and the Target Fireworks on July 21.

When: July 13 to 21

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Where: Various locations around Minneapolis Cost: Most events are FREE info: aquatennial.com

Sparky the Sea Lion Show “Zoolympics” Î This year, in honor of the 2012 Summer Olympics in London, Sparky the Sea Lion is competing in her own version of the

games, the Zoolympics. Sparky will test her skills in competition against sharks, puffins, and even jellyfish in events that highlight the natural behaviors of the oceans’ inhabitants. While Sparky is a formidable opponent in many of the events such as the smile competition and the breach jump, she succeeds in what she does best…being a sea lion!

When: 11:30 p.m. daily; add’l show at 3:00 p.m. weekends and holidays

Where: Como Park Zoo & Conservatory, St. Paul Cost: FREE; voluntary donation Info: comozooconservatory.org or 651487-8200

Mr. Toad’s Wild Adventure ÎÎThe eccentric Mr. Toad sets the pace for adventure in this high-spirited comedy when he discovers an untamable passion for fast cars. His reckless escapades behind the wheel soon land him in jail and it’s up to his loyal friends, Mole, Ratty, and Badger to clear his good name. Adapted from Kenneth Grahame’s classic children’s book, The Wind in the Willows, this heartwarming musical adaptation is great fun for all ages.

When: Through August 4 with various daytime show starts Where: Old Log Theater, Greenwood Cost: $16 with discounts for groups 10 or more Info: oldlog.com or 952-474-5951

DINOSAURS! ÎÎFifteen larger-than-life animatronic dinosaurs, including the popular Tyrannosaurus Rex, Giganotosaurus, and Brachiosaurus, will take up residence along the Minnesota Zoo’s Northern Trail this summer. Pre-historic adventure awaits!

Where: Minnesota Zoo, Apple Valley When: Through September 3 Cost: Two and under, free; $12 to $18, all others. Parking, $5 Info: mnzoo.org or 952-431-9200

Real Pirates ÎÎAhoy, landlubbers! Hollywood’s glamorous and adventure-packed portrayal of pirates has captured our imaginations for generations. But what was life on the high seas really like during the Golden Age of Piracy? You’ll find out in Real Pirates: The Untold Story of the Whydah from Slave Ship to Pirate Ship.

When: Through September 3 Where: Science Museum of Minnesota, St. Paul Cost: Tickets are timed and dated, cost

varies from $12 to $25 Info: smm.org or 651-221-9444

Preschool Playdate ÎÎEach Tuesday, the Science Museum offers preschool appropriate activities that will keep little hands busy and little minds buzzing. A Preschool Playdates ticket includes admission to the exhibit galleries, take-home science experiment, preschool perfect Science Live performances and science demonstrations, and various discounts.

When: 10:00 a.m. to noon Where: Science Museum of Minnesota, St. Paul Cost: Under five, FREE; $13 for adults Info: smm.org/playdates or 651-2219444

Wee Wednesdays ÎÎWee Wednesdays have plenty to see and do for toddlers and their families. Free, educational programming geared toward children five and under; also features hands-on activities and more.

When: Every Wednesday beginning at 10:30 a.m.

Where: Midtown Global Market, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: midtownglobalmarket.org or 612872-4041

Family Night at the Global Market ÎÎFree live music, a children’s play area, and free balloons for the first 50 children.

Businesses will validate your parking (for up to three hours) with purchase if you park in the 10th Avenue parking ramp.

When: Every Friday from 5:00 to 8:00 p.m.

Where: Midtown Global Market, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: midtownglobalmarket.org or 612-872-4041

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Out About 1 Sunday Sandcastles ÎÎEnjoy an afternoon of sandcastle building and sculpture contests, party games and contests, beach music, prizes, and more. Lifeguards will be on duty starting at 11 a.m.

When: Noon to 3:00 p.m.

Where: Bush Lake Beach, Bloomington Cost: Parking fee on site of $6.25 Info: ci.bloomington.mn.us or 952-563-4731

3 Tuesday Family Fun Tuesdays: Raptors ÎÎA trained naturalist from Dodge Nature Center will bring one of their majestic raptors to show what makes these birds of prey so unique. See a live raptor and participate in hands-on activities to better understand the crucial role these birds play in the environment.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park sculpture garden, Eagan Cost: FREE; $4 per person suggested donation to support the park Info: caponiartpark.org or 651-454-9412

Summer Fete ÎÎBloomington’s Summer Fete has become the true “ringing in” of Independence Day in the Twin Cities. This year’s fun starts with a carnival, includes two entertainment stages—the Kid’s stage and the Main Stage—featuring a great lineup of performers, and as usual, culminates with a fantastic fireworks display just after dusk!

When: 5:00 p.m. until after dusk Where: Normandale Lake Bandshell, 84th Street, Bloomington Cost: FREE Info: ci.bloomington.mn.us or 952-563-8895

Independence Day Celebration at Fort Snelling.

4 Wednesday Farmer’s Fourth of July ÎÎBring a picnic lunch to enjoy on the lawn, watch the spring lambs prance about, and take horse-drawn trolley ride along the nature trail. Join in 19th-century games and contests including townball, the precursor to modern baseball. Enjoy costumed staff and celebrate the most important holiday in America in the 19th century.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Oliver H. Kelley Farm, Elk River Cost: $9 adults, $7 seniors and college students, $6 children ages 6–17; FREE for children age 5 and under and MHS members Info: visitmnhistory.org or 763-441-6896

Independence Day Celebration ÎÎSpend the day celebrating our nation’s independence as people did in the early 1800s. Hear the roar of cannon salutes, listen to rousing patriotic speeches, watch a special theatrical presentation put on by the fort’s soldiers, witness a military dress parade, hear patriotic and military fife and drum music, and try your hand at historic games.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Historic Fort Snelling, St. Paul Cost: $9 adults, $7 seniors and college

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students, $6 children ages 6–17; FREE for children age 5 and under and MHS members Info: visitmnhistory.org or 763-441-6896

7 Saturday Free 1st Saturdays at the Walker Art Center: Kids’ Democracy Day ÎÎInspired by the Occupy Wall Street movements, kids and adults experiment with the power of words and drawings.

Mark important days in Minnesota’s civic past and present on this 2012–2013 monthly calendar. This project was designed to share experiences of parents talking to their kids about realworld issues.

When: 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. (family activities until 3:00) Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

Saturday Live!

Hunter Marionettes ÎÎAccompanied by music ranging from classical to lively dance tunes, each member of this cast of intricate, handcrafted marionettes will entertain you with

his or her own special talents. In a typical performance, you’ll see a penguin try his luck on the flying trapeze. You’ll see an ostrich attempt to fly.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: sppl.org/kids/parents/saturday-live or 651-266-7034

8 Sunday Move and Groove Family Fest ÎÎSee description, Parent Picks, page 26 When: 10:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Family Day at the MIA: Rembrandt ÎÎCelebrate the MIA’s special exhibition, “Rembrandt in America,” with a kidfriendly event dedicated to this legendary Dutch artist. Paint a marvelous selfportrait. Hear beautiful music from the 17th century. Tour the galleries and muse over masterpieces.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Minneapolis Institute of Arts Cost: FREE Info: 612-870-3000 or artsmia.org

10 Tuesday Family Fun Tuesdays: Mexican Folk Dance ÎÎLos Alegres Bailadores offers an authentic performance of traditional music and movements celebrating Mexican heritage. Beautiful dance costumes worn by performers of all ages create a fun environment for kids to learn about Mexican culture, music, and dance.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park sculpture garden, Eagan Cost: FREE; $4 per person suggested donation to support the park Info: caponiartpark.org or 651-454-9412

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Out About Open Eye Figure Theatre.

Arty Pants ÎÎArty Pants: Your Tuesday Playdate, features activities for adults and youngsters ages three to five. Art projects, films, gallery activities, and story time.

When: 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE with gallery admission; Walker members and kids ages 12 and under are always free.

Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

11 Wednesday Okee Dokee Brothers ÎÎAn hour of kid-focused, interactive fun and music at Woodbury Lakes.

When: 10:00 to 11:00 a.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE Info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

Tour shows.

When: 11:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m.

Where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: Pay-as-able (suggested $5 for adults $2 for kids) Info: openeyetheatre.org

12 Thursday The Irresistibles with Mick Sterling

Saturday Live! Alan Johnson Comedy Juggler

ÎÎGrab a lawn chair or blanket and soak up the sun and sounds of summer at the Summer Concert Series at Woodbury Lakes. Enjoy family-friendly local artists playing all types of music including rock, jazz, covers and more.

ÎÎA unique blend of comedy and juggling with a lot of audience participation.

Join Alan as he takes you on a tour of a variety of circus skills and educates as he entertains. Laughter abounds in a show that’s perfect for the whole family.

When: 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE Info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: sppl.org/kids/parents/saturday-live or 651-266-7034

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Adventures of Katie Tomatie

Bastille Day Block Party

ÎÎOriginal family-friendly live puppet theater straight from the Driveway Tour to Open Eye Figure Theatre for two performances. Katie Tomatie is the most well-known and popular of the Driveway

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ÎÎBastille Day Block Party, set in the heart of Uptown and in association with Barbette restaurant, is a celebration of French culture, featuring popular local music acts and great food.

When: 3:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m.

Where: 1600 W. Lake Street,

Minneapolis Cost: FREE attendance, food extra Info: barbette.com/events

Free 3rd Sundays at the Minnesota Children’s Museum ÎÎThanks to the generosity of Target Corporation, visitors can roam the Museum free of charge every third Sunday of each month.

When: 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Minnesota Children’s Museum Cost: FREE Info: mcm.org or 651-225-6000

17 Tuesday Family Fun Tuesdays: Irish Music and Dance ÎÎStudents and teachers from O’Shea Irish Dance will celebrate the rich tradition of Irish Dance with an exciting step dance performance. The nationally-recognized O’Shea Irish Dancers will perform and teach a variety of traditional Irish step dances.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park sculpture garden, Eagan Cost: FREE; $4 per person suggested donation to support the park Info: caponiartpark.org or 651-454-9412

18 WEDNESDAy Koo Koo Kangaroo Î An hour of kid-focused, interactive fun and music at Woodbury Lakes.

When: 10:00 to 11:00 a.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

19 tHURSDAy tim Mahoney Î Grab a lawn chair or blanket and soak up the sun and sounds of summer at the Summer Concert Series at Woodbury Lakes. Enjoy family-friendly local artists playing all types of music including rock, jazz, covers and more.

When: 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

21 SAtURDAy Eat Local Farm tour Î See description, Parent Picks, page 26 When: Hours of operation differ

the Amazing Cow Boat Î Original family-friendly live puppet theater straight from the Driveway Tour to Open Eye Figure Theatre for two performances. Cow Boat is last summer’s runaway driveway hit.

When: 11:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m.

Where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: Pay-as-able (suggested $5 for adults $2 for kids) info: openeyetheatre.org

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Out About Saturday Live!

A Touch of Magic ÎÎJoin us for physical comedy, ageappropriate humor and uproarious audience participation. It’s a clown show without the make-up—perfect for everyone!

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE Info: sppl.org/kids/parents/saturday-live or 651-266-7034

22 Sunday Irish Music and Dance ÎÎCome and enjoy a lively performance by the O’Shea Irish.

When: 6:30 p.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park Theater in the Woods, Eagan Cost: FREE; $4 per person suggested donation to support the park Info: caponiartpark.org or 651-454-9412

24 Tuesday Family Fun Tuesdays: Clips, Claps, and Clunks ÎÎMusic first comes from the heart and then you find something to play it on! The Minnesota Percussion Trio uses simple or found instruments such as five-gallon buckets, claves, paper, tin cans, and more to creatively compose their songs. Learn how these unlikely instruments and their sounds unlock the musical possibilities of the things around us.

When: 10:00 a.m.

Where: Caponi Art Park sculpture garden, Eagan Cost: FREE; $4 per person suggested donation to support the park Info: caponiartpark.org or 651-454-9412

Arty Pants ÎÎArty Pants: Your Tuesday Playdate, features activities for adults and youngsters ages three to five. Art projects, films, gallery activities, and story time.

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When: 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

Where: Walker Art Center, Minneapolis Cost: FREE with gallery admission; Walker members and kids ages 12 and under are always free.

Info: walkerart.org or 612-375-7600

25 Wednesday MacPhail Center for Music ÎÎAn hour of kid-focused, interactive fun and music at Woodbury Lakes.

When: 10:00 to 11:00 a.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE Info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

Camden’s Concert ÎÎCamden’s Concert, a benefit to raise money for research into a cure for cystic fibrosis (CF), is bringing Grammy Awardwinning songstress Suzy Bogguss to perform and entertain. Concert namesake, Camden Mona, is the only grandchild of longtime Minnesota residents Dave and Linda Mona and was diagnosed with CF at birth in 2007.

When: 7:30 p.m.

Where: Hopkins Center for the Arts Cost: $25 to $100 Info: 952-979-1100

26 Thursday GB Leighton ÎÎGrab a lawn chair or blanket and soak up the sun and sounds of summer at the Summer Concert Series at Woodbury Lakes. Enjoy family-friendly local artists playing all types of music including rock, jazz, covers and more.

When: 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

Where: Woodbury Lakes Shopping Center, outside Cost: FREE Info: woodburylakes.com or 651-251-9500

27 Friday NE Dog Parade ÎÎThis canine-centric celebration features a gathering of pooches and people. It kicks off at 5:00 p.m. with a picnic at Chute Square. The parade winds through the neighborhood with dog-themed prizes, a “dogtail” hour, and flea market in front of the Red Stag and Key North.

When: 5:00 to 8:00 p.m.

Where: Chute Park, NE Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: northeastminneapolis.com/ dog-parade/

Ely Blueberry Festival ÎÎThree hundred exhibitors, original art, handcrafts, ethnic foods, children’s events, stage shows and of course, blueberries!

When: Noon to 7:00 p.m.

Where: Whiteside Park, Ely Cost: FREE Info: ely.org or 218-365-6123

28 Saturday Midtown Global Jazz Festival ÎÎA free, community-based celebration featuring a main stage with a line-up of great artists performing jazz styles from around the globe. There will also be a music education stage featuring local performances, jazz workshops, and interactive demonstrations for all ages.

Great food, dozens of local art vendors with tables overflowing with handmade jewelry, photography, painting, pottery, and more.

When: noon to 8:00 p.m.

Where: Midtown Global Market, Minneapolis Cost: FREE Info: midtownglobalmarket.com/jazz/

The Adventures of Juan Bobo ÎÎOriginal family-friendly live puppet theater straight from the Driveway Tour

to Open Eye Figure Theatre for two performances. Juan Bobo is a perennial favorite, in Spanish and English.

When: 11:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m.

Where: Open Eye Figure Theatre, Minneapolis Cost: Pay-as-able (suggested $5 for adults $2 for kids) info: openeyetheatre.org

Red Hot Art 2012 Î One of the city’s premier grass roots arts festivals, the event features about 100 booths dedicated to visual artists with 30 musical acts performing as well. Î When: 11:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.

Where: Stevens Square Park, southwest Minneapolis Cost: FREE info: redhotart.org

Saturday Live!

Minnesota Zoomobile Î Zoomobile Naturalists use live animals, biological artifacts, theater techniques, story telling, and audience participation to create a dynamic, personal, and fun program for all ages.

When: 11:15 a.m. to noon Where: St. Paul Public Library, Central Library Cost: FREE info: sppl.org/kids/parents/saturday-live or 651-266-7034

Ely Blueberry Festival Î See description, Friday, July 27 When: 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m.

29 SUNDAy Ely Blueberry Festival Î See description, Friday, July 27 When: 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

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sun safety IQ

By Sandra Gordon

You’ve read the statistics before: Eighty percent of harmful sun exposure occurs before the age of 18. That’s why you’re careful to slather sunscreen on your child when she’s at the beach or pool. But how sun-smart are you when it comes to the nitty-gritty of deciphering SPFs, picking the best sunscreen, or treating a mild sunburn? We guarantee you’ll learn some new facts from our quiz that will help you keep your child’s skin healthier this summer—and reduce risk of skin cancer later in life.

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True or false: Babies younger than six months shouldn’t wear sunscreen.

Answer False. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says it’s safe for infants younger than six months to wear minimal amounts of sunscreen on small areas such as the face and neck. In general, however, the AAP advises that you keep a baby younger than six months in the shade.

“Babies are more prone than adults to sunburn because their skin is thinner and their body’s protective tanning response isn’t developed,” explains Jim Chow, M.D., a dermatologist at the Columbia Skin

Clinic, in Columbia, S.C. If you can’t avoid exposing your baby to the sun, use a broad-spectrum sunscreen with a sun protection factor (SPF) of 15 or higher. According to new Food and Drug Administration requirements, which regulated the label lingo for over-thecounter sunscreen products, “broad spectrum” means the sunscreen has passed a standardized test indicating that it protects against ultraviolet A (UVA) and ultraviolet B (UVB) rays proportionally.

UVA radiation primarily contributes to skin cancer and early skin aging and UVB rays primarily cause sunburn. You want to safeguard skin from both, so zone in on the words “broad spectrum.”

Are you doing enough to protect your child from the sun’s damaging rays? Take our quiz and find out!

Which is best at protecting kids from the sun: a. Waterproof sunscreen b. Sweatproof sunscreen c. Sunblock d. None of the above Answer D. No sunscreens are “waterproof,” “sweat proof,” or can qualify as “sunblock.” Actually, you won’t get bogged down by those label terms anymore because they’ve been eliminated. All sunscreens eventually wash off and sunblock overstates a sunscreen’s effectiveness. However, you may see the words “water resistant,” which means that the sunscreen remains effective for

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40 minutes or 80 minutes while swimming or sweating, based on standard testing. If your child will be sweating or swimming, definitely get a water resistant sunscreen.

Which are more harmful: a. UVA rays b. UVB rays Answer A and B. They are equally harmful because both types can cause skin cancer and are considered carcinogens. The sun’s penetrating UVB rays also cause sunburn.

UVA rays break down the skin’s collagen, leading to wrinkles.

Your child’s highest risk for a sunburn is: a. At the beach b. At the pool c. On a hike in the mountains d. At the playground Answer A, B, and C. The beach, the pool, and the mountains are all serious sunburn spots. In or near the water, everyone gets a double whammy of ultraviolet radiation: harmful rays from above and those reflecting off of the water. At high altitudes, the sun’s rays are also more dangerous to your child because they’re more concentrated. The sun is less of a threat on the playground because some rays are absorbed by the dark surface— but children will still get burned if you don’t apply sunscreen.

And remember that your kids can also get burned through a car window or on a cloudy or hazy day. “You can’t see or feel ultraviolet radiation. But it’s there and it can be powerful,” says David J. Leffell, M.D., a professor of dermatology and surgery at the Yale School of Medicine.

Kids need to start wearing sunglasses: a. At 6 months of age b. At 6 years of age c. When they’re old enough to read Answer A. Six months of age is a good time to start putting mini sunglasses on your child—if you can get her to keep them on. Pint-size sunglasses that filter out 99 to 100 percent of the sun’s UVA and

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UV rays (the label will say so) can help reduce your child’s risk of age-related cataracts. Ideally, your child’s sunglasses should be made of polycarbonate, a shatterproof synthetic material that can protect her eyes from injury if she trips and falls or gets hit in the face by a ball.

True or false: A sunscreen with a SPF of 30 protects your child twice as long as one with an SPF of 15.

Answer False. A sunscreen with an SPF of 30 blocks 96 to 97 percent of the sun’s rays, only two to three percent more than a sunscreen with a SPF of 15 does. Still, if your kids are going to be in the sun for more than a couple of hours, opt for the higher number. “The extra two to three percent of protection can make a difference,” says Kathleen Behr, M.D., a dermatologist and skin cancer specialist in Fresno, Calif. But more isn’t better.

According to the FDA, products with an SPF of more than 50 haven’t been shown to provide greater protection. That’s why you’ll see that the maximum SPF value on sunscreens is now just “50+.” For the best protection against the sun’s bad rays, look for a broad spectrum sunscreen with an SPF of 15 to 50.

The best way to soothe a child’s mild sunburn is to: a. A pply a thin layer of petroleum jelly b. Have her take a bath, then put

on moisturizer c. J ust leave the skin alone; it will heal faster by itself Answer B. The bath will cool your child off, and a basic moisturizer (doctors suggest Lubriderm and Keri) helps replenish dried-out skin. To reduce the inflammation, provide children’s ibuprofen within the first 48 hours. And keep her out of the sun until her sunburn is healed. If your baby gets burned, give her juice or water to replace lost fluids and call your pediatrician immediately. A severe sunburn in an infant can be dangerous.

True or false: Most sunscreens have a shelf life of: a. One year b. Five years c. Depends on the brand Answer A. Even if the product that’s been hanging around in your medicine cabinet has not expired, it’s best to replace your sunscreen every summer to be sure it’s as effective as possible for your children.

The very best way to protect your child from the sun’s burning rays is: a. B y having her wear a brimmed hat and other clothing that will block out the sun b. By keeping him in the shade c. By using a broad-spectrum sunscreen

Answer All of the above. “Sunscreen is only one component,” Dr. Behr says. Try to keep your child out of direct sunlight between 10:00 a.m. and 2:00 p.m., when the sun is strongest. If this is unrealistic, have him take frequent breaks in the shade. At the beach, make sure he wears a hat, and have him wear a shirt at least part of the day.

it’s a good idea to apply sunscreen to your child: a. 30 minutes before going out in the sun b. 10 minutes before going out in the sun c. As soon as she gets outside Answer A. Because sunscreen needs plenty of time to penetrate the skin, apply a generous amount of sunscreen all over your child’s body—including the areas beneath her clothes—about half an hour before she goes outside. Kids can burn very quickly, especially under the summer’s intense rays. And, worse, you can’t necessarily tell when they’re getting fried. Often, a sunburn doesn’t show up until that night or the next morning. And by the time your child’s skin does start to look pink while he’s playing in the sun, the damage is already done.

True or false: it’s okay to use an adult sunscreen on your child’s skin.

Answer True. It’s not necessary to buy one sunscreen for you and a separate one for your kids, since adult versions are rarely irritating. “I put the same sunscreen on my children that I use, unless I notice that they have a sensitivity to it,” Dr. Behr says.

It’s also fine for you to use the kids’ stuff, since it works as well as the adult version.

If your kids squirm or protest when it’s time to put on sunscreen, a children’s product that comes in a brightly colored bottle with a spray or foam applicator might make the process a little more bearable for both of you, but don’t let them spray it on their face. •

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Squishy birthday sweets

kids. And because it’s a recipe that encourages kids to play with their food, it provides that walking-on-the-wild side feeling that most tots can’t resist. With just a little planning ahead on your part, you can turn the next birthday party at your house into one they’ll be talking about for weeks to come—or at least as long as it takes to lick all the chocolate from between their fingers.

By Julie Kendrick

First step

You’ve seen cake pops before, of course, sitting primly on the countertops of local bakeries and coffeehouses. Hyper-decorated and covered in cellophane, they usually fetch upwards of two dollars for what is, essentially, a couple of bites of frosting-covered cake on a stick.

While the fancy-schmanzy cake pop certainly has its place as a special treat, here’s a little secret about them that even the guy behind the coffeeshop counter probably doesn’t know—they are super easy, and super fun, to make at home with

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Here’s what you need to do: Bake one cake mix (any old kind will do, but you can’t go wrong with chocolate) according to package directions in a 13" x 9" pan and let cool in pan for at least a couple hours or as long as a day or so (a little bit drier is actually better). When the kids are ready to party, give one big mixing bowl to each “chef.” Open up a can of frosting and dole out about three quarters (about 1-1/3 cup), divided equally into each bowl.

Then slice off slabs of cake and drop some into each bowl. “Kids,” you may now

intone, “Starting squishing!”

The kids’ job is to thoroughly smoosh the cake and frosting together, and to enjoy the squishy fun of mashing something so delicious into a beautifully combined treat. Let them do this for as long as they’d like—they really can’t hurt this stuff, we promise. The amount of frosting you add doesn’t have to be super-precise, but you want the mixture to be moist enough to roll, but not overly full of frosting when you bite into it. You’re aiming for more cake than frosting, but cake that holds its shape nicely. So yes, now you have permission to taste it.

When everyone begins to tire, and the frosting seems completely mixed into the cake, it’s time to roll the mixture into balls. You can make them any size you want—as big as bakery cake pops (about 1-1/2" in diameter) or smaller, more bite sized versions (about 3/4"). If you have an antsy bunch, you’re done. Eat them all up and call it a party well done. If your crowd has the attention span for a little bit more

The fun part of cake ball making.

Photo by Julie Kendrick

kitchen fun, you can move to the next step and set the rolled balls on a cookie sheet, popping it into the freezer for half an hour or so, until firm. (Have the kids wash up the mixing bowls while you wait.)

Meanwhile, melt some candy wafers in a double boiler or microwave, according to directions. If you want to make pops, you can insert one lollipop stick, available at craft stores, into each chilled ball. (A cheaper method is to buy bamboo skewers and cut them in half.) For a pop-less version, no stick is needed. Move the cookie sheet from freezer to refrigerator and keep the extra balls there while you dip a few at a time.

Dip the cake balls into the melted candy. Set them on waxed paper, or place the sticks upright into a block of styrofoam that’s been set into a cake pan. If you’re feeling fancy, dig out the sprinkles, or drizzle with melted wafers in a contrasting color. Cool in the refrigerator for half an hour to set the coating. If you have any leftovers from your smoosh-athon, place finished balls on small cupcake liners, or invert cellophane bags over each pop and tie with ribbon.

Basic Ingredients One box cake mix, any flavor, baked according to directions About 3/4 of one can frosting (1-1/3 cups), any flavor 1 to 2 packages candy melts or almond bark, melted according to directions

Options Lollipop sticks, or bamboo skewers cut in half Cake ball forms, available from mylittlecupcakepop.com and others Sprinkles Styrofoam block set in cake pan, for drying and display

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July Bookshelf Citius, Altius, Fortius: Celebrate Olympic glory though reading!

By Claire Walling

touch the Sky: Alice Coachman, Olympic High Jumper

Profiles in Sports Courage

By Ann Malaspina, Illustrated by Eric Velasquez

Peachtree, $15.95

By Ken Rappoport

Albert Whitman & Company, $16.99

The first high jump cross bar that Alice Coachman ever cleared was made out of rags tied to sticks shoved into the Georgia clay, but from that humble beginning she went on to win a gold medal at the 1948 London Olympics. Kids will enjoy the catchy freestyle verse and colorful illustrations, and parents will appreciate the encouraging story of a young girl pursuing her dream to become an Olympic champion.

Profiles of 12 brave athletes, many of them former Olympic greats, will get older kids thinking about the history that will be made at this summer’s games in London. The gripping narrative gives a glimpse of the struggles each athlete faced on their way to glory.

So you think you Know the Olympics?

By Clive Gifford Hodder & Stoughton, $8.99

In the Olympic motto, does the word ‘citius’ mean higher, more powerful or faster? Or can you name one of the three sports that George Eyser, a man with a wooden leg, won at the 1904 Olympics? With over 1,000 questions on everything from the first Olympics to this summer’s games in London, this quiz book will put even gold medalists to the test.

Ladies First

By Ken Rappoport

G is for Gold Medal: An Olympics Alphabet

By Brad Herzog, Illustrated by Doug Bowles Sleeping Bear Press, $15.95

With the rapidly approaching Games in London, what better way celebrate Olympic fever than from A to Z? Catchy prose and vivid illustrations are accompanied by facts and trivia about the different sports featured in the summer and winter Olympics, from archery to water polo.

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Peachtree, $8.95

Today’s girls might be used to having all the same sports opportunities as boys, but don’t realize that many events at the Olympics haven’t been available to women for very long. Ken Rappoport shines a light on the trail-blazing athletes who paved the way for the women who followed them.

n i n u F n u s the Slap on the sunscreen and kick those kids outside for some summer fun!

By Kathleen Stoehr

Pool buddies

Super soaking

For the backyard splash pool or the tub, Toy Story Color Splash boat and Color Splash Buddies change color depending upon whether it’s warm or cold. The boat is outfitted with a detachable rescue dinghy that doubles as a water scoop, built-in flashing LED lights, squirting rubber ducky and more, offering good play value.

Soak your opponent to the max with the compact Nerf Super Soaker Electrostorm water blaster—no pumping required! The motorized blaster holds 2.6 ounces of water and can shoot a stream of water up to 25 feet, an advantage in any water battle.

Requires four batteries, not included.

About $20 for boat, two-packs $8

about $10

Major retailers or hasbrotoyshop.com;

Root viewer Designed to provide the curious gardener with an up-close view of their plant’s growth above and below the soil, the Root Viewer kit from Miracle-Gro features onion, carrot, and radish seeds, and an illustrated Gro-Chart to help kids learn about plant growth and root systems.

Major retailers or miraclegro.com/kids; about $13

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Nothing really prepared me for how much I would learn and grow through hosting “Moms Like Us”…

Even more than that, I love getting to see moms interact and learn with other moms.

What’s been your biggest challenge for “Moms Like Us?”

So far, the biggest challenge has been getting moms on the show. Everyone is nervous the first time they’re in front of a camera—I know I was, but it can be hard to convince other moms that it’s not so bad once you overcome that fear.

So many moms have great anecdotes and advice, but are too camera shy to want to come on the show. We start each show by practicing with the cameras off, and I tell them that we can re-shoot a portion if necessary. I’m always looking for moms to come onto the show, so if anyone is reading this and thinks they would make a great panelist I’d love to hear from them.

And the biggest reward?

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real mom

Elizabeth Mennell Last fall Minnesota mother of four Elizabeth Mennell had an idea: she wanted to give moms a sounding board for the issues they deal with every day. Over the years she had found that moms give the best advice to other moms, and wanted to create a place where they could share and discuss information with one another. A few months later she found herself sitting in front of the camera, hosting the first online episode of “Moms Like Us.” Starting a new business venture can be daunting, but just like motherhood, it has been a fun and exhausting ride. See for yourself at momslikeus.org.

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— Claire Walling

Q&A How do you decide what the conversation will be about?

I like to tailor the conversation to what’s on moms’ minds at the time. Each 30-minute segment starts with an expert on the topic of the day, and then the conversation is opened up to a panel of moms. Upcoming topics include kids’ sports and mommy-bloggers, but I’m always open to suggestions.

My previous career as a style director for Slumberland gave me a little experience in producing TV commercials, but nothing really prepared me for how much I would learn and grow through hosting “Moms Like Us.” My producer, Jason Stafford, has been a wonderful supporter and helped me with my technical questions as well.

Even more than that, I love getting to see moms interact and learn.

What advice would you give to other moms?

Any kind of new business is a lot of work. I would tell any mom who wants to take that little idea that’s been growing in the back of their mind and make it a reality to keep persevering.

Having a support system is also important; my husband helps me with the business side of “Moms Like Us,” and my three-year-old son and three step kids provide me with motivation and ideas for each episode.