LGBTQYMRU - ISSUE 4 by lgbtqymru

ISSUE 4 NOVEMBER 2021

FOR THE QOMMUNITY BY THE QOMMUNITY

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CAN YOU BELIEVE IT’S ISSUE 4? Just over a year ago we launched our intentions to bring you the first-ever Wales-wide, fully bilingual, free, and online LGBTQ+ magazine, and now here we are, delivering on our fourth (absolutely fabulous) Issue! I’ve said it before, but I will say it again: over this year, learning more about the Wales-based LGBTQommunities in a way I hadn’t been able to before has been an absolute privilege. And, although I can’t help but often feel that we here in Wales are overlooked in the UK’s queer narrative, I am pleased to see that we are becoming less easy to ignore: our voices are getting louder, our presence is becoming more prominent, and our pride is certainly more powerful than ever. And that’s exactly what this Issue of LGBTQYMRU: The Magazine is dedicated to: Pride. Purposely positioned outside of LGBTQ+ History Month and Pride Month, this Issue is a testament to the knowledge that Pride is a 365-day protest against the suffocating heteronormativity within society that, for many of us, makes us question what we wear, how we sound, what we walk like, how we talk, and - worst of all - who we know we are. It’s remembering that, as we continue to move forward, get knocked down, and struggle to get back up, that we always have a family and history beside and behind us that will always prop us up and push us on. We are part of this ongoing legacy of Pride, and so we must riot on. In this Issue, you will come to experience our Pride through an exploration of our history, our current Issues, and how it is incumbent upon us to demand equitable treatment for all of our LGBTQ+ family. You’ll find articles on safe housing for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees, how we can work together to end the transmission of HIV by 2030, what the future of Stonewall Cymru looks like under new leadership, and so much more! I’d like to take this opportunity to thank Owen Hurcum, who has stepped down as a Qommunity Editor, for all they have done in supporting the LGBTQYMRU journey, and wish them all the very best in the next chapter of their life: we can’t wait to see what you’ll continue to achieve for yourself and for the wider LGBTQ+ community. Taking over as Qommunity Editor is Sue Vincent-Jones, who is no stranger to the world of journalism. Sue’s experiences and passions are a much welcome addition to our magazine! Since Issue 3, you may have noticed that we recently launched The Queer Collection, our new, Qommunity-based initiative to collaborate, publish and provide a platform for the creative content of individuals from within the Queer Qommunities in Wales. Our first Volume, PHASMA, was an anthology of poetry in collaboration with Glitter Cymru that explored and celebrated the shared - but not always similar - experiences of being bi across the world. As a charity founded on maximising the platform of the Wales-based LGBTQommunities, I am so excited to invite you along on this new part of our journey to better understand and appreciate the kaleidoscope of experiences, stories, and talent of our wider, chosen family. As you flick through our pages, you’ll get a glimpse into Phasma through a small selection of its poems that, much like the meaning behind the title, are an abundance of brilliant light. As always, I would like to thank the amazing Qommunity Editors, Qommunity Reporters, Special Guests, and contributors without whom we couldn’t continue to do this. I hope you enjoy! LGBTQYMRU

Editor-in-chief Bleddyn Harris Qommunity Editors Craig Stephenson OBE

Andrew White

Karen Harvey-Cooke

Sue Vincent-Jones

Qommunity Reporters

Translations

Evie Barker

Ffion Emyr Bourton

Alessandro Ceccarelli Daryl Leeworthy Christian Copeland Travel Gibbon Fast Track Cities Cardiff

Associates Thania Acarón Hannah Isted

Chloe Turner

Social Media & Engagement

Samuel Elijah Allen

Joel Degaetano-Turner

Tobi Owolabi Rania Vamvaka Penny DC Dinh Ananya Dcruz Beth Rabjohns

Branding & Design Tom Collins Cover Charles Deluvio

The mention or appearance or likeness of any person in articles or advertising in LGBTQYMRU: The Magazine, or on any of our social platforms, is not to be taken as any indication of sexual, social or political orientation of such persons or organisations.

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CO N T E N T S 6

#WalesHIVTestingWeek

Up Close and Personal

Safe Housing for Asylum Seekers and Refugees

The Queer Bible Review

Trawsnewid

Everyone’s Talking About Jamie!

Qommunity Champion

Feel Good - Review

Travel Gibbon

The Diversity of our Queer History

Songbirds

Talk with Andy

Post-Brexit Wales and LGBTQ+ issues

The Red Ribbon Tree

A Beautiful GAYme

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WALES HIV TESTING WEEK It’s easy to assume everything is all peachy here in Wales, but did you know that we have a higher prevalence of HIV stigma and late diagnoses than the UK average? Shocking, isn’t it? That’s why Fast Track Cardiff and Vale are launching their trailblazing campaign to increase access and awareness of the free, easy, and quick postal testing scheme here in Wales. HIV Testing Week Wales takes place between 22 - 28 November, but you can get the test anytime by following this link. Don’t just take our word for it though; here’s Russell T Davies, creator of the high show ‘It’s a Sin’, to tell you more!

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As Russell said, you can live a long, healthy life if diagnosed with HIV, and we know just the people to prove it to you! The following panel event was created for our Wales-wide Virtual Pride in 2020, and explores life after diagnosis here in Wales. So join Cardiff's favourite Drag Queen, Baroness Mary Golds, as she explores the support and stigma within Wales for people living with HIV, joined by Gavin Sheppard, Lisa Power, Karen Cameron, and Abderrahim ElHabchi.

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UP CLOSE & PERSONAL REN SIMONS

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In our series of up close and personal interviews, we asked our Qommunity Reporter, Evie Barker to find out more about drag king, Justin Drag - and creator, Ren Simons. By Evie Barker

Ren’s career started with a bang after winning Drag King Apprentice as Justin Drag in 2016. Since then, Justin has taken Ren on a thrilling journey to fame on the drag scene with a whole host of personal discoveries along the way. Ren recalled being unsure about their chances in the inaugural drag competition. Wearing only a basic pair of shorts, white t-shirt, backwards cap and eyeliner beard, Justin still managed to shine. With plenty of encouragement from Drag Queen Amber Dextrous, his comedic and musical performances saw Justin all the way through to the final and winning spot. Ren says that, originally, Justin was “the kind of guy who probably would wolf whistle at you walking down the street” but has developed into a more sophisticated camp act. We’re reassured that he still has his ‘charming and cheeky ways about him’.

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Ren finds inspiration in the great work that the drag acts around them do for the LGBTQ+ community. Polly Amorous, Victoria Scone and Jolene Dover, to name a few, are acts at the heart of their Cardiff drag community. Justin can be found performing alongside Polly every other Wednesday for cabar-oke at Marys, Cardiff, a venue close to their heart. At first, Ren’s motivation behind entering the world of drag was to “have fun, make money to travel the world”. Since coming out as a nonbinary trans masc person in 2020, they have been motivated to use their platform to support the trans community wherever they can. “Already, the power of sharing my story has allowed others to approach me, share their story, we’ve even cried with each other, allowing us to feel safe in each other’s company.” Creating a safe space for trans and non-binary individuals is important to Ren; they told me of the trans and non-binary project held at The

Queer Emporium and its importance within the qommunity. Ren attributes feeling more comfortable in their skin to performing as Justin. The art of drag allowed them to explore their gender identity, particularly during the pandemic which gave them the time to “sit with my thoughts and remember the happiness I feel when I am more masculine looking, with a binder on”. “I now feel Drag is more than just the performance”, Ren says. While we were interviewing Ren, they were fundraising for their top surgery, a process they say will allow them to be their “true authentic self”. You can support their journey by heading to Justin. Drag on instagram.

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Ren has shared their transgender journey with close friend Logan Brown and has a large queer ally family of support. Perhaps most importantly, Ren expressed immense gratitude for their biggest supporter from day one, Rae Gee-Wing, who they touchingly described as “my person”. Since their career began, Ren has seen the Drag King community grow. “Queens have ruled for a long time, but myself and a lot of other kings are paving the way for others to come out and show their talent. Who knows, one day you may see Kings on RuPaul’s Drag race!”.

Already, the power of sharing my story has allowed others to approach me

For anyone who wants to expand their Drag King knowledge, Ren recommends they check out the work of acts including Don One, Louis Cyfer, Prinx Chiyo, and Prinx Silver. LGBTQYMRU

Who knows, one day you may see Kings on RuPaul’s Drag race!

Ren is keen to expand the rule of Drag Kings in Wales, their door is always open for potential new acts; “If you're reading this and think ‘I would love to have a chat and see what it’s all about’ please contact me on my socials. If i didn't have my chat with Amber, I wouldn't be where I am now, enjoying life and spreading hope through drag”. Ren expressed huge thanks for that pivotal conversation with Amber, support which they say they would not be here without. Justin Drag is certainly one to watch as Drag Kings take their long awaited seats on the throne of Queer entertainment. We wish Ren all the best with their transition and our support for other trans and non-binary individuals.

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Kissing the sun An elegy For myself My past self Soul separate Entered my new Body Now I Blessed Risen Stand before myself Image reflecting soul I am an icon to myself I worship my new name I weep for my lost self I weep for my current self So much time Wandering Starving in the dessert And for what? Twisted faith That I followed But demons followed me And now I’ve killed that figure Long hair rippling I kissed the cheek And sacrificed my life To live truthfully To be who I was Born to be Set my soul free Samuel Elijah

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Safe Housing Don’t we owe it to LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees to house them safely? By Craig Stephenson 14

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Don’t we owe it to LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees to house them safely? This is something we’ve been concerned about for some time at LGBTQymru. Our friends at Glitter Cymru, the social group for black, Asian and minority ethnic (BAME) people who are LGBTQ+, have been campaigning on this issue and been instrumental in initiating positive change. You may recall Glitter Cymru member, Rahim’s story earlier this year about their safety while housed as an asylum seeker in Wales and being subject to homophobic and transphobic views – the exact situation they were trying to escape in Morocco. What’s the difference between an asylumseeking person and a refugee? We have provided two infographics explaining the difference and the practical impacts on people classified as asylum seekers or refugees.

LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees. It’s obvious that they would not house a wheel-chair user on the third floor if there was no lift so why is it acceptable to house someone who is LGBTQ+ when their gender identity and sexuality make them a target for others who are housed with them for a prolonged period. In Wales though, we often identify the problem, get around the table and take a solution-focused approach to solving it. And that’s exactly what’s happened. Readers will be aware that the Welsh Government’s LGBTQ+ Action Plan was consulted on between July and October this year and contained recommendations based on the discussions of an expert group. We were delighted to note that the first of the overarching aims was to strengthen equality and human rights for LGBTQ+ people and seek to influence the UK Government to strengthen the protections afforded to trans and non-binary people under the law, including refugees and those seeking asylum.

What can Wales do about LGBTQ+ housing for asylum seekers and refugees if this issue isn’t devolved to the Welsh Government? Clearly the Home Office needs to take a close look at its provision of accommodation for

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Other noteworthy actions included the need to: Work with the UK Government to encourage sensitive identification of LGBTQ+ people throughout their asylum claim by making amendments to forms and case worker guidance and to encourage the development of LGBTQ+ only asylum properties in Wales, with necessary safeguarding and welfare considerations implemented. Work with specialised LGBTQ+ asylum and refugee support services, such as Glitter Cymru and Hoops & Loops, to identify improvements to relevant policies and support organisational sustainability. Ensure our commitments to making Wales a Nation of Sanctuary are inclusive of LGBTQ+ people. Ensure that appropriate mental health support is provided to LGBTQ+ refugees and people seeking asylum. Borne out of some of her research at Cardiff University, and working closely with Sarah Allen of Displaced People in Action (DPIA), we asked member of the expert group, Rania Vamvaka (she/her) of Glitter Cymru, for her view. She said: “As a queer woman of colour, an LGBTQ activist, and an early career migration academic, I feel seen, heard, and accepted in Wales. “The accommodation provided by Clearsprings (the Home Office’s UK provider), is very often unsuitable for the needs of LGBTQ+ asylum seekers. There is no regard on the compatibility of the asylum seekers when housed together, and in many cases the lives of LGBTQ+ people (especially trans individuals) are in danger, as they are housed with those that they are trying to escape from.

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“In March 2021, Glitter in collaboration with DPIA, undertook an ambitious research project in documenting the housing experiences of LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees in Wales. This is the very first report of its kind in the country and we are extremely proud of the fact that such a vulnerable population has felt comfortable and confident with us, to share their experiences. “The Action Plan acknowledges the unique struggles and needs of such a marginalised population. There is only so much organisations like Glitter Cymru and Hoops & Loops can do for our vulnerable members as the small pots of money only allows us to offer them a handful of services “It is time for Wales to truly commit to making Wales a Nation of Sanctuary. We all need to come together in order to make Wales a safe home for everyone.”

Clearly the Home Office needs to take a close look at its provision of accommodation for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees.

What about move-on housing once refugee status has been granted? Tai Pawb, the organisation that promotes equality and social justice in the Welsh housing sector, recognised the risk that the 28-day move-on period (detailed in our infographic) poses. In partnership with Joy Unlimited, it published a feasibility report in May 2019 on the issue and has been working on it since then. Building on good practice elsewhere, including a pilot run by The Gap in Newport, Tai Pawb has been working, Tai Pawb has been working with a coalition of partners including Housing Justice Cymru, The Wallich, Welsh Refugee Council and Oasis. The coalition has recently been successful in securing funding from Comic Relief for a sustainable housing and support pathway for asylum seekers, refugees and other migrants (Nation of Sanctuary: ‘A Joined Up Approach’). One element of the programme will see Tai Pawb partnering with Oasis Cardiff and employing a full time Housing Development Manager. The principal duty here will be to increase the

provision of ‘move on’ accommodation (from statutory Home Office provision) available to people who have been newly granted refugee status. The role will help Oasis to develop a supported accommodation scheme in partnership with other housing providers. Further, it will also develop Tai Pawb’s partnership work with similar refugee support organisations which are providing accommodation to people seeking asylum and refugee status. Director of Tai Pawb, Alicja Zalesinska (she/ her), said: “We are really pleased to be working with partners on this project which, at its core, aims to ensure asylum seekers and refugees in Wales have better access to housing, work and support services. “In particular, the housing development role is ground-breaking in Wales and will enable us to build on the feasibility report and some of its

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recommendations. The pilot supported housing provision will support new-status refugees and, going forward, those with no access to public funds, ensuring they are housed safely and appropriately. “We hope that this pilot will increase the capacity of refugee support organisations to grow housing provision in the future. It would be fantastic if, in the future, this included LGBTQ+ specific housing – there is definitely a need for such accommodation and we wholeheartedly support the calls from Glitter Cymru.”

The lives of LGBTQ+ people (especially trans individuals) are in danger

LGBTQYMRU’S VIEW We know we’re biased, but we’re here to give a voice to our Qommunity so it won’t surprise you to hear that we’re delighted that progress is being made to house LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees safely and without fear of being further persecuted for their gender identity or sexuality. For us, while it is largely about safety, it’s also about dignity and being able to live fulfilling lives in our nation of sanctuary. Not all responsibilities are devolved to Wales so we hope that the UK Government and the Home Office will cooperate with the Welsh Government actions to make their asylum system more inclusive of LGBTQ+ people. In the meantime,

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it’s clear through this article that partnership working, listening and learning from others with lived experience is leading to progress. The levers available to us in Wales are being used to improve the lives of vulnerable people and we’re delighted to see those changes. We thank those who have raised their heads to expose this issue and we hope that change continues with pace.

Book Review

The Queer Bible Edited by Jack Guinness, published by Harper Collins.

I don’t know about you, but I love to escape in a good novel. I tend to avoid short stories but my curiosity got the better of me when I heard Jack Guinness, editor of The Queer Bible, being interviewed by Graham Norton. Released a few weeks later, I rushed to get my copy and I’m so glad I did. The Queer Bible is a collection of essays about some of our greatest LGBTQ+ icons such as David Bowie, George Michael, Quentin Crisp, Divine, Sylvester, RuPaul……the list goes on. What’s unique is that the essays have been written by our modern-day queer icons such as Elton John, Courtney Act, Lady Phyll, Paris Lees, Munroe Bergdorf, Graham Norton, Mae Martin, Russell Tovey.

A reminder of our glorious history the pages of this great collection. It felt like a celebration, an awakening, a reminder of our glorious history and I would highly recommend it. And it’s not one of those books you give to the charity shop after you’ve read it. This is a keeper! Enjoy!

What you get is the author’s unique perspective on their subject – queer people who, in various ways, have paved the way for our wonderful LGBTQommunity. Essay writers might have been influenced by their hero, met them, have a shared experience to tell us about or they’ve been affected in some way by them. Whatever their take, you get drawn into their story as it unfolds. And don’t be put off by the word ‘essay’ – they’re short stories essentially. This is an entertaining, intimate, queer-educating and captivating read. If you like queer culture, this is a great book for your collection. Full of fantastic illustrations by artists identifying as LGBTQ+ or allies, it really was a joy to turn LGBTQYMRU

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Trawsnewid Trawsnewid is an Amgueddfa Cymru-National Museum Wales youth-led project aimed at young people aged 16-25. The project explores queer Welsh history and the lived experiences of LGBTQ+ young people living in Wales today. Written by Cerian Wilshere-Davies, Amgueddfa Cymru-National Museum Wales

LGBTQ+ history has often been hidden or overlooked. In contrast, Trawsnewid celebrates that history, bringing it to light and forging strong connections between LGBTQ+ young people living in Wales and their heritage. So far the group have had talks from LGBTQ+ Welsh historian Norena Shopland, and Curator Mark Etheridge, alongside queer historians, artists and theatre makers. The project also supports participants to curate and deliver their own exhibitions, workshops and events. For Swansea Pride this year the Trawsnewid created a digital cabaret and a series of online workshops. The cabaret consisted of drag, poetry, film and puppetry all created by the participants, inspired by their own personal connections to Wales, LGBTQ+ Welsh history and Amgueddfa Cymru’s collections.

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We are keen to welcome new members! TrawsNewid 2021 Over the next few months the group is putting together two events. In November there will be a museum takeover at the National Waterfront Museum in Swansea. This will be a mixture of talks, workshops and performances celebrating LGBTQ+ lives in Wales today. In March 2022 the group will launch an exhibition in the National Waterfront Museum in Swansea. Objects from the museum’s LGBTQ+ collection will be on display alongside art and objects created and donated by the participants of the Trawsnewid project.

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The project is run both online and face to face at the National Waterfront Museum, Swansea. Online sessions take place every other Wednesday evening from 6pm and the face-toface sessions run every other Saturday at 2pm. We are keen to welcome new members! If you would like to get involved, or would like some more information, please email Bloedd.ac@ museumwales.ac.uk The Trawsnewid project is a part of the Hands on Heritage initiative, made possible by the National Lottery Heritage Fund's Kick the Dust Grant.

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Erased Swaying between the pink, blue and purple hues This is where I stand, this is where I float My hues are not rainbow glossy An illegitimate afterthought, a fake bandit, Erased. Forced to pick a side to feel safe Threatened to correct my straight pace Reveal my gayness or be ostracised They are loud, I can hear them, Erased. I will not play the game My hues are my emblem I carry it with pain, I carry it with Pride I re-birth their rainbow, I make it mine, I am visible. Rania

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Everyone's Talking About Jamie It was a packed opening night for ‘Everybody’s Talking About Jamie’ at Wales Millennium Centre. Based on a true story, the musical follows schoolboy Jamie New as he confronts the obstacles that stand between him and becoming a drag queen. Having seen success as a documentary and as a movie, the story is now gracing the Cardiff stage on its UK tour.

Layton Williams gave an incredibly natural performance, showing Jamie’s moments of power and vulnerability as if they were his own. Layton showed off his stunning vocals and impressive flexibility - quite how he managed to jump on tables in 6 inch heels is beyond me. His bond with the cast members was clear from his convincing portrayals of love and friendship. Oh to be a fly on the wall backstage with this cast!

After a difficult period for the arts, the Donald Gordon Theatre came back with a bang. The performance started in much the same way, with a sudden explosion of music and cast dashing out from the wings. High energy numbers were balanced with deeply touching moments. Amy Ellen Richardson stole the show with her heart wrenching performance of ‘He’s My Boy’. Margaret New’s fears, pride, and hopes for her son were voiced through Amy’s powerful vocals; we watched as mothers in the audience hugged their children a little tighter.

I had preconceptions that ‘Everybody’s Talking About Jamie’ was going to be ‘about drag’. Of course, the production does feature the delightful Loco Chanel, Jamie’s drag mother, but spans far more while retaining the sparkle of Queer performance. The set cleverly enhanced the contrast between Jamie’s drab school and vibrant family home, showing the spaces in which he was shunned or embraced as his authentic self. The score was youthful and genre spanning, with ‘add this to my playlist’ catchiness.

Sharan Phull’s performance as Jamie’s best friend Pritti stood out amongst an already impressive cast. Her storyline added another layer to the musical’s social impact. Pritti’s Muslim culture sees her subjected to the same peer mistreatment as Jamie, bringing them closer. The pair empower and balance each other; flamboyance and studiousness combining to set the two on track to achieve their dreams in theatre and medicine.

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I would recommend this musical to all members, and allies, of the community, though parents may have to cover little one’s ears at some points. The show presents the cruel reality of not fitting in, dealing with disownment, hate crime, and bullying. However, at the heart of it, ‘Everybody’s Talking About Jamie’ is a joyous portrayal of self-acceptance and chosen family that will leave even the most sceptical of audience members wondering ‘What the hell is wrong with a boy wearing a dress?’.

ARE YOU A WRITER? Do you like writing? Would you like to write about matters relevant to the LGBTQ+ community in Wales? If so, LGBTQymru would love to hear from you! Our Editorial Board is always looking for volunteer reporters to give a little bit of time back to our Qommunity. If that's you, click here to tell us a little about yourself.

WHAT'S YOUR STORY? At LGBTQymru, one of our drivers is to ensure that our LGBTQommunity stays connected. Our mantra is ‘for the Qommunity by the Qommunity’. For us, that means the whole of Wales. So, we’d be super excited to hear from you if you have a queer story to tell or an idea to feature in a future edition. Don’t be shy – get in touch by dropping us a line at Magazine@ LGBTQymru.Wales and put ‘Feature’ in the subject box.

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QOMMUNITY Joe Ali CHAMPION 26

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Securing the role as WalesOnline’s firstever Community Reporter, whose remit was to report on and amplify the stories of Welsh and Wales-based LGBTQ+ stories, Joe Ali is no stranger to the world of journalism.

Throughout COVID, a time where so many queer people felt disconnected from their chosen family, Joe shone a light on the many activities, stories, and profiles of the LGBTQ+ communities, ensuring that, whilst some of us might have felt lonely, we certainly didn’t feel alone. We should know: Joe lent his platform and support to amplifying the LGBTQYMRU journey to thousands of readers, which definitely supported in capturing the audience we have today. That’s why we are so happy and proud to return the favour and put the focus on Joe, this issue’s Qommunity Champion, and the future they have in store for us all.

How would you describe your experience as Wales Online’s first Community Reporter? It was an insightful and awesome opportunity. Wales’ most read news source doesn’t scream LGBT+ and to make a positive impact in such a huge organisation was a humbling and daunting experience all at the same time. Media is largely white and heterosexual, and this won’t change overnight! Simply placing someone like myself, a proud queer person, amongst the reporter ranks, that would have sent a message to someone out there that it is possible to be authentic in a position within the press. Press is changing for the better in Wales and I’m honoured to be seen as someone who is helping with that.

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are being given important roles. A journalist’s job is to tell someone’s story accurately and fairly and we haven’t been given that chance for a lot of years. More queer people in important roles equals better representation, it’s as simple as that.

You’ve written and spoken passionately about BAME representation in the media both in your role as a Community Reporter and as an independent journalist. For our readers, could you tell us why BAME queer representation important in the media?

What have been some of the most memorable moments for you? In all honesty, just meeting extraordinary people. I thought being gay and LGBT+ was confined to bars and clubs. Don’t get me wrong, they are vital assets in our culture and history, but the sheer amount of activism and groups I got to encounter in the role was simply inspiring to say the least. These people work around the clock. Once I hit 5pm I normally want a large malbec and my bed! It's been fabulous getting an insight into these people’s lives and work ethic.

It’s a topic that a lot of people feel is neglected or is simply not understood. Im dual heritage and queer, so the term BAME is quite hard for me to identify with even though that’s the blanket term. I think in the media it’s vital to ensure these stories are personalised to the person and/or the topic. Accurate representation in the media is so important, because if we don’t see us out there it makes us feel like we’re alone. The media gives us a playing field where people can discuss and connect with stories familiar to their own. If you can see yourself, you believe in yourself and your worth.

How is queer representation improving?

So you’ve recently stepped down from WalesOnline and began following a new path in your journalism journey. What can we expect from Joe Ali at Cardiff TV?

It’s improving because queer people are getting more confident and putting up with less sh*t, to put it mildly. Being the narrator to your story is fundamental, and that hasn’t been the case for decades for me and pretty much all queer people. Long story short, representation is improving because mixed queer people like me

A broader coverage of news. From entertainment, lifestyle and more. Broadcast media is where my passion lies so this is an amazing opportunity for myself to grow and thrive in the industry. But it doesn’t mean I’m stopping the queerness any time soon. Im currently working on creating a support group for

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queer people specifically from mixed heritage backgrounds. I’m also becoming a Just Like Us ambassador in the near future to help young LGBT+ people feel more accepted in schools. I also have a podcast that you can listen to right now called ‘Big Boy Talk with Joe Ali’ and who knows, season 2 might be coming!

Being the narrator to your story is fundamental, and that hasn’t been the case for decades for me and pretty much all queer people.

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Feel Good Bisexuality on the screen has long been a spot for critique in queer cinema. By Chloe Turner

From tropes of infidelity to a passing punchline, the bisexual character exists as a quirk among their monosexual peers: not quite ‘straight enough’ to fit in with wider society, but simultaneously not ‘gay enough’ to be considered queer. The second and final season of Mae Martin’s Feel Good was released back in June; a short but bittersweet deep-dive into Martin’s own relationship with gender, with drugs, and with navigating addiction in its evolving manifestations. Where the show receives less credit, however, is in its stand-out portrayal of the specifically bisexual experience. We witness the limbo between communities, the unique coming out process, and the pressures and privileges of being straight-passing while queer. Despite being an integral trait of the comedian’s own self-insert, Feel Good’s approach to bisexuality can perhaps best be observed within Charlotte Richie’s character, ‘George’: Mae’s closeted girlfriend who, prior to their relationship, had dated exclusively men.

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Putting the bisexual experience under the microscope George’s position in the show is a unique one, putting the bisexual experience under a microscope and placing it in relation to both the homo and hetero-sexual communities that surround it. To her heterosexual friends, George is gay: an outlier and a piece of gossip to be spread like the plague after an accidental coming out. But in the eyes of the queer community and those around it - Ritu Arya’s Lava, and Mae’s sceptical parents - she’s little more than a straight girl wasting their time. In every discussion of her sexuality, George is boxed in by the expectations of those around her,

pulled apart on account of her dating history and forced to confront her own preferences before she can simply be who she wishes to be. Would she continue to date girls after Mae, or are they a one-off? Does she fit the stereotypes of those around her, and does she really need a label to dictate who she dates?

Feel Good, among its many merits, offers to TV a fresh insight on the bisexual experience and the trials and triumphs within. Mae Martin crafts a heartfelt examination of queerness which, between its comic moments and inner reflections, weaves the unrelenting reminder that we are all, ultimately, far more than how others perceive us.

In a climate where we’re beginning to see more diverse bisexual representation in TV from Rosa Diaz to Darryl Whitefeather, Eleanor Shellstrop to Clarke Griffin - it becomes integral to acknowledge the role of outside expectations in shaping identity. Martin’s own bisexuality - with their more conventionally queer androgynous style - goes unquestioned throughout the show. But for George, long-haired and feminine in appearance, the ability to ‘pass’ as straight (and others’ refusal to see her as otherwise) is central to her experience of sexuality. We’re encouraged to notice the need for performance as she exists between groups, and the pressure to conform to others’ expectations of who she is or should be.

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My Life, My Light, My Future. I hide from the world, afraid what it might think; Stripped of my shine, so close to the brink, I swayed, I swayed, I sway. The whispers I hear, messed with my head; The feelings I bear, stemmed from the else. Stumbling on the edge, I want to give in. She pulls me back, the verge away; She holds me close, is she a faye? I close my eyes, I can’t give in. I hear the whispers, fainter still my eyes stay shut; Through the darkness she leads me, is this the final cut? Steadier still, my path grows strong; My strength I draw from her. I didn’t give in, started to rise the veil I used to hide. Sparks ignite, my light long lost; I start to shine again. There’s no fear with her, she loves me I know; Save me she did, from the night. I open my eyes, the radiance creeps in; I look at her for the first time. Beauty did blind me; Words didn’t find me; I cried as I realised who she was. Ananya

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Winter Travel ‘Tis the season to be jolly and in this issue, our independent travel consultant, The Travel Gibbon, excites us with some more seasonal offerings. By The Travel Gibbon

Whilst international travel is not yet fully back to normal, there are still some fantastic trips and experiences available to help us celebrate Christmas and New Year, or even recover

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from some over-indulgence afterwards. More information available from The Travel Gibbon

Christmas Lights & The Nutcracker at Blenheim Palace 2 nights’ accommodation at the Mercure Thame Lambert Hotel Full English breakfast each morning A festive three course dinner on your first night in the Hotel's Kite Restaurant (worth £26 per person) Mince pies and mulled wine on arrival (worth £9.50 per person)

from £199.50 per person Two tickets to The Story of the Nutcracker at Blenheim Palace on the second day of your stay (worth £29.50 per person) Two tickets to the Light Trail at Blenheim Palace on the second day of your stay at 5:30pm (worth £22.50 per person) Parking at Blenheim Palace (worth £10 per car - one space per room) Prices based on 2 people sharing

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Maastricht Christmas Market & Andreu Rieu Winter Palace Concert 4 Days B&B + Concert Tickets A 65€ face-value, seated ticket to see André Rieu and his Johann Strauss Orchestra live at the MECC (Maastricht Exhibition and Concert Centre) on 17th December – upgrades available

from £599 per person

Three nights' bed and continental breakfast accommodation in a four-star standard hotel in the Eindhoven area Return flights from your local airport to Amsterdam

A visit to Maastricht

Coach travel throughout, including hotel and venue transfers

A visit to Aachen Christmas Market

The services of a friendly tour manager Based on 2 people sharing

By Craig Stephenson

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New Year in Luxury Hot Tub Lodge in Fishguard Clifftop luxury lodge site with access to Pembrokeshire coastal path Fri 31 Dec'21 - Mon 03 Jan'22 £885 TOTAL Rated 5/5 on TripAdvisor 2 bedrooms - sleeps 4 people (1 x double/1 x twin or double)

£885 for 4 people Private hot tub Open plan lounge/dining/kitchen area Parking/ WiFi / Pets allowed - max 2 @ £25 each Fireworks & New Years Eve street party in Fishguard (tickets approx. £5pp)

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January Sun – St Lucia Caribbean escape to recharge your batteries in January

from £1299 per person

13th – 23rd January 2022

Deluxe Room - All Inclusive

Flights from London with British Airways

Based on 2 adults sharing

10 Nights - Starfish St. Lucia Resort

Add On Tropical Sunset Cruise For £73pp

For more information about these or other ideas for your next ‘get away’ please contact Helen at The Travel Gibbon – thetravelgibbon@gmail.com or check out offers on the Facebook page here https://www.facebook.com/thetravelgibbon

By Craig Stephenson

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The Diversity of our Queer History Over the past few years, particularly considering the centenary of women’s suffrage in 1918 and the global wave of race riots in 1919, as well as the more recent reflections prompted by Black Lives Matter, there has been much discussion about the diversity of past and present. By Daryl Leeworthy

This has coincided with the arrival of Welsh queer history as a subject of formal study and publication: Huw Osborne’s Queer Wales appeared in 2016, Norena Shopland’s Forbidden Lives in 2017, and my own book A Little Gay History of Wales in the final months of 2019. Valuable heritage work has been undertaken by museums, too, as well as by Pride Cymru, often with the support of the National Lottery Heritage Fund. This renaissance of research and recovery nevertheless exposes some of the limitations of sources, of memory, and of understanding. Abdulla Taslameden arrived in Cardiff in the summer of 1918 on board a cargo vessel laden with supplies from the Mediterranean and the Middle East. Abdulla was twenty two and was in the city for a short period of downtime before

heading off to sea once more. As he walked around Butetown and parts of the city centre that August, Abdulla happened across a local man of Irish parentage and twice his age called George Halloran. They cruised each other and went off somewhere to have sex – possibly even back to George’s house in Adamsdown. Not long afterwards, the city police came to arrest Abdulla. He was charged with ‘feloniously commit[ting] and perpetrat[ing] the abominable crime of buggery’. At the police station his photograph, fingerprints and various personal details were entered into official registers. Every physical and cultural attribute was collated from eye colour to religion to the presence of any tattoos to whether he could read or write. Some of those registers and those photographs, together with court and prison documents, all

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survive. They illustrate in a single instant the diversity of Wales’s queer history. They pose questions of relationships and of the intersections between homosex, queerness, class, ethnicity, and race. They show us lives akin to our own. Abdulla was a Muslim, probably from Yemen, a man of colour, and he worked as a fireman (or stoker) in the merchant navy which serviced the British Empire. His job was hot, sweaty, and physically demanding. The engine room itself was a homoerotic space full of half-naked male bodies. Despite its importance to the ship – literally shovelling coal into the engines – the fireman’s job was subject to significant racial discrimination. The nice work on board merchant vessels, from the officers to the stewards to the barbers, was all done by white Europeans. George, for example, was employed as a ship’s steward. Desire between seamen was common enough that it became a queer stereotype, like hairdressing or working in the theatre. This story has no happy ending. Abdulla was found guilty and sentenced to twelve months hard labour, George was not subject to any criminal proceedings. This was partly the result of who was thought to be the ‘victim’, but the case was undoubtedly framed by the city’s prevailing colour bar and the widespread racial prejudice of

Queer people were more likely to leave Wales for places perceived to be more open and tolerant, ‘accepting’ in the oldfashioned sense, most obviously London.

its officials. Not long after Abdulla’s release from prison, George was himself arrested, charged and sent down for neglecting his wife, Annie and their children. Abdulla and George were amongst several men unlucky enough to be caught and then charged with either ‘gross indecency’ (which was easier for the police to prosecute) or the more serious charge of ‘buggery’. Unlucky, of course, because far more homosex was had, in Cardiff and elsewhere, than was ever subjected to court cases and prison sentences. From the historian’s point of view that is a frustration because it reduces the number of individual stories that can be told. Moreover, the historic legality of homosex between women means that crime records are useful, chiefly, for recovering the lives of queer men. 40

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the aftermath of the 1967 Sexual Offences Act, which merits its inclusion in any history of Cardiff’s queer past, but it was also an exclusionary environment particularly for women. This was the typical history of queer spaces all over the world, and to some extent remains the case, and so to find traces in Wales is unsurprising. But evidence is the key, particularly evidence which goes beyond individual memory or anecdote. Those together bring out of the chaos of the past both subject and context.

This raises the question of how to recover the diversity of our queer past. The nearer our research brings us to our own times, the more opportunities there are for recovery through memoir, correspondence, oral history and photographs. With that broader range of sources comes the necessary confrontation with lives which continued to be affected by racism, by gender discrimination, by class, and by emigration. Queer people were more likely to leave Wales for places perceived to be more open and tolerant, ‘accepting’ in the oldfashioned sense, most obviously London.

Take the case of ‘Cheers Drive’, the proposed name for a short lane at Cardiff’s new bus station complex. A worthy proposal, you might think. Yet go back a century and there were houses on that site. In one of them, one afternoon, a Jewish man called Louis Perlin and an Irishman called Daniel Sullivan were hooking up. They’d met on St Mary Street and gone off to Daniel’s room. Louis was later arrested, found not guilty of gross indecency in court, but was nevertheless ordered by the judge to leave the country. An unwanted immigrant. Louis had arrived in Britain a few years before, having escaped the pogroms raging in the Lithuanian Pale where he was born. He worked in Cardiff as a tailor. His deportation threw his life into chaos: he criss-crossed the Atlantic seeking a place of refuge before eventually settling in Liverpool and taking on a different identity.

Venues which attracted a queer crowd were occasionally reported to the Race Relations Board or to the press in the late-1960s and early 1970s for operating a colour bar. Likewise, one of the first queer nightclubs in Wales was assuredly ‘men only’, a mixture of drink and misogyny that the organised women’s movement of the period knew to avoid and made sure was advertised far and wide. How do we come to terms with that problematic past as a community, even as we develop a richer sense of it? I would argue that it is important to identify both. The nightclub was a statement of presence in LGBTQYMRU

What if, then, instead of playing up to ‘Welshy’ stereotypes of our own, we thought more soberly about the history which surrounds us, or about the queer heritage which is so often hidden in plain sight and which serves as a constant reminder that our community is, was, and always shall be diverse? What if we were confronted with the faces of those arrested? What if we moved from the ‘crime’ to establish something for the rest of their lives, too? To do that, we will have to take Welsh history out into the world. For some of the individuals in the records this will not be easy, transcription of names is itself a minefield of error, but for others it will be more straightforward – revealing lives as they were.

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Abdulla Taslameden disappeared from the records after he left prison. Where he went, we do not know. Did he have sex with other men, was his life a happy one, again we are left wondering. George Halloran, on the other hand, we know went to Australia, to America, to Belize, to Cuba, to Nicaragua, and to the furthest reaches of the Russian Empire. Yet, the same questions may be asked of his life, too. How queer was it? We shall probably never know the answer. What remains are the documented Welsh elements of their story, which tantalise and fascinate in equal measure. This, in the end, in the absence of lords and ladies, of privilege and status, is the real history of Queer Wales.

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Songbirds Choir In case you didn’t know it, singing is known to be one of the great stress-busters and is proven to benefit your overall health, improve your posture and contribute to good mental health too.

Joining a choir can be a great way to meet new people and after the long-lockdowns of 2020 and 2021, we’re delighted to see that our LGBTQ choirs in Wales are rehearsing indoors once again. In this issue, LGBTQymru is delighted to tell you a little bit more about Songbirds Choir – Wales’ only choir for LGBT+ women and non-binary people.

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Established in 2012, Songbirds Choir rehearse every Monday evening from 7.30pm at City United Reform Church, Windsor Place, Cardiff and are firmly established as part of the LGBTQ musical family in South Wales. Songbirds perform across the region, often for local charities, at their own concerts and can regularly be seen at Pride events.

With the strong ethos of inclusion, acceptance, and fun, joining Songbirds Choir could be the hobby for you. You’re sure to be welcomed by the 30 or so members and you’ll be contributing to the visibility of our LGBTQommunity – what’s not to like? Musical Director Lizzie Watson said "Since I became MD two years ago, we’ve learnt plenty of new songs, revisited some old favourites, and had a great time doing it. After over a year of zoom rehearsals, we are finally back in person and the choir sounds fantastic! Alongside singing songs together we have musicianship activities each week, where we play wacky musical games – usually resulting in lots of laughter – in the name of learning music theory. We’re currently preparing for our 10th Anniversary concert in Summer 2022 and it promises to be an amazing celebration of all things Songbirds." Chair of the Songbirds committee, Kate Boddington, added: “Continuing singing during 2020 was tricky but I’m really proud of the way that we’ve kept our choir community together, continuing to meet online to strengthen our relationships and support each other last year. We’re quite a

Proud of keeping our choir community together varied bunch in age and background, and are committed to being an inclusive group. As a longstanding member it’s exciting to see how the choir changes and continues to grow. It’s a really great time to join us as we recap old favourites and learn new music ready for 2022 – our 10 year anniversary!” You can get more information from Songbirds’ website linked here, including the new member enquiry form, and you can also find links to their social media platforms. https://songbirdschoir.com/ At LGBTQymru, we’re really happy to see Songbirds Choir performing again in 2021 and beyond.

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The best of both worlds What do I crave? Bàbátúndé or Yéwándé? It all depends on the wave, Today I feel tamed. When he touches me, I submit to his will. A sensation so real. He is deep, what a thrill. Her voice makes me gasp for air. Laying next to her, our bodies bare. So much passion in her stare. She wants me, I know she cares. What do I crave? Today I am feeling brave. I want a cocktail, The three of us on a sail. It’s the best of both worlds. No gender, no walls. We are souls that fall, For a love that encircles all. Tobi

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She She is rooted in expectation A projected vision of what I should be Your perception feels like deception of how I truly see Myself, a mirror, a moment unstuck Until the weight of your gaze Slides down on me Bearing true to no one else I make space for your face Reflected back at me She is not me But you call her as seen Beth

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Our resident psychotherapist, Andy Garland, founder and clinical director at Andy Garland Therapies, the mental health clinic, joins the LGBTQymru team to answer your questions.

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Beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and it’s important that we celebrate them all. Having bulging muscles doesn’t make a person more successful in life or relationships.

QUESTION I've always been a bit chubby and it’s never really bothered me, but lately it’s been making me feel really anxious and like I need to diet. All I ever see are beautiful, fit gay men everywhere who get the most attention. I see it on the gay scene now that we've started going out again and on dating apps and it’s just making me sad and really insecure. And more than that, I’m getting the impression that gay men are becoming more and more fattist. I don’t know what to do. Johnny

ANSWER Research continues to show us that the LGBTQ+ community are most likely to experience bodyimage anxiety more than heterosexuals. How we perceive our bodies in relation to others is commonly reported to me during therapy, so you’re not alone with this one Johnny.

Gay men in particular report the need to conform with what they see as the ‘perfect’ body. This generally means a gym toned physique – air-brushed and Instagram ready. Studies focused on gay and bisexual men have found a connection between higher levels of body dissatisfaction, and increased likelihood of experiencing depressive symptoms and increased sexual anxiety, along with poorer sexual performance. Beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and it’s important that we celebrate them all. Having bulging muscles doesn’t make a person more successful in life or relationships. Yes, it probably gets these guys noticed, though I know many people that aren’t attracted to such a toned physique – beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. Gay men since the beginning of time (I’m using my narrative license here), have obsessed with body beautiful. Whether it’s the size of their

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muscles or the bulge in their Calvin Klein’s, the need to be accepted is deep routed in shame. It’s about fitting in, being part of the ‘norm’, being accepted. I wonder if these ‘beautiful, fit gay men’ do get the most attention. Often what we end up seeing is what we focus more on. There’s a phenomenon called Baader-Meinhof, which is a frequency bias. It’s where we notice something, and then seemingly you become aware of the same thing all over the place! Take a closer look next time you’re on the scene or swiping right - I’m certain you’ll see other people with your body shape. We are seeing a more diverse body shape celebrated in advertising, and social media is shifting too. How we view our bodies is sometimes through 50

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a lens of what we see around us. You don’t have to change what you look like in order to fit in with a perceived homo societal-norm. No matter what body type you may have, there’s always some other image to aspire to. Your anxiety can be aggravated by the comparisons you make with these guys – ultimately, it’s your inner confidence that gets you seen. If losing weight, and toning up is for you, then go ahead and find a healthy route to achieve this. If it’s about being accepted by others’, it’s worth questioning that decision. Body confidence isn’t made in the gym, it starts with the mind.

Open relationships can be both loving and fulfilling, and can increase erotic charge in the primary relationship, which can encourage a deeper and more profound connection.

QUESTION My partner wants an open relationship and I don’t. I feel like they just want to sleep with other people and I don’t. Like what am I supposed to do with that? I love her so much, but I feel like I’m not enough for her anymore and she’s using this as an excuse to go sleep with other people. Steph.

ANSWER Open relationships and their success depends on mutual acceptance and trust. The way you communicate your thoughts and feelings is vital, and from your question Steph, you seem a little stuck with this. Open relationships, also called non-monogamy, is a form of not being sexually exclusive with your partner, though it doesn’t tend to involve romance or emotional attachment – please see Polyamory! Just because you're in an open relationship doesn't mean you can do whatever you please with whomever you please, unless that's previously agreed upon, of course.

In your question you talk about what you ‘feel’ rather than what you know. I wonder if you’ve sat down and talked through your thoughts and feelings with your partner, if you haven’t, maybe consider doing this. By communicating openly you’ll find out exactly what your partner is looking for, and you can be clear about your wishes too. There are many ways to create a successful, loving and respectful relationship. We have been conditioned to believe that monogamy is the defining factor of ‘serious relationships’, just because society has told us so. Open relationships can be both loving and fulfilling, and can increase erotic charge in the primary relationship, which can encourage a deeper and more profound connection. Though, open relationships don’t work for everyone. If you are firm on wanting an emotional and sexually exclusive relationship, then it will be important to share this with your partner. Let them know how you feel, and express your thoughts on ‘not being enough’ for them. Ultimately, communication, trust, and honesty is key for setting expectations. Through communicating you may discover that there are aspects of your sexual relationship that could be improved. Exploring each other’s sexual wants and fantasies could bring you closer together, leading to your partner being content in an exclusive monogamous relationship. LGBTQYMRU

Post-Brexit Wales and LGBTQ+ issues: what is happening in Europe and why should we care? As a migrant and a gay man living in Wales, I have been watching with a growing sense of unease what is happening to LGBTQ+ people across Europe. By Dr Alessandro Ceccarelli

While the general belief has been that LGBTQ+ rights have advanced in recent years, there’s a host of red flags that should concern us all. Across Europe, there is a stagnation or regression of LGBTQ+ rights, a crisis of homelessness for young people, hostile environments and stigmatisation of LGBTQ+ people for political gain, and lack of progress for intersex and trans rights and access to health, along with the deprioritisation of HIV campaigns. While pockets of inclusivity and good practice remain, including Malta, Belgium, Luxembourg, Portugal, and Norway, there is cause for concern. Creeping LGBTQ-phobia is real, particularly affecting migrants, people of colour and trans people. We can’t ignore that it threatens to make our lives in Wales more difficult. By Alistair James 52

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Migrants in Wales are vulnerable, some of them from countries where being themselves puts them in danger. But we can do more than just build protections in Wales, and we can play an active role in Europe.

WHAT IS HAPPENING IN EUROPE?

STAGNATION OF LGBTQ+ POLICY LANDSCAPE

While we may feel comfortable with progress here, the stigmatisation of LGBTQ+ people for political gain is already a trend elsewhere. Scapegoating minorities has increasingly become a strategy applied by ultra-conservative and nationalist politicians presenting themselves as defenders of “traditional values'' to gain or retain power. Recently, I have observed pronounced stigmatisation of LGBTQ+ people ahead of elections, and attacks on Pride events over the summer - like in Armenia, Bulgaria, Moldova, Hungary, Czech Republic and Russia.

Given the above, I had high expectations from the European governments’ response. Published in May 2021, the Rainbow Map showed developments of LGBTQ+ rights among European countries, including the UK, after more than a year of COVID19. Did they learn from the crisis to protect minorities or the disadvantaged? I was disappointed.

While Welsh political discourse is more tempered, we can’t be complacent. We must play an active role in demanding zero-tolerance of discriminatory rhetoric. We cannot leave discriminatory stances unchecked in, for instance, Hungary where we’ve seen cases of censorship of children’s books featuring LGBTQ+ characters, and a ban of the portrayal of trans people and homosexuality; and in Poland where they implemented “LGBT-free zones”. While the EU Commission introduced infringement procedures against both, the effect was still limited.

The Rainbow Map shows few countries improved on recognition of partnership or parenthood, and little has been done for intersex and trans rights and access to healthcare, including ending depathologisation, apart from Iceland. Malta was one of few to improve its Refugees Act and published new guidelines for LGBTQ+ asylum claims. In Italy, a proposed law called “disegno di legge Zan” attempted to combat discrimination by adding “aggravating factors” based on sexual orientation and gender identity. However, there has been resistance and interference, notably from the Vatican which invoked a Concordat to seek changes.

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Particularly shocking are the effects on LGBTQ+ youth. A survey of 71 organisations across 32 European countries found over 60% have worked with homeless LGBTQ+ youth, while services lack the means to provide safe and welcoming spaces (Perceptions Report 2021). This resonates with the “Out on The Streets” (2019) report, which shows that a disproportionately high number of young people who experience homelessness in Wales are LGBTQ+. The response to HIV has also regressed. The number of people living with HIV continues to rise in Eastern Europe and late diagnosis remains a major problem. It has become less of a priority in many European countries, with little funding available for free testing. If availability is reduced, it may result in a spike in late diagnoses and transmissions. HIV should be a national and international priority, which is why dedicated national HIV Action Plans are a needed step forward to meet the 2030 target of zero new infections.

It is clear we need more concrete actions to protect people. Blaming COVID19 serves as a fig leaf for too many countries where progress stalls because of political opportunism. It is clear we need more concrete actions to protect people. Blaming COVID19 serves as a fig leaf for too many countries where progress stalls because of political opportunism. WHY THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR WALES The UK has been given an overall score of 64% on the Rainbow Map, which identified several areas of improvement - mostly concerning LGBTQ+ asylum seekers, anti-trans rhetoric, hate crime, health, gender recognition, parenthood, and partnership rights - and this is relevant for Wales. Migrants from Europe want to see change: we cannot ignore what is happening beyond our borders and European countries can learn from each other. ILGA-Europe recommendations include banning conversion therapy, developing frameworks for gender recognition, and improving policies covering discrimination and hate crime.

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The Red Ribbon AIDS memorial tree You could be forgiven for not knowing about the Red Ribbon AIDS memorial tree in Gorsedd Gardens, in front of the National Museum of Wales in Cardiff. It hasn’t been given a huge amount of attention in recent years but that could be about to change. By Craig Stephenson 56

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The tree was planted in 1994 by Cardiff man Mike Phillips and his friend Martin Nowaczek. Mike is now in his fifties having lived with HIV for many years, but Martin died, aged just 27, not long after the sapling was planted. It’s now a fully matured tree and provides a place where some people come and remember loved ones. Many won’t know of the memorial tree, nor that a vigil was held annually in the 1990s on 1 December for World AIDS Day. Hundreds of people hung red ribbons on the tree and remembered those lost to the virus. Earlier this year, Live Music Now Wales (thanks to funding from the Heritage Lottery Fund) worked with local community groups using song writing to connect and share stories and to reconnect our communities after Covid 19 restrictions and the inevitable breakdown of those links. Musician, Jordan Price Williams, was partnered with the award-winning South Wales Gay Men’s

I remember how important that tree was to our members, to their partners, friends, family & to us as a team. The beauty in the memorials, the quiet times when we would visit in memory of someone’s birthday and the tears when we'd add another ribbon when we lost someone. Chorus (SWGMC) and following collaborative workshops, ‘This Tree, This Man’ was written and recorded. Trees were at the heart of the collaboration linking the trees at Cooper’s Field that surrounded our beloved Mardi Gras celebrations with the Red Ribbon AIDS Memorial Tree in Gorsedd Gardens. Some didn’t know of its existence, its significance, its poignancy nor its history. Members of SWGMC found the collaboration enlightening, emotional and educating. Some recalled the impact of losing friends, colleagues and community members in the 1980s and 90s. Others acknowledged the stark contrast and determination of the UK governments to throw everything possible at fighting COVID-19 when there was little aimed at fighting AIDS. Jordan said: “As a younger man living in a more tolerant era we enjoy legal rights and freedoms which were simply not there in the seventies and eighties. It is only through talking to some older members of the chorus that I have gained LGBTQYMRU

a greater understanding of how much they suffered and the isolation these men felt.” “In regard to the Red Ribbon AIDS Memorial Tree, what struck me most is that as a gay man in 2021, I had never really given it much thought. Many of my generation are not even aware of its existence, never mind its huge significance. “That’s why I wanted it to be central to the song. The idea that people can walk by that tree and not know how much it means to so many people within the community, that is a measure of how society has changed. We must never forget the reasons why this tree, this memorial, is there.”

In regard to the Red Ribbon AIDS Memorial Tree, what struck me most is that as a gay man in 2021, I had never really given it much thought. Many of my generation are not even aware of its existence, never mind its huge significance.

On World AIDS Day in the mid to late 1990s, places like Cardiff University, or other civic venues, would host hundreds to hear the reading of the names of those lost, to listen to poetry, recitals or personal stories and to be uplifted by choirs singing. People walked in silence to the tree where ribbons were hung to honour those lost to HIV and AIDS.

Rob Keetch, aka Dr Bev Ballcrusher (Dr Bev was born out of a fundraiser for Cardiff Body Positive!), LGBTQ community ambassador and campaigner talks passionately about bringing the vigil back:

The vigil disappeared in the 90s but a group of LGBTQ activists in Cardiff have been trying to revive the annual vigil and at LGBTQymru, we’re delighted that they are. A small group still managed to hold a socially distant vigil in 2020 despite the pandemic.

“I owe a lot to Cardiff Body Positive, friendships that have lasted over 25 years, an education on AIDS & HIV & a drag career that's heading towards 30 years. I became aware of the work that Body Positive was doing when my friend was diagnosed as HIV+ in the 90's. I saw a lot of

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stigmatism and hatred and wanted to help stop it. So I became a volunteer, I joined not long after the memorial tree had been planted. “I remember how important that tree was to our members, to their partners, friends, family & to us as a team. The beauty in the memorials, the quiet times when we would visit in memory of someone’s birthday and the tears when we'd add another ribbon when we lost someone. The candlelight march and vigil on World Aids Day was always emotional - then Body Positive and the Cardiff Aids Helpline kinda disappeared and Terrence Higgins Trust (THT) Cymru came along. Whilst I know that THT held regular vigils at the tree the big coming together of the community in support faded away. “Last year during the lockdown I found myself drawn to the tree one day. I was angry at myself for forgetting it, and those it had been planted to memorialise. I put a post on Facebook and chatted to a few people, including those from the original team, THT Cymru, Fast Track Cities & the Council and decided we should bring back the vigil on 1st Dec. Last year was a quiet, limited affair because of social distancing rules. However, I have been planning this year’s vigil and speaking to organisations including Safer Wales, Glitter Cymru, Fast Track Cities & Pride Cymru, amongst others to see how they can also support so that it returns to its previous respected state. We’ll be able to commemorate those we

have lost, thank those who work hard to educate and eradicate and to celebrate those living with the virus.” We know that members of SWGMC have committed to being part of a resurrected vigil, as has LGBTQymru but we particularly thank the driving force that is Rob Keetch for his dedication to renewing the vigil’s prominence. We hope that more people will commit and that this important date in our community’s calendar is given the respect it deserves. The vigil will be held at Cardiff University on 01 December, 8:15pm. ‘This Tree, This Man’ can be viewed on YouTube here: www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbazLIXjJLA The ‘Unlocked’ collaborations between the 5 musicians and 10 community groups involved can be downloaded free fromv the links on the Live Music Now webpage here: www.livemusicnow.org.uk/lmn-news/title/ Unlocking-Welsh-Heritage-with-Live-Music-Now/ item/69913

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The Beautiful GAYme For over a decade Wales’ first LGBT+ football team, Cardiff Dragons has paved the way for inclusive sport. By Evie Barker

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For over a decade Wales’ first LGBT+ football team, Cardiff Dragons has paved the way for inclusive sport. Manager of the womens and non-binary team, Ryan McGavock was rewarded with a place on the Pinc list for 2021. We sat down with him to find out more about the team and the impact they’ve had on Welsh football. Cardiff Dragons was formed in 2008 by members of the Gay Football Supporters Network. The GFSN have held UK wide tournaments since the early 2000s and offer a uniquely inclusive platform for team sport. Unlike other amateur leagues, the GFSN welcomes teams of all genders. This breaking of the binary makes football more accessible and inviting for LGBT+ individuals. Ryan says that trans inclusion is one of the team’s main priorities. Trans sportspeople often have to undergo rigorous hormone tests to compete. The Dragons offer a warm environment where players

can rediscover their love of football without feeling othered. A former member, Hannah Graf, the highest ranking trans officer in the British military, said that her sporting hobbies suffered as a result of her transition. After fearing abuse and claims of an unfair advantage, Hannah found Cardiff dragons. ‘I had my eyes opened to a new world of inclusive sport. I was welcomed by the fantastic Cardiff Dragons. I was nervous of how people would approach me but all they really cared about was that I was marking the opposition and my shots were on target. Playing like that, away from any labels, was truly liberating.’ "I came out as transgender and even though my friends, family and colleagues have all been supportive, my sporting hobbies sufffered. I thought that I couldn't compete in a women's team, fearing abuse and jeers for not fitting in and people claiming that I had an unfair advantage. I couldn't play for a male team either because I was now legally female. LGBTQYMRU

I had my eyes opened to a new world of inclusive sport. I was welcomed by the fantastic Cardiff Dragons. I was nervous of how people would approach me but all they really cared about was that I was marking the opposition and my shots were on target. Playing like that, away from any labels, was truly liberating.

The inclusion of allies is important to Ryan and the team are playing in more local leagues with non LGBT+ teams and enjoying the experience of not having to travel across the UK every time they want a match.

night will be a return to some normality on the social side. Teammates can hope to win awards such as ‘Player of the Season’ and will be rewarded with trophies 3D printed by a former club member.

The Dragons’ impact has extended beyond the UK with their women’s and non-binary team representing the club at the Tournoi international de Paris. As their coach and manager, Ryan was proud to see the team’s performance in the LGBT+ tournament and their award of a trophy for being the most fun team. The accolade is clearly well deserved as the club have regular social events and pride themselves on their community atmosphere.

It’s no wonder players who have moved on from the club are still strongly attached to the Cardiff Dragons. Perhaps the most touching story from our talk with Ryan is of the club’s donation to Hoops and Loops. A former Dragons player was an asylum seeker supported by the charity. Alongside their donations, the team attended court in support of the player and made sure they were able to be part of the club without the usual fees. Though the Cardiff Dragons charge for membership they always ensure those who struggle with fees attend for free. The club is always looking for new members of all abilities.

This side of the club has sadly been on the backburner due to Covid restrictions. Thanks to Wales’ covid support grant, the team saw through lockdown by training in bubbles with the help of their new extra equipment. The dragons are now back to full training and their upcoming awards 62

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Most recently, the team were involved in setting up the Rainbow Wall, an LGBT+ Wales supporters group which you can read more

about in this issue. Their next project is establishing a Proud Bluebirds group, much like the Rainbow Wall but specifically for Cardiff supporters. Though in its early stages, the Proud Bluebirds are gaining a large following on social media and the network has already brought about many acts of kindness. Ryan spoke of offers from Cardiff supporters to chaperone Queer Bluebirds at matches, proving that they are welcomed by many despite potential past experiences of homophobia at games. As we’ve seen, Cardiff Dragons are extending their impact far beyond the pitch. They provide an opportunity for players who have previously felt ostracised to love the sport again, as well as uplifting the voices of LGBT+ football fans across Wales. All this while being officially the Tournoi international de Paris’ most fun team. Gôl!

Alongside their donations, the team attended court in support of the player and made sure they were able to be part of the club without the usual fees.

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Wales-wide Support Service for LGBTQ+ people LGBT Cymru Helpline LGBT+ Helpline and counselling service line@lgbtcymru.org.uk Umbrella Cymru Gender and Sexual Diveristy Support Specialists info@umbrellacymru.co.uk 0300 3023670 Kaleidoscope Drug and alcohol support services 0633 811950 Fflag Support services for parents and their LGBTQ+ Children 0845 652 0311 New Pathways Rape crisis and sexual abuse support enquiries@newpathways.org.uk LGBT+ Switchboard Switchboard.lgbt 0300 330 0630 Glitter Cymru BAME LGBT+ Social Group - Based in Cardiff glittercymru@gmail.com Mind Cymru Mental health information and support services info@mind.org.uk 0300 123 3393

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Samaritans Support for anyone samaritans.org/wales 116 123 LGBT Asylum Seeker Support and guidance for LGBT+ Asylum seekers - Based in Swansea 01792 520111 Stonewall Cymru LGBT+ Information and guidance 0800 0502020 Victim Support Hate Crime and support and reporting 0300 3031 982 Wipeout Transphobia Information and support for Gender Diverse People 0844 245 2317 Bi Cymru Network for bi people and people attracted to more than one gender bicymru@yahoo.co.uk Galop LGBT+ Domestic abuse helpline and support service help@galop.org.uk Galop.org.uk 0800 999 5428

Terrence Higgins Trust Cymru HIV and sexual health information and support 0808 802 1221 Head Above the Waves Information and guidance of depression and self-harm in young people Hatw.co.uk UNIQUE A voluntary group supporting Trans* (transgender) people in North Wales & West Cheshire. Elen Heart - 01745 337144 Welsh Women’s aid If you or a friend are experiencing domestic violence/abuse and would like further information. Dyn Project Provides advice and support to heterosexual, gay, bisexual and transgender men who are experiencing domestic violence/abuse. www.dynwales.org/ Trans*form Cymru A project funded by the Welsh Government supporting trans* young people to understand their rights and to support youth-facing operations to address discrimination. youthcymru.org.uk/cy/transform-cymru-2/ Rustic Rainbow An informal group for LGB&T people who love the natural beauty of North Wales. www.facebook.com/groups/443148552374541/ LGBT+ Youth Club The LGBT+ Youth Club is an opportunity for young people aged 15-21 to enjoy themselves, have fun, meet friends and be themselves in Caernarfon. LGBT@gisda.co.uk

Carmarthenshire LGBTQ+ Project a project set up to promote the LGBTQ+ community in Carmarthenshire. carmslgbtqplus.org.uk Rainbow Biz This social enterprise encourages inclusion and celebrates differences in Flintshire. www.rainbowbiz.org.uk Shelter Cymru Free, independent, expert housing advice sheltercymru.org.uk/lgbt-aware Llamau Support and information for youth homelessness www.llamau.org.uk/our-vision-and-mission Newport LGBTQ+ Youth Group A new group for LGBTQ+ young people (aged 11-25) who reside in Newport. www.facebook.com/NewportLGBTQYouth The Gathering - Cardiff A registered charity with a board of trustees, and have 5 volunteer pastors who provide specific support for LGBTQ+ Christians. www.thegatheringcardiff.org mail@thegatheringcardiff.org PAPYRUS Prevention of Young Suicide. Are you a young person who is struggling with life or perhaps you are worried about a young person who may be having thoughts of suicide? For practical, confidential help and advice please contact PAPYRUS HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141, text 07860 039967 or email pat@papyrus-uk.org Trans Aid Cymru Supporting trans, non-binary and intersex people through mutual aid support. transaid.cymru

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