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the black room I was a pretty happy teenager. I just got off the phone with my mother and she confirmed it. I had my share of preteen door slamming, but she says that I was an easy kid to have around once I hit those mid-teen years. So it was tough, and actually even a little hard to fathom, why my daughter went through such a bad patch in her mid-teens. I’ll start this story by saying that thankfully, she was able to work through it, but it took constant parenting as her hormones misfired and her frontal lobe developed. And wow — I had so many questions, the biggest being: How could she be so unhappy at that age, when I was so much the opposite? Our feature writer, Dr. Kara Witt, is probably one of the most intelligent and insightful people I know, and during those times when I was worrying myself crazy over why my daughter wanted to paint her room black and sit in the dark, Kara helped me to understand that things would change. But it would take all hands on deck, never walking away, and always being there, listening and encouraging, but never coddling. And if we needed to go further with medication or counseling, we should accept that too. So, when I was approaching the feature in this issue, I knew the only person who could write it would be my friend. Despite that she has used a fictional teen as an example in her article, there are many kids like that out there, and we are the parents struggling to understand and cope with their varying behaviors. Like I said, my daughter emerged from her adolescence just fine. She’s a tremendous young adult. But my goodness, those teen years were difficult. Every phase of our kids’ lives bring new challenges. I remember thinking, “wow — I can’t wait for the day when she stops putting her fingers in her milk glass.” Geeze, that’s a walk in the park compared to some of the teenage stuff. If only. So here’s hoping that as your kids grow up, they slam their doors only now and again, and as teens are breezy and sunny as a spring day in May. But if not, it’s good to know that help for you, and your child, is available.


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tion, learning to earn, and sharing money. When you combine the random nature of how teens learn about money with the overwhelming number of “spend” messages our culture directs at them, it shouldn’t be a big surprise why so many teens struggle with money issues — especially after they leave home.

KM: How should parents talk to their kids about money? ND: Many parents feel overwhelmed with the task, partly because of their own recognition of past money choices. I often remind them that healthy money habits begin with a conversation. It’s not about having the single perfect conversation; rather it’s a series

making a statement with money by kara mcguire

When you think of teens, “willingly absorbs advice from parents” is probably not the first thing that comes to mind. And yet, here we are, charged with teaching our soon-to-be young adults about budgeting, saving, and using credit wisely. It’s certainly not something kids are guaranteed to learn in school. It’s not necessarily a subject that parents feel they’ve mastered either. Minneapolis author and personal finance expert Nathan Dungan just wrote a new interactive book for families, Money Sanity Solutions: Linking

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parent pages of discussions over many years. It’s important for parents to understand that they play the single biggest role in shaping their child’s money narrative. If they abdicate the responsibility, the culture will step in and fill the void. KM: How can parents strike a balance between telling their kids what to do and giving them room to make their own decisions and mistakes? ND: It’s one of the reasons why I like allowances for needs. Why not proactively shift some of the accountability and responsibility to them while they still live at home? That way they can make some mistakes while the stakes are a little lower and in turn build their confidence around a variety of money skills.

grows on trees KM: Any advice on dealing with peer pressure and income differences between friends? ND: For teens, peer pressure will likely impact most of their spending decisions regardless of socio-economic status. Over the past 20+ years I’ve had the privilege of interacting with thousands of teens about the choices they make with their money. I love challenging teens to articulate their money values and then try to make choices that honor their values — be it how they spend, save, or share their money. In our 18-month research study of 100 parents and their children (most of whom were teens), we gained some significant insight. By the end of the study, the teens who were more prone to spending (which was the

majority) had significantly decreased their focus on spending and significantly increased their self-esteem. It’s a great reminder that when you combine a little parental intervention with tools that help you proactively engage in money conversations, the outcomes can be pretty remarkable. KM: How can we teach teens to be truly charitable? ND: Kids need guidance and boundaries from their parents to help them build healthy money habits. It’s no different than instilling healthy eating habits. If you ask kids to choose between junk food and vegetables, they will always gravitate to the junk unless they’ve developed a palate for

veggies. So too it is with money. As a parent of young daughter, I want to help shape her money narrative, but not in ways that will stifle her curiosity. I want her to have a healthy confidence about money and all of the opportunities and responsibilities that come with the territory. While the benefit of sharing money with others is enormous on a number of fronts, it is just one part of the journey. I also want to help her understand that every time she saves and spends money she is making a statement about what she values and believes. That’s what my parents did for me. Kara McGuire is the Minneapolis Star Tribune’s personal finance columnist. Follow her on Twitter: @kablog.

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practicing cyber safety by joy riggs

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Insults, threats, sharing embarrassing pictures and more are the most common ways in which teens are bullied or harassed online.

As the parent of a ninth-grader devoted to her iPod, a seventh grader who’s enamored of video games, and a fourth-grader who knows his way around YouTube, I worry about the increasing role technology plays in my children’s lives. Yes, I am an old fogey. I prefer print copies of magazines, newspapers, and books. I just bought a CD at a store instead of downloading the album online. I have no games for my cell phone. I don’t dislike technology, but I am slow to adapt to it and leery of its power to put children in situations beyond their maturity level. This is a challenge I never anticipated before I became a parent. It now occupies much of my mental energy — how do

I keep up with technology, not just for myself, but so I can better guide my children? Fortunately, I don’t need to have all the answers. I can learn from people like Dave Eisenmann, the director of instructional technology with the Minnetonka Public Schools. Eisenmann often gives talks in other school districts about cyber safety, and when he spoke recently at my son’s middle school, I attended the presentation.

information is permanent Eisenmann told the auditorium full of cell phone-toting students that they live in exciting times, and that the new technology they enjoy will look clunky to

Dave Eisenmann’s cyber safety tips for parents 1. Proactively discuss values, consequences, and expectations for technology use parent

the next generation, the kids who are now in diapers. To safely navigate the everchanging world of technology, he said it’s important to remember that information put on the internet can be seen by billions of people and is permanent. “We want you to think twice before you digitize anything, whether it’s a picture you post on Facebook or a text message you send,” he said. “It gets saved somewhere on servers and is going to be around for a long time.” Thinking before acting or speaking doesn’t always come easily to teens. Eisenmann said he likes to use something he calls ‘the Grandma test.’ “If you aren’t comfortable

2. Actively engage and monitor teens’ use, and keep up with latest trends 3. Set up a filter for computers and phones 4. Talk about pornography, sexting, and web cams 5. Emphasize that nothing is private 6. Explain that everything is permanent

with Grandma seeing that picture, reading that message, or watching that video on YouTube, don’t send it in the first place,” he said. If students already have posted embarrassing or unflattering information, Eisenmann recommended that they go home and erase it, in hopes that no one else has saved it, and that it won’t remain part of their digital footprint. Other topics Eisenmann addressed were cyberbullying and harassment; inappropriate material; and the dangers of sharing personal information online.

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embarrassing pictures, privacy violations, and password theft are the most common ways in which teens are bullied and harassed, Eisenmann said. People say nastier things over a screen than they would say to a person’s face, and they can’t see the other person’s face to judge the reaction. Technology allows a message meant for one person to quickly be transmitted to a much wider audience. Eisenmann cautioned the students to avoid responding in anger, and he encouraged them to talk to an adult before posting something in retaliation. “Think about how hard it is to take that back. If you send a text to four people, and realize you shouldn’t have sent it, or you’ve forwarded a picture —

how do you get that back? It’s already on four different people’s phones or computers. Once you put it online, you lose control, you can never get it back, and people can use it in ways you can’t imagine.” Eisenmann encouraged anyone who is bullied online to report it. He also encouraged anyone who receives a nude or inappropriate picture to report it immediately to an adult.

inappropriate material Schools place blocks on offensive and inappropriate internet sites. But many students have completely unfiltered internet access at home, which means they have easy access to online pornography. Eisenmann said research shows that young people who

look at porn are training their developing brains to think that those unhealthy depictions of relationships and bodies are healthy. Teens also can become addicted to viewing porn. “If you go over to a friend’s house who wants to show you a video he found online, do your best to avoid that content, in the same way you’ve learned to say no to alcohol and drugs,” he said. Finally, Eisenmann recommended that students set strict privacy settings on social networking sites and “unfriend” anyone they haven’t met in real life because those people may not be who they say they are online. A Northfield writer, Joy Riggs is thinking about getting an iPhone with an old fogey app.

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rules of the road making bike safety a priority by kelly jo mcdonnell

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Siblings Jessica, Marie, and Luke all practice safe cycling habits, including wearing helmets every time they ride.


ids love to ride bikes, and Minnesota loves bicycles — the League of American Cyclists ranked it among the top “bicycle friendly” states in the country. The season is short, yes. But before your kid takes too many laps around the block, it’s a good idea to make sure they are aware of some basic safety concerns. It’s not rocket science, just learning how to stay safe on the road while on two wheels.

head, brain, helmet According to the Kids Health organization, 300,000 kids go to the emergency room because parent

of bike injuries, and at least 10,000 kids have injuries that require a few days in the hospital. Ouch. Whether your child is going out for a long ride, or just hopping on the bike to go to the neighbor’s house, make sure the helmet is on. But don’t go buy any old helmet. The U.S. government has created safety standards for them. A sticker should be on the helmet stating it has met standards set by the Consumer Product Safety Commission. The helmet should also fit properly (not be too big or too small). The helmet should sit level on your child’s forehead. Kids might want to tip the

helmet back so it doesn’t hug the forehead … but if the forehead is showing, the helmet isn’t doing the job. And a reminder to little boys who love

the chin — not twisted or loose. If the straps are hanging to the sides of the helmet, the helmet is likely to fall off your child’s head when they need it most.

did you know? The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration says children less than 10 years of age are considered not mature enough to make decisions necessary to safely ride in the street. Sidewalk riding only is recommended. wearing their Twins baseball caps in the summer. NO wearing a cap under the bike helmet. The strap also should be adjusted so it’s snug under

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Ballcaps belong in the back pocket, not on the head, when riding a bike.

wearing them. Today’s helmets are lightweight and come in super cool colors. Let your child personalize it with favorite stickers, even. Better yet, use reflective stickers since they will make your child more visible to people driving cars. Finally, set a good example. If you ride your bike without a helmet, your kid will no doubt do the same.

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on the road see your kids. Avoid allowing night riding. If your child must ride at night, make sure there are reflectors on the front and rear of their bicycles. Most states have laws requiring bicyclists to use lights and/or reflectors during nighttime hours. The laws do differ from state to state, but Minnesota Statute 169.222 requires front-facing white light visible from 500 feet; attached to the bike or the rider; rear-facing red reflector; reflectors on each side of both pedals; and 20 square inches of reflectors on each side of the bicycle. A red-flashing rear lamp is optional. Also, make sure nothing is dangling near the mechanisms while your child rides.

You don’t want loose pant legs, shoelaces, or backpack straps to get caught in the bike chain. Take it from this author, who broke her leg by getting it caught in a bicycle spoke when she was 6 … no dangling. Kids shouldn’t wear sandals, or worse — flip-flops — when riding. No bare feet, either.

rules of the road: not just for cars Bicycles are considered vehicles in many states, and have the same rights AND the same responsibilities as motorists. Everyone should be aware of and follow these basic rules: • Go with the flow of traffic, not against it. • Obey all traffic laws,

including stop signs, signals, and lane markings. Watch out for parked cars! Ride far enough out from the curb to avoid the unexpected, such as a door opening suddenly or a car pulling out. Look before you turn. When turning right or left, always glance behind you for a break in the traffic, then signal before making the turn. Keep an eye out for left or rightturning traffic. Be aware of possible path or road hazards. Potholes, rocks, gravel, leaves, and broken glass are everywhere. All these hazards can cause a wipe out. ALWAYS ride with both hands on the handlebars. You might even suggest your child wear riding gloves; it will help them grip the handlebars better, and they’ll look like a professional. Cool! No crazy driving! Be predictable, not unpredictable. Ride in a straight line and not in and out of cars. Signal your move ahead of time. Last but not least — no wearing headphones while riding a bike. Music can distract kids from the noises around them, such as a car honking its horn. Armed with safety information, your kids will be able to enjoy the Minnesota biking season. Did I mention it’s short? get out there and enjoy!

Kelly Jo McDonnell is a freelance writer and single parent in the Twin Cities.



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when josh went on a walkabout addressing mental health in the teen years dr. kara witt, phd, lp


orty-three year old Daniel sits down at his computer to compose a plausible lie to tell Lizzie. But first, he re-reads her email for what seems like the seventeenth time. Hi Dan! Are you coming to the reunion? It would be great to see you again! Best, Lizzie. P.S. Do you even remember me? Remember her? How could he forget the way that she beamed whenever they passed “accidentally” in the corridors of Lincoln High? Why didn’t he try talking to her? Yet, she of all people contacted him about their 25-year class reunion. Could she be interested? And if they were to meet, would she look at him in the same way? Not if she knew what was going on with his son. Let’s face it: he wasn’t exactly the perfect father, what with the overwork, the disorderly divorce, and the conflict that preceded it. No, it’s too late for love. That part of his life is definitely over. He reads her email one more time, hits “reply,” then hesitates again. Lack of practice in the prevaricating arts parent

has rendered him hopelessly inept at hiding the truth. But there’s no way he will admit to Lizzie that the real reason he is skipping the reunion is that Josh cracked up. When Josh began his junior year, Daniel was so proud of his son’s intellectual gifts! Soon, the two would start looking at colleges together. Daniel began to accumulate brochures, visit websites, and talk about how fun and rewarding his college experience had been. It never occurred to him that while he was so fixated on Josh’s future, his son was holing himself up in his room with the shades pulled, cutting classes, and saying some curious things that he attributed to Josh trying to yank his chain. But then Josh began a nightly walkabout, wandering the streets for hours on end, returning after bedtime without a hat, his ears white with cold. When one bleak December night he didn’t return, Daniel circled the city, searching until he finally found him sitting at dawn on the icy railing of the Tributary Bridge, eyes fixed on the water, far, far below. Although Dr. Marvel assures Daniel that Josh is stable and

needs to — what was the word — “emancipate” in order to develop — how did she put it? — “an autonomous identity,” Daniel feels in his bones that giving Josh too much space is what caused his slide in the first place. After all, I’m the parent. Why didn’t I see this coming? As he stares at the blank computer screen, trying to come up with something sensible to say to Lizzie, Daniel worries and wonders, filled with sadness, embarrassment,

cially if Josh’s mother is there with her new fellow? Never having asked for help, he is not going to start now. Peeling the tape off of the cracker box with his right hand while holding his beer with his left, he eases himself onto his trusty old sofa and sinks into the merciful nepenthe of cop show-induced forgetfulness. He yearns to have Josh plop down next to him like he used to, but doesn’t want to ask for any more than he can give.

A time of great beauty and of terrible loss, is it any wonder that adolescence is also a time when emotional vulnerabilities show in a form that professionals call mental illness? and confusion, regretting the wrong he has done and the right that he has not. He feels more alone than he ever has in his life. Unwilling to lie yet unable to tell, he gives up, logs off, and heads to the fridge. Then he remembers that it’s Family Night at Dr. Marvel’s clinic. If he rouses Josh from his computer, they can still make the last half. But would it do any good or would it only make them both feel worse — espe-


worrisome signals If Daniel had only given Family Night a try, he would have found himself in excellent company. With the demand for youth psychiatric services on the rise (Judith Warner, We’ve Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication), more parents than ever are in Daniel’s position, desperate to help, reluctant to pry, yet sensing that their children, nearly grown though may 2011


they may seem, need them now more than ever. Their conundrum mirrors the struggles of their teens, longing to venture into the mysterious new worlds of learning, work, and love, while quietly aggrieved at leaving the nurturing shelter of their childhoods behind. A time of great beauty and of terrible loss, is it any wonder that adolescence is also a time when emotional vulnerabilities show in a form that professionals call mental illness? While culturally created rites of passage have guided transitions into adulthood across time and space, the adolescent’s unspoken yearning for secure family connections during this perilous process is often overlooked. Programs for troubled

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adolescents are now beginning to address this need by including family members in the treatment process. Robert Whitaker, award-winning author of Anatomy of an Epidemic, describes studies across the globe showing that young people whose therapy occurs in the context of their families often recover with no further psychiatric episodes. Many go on to lead lives rich in meaning, compassion, and productivity.

The bind that many parents find themselves in is that they love their kids so deeply that it hurts. Although they want to do the right thing, at times they unknowingly withdraw — as Daniel does — and that is when their teens become most vulnerable. What, then, are the worrisome signals? This depends on the form that the syndrome takes. In schizoaffective disorder, the illness with which Josh is eventually diag-

nosed, the “prodrome” — or early warning signs — often manifest during adolescence. Afflicted individuals may develop unusual thoughts or beliefs; hear imaginary sounds; or see vague illusions. This can be so frightening that they react in a way that intensifies their symptoms — such as by pulling away from their friends and family, experimenting with chemicals, isolating in their rooms, or becoming suicidal. If you sense something is amiss with your teen, start by sharing your concerns directly with your child. Avoid emotional or value-laden words. Keep it simple. Then, make an appointment with your family physician. At this delicate juncture, it is critical

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Step One: Heal thyself. Remember this ditty: when we escape, they escalate. Adolescents crave positive attention. When they sense their parents pulling away by fleeing emotionally, as Daniel unconsciously does, they destabilize. We don’t need to be perfect. After all, mistakes, even really big ones, are a part of all relationships; but we do need to be present. Step Two: Talk. Start by reminding yourself of the Hippocratic Oath: first do no harm. This means stopping negativity — all of it — the tone of your voice, your facial expressions, and the natural proclivity to focus on “problems.” Instead, find your “mind of love.” It sounds corn-

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more delusional, had turned his intellectual gifts to ingeniously hacking into the email of the Oval Office in order to warn the President “of an imminent invasion by extraterrestrial endotoxins plotting to invade the micro-architecture of the executive cytoskeleton.” Oops. Being Josh is a minor and definitely not well, the charges are commuted from espionage to legal insanity warranting extended commitment. This drives Daniel into therapy of his own, which he first hates — and then loves. He learns that no cop show comes close to the intensity of real life and the joy of parenting his son through good times and bad.

go ahead and show your joy. Don’t be afraid to encourage your child’s dreams. ***

the bad … and the good One morning while reading the morning paper, a thunderous pounding at the front entry startles Daniel so severely that he rips the sports page in two. Bam-Bam-Bam!!! Bam-Bam-

resources books Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker, New York: Crown Publishers, 2010 The Drunkards Walk; How Randomness Rules our Lives by Leonard Mlodinow, New York: Vintage/Random House, 2008–2009


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Bam!!! As he ponders the merits and demerits of calling 911, an ear-splitting CRACK rivets his attention to the sudden appearance of a black boot emerging through the middle of the door, now dangling limply on one hinge. In walk three bona fide cops, two federal agents and a man in a black hat. While Daniel had been watching television all those months, Josh, becoming ever

The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt, New York: Basic Books, 2007 We’ve Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication by Judith Warner, New York: Riverhead, 2010 websites Early Psychosis Prevention and Intervention Center,

It is Family Night once again. Daniel and Josh are setting out their signature salami salad for the pre-meeting potluck. Guess who brought the deviled eggs? Ding! Lizzie. In a moment of desolation morphing into a sort of “all-islost-so-who-cares” abandon, Daniel emailed Lizzie, pouring his heart out. She wrote back, then he wrote back, then she wrote back … and you can guess the rest. Dr. Kara Witt is a psychologist in the Twin Cities.

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service learning giving instead of getting by alyson cummings Not many nine-year-old boys would turn down a heap of presents to do charity work. Quendy Raymond’s son Malachi didn’t give up presents for just one birthday, but two in a row! This bighearted boy isn’t turning back any time soon, and has encouraged classmates to turn to service learning on their birthdays as well. Malachi’s 8th and 9th birthdays were spent helping out at Kids Against Hunger, a nonprofit organization that packages meals for hungry families.


Instead of giving gifts, guests were asked to donate to the organization or to a charity of their choice. “We really negotiated the ‘no presents’ thing, and at first his reaction was, ‘Why is this a good idea?’ Now, he likes looking at the totals and saying, ‘Look at how much I raised this year!’ He still gets toys from his family and from me, so he’s not completely giving up gifts,” says Quendy. It wasn’t all work and no play. Partygoers were treated to pizza, juice boxes, and cake after an afternoon of packing

Malachi (right) and friend Bobby Sundy at his Kids Against Hunger party.

boxes. “The kids really loved it. They loved the hairnets and aprons, for whatever reason. We’re seeing other kids do service learning projects for birthdays instead of gifts, which is great. It’s getting to be

a trend, which it 1,000 percent should be. Service learning is more about the education that goes with volunteering, like when the staff explains, “This is why what you did today is important.”

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on my pants. And it was big,” she recalls. The next day, lice extermination began. Most parents live in fear of lice descending upon their homes — and with good reason. While they don’t spread disease, lice are, after the common cold, the second most communicable condition affecting schoolchildren. Plus, face it — they’re gross. Girls, in particular, are suscep-

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itchy scalp or white specks similar to dandruff are virtually the only signs of lice, but they can be present for several weeks without any symptoms.

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the lifecycle of lice Understanding the lifecycle of lice is helpful to treating the condition. Lice are about the size of a sesame seed and are gray. They lay several eggs, called “nits” each day on the hair shaft next to the scalp. The nits hatch six to 10 days later. Health experts generally recommend using an over-thecounter product containing pyrethrin, which is derived from the chrysanthemum flower, or permethrin, a synthetic chemical. It’s very important to follow the product directions precisely when using a medicated shampoo or crème rinse. The first treatment kills the adult lice, but doesn’t always affect the live nits, which hatch within a few days. The second treatment, given seven to 10 days later, targets the newly-born lice before they are able to lay additional eggs. In addition to using special shampoo or crème rinse, experts advise washing all laundry in 130 degree water and drying it on high for 20 minutes. Hairbrushes and combs should also be washed in medicated shampoo or 130 degree water for 10 minutes after each use. Items that can’t be washed can be put in plastic bags for two weeks since, off the scalp, lice can only live about a day, but nits can survive up to two weeks. Lice and nits can also be removed by hand, going through very small sections of the hair in an organized manner. Stoelzing combed through her daughters’ hair every day for about three hours, pulling nits off the hair roots with her fingernails while the girls watched TV. Her parent

youngest daughter, Claire, said, “‘This is awesome! We’ve watched every movie we own!’” recalls Stoelzing. Stoelzing also treated her daughters with over-thecounter products and washed or vacuumed almost every item in the home. “Our washing machine was broken and I had all this laundry,” says Stoelzing. “I spent about $100 just doing load after load after load” of sheets, pillows, towels,

The tiny insects are spread head-tohead in families and through sharing hats, hairbrushes, helmets and other items amongst friends. blankets and stuffed animals. “I kind of overreacted the first time because I didn’t know any better, so I washed everything.” After about five days, Stoelzing had her girls sleep in sleeping bags because it was easier to wash them than sheets and blankets every day. Stoelzing doggedly vacuumed, washed bedding and clothing, and combed and treated her daughters’ hair and thought she had it under control. But, about a week later, on the first day of school she got a phone call: The school nurse had found lice in Claire’s hair. Stoelzing continued with treatment and within about 10 days they were rid of lice. At least for a few years.

twice lice — not nice Last fall, Stoelzing got a second call from a friend who was dealing with lice. “My heart just dropped,” she says, and wisely

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tips for parents: eradicating lice If you suspect or learn your child has lice, be sure to notify the school. Each school district has its own policy, but frequently children are allowed to attend school after one treatment for lice.

inspected her daughters. “Grace was just covered. You could just see them crawling,” behind her ears and at her neckline, the most common places to find lice in the hair. This time, Stoelzing took a more relaxed approach to attacking the lice. She used an “all natural, organic” product that her neighbor had on hand so she didn’t have to make a trip to the pharmacy. And

If you have an infant with lice, or lice bites look infected, be sure to call your pediatrician. Some over-the-counter medications are not suitable for infants, as well as those suffering from asthma, allergies, sei-

although she purchased a specific nit comb, she didn’t comb through the girls’ hair as thoroughly. The girls once again slept in sleeping bags and Stoelzing washed pillowcases, towels and clothes daily, but she didn’t vacuum as thoroughly or bag up other items. With this infestation, Stoelzing battled the lice about three weeks before the family got rid of them. Exterminating lice is

zures, and even pregnant and breastfeeding women should have the blessing of a physician before using OTC products.

Treat your child as soon as you know he or she has lice. Waiting even a day might cause them to spread.

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“tedious and you have to stay on it,” advises Stoelzing. Several small businesses in the Twin Cities have recently started providing in-home services, including Minnesota Lice Lady, Melissa’s Nit Pickers, and Ladibugs, Inc. They provide treatment products, comb and inspect hair, and reassure parents who might be panicking. Ladibugs, for example, uses a chemical

and pesticide-free system called Lousebuster. Common home remedies such as coating the hair in petroleum jelly, olive oil, or mayonnaise have not been scientifically proven to be effective. After crying about her crisis with creepy-crawlies, Stoelzing is now more philosophical. “It’s horrible, but it’s not life threatening. It’s not the end of the world.”

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kids on the cusp no longer a kid, but not quite yet a teen, these books are for the tween set looking to expand world knowledge and gain a glimpse into their very near futures by alyson cummings

The Chosen One by Carol Lynch Williams St. Martin’s Griffin, ages 12+, $16.95

Thirteen-year-old Kyra grew up in a polygamist family: Her father has three wives and 22 children, and Kyra has been promised as her 60-year-old uncle’s seventh wife. Reading books she secretly obtained from a library-on-wheels, Kyra begins thinking more of a world not under the Prophet’s rule, a world where she would be free to marry her secret boyfriend. Kyra’s shattering story and the secrets of polygamist compounds are told through the digressing thoughts of a fictional teenager who dared to want something different.

The Big Crunch by Pete Hautman Scholastic Press, ages 13+, $17.99

I, Q series by Roland Smith Sleeping Bear Press, ages 10+, $8.95 each

New stepsiblings Q (Quest) and Angela trail their rock-star parents around the country while getting to know each other in these fastpaced thrillers. This family trip is anything but boring, and the teens soon find themselves working with the Secret Service and revealing Angela’s secret past. In the second volume, the pair again works toward separating good from evil as they take on the White House.

June and her family are continually forced to move for her dad’s job, each time placing June in a new school with new issues to tackle. Wes just broke up with his longtime girlfriend and isn’t looking for a new one … until he meets June. He’s intrigued by June, and his feelings don’t fade when she starts dating his best friend. A chance meeting after school changes things, and June and Wes start dating. Will her father’s job take June away from Minnesota and Wes?

The Pirate Captain’s Daughter by Eve Bunting Sleeping Bear Press, ages 12+, $15.95

Catherine’s mother has died and Catherine refuses to move to Boston to live with her aunt. Instead, she decides to join her pirate captain father on his ship Reprisal. The danger is great if she is discovered, so she joins the crew as “Charlie.” A cabin boy named William soon discovers her identity but promises to keep her secret, and the two grow close. After several close encounters, Catherine learns to guard her secret with her life, as pirates believe there is no place for women on the sea. parent

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real parent St. Paul mother Elisabeth O’Toole focuses on the family and friends of adoptive and birth parents and adoptees in her book In On It, which takes a fresh look at adoption from the outside. In On It discusses how to avoid awkward situations and rephrase uncomfortable questions with those directly involved in an adoption. O’Toole draws from her own experience, as she and husband Bill Cousins have three adopted children of their own: Will, Mirabel, and Luz. — Alyson Cummings What made you write In On It? In On It is the book I wish we’d had to share with friends and colleagues when we were adopting. The people around us needed info and wanted to support us and I wish there was a tool that addressed their perspective. There are a lot of books for adoptive parents and adoptees, but nothing that speaks to families who want guidance and advice. These are the people who would normally be involved in the real-life experience: going to the hospital, having the traditional baby shower.

elisabeth o’toole, with son will, 8

Are people unaware of adoption language? I think people want the information. People mean well, but they aren’t prepared or educated. A lot of people might have outdated experience with adoption. Maybe when they grew up, women “went away” to have a baby in secret. It seems like now there’s a lot more openness and communication about it. I try to take an approach of “How would they know?” rather than “Shouldn’t they know better?” People talk about an adoptee’s “real” mom, but what is a “real” mom? We prefer birth mother or biological mother, than adoptive mother for the adoptive parent. In the book, I wanted to talk about the word “real” in adoption language. Have you discussed your children’s adoptions with them? We were talking about adoption with them before they knew what it meant. Our kids are visibly different from us, and I feel like it’s necessary and fundamental to talk about how we became a family. How do kids at school deal with adoption? Kids are curious. It’s natural for them to wonder if they don’t have experience with adoption. Adoption is really just another way of creating a family, and kids seem to have genuine, honest questions, which can be refreshing. What do you hope readers take from your book? I would like it to make people feel welcomed and included. I want people to feel more involved and not on the sidelines. I want them to be confident and prepared. We as adoptive parents aren’t the only people who are being called on to address adoption. It never occurred to us that grandparents and other family members would be asked questions about adoption that they might not be able to answer, but it’s important they know how to respond.

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Your more than 100 metro public libraries are celebrating 25 years of summer reading! Nearly 100,000 kids grades K-6 participate in

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