My City | October 2023 Digital Edition

DEAR READERS,

As we produced this issue, the hot August weather made it a little strange to be thinking about the holidays – but let’s face it, they will soon be upon us! We want to encourage participation in the upcoming community celebrations “Town by Town” as well as shopping locally for holiday gifts. The economy is hitting many of us hard, small business owners included. This season, your support can make all the difference.

Making a difference in the world is the mission of Kyle Green and the men behind media company “The Green Way Outdoors” – the subject of our “My Success” piece. Kyle is a friend and a very inspiring person; I know you’ll enjoy reading about his journey to success with a new show on the History Channel which was created to educate viewers about the need for more wildlife conservation efforts. Check it out starting on page 28.

Also succeeding (at a very young age) is recent international Jiu-Jitsu championship winner and Lake Fenton Middle School student, Claire Patterson. It looks like her journey will include many more impressive achievements in the sport she loves. Read her story on p.38. And in another profile, we get to know a little bit about the new executive director at the Gloria Coles Flint Public Library, Taliah Abdullah (p.8).

It’s always fun to find a “spooky” story for our October issue, and this year’s choice in the “My Passion” slot are scary movie aficionados, The Horror Guys – Flint residents Kevin Knights and Brian Schell. I’m pretty sure I don’t possess their level of expertise in any subject! If you and the fam like to do the scary movie thing for Halloween, be sure to take a look at their list of recommendations (p.24).

We had fun with another Spectacular Pet Search – MCM will donate the contest entry fees to Adopt-A-Pet Fenton; they helped find homes for three of the pets who were entered (p.34).

Rounding out the content this month are food, fashion, thoughts from our great group of contributing writers and as always, some scenes from recent local “Haps.”

Thanks for reading,

Vince Lorraine Publisher & Editor in Chief Vince@mycitymag.com

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Marc Janca, AIF

Alexandria Pazienza-Nolan

Nicholas R. Robinson. Esq.

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Shannon White

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Town By Town The Holidays Ahead

Beginning in October, our thoughts turn to the busy and festive holiday season ahead as we plan to get involved in our community celebrations and of course, shopping locally!

We have compiled some early information on upcoming holiday happenings, Town by Town, that you can put on your calendar now. In the busy days ahead, advance planning will pay o !

And of course, many of us are already doing some holiday shopping … if not, what are you waiting for? Greater Flint is brimming with boutiques and unique mom-and-pop places selling fashionable, fun and functional items for everyone on your list. Check out our Editor’s Picks for a little gifting inspo.

Let the season begin! ◆

BRIDGE STREET EXCHANGE

YOUR DOWNTOWN FENTON OASIS

Inthe heart of Downtown Fenton, Bridge Street Exchange beckons as more than just a store – it’s an immersive journey into the world of exceptional fashion and lifestyle offerings. Embracing our heritage while embracing evolution, we have transformed from a men’s haven to a comprehensive destination, celebrating quality apparel, footwear, grooming essentials and gift items for all with our women’s store opening up in the Spring of 2023.

At the core of Bridge Street Exchange lies a commitment to excellence. Our exclusive curation features renowned brands such as Vuori, bringing forth activewear that seamlessly blends comfort and style. Embrace sustainability with Tentree, as their eco-friendly ethos resonates through every piece. Experience the unmatched comfort of Free Fly’s bamboo clothing, embodying nature-inspired elegance.

Step into the world of timeless footwear with Gola, where classic designs meet contemporary flair. The essence of tradition comes alive with Stormy Kromer, capturing the spirit of the outdoors in every meticulously crafted piece.

From men’s grooming to healthcare and wellness, Bridge Street Exchange ensures your holistic needs are met. But that’s not all! Our journey now extends to the second floor of our shop, where women’s fashion flourishes. Revel in the elegance of the finest brands, curated to elevate your personal style.

Bridge Street Exchange isn’t merely a shopping destination; it’s a sanctuary of style, offering pieces that resonate with your discerning taste. Each brand we house tells a story of dedication, craftsmanship and innovation, ensuring you embrace nothing short of perfection. Indulge in brands that epitomize the confluence of artistry and utility, providing you with a shopping experience that leaves an indelible mark.

Your Place for a Unique Holiday Gathering

Areputation for ease of planning, friendly and professional service, and a bevy of delicious and award-winning food and beverage options makes Fenton Winery & Brewery Genesee County’s go-to venue for family and business holiday gatherings.

FWB has two event spaces ready to accommodate groups of all sizes. For cozy family gatherings or small business parties, the Barrel Room (seating for 50), located in the Taproom building, welcomes guests with intimate warmth, while the larger Banquet Venue (seating for 280) waits to hold the merriment of large groups, companies, or organizations. Food options range from casual pizza/pasta/salad to gourmet full-entrées. All beer, wine and optional spirits are produced onsite and include numerous award-winning beverages for guests to enjoy throughout the event. Every group hosted at FWB and countless public reviews rave about the delicious catering and second-to-none quality of the experience.

With over 100 events hosted in each space, FWB has the experience needed to do it right the first time and every time. Don’t worry about the details – FWB has everything taken care of, from table and chair setting to end of event clean-up. FWB aims to remove the stress and hassle that goes with planning and hosting group outings.

At FWB, this season’s event guests will enjoy a unique and welcoming vibe in a space that evokes the ambiance and nostalgic atmosphere of a Rockwell holiday painting. Relax and enjoy the occasion while the expert team at Fenton Winery & Brewery takes care of the rest.

Holiday Happenings

Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas … OH, MY! There is a major holiday at the end of each month for the rest of the year!

It truly is a season of traditions, family fun and festivities and with so many great events already scheduled, it’s wise to stay ahead of the game and get them on your calendar asap! Here are some of the local events you can plan to take part in as the 2023 holiday season begins.

Burton

For details, visit burtonmi.gov/ departments/parks_and_recreation

Halloween Home Decorating Contest

Burton residents register by Oct. 20 for judging Oct. 23-24.

Trick or Treat Trail & Festivities

Oct. 21, Noon-3pm • Bentley High School • FREE

Enjoy cider & donuts, popcorn, a bouncehouse, trick-or treating, small pumpkins, & balloon twister.

‘Twas the Lights Before Christmas Home Decorating

Contest

Nov. 1 - Dec. 8

Untangle the lights and get busy creating the ultimate holiday curb appeal!

Christmas Tree Lighting Ceremony

Nov. 25 • Water Tower Park

Join Santa and other Christmas characters to begin the holiday season and welcome the community tree!

Pizza with Santa

Dec. 2 Noon-3pm • Bendle High School • FREE Pizza, cookies, popcorn, pictures with Santa, ornament & stocking decorating, balloon twister AND write a letter to Santa!

Davison

Drive-thru Trunk or Treat

Oct. 10-20, 4-7pm • Lake Callis Park

Fleece & Thank You

Nov. 11, 1-4pm • The Hub

Help bring some kiddos warmth and comfort! Join fellow community members to make fleece blankets for children spending time in Ascension and Hurley Hospitals.

Trail of Lights

Dec. 8-10 / 15-17 / 21-23 • Robert Williams

Nature & Historical Learning Center

Get into the spirit with the breathtaking beauty of the season!

Gingerbread Building Contest

Dec. 21 • Robert Williams Nature & Historical Learning Center

It’s Craft Show Season!

The Davison Farmers’ Market will be hosting many holiday shopping opportunities!

Harvest Craft Show & Festival

Oct. 14 & 21, Nov. 4

Deer Widows Craft Show & Festival

Nov. 11

Thanksgiving Craft Show

Nov. 18

Holiday Craft Show

Nov. 25, Dec. 2 / 9 / 16

Christmas Craft Show

Dec. 23

Fenton

Witches Night Out

Oct. 13, 4-9pm • Downtown Fenton Shop and dine, win prizes and enjoy Halloween treats provided by local merchants! Fundraiser for Fenton Firefighters Charities.

Halloween Arts & Crafts Market

Oct. 13, 5-8pm • Fenton Community & Cultural Center • FREE

Annual Witches & Wizards Ball

Oct. 13, 8-11pm • Fenton Community & Cultural Center • Tickets $10, $15 at the door Costume contest, cash bar and live entertainment! Visit slpr.net/ programs/special-events/witchesand-wizards-ball

An Event So Good

It’s Scary

Oct. 31 • Fenton & Linden Chamber Member Businesses • FREE

This laid-back, fright-tastic community event features trick-or-treating at participating businesses – look for the pumpkin signs!

3rd Annual Craft Show & Holiday Bazaar

Nov. 10-11 • St. Jude’s Episcopal Church • $3 Browse the wares of crafters from the area, St. Jude’s congregation members and their families. 50/50 Raffles and door prizes giveaways throughout both days.

Jinglefest

Dec. 2 • Downtown Fenton Marvel at ice sculptures along Shiawassee Ave. and S. Leroy St., get a picture taken with Santa, enjoy the magic of a holiday parade and music from carolers and local bands, watch the fireworks behind the Fenton Community & Cultural Center, run or walk in the Jinglejog 5K, enjoy snacks and goodies from local vendors, win a holiday shopping spree sponsored by area Chamber members and much more!

Flint

Tree-Lighting Ceremony

Dec. 19, 5:15pm

Gather with the community at Flint City Hall to welcome the city’s official holiday tree!

Flint Handmade 16th Annual Holiday Craft Market

Nov. 25, 10am-4pm • Flint Farmers’ Market

On Small Business Saturday, 20+ local artisans will display unique, handmade goods such as vintage-inspired jewelry, hand-poured candles, natural bath and body products, knit & crocheted items, home décor and much more. Live music by Erik McIntyre and Shannon Wade.

Crossroads Village

Halloween Ghosts & Goodies

Oct. 25-26 / 30-31, 5-9pm

One of autumn’s greatest traditions! Through October, you’ll find treats & tricks, cider & doughnuts, little monsters and big fun for the whole family. From the magic show at the Colwell Opera House to the straw maze and the 20 treat stops throughout the Village, it’s sure to put you in the spirit of the season – all included with admission. Top off your visit with a 40-minute ride through the autumn countryside on the famous Huckleberry Ghost Train Express. For ticket pricing and information, visit exploreflintandgenesee.org

Christmas Holiday Magic

Nov. 24-26, Dec. 1-3 / 8-10 / 15-17 20-23 / 28-30, 4-9p

A family tradition for over 30 years!

The spirit of the season fills the streets and shops of Crossroads Village, with thousands of sparkling lights. Join friends and family for an evening ride on the Huckleberry Railroad and watch artisans make vintage crafts. You’re sure to find gifts for everyone on your list. Pre-registration required at least one day in advance. For tram times and pricing, visit geneseecountyparks.org/ christmas-holiday-magic/

Flushing

Get Lost (in Our) Corn Maze

Now through Nov. 5, 10am-10pm

Flushing Farms

Enjoy acres of fall family fun as you twist and turn your way through corn mazes, pick your own pumpkins and more!

Harvestfest

Oct. 7, 9:30am-4pm • Downtown Flushing

An autumn extravaganza! Contests include Best Beard, Scarecrow, Window Decorating, Apple Pie & Sidewalk Chalk Art PLUS craft vendors and a Chili Cook-off !

Candle Walk

Dec. 7-8 • Downtown Flushing

One of Flushing’s premiere events brings people together to enjoy Christmas shopping and festivities – including Santa! – illuminated by thousands of flickering candles. →

For-Mar

Fall Harvest Festival

Oct. 14, 10am-1pm

Enjoy Fall Harvest Garden Time, a Cider Making Demo and a harvest themed crafts & activity area. The combo includes the Fall Harvest Festival activities, as well as a colorful tram ride through the For-Mar Arboretum & Nature Preserve where you will learn fun fall nature facts and history of the For-Mar property. Pre-registration required by 10.13. For ticket prices, visit exploreflintandgenesee.org.

Goodrich

Downtown Christmas

Dec. 7

Join in the annual family fun including a parade, tree-lighting, caroling, a visit from Santa and much more!

Grand Blanc

Smetanka Fall Craft Show

Nov. 11, 10am-4pm • Grand Blanc High School East Campus • $3 Admission Age 14 & over Get into the holiday spirit and find unique gifts as you browse many quality craft vendors.

Winterfest

Dec. 7, 5-8pm • Physicians Park

A jolly holiday celebration with Santa & Mrs. Claus, reindeer, food trucks, vendors and the tree lighting!

Linden

Zombies, Scarecrows & Monsters

Oct. 13, 6pm & Oct. 14, 10:30pm

Eagles Wooden Park

Two nights of frightful family fun starts with a Zombie Walk (start gathering near the Library at 5:30p) on Friday Night followed by a walk through the

spooky trails – Trick-or-Treat Trail (for all ages) and the Scare Trail for those who like an adventure. Enjoy Heaven on a Roll and The Fry Guy food trucks, a “Thriller” Flash Mob Dance (Fri) and other activities in the pavilion.

Holiday Happening

Dec. 1 • Downtown Linden

Complete with a Lighted Parade & Frosty Fireworks, Santa & Mrs. Claus, moonlight shopping, food trucks and MUCH MORE, this is a can’t miss community event!

Swartz Creek

Jeepers Creekers 5K

Oct. 7, 10am-Noon • $30

This 5K COSTUMED fun run is an amazingly spooky good time for the entire family! Early sign-ups get a medal & shirt. The route is set to run through various areas of Creek and end downtown at the Cottage Market that will take place immediately following the run. The Trunk-or Treat will be later that evening. ◆

Have Fun this Holiday Season!

Town By Town

My City Out-ofThis-World Pet Stars of 2023

Wethink the Hawaiians say it best: you are not your pet’s “owner.” You are their “kahu.”

Kahu has many meanings, among them are guardian, protector, steward, beloved, attendant. A kahu is someone entrusted with an animal’s life.

It’s not just about providing the creature with food, water, shelter and love; we have the honor and responsibility of watching over these cherished beings as they watch over us. It’s about acknowledging the human-animal bond, understanding that they are companions on our life journey.

With that, we present the 2023 Pet Search Winners and Honorable Mentions.

Macy & Spartacus

Owner: Jeanette Rousseau

Honorable Mentions

This year’s Pet Search Winners are a brother-sister English Bulldog duo from Flint. We thought they were both radiant with canine charisma!

Jeanette entered the Pet Search in memory of her parents who both passed away this year. “It’s been rough for all of us, especially the dogs. They always loved going to my parent’s house and are definitely grieving the loss, as I am,” Jeanette shares.

“I include the dogs in most of the things I do – they are like my kids! Macy’s my little road dog. She’s always down for an adventure and is out the door as soon as I lift my car keys. Most of the time she gets to go with me, but in the morning when I leave for work, I can tell she’s bummed.”

Jeanette adopted Macy after her mom’s beloved dog passed away – she’s named after mom’s favorite place to shop! Now ten years old, she never misses the opportunity to meet new people or get a belly rub. “Anytime you need a friend to talk to, she is there to listen,” her mom adds. Her favorite things include eating cheese, rides in the car and taking naps with her big brother, Spartacus. She loves to dress up in one of her many costumes at Halloween, Christmas and just walking around the neighborhood. A talented seamstress, Jeanette’s mom created all of the dogs’ costumes and outfits; the pink tutu is the last thing Grandma made for Macy.

Spartacus loves to nap all day, eat treats of any kind and snuggle with his mom. One of his favorite things was visiting Grandma and Grandpa’s house where he could play in the water, chase geese and go for boat rides. “Spartacus will celebrate his 12th birthday in March by having another party with friends and family – opening presents is always his favorite part of any holiday,” Jeanette says. “I miss my parents miserably, but I know they would have told me to ‘go for it’ and enter this contest!”

Well, Jeannette, we’re glad you did!

Drago Owner: Angie

DuBois

After being struck by a car, this pom was rescued by Mari Drago (Drago Corvettes). Mari immediately posted on Facebook and called local vets for help. After being on “stray hold” at Genesee County Animal Control, the dog was transferred to Adopt-A-Pet in Fenton for surgery on his leg and rehab. He is now healthy, his leg is healed and he is in his forever home. Mari Drago and Adopt-A-Pet Fenton saved him and his leg! He will forever be Drago!

Teddy

Owner: Andrea Bergstrom

I’m a giant fluff ball that loves to watch TV with my mom. I just had nine puppies with the love of my life, Dolly. My best trick is giving high-fives.

Holly Owner: Shawny Neubecker

This nine-year-old pit/boxer has been a therapy/emotional support animal for her owner, family and close friends. When someone is upset, she will lay on them like a weighted blanket and kiss away tears. She came from an abusive situation as a puppy but has overcome most of her fears. Holly almost died last summer and saving her life required drastic measures. She not only survived, but is now thriving, playful and ready for adventure! “We are just so thankful for her life,” her mom says. →

Kassie

Owner: Melissa Farney

We rescued this Boston Terrier from Adopt-A-Pet of Fenton. We think her smile says it all!

Indy

Owner: Diane Lechota

Celebrating her third birthday this month, this Springer Spaniel mix was adopted from Adopt-A-Pet Fenton at six months old.

Described as “a very high-energy, beautiful and fast runner,” Indy’s favorite things include long walks on the trails at Bicentennial Park and Seven Lakes; playing with her pals at Four Paws Hotel & Day Resort (photo taken there), and fetching balls and sticks with her neighbor pal, Willy. Last June, Indy received her Canine Good Citizenship Certificate through Tri Canine Campus in Clarkston where she takes Advanced Obedience classes. She has also participated in Agility and Nose/Scent Work classes at Companion Dog Training Club.

Midas (aka “Stinky”)

Owner: Faith Finholm

Found as a kitten alone on the side of the road, Midas was rescued by Lucky Day Animal Rescue in Grand Blanc. He was adopted with a severe respiratory infection and eye infection. The respiratory infection was cleared after a few weeks of treatment. The eye infection left him with poor eye health and he receives medication and special supplements for eye

health to this day. Now four years old, he is a very energetic and playful guy who routinely jumps into fits of “zoomies” when his parents get home from work.

Midas’ absolute favorite toy is a “bee-on-a-stick” which he carries all around the house and always knows where it is. If it gets stuck as he drags it around, he tells his parents who follow him to it and help get it unstuck. “Where is your bee?” will get him riled up – he’ll hunt it down and bring it to the person who asked in hopes they will play with him. It is common to hear him dragging it up and down the stairs in the middle of the night.

Midas loves to play with his toys or do battle with his two feline brothers, Puck and Morty.

Mochi

Owner:

Lisa Worrell

A transplant from Traverse City to Grand Blanc, Mochi is in his second – and forever – home, after his first family had to give him up due to housing issues. He is an active one-year-old Siamese-Maine Coon mix with a love for adventure! When he’s not roaming his backyard or cruising the neighborhood in his stroller, he is looking to play fetch or chase a string around your ankles. He is known to greet people with a “headbutt-high-five,” (using his head instead of a paw) and has made himself the unofficial door greeter of the family – though we suspect that has more to do with wanting to be outside rather than an interest in greeting house guests. ◆

MCM thanks all the participants!

“Seeing Claire atop the podium got to me, emotionally,” Candido says. “I cried a bit because seeing those I teach like Claire win titles is more satisfying than any titles I have won. To see her work hard to the max and improve so much, I feel very honored and proud.”

Following the tournament, Candido, Patterson and other students celebrated with a trip to Hershey, PA before Patterson was presented with the next highest belt (yellow/ white) during a ceremony at the academy.

“Congratulations Claire,” Jackson commented on an Instagram video of the presentation. “It was a great fight, and you deserve GOLD. Can’t wait to see you on the mats again.”

Patterson began training for this year’s Pan Kids almost immediately after last year’s tournament ended, determined to turn the experience of winning silver into gold.

That meant one of her parents drove her nearly 40 miles each way, sometimes five days a week, to train at the academy a total of 10-12 hours per week.

Training involves not only perfecting fighting techniques, but weight training and strength work like tossing a heavy ball back and forth to a teammate, lunging while strapped to an elastic waistband and arm exercises using

gymnastics-style rings.

“Training with Renaldo and my teammates at the academy like Abi has really helped me a lot because all the little details are worked on,” Patterson says. “They also give me a challenge because we kind of know what each other is going to do. Other times, I trained with people who have earned higher belts to get better. It’s a lot of hard work, but we all have fun doing it.”

The way Patterson embraces training certainly makes Candido’s job easier.

“When Claire trains with us, it’s non-stop when she’s on the mat because she’s so driven,” he says. “We were able to focus on preparing for

all the scenarios that can happen in a fight because, obviously, things don’t always go your way. Another important thing was working on the mindset of not waiting for opponents to execute their gameplan but going after them with your own gameplan.”

In addition to her time at the academy, Patterson usually spends another two to four hours per week working with blue belt and 2019 International Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Federation World Champion Kodi Dick at the Genesys Athletic Club in Grand Blanc.

Clearly, all the grinding is paying dividends. Patterson has progressed well since her first

Jiu-Jitsu match just two years ago and now boasts a bevy of medals and 29 career wins, the vast majority by submission. She will compete in tournaments closer to home in preparation for two major competitions next year – Pan Kids in late July and Jiu-Jitsu Con in Las Vegas in early September.

That’s not all.

Patterson also plans to wrestle for Lake Fenton Middle School and maintains a list of long-term goals.

“I know it will be a challenge to win Pan Kids again at a higher belt, but we’re going to train harder,” she says. “I know some of the kids who will probably be in my bracket and what it will take to beat them. I will just focus on working on my weakest points and hope it goes

well. Wrestling for my school should be fun and I want to do things in the future like becoming the world’s best black belt.”

Candido is clearly excited about Patterson’s future.

“Our focus remains the same – reach one goal and set up another,” he says. “Claire has such a bright future because of her determination to do whatever it takes to be successful and never being content with where she’s at. She wants to become the best version of herself in all aspects of life.”

Patterson is also benefiting from being part of a rare household entirely dedicated to Jiu-Jitsu. Her father (Blake), mother (Sarah), older sister (Elaina) and younger brother (Wesley) train and compete in the sport, as well.

“I love how we all share this love for Jiu-Jitsu, but I can never trust a hug,” Claire chuckles. “I never know what the motive is behind it, and I could end up on my back.”

Claire and her mother bond by training and competing together. Earlier this year, both captured medals at the same American Grappling Federation and North American Grappling Association events.

“Claire is just a very athletic kid to begin with, just a natural for anything that is athletics,” her mother says. “She combines that with a passion for enjoying putting in the work. Claire sets her sights on goals, but even if she falls short, she still loves the journey.”

How far will that journey take her? Stay tuned. ◆

Living in the Present Looking to the Future

Ourdays on Earth are precious. e older we get, the more we strive to live in the moment; to enjoy every breath of wind, every sunset, every smile from friends and family. In order to extend our lifetimes with peace and dignity, we have to take steps to create a healthful future that ts in our plans.

is month’s Senior Living articles provide tips for protecting your estate for future generations, increasing your longevity through embracing proper nutrition, and navigating life for those in today’s “Sandwich Generation.” ◆

Pearls Wisdomof

BY KATHLEEN FELIX, ADMINISTRATOR ABBEY PARK INDEPENDENT SENIOR LIVING

AsAdministrator of Abbey Park, I often enjoy the opportunity to chat with our residents. The conversations provide insight into their thoughts and feelings about living in our community. “Pearls of wisdom” are generously and kindly bestowed upon me in response to carefully thought-out questions. I love it when they share precious details about their lives and memories. I recently had a conversation with Barb P. while she enjoyed a pedicure in our Beauty Shop, and her comments were delightful. Although her mother passed away when Barb was only eight years old, her outlook on life is bright, positive and cheery. Her father raised six children by himself and Barb was right in the middle. He instilled in her and her siblings the values of honesty, kindness, being polite and “not talking back to people.” She worked in the automotive industry for 40 years and knew many people throughout her career. Barb has definite opinions about the way a business should be run.

Barb informed me that she finds our staff at Abbey Park very accommodating and polite. “I have never seen a staff member anywhere who treats people as nicely as they do here,” she stated.

Barb’s life lessons from her father emphasized the importance of manners and kindness. “When I say thank you to a staff member, the first thing they say is ‘you’re welcome,’” she said, “I like the way the staff treats people here. Abbey Park has taught their staff to pay attention and to assist people, and if you can help others that is what you should do.”

Next, Barb directed her kind observations to me, “I have never seen you without a smile on your face and I have never seen you not concerned about what goes on here.” When individuals find qualities in Abbey Park residents and staff that align with their own, the transition to senior living is very much seamless. This was the case for Barb.

It is no wonder I enjoy hearing the opinions of 95-year-olds like Barb whose attitude is positive and uplifting. She claims that the overall sentiment in our community is good. “I have heard many people remark on how nice it is here,” she added. Finally, as the icing on the cake, she said, “I cannot think of a place I have been in that holds a candle to this one.”

Knowing that we at Abbey Park have earned Barb’s praise makes our hard work worthwhile. Generations to come would be well served to not only appreciate, but to aspire to be more like Barb. I know that I do.

LIVING TRUSTS 101: A MICHIGAN RESIDENT’S ESSENTIAL GUIDE

BY AMIR E. ABU-AITA, ESQ.

When it comes to estate planning, Michiganders have a powerful tool at their disposal: the Living Trust. This legal document provides an option for managing assets during your lifetime and ensures a smooth transition of wealth to your beneficiaries after you pass away. In this article, we’ll delve into the world of living trusts in Michigan, exploring their key features, advantages, and how you can establish one to secure your family’s financial future.

WHAT IS A LIVING TRUST?

A living trust, often referred to as a revocable trust or inter vivos trust, is a legal entity created by an individual, known as the grantor, to hold and manage their assets during their lifetime. Upon the grantor’s passing, the trust is designed to seamlessly distribute these assets to beneficiaries, avoiding the often time-consuming and expensive probate process. In Michigan, living trusts are governed by state laws and specific regulations must be followed.

KEY COMPONENTS OF A LIVING TRUST IN MICHIGAN

Grantor: The person who establishes the trust and transfers their assets into it.

Trustee: The individual or entity responsible for managing the trust’s assets according to the grantor’s instructions. The grantor often serves as the initial trustee but may appoint a successor trustee to take over when they are no longer able to do so.

Beneficiaries: The individuals or entities who will receive the trust’s assets upon the grantor’s death or at specified times as per the trust’s terms.

Assets: Any property, investments or other assets transferred into the trust. The grantor retains control over these assets during their lifetime.

ADVANTAGES OF A LIVING TRUST IN MICHIGAN

Probate Avoidance: One of the primary advantages of a living trust is the ability to bypass the probate process. Probate can be time-consuming and costly, but assets held in a living trust can be distributed to beneficiaries

without court intervention, saving both time and money.

Privacy: Probate proceedings are public, which means that anyone can access information about your assets and beneficiaries. With a living trust, you can keep your financial matters private, as trust documents are not typically made public.

Asset Management: A living trust allows for the management of assets during your lifetime and in the event of your incapacity. If you become unable to manage your affairs, your successor trustee can step in and continue managing the trust’s assets on your behalf.

Flexibility: Living trusts are highly customizable. You can specify how you want your assets to be managed and distributed, including any specific conditions or restrictions you wish to impose on beneficiaries.

Protection: In addition to the advantages mentioned above, living trusts can also be used to:

• Provide for minor children or disabled beneficiaries,

• Protect assets from creditors or divorce, and

• Minimize estate taxes.

ESTABLISHING A LIVING TRUST IN MICHIGAN

Consult an Attorney: While it is possible to create a living trust on your own, it is highly advisable to consult an experienced estate planning attorney. They can help you understand

the legal requirements, ensure your trust complies with Michigan law, and guide you through the process.

Create the Trust Document: With the assistance of your attorney, you will draft a trust document that outlines your wishes regarding asset management and distribution. You will also name a trustee and beneficiaries.

Fund the Trust: To make the trust operational, you must transfer your assets into it. This may include real estate, bank accounts, investments and personal property. Your attorney can help you with this process.

Maintain and Update: A living trust is not a one-time creation. It should be regularly reviewed and updated to reflect changes in your circumstances, assets or beneficiaries.

Inform Your Beneficiaries: While not legally required, it’s good practice to inform your beneficiaries about the existence of the trust and their potential inheritance. This can help avoid confusion and disputes in the future.

A living trust is a valuable estate planning tool that can offer numerous benefits. If you are considering establishing a living trust in Michigan, it is essential to work with an experienced attorney to ensure that your trust complies with state law and accurately reflects your wishes. By doing so, you can provide for your loved ones and protect your assets for generations to come. ◆

is information is not to be construed as legal advice.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Amir E. Abu-Aita practices Elder Law, Medicaid Planning, VA Planning, Probate, Estate Planning, Business Transactions, and Assisted Living Law. He is a member of the Genesee County Bar Association as well as the Elder Law and Probate Sections of the State Bar of Michigan. In addition, he serves as a member of the Genesee County Commission on Aging, Adult Foster Care Providers, and Former President of Elder Abuse Alliance (Formally known as the Elder Abuse Task Force). He has been selected to the Michigan Super Lawyers® 2021-22 Rising Stars list. Each year, no more than 2.5 percent of the lawyers in the state are selected by the research team at Super Lawyers® to receive this honor. He has also been selected for the 2022 Best Lawyers: Ones to Watch in America™ for his high-caliber work in Elder Law and Trusts and Estates.

WHEN IT COMES TO ESTATE PLANNING, MICHIGANDERS HAVE A POWERFUL TOOL AT THEIR DISPOSAL: THE LIVING TRUST.

Eating for Longevity Nutrition for Older Adults

BY PETER HINTERMAN

Aswe get older, our bodies are continually changing the way they function. When it comes to our diets, no longer can we eat how we used to. The days of scarfing whole pizzas or an entire plate of greasy nachos while downing more than a couple of beers are all but over. We simply cannot eat the way we have in the past and still maintain our health. Sure, we can,

if we want to – but each unhealthy meal comes with a future price tag. What do you value most? A year of poor dietary choices or a few more healthy years in the future?

Nutrition plays a big role in warding off future chronic diseases such as diabetes, heart disease and cancer, to name a few. As our bodies age, it is important to meet its new nutritional needs. While older adults

typically require lower caloric intake, they have similar or often increased nutritional needs. This is due to less physical activity, changes in metabolism, or age-related bone and muscle loss. To ensure that our changing needs are met, the question “What do I have for dinner?” should be given more consideration. Impulse choices should be avoided as generally, they involve foods that work against our health.

To combat muscle loss, our diets need to include good sources of protein such as poultry, fish and eggs. Our ability to absorb vitamin B12 decreases with age, so foods rich in B12 must be included such as whole grains or fish. (Many of us may need a B12 supplement – check with your doctor to determine whether you do.)

A healthy adult diet should include: whole grains, fruits and vegetables, low-fat milk or cheese, seafood, lean meats, poultry, eggs, beans, nuts and seeds. In particular, increasing the number of leafy vegetables, fish, nuts and beans in one’s diet can go a long way toward enjoying a healthier future. Added sugars, saturated and trans fats and sodium should be limited or ingested sparingly. Other foods to limit or avoid entirely are potato chips, soft drinks, sugary breakfast cereals, pre-packaged baked goods (snacks) and alcohol, as they provide empty calories with no nutritional value. →

Your belly may feel full, but your body will remain depleted and lack the fuel needed to ward off illness and chronic disease. Nutrition Tip: Make sure to drink enough fluids such as water and unsweetened fruit juices. The sensation of thirst declines with age and older adults can quickly become dehydrated.

Eating for the Mind

The prevalence of dementia is on the rise with nearly 10% of persons over the age of 65 being afflicted. It is estimated that by 2030, nearly nine million adults will be affected and 12 million by 2040. Risk factors for developing dementia include age, level of education, poor sleep, alcohol abuse, diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity and poor diet.

What we ingest not only helps our bodies to function as they should but also keeps our minds sharp and clear. Good nutrition is the key!

Coupled with daily exercise, eating right will aid in avoiding chronic diseases such as diabetes, and lessen the chances of developing cognitive impairment and dementia.

Eating for a healthy mind includes all of the usual suspects such as colorful fruits and leafy vegetables, fish, nuts and whole grains. In addition to the rest, berries should be worked into the diet for vitamins A, C and E which have antioxidant benefits. Nutrition Tip: Substitute olive oil for margarines and other vegetable oils whenever possible.

Processed foods, sugary beverages, refined grains (e.g., white rice), alcohol and red meat should be limited to only a few servings a week.

Get into the habit of planning your meals and adjust accordingly to your specific dietary needs. You don’t have to give up every food and drink you love, just consume them in moderation. Control is important when you are eating for longevity.

A healthy diet equals a healthy body. As we age, nutrition is even more vital to a long and robust future. ◆

Older adults require lower caloric intake but have similar or often increased nutritional needs.

Are You a Member of the “Sandwich Generation”?

HOW TO HELP YOUR AGING PARENTS

Ifyou have kids in school plus parents who need more help as they’re aging, you may be part of the population called the “Sandwich Generation.” Basically, your days are overflowing with tasks like making lunches, chauffeuring kids to activities and homework help – while also taking care of parents or other elderly relatives. While it can be rewarding to know you’re making a difference in the lives of those you love, it can also be a lot to manage. When it comes to older relatives who rely on you, it’s important to prioritize their healthcare and medical needs.

Here are practical tips to help you support your parents.

Stay connected with their healthcare providers.

Whether your loved one has few medical needs or many, it’s vital to understand their health conditions and to ensure that you’re alerted whenever anything changes. Take these important steps to get organized:

• Ask your parents to designate you as an approved contact with their healthcare providers, so their doctors can inform you of their medical issues.

• Help your parents complete a healthcare directive. This designates who would make decisions about

their health if they were unable to do so.

• List your parents’ prescription medications. Create a list of their drugs and confirm that they understand their medications and dosages.

• Set up a calendar for you and your parents to track appointments easily.

Assess their living situation.

If your parents still live in their home, check on them regularly to ensure there are no areas of concern. Look for tripping hazards (like small rugs and items on stairs) and signs your parents have trouble caring for themselves, such as the house being less tidy or their appearance seeming unkempt.

If you recognize issues around the house like a messy kitchen or dirty laundry piling up, you don’t have to do everything yourself. It’s important to know there is help, such as home aides for cleaning, cooking and personal care. Ask their healthcare provider about options for occupational therapy, physical therapy, home healthcare if needed, or other assistance that may even be covered by Medicare.

Help your parents understand the ABCs of Medicare.

Because Medicare can be confusing, it’s important to help them get coverage that suits their needs and budget. The first step is understanding the basics of Medicare:

Parts A and B (Original Medicare) provide basic healthcare coverage. Part A helps cover inpatient care in hospitals, skilled nursing facilities, hospice and home healthcare. Part B helps cover services from doctors and other providers, outpatient care, some medical equipment (like walkers, wheelchairs and hospital beds) and preventive services (screenings, vaccines and annual wellness visits). Parts A and B do not cover prescription drug costs, and you’ll likely have out-of-pocket costs like copays and deductibles.

Part C (Medicare Advantage) is a Medicare-approved plan from a private company to help pay for additional services, →

and may have lower out-of-pocket costs than Original Medicare Parts A and B. You will need to use doctors in your chosen plan’s network. Medicare Advantage plans may also offer additional benefits including hearing, vision and dental services, so it’s important to consider what benefits are important to your parents.

Part D refers to prescription drug coverage, which may be included as part of your Medicare Advantage plan. But you must get a Part D plan or your loved ones will risk penalty charges for not having one.

The plan that’s best for your parents may depend on how often they see doctors, how many prescriptions they have, and their budget. It can be helpful to talk to a knowledgeable Medicare agent to explore your parents’ Medicare options and to compare plans.

For example, ClearMatch Medicare provides assistance by first asking what’s important to your parents in a

Medicare plan, then learning about your parents’ prescriptions and doctors to make sure they’re included in their plan. They’ll review available plans in the area to compare the costs and benefits so you and your parents can make an informed decision. Your parents can then enroll in the Medicare plan of their choosing right on their site.

Need assistance? Free help is just a phone call away. ClearMatch Medicare is dedicated to making Medicare easier to understand so your parents can choose the plan that’s right for them. Their highly trained and licensed insurance agents are patient and helpful, and if they find your parents are already in a great plan, they’ll say so.

For a free Medicare review, call 888.441.6962 Monday-Friday, 9a-9p, Saturday, 9a-3p (ET) or visit ClearMatchMedicare.com, open 24-7. ◆

When it comes to older relatives who rely on you, it’s important to prioritize their healthcare and medical needs.

Making Connections

Asmile, a laugh, a touch, an embrace. Knowing we are seen and heard. Being an accepted part of a larger whole ... While the intrinsic value of a human life is absolute, we, as humans, have a deep, innate desire to feel valued.

Studies by the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, World Health Organization and National Council on Aging underscore the profound impact of social isolation. It is a prominent factor in depression, anxiety and suicide, and sharply increases the risk of dementia, heart disease and stroke. For seniors, the CDC rates its negative effects on the same level as obesity and smoking.

As we grow older in a predominantly age-segregated society, meaningful social interaction becomes increasingly difficult and must, therefore, become more intentional.

Senior centers provide information, programs and activities specifically for older adults, as well as a safe location to gather. If mobility or transportation issues are a concern, a group residence of peers could be an excellent solution, especially one with a variety of activities suited to your abilities.

There are ever-evolving technologies to connect you with distant friends and family, and there is no shame in asking for help in using them.

Volunteerism is a highly rewarding form of interaction. Join a knitting group that donates to local shelters, make sandwiches at the soup kitchen or read to children at the library.

Seniors comprise a national community of more than 55 million people. As a community, we have a responsibility to ourselves and to one another. Reach out, connect and interact. Look someone in the eyes and let them know they’re not forgotten. The life you find you’ve added value to may be your own.

Sixth Annual Flint & Genesee VEHICLE CITY GRIDIRON CLASSIC

ATWOOD STADIUM | 8.24-25.2023

Photos provided by Explore Flint & Genesee

The 2023 high school football season kicked off at Kettering’s Atwood Stadium with matchups between intra-county rivals, as well as Genesee County schools taking on visitors from neighboring communities including the 2021 and 2022 state champion, Warren De La Salle Collegiate. On Thursday, Mt. Morris triumphed over Clio (the 100th game in the rivalry) 7-0, and Davison came out on top of Warren De La Salle 31-26. Friday’s games ended with Carman-Ainsworth besting Kearsley with a score of 21-18 and Hamady blanking Harper Woods Chandler Park Academy 48-0.

The Ally Challenge PRESENTED BY MCLAREN

WARWICK HILLS GOLF & COUNTRY CLUB | 8.21-27.2023

Photos provided by The Ally Challenge

The weather threatened to dampen spirits, but fans flocked to Grand Blanc to enjoy professional golf action. The event schedule started with a Pro-Am on Thursday afternoon. Thunderstorms postponed Friday’s first round of official competition until Saturday, when they played catch-up with a very early start time. When play concluded, the fan-favorite charity Celebrity Challenge on Holes 17 and 18 featured golf’s greatest champion Jack Nicklaus, legendary Red Wings player Darren McCarty, former Detroit Tigers pitcher Dave Rozema and other sports greats. Attendees also enjoyed two concerts: Don Felder on Friday and the Community Concert on Saturday starring Miranda Lambert, followed by an exciting drone show. On Sunday morning, Zehnders offered complimentary chicken & waffles and that afternoon, three-time major champion Vijay Singh came from behind to win his first Champions Tour victory in almost five years. The World Golf Hall-of-Famer now has won four times at Warwick Hills, including three Buick Opens. ◆

Dinner Under the Lights

FRIENDS OF THE ALLEY FUNDRAISER

BUCKHAM ALLEY, DOWNTOWN FLINT | 9.16.2023

Photos by Hayley Murray

It was a beautiful, late summer evening for the unique annual event hosted by Friends of the Alley. Beneath the twinkling lights of Buckham Alley, 82 attendees enjoyed cocktails followed by an elegant plated dinner created by the accomplished Flint native, Chef Nate Brown. The evening also featured music by a jazz quartet led by Flint’s own Eric MacIntyre, and then the night shifted to dance music provided by DJ Brian Larkin. All funds raised help support the work of Friends of the Alley, whose mission is to beautify and activate the alleys in Downtown Flint and ensure that they are inviting, inclusive and exciting pedestrian-friendly spaces. ◆

My Can’t Miss List

“Absolutely Murder” Clio Cast and Crew

10.6-15.2023

World Ballet Series: “Cinderella” The Whiting 10.7.2023

Epic Eagles & Classic Seger The Capitol Theatre 10.7.2023

Scotty McCreery The Capitol Theatre 10.12.2023

Beyond Frontiers The Machine Shop

10.13.2023

Flint Firebirds vs. Guelph Storm Dort Financial Center 10.14.2023

FSO Presents: Brahms & Beethoven The Whiting 10.14.2023

“Rocky Horror Picture Show” The Capitol Theatre 10.14.2023

Davison Pumpkin Festival Downtown Davison

10.14.2023

“Jesus Christ Superstar” The Whiting 10.17-18.2023

Pink Night Palooza The Capitol Theatre 10.19.2023

Ginuwine The Capitol Theatre 10.21.2023

Outback Presents: 85 South Show Live Dort Financial Center 10.22.2023

“Menopause: The Musical” The Whiting 10.27.2023

LeAnn Rimes The Capitol Theatre 10.27.2023

Flint Firebirds vs. Soo Greyhounds Dort Financial Center 10.28.2023

Flint Short Film Freakout 2 Flint Local 432 10.29.2023

Artful Halloween Flint Institute of Arts 10.29.2023

Flint Firebirds vs. Saginaw Spirit Dort Financial Center 10.29.2023

“[Title of Show]” Flint Community Players 11.2-12.2023