Sassy October 2013

OCTOBER 2013

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Lip Finger Tip from

Hannah Moore

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the

Executive MBA

Can Women Really Have It All?

program at Notre Dame

What 3 Generations of Women Say

Coffee

Two-Step

Pumpkin Spice

Grammar is

Good, Real Good

Bring your best gal pals and get your Sass on for the holidays!

Thursday, November 14th, 2013

The Morris Inn at Notre Dame

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Red Carpet Arrival & Check-in Festive Cocktails & Heavy hors d’oeuvres Light & Fabulous Entertainment

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The Glitz & Sass Fashion Show Featuring local boutiques & fashion-forward businesses

Ultimate SASSY Bags for ALL filled with extra special delights from many of your favorite local SASSY Magazine partners, drawing for fabulous prizes & much, much more! $50 per Person – Exclusive & Limited Seating to 500 Guests Only.

Reserve your seat and/or multiple seats for your best gal pals at this premier event TOdAY by calling The FAMiLY Magazines Offices (574) 387.5420 Visa, MasterCard, American Express or Discover Accepted.

For More information, see our website www.MichianaSassy.com A portion of the proceeds from this event will benefit the Michiana Chapter of Go RED! for Women.

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MODEL: Hannah Moore Photography: CLASSIC IMAGE Photography Stylist: Maria Gonzalez

EVERY MONTH 04 Letter from the Publisher 05 Contributors SASS FACTORY: STUFF WE LOVE 06 Sassy Time 10

Sassy Boots for Fall

SASS 08

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This Season’s Must-Have Fall Fashion Trends

By Kathy Friend

From Lip to Finger Tip

By Bethza Seminario

adventures in sassydom 18 Keeping Company This Halloween

By Jane Suter

life 14

Breaking through the Stages of Remarriage with Success

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Ensuring Your Breast Health

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Sassy Book Reviews:

By Gayla Grace

By Dr. Patel

“D is for Dysfunctional” and “The Other Child”

Balance 20

Can Women Really Have It All?

The Changing Face of Flexibility in the Workplace

By: Pam Gunterman

By Gwen O' Brien

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Creating a Bedroom Sanctuary

By Andrew Skipper

ADVICE FROM A BUSINESS COACH 28 Dear Charrise...

RECIPE 32

Two-Step Pumpkin Spice Coffee

work 36

Grammar is Good, Real Good

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The Notre Dame Executive MBA Program

Grandma's on Facebook, But Will She Like Your Page?

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz

By: Chaunie Brusie

By Cyndy Searfoss

THE SASSY EXECUTIVE FORUM 38 Local Executives Answer the Tough Questions THE DATEBOOK 42 Events to Check Out Around Town SASSY pets 40 This month’s adorable adoptees from The Humane Society SCENE & BE SEEN 48 Bras & Bros 2012 50 Bike Michiana 2012 Photography: CLASSIC IMAGE PHOTOGRAPHY SASSY | OCTOBER 2013

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LETTER FROM THE

10 Things

publisher

Photography: Classic image photography Makeup: Camellia Maalouf, Camellia Cosmetics Granger

We Learned Making The October Issue

President & Publisher: Betsy Tavernier

Betsy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

Editor: Chaunie Marie Brusie

Chaunie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

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World peace is possible… right in our very own bedrooms!

Andrew Skipper walks us through the steps to creating our own personal and peaceful bedroom oasis on page 24.

Betsy Tavernier Publisher & Editor-in-Chief

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Is it time to take your career up to the next level? Notre Dame offers an MBA program custom-built for your executive lifestyle. Learn more on page 30.

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We heart grammar. Oh, do we get grammar. But does grammar have a role in business? Jennifer tells us just how that important that properly-placed comma really is on page 36.

Creative Promotions Manager: Jena Bontrager Jena@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

GRAPHIC DESIGN Manager: Zuzanna Zmud

Zuzanna@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

GRAPHIC DESIGNer: Katie Brenneman

Katie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

Marketing coordinator: Jill Ludwick

Jill@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

Publisher's Assistant: Amy Kociolek

Amy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

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Two words: pumpkin spice. Um, in case you haven’t noticed—it’s fall! And we have the perfect recipe to get you in the pumpkin-spice lovin’ mood with this easy-peasy coffee recipe on page 32!

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MEDICAL EDITOR: Dr. Jesse Hsieh Distribution Manager: Mike Trentacosti

Furry friends are the best. Check out this month’s adorable adoptees on page 40.

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Is it the song that never ends?

By now, we’ve all heard the question, “Can women really have it all?” Pam Gunterman tries to get the answer with compelling interviews from three generations of women. Read it on page 20.

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Breast health is still important. October is Breast Cancer Awareness month and although we may think we know all there is to know about awareness, don’t forget to refresh your breast health knowledge on page 16.

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Be careful what you...wear to your office Halloween party! Jane Suter breaks down the real meaning of Halloween attire on page 18.

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Remarriage can be tricky. But we have the tips to help your blended family succeed! Learn more on page 12.

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Fall fashion is fun. Check out this season’s sassy trends for make-up and fashion from our experts on pages 8 and 14.

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Samir B. Patel, M.D., CCD Dr. Patel is Board-Certified in Diagnostic Radiology and has been a member of the Elkhart General Hospital Medical Staff since 2001. He received his Doctorate of Medicine from Medical College of Virginia in 1995.

He then completed an Internship in Internal Medicine at the Washington Hospital Center in Washington, D.C. Following the Internship, Dr. Patel completed both his Residency in Diagnostic Radiology and Fellowship in Breast Imaging at the Indiana University Medical Center in Indianapolis.

Bethza Seminario is the Co-Founder, creative director and head make-up artist of Bethza Professional Makeup Artist Studio in Elkhart,IN. At the beginning of her make-up career, she free-lanced in Chicago and Indianapolis, was featured in local magazines, fashion shows and modeling agencies’ photo shoots. Her specialization on Editorial, Commercial and High Fashion Make-up inspired her to bring that style to her community and share the beauty of city fashion by creating her own cosmetic company, Nethyel Pro Beauty, at age of 26. Now Bethza is well-known in her community for helping other local artists and small businesses by organizing events and collaborating on numerous projects to create exposure while using her skills to see her community grow. You can learn more at www.bethza.com.

“I CAN’T WAIT for the new launch of Sassy’s website!”

–Jane S.

“Thank you so much for sharing my friend’s amazing story! I am thrilled for her! HUGS!”

- Kim Sherbun Zobrosky

“Love every issue, but really love this story and message. Betsy, you seek out awesome things in our community...”

- Rice Vaughn

ANDREW SKIPPER is an interior decorator and lifestyle expert who believes that life should be celebrated every day. His company, Andrew Skipper Everyday, focuses on helping people elevate the everyday tasks they perform and objects they live with. He is the lifestyle expert for NBC affiliate WNDU TV in South Bend, IN, giving decorating and entertaining tips. He is also the official lifestyle expert for Elkhart County, IN, working with the Convention and Visitors Bureau.

Charrise McCrorey is Certified as a Business & Transformative Coach, working with businesses and individuals around the world. Her local office is in Elkhart, where she resides with her family.

Kathy Friend

is an Image Consultant, speaker and expert stylist. Her StyleU workshops have become a ‘must-attend’ for ladies across the country. She is a contributor to the Fox59 Morning Show out of Indianapolis and the fashion guru for Goodwill of Michiana. She is a busy Mom-on-the go trying to keep up with her daughter Anya.

We'd LOVE to hear from you!

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Check out Sassy’s new look!

Sassy’s got a brand new website and we want you to be a part of it!

Log on to www.MichianaSassy.com to tell us what you think of our sassy new look as we bring you the latest in happenings, sassy fashion and trends, and advice for balancing career and life. And don’t forget to “like” us on Facebook and follow along on Twitter!

Fit 4 Fall 5K Join the LECO Corporation as they get fit for fall on October 5, 2013 at Riverview Park in St. Joseph. The Fit 4 Fall 5K is a run/walk event designed to raise monetary support for up to three charities with local significance to the St. Joseph/Benton Harbor area. The entire event is organized and facilitated by LECO Corporation, with different charities chosen each year by the Warren family that have significance to LECO employees. The event takes place throughout Riverview Park, located in St. Joseph, Michigan (the company's headquarters). The race begins and ends at Woodbine Lodge, taking runners and walkers through the park's scenic trails and wooded terrain. Please note that there is some uneven terrain on this course. This year, proceeds from the event will help to fund Hospice at Home, the Wounded Warrior Project and The Sonya Ansari Center for Autism- Southwest Michigan. Registration for the event begins on-site starting at 7:30 am, with races beginning at 8:30 am. Visit www.Fit4Fall5k.com for more information.

How To Perform a Breast Self-Exam (BSE) From The American Cancer Society Beginning in their 20’s, women should be aware of how their breasts normally look and feel and report any new breast changes to a health professional as soon as they are found.

Finding a breast change does not necessarily mean there is a cancer.

A woman can notice changes by knowing how her breasts normally look and feel and feeling her breasts for changes (breast awareness), or by choosing to use a step-by-step approach and using a specific schedule to examine her breasts.

Women with breast implants can do BSE. It may be useful to have the surgeon help identify the edges of the implant so that you know what you are feeling. There is some thought that the implants push out the breast tissue and may make it easier to examine.

If you choose to do BSE, the following information provides a step-by-step approach for the exam. The best time for a woman to examine her breasts is when the breasts are not tender or swollen. Women who examine their breasts should have their technique reviewed during their periodic health exams by their health care professional.

It is acceptable for women to choose not to do BSE or to do BSE occasionally. Women who are pregnant or breastfeeding can also choose to examine their breasts regularly.

Women who choose not to do BSE should still know how their breasts normally look and feel and report any changes to their doctor right away.

How to examine your breasts 1.) Lie down on your back and place your right arm behind your head. The exam is done while lying down, not standing up. This is because when lying down the breast tissue spreads evenly over the chest wall and is as thin as possible, making it much easier to feel all the breast tissue.

2.) Use the finger pads of the 3 middle fingers on your left hand to feel for lumps in the right breast. Use overlapping dime-sized circular motions of the finger pads to feel the breast tissue.

Self defense classes now open to the public The Rape Aggression Defensive Program for Women Defensive tactics that every woman needs to know are now being taught at the Elkhart County Sheriff’s Department.

Det. Norma Alber and Lt. Travis Adamson instruct students both in classroom and gymnasium settings. The 12-hour course is broken into four nights of classes, and taught in the training room of the new law enforcement center, 26861 C.R. 26 (building is closest to the entrance).

Women interested in attending free courses should call (574)891-2323 or send an email. Private clubs, businesses and community groups may arrange training to fit specific schedules by using the same contact information.

“Whatever your age or skill level, we’ll teach you something to prepare yourself physically and psychologically,” said Alber, a certified trainer in the nationally respected Rape Aggression Defense program. “People need this class if they can’t answer whether they are prepared to defend themselves from an attack.

3.) Use 3 different levels of pressure to feel all the breast tissue. Light pressure is needed to feel the tissue closest to the skin; medium pressure to feel a little deeper; and firm pressure to feel the tissue closest to the chest and ribs. It is normal to feel a firm ridge in the lower curve of each breast, but you should tell your doctor if you feel anything else out of the ordinary. If you're not sure how hard to press, talk with your doctor or nurse. Use each pressure level to feel the breast tissue before moving on to the next spot.

4.) Move around the breast in an up and down pattern starting at an imaginary line drawn straight down your side from the underarm and moving across the breast to the middle of the chest bone (sternum or breastbone). Be sure to check the entire breast area going down until you feel only ribs and up to the neck or collar bone (clavicle).

5.) There is some evidence to suggest that the up-and-down pattern (sometimes called the vertical pattern) is the most effective pattern for covering the entire breast without missing any breast tissue.

6.) Repeat the exam on your left breast, putting your left arm behind your head and using the finger pads of your right hand to do the exam.

7.) While standing in front of a mirror with your hands pressing firmly down on your hips, look at your breasts for any changes of size, shape, contour, dimpling or redness or scaliness of the nipple or breast skin. (The pressing down on the hips position contracts the chest wall muscles and enhances any breast changes.)

8.) Examine each underarm while sitting up or standing and with your arm only slightly raised so you can easily feel in this area. Raising your arm straight up tightens the tissue in this area and makes it harder to examine.

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SASSY

fashion

fall fashion

MUST HAVES

By Kathy Friend

I am dying for all the new trends this fall season. So much so that I have become a bit overwhelmed! Honestly, I found that my shopping list was longer than my budget. Something had to be done.

I needed to consult with some colleagues.

I spent some time talking shop with a Hollywood stylist in LA a few weeks ago. Our girl’s lunch consisted of a lot of hummus and fashion magazines! Here is the list of this season’s top 5 MUST haves that we’ve come up with!

BOOTIE

The shoe boot is back with a vengeance this season!

This season, feel free to wear that shoe-boot (or bootie) with EVERYTHING! Skirts, pants, jeans, leggings - and dare I say shorts? Opt for one with an open toe and wear it with tights. Yes…I said open toe and tights!

STATEMENT JACKET

A great outdoor coat will go over last season’s jeans and the leggings and turtleneck you’ve been wearing for years. Get creative with your choice this year. Consider a vintage find.

Try belting it with a wide leather belt.

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CUTE SASSY SWEATSHIRT

This will be something you can DIY very easily. The trendy style these days is a sweatshirt with a lace insert on the back, sheer sleeves or interesting detail on the seams. Check out Pinterest for easy DIY’s for a fund weekend project. This trend is available at every price point and is something sassy business execs and moms on the go definitely need in their fall wardrobe.

GREEN and BLUE

When Pantone named Emerald the color of the year, they weren't kidding! Hues of greens and blue-greens are everywhere. The great thing about these tones is they look great on just about everyone! If you are a traditionalist (and by that I mean someone who only wears black), then accessorize in the season’s hot hues.

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SOMETHING LEATHER

For me, I will be going for a leather skirt, leather tank-style top and leather-trimmed leggings.

Oh wait – I said one thing leather didn’t I? OI! Look at your lifestyle and see what fits in best and will be the most wearable for you. The best thing about this season’s leather pieces are that they aren’t REALLY leather…they are pleather (and most are washable!).

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stuff we love

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boots for fall

The Everyday Boot

This comfortable, everyday dark brown boot has a distressed finish with antique brass buckled straps. Sizes 6-11 available in stock or to order. 1" heel 11" tall.

K.E.Y. Boutique, Nappanee - $79 574-773-0100

The Italian Boot!

These beautiful genuine leather Italian boots have a unique distressed look.

They are super soft and comfy and perfect to wear with fall sweaters!

Sorella Boutique, Granger - $125 574-855-1475

The Staple Boot!

It wouldn’t be fall without a pair of comfortable staple boots!

Try these Outlaw zipper-backed boots, available in six colors: beige, black, camel, dark brown, olive and grey.

Jules Boutique, Goshen - $48 www.Jules-Boutique.com

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When

getting aWay means

getting together.

here’s a place where time slows down and you can leave the rush of life behind. A place to reconnect with friends.

A place where you spend more time enjoying and less time getting around.

The place: Perrysburg, Ohio.

From its quaint downtown to its rich history, Perrysburg has the shops, restaurants and hotels to make a perfect girlfriends’ weekend. Go to visitperrysburg.com to find out all the area has to offer.

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SASSY

beauty

Fall Fashions from

lip to fingertip

By Bethza Seminario

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s much as I would like to keep summer here for a couple more weeks, I love the change of colors during the fall season. It gives me ideas and inspires me to play with my wardrobe, shoes, nail polishes and makeup!

To get the most inspiration, I like to check what designers have come up with during the New York Fashion Week on their fall and winter runways.

This allows me to see how makeup complements their collections. I want to remind all of you that makeup and nails do not need to match your wardrobe exactly. Your makeup and nails are accessories to your whole

look! Also, seasonal trends are fun and flexible. This means that you can follow them straight from the runway (if you can rock the look and if you job allows it), or you can get the main idea and incorporate it to your everyday look by toning it down a notch.

Quick tip: I hope many of you have been able to experiment with an eye primer by now.

The eye primer is meant to keep your shadows from creasing and help them appear more rich in color and long-lasting throughout the day.

Now that we have this down, let’s start with the trends…

The 40’s to 60’s Eye Looks are back with a more ethereal and fantasy twist to them.

These eye looks are well-known by a soft wash of neutral brown and grey shadows on the top and bottom lid. A very thin black eyeliner line creates some definition. To give this look a touch of an ethereal twist, swipe a little highlighter powder and some gold-silver-lilac shadows on those top lids. It will give them a hint of subtle glossiness.

Copper Shadows.

The other month I mentioned how orangetoned shadows are great to transition your makeup looks from summer to fall. Now, add a little copper-toned shadow on the outside corner of your top lid and lower lash line to create some more depth and definition to the eyes.

Nails: Colors and Designs

My mom and I are nail polish junkies. We have way too many of them. It seems that every time we are out, we get new ones as if it was part of our grocery list every week.

The colors for this fall vary on your personality and mood:

Grays

From the lightest gray (nude tones) to the darker ones (gunmetal and charcoal tones), these colors will bring out your inner rocker girl! They are especially fitting for square meets oval shaped nails.

Nudes

There are a variety of nude pinks, lilacs, creams and chocolates. These are great for a low- maintenance and chic look.

Blue

Watch out black, there’s a new color in town! Royal blues and navy blues are taking over this fall. Keep your nails a little past your fingertips for a more feminine look.

Metallic

They have new “futuristic” colors in metallic, in case you want to stay away from glitter. Metallic nail colors work well against black clothing.

Glitter

I love glitter anything! I was so happy to see that this trend still in. However, the glitter nail polish used this season is the chunky 3-D kind.

Glittery tips: 1. Want to add some glitter to your nails but afraid it will look “childish”?

Apply metallic or glitter nail polish on the tips of your solid nail color polish after it’s dry. You can also apply it only to your ring fingers. Finish with clear nail polish for an effortless and creative French manicure nail design. This way it will add sparkle without overpowering your look.

2. To add some fun to your nude nail color, do half nude / half red. Instant quick sophistication!

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SASSY

life

Breaking Through

The Stages of

Remarriage wit h Success

By: Gayla Grace

"It's harder than I thought it would be," my friend commented of her new marriage. "I don't understand his kids and we're not on the same page when it comes to parenting. I hope it gets easier with time or I don't know if we'll make it."

Remarriage, when children are part of the package, creates unique challenges. Surviving the first few years of remarriage proves to be the hardest. Stepfamily authority Ron Deal reports that 25% of stepcouples divorce within the first two years; 50% divorce within the first three.

Stepfamilies don’t have to fail. But step-couples must understand the difficulties facing them. Parents and their biological children come to the remarriage with emotional "blood bonds," stronger than those of the new step-couple. Children join a stepfamily while often grieving the loss of a parent to death or divorce and experience major adjustments with crippling emotions. But with intentional effort, a willingness to grow as relationships evolve and plenty of time and patience, remarriage with children can result in harmonious relationships.

New Faces in the Frame, a workbook created by Dick Dunn to guide remarried couples with children, outlines six stages that stepfamilies often experience. If a family gets stuck in one stage for an extended period, it easily results in failure for the marriage. Navigating the 14 OCTOBER 2013 | SASSY

stages requires healthy communication by the step-couple, the ability to adapt to change, and the resolve to solve conflict as it occurs.

The first stage of infatuation

occurs when two people fall in love and decide to marry. Many couples at this stage are blind to the difficulties they will encounter as a stepfamily. They negate their children's feelings about their relationship and refuse to listen to others' opinions. It doesn’t take long, however, for infatuation to give way to reality.

The questioning stage follows next

as the step-couple begins to recognize the difficulties of blending their new family. One or both partners begins to seriously question if remarriage was a good choice. I remember clearly the questioning stage of my remarriage and reflecting on how it seemed easier to be a single parent than cope with the daily challenges in our new family. I considered going back to my single parenting days.

However, I had committed to my new marriage, "for better or for worse," and chose to continue the journey. For many remarriages, the questioning stage sends a step-couple toward divorce court.

The most critical stage: the crisis stage comes next. Levels of crisis vary

from minor bumps to major explosions, but this stage represents a turning point in which family members seek change. Challenges build until someone reaches for help. It's a productive stage if families confront the problems and begin to find solutions.

Unfortunately, too many couples give up and call it quits during this period. Those who persevere however, will turn the corner and look toward easier days ahead.

The last three stages usually occur somewhere between the second and fifth year of remarriage. Complicated stepfamilies with children from both partners will likely take longer. It's also not unusual for stages to be re-visited. But as families reach the latter stages, hope begins to surface and tensions begin to ease.

The possibility stage offers positive

thinking toward improved relationships. Following the crisis stage, the step-couple emerges with renewed energy to seek family harmony. After struggling for years, the family begins to unite.

Broken relationships begin to heal and day-to-day life seems easier.

The growth stage follows on the heels

of possibility. Although there has been some growth from the beginning, families in this stage recognize a steady pace of growth,

with more steps forward than backward. Family members feel accepted by one another and problems are resolved quickly when they arise. Stepparents feel comfortable in their roles and tension with ex-spouses has eased.

The last stage: the reward stage is reached only after years of intentional effort. For

many stepfamilies, it is never reached because they give up. But for those who persevere, the reward of harmonious relationships and sense of accomplishment from a united family outweighs the burden of what it cost to get there. Once reached, the rewards continue for years as family members treat each other with unconditional love and respect, erasing the memories of difficult years and replacing them with hope and anticipation for the future.

Stepfamilies offer children a chance to heal from broken relationships while learning how healthy relationships relate to one another. Researcher James Bray published results from a ten-year study with stepfamilies that indicated a healthy, stable stepfamily can help overcome some of the negative psychological effects of divorce.

Step-couples can break through the stages of remarriage with success. Remarriage with children creates unique challenges; but with intentional effort, perseverance and commitment, a stepfamily can find satisfaction and reward in the long run.

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health

Today’s

40

A new age in breast health

By Samir B. Patel, M.D., CCD

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oday’s 40 is different than yesterday’s 40. Many of today’s 40-year-old American women look younger, feel younger and are more educated than ever. Yet did you know that only half of all women age 40 and over undergo yearly mammograms?

But with increasingly innovative breast cancer detection techniques and the nation’s health care evolving into a wellness model, today’s women are going to see even more education initiatives on the importance of prevention. And today’s women will be empowered more than ever by the latest breast cancer prevention recommendations and advances.

Skipping Even One Mammogram Could Mean the Difference Between Life and Death Did you know that for most women, 30 % of breast cancers would be missed if they received mammograms every other year instead of every year?

The best way to increase every woman’s breast wellness is through early detection, and if every woman age 40 and over had an annual screening, the likelihood of advanced stage breast cancer would be reduced by close to 80 percent.

Today’s Women Are Privy to the Latest in Breast Imaging Technology

Even with advancements in breast cancer detection, the mammogram remains the gold standard. The only test shown to reduce breast cancer deaths (a 33% reduction) is mammography.

Digital mammography is the newest standard and is used at more than 80% of all facilities that provide mammography. Compared to film mammography, benefits include faster imaging acquisition, better image quality, the ability for patients to have access to their images and the ability to send images electronically.

Breast ultrasound is used as a problem-solving tool whenever abnormalities are detected on mammography. Breast ultrasound is painless, radiation-free and helps determine if the abnormality is a cyst or a solid mass. It is also used as an initial evaluation in women under age 30 who have a lump. In some states there is breast density legislation that says it can be used to detect cancer, but it is not a replacement for mammography.

Breast MRI is utilized in women at very high risk with factors such as family history, they have the breast cancer gene or they have a personal history of breast cancer. It is used in addition to mammography, not as a replacement.

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biopsy will determine if a mass is cancerous or not. Approximately 25% of breast biopsies performed today turn out to show cancer.

Digital breast tomosynthesis is the latest innovation in mammography that produces 3D images of the breast and is the same radiation dose as a mammogram. It reduces the likelihood of a woman being called back for additional imaging by 30 percent. Relatively few places utilize this technology currently, but in the future it is likely most health care organizations will acquire this new technology.

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Today’s Women Get To Know Their Breasts Even with all of these advances, self-breast exams are highly encouraged. It is recommended that women perform regular selfbreast exams, and the shower is a great place to perform them.

Today’s Women Eat and Exercise For Their Breasts

Breast cancer prevention not only includes yearly screenings, but healthy habits as well. Excess fat, for instance, increases the risk of breast cancer, so good nutrition and exercise is generally beneficial. Limit alcohol, don’t smoke and studies show breastfeeding may play a role in breast cancer prevention.

What If I Find A Lump?

Don’t panic. Up to 80% of lumps are found to be harmless. However, a phone call to your physician is in order so you can have the lump evaluated.

Dense Breasts

Every woman’s story is unique. So are every woman’s breasts. About 10% of women have what is termed “extremely dense breasts”. But what does that mean?

Breasts are composed of glandula r tissue and fat. If the proportion of glandular tissue is greater than fat (more than 50 percent), this is consider ed dense breasts. The best way to determine the composition of breast tissue is with a mammogram.

Having dense breasts may make it more difficult to detect a breast cancer on mammograph y. Studies have shown that ultrasound and MRI can help find breast cancers that can’t be seen on a mammogram ; However, both MRI and ultrasound show more findings that are not cancer, which can result in added testing and unnecessary biopsies.

If you have dense breasts, please talk to your doctor, and together you can decide which, if any, additional screening exams are right for you. It is imp ortant to remember, even if your breasts are entirely fatty and therefore not dense, that doctors recommend that all women get an annual mammogram starting at age 40.

Breast Cancer Risk Factors

What most women don’t realize is that approximately 80% of women who develop breast cancer have no prior family history and no significant risk factors for breast cancer. However, risk factors include being female, advancing age, family history of breast cancer in multiple family members, history of non-cancerous breast biopsy or a high-risk lesion detected in breast biopsy, obesity and smoking.

Can’t afford full price for a mammogram?

No problem. There is no reason for low-income or uninsured women to go without a mammogram thanks to programs that offer low or no cost screenings. To learn more about these programs, talk to your physician or call your local hospitals. You can also learn more by visiting www.cdc.gov/cancer/nbccedp/ and ww5.komen.org/ LowCostorFreeMammograms.html.

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Halloween

Everything I need to know, I learned at the company Halloween party

By Jane Suter

Who knew Halloween could be so educational?

Warning: what you are about to read is a breath of fresh, crazy, hilarious air in the midst of our professional businesswomen's magazine. It is not for the faint of heart or for those with no sense of humor. If you're afraid of a massive attack of laughter, proceed with caution. ~The Sassy Magazine Administration

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efore I get to the story, my lawyers have advised me to put in this teensy-tiny C.Y.A. disclaimer: What you are about to read is purely fictional. Never happened. Nope. In fact, any resemblance to persons living or deceased is a magical co-inky-dink. Just like Chi-Chi's pretends to be authentic Mexican food, so is this, my little story. So put down the phone and tell yourself this was one of the other jobs I held, m'kay? With that out of the way, here is what I learned from the costumes at my company's Halloween party.

The "fictional one" (wink wink).

You came as a witch ... You probably are one. Sorry. I once had a supervisor who donned this particular outfit on October 31st and we all peed our pants at the irony! So take it from me, don't give your underlings a reason to hate you even more. They already know you are evil. They don't need a receipt.

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A Star Trek character or any member of the Big Bang cast ...

You are the IT guy/gal. I'm not messing with you. Honest! I admire your loyalty to the geek army. You're probably the most authentic person in the room. I salute you -- all Spockstyle with the hand/finger-separation thing and stuff -- Live long and prosper, my brethren.

Wore a French Maid get-up....

How do I put this delicately? Let's see ... it rhymes with camp/door/looker. Get it? Got it? Good. Now go change, Jezebel.

An inflatable Sumu-wrestler, giant ketchup bottle, tampon or toaster --- You are a salesperson. We get it.

You are super fun, friendly and awesome. If type A had a picture, you would be its poster child. Now move along, Fun-Bobby, we're aware.

A Nurse/Doctor costume ...

You desperately want to be taken seriously but you get no respect. I would go so far to say you would hijack your cube-mate in a NY minute to get some street cred. But, sadly, you are an invisible accountant or a money manager.

What no one knows is that you are like gods; controlling the company like a puppeteer.

I love you guys! Now focus your attention somewhere else. Away from me, please, as I bow in reverence mixed with a generous dose of fear.

Alien/Iron Man/ Paranormal Apparition ... You are one paranoid

Muthaaaa and probably an unpaid intern or mailroom clerk. Sure, I hang out with you when I get my coffee at 8 a.m., but you are as strange to me as a bowl of hair. You are also 19.

I don't get you at all. But thanks for fixing my I-pod, un-locking my cell phone and hooking

me up with an impenetrable password for my e-mail. You freak me out with your magical, just-out-of-diapers wisdom!

A Disney character ... Chelloooo

Stickley Authorized Dealer!

Accounts Receivable! God bless you all. You just want to be liked. It practically drips from your adorable heads. And who would blame you? You get whipped and screamed at daily.

I could never do what you do. You should be Sainted and given a fabulous spa vacation quarterly.

EXPERIENCE FINE DESIGN...

Didn't even bother to dress up ... Welcome, Human Resources! You

have obviously interviewed enough freaks and nefarious criminals that Halloween has become just another 24 hours in your worka-day life. I pity you and your slag-trolling job.

But thank you for hiring me! Muuu-waaahhh!

Superhero ... Purchasing just showed up. These people are like drug dealers. You beg them for "fixes" like Post-it notes and paperclips, yet they do not yield willingly. Oh no. Happily they accept bribes. And, like the mobsters they are, they say nothing after the transaction. They're good like that.

Dolly Parton or any singer/ performer ... Any doubt this person is

the receptionist? Yes, that enchanting voice, cheerleader background and stunning good looks has paid off in spades! I don't know how you do it, but you make butterflies look sad.

How could we function without you?

Dressed like a woman ... You

are probably a man. Most likely the CEO of the company. I have no idea why, but men LOVE to dress-up as women. It's weird ... because it IS! The big Kahuna thinks he's being funny dressed as Marilyn. Ingratiating even. He wants to be liked by us plebes, even though he could buy and sell us on E-Bay for a quarter. The worst part? No amount of bleach will white-wash our brains from this, our CEO in drag. It will take untold years of therapy and an ocean-liner full of Xanax to erase this scary Halloween memory.

A Viking with a humongous sword ... This is what I wore. Freud would have a field day with this one. But sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, right?

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Can Women Really

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What Three Generations of Women Have To Say

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By: Pam Gunterman

y now, most of us have read the infamous article by Princeton University Professor Anne-Marie Slaughter on “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” published in the Atlantic. Slaughter left her high-powered selfdescribed “dream job” as a policy planner for the Department of State when she felt that she could no longer successfully integrate her family and work lives.

Many working mothers have shared their thoughts on Slaughter’s article, but have we looked at her commentary through the lenses of the four generations of women in the workplace that currently exist?

According to Time magazine, there are four generations of women currently in the workforce today: The Silent Generation (born 1925-1942), who were children of the depression, Baby Boomers (born 1943-1960), as suburban children who came of age in the Summer of Love, Generation X (born 1961-1980), the latchkey kids of working moms and divorced parents and lastly, The Millennials (a.k.a. Generation Y), who came of age in the shadow of 9/11 and amid the rise of new media (born 1980-2000).

Many career women, regardless of age, are used to a fast paced, multi-tasking life and when translated to the work world, this serves them well. Women have been managing families and homes successfully for years and those skills give them an edge in the workforce. Women of all ages enter the work force, attend college, marry and start families at a varied age, all of which create the potential for

Jacqueline Sells Homann is a partner in the

law firm of Jones Obenchain, LLP, married and the mother of three. Jackie is active at home, at church and in the community. Jackie is a member of Generation X. She says,

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I agree that women can’t have it all, depending on how you define it. Both men and women have choices to make—careers, marriage, family and volunteer work are all part of it, but to be fully invested in all of them is nearly impossible.

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an interesting and energized workplace dynamic. They are all valuable resources with ideas to share and all have things to learn and teach each other to enhance the experiences for all the women around them.

Businesses are starting to recognize the inherent worth that women provide to their organizations. A recent article in the ABA Journal cited increasing numbers of female managing partners in the larger law firms as investment companies researched ways to appeal to the widening number of female investors. It is clear that women are increasingly a force to be reckoned with in the business world.

Even Warren Buffet has been speaking out in support of companies investing in women—he told Forbes magazine that he feels women are the key to America’s prosperity.

With the wealth of potential of the women of all ages, backgrounds and experience ready to hit the ground running, why is there still hesitation to put women in positions of authority? What is holding us back from tapping this group of talented potential game changers?

Let’s meet some successful women in the workforce today from several of the generations presently working together, to get their perspective of the advantages and disadvantages of the work environment today for women as detailed in Slaughter’s article.

Prioritizing is so important—but how do you say job is more important than your marriage right now? Or than the kids?

There are factors, as Professor Slaughter pointed out, that makes “all” easier or more attainable for some, but the reality is, we all have to make choices and that’s okay—as long as you really know what you are choosing!

If employers aren’t or can’t be flexible or overlook someone for a position or promotion because she took time off to raise a family or support a spouse, they miss out on bright, creative and energetic

employees. On the flip side, women must understand that choices have consequences—to their career and family.

We need to let go of the stereotypes that have been created for women so that we are free to prioritize and make choices that lead to productive and fulfilling lives—let’s redefine what having

it all means and then maybe we can.”

Cathy George Henry is a Generation X wife who made the decision to leave the workforce to become a stay-at-home mother of three. She is also active in her community and her church and in addition to her traditional at-home duties, she maintains a blog for women of faith titled God’s Girl Friends. On women having it all, Cathy commented,

“

If there is ever going to be true equality for women, we have to stop judging and snubbing each other. The problem today isn't from the men (usually) but from the other women. I have seen the shifts in attitudes in just a couple of generations.

My husband’s mother was a German war bride. She had only an 8th grade education and spoke with a heavy German accent. After marrying and moving to the States, she got a job at a bank in South Bend. She worked her entire career as a teller, often training men only to have them promoted over her.

As a young bride myself, I worked in the office of a trucking company in South Bend. My supervisor was a woman and she took her career very seriously. But even then, not quite 20 years ago, she told me that a woman would never advance any farther than she had already gotten, because of the attitude that a woman would not be as devoted to her job as a man. She had a pre-teen son at the time, but had granted custody to her ex-husband, simply because it looked better to her boss and hoped it would help her advance.

When my husband and I discussed having children, he told me that it was important to him that I be a stay-at-home mom. As the son of a working mother, he spoke of all the trouble he gotten had into as a child that happened between the time he got out of school and when his mom came home from work. As an "old-fashioned" girl, that was fine by me!

When I learned I was pregnant with [my son] and submitted my resignation, I was expecting the other women in the office to ridicule me. But I was surprised to find most of them were jealous of me for being able to stay home with my children.

[In her article,] Ms. Slaughter frequently referred to finding a balance. She commented that only the privileged few could afford what it took to "have it all". While I agree whole-heartedly to her idea of finding balance, I think we need to redefine what it means to "have it all". Most people think that means that you have the best job, in the best town, with the most expensive house and car, the latest and greatest of everything on the market, 2.5 kids and a dog. In my opinion, "having it all" means that you are content with where you are in life, and with the people you have in your life. That goes for men as well as for women. So many men are workaholics because they feel they have to provide for every need and whim of their family. Most of the time, however, the family would rather have his presence than his paycheck.

I think, too, we can't deny how we are wired as women. Men tend to be more logical, unemotional, goal-driven and competitive. Women tend to be more artistic, emotional, flexible and cooperative.

Of course, those are generalities and there are women who possess those same qualities as the men and visa versa. However, to deny the way I'm wired is setting myself up for failure. If I am wired to be the nurturer and am trying to be the provider, I'm going to be miserable. If I'm wired to be the go-getter, career woman and I'm trying to be the caregiver, I'm going to be equally miserable. ”

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Having it all means that you are content with where you are in life, and with the people you have in your life.

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opportunities to make more money. Each time we consider changing my position for more money, we come back to the same conclusion. If I work to my potential at a position for the pay for that job, the requirements of the job will require me to sacrifice not just family time, but the entire family experience, and raising my children to be successful and wonderful human beings they should be. The higher paying jobs don’t stop at 40 hours and they aren’t friendly for family/school schedules, and occasionally require frequent travel. Missing one parent, missing the routine and mostly missing a mother, the “care-giving” parent for any circumstance puts more stress on the children and causes the “irresolvable tensions between family and career” that Mrs. Slaughter refers to. The most trying time for me as a mother was at a presentation in New York training a group of 35 individuals on a new software, when I received a call and was told that my son broke his arm on the trampoline. This was something a mother should be there to comfort but I was unable to fly home until the training was complete three days later. Yes, he lived, but mothers should be there not only for routine but also to help their children through difficult experiences like these.

For me, personally, I'm way too busy as the nurturer and caregiver to try to have a career on top of it! I'd wear myself out!

So many of the problems with workplace equality, in my opinion, stem from the idea that we all have to look alike, act alike and think alike. I find it offensive that I have to behave like a man to make it in the workplace. I am not a man, I'm a woman. I embrace those feminine qualities that make me uniquely me. To deny those differences exist, denies my value as a woman. I find it shameful that the condescension is coming from other women.”

The greatest advantage of being a working mother is the independence that I have taught my children. In order to accomplish daily routines, I needed and need help. I taught them how to help and how to be more independent and working as a team we are able to get most everything accomplished. My children tend to act very mature and demonstrate that strong work ethic my mother passed along to me. As they grow in this next generation, I can only hope that society and the problems faced by professional women will change so that my three girls might be able to say that women truly can have it all.”

Jessica Garretson

is the assistant bookkeeper and marketing coordinator at Jones Obenchain, LLP. Jessica is a mother of five.

Jessica is a Millennial and her observations are as follows:

“

As a Millenial, I was born to a working mother, who at one time worked three jobs to support our family. She taught my brothers and me a great work ethic, and I started both my working career and family life at the young age of 16. Currently, I am a full- time working mother of five children ranging in ages 1 ½ to 12. I have had three jobs to learn from over the past 12 years and I have found Mrs. Slaughter’s point to be exactly true. It is quite impossible to be the parent and professional that I want to be, at least until my children are grown. The difference in pay for professionals directly correlates with job responsibilities and time requirements, and ultimately I agree with Mrs. Slaughter that women can’t have it all and I base that on personal experience. My oldest child, same as everyone’s oldest, right? Perfect! Well he was perfect until my job required a lot of travel. I was gone Monday through Friday, home on the weekends, at least once a month and sometimes up to three weeks a month for almost a year. The job paid great, but during this year, my perfect child got in trouble at school for the first time, and then multiple times after. He became disrespectful and angry.

I think at me mostly, but at the time, being only 9, he just expressed anger in situations that he used to handle well. My children were well cared for by family and a family/friend home daycare combination that share the same parenting principles, but ultimately, in my son’s case, his mother wasn’t there. When I stopped traveling and was back to a regular parenting schedule, all of the problems went away. I have changed from the two previously salaried positions working 60+ hour weeks to an hourly 35-40 hour work week.

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I can only hope that society and the problems faced by professional women will change so that my three girls might be able to say that women truly can have it all”

Marci Ullery

works as an administrative assistant at the University of Notre Dame. She has a long, strong history of working in a higher educational institution, but prior to that, worked in a shelter for women escaping domestic violence. Marci is a Boomer who grew up in the 1960’s. She is married without children. Marci is active in her church with strong ties to the community and is a member of a local feminist film group primarily comprised of educators in higher ed. She also enjoys spending time with her husband and working in her gardens. Marci says,

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I have a hard time responding to this, as I am NOT a parent, and it's easy to say what I would do. I am not a high level executive, but I’m just a woman who wants a good life, who needs to work for financial freedom, to support my personal lifestyle and share the financial burden with my husband. I have known a number of women with high-powered careers who have an excellent "team" in place with their husband and father of children, and they are able to have satisfaction in the job, make excellent salaries and still carve out quality time with their kids. I also know women who have highpowered careers and their spouse plays "Mr. Mom" and I question

the true "quality" of relationship they have with their children; but what do I really know and who am I to project? I also know of women who have high-powered careers and expect others to step in and pick up the pieces. Personally, I can't imagine the balancing act it would take to raise children and work full time, let alone have a high-powered career.

(Personally, I can't imagine having a high-powered career, either!) I agree that society does NOT have a system in place that supports the working Woman, high powered or not and affordable and quality day care does NOT exist equally in this country; opportunities for women to excel in the workforce are not comparable with opportunities for men; and finally, the relationships built between mother and child are simply going to be different with the career path versus the stayat-home mom. Better or worse is a case by case. There are women who manage to have very strong relationships with their children while working during even the very young years of their lives. I don't think this is a yes/no issue; I think it's complicated!”

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late and work weekends to meet a billable hours requirement and thus sacrifice time at home with a family. I also married a man who was supportive of my career and who would share responsibilities associated with raising our children.

Do I sometimes wish that my career had taken a different route? Absolutely. But at the same time, I know that if it had, I also wouldn’t have the flexibility to attend events like my son’s preschool picnic.

Between the two, the choice isn’t all that hard for me to make.”

It is interesting to see that in essence, it almost seems that across three generations of women, the struggle between career and home hasn’t really changed. There’s still a lot of work to be done, but what is hopeful is that across the board, women are starting to value their contributions in the workplace and in society. No matter what their paths in life, women have worth.

And I can’t think of a better start to having it all than that.

~ Pam Gunterman

Janet G. Horvath

is a partner in the law firm of Jones Obenchain, LLP. Janet a Gen X, is married with two sons, she is active in the community in addition to career and family obligations. Janet observes,

“

For both women and men, I think it comes down to choices and flexibility of the job. But as Ms. Slaughter points out, I think when faced with the same set of choices, men and women often choose differently – men making the choices to advance their careers and women choosing their family. This perpetuates the belief that these are choices only women face.

As a child of the 80’s, I grew up thinking that as a woman, I could have it all and be a wife, mother and successful career woman. The messages I received made it sound and look so easy. But twenty years later as I entered the workforce, I realized that in order to have it all, I had to make certain choices to make it doable. So, like Ms. Slaughter, for me having it all depended on the type of job I had and the partner I chose.

Coming out of law school, I wasn’t married and didn’t have children. but I knew that I wanted that to be part of my future. I specifically looked for a firm that wouldn’t require me to stay

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The Changing Face of Flexibility in the Workplace

By Gwen O’Brien

If you are a working mother, you may be on what seems like a fruitless quest for work and life balance. You daydream, “Do workplaces really exist that offer the flexibility to adequately meet the needs of work and home?”

Samaritan Counseling Center in South Bend knew there had to be, and if there were such work environments, couldn’t that improve the mental health of employees and the health of their relationships?

For 11 years, the counseling center has recognized local employers that promote a healthy work and life balance with the annual Samaritan Business Award. There are two purposes for the recognition: 1. To bring the importance of work/life initiatives to the attention of St. Joseph County employers and to honor those who provide familyfriendly work environments.

2. To provide additional funding for the Samaritan Counseling Center’s Client Assistance Fund, which benefits members of economically disadvantaged families who seek faith-based professional counseling.

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Each year business students at Saint Mary’s College, a liberal arts women’s college, analyze the nominated companies and offer their recommendations for possible winners to a selection committee, which chooses the finalists. This year, senior Molly Dunne, who majored in humanistic studies and minored in business administration, completed a review paper looking back at the past winners. What worker-friendly policies made the organizations successful? Dunne found seven best practices: 1. The organization’s atmosphere 2. Closeness amongst employees and employers 3. Two-way communication 4. Making employees feel respected & valued 5. Promoting the health and well-being of employees 6. Social responsibility 7. Flexibility

“As we celebrated eleven years of researching and honoring local organizations who promoted a healthy work/life balance for their employees, we hoped Molly’s research would be able to outline the dramatic changes and trends that have emerged over the years as well as summarize common characteristics of winning organizations over time. Her work is a testament to the warmer business climate for today’s families and employees,” said Marie Blunt, executive director of Samaritan Counseling Center.

When Saint Mary’s students consider nominees, they don’t just read reports.

They go to the workplaces to see firsthand what it’s like. Dunne noted that students commented on their first impressions of a company’s atmosphere and culture. For example, the Indiana Trust and Investment Management Company (a 2006 winner) was described as “open and comfortable” when student researchers interviewed employees.

The familial culture at Midland Engineering Company (a 2010 winner) was obvious when an employee interrupted a student researcher interview with Mike Frahn, executive vice president and CFO, to return a cake pan he had borrowed from him for a personal birthday.

the situation makes it necessary. Gibson Insurance (a 2006 winner) offers services and programs for their employees that deal with work-family stress management.

Dunne’s approach to her job search after college has been affected by the report she did for Samaritan. When she considers work places, the Lansing, Illinois native looks for signs of a family-friendly work environment. The seven best practices are her tool kit.

To read Dunne’s full report, go to www.sccsb.org/samaritan-awards.

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Dunne found a consistent theme that if the lines of communication between employees and executives is trusted and comfortable, employees are willing to go to those able to best solve the problem. An employee at Hoosier Spring Company (a 2010 winner) noted that while the company had a physical suggestion box, employees felt very comfortable talking directly to the president.

Dunne reported that all of the organizations that have received the Samaritan Business Award understand the importance of being a parent and the difficulties that may arise for working parents. As early as 2002, winners have utilized work arrangements such as telecommuting, job sharing and flex time, with one company even offering a courier service, which transported work from one office to the homes of employees when necessary. Meanwhile, the Midwest Orthotic & Technology Center (a 2004 winner) employees may bring their child to work if

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ore than any room in our lives, the bedroom is the most personal space we have. It is here that we end each day, closing the door gently on the cares of the world and awake to a new sunrise, ready to begin again. It is a place for us to remember our own needs and reconnect with our essential selves. This room allows us to divide our private lives from our public ones. Whatever we are during the day, in the bedroom we are at liberty to be truly at ease, slipping into comfortable attire, plumping a pillow or opening a book.

If your home is your castle, then your bedroom should be your sanctuary.

We spend one-third of our lives in this room, so why not create a space that truly envelops us? I often hear people say that they want their bedrooms to feel like a retreat. Having recently stayed at a few luxury hotels around the country, I realized that there truly is no place like home. However, I brought back some inspiration from these sumptuous rooms that we can all incorporate into our own everyday lives.

Double duty I am partial to nightstands that have drawers.

The extra storage space allows you to put away things you need on a daily basis that would otherwise crowd surface space, such as remote controls, note pads, books, magazines, tissue packets and jewelry.

Declutter your mind

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One of the easiest ways to create a feeling of calm and repose is to de-clutter. Start by editing everything that is not necessary, then think about organization. Rather than emptying your pockets onto the dresser, leaving a pile of keys, wallets, spare change and chap-stick, utilize a drawer divider and place all these various items in the top drawer so they are easily accessible in the morning.

Be sure there is a place for shoes, soiled clothes, belts and hand bags in the closet so you can close the door on clutter. When we walk into a room and see a mess, our brains naturally cause us to feel more stress. By placing items in their proper home, you can subconsciously bring to fruition the phrase, "Out of sight, out of mind."

Sweet dreams Because the bedroom is all about comfort, take a tip from luxury hotels

and splurge on the best bedding your budget allows. Quality sheets, lavish throws like cashmere and faux fur are treats that can be enjoyed every single day. A comfortable chair for reading along with a small table standing at just the right height for a cup of tea are other luxuries that can help ease you into the evening.

Room service

One of my favorite things about staying at a luxury hotel is ordering room service. Although I can't make a phone call at home and have someone deliver a tray of fresh coffee and scones to my bedroom, I do have a few ways to incorporate the feel of room service at my own house. Keep a bed tray stashed under the bed or in the closet so it is easily accessible in case you want to enjoy breakfast in bed.

I love the idea of conducting business from bed, so I use a vintage sewing table covered with a simple white table cloth next to my bed to put my laptop on, along with a notebook and my cell phone.

When I'm finished, the table folds up and goes into the closet, while the cloth hangs on a hanger just above, taking up hardly any space.

Mood lighting I prefer dimmers in every room, but most especially the bedroom. Having lamps and overhead lights on dimmers allows you to control the mood. A good light for reading or a soothing light for transitioning into sleep time–the choice can be yours. Let's not forget a few candles for the nights you want to set the scene for romance!

When creating your own perfect bedroom sanctuary, remember to utilize every inch of storage space and organize clutter first. Then, invest in lavish bedding that will beckon you to curl up each night. Lastly, think about ways to incorporate little luxuries into your daily routine, and pretend that you're on vacation! It takes time to fashion the perfect retreat, and your tastes may change along the way. But why shouldn't a bedroom, of all places, evolve with us? The key is to begin now, and enjoy the journey of creating your own personal sanctuary.

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Dear Charrise ...

Have a co-worker who’s driving you batty? A boss who just won’t listen to reason?

Or maybe you’re wondering if this is your time to break out and show the business world what you’re really made of – but you don’t know exactly how to go about it. Sounds like you need some sound business advice! Send your questions to Charrise, our SASSY business coach, and have them answered here. It’s time to get a fresh perspective!

Email your questions to: Chaunie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com to have them answered by Coach Charrise!

Q:

I started a small gift basket company a few years ago. It has grown into a profitable business, but now I can see that my time is maxed out. I want to grow more but I know I cannot work any more hours and stay sane. I know I probably need to hire some help, but that seems like a whole new ballgame and I’m not sure I would be good at managing a staff. Any tips on how to hire and manage staff?

interview, it’s not likely to be a good fit for you. Seek connection, and be willing to speak several times about the opportunity until you are very sure they have a chance for success with you.

Charrise Says:

Hiring your first employee can be nerve wracking. It requires your willingness to relinquish some control. It also can represent a growth opportunity for all - you, your business, and your fortunate employee.

Your question, as I understand it, is based upon your desire to scale your business. Many people start with a business idea that is so personal and so dependent on their physical presence in the work that it becomes difficult to imagine the business growing without them being intimately involved in the transactions. It’s smart of you to see your limitations.

At the same time, all the leverage you need to grow exists in the hiring of the right staff, and then the way you manage that staff.

By “right staff,” I mean that it’s possible to enroll people in your business mission who won’t require a lot of “managing”. In pretty much any business, humans are the most powerful leverage point for growth.

When hiring, look first for qualifications. Be sure you think they can learn what you need them to learn. Also, look for fit. If you don’t like them or aren’t drawn to their personality during the 28 July 2013 | SASSY

Essentially, you are going to trust them to perpetuate your brand, with potentially serious consequences if they are not on board with what you are creating. Check references and consider creating a trial period where you can actually evaluate their work before making a long-term commitment to them. When you hire the right person, managing becomes easy.

Q:

I ’m in my first year of a new business I started because of my passion for teaching people how to change their food choices for a healthier lifestyle. I am doing this through serving prepared food in my restaurant. My true passion is to teach and work with people one-on-one. The restaurant business has been a huge success so far but I’m starting to feel trapped in my schedule. I don’t have time to meet with individuals or market my other services - let alone time for my personal life.

This is so important to me. How can I balance it all?

Charrise Says:

First, step back and remind yourself why you are doing all of this. What are you really attempting to accomplish, and why? When your “why” is solid and clear, everything else tends to work itself out.

One important thing to remember is not to dilute your efforts. Just because you CAN do something, doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do to serve your overall vision.

If cooking drives your mission, cook. If teaching drives your mission, teach. Look for the places in your business where you deliver the biggest value, and focus there.

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Another risk to an entrepreneur like you is burnout. We all know what that is – and yet I see it with small business owners more than any other segment of the population. You start with such high hopes and an intense passion for what you’re doing. Somehow that passion tends to get squashed by long hours and zero regard for self-care. It’s starts to feel like a job. That’s not what you signed up for!

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The Executive

MBA Program

at Notre Dame

By: Chaunie Marie Brusie

Are you an executive leader in your field?

Thinking about taking your career to the next level? Then the Executive Masters of Business Administration at Notre Dame may be just the program that you are looking for.

Paul C. Velasco, the Director of the Stayer Center for Executive Education at Notre Dame, provides leadership and direction for the two Executive MBA programs on Notre Dame’s South Bend and Chicago campuses.

He explains that the executive MBA is targeted to make a difference in industry leaders. “The Executive MBA Program builds business and leadership acumen for an executive audience,” Velasco says. “All these leaders seek to accomplish two goals through the EMBA program — to develop their business acumen to better drive value creation within their organization, and to do so while always maintaining a valuescentered leadership perspective.”

Experience makes a difference

Velasco explains that although most students in the program average around 38 years old, the program participants range in age from 30-60. Compared to a traditional MBA program, the Executive program is designed for more experienced leaders. With 20 years of this program behind them, the staff at Notre Dame are able to focus on the development of higher-level management skills, with a solid understanding of leadership through their Integral Leadership curriculum. Velasco also points out that in contrast with other executive MBA programs, the Notre difference occurs across two dimensions.

“First, we help students to develop their own leadership perspective through our Executive Integral Leadership program,” he says. “And secondly, the Notre Dame EMBA program places a greater stress on strategy — developing our students to create resilient strategies that will stand the test of time.”

High success rate

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We believe that businesses must operate as a force for good within the world, and we train our students to think of broader perspectives in every course in which they engage.”

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The Executive MBA programs see a successful graduation rate of over 95%, which Velasco credits to an intensive applicant-screening program.

“We work to carefully select applicants that are well-prepared to be successful in our programs,” he explains. “We also carry this approach into Executive Education's non-degree programs, all of which work to develop a leadership perspective in our students.”

Strategy-driven

One key difference of Notre Dame’s executive program is its dedication to real-life results.“Our approach to strategy, which includes live cases and a project-oriented international immersion, cannot be found elsewhere in the region,” says Velasco. As any student knows, sometimes the real world can be a far cry from the classroom, but

according to Velasco, students through Notre Dame’s program choose a trek that focuses on the knowledge they will need in the workplace.

“Students choose this program because our new curriculum provides a best-in-class education that is not available through other EMBA programs.”

Valerie Olsen is a recent graduate of the program and an executive at Target who maintains that the practical aspect of the program holds great appeal for students. “I loved the cohort aspect of the program, “she explains. “It is a realistic view of how to build effective teams and provides a great way to build close relationships and networks that I will continue to grow long after the program.”

Values matter

Like one would come to expect from this community leader, Notre Dame’s Executive MBA program focuses on the ethical side of the business world as well.

[We have a] values - centered - leadership perspective,” states Velasco. “We believe that businesses must operate as a force for good within the world, and train our students to think of broader perspectives in every course in which they engage.”

Valier affirms that she chose the program largely for its ethical basis. “The newly designed curriculum weaves ethical leadership, strategy and spirituality throughout,” Valerie says. “The program has pushed me to dig deeper into strategy, what it means to be an ethical leader, and expect more out of the businesses I work with.”

Financial assistance is available for training in the Executive MBA program at Notre Dame. For full-time graduate students, standard financial aid packages apply and Notre Dame offers eight fellowships a year to award up to $20,000 of grant money per student. Fellowships are provided through the John Cardinal O’Hara Society.

“I truly loved the program and would do it again in a second,” Valerie exclaims. “This program has helped me to elevate my business acumen, but also took it one step further and allowed me to differentiate myself to strategically align my career goals with my personal goals, allowing me to be successful in all aspects of my life.”

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recipe

Two - Step

Pumpkin Spice Coffee By: Chaunie Marie Brusie

So, you know nothing says “fall” to me–and thousands of other cold-blooded American women—like the advent of pumpkin spice latte season at Starbucks. There is nothing like that first sip of pumpkin spice while enjoying the crisp air and crunching through some freshlyfallen leaves…ahh, I can almost taste it now.

Yes, #PSL marks the start of fall for many of us, but unfortunately, it also marks a disastrous combination of yet another artificially-processed and sugar-laden coffee drink. Blech. Desperate to hold on to the fall tradition that I so love and cherish, I came up with this little gem to help bring the fresh taste of pumpkin spice to your coffee cup…hold the fat and fake stuff, please.

Ingredients

• Freshly-ground coffee beans or pre-ground coffee

• 1 tsp. pumpkin pie spice (or make your own with a mixture of cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger and cloves)

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Directions

Before you brew your morning coffee, simply mix in 1 tsp. of pumpkin pie spice into the grounds. Top off your cup of pumpkin spice with some whipped cream and a sprinkling of cinnamon.

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Grandma’s on

Facebook…

By: Cyndy Searfoss

But Will She Like Your Page?

By: Cyndy Searfoss

Marketing and advertising trends change

faster than Taylor Swift changes boyfriends. What worked last year – or even last month – may not be the best solution to getting your company, product or service recognized and used by potential customers.

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etting the social media marketing mix right isn’t rocket science, despite what some of the experts claim. It does take time, patience and some research, especially if you’re marketing to multiple generations. One of the most important aspects of social media marketing is understanding your audience and using the tools that reach them most effectively.

Which means a beauty salon whose customers are in their 20s will likely use social media tools much differently than a salon whose customers skew to their 40s and 50s. The younger demographic customers in our area tend to use Twitter more than Facebook, Facebook more than web sites. For some businesses, particularly those who have visually appealing products or services, Instagram and Pinterest for this age group make sense as well.

Chances are good – at least in this region – that tweeting discount offers to the older group won’t be successful. Focusing on gaining Facebook followers and offering them specials, discounts and Facebook-exclusive goodies is a much better bet. They are also likely to appreciate a well-designed web site that anticipates the questions they have about your business, product or service and answers them succinctly. This demographic (who have been using the Internet since the days when web pages were filled multi-color, blinking

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type) wants web sites that are easy to navigate and informative.

Multiple social media studies show that Facebook use is growing among older adults. In fact, according to Online MBA, 46% of all Facebook users are 45 years and older. But don’t expect that to translate into “likes” on your page. In a recent study done by Creating Results, LLC, a leader in marketing to baby boomers and seniors, “only 14% of consumers over 40 said “yes,” they would want to become a brand’s friend/follower/fan. The “no thanks” feeling is stronger the older the respondent.” So… Grandma may get information about your company or product from Facebook but she’s not likely to click on the “Like” box.

The mix gets more complicated when there are multiple audiences of different ages. Think of a college or university – not only are they interested in marketing to prospective students, they also market to parents of prospective students and high school guidance counselors. The messages and the social media mix are likely very different. They may even market to adults returning to college.

One Facebook post or paid ad won’t fit everyone.

The good news is that finding the right social media mix for your business is fairly simple and straightforward.

Here are some pointers:

• Ask your customers about their social media usage. After all, those are the people – and people like them – that you’re trying to reach. This can be something as informal as asking them a couple of questions while they’re paying for their purchases or an online survey.

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• Check out the competition, locally and around the country.

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• Join social media marketing online groups and forums. Many of these are available via LinkedIn; some are even specific to industries or product categories. Read through prior posts and then join the conversation.

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• Study up on best practices via online publications. Two excellent sources are Fast Company and Inc. Their content is updated throughout the day the stories are well-written and brief.

• Test, test, test – unless you’re purchasing Facebook or Google ads there is no cost to you to post, pin or tweet away. Ask cs sent to Zuziw questions, post or tweet pictures, thank your customers. On Facebook, once you have 30 or more followers, you will be able to see which of your posts and photos receive the most response from your audience.

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Grammar

Matters...Usually

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz

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here’s a great Chuck & Beans cartoon in which Beans is upset that no one seems to be reading his blog, since there are no new comments.

Beans advises him to misspell something because “quality is mostly overlooked, but the one thing that the Internet cannot ignore is grammar and/or spelling errors.” Beans is proven correct when Chuck receives 300 angry comments due to his misusing the word “their.” Chuck’s house is also mobbed by picketers with “carefully worded protest signs.”

New York Times, he states that “one of the easiest, quickest and most widely used indicators of a candidate’s worth is his or her grammar. Misspellings, poor syntax and grammatical mistakes typically result in a swift relegation to the “no” pile; the decision makers reason that the errors disclose either poor communication skills or an indifference toward details.” Challenger argues that this dismissal of candidates, based on their ability to use the proper “its” is ridiculous for positions that do not require a great deal of written communication.

A simple spelling error can inspire irrational condemnation. New York Times writer John McWhorter claimed that grammar checking is one of “today’s last permissible expressions of elitism.” After all, he claims, “Notice how much meaner it sounds if someone says that they won’t hire someone who can’t do algebra, despite math not being required on the job beyond elementary calculations . . . it sounds arbitrary, as if deep down, the person just has a thing about math.”

However, the opposition claims that even everyday communication requires good (read: grammatical) skills. Lynne Truss, author of the bestselling grammar book, “Eats, Shoots & Leaves,” argues that modern educational systems are more interested in students learning to “express themselves” rather than write in a way that is grammatically correct, a move that she says damages students’ chances of future success.

This point is also made by John Challenger, CEO of Challenger, Gray and Christmas, Inc., a large outplacement company. In a separate interview with the

So, whether you are on one side of the grammar debate or the other, be assured that there are many who are sticklers. Also, in a tough hiring market,

one way to quickly whittle down a pile of applications is to toss any that have errors. So, it’s best to be on the safe side and be as conscientious as reasonably possible.

Top Five Grammar Errors To Watch For Which errors are considered the most egregious? To many, some errors are considered more unforgiveable, such as flaws in spelling and capitalization.

While I think their list may be a bit outdated, here is a top five grammar error list that I’ve compiled as an instructor, copy editor and writer:

1. Sentence fragments: These happen when sentences are incomplete. Again, what constitutes a “complete sentence” is (no surprise here) debatable. After all, consider Stanley Fish’s definition in his recent book, “How to Write a Sentence and How to Read One.” He claims that a sentence need only have two qualities to be complete: it must be “an organization of items in the world” and it must be a “structure of logical relationships.” In essence, a sentence must make sense not only to the person writing it, but also to the person reading it.

2. Incorrect verb forms: These happen all the time with my students, often in speech as well as writing; For example, “He were going out” or, “We was in the store the other day.” Verb confusion relates to the broader problem of agreement in the sentence generally. To combat, ask yourself: does the subject agree with the verb? Is the tense consistent? Is it clear who is doing what, when and where?

3. Capitalization and apostrophes: Here’s a rundown: • Capitalize the beginnings of sentences.

• Capitalize the letters in acronyms.

• Capitalize proper nouns (specific names of persons, places or things).

In addition, my students clearly have issues with apostrophes, and its misuse can certainly muddle a sentence. This is why many of the errors touted on the Internet are errors related to apostrophe misuse. Apostrophes only have two purposes: to show possession or to create a contraction, as in, “The children’s toys weren’t broken.”

4. Fused sentences: For example, “We bought the dress then we tried it on.” There are two complete sentences here and without proper punctuation, they cannot work together. In class, I call these “overachieving sentences” because they are trying to do so much work that they aren’t doing anything well.

5. Spelling errors or confused words: Use spell check, but also read your writing aloud. Spell check will not catch if you use the wrong “your” or “their,” or if you use the word “our” instead of “hour.” Remember the fuss when the marketing firm for the city of South Bend forgot the “l” in “public” on one of their billboards about being proud of the city’s school system? It made national news. Don’t forget the “l” in “public.” Ever.

The Big Question: Is It Clear?

As Fish argued earlier, the reason grammar exists is as a way to organize language.

By having consistent expectations about how our language should be presented, we have a greater likelihood of understanding each other. This is especially true in writing, where you only have one chance to explain your ideas to a reader; you can’t amend your message if he seems confused because you won’t know he’s confused.

That being said, there are times when we communicate very effectively but don’t obey the rules. Poetry, literature, signage, marketing – all of these take advantage

of unorthodox language use. Consider Barack Obama’s slogan for his second campaign: “Forward.” One word with a period. In her piece on the grammatical fallout from the successful message, Carol E. Lee of The Wall Street Journal began by writing, “The. Obama. Campaign. Slogan. Is. Causing. Grammarians. Whiplash.”

The goal of the slogan was to show that the president’s next term would move the country forward, but following the word with a period implied that progress would actually stop. One advisor pointed out that at least it was better than following the word with a comma, which would inspire the question, “Now what?”

One little period caused all this ruckus, but the issue at hand wasn’t so much the period but what the period implied. Did the grammar undermine the message?

Was the message still clear (the big “C” word in grammar)? If the answer is yes, then the rule can be broken with impunity. If not, then the grammar needs to be reconsidered.

This is true in everyday writing as well. If we can be clear to our audience without perfect grammar, then we should be able to break rules. This comes into play most often when communicating online. Here, rule number one above goes out the window. Consider this hypothetical e-mail: “Hey – you free tomorrow?

Golf at 1 at the muni.” These are sentence fragments, but their meaning is clear to the intended audience. In this context, Stanley Fish would argue that grammar is working.

To Whom It May Concern To return to Chuck & Beans, there are many who are concerned about grammar, who see its failure as a failure of the broader educational system. And they have a point: our students should know the rules so that they can choose to break them rather than accidentally breaking them. However, teaching grammar is not as simple as it may sound. Trust me, I try on a regular basis. I teach mini-lessons on specific issues, provide online resources (Purdue’s free Online Writing Lab and Grammar Girl are my favorites), encourage with cartoons and mark up papers.

And I will continue to do this; however, in many cases, I have bigger fish to fry.

My students are intelligent human beings who wish to communicate complex thoughts. To do this, they need all the tools the language offers. Most importantly, they need to know how to use words. Knowing the most precise, comprehensible words can simplify any sentence. I often encourage my students to keep reading, to get a sense for what words mean and how they are used well by others.

Once we have the right words to express their ideas, then we can move into how to put those words into sentences. Stanley Fish precisely describes how the melding of words and syntax leads to good sentences. “Once the words are nestled in the places ‘ordained’ for them – ‘ordained’ is a wonderful word that points to the inexorable logic of syntactic structures – they are tied by ligatures of relationships to one another.” They work.

So, rather than being the picketers outside Chuck’s window, let’s all stop a moment. Before pulling out the red pens, we need to ask ourselves, “Am I going to make this message more sensible than it already is, or does it communicate effectively already?” If the latter holds true, holster the ink pen and relax.

Grammar is already working.

Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz is a doctoral student in English at IU Bloomington. She previously taught at (and attended) Saint Mary’s College. She has two dogs, a husband and more books than she cares to count.

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assy Magazine and the Renaissance Executive Forums are pleased to bring you our new monthly column The Sassy Executive Forum. Each month we will have a featured business question that will be answered by female executives to help guide you in your own business endeavors.

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This Month's Question: Karen kehr

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I am recently divorced and realize that I had previously been overly reliant on my former husband to do all the retirement planning. To make matters worse, I now have less financial resources than before. Where should I be focusing, when thinking of my long term needs? I hope to retire in 15 years at age 66.

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Answer:

20 years ago, I found myself in the position this question raises.

I understand the feeling of anxiety and uncertainty regarding one’s financial future. Being suddenly responsible for my own financial destiny was daunting, and the concept of financial planning was mysterious. I asked people I trusted what they would do and who they would work with as a financial advisor.

After I found someone, I asked them what they would do if they were me with my financial needs and goals. I had to deal with my fear of investing and not succumb to the urge to put it all in a shoebox under my bed. It was important to me to invest whatever dollars I had to organizations that operated in ethical ways. I was fortunate to find an advisor who shared my values and was able to make informed recommendations. I learned to 38 OCTOBER 2013 | SASSY

President, Hawthorne Services, LLC. Karen Kehr is the President of Hawthorne Services, LLC, a business consultancy dedicated to executive and organizational development. She has extensive experience coaching “C” level executives, facilitating executive level groups and organizational consulting for both for-profit companies and industries, and non-profit groups.

Karen has a B.S. in Education from Goshen College and an M.S. in Counseling and Human Services from Indiana University.

Karen holds active memberships in the Society for Human Resource Management and Renaissance Executive Forum.

stay the course with an investment even when it went through inevitable ups and downs, and when it was time to make a move to a different investment.

In retrospect, I should have been paying attention to financial issues all along, even when I had someone in my life who was “taking care of things” economically. We do not know the future. Every woman, regardless of present circumstances, needs to come to terms with money; making it, investing it and using it wisely. There is no greater vulnerability than economic dependency and no greater power than mastery of your financial future.

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Anita is the Chief Financial Officer of InterCambio Express. She is a member of the AICPA, INCPA and AFP professional societies. She enjoys sports including running, soccer, snow-skiing and waterskiing at her lake cottage on Long Lake in Michigan. Her travels have taken her over Europe and Central America. She lives in Granger with her husband and high school daughter. Her son is a junior at the Michigan State University. The Knudtson’s welcomed a high school exchange student from Finland into their home this year.

Answer:

First of all, let me commend you for taking action on your financial situation as this is a topic that many women find difficult to understand.

Having said that, there are some very basic and yet effective steps you can take to regain control of your financial future.

The first step you will want to take is to evaluate your current income and expenses by developing a budget that you can live on. Once this is sorted out, you will be able to determine how much disposable income you have that can be set aside for savings or investments.

If this is your first time in the investment arena, I recommend that you interview several reputable investment advisors, research their references and then chose one that you feel most comfortable with. Begin your investment strategy by initially putting money into a liquid investment on a consistent basis until you have enough funds to diversify your portfolio. When you have built up a large enough sum of money, ask your advisor to help you chose an investment strategy that matches your risk tolerance and future needs for the money. Stay on top of your investments by monitoring your account activity as often as you can and by meeting with your advisor at least quarterly each year. Make financial adjustments to your portfolio as is occasionally necessary, but stay true to your plan for retiring by being persistent and consistent.

If you work for an employer that offers a retirement plan, take advantage of this opportunity as what some may call “free money”. Often employers will match a percentage of the money that you invest into the company’s 401(k) retirement plan which is designed to help incentivize you to save money towards your retirement goals. Don’t miss investment opportunities like this.

In closing, it is never too late to start saving for your retirement. Start saving something right away no matter how small and before you know it, with careful management you will have a nice nest egg waiting for you when it’s time to retire.

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oin the FAMILY Magazines and the Humane Society of Elkhart County for a fun-filled night of fashion and furry friends at the 10th Annual Furry Friends Fashion Fair on Thursday, November 7th at the Matterhorn Conference Center starting at 6:00 p.m.!

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Alice

Bugs has been at the shelter since May. He would love a home where he can be socialized and of course, be a part of the family!

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Alice is only 4 months old. She came to the shelter as a stray. Alice is ready to know what it is liked to be in a home where she can romp and play. Come visit Alice at the shelter today!

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Each m onth we will feature a new cat , dog, and bu nny!

Interested in adoption?

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Lullaby

Lullaby is a sweet 9-month-old Terrier mix. She is extremely loving and also enjoys playing with other dogs. Lullaby would love a home where she can run and be loved forever!

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October 2013 Events

Yoga

other questions, a sack lunch and join our health professions for this event.

Call: (574) 277-0274

Battell Community Center

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6:15 pm-7:15pm

This yoga class will help you develop strength, balance and flexibility and reduce stress. You will flow through a series of postures to get your heart rate up and then cool down with some poses for deep stretching. Bring a mat if you have one; the instructor has a few extra mats and will provide any other props needed for class (blocks and straps).

Plain & Fancy 8:00 pm

Amish Acres Historic Farm & Heritage Resort

A New Yorker and his sophisticated girlfriend drive down around Lancaster, Pennsylvania, to sell a piece of property. Here they meet the Amish folk, whose convoluted English speech, clothes and habits haven’t changed for centuries. The clash of cultures educates and entertains at the same time in this quaint musical comedy.

Call: 574-773-4188

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Lose Weight...Find Health Free Education Seminars 6:30 pm until 8:00 pm

Lakeland Medical Suites, Niles

Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center continues to offer free seminars for individuals wanting to learn more about permanent weight loss. Michael Schuhknecht, DO one of Michigan’s most experienced bariatric surgeons will discuss programs available for losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight for years to come. The Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center specializes in working with each person to create a customized lifestyle plan, including medical weight loss management through diet or bariatric surgery, nutrition counseling, individualized exercise programs and monthly support groups.

Call: 269-687-4673

My Plate 101

Bridgman Public Library

This class will help you understand the importance of proper nutrition. You will learn how to read labels and avoid portion distortion. You will get tips on making a great plate and eating better on a budget.

Call: (269) 556-2808

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Ask a Doctor

12:00 pm to 1:00 pm

Samaritan Counseling Center

What have you always wondered or wanted to know about "mental illness?" How can you tell if someone is clinically depressed or simply has "the blues?"

What is the best way to suggest professional mental health services to a friend or member of your congregation? What is the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist? Bring 42 OCTOBER 2013 | SASSY

Octoberfest

5:00 pm-8:00 pm

Downtown Goshen

What would fall be without beer, bratwurst and pumpkins? Goshen offers all three with its annual Oktoberfest. Multiple Oktoberfest tents feature music and dancing and harvest eats.

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The Color Run 6:00 am

Coveleski Stadium, South Bend

Are you ready for the craziest, colorful, 5k of your life?

You bet you are. Race it solo or form a Color Team.

Check out more race details at thecolorrun.com & well see you all squeaky clean at the start line.

Fit 4 Fall 5K Run/Walk Riverview Park

The Fit 4 Fall 5K Run/Walk raises funds to support Hospice at Home, the Wounded Warrior Project, and the Sonya Ansari Center for Autism in Southwest Michigan. The race takes runners and walkers through Riverview Park’s scenic trails and wooded terrain.

Chip timing will be used to determine winners for age divisions, and medals will be awarded to the top three male and female finishers in each age group. Preregistration is encouraged at www.fit4fall5k.com, as the first 500 registrants will receive Fit 4 Fall 5K shirts and goody bags.

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So You Think You Can Dance

Morris Performing Arts Center, South Bend

SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE, the eleven-time Primetime Emmy® Award winning show that sparked America’s fascination with dance, is set to captivate audiences again this Fall live on tour. The season 10 tour line-up includes: Aaron Turner, Amy Yakima, “FikShun,” Hayley Erbert, Jasmine Harper, Jenna Johnson, Makenzie Dustman, Nico Greetham, Paul Karmiryan, and Tucker Knox. Due to the physical nature of the performances, not all dancers may be appearing. Call: 574-235-9190

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Middle Eastern Dance 1 6:00 pm-7:00 pm

Battell Community Center

Middle Eastern Belly Dance for fitness and fun for all ages! Level I is for those new to belly dancing!

Call: 574-258-1664

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Where Does Your Money Go? 1:00 pm-2:30 pm

Battell Community Center

Does your money run out before the end of the month? Is it difficult to pay bills on time? Do you wish you had more money? In this program you will learn to recognize where your money goes, stop spending leaks to save money for what you really want and develop a spending-savings plan. Call or stop in to register at the Battell Community Center.

Call: 574-258-1664

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GreenTown Michiana 7:30 am

Double Tree by Hilton, South Bend

GreenTown brings together the public sector and the private sector to “connect the dots”, to inspire and to work together to remake our communities.

From healthy living to local food, energy to green infrastructure, water to outdoor space, GreenTown will help you make the healthy choice the easy choice.

To register visit: http://www.greentownconference. com/register/

The Civic Swing Fundraiser 6:00 pm

Century Center, South Bend

Have a swinging evening and help YOUR community theatre as South Bend Civic Theatre holds the Civic Swing. For more info visit: http://sbctcivicswing. weebly.com/

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Walk a Mile in Her Shoes 9:00 am

Gridiron at the Hall of Fame, South Bend

Are you ready for the shoe challenge? Can YOU walk a mile in her shoes like hundreds of other men in Michiana? Walk alone or form a team of guys! $50 donation or minimum pledges to secure your shoes & T-shirt! The money raised from the Men’s March to End Violence Against Women-Walk a Mile in Her Shoes® benefits the YWCA’s domestic violence & sexual assault programs in St. Joseph & Elkhart Counties.

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Bazaar Sunday 10:00 am

The State, South Bend

Come one, come all to the greatest bazaar around! Join is for a fun South Bend tradition as we turn The State into an upscale shopping venue with local vendors offering vintage goods, antiques, hand-crafted items, repurposed furniture, sustainable products and more.

Fun music and tasty food round out the experience.

Admission is free. Grab a friend and make it a Bazaar Sunday!

This listing includes events around town. Always call ahead for updates.

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Business Women United Network Michiana Alliance Monthly Meeting 12:00 pm-1:00 pm

Cafe Navarre, South Bend

Join us for lunch to connect beyond business and build a network of women who will EMPOWER and support you through both personal and professional channels.

You are welcome to join us as a guest one time without any pressure to join. Please click on our notes tab or visit our main website www.business-women-united. com to find out more about who we are, what we do and why you want to join us. At each monthly meeting, we feature a member speaker and a nonprofit speaker.

Bring your cards, catalogs, flyers and beautiful selves and join us for lunch. Please note that this event occurs monthly, on the second Monday of February, March, April, May, June, August, September, October and November.

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Wine and Weeding Wednesday 5:00 pm-6:00 pm

Fernwood Botanical Garden & Nature Preserve

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Salvation Army, Niles

Zumba Class

Fitness to the Core

DanceSport on the Plaza

Come out and enjoy a fun-filled Zumba workout. There is a $7 pay-as-you-go fee for this class, and the class is held every Tuesday and Thursday. Bring anyone who you think may be interested and get in shape!

Call: 574-272-1234

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Frightening 5K and Haunted Hilly Half Marathon 8:45 am-12:00 pm

Bonneyville Mill County Park, Bristol

Boo Ha ha!!! Come join us for a super fun 5K and Half Marathon experience.

Frightening 5K is an out and back course on paved country roads that includes a nice grade to make it a little more difficult. Haunted Half Marathon is a loop course that is challenging and includes plenty of rollers throughout. Not a runner? Monster Mile is a walk on a lovely, wide well groomed path through the woods...ahhh nature. Costumes encouraged! Benefits Elkhart County Down Syndrome Support Group.

This popular activity returns as we invite volunteers to join the horticulture staff in the gardens for an hour or so of light gardening, followed by time to enjoy good company and an excellent, local vintage. Hope you can join us! Wednesday Evenings, 5:00 pm. Call: 269-695-6491

Regular physical activity that is performed on most days of the week reduces the risk of developing or dying from some of the leading causes of illness and death in the United States. This class will discuss the different elements of fitness and the various benefits that fitness has on an individual’s overall health. We will discuss practical ways to incorporate fitness into our day as well as forming an individualized fitness plan. The Margaret Beckley Upton Center for Health Enhancement will offer a free cholesterol screening and a series of free “Lunch and Learn” events designed with your health and well-being in mind.

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Guest Ballroom Night 7:15 pm

DanceSport on the Plaza

Come out and learn a new ballroom dance at DanceSport on the Plaza’s guest night. Guest night begins with a class which lasts 40 minutes and is complete with a practice party to allow guests to practice the skills which they learned in the class.

Drinks are provided. 574-272-1234

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SPARK Entrepreneurial Programs Saint Mary’s College

The Saint Mary’s College Women’s Entrepreneurship Initiative (WEI) is proud to announce that this fall it will host its fifth session of the SPARK entrepreneurship training program. SPARK is intended to assist local under-resourced, high-potential entrepreneurs to “spark” or launch successful businesses. SPARK focuses on helping women create a corporate identity and a business plan, implement marketing strategies and promotional materials, and learn skills in time management, bookkeeping, attaining a business loan and general success strategies.

Call: (574) 284-4579

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National Theater Live-MacBeth 7:00 pm

DeBartolo, Notre Dame

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Spider’s Web 3:00 pm

South Bend Civic Theatre, South Bend

The queen of suspense, Agatha Christie, spins a tale of murder, blackmail and deception. Complete with secret rooms, vanishing bodies, and signature plot twists, this tangled web will ensnare you in mystery and mayhem.

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book reviews

D is for Dysfunctional…and Doo Wop Mary Ellen Stepanich’s first book, "D is for Dysfunctional...and Doo Wop", is a memoir about a Hoosier girl who dreamed of becoming a professional singer but her dream was thwarted by an overprotective mother who was haunted by her own nightmare. Instead, she followed her father’s advice and eventually became a doctor of behavior science. This book showcases her journey through trials and tribulations from childhood to adulthood, aided by her love for music.

Author Mary Ellen Stepanich, with tongue firmly in cheek, answers the question, “How do you turn a normal, happy-go-lucky, poor, small-town girl of the Midwest into a push-me-pull-me, multi-married, mass-of-inner-conflicts schizophrenic?”

In her memoir, she shares the personal (and mostly true) story of her family’s dysfunction. The eldest daughter of the family, she started out as an average, happy, and innocent little girl. Her voice was soon crushed, however, by disastrous value programming—the tacit and implicit lessons taught by parents, teachers, peers, relatives, and even the geographical and cultural environment. These learned values can become immutable unless the person receiving them can finally recognize that these behaviors do not benefit their lives—and then boldly choose to ignore them.

All Mary Ellen has wanted out of life was someone to listen to her, and now her voice is finally heard. Her tale, one of systematic abuse and silence, is told with refreshing honesty and humor. She was one of a generation born on the cusp between the Great Depression and the New Deal, and as a result she was programmed to become anything but the confident, assertive adult she has fought to create. In her story, there is hope.

“My book appeals to parents who need to be aware of the factors that can influence their child’s ultimate value system, to women who are contemplating marriage and who want to ensure a positive choice, and to widows and divorcees who want to create a healthy, active, fulfilling, single life as they age,” said Stepanich.

Stepanich wants her memoir to encourage and educate those who have suffered from poor value programming and to serve as a warning for young parents, to help avoid this common mistake.

“For adults who have been the object of poor value programming, I would offer them hope that their lives can be turned around and better choices can result in a happier future,” said Stepanich.

"D is for Dysfunctional...and Doo Wop" includes Stepanich’s accomplishments, her decision to go back to school, her challenging choices in love, finding her soul mate and after the loss of loved ones, learning to live alone and liking it.

This book is available from Abbot Press.

The Other Child

by Charlotte Link, Translated from the German by Stefan Tobler Reviewed by Lynell Wolff Reference Librarian, Harris Branch of the Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Public Library

"The Other Child" by Charlotte Link is finely woven psychological fiction. At the beginning of World War II when London was being bombed unmercifully, children were sent north to safer places. Hundreds of children were taken by train to live with people they didn’t know. Some were loved and cared for but others were not so lucky. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but no one could have predicted the consequences of this decision.

In Link’s carefully constructed thriller, Fiona Barnes was one of those children sent north. Over 70 years have passed since Fiona arrived in Scarborough. Finding her body in a secluded area, brutally beaten – the second such murder in a few months – has shaken the normally peaceful hamlet. This crime is similar to an earlier murder of a college student. Her body was found in a different, but also secluded area. What did these two women have in common? Does their murder have anything to do with Fiona’s life during World War II? There are no witnesses to either crime, not even a viable suspect from the growing list of suspicious people.

Link’s well-drawn characters provide a good foundation for her American debut. Some details were repeated a little too much but the story held my interest as I awaited the unexpected conclusion. Having sold more than 15 million copies in Germany alone, Charlotte Link is one of Europe’s bestselling crime writers. Ms. Link was nominated for the German Book Prize and her work has been widely adapted for television."The Other Child" is her first title translated into English. Called the Agatha Christie of Germany we look forward to seeing more by this author.

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SASSY Magazine promotes Michiana’s cultural offerings, personalities, attractions and local businesses, with a special emphasis on non-profit organizations’ events and activities. We expect this section of SASSY to grow significantly, and we’d like your help to get it rolling!

Please send us some of your favorite photos from your organization’s or charity’s best events and fundraisers. They just may make the next issue of SASSY Magazine! We prefer snapshots of people that are full of life and enjoying the moment, so please send them our way: Chaunie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com.

Bras & Bros 2013

Thanks to the generosity of our sponsors, guests, donors, artists & survivors, committee members, staff, and volunteers, support for the 9th annual Bras & Bros Around the Bend was tremendous! This support enables our friends and neighbors affected by a cancer diagnosis to continue accessing vital non-medical supportive services at RiverBend. Thank you!

We had a wonderful evening celebrating survivorship as guests experienced the triumph of 11 honored survivors who shared their stories on video and through decorated toolboxes and brassieres. The evening included a silent auction of commissioned works from artists as far away as Ontario, Canada and Los Angeles, California as well as in our community. “Bust in Show” honors went to local artist Noelle Warren – “Whimsical Picassoesque Pop Painting of Hope”; 2x cancer survivor and avid breast health advocate Mary Hesburgh Flaherty – “The Button Bra”; and Lynn Sobecki and Dawn Wilson on behalf of Memorial Regional Breast Care Center – “Peacock D’Arte”.

Special thanks to our Platinum, Gold, and Silver sponsors: Memorial Regional Cancer Center, The Foundation of Saint Joseph Regional Medical Center-Women's Task Force, Michiana Hematology Oncology PC, and Counsel Oak Financial at Raymond James.

And to our Master of Ceremonies, Gregory P. Crawford, and Auctioneers, Drs. David Hornback and Sam McGrath.

The Button Bra by Mary Hesburgh Flaherty

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Registration team - Kathleen Smith, Laura Lehner and Katy Kautz

Marie Thomas, Mary and James Hesburgh, Phil & Naomi, Mikki Dobski

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A group of riders begin their ride from St. Patrick's Park.

The German Band Inc., a traditional German "oom pah" band, entertained riders at the Spicer Lake SAG stop.

A sampling of some of the great food available at the SAG stops during Bike Michiana for Hospice.

One of many Spin Zone riders pulls into the Weko Beach SAG stop to get some much-needed refueling after riding all the way to the shores of Lake Michigan!

A couple of riders walk by as German Band Inc., plays at the Spicer Lake SAG stop.

Many riders take part in Bike Michiana for Hospice in memory or honor of a loved one. This particular rider rode in memory of his mother.

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