This sounds easy enough in theory, especially if we’re parents trying to set an example for our children. But what about those grown-ups who are impatient, angry or just not courteous? If you are interacting with someone that you are not personally connected with, first, realize that it’s not directed toward you. That person who cuts you off or doesn’t let you merge is not plotting against you; he’s actually not seeing you at all. He’s just seeing a car. In that type of situation, it actually may be kinder of you not to point out the rude behavior, and instead, be nice. Pay It Forward There’s a expression Dr. Huber likes: Taking care of others means we’re taking care of ourselves and taking care of ourselves means we’re taking care of others. So whether you call it paying it forward, going that extra mile or just using common courtesy, challenge yourself to do one kind thing a day. Use someone’s name when you address him. Slow down and let someone pass you. And if someone forgets to utter a thank you, make sure you tell him to have a wonderful day. Simply put, we’re better when we’re vested in others. And while the way we live doesn’t always encourage us to have personal connections, we can still seek out ways to encourage each other. caryliving.com | 31
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