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February is all about the heart. The heart that loves (well really your brain, but the idea that feelings actually coming from the brain doesn’t sound very romantic), and the heart that sustains life. However, don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to pay attention to either one. Say, “I love you”, to the people you love every day. Now add your heart health to the equation and show your love by being proactive when it comes to your health and general well being. Stay honest and educated about yourself so you can try to know the difference between making healthy choices and bad ones. Knowing is half the battle. We are all empowered to make a good conscious decision or a conscious bad decision, (sometimes being overindulgent or chosing a knowingly unhealthy decision will help you in the long term. At least that is our definition of Living Well!) But it should never be an uninformed decision. Knowing what your BMI should be and if it is not obtainable, try to figure out realistically how close you can get to that number. What form of exercise can you do at least three times a week? Five times a week is better but three works too. Choose an exercise plan that you don’t end up dreading. Try Walking, Yoga, Dancing, Kickboxing, etc.. If you dread it... You won’t do it. Count calories! Talk to a medical practitioner, nutritionist, or personal trainer to help you determine a reasonable daily calorie intake. If you have a smart phone, there are great apps that help you calculate your daily calories. However, even with the help of an app it will still be up to you to make healthy food choices.Remember the calorie count is cumulative for the week, keeping an eye on your fat and Advertising Inquiries: sugar consumption. If a label reads, no fat or no sugar it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have calories! Following tips from the American Heart Association’s Brian Strauss -Publisher website you will find a wealth of information that can be very helpful in Sales@livingwellmagazine.net finding good heart healthy recommendations to help you prevent a heart attack or stroke. Try to reduce your stress levels. And of course staying up 302-355-0929 to date and reading Living.Well Magazine, another strong resource with a wealth of knowledge and information. Always check with your medical Lita Latham - Account Executive practitioner before making any drastic changes to your diet and or exercise regime. Lita@livingwellmagazine.net Enjoy!
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Sexual Health and Healing: Romantic Winter Date Ideas with Dianna Palimere, PhD, LCSW
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Heart Health QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR DOCTOR
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What is my risk for heart disease?
What is my blood pressure? What does it mean for me, and what do I need to do about it?
Sitting Too Much Can Have Serious Health Repercussions. In fact, a new study suggests men who sit for too long raise their risk of heart failure, even among those who exercise regularly!
What are my cholesterol numbers? (These include total cholesterol, LDL or “bad” cholesterol, HDL or “good” cholesterol, and triglycerides.) What do they mean for me, and what do I need to do about them?
Researchers followed nearly 83,000 men between the ages of 45 and 69. None had heart failure at the start. Participants were asked to report on their exercise habits and sedentary time for an average of nearly eight years. Information about their height, weight, dietary patterns, education, marital status, smoking history, income and race were also collected.
What is my “body mass index” and waist measurement? Do they indicate that I need to lose weight for my health?
Here’s what the data revealed: Men with little physical activity were 52% more likely to develop heart failure than active men.
In men who exercised, those who sat for five or more hours a day were 34% more likely to develop heart failure compared to those who only sat for two hours or less a day.
What is my blood sugar level, and does it mean I’m at risk for diabetes?
What other screening tests for heart disease do I need? How often should I return for checkups for my heart health?
What can you do to help me quit smoking?
How much physical activity do I need to help protect my heart?
Approximately 20% of adults will be diagnosed with heart failure during their lifetime.
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What is a heart-healthy eating plan for me? Should I see a registered dietitian or qualified nutritionist to learn more about healthy eating?
How can I tell if I’m having a heart attack?
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STRESS AND HEART DISEASE
By Dr. Moutsatsos
"It’s not what you eat, but what eats you!"
Having practiced Cardiology for over 10 years, seeing and treating patients with various heart ailments, it struck me just a few years ago how prevalent and profound the effects of stress afflicted my patients. It would not be an exaggeration to state that there is not a single patient I see on a daily basis who is not suffering from some form of stress. More striking, is the fact that each patient offered this information without directly being asked. Invariably, upon reviewing the progress or lack thereof in terms of exercise, weight loss, tobacco use and adequate sleep; the response was always, “ Doctor, I’ve been under so much stress recently. “ I was taken quite a back by this response for 2 reasons. The first is that I realized that I could make very little progress without addressing this issue and secondly, it occurred to me how inadequate our conventional medical approach was by overlooking such a fundamental cardiac risk factor.
Stress, in all of its various forms, has truly become a national epidemic. It dawned upon me that if I could wipe this away with the stroke of a wand, I could often do more for any individual than what I was offering with my cardiovascular expertise. It has always been accepted as a truism that stress plays an essential role in heart disease, as well as cancer, diabetes, stroke, respiratory illness and of course depression. The firm data regarding the 8
physiologic mechanisms by which stress affects the body is wellestablished. The body produces increased levels of adrenaline and cortisol, the “stress hormones “, which result in increased heart rate, blood pressure, constriction of the coronary arteries, activation of platelets and other clotting factors. Acutely, they can lead to a heart attack and chronically they accelerate all the risk factors that progressively contribute to heart disease. The less well understood emotional factors, however, are often more insidious and dangerous. Sadly, they appear to be more pervasive and elusive.
The American Heart Association has formally identified the concept of “The Broken Heart Syndrome “ as a real entity. Also referred to as Takotsubo Syndrome or “ Stress Cardiomyopathy”. Under acute, severe emotional stress and usually precipitated by the sudden loss of a loved one, the heart dilates and fails. This occurs in the absence of any significant underlying coronary stenosis. There are many more poorly defined variations of emotionally induced cardiac stress. It is therefore, imperative that physician’s identify individuals who are at risk and incorporate this understanding into their overall care. This requires time, attention and the establishment of a strong patient-physician relationship.
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What Causes Stress ? Below are some of the most common stressors that can affect people at all stages of life:
Illness, either personal, family or friend Death of a loved one Work overload Starting a new job ■Losing a Job Relocation Retirement
While it is not my field of expertise, thankfully there are many resources and forms of counseling available. Each issue of Living Well Magazine offers a wide breadth of rich articles and references. If I were to recommend just one book, it would be The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck, M.D. While the opening line is “ Life is hard “ , this is a beginning, not an end. Lastly, I will leave you with one of my favorite quotes , pronounced by Winston Churchill during England’s moment of greatest despair:
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Unrealistic expectations Daily hassles of life
What Are Common Warning Signs ? Increasedworrying,anxiety,irritability,palpitations,chestpains, weight gain or loss, fatigue, poor sleep, increased alcohol or tobacco use. Once identified, there are various approaches that can be employed successfully. Certainly lifestyle modifications such as proper diet, exercise, relaxation techniques and adequate sleep are some of the basic cornerstones. Unfortunately in the imperfect world in which we all live-in and the frailties of our human nature, stress will never fully go away. Learning to understand the triggers and our reactions is essential. Reducing and modifying the stressors that one can and learning to live with those that cannot be altered is also essential. Perhaps the most consequential yet most difficult to achieve is to alter our psychological make-up. Recent data from Johns Hopkins University has demonstrated that individuals with a happier or more cheerful temperament are significantly less likely to suffer a heart attack or sudden cardiac death.
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Dr. Moutsatsos is an accomplished cardiologist, practicing in New Castle County for over 10 years. Completing his cardiovascular fellowship at Georgetown University Hospital and is the founder of Westover Cardiology, LLC. During his extensive training, he pursued his research interest in atherosclerosis and the oxidation of LDL at The National Institutes of Health having authored numerous papers and abstracts. Dr. Moutsatsos was just elected to The Board of Governors of The American College of Cardiology and is currently President-elect of The Delaware Chapter of The ACC.
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“Ocean Sprawl” the Next Frontier?
We are all familiar by now with “urban sprawl”—the uncontrolled spread of urban development into areas beyond the city. However environmentalists warn that the next frontier in sprawl is on the high seas, where the proliferation of fishing, shipping, tourism, resource extraction, energy development, military exercises and other human activity has begun to call into question just how vast our oceans really are. According to the nonprofit Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC), our oceans are already under siege from problems like pollution, overfishing and acidification, and increased industrial activity off-shore. This could lead to so-called “ocean sprawl”and will jeopardize the food, jobs and recreation we have come to depend on the oceans to provide. It’s hard to believe, given how much planning goes into various types of development and human activity on land, that the oceans are still like the Wild West—with various entities staking claims on huge stretches of open water for different purposes. A promising approach to combat ocean sprawl is called coastal and marine spatial planning (CMSP), a form of zoning for the seas to help define who can do what and where. The National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration (NOAA), the federal agency charged with predicting changes in climate, weather, oceans and coasts, CMSP “identifies areas most suitable for various types or classes of activities in order to reduce conflicts among uses, reduce environmental impacts, facilitate compatible uses and preserve critical ecosystem services to meet economic, environmental, security and social objectives.” “Marine planning places sound science and the best available information at the heart of decision-making and brings federal, state, tribal and other partners together to cooperatively develop coastal and marine spatial plans,” continues NOAA. “This process is designed to decrease user conflict, improve planning
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and regulatory efficiencies, decrease associated costs and delays, engage affected communities and stakeholders, and preserve critical ecosystem functions and services.” President Obama’s 2010 National Ocean Policy directs NOAA and other federal agencies to work with ocean users, industries and coastal communities on ways to implement CMSP in America’s off-shore waters to prevent ocean sprawl at home while setting an example for other nations around the world. Nine regional planning bodies are tasked with developing detailed plans for their own regions by early 2015, at which point federal policy makers will begin to coordinate implementation. In response to momentum on CMSP, a coalition of industries including offshore energy, shipping, fisheries, recreation, mining and others formed the World Ocean Council to have a say in how and where marine spatial planning is implemented. The group organized a National Business Forum on Marine Spatial Planning in 2011 and will take part in a World Ocean Summit in San Francisco in February 2014. Those of us who appreciate the sea certainly hope that CMSP and other approaches will succeed in turning the tide for oceans and not be undermined by special interests only concerned with bottom lines. CONTACTS: NRDC, www.nrdc.org; NOAA Coastal & Marine Spatial Planning, www.msp.noaa.gov; World Ocean Council, www.oceancouncil.org. EarthTalk® is written and edited by Roddy Scheer and Doug Moss and is a registered trademark of E - The Environmental Magazine (www. emagazine.com). Send questions to: earthtalk@emagazine.com.
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Spending $200 or more to replace that older, still functioning thermostat with a new whiz-bang “smart” variety might seem like a waste of money, but it can be one of the best small investments a homeowner can make, given the potential for energy and cost savings down the line. The coolest of the bunch of new smart thermostats, the Nest, was created by former Apple employees who had been instrumental in designing the original iPod and iPhone years earlier. This simple looking round thermostat is reminiscent of old-school thermostats that one would manually adjust by turning the temperature dial. But the autoawake feature that turns on the bright blue digital display when someone walks nearby gives the Nest away as an ultra-modern piece of high tech gadgetry. The Nest’s software “learns” the habits in a given space by logging when inhabitants tend to be home and awake and noting when they tend to turn up or down the heat—and then sets a heating/cooling schedule accordingly. Owners can also program the Nest, which connects to the Internet via Wi-Fi, to heat up or cool down the house at a set schedule or go into “away” mode from any web browser or smart phone. While the Nest is likely the best known smart thermostat available—especially since Google acquired the company behind it in early 2014—several other manufacturers (including Honeywell, ecobee, Hunter, Radio Thermostat, Trane and Lux) have Wi-Fi-enabled smart thermostats available now as well. While only some of them have the auto-sensing and “learning” capabilities of the Nest, those without that feature also cost less. And merely programming in a weekly schedule to any smart thermostat will be the main source of cost and energy savings. People who were diligent about turning their old thermostats up and down throughout the day might not see any substantial savings with a smart thermostat, but most of us aren’t so diligent— especially when it comes to turning the heat down at night when we are sleeping.
Many smart thermostat owners report savings of between $10 and $30 per month on their heating/cooling bills—and research has shown that such an upgrade can save upwards of 10 percent of the total energy consumed by a given household. Smart thermostats range in price from $50 to $250, so upgrading could pay for itself within a year or two at most, with long-term savings racking up month-by-month after that. Many utilities now offer free or discounted smart thermostats to customers. Getting in on such a program is a great way to reduce energy costs without the up-front expense of installing a smart thermostat independently. According to the Database of State Incentives for Renewables and Efficiency (DSIRE), incentives to install smart thermostats are available through utilities in 45 states. New York’s Con Edison, California’s PG&E and Texas’ CPS Energy are just a few of the larger utilities offering such incentives. Those that do upgrade certainly won’t be alone. Navigant Research reports that the number of smart thermostats in operation around the world will jump from 1.4 million currently installed to some 32 million by 2020. These kinds of numbers will help utilities meet or exceed energy efficiency goals regardless of other upgrades on the power plant side of their businesses. Likewise, the efficiency boost also can play a key role in reducing our reliance on fossil fuels and our emissions of greenhouse gases.
CONTACTS: Nest, www.nest.com; DSIRE, www.dsireusa.org; Navigant, www. navigantresearch.com.
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Romantic Winter Date Ideas � Just because the temperature drops, it doesn’t mean we can’t still have fun on a date. If it seems like I’m dodging the topic of Valentine’s Day, it’s because I am. If you read my articles regularly, then you already know how badly I want couples to try to be romantic more than just one day a year. I frequently talk with couples about the need for quality time together to keep their relationship close and connected, and I suggest a regular “date night.” Almost without fail during the winter months, I’m met with resistance because there’s “nothing to do when it’s cold.” I agree, doing dinner and a movie does become monotonous and boring. So, here are some romantic date ideas to fill those cold winter nights. If you’re looking for ideas for a sexy night in, just skip to the end. J Dates That Require Forethought Some dates take a bit more time and effort to plan than others. Some examples of these are: going to a concert; going to see a play/musical; going to the ballet; going to a comedy club; etc. Ticketmaster tends to be the go to place to purchase tickets; however, if you find that the show you really want to see is soldout, I suggest looking on stubhub.com or eBay, where you can purchase tickets secondhand. Taking a couples class together is another idea for a date that requires forethought and effort. Some examples of classes for couples are: cooking; pottery; DIY/ Learning workshops; and dance lessons. Learning something new together can be a great way to have fun and feel closer to 16
one another. When couples are learning something new together, it gives them the opportunity to grow as a couple. Looking for something more relaxing? Try a couple’s massage or a couple’s Spa Day. If you both have very different interests, try alternating who gets to plan the date night. When it’s your turn, try to plan the date around what you think they would like; and likewise for them when it’s their turn. Spontaneous Dates Many couples have busy schedules and are just trying to squeeze in their date nights. If this is your situation, there are still plenty of options that do not require anything to be planned or purchased ahead of time. Some suggestions for these dates are: going to a Museum; an Aquarium; an Art Gallery; or trying a restaurant the serves a type of cuisine you’ve never had before. For example, if you’ve never tried Ethiopian, there are a number of fantastic Ethiopian Restaurants in Philadelphia. I’ve also found a love for Moroccan Restaurants. I’m still mourning the loss of Casablanca, a Moroccan restaurant that used to be in New Castle. In its wake, I’ve had to settle for Ali Baba in Newark, which serves Lebanese and Greek cuisine. Even if you hate it, it will still be a unique experience that you, as a couple, can experience together (and hopefully have a good laugh over, if you both think it is truly awful). The idea is to create a new experience together and just have fun.
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Adventurous Dates
Maybe you’re a couple that loves the winter and can’t wait to get out there and do something fun together? Fantastic, there is no shortage of opportunities for outdoor activities for couples in the winter. There are the obvious activities: skiing; sledding/ tubing; and/or ice-skating. But you might also consider “winter camping” or renting a cabin somewhere. Perhaps you want to try one of these activities for the first time? Wonderful! It’s another opportunity for you and your partner to take a lesson together, and learn something new as a couple. You may or may not have to call in advance to schedule a lesson, depending on the place and whether or not it’s peak season, when they’re less likely to have openings on short notice. Want to do something adventurous without worrying about the weather? Try indoor rock climbing. You’ll have the option to take an “Intro to Climbing Class” with an instructor together before they let you go off on your own. Some places will also have staff available that will allow you to do a “trial climb,” with the staff member serving as the belayer (that’s the person standing on the ground, keeping the appropriate amount of slack on the climber’s rope—trust me, you want the professional doing this if you’re new). Two additional options for activities that couples might try to learn together are martial arts, or taking a kickboxing class.
Want to turn up the heat on your at-home date? Make sure you have the house to yourself, get close, and watch any of the following DVDs for a sexy night in: Loving Sex: Ultimate Sexual Massage - The Art of Sexual Touch The Tantric Secrets of Sacred Sex: A Guide to Intimacy and Loving Loving Sex: New Erotic Seduction The Joy of Erotic Massage Sensual Yoga for Couples- Intimacy Spa Sensual Massage for Couples- Intimacy Spa Intimate Yoga for Couples All of the above can be purchased through amazon.com. Another perk to some of these DVDs is that they can be used again for another date night, after you have acquired all of the accoutrements mentioned in the video, so you can follow along! Have fun, and stay warm!
If you’re looking for options that are active, but not overly physical in nature, you might try taking a yoga class together—there are some yoga studios that have specific classes just for couples. Other classes you might try taking together are Tai Chi (defined as: a slow meditative physical exercise designed for relaxation and balance and health) or Qigong (defined as: an ancient Chinese system that integrates physical postures, breathing techniques and focused intention). Dates You Never Have to Leave Home For The most important thing to remember when creating a “date at home” is to make it feel very different than a regular night together in the house. For example, perhaps you want to try a “Fondue for Two” night. Make the space look and feel more romantic. There are many ways to do this, including changing the lighting (candles, etc.), putting rose petals around the table, and/or using your “fancy china.” If you have a fireplace, build a fire and have your date in front of the fireplace. Alternatively, you could safely build a bonfire in the backyard and cozy up together with your favorite winter beverage. Another at-home date idea is looking at old photos together; if you’re married, looking at your wedding video or photo album. If you’re a new couple, it may be a good opportunity to learn about your partner’s past life experiences by sharing photos with each other, and telling whatever stories may accompany them. Remember, just because you’re at home, doesn’t mean you can’t still dress up for each other. Do everything you might otherwise do to prepare for a date, even though you plan to stay in.
Sexual Health and Healing with Dianna Palimere, PhD, LCSW Dr. Dianna Palimere is a Psychosexual Therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She has been in the field of mental health for the past 12 years, dedicating the past seven years to specializing in clinical sexuality. She holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology, a Masters degree in Social Work, a Masters degree in Human Sexuality Education, and a PhD in Clinical Human Sexuality. Utilizing a holistic approach to therapy, she incorporates a variety of clinical interventions in her work with individuals, couples, and families. She is devoted to helping people achieve sexual health and healing through her work as a psychotherapist in her private practice in Pike Creek, DE; as well as in her work with local nonprofit organizations. To learn more about her or to schedule an appointment, visit her website: www.SexTherapyInDelaware.com or email her directly at: dr.palimere@sextherapyindelaware.com Join us on Facebook, keywords: Sex Therapy in Delaware.
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“Be Your Own Valentine”
By Suzanne Eder
A lot is written about love in February – some of it wise and Don’t get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoyed the movie, including wonderful, much of it…not so much. I was tempted to simply that scene. Yet I realize that the idea of a romantic partner who ignore the subject this year, unsure of whether I could add “completes” us reinforces a very false and damaging belief that we anything of real value to the conversation and wanting to offer are somehow incomplete right now, just as we are. And a belief you something fresh and useful. in our incompleteness – which almost always translates as “not enough-ness” – gives rise to all manner of pain, as well as the Then I realized there are certain messages that bear repeating, energy-depleting strategies we employ in an attempt to get rid of over and over again, until they are embraced and embodied in a the pain. genuine way. And here is the message I most want you to embrace: You know the ones. They take a variety of forms, but at their core Loving yourself is the foundation of genuine happiness, fulfillment they’re all about garnering acceptance or approval from others, and success. trying to live up to the expectations of our partners and families And that most certainly includes happiness, fulfillment and and society. We think others’ approval will “prove” to us that success in relationships. Too often our romantic notions of love we’re okay, but it never does. It cannot. No amount of external arise from a concept perhaps best articulated by Tom Cruise in validation can fill a perceived inner void. the movie Jerry Maguire. Could anyone forget the scene in which he said these famous words? “You complete me.” He said it with such depth of feeling, and of course it melted sweet Renee Zellweger’s heart (and probably the heart of every woman in the viewing audience). I’m pretty sure there were tears in his eyes. It was so poignant, so profound, so…romantic. And so misleading. 18
And that’s really the crux of the matter: our false belief in our incompleteness is a misperception, and only we can change our own perception. Of course, someone who sees us through the eyes of love can help us tremendously in learning to see ourselves the same way, but they can’t do it for us. It’s the same as saying that they cannot complete us, because we are already whole… even as we are growing and evolving. As we consider ourselves in terms of being whole yet still growing and evolving, we recognize the true beauty and power of a — continued on next page
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Plunge On By Karen Verna Carlson, N.D., Ph.D.(Hon.)
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olar Bear plunge events have been gaining popularity as charity fundraisers. On Sunday February 2nd record-breaking numbers of brave folks supported by thousands of pledges for the Special Olympics waded and dunked and dove into the Atlantic at Rehoboth Beach. Some people run in up to their knees and run out. Even if a person just undresses down to his/her bathing suit and puts their clothes back on without going in, they are doing something positive for their mental and physical health. Each person chooses a level of participation that feels challengingly do-able. For many folks, providing a supportive presence rather than doing the plunge, is enough of a challenge on a blustery winter beach day. The only CO2 emissions added to the atmosphere come from driving to the plunge site. With carpooling (unintentional pun, honest) those CO2e are minimized. Systems Upgrade Combining charitable motives with a quick winter dip has probably introduced many first-timers to the surprisingly healthy mental and physical benefits of this ancient practice. As a naturopathic physician, I describe the generalized health benefit to be “an all-over systems upgrade.” Even though the shock is a dramatic one, its duration is so short that it boosts vitality, rather than depleting it. This offers a healthy contrast to offset the nagging little daily stressors that can otherwise wear us down. For each plunge, our intelligent cells coordinate optimal responses that recalibrate our natural abilities to quickly deal with and recover from stress.
softened—they no longer hold me hostage tied up with fruitless worrisome projections of suffering. Those projections have NEVER materialized into their full blown imagined horrors, so I refuse to indulge them anymore. Paradigm Shift Emits No CO2 I value a cold weather attitude adjustment. I don’t like the prospect of feeling more and more curmudgeonly year-by-year as soon as the last leaves drop. I love living here in chateau country. Our seasonal diversity is a source of entertainment, enhances my connection with nature, and inspires spiritual growth. I’d rather shift my paradigm than be a grouch where I am. And I’d much rather shift my paradigm than move away from friends and family to a warmer climate. (Besides, a new location would bring new grist for my worry mill—giant insects, poisonous plants, typhoons, etc., etc., etc. That mill shuts down when I shift my perspective.) Do I need to point out that a paradigm shift incurs no CO2e? Practical Caution Of course, I still bundle on layers to stay comfortable. And I do experience occasional pain from brief exposure to brutish elements as I dart from my warm car to a building at the far end of the parking lot. But my body quickly warms to being comfortable again. I do not dread being cold. It is just a momentary sensation communicating the practical need for caution. Mind Power
Playing outdoors in winter at the ocean or creek or pond is invigorating and uplifting for body, mind and spirit. Katharine Hepburn started each day year round with a swim in Long Island Sound. Paul Newman enjoyed a bracing daily dip every morning in the creek at his Connecticut home. My Scandinavian relatives heat up in a sauna, then roll in snow banks. Russian friends gather ceremoniously at their neighborhood pond outside St. Petersburg to cut a big enough hole in the ice for a swim.
Mind over matter is a principle that grows more powerful with use, so I can laugh at the antics of my mortal mind, diminishing its power to limit wholesome risk-taking, which builds character and spiritual faith. Each day between monthly plunges my mortal mind assesses the weather. In calm, sunny 40’s, “This would be a great plunge day,” or when winds howl temps into single digits, “I’m glad THIS is NOT a plunge day.” What a waste of my energy. This recognition that my energy is being wasted inspires me to strengthen my ability to stay focused in the present moment, which is the only real life. Neither past nor future offer livable moments. Spirit is present only now.
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The days following each plunge ripple with blessings, such as more restful sleep, insightful thinking, stronger mental focus, physical stamina, infinite patience, kindness, more smiling, laughter, and definitely a closer relationship to that cosmic consciousness that I call Great Spirit. I feel 30% more upbeat, confident, competent.
For weeks before each plunge, in spite of the previous resounding successes, my mental committee starts with admonitions, heckling, and downright name-calling. This Mind over matter principle does not refer to that little mortal mind, but rather to our big Mind, our cosmic consciousness that we can tap into with practice. That Mind knew polar bear plunging would yield great benefits for my health and well-being. More than 60 plunges later, I can say that I am definitely being blessed daily by this better connection with Mind, as well as by enhanced health.
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Courage Rises Above Fear There’s also great therapeutic value in voluntarily confronting discomfort. Courage isn’t the absence of fear; it’s the power to be proactive in spite of fear. Winter chill and drear seem considerably
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Gentler Plunges Available To encourage participation on a gentler gradient, several of us have made a commitment to lengthen the plunge season with what we’re designating as Polar Cub Plunges. We’ll be plunging at Henlopen at 1:00 the first Sundays in April and May and October. My First Plunge My personal plunge practice began innocently enough January 1, 2000 as a one-shot deal to embrace the New Millennium. The couple hundred other people who showed up at Cape Henlopen on that sunny, 45-degree New Year’s Day, were also mostly firsttimers ready to demonstrate their intention for a life affirming adventure to set the stage for a new era. Water temperature was 39 degrees. Nervous tension was palpable. Was I scared? Terrified. I had placed my Last Will & Testament on my bed when I left that morning for Lewes, but I was determined not to be the first person ever to die in a recreational plunge. I viewed this as an amateur sporting event to strategically manage my fear. Diversity As I looked around at the motley crowd on the beach, I saw old and young, fatties and string beans all bundled in parkas, scarves and hats against the chilling winds. Half were there to provide moral support, which is certainly a valuable contribution.
fizz. My skin is burning cold. My feet claim the sandy floor, and my body bursts up into air. “I’M ALIVE!” is the next thought screaming between my ears as I slog towards shore in a daze. Wow Heading towards my towel, I’m partying with other gasping, elated, soggy survivors WOOOO HOOOOing and high fiving. I just have to do a couple of cartwheels. “Wow,” I humbly marvel, mesmerized by the ocean view and the reality that I was just in it on New Year’s Day. Strangely enough, I was not in any big hurry to dry off and bundle up. I felt incredibly peaceful. I had roared down Route 1 getting to Lewes, but for the drive home I enjoyed the leisurely pace of Route 13. I did not turn on the radio. My mental committee was verrrry quiet. “Wow.” Create Your Practice Since then, I’ve worked up to four dives (complete immersions) before returning to the beach. I call that “one round.” Usually, I complete four rounds (4 trips in with 4 dives each trip). Most people run in, dunk or dive under and run out like I did my first time. You might want to start with a simple foot plunge after rolling up trousers and removing shoes and socks. You might just take off your jacket for the count of 100 and put it on again. You might just show up and watch. It’s YOUR plunge practice, once you’ve made the commitment.
Countdown “Ten minutes!” announces the bullhorn. I yank off my mittens and stuff my hair into a bathing cap. “Five minutes!” I peel off jeans and socks, leaving on long johns but step bare feet back into my fleece boots. “Three minutes!” Heart pounding so loud I can’t hear the crashing waves, I drop my parka, whip off sweaters down to my bathing suit, dive back into my coat, step out of my boots, peel down the long johns. Everyone is hunkering into some jacket, blanket, or towel restlessly ready like a flock of geese about to fly off at sunset.
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Yell, Run, Dive “10! 9! 8!” blares the bullhorn. The voices of the committee in my head that have been catastrophizing for days are now silent, stunned by the certainty that I am actually going to do this. I whip off my coat, unaware of the bullhorn calling out the last seconds, unaware of cold, of wind, and I start yelling at the top of my lungs as I realize that my legs are propelling me towards the foamy brine. Surprise! Vague shadows of others are keeping pace or passing me. Feet, ankles, knees, I’m plowing forward up to my waist—the unanimous thought explodes in my head, “I AM FREEZING!” I dive straight through a huge wave rolling in to crush me. (Oh, yes, dear reader, that wave definitely intended to take me down.) Eyes open to the other-worldly underwater silence of bubbles and 22
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When I’m working at a festival event, comfort is a must, but that doesn’t mean frumpy. I need to make a good first impression with guests, so it’s important to look stylish. I like to pair a dress with colorful flats or a comfortable platform shoe that I can move in. If I can’t kneel on the ground or carry boxes, I won’t wear it to work an event! On weekends, I’m usually found wearing basic pieces with skinny jeans and jazz it up with accessories. My leopard print flats are a favorite!
Is your wardrobe based on current fashion trends? Are you comfortable sporting your own style, regardless of what is “in style” at the time? Laura Stimson
Laura Stimson is a 24 year old budding event planner from Wilmington, Delaware. She attended The Tatnall School and remained in Delaware for college attending the University of Delaware, graduating with a degree in Marketing. Laura is the Associate Producer of the Mid Atlantic Wine + Food Festival. “It’s so exciting to work on a Festival with 46 different events that celebrate all of the culinary and cultural attractions Delaware has to offer”! This year’s event will showcase 59 chefs from several of the best restaurants in the state. In Laura’s spare time, labeling herself a huge foodie, she delves into learning all she can about wine, beer, and spirits. Her real passion is traveling, and at just 24 years old has already been to 27 different countries (with another 50 on her bucket list!)
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My closet core includes lots of basic and timeless pieces that I can wear year after year, but I like to supplement that with a handful of trendy pieces. Accessories go a long way!
What is the one piece of clothing or accessory from your wardrobe that you could not live without? I could never live without my collection of shift dresses for work. They make getting dressed for work or going to an event so easy.
What is the one piece of clothing or accessory you wish you owned, but would never buy yourself? A black Classic Flap Chanel purse. I’ve wanted one since I was a little girl… timeless! I can’t promise I’ll never buy it, but it’s not at the top of my realistic “Buy List” at the moment.
Does a designer name mean anything to you? If so, who are your favorite designers? A brand name isn’t as important as a piece that looks good. The pieces I get the most compliments on are often no-name brands, but they fit really well. I do have a lot of Michael Kors pieces because he makes great basics, especially for petites (I’m only 5 feet tall!) In the spring, I wear a tan Michael Kors jacket on most days.
Do you look for a bargain or is price not an issue if you love it? I’ll admit it… I have a problem staying away from a sale! But, I am willing to invest in a higher priced piece if I know it’s a wardrobe staple or I’ll wear it a million times.
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I love H&M, Nordstrom and Lord & Taylor. I try to find pieces that aren’t too common, so I love to shop local as well. I’ve been dying to try Shop Mamie on Gilpin Avenue in Wilmington! They have an online store too (www.shopmamie. com).
What wardrobe essentials do you think are vital to pull off the perfect look for you?
I think it’s important to build a good collection of staples that can be worn in a hundred different ways and in multiple seasons- the perfect LBD, a structured jacket, a pencil skirt, a few feminine blouses, dark skinny jeans, solid color tanks, and flats. My friends would also tell you that leopard is my signature print. I have a ton of leopard, and I often pair it with solid colored pieces. I just heard a Jenna Lyons quote that I love, “As far as I’m concerned, leopard is a neutral.”
What is the best piece of style advice you would like to share with our readers? Don’t buy a piece of clothing you’re not 100% in love with! If it doesn’t fit just right and flatter every part of you, forget about it. Fill your closet with the perfect pieces for your own body and you’ll feel confident every day.
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Where Has All The Sex Gone? By Joe White
I was going through some emails when one caught my eye. It read, “Rediscover The Passion in Your Relationship”. It peaked my curiosity since we do so much work with couples in crisis. I opened the email and I read what the course offered. It listed topics such as communication, creating a vision together, and making time for each other. I thought to myself, these are great tools but they will never give you more passion. They may improve your relationship, but passion is a whole different action. One of the most important keys to a magical relationship is that the core values, beliefs, and rules must be aligned and sexual energy polarity must exist. Core values, beliefs and rules will keep you going in the same direction but it is the sexual energy where you find all the juice.
polarity, not the sameness that creates attraction and desire. It does not matter what gender has which energy; polarity is essential. This is true in hetrosexual and gay and lesbian relationships. The challenge is that when we enter into a relationship, there is usually the polarity that creates the initial attraction but over time the polarity is stripped away and if it is not returned you may find yourself with a friendship instead of a relationship. Sex drops or becomes nonexistent. I have seen this too many times and instead of looking inward, many couples out of fear, create stories like, “We are too busy”, “The kids take all our time now”, “All couples lose their sex drive”... And all of these stories are just that - stories. Not the facts nor the truth. So here are some facts.
So, what is sexual energy? Remember John Gray... the
I would like to offer you a few brief understanding of what will strip away the polarity as well as ways to get it back. Remember, this is not about males and females but rather masculine and feminine energy. For ease I will refer to masculine as men and feminine as women.
In each of us we have both masculine and feminine energy. Never equally. We have one which is our core but there is a blend. Some people are 60/40 and others are 90/10 and we all have our own blend. Our sexual energy has nothing to do with sexual preference and everything to do with passion.
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Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus author. Good book as it describes the differences between men and women; however to really understand this, we have to go beyond the differences of gender and into the co-energies that exist. In other words, it has less to do with body parts and more to do with our blend of masculine and feminine energy.
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Men, the number one thing that will strip her of her energy is being critical or making her wrong for her emotions. This will close her faster than a heartbeat. Feminine energy wants to be understood and when you are critical of her, saying things like: “Why are you so emotional? “Don’t cry, just suck it up honey”, that shows that you don’t understand her and that will cause her to pull away and close up. This also includes trying to fix her or her problems. What she really needs is your presence.
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Your undivided attention; which means no phones, remotes, nothing. She wants to feel connected to you. Yes, it can be a lot to digest but women care less about retention and more about honest effort. They know we are knuckleheads but they love us anyway. Thank goodness.
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Women, we need to be your hero. Not some B.S. make pretend crap, but we live to light you up. To make you smile and laugh, to save the day and when we can’t, we feel like a failure. Making us wrong causes us to pull away and to shut down because we don’t know what else to do. Women, this does not mean that you can’t voice your true feelings but there is a time and place. Men cannot feel that no matter what we do, it is wrong. We have to feel that there is a finish line and we have crossed it. Remember, no matter how evolved your man is, we still value significance and if we don’t feel that we are significant to you, we lose our drive. Women, make your man your hero.
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MOM was Right
by Douglas R. Briggs, DC, Dipl.Med.Ac.(IAMA), L.Ac., DAAPM
As I sat down to write this article, Christmas was rapidly approaching, and it had been getting colder. Every day I would come home to a mailbox full of sale circulars and ads. Being a practitioner of “alternative healing,” I often get interesting and unique catalogs in the mail. Some of these are from legitimate companies, some are chock-full of new-age “hokum.” There are a lot of interesting products and gadgets out there, and I must confess I enjoy window shopping all the new and different therapy options. There are some very gifted and insightful people who have come up with some great ideas that have greatly enhanced healthcare. However, as we all realize, just because someone sells a product does not automatically give it credibility. How many of us have been caught watching late night infomercials? It could be interesting to see what is promoted as a legitimate healthcare option, and sometimes it is just plain embarrassing. Sometimes you need to sit back and recognize what is genuinely good advice and what is just a fancy advertising campaign. Many of us realize that we do not need to spend a lot of money on exotic treatment therapies, when common sense options are readily available. Anyway, one item recently caught my attention – wrist warmers, or should I say “Warmth from the North.”? The product offered is essentially a polyester tube you slip over your hand to cover your wrist with the idea of increasing the heat of your whole body. The product description went on to describe how people in Scandinavia and Northern Europe have used such things for centuries, and how you might still see an old man in Bavaria out chopping wood in the snow wearing little more than thick trousers, a shirt and his wrist warmers. Although a nice discussion, the idea is very simple. The wrist is one of the more exposed areas of the body. The vessels and nerves are close to the skin, and there is typically not a lot of fat covering to insulate the underlying tissues – so the body can easily lose heat from this area. In acupuncture philosophy, the Source points are also in this area, which thereby exposes the meridian system to the elements. It makes sense to protect the wrists from the cold. Now don’t get me wrong – I think it is a legitimate product with a valid application. But I don’t think you have to travel to the mountains of a distant land to find credibility. You can pick up 30
almost any hunting or winter sport catalog and find a number of good winter gloves with longer gauntlets to protect the wrist. The big picture is to protect the wrists from the cold as much as the hands – protecting the body from negative exposure. Let’s not just stop at the wrist – there are many other places the body can lose internal warmth as well. The ankles are just like the wrists – thin skin with easily exposed nerve and vascular points. The neck is also a place where the blood supply to the head is readily affected by the cold. So, Mom was right: stay bundled up and warm in winter. Common sense? Absolutely. Yet, I have had many patients who never thought that protecting their body from the cold was actually a good thing. It really is a good idea to wear a scarf, good gloves, and warms socks. Common sense care generally trumps exotic therapies. Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best.
Dr. Briggs is the senior associate of First State Health and Wellness in Delaware. His undergraduate degree is in biology and natural science from Messiah College, and he attended Palmer College of Chiropractic for his graduate training. While at Palmer he worked as a teaching assistant in the diagnosis department and the student clinic. He has written and contributed to several articles and books on the topics of chiropractic, acupuncture, and natural healing – including the chapter on chiropractic and acupuncture in the legal nursing text “Medical Legal Aspects of Medical Records.” Dr. Douglas Briggs has earned diplomate certification through the International Academy of Medical Acupuncture. He is also credentialed as a diplomate in pain management through the American Academy of Pain Management. In his spare time he works as an instructor at the Korean Martial Arts Institute. He was recognized by the Delaware Chiropractic Society at 2010 Chiropractor of the Year. He now serves on the DE Health Care Advisory Panel for Workers Comp, and as the DCS president. Dr. Briggs has been with 1st State Health & Wellness since November 1995. He is a native Delawarean, and lives with his wife, Dawn, and their son in Pike Creek. He is a longtime member of Faith Baptist Church in Wilmington. He has had the honor of his patients voting him one of the “Best of Delaware” over the last few years.
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HANDS ON HEALTH by: Ann Wilkinson P.T.M.S,
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I am trying to get into shape after overindulging from the holidays. The weight I have put on is making my feet hurt and aggravating an old chronic hamstring strain. The more I work out the more pain I have. Do you have any suggestions?
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Weight gain and plantar fascitis are interlocked. The more weight you gain, the more your feet hurt, the less you exercise and the tighter your feet get. There can be several contributing factors including vitamin deficiency, the need for orthotics or arch supports and many times simple myofascial treatment restores the plantar fascial mobility. I find it necessary to release the calves and entire posterior leg into the buttocks and low back to restore full plantar mobility. The chronic hamstring strain may come from either a rotated pelvis, scar tissue in the hamstring or even an anterior cruciate ligament strain in the knee or a combination of all three. If the pelvis is rotated the hamstring lengths are different one leg to the other. Unfortunately, when we take a step however far the first step is taken the second step will match that stride. The pelvis that is rotated anterior has to over lengthen the hamstring on that side with each step, causing strain. Scar tissue must be released with deep fascial releases so the muscle can have full excursion through the full ROM. If there is an old ligamentous laxity in the knee the tibia may encounter extra rotation as the leg fully straightens at full stride. The hamstring gets over used and strain results. I recommend core strengthening, restorative Yoga, stretching and stabilization exercise easing into cardio which will take off the pounds. Very slowly increase the cardio workouts allowing the body to accomodate slowly. Fascial releases, pelvic balancing, postural and hamstring strengthening should all be incororated into your workout. Start out easy, use traumeel cream, keep you diet alkaline, push yourself after you get stronger from deep within to out. Use a variety of cardio activities to engage all of your muscles and not get into a repetative strain pattern. Have fun as you ease into a more pleasant experience.
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I have ringing in my ears and sometimes low back pain. It is not my imagination that they alternate back and forth. When one goes away the other becomes more pronounced. Is it possible that they are related?
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There is a very famous Frenchman named Alfred Tomatis. He studied the relationship between the spine and ears extensively. He found a direct correlation between listening ability, the spine and the actual anatomical ear. He even goes as far as to say, “the back is the ears and the ears are the back.” He compares the spine to a piano and has determined that different frequencies are detected by different spinal segments. The bones of the spine conduct different frequencies that are picked up as listening in the ears. If there is a problem at a specific spinal segment, the ears will have a problem with listening or hearing that same specific frequency that correlates to that spinal segment. Tomatis developed a very specific exercise program combined with toning that restores the spines ability to transmit frequencies and the ears ability to listen through spinal bone conduction. The mobility of the spine changes as well as the ability of the ears to listen through bone conduction. His program is 97 percent effective for hearing ringing in the ears. His method is more effective than any other known program. Maybe the sacrum and lumbar spine lock down in a protective spasm allowing less mobility with resultant less pain. Less protection will allow for more mobility, better transmission, however more pain may be experienced as well as less ringing in the ears. Pain worsens, protective spasm kicks in, sacrum and lumbar go on lock down. The spinal segments are blocked, frequencies are not detected, pain is less, ringing returns. This highly specific Tomatis method is available at the Mozart Brain Lab in Belgium. Recently I had an opportunity to study there. It brought so much awareness about the ears,brain and spine such that many ailments are no longer a mystery but have clear connection and restorative capability.
Ann is an award winning writer,teacher and speaker. Ann is the personal body worker of Her Holiness “Sai Maa”. Ann practices osteopathic physical therapy and has helped thousands of patients. Ann is also an expert on the use of healing foods, homeopathic and herbal consultations, and therapeutic horseback riding. Ann treats her patients in a beautiful country setting which enables her to utilize all of her learned skills as well as some of the healing properties that only Mother Earth can bestow .Ann is available by appointment and can be reached 302-656-7882. The farm is also available for birthday parties, women’s circles, and retreats.
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I would like to buy a puppy for my children this coming year. I understand that some diseases can be spread from my dog to my kids. What do I need to do to minimize this from happening?
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Diseases that can be spread and transmitted from dogs, or any other species, to humans are called zoonotic diseases. There are at least 800 diseases that fall into this category and are recognized as such. When it comes to protecting your family from those diseases, common sense hygiene will go a long way. Practice cleanliness and hand washing on a regular basis. Make sure your pet’s food and water bowls are kept clean and free of any contaminated material, especially fecal material. Contaminated material can be spread by direct contact, and in some instances, by inhalation. Flea control is very important. For example, fleas are necessary in the spread of tapeworm infestation. Roundworms or Ascarids, are fecal parasites that can live and migrate and feed in the small intestine. This is a very common fecal parasite found in puppies. Puppies become infected through their mother milk while nursing or prior to that in utero. These roundworms can infest children if they ingest the eggs that can be found in the soil, dog feces or anything that may have gotten contaminated by the stool. Any parasite that is found in the stool of your dog has the potential to be spread to humans if the right conditions are present. This is why it is very important to have your dog’s stool undergo a fecal examination at least once a year if not twice. If your dog exhibits a soft stool or diarrhea, it is always prudent to have a fecal examination performed to rule out any parasitic infestation as the cause. If present, then treat accordingly. Some of the conditions that are considered zoonotic that can be spread from dogs to humans include: Brucellosis, Campylobacteriosis, Cryptosporidiosis, Giardiasis, Hookworm, Leishmaniasis, Lyme disease, Q-fever, Rabies, Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever, Roundworms, Salmonellosis and Tapeworm. Don’t panic! Most of these conditions are avoided by simple hygiene. Hookworms, for example, are caused by the species Ancylostoma. This parasite attaches itself to the intestinal wall
and proceeds to suck blood causing potential problems such as blood loss anemia. Hookworms can infect dogs, cats, foxes and humans (under the right conditions). Many people that get infected do so by standing, sitting or lying on the sand at the beach or moist soil that has been contaminated with the fecal parasite. Pets with this disease often exhibit soft stool or diarrhea, with or without blood. Humans often get a reddish mark or red lines under the skin and the skin itches significantly. Lyme disease has proven to be difficult to understand over the years. Information continues to come in to help us better understand this mysterious organism and how it is transmitted and exactly how to treat it. Many wild animals, we now know, can serve as reservoirs for deer tick infestation. Some have speculated that it is possible to transmit lyme disease through infected saliva or infected urine of an infected dog. Once again, be careful with hygiene. If this is, indeed, a possibility, continue good cleanliness practices and you should minimize the possibility of transmission. Before you purchase a dog for your children, get some books and become familiar with dogs and their behaviors and requirements. Find yourself a qualified holistic veterinarian at www.ahvma.org, and discuss you desires and preferences. Big dogs need a lot of space to play and run. Can you provide that on a daily basis or do you want the little lap dog that watches television with you at night? If you have a breed preference, investigate that further, perhaps go to a dog show and become more familiar with that breed. Speak to people and ask them their experiences. Do you and your family fit that picture? Have you considered rescue?? The number of dogs that need to be rescued is ridiculous. Consider taking in a rescue , they come in all shapes and sizes!
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Turn Your Illness Into Opportunity! � Just how much can you take… Emotionally? Physically? Professionally? Financially? At the age of 29, I found out just how much I couldn’t take. I was a few years into running my chiropractic practice and owning my first home. Life seemed manageable and was going well. I’d never been ill beyond chicken pox and poison ivy as a child, and considered myself to be grounded and uneasily shaken. Then a series of stressful events at work and at home—including the untimely death of my cat—nearly put me over the proverbial edge. My medical history was about to be rewritten.
A few days following that terrible week, I went for a jog from my house in Trolley Square to Rockford Park. I had barely made it home when I felt a twisting knot in my stomach. Extreme fatigue set in and I spent every minute not at work resting in bed. Weeks went by and I regained some strength, but the fatigue and dull stomach pain persisted. After meals, my lips would feel cold and clammy while my abdomen burned. I became anxious and fearful. Realizing that the condition was not going away, I knew that I had to do something!
It did not take long to learn that I was suffering from acute gastritis (inflammation of the stomach). This is a condition that can turn into an ulcer and increases the risk of stomach cancer down the road. Medically, I was offered a prescription for Pepcid. I was grateful for the care that the internist gave me, but decided that I wanted to look beyond the symptoms and chose not to take the drug. My chiropractic training taught me the value of identifying the underlying imbalance rather than focusing on suppressing symptoms. Fortunately, I was not dealing with an immediate life and death situation and had time to figure out a permanent solution.
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pylori (H. pylori). This bacteria is present in half the people of the world, and is a common cause of ulcers. Most don’t realize they have it because the bacteria are not causing a problem and no symptoms exist. When H. pylori become symptomatic, the medical approach is to treat it with antibiotics. I wanted to use that option only as a last resort.
Following an ugly “poor-me” phase, I decided to look at the situation differently. Instead of feeling like a victim, I began to see my illness as an OPPORTUNITY to change all the parts of my life and “me” that allowed this to happen.
I took a hard and sometimes uncomfortable look at myself and realized that, by mishandling my stress, I had created the perfect environment for illness to flourish. This understanding led me to try yoga and eventually become an instructor. I ate foods that were easy on and healing for the stomach. Before my daily yoga session, I would sit in meditation and prayer. I continued to question my thoughts and reactions to the people and world around me. My morning practice was often uncomfortable and at times tearful as my body and mind released the tensions created by stifled emotions. It seemed as if layer after layer of stress and tension vanished while my stomach began to feel whole again. Months went by and I began to see meaningful change, not only in my symptoms, but with something intangible inside of me.
I learned that the cause of my gastritis was not the absence of Pepcid or antibiotics. It was me, and the cure was to change myself! After one year, my stomach felt and functioned normally. I regained an energetic state and felt empowered by what I had learned and accomplished. The problem was corrected at its source, without drugs and without suppressing symptoms.
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Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal is a second-generation Doctor of Chiropractic and a past president of the Delaware Chiropractic Society. His undergraduate degree is in Nutrition and he is a Certified Yoga Teacher. In his Wilmington practice, he offers the cutting-edge Koren Specific Technique (KST) as well as other contemporary and traditional approaches. KST comfortably integrates gentle adjustments of the spine, cranial bones, TMJ, arms and legs (including the wrists and feet). Dr. Rosenthal specializes in pain relief, auto or work injury recovery and natural ways to boost whole body wellness. To contact Dr. Rosenthal please visit rosenthalchiropractic.com or 302-999-0633.
It is important to note that there are times when more invasive action with medication and/or surgery is warranted. There are also times when the underlying cause remains elusive. Even if you are taking medications and feel that the condition is “controlled,” you can still see it as an opportunity look for ways to make changes in your life that will improve your level of health.
If your chiropractic or medical physician determines that your condition is not a medical emergency requiring immediate treatment, you may find the below questions useful to turn illness into an opportunity: Do I feel like a victim or do I feel empowered by the opportunity before me? Is my state of health stemming from an imbalance in my diet, exercise routine (or lack thereof), rest/sleep, emotional state or my structural/nervous system? Is the treatment or care that was offered to me addressing the source of the problem or only suppressing the symptoms? Am I truly taking responsibility for my health? Be your own cheerleader. Below are examples that will support you on your journey: Each health challenge is an opportunity to grow and heal! My inner potential is to be optimally healthy! Signs and symptoms are like a trail of bread crumbs leading me to areas in my life that can benefit from change. By removing interferences, I will shine with radiant health! It is fun and easy to make changes! I will patiently allow whatever timeframe is required for my health to be restored!
When your life throws you a health challenge, you have two choices. You can feel and act as a victim, or see it as a rainbow that can lead you to a pot of gold. The latter may not be the easy path, but it offers a real opportunity for self-improvement. It’s important to note that opportunities come not only in the form of a new job, stock option or winning ticket. They may arrive as a chronic sinus infection, high blood pressure or pain in the _____ (fill in the blank!). The next time opportunity knocks, open the door and take the journey to a HEALTHIER YOU!
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It has been over a year since I wrote an article for the magazine, and what a year it has been. I would like to be able to tell you that everything has been coming up roses, but I am stuck in the middle of some serious winter blues. The holidays are over and we are left with gloomy dreary weather, but we should be out of this in no time I hope, because I cannot survive without the sun. The weather has me retrogressing back to a time where I felt completely hopeless and the thought of writing another article about me, for the magazine, like pulling teeth. After the steps that I have taken to better my life, it seems like there is no excuse for me to be so down and so unmotivated. Staying fit is one of the only things that I still get joy from and lately that has been a huge struggle because I cannot seem to get my eating completely under control following the holidays. 40
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Every day I still struggle with the basic things such as eating healthy and staying positive, but I continue to push forward no matter how I feel. My weight is still not where I would like it to be, not to say that I gained my weight back, but “I have gained a lot of muscle”, that’s what I tell people, but I am a work in progress. That’s all life really is anyway, when I go out I should wear a shirt that says under construction because that’s how I feel. Maybe one day construction will be complete, but all I know is that it feels good to be under construction, its fun and if you can find what works for you then you are set. Kickboxing works for me and if it doesn’t work for you then keep trying other things until you can find something you can endure and maybe even end up liking.
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Recipes
Fish is considered one of the healthiest foods we can eat. The value of the Omega III in fish is worth the risk, and for now, most nutritionists agree.
Snapper with Roasted Grape Tomatoes, Garlic and Basil 2 cups grape tomatoes, halved 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 3 cloves garlic, sliced 1 teaspoon balsamic vinegar Coconut Milk Ceviche
Pinch or two red pepper flakes (to taste)
1 pound Ahi Tuna
Kosher salt
boned (if needed) and cut into small squares 1/3 cup fresh lime juice With the enormous popularity 1/2 teaspoon minced jalapeño of sushi and sashimi, people Salt are growing accustomed to raw 1 and a half cups coconut milk seafood. 1 tablespoon minced red onion 1 tablespoon fresh cilantro leaves, Did you know that fish rinsed and chopped, plus marinated in fresh citrus juice more to garnish “cooks” as protein molecules are Freshly ground black pepper altered. It should take about 45 1/2 avocado, pitted, skinned and minutes. sliced 1/8” thin.
1/2 cup fresh basil leaves, tear or cut with scissors
In a stainless steel bowl, toss tuna with limejuice, jalapeño and a pinch of salt. Cover bowl and let macerate in the refrigerator for 45 minutes. Add coconut milk, red onion and cilantro, and season with salt and a bit of fresh pepper. Taste and adjust seasoning, adding more limejuice, coconut milk or salt if needed. Serving: divide an avocado among six bowls, and season with a pinch of salt. Spoon in the ceviche, drizzling it with the sauce. Garnish with *cilantro leaves. *Cilantro can be substituted with mint or parsley. 42
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4 (6-ounce) snapper fillets, with skin Freshly ground black pepper Preheat oven to 350 degrees, position rack in the middle of the oven. Toss the tomatoes with 1 tablespoon of the olive oil, garlic, vinegar, pepper flakes, and salt, to taste. Spread out on a baking sheet and roast until the tomatoes get juicy, about 15 minutes. Transfer tomatoes to a bowl and toss with the basil. Dry the fish very well all over. To keep the fish from curling in the pan, lightly slash a cross-hatch pattern into the skin of the fish with a sharp knife. Brush the rounded flesh side of the fish with the remaining olive oil. Season with salt and pepper, to taste. Heat a large non-stick skillet over mediumhigh heat. Place the fish, seasoned side down, in the oil, and cook undisturbed over high heat, until the fish turns both opaque along the edges and golden on the bottom, about 3 minutes. Flip the snapper and turn off the heat and let the fish cook in the residual heat of the pan until the fillets are firm but still juicy, about 1 minute more. Top with the tomatoes February 2014
Almond And Apricot Biscotti This twice-baked cookie is a classic with coffee or tea. The whole wheat and nuts provide the mineral manganese, which helps bone formation, and the antioxidant selenium, which is important for thyroid hormone function. Makes 24 cookies. 3/4 cup whole-wheat (whole-meal) flour
Chocolate Covered Marshmallows
3/4 cup all-purpose (plain) flour
2 1/4 cups semisweet chocolate chips
1/4 cup firmly packed brown sugar
12 large marshmallows
1 teaspoon baking powder
Melt the chocolate in a microwave-safe bowl in 30-seconds at a time, stirring after each time. Be careful not to overheat or the chocolate will scorch.
2 eggs, lightly beaten 2 tablespoons 1 percent low-fat milk
Dip the marshmallows in chocolate using a toothpick or fork. Place on aluminum foil, or wax paper and freeze. Allow marshmallows to sit at room temperature for about 5 minutes before serving.
2 tablespoons canola oil 2 tablespoons dark honey 1/2 teaspoon almond extract 2/3 cup chopped dried apricots 1/4 cup coarsely chopped almonds Preheat the oven to 350 F. In a large bowl, combine the flours, brown sugar and baking powder. Whisk to blend. Add the eggs, milk, canola oil, honey and almond extract. Stir with a wooden spoon until the dough just begins to come together. Add the chopped apricots and almonds. With floured hands, mix until the dough is well blended. Mimosa for Two 4 ounces orange juice 1 (750 ml) bottle dry champagne 1 ounces Triple Sec or Courvoisier garnish with orange rind. Rinse and chill 2 champagne glasses in freezer. Pour 2 ounces of orange juice into each glass. Then fill almost to the top with champagne. Finish each glass with a splash of Triple Sec or Courvoisier and garnish with orange rind.
Place the dough on a long sheet of plastic wrap and shape by hand into a flattened log 12 inches long, 3 inches wide and about 1 inch high. Lift the plastic wrap to invert the dough onto a nonstick baking sheet. Bake until lightly browned, 25 to 30 minutes. Transfer to another baking sheet to cool for 10 minutes. Leave the oven set at 350 F. Place the cooled log on a cutting board. With a serrated knife, cut crosswise on the diagonal into 24 slices 1/2 inch wide. Arrange the slices, cut-side down, on the baking sheet. Return to the oven and bake until crisp, 15 to 20 minutes. Transfer to a wire rack and let cool completely. Store in an airtight container. www.livingwellmagazine.net
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