DEAR KIKI
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i Kiki, Well, there’s no easy way to say this, but I had a very steamy dream about a coworker the other day. We work in the same office and have a friendly relationship, and yes, I do think they’re kind of attractive. On the other hand, we’re both happily married and it’s not something I’d ever really go for in real life. It was very vivid and I can still remember images from it, so now I don’t know how I’ll face them when I’m in the office next. We’re friendly, but
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pandemic. Work relationships are sometimes the only ones we’ve been able to maintain, because there’s no choice but to spend time together. So lean into that, Dreams. Don’t squander a chance at true intimacy (which, unlike sex, is rare). However, I definitely don’t want to sleep (heh) on your revelation that these steamy, vivid, memorable sex scenes were, you said, “creative.” That’s something to explore in a different light. Are you craving some specific types of physical interaction that you’re not WE’RE FRIENDLY, BUT NOT THE “HEY, I HAD A DREAM getting from your spouse? ABOUT MAKING INTIMATE, CREATIVE LOVE TO YOU” This could be LEVEL OF FRIENDLY, SO I CAN’T JUST EXPLAIN WHY an opportunity I SUDDENLY CAN’T MAKE EYE CONTACT WITHOUT to request a bit of experimenSOUNDING LIKE A TURBO-PERVERT. tation with the person you are not the “Hey, I had a dream about making inti- comfortable having actual sex with. It could be mate, creative love to you” level of friendly, so I that you’ve been wondering about expanding can’t just explain why I suddenly can’t make eye your repertoire for a while, but weren’t sure your contact without sounding like a turbo-pervert. spouse would accede to your wishes, so your mind cast someone else in the role. Don’t ignore What do I do? —What Dreams May Come? that creativity; utilize it! Thank your subconscious for providing you a template for potential pleasure. ear Dreams, Ultimately, though, it’s up to you to continSad to say, this is something you’re best off just keeping to yourself. I, for ue treating your coworker like a human being. one, would love it if our society could be a place Your dreams are your business, not theirs. Make where these kinds of conversations could be off- that eye contact. Shake off your embarrassment. hand, humorous, inoffensive and, most impor- Connect. xoxo, Kiki tantly, non-binding. But even the most casual workplace is not the context to indulge in that level of witty banter. No matter how close the two of you are, “sounding like a turbo-pervert” is the least of your worries. You could face workplace harassment charges or, if there’s a power differential, worse. But, Dreams, there’s no reason at all to be embarrassed. Fantasies happen; they’re natural, normal and fun! I’m no dream analyst, but a (cough) quickie internet search confirms my instinct that dreaming about a friend likely reveals a desire to connect with them more deeply in a non-physical way. Has work been rough lately, making you feel glad of their support and eager for more? Did a recent conversation make you feel like “friendly office mates” could blossom Submit questions anonymously into “true friendship”? at littlevillagemag.com/dearkiki We’re all human beings here (last I checked). or non-anonymously to Connection with others like us isn’t just a desire, dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. it’s a need. If we lack a network of companionQuestions may be edited for clarity and ship, it makes it harder for us to thrive in all arlength, and may appear either in print or eas of our lives. And the fact is that’s been tricky online at littlevillagemag.com. over the last couple of years, because of the
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