Going home after your baby is born, 2008 Kingston Hospital NHS Trust.

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Going home after your baby is born

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This booklet is designed to provide some helpful hints and information about going home after having your baby. We hope you will find it useful.

Going home from Kingston Hospital

Depending on the type of delivery you have, and if both you and your baby are well you can go home between two and twelve hours after birth. So that you can get home with the least amount of delay, please make sure that you plan ahead and arrange for someone to pick you up from the hospital to take you home by car when you can go. It is also very useful if you can have help available to you at home and if you can, ensure that you have everything ready for you and your baby. This will give you more time to rest and care for your baby once home. You will be given three letters to take home and they are for the:

1. Community Midwife – who will contact you the day after you leave the hospital.

2. Health Visitor – keep this letter at home as they will be in contact with you in the next few weeks.

3. GP– please deliver this letter to the surgery within twenty four hours of being discharged.

Community Midwives

ACommunity Midwife will usually visit you at home the day after you leave the hospital and will discuss with you future visits according to your specific needs. This care will continue for at least ten dayslonger if necessary. The Midwife in the hospital will arrange for the Community Midwife to visit you if you live out of the area. If you have not had a visit by 4pm on the day after you go home please contact the Community Midwives office 020 8546 7711 on extension 3281.

If you have any problems and wish to ask advice e.g. about breast feeding, please phone 020 8546 0584 at any time and speak to a Midwife for further assistance.

In an emergency please call the Labour Ward at Kingston Hospital on 020 8546 0584.

So you can be sure your body is recovering after having your baby, a postnatal check at six weeks is available to ensure that all is well. If this is to be with your GP, you will need to make the appointment yourself. If you need to be seen here at the hospital, an appointment will be sent to you.

If you have not had a cervical smear in the last three years it is a good idea to have one three months after you have had your baby. You will need to organise this. Your baby will also need to have an appointment at six-eight weeks, again to check they are well. You will need to make this appointment with your GP.

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Advice you may find useful……

Looking after yourself is just as important as looking after your baby. The following information may help to answer some of your questions.

Perineal Care

If you need pain relief, you can take paracetamol every four-six hours to a maximum of eight in twenty four hours. If you are on any other medication, please check that you are able to take paracetamol with them. Cold compresses, for example gel pads, can also be used to relieve perineal pain. It is important to keep your perineum clean especially after you have had a baby. Daily baths or showers are very important particularly if you have had a tear or needed stitches. You should ensure you change your sanitary pads frequently and wash your hands before and after doing this. If you have any worries about your perineum or your stitches please see your GPor Midwife. You should not use tampons until at least six weeks after the birth to reduce the risk of developing a uterine infection.

Diet

Remember it is normal for the body to store some fat in pregnancy. The most sensible way to lose the excess weight you may have gained during pregnancy is to quickly settle into a routine of healthy eating and frequent moderate exercise.

It is important, especially if you are breastfeeding, to eat well. The first six weeks after baby is born is not the time to go on a strict diet. Your body needs nutrients to recover from the physical stresses of pregnancy, labour and delivery. To establish breastfeeding you will need to ensure you keep up the calories and fluids and have a daily rest by lying down to make up for the loss of sleep. Continuous daily activity will use up essential calories for breastfeeding. It’s a good idea to have a drink by your side before you settle down to breastfeed. We should all be drinking at least six to eight glasses (one-two litres) of fluid every day. When you are breastfeeding you need to drink even more than this. Water, milk and unsweetened fruit juices are all good choices.

If you feel thirsty, this means you are already dehydrated. If your urine is dark and has a strong smell, this is also a sign that you are not drinking enough.

Alcohol

After the baby is born, you should still be careful about how much you drink because it can still affect your baby. If you are breastfeeding, alcohol can pass from your breast to the baby, making him or her too sleepy to feed, or making your milk taste or smell different so your baby doesn’t want to drink it. It can also reduce the amount of breast milk you are producing. The baby may also have difficulties with digestion and problems sleeping.

Even if you are feeding your baby using infant formula milk, the smell of alcohol can confuse or upset your baby and make feeding difficult.

Getting back into shape

Now you have given birth, you may be wondering how to begin safely exercising to help your body return to its pre-pregnancy condition, then please read on!

It is important that after having a baby you continue to take good care of yourself and restarting a few simple exercises early on can increase your energy levels and help to improve your fitness. However, it is important that you start gently with a few safe exercises and only do what feels comfortable. Going out for a walk with your baby in the pram is a good way of getting exercise and fresh air for you both.

The effect of your ligaments becoming more supple and pliable in pregnancy means, for instance, that back problems can be made worse by excessive twisting. These effects continue for several weeks after birth and if you return to high impact or inappropriate exercise you can put your body at unnecessary risk of injury. It is a good idea to leave anything that creates ‘impact’on your body until you are at least five months postnatal. Impact can be defined as taking both feet off the floor at the same time.

Pelvic Floor Exercises

In women, pelvic floor muscles support the bladder, bowel and womb and therefore have been affected both by the pregnancy and the delivery regardless of how your baby was born. It is important that these muscles are exercised following the birth of your baby in order that they continue to support these organs in later life. Women with strong pelvic floor muscles are less likely to suffer from prolapse or leakage from their bladder or bowel. Toning these muscles in the short term can also reduce swelling and soreness.

Pelvic floor exercises are quick and simple and can be done anywhere as long as you are comfortable.

•Imagine that you are trying to stop your flow of urine or stopping yourself from passing wind. You should feel a gentle lift and squeeze around your front and back passages. This is the basic exercise that will tone these muscles.

•Every woman is different and it is important that you don’t strain yourself. Start gently by holding this ‘squeeze’for five seconds.

•Rest and repeat the exercise up to ten times.

•Gradually increase the length of time you can hold it for (up to a maximum of ten seconds) as the muscles become stronger.

•Next try to squeeze and lift more quickly and release immediately (up to ten times). This will help to reduce leaking urine when you cough, sneeze or laugh. It is important that if you have any problems with your bladder that you discuss it with your GP.

DO NOT:

•Hold your breath

•Tighten your tummy excessively

•Tighten you buttocks

•Squeeze your legs together

REMEMBER:

Start gently and increase the strength and frequency of the exercises, as feels comfortable. Try to repeat these exercises four to six times everyday.

Stomach Exercises

The deep stomach muscles are the most important stomach muscles to exercise in the first six weeks after your baby is born. They help to support the spine and pelvis and exercising them will help to flatten your tummy.

•Lie on your side with a pillow or cushion between your legs and your knees slightly bent

•First relax and let your tummy sag, then breathe in gently

•As you breathe out again gently pull in the lower part of your tummy and your pelvic floor together and then release

Rest for a few seconds and then try again. Repeat four or five times with a short rest in between each one. Build up until you are able to hold each one for a maximum of ten seconds and only repeat up to ten times.

You can choose a different position. Try lying on your back with a pillow underneath your head.

General Advice

Make sure that you are very careful in the first few weeks at home. Avoid lifting anything heavier than your baby as much as possible. Avoid leaning down to pick objects up off the floor, bend your knees and keep your back straight instead. As you pick things up tighten your pelvic floor and stomach muscles to help you.

Feeding your baby

Sit in a supportive chair with your back straight. Use a pillow or footstool underneath your feet if needed and also a pillow underneath baby to help support them so that you are comfortable.

Problems

If you have any persistent pain, loss of bladder or bowel control or difficulties with sexual intercourse you should contact your GP who may refer you to see a physiotherapist.

You can come to the specific postnatal exercise class run by the Midwives at Kingston Hospital. You will meet other mothers with babies of the same age and you will probably find you have much in common. The class can be a really great way to meet others and develop new friendships at this time.

Held every Thursday (Term time only) 1.30 – 2.30pm Refreshments served from 2.30 – 3pm £5 for the exercises and refreshments

Held at Emmanuel Church Hall

Grand Avenue

Berrylands

Surbiton

Tel: 07757 535 972

If the postnatal class is not at a convenient time for you, look on the Postnatal Guild website for a qualified teacher or personal trainer near you. Most of these exercise teachers run classes specifically for mothers and babies.

The Hawker Centre in North Kingston also runs postnatal exercise classes and Mums in Shape can be contacted on 020 8873 7441.

Contraception

Contraception may be the last thing on your mind when you have just had a baby, but it is something you need to think about if you want to delay or avoid another pregnancy soon after this baby. A lot of unplanned pregnancies happen in the first few months after childbirth, so even if you’re not interested in sex at the moment, it is better to be prepared.

How soon can I have sex again?

You can have sex as soon as you and your partner want to. However, having a baby causes many physical and emotional changes for both partners, and it may take some time before you feel ready to have sex. It is common to feel nervous, but there is usually no reason why you should not enjoy sex just as much as before. It can help if you and your partner talk about any worries you have. If you have any discomfort which might affect your enjoyment of sex, such as stitches which have not healed, discuss this with your Midwife, GP, Practice Nurse, or Health Visitor.

When will my periods start again?

If you bottle-feed, or combine bottle and breastfeeding, your first period could start as early as five to six weeks after the birth. If you are breastfeeding, your periods may not come back until you stop. However, you can be fertile before you get your first period. This is because you ovulate (release an egg) about two weeks before a period so you are able to become pregnant without having had a period.

How soon do I need to use contraception?

You can become pregnant again quickly after the birth whether you are breast or bottle feeding, therefore you must use contraception every time you have sex. Don’t wait for your periods to return, or until you have your postnatal check before you use contraception as you could become pregnant again before then.

When can I start to use contraception?

You can use male and female condoms as soon as you want to. Other methods of contraception will need to be discussed with your GP.

Which contraceptive method will be suitable for me?

This depends on what you and your partner prefer, your medical history, any problems you had in the pregnancy and if you are breastfeeding. Your GPshould be able to advise you on this. There are three main methods of contraception:

• Hormonal methods, such as oral contraceptive pills, patches, implants, and injections.

• Barrier methods include the diaphragm and condoms. Male and female condoms are easy over the counter choices.

• The IUD, intrauterine contraceptive device.

Will breastfeeding act as a contraceptive?

Breastfeeding is not 100% effective in avoiding pregnancy.

Can I use emergency contraception after the birth?

Yes. If you have unprotected sex you can use emergency contraception. If you are breastfeeding, using the emergency pill will not harm the baby or affect the breast milk. Your GPor Pharmacist will be able to provide further information on this.

Where can I get advice?

You and your partner can visit your doctor, practice nurse, family planning clinic or sexual health clinic.

Will contraception protect me from sexually transmitted infections?

Most methods of contraception do not protect you from sexually transmitted infections. Male and female condoms, when used correctly and consistently, can help protect against sexually transmitted infections. Diaphragms and caps may also protect against some sexually transmitted infections.

Reducing the risk of cot death

In a small number of cases, babies die suddenly for no apparent reason from what is called cot death or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). There are some factors which are associated with SIDS and the advice listed below provides guidance on how you can help to reduce the risk to your baby. The advice below should be followed at all times.

•Place your baby on its back to sleep. This is the safest position for your baby to sleep in.

•Never sleep with your baby on an armchair or sofa.

•Do not let anyone smoke in the same room as your baby. Better still, do not permit any smoking in the house. Ideally, encourage those concerned to give up smoking altogether!

•Keep your baby’s head uncovered - place your baby with their feet to the foot of the cot, to prevent wriggling down under the covers.

•When you check your baby, if they are sweating or their tummy feels hot to the touch, take off some of the bedding. Don’t worry if hands or feet feel cool, this is normal.

•Use lightweight blankets. If your baby feels too warm, reduce the number of layers. Do not use a duvet, quilt or pillow for babies under twelve months.

•Babies should never sleep with a hot water bottle or electric blanket, next to a radiator, heater or fire, or in direct sunshine.

•Remove hats and extra clothing as soon as you come indoors or enter a warm bus, train or shop, even if it means waking your baby.

•Do not share a bed with your baby if you have been drinking alcohol, have taken drugs, are very tired or if you smoke.

Do not let your baby get too hot or too cold. Ideally room temperature should be between 16 and 20 degrees centigrade. (See table below)

Room temperatureAmount of bedding

12°Csheet plus four or more layers of blankets

14°Csheet plus three or four layers of blankets

16°Csheet plus three layers of blankets

18°Csheet plus two layers of blankets

20°Csheet plus one or two layers of blankets

22°Csheet plus one layer of blankets or sheet only

24°Csheet only

Bedding guidelines for babies wearing a nappy, vest and babygro.

Baby Skin and Cord Care

Babies are born with very delicate skin and are less able to withstand the sensitising effects of modern detergents. Maintenance of the skin’s natural protective barrier is paramount. In order to do this you should use water only for baby skincare for at least the first month of life. When carrying out any baby care you should wash your hands before and after. It is currently advised not to overload your washing machine as this will help to avoid a build up of chemical residues on clothing from washing powders. You should use non-biological washing powder and make sure that your baby’s clothes are thoroughly rinsed. If you use a fabric conditioner, try to use products that are free from colours and perfumes. You may be considering using cloth nappies for your baby. They are just as efficient as disposables and do not present a higher risk of napkin rash. They are also kinder to the environment. You may also be concerned about your baby having dry skin. This can be resolved by using vegetable based oils - not nut, which are free from minerals, perfume and colours.

Your baby’s cord will dry and fall off between five and ten days after birth.

There are some basic rules to follow to reduce the risk of problems:

•Hand washing before and after all baby care.

•Leave cord open to air or cover with clean, loose clothing.

•Fold nappy down below the cord until it falls off.

•Leave alone unless contaminated by faeces or urine.

•Clean, if necessary with plain water.

•Observe for signs of infection – redness, offensive smell.

Contact your healthcare professional if you have any concerns about the cord area.

Useful contact details

NHS Direct0845 46 47 www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk

Foundation for Sudden Infant Deaths020 7233 2090 www.sids.org.uk

Giving up smoking0800 169 0169 www.gosmokefree.co.uk

Meet AMum Association (MAMA)0845 120 3746 www.mama.co.uk

Family Planning Association0845 310 1334 www.fpa.org.uk

Association for Postnatal Depression020 7386 0868 www.apni.org

Twins and Multiple Birth Association (TAMBA)0800 138 0509 www.tamba.org.uk

Real Nappy Network07768 916 276

Cry-sis08451 228 669 www.cry-sis.org.uk

National Childbirth Trust0870 444 8707 www.nct.org.uk

Kingston Baby Café020 8549 3672 www.thebabycafe.co.uk

Association of Breastfeeding Mothers0870 401 7711 www.abm.me.uk

La Leche League0845 120 2918 www.laleche.org.uk

Breastfeeding Network0870 900 8787 www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk

Medela breast pump hire0161 776 0400

Ameda Egnell breast pump hire01823 336 362

Expressions Breastfeeding0153 838 6650

Further advice can be found on: www.guidance.nice.org.uk/CG37/ publicinfo/word/English/download.dspx

Remember there are always staff available at the maternity unit at Kingston Hospital for advice and reassurance if necessary.

Born Too Soon is a registered charity set up in 1985 by parents and staff to offer information and support to families whose baby/babies are being cared for on the Neonatal Unit at Kingston Hospital NHS Trust. Our neonatal unit cares for small preterm babies, some born up to 17 weeks too soon (23 Weeks) weighing as little as 450 grams (One Pound) also sick newborn infants requiring specialist care. We care for up to 20 babies at any one time.

We provide specialist equipment for the Neonatal Unit and also support families when their baby leaves the Neonatal Unit. Born Too Soon also provides support for bereaved families.

We have a group for parents which meets every Wednesday at Welcare House, 53-55 Canbury Park Road, Kingston from 1-00p.m. to 4-00p.m. It is an opportunity for parents to meet in pleasant surroundings, there is a large playroom, garden and also access to the kitchen.

Each year we hold a party for babies who have been cared for on The Neonatal Unit, this is held at The Antoinette Hotel.

Membership of Born Too Soon is only £10-00 per year. For details of events which we hold to raise money please log onto our website which is www.borntoosoon.org.uk

If you wish to make a donation you can do so by sending a cheque made payable to Kingston Hospital Endowment Fund (Born Too Soon) and send it to Pauline Woods, Born Too Soon, Neonatal Unit, Kingston Hospital NHS Trust, Galsworthy Road, Kingston Upon Thames, Surrey KT2 7QB. You may also donate directly by logging onto the website www.justgiving.com

Thank you very much for any help and support which you can give our very special babies and their families.

Pauline Woods

Born Too Soon Co-Ordinator

AGuide to Registering Your Baby’s Birth

At Kingston Register Office we register all births and deaths which occur within the Royal Borough of Kingston upon Thames.

We take notices of marriage for couples wishing to marry and we perform civil marriage ceremonies at the Register Office and at approved premises throughout the Royal Borough. We also take notices of civil partnership and provide Civil Partnership Registration and Ceremonies.

We offer Naming Ceremonies, Renewal of Marriage Vows and Citizenship Ceremonies.

Registers of all births, marriages and deaths occurring within the Kingston area dating back to 1837 are held at this office and copy certificates can be obtained by contacting us.

Our Contact Details

Our Address: The Register Office, 35 Coombe Road, Kingston upon Thames KT2 7BA

Telephone: 020 8547 4600

Fax: 020 8547 6188

Email: registrars@rbk.kingston.gov.uk

How do I find Kingston Register Office

The Register Office is situated beside Kingston Hospital on the corner of Wolverton Avenue.

There are some parking spaces in front of the Register Office, including parking for Blue Badge holders. There is a Controlled Parking Zone in Wolverton Avenue with pay and display parking bays.

Norbiton train station is opposite the Register Office.

Buses 213, 57, K2, K4, K3, K5, K9 and K10 all stop close by.

The office is situated on the ground floor and has easy access for parents with prams and pushchairs. There are baby changing facilities at the Register Office.

Opening Hours

For the registration of births, deaths, still-births and notices of marriage and civil partnership:

Monday to Friday from 9am to 4pm

Please make an appointment. You can do this by:visiting our online diary at www.kingston.gov.uk or telephone us on 020 8547 4600

For marriage ceremonies and civil partnership registrations: Monday to Saturday by appointment only

How to Register Your Baby’s Birth

After your baby is born you will need to register the birth at Kingston Register Office.

When should I register my baby's birth?

You must register the birth within 42 days.

Who can register the birth?

The following people can register the birth:

•baby's mother.

•baby's father who was married to the baby's mother at the time of the birth.

•both parents together, if they are not married to each other and they want the father's details to be recorded in the register.

Please remember one of the parents must register the birth in person. They cannot ask a friend or relative to register the birth on their behalf.

If it is not convenient for you to visit Kingston Register Office, you can go to any other register office and give them the details of the birth. They will in turn send the information to us on your behalf. We call this registering a birth by declaration. Please remember that if you do register this way, the birth certificate will be posted to you a few days later.

Will I need an appointment to register my baby’s birth?

You are strongly advised to make an appointment to register the birth as the office can be very busy at times and if you arrive without an appointment you may have a long wait before you can be seen.

We operate an appointment system between 9.00am and 4.00pm Monday to Friday. You can make an appointment to register your baby’s birth by:

•using our online booking system at http://www.kingston.gov.uk or •telephone a member of the Registration Team on 020 8547 4600.

What information will the registrar need?

The registrar will see you in private and record the baby's and parents' details. You will be asked for the following information about your baby's birth:

•The date of the birth.

•Where the baby was born.

•The baby’s full name.

•The mother's full name.

•The mother's name before she was married.

•The mother's date and place of birth.

•The mother's occupation.

•The mother's address.

If the father's details are to be included, the registrar will need to know:

•The father's full name.

•The father's date and place of birth.

•The father's occupation.

•The father's address.

If the parents are married to each other, the registrar will also ask for the date of their marriage and the number of any other children.

You will be asked to check the information recorded very carefully and sign to say that it is correct. It is important that the registration is accurate, as any correction of errors discovered after the register has been signed may cause you a lot of inconvenience to put right.

Do also take care on deciding your child's name. This is particularly important if the mother and father have different surnames as the surname given at the time of registration cannot be changed at a later date other than by re-registration or adoption.

What documents will the registrar give me?

The registrar will give you a short birth certificate free of charge. You will also receive a form showing your baby's National Health Service number that you must give to your family doctor.

Is there a charge for registering a birth?

There is no charge for registering a birth. However, you may wish to purchase a full birth certificate, which includes the parents’details. Many organisations, including the UK Passport Agency, now require this type of birth certificate. The fee for a full certificate is £3.50. You can purchase any number of certificates.

We can also laminate certificates for a small extra charge. Many parents request a laminated birth certificate as a treasured keepsake of their baby's birth or as a gift for the proud grandparents.

If I am not married to the baby’s father, can I add his details at a later date?

If your baby's birth was registered without including the natural father's details in the register, you can apply for the birth to be re-registered at a later date. You have two options:

•If you and your partner have married each other since the baby’s birth, you can re-register the birth so that a new birth record can be made to show your son or daughter as a child of your marriage. To do this, you will need to complete a form LA1 which can be obtained from the register office. Once completed, you can make an appointment for either parent to visit the register office to sign the new birth registration. You will need to bring a copy of your marriage certificate along with you when you attend.

•If you are unmarried and would like the natural father’s details added to the birth record you can apply for a re-registration to be made by completing a form GRO185 which is available from the registrar. Both parents must sign this form and attend together to sign the new birth registration.

After the birth has been re-registered you can obtain birth certificates from the new registration.

There is a very useful website called "Married or Not" which can be found at http://www.marriedornot.org.uk that provides at-a-glance information on the legal differences between married and unmarried couples, It also has direct links to other sources of information and expert advice. It was created as part of the Government-backed campaign, Living Together, to dispel the common law marriage myth and to better inform cohabiting couples in England and Wales of their legal rights.

Can I change the names on my child’s birth certificate?

You can change your child's first name(s) on the birth certificate within 12 months of the date of the original registration. You will need to complete a simple form which is available from the registrar. The new forename(s) will appear in space 17 of the Birth Certificate.

Alternatively, if the child has been baptised in the Christian faith within 12 months of the date of the original registration you can obtain a form from the Register Office to take to the Minister of the Church in which the child was baptised. Once this form has been completed the registrar will add the new name(s) to space 17. This process can be done at any time after the birth as long as the baptism took place within 12 months of the registration. You can then purchase certified copies from this amended registration.

Please remember that surnames (Family Name) cannot be changed except through re-registration and adoption.

More Information

For more information about registering a birth please contact a member of the Registration Team on: Tel 020 8547 4600 or visit the General Register Office website at www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/births

Naming Ceremonies

We can offer Naming Ceremonies to families who wish to celebrate the birth of a new baby or who wish to welcome adoptive or stepchildren into a new relationship. This is an opportunity for you and your family and friends to make promises of commitment to nurture and support your child into adult life.

Ceremonies are specially written for you using words, readings and poems which you can choose from our varied collection. This makes your ceremony unique with special meaning for you and your family. You can even present your child with a special gift to mark the occasion.

The ceremonies are secular and do not contain any reference to religion. Parents wishing to have a religious ceremony should contact their local church or religious community for further information.

If you would like to arrange or talk to someone about naming ceremonies please call us on Tel: 07771 790423.

‘In Safe Hands’is the maternity unit’s charitable fund to which donations can be made. The fund provides money for improving the quality of care and the environment for women and their families and the maternity staff.

If you would like to make a donation to the fund, please make your cheque payable to ‘In Safe Hands’. If you are a taxpayer, you can increase your donation by simply completing a Gift Aid Declaration form. This will enable us to recover taxation on the donated amount.

For further information, please contact:

Jane Eyre

PAto Divisional Manager & Head of Midwifery Maternity Unit, Kingston Hospital NHS Trust, Galsworthy Road, Kingston upon Thames, KT2 7QB

Tel: 020 8934 2546

E-mail: jane.eyre@kingstonhospital.nhs.uk

Private Midwife

We believe that, after giving birth, women undergo huge physical, emotional and psychological changes. This is where the role of the midwife becomes important, as women and their partners need a lot of support in bridging the gap between being free individuals and being parents, responsible for someone who needs their constant attention. New babies require huge amounts of care and attention, and this can be daunting. Our aim is to provide support for women and their partners as they learn to recognise the needs of their baby.

Our services

We offer two postnatal packages, and the number of visits depends on which one you choose. The routine and standard of care are the same, whichever package you choose. Our service includes having your own private midwife, whom you can contact any day or night should you have any worry.

Support with feeding

Recognising problems related to feeding

Baby bathing

Baby massage

Baby care

Coping with a crying baby

Monitoring baby's growth

Ensuring mother's recovery from birth

Routine postnatal checks on mother and baby

Checking baby for any signs of infection or illnesses

Checks on mothers for signs of mastitis, uterine infection, urine infection, checks for healing of wound or stiches and routine observations of blood pressure, pulse and temperature

Baby's blood screening (for more information on neonatal blood screening please visit www.screening.nhs.uk/bloodspot)

Psychological and emotional support.

Kamilia Postnatal Care

32 Portland Place, London, W1B 1NA

Phone: 0207 5804912 or 07837708168

Email: Arezou@kamiliapnc.com Website: www.kamiliapnc.com

HypnoBirthing™ Works

How do we know? Because there are THOUSANDS OF WOMEN ALL OVER THE WORLD who have had calm, comfortable and EASY BIRTHS following the HypnoBirthing™ course.

• You will enjoy a more relaxed pregnancy

• Learn how to release the anxiety that causes pain in labour

• Experience birth calmly and positively – aware and in control

• Reduce the length of the first stage of labour by several hours

• Eliminate or dramatically reduce pain during labour and birth.

• Fathers feel relaxed & know how to support their partners through birth

• HypnoBirthing babies tend to be calm & contented – feeding & sleeping well!

“This is how all babies should come into the world. It’s amazing!” June Pool, Midwife

“This is how all babies should come into the world It’s June Pool, “A wonderful birth – I would do it again tomorrow! “A birth – I would do it again tomorrow!

Midwives were very impressed as it went very fast” Diana at Kingston Hospital

Midwives were very impressed as it went very fast” Diana at Kingston Hospital

Rosie Goode 020 8397 1629 Cert. HypnoBirthing™ Teacher since 2004 rosiegoode2@yahoo.co.uk www.hypnobirthingworks.co.uk Surbiton & Richmond

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Delicious hand-made cakes, beautifully packaged, and delivered to your door!

For Goodness Cake! bake fairy cakes in a choice of flavours. ur cakes are presented in a beautiful hand tied box and can be enjoyed on their own or combined with gifts such as a soft toy, champagne or hot chocolate

We also specialise in fairy cakes for weddings, special occasions and corporate gifts.

Contact us at Internet:www.forgoodnesscake.co.uk E-mail:enquiries@forgoodnesscake.co.uk

Phone:0845 838 0576 Monday to Saturday 9am to 6pm

ARTTES FOR KIDS

ART & CRAFTS SCHOOL & GALLERY

Always dreamed of your first canvas on the wall? This is your chance! Create the best picture you can with the help of a professional art teacher.

Drop the kids off for 1 1/2 hours and enjoy your free time while they enjoy their painting.

Birthday Parties, Paint Parties, Face Painting and a range of toddler workshops to choose from.

Perhaps you would like to take an art lesson yourself? What about a birthday present?

Gift vouchers are available. SPECIAL OFFER This voucher gives you 10% off all activities in the shop!

020 8543 6616

www.arttes.co.uk

Merton Abbey Mills

To support parents through pregnancy, birth and parenthood

A specialist service staffed by experienced, BACP Accredited psychotherapists

www.postnatalcounselling.com

BABY MASSAGE

Learn a simple routine based on Indian Baby Massage that can Calm and Soothe Relieve Colic

Promote Growth Aid Communication

A hands-on-four-session course by a trained masseuse with many years’ midwifery and teaching experience

Includes: Touch Relaxation Colic Relief Routine Complimentary Bottle of massage oil

To book a course, contact Kate on 020 8390 1737 or 07985 969500

Co-Ordinator: Sarah Weir Tel: 078711 97396 3013012

BROOK HOUSE DAY NURSERY

Small Twickenham Nursery caring for children aged 4 months to five years.

Friendly family home, open from 8am to 6pm, Monday to Thursday, 49 weeks a year. We offer art, French and ballet taught by fully-qualified staff. OFSTED-approved. Contact Laura Hookway RGN, HV, Brook House, 110 Cole Park Road, (north of A316)

020 8892 4853

The Osteopathic Centre

Osteopathy and Cranial Osteopathy for all the family

Specialising in treatment for babies and children and during pregnancy 9a Mansfield Road Chessington

0208 397 8629

Mob - 07723 666 862 email - rajshinji@enjoy-a-ball.com www enjoy-a-ball com CONFIDENCE, COORDINATION, CONCENTRATION, …It’s more than fun!

Enjoy-a-Ball is a sports coaching programme for girls and boys aged between three and nine. All lessons are taught in a caring, positive, fun-filled environment and there are never more than 10 children in a class. Our objective is to make children’s first experiences in a sports coaching environment happy and memorable.

13 Greenland Crescent, Southall, Middlesex, London, UB2 5EP

Tel - 08452 26 26 94

Fax - 08452 26 26 93

Musicisaprovendevelopmentaltool,especiallyfor

ofinstruments,movement,verse,rhythmandsound, learningtoplayandplayingtolearnhasneverbeen somuchfun!Drinksforallaftereachsessionmeans everyonemakesnewfriends!

YOUR MEMORIES ARE PRECIOUS

Home video editing

All formats transformed to a DVD master, edited to music of your choice.

Holidays, weddings, baby’s first year and family occasions.

Quotes and examples available on request

Kari Olsen - 07949 774321 Kariolsen1973@googlemail.com www.kariavideditor.co.uk

DAY NURSERY

IN WORCESTER PARK Registered for age 1-5

CHILDCARE PROVISION AT GREEN LANE SCHOOL

PLAYGROUP, WRAPAROUND CARE, DROP-IN SESSIONS Registered for age 2-5 Holiday Scheme for children aged 3-14

QUALIFIED AND EXPERIENCED STAFF

For details contact Ayelet Wellard on 07979 776 438 YOUR AFFORDABLE SOLUTION FOR

CHEEKYMONKEYS

AT:

Surbiton Hockey Club , Sugden Road, Thames Ditton, KT7 OAE

Open: Monday - Friday 10am - 4:30pm; (Wednesday 10am - 12:30pm only October to March)

OR: The Pavilion , Sir Joseph Hood Park, Marina Avenue,

Motspur Park, KT3 6NE

Open: Monday - Friday: 10am - 2pm

Contact: Nadine or Jennie: 07970 901710 or 0800

Hook Creche and Day Care

Children 3 months to 5 years

Contact: Tel: 0203 258 3031

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THE STUDY SCHOOL

57 Thetford Road New Malden KT3 5DP

www.study.kingston.sch.uk 020 8942 0754

The Study School in New Malden is a small family school providing a wonderfully caring, happy and secure education for Girls and Boys aged 3 to 11. We pride ourselves on the excellent pastoral care given to the children by the well qualified and committed staff. Children are prepared for the entrance examinations to a variety of Local Day Schools. The children learn in attractive classrooms equipped with interactive whiteboards. ICT is integrated across the curriculum and the pupils receive specialist teaching once they enter the Junior department. There is a wealth of extra curricular activities both during and after school in which all children are encouraged to participate. During the year children are encouraged to take part in team sporting events and the school concerts and productions. Through the monitoring of your child’s progress linked to skilful and imaginative teaching every child receives individual attention, help and guidance to achieve the best of their ability.

The children are provided with a nutritious cooked lunchtime meal which is prepared daily in our own school kitchen. We purchase fresh local products for our menu.

There is also a well managed and active After School Scheme until 6pm each evening, which is much appreciated by parents, working parents in particular.

Do call us on 020 8942 0754 and arrange to come and visit us. You will be made to feel most welcome.

Incentives and Workshops for parents and carers in Kingston and Merton

Our Incentive Scheme, funded by Kingston and Merton Councils, consists of a trial kit for £20, or £5 for families on low income (RRP around £65). The trial kit contains 3 wraps (covers), 7 nappies, plenty of liners and one lidded nappy bucket - in short, everything you need to get started!

If you would like to purchase a kit, or just want to learn more about real nappies, contact us for more information and book for a Nappuccino workshop (day and evening sessions available every month)

Good for the environment

• Nearly eight million disposable nappies are thrown away every day in the UK. A household with one baby in disposable nappies will make up over 40% of its rubbish from these disposables.

Great for your pocket

• By using Real Nappies you can save around £500 on the cost of keeping a baby in disposables.

Gentle on your baby

• Real nappies are very gentle on your baby as they are made of breathable materials, and don’t contain chemicals, plastic or paper pulp.

Give them a try! Start off by using them once a day…

Washing real nappies

Real nappies are as easy to wash as ABC. If you prefer, you can use a nappy laundry service.

Wash it, don’t bin it!

Email: kingstonmertonrnn@yahoo.co.uk Tel: 020 8286 0916 (Mariana) www.kingstonmertonrealnappies.org.uk