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Volume 15, Number 6 Publisher MS Christian Living, Inc.
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Editor Katie Eubanks katie@mschristianliving.com
Robin Moffitt Hutson, left, adopted 5 children as a single woman — then she bumped into Terry Hutson, right, last summer. See page 16.
columns 8 As I See It How to lead in a crisis
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10 Modern Motherhood
Check out our cover story to find out who inspires our 2020 Christian Leaders of the Year, and what they’ve learned along the way.
Simple truths that point to the manger — and the cross
12 Author Q&A ‘Surviving Hitler, Evading Stalin’: Mildred’s story
14 Mission Mississippi Moments Give together so we can rise together
16 This Is My Story
cover story 18 MCL’s Christian Leaders of the Year Nominated by you!
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27 Christian Commerce Continuum of care at St. Catherine’s Village
28 Food for Thought Bring on Christmas What if I want to be alone on Christmas?
the wife he lost Tommy Rice knows he’ll see Deborah again — for now, he’s sharing their story
32 Lagniappe ‘Emergency’ poem
33 What’s Going On Making Christmas merry for foster kids
Coming Next Month Pastor Josh Braddy and family of Broadmoor Baptist Church
in every issue 6 Editor’s Letter 34 Quips & Quotes 34 Advertiser Index
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➺editor’s letter The 1 thing we don’t have to wait for “Hello, walls,” Willie Nelson crooned. His woman had left him, and he was addressing the walls of his home. As I listened to Willie on my phone, I myself was feeling tempted to converse with inanimate objects. Like many of you have done and/or continue to do, I spent some time working from home this year. It tested my sanity. Some of you might’ve seen a Facebook Live video I did early on in the pandemic, when I was staying home as much as possible. That day, I had a meltdown after 1) stepping in dog poop and 2) being hit on the head by my roommate’s pull-up bar. (I forgot it was on the doorframe and made the mistake of trying to shut the door.) After handing the pull-up bar to my roommate, who’d emerged from the bathroom just in time to see my humiliation, I stormed off to my room and yelled as loudly as I could. I tried learning from my meltdown. I later found plenty of things to do while spending more time at home. Most of these were good for me in some way: ● I walked and ran in my neighborhood. ● I wrote a long overdue letter to my sponsored child. It shouldn’t have taken a pandemic for me to do that! ● I straightened up my house, my car, and my garage. I haphazardly Swiffered some baseboards. ● At one point I ate more than a dozen chocolate chip cookies, and close to a whole sleeve of Oreos, in three days. (Maybe not good for me.) ● I read a young-adult fantasy novel in two sittings. ● And, due more to circumstances than intention, I think (hope) I prayed a little more than usual. Chances are, you can relate to some or all of the above, maybe even my meltdown. Whether you’re still working from home, or your life looks almost normal now, we’re all waiting for COVID19 to quit being a threat. I’d say “waiting patiently,” but that’d be a lie. Christmastime is a good season to talk about waiting, whether you’re waiting on COVID test results, a family gathering that keeps getting put off due to the virus, or the end of this heartwrenching year. It might do us good to
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remember, the nation of Israel waited about 400 years between the last Old Testament prophecy and the birth of Christ — but He came. Now we wait for His return, when every knee will bow and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord (Philippians 2). We wait for an end to the pandemic of sin and death. We wait for Him to take us home. Some days, we see countless signs of the end times, from earthquakes to wars and rumors of wars (anyone remember that business with Iran?), not to mention sin abounding and love waxing cold (Matthew 24:6-12). These are frightening events, but they still point to His return. Other days, it seems like He’s taking His sweet time. Well, He is! He wants all men to have time to repent (2 Peter 3:9). But make no mistake, He is coming back for us. And here’s one thing we don’t have to wait on: We don’t have to wait to cry out to Him. We don’t have to wait to know He loves us. We don’t have to wait to know His gospel applies to us. God’s salvation is here and available now to any and all who put their faith and trust in Jesus (John 3:16). He was crucified for our sins, and He was resurrected to show that those sins are forgiven (Romans 4). Not just some sins, but all (Colossians 3). We don’t have to wait — in fact, we must not wait — to claim that promise. Trust Him today, even now. If you’re struggling with that, ask Him to give you faith, whether to trust Him for salvation or to take your next step as you follow Him. He will never fail to answer that prayer. He is near. He hears you. And oh, dear one, how He loves you. Y ‘Must-reads’ in this issue ● Robin Moffitt Hutson’s “This Is My Story” column about adopting five kids — while waiting for God’s plan to unfold (page 16) ● Our cover story on our 2020 Christian Leaders of the Year (page 18)! ● Brenna Weaver’s “Tough Questions” column about wanting to be alone on Christmas (page 30)
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➺as i see it by DAN HALL
How to lead in a crisis “But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry.” - 2 Timothy 4:5 One of my favorite parts of Mississippi Christian Living is the recognition of leadership, both present (see this month’s cover story) and future leaders. 2020 is a great year to evaluate leadership and what it means to lead. Especially during a crisis. Our nation has experienced a vicious political season; a raging pandemic that refuses to subside; disruptive and, in some cases, destructive social upheaval; and volatile financial undulations. But I grow weary of the word “unprecedented.” History is replete with similar seasons that provided leaders the opportunity to demonstrate great skill. Neither time nor space allows me even a brief overview of my lifetime, much less the 20th century or the last two millennia. But does anyone remember 2008, or 9/11? This year has not been unprecedented, just disruptive to my plans today. While we could have interesting and spirited debate around national or even local leaders and their decisions this year, many of us face the daily reality that there are people watching and listening to us as leaders: as parents, as pastors, as business owners or managers, as small group leaders, or in any other role as a positional or relational leader. If “all politics is local,” there’s nothing more local than my family, neighborhood, business or church. In Paul’s message to Timothy in 2 Timothy
4:5, the old man instructs the young man how to lead through crisis with four basic principles.
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Keep your head in all situations. (Stay calm and lead on.) Leaders possess two important tools: a steady hand and a steady voice. Both come from a steady heart and mind. Regardless of the hurricane I feel inside, composure breeds confidence in those looking at me. I have never looked back on a time I lost control in frustration as a father, husband or leader, and thought, “Great job, Dan!” I can’t un-say something, but I CAN say later what I’ve had time to consider. That’s why Paul challenges us in Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
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Endure hardship. (Suck it up, Buttercup.) I do quite a bit of personal and relational ministry. I have a pretty deep empathy strain that can sometimes make me too “soft” with people. When there are deep wounds and fears, we find great comfort in the Holy Spirit’s ministry to us. There are times, however, when we must rise above our self-pity, our myopic egocentricity, and our demand for comfort. We must draw on Jesus for strength, and lead. Because “they” need us.
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Do the work of an evangelist. (Lead people to focus on Christ.) Regardless of the challenges people are
facing, their ultimate Source of life, hope and wisdom is Jesus. Two of my favorite verses are John 1:4, “In Him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind,” and James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” There are two prayers I regularly pray when asked for counsel. First, “God, I know You love them more than I do, so help me both represent You and lead them to You.” Second, “Father, you know what they need, so give me wisdom on what to say.” I would humbly recommend both prayers to anyone in a leadership role.
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Discharge all the duties of your ministry. (Take care of those entrusted to you.) When all is said and done, we can’t let the chaos swirling around us or foaming within us prevent us from doing what we need to do to care for those looking to us. When we lie down at the end of the day, our sense of fulfillment is more often greater when we’ve invested life into others, thanking God for the privilege to care for His kids. Again, Paul helps us by sharing God’s response to his own prayer during a stressful season: “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” - 2 Corinthians 12:9 Y Dan Hall is an executive and strategic coach to leaders and executive teams. He also works with organizations on team building, conflict resolution and communication skills. He and his wife, Hazel, have six children and four grandchildren. You can reach him at Dan@OnCourseSolutions.com.
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➺modern motherhood by LIBBO CROSSWHITE
Simple truths that point to the manger — and the cross
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he mere thought of Jesus’ birth and what it looked like that night as Mary held the Savior of the world in her arms for the first time is one of those visions that sparks all types of emotions in me as a believer and a mom. How intimate those first moments of Jesus’ human life must have been as Mary became both a mother and the caretaker of Grace. I think now more than ever, the Christmas story has the ability to bring the world hope in a year that has tested our faith in so many different ways. I was challenged with this thought the other day in a conversation with a friend: Is the Christmas story a story you hear every year in December, or have you experienced the birth of Jesus in your own life? As powerful as the vision is of Mary in the dark of night cradling the promised King, the empty tomb some 33 years later makes Christmas the true culmination of hope and grace in human form. I asked Mary Thomas on the way home from church the other day what she learned, and she told me that she learned about the man that asked Jesus what he meant by being born again. Her rendition included that the man was “very confused how he could be born once and then go back and be born again.” Naturally, my next question was, “Well, what does it mean to be born again?” To which Mary replied, “It means that you don’t have to live in your old life. You can live brand new and be someone who knows God.” Whew. If I had survived tears in the worship service that morning, I certainly didn’t survive them in that moment. Mary didn’t let me get weepy for too long, because she then told me that she raised her hand “bigger than anyone else” when they asked if anyone was a sinner in the room. She’s not wrong, but she certainly keeps me humble. Maybe you need to hear that rebirth is possible. It’s not too late; you are not too far gone. There is grace at the cross that started
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From left: Mary, Libbo, Russell and Clay Crosswhite.
in the manger. How do I know that? Because by grace alone, God has taken my grief-stricken, broken heart, and the ashes of all that I have tried to do or say to be enough, and covered me in the grace of new life — only found when I stopped trying so hard and found freedom in living in the promise of God’s truth. The battle has already been won for us. Jason Smith, our Madison Pinelake pastor, celebrated a baptism recently, and he said sometimes the best way to remind ourselves of the truth of God’s word is by mourning. Oftentimes we are reminded that the Christian life is a paradox. Ecclesiastes 7:2 shows us that: “It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should take this to heart.” Not the warmest message to hear at Christmastime. But maybe it’s exactly what we need to hear in what is a season of mourning for many of us. Even if we haven’t lost a loved one, we can all point to having lost something in this season — a sense of
normalcy, canceled events, stability, certainty, the list goes on and on. Mourning takes us to a place of need: Jesus is no longer just a nice thing to celebrate, but the thing that will ultimately save us from the world’s pressures and our own inability to grasp full control of our everchanging circumstances. We are given new life — a life built on far more than a month’s worth of presents and feasts — a life of looking up when everything begins to crumble around us. This year, I pray the Christmas story would be the crucial truth on which we build our lives — the truth, from God’s Word, that we desperately needed the King to rescue us from our worries, insecurities, brokenness, and ultimately our sin. God created us, sin separated us, Jesus saved us. Simple truth that leads us to a response. What will it be for you this season? Y
Libbo Haskins Crosswhite and her husband, Clay, live in Madison and attend Pinelake. They have one daughter, Mary Thomas, who is 6 years old, and a son, Russell, who is 4 years old. She is the high school guidance counselor at MadisonRidgeland Academy and can be emailed at lcrosswhite@mrapats.org.
➺author Q &A by KATIE EUBANKS
‘Surviving Hitler, Evading Stalin’: Mildred’s story MCL’s own “Middle Ages” columnist, Sherye S. Green, has co-written a new book called “Surviving Hitler, Evading Stalin: One Woman’s Remarkable Escape From Nazi Germany.” Editor Katie Eubanks chatted with Sherye about this amazing true story, and how writing it has blessed her. Katie Eubanks: How did this project come about? Sherye S. Green: In June 2010, I was in Europe with my mother. … On that trip, I met a woman named Jean Behnke from Lyons, Kansas. We struck up a conversation, developed a friendship and stayed in touch. In January 2019, Jean and I were talking on the phone, and she told me about her cousin, Mildred Schindler Janzen, a World War II survivor, and said, “This might be right up your alley.” I wrote her name down and put away those notes. Then in August 2019, Susan Nickerson, one of Mildred’s daughters, texted me (about expanding on Mildred’s written account). I flew to Kansas on October 10 and was on the ground till October 14 (interviewing Mildred). The manuscript was finished on March 11, 2020, Mildred’s 91st birthday. I sent proposals out. … And on Easter, we heard from Sunbury Press out of Pennsylvania.
“If she were hardhearted, you would understand, but she’s not,” said author Sherye S. Green, right, of World War II survivor Mildred Janzen, left.
KE: Could you give a brief synopsis of what the book covers? SSG: She was born in Kansas in 1929 to German immigrants. Within the same year, she returns to Germany with the family so her dad can help his dad run the family farm. On February 1, 1945, Russian soldiers invade the farm and capture her family. And that sets off a chain of events that will eventually bring her back to the United States in 1947. (She and her family) never let go of each other, even though many of them were separated for many, many years. And although the Nazis bugged her family — her father was not a Nazi sympathizer by any means — God’s fingerprints are all over this story. There’s the kindness of a stranger during a very unkind time. A lot of people stepped up and helped the family. There are 95 original documents and photographs that accompany the book. I think that’s important. I hope we educate readers. History can repeat itself … I sort of think that’s why the world is in the state that it’s in today, because people don’t know their history.
Her mother lived to 99. But I think it’s more than just biology. It’s their hearts. Our perspective on life, regardless of circumstances, is always a choice. If you read her story, if she were hardhearted, you would understand, but she’s not. She’s such a joy to be around. And I think that’s God, because I don’t think any human can do that (naturally). Life is hard, but God is good.
KE: How is the book unique, in terms of World War II stories? SSG: This is a Gentile story. She grew up an evangelical Lutheran (she’s North American Baptist now). Also, I’ve taught World War II for 20 years, and had heard of the Russian atrocities, but this was my first up-close and personal look at that.
KE: How has writing this book blessed you? SSG: Mildred’s faith in God — that has been one of the biggest personal blessings. I have this whole new family of not just friends, but friends in Christ. Y
KE: Was Mildred able to recall everything clearly to share her story? SSG: Yes, yes. She is like the Energizer Bunny. (laughs) Before COVID, she was going to an exercise class three days a week. And she’s an excellent cook. 12
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KE: Do you have a release date? SSG: Late November or early December. We hope for 2020. This is the 75th anniversary of the end of the war. So we’re trying to partner with that milestone. (Preorder link at bottom of page.) KE: What about the publishing process surprised you the most? SSG: That we actually found a traditional publisher. I’ve knocked on the doors of traditional publishers (for my other books) for 15 years, and it has never happened (before). I had a lot of people say, “I don’t want you to get your hopes up. I’m sure this is a nice story, but she’s an unknown, and you’re an unknown.” And I would get off the phone and think, “I respect your opinion, but this is a really good story.” That was my impossible prayer. And God answered it.
“Surviving Hitler, Evading Stalin” can be pre-ordered at sunburypress.com/collections/mildred-schindler-janzen (order will be placed once book is published), and will be available soon at Lemuria Books in Jackson or sheryesimmonsgreen.com/copy-of-surviving-hitler-evading-st. or Facebook.com/SheryeSimmonsGreen.
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➺mission mississippi moments by JOHNNY DONALDSON
Give together so we can rise together
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lease allow me to begin with a short quote that came to my spirit many years ago. The quote is titled, “He That
Is Within Me.” As you read the following words, my earnest prayer is that you will not see me, but He That Is Within Me. For you see, He That Is Within Me is far greater than he that you see in these words. The HE is my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Working together: What a marvelous statement! History has proved we can accomplish unimaginable things when we choose to work together. In my lifetime, I have been blessed to see many examples of miracles happening when we work together: as a Gulf War Veteran, seeing individuals pull together in life-threatening situations that caused each of us to trust our fellow soldier with our life; or as a deacon in a small church in south Mississippi, seeing a handful of members come together to raise funds to purchase new pews. They gave of their own resources to accomplish a greater good that will bless others for years to come. Mission Mississippi has been a blessing in my life in many ways. I have been able to grow relationships that I probably would not have been able to grow otherwise. One lifechanging experience for me occurred at a Mission Mississippi breakfast meeting with fellow business and church leaders at The University Club in downtown Jackson. I was fairly new to the organization, and was keenly interested to see and hear how a room of black and white individuals would embrace the discussion of race relations with each other. I was surprised to hear a white gentleman, approximately 60 years of age, explain how when the civil rights movement was at its height in Mississippi, he was not aware of it as a child. The room went silent! How can you say you didn’t know? He went on to explain that during those times, his parents shielded him from any of that type of information, whether on TV or in the newspaper. So the topic was never discussed with him in their household. He stood there with tears in his eyes and explained to the room, “I DID NOT KNOW.” As he grew older and explored on his own, he was able to determine that the things that were happening to African-Americans were not right. As you would imagine, the room was in amazement at this information, but the magic happened after he finished speaking. Because of the openness of the room, and the positive,
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non-threatening atmosphere created by the leadership and members of Mission Mississippi, the hearts in the room were ready to receive such information. The magic was when the brothers in the room, black and white, embraced this gentleman and said, “It’s OK, we understand!” You see, each individual — black and white — had to make a conscious decision that we are greater, bigger and better as ONE than we are divided. In the Gospel of Mark 3:25, Jesus states, “And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” So, to answer that age-old question, “Am I my brother’s keeper?” Yes, I am. We must realize that when my brother is down, so am I. We must choose to work together and give together, so Mission Mississippi can continue to provide opportunities for racially diverse individuals to come together under the umbrella of Christ and learn from each
other, so that we might better understand our brother. So we must give of our time, our talents, and yes, our resources to ensure the long-term viability of such an important cause. Let’s remember to GIVE together so we can RISE together. Be blessed! #GiveTogether To donate to Mission Mississippi, you may: • Text “give” to 601-869-0486 and follow the prompts • Fill out the secure, online giving form at MissionMississippi.org/donate • Or, mail a check to Mission Mississippi, P.O. Box 22655 Jackson, MS 39225. Y Johnny is married to Dr. Stacey Donaldson, and they have two children, Camaryn and Cailyn. The Donaldson family attends Greater New Jerusalem MB Church in Jackson, where Johnny serves as an associate minister.
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➺this is my story by ROBIN MOFFITT HUTSON
I was a single adoptive mom of 5 — until now dream as a young girl. God has given me my dream. It just took a little longer and came about in a different way. I grew up in the rural mountains of east Tennessee. In the area where I was raised, it was very unusual for a family member to leave the area. However, when I was offered a scholarship to a small Christian college here in Mississippi, my church and my parents supported me wholeheartedly. It’s amazing to see how God used that one decision to bring me to the place where I am today. After graduating from college, I began my career in education. I taught in a lower socioeconomic area. My heart would break at times when I would see the circumstances that some of my students lived in. I spent many years wishing and wondering how I could help these kids more outside the school. At times, I would feel that God was calling me to foster. However, I always would tell Him that there was no way. I was a single woman who worked full time. There came a point about 11 years ago, that I finally submitted to God’s plan and became licensed through CPS to foster. Most people thought I was crazy. After all, I was a 40-yearold single woman. My plans were to foster only one child at a time. I stuck to my plan for a couple of years, but as I learned to let go and trust in God to equip and strengthen me, my foster family kept growing. I now have five beautiful children that through fostering have become mine. While going through the adoption process, I would sometimes cry out to God and tell Him that I couldn’t parent alone. In fact, this is one of the reasons that I was reluctant to adopt. I believe that God intended for children to have a mother and father to raise them. Through much prayer, God’s Holy Spirit would always
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ost every little girl dreams of a prince sweeping her away to live happily ever after. I had the same
Robin and Terry Hutson on their wedding day with their children. Kids, from left: Jace Sheffield, Lili Grace, Kaden Knox, Landry James and Leeah Kate.
give me peace and remind me that He had a plan. Terry Hutson came into our lives about a year ago. We have been acquaintances for several years. He was an acquaintance of my family in Tennessee and a good friend of my brother. We were reacquainted at my childhood family camp that I took my children to last summer. God spoke to both of us and brought us together. Terry has four grown children and 13 grandchildren. He loves children and feels that he can help me make a difference in my five adopted children’s lives. I can’t even begin to imagine how much fun Christmas is going to be with all of our kids together! God is working in both Terry and me to heal past wounds and to help make these children what God intends for them to be. My life is a story of learning to surrender and trust. After struggling with what I wanted, I
had to surrender my hopes, plans, and even dreams. I had to accept that God’s plan might not include a prince and children. By learning to trust God and believe that He loves me and always wants the best for me, I found total contentment and happiness. When I think about what God has done for us, Psalm 37:4 comes to mind: “Delight thyself in the Lord, and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” Robin and Terry were married at Sunset Hill, Sunnybrook Children’s Home’s hospitality home for foster families. If you know a family who could use encouragement, love and support, please recommend them to scarter@sunnybrookms.org.
Y Robin grew up in Dunlap, Tennessee. She retired from Rankin County Schools after teaching for 26 years, and she and the children will be moving back to Dunlap with Terry, who has a home renovation business there.
If you aren’t sure whether you have a relationship with God or where you’ll go when you die, please don’t put this magazine down until you’ve read the following:
✝ THE PROBLEM
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. – Romans 3:23 For the wages of sin is death… – Romans 6:23a The natural result and consequence of our sin is eternal death, or hell (Revelation 20:15), separated from God. This is because God is completely perfect and holy (Matthew 5:48), and His justice demands that sin be punished (Proverbs 11:21).
✝ THE SOLUTION
…but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. – Romans 6:23b But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. – Romans 5:8 Jesus Christ died in our place on the cross and took on the punishment for all our sins (Isaiah 53:4-6). Then God raised Him from the dead (John 20)!
✝ HOW TO RECEIVE SALVATION
If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. – Romans 10:9
✝ IS IT FOR ANYONE?
Trust in what Jesus has done for you — His death for your sins and His resurrection — and trust Him as Lord.
✝ THE RESULTS
For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. – Romans 10:13
Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. – Romans 5:1 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. – Romans 8:38-39
✝ WHAT TO DO NEXT
So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. – Romans 10:17
If you decided to trust in Jesus, grow in your faith by reading more of God’s Word in the Bible. We recommend the gospel of John (it comes just after Luke) as a good starting point — or Romans! Finding a church close to you that teaches faith in Christ is another important step. It’s crucial to spend time with other believers so we can encourage each other in our faith. If you have questions about anything on this page, please contact us at 601.896.1432, or send us a message on Facebook @MSChristianLiving, Instagram @mschristianmag or Twitter @MSChristLiving. mschristianliving.com ❘ DECEMBER 2020 17
From left, Doris Bridgeman, MCL Editor Katie Eubanks, Dottie Hudson, Bill Maner, and Martha Stockstill.
MCL’s Christian Leaders of Earlier this year, MCL called for nominations for our 2020 Christian Leaders of the Year. Our four winners share a few commonalities, like working in and around education, but each of them has a unique story of God’s leading in their lives. Also, two of them are technically “retired.” Good leadership has no age limit! 18
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BILL MANER Bill is head of school at Mt. Salus Christian School, and an active member of Providence Presbyterian Church, both in Clinton. He and his wife, Kim, are former missionaries to El Salvador, and live in Bolton. They have four children.
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From his nomination “As a student (at Mt. Salus), it was evident (to me) that for Mr. Maner, as I knew him at the time … the classroom and the basketball court were a mission field. … Bill took members from the basketball teams, myself included, on mission trips to Guatemala, to give students an opportunity to share Christ and experience firsthand another culture. “In addition to serving at Mt. Salus, Bill leads an open gym each week through Active Impact International to provide a safe place for local students to come participate in athletics … where the gospel is shared. “Throughout (the COVID-19 pandemic), Bill led our faculty and staff with wisdom and calmness to complete last school year. Additionally, he stayed in touch with the families at our school to see if there were any needs … He has continued to lead with courage and wisdom (since then). No matter the task at hand, Bill never cuts corners, and always does everything with integrity and humility.” - Mary Kathryn Whittle, counselor and dean of students at Mt. Salus Christian School
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From pre-med to teaching “God has his ways,” Bill says, laughing.
“I was always going to be a doctor. Growing up in Brazil and in mission work (with my parents), I always thought there was a need for medicine, and there is, so I went to (Mississippi College) doing the pre-med route. “While I was in college, I worked at The Baptist Children’s Village, worked with the kids and did athletics. That’s something I always enjoyed. … but I kept thinking, ‘It’s got to be medicine.’ ” Then he married Kim, and she went to grad school. Bill had to find a job. “Lo and behold, Mt. Salus had a job opening as a teacher and (basketball) coach and athletic director. My background is the sciences and Spanish. So I taught Spanish, mainly … and anything with the sciences,” he says. “That’s something that God has kept going from there.” Now, as head of school, “I want (us) to implement a global vision. I want our students to see there’s more out there … God is at work … and how can they be part of it.” What he’s learned about leading “Something the Lord’s really shown me more and more recently, the older I get, is, I think Christian leaders need to make sure they’re investing in the next leaders — mentoring, helping develop them,” he says. “In a ‘post-Christian’ era, I think that’s going to be very important.” The biggest Christian leader in his life “My parents, especially my dad. Being a missionary kid, that’s who I saw. My father started in church planting, but (later) it became more teaching (at) Bible institutes and seminaries. (He built) relationships with these students. He was involved in their lives. Many of them would ask him to be the pastor to marry them when they got married,” Bill says. “(But) a lot of that, I really didn’t realize until he passed away about six years ago, and I got inundated with emails saying, ‘This is how your dad influenced me.’ What I realized was, he never wanted to be in the limelight. He was probably the most humble man that I know. He loved his students, and he had a passion for sharing the gospel. “And my mom alongside him was also a teacher. They were the ones who will come to my mind when I think about ministry.”
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DORIS BRIDGEMAN Doris is Alumni Relations director, PreAlumni Council advisor, and national alumni association executive director for Tougaloo College, and an active member of Cade Chapel Missionary Baptist Church in Jackson. She lives in Jackson with her husband, Willie “Bill” Bridgeman, Jr. They have two sons (one living and one deceased), one daughter-in-law, and four grandchildren. From her nomination “Passionate, patient, persistent, poised, purposeful, pleasant, peaceful and prayerful; these words emphatically describe the servant-leadership of (Doris). “As a fellow colleague/manager, I was able to witness firsthand the nurturing affect her leadership had on thousands of young people (via United Way) for more than 23 years. “One special project (that Doris took on at United Way) was training (nonprofit) organizations in Blagoveshchensk, Russia, (at)
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Amur State University, through the Mississippi Consortium for International Development (MCID). … None of the participants spoke English, and all of the sessions had to be translated. It is impressive that this servantleader’s ministry has been favored across racial lines, generations and global communities.” - Carol Burger, former colleague at United Way of the Capital Area, Inc.
“They would return back to the community, and they needed someone to steer them in the direction of getting housing, of getting education, of getting employment. “You would call them … and kind of see where they were, and what kinds of things they had need of. And you would look into the community to see how you could meet those needs. There were so many organizations that United Way worked with that I could reach out to.”
Doris’ story Doris grew up in the Jackson area and attended Jackson Public Schools and Tougaloo College. Just a few years after graduating from Tougaloo, she returned there as an office manager, supervisor for work-study students, and assistant to the development director. From there she went on to United Way, where she was director of youth programs for 23 years. “And then when I left United Way, I went back to Tougaloo,” she says, laughing. “You know, you look at God’s sense of humor.” Though she’s spent most of her time at Tougaloo in fundraising, development and alumni relations, she also works with students as advisor to the Pre-Alumni Council. “(At Tougaloo) I am actually working with some of the students (whom) I worked with when I was at United Way,” she says. “Now I have the opportunity to work with them more as adults in college, and to look at their successes, and then to see many of them that are alumni and are very productive citizens out in the community.” Doris has volunteered consistently for decades, but one of her favorite experiences was helping young men who were coming out of Job Corps, a free education and job-training program where “they could get a high-school diploma, and they could come back into the community and be fruitful,” she says.
The biggest Christian leader in her life “My mother’s deceased now, but my mother and the spirit of my mother … She led in the church, she led in the community, but she always led bringing other people along,” Doris says. “That’s the main thing that I learned about being a leader, is that you have to empower other people as you’re doing things, and that a leader does not stand alone. You may be called a leader, but … nobody can do everything by themselves. “When we walked to church on Sunday mornings, Mama knocked on doors and took other people’s children to church. She never sent us to church, she took us.”
DOTTIE HUDSON Dottie is a retired counselor and teacher, and an active member of First Baptist Jackson (FBCJ), where she worked in counseling and women’s ministry and recently served on the pastor search committee. She is the wife of the late Carl Hudson, and has three children, six grandchildren and six great-grandchildren (with two on the way!). She lives in Ridgeland. From her nomination “The first time I spoke with Dottie, I knew that she was a very special lady and someone I wanted to get to know. … Though she has
search committee for approximately two years, she traveled to meet candidates, listened to their sermons online, and met with her fellow committee members every Wednesday night for sometimes two or three hours. “It was quite an interesting experience, trying to find God’s will for our church,” she says. That process led FBCJ to hire Chip Stevens (MCL’s November 2019 cover story) as senior pastor in spring 2019.
‘retired’ (from counseling), she never turns away a hurting heart. She willingly shares her time and wisdom when God sends her a ‘divine appointment.’ Her love for others is like a shining star. “Dottie’s love for God and her fellowman, her faith and selfless servanthood, will surely earn her the cherished words, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness.’ (Matthew 25:21)” - Charlotte Hudson, friend and former FBCJ member Dottie’s story When Dottie first married Carl, a preacher, she didn’t work outside the home. But expenses were adding up. So when Dottie and Carl were living in Bunkie, Louisiana, and the local high-school principal asked her to teach English, speech, and drama, she said yes. “(Eventually) my counseling was getting in the way of my teaching,” she recalls. “A student walked into my classroom (one day) and said, ‘Mrs. Hudson, I’ve got to talk to you,’ and I said, ‘School’s almost out. There are some magazines and books back there — go read for 30 minutes.’ And she said, ‘I will have committed suicide by then.’ “I turned to the class and said, ‘Go to page 45 and answer all 99 questions’ (so I could counsel her).” Dottie went on to get her master’s in counseling, and continued counseling students in Louisiana. After she and Carl moved to Jackson, she counseled members and nonmembers at FBCJ. Sometimes she worked in both counseling and women’s ministry. She officially retired at 85, but her heart for godly leadership has not slowed down. For instance, in serving on FBCJ’s pastor
The biggest Christian leaders in her life Her grandmother: “She passed away before I was born. … She raised nine boys, who remembered her for her music and her laughter. I think if I had nine boys, they’d remember me for my screaming,” Dottie says, laughing. “One man (in the town where she lived) said, ‘There’s only one person in this town who can witness to me, and that’s Cora Berry Leavell.’ She did, and he was saved.” Ora Lee Love, a youth minister in Tampa, Florida: “I saw (in her) a happy Christian. I saw a Christian who could have fun and still was so real. She made it cool to be a Christian.” Her father, the late Roland Q. Leavell, a pastor and president of New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary: “I marveled at some of the stands he took,” Dottie says. For instance, as a pastor during the violent days of the Ku Klux Klan, he condemned from the pulpit a recent lynching that he knew some of his congregants had participated in. (Some of them promptly walked out of the service.)
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From her nomination: “Christian Leader of the Year, actually years, is a perfect description of Martha’s determination to use every opportunity to touch others’ lives in the name of Christ. Martha has been a model of contentment in the Lord and has lived out Ecclesiastes 9:10, ‘Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.’ “Martha has (helped) us better understand our birthright as daughters of the King, how to live victoriously despite the trials of this life, and how to put feet to our faith daily. “Martha has also authored several original Bible studies for FBCJ’s Hallowed Hearts Bible study, which she co-founded. … Martha’s keen insight into God’s Word has enlarged our understanding of divine truth and has equipped this group’s members for greater kingdom service. “Martha’s enthusiasm and joie de vivre uplift all who are in her presence.” - FBCJ members Carol Craig, Sherye Green and Peg Guthrie Martha’s story Martha grew up in Alabama and met Eugene Stockstill, or Gene, at a Baptist women’s college where they were both teaching. They
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married and later moved to Jackson, where they taught a Sunday school class for young married couples at FBCJ. After 25 years of marriage, Gene died. “I was 53 or 54,” Martha recalls. “I had not had to work (while we were married). And I thought, ‘What will I do? Who will take care of me?’” She went back to school and got retrained in English as a Second Language (ESL) instruction, which eventually led her to Mercer University in Macon, Georgia. She taught ESL at Mercer from 1996 to 2001, including stints in Japan, China and South Korea. She then returned to Jackson, where she led FBCJ’s internationals ministry and kept teaching ESL. “Many ESL students are highly educated and know a lot of English, but the English doesn’t translate for college-level work,” she says. Also, “many of these students are not believers, so it gives me an opportunity to talk to them about how a Christian lives and acts. If they’re Muslim or they’re Buddhist (or another religion) and you ask them (why), they’ll say, ‘That’s the prevailing thought of my country, that’s what my parents are’ — and they think Christians are the same way. And I have to explain that following Christ is a choice. And
(that) our God gives us choices.” Another profound lesson involves grammar and the gospel: “(If) I’m working with someone who has no English … I start with (the statement) ‘God is love.’ And they’re amazed. Then we go to, ‘God loves you. God loves me.’ ” Most recently, due to the COVID-19 pandemic, Martha has been tutoring ESL students via video chat. They live in metro Jackson but hail from as far away as Colombia, Japan, Vietnam and China. She also chats with former students in South Korea on a weekly basis. The biggest Christian leaders in her life “When I was younger, it was usually a Sunday school teacher, or someone doing music at the church, usually a young woman with a profound testimony — people in the church who were devoted. Not just surface Christians.” What she’s learned about leading “To listen with understanding. I’m a talker. I talk too much. So what I’ve learned is to listen with godly ears, so I hear more than what they think they’re saying.” Y
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➺feature story by KATIE EUBANKS
Writing love songs for the wife he lost He knows he’ll see her again — for now, he’s sharing their story Longtime realtor Tommy Rice of Raymond lost the love of his earthly life in January 2019 when his wife, Deborah, succumbed to cancer. While grieving, he wrote two beautiful tributes to her: a book, and a collection of songs, one of which has already charted. MCL Editor Katie Eubanks talked to Tommy about he and Deborah’s journey, how God led him to these creative projects in her memory, and how he hopes they will touch others.
Tommy with his golden retriever, Sophia Grace, who often rests on his foot while he writes.
Katie Eubanks: You and Deborah met at a divorce care group, right? Tommy Rice:Yes. It was at First Baptist Church downtown (in September 1999). I wasn’t really looking for anybody. We became the best of friends (before we started dating). She was a mortgage banker. She came from a very prominent family in Louisiana, in Monroe. But they all lived just normal lives. Money was not her thing. Her life revolved around God and me and her family. (After we married) she never left the house unless we had a devotional (first). We always had our devotional and held hands. That’s what made the marriage so strong. At night you couldn’t wait to come home to her, because you didn’t want to leave her. Those were the best 20 years of my life. KE: When was she diagnosed? TR: The first problem we had was on April 4, 2016 — we had come back from a family reunion, and she couldn’t read (our) devotional. We went to St. Dominic. They rushed her to the back. The doctor came in and said she had a large brain tumor on the left side, above her eyes. On April 6, my birthday, we took the tumor out. On April the 9th, the doctor walked in the room, the brain surgeon, and said it was glioblastoma. That’s the worst cancer you can have. He gave her three to six months. We fought with everything we had. KE: What were some of the effects of the glioblastoma? TR: This cancer is unreal. It produces webs in your brain that you can’t even find on an MRI. When they do an autopsy, they see it. With the chemo, you have to sign a form saying you understand that if you take it, you know it can cause death. The chemo was experimental. 24
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It’s the worst battle I’ve ever been in. People say, “I know what you’ve been through,” and they don’t. You had to give her her oral medication with a glove on. It was that toxic to your skin. Radiation treatments were intense also. She at times had seizures. She went into comas. She gained (over 150) pounds because she had to take steroids to stay alive.
KE: What was Deborah’s attitude like during all this? TR: She was amazing. She would never complain. (While taking chemo) she’d get up and help other people around the room who were taking chemo. She was trying to cheer them up. She loved people. That was her life. Everybody at the hospital loved her. We had a party when she got through with chemo. For three and a half hours, cancer was
cried and said, “This is unbelievable.” And I took it back to the nurses and said, “I want y’all to listen to this. What do you think of this song?” And they started crying like crazy. Then someone told me, “You need to go see Frascogna attorneys.” I met this attorney (there) named Jay Long. I said, “Jay, don’t waste your time if you don’t think this song is good.” I immediately felt comfortable with Jay. He said, “Tommy, you’ve got to write a book. We’ll get started with copyrights.” And then the songs kept coming. Deborah and her mom, Billie Faye Johnson. Deborah came from a prominent family, but “money was not her thing,” Tommy said.
KE: So you sort of wrote the book and the songs all at once. TR: Yes. “Miss Her More Today Than Yesterday,” that’s the name of (the) book. And not on our minds. That made her happy. the song (of the same name) is No. 15 on the There was a cancer race in Madison (to New Music Weekly indie chart. raise money) for glioblastoma, and she was out We get a chart of who listens to a song — there passing out awards. And she could hardly the western, central, or eastern part of the get out of bed. country. In the western part of But what makes this so hard the United States, the song is No. is this: When you study the 9 (on the NMW chart). That’s a Bible and you pray every day liberal area, but they listened to a (with your spouse), what that song about God. And I was creates is what you call real really touched by that, you know love. And then watching her die what I’m saying? every day, that would drive you We’ve got 30 songs recorded, insane. But you had to keep and five more being recorded your sanity, for her. right now. And I’m working on We did everything we could another book, a sequel, picking do, from the medical end as up after Deborah’s passing, and well as talking to God. And He talking about the (first) book and chose to heal her, but He chose the songs, and trying to help to take her home (to do that). In others through the grieving her last hours, when her body process. I want it to help people. It started with a short story, was turning white, I went into I don’t know where God is which became a song — the chapel and I asked God not which led to this book and taking this, but I’m going to give to let her suffer anymore. I it all I’ve got. And I’ve going to even more songs. “I’m going asked Him to even take me take it one day at a time. God to give it a thousand instead of her. percent,” Tommy said. has sent these people in my life But I admired her always, … to help me get this started especially what she held up to. right. I’ve also got a promotional company, Mansell Media out of Clinton. I’m just humbled. KE: How did you wind up writing the book, and all the songs? KE: How many songs have you written? TR: I had gone to a grief recovery class (at TR: I’ve written close to 100 songs now. I don’t Hospice of Ridgeland), and the instructor said know exactly how many I’ve got. This is not to write a short story. (At the time) I was normal, for a 68-year-old man to be writing devastated. I couldn’t function. I didn’t feel like songs like this. It’s the most peaceful thing I’ve working or nothing. It was tough. ever done. I get my golden retriever, we go in my I read my story to the class, and everybody office, she’s (lying) on my foot … and it’s quiet. started crying like a baby. I said gosh, this is The book was easy to write, and the songs touching people. were easy to write, because I love Deborah so I got on the internet to find someone who much. She taught me how to love. does songs. I sent the short story to him. He She was Pentecostal. They always started their basically took my short story and turned it into day off praying. We had a prayer room in our a song. Then one day I was (at the doctor), and house. She was also a decorator. There’s not a I got this thing on my phone, and it was an mp3. wall in our house without something about Jesus I didn’t know what an mp3 was at the time. on it. I hit the song and listened to it, and I just
“Those were the best 20 years of my life,” Tommy said of the short time he knew his late wife, Deborah.
Tommy and Deborah, shown here at their wedding, first met at a divorce care class and became “the best of friends” before they started dating, Tommy said.
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Tommy and Deborah would pray and spend time in scripture together every day in their library, which was also their prayer room.
Deborah Rice, second from left, with friends at a race where proceeds went to cancer research. Despite her illness, she handed out awards at the race.
KE: Between the book and the songs, was one or the other more therapeutic for you as you grieved? TR: The book, (once it’s finished), you’ve done all you can (as a writer), and you’re through with it. But the songs are every day. And now I’ve done something a little different — the studio told me to do this — I’m writing love songs now. And I’m using female singers. We’ve got a song out now, “Eternal Promise of Love.” I’m so touched by it. I haven’t got the video out yet. But writing these songs helps me because I do it every day. You miss her like you wouldn’t believe. But you still feel her presence. It’s hard to explain that, until you have a relationship like that. It’s not every day, but usually once or twice a week you just feel her. And it’s a great feeling to have.
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KE: What do you hope to accomplish with these projects? TR: First of all, my wife was constantly witnessing to people. … So my objective is to spread the Word (of God) first. That’s what she’d want me to do, and that’s what I’m going to do. I’ll give it a thousand percent. The book is designed to touch your heart. If you leave that book and you don’t hug your wife tighter or your husband tighter, or your kids, something’s wrong with you. If I can get some of these songs sold, I want to take the money and start a fund for (patients of) Dr. Ruth Fredericks at St. Dominic. Glioblastoma is so expensive. (Dr. Fredericks is) one of the best doctors in the nation for this type of cancer. To be honest with you, I’ve never seen anybody like her. She loved my Deborah.
Deborah in the midst of her cancer battle. “I looked at her and thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world,” Tommy said.
Deborah, shown here a few years before her cancer diagnosis, always had a good attitude, even during chemo, Tommy said.
If this hits (big), I would sell all my companies. If I could be given the honor to (write songs and books) for the rest of my life — what more could you ask for? But I tell God, “It’s got to be centered on You, or I can’t do it.” And I would love to get to where I’m doing (more) interviews and talking about God! Because if you talk with me, that’s what you’re going to get. If I die tonight … I’d be at peace with what I’ve done for Deborah. Y To order Tommy’s book “Miss Her More Today Than Yesterday,” or to listen to his songs, visit TommyRiceMusic.com. Follow Tommy on Facebook @tommyricemusic.
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such a place — St. Catherine’s Village, Madison, Mississippi’s preeminent life plan community. “St. Catherine’s Village was made by God to take me through life,” she said. Ms. Ridgway moved into an independent living apartment at St. Catherine’s more than a decade ago after losing her husband and facing property damage from Hurricane Katrina. A schoolteacher for 34 years, she has a master’s degree, was a member of the country club, and was very active with her church and the arts. “I had never heard of St. Catherine’s Village until I saw an ad in Southern Living magazine, but I immediately decided to call and get me an appointment. I had someone willing to purchase my property outside of Laurel, so where was I going to go? Not Alabama or Delaware, where my daughters lived.” After speaking with a salesperson and enjoying lunch at St. Catherine’s, Ms. Ridgway was sold. Soon after, she moved into the perfect independent living apartment with a balcony, and “before I knew it, I met all the women from my sorority that I knew from Millsaps. Across from me was a woman who came from Greenville, and we knew each other already. Also, there was a doctor’s wife who was her best friend who came from my hometown.” In 2009, Ms. Ridgway landed in St. Dominic’s hospital with a heart condition. She then spent some time recuperating in Siena Center at St. Catherine’s after back surgery. “After I took a spill from my buggy chair, the doctors and nurses were worried about me. But I told them I was going back to Siena Center because I knew I would be well taken care of there.” “When I first moved here, I could get in my car and go. But once I
found out I had heart trouble and had to take it easy, the time came when I could no longer do many of the things I used to. I knew it was time to move to assisted living.” Now 90, Ms. Ridgway lives in a “penthouse” in Marian Hall, where she receives therapy as well as daily personal care. “I have so much room — a big bedroom, walk-in closet — I don’t know what to do with it.” During the COVID-19 pandemic, life at St. Catherine’s has changed for Ms. Ridgway, as it has for all seniors. She stays busy in her apartment now doing needlepoint and crafts rather than engaging in social activities like line dancing, which was popular in independent living. “Though I can’t run, I can walk, and I started swimming. And I’m going to give some of my handmade items to the children’s hospital or local orphanage.” Like many current residents of Marian Hall, Ms. Ridgway has experienced much of the continuum of care offered at St. Catherine’s. Living options at the allinclusive life plan community include independent living in apartments and garden homes, assisted living in Marian Hall, memory care in Campbell Cove, and skilled nursing in Siena Center, Hughes Center, and the new Tuscany expansion. The all-inclusive life plan community was the first in Mississippi to earn accreditation by CARF-CCAC. This “commitment to excellence” seal signifies that the campus exceeds the standards established by the only international accrediting body for CCRCs (continuing care retirement communities). Ms. Ridgway’s advice to someone considering a move to a senior living community? “I’ve never looked back. St. Catherine’s Village truly was the best choice for me.” Learn more about the continuum of care at St. Catherine’s Village at stcatherinesvillage.com. Y
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Bake or microwave sweet potatoes till done. Cut done sweet potatoes in half and let cool. Remove skins and set sweet potatoes aside. Preheat (or reduce oven heat) to 375. Add applesauce and peeled sweet potatoes to the food processor and mix till smooth. Add melted butter, salt, and pumpkin spice seasoning, and blend well. Transfer potato mixture to a 9” baking dish and sprinkle the top with pecans and optional toppings. Spritz pecans with olive oil for a crunchier topping. Bake at 375 for 25-30 minutes until it bubbles and the topping has browned. Let cool before serving.
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pound Brussels sprouts, halved cups butternut squash, cubed evenly cup dry quinoa medium pomegranate, de-seeded cup pecans, chopped Olive oil spray
Preheat oven to 375. Place Brussels sprouts on one side of the pan and butternut squash on the other, or you can use two pans. Spritz vegetables with olive oil. Bake 25 minutes; remove Brussels sprouts and place into a large bowl. Return squash to oven if not yet tender; bake 10-15 more minutes. Add to the bowl with Brussels sprouts. While vegetables are baking, cook quinoa according to directions. In the large bowl with the vegetables, add cooked quinoa, pomegranate seeds, and pecans. Stir to combine. Serve warm. TIME-SAVER TIP: Purchase pre-cut butternut squash, microwavable quinoa pouches, and pomegranate seeds.
HEALTHIER PECAN PIE BARS A healthier twist to the traditional pecan pie. 1 1 ¼ ⅔ 1 1 2
store-bought pie crust stick butter cup maple syrup cup sugar or sugar substitute teaspoon vanilla tablespoon milk cups chopped pecans
Preheat oven to 350. Bring refrigerated crust to room temperature. Roll out to line the bottom of an 8” x 11” baking dish. Bake crust 10–15 minutes or until slightly golden brown. Let the crust cool completely. In a saucepan, heat butter, sugar (or sugar substitute), maple syrup, and vanilla until boiling (about 3–4 minutes), stirring constantly. Once boiling, continue to stir and let bubble 1 minute, then turn off heat. Stir in milk and pecans. Mix well. Pour pecan mixture over the cooled crust and bake in oven 15–20 minutes. Let cool, then refrigerate several hours or overnight before cutting.
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What if I want to be alone on Christmas? QUESTION: 2020 has been a rough year, and I have no desire to celebrate Christmas with my family. How do I tell them I want to be left alone to rest and recover?
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social unrest around the country, and the election — on top of everyday stressors of personal and professional life — weigh heavy. I am sorry to hear you are exhausted and have no desire to celebrate Christmas with your family. Upon reading your question, I automatically thought of Matthew 11:28 — “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” In what ways have you tried to find rest during this hard year? You might be tempted to say, “There’s no time to rest; I am too busy.” As believers, we are called to rest — to rest from work, and to rest in Him. Peter Scazzero writes in “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality”: “We stop on Sabbaths because God is on the throne, assuring us the world will not fall apart if we cease our activities.” It is OK to give yourself permission to rest. Practically, rest looks different for everyone. Find what works for you, whether it’s a walk around the block in the early morning hour, or 10 minutes locked in the bathroom while the kids are playing. Rest is essential for good physical, spiritual Take time to really and mental health. Believe it or not, rest can also look like spending pause, pray, and Christmas alone if you are clear on your consider why you are motivations and communicate effectively. Saying, “I have no desire to spend Christmas with my family” wanting to be alone is a broad and ambiguous statement. Do you feel during this Christmas emotionally drained after spending time with season. Your decision family? Is your family’s focus at Christmas something other than celebrating the birth of Jesus, should be thoughtful and you would rather avoid it? Take time to really and not reactionary. pause, pray, and consider why you are wanting to be alone during this Christmas season. Your decision should be thoughtful and not reactionary. If, after taking some time, you feel led to spend the holiday alone, clear communication with family members is important. You might be tempted to craft creative excuses to head off extensive questioning or ameliorate unpleasant feelings. Maybe you lean in the other direction and are particularly brash in communicating, so the message comes across as loudly as possible. Neither is necessary. As Ephesians 4:15 tells us, “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” Clear is kind. Once you have made your decision and shared it with family, how will you spend the time? What will refresh you the most? Again, pause, pray, and consider what it is you hope to gain during this time alone. 2020 has been difficult, and we must ultimately remember where our hope lies — in Christ. Seek His face as you rest at Christmastime. As Jeremiah 31:25 reminds us, “For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish.” Merry Christmas. Y
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Making Christmas merry for foster kids
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ach Christmas, hundreds of foster children gather at Fondren Church in Jackson to play games, eat dinner, receive gifts, and hear a story about the birth of Jesus Christ. While this year’s celebration will look different due to COVID-19, Fondren Church is working hard to pull of its fifth annual Christmas party for children in the Hinds County foster system. The church started this tradition in 2016 when they learned that while other counties across the state put on yearly holiday parties for foster children, Hinds County didn’t have a party. There were more than 500 children in the Hinds County system at the time, compared to fewer than 100 in surrounding counties. According to the state Department of Child Protection Services, they were never able to find a group who could throw a party
for that many kids. Fondren Church decided to try. They partnered with a local nonprofit the first year, and the party was a huge success. Now it has become a staple event on the Fondren Church calendar. With the help of
dozens of volunteers, each year the church is able to create a night where these children who have been through so much can play, laugh, sing, eat, and just be kids. At the end of the event, the church gives each child who attends a present, and every family that attends a Kroger gift card. In order to keep families safe and socially distanced this year, the church will host a drive-in movie for the children in place of the party on Thursday, Dec. 10. This will allow everyone to stay in their own vehicle, but still have a fun night for the kids. The church is mailing Kroger gift cards to Hinds County foster families, and will still give gifts to the kids who attend the movie. If you would like to learn more about the event, or donate to help provide gifts, please visit fondrenchurch.com. Y
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And this is the testimony, God gave us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. ~ 1 JOHN 5:11, ESV
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