Lawrence Journal-World 02-11-11 by Lawrence Journal-World

Inviting all of family to wedding up to who’s paying Annie’s Mailbox

Dear Annie: “Sweet Sue” said she was involved with a married man. It isn’t only young people who have this problem. I met a 71-year-old married man at a senior center. He was supposedly in the process of getting a divorce. We hit it off right away and got along so well that I moved him into my home because he told me he couldn’t stand staying with his wife one moment longer. He said he loved me anniesmailbox@creators.com and wanted to be with me forcausing a g reat deal of ever. He stayed one month, then unhappiness, and I don’t know how to keep the peace slept with his wife, packed his for everyone. Please help settle this. — Distraught Mother

nineteen? 18 Go to waste

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suitcase and left. I cannot believe the lies this man told me. Young people aren’t the only ones coping with the beautiful and blissful world of love and romance. — Still Hurting

Marcy Sugar and Kathy Mitchell

— Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190 Chicago, IL 60611.

Dear Distraught: Who is paying for the wedding? If it is your daughter and her fiance, they get to determine how many guests. They can, however, give you a specific number of invitations, allowing you to make the necessary decisions about your relatives. We agree that, barring a feud, she should invite both her g reat-aunt and great-uncle, but the bride’s mother’s first cousins are a different story. If she is close to only one, she does not need to invite the others. If you want them to attend the festivities, perhaps you could offer to pay the excess costs involved.

VH1 crowns an unlikely king of rock A portrait of an unrelenting rocker at 65, the documentary “Lemmy” (10:30 p.m., VH1, VH1 Classic and Palladia) reaches levels of poignance and even pathos. And it has some “Spinal Tap” moments of comedy as well. Never married and rather proud of avoiding domesticity, Motorhead’s Lemmy Kilmister lives in a rent-controlled apartment near the Sunset Strip surrounded, if not entombed, by a lifetime of collectibles and trash. He spends hours at a stretch playing a trivia video game at the rock-and-roll bar while milking Jack Daniels and Cokes. A gruff-looking troll of a man with a gravelly delivery and a nearly incomprehensible Welsh accent, Lemmy maintains an unchanging style that is a grab-bag blend of greaser, biker, cowboy and showman. His influences are as disparate and deep as those of rock ’n’ roll. He has inspired generations of musicians and many are on hand here to sing his praises and jam with the godfather, if not the inventor, of heavy metal and thrash metal. The film is crowded with interviews with musicians James Hetfield, Lars Ulrich, Joan Jett, Alice Cooper, Ozzy Osborne, Slash, The Clash’s Mick Jones, Joy Division/New Order’s Peter Hook, IceT, David Navarro, Pulp’s Jarvis Cocker, as well as actor/musician Billy Bob Thornton and professional wrestler Triple H. All contend that he’s not only a musical inspiration but a living embodiment of the rock-’n’-roll lifestyle. For his part, Lemmy does not like to celebrate choices that took the lives of so many of his friends, including Jimi Hendrix, who was Lemmy’s boss back when he was a roadie for the Jimi Hendrix Experience. A veteran of several hard rock and psychedelic bands, who knew the Beatles and saw them play at the Cavern Club, Lemmy never succumbed to the glitz and glamour that made so many of his contemporaries so respectable. He’ll never be knighted like Mick Jagger or Sir Paul, but he’s already got a title. “(Blank) Elvis and Keith Richards,” says the Foo Fighters’ Dave Grohl. “Lemmy’s the king of rock and roll.”

Tonight’s other highlights ● Nick and Pete take the case of a man who claims to have been set up while on spring break on “The Defenders” (7 p.m., CBS). ● Tim McGraw searches his roots on “Who Do You Think You Are” (7 p.m., NBC). ● The Peanuts gang gets as romantic as their characters allow in back-to-back specials “Be My Valentine, Charlie Brown” (7 p.m., ABC) and “A Charlie Brown Valentine” (7:30 p.m.). ● Ramsay revisits some previous disaster areas on “Kitchen Nightmares” (7 p.m., Fox). ● A hitman projects a certain sense of savoir-faire on “CSI:NY” (8 p.m., CBS). ● Broyles’ absence is felt on “Fringe” (8 p.m., Fox). ● Scheduled on “20/20” (8 p.m., ABC): a family’s nine-day ordeal. ● Everything that can break, does on “Gold Rush: Alaska” (9 p.m., Discovery). ● The FactZone celebrates itself on “Onion News Network” (9 p.m., IFC).

Universal Crossword Edited by Timothy E. Parker February 11, 2011

JACQUELINE BIGAR’S STARS For Friday, Feb. 11: This year, you cannot confirm plans and conversations enough. A haze surrounds you, sometimes making it difficult to communicate. You will recharge well at home. If you are single, others will sense your intensity and interest. Expect to date a lot. In any case, you will enjoy yourself during this period. Your creativity flourishes all year. Gemini brings out the best in you. The Stars Show the Kind of Day You'll Have: 5Dynamic; 4-Positive; 3Average; 2-So-so; 1-Difficult Aries (March 21-April 19) ★★★★ Pressure builds, as at the last minute there are unanticipated changes. You could be deceiving yourself about a money matter. Tonight: Hang with a pal or loved one. Taurus (April 20-May 20) ★★★ Although you believe you are on the correct course, you do hit obstacles, especially with a boss, parent or someone you must answer to. Tonight: Your treat. Gemini (May 21-June 20) ★★★ Don't distort a situation by overthinking it. You could have yourself convinced that your way is the only way, even if the

perceived result is far from good. Tonight: On top of the world. Cancer (June 21-July 22) ★★★★ Zero in on your priorities, as uncomfortable as it might be. Listen to what is being shared. Know what you want. Tonight: Take some personal time. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) ★★★ Pressure builds with a respected person in your life. Whether there is a distortion in your perceptions of each other doesn't make a difference. Tonight: Surrounded by fun. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) ★★★★ You will be challenged to grow past the obvious and understand what is happening behind the scenes. Pressure from a daily associate or another issue keeps building. Tonight: In the limelight. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) ★★★★ Your ability to relate emerges, though you might not be seeing certain facts clearly. Your imagination plays out and can be a great source of happiness. Tonight: Take off quickly. Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) ★★★★ Let others take the lead, rather than have a conflict. You cannot talk someone out of his or her idea; therefore, step back.

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18) ★★★ You might want to stay close to home if possible. You have a lot on your mind. Though you are clear in your mind, you might sound confusing to others. Tonight: Allow your sense of humor to bubble up. Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20) ★★★★ Keep expressing your concerns in a meaningful way. You have a sense of confusion or perhaps a slant on a situation that really doesn't work. Tonight: Homeward bound.

— The astrological forecast should be read for entertainment only.

BIRTHDAYS Actor Conrad Janis is 83. Actress Tina Louise is 77. Actor Burt Reynolds is 75. Songwriter Gerry Goffin is 72. Actor Sonny Landham is 70. Bandleader Sergio Mendes is 70. Rhythm-anday is 69. blues singer Otis Cla Actor Philip Anglim is 59. Actress Catherine Hickland

is 55. Rock musician David Uosikkinen (The Hooters) is 55. Actress Carey Lowell is 50. Singer Sheryl Crow is 49. Former Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin is 47. Actress Jennifer Aniston is 42. Actor Damian Lewis is 40. Actress Marisa Petroro is 39. Singer D’Angelo is 37.

Actor Brice Beckham is 35. Rock M-C/vocalist Mike Shinoda (Linkin Park) is 34. Singer-actress Brandy is 32. Actor Matthew Lawrence is 31. Rhythmand-blues singer Kelly Rowland is 30. Actress Q’orianka Kilcher is 21. Actor Taylor Lautner is 19.

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19 Yes, in “Fargo” 23 Kind of tale 24 Tahiti, e.g. 25 What a horse eats from 27 “___ Upon a Time in America” 28 Disgusted reply 30 They’re no longer hitched 31 Racer Ricky 32 At any time 33 Sidekick 34 Warden’s fear 35 Surrender, as territory 36 Collection of some Handel bars 37 Windjammer slammer 38 Leon Uris book “The ___” 41 Local

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Dear Annie: I have some concerns about the guest list for my daughter’s upcoming nuptials. She has always been budget conscious, and I appreciate her attempts to keep the guest list to a minimum, but it’s created a problem. She and her fiance initially decided to limit the guests to those 18 and older. Unfortunately, this would have excluded her first cousins, plus some of her fiance’s close family. I suggested setting the age at 12 and above, thinking this would appease all family members and we wouldn’t have to worry about little ones disrupting the ceremony or distracting their parents. However, this resulted in a sizable disagreement, and she now has decided to include all children. I would like to share this wonderful event with my extended family and included my aunts, uncles and first cousins on my portion of the guest list. My daughter revised the list to exclude my uncle and most of my cousins. She says she is close to only one of my cousins and eliminated the rest. I explained that it is inappropriate to include one cousin and not the others, just as it is wrong to invite my father’s sister, but not his brother. These disagreements are

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