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HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE PART 2 Post-Holiday Relationship Rejuvenation Joy, Peace, Merry, Light, Happy Resolving and Preventing Shoulder Problems in Athletes of All Ages

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This holiday season, we are focused on doing our part to make this planet a more peaceful and welcoming place to exist. Although we are planning on spoiling our first grandson with plenty of fun gifts (and other family members too), we have decided as a family to find ways to make our community a place for all to enjoy and prosper. We ask that you do the same. There are a host of opportunities to give back to the community. Sometimes the calls for help seem overwhelming. But we are encouraging our readers to pick one and follow through. Make a difference in the lives of those less fortunate by helping at a soup kitchen, adopting a pet, donating to worthy charitable causes, or just lending a hand to your neighbor. We recognize that not many people are in a position to donate sums of money to charities. Your time, in our opinion, is far more valuable, anyway. Indeed, there truly is no greater gift than applying your experiences and skills to assisting those who need it most. If you’re a lawyer, take on an extra pro bono case. If you’re roofer, offer to assist a veteran whose home is in need of a new roof. If you’re an artist, paint a mural for a homeless shelter to lift its residents’ spirits. If you own a vehicle, deliver meals to seniors for Meals On Wheels Delaware. Whatever it is you do, offer it to someone or some cause that needs it most. People aren’t the only beings in need. Dogs, cats, and many other types of animals spend the holidays in shelters, hoping the right family comes along to adopt them. If you’re thinking about surprising the family with a puppy, head over to the Brandywine Valley SPCA, or your local shelter first to see if one of their tenants is ready to move out. Adoption isn’t for everyone, however. So please be sure you understand the responsibility you’re undertaking by adopting. Determine whether you’re bringing them into a suitable environment—one that is mutually beneficial for you and the animal. Regardless of what you do this holiday season, always remember the impact will be felt by many others for many years to come. It is a privilege to live on this amazing planet, in this incredible country, and in our small, yet big-hearted community. Help others experience the happiness you get to feel during this time of year. We wish all of our readers a happy and healthy holidays and New Year. See you in 2019. —Enjoy & Share Everything! Diane Strauss

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Serve warm or cold 4 oz apple cider 2 oz bourbon of choice 1 tbsp honey 2 tsp lemon juice ½ sprig fresh rosemary 1 sprig fresh thyme (Ice if you want it chilled) Garnish 1 cinnamon stick 1 orange wheel 1 sprig rosemary (optional) Iced In a cocktail shaker, combine the apple cider, honey, rosemary,and thyme. Shake well. Combine remaining ingredients. Shake over ice. Strain and serve Garnish with cinnamon, orange, and rosemary Warm Stove top: warm apple cider, honey, rosemary, thyme, lemon juice warm to your likings. The Remove the herbs. Add bourbon. Stir. (Cider may be warmed in a mug in the microwave instead of stove top.) Garnish with cinnamon, orange, rosemary

Makes 20 pieces 10 large jalapenos 8 oz cream cheese ½ cup pepper jack cheese 1 tsp chili powder ½ tsp cumin ¼ tsp garlic powder ¼ tsp onion powder ½ can (6 oz) cranberry sauce ¼ tsp salt 5 strips raw bacon - cut in half (10 pieces)

Roasted Butternut Squash Hummus 2 cup diced butternut squash (or winter squash of your choice) 4 garlic cloves skin on 1 Tbsp olive oil 4 garlic cloves, peeled and chopped 2 Tbsp lemon juice 15 oz can chickpeas ⅓ cup tahini 4 Tbsp olive oil 1/2 tsp salt ½ cup fresh parsley ¼ tsp cinnamon ½ tsp cumin ¼ tsp smoked paprika (optional) Preheat oven to 400* Place the butternut squash and unpeeled garlic cook on a sheet pan. Bake for 15 to 20 min until fork tender; remove and cool. Remove skin from roasted garlic In a food processor place all the ingredients and blend till smooth and cream if it is to thick add a small amount of water until your desired consistency is reached. Serving Suggestion: Serve with roasted carrots, pita chips, and fresh veggies of your choice

Preheat oven to 375* Cut jalapeno in half; remove seeds and ribs. Set aside In a bowl mix cream cheese, pepper jack cheese, chili powder, cumin, garlic, onion, mix well Fold in cranberry sauce Fill each half jalapeno with the cheese mixture. Wrap bacon around each filled half and place it on a lined baking sheet Bake until the bacon is cooked as well as slightly crispy Remove from oven place on paper towel and to let any bacon fat drain off before serving

Roasted Beet Salsa over Goat Cheese and Crackers 2 large beets ½ red onion ½ cup cilantro 2 small jalapeno 2 Tbsp lime juice 1 orange juice and zest ½ tsp salt 1 tbsp sugar 8 oz pack goat cheese of your choice 1 pack of crackers - of your choice

Beet Salsa Preheat oven to 350* Wash beets to remove any dirt Rub each beet with oil salt and black pepper and wrap in tin foil. Bake until fork tender; remove and let cool. Peel and slice the red onion. Roast it for 10 to 15 min until golden brown. Remove and cool. Peel beet, rough chop them (small pieces) and place in a bowl Rough chop the onion, cilantro and jalapeno and add them to the bowl Add the lime juice, orange zest, and juice sugar. Let it sit or a few hours or overnight. Serve over goat cheese and cracker of your choice

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HANDS ON HEALTH Ann Wilkinson P.T.M.S,


I am adult with Cerebral Palsy. I have come a long way with holistic medicine having addressed more of the dietary and Chinese medicine perspectives. How can you help me from a homeopathic and osteopathic perspective?


Osteopathy will address the tightness in specific joints and musculature. Making space in the joints, allows for much improved posture and function of the entire body against gravity. This means you will likely stand straighter, have improved joint ROM, have more energy at the end of the day, have more efficient movement and better productivity with life tasks. Pain may be present and likely chalked up to your diagnosis of cerebral palsy when indeed relief may be found regardless of your diagnosis when the structural compensations are addressed. Aligning your body and allowing for a more upright posture and ease of motion allows for a more fluid gait and easier transitions from one position to another. Muscles when at their optimal length are the strongest. Overall health is also affected when blood vessels and nerves are free from restrictions and adhesions. Homeopathy affects what is like your life saving net as you fall from a high place. It holds you while aligning you electromagnetically. Homeopathy addresses many seemingly unrelated symptoms and clears the energetic pathways making the structural needs more evident and easier to address. Having the fascia aligned and free makes acupuncture, homeopathy and other healing adjuncts more effective by creating a clean pathway for information to travel via the blood stream, nervous system and fascia. Even digestion can be enhanced with improved posture and alignment against gravity. Sometimes it is good to detach from diagnosis and labels in order to focus on how the body is responding to the issues. Enhancing the bodies innate ability to heal itself, gives it a jump start. A person with back pain and Cerebral Palsy will have resolved back pain as someone without cerebral palsy. Limitations are taken into account and the treatment focus may change slightly as all osteopathic treatments are individualized and vary treatment to treatment even for the same person depending on the symptoms presented at each session. The original injury or lesion of the brain can be greatly affected with craniosacral mobilization which is one aspect of osteopathy. It is never too late to address the cranial issues.

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Joy, Peace, Merry, Light, Happy

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Finding and bringing forth the very best within me has gained greater prominence as my life unfolds. Those qualities that constitute my core goodness, as well as yours, are reflected in the common words that infuse this season whether they stem from culture, religion, humanism or nature. Joy, Peace, Merry, Light, Happy. We bake these sentiments into cookies. We wrap and ribbon them. Each of us is a unique messenger delivering our gladness. Be Present With Presents Mindfulness practice facilitates more of this goodness that connects us all at our deepest levels. It enhances awareness like a high interest financial investment. And this is a month for making even more deposits than usual. Being fully present in the preparation and giving of presents, as well as in receiving them is a gift of the greatest magnitude, with mind boggling ripple effects. And the more time and attention we invest to practice totally being here right now, the greater our experience and expression of Joy, Peace, Merry, Light, Happy. Guaranteed. Be Curious All it takes is a moment to open the always available gift of wondrous possibilities. Simply observe your breath. Notice the sensation of air entering your nostrils. Notice the sensation of air leaving your nostrils. Don’t make changes or adjustments. Just notice. Inhale, exhale. Are the sensations different when you breathe in compared to the sensations when you breathe out? Please answer yes or no to that question before reading on. Does the temperature of the air that you breathe in feel 12

different than the air temperature you breathe out? Be curious. Please answer yes or no. Does the speed of entering air exactly match the speed of air leaving? Yes or no. Notice how far up your nostrils you can detect sensations when you inhale. Simply observe. When you exhale how far up your nostrils can you detect sensations? Paying attention is what’s important, not the confidence of your answers. Enlarge Awareness As you breathe naturally, enlarge your awareness to also include the sensations of your chest expanding and releasing. While doing that, do you feel any movement in your abdomen? Did thoughts come up during these observations? What were those thoughts about? Bring your full attention back to your nostrils drawing in and expelling air. Can you discern any moisture difference between the air that enters and the air that leaves? Which reminds me to mention that plants indoors and out, through whatever leaves and needles and are on them, are breathing in what you breathe out. Carbon dioxide from animals is essential to the lives of plants, as their released oxygen is essential to us. Redirect Focus Oops. I’ve gone from mindfulness of present moment practice to intellectualizing, to thinking. That’s okay. I simply redirect my focus to my breath. Practice time is just 20 or 30 minutes a couple times daily, with hopefully intermittent, informal moments of mindfulness cobbled into life’s busyness. For example, “I’m breathing in, I’m breathing out” is a reliable mantra to occupy your mind while focusing on your natural breath rhythms as you walk from car to building, as you stand in line, as you wait for the phone call to go through. Aristotle claimed, “Nothing is understood by the intellect which is not first perceived by

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the senses.” Developing sensory awareness with mind training—formal and informal—leads to clearer understanding. Disengage From Distractions Thus far, if you’ve taken the time to discern answers to my questions, reading these words has been close to an actual meditation process for you. Let’s continue practicing for a few moments more. Not only is the moisture content different between air that enters your body and air that exits, the molecular composition of each is different. I can smell that pumpkin pie baking as I breathe in without thinking about eating it. Uh, well, I guess not. My salivary glands are obviously contributing to the distraction. Another fabulous practice opportunity! When I breathe out, I notice that olfactory event as neutral. I watch my pumpkin pie thoughts lure my attention like cartoon cat Tom floating towards his gastronomical desires and just let them pass. I allow distractions without engaging in them for very long. I gently shift my focus to how the air feels, to my pure inner experience, sans commentary. In. Out. In. Out. Thoughts come and go like puffy clouds floating across a blue sky.

Results Are Documented These results have been realized and logged for nearly 40 years by thousands in groups of 30 or so who have participated in eight-weeklysession programs at the UMass Medical Center. The founder is Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD, internationally known for his work using mindfulness meditation to help medical patients with chronic pain and stress. I recommend his in-depth, user friendly, practical, uplifting books Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness (Bantam Doubleday, NY, 1990), and Wherever You Go There You are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (Hyperion, NY, 1994). Practice Ripens Benefits

Does the air flow pause during the transition between in and out? How about between out and in? Is that rhythm always the same? Are there times when the flow seems more like a continuous loop? Can you detect any softening through the transitions?

He explains, “We are using the word practice here in a special way. It does not mean a ‘rehearsal’ or a perfecting of some skill so that we can put it to use at some other time. In the meditative context practice means ‘being in the present on purpose.’ The means and the end of meditation are really the same. We are not trying to get somewhere else, only working at being where we already are and being here fully. Our meditation practice may very well deepen over the years, but actually we are not practicing for that to happen. Our journey toward greater health is really a natural progression. Awareness, insight, and indeed health as well, ripen on their own if we are willing to pay attention in the moment and remember we have only moments to live.”

Open Your Posture

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Now, please notice your posture. Imagine a sky hook at the top of your head gently lifting, ever so slightly stretching you upwards through your spine, honoring the natural normal curves, yet facilitating a more open torso, softer shoulders, easement around your neck and jaw. Feel the flow of your body readjusting to a more upright, but not rigid posture.

Joy, Peace, Merry, Light, Happy—those qualities are within each of us. They are especially visible in babies and children. They are especially visible this time of year. Mind training helps us find them at their source and radiate them into our world.

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Surrender to Wonder and Awe Return your attention to your nostrils and the air moving in, moving out. Has anything changed since your postural opening? Consider this practice moment a brand new beginning. Of course all beginnings are new. Redundancy here is intended to emphasize the fresh nature of a beginner’s mind—a child’s mind infused with wonder and awe. For just a nanosecond surrender into that possibility. Simply notice, just observe nostril sensations for a few breaths. You’ve never breathed these particular breaths before, and the next ones will be slightly different, but there’s no benefit to thinking about it. Just experience your pure simple experience as comprehensively as you can. Practice Succeeds How well you perform is not at all relevant to the success of your mind training practice. What is relevant is the conscious act of just practicing day in and day out letting thoughts and feelings like frustration, boredom, striving coalesce and dissolve. The dividends of that practice investment mobilize our inner capacities for growth and for healing. They clarify our beliefs about ourselves and our capabilities as well as how we see the world and the forces at play within it.

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Post-Holiday Relationship Rejuvenation with Dianna Palimere

While the holidays may be a time of connecting with family and friends, it can also be a time of stress and disconnection for couples. Whether that is due to running around for gift shopping, preparing the home for out-of-town guests, putting up decorations, or all of the above—after the holidays couples may find themselves feeling too exhausted to plan a romantic date night (or date weekend) for some high quality time alone together. I recommend planning a getaway together, before the stress of the holidays hits—although it’s never too late! Planning a long weekend away together may be just the thing your relationship needs to reignite some of the passion and romance lost during the naturally-occurring stress of the holidays. For couples who have had ongoing issues or concerns due to problems with trust, intimacy, or communication; or just need help building better relationship skills, I’d recommend booking a weekend at an intimacy retreat. Intimacy retreats differ from generic retreats in their focus on helping couples overcome whatever has become a barrier to intimacy for them. Reputable retreats are run by licensed clinicians and there is no intimate/physical contact between the therapist(s) and the participants. Most intimacy retreats begin with identifying areas of focus for the couple and teaching some basic skills on the first day. Subsequent days focus on deeper issues, including loving touch and ultimately helping couples improve or enhance their sexual connection. Below are a few examples of intimacy retreats that are run by well-known, highly educated, sexuality experts. Couples Therapy Inc., offers locations worldwide which offer intensive sexuality counseling retreats & online marriage counseling. Not only do they have retreats near most major cities, they also have therapists who will travel to you, if you’d prefer more individual, personalized treatment. However, given the benefits of leaving your everyday lives and getting away together, I would recommend finding a retreat. They claim that their retreats “equal almost 6 months of conventional therapy” ( Another option would be an intimacy retreat run by the sexologist power couple, Diane and Richard Daffner, authors of “Tantric Sex for Busy Couples;” located in Sarasota, FL. Their retreats focus on teaching relationship skills, communication skills, helping couples learn loving touch and various tantric practices. They also teach “Tantric Thai Chi “a relationship exercise that blends the Tai Chi movement and internal 14

focus with tantric sexual energy, creating a strong intimate and emotional connection with one’s beloved partner” ( For couples who are able to travel a bit further, I would highly recommend the following resources for intimacy retreats: Intimacy moons, is “the premier luxury couples retreat where you and your loved one can escape to enhance your sacred connection, communication and understanding of each other” ( They are located in Barbados. Passion and presence retreats provide “tools to revitalize your sex life and create a loving, pleasurable, and deeply connected erotic relationship” ( They have locations in Austin, TX; Boulder, CO, and Portland, OR. I hope you all have a holiday season that is filled with laughter and love— and a post-season that is filled with deeper connection and renewed passions! Happy Holidays!

Sexual Health and Healing with Dianna Palimere, PhD, LCSW Dr. Dianna Palimere is a Psychosexual Therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She has been working in the field of mental health for the past 16 years, dedicating the past 13 years to specializing in clinical sexuality. She holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology, a Masters degree in Social Work, a Masters degree in Human Sexuality Education, and a PhD in Clinical Human Sexuality. Utilizing a holistic approach to therapy, she incorporates a variety of clinical interventions in her work with individuals, couples, and families. She is devoted to helping people achieve sexual health and healing through her work as a psychotherapist in her private practice in Pike Creek, DE; as well as in her work with local nonprofit organizations. To learn more about her or to schedule an appointment, visit her website: Join her on Facebook, keywords: Sex Therapy in Delaware.

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WHAT ARE PFASs AND WHY SHOULD WE BE CONCERNED ABOUT THEM? PFASs—short for perfluoroalkyl substances—are synthetic chemicals of various formulations (including PFCs, PFOA, PFOS and GenX, among others) that are used widely in various products for moisture and stain resistance. Non-stick pans, rain jackets and carpeting are among thousands of different types of consumer goods that now contain one form or another of PFASs. “Sealant tape, ski wax and floor wax are waterproof thanks to them,” reports the non-profit Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC), “and in machinery they reduce gear friction.” NRDC adds they are found in our homes, our offices, our supermarkets—practically everywhere. But while it’s nice that we can’t stain our carpeting no matter how messy we are, are we paying for this luxury with our health? The fact that these chemicals are so hard to break down in their intended applications also means they don’t easily break down in nature when released into the environment. Not only is this bad for ecosystems and wildlife, but it’s also risky for human health. A wide range of animal studies has linked the chemicals to kidney, prostate, rectal and testicular cancers, not to mention hormone malfunction, liver and thyroid problems, and abnormal fetal development. NRDC cites research showing that the offspring of human mothers exposed to certain PFASs had lower-than-average birth weights. Another recent study found that women with high levels of PFASs in their bloodstreams take longer on average to get pregnant. “For years, bad-actor PFASs were used in food containers like pizza boxes, microwave popcorn bags, Chinese take-out containers and other food packaging to repel grease, and they could leach into the

food,” reports NRDC’s Erik Olson, adding: “PFASs that enter the body through the foods we eat and products we use every day can linger there for years before they are eventually flushed out,” In 2016 the U.S. Food and Drug Administration banned three of the worst PFASs from food uses in response to a petition from NRDC and other non-profit partners. “But we’re worried that chemical cousins of those PFASs are being used,” says Olson. “And the trouble is, manufacturers don’t have to disclose to consumers that they’re using them.” While the battle to eliminate PFASs entirely rages on, NRDC suggests consumers can take matters into their own hands to minimize their exposure. For starters, ask manufacturers whether their products contain PFASs since such chemicals likely won’t be listed on labels. Steer clear of non-stick cookware, Gore-Tex clothing, personal care products with “PTFE” or “fluoro” ingredients, or textiles made with the original (pre-2000) formulation of Scotchgard, as these likely contain significant amounts of PFASs. Avoid carpeting and clothing hyped to be “stain-resistant”—a dead giveaway that they have been treated with PFASs. And never order or heat up food in grease-resistant paper unless you want a healthy portion of PFASs with your meal or snack. Likewise, ditch the microwave popcorn—most of which comes in a PFAS-treated bag—and make it on the stovetop instead (it’s more fun that way anyway). CONTACTS: NRDC,; EPA’s Basic Information on PFAS, basic-information-pfas.

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1. Raw Spice Bar Subscription–Gift a spice subscription that gives all year. They’ll receive 3 spices, shipped quarterly, with plenty of recipes for all diets. 2. Mobot 40 oz Big Bertha - Foam Roller Water Bottle–Sometimes it just takes the right equipment to discover a whole new world! Originally engineered for athletes, so it can endure the most rigorous rocking and rolling. Each one is handcrafted to insulate and massage. Perfect for everyday use and high-performance activity.



3. Rocketbook Everlast–The Everlast notebook provides a classic pen and paper experience, yet is built for the digital age. Looks and feels like a traditional notebook, the everlast is endlessly reusable and connected to all of your favorite cloud services.


4. Pet Tinctures –Full Spectrum Hemp Oil Used for various ailments such as pain relief, stress management, mobility and more. 5. Gold Paw Series Stretch Fleece Dog Popover Jacket–The Gold Paw Stretch Fleece contains recycled polyester and spandex for 4-way stretch. The finish is unbelievably soft, like velvet. It’s a piece of cake to put on and moves with your dog, making it the most comfortable coat around. Washes like a dream! Proudly made in the USA! 6. Toby’s Estate Coffee Roasters The Local Espresso Blend 12 oz bag, Toby’s Estate Whole Bean Coffee Brooklyn Blend 12 oz bag, Whole Bean Coffee 7. Owl Car Cam–Dual HD inside/ outside cameras. Instant video access from anywhere.


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From previous page. 10. LEVO G2 Deluxe Tablet Stand


Available with or without power to charge your device Sit, recline, or lie in bed and LEVO will securely hold your tablet or eReader at the perfect height and viewing angle. Flip lever height locks and 5 axis articulating swing arm for quick positioning. Simply grab the platform then swing tilt and spin it into perfect view. No clearance needed under your furniture. Includes wheels so you can roll LEVO from room to room and reap its benefits day and night. . Quickly spins from portrait to landscape so you can view your pages or photos at their best. Interchangeable platforms so you can quickly switch from electronic devices to books and magazines (book platform sold separately). Minimum height 30 inches, maximum height 56 inches (nice range) measured from floor to center of device. Height extension available for very high beds and treadmills. Compatible with all iPads (including iPad Pro), Galaxy tablets, Surface, Zoom, Nexus, Nook, Fire, and other tablets and eReaders measuring 12 inches or less, and weighing up to 4 pounds. Works great with or without cases. 11. Guild Series Chamomile Flavored Gin Delicate, rose-scented gin infused with botanicals to balance a foundation of juniper and citrus. Slightly sweet, warm spice finish. Voted Best Flavored Gin – 2018 SF World Spirits Competition Double Gold – 2018 SF World Spirits Competition

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GIFTS THAT GIVE BACK Brandywine SPCA 2019 Pet Photo Contest Calendar Buying merchandise from Brandywine Valley SPCA will help support lifesaving programs and services. Available at Brandywine SPCA locations. See their ad in this issue.

Gozques–No Chains Silver Bracelet Gozques Charity was started in January 2013 by Jimenas Hoyos, actress, photographer and animal advocate. Jimenas started this cause cause she couldn’t stand to watch the beautiful dogs dying on the streets of her country Colombia. So, Gozques was born to help stop the thousands of strays from dying on the streets. Since 2014 Gozques has set up more than 600 food and water stations in Colombia and more throughout Latin America. Also, Gozquez with Jimenas determination has spayed and neutered more than 6000 dogs and has adopted more than 8,000 in 6 years, but without your Donations her dream can’t survive so please if you can even donate $5 go to and click on donations.

Phenomenal Woman T-Shirt Every Shirt Sold Benefits Seven Fearless Organizations –Funds raised from this shirt benefit the Dr. Maya Angelou Foundation, Essie Justice Group, Girls Who Code, Higher Heights, National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health, Planned Parenthood, and The United State of Women. Learn more about each organization at: Stuffed Manatee Bring home an adorable plush gray manatee that bears a realistic resemblance to our favorite aquatic mammal. This stuffed manatee is 16” long from head to tail.

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(above, center) Femme Extraordinaire Pouch –Femme Extraordinaire translates to Extraordinary Woman. Each canvas pouch, featuring the exclusive Atelier Doré design, provides 25 school meals to children around the world, and here in America. In addition to helping kids stay healthy and focused, school meals also help empower girls. A free lunch incentivizes parents to send their daughters to school, in places where otherwise they might be kept home. This pouch is a celebration of the change that comes when women and girls are empowered to reach their full potential.

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Moulin Roty Le Voyage D’Olga Mother Goose Moulin Roty is a wonderful French toy company formed by a group of young families composed of craftsmen, farmers, philosophers and visionaries.

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Learning Resources Ages 5+ Beaker Creatures Liquid Reactor Super Lab HABA Magnetic Game Box Ideal for travel. The magnetic pieces safely store in the box. Contains 51 magnetic pieces, and 3 background images.

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Phil The Fridge Game by Tomy 4+ Just push Phil’s head down to set him spinning. Each time he stops, quickly fill him up with your colored food pieces. But be quick and get them in before he goes for another spin! As you’re playing, Phil will randomly pop open his door. Any of the colored food pieces that fall out must be collected by the player they belong to.

Derwent Academy Twin-Tip Markers, Brush/Fine Tip, 8 Pack and Watercolor Pencils, 3.3mm Core, Metal Tin Speed Stacks Sport stacking not only promotes physical fitness, but also academic learning. Kids that sport stack on a regular basis have shown increases in test scores and levels of concentration.

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Resolving and Preventing Shoulder Problems in Athletes of All Ages Playing sports causes a great (and often unnatural) demand on the shoulders. As a guy who played competitive sports for years into adulthood, I now observe this more as a spectator and father of a daughter who plays club volleyball. My stress is two-fold—I get to watch both as a prideful parent and as her sports chiropractor monitoring her every move and level of performance. If you or your child wrestles, shoots baskets, dances, swims or participates in any demanding activity, you will get to see shoulders working their hardest. During this exertion, shoulders are subjected to problems that can decrease athletic performance or cause injury and loss of play. Shoulder problems can be subtle or exist without symptoms, and may only show up as poor performance. Missing hits or shots too frequently, and losing vertical jump height, power or time on the clock may wrongly be dismissed as simply having a bad day or week. An athlete will often mention to me that “things are just not clicking, I feel out of sync or I just don’t know what’s wrong.” It’s desirable to catch a shoulder problem early before a major injury occurs. Earlier warning signs may include: Pain, even if minor. A stiff or pulling feeling when holding certain positions or during movement. Range of motion loss (especially compared to the other side). A general sense of weakness in the shoulder or being quick to fatigue. Clicking sounds. The shoulder is complex and is influenced by the function of other parts of the body (it’s all connected). In my practice, the best results occur when I combine multiple techniques that address many possible

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influencing factors. After years of refinement, I have found that the combination of four techniques described below enables me to help more athletes (and non-athletes) improve performance and/or overcome injury. Best of all, it’s drug-free (an important consideration in light of America’s opioid epidemic). Biostensegrity Restoration Technique This method addresses and corrects muscular weaknesses. Just like when you blow an electrical circuit in your house with too many appliances, you can overwhelm the nerve that controls a muscle. In this case, the function of the nerve feeding the muscles does not fully switch off but appears diminished or dimmed down. The muscle is left stuck in a weakened state. Joint instability and dysfunction ensue. When left with one or several weak muscles, the shoulder joint loses its proper mechanics. Compensating muscles over-contract and inflammation develops. With the use of a special type of laser therapy, the weakness is painlessly corrected. To learn more about this method, please go to and read the article: “TENSEGRITY 101: Understanding the Bone- Muscle Relationship” Chiropractic Spinal Adjusting The segments of your spine house and protect the spinal cord and the delicate nerve conduits (carrying thousands of nerve fibers) that exit between the bones. Misalignment of these bones can cause interference to the nerve fibers. The lower half of your neck contains the wiring harness of nerves that feed and control the shoulders and the rest of the upper extremity to your fingertips. Clarity here is vital for normal shoulder function. Gentle chiropractic adjustments realign the bones and allow for normal control to be restored. Interestingly, I have found that proper hip bone alignment is also essential for normal shoulder mechanics to exist—as stated earlier, it really is all connected! –continued on next page–


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Chiropractic Extremity Adjusting Again, gentle adjustments are used. The focus is on the joints of the shoulder and shoulder blades. Please do not confuse this with manipulation under anesthesia which is an invasive procedure used in medicine to tear adhesions while the patient is under moderate to deep IV sedation. I use an instrument that applies gentle pressures to the bones of the shoulder. Although receiving chiropractic adjustments tends to be relaxing, my patients are all awake.


Soft Tissue Percussion With the use of a percussion instrument, tensions in the muscles and torsions in the fascia (connective tissue) are released. The procedure feels a bit like a vibrating massager, but more powerful. Administering it is comfortable for the patient, easy to use, and takes only seconds. The real trick is in finding the exact points and vectors of correction. The most common spots that affect the shoulders are around the junction of the hip bone and tailbone (called the sacroiliac joint) and above the crest of the hip where your belt sits. I keep mentioning that it’s all attached and that the body is one giant interconnected functional unit because, without this understanding, getting past the shoulder problem will never occur. A word of caution—relying on approaches that only mask or treat the symptoms can be dangerous. Silencing the warning signs while continuing vigorous activity is a recipe for serious injury. I can’t stress this enough and I have heard all too often how pain or loss of function was ignored week after week only to end with a devastating injury! Commonly I am asked how long will it take? The answer varies depending on the patient and what is wrong. The good news is that I have found that most people will respond to some degree in just the first visit. This is helpful because if I find that a shoulder remains unchanged within the first few sessions, it is revealed early on and the commitment and cost of finding out are minimized. Shoulder issues can be complex and difficult to overcome. They are often stealthy and responsible for poor performance or can be outright painful and inflexible. Serious athletes would be wise to get a checkup periodically in order to maximize performance and to help prevent injury. If any of the warning signs exist, I recommend taking action immediately. With the comprehensive approach mentioned above, athletes of all ages now have a drug-free strategy for a successful, injury-free season.

Dr. Scott E. Rosenthal is a second-generation Doctor of Chiropractic and a past president of the Delaware Chiropractic Society. He graduated with honors from Life University in 1993. Dr. Rosenthal has an undergraduate degree in nutrition and he is a Registered Yoga Teacher. Dr. Rosenthal is an expert in the field of health and wellness and a member of the Delaware Chiropractic Society, American Chiropractic Association and International Chiropractic Pediatric Association. He practices state-of-the-art care with modern forms of chiropractic and is the first to offer the Koren Specific Technique and Biotensegrity Restoration Technique in Delaware. Also offered are chiropractic pediatric and prenatal techniques (including Webster Technique certification). Dr. Rosenthal practices in Wilmington, Delaware where he took over his father’s practice which was founded in 1965.




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Intention Awareness Willingness Practice The Four Portals of Transformation: GIFTS TO YOURSELF THAT KEEP ON GIVING Suzanne Eder

By the time you read this, the 2018 holiday season will be in full swing. For most people it’s a hectic time even when things are flowing well, because a sizable increment of things to do has suddenly been added to already-overflowing lists. It’s not exactly a time that seems ideal for focusing on personal transformation, given the more immediate tasks that demand your attention. And yet, in a certain way, the holiday season IS an ideal time for personal transformation. The busy-ness of it provides the perfect opportunity for transforming how to relate to yourself when there are seemingly endless demands on your time. I’ve noticed that, with many people, the more they expect of themselves, the more punitive they are with themselves for not meeting those expectations. It’s as if the sheer quantity of things to do gets the inner judge really excited, what with all the opportunities it provides for dropping the ball or making mistakes or flat-out forgetting things. What rich fodder for a judge-fest! But that kind of fest is not at all fun, so let’s turn this around, shall we? Let’s transform the mindset of, “The more I have to do, the harder I have to be on myself to get it all done” to, “The more I have to do, the kinder I must be to myself in order to get what actually needs to be done, done with Grace.” If you’re on board with me, then you’ve just opened the first portal of transformation: Intention The heart of intention is desire, and the body of intention is commitment. Loving commitment. You have to want to be kinder to yourself, and decide that you’re committed to it. (And, frankly, that you’re deserving of your own kindness.) I hope this one is really, really easy for you. 26

So now what? What’s the next step? Follow me, please. Just take a nice, big, deep breath and put a little Mona Lisa smile on your face. (Really, do that – and notice how you feel. Maybe a bit lighter and more relaxed?) Welcome to the second portal of transformation: Awareness This one is a bit more challenging than the first. What you need to do is imagine you can “turn up the dial,” so to speak, on your selfawareness, paying particular attention to the ways and times in which you are unkind or judgmental toward yourself. The reason this step is challenging is that, for many people, the unkind thoughts have become so familiar they just seem true. I assure you they are not. But they can be difficult to detect, given how seamlessly they’re integrated with things you believe are true. The most direct way to uncover those thoughts is by paying attention to the way you feel – perhaps rushed, impatient, guilty or frustrated – and then noticing what you’re thinking at that time. And just as importantly, noticing what other assumptions and conclusions lurk just beneath your initial conscious thought. For example, you may be feeling rushed and impatient, and the thought in your mind is, “I don’t have time for this!” (“This” being anything from standing in a long line at the grocery store, to waiting on hold for the Comcast representative to pick up your call, to your teenager’s stubborn refusal to do whatever you’ve asked him or her to to.) Underneath that may be a constellation of other thoughts such as, “I shouldn’t have waited so long before I got started” or “Now I’m going to be further behind than I already am” or perhaps “I shouldn’t let this get to me!” Remember you are in the portal of Awareness. In neutral observation, simply acknowledge the unkind tone of these thoughts and how unhelpful they are to you. Then take a deep breath.

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Good. Now you’re ready to move through the third portal of transformation: Willingness Ah, willingness. The word itself has a graceful, fluid quality to it, doesn’t it? The very quality we want to bring into our experience of moving through the holiday season. So what are you now willing to do? You’re willing to withdraw your attention from these thoughts and focus in a more loving direction. No judging yourself for having them, no inner debates, no wringing of hands or gnashing of teeth. Just another one of those nourishing deep breaths – and maybe another Mona Lisa smile – and then you simply anchor your attention into something comforting or funny or kind. You’ll do yourself a tremendous service by thinking of a few of those things right now and committing them to memory. That way you can shift focus to one of them quickly and easily, in the very moment of having become aware of an unhelpful thought. You won’t need to call a time-out, sit down with your journal and try to craft something from scratch. (Although I highly recommending calling time-outs and spending loving, reflective time with your journal whenever you can.) Here are a few you might consider adopting or adapting to your personal preferences: The more relaxed I can let myself be right now, the better everything will flow. (Shorter version: The more relaxed I am, the better everything flows.)

Hopefully you get the idea. With these statements you’re capturing reminders of things you know or believe that help you put things into a larger, more loving perspective. Those of you who know me well also know that I refer to these statements as anchor statements, because you’re using them to anchor your focus into something loving so it doesn’t drift back into judgment-land. Don’t let their simplicity fool you into thinking they aren’t effective. They are tremendously helpful in literally transforming your diminishing thought processes into ones that are supportive - when you carry them through the fourth portal of transformation: Practice As with virtually all transformational changes, moving from self-judging to self-loving isn’t usually a one-and-done kind of experience. It takes practice. It actually takes a willingness to practice rather than the sheer force of willpower, so you may need to double-back on the third portal. Just be willing, time and again, to pause as soon as you’re aware of unkind thoughts, take a deep breath, and anchor into something loving or helpful or kind. Those three steps are your practice. That’s it. Just keep practicing them. Over time they become easier, then easy, then automatic…and then, gloriously, the unkind thoughts just don’t emerge anymore. Can you imagine how good that will feel? I’d say it’s the best gift you could give yourself…and the holiday season could be the perfect time to begin. I hope you’re with me in this. Wishing you peace, ease and Grace this season and always.

The things that really need to get done always get done. Formerly a successful finance director in the corporate world, Suzanne Eder is now an award-winning writer, healer, transformational teacher and personal guide. She completed a comprehensive 4-year program in mind-body-spirit healing at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing, and she has devoted her life and work to an ever-deepening understanding of how to create deeply fulfilled lives through an understanding of our spiritual nature. She was a featured speaker at the 2015 TEDxWilmington conference and her popular talk is available on YouTube. She offers inspired and practical counsel in all areas related to personal growth and transformation. Visit her at or email her for more information at

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Antoinette, actual patient, lost 22.4 lbs.†

• Medically supervised program using proven nutrition, lifestyle modification, and accountability protocols • Individualized plan and weekly 1-on-1 visits based on your goals, health status, and food/exercise preferences • Anti-obesity medication evaluation, supplements, vitamin based injections, metabolic testing, and more • Eat real food, learn how to cook delicious recipes, and order healthy options while dining out


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302.763.3455 MEDIWEIGHTLOSS.COM BEFORE *Not all providers are in-network with all carriers. Not all services and products are covered. Contact your carrier for details. † On average, patients compliant with the Medi-Weightloss® Program lose 6.4 pounds the first week and 14 pounds the first month. Rapid weight loss may be associated with certain medical conditions and should only be considered by those who are medically appropriate. © 2018 Medi IP, LLC. All Rights Reserved.