MY QUEEN KING by LMP THE REVIEW MAGAZINE

Valentine’s Day WE LOVE YOU!

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Celebrating Love

HARMONY IN LOVE

FROM THE DESK OF JAMES & NATASHA KING

Love, what is it? Marriage, who wants it? Partnership, who needs it? While you may not be able to answer these questions so readily, perhaps you can render an immediate response to the question Have you ever desired at least one of them? It’s our sincere belief that these components are not only desirable, but essential. The more compelling argument is how one necessitates the other.

Though we are a young couple, we’ve wholeheartedly adopted principles that aren’t necessarily relative to time, but to wisdom. If we understand wisdom to be a gift that only God can give, we cherish it. Wisdom, like the conductor of a symphonic orchestra, directs with precision, all the elements of Love, Marriage, and Partnership into one piece – Perfect Harmony. Through our personal journey, and the observation and study of many, we have discovered how intentionally working towards perfect harmony within the home is the very baton that blends together every difference, making it part of a whole.

The harmony in which a couple functions in conditions a progressive growth that moves them toward a shared vision. The attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors in this type of household favorably impacts every outlet from how resources are pursued and used to how children are developed.

We are proud to feature couples that make the concept of partnership look attractive a show that the investment in making it work is worthwhile. We hope that you are inspired by their stories, and moved to action towards a better you for a more purposeful relationship whether now or for the future.

My love for you is unconditional and enduring. To you I promise to always be reassuring.

My love for you protects you and is honorable. To you I promise to always be faithful.

My love for you is understanding and passionate.

To you I promise to always be compassionate.

My love for you is thoughtful and cherishing. To you I promise to always be devoted and caring.

My love for you is patient and kind.

To you I promise this always until the end of time.

My love for you is selfless and forgiving.

To you I promise this always, for as long as I am living.

My love for you is devoted and encouraging.

To you I promise to always listen and never be detouring.

I promise to show you, my wife, that I love you in all that I do. I can promise these things because with all of my heart I love you.

The first time I looked in your eyes, I could picture our children in my head. I could see our life laid out before us, And I knew we’d have a happily ever after.

Thanks for being the most wonderful wife I could ever have asked for, And thank you for being the best mother To our child I could have dreamed of.

You are my best friend, my lover, my everything. I am so blessed to have you in my life. You bring so much joy and love into my world. I want to celebrate you every day. I want you to know how truly special you are to me. You’re the only one for me baby!

You are an amazing wife and my best friend. I am so happy to be married to you! You bring so much love in to my life every day and I can’t wait for many more years together!

Dear Lord, Thank you for my wife.

Thank you for the privilege of walking hand in hand on life’s journey with her. I pray that you would be like a cloak of love around her shoulders, that your truth would guide her every step, and that your hope would leap out of each new breath she takes. Come Lord and enfold her, lift her and guide her into goodness and grace. Each day may I know that you are with us, you are at work in our union and you are weaving your Kingdom into our lives.

Amen.

Dear Father, I love my wife; she is a gift and a treasure to me. I pray that you would follow my wife with goodness and blessing. Fill her with joy in the good times we share. Shower her with good gifts as she gives out to others. Hear her when she cries out in prayer. You love her more, she’s your child and precious to you. Please keep my wife safe in your care.

Amen.

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COMMUNICATION

James & Natasha King

AVOID CRAFTINESS : If you find yourself letting a conversation brew well before it actually takes place, where you craft the other person’s responses, you are unnecessarily tampering with your emotions. Avoid being emotionally disturbed and viewing the other person inappropriately because of comments you’ve developed in your own mind. Allow the other person to communicate with you in their own truth.

Consider these seven habits as you establish and/or grow your relationships.

LISTEN WITHOUT CONDEMNATION: Whenever you are engaging in a conversation, remember that the other person trusts you enough to share with you with no fear of judgement. Even if you don’t say anything that is viewed as judgmental during the conversation, guard your thoughts against judgement. Not doing so could impact your thoughts, feelings, or actions towards them later on.

USE WORDS WITH NO COATING : At times, you may feel as if you cannot be completely truthful because you fear that you will hurt them. When this happens, you may find yourself sprinkling sugar over your words to avoid telling the whole truth. Coating your words can be misleading for them and restricting for you. There is a way to use your words wisely, and still be completely truthful.

BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR WORDS : Being that opportunities wrapped in a particular set of circumstances do not present themselves more than once, you must choose your words wisely. Justifying what you say using, “I just have to speak my mind…” is acceptable only when you are choosing to allow your spirit to control your mind. Too often, when we “speak our mind”, we are really speaking from a place where we choose to allow our emotions to control our thoughts.

TALK WITHOUT COVETOUSNESS : It is not a comfortable feeling to genuinely engage in a conversation only to be met with words that are dripping with thirst. Refrain from abusing someone’s listening ear with words and thoughts that stem from longing and desiring what someone else has.

DODGE THE COPOUT : The copout is that opportune, yet evasive moment where you find yourself using phrases like whatever, that’s okay, or I don’t care. The irony is that it is not whatever, it is not okay, and you do care. We often find ourselves using these elementary colloquialisms, not because we don’t feel like talking at that particular time, but because we have not learned how to communicate beyond our feelings. Depending on the value of the relationship, you have three options: say nothing (some comments and behaviors don’t deserve your response), agree to talk at a better time, talk through whatever the problem is.

TAKE CONTROL : Taking control is not about dominating the conversation or dictating the other person’s thoughts or feelings. Honestly, that type of behavior and thinking typically yields an unfavorable outcome. Instead, being responsible and taking control of your thoughts, words, and actions places you in a much more effective position for communicating. Maintaining positivity while truthfully sharing what you think and feel will have a greater impact beyond the conversation.

IT MAY COME AS A SURPRISE TO SOME THAT MERELY TALKING, THE EXCHANGE OF WORDS AND THOUGHTS BETWEEN TWO OR MORE PEOPLE, DOES NOT EQUATE TO COMMUNICATION - EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION THAT IS.