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Woman’s Health Update
12 The Long Island Woman Interview Victoria Clark 16 Book Corner
Elizabeth Benedict’s Rewriting Illness
18 Catching Up With Carol (Silva) The Cake Don
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Victoria Clark “I warm up slowly throughout the day because listening to my body and my psyche is really important. And what it wants to do right now is take more time and care.”
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Victoria Clark’s Favorites Favorite place to get away: Lake Placid in the Adirondacks any time of year. Since this is for Long Island Woman, I have friends who live in Bellport and it’s absolutely charming and perfect. TV Series You’ve Been Binging: I’m obsessed with Slow Horses with Gary Oldman. Schitt’s Creek was genius from beginning to end. I loved Severance and Succession. I’m currently watching Station Eleven, which is really interesting and welldirected.
Favorite all-time cast recordings: Going back to my childhood, I obsessively played The Music Man with Barbara Cook and Peter Pan with Cyril Ritchard and Mary Martin. I also had three soundtracks: Carousel, Oklahoma! and The King and I taught myself to sing soprano by listening to Barbara Cook and Shirley Jones. Favorite all-time books: Barbara Kingsolver’s The Poisonwood Bible. Amor Towles’s A Gentleman in Moscow. Martin Moran, wrote two great books (based on his off-
Broadway solo shows), The Tricky Part and its follow-up memoir, All the Rage. Also Broadway pianist and conductor David Loud, who was the original Ted in Merrily We Roll Along, published a book last year called Facing the Music. If you could go back and talk to your 16-year-old self, you’d say...? “You don’t need to worry about anything—it’s all gonna be great. Just keep laughing and finding the humor in every situation. Trust God, seek out your friends, and keep them close to your heart.”
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Breast Surgery Combined with Tummy Tuck and/or Liposuction by Charlotte Rhee, MD, F.A.C.S., P.C.
Many of my patients come to me seeking help with the changes that Breast Augmentation can occur after childbirth. Following childbirth, a woman’s breast can Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seeking grow to uncomfortable proportions or just the opposite can happen. A breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body woman’s breast can actually lose volume and shrink, resulting in the size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten breast appearing “deflated.” lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I Additionally, a large number of women come to me seeking help with utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The the post partum changes of their abdomen. During pregnancy the skin only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed. and abdominal wall muscles are stretched. Following Combined Breast/Tummy Tuck and Liposuction Procedures childbirth, the abdomen can protrude and the skin can be loose or sag. In Many of my patients Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures some cases, the abdominal muscles can be so weakened that the individual who have breast performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The may look like she is still pregnant. Despite daily workouts including sit ups most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, surgery also have and crunches, a tummy tuck may be needed to restore these muscles. whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck,
other procedures also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients who desire breast augmentaWomen with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical tion together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place the breast implants through performed at the problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can same time. This allows the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without any scars. cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise for one surgery and exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction areas, liposuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the one recovery. Breast Reduction
mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, with a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reductions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance.
love handles (upper hip area) and thighs. Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant savings in price. To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentary consultation with Dr. Rhee at 631-424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington Station. liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in breast surgery.
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Modern Mistletoe Historians have yet to reach a consensus when it comes to the holiday tradition of kissing under the mistletoe. Some say that the custom of smooching under the plant that grows as a parasite on the branches of trees and shrubs can be traced back in time to Norse mythology, while others note that the first mention of the custom appeared in a song published in 1784. Some 10 years later, a 1794 art print depicted kitchen servants about to kiss under the mistletoe. Other students of history have written that women believed that refusing to be kissed would bring on bad fortune, so they acquiesced. Fast forward to the present day for a closer look, and the question becomes more complex: Is kissing under the mistletoe out of step with modern times? The New York Times reports that Pamela Zaballa, the chief executive of the NO MORE Foundation, a nonprofit organization that aims to end domestic and sexual violence, observes, “It’s a tradition that just needs to be updated with some rules and boundaries.” The safest solution is to avoid hanging mistletoe in the workplace. Outside of work settings, it’s best to ask someone for consent before kissing them; if they react hesitantly or say something like, “I don’t know,” take that as a “No.”
Compassionate Volunteers Hospice Care Network, part of Northwell Health, aims to keep people who have advanced illnesses as comfortable as possible. Offering services in Nassau, Suffolk, Queens, Westchester, Brooklyn Staten Island, and Putnam, the network seeks volunteers drawn from every age group and background who can provide support and companionship to caregivers and other family members. All volunteers are required to complete training programs; some work as administrative volunteers, others as patient support volunteers, and volunteers with special skills such as graphic de-
sign, haircutting, and Reiki are needed as well. Volunteers may also provide pet therapy, working with dogs certified through Therapy Dogs International and Pet Partners. To learn about which volunteer opportunities you might be interested in, visit northwell.edu or call 516-832-7100.
Promises of the Stars The earliest New Year’s resolutions were made some 4,000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians, who lived in present-day Iraq. They are believed to be the first to make recorded celebrations honoring the New Year. While they made promises to the gods, people of today make promises to themselves. Forbes Health/One Poll survey found that the most popular goals are to improve mental health (45%), improve fitness (39%), and lose weight (37%). Every year, some 45% of Americans — including celebrities — make New Year’s resolutions. According to the New York Post, actress Kerry Washington says that her resolution is to “practice joy;” TV personality Meghan McCain declares, “I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions. Sorry!” and comedian Joe Piscopo says that humility is the goal “for the rest of my life as I approach the back side of my time on the planet.” Making promises to change one’s behavior in the future is easy, but keeping those promises is another story: About 80% will give up on their resolutions by February. Podcast host and author Melissa Rivers
says that she resolves to stay on her fitness regime past the second week of January.
Keeping it Local Shopping online at giant retailers may be convenient, but there’s nothing like examining a product up close to get a good look while supporting neighborhood small businesses and organizations. Locally, the work of creative artisans is featured at the Islip Arts Council Gallery Holiday Market on Saturday, Dec. 9 from 10 a.m.-8 p.m. at South Shore Mall, 1701 Sunrise Hwy., in Bay Shore; see isliparts. org. Also on Dec. 9, the Holiday Gift Bazaar will be offering a wide selection of wares, live music, and food from 12-7 p.m. at Gallery North, 90 N. Country Rd., in Setauket; see gallerynorth.org. Celebrating flavors and diversity with products and foods while supporting critical programs and services is the goal of the Wrap & Ribbon Holiday Market on Sunday, Dec. 10, 12-4 p.m., at Commonpoint Queens Sam Field Center, 58-20 Little Neck Parkway, Little Neck. See commonpointqueens.org. For shopping beyond the Christmas holidays, visit the Merrick Winter Flea Market, held outdoors every Sunday, Dec. 3, 2023 to March 31, 2024 from 10-5 p.m. at Eisenhower Park Field 8, 1899 Park Blvd., Westbury. Learn more at nassaucountyfairs.com. s To submit info for FYI consideration, please send it to fyipick.liw@gmail.com.
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Piano Man Exhibit Pick e
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Dec. 22. Purchase tickets ($59-$79) at thesuffolk.org.
Billy Joel–My Life, A Piano Man’s Journey To see 50 years of Billy Joel rare memorabilia, videos, recordings, and instruments at the Long Island Music and Entertainment Hall of Fame, purchase your timed-admission tickets ($35-$49) at thebillyjoelexhibit.com. 97 Main St., Stony Brook. More info at limusichalloffame.org or 631-689-5888.
Seasonal Decor Pick Evergreens and Silks
Create a centerpiece with fresh evergreens and seasonal embellishments on Sunday, Dec. 10 from 2-3:30 p.m. at the Babylon Public Library, 24 S. Carll Ave. Preregister ($10) at babylonlibrary.org.
British Orchestra Pick
Skating Show Pick
Music for a Winter’s Night
Pros On Ice
The Gateway Playhouse stage becomes an ice rink for Holiday Spectacular On Ice, featuring showstopping musical performers with Olympic Champion Nancy Kerrigan. Dec. 1–Jan. 1, 215 S. Country Rd., Bellport $27.50-$95.00, thegateway.org, 631-286-1133.
Body Care Pick
Tickets are $80 at argyletheatre.com; call 631-230-3500 for more info.
Pianist Isata Kanneh-Mason performs works by Debussy, Prokofiev and more with the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra on Jan. 26 at 8 p.m. at Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville. Purchase tickets ($61.20-$93.40) at tillescenter.org or call 516-2993100.
Book Pick e
Chanukah Pick
Sculpt & Stretch
Nightly Lightings
An Irish Country Tale
Refresh your muscles every Thursday from 10-11 a.m. starting Dec. 7 at the Bryant Library, 2 Paper Mill Rd., Roslyn. $40 for two months. Register and see events at bryantlibrary.org or call 516-621-2240.
Join Long Beach synagogue members starting Thursday, Dec. 7 at 5 p.m. to light the menorah nightly through Dec. 15. At Kennedy Plaza, 1 W. Chester St., Long Beach. More info at longbeachny.gov or 516-574-3905.
In A Week in Winter by Maeve Binchy, a single Irish woman transforms a rundown mansion into a cozy countryside inn where guests find comfort.
Theatre Pick
Christmas Concert Pick
Everyone’s favorite governess shines along with unforgettable songs, breathtaking dance numbers and astonishing stagecraft. Performances continue through Dec. 31 at The Argyle Theatre, 34 W. Main St., Babylon.
A Classical Christmas at The Suffolk: “Greensleeves,” “The Nutcracker,” Handel’s “Messiah,” carols, and more will be performed by the 30-piece Long Island Concert Orchestra at 118 E. Main St., Riverhead, at 8 p.m. on
Mary Poppins
Virtual Picks
Seasonal Classics
Fine Needlework Pick
Happy, Healthy Quilters Supplying tools and training is the goal of Quilters Apothecary. Weekly longarm machine Zoom classes run from Jan. 6-April 6, 2024. $40 each, $300 for series. Details at quiltersapothecary.com, or call 219-898-2152.
Organizing Pick Online Neatness
Virtual organizing alleviates the overwhelm and reduces the anxiety of onsite organizing — and is more financially viable, says professional organizer/coach Alice Price, who works with clients via phone and online. Visit organizelongisland.com, or call 631-748-9778 for details. Submissions for Quick Picks should be sent to fyipick.liw@gmail.com for consideration.
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Women with very large leaves the breasts with a vertical and a pendulous breasts may long horizontal scar (along the breast experience a variety of crease). I utilize the LeJour technique medical problems includ- which leaves the breast with a single ing back and neck pain. vertical incision (lollipop scar) and in my Also, the weight of large opinion, with a rounder and more naturally appearing breast with a breasts can cause the bra better cosmetic result. straps to dig into the shoulThe LeJour Breast reductions are perders leaving groove markings. Large breasts get in technique leaves formed as an outpatient the breast with procedure and are covered the way of physical activities such as running and other a single vertical by insurance. If you would like to learn more about this sports which can make exincision procedure, please call our ercise and weight loss very (lollipop scar). Huntington office to scheddifficult if not impossible. ule a complimentary consulBreast Reduction, also known as reduction mammaplasty, is a tation with Dr. Rhee at 631-424-6707. surgical procedure undertaken to make Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a Board Certified the breasts smaller. There are many dif- Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeon who ferent breast reduction techniques. The specializes in surgery of the breast. more traditional method (inverted T Scar) Visit liplasticsurgery.com.
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Woman’s Health Update Menopause’s effects on the workplace and skepticism about certain menopause treatments
Back cohosh, a dietary supplement sometimes used to treat menopause symptoms, has so far been found to be safe but of limited effectivenes.
Moderate to severe menopause symptoms are associated with a decreased ability to perform work tasks and this decrease is often associated with worse workplace outcomes for the women suffering them – especially for Black and Hispanic women, according to JoAnn V. Pinkerton, MD, UVA Health’s director of midlife health, and co-author of the research paper published in the scientific journal Cell. This also affects women who do not have a partner, who smoke, who are overweight or obese, those who serve as a caregiver for others and those who lack secure housing. One survey of women in the United Kingdom found that those who reported struggling with menopause symptoms were more likely to suffer financial problems, depression and self-reported health issues. While effective treatment options are available, the scientific paper calls out one category of treatments that should be viewed with a skeptical eye: “Complementary and alternate medicines (CAMs) for menopausal symptoms have been frequently touted, are widely advertised, and have an overall dismal track record of efficacy when subjected to rigorous scientific study,” the experts note. For example, popular phyto (plant) estrogen supplements have been studied extensively in numerous trials, but the researchers say no benefits have been found. Black cohosh, another dietary supplement sometimes used to treat menopause symptoms, has so far been found to be safe but of limited effectiveness. Pinkerton hopes that the new paper will help women and their physicians sort fact from fiction when it comes to menopause and that it will serve as an important roadmap to good health in later life.
Childhood trauma’s impact on sexual function in midlife women One out of three children will have at least one stressful or traumatic childhood experience, including things such as their parents divorcing or a family member with a drug or alcohol problem, according to the latest National Survey of Children’s Health. Mayo Clinic researchers found that such adverse childhood experiences may be linked to Adverse childhood sexual inactivity and sexual dysfunction in women later in life. Their findings are published in The Journal of Sexual experiences may Medicine. The researchers studied a group of more than 1,500 be linked to sexual inactivity and sexual middle-aged women (ages 40-65, with an average age of 53) who visited the Menopause and Women’s Sexual dysfunction in Health Clinic at Mayo Clinic’s campus in Minnesota bewomen later in life. tween 2015 and 2016 for concerns related to menopause and sexual health.
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They found that women with four or more adverse childhood experiences were nearly twice as likely to be sexually inactive compared to women with no exposure to childhood adversity and were two times more likely to have sexual dysfunction in midlife. The study defines female sexual dysfunction as a disorder involving persistent problems with sexual desire, arousal, lubrication, satisfaction, orgasm and/or sexual pain that is associated with personal distress to the woman experiencing these symptoms. Based on these findings, the authors say they “encourage healthcare providers to screen for adverse childhood experiences in women with sexual dysfunction and offer multidisciplinary treatment including referral for counseling as needed. If the consequences of childhood adversity are not adequately addressed, other interventions to improve sexual function may not be successful.”
Ketogenic diets found to reduce migraine frequency and fatigue A recent study published in the journal Nutrients explored the link between three ketogenic diets (KD) and migraine symptoms. Preliminary results suggested that all the three diets are associated with reductions in the frequency and intensity of migraines. Migraineurs also reported feeling less fatigue than they did before adopting the diet. A team of Italian researchers offered KD therapies as a preventative measure for migraineurs. They recruited 76 participants who had been clinically diagnosed with either chronic or high-frequency episodic migraines. These patients were interested in exploring alternative migraine therapies over conventional treatments. They were treated with KD protocols between January 2020 and December 2022. Participants were, on average, 46 years old, and a majority were women. About 60% were chronic migraine sufferers, while the others had highfrequency episodic migraines. At the beginning of the treatment, 66% of the participants reported having pathologic fatigue. Three months after the treatment began, fatigue scores declined significantly. The diets also reduced the frequency of migraine days per month from 18 to 8 days and the intensity of attacks from 8.1 to 5.3. New treatments can often have severe side effects, but in this case, adverse effects were relatively mild. Some patients reported diarrhea, mild constipation, abdominal pain, and nausea. To check for other adverse effects, researchers conducted blood tests after three months of the treatment and found no signs of high cholesterol or elevated uric acid levels. In this study, researchers found promising evidence that KD therapies can effectively prevent migraine frequency and intensity while also reducing fatigue and improving quality of life. However, the team noted that further studies with larger sample sizes are required to validate these findings. The encouraging findings of this pilot study will inform future explorations into effective treatments for chronic and frequent migraine attacks. l To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise
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n her 2005 acceptance speech upon winning a Tony Award for Broadway’s The Light in the Piazza, Victoria Clark intoned, “I’m a very, very lucky actor.” In the nearly two decades since that moment, she’s lost neither her gratitude nor her luck, enjoying a busy career as both performer and director and, this June, winning her second Leading Actress in a Musical Tony, for Kimberly Akimbo. In between have come three more Tony nominations, a growing number of directing assignments, raising a son by a first marriage, and being content in her second. Through it all, Clark, 64, has remained sanguine about “the unpredictability of this life and this business.” In our autumn conversation, she told LONG ISLAND WOMAN, “When you’re an artist, particularly a freelance one, you go from job to job until you might luck into a long-running show. That, by far, is the exception.” And yet, the actress’s first instinct was to “run away” as fast as she could from Kimberly Akimbo. Based on a 2001 comedy-drama by David Lindsay-Abaire and adapted by him and composer Jeanine Tesori into the musical now playing at Broadway’s Booth Theater, the show tells of a 16-year-old girl from New Jersey who’s typical in all ways except her physiognomy and health: she suffers from an aging disease that makes her look 70-something and will drastically shorten her life. Though all her friends and acquaintances, not to mention her dysfunctional parents, feel like misfits, Kimberly copes with the added misfortune of having a young woman’s dreams, anxieties, and romantic longings camouflaged by an old woman’s body. “I was terrified of the responsibility and rigor” of the role, admits Clark. “Especially because it’s such a beautiful gift of a show that I didn’t want to ruin it. I had to work through a lot of self-doubt and ask myself, `Where does the doubt come from?’—which is a pretty human response.” Clark’s Yale-degreed, classical-music background also gave her pause. “Many singers are trained to get things perfect and make perfect sounds,” she notes. “But this character, who’s 15 going on 16, couldn’t care less what she sounds like. So I had to abandon many of my own feelings about perfection. I think a lot of women will understand that. At a certain point, we have to give up all those standards and just say, `What I am, and who I am, right now, will be enough—no matter the circumstances.’ It makes me breathe easier just saying that out loud.” Though Kimberly’s vocal pitch and style would be key elements that Clark had to discover in becoming the character, there were others. “I had to work from the outside in,” she recalls. “How does she move? How does she sit? How does she behave, physically? And, yes, I did trim down my vocal sounds to make my voice more flexible, nimble, and younger. But it’s a journey, and I’m still working on it. Just when I think I’ve nailed it, some other issue will come up to be solved. It’s very fluid.” Speaking of journeys, I remind the veteran of Broadway vehicles ranging from Sister Act to Urinetown to the short-lived Gigi, that I had previously interviewed her back in 1997 when she was appearing as the tragicomic Alice Beane in the Tony-winning musical Titanic. Asked at the time if she, like many actors, performed any opening-night or pre-show rituals, she laughed, “My life’s too hectic for that!” Two and a half decades of age and experience later, Clark chortles again. “I’m the opposite now! I mean, I remember those Titanic days. My son was maybe three. So I would get to the show right at half hour and cram down dinner: room-
by David Le fko wit z temperature coffee yogurt. (My dressing roommates were horrified that I could eat yogurt at the `Places!’ call.) Then I’d run out onstage. “But that adrenaline—running late like that,” she explains, “used to pump me up. It was actually how I got ready for the show. I was kind of a machine for the first 30 years I was working. But that was 27 years ago. Now I show up early, I meditate, and I take my time to be completely dressed and ready half an hour before the show even starts. I warm up slowly throughout the day because listening to my body and my psyche is really important. And what it wants to do right now is take more time and care.” The actress is particularly sensitive to the stresses of a thespian existence because she serves as an East Coast councilor for the performers’ union, Actors’ Equity. “I do hear from a lot of people what’s going on,” she says. “The pandemic was probably the worst thing that ever happened to our theater. It was a horrible time that had long-lasting effects on actors’ mental health. “A lot of actors feel alive only when they’re working; it’s their identity. So taking that away from them is a gut punch,” Clark explains. “Now that we’re on the other side of things, I can feel the optimism rising. But I also sense people trying a little too hard. A healthy Broadway schedule is certainly not eight times a week, pedal to the metal, grind it out. If you’re lucky to be in a show that runs, we play more games—that is, do more shows—than any other sport. And there’s no age limit! I’m quarterbacking a show eight times a week, and I have to get my passes exactly right. It’s insane! No athlete would ever do this! Meanwhile, our job is to appear like we just rolled out of bed and make it look easy. “Granted, most of us do it without blinking,” continues Clark. “But what I’d like to see is more conversations about whether this is actually humane. I’ve been speaking to doctors who treat actors, and the question is: are we really protecting the work, the product, the actors, and the crews, too? Think about that poor guy who’s styling the wig.” Clark notes that post-pandemic, folks in other professions have carved out fourday weeks or even work extra-long hours mid-week so they can ditch Fridays through Mondays. “I wish we’d all learned from the pandemic more about work life balance,” she adds. “This show has taught me to value slowing down and appreciating depth as opposed to distance, which is what I’m trying to mentor for the younger cast members. I want them to realize a show this special doesn’t come along very often, if at all, so be savoring it instead of rushing through it.” Asked for amusing memories of not-so-special shows she’s been involved with over the years, Clark, who makes it a policy to delete unpleasant experiences from her memory, does dredge up one misadventure: “After I first moved to New York and I was still non-union,” she recalls, “I was cast in a little musical called Waterfront Madonna. It was the Nativity story told in the West Side of Manhattan. (This was back in the early 80s when the West Side was kind of sketchy.) I went to the first read-through. There was almost no light, and we all sat in a circle. I remember there was a cat—a big, furry, hairy cat—that wouldn’t get off my lap. Now, I’m a pet lover, but I just remember handing back the script and saying, `I can’t do this.’” Clark had a better time at her first professional audition, though, thanks to both preparation and a risk that paid off. “It was a new musical for young audiences about the Wright Brothers. I was about 25, and I’d just finished reading Michael
“I had to abandon many of my own feelings about perfection. I think a lot of women will understand that. At a certain point, we have to give up all those standards and just say, `What I am, and who I am, right now, will be enough—no matter the circumstances.’ It makes me breathe easier just saying that out loud.”
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“I was terrified of the responsibility and rigor” of the role, admits Clark. “Especially because itʼs such a beautiful gift of a show that I didnʼt want to ruin it.”
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Victoria Clark in Kimberly Akimbo Photo: Joan Marcus
Shurtleff’s book, Audition. And I just loved that story about Barbra Streisand auditioning for I Can Get it for You Wholesale, where she put chewing gum on the bottom of the stool, and I thought, `I’ve gotta come up with some crazy thing like that.’ So for my audition, where I played the Wright Brothers’ fictitious next-door neighbor, a sassy little girl, I went out and bought a pair of shoes that were a size too big. Then I practiced doing a kick in my song where the shoe would fly off. Then I practiced making it look like an accident. Eventually, I had it where it would fly a long way, like a soccer goal kick. And during the audition, it worked! That’s how I got my Equity card.” Clark adds that Shurtleff’s recommendations reinforce the idea that if you’re funny and quirky and a bit outside the box—”as we all are,” she laughs, “be who you are and play that as your trump card. Oops, I said the `T’ word!” More seriously, the actress is at the point in her career where she’s always fielding questions about her wish list of classic roles she’d love to tackle. And while she has previously mentioned Desiree Armfeldt in A Little Night Music and Mrs. Lovett in Sweeney Todd, she tells LIW that iconic parts interest her less than originating new characters in new musicals. “As rigorous and crazy as it is,” she says, “and not to toot my own horn, but I think it’s significant that my two Tonys are for leading roles in original work (Kimberly of Kimberly Akimbo and Margaret the mom in The Light in the Piazza). If you’re working with like-minded collaborators, developing a character from the beginning can be so rewarding and fulfilling. I’m really proud of Kimberly and Margaret; they’re three-dimensional, and I hope people will be playing them for centuries to come.” Clark is also happy that directing theater taking up increasing space in her professional life. Her staging of Kurt Weill and Alan Jay Lerner’s musical, Love Life, which was to have played at Lincoln Center in 2020 (but got canceled by COVID), will finally reach Encores! in 2025. “I’ve found that directing is the most respectful way 14 • DECEMBER 2023/JANUARY 2024 • LONG ISLAND WOMAN
to be in touch with who I am creatively,” says Clark. “I’m a storyteller. And sometimes I tell stories through my teaching or lecturing or public speaking—mainly about how we can age gracefully with power and without apologizing. So directing, acting, singing—all are under the same umbrella of channeling an exciting, human story and giving it voice and shape.” As such, Clark was delighted to see the recent Encores! revival of Piazza, having starred in the original and staged the tuner herself at Pace University in 2014. “I know the piece inside and out,” she says, “and had put so much of my soul inside it when I directed it. So being able to just sit and enjoy the piece was almost an out-of-body experience.” The second time around has also been the charm for Clark domestically, as she takes pride in her son, T. L. Guest, now in his early twenties, and nears nine years of marriage to former actor and current furniture analysis-and-design rep, Thomas Reidy. “My mom told me when I was 14 that I would be married a minimum of three times,” laughs Clark. “I thought that was so cynical! But she was, like, `You’re a tough one, and you’ll be tough to live with!’ I guess she thought I was a handful, and you’d have to talk to my ex-husband (anthropology professor Kenneth Guest) to see if he agrees. But Ken and I are still extremely close, which I think has been good for our child. Life is just too short to run around and live in regrets and should-haves. We need to move on.” Asked what husband Tom makes of her mom’s marital predictions, Clark chuckles, “I think he’s hoping she’s wrong.” ▲ David Lefkowitz (davelefkowitz.org) is an award-winning playwright whose short comedies, 'Restoration Playhouse,” and “Three Percent,” were both produced virtually in theater festivals. His weekly video podcast, Dave’s Gone By (davesgoneby.com), is now in its 21st year. TO ADVERTISE: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise
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Book Corner
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Elizabeth Benedict’s Rewriting Illness: A View of My Own
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lizabeth Benedict became a self-proclaimed hypochondriac with a longtime cancer fright after a high school classmate’s death in 1972. To say she was haunted by this her whole life would be accurate. Then her worst fear happened. Benedict found her own mysterious lump and through unfortunate circumstances when a lab technician and her doctor gave weak answers resulting in three anxious months waiting to finally hear that it was cancer. In Rewriting Illness: A View of My Own (Mandel Vilar Press May 2023), Benedict takes a hard look at her experience with a Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma from diagnosis to subsequent remission. She is penetrating as she holds a magnifying glass to medical gaslighting, a term she explains as a reluctance of the medical community to diagnose anything concrete with a wait-and-see policy. Using her intellectual wit, Benedict walks us through excruciating weeks where she practiced natural remedies, tried chanting, did jumping jacks wherever she could, and drank concoctions like apple cider vinegar to reduce her swollen lymph nodes. She shares the nerve-wracking truth of what having cancer feels like today. Written with short, poignant subheads and keenly researched facts, Benedict offers readers a hand to hold for a little while and advises them to always ask a lot of questions from everyone they encounter. Happily, she has been cancer-free for five-plus years.
Benedict offers readers a hand to hold for a little while and advises them to always ask a lot of questions from everyone they encounter.
How did sharing your story have an impact on you and why did you decide to write this book now? Sharing my story through the book helped, yes, absolutely. And I hope it helps people who read it! I want Rewriting Illness to be a friendly, sometimes funny, companion for people and caretakers who are ensnared in the medical-industrial complex. Telling your story is a huge ordeal. Friends want to know every detail, and my experience–going to doctors, being rebuffed, and learning to decode doctor-speak–enraged me. The book explains my silence to people who may have felt hurt being excluded. I wasn’t always good at “advocating on my own behalf.” I’ve heard so many stories. It happens more often to women and people of color–and now there’s a name for it: medical gaslighting. There’s a huge reluctance by doctors (NOT oncologists) to want to diagnose cancer. Once I was diagnosed–three months after first going to the doctor–and went to an oncologist, all of that pussyfooting around ended. How did you find out that you had cancer? I felt a lump in my armpit late one night–instant terror. I went to the doctor within 12 hours, then went for a sonogram and I was told to come back in three weeks. The delay had dozens of wrinkles; a combination of poor
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doctoring, a mismeasured lymph node that diminished the seriousness in some doctors’ eyes, and my own terror that kept me from demanding a biopsy ASAP. When I asked for one and my nurse practitioner said it was “too expensive and too invasive.” When I finally found a good doctor, he did a biopsy and then went on a long summer vacation, and it was more than a month before I had a diagnosis. Three months to get diagnosed for something that could have been determined in a week. Please explain how Susan Sontag, who died of myelogenous leukemia, and Nora Ephron of leukemia, became almost like a Greek chorus of elders to help guide them through cancer. What a wonderful way of seeing them–the Greek chorus! I’d been aware of Sontag’s cancer because of her book, Illness as Metaphor. When she learned she had cancer, she said that she slept with the lights on. The night I found the lump, one of the first things I thought was, would I (sleep with the lights on)? The mind of a hypochondriac! I thought a great deal about whether Sontag’s discussion of cancer in military metaphors–“my battle with cancer”–was still operative in 2020, as it had been when she wrote the book in 1978. My sense is that as cancer treatments improve, there is less “waging a war on cancer” or “doing battle” with it. We just go for treatment now. Nora kept her cancer hidden from even her closest friends. Her silence about her illness was puzzling to me until it happened to me. I wasn’t as tight-lipped as she was. Did your swollen lymph node “diagnoses” fuel your search for “natural” remedies? Before I was diagnosed, the operating theory was that the things in my armpits (there were two, though I could only feel one) were swollen lymph nodes. Any decent doctor should have been able to feel them with her fingers and know they were not swollen lymph nodes, which are squishy. My lumps were on the harder side. I didn’t know any of this. I did everything I found on the Internet to reduce swollen lymph nodes: drank apple cider vinegar (awful– don’t do it!), drank gallons of turmeric tea, and did jumping jacks–thousands of them. I aslo guzzled shots of wheatgrass ($7 a pop at a juice bar). What did you learn about dealing with doctors from your friend Deena Kolbert, a longtime breast cancer survivor who inevitably succumbed to lung cancer? My friend Deena Kolbert was an advocate for herself and others, which meant she did something with her fear other than wallow in it. She went to doctors’ appointments with questions. I slinked in and did whatever they told me to do because I was terrified. Cancer is a waiting game. You get treated and you wait to see if the treatment works. And you don’t just wait a week or a month. You wait years to see if it returns and you have to go on with your life while you wait. The last thing I would ask a doctor was: What’s my prognosis? But that’s actually the only question that matters, right? After three years with no recurrence, my doctor said my prognosis is excellent. l For more information visit elizabethbenedict.com. To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise
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Catching Up With Carol
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on Donneruno was born in the for TV’s “Buddy the Cake Boss.” “Do you shadow of Shea Stadium. A want to be on Season four of Next Great bastion of baseball. His cathedral of Baker? Bring an assistant.” So he added maleness. “I am the most passionate Meredith to the mix. Mets fan that exists.” Born along the city It was priceless promotion; an hour a subway 7 Line, “I’ve been buying Mets week, for 10 weeks on TLC. They survived tickets since I was 5 years old.” five weeks but were eliminated on Week 6. That’s also the year Don’s father left. Crushed, Don still went to Las Vegas for the Don never saw him again and began a life show’s finale. The producer warned, “The influenced by powerful women. finale airs in sixteen weeks. Four months. If “Mom was sheriff, mother, father, you go back to work for somebody, you’re principal, guidance counselor. A single out of your mind.” mom with one son. No nonsense.” Don “I stopped building someone else’s knew the rules. “Mom’s working in the dream and became a full-time baker.” city. I was a latchkey kid. I’d come home Don sold his BMW dream car for cash and watch the 4:30 movie on ABC, then and the cheapest MINI Cooper the dealer the 6 o’clock news with Roger Grimsby had. He drove that Cooper to his new job, until Mom came home and made dinner.” learning how to bake at Mario’s Bakery In sixth, seventh and eighth grade Don in Oceanside. Don created and promoted Left to right: Steve Cohen, Don Donneruno and Alex Cohen also honed his artistic skills. “I’d sketch, outrageous cakes, while every month he draw, paint, play drums. I’d open the Marvel comic book and recreate and Jennifer played a shell game, deciding which family bills to pay. Ironman.” In 2014 Don took another leap and opened his “The Cake Don” bakery By 13, Don’s Mom thought Catholic school would add structure. “I went in Carle Place and is now located in Huntington. (thecakedoncreations.com) to Holy Cross all-boys Catholic High School. We were just locked-up boys By 2022 “The Cake Don” was profitable, and not surprisingly staffed in jackets and ties. Bigger animals than public school kids. I hated it. But by women. Strong women. On April 1, 2022, Don’s assistant Chrissy now I realize I really love the discipline of having to do things every day you had an unbelievable message. “The owner of the Mets called. Alex didn’t want to do. It prepared me for adulthood, entrepreneurship.” Cohen, Steve’s wife, wants a cake for Opening Day.” Traveling to Holy Cross also unleashed Don’s new friends on the subways. April 1st. Surely an April Fools’ gag, but Chrissy said, “Here’s Alex “We’re riding the 7 Line through every diverse Queens neighborhood, to Cohen’s cell number.” A woman answered. “Hi Don.” pizza in Times Square. I learned more on the 7 train about pop culture, Don sputtered, “Alex please don’t be insulted if this is really you, fashion, art, and music than I ever did in school.” The 7 also transported but it’s April 1st and I don’t think it’s you.” The woman laughed. “It’s Don to his new outlet, graffiti, where his artistic soul exploded. me. I’ve been following you on Instagram. People tag me in your Mets After Holy Cross, Don bounced around some local colleges, until he cakes. I need a cake for Steve for Opening Day.” felt school wasn’t his thing. So he went to work with Mom at Stuart The following day Don apologized to Alex Cohen for getting choked Weitzman. Mom worked for Stuart himself. Yup, the high-end shoe up during a personal tour of CitiField, the new version of his boyhood guy. Mom was one of Stuart’s first employees. Drummer Don also cathedral. Five days later, the kid from Whitestone, now a tattooed, recorded an album with his band Madison Ambush. motorcycle-riding Dad, was in the Mets owner’s box on Opening Day Don loved his 18 years with Stuart, during which he married Jennifer. with owners Steve and Alex Cohen and Darryl Strawberry among other They had two daughters and a nanny, Meredith Golfman, until the girls Mets legends. got older. More women. Don has been invited back to CitiField several times since. Alex doesn’t “Now I realize I Meredith had another job when she called in 2010. For need more cakes. It’s because she recognizes Don is great people. years she’d made cute birthday cakes for friends. Now Another strong woman. really love the someone wanted a King Tut cake. Meredith needed an Don still paints today, and dreams of joining a tribute band. “I don’t discipline of having artist. Don had never created a cake, but... five days later know where I’m going. 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Bereavement............................................516.832.2673 Cope Foundation. Roslyn.copefoundation.org Bereavement Center for H.O.P.E............................................516.216.5194 Lake Success. Huntington Hospital....................................... 631.351.2013 North Shore Univ. Hosptal........................ 516.562.4750 Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Bereavement............................................ 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org
Overeaters Anonymous............. 516.484.1545 x196 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org
Bereavement..................................516.822.3535 x328 Mid Island JCC., Plainview. miyjcc.net/adult-support-groups
Overeaters Anonymous.......................631.981.5850 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Bereavement.............................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
S-Anon Anonymous (Partners of Sexaholics) ....................................................................267.295.2795 sanon.org
Bereavement............................................516.520.2706 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. stjosephhospital.chsli.org/bereavement-groups-0
Smoking Cessation................................631.853.2928 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/events/smoking-cessation
Bereavement for Children and Families .....................................................................516.626.1971 North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center northshorechildguidance.org
Smoking Cessation Workshops......... 516.629.2013 St. Francis Hospital, Roslyn H.E.A.L. (Help Ease A Loss)...................631.265.4520 stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/smoking-cessation-classes St. Thomas of Canterbury Church, Smithtown 030acef.netsolhost.com Women for Sobriety............................. 215.536.8026 womenforsobriety.org Holocaust Survivors...............................516.569.6733 The Marion & Aaron Gural JCC, Lawrence Alzheimer’s/Dementia Support guraljcc.org/older-adults/chaverim-program-forAlzheimer’s and Dementia.................. 516.767.6856 holocaust-survivors Long Island Alzheimer’s & Dementia Center Bereavement..................................631.462.9800 x151 Westbury. lidementia.org Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults Alzheimer’s Association .....................800.272.3900 Bereavement.......................................... 631.499.8520 Melville. alz.org/longisland St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills. Alzheimer’s Caregivers .......................800.272.3900 smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement Alzheimer’s Association, Melville. alz.org/longisland Widow/Widowers.........................631.462.9800 x151 Alzheimer’s Caregivers......................... 516.292.1300 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola Moving Forward: Loss of a Spouse .516.634.4010 info@FCALI.org. fcali.org Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org Alzheimer’s Disease..............................516.663.8220 friedbergjcc.org/support-services NYU Langone, Mineola Widow/Widowers ................................. 516.634.4010 linda.martinez@nyulangone.org Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org nyuwinthrop.org/community-health/support-groups friedbergjcc.org/support-services
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Young Widow and Widowers............. 631.647.5675 widowednotalone.com
Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Young Widows and Widowers...........631.495.8541 St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement
Lung Cancer............................................ 631.686.2500 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Breast Cancer Support
Lymphedema.......................................... 631.686.7648 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Hotline ....................................................................800.877.8077 breast-cancer.adelphi.edu American Cancer Society.................... 800.227.2345 cancer.org Breast Cancer..........................................800.877.8077 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu Women’s Breast & Reproductive Cancers ..........................................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults/ Breast Cancer.......................................... 631.376.4104 Good Samaritan Hospital, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org/support-groups-0
Wellness after Cancer.................................. 516.734.8203 Monter Cancer Center, Lake Success northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Oral and Head and Neck Cancer......516.734.8203 LIJ Medical Center, New Hyde Park northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Oral, Head and Neck Cancer..............800.377.0928 SPOHNC (Support for People with Oral, Head and Neck Cancer), Locust Valley. spohnc.org ThyCa: Thyroid Cancer..........................516.608.5113 Manhasset. thyca.org/sg/ny_manhasset
Caregivers Support
Breast Cancer...........................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Caregivers................................................. 516.292.1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org
Breast Cancer (Newly Diagonosed)... 516.663.2556 Perlmutter Cancer Center, NYU Winthrop Hospital nyulangone.org
Caregivers..................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Breast Cancer (& other cancers)..........516.374.3190 Hewlett House, Hewlett. hewlett-house.org
Caregivers.......................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults
Breast Cancer: Stage 4 ........................800.877.8077 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
Caregivers....................................... 516.484.1545 x236 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org/programs
Breast Cancer Survivors.......................631.686.2561 Mather Hospital, Port Jefferson. matherhospital.org/community-resources Breast Cancer: Cafecito (for Latina Women) .....................................................................516.877.4329 Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
Covid Support Covid-19 Help Suffolk County............631.940.3700 United Way, Deer Park. unitedwayli.org/covid19helpSuffolk Coronavirus Digital Resource Center ..........................................................833.4UR.CARE Northwell Health northwell.edu/coronavirus-covid-19/surviving-covid-19
Exercise for Women w/Breast/Gynecologic Cancer. .......................................................... 516.484.1545 x228 Covid and Covid Loss..................631.462.9800 x151 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. Suffolkny-aa.org Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition ......................................................................631.547.1518 hbcac.org Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631.968.7424 islipbreastcancer.com Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) ................................................................... 631.476.2776 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources Strength for Life (exercise class)......... 631.675.6513 Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Helpline ............................................................... 800.GO.Komen komen.org/support-resources/support
Cancer Support Brain Tumor.............................................631.474.2323 Gardian Brown Foundation. guardianbrain.com
Coronavirus Hotline...............................516.227.9570 Long Island Crisis Center, Bellmore longislandcrisiscenter.org/coronavirus-covid-19-onlong-island Nassau County Coronavirus Call Center .....................................................................516.227.9570 NY State Coronavirus Hotline.......... 888.364.3065
Divorce/Separation Support Divorced and Separated...................... 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services Divorced and Separated............631.462.9800 x151 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org Singles..............................................631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org
Cancer.........................................................516.377.5333 To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise
Domestic Violence/Abuse Support
Support Groups Chron’s and Colitis Foundation.........516.222.5530 Garden City. crohnscolitisfoundation.org/chapters/longisland
Myasthenia Gravis................................ 516.663.4593 Winthrop Wellness Pavilion, Garden City myasthenia.org/MGFA-Support-Groups/state/NY
Child Abuse Reporting.........................800.342.3720 ocfs.ny.gov/programs/cps
Congestive Heart Failure.......................631.968.3171 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
National Federation of the Blind....... 516.868.8718 nfbny.org
National Domestic Violence Hotline .....................................................800.799.SAFE (7233) thehotline.org
Diabetes....................................................516.629.2070 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, Greenvale stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2
The Crime Victims Center/Parents for Megan’s Law............................................................. 631.689.2672 24 Hour Crisis Intervention Hotline.....631.332.9234 CrimeVictimsCenter.org
Diabetes........................................631.473.1320 x5204 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Brighter Tomorrows.............................. 631.395.1800 brightertomorrowsli.org
The Safe Center Hotline...................... 516.542.0404 cadvnc.org L.I. Against Domestic Violence.......... 631.666.8833 liadv.org The Retreat (Domestic Violence hotline) ....................................................................631.329.2200 theretreatinc.org Victims Information Bureau (VIBS) of Suffolk County...................................................... 631.360.3606 vibs.org
Health Related Support Adhesions (scar tissue pain)................ 631.921.7426 World Adhesion Foundation, Port Jefferson adhesionsfoundation.org Alopecia.....................................................415.472.3780 naaf.org/find-support/support-groups Amputee....................................................516.562.4750 Southside Hospital, Bay Shore North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Arthritis Foundation.............................800.283.7800 arthritis.org Bariatric and Weight Loss Surgery...... 631.376.3697 Good Samaritan Hospital Medical Center, W. Islip goodsamaritan.chsli.org/seminars-and-supportgroups-weight-loss-surgery Bariatric..................................................... 631.474.6876 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 Bariatric....................................................516-572-5869 L.I. Surgical Weight Reduction Center at NUMC numc.edu/our-services/bariatric-surgery-andweight-reduction Brain Aneurysm ..................................... 516.562.3815 North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Brain Aneurysm ..................................... 516.562.3815 North Shore University Hopital. Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Adults 50+ Virtual BFRB (Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors) .................................................516.924.3778 adults50plus@gmail.com. bfrb.org Brain Injury.............................................. 631.968.3330 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Brain Injury...............................................631.474.6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
Diabetes.....................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups Diabetes.................................................. 631.388.47161 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Dialysis........................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups Diabetes....................................................516.520.2500 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage stjosephhospital.chsli.org/st-joseph-diabeteseducation-services Epilepsy/Seizure Disorder...................516.739.7733 epicli.org
Oncology (cancer)...................................631.351.2013 Huntington Hospital Women’s Health Center northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Parkinson Disease.................................. 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services Parkinson Disease ................................ 631.862.3560 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 Scleroderma............................................ 631.949.8265 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Sleep Disorders.......................................631.968.3150 Long Island Lung Center, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Speech Communication....................... 631.474.6831 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1 Spinal Cord Injury..................................631.474.6489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources Families Anonymous (for families and friends of drug abusers)...........................................800.736.9805 familiesanonymous.org
Nassau County’s Behavioral Health Helpline .......................................................516.227.TALK (8255) Mental Health Assoc. of Nassau County, Hempstead mhanc.org Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance ....................................................................516.499.6374 mdsgli.com/groups NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Nassau) Lake Success..............................................516.326.0797 namiqn.org/programs NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Suffolk) Huntington................................................631.385.0754 namihuntington.org Pregnancy/Infant Loss Group............ 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services Postpartum Depression ......................................... 631.422-2255/855.631.0001 Postpartum Resource Ctr. of NY. postpartumNY.org. Suffolk County’s Behavioral Health Helpline ............................................................... 631.471.7242 x2 mhaw.org/programs/mental-health-help-line
Center for Hearing Health...................516.628.4300 Mill Neck. centerforhearinghealth.org
Spinal Cord Injury..................................516.739.4900 St. Charles Hospital, Albertson Campus, Albertson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
BraveHearts..............................................516.562.6785 St. Francis Hospital, Roslyn stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2
Stroke..........................................................516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
WomenHeart of Nassau/Queens......516.384.7665 Katz Institute for Women’s Health, Lake Success facebook.com/womenheartofnassauqueens
Stroke.........................................................631.476.5542 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
HIV/Aids................................................... 516.562.4280 Center for AIDS Research & Treatment, Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Stroke (Caregivers).................................631.474.6952 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
Laryngectomy ........................................ 718.470.8631 LIJ Medical Center, New Hyde Park northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Stroke (Survivors and Caregivers)..... 516.562.4947 North Shore University Hospital, Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Lung Disease...........................................631.968.3124. South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Living with Stroke................................... 631.968.3172 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Leukemia and Lymphoma........................ 516.734.7682 Monter Cancer Center, Lake Success northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Stroke Survivors...................................... 516.629.2013 St. Francis Hospital DeMatteis Center, Greenvale stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/support-groups-2
All listings for Support Group consideration must be submitted by the first of the month for the following month at: liwomanonline.com/support.
Medicare Counseling............................631.476.2723 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
LI Trio (Transplant Recipient Int. Org.) ................................................ 516.6210.5900. litrio.org
No information will be accepted by telephone. Listings are published on a space-available basis.
Suicide Prevention Lifeline... 800.273.8255 (TALK) suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Miscellaneous Support Developmental Disabilities Inst........ 631.366.2900 Smithtown (family support services). ddiny.org Resolve: National Infertility Assoc.....703.556.7172 resolve.org/support Prison Families Alliance...........................631.946.1400 pfa-li.com Dress for Success .................................. 631.451.9127 Dress for Success Brookhaven, Farmingville. brookhaven.dressforsuccess.org Women’s Forum ................................... 516.634.4169 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org/adults/programs
Multiple Sclerosis (National)..............800.344.4867 nationalmssociety.org/Resources-Support
Trigeminal Neuralgia/Facial Pain...... 347.993.2210 To advertise a for-profit support group: 516.505.0555 x1 or ads.liwoman@gmail.com NSPC, Lake Success nspc.com/news/trigeminal-neuralgia-support-group
Multiple Sclerosis (L.I. Chapter)......... 631.864.8337 Melville. lbove2496@optonline.net
Mental Health Support
MS Recreation & Socialization...........516.376.7644 South Shore University Hospital, Bay Shore northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups Muscular Dystrophy...............................631.4746489 St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
To advertise: 516-505-0555 x1 • liwomanonline.com/advertise
Mental Illness...................................... 631.471.7242 x2 Mental Health Association, Ronkonkoma mhaw.org/family-support-groups Emotions Anonymous..........................631.474.2090 John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources Living Hope for Mental Health...........631.675.6831
If you have a support group listed in this guide that no longer exists or requires updated information, please email us at: info.liwoman@gmail.com.
Deadline for listing submissions or changes for the February/March issue is January 2.
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Tony and the Lady: 8pm. Boulton Center GA-20/Black Joe Lewis: 8pm. Landmark on Main St. Vonda Shepard: 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Yacht Rock Revue: 8pm. The Paramount Isaac Mizrahi: 8pm. Staller Center Double Vision (Foreigner tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk Kenny G: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Parsons Dance: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Orleans: 8pm. Boulton Center Yacht Rock Revue: 8pm. The Paramount The Last Waltz: (The Band tribute): 8pm. Patchogue Theatre The Tubes: 8pm. The Suffolk R.E.M. Explored: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Screaming Orphans: 3pm. Roslyn Cellar Allman Betts Family Revival: 8pm. The Paramount Il Divo 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Derek Hough–Symphony of Dance: 5pm. Tilles Center
When: thru December 31st Where: The Argyle Theatre, 34 W. Main St., Babylon Tickets: 631-230-3500 or argyletheatre.com Use Code: WOMAN for $10 Off* *Discount Valid off individual, premium mainstage tickets only.
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This Is Important Live: 8pm. The Paramount
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Theresa Caputo: 7:30pm. The Paramount Hunter Hayes: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre Chicago the Musical: 7pm. Tilles Center
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Cherish the Ladies: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St. A Celtic Christmas by a Taste of Ireland: 6pm. Madison Theatre. In Conversation with The Sopranos: 8pm. The Paramount John Tesh: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre Tab Benoit/The Dirty Dozen Brass Band: 7pm. The Suffolk David Foster & Katharine McPhee: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Nutcracker: 5pm. WHBPAC
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Anthony Nuziata: My Italian Christmas: 8pm. Engeman Theater Just Wild About Harry: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St.
Nutcracker: 12pm. WHBPAC
Six music Emmys, two Grammy nominations, four gold records, seven Public Television specials and 8 million records sold. After more than three decades as an international entertainer, John Tesh’s recording and live concert career continues to thrive today. Media Sponsor KJOY When: Sunday, December 10 at 7pm Where: Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts Tickets: Tickets are $59-$89 at PatchogueTheatre.org. 631-207-1313. Group Rates available-call box office. 71 East Main St., Patchogue advertisement
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Darlene Love: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main St. Theresa Caputo: 7:30pm. The Paramount Christmas Celebration On Ice: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre
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Bill Kirchen: 8pm. Boulton Center Meshuggah: 7pm. The Paramount Jefferson Starship: 8pm. The Space at Westbury Big Bad Voodoo Daddy: 8pm. The Suffolk
Rock ‘n Radio Holiday: 8pm. Engeman Theater L.S. Dunes: 7:30pm. The Paramount
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Rock ‘n Radio Holiday: 8pm. Engeman Theater Cary Hoffman’s My Sinatra: 7:30pm. Tilles Center
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Matteo Bocelli: 8pm. The Paramount Postmodern Jukebox: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre Bret Michael/Adam and the Metal Hawks: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Engelbert Humperdinck: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury Etienne Charles: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Jessie’s Girl: 8pm. The Paramount Jane Monheit: 8pm. Staller Center Millennium Jazz Band (Sinatra & Bennet tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk Daniel O’Donnell: 5pm. Theatre at Westbury Peppa Pig Sing-Along Party: 2pm. Tilles Center
Kev Herrera: 8pm. The Paramount
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Yellow Brick Joel (Elton John/Billy Joel tribute): 8pm. Landmark on Main St. Boomer & Gio Live: 7:30pm. The Paramount The Seiskaya Ballet’s Nutcracker: 7pm. Staller Center Rockabilly Xmas: 8pm. The Suffolk
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Long Island venue Directory Adelphi Performing Arts Center (AUPAC) 1 South Ave., Garden City. 800.233.5744. adelphi.edu/events
The Argyle Theatre
34 W. Main St., Babylon. 844.631.LIVE (5483) argyletheatre.com
Boulton Center
37 West Main St., Bay Shore (631)969-1101. boultoncenter.org
The Gateway
215 S. Country Rd., Bellport. 631.286.1133. thegateway.org
Landmark on Main Street
232 Main St., Port Washington. 516.767.6444 landmarkonmainstreet.org
Long Island Music and Entertainment Hall of Fame (LIMEHOF) 97 Main St., Stony Brook. 631-689-5888 limusichalloffame.org
Madison Theatre
The Patchogue Theatre
NYCB Theatre at Westbury
The Roslyn Cella (My Father’s Place)
Theatre Three
1221 Old Northern Blvd, Roslyn. 516.580.0887. mfpproductions.com
The Space at Westbury
931 Montauk Hwy., Oakdale. 631.218.2810. cmpac.com
Staller Center
John W. Engeman Theater
The Paramount
The Suffolk
250 Main St., Northport. 516.323.4444. engemantheater.com
370 New York Ave., Huntington. 631.673.7300 paramountny.com
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412 Main St., Port Jefferson. 631.928.9100. theatrethree.com
Tilles Center
720 Northern Blvd., Brookville. 516.299.3100. tillescenter.org
250 Post Ave., Westbury. 516.283.5577 thespaceatwestbury.com
1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre. 516.323.4444 madisontheatreny.org
CMPAC (CM Performing Arts Center)
960 Brush Hollow Rd., Westbury. 516.334.0800 thetheatreatwestbury.com
71 E. Main St., Patchogue. 631.207.1313 patchoguetheatre.org
UBS Arena
2400 Hempstead Tpke., Elmont . 516.460.8599. ubsarena.com
100 Nicolls Rd., Stony Brook. 631.632.2787. stallercenter.com
Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Center
776 Main St., Westhampton Beach. 631.288.1500. whbpac.org
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Trans Siberian Orchestra: 7:30pm. UBS Arena
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Hamilton’s original Aaron Burr, graces the Staller Center stage on March 9. Leslie Odom, Jr., is a Tony® and Grammy Award-winning, three-time Emmy and two-time Academy Award-nominated vocalist, songwriter, author, and actor., will perform his favorite music from Broadway and beyond. His concert will feature a wide range of popular Broadway and standard tunes with an incredible band. This is a show that is not to be missed! When: Saturday, March 9 at 8 pm Where: Staller Center for the Arts Tickets: stallercenter.com. 631- 632-ARTS (2787). boxoffice@stallercenter.com advertisement
Anthony Rodia: 8pm. The Paramount That Motown Band: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre The Seiskaya Ballet’s Nutcracker: 2 & 7pm. Staller Center Cherish The Ladies: 3 & 8pm. The Suffolk Holiday Doo Wop: 7pm. Theatre at Westbury Eglevsky Ballet The Nutcracker: 1 & 6pm. Tilles Center Friends of the Brothers (Allman Bros. tribute): 8pm. WHBPAC
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A Slightly Wicked Holiday Show: 3pm. AUPAC Lumiere Ballet: The Nutcracker: 4pm. Boulton Center Laurie Berkner: 11am. The Paramount Andrew Dice Clay: 8pm. The Paramount The Seiskaya Ballet’s Nutcracker: 1 & 6pm. Staller Center A John Denver Christmas: 7pm. The Suffolk Eglevsky Ballet The Nutcracker: 2pm. Tilles Center
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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year: 8pm. Engeman Theater Emily King: 8pm. Landmark on Main St Christmas with The New York Tenors: 7:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
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The Most Wonderful Time of the Year: 8pm. Engeman Theater
Puppy Pals Live: 3pm. Madison Theatre. Lorna Shore: 6pm. The Paramount
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The Mystic with Jill Gioia: 3pm. Argyle Theatre Let’s Sing Taylor: 8pm. The Paramount
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A Classical Christmas: 8pm. The Suffolk
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The Shadows of the 60s (Motown tribute): 7:30pm. Argyle Theatre
Pianist with the Hair: 8pm. Argyle Theatre All You Need is Love (Beatles tribute): 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
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Get the Led Out (Led Zepellin tribute): 8pm. The Paramount
Bonjourney (BonJovi & Journey tribute)/Bangos NYC (Bangles & The Go Gos tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre The Lenny Michelle Band: 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Pete Correale: 7:30pm. The Paramount
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Get the Led Out (Led Zepellin tribute): 8pm. The Paramount Disco Fever: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
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New Year’s Laughin’ Eve ’23: 6 & 8pm. AUPAC New Year’s Eve Long Island Comedy Festival: 6 & 8pm. Argyle Theatre New York Bee Gees: 8pm. The Paramount The Velvet Stardust Rock Show: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre That 70’s Band New Years Eve Party: 10pm. The Suffolk New Year’s Laughin’ Eve: 6 & 8pm. Theatre Three Billy Joel: 9:30pm. UBS Arena
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Broadway Blockbusters: 3pm. Argyle Theatre A Bronx Tale starring Chazz Palminteri: 7:30pm. The Paramount Stephen Pearcy: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
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Grace Potter: 7:30pm. The Paramount
The Purple Xperience (Prince tribute): 8pm. The Paramount Free Fallin (Tom Petty tribute): 7pm. The Suffolk
The Lords of 52nd Street (Billy Joel tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk
Roslyn Cellar Tom Papa: 7pm. The Paramount Molly Hatchet: 8pm. The Suffolk
Hourglass (James Taylor tribute): 3pm. Argyle Theatre A Conversation with John Cusack following a screening of High Fidelity: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre Kerry Kearney & Heather Hardy: 8pm. Roslyn Cellar
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Dancing with the Stars: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Bowie Station (Bowie tribute): 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Hollywood Nights (Bob Seger tribute): 8pm. Patchogue Theatre G.E. Smith and Duke Robillard: 8pm. The Suffolk Royal Philharmonic Orchestra: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Absolute Adele (Adele tribute): 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Jazz at Lincoln Center Orchestra with Wynton Marsalis: 8pm. Staller Center David Finckel and Wu Han: 7pm. Tilles Center
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J.D. Leonard & Co.: 8pm. Argyle Theatre Bowie Station (Bowie tribute): 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Mr. Big: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Ongoing
Mary Poppins: thru Dec. 31. Argyle Theatre
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Four Way Street (CSNY tribute): 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Craig Ferguson: 8pm. The Paramount
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Elf: Dec. 2-17. CMPAC Beauty and the Beast: thru Dec. 31. Engeman Theater I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change: January 18-March 3. Engeman Theater Holiday Spectacular On Ice: Dec. 1-Jan 1. The Gateway
Long Island Comedy Festival Holiday Hangover Ha Ha!: 8pm. Argyle Theatre Reza: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Sons of Skynyrd (Lynyrd Skynyrd tribute)/ Allmost Brothers (Allman Bros. tribute): 7:30pm. Argyle Theatre The Virtual Band: 8pm. Roslyn Cellar Best Of The Eagles: 8pm. The Paramount Pink Floyd Laser Spectacular: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre ZBTB (Zac Brown tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk Ruben Studdard/Clay Aiken: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Barnaby Saves Christmas: thru Dec. 30. Theatre Three
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Let’s Sing Taylor: 8pm. The Paramount
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Us and Floyd (Pink Floyd tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre Let’s Sing Taylor: 8pm. The Paramount
24 • december 2023/January 2024 • Long Island Woman
Sal Viviano: 8pm. Argyle Theatre The Englishtown Project: 8pm. Boulton Center Long Island Rhythm Experience (LIRX): 8pm.
Fiddler On The Roof: Jan. 26-Feb. 25. The Gateway A Christmas Carol: thru Dec. 31. Theatre Three The Gin Game: Jan. 13 thru Feb. 3. Theatre Three
Children’s Theatre
The Happy Elf: thru Dec. 31. Argyle Theatre Frosty: thru Dec. 31. Engeman Theater Frozen: Jan. 27-March 3. Engeman Theater Jack and the Beanstalk: Jan. 20-Feb. 3. Theatre Three Disney on Ice: Jan. 4-7. UBS Arena
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