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FROM THE PUBLISHER

We are not alone. I remember when I was helping plan my wedding, back in the last century, my bride-to-be Mary and I felt that we were the first ever to have to make all the decisions that were necessary for a smooth wedding ceremony and reception. Fortunately, like you, we were not alone. There are many sources for finding help. Wedding Essentials has a history of making this daunting task easier, by letting you maintain control throughout the months of planning. But we’re not the same magazine that your mother may have used. Yes, we have the print version of the magazine, as well as our sister publications, The Savvy Bride and The Bride’s Survival Guide, but we are on the leading edge of the digital revolution.

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With the use of your smart phone, you can scan any one of the QR Codes in our Advertisers’ Directory and immediately receive the information that you need. You can also scan the QR Code at the bottom of this letter and instantaneously attend our Internet Bridal Show™ from the comfort of your own chair. This opens an entire world of thoughts and ideas, as well as suppliers who are waiting to answer your questions and fulfil your wishes. But that’s not all. This information age that we live in creates more decisions for you. How can you possibly know which information is credible, and what is gossip and hype? I am proud of our Editor, Judy Johnson, and her stable of writers and researchers. Judy has cut through all the noise and has created content for you in this magazine that is interesting, unique and trustworthy. The Real Life Weddings are not wild ideas of what might be, but actual weddings of interest that worked. Our regular features are crammed with transferrable ideas, new trends and practical methods of creating the wedding you envision. Look to the past for ideas for your wedding in our boutique Historic Venues section. Check out ideas for out of the box wedding photos. There is useful advice on questions to ask your caterer and wedding photographer and dance instructor.. There’s inspiration aplenty, from gowns, flowers and sweet treats to trends. Just flip through to the Table of Contents on page 12 and you’ll be carried off on an enjoyable journey of wedding planning.

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John Webster | Publisher

FROM THE EDITOR

Communication. We all know it’s the cornerstone of every good relationship. Every day we text, twitter, Facebook, instagram, pinterest, email, Skype, phone, write and talk to share our thoughts with others. We use symbols and photos and vocabularies with words we’ve garnered from around the world. Without communication, misunderstandings are bound to occur. I consider misunderstandings not arguments or differences but simply “missed understandings”, which is a hint that more communication is needed. It’s vital to communicate, and do it well and thoroughly, if what we envision is able to come to life, in life. It takes time and effort to avoid misunderstandings, but the end result can be magnificent beyond any one person’s vision. Real communication takes real effort and perseverance. The bride who is reading this magazine shares common goals and dreams for a strong partnership with the man she is about to marry, as they plan a wedding celebration that will provide memories to cherish for a lifetime. Meaningful communication is what will make the couple’s forever partnership dreams come true. It is also what is necessary to create the many successful partnerships required to bring your

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vision to life; the list includes working well with the wedding photographer, wedding planner, florist and many more who work towards that common goal. At Wedding Essentials, we’re all about communication and partnerships too—passionate about providing valuable information that will help couples navigate smoothly through the white water challenge of wedding planning. Consider us a partner in your wedding planning process. We communicate with you in many ways, including in print and online. Your task is to find, and communicate well with, supplier partners who are passionate about making bridal couples’ unique wedding dreams come true and who have the expertise to do exactly that. From photographers to florists to edible art creators, gown designers, bridal shop owners, wedding planners, to the people who create outstanding cuisine and all the other elements that culminate in a perfect wedding, you need to find your specialist partners. Seek out people who love their work and who are masters of it, this unique blend of art and business—people you are able to discuss your vision with. We want to help you do just that, to ask the right questions, find inspiration and be thorough in how you approach planning the celebrations of a lifetime. Congratulations on your engagement! I wish you joy as you plan the wedding you’ve imagined. I wish you happiness as you begin a wonderful journey through life with your partner. And I wish you continuing passion for love, life, new experiences, and all the wonderful people and places that you encounter along your path...as well as communication in your partnerships that will help you achieve all of your dreams. Your partner,

Judy Johnson | Editor

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CONTENTS

V O L . 1 7, N O.1 S U MM E R / FA L L 2 0 1 5

FEATURES 26

FÊTE-ISH SHOES Stepping into bridal fashion

DARE TO DANCE Inspiration that will last a lifetime

MARSALA COLOUR & TASTES Possibilities with Pantone Colour of the Year

CREATING OUT OF THE BOX PHOTOS Focus on wedding photo individuality

S MA S H I N G A N D S MO O S H I N G Wedding cake smashing etiquette

FO O D FO R WE DDIN G T H O UG H T S Wedding food trends and tips from those in the know

H OW T H E P RO S C H O O S E P H OTO G RA P H E RS Wedding photographers offer insight into their choices

100 MA K I N G C H A N G E S WIT H C RA Newlyweds’ guide to Canada Revenue 104 F IRE WO RK S A DV I C E Tips for planning wedding celebration pyro

REAL-LIFE WEDDINGS 22

ONTARIO’S COTTAGE COUNTRY Michelle & Edward

WEDDING VOWS IN TUSCANY Monika & Luke

ITALIAN WEDDING WOWS Gina & Quintino

WINTRY ONTARIO VOWS Jennifer & Kyle

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INSPIRATIONS 34

FASHION PASSION Inspiration from beautiful brides

BEAUTY Products to help you look your best

EDIBLE ART Palate pleasure possibilities

FLORAL FANTASY Beautiful blooms that delight

NEAT STUFF A sampling of products to test drive

114 PLANET ONTARIO Celebrating Ontario’s cultural diversity

HISTORIC VENUES PAGE 49 ONTARIO Celebration & photo op sites to delight IT’S ELEMENTARY — ERA DETAILS How to add elements from bygone days HEAVENLY UNIQUE SITE Sharon Temple’s splendid simplicity

DIRECTORIES 18

RECEPTION REFERENCE GUIDE

HISTORIC VENUES GUIDE

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DIRECTORY OF ADVERTISERS

HISTORIC MILLS HAMLET The charms of Benmiller beckon STEPPING INTO PIONEER DAYS Historic vignettes in Markham Museum

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QUALITY OVER QUANTITY Four steps in helping you achieve the look that you have in mind.

YOUR WEDDING. YOUR RECEPTION. YOUR WAY. Key components to look for in your venue contract before signing on the dotted line.

INVITATION BASICS 101 The beginning piece that sets the tone for your guests is just as important as the wedding day itself.

DÉCOR DECISIONS Tip and tricks to create the look you are hoping for.

MIX IT UP Background noise should be music to your ears.

THINGS TO CONSIDER WHILE CHOOSING YOUR HONEYMOON DESTINATION Allow yourself time to daydream about the time spent after your special day.

TREAT YOURSELF TO A SPA DAY With what can appear to be chaos all around, don’t forget to take a moment for yourself to rejuvenate.

THE FLOWER GIRL Choose wisely when deciding on the flower girl.

THE RING BEARER Help with how to work with the young men in your wedding party.

A TOAST FROM THE HEART Helpful techniques to an amazing toast to help in honouring the bride and groom.

SHOES! GLORIOUS SHOES!! Make a statement or create a classic look.

LIFESTYLE MATTERS Learning how to make your house your home.

THE FOOD LINGO 101 A glossary for beginners to help when working closely with caterers and chefs.

LOVE ALL AROUND How to help express your appreciation from the bottom of your heart.

PICKING A DIAMOND Understanding when the 4 Cs come into play.

WHAT TO ASK YOUR FLORIST 12 questions to prepare yourself and your florist to complete your dream arrangements.

THE ENGAGEMENT AND WEDDING RINGS The ins, outs and round abouts when deciding your rings for each other.

VIDEOGRAPHY A detailed photo and video checklist to help set up your memory album after the big day. .

SETTING THE MOOD Lighting plays just as much in décor as any other item you are considering.

101 MARRY YOUR HONEYMOON AND YOUR WEDDING How to let your wedding day and your honeymoon merge to one great escape! 103 THE COUNTDOWN CALENDAR A handy checklist to stay on track in the months before your wedding. 107 JUST THE RIGHT FIT What to expect when setting up appointments to have your gown fitted.

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Wedding Wisdom

Quality over Quantity CREATE A POLISHED LOOK THAT WILL WOW YOUR GUESTS

ome venues come equipped with items like chair covers and these may even be included in the reception price. Caution: Make sure they are in good condition and in a colour you like. If you need to rent: STEP 1: Decide on colour. Most rental services carry multiple colours, so you're not stuck with white unless that's what you want. STEP 2: Consider the style of your wedding. Plain box covers may be all that you need to spruce up the chairs at an informal wedding, but for a formal gala wedding you'll want to consider elegantly draping chair covers. STEP 3: Choose the sash. You'll want to pick a coordinating colour for your sashes, though white on white also is an elegant choice. Most sash styles tie across the centre of the chair back, but some will actually hang lower and tie at the base of the backrest. Which one you choose will depend on the kind of chair you are covering, as well as the amount of space you'll have between rows. STEP 4: Look for stains, dirt, wrinkles or tears. Reputable rental outlets ensure that their chair covers are cleaned regularly. Nevertheless, inspect yours before signing that rental agreement. WE

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Reception Reference Guide

A quick chart to help you to compare Ontario’s finest upscale wedding venues. All information is subject to change without notice. Some offerings may be available only on a limited, seasonal or by-request basis. Unless otherwise noted, alcohol charges, gratuities and taxes are extra.

NORTH OF TORONTO Page



Guests

Included In Price

Ceremony On Site

Outdoor Area

Special Menus

CHATEAU LE JARDIN CONFERENCE & EVENT VENUE 905.851.2200 30-1300 $75-160

A B F I J M N, open bar, antipasto bar

F G It P

CHRISTIES MILL INN & SPA 1.800.465.9966

AIMBFJNRGOSUHLPT

Yes

Ca Ch G H In It Ja K P V

CRANBERRY GOLF RESORT, LIVING WATER RESORT & RESIDENCE 705.446.3253 2-220 $30-100 CU PAGE 81

Yes

Ca G In It Ja P V

PATTERSON-KAYE RESORT AND SPA 705.645.4169 20-200

Yes

YEs

Yes

AFGHOP

Yes

Ca F G H In Il P V

THE BRIARS RESORT, CONFERENCE CENTRE & SPA 905.722.3271 Ext. 2730 up to 150 $125-135

ABCFGJNOPRSTU

Yes

Ca Ch F G H In It Ja P V O

WOODINGTON LAKE GOLF CLUB 905.936.9523 Ext. 232 PAGE 13

AFGIJOPRUW

Yes

Ca F G P V

Included In Price

Ceremony On Site

100

$35-150

$60-130

FGHIJPRU

SHARON TEMPLE NATIONAL HISTORIC SITE AND MUSEUM 905.478.2389 0-88 PAGE 53 TABOO MUSKOKA 1.800.461.0236 Ext. 5796

20-200

60-300

$150-250

$70-125

SOUTHEASTERN ONTARIO 

Guests

DEER CREEK GOLF & BANQUET FACILITY 905.427.7757 Ext. 300 50-540

$75-125

ABCFG

Yes

Outdoor Area Yes

Special Menus

F In H Ja V

TORONTO AND GTA Guests

Included In Price

Ceremony On Site

840-1400

$95-110

ABFGIJNOPU

Yes

Ch G H In Il K P V

CASTLEFIELD EVENT THEATRE 905.851.2200

25-1100

$79-169

ABCFGIJMNOPRSU

Yes

F G It Ja P V O

DISTILLERY EVENTS: 416-203-2363

80-300

$2,500-22,000

AIJNROP

Yes

Ca Ch F G In It Ja K P V O

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Outdoor Area

Special Menus

ATLANTIS 416.260.8000

• ARCHEO

416-203-2363

• THE FERMENTING CELLAR 416-203-2363 • THE LOFT

416-203-2363

MARKHAM MUSEUM 905.294.4576 Ext. 3171 PAGE 57 THE EGLINTON GRAND 416.485.5900 THE OLD MILL INN AND SPA 416.236.2641

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AIJNROP

Ca Ch F G In It Ja K P V O

AIJNROP

Ca Ch F G In It Ja K P V O

AIJNROP

Ca Ch F G In It Ja K P V O

50-100

Yes

We welcome all caterers.

240-400

$115-126

ABFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

Ch G H In Il K P V

12-650

$99-138

ABFRCOU

Yes

H It P

SPECIAL MENUS

Ca – Caribbean Ch – Chinese

F – French G – Greek

H – Halal In – Indian

It – Italian J – Jamaican

K – Kosher P – Portuguese

V – Vegan O – Other

INCLUDED IN PRICE A. B. C. D.

E. F. G. H.

Dinner wine Champagne toast Chair covers Disc jockey

I. J. K. L.

Wedding cake Hors d’oeuvres Bridal suite Gift for couple

Late-night buffet Non-alcoholic punch Limousine Engagement photo

M. Chocolate fountain N. Sweet table O. Limited bar included P. Tasting for two

Q. R. S. T.

U. In-house wedding co-ordinator V. Wedding invitations W. Centrepieces

Valet parking for two Late night coffee/tea Wine and fruit for bridal suite Breakfast

SOUTHWESTERN ONTARIO Page

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Guests

Included In Price

Ceremony On Site

Outdoor Area

Special Menus

ANCASTER MILL 905.648.1828

18-205

$89-150

AIQFJNRGOUP

Yes

BANQUET ROYALE LTD. 905.238.5335

80-250

$69-99

ABCFGIJNOPQRUW

Yes

H It K P V O

BENMILLER INN & SPA PAGES 26, 55 1.800.265.1711

10-120

$39-60

NRWGUPT

Yes

Ch G It V Other-Celieac

BEST WESTERN PLUS STONERIDGE INN & CONFERENCE CENTRE 519.652.6022 Ext. 575 10-200 $98-115 AIMFRCGOUPT

Yes

�V Other-Custom

CAMBRIDGE MILL 519.648.1828 Ext. 2

24-200

$89-150

AIFJNRGOUP

Yes

CARLISLE GOLF & COUNTRY CLUB 289.795.0426

50-200

$99-250

ABCFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

G H It P V

CENTURY PINES GOLF CLUB 289.795.0426

50-200

$99-250

ABCFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

G H It P V

up to 375

wknd rental

Yes

AIMQBFJNRWCGOSUDPT

Yes

Ca F G H In It P V

COWAN PARK BANQUET HALL 519.421.0030 Ext. 34

DELTA LONDON ARMOURIES HOTEL 519.640.5054 20-180 FOUR POINTS BY SHERATON LONDON 519.681.0680 Ext. 8208 50-500

$30-140

ABFJNRWCGOUHPT

Yes

GRAND METROPOLITAN OF MISSISSAUGA 905.624.4009 168-500

$60-86

ABFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

Ch G H In It K P V

GRAND VICTORIAN CONVENTION CENTRE 647.990.8468 50-600

$98-189

ABFGIJNOPR

Yes

Ca Ch F G H In It Ja K P V O

HESSENLAND COUNTRY INN 1.866.543.7736

10-180

$57-125

ABFJRGOUPT

Yes

V Other-German

KURTZ ORCHARDS 905.468.2937

100-300

$100-200

FJNRP

Yes

Ca Ch F G H In It Ja K P V

LIONHEAD GOLF & COUNTRY CLUB 905.455.8816

80-400

$99-160

ABCFGHIMR

Yes

H In K V, Vegetarian

MOHAWK INN & CONFERENCE CENTRE 905.854.2277 20-130

$35-100

OUHP

Yes

NORTHRIDGE MUNICIPAL GOLF COURSE 519.756.6345 Ext. 211 50-160

$30-50

AIBFJNRCGOSUDP

Yes

It V

ROYAL NIAGARA GOLF CLUB 289.795.0426

50-200

$99-250

ABCFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

G H It P V

ROYAL ONTARIO GOLF CLUB 289.795.0426

50-250

�$99-250

ABCFGIJNOPRSU

Yes

G H It P V

SPENCER'S AT THE WATERFRONT 905.633.7494 Ext 2

150

$99-150

AIQFJNROUP

Yes

THE STRATFORD COUNTRY CLUB 519.271.4212 Ext.231

10-165

$62-80

AWUP

Yes

THE WINDERMERE MANOR 519.858.1414 Ext. 432

80-120

$90-100

AGOUHT

Yes

V Other-Custom

Yes

WESTOVER INN 519.284.2977 WHISTLE BEAR GOLF CLUB 519.650.2327 Ext. 2

$45.00 170-440

$79-136

AIFJNRGOU

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Wedding Wisdom

Your Wedding. Your Reception. Your Way.

ven though there's a huge amount of hectic activity leading up to your big day, you’ll realize all the planning was worthwhile when everyone, including you, has a great time. The planning stages are full of choices, each one as important as the next— location, caterer, type of service, type of food, and so on. Selected with care, however, all these choices combine to make your day one that works well and allows you both to enjoy yourselves. In anything, 90 percent of the job is in the planning, so start off early by looking for the perfect place to hold your reception. The type of place you choose is affected by many factors—location, size of guest list, and degree of formality or informality you prefer.

SCHEDULE YOUR RECEPTION AT THE RIGHT TIME OF DAY Time of day affects the formality of your reception. Although luncheon receptions can be either formal or informal, dinner is almost always more formal, unless you are going with a theme wedding. For example, a Hawaiian luau would not call for black tie. Generally speaking, it is the rule to serve breakfast or brunch after a morning wedding, seated lunch after a noon ceremony, high tea after an early afternoon ceremony, hors d'oeuvres after a mid-afternoon ceremony, and a sit-down dinner, buffet, or passed tray after a late afternoon or evening ceremony.

SURF RECEPTION SITES Never has there been a time where you can get so much research done just by sitting in your chair. Use the internet to scout potential wedding reception sites. Many sites have specific wedding sections that list features available and standard fees. Pictures usually show the best assets the location has to offer. You can email the site to get back to you if you have further questions. Voilá, a day’s work done while still in your pajamas. You must, of course, see the location in person before signing on the dotted line.

WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN THAT VENUE CONTRACT The key components: • Menu details and how the food will be served. • What beverages will be served. • Number of serving staff and, at a sit-down dinner, how many per table. • How the wedding cake will be served. • Number of tables and chairs and how they will be set up. • Delivery charges, if any. • Deadline for final guest count. • Any overtime charges and when they would apply. • Final cost and whether HST and gratuities are included. • Decorations provided. • Table linen choice. • Whether coat check and valet parking are provided. • Is food for band, disc jockey, photographer and videographer provided? • Additional fees for setup and cleaning (if any). • Cancellation clauses. WE Wedding Essentials 20 1 5 | 21

a real-life wedding

Michelle & Edward

HAWAIIAN PROPOSAL & ONTARIO DESTINATION WEDDING When she was a little girl, Michelle Singh imagined she would marry on a beach in Hawaii. In conversation with her forever love, Edward Riddell, she mentioned that childhood fantasy and he never forgot it.

WASN’T THAT A PARTY! Michelle and Edward met through a mutual friend at a house party he hosted in late summer. Three years later — to the day — they celebrated their wedding. First dates are memorable for so many reasons. Although Michelle was recovering from having her wisdom teeth extracted, Edward couldn’t wait to take her out for dinner. As she describes it, “my face resembled nothing short of a chipmunk’s!” She barely ate but, in spite of less-than-perfect circumstances for their first date, Michelle calls it “a night to remember — we talked for so long, getting to know one another”.

PHOTOS: AHMAD EL-FARRAM, KNIGHT IMAGE PHOTOGRAPHY

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OAHU PROPOSAL Recalling Michelle’s romantic dreams about Hawaii, during a family trip to Hawaii two years later, Edward surprised Michelle with a romantic candlelight dinner on the beach at Turtle Bay Resort. The chef came to their table carrying a serving tray and told Michelle that Edward had planned a very special dinner. He opened the lid, revealing three orchids — Michelle’s favourite flower, with a white box in the centre. With his bride-to-be “in total shock”, Edward got down on one knee to propose. Everyone nearby stood up and cheered!

ONTARIO DESTINATION WEDDING Both Edward and Michelle wanted a destination wedding — but it turned out they decided a Hawaiian wedding wouldn’t fit their vision. They wanted to celebrate in a place where “our guests could feel as if they were on vacation, without the hassle of flying or driving for hours”. Michelle’s Mom suggested Taboo Resort in Ontario’s Near North; the couple fell in love with all it had to offer when they visited it. “We envisioned an outdoor ceremony with a view of the water and that’s exactly what we got.”

GOWNS & MORE The bride describes her gown as “very simple”; truth is it was simply, stunningly elegant with its clean lines and luxurious fabrics. A strapless corset top gave way to a full silk skirt that extended into a sweeping train. Michelle loved the fact that “it also had pockets!!!” She walked up the aisle to Edward holding a bouquet of white/green hydrangea, white with pale mauve accented orchids and deep pink full-blown garden roses studded with crystals deep in the heart of the bloom. Michelle could have stepped out of an Audrey Hepburn or Grace Kelly movie — an image of sophistication and classic elegance. The bridal attendants wore Sangria-coloured, floor-length gowns that were flowy and feminine. The dresses featured a oneshoulder treatment with an ornate flower strap. Michelle wanted everyone to have a gown they would wear again. The colour was suggested by her attendants and her mom and she was glad she agreed because everyone looked gorgeous.

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a real-life wedding

RECEPTION HIGHLIGHTS Edward and Michelle took their marriage vows lakeside, with a backdrop of twin gazebos, towering pine trees and a view of the rocky islands of Lake Muskoka. After the ceremony, it was time to dine and party in the pavilion tent. The décor was rustic meets modern, with birch-themed centrepiece bases that echoed the Muskoka ambiance. White and pink flowers, white linens and paper lanterns in different shades of pink kept the feeling light and airy. Guests savoured hors d’oeuvres before enjoying artisan lettuce salad followed by a choice of striploin of beef with panko-crusted king prawn and sauce vierge or breast of chicken with lobster agnolotti with tarragon sauce. Taboo Trinity Chardonnay and Stimson Estate Merlot accompanied the meal, which was topped off by caramel cheescake, shaved Valrhona chocolate from Tainl’Hermitage near Lyon, France and Wildberry preserve. Exotic cascading dendrobium orchids enhanced a four-tier wedding cake in ombré shading from fuchsia to off-white. The sweetness of the trendy red velvet cake was contrasted with a crème cheese filling. The couple’s first dance was to Steady As We Go by Dave Matthews Band; the lyrics of this romantic ballad with its promises of loving support created some misty eyes in onlookers. A change of mood filled the dance floor as the wedding DJ ensured that the newly-weds, as well as their friends and family, who all love to dance and party, enjoyed celebrating into the wee hours. Guests stayed overnight or for a few days to enjoy the resort’s amenities. In lieu of guest favours, the bride and groom opted for a donation to the Canadian Cancer Society.

HONEYMOONING IN JAMAICA Michelle and Edward “love Jamaica...the people, the food, and the beaches. It was only natural” for them to revisit Jamaica. It was easy to choose Sandals Resorts after hearing so many wonderful things from various people. Nestled within a 500-acre nature preserve, Sandals Whitehouse was the perfect place to unwind after a hectic four-month wedding planning period. The ambiance was Europe meets the Caribbean. They enjoyed being spoiled by staff and meeting other couples from around the world. Three European villages — French, Italian and Dutch — set along the beach provided lots of activity choices as well as the Grand Piazza lined with bistros, restaurants, cafés and bars. Bonfires lit up the night skies and chic firepits guaranteed that each day would finish with unforgettably romantic memories. WE BRIDE’S GOWN: #998, Allure Bridals | The Bridal Suite | 905.597.7685 | BRIDE’S HAIR & MAKEUP: The Spa at Sagamo | 705.687.3200 GROOM’S ATTIRE: Hugo Boss | 905.532.1472 | BRIDESMAID’S GOWNS: Style F14010, David’s Bridal | 416.751.8775 FLOWERS: Seasons in the Country | 705.645.5035 | WEDDING CAKE: Sunshine Cakes | 705.706.1580 VENUE: Taboo Muskoka | 705.687.8430 DJ: Dee Dee Jays Disc Jockeys | 905.417.9930 | HONEYMOON: Sandals Whitehouse Jamaica | 1.876.640.3000 PHOTOS: Ahmad El-Farram | Knight Image Photography | knight-image.com | 647.862.8510

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Wedding Wisdom

Invitation Basics 101

electing the paper and design of your invitations is an enjoyable creative process for brides. Remember that you are conveying key information to your guests, so be sure that the important facts are easy to spot. GET THE NAMES RIGHT. Double check spelling and be sure to include titles like “Doctor” to your addressees. Older couples prefer receiving mail addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” but younger married women may feel slighted in which case it’s acceptable to use both people’s names (“Mr. J. Smith and Mrs. S. Smith”) on the envelope. If they use different last names, include those. Single guests can have “and guest” added to their invitation if you’d like them to bring a date.

PROOFREAD EVERYTHING. A typo on the address or location can cause big problems if your guests can’t find you. INCLUDE A MAP. Pretend you are coming in from out of town. How would you find your wedding locations? Be precise and detailed by including a clearly labeled map with driving directions everyone can follow. RETURN CARD. It’s expected that you will provide a small, self-addressed, stamped return envelope in your invitation so that your guests can respond easily. Don’t shirk on the stamp or else you’ll find you will have a very low return rate.

NO LABELS. It is customary for wedding invitation envelopes to be hand-written. While time-consuming, your personal touch is expected and appreciated, so brush up your penmanship and get started early. DON’T MENTION GIFTS. It’s a mistake to make any reference to gifts or gift registries in your invitation. That’s right, not even to say, “No gifts”. Any comment makes your guests think a gift is required, when it certainly is not. The purpose of the wedding invitation is to invite people to your celebration, not to point out the best place to buy your china pattern. WE

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FÊTE-ISH SHOES STEPPING FASHIONABLY INTO MARRIED LIFE BY CAMERON MACARTHUR WHAT IS IT ABOUT WOMEN and shoes? It’s easy to argue that shoes and romance are intertwined. Can you imagine Cinderella’s love story without her glass slippers? Try word association — Cinderella — Prince Charming — glass slipper...right?

As a bride-to-be, you have already found Prince Charming but there’s still the question of shoes for your celebrations. Decisions, delightful decisions! In your grandmother’s day it was a nobrainer. Choices then were usually limited to white or ivory satin classic pumps or ballet slippers and that was that! But you have as many options as you care to slip on for your wedding day.

COLOUR The entire rainbow is yours to explore. From snowy white, pastel pink or lilac, through

dramatic red, green or purple, all the way to black beauty, you have options galore. You can also choose a shoe with a pattern; floral designs that cover the entire shoe or part of it in shades that echo your bouquet, bridesmaids’ gowns colour or décor are also possibilities. Painted shoes and custom hand painted shoes can express your individual style.

GLITTER If you yearn for glitter, designers have a myriad of choices for you. Badgley Mischka has created strappy evening shoes with criss-crossing ombré rhinestone-covered straps covering the whole foot. Perhaps an evening shoe featuring a super-blinged T-Strap calls out to you, with stiletto or wedge heel. Christian Louboutin elevates heels and chic to the next level with his Pigalle Strass super slender stilettos totally covered with hand-placed crystals in several nuanced shades within various colour palettes.

LACE Elegantly romantic lace takes its place not only on gowns and veils, but also on shoes. Whether an appliquéd embellishment or an all-over design, lace styles run the gamut from Alençon lace sandals to Oscar de la Renta’s Italian-made, 4-in. heeled Karena ankle bootie. For a vintage touch, consider white or ivory lace over a pastel fabric shoe.

HEEL & TOE If your bridal gown is classically simple, an elegant shoe embellished with the showy petals of a fabric flower at the heel adds a touch of whimsical elegance. Delight your inner diva with treatments like feathers, crystals, bows and even platforms with embedded pearls. If you can dream it, you can diva it!

STYLES Think out of the shoe box to express yourself in your wedding shoes. Anything from flat sandals, ballet flats, wedges, pencil-thin stilettos and thicker heels works. Designer details on the heel and the shoe back are extremely popular, including crystal-studded or pearl covered heels. Platforms are staying the course, as are various heel heights. Weddings are the perfect, elegant occasion for wearing the super-feminine full- or half-D’Orsay (where either both sides of the shoe are open or only the inner). The peep-toe remains a classic for impeccably pedicured tootsies. An edgy look can be yours with laser-cut shoe uppers. WE

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Décor decisions

he modern bride wants her reception to look plush and glamorously inviting. Décor plays a leading role in bringing that vision to life. Current trends that create memorable effects with a few accessories are: • Using lots of mirrors, crystal and metallic items to glisten and shine. • Dramatic colour themes like elegantly stunning black, white and red; or gold and red for Asian themes; or aqua, blue and white for beachside flavour. • Roses are a sometimes-forgotten fave but are so classic and perform beautifully, standing up to the heat and wear of the long day. • Dressing up modern square vases with simple ribbon trim makes them stand out. • Creating low and wider centerpieces rather than tall and elaborate ones. • Scattering flower petals (or gourds or pinecones for fall and winter) amongst a collection of candles can be effective. • Decorating with fruit, by itself or mixed with flowers to create fresh and juicy visuals. • Theme weddings are a great way to let your personality shine through, to bring out your creativity. You can derive inspiration from so many sources: favourite movies; a favourite season or holiday; an era such as the roaring twenties or the fabulous fifties or, for real history buffs, medieval, Renaissance or Victorian periods. • Playing into themes i.e., bamboo and seashells for summer/beach wedding; ice sculptures are big as vodka slides and are very cool for weddings; fill clear glass jars with colourful candies to do double duty as a candy station and eye-popping decoration. WE

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a real-life wedding

Monika & Luke A VILLA IN TUSCANY, CATHEDRAL VOWS & LUNE DE MIEL

For this Ontario couple, marking life’s milestones are truly Cloud 9 experiences. From a tower-top proposal in Calgary to a villa and vows in the historic hillside town of Cortona in Italy, the setting for “Under the Tuscan Sun”, Monika Lipski and Luke Doelle’s path to the altar soared high. Their lune de miel in France provided a fittingly splendid finale to their wedding celebrations.

FIRST MEETING TO SPECTACULAR PROPOSAL One evening Monika and some friends went to a nightclub. It turned out that Luke and his pals were also enjoying a night out there. Monika and Luke happened to stand next to each other and struck up a “nice, down-to-earth conversation, which isn’t the norm for nightlife convo”. When Luke asked for her phone number, Monika agreed, and gave him a phone number - just not hers; she was “hesitant about giving this random guy my number. Two weeks later we ran into each other again, at the same nightclub...super awkward.” They laughed about it and talked some more; later that evening she gave him her real number...and was glad she did! Luke’s efforts to make their first date memorable included making a CD with romantic songs. Something went amiss with the CD — it recorded the same song 17 times, not exactly the impression the young man was trying to make! However all turned out beautifully. Laughing at the mix-up, the two relaxed, talked and got to know each other. It would be almost a decade from their first meeting until Luke proposed to Monika. Fast forward several years, to Monika’s birthday in Calgary. After dinner Luke and Monika walked around the Calgary Tower, one of the highest observation decks on the planet. PHOTOS: CYNTHIA BENDLE, ONE-12 PHOTOGRAPHY

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Luke’s timing was impeccable. He dropped to one knee to propose and as Monika accepted, breathtaking fireworks, courtesy of the Calgary Stampede, illuminated the night sky.

TUSCAN SUN CELEBRATIONS Many lovers fantasize about wedding celebrations in Tuscany, arguably one of the world’s most romantic locales. Monika and Luke’s vision of Italy as a magical place with all the elements for a romantic and heart-warming wedding became reality as they planned “all the right things that represent a wedding: love, family, ambiance and last, but not least...wine!”. They rented a villa in Tuoro Sul Trasimeno by Cortona that the couple describes as “a slice of heaven untouched by the tourist market, retaining true Italian culture”. Family and friends travelled from Canada, China, Poland, and the United States to celebrate with them in a week-long “ultimate vacation with every day and evening providing new experiences and new adventures that created cherished memories”.

GORGEOUS GOWNS Remember that this couple soars high in romance? Even the design of Monika’s bridal gown resonated with that idea. Her off-white, softly-draped tulle wedding dress featured a stunning strapless neckline created with feather detailing. Cascading frills ending in a short train flowed from the mermaid silhouette, creating an airy and romantic image. The bridesmaids were reminiscent of modern-day Roman goddesses in hint of mint toned floor-length, flowy strapless chiffon gowns with subtle ruching; the effect was soft, elegant and timeless.

CATHEDRAL CEREMONY Monika and Luke chose the historic Cathedral of Cortona for their wedding ceremony. A jewel in the high hillside town, the 15th century Cathedral was built on the ruins of an ancient parish church that was constructed in the early days of Christianity. As Monika walked down the aisle to her groom, light streamed in

through the stained glass windows, casting a warm glow on the columns that support soaring arches. The ambiance was enhanced by music performed by a quartet and an opera singer. Stepping out of the duomo, it was a short stroll through cobblestone streets for everyone to be treated to gelato at the famed gelateria Gelato Ti Amo. Guests raved about the decadent choices that included cioccoloto, limone and caramalized fig with mascarpone.

RECEPTION HIGHLIGHTS The wedding reception took place at Villa Baroncino, a former olive mill refurbished with historic elements. Set in undulating hills on the borders of Tuscany and Umbria, the Villa is surrounded by olive groves and features old stone walls, a 17th century fireplace, historic frescos and sculptures that reflect times past, while modern amenities include a permanent marquee tent and thoroughly up-to-date kitchen facilities. Guests enjoyed aperitifs of tarts, vol-auvents, carpaccio and Tuscan bread salad and

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a real-life wedding sipped cocktails around the pool while listening to Italian opera music. Meanwhile the wedding photographer captured photos of the bride and groom in Cortona. Monika and Luke wanted to create a purely elegant, romantic setting. White linens, allwhite flowers, tea lights and soft peach accents hit the perfect note. The décor was enhanced by stunning florals, including the English roses, peach avalanche roses, hydrangea and lisianthus gracing centrepieces that also featured wax flower boules. The bridal bouquet was composed of delicate David Austin roses. Guests were favoured with bottles of extra virgin olive oil from the Villa’s olive groves unique and special reminders of this truly memorable celebration in Italy.

FOOD REVIEWS Dinner prepared by an award-winning Michelin Star chef was a highlight. Appetizers of Caprese-style mille-feuille with mozzarella and prosciutto and cheese crêpes with black truffles were old-world palate pleasures. Risotto with gorgonzola cheese, pears and champagne and Bolognese-style lasagna were the first courses, followed by main courses of chicken suprême with Marsala and filet of beef with a Brunello di Montalcino (a red wine from Tuscany) sauce. Dessert was a traditional Tuscan celebration pastry, millefoglie or “a thousand layers” - puff pastry layered with crema diplomatica and topped with seasonal fruits. Guests also sampled a traditional North American wedding cake with a vanilla layer accented with white chocolate and raspberry and a chocolate layer with Nutella and mascarpone cheese filling.

LUNE DE MIEL The newlyweds honeymooned by taking “the ultimate road trip” across France that included exploring the renowned beaches of St. Tropez and the culture and food of Beaune, the wine capital of Burgundy. And of course it was de rigueur to spend time in the City of Love, Paris, which lived up to its reputation for amour. WE

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Dare To Dance! MAKING WEDDING FIRST DANCES DIVINE

B Y C H A N TA L CO R M I E R WHETHER YOUR DANCE HEART PULSES

HOW THE PROCESS WORKS

to the classic style of Astaire and Rogers or quickens to the modern moves of Cheryl Burke, Derek Hough, Peta Murgatroyd or Mark Ballas whose expertise has dazzled you on Dancing With The Stars, it’s time to face the music! Admit it — you “gotta dance”! Isn’t your inner dance persona begging to be set free to dance up a storm with romantic waltzes or sizzling sambas? Here’s how to polish the dance floor — not your wallflower image — at your wedding celebrations.

Part of learning to dance involves starting early with lessons, well before the wedding date, and practicing so that your body knows where it wants to move without even having to think about the steps involved. This is the process of creating what is known as muscle memory. Once you have achieved that, you will be able to relax and enjoy your time on the floor.

WHY FEAR DANCE? If you truly dread taking to the dance floor, be honest with yourself about why. Part of being human is a fear of being judged and found to be not up to standard — either our standard or that of others. Instead of thinking “no way I could ever get up in public and do that”, reprogram your default to “I can add dancing to my social skills set”.

GUY TALK Often it’s the guy who shudders to contemplate displaying his lack of dance skills in front of friends and family at the reception. However, with even a few lessons, the couple can become better dancers than at least 90% of folks on the floor. A simple routine put together by a dance pro that might only last for 90 seconds, up down the floor and back, will make guests marvel and lead to questions about how long it took to learn that.

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WHY BOTHER FOR ONE NIGHT? Why do all that work and spend money just for one night or even one dance...the bride and groom’s first dance? Talk to anyone who has learned the art of dance and they will tell you it’s about stepping confidently into all the dances of your future with your loved one. Imagine still “tripping the light fantastic” at your fiftieth wedding anniversary party, to the love song that moved you at your wedding.

spent together, just the two of them. Instead of thinking of learning to dance as one more item to be ticked off on the wedding checklist, consider it as dates. This can become your special time together when you can focus on each other and relax into the moment.

STEPPING OUT Start by booking consultations with two or three dance studios to find the one that works for you. Prepare a list of questions as your agenda. Some key points to share during the interview: • At your reception, will you be dancing to a live band or DJ? • What is the size of the dance floor? • What is the wedding gown style? Formfitting? Ballroom with a heavy skirt? The point is for the instructor to know in advance which movements will be restricted or other considerations based on your bridal gown’s design.

SETTING THE BAR Look to the dance pros you watch on TV for inspiration but be realistic when setting your personal dance goals. Complicated and demanding dance routines cannot be learned quickly. Novices on dance shows perform brilliantly because they are paired with professional dancers who “carry them through”.

DANCE DATES It’s not unusual for couples to get swept up in — and swept away by — wedding planning in the months leading up to the nuptials. They end up having little time or energy for time

HOW TO PICK FIRST DANCE MUSIC When choosing the music for the First Dance, take some advice from Jennifer Jones, Artistic Director of Joy of Dance Centre & Teachers College in Toronto. Jennifer suggests bringing four or five songs to your first lesson so your instructor can help you pick a song. “First go to the internet to check the song’s lyrics and read them completely so you know what is being sung. And don’t forget that this song will be with you for the rest of your life. Make sure it is timeless, not just popular today and choose something both you and your groom truly like.” WE

Wedding Wisdom

Mix it up

ou’ve hired your disc jockey or live performers and given them a good description of the feeling you want to evoke for your ceremony and reception. Don’t be afraid to mix it up a little bit to surprise your guests of all ages and create a festive party atmosphere. A DJ or band leader can judge the mood of the crowd and play music accordingly. You need to make it clear if you want quiet dinner music as well as dance beats. Consider your guests’ musical tastes as well as your own. You don’t want to be dancing with yourself out there. Ensure your DJ has agreed to play a selection that includes some latin, swing, R&B, country and classic rock. Ask him to play songs from every decade to cater to both the young and old. A little Hannah Montana won’t kill you, and your flower girls will think you’re the coolest bride ever. A few cultural standards (Greek, Italian, Polish) will tell your older guests you respect them enough to play music they can enjoy. Acknowledge your parents by playing “their” song or an old favourite, and the gesture will be noticed and appreciated by them. WE

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Fashion

Passion

A wedding gown is much more than a beautiful dress. Her perfect gown reflects a vision of herself that a bride has cherished for a long time. The moment when the bride is first seen in her wedding gown is very emotional and is often greeted by tears, including her own. Meet these lovely women who have transformed themselves into princess brides.

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Katie

BRIDE: Katie Templeton GOWN: Mikaella 1850 | Paloma Blanca VENUE: Iberostar Rose Hall Beach, Jamaica | 876.680.0000 PHOTO: Phillip Lloyd Photography philliplloydphotography.com | 813.741.0097

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SHOW YOUR DRESS OFF FOR ALL THE WORLD TO SEE! If you are chosen, you will be featured in an upcoming edition of Wedding Essentials. Simply email up to 4 photos of you in your wedding dress as well as up to a 200 word description of your glorious day to the address below. FeatureMe@WeddingEssentials.ca

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trends

Marsala

RICH, COLOURFUL & TASTY BY TRISH PORTER WHEN PANTONE RELEASED its Colour of the Year for 2015 it seemed like a natural to incorporate in weddings given its warmth and richness. Meet Marsala 18-1438, inspired by the Italian fortified wine that lends its name to this deeply rich red shade with a hint of brown.

FLOWERS At once earthy and sophisticated, Marsala-hued flowers come in a variety of types and shades. Think cymbidium orchids, gerberas, hypericum berries, lisianthus, dahlia, ranunculus, calla lily, peonies, anthurium, tulips and roses.

FASHION Bridesmaidsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; gowns or accessories in Marsala colours are a choice that makes a strong statement. Ideally suited for a vineyard-themed wedding or ultra-sophisticated affair, Marsala can make a dramatic entrance as the colour for gowns or for a pop of colour in shoes and jewellery.

MAKEUP Whether suitably subtle or sensationally sultry, Marsala works beautifully with a wide variety of skin tones to create warm highlights for cheeks and lips or to provide a fashionable touch of drama for nails. Marsala-toned eyeliners accent the lashline with a warm, touch-of-bold glamour. Many cosmetic makers have incorporated Marsala hues into their lipstick collections, in shades ranging from rose-brown all the way through the spectrum to deeply rich wine.

DINING Lovers of Marsala sauces can elaborate at length about the depth of flavours that can be achieved with this splendid fortified wine. Veal Marsala and Chicken Marsala are as decadent and celebratory as you could wish for a wedding dinner. A pasta course of stuffed mushroom ravioli with a Marsala sauce, perhaps accented with a strongly-flavoured cheese such as gorgonzola, is a palate-pleaser, as is fettuccine or a creamy lasagna that features the same key ingredients. Zabaglione, Italian custard made with egg yolks, sugar and Marsala wine is a toothsome addition to a wedding meal or sweet table, as is Italian trifle made with Marsala syrup. For a fruity finish, Marsala-poached figs and pears or fresh strawberries with Marsala are splendid, perhaps paired with intensely-colourful macarons. Chocolate and Marsala are a marriage made in culinary heaven. WE

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a real-life wedding

Gina &Quintino A BIG FAB ITALIAN WEDDING — GLAMOUR & ENTERTAINMENT GALORE The start of the love story of Gina Amato and Quintino Colangelo sounds like the beginning of a romance novel or movie. She was only 14 and he was 17 when they met while vacationing with their families in Florida. Gina recalls the exact moment when the young man walked through her grandparents’ door — “I was in love.”

DATES & PROPOSAL They lost touch when vacation was over. Fast forward 12 years when by chance Quintino met Gina’s parents. He learned she wasn’t seeing anyone; it wasn’t long before they had their first date...at a Greek restaurant called Santorini. A mere year and a half later, Quintino respected the tradition of asking her father for permission to ask Gina to marry him. Gina and Quintino’s family had been busy planning an elaborate 30th birthday party for him. The couple went to dinner at Santorini where he surprised Gina with a phone screen intro to a bended knee proposal. PHOTOS: HEATHER BUNT, XERO DIGITAL PHOTOGRAPHY

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Unbeknownst to Gina, Quintino had already told his parents of his upcoming proposal; as it turned out, she had been planning an engagement party! A few weeks later friends and family celebrated at a formal engagement party held at Le Parc.

BRIDAL CHOICES Gina selected a fit-and-flare satin gown with an asymmetrically ruched strapless bodice. She had the original style customized, adding silver appliqués on the strapless neckline and down a lowered corset back, extending the train and increasing the volume of the skirt with tulle and a hoop. She chose a partial D’Orsay style Badgley Mischka white satin peep-toe shoe. Gina’s cascading bridal bouquet was a tribute to her mother; it was similar to the flowers she had carried on her wedding day. The all-white bouquet was created with Polar Star roses, peonies and large phalaenopsis orchids.

THE WEDDING The couple spent almost two years planning the celebrations to make their vision of a glamorous, elegant, chic and romantic wedding become reality. They exchanged vows at their childhood church, St. Patrick’s Parish. Gentle light from the stained glass illuminated the church from ceiling panels, a massive front window wall and lancet side windows. The twelve-foot long veil that Gina had dreamt about since she was a little girl flowed behind her as she walked down the aisle with her parents, to the accompaniment of organ music. When Quintino saw his bride he “couldn’t hold back the tears. I was so proud of her and myself that we finally got to this point”.

THE DÉCOR Close to 400 guests were treated to a lavish reception. Every element of the décor was designed to dazzle and delight. Multitudes of flowers in shades of white with a sprinkling of pale pink blooms were placed throughout the room. When the couple entered the reception, Quintino shares that he was “shocked how amazing everything was. I was happy to see Gina’s happy expression and how proud our parents were. Everything was perfect. We wanted to start the party and have fun!” Tables were decorated with grand candelabra dripping with crystals, with every centrepiece showcasing white peonies, white hydrangea and blush pink and light pink roses; clear votives produced a soft glow. Some centrepieces featured floral wreaths at the base, others shared the spotlight with flowers in silver urns or flower arrangements on top accented with crystal pedestal candles for parent tables. The effect was sumptuous and sophisticated. The crystal motif was consistent throughout with crystal appliqués on the table linens, Swarovski crystal frames for the table numbers, crystal chargers holding round menus, tall crystal candleholders, ornate chandeliers, and a clear podium.

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RECEPTION HIGHLIGHTS Gina and Quintino’s first dance was in the mist to John Legend’s heartfelt All of Me, a romantic slow version followed by a fast remix. Wedding guests enjoyed signature martinis during the cocktail hour and sampled from a sushi station, hors d’oeuvres, and a prosecco station offering Italian sparkling white wine. A diverse antipasto course featured Italian specialties of prosciutto, bocconcini and frutti di mare. After pasta and risotto and a garden balsamic salad, filet mignon with shrimp and scallop skewers was served. Desserts included cheesecake, Tiramisu and crêpes. Guests danced the night away as well as being entertained by a talented percussionist. A cirque-tacular display of aerial dance left admiring viewers breathless. The evening was capped off by late night stations. The savoury table featured Italian gastronomic delights of chef-carved prosciutto, a Parmigiano wheel, lamb spiducci and pizza, as well as beef sliders and French fries. The star of the sweet table was a five-tier French Vanilla cake with Dulce De Leche filling. A cannoli station was a nod to Gina’s father’s Sicilian heritage; a candy station satisfied the groom’s sweet tooth. Elegant crushed crystal frames were guest favours; they held cards informing guests about the couple’s donation to The Gaetano Amato Memorial Scholarship Fund in honour of Gina’s late brother.

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Wedding Wisdom

Things to consider while choosing your honeymoon destination

hoosing and planning your honeymoon should be the fun part of your wedding planning process. A honeymoon is like any other vacation, and you really don't want anything to go wrong. As long as you keep a few simple things in mind your honeymoon should be a wonderful, romantic experience. The most important things to consider when choosing your honeymoon: THE TIME OF YEAR. You should be aware of the weather, crowds, and the cost associated with your destination choices at the time of your honeymoon and narrow your choices accordingly. WHAT THE DESTINATION HAS TO OFFER. Imagine arriving at your honeymoon resort only to discover that your dream of eating breakfast in bed every day will not happen because the hotel does not offer much in the way of room service. Even if you plan to do nothing but sit on the beach for a week, make

sure that you know what your hotel has to offer. Another idea is to choose a resort that has activities that you and your spouse like or can learn together. Scuba diving certification is very popular with newlyweds. HOW YOUâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;LL GET THERE. If you are the type of person that would prefer three to six hours in a limousine or a single airplane flight then don't book a honeymoon that will require you to fly on three planes and two boats just to get there. YOUR ROOM. Since you will probably be spending more than half of your honeymoon in it, your room should be exactly what you want. Almost all hotels and resorts now offer honeymoon suites, and some resorts have honeymoon bungalows or cabins that are even more private. It is also a good idea to try to get as much information as possible about the location of your room. For example, make sure that your room is not directly over an open air

band that plays until 3 am each night. (You would be surprised how often this happens.) HONEYMOON PACKAGES AND UPGRADES. Honeymoon packages can include free champagne, massage, flowers, extra nights free, and a free upgrade to a suite. Free upgrades will be readily available if you decide to travel to a destination during its low season. CALL TO CONFIRM EVERYTHING. Make sure to call someone who is actually at the resort to confirm all the details of your trip. Then get them to fax or email you written confirmation. That way, if something is not right once you arrive at the resort, you can talk directly to someone you have already spoken with. If something does go wrong at your hotel, contact the manager and calmly present your problem and ask for it to be fixed. More often than not the hotel will do their best to make you happy. At any good resort, the phrase "we are on our honeymoon" can often move mountains. WE Wedding Essentials 20 1 5 | 47

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Looking

SKIN & BEAUTY PRODUCTS TO HELP YOU LOOK YOUR BEST

GREAT Maybelline LASH SENSATIONAL MASCARA With ten layers of bristles on its first-ever volume fanning brush, Maybelline’s Lash Sensational Mascara aims to capture, reveal and unfold every last lash, coating each eyelash from all sides with its liquid ink formula. The washable mascara is designed to create voluminous lashes for a sensational effect. For best results, use the inner curve of the brush to reach the roots of lashes and then follow through using the longer bristles to fan out your lashes, right to the tips.

Michel Design Works A LITTLE SOAP Each 3.5 ounce/100 gram soap comes in an adorable box in Michel Design Works’ A Little Soap product line. With more than three dozen differently scented soaps and intricately designed boxes to choose from, indulging your skin is a delightfully sensual experience. Options range from Beach Baby with a clean sea breeze scent and Bunnies with sweet grass notes, through Au Chocolate, Berries, Hydrangea, Orchid, Purple Bouquet to fragrances suggesting Paris, Love, Friendship and Bike Ride. The triplemilled soaps are handmade in England and formulated with shea butter, prized for its gentle treatment of skin. WE

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Lise Watier RIVAGES LIMITED EDITION Celebrate the best of summer with the beachinspired Rivages Limited Edition collection from Lise Watier. Palette Rivages includes ten neutral, easy-to-wear eyeshadow shades that range from matte to satin finishes in a compact that imitates the pearly iridescence of a seashell. Rivages Bronzing Powder blends bronze, pink and gold shades to create a lightly shimmering finish that adds a luminous, healthy glow; a practical built-in mirror is in the case. Blush Fondant Suprême with concentrated Labrador Tea Extract is an easyto-apply creme-to-powder formulated blush with the added benefit of antioxidant properties to give the skin overall, gentle protection.

WEDDINGS IN

Historic Venues A BOUTIQUE FEATURE OF WEDDING ESSENTIALS

BRIDE & GROOM: Jennifer & Kyle Landry PHOTO: Studio60 Photography | studio60.ca | 416.629.5432

HISTORIC VENUES

DISCOVER ONTARIO’S HERITAGE VENUES N E A R BY E C H O E S O F A D I F F E R E N T E R A

o, you and your groom want to take your marriage vows and celebrate in a place steeped with history and beauty. Although the castles of Europe and the picture-perfect postcard villages of England might beckon, you want to share your special day with all your friends and family. You can have the best of both worlds in Ontario without sacrificing any of your vision of a days-gone-by wedding. You might be surprised at how many historic places there are close to home where you and your guests can experience the ambiance of an earlier age. Here’s just a sampling.

By Jessalynn Fincher

If your dream is of a fairy-tale wedding, a castle is the perfect setting. Toronto’s Casa Loma, built from 1911 to 1914 by Sir Henry Pellatt, has several function rooms, among them The Great Hall with its 60-foothigh oak-beamed ceiling, and The Conservatory, lushly extravagant in light, airiness and marble under an Italian stained glass ceiling dome. Dundurn Castle in Hamilton was built in the mid-19th century by Sir Allan Napier McNab, one of Canada’s first premiers. The Coach House at Dundurn, in days past a utilitarian building sheltering horses, coaches, and servants, is now a wedding venue. Outdoor weddings and photo ops are possible at Castle Kilbride, Baden. The Italianate villa features a fine Victorian-style garden and an elaborate, columned front porch.

wedding for couples and their guests. Several heritage buildings with historic elements make up The Inn. The century-celebrating Old Mill in Toronto offers several locations for weddings. Its 16th century candlelit chapel is a charming spot for an intimate ceremony, enhanced by light streaming in the stained glass windows. Celebrations in The Guildhall will make you think you are in an English manor house. The Wedding Garden features ivy-covered trellised walls. Cambridge Mill is stunningly beautiful day or night with its views of the Grand River. The Gallery retains its original limestone walls. The Waterfront Room adjoins a weather-friendly private terrace with retractable glass walls that frame wonderful views. Nestled in the Caledon Hills, Millcroft Inn & Spa touts romantic heritage buildings, a beautiful Mill Pond and the impressive Shaw’s Creek Falls as well as a Victorian Manor House Garden that offer ceremony and reception options and plenty of places for your guests to explore, as well as photo ops galore. Ancaster Old Mill’s selection of wedding venues caters to all sizes of celebrations at any time of the day or evening or season of the year, among them the intimate Solarium with threesided fireplace and views of the waterfall and stream below. The Millview Room with its serene ambiance lets the outdoors in with its floor-toceiling, conservatory-style windows.

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Ontario is blessed with an abundance of scenic, historic mills that have been preserved and renovated. With mill races and other water features, lush gardens, historic elements, and tranquil settings, these locations make for unique wedding celebrations and superb photos. Mill venues include Benmiller Inn & Spa, set in a wooded valley on Ontario’s West Coast, with dining and accommodation suitable not only for the wedding day but also for a destination

In Corktown stands the first free school and oldest school still existing in Toronto —- the Victorianera Enoch Turner Schoolhouse. The one-room school and its West Wing in the Gothic Revival style were established by wealthy brewer Enoch Turner, a philanthropist who wanted to educate the poor children who lived near his brewery. At The Schoolhouse in Ottawa is a one-room 1890s schoolhouse renovated to trendy, chic elegance. Here a century-old church is another

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heritage option as well as a courtyard with gardens and pergola in a lush setting, ideal for outdoor weddings. In Huron County, the Huron County Museum is in an Elizabethan-style two-story schoolhouse that was built in the 1850s; it can host host small wedding ceremonies or photo shoots.

UNIQUE The historic Distillery District in Toronto dates from 1832; its restored red brick, Victorian-era buildings were once part of the Gooderham & Worts whiskey distillery. Venues here include The Fermenting Cellar that hasn’t changed a lot since 1861 when the limestone structure was first opened, as well as loft-like Archeo. Pioneer villages in Ontario offer wide-ranging possibilities. Fanshawe Pioneer Village in London, Black Creek Pioneer Village in Toronto and Lang Pioneer Village in Peterborough each have unique settings for wedding celebrations and incredible backdrops for vintage and/or country style weddings. The 25-acre site of Markham Museum features almost two-dozen historic buildings, including a general store, chapel, and railway station, picture-postcard-perfect settings for a vintage wedding or photo shoot. The Historic Gaol in Goderich, built in 1841, was lauded for its humanitarian treatment of prisoners. Its stone walls, octagonal courtyard and cells offer photo ops galore as well as space for intimate ceremonies. Sharon Temple, completed in 1832, north of Toronto, is an architectural and historic gem; its three tiers resemble a wedding cake. Built by The Children of Peace, an offshoot sect of Quakers known for their pageantry, the airy structure’s details abound in symbolism. My advice to history-loving couples? Hop into your car and start exploring to find the perfect heritage venue for your wedding. You are bound to have a marvellous time discovering all the nooks and crannies of Ontario history where you can celebrate your dream wedding... WE

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ADD MORE MAGIC TO YOUR CELEBRATION W I T H E L E M E N T S F ROM BY- G O N E DAYS

f you are captivated by times past, it’s likely that you will have considered an historic venue for your wedding. What fun you and your fiancé have in your future, planning a heritage celebration! Whether you include only a few elements that echo the past or have a vision that embraces every detail from arrival at the ceremony site to departure from your reception, you are about to enter a different era — yours to explore, consider, evaluate and make decisions about how it fits with your theme.

GETTING THERE IS FUN Think Gatsby and you’ll understand this concept immediately! Imagine stepping into or out of a Rolls Royce Silver Cloud stretch limo or a Rolls Royce Silver Dawn or a vintage Bentley. And now imagine wedding photos by the car. Be still my revved-up heart! Dig deep on the web and find vintage cars for rent that are destined to be conversation makers, like a 1920s Ford Model T or a Dodge Brothers sedan or a 1930s classy little Chevrolet Coupe or Phaeton. With a wedding theme that might touch on the prohibition or gangster era, the fun of the flappers or the classiness of Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan, your imagination is only limited by your Google search powers!

PICTURE THIS Think about photo ops and the kind of props that will emphasize the era and your theme. Classic bicycles and bicycles-built-for-two are

By Carolina Pfaff hot wheels now...channel Murdoch Mysteries for inspiration. Old suitcases and trunks, vintage Remington typewriters, old tables and desks, antique Singer sewing machines, old books, colourful depression glass, lace tablecloths, and silver serving dishes are all prop-er possibilities. If you are going back close to pioneer days in Ontario, consider antique quilts, horse collars, wooden crates, old wooden ladders, weathered doors and window frames, Mason jars, those old photographs of very severe-looking couples, and primitive beeswax candles.

ATTIRE ELEMENTS Follow the style runway back in time by incorporating items and looks from the olden days. Headbands, bobbed hair, short, fringed dresses with dropped waists and long strands of pearls complete a flapper look. Suspenders make the vintage man. Perhaps he tends towards elegance. If so, a top hat is almost a necessity. Maybe old-time cotton canvas spats, accessories for gentlemen’s shoes, are the order of the day; they were very fashionable in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. A fedora was a spiffy item in the 1930s. Fabrics for gowns might be cotton or lace with a circlet of flowers for a headpiece. Vintage floral bouquets should be unstructured, using common flowers of the day like cabbage roses, lavender and daisies. Parasols in cotton or lace are earmarks of gentility from past days, as are antique lace fans and lace-trimmed handkerchiefs.

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CRYING AT WEDDINGS We’re not talking about tears shed by the bride and groom or guests here, but rather about hiring the services of a professional town crier to enhance the historic experience you envision. Back in time it was the town crier who made proclamations and announcements and shared important news of the day for townspeople. A town crier’s duties at your wedding would not be all that different. His role might be very limited or performed throughout the entire reception, from start to finish — it’s up to you. Clad in a historically correct uniform, the crier could greet your guests at the reception and introduce the head table. Reading telegrams and emails, announcing special requests and the evening’s events is standard; consider a declaration of love being read from a personally crafted scroll that is then taken by the crier to each guest to sign. He might also take on the duties of a traditional Master of Ceremonies, right up to announcing “Last Call” and thanking guests for attending. As the old saying goes, “getting there is half the fun!”. What marvellous times you are going to have sourcing venues and props and all the other elements that will bring your vision of a heritage wedding celebration to life — a memorable occasion for all fortunate enough to attend it. WE

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SHARON TEMPLE S I M P LY S P L E N D I D S T Y L E

ouples seeking a unique historic venue for their weddings will want to consider Sharon Temple, close to home but lightyears away in time. For scouting the location, hop in the car and head north up Leslie Street from Toronto. For a wedding day arrival, you might want to consider a period carriage drawn by fine steeds...maybe a panel boot Victoria, the French carriage that was popular among British royalty, or maybe a vis-à-vis, literally the “face-to-face” carriage, named for its seating style. Of course a Cinderella coach is always in favour, either with the top up or top down! If your tastes run towards vintage, perhaps a bicycle-built-for-two or some classic vintage bicycles might be on your wish list. Photo ops on site with a penny-farthing, the tall bicycle with the huge front wheel and the little back wheel, would be “top drawer”. Some trivia: The phrase “top drawer” means of the best quality, from the fact that Victorian gentry kept their valuables in the highest drawer of a chest.

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HISTORY Designated a National Historic Site of Canada, Sharon Temple is a white timber-frame building rising in three tiers. It is the jewel in the tranquil setting of a 2.4 hectare, park-like property with beautiful gardens situated on a rise of land that it shares with a handful of other historic buildings from the early to mid 1800s, including a Cookhouse, the Ebenezer Doan House, a Drive Shed with period carriages, a Granary and a round Outhouse. Sharon Temple was built by The Children of Peace, a religious sect that broke away from the Quakers, created to hold its special functions. The sect’s goal was an utopian, non-sectarian community of democratic equality, fair-dealing and self-sufficiency. They supported the rebel William Lyon Mackenzie’s Upper Canadian Rebellion; he described the Temple as “calculated to inspire the beholder with astonishment”.

DESIGN The Temple’s architecture is richly symbolic — its square plan denoting the sect’s belief in

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Extraordinary craftsmanship and attention to every detail, like naming four supporting pillars Faith, Love, Hope and Charity, make perusing facts about Sharon Temple akin to opening a treasure box that has layer upon layer of fascinating and significant things to be discovered from its past. The building is acoustically superb; a Jacob’s Ladder curved staircase leads to the musician’s gallery, an ideal setting for musicians who could be favouring wedding guests with the delicate strains of Pachelbel’s Canon in D. An historic pipe organ offers another possibility for wedding music.

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“dealing on the square”, meaning using ethical business practices. Each side has doors to allow people from east, west, north and south to enter “on an equal footing”; the large windows on each tier let in light that falls equally on all.

Indoor or outdoor weddings include exclusive use of the Temple or grounds for the ceremony as well as use of the Sharon Temperance Hall for a reception. Magdalena Kuziw and Rene Kiobge both love historical buildings and architecture. When they discovered Sharon Temple they knew this was the perfect place to hold their wedding ceremony. They praise “amazing photo opportunities” and the fact that their guests could “wander around the grounds and visit the mini-museum, experiencing this little piece of Canadian history”. WE

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BENMILLER INN & SPA W E S T CO A S T O N TA R I O CO U N T RY C H A R M

ear Goderich, a place that Queen Victoria once called “the prettiest town in Canada”, you will find Benmiller, a short distance inland from the shores of Lake Huron. Winding country lanes lead to the tiny 19th century hamlet where several historic buildings remain, located in a wooded valley by babbling Sharpe’s Creek and the broad Maitland River. From about 1840, “The Hollow”, later known as Benmiller, was a thriving pioneer settlement with a hotel and grist, saw and woollen mills powered by the millstream. The owner of one of the grist (flour) mills was Benjamin Miller, the gentleman for whom Benmiller is named. His son was an international celebrity: Jonathan Miller, who ran several hotels in the area, was a friendly, kind man who was known for his impressive girth; he weighed more than 460 pounds. Today the millstream is used for photographs rather than for utilitarian purposes and two 1878 mills have been converted into country inns, along with two millers’ houses, forming part of today’s Benmiller Inn & Spa. The complex includes Gledhill House, Rivermill, Mill House, Sharpe’s Retreat (the lower pond house) and the Hollow. Benmiller was famous for its basket-weave woollen blankets, produced at Gledhill Mill, now a part of the Inn. Elements from the historic woollen mill have been repurposed; a massive chandelier fashioned from a mill loom wheel hangs in the dining room overlooking the mill stream. Visitors will also find an original staircase in the house which was occupied by four generations of Gledhills who owned and ran the mill. By chance Peter Ivey and Joanne Ivey, brother and sister, happened upon the mill site in 1970. It was for sale at that time and they decided to purchase and renovate it; later they also purchased the grist mill. It would be more than four years of challenging renovations to ensure maintaining the historic integrity of the buildings before Benmiller Inn was open for guests to enjoy. A menu shortly after the Inn opened shows entrées as Broiled Salmon Steak, Pork Tenderloin Milanese, Curried Lamb and Sirloin Steak, Braised

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By Judy Johnson JONATHAN MILLER From the Collection of the Huron County Museum & Historic Gaol

Celery, Bordelaise Potatoes and Buttered Peas. Desserts priced at 60 cents each included Cabinet, a traditional English dessert of steamed, shaped pudding of bread or sponge cake with dried fruits and custard. A pot of coffee or tea was 40 cents. Several owners and renovations later, First Canadian Management purchased the property in 2011, facing a huge challenge a few months later when a tornado hit the Goderich area and

Benmiller, causing damage to three of the Inn’s buildings and closing them for months. Today visitors can step back into a more tranquil era by journeying to Benmiller Inn. Its dining room is known for excellent cuisine featuring local specialties — produce, fruits, meats, cheeses, honey and coffee roasts. Duo Meghan and Douglas McKnight chose Benmiller Inn for their wedding because “the Inn has a lot of history with both our families — they have been going there for more than 20 years. The quality of the food was very important with the groom being a chef! The Inn took the time to create an entire weekend experience for our guests, who relate that they can’t wait to back and explore more of the property”. The couple chose winter for their nuptials because both love snow and thought winter would be picturesque; it is also Meghan’s favourite season. The bride shares: “We had the perfect winter weather for our wedding weekend, and by perfect I mean it was about minus 5˚C and snowing lightly. The rustic character of the property was ideal for the vision we had for our wedding and we needed very little décor to personalize the wedding because Benmiller Inn spoke for itself.” WE

BRIDE & GROOM: Meghan & Douglas McKnight PHOTOS: Calla Studio | callastudio.ca | 519.669.3993

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MARKHAM MUSEUM E C H O E S O F T H E PA S T

ostalgic urbanites longing to create wedding memories that reflect bygone days need look no further than Toronto’s threshold to step into a photogenic and creativity-inspiring vision of the past. Markham Museum is a paradise for wedding photographers and newlyweds alike, offering many locales for charming period-type photographs.

By Theresa Diltrich BRIDE & GROOM: Samantha & Kevin PHOTOS: Sarah Wiggins Photography | swphoto.ca | 416.220.6396

HISTORY The City of Markham is one of Canada’s most culturally diverse communities. Archaeological evidence found scattered across farmlands in the area confirms that Markham was occupied by Aboriginal people long before the settlement of the Europeans. In the late 1700s, it was a pioneer settlement, founded by a German developer/artist named William Moll Berczy. It was the Lieutenant-Governor of Upper Canada, John Graves Simcoe, who named the hamlet’s township Markham, a tribute to his friend William Markham, then Archbishop of York. Bringing more than 60 families with him from Germany, Berczy came to New York state, but problems there led them to move further north to Upper Canada, along with Pennsylvania German families. Berczy later moved on, devoting the rest of his life to painting. His most famous painting is his 1807 portrait of Joseph

Brant, known as Thayendanega, a Mohawk military and political leader. The industrious settlers worked hard at homesteading and harnessed the area’s rivers and streams to water-power saw, grist (flour) and woollen mills. A century later, after the railway reached it, Markham’s population had grown to over 1,000 people.

PAST PERFECT Along the journey from rural village to urban centre, most buildings and businesses of the past disappeared, making way for the modern city we know today. Fortunately, more than 20 remain, moved to Markham Museum, a 25-acre site where you can find houses, barns, sheds, a train station, school, general store, church, blacksmith shop, saw mill, harness shop and cider mill, among other architectural and historic treasures. From the time it was built, many weddings have been held each year in the Ninth Line Baptist Church, a Gothic Revival building dating from 1848.

PHOTO OPS & OPTIONS The Hoover House was built in 1824 by a Pennsylvania Mennonite family. It was later used by Russian Mennonites as a stopping point as they journeyed west to Manitoba, where they settled. The front entrance makes a great background for a

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rustic, country wedding photo shoot. A regency-style cottage from about 1831, The Chapman House showcases costly craftsmanship with its plank-on-plank construction. The white building with dark green shutters and door framing invites era-true images. A log cabin, put up in the mid 1800s by gristmill operators James and Euphemia Maxwell, is typical of many of the homes of the era with its hewn timbers, square finished with half-dovetail joinery, requiring a great deal of skill to build. Like the split rail fences on the property, it begs to be immortalized in wedding photos. There’s room for the whole wedding party on the front porch at Wilson Variety Hall, a general store from 1862; owners Henry & Clementina Wilson had operated a thriving millinery and fancy goods store before taking over these larger premises. The ticket fenester in the front square bay window of the Locust Hill Railway Station beckons visitors to inspect the handwritten train schedule. You’re already fancy-dressed for your journey into the past, perhaps gentleman with top hats and ladies with parasols, just a click away from a moment frozen in heritage time. Just imagine all the newly-wed couples throughout the centuries who lived in the houses, worked in the businesses or used the artifacts on display at Markham Museum...what a legacy! WE

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SHARON TEMPLE NATIONAL HISTORIC SITE AND MUSEUM 18974 Leslie Street, Sharon, ON L0G 1V0 905-478-2389 • www.sharontemple.ca Number of guests: 0-88 | Ceremony On Site: Yes Outdoor Area: No | Special Menus: Yes

BENMILLER INN & SPA 81175 Benmiller Line, Goderich, ON N7A 3Y1 1-800-2651711 • www.benmiller.ca Number of guests: 10-20 | Price: $39-60 Included in the price: Sweet table, Late night coffee/tea, Centrepieces, Bridal suite, In-house wedding co-ordinator, Tasting for two, Breakfast. Ceremony On Site: Yes | Outdoor Area: Yes Special Menues: Chinese, Greek Italian, Vegan, Celieac.

MARKHAM MUSEUM 9350 Highway 48 (Markham Road), Markham, ON L3P 3J3 905-294-4576 Ext. 3171 • www.markhammuseum.ca Number of guests: 50-100 Ceremony On Site: Yes | Outdoor Area: Yes Special Menus: We welcome all caterers.

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Wedding Wisdom

Treat yourself to a spa day

fabulous treat for the bride-to-be is a spa day. There are many spas in southern Ontario and many salons provide spa services too. On the beauty treatments checklist, say no to facials the week before the ceremony. They can leave your skin blotchy. Say yes to a massage and other relaxing body treatments that are just what a busy bride-to-be needs. You can easily treat yourself to similar beauty treatments without leaving your house. Start your home spa with a relaxing bubble bath. Put on restful music and light a candle to create a soothing mood. After your bath, moisturize your body, cuddle into your housecoat and do your nails. Be sure to have the nail polish on hand for touchups on the morning of your wedding WE

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The Flower Girl

ittle girls can lend just the right degree of levity to a wedding with their sweet innocence and honest childish joy at being included in such an important event. Normally, one or two flower girls will participate. It’s important to pick little girls who can handle the event. You don’t want children so young that they’ll be too scared to walk down the aisle or who will dissolve in tears. Don’t give in to pressure on this matter. You want everyone to enjoy the day and really small tots may not be up to being flower girls. Depending on the children, a good age range is

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from four to eight. The parents of the flower girl or girls need to make sure they get a good rest the night before the ceremony. They also are responsible for their clothes. You will provide the basket of flowers—generally a tiny nosegay, baby roses or small bouquet. The flower girl is required to walk immediately in front of you and your father in the processional, holding a basket of flowers. It used to be customary for these youngsters to strew rose petals along the way up the aisle but this has proven to be unsafe for both brides and guests. It is no

longer recommended and indeed many churches also have rules against it. If she is mature enough, the flower girl may stand next to the maid of honour during the ceremony and follow you and the groom down the aisle afterwards. If the flower girl is too young to stand quietly during the ceremony, she can stand at the front with the wedding party until the bride arrives at the groom’s side and the ceremony begins. Then she can quietly go and sit in the front pew with the bride’s parents or her own. aAt the reception, the flower girls can participate in the receiving line. WE

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The Ring Bearer

raditionally the ring bearer has been a boy, but today girls also perform this ceremonial task. If your choice is to have a female do the job, she should be dressed like a flower girl. Make sure to choose a child who possesses the maturity to cope with the processional. The ring bearer’s parents are responsible for the child’s outfit and need to ensure that he/she is wellrested. The ring bearer’s job is to carry a cushion with two fake rings attached to it. (The best man will have the real rings.) He walks down the aisle in front of the flower girl or beside her and—if he is mature enough—stands with the wedding party during the ceremony. Alternatively, he can stay at the front until the bride and groom meet and then sit in the first pew or join his parents. If he sits during the ceremony he should not rejoin the recessional. The ring bearer can participate in the receiving line but should sit with his parents at the reception. WE

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Toast from the heart

good toast should be a gift, not an insult, so make it appropriate, flattering and, if possible, memorable. Exercise eloquence and wit. Consider the audience both in age and ideologies. Respectful words outweigh comedy in most cases. A good toast has the form of a speech, but obviously in miniscule scale. Consider an introduction, a comment towards the theme of the event and finally an adieu that is well fitting to the occasion. Much more effort is required to be succinct than long-winded, so prepare your words well in advance. Practice, practice, practice if you want to sound spontaneous. The simplest words are perceived as the most sincere. Be yourself. The best words and witticisms are your own, so forget about being reminded of something you once heard or read. Originality is the essence of wit. End on a positive note. A toast should always be upbeat. Lead your audience to a conclusion with a generally-accepted gesture like “Raise your glass” or “Please join me in toasting” or just a simple “Cheers” will always uplift. WE

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OUT OF THE PHOTO FRAME WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY BY DA N I E L L E S T E P H E N S

YOU ARE UNIQUE. The person you are about to marry is one-of-a-kind. Everything about the romance that is leading you to that walk up the aisle is unlike anyone else’s love story. When considering wedding celebration photographs, tap into your creativity as well as that of your photographer. Think outside the box and frame when selecting photo sites, props, the mood you want to capture and how you want to express your personality through these all-important images. Here are thought-starting photographs from couples who did exactly that, with the help of their technically excellent, very talented and amazingly artistic wedding photographers. MIKA DUNNO. PHOTO: JAYE TATONE PHOTOGRAPHY | JAYETATONE.COM | 519.860.5293

FOCUS: ALL ABOARD For the love of horses and iron horses. There’s something special about horses for wedding photos, whether the horse is real and poses with affection with his owner or a painted carousel steed for newlyweds beginning the ride of their lives! For an oldfashioned serious shot or an old-fashioned chase scene, the iron horse makes a great train of thought for a photo op. CHRISTINA & MIKE. PHOTO: JEFF HO PHOTOGRAPHY | JEFFHOPHOTOGRAPHY.CA | 416.587.8284

INNA & YAN. PHOTO: GEORGE KASH | ISAACIMAGE | ISAACIMAGE.COM | 416.500.2682

photography AMANDA & ROB BROWN PHOTOS: MEGAN HUGGINS | LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE PHOTOGRAPHY LIFEINPERSPECTIVEPHOTOGRAPHY.COM | 519.591.3367

FOCUS: CLOSE-TO-HOME EXOTICA Look what happens when Ontario’s badlands meets a bedazzling bride and her groom. And when four friends whose marriages took place within a couple of years donned their gowns and embraced the spirit of an abandoned farmhouse.

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BRANDICE HARTIN, CAROLYN HARTIN, AMANDA HUTCHINGS, JESSICA RUSSELL PHOTOS: RUTH STENSON PHOTOGRAPHY | RUTHSTENSONPHOTOGRAPHY.COM | 613.273.6141

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FOCUS: JUST ADD WATER Zoom in on a fabulous concept that at first blush might be pushing comfort zones, producing one-of-a-kind imagery. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not only about being in the water, but also about the personalities of the couple as they play together throughout the shoot.

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photography JESSICA & MATT WAITE PHOTO: ALICIA RILEY PHOTOGRAPHY ALICIARILEY.COM | 226.268.0430

FOCUS: THE PROPER PROP Check out how the addition of a single rose helps create a softly romantic mood. Look at the contrast of the new beginning of marriage and the fragility of fresh flowers and a delicate gown with the weathered boards of an old farm storage bin in a frosty, isolated setting.

LUCIA & JOSH PHOTO: HEATHER DIETZ PHOTOGRAPHY HEATHERDIETZPHOTOGRAPHY.COM | 519.525.7870

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TO CHOOSE YOUR WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER BY DANIELLE STEPHENS Selecting your wedding photographer should take place early in the wedding planning process. Top wedding photographers book up well in advance and if you wait until the last few months before your wedding, you could be disappointed.

THE FIT When you narrow down your options to a handful of photographers, schedule in-person meetings. Be sure that both you and your groom attend. Wedding photography is an intimate process involving excellent communication and a high level of comfort and trust, so take the time to discover “the fit” between the photographer and the two of you.

CHECK THEM OUT Ahead of time, make a list of your “musthaves” for your wedding photography. Ask detailed questions and listen carefully to the answers. Read the reviews and ask for references, including recent client feedback correspondence.

LOVE IT OR HATE IT Check out wedding photographs on the web, in magazines and at bridal shows. Looking at a wide range of images and styles will help you discover your likes and dislikes. The engagement shoot is like a rehearsal for the wedding shots.

EXPERIENCE & SAMPLES Find out how many weddings the photographer has shot. Who will be taking the photographs? Make sure that is in writing in the contract. Will there be a second shooter to ensure all memories are captured - like the wedding kiss as well as grandma’s reaction to it? See a full wedding shoot from the photographer, not just a few key shots. What is the timetable for getting your finished photographs? Who has the rights to the images?

HONORING THE HEIRLOOM A professionally produced wedding album is something you both, your family and friends will enjoy countless times throughout the years. Some day your children and future generations will also be looking at the photos taken on your wedding day. WE

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photography PHOTO: ANDREA HUNTER | MPSG WEDDINGS | MPSGWEDDINGS.CA | 647.692.6774

FOCUS: FAB & FUN ANDREA & BRETT PHOTO: MICAH BOWERBANK PHOTOGRAPHY MICAHBOWERBANK.COM | 647.333.9988

Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s impossible to look at these photos without smiling. Their no-holds-barred, impish quality makes these images delightful forever and tell a lot about the fun-loving personalities of the people in them, as well as about a Puckish aspect of the photographers who captured the mood.

Wedding Wisdom

Shoes! Glorious Shoes!!

uy your shoes as soon as you find your dress so you can wear them to the fittings. There are so many styles, fabrics and trims to choose from, it boggles the mind. Of course, the shoes should compliment the style and colour of the gown. They can be satin, silk, brocade and adorned with pearls, lace, sequins or rosettes. Shoes can be traditional, or may also be a place where you can spice things up with a personal splash of colour. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t forget the most important thing of all when choosing your shoes. You are going to be walking and standing and dancing in them for hours and hours. Make sure they are comfortable. If you must have some height choose a comfortable pump with a shorter heel. Of course, the comfort level is up to you. Wear your shoes before the wedding to break them in. WE

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PLAYFUL OR AGGRESSIVE, THIS CUSTOM ISNâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;T ALWAYS ABOUT JUST A PIECE OF CAKE BY IMARA GOWER Perhaps the most controversial element of a wedding celebration is the cake smashing, sometimes known as cake smooshing...when, after cutting the wedding cake, the bride and groom smoosh the cake into each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s face. The act of cutting the wedding cake together and gently feeding each other a piece of the delicacy symbolizes how each spouse pledges to care for the other. Following this symbolic gesture with cake smashing can be perceived as out of place or even disrespectful. A recent addition to some weddings, cake smashing goes in and out of favour and is more popular in some regions than others. Cake smashing goes the range from dabbing a dot of icing on the nose or playfully squishing a tiny piece of cake around the mouth to a full-blown cake fight, with each person raising the smooshing bar with each succeeding bit of cake.

THE GOOD Folks who love it say that this is the most spontaneous part of the whole wedding celebration, where the true personalities of the bride and groom come through. It can present deliciously spontaneous photo ops, with quite a different mood from the rest of the wedding images. The pressure of planning and the nerves of the wedding ceremony are over and with that release of tension inhibitions often disappear.

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THE BAD, AND THE UGLY Others view cake smooshing as rude, aggressive and humiliating. Many wedding guests cringe at the spectacle. The bride’s carefully orchestrated makeup and hair can be marred, as well as the beautiful gown that she selected to look her very best on her wedding day. Things can quickly deteriorate into a contest for control - possibly no surprise given that its origins can be traced back to a time when a portion of barley bread was eaten by the groom and the rest was broken above the bride’s head, a not-so-subtle symbol of male dominance.

THE CRYSTAL ICING BALL Some wedding officiants go so far as to say they can predict the longevity of a marriage by the cake smashing. Is it done tenderly and playfully? If it escalates to a battle for dominance or power, or an opportunity for publicly sanctioned revenge for real or imagined slights in a relationship, it is a pretty good indicator that the services of a divorce lawyer are in the couple’s future.

TIMING IS EVERYTHING Why not talk about cake smashing beforehand to be sure both parties are on the same tier? If you do decide to go with anything more physical than putting a dab of icing on your partner’s nose, a recommendation is that the cake cutting and any cake in the face take part early on in the reception celebration. With all the excitement and partying later on that may involve free-flowing libations, things can easily get out of hand, which may not augur well not only for the honeymoon, but also for wedded bliss! WE

Lifestyle matters

ou don’t have to buy the biggest house on the block. When you visit your loan manager, he will tell you that you’re approved for a certain amount. Many young couples go out and then buy the biggest house they can find at the top end of their budget. Wait a minute. Do you want to be locked into a lovely house, staring at the walls because you now can’t afford to do anything else? Whatever range your banker suggests, stay in the lower end of it. Not all bankers are altruistic and won’t care if you don’t have money for enjoyable lifestyle activities like annual vacations or expensive hobbies that make life worth living. Instead, you may want to buy a moderately-sized home with a comfortable mortgage so you have a little extra financial wiggle room for the fun stuff. PROPERTY TAXES Don't let the thrill of buying your new home be dampened by forgetting about property taxes. This is a major ongoing cost to consider when purchasing any new home. Start off on the right track by deciding which method of payment is right for you and your budget. BUYING RESALE When buying a home, you have the option of paying your property taxes through the municipality or having your financial institution pay taxes on your behalf. The

bank would collect funds from each mortgage payment, save them in a property tax account and pay the municipality on your behalf each quarter or half a year depending on the region. To ensure there are enough funds in the tax account to cover the first tax bill, most financial institutions will do a tax hold-back. This means that the financial institution would estimate the amount of the first bill and subtract the amount that would be collected in the tax account between the closing of the mortgage and the tax bill due date. The shortfall is what is held back from the mortgage advance and deposited into the tax account. BUYING NEW For newly-constructed homes, the property taxes may have not yet been assessed for the area even though the homes have been completed. If they have yet to be set, you will only be paying taxes on the value of the land. The municipal assessment can take up to 3 years. Therefore, you will eventually be responsible for taxes on the difference between the land value and the house value since the date you took possession of the home. It's a good idea to find out what the property taxes are in the area by contacting the municipality. This way you can budget the right amount of money as soon as you move in. WE Wedding Essentials 20 1 5 | 71

Edible

Art A NAKED WEDDING CAKE IN FULL GLORY

BRIDE & GROOM: Danielle & Sean WEDDING PLANNER: Shaw Events Planning & Design | 905.906.3173 BAKERY: Sweetie Pie’s Bakery | 289.669.0152 FLOWERS: Sue Gallo Designs | 905.902.0238 PHOTO: Alyssa Alkema Photography alyssaalkema.com | 905.536.7810

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Understanding the food lingo APPETIZER: A food or beverage served before a meal to stimulate the appetite. ASPIC: Cold cooked meat, chicken, fish or fruit set in jelled stock. A LA MODE: Served with ice cream. AL DENTE: Refers to cooked pasta that retains its chewiness. AU JUS: Served in its own juice. BARQUETTE: A boat-shaped pastry shell stuffed with sweet or savoury filling. BÉARNAISE SAUCE: A thick sauce for meat, flavoured with tarragon and thyme. BELUGA CAVIAR: The very expensive large roe (fish eggs) of a beluga sturgeon. BISCOTTI: Italian biscuits often almond-flavoured and served with coffee. BLINI: Thin buckwheat pancakes served with caviar and sour cream. BRIOCHE: French cake-like bread with a light texture. BUFFET: A service style in which foods are presented from a serving table. CAESAR SALAD: A salad of greens, served with croutons and a dressing of egg, anchovies, garlic and lemon. CAPPUCCINO: Espresso coffee served with steamed milk and cinnamon. CANAPÉ: An appetizer of small toast points served with a topping. CAVIAR: The ripe eggs of various species of fish. CHAMPAGNE: A sparkling wine from the Champagne region of France. CHUTNEY: A relish made of fruit, vinegar and spices. CONSUMPTION BAR: With this type of bar, you are only billed for the alcohol consumed by your guests.

CREPE: CRUDITE: DIM SUM:

DUCHESSE: EGGS BENEDICT: EMPANADA: ESCARGOT: ESPRESSO: FLAMBÉ: FLAUTA: FOIE GRAS: FONDUE:

FREE-RANGE: FRITTATA: GANACHE: GAZPACHO: GLACÉ: GRAVLAX:

A thin French pancake often rolled with fruit spreads or chocolate cream. Raw vegetables served as an appetizer. Small Chinese dumplings that are stuffed with meat, fish or vegetables, and either steamed, baked or fried. Pastry shells that are filled and served as an appetizer. English muffins toasted and topped with ham, poached eggs and Hollandaise sauce. A half-moon shaped pastry turnover that is filled and fried. Snails that are often cooked in wine, butter and garlic. A strong, dark, bitter Italian coffee. A dish that has been doused in liqueur and is served flaming. A Mexican tortilla shell filled with meat or cheese, rolled and deep-fried. High-quality pate made of finely ground duck and goose liver. Melted cheese mixed with white wine used for dipping bread; also a chocolate version for dipping fruits and cakes. Animals allowed to roam and feed without being confined. A thick, Italian omelet made with vegetables. A chocolate cream with a mousse-like texture. A cold Spanish vegetable soup. Iced or glazed. Fillets of raw salmon that have been marinated, spiced and served with dill and sour cream.

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AN ORNATE WEDDING CAKE DRESSED TO THE NINES

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Understanding the food lingo (continued) HALVA: A candy made from ground sesame seeds. HORS D’OEUVRE: An appetizer served at a party before a meal. J'ICAMA: A Mexican vegetable that is sweet and crispy like a water chestnut. KEBAB: Small pieces of meat and vegetable skewered and charcoal grilled. KNISH: A large baked dumpling filled with potato or cheese. KOSHER: Food prepared in accordance with Jewish dietary laws. LIQUEUR: A sweetened alcoholic drink flavored with fruit. LIQUOR: Distilled spirits including vodka, brandy, rum, gin and whiskey. MOLE: A Mexican sauce made with chicken stock, bananas, corn tortilla, chocolate and chilies. MUTTON: Sheep and goat meat. NAAN: A puffy Indian bread similar to pita. NEGIMAKI: A Japanese dish of thinly sliced beef rolled around scallions in a sweetened soy sauce. NOISETTES: Hazelnuts or meats and vegetable cuts into round small pieces. OPEN BAR: A bar that offers an unlimited, full selection of alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages at no charge to your guests (also called “full-host bar”). PANINI: Rolls or buns. PARFAIT: A dessert of ice cream or pudding alternating with fruit. PATE: A dish of ground fish, meat or vegetables baked in a mold. PHEASANT: A wild game bird that tastes similar to chicken. PHYLLO: Paper-thin layers of dough often used in Greek dishes.

QUAIL: A small game bird. QUICHE: A pastry shell filled with custard and other flavorful ingredients. RISOTTO: An Italian rice dish cooked with a base of onions and broth. RISSOLE: Pastry turnovers stuffed and served hot as appetizers. SALSA: A usually spicy Mexican sauce that combines tomatoes, chilies, onions and lime. SIT-DOWN: A service style in which guests’ meals are presented at the table. SOFT BAR: A bar that offers wine, champagne and sometimes beer. SORBET: Sherbet sometimes served between courses to refresh the palate. STATIONS: Presentation areas where food is prepared for guests, such as sushi, pasta, crepe and carved meat stations. SUSHI: Japanese dish of rice balls topped with wasabi and raw fish. TABLE SERVICE: Formal style of service in which meals are plated and presented table side. TAHINI: Sesame-seed paste used in Arab-style cooking. TARTELLETTE: A small tart. TORTE: A rolled, filled cake or pie. VICHYSSOISE: A cold potato and vegetable soup. WASABI: Japanese horseradish. WONTON: Chinese egg noodle-wrapped appetizer surrounding a flavorful filling. SERVICE ATTIRE: The manner in which the waitstaff dresses; can range from tuxedo shirt and bow tie with black pants and white apron to full tuxedo with white gloves. WE

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reception

Food

TASTY, TANTALIZING AND TRENDY WEDDING CUISINE

Your food choices depend on many factors including your venue, your vision for your wedding and your budget. If your theme is country-rustic, a barbecue might hit exactly the simple and saucy note to accent your celebrations. Are you on a modest food budget? — a chef-shucked oyster bar or chef-sliced prosciutto station probably aren’t a good fit.

FOOD SERVICES Elegantly sophisticated weddings call out for plated dinner service. Wait staff brings the food to guests on individual plates, course by course. Presentation is key, with each menu course garnished and presented with creativity. This food service option requires about 30 minutes per course, so be sure your celebration allows for that. French service is another option, less expensive than plated service because it requires fewer wait staff. Guests are served from platters of food by wait staff at each table. Food stations, interactive or unmanned, are now considered a modern and stylish alternative for weddings, combining the best parts of buffets and sit-down dinners. Often a perfect option for themed weddings, food stations are all about the wow factor, many food choices and only-a-fewbites-sized portions. Buffet service lets guests enjoy a wide variety of food options and also makes it their decision how much they wish to eat. It also encourages guests to meet and mingle which will produce a more casual atmosphere

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than a sit-down meal. It is important that your venue have adequate room for buffet food service and that you tailor the buffet to the number of guests at your wedding. Consider inviting guests by table number to the buffet, rather than having long line-ups and disorganization. Family-style service is part way through the formality spectrum with plated service and buffet at opposite ends. It can be a great ice-breaker as family-sized food dishes are brought to the table and passed from guest to guest.

FOOD CHANGES Caterers are noting changes in requests they are getting from brides and grooms. Tanya Hayles, Event & Marketing Manager, à la Carte Kitchen, observes that “between the Food Network and bloggers, people are now more informed about and interested in the food they serve at their weddings than before. Couples are putting more emphasis on their particular wants and tastes rather than settling for the status quo. Menu requests have become a lot more exotic, so it requires educating people on the style of service and the availability of product.” Pelican Events & Catering’s Kumar Muraleetharan, Certified Chef de Cuisine with a Master in Culinary Arts, finds that “couples are looking for fresh, local and fusion food for their celebrations. Food choices are healthier, with fine food options”. He counsels couples to schedule tastings with different caterers to ensure that the food is the quality they want.

Wedding Wisdom FOOD ADVISORIES It’s essential when discussing food service with potential caterers for your wedding that you ask the exact costs involved for each type of food service you are considering. Prices will vary considerably depending on the degree of staffing, the amount of food and other factors. Be sure to ask about the other fees associated with catering. Tanya Hayles advises asking caterers about “venue landmark fees that are venue-mandated charges but are reflected on the catering bill. They are usually 15% on menu, staffing and/or rentals and may also include the bar service. Also, ask caterers if they customize menus to each event. Do they allow certain components to be handled by the couple, for example, wedding cake or late night stations?” Kumar Muraleetharan counsels brides and grooms to ensure that caterers have “professional food knowledge and proper licencing and are following food health and safety standards. Ask them where they source their food/supplies. Where is the food cooked? Do they have licensed bartenders/licence for serving food?"

STATIONS PLEASE One of the most enjoyable parts of wedding planning is choosing the food. The late night food stations are great places for expressing your personality and releasing your inner foodie...be that food fun-loving or food fabulous-formal! On the fun side of the scale, think mini — mini sliders, hot dogs, tacos, pizza, corn dogs, grilled-cheese sandwiches, savoury cupcakes, Chinese “take-out” morsels or sushi. Cheese, both domestic and imported, and fruit stations are always hits, as is a savoury amuse-bouche station with artfully prepared bitesized food portions. Sweet sensation stations could be funnel cakes, s’mores, candy, crêpes, waffles, pies or a make-your-own ice cream sundae bar. Memories of childhood are evoked with a mini-cookie and milk station. A dessert amuse-bouche station will entice and enchant wedding guests as will a dessert shot station; almost any dessert can be elevated to a dessert shot by serving it in short glasses.

CAKE CRUMBS More than ever, couples’ decisions for wedding cakes are expressing their individual personalities and the tone set for their celebrations. Some wedding planners note that naked wedding cakes is the ontrend choice, especially for foodies. Although their name suggests being bare and unadorned, that’s really not the case. The sides of the cakes do not have coverings, but frostings or fillings peek out tantalizingly between layers. Embellished with natural elements like flowers, cinnamon bark or pine cones and fir sprigs, naked cakes proudly flaunt their stuff. An added appeal for some folks is the simplicity of serving the wedding cake...it appears on the plate looking exactly as it did on display. At the other end of the spectrum is the return of the highly elegant wedding cake. Christine Hasler of Custom Made Wedding Cakes observes that an emerging trend with her brides and grooms is the sophisticated look of “cakes featuring lots of texture, including lace, frills, draping, damask and the glow of gold and silver leaf. Also trending are lots of handmade sugar flowers, particularly in lush cascades, and and tall cakes where the individual tiers are much higher than they ever used to be”. WE

Love all around ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR BRIDAL PARTY

ou may never have written as many cards in your whole life as you will do over the course of your wedding preparations! It is imperative that you don’t forget the thank you cards. Good manners dictate that you send a thank you for each engagement party and bridal shower gift you receive, as well as for each wedding gift. Be sure your engagement and shower cards are mailed prior to your wedding date, or you’ll be drowning in paperwork after your honeymoon. (The upside is that if you keep good records, you’ll have a terrific Christmas card list for years to come!)

A gift for him? Sometimes, a smitten groom will surprise his bride with a small token of love either the night before or the morning of the wedding. Similarly, it is not unknown for the bride to do the same for her groom. As simple as a card telling him how much you’re looking forward to seeing him at the altar, to a bottle of his favourite cologne he can wear that day or even something more expensive like an engraved watch—the choice (and thus, his heart) is yours. WE Wedding Essentials 20 1 5 | 77

a real-life wedding

Jennifer & Kyle FROM A TROPICAL PROPOSAL TO A WINTRY ONTARIO WEDDING A mutual friend brought Jennifer Da Silva and Kyle Landry together; it was his 21st birthday when they met. Little did he know then that the young woman he went with on a moviedate that evening would give him the gift of a lifetime...true love. From that first date, they were inseparable.

CARIBBEAN PROPOSAL It was Kyle’s plan to propose to Jennifer at the end of their stay during a vacation in the Dominican Republic, but his “excitement took over and the proposal took place on night number two”. He tried to convince Jennifer to join him for a late-night walk on the beach but she didn’t want to because it was “too dark and creepy”. So he put Plan B into action. Poolside, he asked her to stand up; she thought he was going to try to throw her in the pool. Many guarantees later that he had no intention of doing so, she got to her feet. After telling her how much he loved her, Kyle asked Jennifer to marry him.

THE GIRLS’ GOWNS Jennifer confides that when she tried on the gown she chose she “fell in love with it and didn’t want to take it off”! The A-line dress had a unique sweetheart bust line and corset top detailed with Swarovski crystals. Her choice for her bridal attendants was a soft grey/blue cornflower hue. “All the girls looked absolutely amazing” in the flowing chiffon gowns. White muffs and stoles were stylish - and warm - accessories for the outdoor wedding shoot.

PHOTOS: STUDIO60 PHOTOGRAPHY

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WEDDING WOWS The bride’s day started with a touching experience: Kyle had the gift of an iPad delivered to Jennifer while she was getting ready. He had recorded a video the night before, telling her how much he loved her and how excited he was to marry her. In keeping with the winter wedding theme, gifts to the groomsmen were snowflake cufflinks. Jennifer opted for a sparkling, icy-looking brooch bouquet rather than flowers because of the winter setting. She walked up the aisle to a saxophone playing Kenny G’s The Wedding Song. Kyle relates that he “immediately had a meltdown. So much anticipation leading up to that moment, and when I saw her, I was just so overwhelmed with emotion in an absolutely amazing way. That is a feeling and a memory that I will never forget”. Jennifer’s view of her groom, waiting at the other end of the church, was a “very special time. And seeing family and friends together in one room was wonderful. Just knowing how much support we have was a very humbling feeling that can’t be put into words”.

FABULOUS FOOD Guests dined on a cold-weather menu of Caldo Verde Soup Portuguese green soup with kale, potatoes and chorizo sausage, garganelli pasta, agnolotti stuffed with ricotta cheese and spinach, filet Mignon and roasted chicken breast accented with a fiery Piri Piri marinade. A warm apple blossom with French Vanilla ice cream drizzled with butterscotch sauce was a decadent finish to the meal. The midnight seafood buffet was a lavish treat. In a nod to Jennifer’s cultural background, it was a Portuguese-style seafood extravaganza. A funnel cake station was another gustatory hit with guests.

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a real-life wedding FROSTY RECEPTION Jennifer had always dreamt about a “winter wedding with sparkle and elegance”. Snowflakes and white branches helped create the frosty wonderland vision. Décor colours were sparkling silver, blue and white, like snow caught in moonlight. Towering Pilsner vases holding white birch twigs anchored in artificial snow were dramatic centrepieces. The couple wanted the celebration to be unique and personalized for their guests and, judging from guest comments about how much they loved all the special details, the mission was accomplished! The couple’s first dance was to A Thousand Years, Pt. 2, Christina Perri (featuring Steve Kazee). Fittingly, the lyrics include “The day we met, frozen I held my breath, right from the start”.

HOT HONEYMOON After the frosty nuptials, Jennifer and Kyle jetted to the Riviera Maya in Mexico. There were two reasons for its selection - they hadn’t been there before and it was “somewhere hot!” Their honeymoon was an active one with an Edventure tour that included exploring the Mayan ruins, zip lining, ATVing, interacting with sea turtles and swimming in magical subterranean cenotes, natural pools formed in limestone bedrock. WE

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Picking a diamond

hen looking for a diamond you should forget about cut, colour, clarity and carat, commonly known as the four Cs. Focus instead on price, to ensure you do not overspend. Only then should you consider the four Cs—using the following guidelines.

• Most people should buy a stone in the G/H range. These will appear “white” to the untrained eye. However, if the stone will be set in a yellow-gold mount, consider a stone that is slightly yellow in colour. It will look white.

CLARITY CUT • The cut is the hardest to judge for the average person but it’s the most important thing. • Search for a stone that looks good face-up. The more sparkle and “fire,” the better the cut. Caution: Avoid diamonds that have spots where no light comes through.

• Stones range from F (flawless) to I3 (included/imperfect). Hint: Don’t spend big bucks on clarity if it cannot be seen • SI-1 is a high enough grade for most buyers. • If the imperfection is off to one side, have your jeweller design the setting so that the flaw is hidden.

COLOUR

CARAT

• Colours range from D (colourless) to Z (yellow). (“Fancy” colours are a different category.)

• Bigger is more expensive. • “Magic” sizes are the most expensive

(.75 ct, 1 ct etc.). Caution: Be careful when considering one of these sizes. Some jewellers will cut too deep in order to produce a diamond of this size. • Size isn't everything. The average person can't tell the difference between .9 and 1 ct. WE

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Free book means less stress when you plan your big day

Planning a formal wedding can cause stress in the most serene of women. But you can plan yours with a minimum of frayed nerves, thanks to this FREE book from Wedding Essentials. The Brideâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Survival Guide gives you detailed instructions on planning every aspect of your big day. This 128-page manual (a $39.95 value) offers insider advice on the engagement, the advance preparations, the budget, the ceremony, the reception, the honeymoon, and your first home together. You get tips on saving money, answers to your etiquette questions, solutions to tough family problems, and ideas on how to make your wedding unique. Plus ... we show you how to get the best deals from suppliers. Without sacrificing quality. This unique manual has helped more than 70,000 Ontario brides over the past 20 years. Let us send you your own personal FREE copy. Mail the postpaid request card opposite this page. Or complete the form on-line at www.weddingessentials.ca. Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll be pleased to help you remain calm every step of the way to the altar.

www.weddingessentials.ca Your wedding. Your vision. Your choice.

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Floral

WEDDING WHITES & DREAMY PASTELS, PERENNIALLY POPULAR PICKS

Fantasy

BRIDE: Tracie Dlouhy FLORIST: Forest of Flowers | 1.855.680.2529 PHOTO: Alicia Riley Photography | aliciariley.com | 226.268.0430 84 | Wedding Essentials 2015

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BRIDE: Christina FLOWERS: Heavenly Creation Florist & Decor | 416.787.1973 PHOTO: Fiore Productions | 416.910.6317

FLOWERS: Fran Sackler Floral Designs | fsflorals.com | 905.884.5848

BRIDE & GROOM: Julie & Donald FLOWERS: Heavenly Creation Florist & Decor | 416.787.1973 PHOTO: Fiore Productions | 416.910.6317

BOUQUET: Timeless Button Bouquets, Australia | +61.433.322 375

FLOWERS: Tim Clarkâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Flowers | timclarksflowers.com | 905.294.2651

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What to ask your florist THE KEY QUESTIONS: • • • • • • • • • • • •

Can you show me pictures or samples of your work? I want to bring in colour swatches for you to work with. Is this a problem? Do you require a deposit? How much? When is the balance due? Are you familiar with our ceremony and reception sites? Do you foresee problems at either? Can you co-ordinate the flowers for the wedding party, mothers and special guests? Do you deliver? At what cost? What do your services include? Do you provide other decorating services? Do you provide rental services? Can you preserve my bouquet or can you recommend someone? What is the cost? Will you set up the flowers at the ceremony and reception sites? Does this cost extra? What is your cancellation policy? WE

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inspiration

PETAL

Points

BY C A R O L I N E E S T R E L L A

One of the most enjoyable parts of wedding planning is selecting the flowers for your celebrations, from the flowers at pre-wedding events to ceremony flowers. Seeing your visions of the perfect bridal bouquet come to life, as well as flowers for attendants and cherished family and friends is magical. Flowers also help create and reinforce reception décor and theme.

PLANTING SEEDS Your first step should be exploring. Page through bridal magazines, surf the web, peruse books and visit flower shops, conservatories and greenhouses. If you love orchids, attend an orchid show — you’ll be amazed by the variety of shapes, sizes and colours that exist.

THE BUDS Ah, the budget! Like all flowering plants, you need to keep firmly grounded. Set your flower budget for each component of your wedding. When you meet with florists, be upfront about what you plan to spend. Wedding florists have a wealth of knowledge about what can be achieved within varying budgets.

TIMING Popular wedding florists are booked early; most accept a certain number of bookings per day. You would be well advised to select your florist a minimum of six months before your wedding, and preferably earlier.

FASHION FIRST Choose your bridal gown first and then your bridal bouquet. The style, fabric, colour and length of your gown will all impact your bridal bouquet choice. If your silhouette is figurehugging or your dress is short, don’t overpower it with a huge bouquet. The key is to complement your bridal gown, flatter your figure and express your personality.

SHAPE & DETAILS What type of bouquet works for you? A round and formal bouquet, or a cascade and trailing bouquet? Flowers all of one colour or in an array of shades? Many flowers or a very few large ones? Are you going to incorporate greens, ribbons, crystal or pearl accents? Keepsake mementos?

ENJOY THE PROCESS Be true to yourself and to your wedding vision as you embrace the world of flowers in planning your celebration. WE

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WHEN

WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHERS

y r r a M

HOW THE PROS CHOOSE THEIR WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHERS FOR FOREVER IMAGES B Y J U DY J O H N S O N

Ever wonder how wedding photographers go about choosing the photographers who will capture the images of their special day? Leading Ontario photographers who married a few months ago share how they made that important decision.

JULIAN & KELLY MONIZ JULIAN MONIZ PHOTOGRAPHER JULIANMONIZ.COM WEDDING PHOTOS BY

Davina Palik & Daniel Kudish Davina + Daniel | Davinaplusdaniel.com

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photography “Your story is unique. Find a photographer who is passionate about what he/she does, someone who will document your story — someone who cares to get to know you. This will make a huge difference on your wedding day.” WEDDING ESSENTIALS: What were the key factors in choosing your wedding photographers? JULIAN & KELLY: Personality and comfort. Style, vision and professionalism. Their ability to capture the perfect moments. One big one, for us, was trust - being able to let go and have trust in them to do a great job. WE: Did you ask for specific images to be shot? JULIAN & KELLY: Absolutely not. We wanted Davina + Daniel to have complete creative control. WE: Was it difficult to be in front of the lens rather than behind it? JULIAN & KELLY: We originally weren’t sure how we would handle it, but to be honest, it wasn’t difficult at all. Once you have photographers you trust it’s easy to let go. We’d say the only difficult part was realizing the day was about us and not another couple. WE: What did you learn from being the people being photographed rather than the photographers, that you would like to share with couples planning their weddings? JULIAN & KELLY: One big thing that you don’t know until you actually experience your wedding day, is that you have to let everything go and enjoy the day. We made a pact that we would enjoy every second and deal with anything that went amiss another day. We learned to be in the moment, to try not to let little things distract us, so we could focus on what the day was all about. Instead of focusing on your surroundings during the photoshoot, focus on each other. This will bring out the love you have for one another in the photo rather than both of you just standing in a pretty location. Hire a photographer who cares not only about you two, but also about your story and your love. We are so grateful that our photographers, Davina + Daniel, captured not only us but also our friends and families and their personalities on our wedding day — as well as moments we will not forget — some that we don’t remember or didn’t see. WE: Other things to remember when selecting photographers? JULIAN & KELLY: Your photographers are with you more than anyone else on the day of your wedding, so make sure you find someone you are comfortable with and has a similar personality to you. Photographers post the pictures they want you to see, their “Best Of” but look at more than just photographers’ websites — ask to see a full wedding. This will give you a clearer picture of their style. It’s a business and you are receiving a service. Be sure your photographers know how to run a business. Service is key and you want this from your first meeting right through to picking out your albums. It's important not just in communication, but also in delivery of your photos, any requests you may have and overall professionalism. WE: How far in advance did you book your photographer? JULIAN: Actually this is a funny story...I told Davina + Daniel they would be shooting our wedding two months before I proposed to Kelly! But we officially contacted them to book them right after the proposal...they were among the first to know we were getting married.

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JULIAN & KELLY’S LOVE NOTES THE ROAD TO THE AISLE When Julian met Kelly twelve years ago, he was immediately smitten, but she was in another relationship. He was introduced to her through Kelly’s sister and his uncle who are now married. He often told her sister to tell Kelly that he thought she was beautiful and that one day he would marry her! Julian even told his mother that one day Kelly would be his wife. “And sure enough, my wish came true.” This very patient and persistent gentleman waited nine years for a first date; the couple went for lunch together. They both knew that “this was it!”. Julian shares that everything he thought of her was true — “she was beautiful, sweet, loving and perfect for me. And let’s face it, she couldn’t resist my charm...LOL!” Kelly confirms that he was totally charming, and irresistible, “charming, handsome, funny, a perfect gentleman, making me feel like the only woman around. We can honestly say that we have that once-in-a-lifetime love. We dated for a year and half before Julian proposed and now, after almost three years of being together, we are married, deeper in love and happier than ever.”

LOCATION, LOCATION Julian and Kelly married in late summer in Cascais, a village near Lisbon on the Estoril Coast of Portugal. The lighthouses and citadels of its past stand sentry here. Known as a place where even magic can be possible, Cascais is rich in history and scenery. Portugal was a natural because “it’s absolutely stunning and it’s where both of our families come from. We chose Cascais on a website search for a beautiful place to be married and booked the venue without even seeing it in person”. WE

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The Engagement & Wedding Rings

plain iron hoop was the forerunner of today’s wedding ring. The old Roman tradition was to give a ring as a symbol of the cycle of life and eternity. The ring also served as a public pledge that the marriage contract between man and woman would be honoured. If you are like 85 percent of all Canadian brides, you’ll receive a diamond engagement ring. The average weight is about half a carat (47 points). Diamonds are popular here. Canada has the highest acquisition rate for diamond engagement rings in the entire world. It’s not essential to have an engagement ring, however. Some couples prefer to save money by combining the engagement ring and wedding ring into one. If that’s your choice, go for a wider band set with a solitaire or inset with many small diamonds. Or forego diamonds entirely and choose a larger coloured stone such as a ruby, amethyst, sapphire or emerald. Such variations are particularly popular for second marriages. In searching for the right ring it’s best to seek out a jeweller who has been in business for some time. Ask your friends and relatives whom they would recommend. Wherever you buy your ring, have the stone certified by an independent appraiser. If the jewellery store does not have a qualified appraiser on staff, make an independent appraisal a condition of sale and have it noted right on the bill. Know how much you want to spend before you start shopping. The diamond industry says that an engagement ring should cost about two months’ salary, but you should spend an amount that you can be comfortable with. Look at the rings offered by several stores before you make a choice. Don’t be pressured. If you cannot afford the ring you’d really like, you have three choices. (1) Choose a larger stone of lesser quality. (2) Buy a fake until you can afford the real thing. (3) Wait. As you compare stones, record the gemologist’s designation for each one. Check out various colours and grades but try to compare stones of similar size, colour and clarity grade. Then compare for price. Ask about the store’s policies regarding returns, guarantees and warranties. If your boyfriend is buying the ring without input from you, remind him to ask the jeweller to note right on the bill that the sale is conditional on you having the right to exchange it if you are not happy with the choice. The document should be signed and dated. For insurance purposes, the bill of sale will also need to show details of the purchase, including the weight, colour, clarity, size and cost. WE

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Videography

any couples decide to videotape their wedding as an afterthought—long after they've interviewed and booked the photographer who will take the still collection of their big day. Because so many people today own digital equipment, you might be tempted to ask an uncle or neighbour to do the videotaping. But nowadays, wedding videos have become as important as photographs. They are a wonderful addition to your collection of memories. To ensure they capture the mood and emotions of the day with the visual quality, artistry and humour you desire, it pays to plan ahead and hire a professional to do the job. For friends and family who cannot attend your wedding, a video is the next best thing to being there. You supply friends and family with a password and they can view your wedding from anywhere in the world where there is internet access. Some videographers capture your childhood years and engagement period using a montage of still photographs at the start of the video. Others produce a brief video of the ceremony which can be shown at the wedding reception as part of their overall package. Often the videographer actually consists of a team of two or three people using wireless microphones, low-light cameras and other specialized equipment. They can be on the scene wherever events are taking place, indoors and outdoors.

PHOTO AND VIDEO CHECKLIST Before the Ceremony • Bride alone in dress • Bride touching up makeup or adjusting veil • Bride with mother • Bride with father • Bride with maid or matron of honour • Bride with bridesmaids • Bride with both parents • Bride putting on garter or placing penny in shoe • Everybody getting their flowers • Bride leaving house • Bride and father getting into the car • Groom alone • Groom with best man, shaking hands, looking at his watch • Groom and ushers putting on boutonnieres • Groom with his parents • Groom leaving for the ceremony • Moments dressing At the Ceremony • Guests arriving • Bride getting out of car • Groom’s parents being seated, or in procession • Usher escorting guests • Groom and groomsmen at the altar • The processional • Bride starting down the aisle • The altar and decorations • Giving-away ceremony • Bride and groom exchanging vows • Ring ceremony • The kiss • Bride and groom coming up the aisle • The recessional • Bride and groom with officiant

• Bride and groom outside with guests • Bride and groom getting into the car • Bride and groom looking through rear car window Before the Reception • The couple together • Bride and groom with all the attendants • Bride and groom with their individual attendants • Bride and groom with child attendants • Bride and groom with her parents • Bride and groom with his parents • Both families together At the Reception • Bride and groom getting out of the car • Bride and groom making a grand entrance. • The couple greeting guests in the receiving line • Guests signing the guest book • Bride and groom dancing • Bride and her father dancing • Groom dancing with his mother • Bride dancing with her father-in-law • Groom dancing with his mother-in-law • Both sets of parents dancing • Bridesmaids and ushers dancing • Guests dancing • The sweets table • Bride and groom cutting the cake • The couple feeding cake to each other • Bride and groom receiving toasts • Buffet tables • The bridal party’s table • The parents’ table • The musicians/entertainment • Bride tossing the bouquet • Groom tossing the garter. WE

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NeatStuff KiKi Maple Sweet Water CELEBRATE WITH A UNIQUE DRINK Treat your wedding guests to a local, healthy and refreshingly different beverage. KiKi Maple Sweet Water is at once as old as history and as new as spring. The beverage is made of 100% pure Canadian maple sap and natural flavours. Nutrient dense, this low-cal drink touts prebiotics, organic acids and antioxidants.

Love Stories & Dear Future Me Journals CREATE LASTING KEEPSAKES Love Stories Anniversary & Relationship Journal is designed with prompts to help couples appreciate their journey together. Over a 25 year period, you choose a special anniversary and journal your memories and stories of the last twelve months, with hopes and dreams for the year ahead. Dear Future Me from you to me journal of a lifetime is a tool to help personal development, strengthen relationships and resolve problems. Answering dozens of questions like who are the 7 people you would struggle to live without or what has being in love taught you about yourself encourage focusing on achieving dreams and goals.

Filtered by nature through the root systems of maple trees, the delicately-flavoured KiKi Sweet Water is a versatile choice. Whether for guest favours, for all ages to enjoy while partying, or as a base for signature cocktails, the product provides many vitamins, minerals and electrolytes needed for hydration. Four flavours are available: maple cranberry, maple blueberry, apple strawberry and maple. Ed. Comment: Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not to like about a beverage

Ed. Comment: These thought-provoking journals would make great gifts for yourself or others. They provide an excellent framework for productive journaling.

that is good for you, tastes good and is subtle enough to multi-task?...works for me on all levels.

Philips goLITE BLUE GET ENERGIZED WITH BLUE LIGHT Studies show that blue light from the summer sky helps us be active and energetic and improves our moods. The problem is that here in Canada, there are months in which we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t get a lot of sunshine and even more months where we might not be getting enough blue light to be effective. Philips has introduced goLITE BLUE energy lights, portable light therapy devices to help increase energy levels naturally as well as to aid in fighting jet lag and winter blues. The compact devices use LED technology. Various easy-on-the-eyes light intensity levels, ultra-light weight and rechargeable battery as well as a treatment time indicator to monitor daily usage are features of this innovative product line. Ed. Comment: The small footprint of this product makes it easy to place on a task-laden desk or fit into luggage when away from home, making it ideal for daily use. WE

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Setting the mood

nhance the mood at any reception with beautiful lighting. Find out the options at your venue. Beyond dimmer switches and table candles, can they bring in light fixtures to add an extra glow? Some venues will hang chandeliers, and some may allow you to bring in lanterns or strings of globes to hang which will create a soft yet exciting party atmosphere. WE

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Canada REVENUE SAYING “I DO” RINGS in many changes, including marital status change details that need to be taken care of by contacting the Canada Revenue Agency. Here are bases you need to cover when you are planning your wedding or are a newlywed; consider this a primer on how to make the changes with the CRA.

NAME CHANGES Unlike social media, CRA doesn’t accept names changes via hashtag. Call 1.800.959.8281 or update your status on the CRA’s My Account service or by submitting Form RC65 (Marital Status Change) which you will find online at www.cra.gc.ca/forms.

A Newlyweds’ Guide to Changing It Up

CRA will guide you through making an address change, claiming the First-Time Home Buyer’s Tax Credit, or accounting for expenses related to the business use of your home. Go to www.cra.gc.ca/myhome for complete information for homeowners.

SPOUSAL RRSPS AND MORE On the Life Events page also find out about spousal Registered Retirement Savings Plans and other information such as if you are blending your families, what you need to do to receive or change the Canada child tax benefit payments.

JOINT BANK ACCOUNTS TAX MATTERS Check out changes to your tax situation that marriage can cause by visiting the CRA’s Life Events page for detailed information. If you are buying a home together or moving into a new place, the

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Opening a joint bank account with your new spouse? Don’t forget to update your direct deposit information to make sure your benefits and refunds go to the right place. For more info, check out www.cra.gc.ca/directdeposit.

MY SPOUSE, MY TAX REP Did you know that you can authorize your spouse to act as your representative for income tax matters, if taxes aren’t your strong suit? Then she/he can file your return for you or contact CRA to make enquiries on your behalf. The Authorize My Representative service can be done online in My Account or by submitting Form T1013 (Authorizing or Cancelling a Representative).

NEW APP FOR BUSINESS OWNERS If you or your spouse own a small or medium-sized business, the new CRA Business Tax Reminders app, available free of charge on Apple iOS, Google Android, and Blackberry mobile platforms, allows you to create reminders and alerts for key CRA due dates, such as installment payments, returns, remittances, and other tax-related business matters, helping make sure you don’t incur interest or penalties. WE

Wedding Wisdom

Marry your honeymoon and your wedding

ncreasingly popular, a weddingmoon is the name for a destination wedding where you marry and honeymoon in the same location. You combine the best of both worlds and save costs by having your proverbial wedding cake and eating it, too. Foregoing the elaborate ceremony at home, a wedding can be just the couple, a some core family members, or a large group of friends excited for a week-long beach party. Locations are chosen from all over the world, from five-star, all-inclusive resorts to white-water rafting and camping in the rough. For the couple who think planning a wedding isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t right for them, a weddingmoon can be a stress-free way to celebrate, relax and focus on each other. By rolling the wedding and honeymoon into one, you can see how the significant cost savings are appealing to a growing number of brides and grooms. WE

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The Countdown Calendar

our Wedding Day should be exciting, memorable and romantic. But it will only happen if you plan things carefully and allow enough time for everything. Here are some recommendations about when things should be done, that have been reprinted from The Bride’s Survival Guide which is available free of charge from Wedding Essentials by completing the card on page 83 of this magazine. Use this list as a general guideline that you can adapt in any way you choose:

TWELVE TO 24 MONTHS BEFORE • Select wedding date and time. • Make a preliminary budget and determine how costs will be shared. • Determine size of guest list, degree of formality and theme. • Determine who will officiate at the ceremony and book him/her for rehearsal and wedding. • Select caterer and/or reception location. • Hire a wedding consultant if you plan to use one.

SIX TO 12 MONTHS BEFORE • • • • • • • • • • • •

Start compiling guest list. Determine colour scheme. Select bridal attendants and determine sizes. Choose your dress and headpiece. Schedule fittings and delivery date. Choose bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories. Have fiancé select best man and ushers. Select photographer, videographer and entertainment. Choose ceremony music. Select florist, balloonist, fireworks, ice sculpture. Book transportation for wedding day. Announce engagement in newspaper. Shop for wedding rings.

FOUR MONTHS BEFORE • • • • •

Have mothers co-ordinate and select dresses. Register at bridal registries. Order invitations and personal stationery. Complete guest lists. Select men’s attire and reserve right sizes.

• Start planning honeymoon. • Start planning for trousseau. • Order wedding cake and groom’s cake if required. • Order favours (bomboniere).

TWO MONTHS BEFORE • Address invitations and announcements. Mail four to six weeks before. • Finalize details with caterer/reception location, photographer, videographer, florist, DJ/musicians, band. • Finalize ceremony details with officiant. • Make rehearsal arrangements. • Plan rehearsal dinner. • Plan bridesmaids’ luncheon, if appropriate. • Make appointments with hairdresser and make up artist. • Arrange accommodations for out-of-town guests. • Finalize honeymoon plans.

ONE MONTH BEFORE • Have final fitting for your gown and those of bridal attendants. • Obtain marriage licence. • Provide map to ceremony and reception to all guests. • Have formal portrait taken. • Purchase gifts for attendants, participants and fiancé. • Have bridesmaids’ luncheon. • Keep careful note of gifts received and write thank-you notes as they come in. • Do inventory of accessories. Examples: Toasting goblets. Ring pillow. Garter. Candles. • Select responsible person to oversee guest list and its location.

ONE WEEK BEFORE • Contact guests who have not responded. • Give final count to hotel, banquet hall or caterer. • Review details and timetables with vendors. • Give photographer/videographer list of shots you want. • Give DJ/musicians list of music for ceremony and reception. • Plan seating arrangements. • Practice having your hair done to make sure it comes out the way you want. • Practice your makeup in lighting conditions similar to those on your wedding day. • Keep writing those thank-you notes. • Pack for the honeymoon. • Check -that you have marriage licence. • Check that you have wedding rings and that they fit. • Check that all wedding attire fits and is picked up. • Have a rehearsal with all participants reviewing their duties. • Give officiant’s fee to best man. • Pick up tickets and traveler’s cheques for honeymoon.

ON YOUR WEDDING DAY • • • • •

TWO WEEKS BEFORE

Eat something. Otherwise you might feel faint. Take a relaxing bath. Get your hair and nails done. Allow time to prepare makeup. Start dressing 1-1/2 hours before ceremony, two hours before if photographs are to be taken. • Start music 30 minutes before ceremony. • Seat groom’s parents five minutes before ceremony. Your mother is seated immediately before the processional and the aisle runner is rolled up.

• Attend to business and legal affairs. Examples: Name change on driver’s licence and credit cards. Make a will. • Move possessions and gifts to new address. Arrange with Canada Post to have mail forwarded. • Finish addressing announcements to be mailed on wedding day.

• Send announcements and wedding picture to newspapers. • Mail announcements. • Write and mail thank-you notes. • Arrange for gown, bouquet and/or cake preservation. WE

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...Dazzle and Delight BY A L I C I A S T E WA R T FIRE... Newlyweds have been saying â&#x20AC;&#x153;I doâ&#x20AC;? to fireworks for centuries. The first recorded use of fireworks in England was for the wedding of King Henry VII to Elizabeth of York in 1486. Chrysanthemums, peonies, palm trees, Italian butterflies and intertwined hearts are only a sampling of the fireworks bridal couples can select for WOW moments at their wedding celebrations.

BE REALISTIC With all the special effects used in movies and television, couples sometimes have unrealistic expectations. This is where the experience and expertise of your fireworks supplier is very valuable - explaining what can work with your venue and what cannot.

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SHORT & STUNNING Longer isn’t necessarily better. Experts in wedding fireworks recommend the display be anywhere from 3 minutes to a maximum of about 7 minutes. If you have a large budget for fireworks, it might be possible to see exactly what your display will look like using fireworks visualization software.

SPARKLING ADVICE If fireworks are a priority for you, be extremely venue-conscious. For example, there might be restrictions on setting off fireworks from a parking lot outside an urban venue. Venues with large expanses of outdoor space work best for fireworks; country clubs, vineyards, lakefront properties and rural settings usually have the necessary acreage. Established wedding fireworks companies book up quickly so be sure to start the process of selecting a supplier early. It’s also essential that all the municipal permits have been obtained well ahead of time. You might assume that fireworks can be set off from any dock in cottage country, but that isn’t accurate. Check that the supplier will arrange for the necessary permits, that they have adequate liability insurance, that they will meet with the venue staff to be sure that enough space is available and that other concerns are dealt with well in advance. What is the accreditation of your supplier’s pyrotechnicians? Can you see references from bridal couples who have used their services recently?

INDOOR PYROTECHNICS Indoor pyrotechnics can be sensational effects for specific parts of the reception, such as the first dance or the entrance of the bride and groom. When considering indoor pyrotechnics, be sure your vision is achievable. It's not possible just to downsize rock concert pyro for a smaller venue and budget. Regulations are in place that help ensure security and safety for all concerned, including your guests. Choose a reputable company to do your display. Be sure you choose a venue that can accommodate what you imagine. You don’t want to set off fire alarms or sprinklers. You will also need a minimum amount of space between the fireworks and the nearest guest. Work closely with the supplier, wedding planner and venue to be sure there are no negative surprises at the last moment. WE

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Just the right fit

ou will probably require three-fittings the initial fitting when your dress arrives, the second to correct any mistakes and a third to ensure that the gown fits perfectly. The final fitting takes place close to your wedding day. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be shocked if you find that you have gained or lost weight during the hectic wedding planning period. When having your gown fitted, be sure to wear the same undergarments or foundation garments that you plan to wear the day of your wedding. These items can be just as important to the fit of your gown as the alterations. Aptly named, they are the foundation that you build on to make your gown fit perfectly, allowing you to look your very best. Some gowns require particular undergarments to fit and look great. Your bridal salon will be able to give you guidance here. If your body type is difficult to address in fitting a gown properly, consider selecting a wedding gown with a corset tieback. This fit feature reduces alteration costs and increases the comfort of your gown. Bring the shoes you will be wearing or shoes with the same heel height to the salon. Be forewarned: donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be shocked if your wedding gown is a size or two bigger than your usual dress size. Wedding gowns generally run smaller than regular wardrobe sizes. If your dress looks great, dont worry about size; thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s just a number. WE

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