


Unfortunately, nothing stops the aging process – not even a facelift, but a facelift can turn back the aging process by 10 years. Facelifts improve the visible signs of aging by removing excess fat, tightening muscles and removing extra sagging skin from the face and neck. Facelifts will correct and tighten both the skin and deeper muscular layers of the face. Facelift surgery creates a more youthful appearance by enhancing natural facial features without creating a completely different look. After 30 years performing cosmetic facial procedures, Stephen T. Greenberg, M.D., F.A.C.S. uses only the most advanced techniques to restore and refresh facial contour. Dr. Greenberg’s ultra-modern approach uses micro-incisions to re-suspend and restore facial harmony resulting in minimal recovery time coupled with natural looking outcomes. The Greenberg Mini Plasma-Lift is a minimally invasive option that will tighten skin around the neck and jawline creating a rejuvenated and refreshed look with virtually no detectible signs of having a procedure.
The eyelids are often the telling sign of a person’s age. Greenberg Cosmetic Surgery employs state-of-the-art technology and lasers to correct droopy upper lids and puffy bags below the eyes. As we age, we begin to develop droop or “puffy” eyelids. This process starts in the 30’s and 40’s and progresses with the aging process. These changes usually occur because over the years, the eyelid skin thins, loses tone, and becomes more susceptible to gravity. The fat pockets gradually herniate forward which can cause bags in both the upper and lower eyelid. As we age , the eyes begin to look more baggy and tired. Dr. Greenberg performs eyelid lifts to remove the excess skin and fat in his fully accredited, state-of-the-art office based surgical center. Expect a refreshed and rejuvenated look with natural results where everyone will notice but no one will know.
grafting or fat injection, can restore a more youthful complexion, smoothing fine lines and wrinkles and improving contour. It is a simple and safe procedure, during which fat cells are transferred from one area of your body to another. When applied to the face, this procedure can refine and enhance the lips, cheeks, jaw, nasolabial folds and under-eye area for natural-looking results.
Looking for a non-surgical way to refresh your face for fall? A Liquid Facelift will smooth wrinkles, restore volume and improve facial contour using cosmetic injectables, such as Restylane®, Botox Cosmetic® and Juvéderm®. Kybella® is an absolute game changer for patients who struggle with submental fullness, aka a double chin. Kybella® can melt away the fat under the jawline and tighten the skin, creating a slimmer and more sculpted jawline.
Expect a refreshed and rejuvenated look with natural results where everyone will notice but no one will know.
Now is the perfect time of year to refresh and revitalize your look for the upcoming holiday season. Using cutting-edge technology, our licensed medical aestheticians reverse sun damage, improve skin tone and texture, as well as remodel collagen and restore elasticity to the skin. Correcting and preventing jowls, folds, lines, wrinkles, scars, stretch marks and crepey skin on the face and body not only ensures healthy skin, but is the key to an effective anti-aging regimen. Morpheus8, Legend Pro, and Cool Peel are high-tech devices used to reverse the signs of aging and to stimulate the formation of new healthy skin cells for youthful glowing skin.
Over time, aging and environmental factors can impact the appearance of the face, resulting in lost volum e and reduced definition. A facial fat transfer, also called fat
Dr. Stephen T. Greenberg is a double board-certified plastic surg eon who specializes in cosmetic plastic surgery. He is director of New York’s Premier Centers for Plastic Surgery in Manhattan, Woodbury, Southampton and Smithtown in New York as well as Boca Raton, Florida. Listen to the only cosmetic surgery radio talk show Nip Tuck Today with Dr. Stephen T. Greenberg every Sunday at 10 am on 710 am radio. Tune in on any device at 710WOR.iHeart.com. To schedule your complimentary surgical, injection or medspa consultation call 516.364.4200 or visit www.GreenbergCosmeticSurgery.com.
Favorite meal: Diet coke and a scoop of peanut butter
Favorite restaurant-y meal: c aesar salad and salmon
Favorite binge tv show: 90 Day Fiancé
Favorite all-time tv show: Succession
Current book: Marya Hornbacher’s Madness: A Bipolar Life
Favorite book of all-time: Julia c ameron’s The Artist’s Way
On your playlist: rihanna
Favorite place to visit: I like to go to my friends’ houses.
Favorite painting: My husband scott did a painting of our refrigerator that I enjoy.
If you could meet someone famous, alive or dead, who would it be?
snoopy!
12 Maria Bamford
“I’m an acquired taste. So I always tell people, `YouTube your comedy before you spend $30 on two
Please be responsible.’ “Live Photo: Bruce Smith
Cosmetic Surgery performed by a female surgeon, committed to the quality care of women
Surgery of the BreaSt
Breast Augmentation • Breast Uplift
Breast Reduction (Lollipop Scar)
Microdermabrasion • Chemical Peels
Restylane/Juvederm • Botox/Dysport
CoSmetiC Surgery
Face/Neck Lift • Eyelid Surgery • Liposuction
Tummy Tuck • Repair of Torn Earlobes
Charlotte ann rhee, mD, faCS
Board Certified Plastic & Reconstructive Surgeon 631-424-6707
257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington Station www.liplasticsurgery.com
Many of my patients come to me seeking help with the changes that can occur after childbirth. Following childbirth, a woman’s breast can grow to uncomfortable proportions or just the opposite can happen. A woman’s breast can actually lose volume and shrink, resulting in the breast appearing “deflated.”
Additionally, a large number of women come to me seeking help with the post partum changes of their abdomen. During pregnancy the skin and abdominal wall muscles are stretched. Following childbirth, the abdomen can protrude and the skin can be loose or sag. In some cases, the abdominal muscles can be so weakened that the individual may look like she is still pregnant. Despite daily workouts including sit ups and crunches, a tummy tuck may be needed to restore these muscles.
Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience varied medical problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running, making exercise and weight loss very difficult if not impossible. Breast reduction (reduction mammaplasty), is a surgical procedure which makes breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional method (inverted T-scar) leaves the breasts with a vertical, long horizontal scar (along the breast crease). “I utilize the Lejour technique, which leaves the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and, in my opinion, with a rounder more natural appearing breast and a better cosmetic result.” Breast reductions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance.
Women who come to me seeking breast enlargement have very similar goals to those seeking breast reduction. Both groups of women want to have breasts that are proportional to their body size with the most natural result possible. In certain situations, a breast lift is also needed to tighten lax skin. The laxity can be the result of pregnancy or weight loss. When a breast lift is needed, I utilize the lollipop scar technique. A breast lift procedure is very similar to a breast reduction. The only difference is that with a breast reduction, breast tissue is removed.
Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery. The most common combined procedures performed by Dr. Rhee are breast surgery, whether it is a breast reduction or augmentation, combined with tummy tuck, also known as abdominoplasty. For those patients who desire breast augmentation together with a tummy tuck, I am able to place the breast implants through the tummy tuck incision, leaving the breasts without any scars.
Liposuction is also commonly performed at the same time. Despite diet and exercise, certain areas of the body are prone to carry excess fat. For these areas, liposuction can help. The most common areas for liposuction are the love handles (upper hip area) and thighs.
Patients who have combined procedures do surprisingly well. In addition to having the benefit of just one recovery process, there can also be a significant savings in price.
To learn more, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentary consultation with Dr. Rhee at 631-424-6707. Located at 257 E. Jericho Tpke., Huntington Station. liplasticsurgery.com. Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a board certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon specializing in breast surgery.
Many of my patients who have breast surgery also have other procedures performed at the same time. This allows for one surgery and one recovery.
America’s Got Talent named it the “Best New Act in America,” praising the production that features some of the country’s top dancers performing illuminated moves created by innovative choreographers. iLuminate is an immersive intermix that lights up the night by combining customized LED suits with wireless lighting programs to create extraordinary lighting effects that move along with each dancer onstage. Founded by dancer-software engineer Miral Kotb, iLuminate goes beyond simple dance performance to bring audiences a fusion of technology and dance. Now, direct from Las Vegas, the show brings local audiences its innovative family-friendly experience on Sunday, Nov. 5 at 7 p.m. at the Staller Center Main Stage at Stony Brook University, 100 Nicolls Rd., Stony Brook. Purchase tickets ($15-$48) at stallercenter.showare.com or by calling 631-632-ARTS (631-632-2787).
Every year, from late October to late November, local trees shed their leaves and pull out all the stops to put on their showy display of fall color. The turning of the leaves in Nassau and Suffolk counties and in New York City will hit its peak from early November to around Nov. 15. It takes about two weeks for the color to complete its cycle in any given area; show-stopping peak brilliance lasts three to four days in any one spot. The vivid color splash on the grounds of the island’s many Gold Coast estates is a must-see, from Planting Fields Arboretum, to Old Westbury Gardens, to the Vanderbilt Museum. Also on the North Shore is the Nassau County Museum of Art, 145 bucolic acres that include plenty of hiking trails. Further east, in Suffolk County, you can explore turning hues at the Connetquot River, Caleb Smith, and Caumsett state parks. Leaf peepers can sign up at iloveny.com for weekly Fall Foliage Newsletters that contain updated predictions for peak viewing.
In 2019, 61% of adults in the country classified as being lonely, according to a Cigna Health Corporation survey — and that survey was conducted a year before the Covid-19 pandemic exacerbated the problem. Now, even though many Americans are no longer working alone remotely or from home, the statistics have not yielded hoped-for improvement: About half of the U.S. adults
Scott Simon of National Public Radio called Lucy Kaplansky’s independent release Last Days of Summer “utterly beautiful and affecting … Lucy sings songs from her life with resonance in ours.” She is an award-winning singersongwriter who has been collaborating for more than 30 years with renowned singer-songwriter Richard Shindell; of whom The New York Times wrote, “His set list highlighted only strengths, his voice never wavered,” and he has “a genuine absence of ego.” Shindell, who is also an award-winning artist, lives in Argentina, and has mostly stopped going on the road, so his upcoming limited run of shows with Kaplansky will provide a rare opportunity for a reboot of their concerts that had to be canceled at the beginning of the global pandemic more than three years ago. Kaplansky and Shindell will share the stage as they perform their beautifully crafted and sung stories on Thursday, Oct. 19 at 7:30 p.m. at Landmark on Main Street’s Jeanne Rimsky Theater, 232 Main St., Port Washington. Purchase tickets ($38.14-$54.66) at landmarkonmainst.org or by calling 516-767-6444. s To submit info for FYI consideration, please send it to fyipick.liw@gmail.com.
surveyed report that they have experienced loneliness, said U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy, who has said that loneliness is a public health epidemic. The condition has been linked to an increased risk of dementia, increased susceptibility to infections, and heart disease. However, there are other studies that have brought an optimistic outlook to researchers. Michelle Kondo, a research social scientist with the USDA Forest Service, is one; she stated, “Patient diagnoses and chronic illness risk are often related to where an individual lives and their proximity to green spaces.” Many studies have suggested that being outside in nature reduces stress, cortisol levels, muscle tension and heart rates – all of which are risk factors for cardiovascular disease — and restores and strengthens our mental capacities, which increases focus and attention. Spending time outdoors often can also mean sharing quality time with friends and family, making social connections in the process. Such connections are especially important because, as Kondo put it, “We are finding that isolation is a killer.”
“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are o c tobers.” L.m montgomery, Anne of Green GablesRichard Shindell and Lucy Kaplansky
At American Investment Planners LLC we believe Estate Planning is one of the most important aspects of financial planning. Estate Planning is a multi-step process which may take more than one meeting to accomplish.
First we listen, and then we plan. Our course of action is to hold an initial “getting to know you” meeting. We discuss in detail your financial situation, the needs of your spouse and children.
We then create a comprehensive plan that encompasses your individual goals. We will then suggest you contact your attorney and draft a will and if necessary a trust.
We then complete with you a profile booklet where we capture further financial and personal information in detail. It is at this juncture where we gain a deeper understanding of your circumstances, risk tolerance, short and long term goals as well as your investment philosophy and personal values.
Our team of Certified Financial Planners, Life Insurance Specialists, and Accountants work together to review the information compiled to create a financial plan that encompasses all the details discussed in our meetings. Once we all agree on an applicable plan, it will be implemented and continually monitored as personal circumstances and market conditions dictate. We continue our relationship with you and periodically meet to make adjustments to the portfolio so we can ensure the plan stays on target.
Please call Barbara at 516 932 5130 or email barbara@americaninvestmentplanners.com. Visit our website at americaninvestmentplanners.com
Women with very large pendulous breasts may experience a variety of medical problems including back and neck pain. Also, the weight of large breasts can cause the bra straps to dig into the shoulders leaving groove markings. Large breasts get in the way of physical activities such as running and other sports which can make exercise and weight loss very difficult if not impossible.
Breast Reduction, also known as reduction mammaplasty, is a surgical procedure undertaken to make the breasts smaller. There are many different breast reduction techniques. The more traditional method (inverted T Scar)
leaves the breasts with a vertical and a long horizontal scar (along the breast crease). I utilize the LeJour technique which leaves the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar) and in my opinion, with a rounder and more naturally appearing breast with a better cosmetic result.
Breast reductions are performed as an outpatient procedure and are covered by insurance. If you would like to learn more about this procedure, please call our Huntington office to schedule a complimentary consultation with Dr. Rhee at 631-424-6707.
Dr. Charlotte Rhee is a Board Certified Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeon who specializes in surgery of the breast. Visit liplasticsurgery.com.
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is one of the most important aspects of financial planning.
The LeJour technique leaves the breast with a single vertical incision (lollipop scar).
Often called the heir to Dorothy Parker, the cultural satirist appears on Thursday, Oct. 12 at 8 p.m. at the Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts, 71 E. Main St. Purchase tickets ($59-$89) at patchoguetheatre.org or call 632-2071313.
Explore Long Island with Bethpage Federal Credit Union’s PedalShare. Download the app at ridepedalshare.com and rent bicycles ($4-$59) through November, at 50 Suffolk stations.
Learn to perfect dishes at Holiday Brunch, 6-9 p.m. at Wilson Tech Dix Hills, 17 Westminster Ave., Dix Hills, on Thursday, Oct. 26 or Monday, Dec. 11. Register at wilsontech.org ($39) or call 631- 667-6000 x320.
Apple cider, kettle corn, and homemade pies: Celebrate autumn at Hicks Nurseries 48th Annual Fall Festival through Oct. 29, with a hay maze, kids activities, fairytale pumpkins and more. Free parking/admission at 100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury. See details at hicksnurseries. com or call 516-334-0066.
Bring gloves any Saturday through Dec. 30, 10-11:30 a.m. Free parking/admission; registration required (eventbrite. com). Hallock State Park, 6062 Sound Ave., Riverhead. Questions? Email response@amseas.org.
Parents, grandparents, relatives, and friends can open a New York State 529 College Savings investment account that a child can use for higher education — and taxpayers get a tax deduction. Details: Visit nysaves.org or call 877697-2837.
The New York Times Book of Movies: The Essential 1,000 Films to See is a collection of reviews selected by longtime New York Times critics. Includes how to watch, from DVD and Blu-Ray to streaming platforms. Purchase at your local bookstore.
Americans are flying again. Airlines offering wide economyclass seats include Jet Blue Airways and Silver Airways (18 inches), Spirit Airlines (17.75), and Southwest Airlines
by Annie Wilkinson(17.5). See others at condenasttraveler.com.
Brighten up wintertime with amaryllis, a spectacular flowering bulb. Pot it indoors from early to mid-November for holiday blooms. Available at nurseries, hardware stores, and supermarkets.
“Analyzing HBO’s The Gilded Age Season 1 Recap: Fact or Fiction” looks at how the series depicts Manhattan’s wealthiest residents in the 1880s. Presented online on Friday, Oct. 13, 5:30-7 p.m. Register at nyadventureclub. com for tickets ($10), which includes a replay for one week.
This webinar series focuses on treatment, therapies, and side effects. Sponsored by the national nonprofit Living Beyond Breast Cancer (lbbc.org); free. Presented on Thursday, Oct. 26, 7-8:30 p.m. and Thursday, Nov. 2, 7-8:30 p.m. Register at lbbc.org.
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“If you don’t have wrinkles, you haven’t laughed enough.” Phyllis Diller
Mammography has been proven to save lives. “Breast cancer deaths are down by 40 percent and mammography has contributed to that decline,” says diagnostic radiologist, Jean K. Warner, MD. But it isn’t foolproof. It can miss cancer, especially in women with mixed density or dense breasts, which contain more glands, ducts and connective tissue than fat. Density makes it harder to detect suspicious lumps on a mammogram. That’s because glandular tissue appears white on a mammogram, just like a mass can.
Fortunately, these tools are available that can give you a clearer picture of your breast health and your risk for the disease.
What is your estimated lifetime risk of breast cancer? It’s important to find out, even as early as your 20s. Your estimated lifetime risk will determine the breast cancer screening tests you may need (or don’t need). Your doctor can also assess your risk, using a proprietary risk assessment calculator at your appointment. The sophisticated computer algorithm will put you into one of three categories: High risk, defined as a lifetime risk for breast cancer of 20 percent or more, intermediate risk: a lifetime risk of breast cancer of 15 to 20 percent, or average risk—anything under 15 percent.
No matter which risk category you’re in, the first step is a mammogram, which is still standard practice for breast cancer screening and detection. For women at average risk for breast cancer, the American Cancer Society recommends those between 40 and 44 have the option to start with a screening mammogram every year. Women 45 to 54 should get mammograms yearly. Women 55 and older can switch to a mammogram every other year or choose to continue yearly mammograms.
If you’re at high or intermediate risk, you may need to start being screened earlier and more often. If you’re at high risk, “breast density doesn’t matter,” Dr. Warner says. In addition to mammography, “you automatically qualify for supplemental screening with magnetic resonance imaging,” Dr. Warner says. In other words, insurance will cover this expensive, but sensitive test. (More on MRI in a minute.) Doing a risk assessment first gives you the big picture. “Women can push for the supplemental tests they need,” Dr. Warner says.
If you’re at average or intermediate risk for breast cancer, breast density will come into play, and that’s where tomosynthesis excels. The latest in breast cancer detection technology, tomosynthesis, or “3D mammogram,” is a digital mammogram that takes images of the breast in thin slices from multiple angles. “The only thing that’s different between the 2D and 3D mammogram is that the gantry (radiation device) moves,” says diagnostic radiologist, Richard Reitherman, MD.
Tomosynthesis takes an arc of pictures through each breast in five-millimeter slices, which are reconstructed into a three-dimensional image. The resulting image allows radiologists to more easily distinguish a mass from overlapping structures that can hide or mimic cancer.
3D mammogram has been demonstrated to find more cancer than standard 2D digital mammogram. “The denser the breasts, the more valuable 3D mammography is for finding cancer,” Dr. Reitherman says. Three more women
by Sandra Gordonper thousand will receive a cancer diagnosis with tomosynthesis, compared to a digital mammogram, which is significant. Moreover, women with dense or mixed density breasts who undergo tomosynthesis are less likely to be called back for additional imaging.
Ask for 3D mammography if: You’re at average or intermediate risk for breast cancer or you have dense breasts. Women with more than 50 percent of their breasts dense should undergo a 3D mammogram from then on, if available. Otherwise, a standard digital “2D” mammogram will suffice, Dr. Reitherman says.
MRI employs magnetic and radio waves instead of X-rays to create highdefinition cross-sectional images of breast tissue without radiation. For the 30-minute test itself, women are injected with a safe, nonradioactive contrasting solution (gadolinium). Under the stimulus of the pulses of the MRI machine, gadolinium turns white in areas where there might be cancer.
Although MRI can’t see all breast cancers, it’s more sensitive than mammograms alone. In 1,000 women, MRI will find twice as many cancer cancers, compared to 3D mammograms alone. “MRI is the best test on the planet,” Dr. Reitherman says.
Ask for MRI as an additional screening test if: You’re at high risk for breast cancer, with at least a 20 percent lifetime risk. Insurance will pay for this expensive test under those circumstances. If you’re not at high risk but have extremely dense breasts—more than 75 percent of your breast contains dense tissue (about 20 percent of women), and want to be certain you don’t have breast cancer, consider paying out of pocket ($600 to $700) for this test. Dr. Reitherman recommends repeating MRI every two years.
During this test, an automated ultrasound machine uses sound waves to produce pictures of the internal structures of the breast. The images are recorded for a radiologist to interpret. Or, a trained technician uses a handheld ultrasound device to hunt for breast tumors. Either way, “having an ultrasound is extremely helpful the denser the breast,” Dr. Reitherman says. Ask for this additional screening test if: You have extremely dense breasts (in the 75 percent or greater range).
Overall, beyond a 2D or 3D mammogram for breast cancer screening, you might also undergo breast ultrasound or MRI, or both, depending on your risk level and breast density. Nobody wants to be told she has breast cancer. Still, it’s important to be proactive. “Finding breast cancer early, when we have more and better treatments, is the key,” Dr. Warner says.
You won’t know your breast density until you have your first screening mammogram, which could be 2D or 3D, depending on what’s available in your area. During the mammogram, an integrated computer program will measure the amount of white versus dark tissue and produce a number that gets converted to a percentage.
In 38 states, women must be notified by letter about their breast density after mammography. By September 10, 2024, however, all mammography facilities will have to comply with a new FDA national requirement for dense breast reporting. Patients will be notified that their breasts are “not dense” or “dense” and the mammogram report sent to referring providers must include an assessment of the patient’s breast density. l
These tools are available that can give you a clearer picture of your breast health and your risk for the disease.
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How much does an average person cram into a day? If they were to pie chart every activity—morning hygiene, childcare, working, commuting, budgeting, social-media scrolling, eating, exercising, Netflixing, worrying—they’d likely ask themselves, “How do I get out of bed in the morning without a three-day vacation after yesterday?”
Okay, now add to all that orchestrated chaos a serious, lifelong mental illness that, even controlled with medication and therapy, threatens to pull you into a suicidal funk, impacts your ability to function in society, and leaves you sleeping twelve hours a day. Oh, and you’re a comedian who’s done sitcoms, stand-up, and cartoon voice-overs, and you’ve just written a book.
If you’re Maria Bamford, you’re actually lucky and grateful, because not that many years ago you were self-institutionalized (three times) and wondering if you’d ever see light at the end of the depression/OCD/eating disorder/intrusive thoughts/bipolar II tunnel. Happily, the right mix of therapy and medications did pull Bamford back into the daylight—and the spotlight—with the results including two seasons of her very funny sitcom, Lady Dynamite; voicing Tito the Anxiety Mosquito on the brilliant animated comedies Big Mouth and Human Resources; making the daring Netflix special, Old Baby, which shows her performing not just in front of typical club crowds but sometimes for just two or three people at a time; and bringing her current comedy set to the Patchogue Performing Arts Center Sunday night, Nov. 19.
Long IsL and Woman caught up with Bamford (via Zoom) one late afternoon as she was merrily walking one of her canines (the pug, not the chihuahua-pug mix) at a dog park near her California home. Another reason to be upbeat: she’d reached her Kickstarter funding goal to produce three episodes of her homemade webseries, “Noooo-CD!,” a zany take on her ongoing battle with the negative thoughts that barnstorm her mind and have, in the past, walloped her. For example, in the video, she declines a dinner invitation because she frets about the cutlery. No, not for fear that she’ll place the salad fork on the wrong side of the plate, but because a part of her worries that she’ll seize the knife and embark on a stabbing frenzy. Of course, she never would…but the Bamford character, and Bamford herself, are forever trying to stop their minds from fixating on all the terrible things she might do if she were truly dangerous and out of control. Hence the term “intrusive thoughts” and the desire to say to OCD, “Noooo-CD.”
“It’s better known now than when I was a kid,” Bamford notes about this particular condition, adding that “intrusive thoughts are unwanted, taboo, violent and/ or sexual thoughts.” Among those she mentions and copes with are pedophile OCD (i.e., an unfounded fear that you might engage in that behavior) and sexual orientation OCD. “It’s someone being afraid of being something that they aren’t. A fear that you might hurt somebody or run somebody over on the road. So you become obsessed with doing rituals to somehow prevent this bad thing from happening. It’s all very unique because people’s brains are so creative, and it can be adult-onset or part of postpartum depression. But it can really paralyze people. I like to talk about it because I was so helped by finding out you can get treatment. For example, The International OCD Foundation is a great resource.”
As for the comedy of “Nooo-CD,” “I’ve made three episodes so far,” Bamford says. “They’re very short—a la TikTok, and kind of like The Maria Bamford Show (2007-08), which was about my worst fear: having a nervous breakdown and having to live with my parents. I did about 20 episodes of that years ago, so now I thought I’d talk about OCD. If people are interested, then I’ll make more. Until then, it’s `Slow Business’— I make stuff when I have time and without bankrupting myself or others. I feel irresponsible at this stage of my life if I’m asking people, `Oh, can you do this for free?’”
That said, Bamford has been a groundbreaker in terms of being a comedian at a certain level of fame who sees little difference in playing for a 1,200-seat house
(a la Patchogue) versus an audience of, literally, one. To try out new material, she still performs one-on-one Zoom shows that she announces on X (fka Twitter). “Viewers agree, on my Twitter feed, to watch in exchange for something like a t-shirt or a book,” explains Bamford. “Or, if they’re a fellow comedian, I pay them (a fee). I don’t usually say that publicly because a lot of people would then tell me they’re comedians.”
Asked if she can get a true sense if her stuff is funny when only one person is responding—and likely feeling as much pressure to smile and react as Bamford is to perform—the comedian replies, “I’m always my own first audience, so I’m not totally dependent on people’s response to my material. It’s awesome if somebody laughs, but if they’re just watching, that’s okay, too. Because of my internal lack of ambition, I just need a witness to get me to go through the material. Otherwise, I will not on my own. That said, I have some friends who laugh at everything I say, so they are my second audience. I don’t mind sycophants; that’s the soil I bloom in.”
Nonetheless, Bamford is super-conscious about the effort-versus-return ratio that faces all performers. “Money is often the last thing people ask about,” the comedian notes, “and then some places get offended if you ask about it! It’s because in our culture, we don’t often talk about money in the arts. Stand-up is not unionized. I started out 30 years ago, and they are still paying the same rates to openers: maybe 50 bucks, which is not good. Like someone’ll say, `Hey, that show you’ve been working on for a long time—can you do it out of town, on a weekend, in a place that you’ve never been, and we can’t pay you?’ I think you might have a second thought about that.”
Even charity work isn’t immune to Bamford’s scrutiny: “Doing benefits, I want to get well paid. This is just my opinion, but the people giving money at these events are not fans; they’re followers of the thing they want to be solved—like schizophrenia research or Parkinson’s Disease. They would probably want to see comedy that’s pretty general, so I’m not the right act for many charities. I’d sooner turn them down or just give money.”
Sure, most audiences can relate when Bamford, 52, mocks the quirks of office culture and L.A. lifestyles, using various voices and facial grimaces (as when she imitates a businessmen with whom she chatted during breakfast at a chain hotel: “Comedy? Yeah, I always thought if I did comedy, I’d do, like, Seinfeld. You know, I’d do, like, joke-joke-joke, get a TV show, and then just f**king coast”). But when things turn darker, Bamford isn’t one to shy away from casting her troubles into a comedy mold. “From what I’ve heard from others,” she notes, “I’m an acquired taste. So I always tell people, `YouTube your comedy before you spend $30 on two drinks. Please be responsible.’
“My favorite stuff to talk about is the personal. My one skillset is revealing everything,” she says, alluding to her newly published memoir, Sure, I’ll Join Your Cult: A Memoir of Mental Illness and the Quest to Belong Anywhere. “My family was always pretty open. My mom was a family therapist, and my dad was a physician, so even when I started having mental health issues when I was around ten, they were very accepting, even though they didn’t know where to go for help. They tried their best and didn’t make it a shameful thing.”
Asked if, because of her health issues, tragedies like the passing of her parents are potential triggers for a negative cycle, Bamford, replies that she’s grateful to be in a place where even traumatic events fall into a pattern of “normal grief.”
“Before I had the right meds,” she confesses, “I cried every single day of my life. I had super-agitated times where I had to stay up all night. Real highs and lows. Now, it’s just a pretty normal amount of sadness.
“My dad died about eight months ago. It sucked, maybe even more than when mom died, because I believe he died partially of depression with her being gone. He stopped eating, which might have been partially dementia. He had a sort of anorexia and was down to 125 pounds at five-foot-ten. He had a girlfriend who was lovely and wonderful, and we’d try to get him to eat, but he’d say, `No, I’m
“My favorite stuff to talk about is the personal. My one skillset is revealing everything.”
gonna get fat.’ It was very strange and heartbreaking. And he got COVID and passed away within 48 hours. So I miss him and my mom so much and think about them every day. But I know it’s part of life and I’m not alone.”
Bamford also readily admits that as stable as she generally manages to be on “1,000 mg of Depakote, 50 mg of Seroquel, and 40 mg of Prozac,” there’s always room for improvement. “I have a pretty heavy tremor, and I’m very sleepy all the time. I sleep a minimum of 11-12 hours a night, which is delightful yet embarrassing. Those two things plus muscle weakness are what bother me. I used to be more athletic, and I just don’t have that anymore. I can still go to the gym and stuff like that, but there is some grief about those types of losses.
“However,” quickly adds Bamford, “in terms of side effects, I’m nowhere near what others have suffered. People will say, `You know, there’s this great new medication that has no side effects!’, but I’m too terrified to ever go off the ones I’m on. Maybe someday. Then again, in most mentalhealth memoirs, when somebody goes off their meds, it’s a bad chapter!” (In her book, Bamford notes that she temporarily halved her dose to finish writing it—and it was not a good time.)
“Our society isn’t always set up to have `wellness’ be a whole bunch of different things besides meds,” the comedian explains. “Things like friendships or, `Maybe I can’t afford a spa, but am I letting myself splash in the sink a little?’ I always want to err on the side of stuff that’s for free, but I definitely have all sorts of things besides meds and therapy: twelve-step groups, peers, people in the comedy community who have mental health and addiction issues. Also, I live in Southern California, which is very groovy—everybody, particularly in the arts community, is open and supportive.”
Adding to that support are Bamford’s husband of eight years, artist Scott Marvel Cassidy, who has also dealt with mental-health issues; and her older sister, writer and Shamanic healer, Sarah Seidelmann. “There are times Sarah will say, `Hey, please don’t do an impersonation of me in your act,’” Bamford notes. “And that’s an ongoing conversation because, just like in any other relationship, you can make requests, and sometimes the person will forget to do whatever it is you’ve asked a hundred times. But, hey, I know she’s used me in her work, both fiction and non-fiction. So who’s the real victim? Still, I think she’ll keep talking to me,” Bamford laughs. The comedian also expresses much gratitude to her friends, some of whom visited her daily each time she was institutionalized. Even if they hadn’t, Bamford avows, “I never drop anybody. I don’t care what you do. I don’t care if you dox me, we’re gonna be friends for the rest of your life! Unless you go away.”
And Bamford herself is certainly not leaving the comedy scene any time soon. Yes, her conditions curtail her schedule, but as she points out, “Stand-up is only one hour a day. I’m not a high-producing person—one of those insanely talented
comedians who write all their own material, produce their own shows, direct and act. When I was on Lady Dynamite, the only thing I did was act—and I barely made it through those days. To make it through one day of what would be a regular day of work for anyone else—it’s just embarrassing. I equate it to my friends who have wheelchairs who are asked to perform at places. They’ll get there…no ramp. Everyone likes to think that they are welcoming to different abilities and disabilities, but when it’s actually in front of you, you realize, `Oh, wow. This person can’t just keep going for 12 hours at a time.’
“Still, I am excited to tell my material to people,” Bamford smiles. “I think my last album had a joke about my being in a psych facility. Somebody came up to me and said, `I know you! You’re a comedian. But don’t worry; I’ll never tell anyone. BUT I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!’ My reply—at least in joke form—was, `Tell whoever the f**k you want. I’m in a county-stamped gown and wearing electric green gripper socks. All is lost.’ People hiding stuff—or people acting towards you as if your situation is shameful—is a bummer. But also very funny!” ▲
David Lefkowitz (davelefkowitz.org), an award-winning playwright, teaches courses in English and film at two universities. His weekly video podcast, Dave’s Gone By (davesgoneby.com), is now in its 21st year.
“Before i had the right meds, i cried every single day of my life. i had super-agitated times where i had to stay up all night. real highs and lows. Now, it’s just a pretty normal amount of sadness.”
Long Island boasts quite a number of authors and Susan Isaacs is one of the more accomplished having written fifteen novels. Her most recent is Bad, Bad Seymour Brown, the second in a series with protagonist Corie Geller, a former FBI Agent who must solve one of the NYPD’s coldest homicide cases before the sole survivor is killed. Ms. Isaacs’ is a recipient of the Writers for Writers Award and the John Steinbeck Award, while having served as chairman of the board of Poets & Writers and is a past president of Mystery Writers of America. In addition, her fiction has been translated into thirty languages. Recently, I had an opportubity to have a chat with her.
Could you have imagined the success you have following the publication of “Compromising Positions” when it came out in 1978?
As I was writing Compromising, my hope was “Oh please, let someone publish this.” Sure, there’s always the grandiose fantasy, sitting beside Johnny Carson/Trevor Noah as I make them crumple with laughter. But what really counted to me was that I now had a career doing something that gave me pleasure — sitting alone in a room, telling myself stories.
Do you still get that same thrill when you first see that box arrive at your home with stacks of your latest novel?
Yes! (Except the time I tripped over the carton.) You open the flaps, pick up a copy, and cradle it to your chest. For a project that begins with an idea, it ends with delightful solidity.
Since “Compromising Positions” came out so much has changed in the publishing industry. Yet, it seems you managed to stay abreast of all those changes. Was there any particular aspect that you found challenging, though?
Great question! And the answer is…social media. Early on, I joined Facebook to keep up with old pals, show off my dog Lulu’s gorgeousness. Also, it was a way to let my jacket covers announce, “Yo, new book!” I joined Twitter and Instagram too.
But back then, to really sell books, I went on tour. That’s
what publishers wanted and authors did. Literary lunches, signing books in Costco, local radio and TV interviews, and readings in bookstores and libraries. All over the country. England, Ireland, and one time, a face-to-face chat on Radio Prague’s English-language hour. Exciting, and exhausting, with the advantage of knowing there was a definite cutoff date. Except being public is tough for me — in two ways. Although I can have a great time being out there, my delight diminishes after a couple of hours. I’m much more introverted than extroverted. My powers of observation and language, plus whatever charm I possess, work best when I’m with people I know and feel at ease with.
The economics of publishing and Covid put an end to that. Social media became the world’s news source and shopping mall. Amazon started with books, and soon everybody was selling everything online.
Also, I have ADHD. One of the pluses of having that syndrome is being able to hyper-focus when doing something I find engrossing. When I’m writing, there’s no distraction because I’m someplace else: in the universe of my novel.
Like many others with ADHD, I can post on social media, and scroll to see who’s doing what—for 15 minutes. Then I tend to go missing in cyberspace. I start posting about an upcoming gig at the East Hampton Library’s Author’s Night and 45 minutes later wind up staring at a website featuring ranches for sale in southern Montana. How did I get there? And why? No clue. (And naturally, I’ve totally forgotten to complete my post.)
You have reviewed books for The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Washington Post and Newsday. I cannot help but wonder if you are concerned that you may offend a fellow writer in what you say or don’t say about his or her work.
I used to review books. And yes, I was concerned about hurting a fellow writer. When I became chairman of the board of the literary organization Poets & Writers, I used it as my getaway free card. I told any book editor who asked me to review that because part of P&W’s fundraising was hitting up writers—the successful ones—their contributions could give those who hadn’t made it a shot. I said I couldn’t risk offending anyone by panning a book. That was true, but also an excuse to get out of a sticky situation. It’s hard to say no to a book review editor who will soon be assigning your
“My job is to create Shorehaven, my Long Island suburb, and populate it by using my imagination.”
novel. But I wanted out. Even trying to be fair, my writing style swings between lightly satirical and sardonic. I’d come to realize that my witticism could be another novelist’s wound.
On a more positive note, since you are an author who inspires novices, as well as those who have been writing for years, are there any writers who inspired you either when you first began or even now?
I’ve been inspired by writers from Chaucer to N. K. Jemisin. I could give you a list that would take up every page of this issue. But that has zero to do with my advice to new or would-be writers. Here it is. Writing is a job. I go to work five days a week (more toward the end). If I don’t show up, I don’t produce. Postponement also can mean loss of clarity; too long away, and my characters lose their vitality, and my narrative begins to stumble.
So, soon-to-be-authors: Before you start, designate what days or nights you can be at your job. If you already have a job, know that this will be a second commitment. You may decide you’re going to write on weekends or get up at 5 AM to put in your two hours of writing before your day gets underway. Then stick to it.
Some of your novels have made it to the big screen. When you are writing, do you envision them that way, meaning do you have a particular actress/ actor in mind as you are clicking away on your keyboard?
No. Because if I’m picturing Scarlett Johansson or Rosie Perez as Corie Geller, I’m limiting my vision of what those actors can do or look like. Granted, both of them are gifted and could play Corie, but I see no point in confining myself to an image that already exists. My job is to create Shorehaven, my Long Island suburb, and populate it by using my imagination.
As someone who attempted to write a screenplay based on one of my novels, at the suggestion of a friend in the business, and found it impossible to do, I am not only impressed how you manage to write successfully in both genres, but curious if there’s one you prefer over the other?
I definitely prefer novels. Being on the set was (mostly) a joy, like going to camp for two or three months and hanging out with a bunch of kids with awesome talents. But as I said
before, I am an introvert. The process of getting a movie ready for production is long. That’s all right if the director is serving as your editor, advising you on what you’ve written and what’s missing from your script. But then you get the star-making suggestions, even the star’s manager. The studio executives weigh in, and maybe one out of the ten sitting around the conference table has something valuable to say. You’ve made a cross-country trip to listen to people who all seem to believe deeply in your product. Then you go home with an eight-page, single-spaced memo with the revisions they all want you to make. Movies are collaborative. I prefer to go it alone.
Without a doubt, Long Island provides a great location for most of, if not all, your novels. Such is the case with “Bad, Bad Seymour Brown” where we get to see Corie Geller once again in action. When you wrote “Takes One to Know One,” did you know that she was going to show up again?
Absolutely. It took me 45 years to decide to write a series, so I had time to think it over. I knew I had to make my recurring characters multifaceted enough that they’d be able to take on a variety of cases and not do the same thing over and over. Not only would that be a snore for the readers, but for me as well. Also, I wanted Corie Geller to have a depth of experience in investigation and interrogation. Her dad, a retired NYPD detective, might have been the source of her law enforcement smarts, but she used her language skills in the FBI’s Joint Anti-Terrorism Task Force. Finally, Corie had to be a real Long Islander. Her BFF is the designer/social influencer so Corie is visually and culturally sensitive to the world she’s living in, as well as that world on the other side of the Midtown Tunnel.
Would you like to see Corie Geller on the big screen? And is she nudging you to continue her story in another novel?
Second question first. I’m already in the middle of my third Corie Geller novel and loving it. As far as her being on the big screen (or TV), sure. The common wisdom is that movies sell books. Of course, the author runs the risk of having the filmmakers botch the job, but presumably, I would be adequately compensated for my pain. And I know from experience, and decades of lunches with producers, that whatever they promise, their Corie Geller will not be mine. But why should she be? A different medium deserves its own Corie. l
“I knew I had to make my recurring characters multifaceted enough that they’d be able to take on a variety of cases and not do the same thing over and over. ”
“Before my accident, I’d describe myself saying, ‘I played football or wrestled or liked baseball. By the way, I’m a good student.’”
Then came October 31, 1970. “I was playing football at Cornell–linebacker–the day of my accident. We’d just scored a touchdown. Next play I tackled the ball carrier, broke my neck and damaged my spinal cord–C4, C5. I’m paralyzed over most of my body.”
Sitting in Ken Kunken’s Rockville Centre kitchen I asked him if he wanted to die. “Absolutely. If I’d had the option I wouldn’t have lived, but nobody would help end my life.”
Ken’s mom had died of polio when he was 27 days old, but he had tremendous support. “My family and friends encouraged me saying, ‘You’re the same person, with a good mind. Use it! We’ll be your arms and legs. There’s always hope something will improve, but don’t sit around waiting for it to come to you. Do something!’” Ken didn’t want to let them down. A family friend also suggested he write a book. Ken got a different message from his medical team: “You’ll never be independent.” He was given a pamphlet with career options for someone with his severity of paralysis. He could sell magazines over the phone.
“I couldn’t even dial a rotary phone or write orders!” This was long before today’s technology and almost 20 years before the 1990 Americans with Disabilities Act demanded public building doors, ramps, bathrooms and elevators accommodate people in wheelchairs.
Even though Ken wasn’t much of a God person, clergy continued to visit “They’d ask how I’m doing. I’d answer, ‘Terrible. If you have a special relationship with God, why’d I get hurt?’ Their response was usually, ‘God works in mysterious ways. I’m sure he has a plan for you.’ That never bought solace. It was depressing.”
After a year in rehab, Ken decided Cornell was again his best option. He returned in a wheelchair, paralyzed, unable to write notes. His aide didn’t understand his engineering courses and Ken couldn’t bear hearing them again on tape. He finally gave carbon paper to a classmate. With new notes and new hope, Ken earned his Cornell Engineering degree. Then a Cornell Master of Arts, a Columbia Master of Education, and a Hofstra Law Degree.
By 1982 Ken had an apartment and was a Nassau Assistant District Attorney. His first trial was in traffic court.
by Carol SilvaBut the elevator to the third floor was broken and the courtroom doors didn’t accommodate his wheelchair. On day three, after complaining directly to building services, Ken was promoted to District Court cases. The elevator worked in the District Court building.
In 1999 Ken needed a new weekend aide. He placed an ad in a local Polish newspaper. Anna Blazejczyk applied. She’d come from Poland to study English in school but realized she could learn more in a one-onone job. Ken hardly interviewed Anna. They talked about everything else. She left Ken’s apartment thinking, “Even if I don’t get the job, I need to know more about this fascinating man with a great personality, great voice and beautiful blue eyes.” Anna and Ken knew within a month they had something special.
When they talked engagement, Anna told Ken she wanted children. He thought, “I’m in my 50s, paralyzed for more than 30 years, and she wants children. But I’m so in love. Let’s try it!” They’d heard about the Miami Project. The organization trying to cure spinal cord injuries already had a fertility program. After several tries, doctors extracted enough of Ken’s sperm and Anna’s eggs to create three viable embryos. Doctors implanted all three in the hopes they’d get at least one baby. Ken can’t forget their first sonogram, “The doctor said, ‘Here’s a sack, (an embryo.) here’s another sack, and a third sack!” On January 24, 2005, Joseph, James and Tim Kunken were born! The triplets weren’t allowed to play football but had to be active. Each has a Taekwondo seconddegree black belt. They’re jiu-jitsu instructors. Today they’re freshmen at SUNY Morrisville, Syracuse University and Dad’s alma mater, Cornell. However, Dad remains the family hero.
Joseph: “He’s so knowledgeable. He doesn’t waver. He’s always confident; there for us with wisdom and knowledge. We trust he’s always right.”
Tim: “He’s definitely the wisest man. He’s lived through insane life experiences that prepared him to help us in any way. You trust him, completely.”
James: “That intellect. He’s extremely smart and wise with multiple degrees. It’s really difficult to argue with him; he’s known best for debating. He’s a lawyer! We’d get in trouble and Mom would say, ‘You shouldn’t do that.’ But with Dad, we’d have ‘The Talk.’ You try to explain yourself, then he’d ask, ‘Oh really??”
Tim (smiling): “You’d walk away thinking, ‘How did I stoop SO LOW?’”
Before bicycling to work, James yelled back, “Buy his book!” Seems Ken Kunken has a doctorate in persistence, too. He’s now an author, having finished I Dream of Things That Never Were, the book he started 52 years ago. (Available on Amazon & Kindle)
I asked Ken about his spirituality today. “If God’s plan was that I would become so disabled that I needed to look for somebody like Anna for help, fall in love, and have three incredible kids, I guess it was a pretty good plan all right.”
Amen to that, Ken. l
Carol Silva is the Emmy Award-winning veteran News 12 Long Island news anchor, TedX and motivational speaker and creator of The Silva Lining Podcast, available on Apple Podcasts, Audible.com and wherever you hear your podcasts.
AA/Al Anon Meetings.......................888.4AL.ANON (425.2666) al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings
AA/NA/Family Support 516.746.0350 (Nassau) 631.822.3396 (Suffolk) THRIVE Recovery Community and Outreach Center thriveliorg
Alcoholics Anonymous 516.292.3040 nassauny-aa.org, suffolkny-aa.org
Debtors Anonymous 212.969.8111 danyc.info
Families Anonymous 800.736.9805 familiesanonymous.org
Food Addicts Anonymous 772.878.9657 foodaddictsanonymous.org
Gamblers Anonymous 516.484.1545 x200 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org
Gamblers Anonymous 855.222.5542 gamblersanonymous.org
Gam-Anon Hotline 718.352.1671 gam-anon.org
Long Island Recovery Association 631.552.LIRA lirany.org.
Narcotics Anonymous 631.689.NANA (6262) St. Charles Hospital, Port Jefferson stcharleshospital.chsli.org/support-groups-1
Nicotine Anonymous 877.879.6422 nicotine-anonymous.org
Overeaters Anonymous 516.484.1545 x196
Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org
Overeaters Anonymous
631.981.5850
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
S-Anon Anonymous (Partners of Sexaholics)
267.295.2795 sanon.org
Smoking Cessation
nyuwinthrop.org/community-health/support-groups
Day Haven Adult Day Services
631.585.2020 x261
Community Programs Center of L.I., dayhaven.org
Dementia Caregivers
516.767.6856
Long Island Alzheimer’s & Dementia Center Westbury. lidementia.org
Early Stage Dementia Program 516.634.4192 Oceanside. pjaffe@friedbergjcc.org. friedbergjcc.com
Lewy Body Dementia Resource Center 516.218.2026 Long Beach. lbdny.org
Spouse/Partner 516.663.8220
NYU Langone, Mineola. linda.martinez@nyulangone.org nyuwinthrop.org/community-health/support-groups
Bereavement 516.832.2673 Cope Foundation. Roslyn.copefoundation.org
Bereavement Center for H.O.P.E. 516.216.5194 Lake Success.
Huntington Hospital 631.351.2013
North Shore Univ. Hosptal. 516.562.4750 Manhasset northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Bereavement 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org
Bereavement 516.822.3535 x328 Mid Island JCC., Plainview. miyjcc.net/adult-support-groups
Bereavement 516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org friedbergjcc.org/support-services
Gardian Brown Foundation. guardianbrain.com
Cancer 516.377.5333
631.853.2928
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/events/smoking-cessation
Smoking Cessation Workshops
516.629.2013 St. Francis Hospital, Roslyn stfrancisheartcenter.chsli.org/smoking-cessation-classes
Women for Sobriety
215.536.8026 womenforsobriety.org
Alzheimer’s and Dementia
516.767.6856
Long Island Alzheimer’s & Dementia Center Westbury. lidementia.org
Alzheimer’s Association 800.272.3900 Melville. alz.org/longisland
Alzheimer’s Caregivers 800.272.3900
Alzheimer’s Association, Melville. alz.org/longisland
Alzheimer’s Caregivers
Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola info@FCALI.org. fcali.org
Alzheimer’s Disease
NYU Langone, Mineola linda.martinez@nyulangone.org
516.292.1300
516.663.8220
Bereavement
516.520.2706 St. Joseph Hospital, Bethpage. stjosephhospital.chsli.org/bereavement-groups-0
Bereavement for Children and Families
516.626.1971
North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center northshorechildguidance.org
H.E.A.L. (Help Ease A Loss)
631.265.4520 St. Thomas of Canterbury Church, Smithtown 030acef.netsolhost.com
Holocaust Survivors 516.569.6733
The Marion & Aaron Gural JCC, Lawrence guraljcc.org/older-adults/chaverim-program-forholocaust-survivors
Bereavement 631.462.9800 x151
Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults
Bereavement 631.499.8520
St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills. smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement
Widow/Widowers 631.462.9800 x151
Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults
Moving Forward: Loss of a Spouse 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside. friedbergjcc.org friedbergjcc.org/support-services
Widow/Widowers 516.634.4010
Young Widow and Widowers
631.647.5675 widowednotalone.com
Young Widows and Widowers 631.495.8541 St. Matthew Church, Dix Hills smrcc.org/ministry-of-bereavement
Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Hotline
800.877.8077 breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
American Cancer Society 800.227.2345 cancer.org
Breast Cancer 800.877.8077
Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
Women’s Breast & Reproductive Cancers 631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults/
Breast Cancer
631.376.4104
Good Samaritan Hospital, W. Islip. goodsamaritan.chsli.org/support-groups-0
Breast Cancer
Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
516.377.5333
Breast Cancer (Newly Diagonosed) 516.663.2556
Perlmutter Cancer Center, NYU Winthrop Hospital nyulangone.org
Breast Cancer (& other cancers) 516.374.3190 Hewlett House, Hewlett. hewlett-house.org
Breast Cancer: Stage 4 800.877.8077
Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
Breast Cancer Survivors 631.686.2561 Mather Hospital, Port Jefferson. matherhospital.org/community-resources
Breast Cancer: Cafecito (for Latina Women) 516.877.4329
Adelphi New York Statewide Breast Cancer Support Garden City. breast-cancer.adelphi.edu
Exercise for Women w/Breast/Gynecologic Cancer 516.484.1545 x228 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org
Huntington Breast Cancer Action Coalition 631.547.1518 hbcac.org
Islip Breast Cancer Coalition..............631.968.7424 islipbreastcancer.com
Live, Love and Laugh Again (breast cancer) 631.476.2776
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Strength for Life (exercise class) 631.675.6513 Various locations. strengthforlifeNY.org
Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Helpline 800.GO.Komen komen.org/support-resources/support
Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Lung Cancer 631.686.2500
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Lymphedema 631.686.7648
John T. Mather Memorial Hospital, Port Jefferson matherhospital.org/community-resources
Wellness after Cancer 516.734.8203 Monter Cancer Center, Lake Success northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Oral and Head and Neck Cancer 516.734.8203 LIJ Medical Center, New Hyde Park northwell.edu/support-and-resources/support-groups
Oral, Head and Neck Cancer 800.377.0928
SPOHNC (Support for People with Oral, Head and Neck Cancer), Locust Valley. spohnc.org
ThyCa: Thyroid Cancer 516.608.5113 Manhasset. thyca.org/sg/ny_manhasset
Caregivers Support
Caregivers 516.292.1300 Family and Children’s Assoc., Mineola. familyandchildrens.org
Caregivers 516.377.5333 Mt. Sinai South Nassau, Oceanside southnassau.org/sn/support-groups
Caregivers 631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org/index.php/adults
Caregivers 516.484.1545 x236 Sid Jacobson JCC, East Hills. sjjcc.org/programs
Covid Support
Covid-19 Help Suffolk County 631.940.3700 United Way, Deer Park. unitedwayli.org/covid19helpSuffolk
Coronavirus Digital Resource Center 833.4UR.CARE Northwell Health northwell.edu/coronavirus-covid-19/surviving-covid-19
Covid and Covid Loss 631.462.9800 x151 Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. Suffolkny-aa.org
Coronavirus Hotline 516.227.9570 Long Island Crisis Center, Bellmore longislandcrisiscenter.org/coronavirus-covid-19-onlong-island
Nassau County Coronavirus Call Center 516.227.9570
NY State Coronavirus Hotline..........888.364.3065
Divorced and Separated 516.634.4010 Friedberg JCC, Oceanside friedbergjcc.org/support-services
Divorced and Separated 631.462.9800 x151
Mid-Island Y JCC, Plainview. miyjcc.org Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org
Singles 631.462.9800 x151 Suffolk Y JCC, Commack. syjcc.org
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Tom Chapin: Clean Machine: 12pm. Landmark on Main
Long Island Sound Chorus: Sweet Adelines: 3pm. The Suffolk
The Price Is Right Live Stage Show: 4pm. Theatre at Westbury
Kollective366: 5pm. WHBPAC
2 Country Jukebox: 8pm. Engeman Theater
Ben Folds: 8pm. The Paramount
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All Revved Up (Meat Loaf tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Forever Simon & Garfunkel: 8pm. Engeman Theater
Geri Halliwell-Horner (book discussion): 7pm. Madison Theatre
Larry McCray: 7pm. The Suffolk
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Emo Orchestra featuring Hawthorne Heights: 7:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
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Henry Rollins: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main
Meluma: 8pm. UBS Arena
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Suzanne Vega: 8pm. Landmark on Main
Coco in Concert: 7pm. Madison Theatre
Head Automatica: 7pm. The Paramount
Amy Bruni: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Jethro Tull’s Martin Barre/Dan Crisp: 8pm. Space at Westbury
Top Of The World (Carpenters tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk
The Animaniacs are coming to the Madison Theatre! Rob Paulsen, Maurice LaMarche, and Randy Rogel are here in concert to play the most memorable Animaniac tunes! Featuring Yakko, Wakko, and Dot, this musical event will bring back all the nostalgia. Featuring The South Shore Symphony.
When: Nov. 18 @ 8pm & Nov. 19 @ 3pm
Where: Madison Theatre at Molloy College, 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre
Tickets: madisontheatreny.org or call 516-323-4446.
Lyle Lovett: 8pm. WHBPAC
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This is Garth (Garth Brooks tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Al Stewart and the Empty Pockets: 8pm. Landmark on Main
The Illusion (Induction and reunion concert): 7pm. LIMHOF
Eric D’Alessandro: 7 & 9:30pm. The Paramount
This intimate solo performance features songs and stories with multi-platinum and 12-time Grammy winner John Legend. Experience reimaginings of his greatest hits, unexpected stories, and selections from his most recent release. Make it a night and support Tilles Center’s nonprofit mission with Gala tickets including a cocktail reception and dinner. Get tickets while they last for this very special evening!
When: Saturday, November 11 at 8:30 PM Where: Tilles Center for the Performing Arts, LIU Post, 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville
Tickets: TillesCenter.org, 516-299-3100, or in person at Tilles Center for the Performing Arts
Max Amini: 8pm. Space at Westbury
George Lopez: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Chris Stapleton: 7pm. UBS Arena
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So Good! The Neil Diamond Experience: 3pm. Argyle Theatre
Arizona Lindsey: 2pm. LIMHOF
A Celebration of the Long Island Club Scene: 7pm. LIMHOF
AUPAC (Adelphi Performing Arts Center)
1 South Ave., Garden City. 800.233.5744. adelphi.edu/events
The Argyle Theatre 34 W. Main St., Babylon. 844.631.LIVE (5483) argyletheatre.com
CMPAC (CM Performing Arts Center)
931 Montauk Hwy., Oakdale. 631.218.2810. cmpac.com
John W. Engeman Theater
250 Main St., Northport. 516.323.4444. engemantheater.com
The Gateway 215 S. Country Rd., Bellport. 631.286.1133. thegateway.org
Landmark on Main Street 232 Main St., Port Washington. 516.767.6444
landmarkonmainstreet.org
Long Island Music and Entertainment Hall of Fame (LIMEHOF)
97 Main St., Stony Brook. 631-689-5888 limusichalloffame.org
Madison Theatre 1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre. 516.323.4444 madisontheatreny.org
My Father’s Place
The Roslyn Cellar: 1221 Old Northern Blvd, Roslyn. 516.580.0887. mfpproductions.com
Mulcahy’s 3232 Railroad Ave, Wantagh. 516.783-7500. muls.com
The Paramount 370 New York Ave., Huntington. 631.673.7300 paramountny.com
The Patchogue Theatre 71 E. Main St., Patchogue. 631.207.1313 patchoguetheatre.org
Plaza Elmont Memorial Library Theatre 3700 Hempstead Tpke., Elmont. 516.599.6870 plazabroadwaylongisland.com
The Space at Westbury 250 Post Ave., Westbury. 516.283.5577 thespaceatwestbury.com
Staller Center 100 Nicolls Rd., Stony Brook. 631.632.2787. stallercenter.com
Give our Regards to Broadway & All That Jazz: 3pm. Madison Theatre
Liverpool Shuffle (John Lennon tribute): 2pm. My Father’s Place
Thrice: 8pm. Mulcahy’s
Gipsy Kings featuring Nicolas Reyes: 8pm. The Paramount
Jake Shimabukuro: 7pm. The Suffolk
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St. Paul & the Broken Bones: 8pm. The Paramount Coco in Concert: 4pm. Staller Center
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The Everly Set (Everly Bros. tribute): 8pm. Engeman Theater
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Morgan Evans: 8pm. Mulcahy’s
Andy Grammer/Patrick Martin: 8pm. The Paramount
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North Mississippi Allstars: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main
Blue Velvo/East River Blues Band: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Anthony Jeselnik: 7 & 9:30pm. The Paramount
Fran Lebowitz: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Buddy Guy: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Los Temerarios: 8pm. UBS Arena
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The Long Island Comedy Festival: 7:30pm. Argyle Theatre
Emmet Cohen Trio: 8pm. Landmark on Main Absolute Adele: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Jimmy Failla: 7pm. The Paramount
Drew Lynch: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
The Lemon Twigs: 8pm. Space at Westbury Kansas: 8pm. Tilles Center
516.334.0800 thetheatreatwestbury.com
Theatre Three 412 Main St., Port Jefferson. 631.928.9100. theatrethree.com
Tilles Center 720 Northern Blvd., Brookville. 516.299.3100. tillescenter.org
UBS Arena
2400 Hempstead Tpke., Elmont . 516.460.8599. ubsarena.com
Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Ctr 776
Los Temerarios: 8pm. UBS Arena
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Misty Mountain (Led Zeppelin tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Warped Tour Band: 9pm. Mulcahy’s
Jessica Kirson: 7pm. The Paramount
Andy Summers: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Emerson String Quartet: 8pm. Staller Center
Tusk (Fleetwood Mac tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk
Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood Live!: King for a Day: 2pm. Tilles Center
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So Good! The Neil Diamond Experience: 3pm. Argyle Theatre
Mike Meehan & The Lucky Ones: 3pm. LIMHOF
Steve Trevino: 8pm. The Paramount
Carole & Paula in The Magic Garden: 3pm.
Patchogue Theatre
The Spinners: 7pm. The Suffolk
Colin Mochrie & Brad Sherwood: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
Naseebo Lal: 8pm. Tilles Center
Lewis Black: 8pm. WHBPAC
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The Absolute Adele Tribute: 8pm. Engeman Theater
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Perfectly Frank (Frank Sinatra tribute): 1pm. Plaza
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Richard Shindell & Lucy Kaplansky: 7:30pm.
Landmark on Main
Armor for Sleep/The Early Novembers/The Spill
Canvas: 6:30pm. Mulcahy’s
Switchfoot: 7:30pm. The Paramount
Lee Brice: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Sir Elton (Elton John tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Aztec Two Step 2.0: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Dane Cook: 7:30pm. The Paramount
Lee Brice: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Joplin’s Pearl with Amber Ferrari (Janis Joplin tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Dane Cook: 7:30pm. The Paramount
I Write The Songs (Barry Manilow tribute): 7:30pm. Plaza
Ballet Hispánico: 8pm. Staller Center
The Players: 7pm. The Suffolk
Monsters Of Freestyle: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
Tape Face: 8pm. The Suffolk
Aqui Esta La Salsa: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
American Panorama: 2pm. Tilles Center
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Comedy Night: 8pm. Engeman Theater
Henry Winkler: 7:30pm. Madison Theatre
Rumours of Fleetwood Mac: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Grab your favorite “American Girl” and join the fun with this immersive concert experience that brings the classic American Girl characters to life! American Girl LIVE! In Concert is a brand-new pop concert experience for teens & pre-teens filled with music, high energy dancing and lots of surprises!
An exciting evening full of all the greatest hits from Chicago and Earth, Wind & Fire performed by the very same guys who toured with them! Featuring Bill Champlin (in Chicago for 28 years), Keith Howland (in Chicago for 27 years), Jeff Coffey (in Chicago for 2 years), and Gorden Campbell (in Earth, Wind & Fire for 3 years).
When: Friday, November 3 at 6:30pm Where: Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts Tickets: Tickets are $55-$85 including fees at PatchogueTheatre.org. 631-207-1313. advertisement
When: Saturday, October 21 at 8PM Where: The Suffolk, 118 E. Main St., Riverhead Tickets: Tickets available at TheSuffolk.org or by calling the Box Office at 631-727-4343.
John Mayer: 8pm. UBS Arena
Andy Falco & Travis Book (of The Infamous Stringdusters) Play Jerry Garcia: 8pm. WHBPAC
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Margaret Cho: 7:30pm. The Paramount
Floyd Nation (Pink Floyd tribute): 7pm. Patchogue Theatre
Perfectly Frank (Frank Sinatra tribute): 2:30pm. Plaza
Samara Joy: 7pm. Tilles Center
Luis Miguel: 7pm. UBS Arena 23
The Sounds of Soul: 8pm. Engeman Theater
Pauly Shore: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre 24
Bad Religion: 8pm. The Paramount 25
Soja.Hirie/Mihali: 7:30pm. The Paramount 26
Barry Bostwick and Rocky Horror Picture Show
screening: 7:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
Piff The Magic Dragon: 8pm. The Suffolk
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Philip Edward Fisher: The Romantic Piano: 7:30pm. AUPAC
Disco Unlimited: 9pm. Mulcahy’s
The Dictators: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Bill O’Reilly & Sid Rosenberg: 8pm. The Paramount
Al Di Meola: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Celebrating Meat Loaf: 8pm. The Suffolk
Colin Quinn: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Dancing Dream (Abba tribute): 8pm. Argyle Theatre
Pink Talking Fish: 8pm. Landmark on Main
Jessica Vosk: 8pm. Staller Center
Parliament Funkadelic feat George Clinton: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
R&B Only: 9:30pm. UBS Arena
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The Rod Experience (Rod Stewart Tribute): 7pm. Patchogue Theatre
Iration: 7:30pm. The Paramount
Jim Brickman: 8pm. The Suffolk
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Roomful of Blues: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Jim Bruer: 8pm. The Paramount
American Girl Live: 6:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
Evan +Zane: 8pm. Staller Center
Gary Lewis & The Playboys/Mitch Ryder: 8pm. The Suffolk
The Tenors: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Ali Stroker: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Robert Klein: 7:30pm. Argyle Theatre
Brian Regan: 7pm. The Paramount
Better Than Ezra: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Disco Inferno: 7:30pm. Plaza
Almost Queen: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Midori with Festival Strings Lucerne: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Brian Regan: 7pm. The Paramount
iLuminate: 7pm. Staller Center
Mania (Abba tribute): 7pm. The Suffolk
John Oliver: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Mat Kearney: The Acoustic Trio: 7:30pm. Landmark on Main
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Ian Munsick/Chancey Williams: 8pm. The Paramount America’s Sweethearts: 1pm. Plaza
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Warren Zeiders: 8pm. The Paramount
Wheel Of Fortune Live!: 8pm. Tilles Center
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Adelphi Symphony Orchestra: 7:30pm. AUPAC
The Joni Project (Joni Mitchell tribute)/Harvest (Neil Young tribute): 8pm. Landmark on Main
Dexys: The Feminine Divine Live: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
The Sixties Show: 8pm. The Suffolk Masters of Illusion - Live!: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Christian Nodal: 8pm. UBS Arena
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South Shore Symphony: 7:30pm. Madison Theatre
Eric Anderson: 8pm. My Father’s Place
The Bogmen: 8pm. The Paramount
Hammer of the Gods (Led Zeppelin tribute): 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
The Outlaws: 8pm. Space at Westbury
Tom Segura: 8pm. Staller Center
Paul Anka: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
John Legend: 8:30pm. Tilles Center
Mariachi Herencia de Mexico: 8pm. WHBPAC
Melissa Errico: Sondheim Sublime: 3pm. AUPAC
Jim Messina: 9pm. My Father’s Place
The Beach Boys: 7:30pm. The Paramount
Bored Teachers: 7:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
A Flock of Seagulls: 8pm. The Suffolk
Celebrating David Bowie: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
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Chris Isaak 8pm. The Paramount 16
Hot Mulligan: 7pm. The Paramount Firefall/Pure Prairie League/Richie Furay: 7:30pm. Patchogue Theatre
Arrival (Abba tribute): 7:30pm. Tilles Center 17
Water Colors: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Mike DelGuidice: 8pm. The Paramount
Ozzmosis (Ozzy tribute) & Foreign Journey (Foreigner & Journey tribute): 8pm. Space at Westbury
Moondance (Van Morrison tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk 18
Molly Tuttle & Golden Highway: 8pm. Landmark on Main
Preservation Hall Jazz Band: 7pm. The Suffolk
Patti Labelle: 7:30pm. Theatre at Westbury
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The Great American Jazz Songbook: 8pm. Engeman Theater 28
Comedy Night: 8pm. Engeman Theater 29
Smokey Robinson: 8pm. The Paramount
Jazz is Dead: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
Starry Nights: 7pm. Staller Center
Leann Rimes’ The Story…So Far tour is on sale now! Hear her biggest hits from the past 25 years—from her first release, Blue, to her brand new album, god’s work. She’s sold more than 48 million units globally and won two Grammy® Awards; 12 Billboard Music Awards; two World Music Awards; three Academy of Country Music Awards; 2 Country Music Association Awards, and one Dove Award. See this living legend LIVE and in person at the Staller Center.
When: Saturday, November 18 at 8 pm
NOV 9TH - DEC 31ST 2023
delighted Broadway audiences for over 2,500 performances and received nominations for nine Olivier andseven Tony Awards, including Best Musical. Mary Poppins is an enchanting mixture of irresistible story, unforgettable songs, breathtaking dance numbers and astonishing stagecraft. This show is a perfect opportunity to showcase a strong, iconic female performer, as well as unique special effects and illusions.
When: Nov. 9-Dec. 31
Where: The Argyle Theatre, 34 W. Main St., Babylon Tickets: 631-230-3500 or argyletheatre.com
Jason Bonham’s Led Zeppelin: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury 30
Long Island Comedy Festival: 8pm. Madison Theatre
Dark Star Orchestra: 8pm. The Paramount Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Where: Staller Center for the Arts at Stony Brook University Tickets: stallercenter.com. 631- 632-ARTS (2787) advertisement
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Animaniacs In Concert: 8pm. Madison Theatre
Jeff “Skunk” Baxter: 8pm. My Father’s Place
Mike DelGuidice: 8pm. The Paramount
Doo-Wop & Soul: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre
The Bacon Brothers: 8pm. Space at Westbury
LeAnn Rimes: 8pm. Staller Center
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Animaniacs In Concert: 3pm. Madison Theatre
GZA/Fishbone: 7pm. The Paramount
Maria Bamford: 7pm. Patchogue Theatre
Bachelor’s of Broadway: 2:30pm. Plaza
Cat Kid Comic Club:The Musical: 3pm. Staller Center
Howie Mandel: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Brooklyn Raga Massive: 3pm. Tilles Center 20
You’ve Got a Friend: The Music of the Brill Building: 8pm. Engeman Theater 21
The Fixx: 8pm. Patchogue Theatre
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*Discount Valid off individual, premium mainstage tickets only.
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Zebra: 8pm. The Paramount Blue Oyster Cult: 8pm. Space at Westbury 24
Long Island Comedy Festival: 8pm. Madison Theatre
Dark Star Orchestra: 8pm. The Paramount
Classic R&B: Melba Moore, Alexander O’Neal, Lillo Thomas: 8pm. Theatre at Westbury
Jo Koy: 8pm. UBS Arena 25
Jazz Funk Soul: 8pm. Madison Theatre
Dark Star Orchestra: 8pm. The Paramount The Four Horsemen (Metallica tribute): 8pm. The Suffolk
Dariush: 9pm. Tilles Center 26
A Doo Wop Project Christmas: 3pm. Madison Theatre
Dark Star Orchestra: 8pm. The Paramount
Mary Poppins: Nov. 9-Dec. 31. Argyle Theatre
Young Frankenstein: Oct 21-Nov. 5. CMPAC
Beautiful: The Carole King Musical: thru Oct. 29. Engeman Theater
Beauty and the Beast: Nov. 16-Dec. 31. Engeman Theater
The Prom: thru Oct. 21. Theatre Three
A Christmas Carol: Nov. 11-Dec. 31. Theatre Three
Children’s Theatre
You’re a Good Man Charlie Brown: thru Oct. 29. Argyle Theatre
The Happy Elf: Nov. 18-Dec. 31. Argyle Theatre
The Descendants: Oct. 28-Nov. 5. CMPAC
Wizard of Oz: thru Oct. 29. Engeman Theater
Frosty: Nov. 25-Dec. 31. Engeman Theater
Kooky Spooky Halloween: Oct 7-21. Theatre Three
Barnaby Saves Christmas: Nov. 18-Dec. 30. Theatre Three
Disney on Ice: Nov. 15-18. UBS Arena