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columns 16 The Way I See It
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18 Modern Motherhood
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A Chat with Smokey Reaves The Tale of an Anti-Soccer Mom (Part II)
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38 Outside In
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The Snowball Principle Someone Is Watching YOU Be Still and Listen
40 This is My Story The Special Friends Class at First Presbyterian Day School Blessed and Blessing
42 Salt & Light
Mission Mississippi Honors 2 Heroes
44 Education Connection Top 3 Reasons Children and Teens Do Poorly in School
45 Living My Call
The Goodley Heirtage of Mary Libby Payne
Deborah Bryant Mississippi’s First Lady
50 Legal Advice
51 Let’s Talk it Over
52 Pastor’s Perspective
Do You Have a Will or a Trust? Why? Learning to Walk
Looking for a Leader
53 Single Still, Single Again A Single Journey
54 Let’s Get Real
Addiction, Idolatry, and Wholeness
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30 Healthy Living Fitness: The Real Fountain of Youth
36 Welcome Home Freshening Up for Fall
43 A View From You
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➺editor’s letter Courage, Comfort Zones, and God’s Plans
It was Charles Swindoll, pastor, author, educator, and radio host, who said,“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” There is a world of potential wisdom in that
Thou will keep ❝ him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on Thee because he trusts in Thee...
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observation. I live in the season of reflection—looking back over decades, really, of pushing hard to control, or arrange, things that really weren’t mine to dictate. Hence, a lot of circumstances that could have been joyful simply were not because I focused on my fears and insecurities, rather than embracing unfamiliar tasks as opportunities for growth. What most of us think we want is a nice little predictable life, and we would prefer that God not rattle our comfort zones too much. Walking by faith is fine as long as it doesn’t require a great deal of—well—faith and uncertainty. God, on the other hand, doesn’t much do “predictable.” He is rather fond of parting seas, feeding the multitudes from a small, brown-bag lunch, shutting the mouths of lions, turning the world upside down with a disheveled band of fishermen whose credentials would not impress anybody, and basically doing whatever is impossible. He did say, “My grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9a). No matter how many times He proves that He keeps His promises, fear has the capacity to paralyze us when we face a challenge—and so we cling to the status quo. When First Lady Deborah Bryant described her initial reactions to her husband’s political aspirations, I so identified with her feelings that I could almost finish her sentences for her! I compared her anxiety to my days as a piano major when I suffered such stage fright that I could not ever enjoy performing because I was never convinced that I was prepared enough! In her first days in the limelight, one door after another opened for Phil, but all she could see were discomfort and fear and the nagging notion that she did not have what it takes. There came a degree of relinquishing control on Deborah’s part, and, by God’s grace, she has learned what tasks are hers and what tasks are God’s. Great joy came with that realization! To see her function in her role today, is to see someone completely at ease and quite comfortable in her own skin. It is a theme I run across often in interviewing people for stories. God reaches down and gives a charge to a mere human, and, like Moses, we are prone to say, “Actually, Lord, I can’t do this. Would you call someone else?” In those holy moments, however, when an ordinary man or woman is willing to go where God leads, it can be downright inspiring and exhilarating, and larger than life. In our “Salt and Light” section, we spotlight two very different, and yet very alike, people who risked a great deal to be a part of something they felt God was calling them to, in a day when it was very difficult. Dr. Ollye Shirley and Mr. Jack Reed, Sr., will be honored by Mission Mississippi at their Racial Reconciliation Banquet on October 25 at the Jackson Convention Center. It was a delight for me to speak with both of them in early September. As I read a little on the history of each of them, it occurred to me the whole out-of-the-comfort-zone thing that characterizes so much of God’s work in this crazy world. There is almost always some discomfort involved, and the process of being “used” by God is rarely without pain. I heard Beth Moore say recently in my Bible study that we are called to trust God where we are. This place—this crazy, fallen, extraordinarily wonderful, and often just as extraordinarily terrible place that we live—is precisely the place where we are called to practice our faith. As Beth said, it’s a painful place to get to, and it’s also a beautiful place to stay when we realize that God is indeed with us in the struggle. Enjoy. We have loved putting this together for you. Y Marilyn H. Tinnin, Publisher and Editor firstname.lastname@example.org
From Marilyn’s Bookshelf A Woman’s Right to Rest
by Denise George
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The subtitle is “14 Types of Biblical Rest That Will Transform Your Life.” Definitely worth the time to read if you are in the throes of being all things to all people. This works as a devotional for by yourself time, as well as for a small group.
I read this on my recent 14 hour flight home from Denver. I am sure the passenger beside me thought I was crying because of the flight fiasco. Actually this book so moved me I could not stop the tears. A rescued dog and the girl who also needed rescuing. Refreshing and a reminder of God’s grace for imperfect and selfish people.
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The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children by Stormie Omartian I was not a huge fan of her first books, but I am devouring this one. I especially like the scripture references at the end of each chapter, the guided prayer outlines, and the way she addresses the anxieties that we mothers have over our children— no matter their age.
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➺the way i see it by MARTIN E. WILLOUGHBY, JR.
A Chat with Smokey Reaves recently had the pleasure of meeting John “Smokey” Reaves. Smokey, in his sixties, is still a big guy who looks like he played professional sports in his youth. We were having breakfast with
a mutual friend who introduced us. I knew it was going to be an interesting meeting when our waiter came over to take our order and Smokey engaged with him about his life and faith which led to a powerful time of prayer! As the conversation continued, I realized that I was in the rare presence of one of those followers of Christ who have completely and unashamedly surrendered their life to Him. Smokey is well known in Dallas as a giant in the faith and as the owner of the famous Smokey John’s Bar-BQue, which he has operated for the last 33 years. Early in his career, he had owned nightclubs with Dallas Cowboys’ greats Harvey Martin and Drew Pearson. However, when he had a spiritual revival, he moved out of the nightclub business to focus on his restaurant. He also felt led to start a
“Rich folks, poor folks, black, white, brown, Asian—they all come to this meeting. This is what heaven looks like, and I want to get a glimpse of heaven here on earth so when I get there I don’t have culture shock.” Bible study, which has been meeting in a side room in his restaurant on Tuesdays at 12:30 for over 30 years. In a room that is meant to hold about 30 people, typically well over twice that many come to experience fellowship and the Word of God. Smokey said, “Rich folks, poor folks, black, white, brown, Asian—they all come to this meeting. This is what heaven looks like, and I want to get a glimpse of heaven here on earth so when I get there I don’t have culture shock.”
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Discipleship is Smokey’s passion. He shared with me that a man of faith had invested eight years of his life discipling him on how to have a meaningful relationship with Christ. I don’t recall that gentlemen’s name, but his spiritual descendants are too many to count. Smokey has spent his life investing in the lives of men, who he in turns challenges to invest in the lives of other men. Whenever he starts to disciple someone, he is very clear that he is there to help them for a season and then to turn them loose to go replicate that in the lives of other men. As a father, grandfather, businessman, community leader, and part-time evangelist, Smokey is obviously a busy guy, but he knows his priorities and at any one time has 20-30 men he is discipling. I read a quote from Smokey where he said, “I just get up every morning and say, ‘Lord, what do You want me to do today? I’m reporting for duty.’” That seems to sum up his attitude towards life. People who have the boldness and conviction of Smokey always encourage me. Too often, I feel like doubting Thomas or Peter denying that I even know Christ. I am afraid I will offend someone or be uncomfortable in sharing in my faith. The truth is that fear gets in the way. However, I also know that, “There is no fear in love” (1 John 4:18). Smokey took time to encourage me, build me up, and challenge me to be more intentional in my disciple making. I don’t know about you, but I need that kind of encouragement and example to see what life is supposed to really be about. As pastor John Ortberg said, “In the end it all goes back in the box.” I know that at the end of his life, Smokey John Reaves will not just have had a successful business career, he will have created a huge storehouse of treasure in heaven as he has taken the time to do what Christ asked us to do, “Go therefore and make disciples.” I hope I can do the same. Y Martin E. Willoughby, Jr,. is Chief Operating Officer of Butler Snow Advisory Services, LLC located in Ridgeland. He and his wife, Nicki, have two children, Ally and Trey, and live in Madison.
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Tale Computer? The of an AntiSoccer Mom Part II ast month I wrote about over-scheduled kids and my family’s personal aversion to team sports. I got mixed reviews. For the most part, readers felt relieved that they weren’t the only ones just saying, “No,” to every sport that comes along. But there were
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a few readers who vehemently disagreed with me. They said that team sports offered experiences that children couldn’t get anywhere else: team building, self-confidence, socialization, exercise—all by joining the soccer team. I agree. There is value in team sports, gymnastics, dance, and music lessons that you can’t get playing in a creek. But here’s the thing. I made the decision that was best for my children and my family and I want you to do the same thing. My best friend, Sister Wife (we share everything but clothes and husbands,) has three children who are extremely athletic. They thrive on team sports. For her family, it is worth the sacrifice to sit by the field Saturday after Saturday because she is helping her kids to develop a gift that God has given them. My older brother is a talented musician; some (including me) would even call him a musical genius. Growing up taking piano lessons with him made me feel like a failure. I was good at it, but I wasn’t as good as he was. He had found his calling and I felt like I was standing in his shadow. When I became pregnant with Aubrey, I started praying immediately, “Father show me her gifts. Show me who you have called her to be.” I prayed fervently, and continue to pray, for all three of my daughters that God would show me their gifts and callings so that I can help to develop them. I want them to pursue activities they are passionate about. Tiger Woods didn’t become Tiger Woods because his parents made him take soccer, baseball, football, ballet, badminton, and volleyball. Tiger Woods became great at golf because he played golf. Similarly, I want to help my children find what they love,
what they wish they could do every single day of their lives, and help them to be the best they can be at it—regardless of what it is. My two oldest started piano lessons a couple of weeks ago. I send them to the keyboard to practice often. Sometimes they go willingly, and other times they try to argue with me. Emma, my six-year-old, asked for only, “a guitar and sheep music” last year and knows the words to hundreds of songs. She also has a tendency to want to know how to do something without putting in the work. When she was four-yearsold, Emma used to cry at night, “Why won’t anybody in this house teach me how to read!” But if you tried to sound out words with her, she would become frustrated, “I don’t want to do it that way! I want to do it like Aubrey does!” “I know you do, but you gotta start somewhere,” I’d tell her. Last week, I told Emma to go practice her piano lessons. She huffed and stomped a tiny foot, “I don’t WANT to!” “Do you want to be a rock star or not?” I asked with raised eyebrows. She only hesitated for a split second before stomping out of the room to practice. I yelled after her, “You’ve got to start somewhere!” Y Robin O’Bryant is mother to three daughters, wife to one husband, and debut author of Ketchup Is A Vegetable And Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves. She shares the drama and hilarity of motherhood in her syndicated family humor column, “Robin’s Chicks” and on her blog by the same name (www.robinschicks.com).
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ears ago, when my children were young, our area anticipated a snowstorm. School was cancelled for the end of the week, everyone got nervous and stocked up on bottled water and canned soup.
The next morning, the children woke up early as usual and ran to the window, but not a snowflake was in sight. The day wore on with no snow. Areas around us received inches and inches. As the reports came in, it was an ideal snow for Mississippi with the roads clear, but there was no school and no snow for us. Creating one of our favorite family memories, we piled in the car and along with extended family, headed North—to the then, Holidome. We enjoyed sledding down the hill, the indoor pool, and yes, snowballs. It amazed our young children how one snowball could be rolled around on the soft snow long enough that the makings of a snowman took place. We built one tall snowman, complete with carrot and scarf. I was recently thinking about how things snowball in our lives, and much like the imposing snowman, they turn into something really big. This can be good, or not so good. What is snowballing in your life right now?
bother to pick up those toys, they’ll only pull them right back out.” These are the thoughts that start a snowball and suddenly the house is overwhelming, and you feel helpless to recover it. You will also find that you can snowball in your favor—if the bed is made, almost half of the room is clean! If you clean the kitchen and set the table for dinner, no one will throw their schoolbooks or the mail all over the kitchen table. And one clean room motivates you to clean another.
Healthy Lifestyle – It may be a real challenge to start this snowball, but eating right and exercising has its own snowball qualities. Once you feel better, or you start losing weight, or you reach a small goal, it gets easier to progress and set larger goals. Like all snowballs, they key is to stick with it long enough to get the real momentum going so that the results are more obvious.
Debt Reduction – Perhaps you’ve applied
Getting Organized – Ah yes, snowballs
the snowball principle by adding to your payment amount for your smallest debt, paying it off in time, then applying all of that money to your next smallest debt, and so forth. The snowball picks up momentum rather quickly and sets you on a new course. Of course, the opposite is also true.
can definitely grow here too. Success in one area can give you the needed confidence or motivation to organize another. Whether you start with your purse, your desk, your car, the junk drawer, or something as big as a playroom, garage, or a closet, the feeling of organization is one that is hard to beat and lends itself to more organization.
Thought Life – Have you ever mulled over something so much that it took on a life of its own? Snowball in action! A small thing, thought to death, can become a big thing. Don’t weigh every scenario and every outcome until that little problem has reached mammoth proportions in your mind. Reality frees you a bit, but stopping the thoughts before they escalate is far better.
Messy House – Have you ever thought, “Why make up that bed, I’m only going to get right back in it in a few hours!” or, “Why
Give it a try. Let the snowball principle go to work in all the right places in your life—and stop it consciously in others. Before you know it, you will have a giant snowman beaming at your success. Y Cathy Haynie and her husband Jack have three children and live in Madison. Cathy is the Headmaster of Christ Covenant School in Ridgeland. Contact her at email@example.com.
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As 16-year old girls, we dreamed of taking a trip to Maui, Hawaii. Little did we know that Aunt Christy and Uncle Andy [Mary Morgan calls them her adopted aunt and uncle] would actually take us! We were so excited for all of our adventures that Uncle Andy and Aunt Christy had lined up. The plans for our 10-day trip included snorkeling, zip lining, snow cones, swimming with turtles, beaches, beautiful water, volcanoes, and of course LOTS of good food. We never would have imagined that, while on vacation, we could have made such a big difference in someone’s life. Mary Morgan
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One morning I decided to go outside to do my devotion. I was actually doing my devotion: “On doing what God says, when he says it, and how delayed obedience is disobedience.” I was getting frustrated with myself because I felt like I was never able to talk to anyone I didn’t know about God. I was praying about it, and about that time, Mario, the 78-year-old maintenance worker, came around behind my chair with his lawnmower to let me know that I may want to move because he was about to cut the grass. As I grabbed my notebook and Bible he stopped me and asked “Is that a Bible?” I said yes and he asked if he could see it. I gave it to him, and he started to flip through it and told me that he was a Christian, too. He wanted to know where I got it. I told him I got it in Mississippi where I live. He wanted to know if I knew anywhere he might be able to get one. I told him that I didn’t know much about where to get one in Maui because I didn’t live there, but I would find out and let him know.
Neely Mary Morgan came inside to tell me what had happened. We both talked about it for a while and how it was such a good opportunity to get him a Bible. Aunt Christy, Uncle Andy, Mary Morgan and I all sat down and searched for a place to get a Bible. About two days later, we went out to shop for a Bible for Mario. We ended up spending about 30 minutes in the store, just picking out the perfect Bible for Mario. We got him a largeprint Bible that was leather bound, so he could easily read it and it would last for a long time. We made sure we wrote him a message inside the Bible to remind him that we love and care for him and God does too. Uncle Andy suggested that we pray for him. Mario had become a big part of our trip. He didn’t know it, but he made a bigger impact on us than we did on him by giving him a Bible.
Both of us The last day of our trip we found Mario and gave him his Bible. He was really happy and he told us he would read it. Since he may not get a lot of attention as a maintenance worker in Hawaii, we hope that Mario felt special and that we showed the true love of Christ to him.
Advice from two 16 year olds “Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12). Even though this trip was meant to be just a vacation—and it was a great one—God had greater plans for it. God has these opportunities for everyone no matter the age; we just have to learn how to look for them and use them. God used Mario to show us that we need to live out 1 Timothy 4:12 every day—no matter where you are because you never know who is watching and what opportunities God will bring you. Y Mary Morgan Mohamed and Neely Horton are juniors at Manchester Academy in Yazoo City.
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➺christian commerce corner MCL: Tell us how Rx Remedies differs from a traditional pharmacy? Tommy: With us, you are a person, not a prescription number. We can fill any regular prescription like a traditional pharmacy, while also having the ability to customize one tailored just for you. We get from you comprehensive information on your medications, so that we can create a Personal Medication Record, which I oversee, just for you. This allows for the best medical treatment management for you and your physicians, as well as any caregivers. Beth offers confidential hormone consults to best access information that pertains directly to your medical needs, instead of just putting you in a general category of treatment. Anna Claire takes pride in formulating medications that best meet the concerns of your specific medical diagnosis, and not just generalizing it to a minimal area of need. Also, patient non-compliance is a growing issue that annually contributes to 125,000 deaths and up to 20% of all hospital and nursing home admissions. We have customer service representatives who make calls to patients to ensure they are taking their medications as prescribed, and having them filled on time. These representatives also communicate with physicians and coordinate delivery of the medications—at no extra cost—directly to the patient. So, with Rx Remedies, you can actually receive the benefits of managed care services—without the extra cost of a managed care program. MCL: What is the most rewarding aspect of working in a pharmacy that basically “customizes” prescriptions of all sorts? Anna Claire: We offer compounding of medications that are not available through normal retail channels. God created us all unique—and part of that uniqueness may include medication needs that a manufactured med cannot meet. Therefore, certain medications can be compounded to meet your individual personal, and financial, needs. Compounding uses our knowledge as pharmacists to solve problems. It’s very rewarding to know that you’ve helped someone or someone’s pet—whether it is a lidocaine lollipop for a child with Strep throat or a fish-flavored medication for a kitten. With Rx Remedies, there is no one-size-fits-all or onemed-treats-all approach. MCL: What prompted you to want to work in such a specialized area of pharmacy? Beth: I always knew that I wanted to use my clinical knowledge in my pharmacy practice. In compounding, you work with physicians, nurse practitioners, veterinarians, and patients to create customized medication solutions for people and animals whose healthcare needs cannot be met by manufactured medications. In compounding, you
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MCL: How does your faith affect the way you operate at Rx Remedies? Jennifer: I have a passion for helping people and reaching out to others. Rx Remedies has opened the doors with unlimited opportunities to do just that. I am not a pharmacist or physician, but I am blessed with the opportunity to work with them, and gain knowledge to share with others. My role allows me to wear the shoes of the patient and the caregiver, and truly understand the pains— physical, mental, and financial— that we can face with our medical concerns. I met a Jennifer Lipscomb, Regional Marketing sweet lady at a communityDirector church health fair who had been diagnosed with diabetes. When I asked how many times a day she was testing her blood sugar, her response was heartbreaking. She was not testing at all, because she was out of diabetes testing supplies; Medicaid only allows her 5 medications a month and she felt her medicine was more important than her testing supplies. She didn’t know that Medicaid covered 100% of her testing supplies, and it wouldn't affect her monthly medication allowance. Although that lady referred to me as the “miracle she had been praying for,” she was truly an answer to my prayer to live out God’s Word daily. In this case, it was “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:9). Y
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EASY CROCK POT DISHES amilies are in full swing, by October with fall activities. Have you decided it is time to dig out your trusty crock pot/slow cooker? I have three, full-flavored, cooler weather recipes for your crock pot. With little effort, and some pre-planning, you can now escape the kitchen for a bit and enjoy this beautiful autumn season.
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large onion, sliced thin tablespoons brown sugar tablespoon paprika teaspoons salt teaspoon black pepper (4-6 pound) pork butt or shoulder cup cider vinegar teaspoons Worcestershire sauce teaspoons crushed red pepper teaspoons sugar teaspoon dry mustard teaspoon garlic powder teaspoon cayenne pepper
Rinse pork roast with cold water. Pat dry. Place onions in crock pot. In a small bowl, combine brown sugar, paprika, salt, and pepper. Mix and rub over roast. Place roast on top of the onions. In a medium bowl, combine vinegar, Worcestershire, red pepper flakes, sugar, mustard, garlic powder, and cayenne. Drizzle about 1/3 of this vinegar mixture over roast. Refrigerate remaining vinegar mixture. Cover crock pot; cook on low for 10-12 hours. Drizzle about 1/3 of reserved vinegar mixture over roast during cooking. Remove meat and onions; drain. Shred meat with 2 forks. Serve with your favorite barbeque sauce. Our family likes this pulled pork served on warmed hamburger buns. Dress the sandwich with your favorite coleslaw and added barbeque sauce. 28 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
Crock pot cooking gives you and your family more time outdoors and time to enjoy sports and events. How nice to come home to the yummy smells of dinner ready to eat. Let your crock pot save time and do the cooking for you!
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Place all ingredients in a slow cooker. Mix well and cover. Cook on high for 4 to 6 hours. Uncover the pot. Use an immersion blender. Blend until 3/4 of the soup is creamed. If you don’t have an immersion blender, a regular blender could be used to cream several batches. Leave some of the beans whole. Taste for salt and re-season if necessary. Ladle into soup bowls. Garnishes: chopped green onions, freshly chopped cilantro, chopped tomatoes, grated white cheese, or a dollop of sour cream. Remember to make memories Choose your family’s favorites to complement through the kitchen— “the heartbeat of the home.” E-mail me at each individual serving.
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➺healthy living by THEO CLYATT
The Real Fountain of Youth aving been in the fitness industry for over 15 years I am constantly hearing myths and urban legends pertaining to exercise.
One of the most common lines I get is, “I’m too old to do any of that!” This is a knee-jerk statement that’s usually more indicative of a fear of trying something new and risking failure. In years past, fitness centers and gyms around the country were surrounded by both mystique and apprehension as places where only the most slim, young, beautiful and strong ever dared to tread. Fortunately, a shift in the public perception of what fitness means is breaking down the imaginary barriers that have kept many away. The medical community is probably the single biggest reason that Americans of all shapes, sizes and abilities are flocking to fitness centers nationwide. Several years ago the American College of Sports Medicine debuted a new motto, ‘Exercise is Medicine’, and along with a growing body of research behind that claim physicians began to actually recommend and prescribe exercise for many of their patients. Regular physical activity has been shown to reduce excess body fat, help control diabetes, lower blood pressure and improve muscular strength and bone density. In addition, even a moderately good level of fitness improves immune system response and overall well-being. As a result, Americans are now not only living longer but are also more concerned with living better. When I first began personal training in the late nineties I could always count on a client asking me to help them look better. Today, people still want to improve their appearance but they are increasingly concerned with how their body functions as a whole and not just having a smaller waistline. The vast majority of my current clientele is over 50 and nearly all of them are interested more in increasing their cardiovascular capacity, strength, balance, coordination and even improving their athletic performance! Clearly, the public perception of what a fit body should be is rapidly changing. The bodybuilding image that permeated fitness 30 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
centers during the 80’s and 90’s has now given way to the idea that a healthy, strong and balanced body can belong to just about anyone. Also growing in popularity, especially among women, is strength training. Strength training involves exercising the muscles of the body against resistance, typically applied in the form of free weights or resistance machines. This form of exercise is especially effective in maintaining and improving muscle mass in the human body. This is important because the more muscle mass an individual has, the higher their metabolic rate becomes and the more calories their body will expend. An increased metabolic rate is helpful in reducing excessive body fat in both sexes and accounts for the main reason that males seem to be able to lose body fat more quickly than females. Additionally, exercising with free weights has a positive effect on balance and, in fact, I have used free weights and balance exercises for people well into their 70’s with excellent results. It seems that being able to balance our bodies as we move every day is something that most of us never even think about until we can’t do it anymore. Usually, people begin to notice that they have a balance or strength problem when they experience difficulty standing up from a seated position. Often this is written off a simply a by-product of aging, which is not necessarily true. In my experience it is much more likely to be caused by having a body weight that is far too high and an activity level much too low. The good news is that, barring any prohibitive medical condition, most people who lose weight and
improve their strength can greatly reduce or eliminate difficulty in standing up. Being active and fit helps to stave off many of the negative aspects of aging and perhaps no other is as overlooked as bone density. Probably because you can’t feel your bones weakening and the first sign may come from a bone density test or worse, a fall. Maintaining healthy bones is absolutely essential to quality of life as the skeletal system provides the framework for the human body. Without strong bones, mobility will be compromised and a vicious cycle of inactivity begins and further reduces the structural integrity of the bones. Typically, bone loss occurs in women after menopause but can certainly affect men as well. People who regularly engage in sustained exercise programs put their bodies in the best position to maintain bone mass. This is because the muscles in the human body attach to bones and when these muscles are stressed through exercise and pull against the bones it sends a signal through the body to regenerate and repair the bone. This continuous cycle helps keep both muscles and bones strong and functional. Fitness is no longer about just looking good. Instead, think of fitness as feeling good and having confidence in yourself and in your physical abilities. A fit body rewards you with the ability to do things that you like with the people that you love for your whole life long.
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DEBORAH BRYANT Mississippi’s First Lady irst Lady Deborah Bryant says that she has just never been an “out there” sort of person—one who seeks the limelight. There was a time when she saw that trait of hers as a weakness for someone married to a man with political ambitions. In her very unassuming and selfdeprecating way, she has endeared herself to just about everyone in this state precisely because she is authentically “just Deborah.” She is indeed completely unpretentious and one who has learned to be comfortable in a role that she never envisioned and, had it been left entirely up to her, would probably not have spent even one second praying for! From the time Phil Bryant was elected to the legislature in 1990, Deborah has found the parameters of her comfort zone in constant expansion mode! This confident and comfortable “First Lady” did not arrive in her role of political spouse without some growing pains, but as she looks back on all that she has learned over the years, she says, “I am who I am. And I have realized that that’s all people really want me to be. I find that out every single day in this job. When people tell me they are praying for me, I believe it.” She can laugh today about her past angst. Her first speech came as a surprise. She was on her way to a luncheon with the Lowndes County Republican Women in 2007 during her husband’s campaign for Lieutenant Governor. One of his campaign staffers was driving her and just mentioned matter-of-factly, “Now since Phil is not going to be here, you will be representing him. You will speak
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right after Marsha Barbour.” She describes the emotions of sheer panic as she immediately replied, “Oh, no I’m not. I don’t do speeches.” And she began frantically dialing her husband’s cell phone. Deborah says she ended up sketching out her biography for the person who was going to introduce her. “And then,” she laughs, “There was really nothing left for me to say. I am a pretty simple person!” She can’t remember what she said when it was her turn to speak, but she had no option or experience to know how to be anything except herself. To her surprise, she found that people seemed to like her that way. On the day of our interview, she had been invited to speak at this same group’s luncheon—five years later. Since that first uncomfortable time, she has had so many opportunities to speak and is not quite as terrified as she was on that original occasion. This time, she had her note cards and had even done some rehearsing. When she stood to approach the podium, however, she dropped her cards and they went everywhere. Unflappable lady that she has become, she thought, “Oh well. They’ve got just plain old me again.” And so her second extemporaneous speech was even more successful than the first. She has learned not to sweat the “small stuff.”
Family Background Deborah Hays Bryant is the fourth of five children born to Doris and Hardy Hays. She has three brothers and one older sister and recalls a childhood that could not be more 1950’s idyllic. “We never had a lot of money,” she says, “but we weren’t poor. We had everything we needed.” Her grandfather had owned a good bit of land in what used to be the country, but as west Jackson grew up around them, their “country” rapidly became part of the capital city. Deborah describes a close-knit family and a close-knit neighborhood where relationships ran deep, where children played baseball and softball in the vacant lot across the street, where they tromped through the woods together to find the perfect Cedar tree at Christmas, and where summer vacations meant playing outside from daylight until dark—as
FAVORITE SCRIPTURE “…but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint” (Isaiah 40:31). “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:10-12). “I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth” (Psalm 121:1-2). FAVORITE DEVOTIONAL BOOK Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. (The First Lady downloaded it to her I-pad and reads it first thing each day). HER PLATFORM With a great desire to do as much as she can in her four years as First Lady, she uses the acronym, H-O-M-E to outline issues pertaining to Healthcare, Outdoors, Mansion preservation, and Education. Statistics that concern her include Mississippi’s position as #1 in teen pregnancy. Other concerns are childhood obesity, early childhood development, and continuing to preserve the historic treasure that is our Governor’s Mansion.
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The most important anchors in Deborah’s life have remained the same over the decades. It is notable that those “anchors” like faith and family have helped her keep her equilibrium as she found herself navigating the tenuous sea of politics. well as taking family vacations with the entire neighborhood! Despite the changes that time has wrought on the demographic of her old neighborhood, she has maintained ties with all of those families. The Van Winkle community was a wonderful place to grow up in those days, and Deborah considers herself quite blessed to have grown up exactly as she did. She attended Lake Elementary School, Hardy Junior High School, and graduated from Provine High School. Her church was also in the neighborhood. The Van Winkle Methodist Church stood on land donated by her grandfather, and the Hays children were there every time the doors opened. In fact, the church stood in such close proximity to their home, that rarely did her parents crank up the car to get to church. They walked through the neighborhood year in and year out. It is one of Deborah’s dearest memories—the fact that all the important things in her life were right there close at hand. She was christened and married in that same church, and it had been such a cornerstone of her life that she had quite a tough adjustment moving her membership to another church years after she and Phil were married. As a little girl, did she have dreams of what her life might look like when she grew up? Like almost all little girls of her generation her number one dream was to grow up, get married, have children and “live happily ever after.” It wasn’t very complicated or politically correct or anything like that. But it was a very authentic dream for Deborah Hays. And she hasn’t spent one day since regretting those dreams or wondering what would have happened if she had chosen something different. The most important anchors in Deborah’s life have remained the same over the decades. It is notable that those “anchors”—like faith and family—have helped her keep her equilibrium as she found herself navigating the tenuous sea of politics.
A “John Wayne” Kind of Guy Deborah wasn’t expecting to meet her future husband when, as a student at Hinds Community College, a mutual friend invited her to meet a group at the Pizza Hut. There was probably a degree of matchmaking behind the scenes as Deborah and Phil were sort of put together among some other established “couples.” Both of them were enrolled at Hinds, and it wasn’t too long after the Pizza Hut meeting that Deborah walked out of class one day and found Phil waiting for her. She 34 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
still wonders if his explanation for being there was really because he “happened” to be there or whether he was pursuing her, but either way, she was glad to be with him. She says she knew from the very beginning that he was going to be successful at whatever he decided to pursue. She adds that it might be a good thing that she never really considered politics as one of those possible venues! Deborah was attracted to his “John Wayne” sort of ruggedness, but she could list a million other things about him that made him stand out from others she had dated. Like Deborah, he had grown up in a close-knit family and she could see that they shared the same values. She describes him as a person with strong morals, honorable ambitions, and “he was very patriotic.” Even then, that struck her as unusual, but something she really liked about him. With a little giggle she says, “He was sort of John Wayne. But I could tell that whatever he chose to do he was going to do it well.”
Perspective and Purpose After Deborah married Phil on December 31, 1976, this young lady who was not at all fond of the word “change” found her life to be a series of changes and circumstances that called for adjustment. She began her long career with St. Dominic Hospital in March 1975, and although she served in numerous positions over the years, she liked the predictability and the sameness of her surroundings. A self-motivated worker, she says she has never needed the constant pat on the back to feel rewarded for her efforts. She sets her own standards high, and she is possibly her toughest critic and the one whose approval matters most. In great contrast is her husband. In the early years of their marriage his boundless energy and outgoing personality were propelling him into new situations with new opportunities at every turn. He seemed to adapt effortlessly to whatever was put in front of him. He met people so easily, and he was assuming leadership roles all over the place. He was so focused and obviously had a bright future and a deep sense of purpose. Deborah was struggling to find her place in the midst of so much change. Although she was incredibly proud of her husband, she felt somewhat purposeless as she thought of herself as “just somebody who works in medical records at St. Dominic’s.” She was driving between dialysis centers one day alone in the car, thinking out loud and carrying on a conversation with God. “You know, God. Phil has so much purpose in his life. He is making an
It was during Phil’s long tenure as State Auditor, however, that impact, and what do I have? I have nothing.” Deborah began to see the positive aspect of public service. “He did such And then there was a real Holy Spirit moment when the thought an outstanding job with that position, and I saw that he was really in flashed across her mind that she was in exactly the place God had politics for all the right reasons. I respected him for that.” called her. She was in front of families every day—in the hall, in the Even though she says she had some moments of “push back” when clinics, in the hospital—patients and families who were going through Phil announced that he wanted to run for Governor, she had no doubt all sorts of illness and sadness and did not want to be where they were. that that was exactly what he should do. Her only reservations were her She could speak to them. She could comfort them, and she could lift old feelings of inadequacy. “I can’t give a speech. I can’t do this…can’t, their spirits. Her perspective changed in an instant. can’t, can’t.” Fortunately, she had another of those Holy Spirit moments Her relationship with the Lord changed, too. It was more intense and when God gave her a new more personal than it had been perspective on the situation. through all the years of church and Her husband’s counsel was that of doing all the right things. It she had always commented on her moved to a whole new level when love for helping others. That is God literally gave her eyes to see what gave her such satisfaction in something she had completely her position at St. Dominic’s. As missed before. First Lady, she would have an even She had a new realization, too, greater opportunity to help so for the manner in which Satan likes many more people than she ever to attack believers. “He makes a had the opportunity to help before. person feel unworthy. He knows “At first, I thought, Phil was just where our vulnerabilities are. I telling me that. But I did start never felt unworthy after that day. looking for the positives. I also Not that there weren’t times when I Governor and Mrs. Bryant celebrate daughter Katie’s wedding reminded the Lord that I could not struggled, but I learned that the notday with Deborah’s mother Doris and son Patrick. do this by myself. If he wanted us to being-worthy idea was not from God’s be here, then He was going to have to show me exactly how to do this.” hand.” That lesson has never been forgotten. She adds with a genuine smile, “And then I started meeting people.” She took her eyes off herself and embraced the opportunity to meet the The Political Fishbowl people God put in her path. Phil won his first political office in 1990 when he was elected to the And it has been amazing. On any given day, you might find Deborah Mississippi Legislature. He has been involved in government ever since, giving tours in the mansion and not limiting her guests to just the historic serving as State Auditor for nine years prior to being elected Lieutenant original rooms. She frequently allows tourists to view the family living Governor in 2007. Deborah has had a lot of practice by now as “the quarters because she firmly believes the mansion belongs to all of us. candidate’s wife.” Politics, for her, has been a constant force that The Mansion Foundation, a charitable 501(c)(3), provided the funds to stretched her, challenged her, and pushed her to do things she never furnish the family quarters. dreamed she would or could do. Although these rooms on the second floor are still a work in progress, But as much as she has grown with the demands, in so many ways, it looks like home. Son, Patrick, who is an interior designer, selected the she has not changed at all. When Phil was first elected State Auditor, paint colors and the furnishings. It is a comfortable inviting place with Deborah says she cried for two weeks. In the beginning, she was focused warmth that reflects the personality of the First Lady. on the negative. She dislikes the way accusations and attacks are hurled Sitting across the room from her that afternoon, it was hard for me to back and forth through ads and news media. When pundits tell her not imagine that she ever viewed herself as “not worthy” or lacking in the to take it seriously that “it’s just politics,” she doesn’t accept that gifts required to make an impact in the world. From the outside looking excuse. “It’s not all about politics,” she says. “There are lives and in, I would say Deborah Hays Bryant is the epitome of style, grace, and a families and other people involved, and no one wants to see people perfect fit for the people of Mississippi. Y they love criticized, belittled, and ridiculed.” metrochristianliving.com ❘ OCTOBER 2012 35
➺welcome home by ALISON RICHARDSON
Freshening Up for Fall
here’s a definite hint of crispness in the air and the nights are getting cooler and cooler. It’s finally time to think about fall in Central Mississippi. Fall and early
winter are the very best times to enjoy the yards and gardens in our area. Let’s help our yards and patios greet the new season appropriately! The first task is to clean up your flowerpots and flowerbeds. Go ahead and pull up those worn, faded spring and summer blooms. I know it is hard, but it really is time to clean them out. Replace them with fresh new cool weather plants. Mums, ornamental peppers, cabbage, and kale provide your yard and garden with color and texture. They will give you lots of gorgeous color until our first freeze and will thrive in autumn’s warm days and cool nights. They may last even longer if your planting area is a bit protected. Pansies are especially beautiful for this time of year and will bloom all fall and even all through winter. They will even continue blooming in the early spring. Perennials such as dianthus, snapdragons, and others are excellent to plant now and will also bloom again in the spring. Pair these with evergreen and winter blooming shrubs, and your pots and beds will look great all year-round. Fall is a great time to plant because your new shrubs will have a chance to develop their root systems and really get a jumpstart on next spring and summer. Another tip is to freshen up your pine straw or other mulch. The hot
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summer has faded its color and may have broken down your existing mulch. Rains may have packed it down or even washed some away. You can simply add a new layer of the same kind over the previous layer. You’ll be amazed at the difference in color in this new fresh mulch compared to the mulch that protected your plantings all through the hot summer. The “fluffiness” of the new layer will give a fresh, softer look to your landscape as well. Now that you have tended to your beds and pots, let’s turn to the furnishings. Fall is a great time to change your patio umbrella and cushions. Select a more seasonal color like rust or another spicy shade, green, or even a pretty shade of brown. Outdoor throw pillows are a quick and affordable way to instantly change the mood of your outdoor space, and add an extra touch of comfort and luxury. Outdoor throw pillows are weather proof and really are so easy to live with. Tuck one or
two behind your back or head, and settle back for a long conversation or time with a good book. How about a warm, soft throw? It sure would come in handy on those cool evenings and brisk mornings. Those are my favorite times to enjoy my patio—and I am sure I am not alone in feeling this way. I love to sit outside when it is crisp and cool and pull a throw over my lap. Candles are also a great accent when the temperature becomes cooler. Their flickering glow is so welcoming. They can be used in pretty candleholders or in a lantern. A lantern will also help keep those cool breezes from extinguishing our candles prematurely! These and other decorative accessories really add personality. Evenings begin to come earlier as fall progresses. Outdoor lamps and outdoor heaters help to extend our enjoyment of our outdoor living areas. They are safe to use outdoors and add much to the look and function of our porches.
Is it time to rethink how you “live” outside? Callaway’s also has indoor/outdoor rugs that will hold up beautifully outdoors. Rugs add color, texture and warmth to your porch, patio or even your deck. Outdoor fireplaces, fire pits, and fire tables are a natural for the autumn patio or deck. Absolutely nothing says fall like a cheery fire. They give us a focal point to gather around and spend time with family and friends. Imagine gathering around a fire table with coffee and dessert after dinner with your good friends. If you have teenagers, you know that nothing attracts a group of young people more than a bonfire. S’mores are not just for the campground when you have a fire pit on your patio! Is it time to rethink how you “live” outside? It may be time to update your patio furniture. There are so many new choices today. Dining tables come in a variety of sizes and shapes –making it easy to find the perfect one for your family. Chairs may swivel, rock, or be stationary. Choose your favorite style or mix and match. If you like to entertain, you may want to add a serving piece like a bar with tall stools or chairs. You can find outdoor seating with deep and comfy cushions. Weatherproof, wicker furniture is a wonderful way to add warmth, texture, and style. Rocking chairs are always a traditional choice for our southern porches and outdoor wicker rockers with cushions add an extra level of comfort and relaxation. The choices for frame, color, and fabric choices for cushions give almost unlimited variations in today’s casual and outdoor furniture. Don’t forget Halloween and Thanksgiving. It’s so much fun to decorate for these special days. Think about bales of wheat straw or hay. Use piles of pumpkins everywhere, colorful Indian corn, gourds, and preserved fall leaves. Scarecrows add a whimsical touch and are readily available this time of year. Pots of mums tucked in your display are easily moved to another area after Thanksgiving is over. Fall is considered by many to be the real start of a new year. It is an ideal time to freshen up your outdoor spaces and living areas to make the time you spend at home—and in your yard or garden—the most beautiful and enjoyable ever! Y Alison Callaway Richardson is a member of the third generation of the Callaway family to be involved in the garden center, and has over 30-years experience working in many different areas at Callaway’s. She is a graduate of Mississippi State University.
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married into hunting. The concept of waking up at four in the morning and getting dressed up to handle the bitter cold for hours on end just so I could “harvest” something was about as enticing as sticking a needle in my eye. Why a man would pay good money to do that was beyond me. I’m a golfer. I’m an athlete. However, my convincing didn’t take long and didn’t come in an ordinary fashion. At the time, you see, I had two very young daughters still in White Cloud diapers. While in Arkansas at deer season, I’d be changing those White Clouds, the male in-laws would be in the woods. While I looked for the pacifier, they were looking for a blood trail. While my wife and mother-in-law ordered me around, their wives were in another county and wouldn’t see them till Sunday. So I said to myself, “Self, you might need to rethink that huntin’ thing.” So I did. I was in Nike tennis shoes when I shot my first deer—a doe. My toes were cold; my hands were cold; my ears were cold; I was hungry and suffering from sleep deprivation, but I didn’t care. I was free at last. Harold Hardwick, my father-in-law, made it all happen and we had one of our first bonding experiences. It was a good day. My interest grew and before you know it, I was shopping for some camouflage, reading books on deer hunting, and looking for a hunting camp. One of the first lessons I learned that day in the deer stand was to be still and listen. I didn’t know how to do that without a football game on. It caught me off guard—”it” being the silence, the stillness, and the inactivity. My mind was used to being entertained constantly. It took
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me no time to realize that sitting there for six hours would be a challenge, yet one that I would soon learn to appreciate. A couple years later I sat in the woods one afternoon in a staging area that lead into a large food plot. I can’t remember if I was praying or trying to memorize scripture or meditating on it, but I found myself in His presence. The next thing I knew, I was weeping, repenting, and praising. He, the Holy Spirit, was intimate with me in a tree stand in southwest Mississippi, while I was covered in scent block, wearing camouflage, and carrying a loaded firearm. What started as a deer hunt ended as a time of spiritual growth.
“But Know that the Lord has set apart the godly man for Himself; the Lord hears when I call to Him. Tremble, and do not sin; meditate in your heart upon your bed, and be still” (Psalm 4:3-4). It wouldn’t be taking the Word out of context if we replaced bed with tree stand, couch, boat, bike, treadmill, or car. It only implies to be still, to remove interferences, to find yourself alone in meditation waiting to hear from Him as He hears from you. However, being perfectly still adds a dimension to this practice. What sin can become of a man doing this? And, in doing this, how can it not provide benefit to time spent otherwise? While the religious world looks on a man sitting in a tree stand on Sunday morning instead of a pew as an abomination, remember this, it’s a wasted morning only if He’s not glorified in it. It’s a wasted weekend if you don’t come back home a better man to your wife than whence you left. Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t replace church, but every event has within it an opportunity for victory or defeat. A hunting camp full of hurting men has boundless opportunity, if you want it. If you are that hurting man, while you have His ear, empty your heart to Him. A tree stand offers us hunters His undivided attention, precious moments not to be wasted. Don’t waste it—be still and listen. Y Shawn Dean is Regional Sales Manager for Airflo Sales, Inc., located in Ridgeland, MS. He and his wife, Laura Beth, have three children, Isabelle, Ann Mabry, and Mary Frances. They live in Madison.
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by PEG GUTHRIE, CHYNA MARBLE, BILL and GAYLA STONE
The Special Friends Class at First Presbyterian Day School Blessed and Blessing Peg Guthrie, who team teaches with Chyna Marble, explains her passion for her particular “call” this way:
FIRST PRESBYTERIAN DAY SCHOOL started a program for children with Down syndrome in 1998. Bill and Gayla Stone were the driving force behind the program because their daughter Caroline has Down syndrome. Their older daughters had attended FPDS and they knew Caroline would benefit from the loving environment so characteristic of the school. First Presbyterian’s program allows the students to attend FPDS from kindergarten through sixth grade. The children participate in all extracurricular classes and special events. The students in the regular curriculum become buddies with the special friends creating a real win/win experience for everyone.
Beth and Tim Threadgill’s daughter, Brittany, happened to be a kindergartener in the school’s regular program during the first year Special Friends was incorporated into the curriculum. Beth says, “Being involved with the Special Friends class truly softened Brittany’s heart, and I, also, see that in many of Caroline’s and Brittany’s other classmates. They know that God made each of us differently, which is wonderful, but they certainly are protective of their ‘special friends’ and have a special love for them.” 40 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
“When I was in junior high, God placed in my heart the desire to work with special needs children. I graduated with a degree in Special Education and in 1998, I returned to teaching after being a stay-at-home mom for 13 years. Amazingly, God paired me with a teacher who was also a Special Education major. That year, the Special Friends class was started with three students who were mainstreamed into our kindergarten class. The Special Friends made our class a place of love and laughter. They taught us so much more than we taught them. The verse from Psalm 139 came alive to us, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Now having taught the Special Friends class for five years, I am more aware than ever of God’s grace and mercy towards us and his unending patience with us. The Special Friends love unconditionally, laugh always, and live life to the fullest. It is a joy to work with these precious gifts from God.”
“As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, ‘Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?’ ‘Neither this man nor his parents sinned,’ said Jesus, ‘but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him’” (John 9:1-3).
This was the passage that our pastor, Dr. Jim Baird, shared with us at the time of Caroline’s birth, and the diagnosis of Down syndrome. God’s word encouraged us and gave us confidence as we embarked on a daunting and uncertain journey. Trusting God with each new challenge increased our faith and reduced our fears. Five years after her birth, Caroline and four other children would be the first students in the new “Special Friends” class at First Presbyterian Day School. Caroline had the opportunity to be in a “regular” preschool and in an early intervention program for children with disabilities. She was also in “regular” Sunday school at our Chyna Marble has Church, First Presbyterian of worked with the Special Jackson, so she was comfortable Friends for nine years. with other children and they She explains her call this way: were comfortable with her. These Caroline Stone “After graduating with an preschool experiences prepared Elementary Education degree in 2000, I her to begin elementary school at FPDS. moved to Jackson and taught kindergarten for The Day School opened its doors, and two years. While I loved my job as a opened the hearts of many teachers, parents, kindergarten teacher, I felt the Lord leading and children who found that helping “special me in another direction. A friend was starting friends” was a source of joy, excitement, and a special needs school and asked me to help. I fulfillment. The atmosphere of love and hesitantly agreed, unsure if I would be right acceptance at FPDS enriched Caroline’s life for the job. After the first week of working and gave her a solid foundation for future with those precious children, I knew God had success. In turn, Caroline and the other a different path for me than I had planned for “special friends” enriched the lives of their myself! I was reminded of the verse in teachers and classmates with a daily dose of Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have unconditional love. Y for you says the Lord.” I have worked with the Fabulous Friend Program at FPDS for nine Bill and Gayla Stone are the parents of three years. Every day I am with these sweet daughters: Emily, Sarah, and Caroline. They are children, I learn something new about God’s members of First Presbyterian Church in Jackson. love for us. These children teach me what it means to have true peace, love, and joy.”
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➺salt & light by MARILYN TINNIN
Honors 2 Heroes L aunched 20 years ago by a diverse coalition of black and white business leaders, political leaders, and clergy, Mission Mississippi has been a place of racial healing, enduring friendships, and a snapshot of what the term,“the church” can be. In today’s politically charged and racially divisive culture, Mission Mississippi stands out as an example of authentic “salt and light.” Their only fundraiser, the annual Reconciliation Celebration on October 25 at the Jackson Convention Complex, will honor two individuals who have worked toward racial unity their entire lives. Courage, integrity, and a deep faith are evident in the past and present actions of Dr. Ollye Shirley and Mr. Jack Reed, Sr. Their stories are sure to inspire everyone in attendance. Dr. Shirley was born in Mound Bayou during the time Mississippi’s Department of Education subscribed to the die-hard tradition of “separate but equal” schools. The races were indeed segregated, but Dr. Shirley Ollye Shirley recognized early on that they were not equal as she and her classmates shared the discarded textbooks handed down from the neighboring white schools. She developed a passion to improve the quality of education for all children and to help break down the barriers of prejudice and ignorance that divided the races and limited opportunity for many. For nearly 25 years, from 1970-1995, Dr. Shirley worked as a Regional Director for Children’s Television Workshop. Her resume includes board membership in many agencies, commissions, minority businesses, as well as countless honors and awards for service. She was a diligent worker and a gentle spirit that demanded a great deal of respect from both black and white. “I believe in the worth of all people,” says Dr. Shirley. “We should work together to make things better for us all. We are all God’s children and should be treated as such.” Mission Mississippi’s motto, “Grace is greater than race” is a concept that rings so true in Dr. Shirley’s heart and soul. “Grace is the kindness from God that we don’t deserve,” she says. “God 42 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
blesses us regardless of the sins we have committed or continue to commit. Grace is greater than race because it sees no color. There are no prejudices when it comes to grace.” Today Dr. Shirley serves as Director of the New Focus for Youth Intervention Program, a program for underperforming students enrolled in Jackson Public Schools. A Time to Speak, a collaborative effort between veteran newspaper columnist Danny McKenzie and Mr. Reed, was published in 2009, and chronicles the history of Mr. Reed’s foray into the public discourse of race relations in Jack Reed, Sr. Mississippi. Mr. Reed gave a speech before the Mississippi Economic Council in January of 1963. The speech, along with riveting descriptions and narrative, make up chapter one, and paint a clear picture of Jack Reed, who put so much on the line, risked his reputation and his livelihood, to speak out during a time when most white Mississippians vehemently opposed integration or racial equality. Mr. Reed, who unsuccessfully ran for Governor in 1987, is approaching his 90th birthday. He continues to work in the Tupelo family business, Reed’s Department Store, and has been instrumental in countless community development, educational, and cultural causes across the state. His down-to-earth answers to my questions pertaining to his personal faith and his commitment to race relations reveal a compassionate servant of Jesus Christ. “I truly believe in and attempt to practice the Golden Rule and to ‘love my neighbor.’ In light of that; racial reconciliation seems almost to be a commandment, not an option for Christians.” Speaking of the work left to do going forward and what his best advice to both black and white would be. “Just keep on keeping on! Encourage integration…don’t resist it. Cooperate. Learn from the deadlock in Congress that progress demands give and take.” The Racial Reconciliation Celebration Banquet takes place October 25 at the Jackson Convention Complex at 7 p.m. Tickets are $65. See www.missionmississippi.org or call 601.353.6477 for more information. Y
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TOP 3 REASONS Children and Teens Do Poorly in School hat is more frustrating for parents than for their child to face year after year of academic struggle? When your child’s grades begin to fall, homework becomes a nightmare, and your child has no enthusiasm or motivation for the most important years of his or her life. There is acute stress for the entire family. Punishment, grounding, taking away privileges, and spanking WILL NOT solve the problems if the reasons for the academic failure are beyond the child’s control. As a Licensed Professional Counselor and a former classroom teacher of 25 years, I have seen countless children struggle. As a therapist, I see three major psychological disorders/learning problems causing academic failure and UNDERACHIEVEMENT.
(1) Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder ADHD (with and without hyperactivity) (2) Learning disabilities in reading, math, writing, and language (3) Mood disorders (depression, anxiety, and early-onset bipolar disorder) It is estimated that 50 % of youth who have ADHD are still undiagnosed. ADHD is caused by a shortage of two chemical messengers or neurotransmitters—dopamine and norepinephrine—in the brain. Research suggests that ADHD tends to run in families. The American Psychiatric Association states in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual that 3% to 7 % of school age children have ADHD. The three core symptoms are (1) difficulty paying attention, (2) hyperactivity, and (3) impulsivity. As noted above, some children have problems with attention and impulsivity but do not have problems with hyperactivity. Formerly, these children were diagnosed as ADD; today’s diagnosis is ADHD without hyperactivity. These children are model students in terms of behavior, but are often a million miles away during class and have much trouble staying on 44 OCTOBER 2012 ❘ Metro Christian Living
task and completing assignments. ADHD is NOT caused by poor parenting, diet, or children or teens that appear lazy or unmotivated. No treatment has been found to cure ADHD, but the treatment that results in the greatest degree of improvement is the use of stimulant medication. The medication goes to the prefrontal cortex of the brain (this area controls attention, behavior and judgment) and stimulates the brain to make more of the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. The very best treatment comes from a combination of medication management and therapy. In therapy, the parents learn what behavior strategies work best for children with ADHD, how to help their child become more organized, how to increase structure in the home, and how to consistently provide positive reinforcement. In therapy, the child or teen can also learn how to improve study skills, organizational skills, how to break big jobs down into small tasks, and behavioral strategies to manage anger and impulsivity. The second scenario is an example of a parent who is describing a child with a learning disability in reading. In order to be diagnosed with a learning disability a child or teen must first have an average or above average intelligence quotient (IQ) and be performing at a statistically significant level below his or her potential. The logic behind this theory is that if a child can do well in math, he or she has the potential to do well in reading. However, sometimes there are physical or neurological reasons that a child performs poorly in one area. For example, a child who had repeated ear infections may not have heard the sounds correctly as a toddler, so he has more trouble learning the sounds in school. As a parent, you can request that your child be evaluated by the school’s exceptional education department or have the child privately tested by a clinical psychologist. The important thing to do is take action—there is help available at school
and outside school. Many children who are not diagnosed until third or fourth grade or later are two or more grade levels below, and need intensive remedial help. Such tutorial programs as Sylvan Learning Center can diagnose exactly which skills your child has missed and provide tutoring to help close those gaps. The final scenario is a parent describing a child or teen that is depressed. The phenomena of child and teenage mood disorders are relatively new in the history of psychiatric disorders. It was not until the last 20 years that the prevalence of these disorders in children and teens were recognized. As in ADHD, there is a strong genetic link among family members. If you as a parent have depression or anxiety, there is a two to three times greater risk that your child or teen may have problems with depression. Again, this is caused by a chemical imbalance and it can be treated with either therapy or a combination of therapy and medication. The child or teen that is depressed has problems with concentration, attention, completion of tasks, procrastination, and retention of information (memory problems). Of course, the biggest risk in leaving depression untreated is selfdestructive behavior—even suicide. TREATMENT WORKS. Your child or teen does not have to suffer through the agony of failure, depression, anxiety, or having a learning disability. If you suspect your child or teen has problems in any of these areas, you will need to seek the help of professionals: a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Clinical Psychologist, your pediatrician or a psychiatrist. Y Suzanne B. Russell, LPC; PLLC, specializes in treating children and teens with ADHD, depression, and anxiety. For more information visit her website www.srusselltherapy.com or call 601-707-7355.
living my call
by SHANNON WARNOCK
The Goodly Heritage of
MARY LIBBY PAYNE “The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places; yea, I have a goodly heritage” (Psalms 16:6).
ary Libby Payne’s life has been a testament to a number of things, two of them being: her love for Christ and her passion for the equality and respect for women. She also has stood in the gap as a witness, mentor, and loyal friend to law students and lawyers throughout her professional career. Attending the Mississippi University for Women to study ballet, Payne soon realized that she had a calling from God to practice law. Payne graduated first in her law class. At the time, she was among just three women attending the University of Mississippi School of Law. After an impressive career in the legal profession which included work in private practice and government practice, Mary Libby Payne was recruited to serve as the founding Dean of Mississippi College School of Law in 1975. During a time when few females were privy to this type of position, Payne stepped out in faith and trusted God for the grace to lead the institution—and lead she did. Under Payne’s tutelage as Dean of MC School of Law from 1975-78, Payne led the law school through the transition from the proprietary night school, which MC had acquired to become a dual-division academic program well on its way to American Bar Association approval. In keeping with the Christian mission of MC, Mary Libby Payne established the Christian Legal Society at the law school during her tenure. Often sought out for her advocacy of women, Payne is active in the Mississippi Bar’s Women in the Profession committee activities. She enjoys encouraging law students and young lawyers. In fact, Mary Libby Payne has probably inspired, prayed for, and prayed over more law students than anyone else in the State of Mississippi. After stepping down as dean of MC School of Law, Payne remained a member of the faculty and was elected as a charter member of the Mississippi Court of Appeals, where she served through 2001. Upon her retirement from the court, Payne had served in all three
branches of state government. Inspired by the unpublished writings of her maternal grandfather, Payne became interested in capturing her family history and spiritual heritage for her grandchildren. “My family didn’t come from wealth, we’ve had something better—spiritual wealth,” said Payne. “I wanted the book to reflect on the good works God does in his children’s lives.” In 2003, approached by the newly appointed Dean of Mississippi College School of Law, Jim Rosenblatt, about chronicling the history of the law school, Payne’s writing changed focus. After discovering the project wouldn’t be as easy as she thought, she decided to write the story of MC Law as a memoir. “Mississippi College School of Law is a product of the grace of God for His honor and glory and for the extension of His kingdom,” said Payne. “I was compelled to write about what God has done for this Christian law school.” After six years of research and collecting personal reflections from former students, faculty, and administration, A Goodly Heritage: A Memoir of Mississippi College School of Law was complete. The labor of love does just what Mary Libby Payne had hoped it would do: it shines the light upon all the students, faculty and administrators who have come to define MC School of Law, from the perspective of a keen observer watching this history unfold day by day, year by year. To honor her work in the legal community—and as an advocate for women, law students, and a relentless witness for her Savior—MC School of Law, along with the Central Mississippi Chapter of the Christian Legal Society, established the inaugural “Mary Libby Payne Lectureship Series on Christianity and the Law.” Launched on September 27, 2012, the series will continue as an annual event created to serve as a reminder of the Christian mission of MC Law and of Payne’s trailblazing role in that mission.
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by KIMBERLY GRACE BOWMAN
“Rise up, O LORD, in all your power. With music and singing we celebrate your mighty acts” (Psalm 21:13). ne look at today’s Christian artists will show that there is a vast amount of Christian musical talent being produced. Names such as Toby Mac, Francesca Battistelli, Building 429, Kutless, and many more, prove the abundance of musical gifts God has put inside of this generation. But let us
never forget the ones that paved the way for this generation in Christian music. Although it is a disappointing thought, it is a fact that in the 20th century, a fine line was formed between music that edified our Father God and the music that obviously didn’t. Back in the nineteenth century and the first part of the twentieth century, the majority of music was in the form of hymns, classical music, and folk music—all of which were to some extent clean and righteous. But over
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time, the music began to change and there was a division between the Godly and the ungodly. In my recent interview with famed Christian artist Amy Grant, she explained that she never expected to become a leading pioneer in contemporary Christian music. She was simply following her passion. When Amy Grant was 15, her first recording opportunity was placed before her. And with no hurry, her first record, self-titled, was released during her senior year of high school in 1977. Throughout the 1970s and 1980s, Amy Grant released seven albums, all of which could be considered a part of the small, contemporary Christian music world of that time. During that time, she also released her first Christmas album. And in the 1990s, she released several pop albums. Amy Grant explained to me the gradual growth of
her musicâ€”and the importance of never despising small beginnings when following a passion. â€œI always loved music. And so, as a music lover, I enjoyed listening to music; and then I wanted to try writing songs. When I started writing songs, then I found myself playing songs at school, for friends, playing at church, playing for womenâ€™s groups, and just wherever I got invited. So my music experience had a very simple beginning. I was just following a passion, â€œ Grant explained. â€œOne step naturally led to the next. One opportunity â€“one small opportunityâ€”led to another small opportunity, which led to a bigger opportunity. So there was never a moment I felt like I stepped into something. And a lot of times when I am asked to speak, I try to encourage people to remember what they were excited about when they were young. Because when you can engage your life skill set with something youâ€™re passionate about, then thatâ€™s the best kind of work.â€? But among all of her musical successes, she still held to one of the highest callings of this lifeâ€”family. During her first marriage in 1987, she gave birth to her first child Matthew Garrison, followed by Gloria Mills (Millie) in 1989, and Sarah Cannon in 1992. After marrying Vince Gill, her husband of fourteen years, they had a little girl named
Grant will be visiting right here in central Mississippi come this November! She will be a featured guest during Jacksonâ€™s famed holiday shopping attraction, Mistletoe Marketplace. Corrina in 2001. Grant also was blessed with a stepdaughter from her second marriage, named Jennifer Jerene (Jenny). Her three oldest children are now in their twenties, and are either in school or in the work world. Grant recalled the times over the years of bus travel, current life, and humorously remarked about the memories past, â€œâ€ŚI guess weâ€™re a little bit spread out. You know, thatâ€™s what happens in life. But music has always been a part of our family. You know, most of the kids learned to walk on a bus. They were potty-trained on a bus [she laughs]. Theyâ€™re probably glad now to be doing something different.â€? Years later, Grant is still in the music industry having released three gospel albums and one Christmas collection, since her comeback to contemporary Christian music in 2002. Since then, she has also written an autobiography. But unlike most books of that nature, Grant has
woven the stories of her lyrical journey into more of a collection of bits and pieces of a beautiful work in progress. Hence, the title: Mosaic: Pieces Of My Life So Far. In addition, Grant will be visiting right here in central Mississippi come this November! She will be a featured guest during Jacksonâ€™s famed holiday shopping attraction, Mistletoe Marketplace. Grant will be the honored speaker and singer for â€œThe Style of Givingâ€? luncheon, which includes a fashion show sponsored by CoatTails of Ridgeland, Mississippi. In the future, and amidst her touring schedule, Amy Grant says that she is currently working on a new album that will consist of the first set of brand new songs in over a decade. It will be released in spring 2013. In addition, she plans to enjoy being a mom, while celebrating each day, visiting her dad, and also tending her garden. Let us never forget to enjoy the simple things of life! And to everyone here in central Mississippi, Amy Grant says that she is â€œlooking forward to coming to Jackson.â€? For more information about Amy, her touring schedule, her biography, and more, visit www.amygrant.com. And for information about Mistletoe Marketplace and her appearance, go to www.mistletoemarketplace.com. Y Kimberly Grace Bowman resides in Florence, Mississippi, and is a junior in high school through A Beka Academy homeschooling. Contact her at email@example.com.
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➺legal advice by WILLIAM B. HOWELL
Do You Have a Will or a Trust? Why? ith over 75 million of us over 50 years of age, more people are becoming very interested in planning their estate. The initial decision to be made in most cases is whether to center your plan with a Last Will and Testament or with a Living Trust. In generations past, families were very close, there were few estates that had any tax liability, and children respected their parents’ wishes— both before and after the parents passed away. We now live in a different time. Estate litigation is no longer rare. In order for your wishes to be carried out, they have to be in writing, and that writing will govern what actually gets done when you cannot speak for yourself. The difference between a will and a trust, according to Black’s Law Dictionary, “is that a will operates from the moment of death, while a trust operates in the present.” A will is a perfectly good way to pass your assets at death, but it cannot provide any help if you become incapacitated during your lifetime. A trust, on the other hand, is in effect from the moment it is properly set up and funded, providing protection and assurance that your wishes will
be carried out—both during any period of disability as well as at your death. A will must go through the court proceeding known as “probate” to become a legally effective instrument to carry out your wishes. A trust functions without the need for a court procedure, both in the event of disability as well as at death. Many people have signified their approval of the “extra” protection with a trust and its avoidance of court involvement by choosing the trust as their preferred mode of estate planning. If a will is selected as the cornerstone of your estate plan, then you will need to have made an additional provision for someone to take over management of your assets in the event of any incapacity during your life. Many people have utilized a durable power of attorney for this purpose. In recent years many have run into businesses that decline to honor a power of attorney. No one is required to honor a power of attorney by law in Mississippi. Some people put their children’s names on their assets with authority to deal with them in the case of the parent’s disability. Sounds good, but this will often result in the assets being
exposed to the creditors of the child, or to their bankruptcy, or even being considered as an asset to be divided in their divorce, since the child is now a co-owner of the assets. Of course, making a child a co-owner of real property will not give authority to that child to deal with it, but will make his or her interest subject to the claims of his or her creditors (including soon-to-be ex-spouses). The same problems can arise when using lifetime gifting to avoid probate or to bring down the size of the taxable estate. Do your estate planning with the centerpiece being a living trust—particularly in the situation of a blended family (children from a prior marriage). You can make sure that your children do not get “accidentally disinherited,” but that your spouse has the benefits of your estate during his or her lifetime and that your children then can receive their entire inheritance. Not complicated, but it must be done correctly. Make sure you understand your plan completely and that it will accomplish your objectives. Some do; some don’t. Make sure your does. After all, you are paying for it. Y
You have worked hard for it. WHY THROW IT AWAY? We are all living longer. But we are not all going to be in good health, or aware of our families, or both. Then what happens? Someone has to take over. The question is: Will this be someone you chose? And will it be outside of court or in court? The same with the distribution of your assets after you pass away: In court or out of court? The choice is yours. What about protecting your assets from lawsuits, or a child’s inheritance from a divorce? And will most of your hard-earned savings go to the nursing home? Or have you planned? Here are a few ideas for you to consider:
Living Trust – Allows the person you choose to take over for you in the event of your incapacity, without any court involvement. At your death the person you have chosen makes the distribution of your assets the way you have instructed in your Living Trust, and to do so promptly, inexpensively and privately, without going through probate in the court. Asset Protection – Lawsuits are filed every day. If you get sued, are your assets protected? They can be, and probably should be. Also, the divorce rate has never been higher than it is today. Will your child’s divorce cause them to lose half of what you leave them after you are gone? Not if you plan now. The level of protection (or not) is up to you.
Nursing Home Planning – Don’t qualify for long term care insurance, or can’t fit it in your budget? You don’t have to spend everything that you have in order to become eligible for nursing home benefits. There are legal and ethical ways for you to save well over half of your assets in most cases, even if you are already in the nursing home. Hear Mr. Howell on the radio
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Learning to WALK We may fall, but thank God we rise again! It’s often been said “there isn’t any great evil in falling unless you just lie there.” Everyone stumbles and falls at some point in life. Most of us, me included, put on a happy face and try to go on in life and appear that we have everything under control. However, inside we feel defeated or like a lost cause. Most often, when perfection is not reached or when our goals are not met, we feel like failures. We get disappointed when we have fallen and experience failure, and sadly, can begin to allow our failures to define us for years to come.
We cannot become defined by our failures, but instead have to keep moving forward. Our God is patient and understanding. He never wants us to give up. Thank goodness that God does not define us by our failures! God knows that we are not perfect nor does He expect us to be. His grace and love reach far beyond what we can imagine. He knows all along we are going to stumble—yet He doesn’t judge or condemn us. God understands. He has great patience with us, just as you have great patience in teaching your child to walk. You expect your child to stumble and fall when learning to walk. Oh, of course, you will
do your best to keep your child from falling, but there are those times when your child is going to fall. Now, a wise parent doesn’t overly exaggerate or scream and run to the child. When you show only fear and excitement, the child will start to cry, get discouraged, or become fearful. However, when you praise and encourage your child for doing his best and acknowledge the progress, he gains confidence and will continue trying. God also acknowledges our falls. He comforts us but also encourages us to get up and try again. God is teaching us to walk. We stumble and fall often in life and get discouraged: “I tried so hard but I failed again. There is no hope.” God is saying however, “Good try; let’s try again.” Our gracious Lord picks us up, dusts us off, and sets us up again. We have to be willing to forgive ourselves and accept God’s love, grace, and forgiveness. We cannot become defined by our failures, but instead have to keep moving forward. Our God is patient and understanding. He never wants us to give up. Instead, He wants us to get up and persevere. “For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again” (Proverbs 24:16). Y Susan Wolgamott, MAMFT has been married for 11years and has three children. She lives in the Brandon area and attends First Baptist Church, Jackson.
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Looking for a Leader
he national conventions are behind us and Election Day is just around the corner. How do we, as Christians, go about looking for a leader?
We should be concerned about our attitude toward government in general and toward our leaders in particular. Paul writes that believers are to “submit to the government and its officers. They should be obedient, always ready to do what is good. They must not slander anyone and must avoid quarreling. Instead, they should be gentle and show true humility to everyone” (Titus 3:1-2). That doesn’t sound much like today’s political scene does it? As Christians we might disagree on politics but we should still show respect toward others. How we go about the task of choosing leaders might say more about us than it does about the people we are electing. We should begin, as in all things, by seeking God’s guidance. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take” (Proverbs 3:5-6). The Scriptures are clear: God wants to redeem individuals from their sin, and he wants to redeem society from its sinfulness. God wants his people to be concerned with helping the helpless, respecting the sanctity of human life, promoting economic justice, and breaking down barriers between people. God’s issues should be our issues. When it comes to electing leaders, we would do well to heed the advice given to Moses by his father-in-law Jethro. “Select from all the people some capable, honest men who fear God and hate bribes” (Exodus 18:21). Character does matter. We should be thankful for the many dedicated Christian men and women who serve on both sides of the aisle. When considering those who govern we should be prayerful. “Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity” (1 Timothy 2:2). Do we truly want good government? Then we should pray that our leaders will be led by God to become wiser, stronger, and more compassionate. We do this whether or not they are our candidates. I was browsing in a bookstore and overheard a little girl ask her mother about the picture she had seen on the cover of a book. Her mother replied, “That’s the new President.” “Did we vote for him?” the little girl asked. “No,” replied mom, “we didn’t vote for him but he is still our President.” That is the attitude of Peter when he writes, “For the Lord’s sake, respect all human authority—whether the king as head of state, or the officials he has appointed” (1 Peter 2:17). We are to elect godly people, based on godly principles, in a godly manner. Then we need to step back and remember that they are not God. If we are looking for a leader who will never let us down, we will have to look somewhere other than Jackson, Mississippi or Washington, D.C. Perhaps we should look in a cave, tucked into a hillside, near the village of Bethlehem. “For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. His
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government and its peace will never end” (Isaiah 9:6-7). The reign of the promised Messiah would not, however, be established through political power. Jesus set his crown aside and came to earth as a servant, where he “humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross” (Philippians 2:7-8). Maybe the place to look for a leader is on a hill outside the city of Jerusalem where the King of all creation gave his life for all. We who are called by the name of Christ will find the power needed to change society, not as masters, but, as servants. As we seek leaders for our land, let us also seek a Leader for our lives. May we follow his example as we seek to influence the world around us. Y Jim Genesse is the Senior Pastor of Madison United Methodist Church in Madison, Mississippi. He has served Mississippi churches from the northeast hill country to the Gulf Coast. Reverend Genesse holds degrees from the University of Miami, the University of Southern Mississippi, and Asbury Theological Seminary. His wife, Margaret, is a Jackson native and registered nurse. They have one son, Mike, who is a high school senior. Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, 1996, Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois.
single still, single again by AMY INGRAM
A Single Journey Editor’s Note: MCL is so excited to introduce Amy Ingram, our new singles columnist. Look forward to a new perspective and fresh insights from Amy each month. hen I was approached and asked to write this article, my immediate thought was “HOW IN THE WORLD AM I GOING TO FILL BETSY’S SHOES?” I mean, let’s be honest—she shared the good, bad, pretty, ugly, and everything in between, and was so genuine and loving in her articles. I’d say if you read them regularly, you found yourself laughing, crying, and even feeling as if you knew and loved her. I have known Betsy personally since we were young. We were childhood neighbors, carpool buddies, and in grade school together for nine years. She’s a jewel and I could—not nor would I—try to take Betsy’s place. I’m bringing new stories, new perspective, and hopefully continuing to tell of His goodness in all situations. Join me in saluting sweet Betsy and praising God for His blessings and faithfulness over her—and for her sweet bundle coming soon! With that said, here’s a little about me –’cause don’t we all feel better if we know just a little about each other?
• I’m a native of North Carolina although I claim Mississippi, too (and grew up in Mississippi for the most part). • I love to travel and would go crazy if I couldn’t. • I love live music. • I have a crazy sweet Boston Terrier, Mabel, who has my heart.
• If I could live anywhere else in the U.S., I would most likely land in Boston, Massachusetts. • If it’s beautiful outside, I am quick to feel guilty if I’m not outside soaking it up. • I love outdoor activities—biking, hiking, camping, white water rafting. • I find yardwork therapeutic. Yardwork is also the place where I understand the phrase “God will give you a helpmate” more than anywhere else. • I went to MSU for two years and Ole Miss for two. • I’m in Oxford as much as I can be. • I love to paint. • My niece and nephew are like my own. • I can present myself as an extrovert, but really I’m terribly shy and introverted. • I’ve been to Africa, Russia, the Mississippi Delta and Boston to serve— all of which rocked my world. • Most of my best friends live all over the country. • I love SEC athletics more than I should—yes, I’m one of those girls. • I love to dance. In fact, at times I think I’m Beyoncé. And one of the greatest things you can know about me: I love Jesus. I love how He pursues my heart - how He has been so very faithful when I am faithless. When I am rebellious, or throw my fist in the air because I feel like I deserve different circumstances, He holds me,
hears me, cries with me and ultimately loves me in a way no human could ever attempt. I’ve asked God, “Why would you forsake me? Forget about me? Why God?” And then I find myself on my knees asking Him to humble me, for I don’t even deserve to ask that. Why? Because I am but a filthy rag, the fact He has given me breath daily is more than I deserve. I’m not saying that is easy for me. But the fact is, God is faithful. He is loving. He is generous. He extends abundant grace and mercy. I am single. I used to hate that word. Single—by yourself, alone, lonely. And over the years, I fought it, accepted it, fought it again, and now I am at a steady place of trusting God’s hand over it. To embrace where He has me, to understand it has everything to do with His plan. And to lay it down daily, asking Him to sustain that desire within me, walk with me, and give me a great longing for Him alone. So I leave you with this: “Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.” (Psalm 90:14) I wake up and pray this back to the Lord. Satisfy me, so that I will be joyful and glad in you. Remind me of your unfailing love. Y Amy Ingram is a Senior Account Executive at a local advertising agency. She lives in Madison with her little boo, Mabel. She attends Madison Heights Church. Feel free to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org and/or follow her on twitter @ingramjackson.
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ADDICTION, IDOLATRY, AND WHOLENESS
esus didn’t have a word for addiction. But he did have the word, idolatry. He was saying, “DON’T place anything in the place of relationship with God. When you substitute a thing for a relationship with God, it is idolatry. Anything can be an idol. When the thing becomes a substitute for relationship with God and the thing becomes exclusive, it’s an addiction. You can become addicted to anything. It does not have to be alcohol or drugs. Christ cares that you have a relationship with Him and that it is paramount. And He cares what you do with that relationship, like when He told the man to sell his “things” and give them to the poor. He says, “Present your WHOLE selves as a living sacrifice to me.” In Luke18: 18-29, a rich young ruler called Jesus good, and asked what he must do to be saved. The man went on to tell Jesus how good he had been. Jesus told this man to sell all he had and follow him. Notice that Christ did not say, “Sell it all and give it to me.” The man’s list of how good he had been was not what Christ was looking for either. Jesus is not interested in helping anyone look good. He is interested
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in helping people have true relationship with God. Jesus told the man to sell everything because it was the young man’s god. He had substituted things for relationships and was not willing to give them up to have a relationship with Christ. We can all substitute things for relationship. God says, “ I don’t care about your stuff.” He cares if your stuff is at the center or your heart to the degree that it stands in the way of God not being first in your life. If you are trying to substitute things for deep longings in your life or to cover over pain, you can’t have a relationship with God or any one else.
People who use substitutes don’t get the information from feelings that tell what their real needs are. Look in your heart and ask, “Does this bring me into greater connection with God and others or not?” See how idolatry and addiction become similar things? Idolatry is substitution of a thing for relationship with GOD. And addiction is substitution of any thing for relationship with GOD AND OTHERS because it’s exclusive. No one would actively say, “I’m going to choose drinking over my wife.” Or “I’m actively putting my children before everything else in the world, even God.” Who would admit that? But people do it because it works temporarily. People use substitutes to take the “edge off their feelings,” but what that substitute does is cover over feelings so they can’t know who they are. People who use substitutes don’t get the information from feelings that tell what their real needs are. Something other than the ONE in whose image they are made has become their god, and until they set other images aside, they can never know their true selves and have relationship with God and others. We can turn just about anything into an addiction: children, organizations, exercise, and so forth. We can even use our relationships with our children as a way to cover over feelings. Many women do that.
Imperfect truths never heal. Jesus didn’t say, “I’ll teach you the truth.” He said, “I am the truth.” The beginning is going in a different direction—repentance. That means sundering all the “things” you have been holding on to and surrendering to God. And then…and then, you must be willing to grow. We were created to be dependent. Jesus encouraged people to be dependent on Him. Denying our feelings and need of God can quite easily lead us to a substitute to cover over these feelings, like getting over dependent on others. I so often tell my patients to make friends with their feelings. They are information bearers. They tell us things about ourselves that we cannot learn any other way. If the rich young ruler had given it all away, then he would have had nothing left in his life but God. Often God takes things from us in order to make us more dependent on Him. One point that Jesus was trying to make is this: when you are in relationship with God and others, it is then that you are most rich. Addicts are compelled to go back to this substitute because it is reliable and doesn’t change. It is hard for me to get my self-soothing and self-maintaining from another person because people are unreliable. That is why the first object of our affection and strength should be God. He is reliable, and He does not change. Feelings inform us. Often in therapy when people don’t want to give up the “thing,” therapy doesn’t work, and they become much like the rich young ruler and turn and walk away. Willpower alone will not make us whole. It comes from something outside ourselves that is greater than we are. Thus, first in importance is having a relationship with Him that is true and honest. Because HE is LOVE, and Love heals us. It fills the longings that only He can fill. Then we can have loving true relationships with those that are made in His image. In a real relationship, truth and honesty are the infrastructure.
Janie Pillow is in private practice at Janie Pillow Counseling (601- 853-4788) She is also Co-founder of Third Millennium Ministries and has served since its inception as Chairman of the Board. See www.ThirdMill.Org. “Seminary Education for the World for Free.”
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FOR MANY OF US, THE SMARTPHONE HAS TAKEN ON MANY ROLES OTHER THAN JUST OUR MOBILE PHONE. It’s also our camera (photo and video), our day planner, and more times than not—our home computer.We even use it as an alarm clock! Statistics say most of us keep our cell phone within three feet at all times. It’s sometimes crazy how much we depend on its availability. But there are some definite ways we can use technology to our advantage. Mobile apps provide a unique opportunity for us to view and use information in a way that’s convenient and efficient. Here’s my top seven list:
Glo Bible Glo is an interactive Bible that brings Scripture to life through videos, pictures, articles and more. Each verse is linked to resources and media allowing deeper study. Daily reading plans, and places to journal or make personal notes, make the app not only user-friendly, but also practical. Glo Bible is a free download but offers premium features as In-App Purchases that will cost you money.
Get control over, and eliminate your debt with the help of your smartphone. This financial app helps you organize and monitor your debts using the Debt Snowball plan. The app has a simple, user-friendly interface, where you input the basic info for your debts, and then you can analyze debt repayments to see exactly when you will be debt free. (There are two versions of the app. The Lite version is free and will let you enter two debts. The full version costs $.99 and is unlimited.)
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Our children are growing up as a tech-savvy generation. Sometimes it seems like my girls grab my cell phone every time I lay it down. But here’s a great way to develop their cognitive skills, and keep them on an age-appropriate app that’s fun at the same time. The game works very much like the board game I played as a child—just the 2012 version.
Grace To You Downloading this free app, puts 40 years of John MacArthur’s teaching right at your fingertips. You can search for, and listen to or read, sermons based on specific Bible passages or topics. Also, there are four daily devotionals that you can use. WiFi Internet is required for iPod touch.
Ok, so I’m a little partial to this one (see my byline at the bottom). This app allows you to buy and sell with the number one Christian ecommerce website in the world. From electronics and furniture to autos and real estate listings, as well as travel and event tickets, bfac.com is a great resource. And the company donates 10% of all listing fees back to the seller’s favorite charity! This app also features a daily Bible verse, devotions, and streams Christian radio. Y
What a great way to make technology work for you! This app lets you save prayers and prayer requests in one location, make notes or updates, and record answered prayers. You can even take advantage of the app’s social prayer network and share your requests with others.
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➺doctor is in by DR. PHILLIP LEY
The New Health Care Law and Your Mammogram imes are tough right now.With the real (not official) unemployment figures of 15-16% and gas prices pushing four dollars per gallon, people are struggling. A lot of otherwise healthy folks have insurance plans with high deductibles and are foregoing routine physical exams and screenings. Even people on public assistance of some kind who have basically free or supplemented health coverage are delaying care, especially if they have to travel from rural areas. So, is it really important that you get your annual mammogram? The U.S. Preventive Services Task Force (USPSTF) doesn’t think so, and ignited a firestorm of controversy when it recommended delaying the first mammogram until age 50 and then continuing biennially until age 75. That’s 12 lifetime mammograms, folks. The rationale of the USPSTF is based upon population studies that have had a hard time showing significant improved survival rates for breast cancers in women diagnosed with annual mammography, and for those diagnosed between the ages of 40-49. They measure things like QALY (quality-adjusted life years). I’ve always been fond of that statistic. I would think for most patients with breast cancer, any life year added is “quality adjusted”. The reality is that the goal of the USPSTF is to reduce the cost of health care, and there was little physician input into their decision. Most of the interventions driven by mammography made to rule out breast cancer lead to a benign result, and there is significant cost borne in doing so. And the cost of caring for a breast cancer, even if diagnosed early, is surely significant.
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the age of 75, most breast cancers that develop have favorable characteristics, and can be treated with less intervention. But not all of them. Most of the breast cancers detected by annual mammography will be preinvasive, stage zero, intraductal cancers. But not all of them. My point is that the government, through seemingly nonpartisan, objective “task forces” seeks to reduce the utilization of health care resources and, thus, the cost. Looking at large populations for a survival benefit for a problem that has an inherently favorable outcome (small, preinvasive breast cancers) is going to prove difficult. But breast cancer diagnosis has ramifications far beyond the cost of care. Risk profiles for the individual and their families, ability to preserve breasts and cosmesis, impact on an individual’s employability and function. I could go on and on. It’s all connected. And it’s an individual problem. I tell patients all the time that risk is an abstract concept, and that a 1% risk of death seems small, but to the person facing death, it’s 100%. Remember that when you vote in November. Y Breast cancers diagnosed by mammography are called interval cancers, as they become detectable in the interval between mammograms. Interval cancers, compared to those diagnosed by recognizing a palpable lump, tend to be of lower stage with higher cure rates —hence, the rationale for annual mammograms. Under the age of 40, a woman’s breast density reduces the sensitivity of mammography, and it bends the cost/risk/benefit curve unfavorable. But not every woman has dense breasts. Over
Phillip B. Ley, MD, FACS, is a fellowship-trained surgical oncologist focusing the majority of his practice on breast care and the management of breast cancer. He is the only breast surgeon in Mississippi formally trained in an accredited oncology fellowship training program. Visit www.mississippibreastcenter.com for more information about his practice. Follow Mississippi Breast Center on twitter @MSbreastcenter.
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The newest volume in the Ancient Context, Ancient Faith series, Jesus and the Jewish Festivals, gives modern readers a bridge between Jesus’ world and ours. Author Gary M. Burge begins by illustrating how holidays provide a cultural code everyone living within a particular culture understands. Without that knowledge, references may lose their meaning. From this beginning he shows how Jesus made important statements about Himself and His mission through the Jewish calendar. Jesus joined in current rabbinic discussions about Sabbath with His interpretation of what keeping the Sabbath meant. More, by appearing to break the Sabbath when He healed on that day, Jesus’ hearers understood that God rightly worked on the Sabbath and Jesus claimed equality with God by doing the same. Passover may be the best known of the Jewish festivals. Burge devotes a chapter to the ceremony and some of the wider
implications within Jesus ministry. Further chapters deal with the Feast of Tabernacles and Hanukkah. He then gives a chapter to Jesus’ final Passover, where Judaism and Christianity most closely connect. The last chapter looks at the questions early Christians had about their original Jewish faith. Even as they understood Jesus’ redemption in the context of Judaism, they needed to make choices about the practical daily issues of living Christian within a Jewish culture. Gentiles joining the early church added new questions about what a follower of Jesus should celebrate. This richly illustrated and easy to read book has a place in any Bible student’s library. Y Susan E. Richardson is a writer, critique reader, and former Christian retailer with a passion for meeting people’s needs through the written word. You can reach her through her website www.nextlevelcritiques.com.
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“I’m excited to see what happens.” Those are the words of singer/songwriter Ronnie Dennis. After several years of leading worship and playing music in and around Jackson, Ronnie, along with his wife Shaunti and 2 children Dylan and Carter, has made the move to Nashville, TN. For the past six years Ronnie served as Worship Leader for The Journey that meets and serves the community in the Fondren area of Jackson. “The Journey was my home, my family’s home, so deciding to pursue songwriting in Nashville wasn’t an easy decision. But we felt it was the right time for us to make the move.” Before his time at the Journey Ronnie led worship at a church plant that met right off of Times Square in New York City. It was there, in the city, that Ronnie really began his songwriting “journey”. “I thought when I started writing that I would be writing worship stuff, but that’s not what comes out of me. I tend to write songs about life and loss and love.” Ronnie is excited about the possibilities in Nashville, for he and his family. In every way he’s trusting that God has given him this passion for writing and hopes that everyone who listens to his music will be moved by the stories of his songs. To check out and purchase the music of Ronnie Dennis go to www.ronniedennis.com or you can find him on iTunes. Y metrochristianliving.com ❘ OCTOBER 2012 59
➺events calendar JACKSON October 6 The 2nd Annual Town Creek Arts Festival will be held in The Art Garden at the Mississippi Museum of Art in Downtown Jackson. The festival starts at 10 am, Saturday, October 6 and will feature Mississippi artists, craftsmen, food from local vendors, and live performances. This family-friendly event includes hands-on educational opportunities for children. Admission is free. For more information, visit www.msmuseumart.org
October 7 Christians for 40 Days for Life – 40 days of prayer and fasting for an end to abortion, will have their Life Chain event from 2 p.m.–3 p.m. The human chain begins on High Street on the sidewalk in front of the fair grounds. For additional information and volunteer opportunities, go to www.40daysforlife.com/jackson-ms.
October 17-27 Belhaven University’s theatre department will perform the classic tale of the rise of Britain’s King Henry V in Shakespeare’s Henry V. Directed by Marianne Savelle, this performance of Shakespeare’s finale tragedies is sure to be a crowd pleaser. For additional information, call 601-968-5940.
students as they are Struttin’ Their Stuff in recognition of the milestones that they have achieved throughout the past year. Jackson Academy will play host to this fun and special event. For more information, call 601-956-6131.
October 17 Join the American Cancer Society on October 27 to make strides against breast cancer. The 2012 Making Strides Against Breast Cancer walk will begin at 9 a.m. on the south steps of the Mississippi State Capitol. You can join a team, start a team, or just come and have a great time celebrating survivors! We’ll be there cheering with our friend and surgical oncologist, Dr. Phillip Ley of the Mississippi Breast Center. For more information on Making Strides, visit makingstrides.acsevents.org. For more information about the Mississippi Breast Center, visit mississippibreastcenter.com.
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CANTON October 11 Get your walkin’ shoes on because it’s that time of the year again for the bi-annual Canton Flea Market. Listed as one of the “Top Twenty Event in the Southeast” by the Southeast Tourism Society, the Canton Flea Market is the perfect way to get a jump on the Christmas shopping and enjoy the best that Southern hospitality has to offer. Shopping begins early so set you alarm clock—get ready, get set and go!
October 27 The Bike Crossing in Ridgeland is hosting The Bikes 4 Barks Ladies’ Cycling Event with proceeds benefitting CARA, Mississippi’s largest no-kill animal shelter. Ride at your own pace and skill level while supporting a great cause. For additional information, contact 601-856-0049.
October 19 Holiday Potpourri, First Presbyterian Day school’s annual fundraiser, will be held from 9 a.m.–2 p.m. at the home of Paul and Melanie Milner located at 2740 Quail Run Road. Holiday Potpourri is the perfect way to spend time with friends, stock up on wonderful baked goods and bid on the much-needed party or get-away. Funds raised will be used for the expansion and remodeling of the school’s library and renovation of the art room. For additional information, call 601-355-1731.
There will be fun for all with games, food, and gospel singing. For additional information, call 601-845-7225.
October 13 French Camp’s Harvest Festival kicks off their 60th year of fun beginning at 9:30 a.m. at the Cain-Patterson Gymnasium on the campus of French Camp. Activities include an auction, musicians, craftsmen, horse rides, concessions and a dinner-on-the grounds. For more information, call 662-547-6482.
FLORENCE October 20 LakeShore Baptist Church is having their Hallelujah Festival from 10 a.m.–4 p.m.
The 2012 Center for Pregnancy Choices is having their annual fundraiser, Life – Living in Full Expectation, at Broadmoor Baptist Church on 1531 Highland Colony Pkwy. A sit-down dinner will begin at 7 p.m. with the program immediately following. Featured speaker will be Pat Layton, founder and president of Life Network. Reservations are required. For additional information, call 601-713-2322.
Gulf Coast Blessings, an interdenominational group of 100+ women on the Gulf Coast, is hosting their 2nd Blessings Women’s Conference at First Baptist Church Gulfport. Featured speaker will be Angela Thomas, a nationally recognized speaker and Bible study author, along with celebrity chef Whitney Miller and musical group Abide. For further information, visit www.gulfcoastblessings.org. Y
WHATâ€™S GOING ON The Center for Pregnancy Choices On November 1, The Center for Pregnancy Choices (CPC) is having their annual fundraiser, Life â€“ Living in Full Expectation, at Broadmoor Baptist Church at 1531 Highland Colony Parkway. A sit-down dinner will begin at 7 p.m. immediately followed by keynote speaker Pat Layton, founder and president of Life Network. Barbara Beavers, Director of the CPC says, â€œWhat we really want to get people there to hear is CPCâ€™s vision and mission.The societal problem that we specifically address is a faulty worldview of sexuality that is adamantly opposed to a biblical worldview. The problem with the cultureâ€™s worldview is that it leads to a plethora of problems such as abortion, teen pregnancy, absent fathers, wounded women and men, and confused kids. We do not stand in judgment of people, but we also do not stand silently by. We must speak up for the innocents and offer compassionate
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Korean Childrenâ€™s Choir Perform in Jackson The Far East Broadcasting Company (FEBC)-Korea Childrenâ€™s Choir and Dr. Billy Kim will visit Jackson to perform on October 2 in the Belhaven University Center for the Arts. The concert at 7:30 P.M. is free to the public and will feature the childrenâ€™s choir, influential speaker Dr. Kim and renowned pianists Sylvia Hong and Michael Rector. Their performances include American folk arrangements, patriotic songs, sacred music and hymns, popular music, contemporary Christian songs and Korean traditional songs. International Christian statesman, pastor, broadcaster and influential speaker Dr. Billy Kim has inspired thousands with his story
Trick of Trot Halloweenie Run Animal Rescue Fund of Mississippiâ€™s fabulously fun Fifth Annual 5K event supporting The Miriam Wilson Weems Kennel, a no-kill facility for companion animals, takes place on October 20, at 805 Riverside Drive in Jackson. The run begins at 9:00 a.m. The walk begins at 9:15 am. Event day registration is at 8:00 am. $30 includes registration and T-shirts. Dogs who play well with others are encouraged to participate with their humans in Halloween costumes! Prizes! Prizes! This is a cause close to our heart! The volunteers at Arf go to extraordinary lengths to save abused and abandoned animals. Get involved. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
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“He said to me: “It is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. To the thirsty I will give water without cost from the spring of the water of life.”
“Don’t doubt in the darkness what you saw in the light.” – Henrietta Miers
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Anjou Restaurant............................................................43 Apple Annie's.................................................................57 Baptist Nutrition & Bariatric Center.......................21, 25 Batte Furniture & Interiors.............................................23 Beautiful Image of Jackson ...........................................24 Belhaven University..........................................................3 Belhaven University Center for the Arts.......................21 Blue Cross Blue Shield of MS........................................13 Brooks Ministry Insurance..............................................43 Callaway's Yard & Garden.............................................12 Canton Academy ...........................................................58 Center for Breast Cancer Health at Baptist ..........15, 27 Center for Pregnancy Choices......................................39 Chandelier Luxury Linens ..............................................31 Christ Covenant School.................................................37 Christian Leaders of the Future.......................................6 Clean Water of Malawi ..................................................29 Covenant Caregivers .....................................................51 Crossgates River Oaks Hospital ......................................4 C Spire...............................................................................5 Dr. Phillip Ley, MS Breast Center..................................13 Dr. Charles McMasters, Optometrist............................55 Edible Arrangements.....................................................25 Energy Insulation............................................................61 Environment Masters.....................................................17 Eye Care Professionals...................................................12 First Presbyterian Day School .......................................17 Gameroom Gallery ........................................................41 Gentiva Hospice.............................................................47 Grantham Poole.............................................................24 Gulf Coast Blessing........................................................19 Heiden & Garland, Inc., Insurance and Bonds.............57 Highland Village .............................................................25 Jackson Academy ............................................................2 Jackson Healthcare for Women ......................................9 Jackson Heart.................................................................31 Jackson Preparatory School..........................................27 Joel Clark & Sons Jewelry.............................................57 Kids Kloset......................................................................46 L. D. O'Mire Financial Services .....................................47 Madison River Oaks Medical Center............................22 Methodist Rehabilitation Center ..................................14 Miskelly Furniture .............................................................7 Mississippi Air Express...................................................24 Mississippi Children's Home Services...........................15 Mississippi College.........................................................45 Newk’s Eatery.................................................................36 North State Animal Hospital.........................................62 Novella Boutique & Salon .............................................61 O! How Cute ..................................................................16 Page Kruger and Holland, Attorneys at Law...............31 Palmer Home for Children ............................................39 Parents & Kids Magazine ..............................................41 Pennington & Trim Alarm Services, Inc........................14 Pilates V Studio ..............................................................38 Remedy True Health ......................................................27 RX Remedies ..................................................................26 Sitters, LLC......................................................................24 Smiles by Design............................................................29 Southern Farm Bureau Life Insurance Company.........29 Star 93.5..........................................................................63 Star Power Support .......................................................18 Sta-Home Health & Hospice.........................................19 St. Dominic’s...................................................................64 Stegall Imagery ..............................................................63 Stella & Company ..........................................................39 Suellen Gunn, Pampered Chef Independent Consultant.......42 Summit Counseling........................................................57 Sunnybrook Estates .......................................................57 Suzanne Russell, LPC, PLLC ..........................................37 Tay Morgan Designs.........................................................2 The Eye Group of MS....................................................53 The Pine Cone................................................................20 The Veritas School..........................................................57 ThinkWEBSTORE ...........................................................39 Tinnin Imports.................................................................11 Trustmark Bank...............................................................23 Venable Glass Services ..................................................41 William B. Howell ...........................................................50 Wright & Ferguson Funeral Home ...............................31 Written in Stone.............................................................41
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St. Dominic’s Comprehensive Cancer Center Follow us on Facebook for the location of our
“Drive to Inspire” car during the month of October. Come out and join us during breast cancer awareness month. Remember to “Fit a Mammogram” into your schedule.
For more information on Cancer Services, please visit our website stdom.com or call 601.200.8000.
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