Lawrence Journal-World 12-13-13 by Lawrence Journal-World

36 Secure Old Glory

Marcy Sugar and Kathy Mitchell anniesmailbox@comcast.net

there is no need to rush to get married. Well, he told his fiancee, and we were not invited to the wedding. Now, neither of them speaks to us. It’s been nearly six years. We miss our son greatly. How do you suggest we proceed? — Unhappy Parents Dear Unhappy: Your heart was in the right place, but disparaging a child’s intended is asking for trouble. They rarely listen and often become defensive and angry. The best you

‘Whale Wars’ raises ethical dilemmas “Whale Wars” (8 p.m., Animal Planet) returns with a strange twohour special. The members of the Sea Shepherd Conservation Society find themselves at sea. The Shepherds’ leader, Capt. Paul Watson, has become an international fugitive. Wanted in Germany and Japan and by Interpol for charges, including piracy, that stem from the group’s anti-whaling efforts, Watson’s invisible to international authorities. But not to the camera crew of “Whale Wars.” If the warrant for Watson weren’t chilling enough, a U.S. federal court has set strict limits on the ways the Sea Shepherd vessels can “interact” with whaling ships. Should they break those rules, each and every member of the crew could face prison time, civil suits and financial ruin. As a result, one crewmember leaves the operation. Others react with moral indignation and remind us that we are watching a dedicated band of whale-saving environmentalists — or, perhaps, members of an extremist cult, or a little bit of both. Television has long followed, and occasionally championed, the outlaw. Perhaps the strangest wrinkle of the reality television era has been the departure from the scripted depiction of law-breakers to the documentary depiction of the real thing. Discovery, TLC and other outlets invite us to follow moonshiners, pot dealers and practitioners of polygamy. These shows offer peculiar forms of distraction, but also raise profound questions: When is it right to break the law for a “higher” purpose? And who gets to make that distinction? And it’s hard to watch “Whale Wars” without noticing just how much Hollywood has influenced, and bankrolled, this operation. We learn that a producer for “The Simpsons” has donated a new ship. Other Sea Shepherd vessels are named “The Bob Barker” and “The Brigitte Bardot.” Tonight’s Other Highlights O Evidence points to a 1940s mystery on “Hawaii Five-0” (8 p.m., CBS). O An officer gets punched on “Blue Bloods” (9 p.m., CBS). O Audrey fights her spiritual link to William on the season finale of “Haven” (9 p.m., Syfy). O “Another Day/Another Time: Celebrating the Music of ‘Inside Llewyn Davis’” (9 p.m., Showtime), anticipates the Coen brothers’ new movie, set in the Greenwich Village folk scene, circa 1961.

BIRTHDAYS Actor-comedian Dick Van Dyke is 88. Actor Christopher Plummer is 84. Music/film producer Lou Adler is 80. Singer Ted Nugent is 65. Federal Reserve Chairman Ben Bernanke is 60. Actor Steve Buscemi is 56. Actor-comedian Jamie Foxx is 46. Country singer Taylor Swift is 24.

can do is swallow your pride. Phone or send a letter or email saying you were wrong to have interfered, that you can see that their marriage was the right choice for them, that you are sorry for engendering ill will and that you hope they will forgive you. Add that you miss them, and ask whether there is anything you can do to improve the relationship. We hope they respond positively. Dear Annie: I am excited for the upcoming holiday party season, except for one thing: Please ask your readers to have respect for the non-drinking guests at their parties. I am in my 30s, married and a mom, and I don’t like to drink, but I feel pressured every year at these parties. I never preach about it. I simply say “no, thanks” when offered. But, my response is never re-

JACQUELINE BIGAR’S STARS

For Friday, Dec. 13, 2013: This year you open up to new opportunities once you eliminate your resistances. If you are single, you could meet someone who feels like you’ve known him or her forever. If you are attached, the two of you break tradition and attempt to get into a new sport, hobby or pastime together. The stars show the kind of day you’ll have: 5-Dynamic; 4-Positive; 3-Average; 2-So-so; 1-Difficult Aries (March 21-April 19) +++ An older relative could be changing, and this adds to your difficulty relating to him or her. Let go of your judgments. Tonight: Meet friends for some holiday cheer. Taurus (April 20-May 20) +++++ You know when you hit a wall. Accept others as they are, especially if you can’t get them to broaden their perspectives. Tonight: Join friends first. Gemini (May 21-June 20) ++ The less said, the better, especially with what you might be thinking. Go off and do your thing. Tonight: Finish up holiday errands. Cancer (June 21-July 22) +++++ Bring a morning snack for others, whether you go to the office or to the hair salon. Others naturally warm up with food. Tonight: Whatever you choose, go with others. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) ++++ You will assume a leadership position. You might want to push a friend a little off his or her safe, rigid path so that he or she can function within the parameters of a project. Tonight: Change your job description to leader of the gang.

STAY ON IT By Mitch Hubbs

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spected. Instead they say, “Oh, come on, it’s a party!” Or, “Just have one if you’re worried about driving home.” Some become quite aggressive in trying to get me to indulge. I think they are poor hosts for pressuring me. I can have a great time without drinking. — Dry in California Dear Dry: People mistakenly think they are being friendly by cajoling you past the point of politeness. You can keep saying “no, thank you” until they give up. Or, pour yourself some water in a cocktail glass. A third option is to accept a glass of wine and hold it in your hand until the party is over. You don’t have to drink ACROSS it. — Send questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190 Chicago, IL 60611.

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Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) +++++ Your mind drifts to the possibility of going off and doing something new, probably involving the holiday. At the same time, a new friend might feel a bit put out. Tonight: Where the action is. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ++++ Deal with a loved one directly who might have been touchy recently. Make plans to spend some quality time with this person in the very near future. Tonight: Share some eggnog with a loved one. Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) ++++ Refuse to cause a problem. Don’t try to manipulate or control someone else. Expect a backfire with that attitude. Tonight: Where there is Christmas music. Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) +++ You’ll be driven to get your to-do list done. Consider whether the fast pace is worth it; you don’t want to be too exhausted to enjoy Christmas. Tonight: Meet a friend. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) +++++ Where others’ resourcefulness falls flat, you’ll save the day with a wonderful idea. Use your creativity well. Tonight: Let the intensity build with a partner. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) +++ A personal matter could demand more attention than you are ready to give. You understand that this issue might need to be resolved quickly. Tonight: Head home. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20) ++++ You’ll draw others toward you, but you might not want to hear everything they’re saying. Distance yourself gently from someone who is bombarding you. Tonight: Use your imagination!

Universal Crossword Edited by Timothy E. Parker December 13, 2013

37 Kids, it’s not a trampoline 38 Guttersnipe 39 Old Toyota 40 Oceanic number? 42 “The ___” (Diana Ross ﬁlm) 43 Designs pressed into silks, e.g. 44 Passover bread (var.) 47 Mate and buena 48 Folk or fairy follower 49 Gaggle formation 51 Sum kind of snake? 52 Many lead to yards 54 Brandish 55 Neutral stocking color 56 Hardly a hit 57 Metallica drummer Ulrich 58 Gloppy stuff 59 Skateboarder Hawk DOWN 1 Havana house 2 Word with “move” or “string” 3 Dutch cheese 4 Nighttime, poetically 5 Bowl-shaped drinking vessel 6 Town terrorized in “Jaws”

1 Bird enclosure 5 Became a donor 9 Paradigm of happiness 13 Hand cream ingredient 14 Prophetic sign 15 “Don’t be a hog!” 16 Brief broadcast remark 18 Muslim maid of paradise 19 It often comes between partners 20 Like some saxes 21 Ankle-high work shoe 22 Ship’s kitchen 24 Like some tabloids 25 Bottom-row key 26 Sultanate known as “the Abode of Peace” 27 Domineering 30 Word that follows the ﬁrst word of the theme entries 31 Alternative to coffee 34 Condo section 35 Jazz great Armstrong 36 Secure Old Glory

7 White House no 8 Missouri-toMaine dir. 9 Get off the fence? 10 Show one’s amusement 11 Dress in ﬁnery 12 Chow ___ 15 Became smaller 17 Dilly-___ (waste time) 21 Willis of Hollywood 23 Endure 24 Item on a Monopoly bill 26 Bean Town skater 27 “Hey, ___!” (“Hey, fella!”) 28 Single 29 Entree addendum 30 Weighty books 32 Stray from the straight and narrow

33 Pie-mode link 35 Bathes 36 Cops, in the ’60s 38 Gil who played Buck Rogers 39 Decided on a location 41 Puts down in writing? 42 Type of apartment 43 Imagemaker’s tool 44 PC shortcut 45 Architectural ellipse 46 Crane kin 47 Dixie sailboat? 48 Crunchy munchie 50 Cable TV sports award 52 Hold out one’s paw? 53 Many a time

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Dear Annie: Both my husband and I are on our second marriages. We have tried very hard to get along with our exes, to no avail. When we invite them to go to parent-teacher conferences with us or attend dance recitals, it seems to only make matters worse. The children saw this, and it hurt them greatly. My husband and I promised each other that when our children were engaged, we would talk to them to ensure they were not making a mistake. My husband’s son got engaged suddenly at the age of 21 to his first girlfriend. My husband and I thought he was far too immature to get married. His fiancee at the time was extremely loud and boorish and also inexperienced in the dating world. We spoke to our son and explained that even if he were madly in love,

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Mom’s marriage advice makes stepson cut ties

terrorized in “Jaws”

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(Answers tomorrow) Jumbles: HARSH BRAVO SEASON FACTOR Answer: After seeing his identical twin’s new look, he said — OH, BROTHER

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