ISSUE#25 – 2/21/2024

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The Rebbe Rayatz, the sixth Lubavitcher Rebbe, tells the following story at the back of his annotated Tehillim, Ohel Yosef Yitzchak:

As children, the Rebbe Rashab (the Rebbe Rayatz’s father) and his brother, the Raza, were once involved in a discussion about the advantage of Jews. vs. non-Jews. As their discussion evolved, the Rashab pointed out that a lot of the supposed advantages that they’d discussed applied only to learned Jews and not to the unlearned. What advantage, then, did an unlearned Jew have over a gentile?

When the children’s father, the Rebbe Maharash, learned about the discussion, he called his sons to him and asked the future Rebbe Rashab, Reb Shalom Dovber, to summon his mishares, a simple Jew by the name of Bentzion.

Bentzion arrived, and the Rebbe addressed him. “Bentzion, did you eat well today?”

“What do you mean by well?” Bentzion asked. “I ate and am satisfied, Baruch Hashem.”

“What did you eat for?” the Rebbe pressed. “To live.” Bentzion responded. “And what do you live for?”

“I live to be a Jew and to fulfill Hashem’s will.” So saying, Bentzion ended off with a sigh.

The Rebbe Maharash told his mishares that he could go, and he then sent for Ivan, his non-Jewish wagon driver.

“Did you eat today?” the Rebbe asked him. “Yes,” Ivan responded.

“Did you eat well?” the Rebbe went on. “Yes.” Ivan said.

“What did you eat for?” the Rebbe asked. “I ate to live,” the wagon driver said. “And what do you need to live for?”

“So that I can drink brandy and eat some more.”

“Herein lies the difference between a Jew and a gentile,” the Rebbe told his sons. “A Jew eats to live, and he lives to be a Jew and fulfill Hashem’s commands. This is a Jew’s essence, to the point that he even offers up a sigh when he feels he hasn’t reached the absolute truth. But a non-Jew lives to drink and eat and is able to smile about that. Because his soul feels absolute pleasure just from eating and drinking.”

This week, reading our feature article “Happy, Happier, Happiest” about the different things that make people around the world happy, I was reminded of this story. The article, brought to you in honor of the month of Adar, describes the bizarre things that make people around the world happy and the interesting manner in which they may express that feeling.

Indeed, when it comes to non-Jews, they can indeed feel joyous for the many outlandish ideas described in the article. As Jews, however, we’ve been imbued with a nefesh Elokis and nothing short of getting in touch with our essence will give us a feeling of true joy. We can eat, drink and smile at amusing articles along the way, but true joy from within comes from our connection with Hashem.

Happy Adar!

The Lakewood Vibes Editorial Team

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TETZAVEH

Leora Gruen

Asking for wisdom

“And you shall speak to each of the wise-hearted people whom I have invested with a spirit of wisdom, and they shall make Aharon’s garments…” (Shemos 28:3)

The term “wise-hearted people” appears for the first time in the above passuk and then appears again in the parshiyos of Ki Sisa and Vayakhel. In Parashas Vayakehel, Moshe Rabbeinu calls upon Betzalel, Aholiav and all these wisehearted people to build the mishkan.

The expression requires explanation. What does the passuk mean by wisehearted people and who was privileged to be given the title?

Rav Chaim Shmulevitz discusses this idea in connection with Shlomo Hamelech’s request for wisdom in sefer Melochim I. When Hashem appears to Shlomo Hamelech and offers him to ask for whatever he wishes, Shlomo requests an understanding heart to differentiate between good and bad. Hashem tells Shlomo that because he didn’t ask for wealth, long life, or to win over his enemies, but rather he wanted wisdom to know Hashem, he would receive an understanding heart together with his other blessings.

To understand how to achieve wisdom, let’s look at Yehoshua ben Nun who was chosen to lead Bnei Yisroel after Moshe Rabbeinu’s death. Rashi tells us that during the forty days that Moshe was up in shamayim learning with Hakadosh Boruch Hu, Yehoshua waited for him at the foot of Har Sinai. Yehoshua left his family and Klal Yisroel for that time to benefit from being next to Moshe as soon as he descended from shamayim. Even though it would have been a few minutes to walk from the camp to the mountain, to Yehoshua it was worth staying at the mountain for forty days to receive that extra bit of shimush.

The Ramban, on Parashas Shelach 13:4, tells us that the meraglim were listed in the order of their greatness, and Yehoshua is fifth in that order. If so, why was he chosen to take over after Moshe’s passing?

It’s because, as we see from Yehoshua’s actions above, in the aspect of seeking out wisdom he excelled over the others.

From the negative pursuit of honor, we can see to what extent one might push himself to get that which he desires. In Haman’s time, the people of 127 countries and provinces subjugated themselves to Haman and bowed before him. Only one individual, Mordechai, refused to submit and this made Haman furious. “But all this is worth nothing to me every time I see Mordechai the Jew sitting in the king’s gate,” he said (Megillah 5:13), thereby setting into motion the series of events that brought about his downfall.

From the above examples, Rav Chaim deduces that a wise-hearted person is one who values wisdom, requests it, and pursues it intensely.

A famous story is told about the bachurim in the yeshiva of Volozhin, each of whom was a sharp genius in his own right. Rav Eizel Charif ztz”l, one of the giants of the generation, went to Volozhin to pick out a chosson for his daughter. There was no possible way for him to test all the young men, so instead he presented a very difficult question and announced that whoever could answer it would become his son-in-law. The bachurim lined up in front of his door and attempted to give their answers, however no one succeeded. After a few days, Rav Eizel prepared to leave Volozhin empty-handed.

As Rav Charif’s wagon reached the gates of the city, the wagon driver heard someone scream from behind, “Stop! Please wait!” The bachur, Reb Yosef Shlofer, then reached the wagon, panting. “Rebbe, what’s the teirutz?”

“Ah, did you figure out the answer?” Rav Charif asked.

“No, but I must know the answer to the question.”

“In that the case,” Rav Charif responded, “I choose you for a son-in-law. You are not chasing after honor or recognition. You love the Torah for its own sake, and I would be honored to have you join my family.”

Rav Noach Weinberg used to ask how we can truly merit to learn and keep the Torah and become wise-hearted. He answered with a true story. Once, there was a hospital that was short staffed. The directors appointed one doctor to a ward with patients in critical condition. Really, this ward required four doctors but only one was available. Before this doctor started his shift, he was warned, “The health and life of these patients is in your hands. If things are quiet, you will manage. But, if patient X wakes up and begins to scream, he will wake up the whole ward and cause pandemonium, and you will not manage. If he wakes up, don’t hesitate to call for help and we’ll send you backup.”

Sure enough, patient X woke up and pandemonium broke loose. In all the commotion, a patient who needed oxygen wasn’t attended to and died. The doctor was fired and brought to court. “I was alone in a ward which required four doctors and I did my best,” the doctor said. “I couldn’t manage alone. What else should I have done?”

“What you said is true,” the judge answered. “There was no way for you to manage alone. But why didn’t you pick up the phone and call for help?”

When we want wisdom, to understand Hashem’s ways and to learn the Torah and its truths, there is no way to manage alone. We must turn to Hashem and ask Him to help us.

Rav Noach’s great grandfather was the Admor of Slonim. Rav Noach related that once, shortly after he opened his first yeshiva for baalei teshuvah, he attended a chasunah where he met some of his Israeli Slonimer cousins. “The great admorim in Europe were so proud of their success in bringing isolated Yidden back to the fold, that this achievement is written on their matzeivos,” they told their cousin in wonder. “Rav Noach, we remember when you first arrived in Eretz Yisroel wearing a light-colored suit. How have you succeeded in bringing back so many baalei teshuvah?”

Rav Noach answered his cousins with the following mashal: On the streets of Yerushalayim, it is very common to see huge cranes carrying building supplies and unloading them at the building site where they are needed. Often, someone stands at the destination and puts his hand under the heavy load to direct it to the proper place. A foolish observer may think that this person is stronger than Shimshon Hagibbor. After all, he is holding a huge weight in his hands. But a wise man takes a step backward, sees the bigger picture, and realizes that the crane is carrying the weight and the man on the bottom is only directing it.

So too, the neviim have taught that in the days preceding Moshiach, the Jewish nation will do teshuvah and return to Hashem and His Torah. Hakadosh Boruch Hu is preparing the crane and lifting up the nation. We need to request His help and He will direct our efforts to save lost souls.

To be wise-hearted and granted wisdom is achievable, so as long as one has a true desire for it and asks Hashem for help.

Leora Gruen is an NLP business and life direction coach who facilitates networking groups for self-employed women and personal development. Her workshops are avaiable in Eretz Yisroel and internationally via Zoom.

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Reb Shabtai ben Meir HaKohen The Shach (1621–1662)

Reb Shabtai ben Meir HaKohen is known as the Shach after his most important work, the Sisfsei Kohen. This sefer quickly became one of the most important works on the Shulchan Aruch and plays a large role in determining practical halachah to this day.

During the time that the Shach lived in Vilna, he served as a dayan in the beis din of the Chelkas Mechokek (Reb Moshe ben Yitzchak Yehudah Lima).

Despite his communal responsibilities, the Shach had established hours for Torah learning when he did not accept visitors. Everyone knew this, and accepted that if they needed the Shach they had to wait until he finished learning.

Once, a man came to the Shach during the hours that he was unavailable. To people’s shock and surprise, the Shach immediately stopped learning and stood up to greet the man. The Shach then spoke with the man and escorted him out.

Other people had also come to speak to the Shach. They thought that because the Shach had stopped learning for the stranger, he would speak to them as well. They were also sure that the man was a tzaddik or adam gadol with an urgent matter to discuss with the Shach. Otherwise, they reasoned, the Shach wouldn’t have stopped learning to speak to him.

But they were soon disappointed. As soon as the Shach finished escorting the man, he went right back to learning and wouldn’t meet anyone else until the usual time.

“Rabbeinu,” one courageous onlooker asked him. “If you already stopped learning to meet that man, why didn’t

you meet with everyone?”

The Shach replied, “With this man I was mekayem the mitzvah of halvayas hameis. He is traveling out of Vilna and is about to be murdered so I stopped learning to speak with him.”

The questioner was shocked. The man whom he had just seen was about to be murdered?! But if the Shach knew that, then why hadn’t he warned the man

not to continue on his journey?

The questioner decided to run after the stranger, bring him back to Vilna, and save his life. He quickly asked around to figure out which route the man had taken. He then ran in that direction until he caught up with the man and told him everything that te Shach had said. They then turned back around in the direction of Vilna.

As they walked, a troop of soldiers passed them. By accident, a bullet was dislodged from one of the soldier’s rifles, and it struck the man, killing him on the spot.

The person who’d set out to warn the other man was beside himself. He’d

worked so hard to save the man’s life, but in the end, he was shot dead right before him. He worried that he had caused the man’s death. After all, if he hadn’t intervened, the man would not have been near the soldiers.

The man rushed back to the Shach and told him what had happened. “Rabbeinu! I think I killed the person whom you spoke to earlier!”

“You need a kapparah,” the Shach said. “But the man would have been killed anyway. He didn’t die because of you. If you hadn’t run after him, he would have kept on going until he reached the middle of the forest where he would have been murdered by bandits. His murder would have led to the arrest and punishment of those murderers. Because you intervened, however, two more Jews will have to die until those murderers are caught and removed from this world.”

In 1655, the Shach fled Vilna together with the entire Jewish community, due to fighting between the Polish forces and the invading Swedish army. (This is not to be confused with Gezeiras Tach V’Tat, which also occurred during his lifetime in the years 1648 and 1649.) He eventually became the rav of Holesov, Moravia, and remained there until his death in 1662. The Shach’s kever is in the old Jewish cemetery of Holesov, and to this day people come from all over the world to daven at it.

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The Shach’s yahrzeit is Rosh Chodesh Adar Aleph.

(Adapted from Nifla’os HaTzaddikim by Reb Yaron Amit)

Shira Yael Klein

Reb

Avraham Landau

The first Chechnover Rebbe (1784 – 1875)

In 1820, Reb Avraham Landau was appointed rav of Chechnov, a position he filled for fifty-five years until his death. (For the final seven years, he handed over much of the responsibility to his son.)

Shortly after his appointment as rav, Reb Avraham opened a yeshivah where he served as the rosh yeshivah. Many young men, who later became well-known gedolim and talmidei chachamim, learned in this yeshivah.

For years, Reb Avraham refused to serve as rebbe but in 1866, with the death of the Chidushei Harim, he was finally persuaded to become rebbe, to fill the void. He passed away in 1875 and was buried in the old Jewish cemetery of Chechnov.

The following story is told of Reb Shmuel Grodkeh, a well-to-do resident of Ostrova, Poland (modern day Ostrów Mazowiecka).

Reb Shmuel served in the Russian army and when he finally returned home after twelve years, he was totally penniless.

“Why don’t you go to Chechnov, to get a berachah from the tzaddik, Reb Avraham?” his wife suggested.

Reb Shmuel took his wife’s advice and set out for Chechnov. There, he poured out his heart to Reb Avraham.

“You should be matzliach in business!” Reb Avraham bentched him.

“But I don’t have any money,” Reb Shmuel said. “What should I do

business with?”

“With my blessing.” Reb Avraham answered.

Reb Shmuel took leave from Reb Avraham. He had no money, but he had Reb Avraham’s berachah.

He went to the market of Ostrova, emptyhanded but armed with the rebbe’s blessing, and he wandered between the farmers and merchants, face downcast. Suddenly, he saw a peasant standing next to a cart filled with grain.

“Jew, buy from me, ” the peasant called to him.

“I don’t have money,” Reb Shmuel replied.

“I’ll give you the grain now, you’ll sell it at a profit, and then you’ll pay me back,” the peasant suggested.

Reb Shmuel agreed. He took the wagonload of grain, brought it to the yard of his house, and sold it at a nice profit.

The next week, on market day, Reb Shmuel again went to the market. After all, he’d struck a deal with the peasant and had every intention of keeping to his end of it.

Suddenly, a group of peasants caught his eye. The men were all standing and listening to one peasant scream, wail, and tear out his hair.

Curious, Reb Shmuel drew nearer and saw that the man shouting was the peasant who had sold him grain the previous week. He was blaming himself for acting like a fool, giving his grain to a Jew whom he didn’t know.

“Now,” he said. “There’s no grain, no money, and the Jew is nowhere to be found!”

Reb Shmuel approached the peasant. “I’m the Jew who bought the grain from you,” he said. “I came here to find you and pay you. I have your money and will pay you now, down to the very last kopek.”

Reb Shmuel gave the peasant the money he owed, and the peasant’s eyes lit up. His whole bearing changed as he clapped Reb Shmuel on the shoulder. “There isn’t as trustworthy a Jew as you in the whole world!” he cried. “From now on, I’ll do business only with you!”

From that day on, Reb Shmuel became the trusted business partner of this peasant, his fellow villagers, and the villagers of the neighboring villages. Reb Shmuel would sell the peasant’s grain, pay them their share, and make a nice profit in between.

Reb Shmuel developed a monopoly on the local grain business and became wealthy as a result. The peasants trusted him and dealt with him exclusively, knowing that they could count on him. After Reb Shmuel’s death, the peasants did business only with Reb Shmuel’s son, who inherited his father’s profitable trade.

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Reb Avraham’s yahrzeit is Hey Adar Aleph.

(Adapted from Nifla’os HaTzaddikim by Reb Yaron Amit)

Shira Yael Klein

ELEGANCE MEETS EVERYDAY LIVING

The Guy Next Door

Ruthie Pearlman

After both Debbie and Rikki refused to shake Kenny’s extended hand, he realized that their refusal stemmed from religious reasons. He apologized quite politely to the women, but then looked at Jamie to avoid meeting any of our eyes.

When the high color in his cheeks finally subsided, Kenny asked Jamie what he wanted him to do.

“There’s five minutes missing from the CCTV,” Jamie said. “And during those five missing minutes these people’s son and brother disappeared. We want to know how, why, and who with.”

“I’m not sure I can help you with the why,” Kenny said, making himself comfortable at Jamie’s computer station. “But I’ll try and retrieve the missing footage. As long as whoever deleted it isn’t as nerdy as I am, we should be okay. Most people don’t know that stuff that’s deleted isn’t really deleted. It’s still somewhere.”

He started clacking and clicking on the keyboard while we all stood around awkwardly, trying to look like we belonged there, when we patently didn’t. After a couple of minutes of this, Kenny sighed and looked up at us. Or

rather, he swept his eyes over us and then his gaze settled on his cousin, who was trying to look busy at the other end of the desk.

“Jamie, do me a favor. Give them another game of bowling, free, if the first one was paid for. I can’t do my job with this lot breathing down my neck. I’m about to suffocate. They’re taking all my air and driving me doolallee.”

“I’m sorry,” Debbie said, stepping back. So he could breathe, I presume.

“Computer nerds,” Kenny explained, “live in a rarified atmosphere, usually in a bedroom full of routers, cables and dedicated outside lines that are ten times faster than cables anywhere else in the house, and no one is allowed to enter. On pain of death. My sister doesn’t even know what the inside of my bedroom looks like. Which is probably a good thing, as I don’t let the cleaning help in there either, so it hasn’t been cleaned for months. Except when my mother threatens me because the smell is getting too bad. Then, to keep anyone from going in to fumigate it, I clean it myself. I’m not very good at that,

Chapter 23

RECAP: The Felds are anxious about Avi’s disappearance. They head to the bowling alley early and wait impatiently for Kenny to show up at the appointed hour.

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but it keeps the wolves at bay until the next time. And what I’m getting at is that I don’t work, and cannot work, with anyone around me looking over my shoulder.”

“I think you’ve explained that really well,” Rikki said, deadpan. “Not that I’m sure about the rarified atmosphere. If the smell is really that bad, I’d hardly call it rarified.”

“Touché,” Kenny said with a grin. And then he waited until we got the point and left him alone. We didn’t fancy another game of bowling, so we just went to the café area of the bowling alley, where we ordered some cold drinks, and sat and waited, trying to look like we weren’t waiting for anything in particular.

Forty-eight minutes later, Jamie came up to our table. “I think Kenny has done it. At least he’s done something.”

We all got up so fast that two out of three of our chairs tipped back and landed on the floor. Shamefacedly, amid lots of stares from other people seated there, we righted the chairs and dusted ourselves down.

I won’t tell you which two chairs tilted and fell and which chair stayed where it was. You can probably guess. It’s a generational thing, I expect.

We went back to the front desk where Kenny was still bashing away at keys. His expression was luminous. “I had to dig quite far,” he said proudly. “Whoever deleted this, did have a fair idea of what he was doing. But I’m better. I think this is the piece of footage that you’re looking for.”

We held our collective breaths whilst he clicked on a file. There, on the screen in front of us, was Avi. Our beautiful, healthy, loving son Avi.

Debbie immediately gasped and began to cry when she saw him. So did Rikki. I, being the strong, manly type, found myself blubbing right along with them. He looked so beautiful in the bowling alley with his friends, tzitzis flying as he bowled his ball. I could even see that he got a strike. “Yay, go Avi!” I said.

The womenfolk looked at me with expressions that seemed to say: “his getting a strike is not the point of watching this piece of video.” I suppose they were right, but am I not entitled to a bit of fatherly pride?

Someone else appeared in the frame, and it wasn’t one of Avi’s friends, or Jamie. He was tall and broad, and he wore a green beanie hat and a light jacket. He went straight up to Avi and spoke to him. All of Avi’s friends stopped their game and stood around waiting for the exchange to end. They were chatting to each other, but they stopped chatting to watch Avi and this big guy. I watched Avi closely too; well, as closely as I could from the CCTV, searching for signs of stress or reluctance to talk to this fellow.

“Why wear a beanie in the middle of summer?” Debbie asked.

“Good point,” Rikki said. Then she suggested, “Maybe it’s because it hides your face better than a baseball cap. You pull it down low, and no one can see what you look like.”

Debbie and I nodded, and we all watched on.

Avi and this guy talked a bit more. His body language was interesting. I saw Avi lean in toward this guy rather than pull away. Or maybe it was my perception. Maybe the guy was leaning in towards Avi. What was pretty certain was that Avi did not pull away, turn his head away, or look panicked at all.

Then we all saw something that made us gasp collectively. The guy gave Avi something. Something small. Into the palm of his hand.

Avi’s fingers curled around this whatever-it-was. Then the guy jerked his head toward the doors of the bowling alley and said something that Rikki lipread as, “You coming?” His fingers curled upwards in a gesture that confirmed the lipreading as probably accurate.

“Nooooo, Avi. Nooooo, don’t go with him!” I found myself saying, even though I knew he had no way of hearing me, and anyway, he was long gone. But he went.

And what got me, and the women too, I’m pretty sure, was that he went willingly. He wasn’t dragged out or tied up and carried out. The guy in the beanie strolled out of the door of the bowling alley, and my son, my precious only son, who was not devoid of common sense or intelligence, just followed him. We watched closely, but once the doors closed behind them, we couldn’t see either of them any longer.

The five minutes of CCTV ended at that point. Kenny, of the hedgehog haircut and sloppy clothes, looked up at us, a question mark in his eyes.

“Please put it on this flash drive,” Rikki said in a tremulous voice, handing over a small white thing. Kenny did so and handed it back.

“Did that help?” he asked, as we were all standing there, barely able to react, let alone make a coherent remark in response. Or even to thank him. So, he asked it again. “Did that help?”

Did it help? Or did it make things even more murky and confusing for us?

We didn’t know how to answer.

Each of these puzzles stand for a phrase you often hear. Let’s see if you can figure it out!

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Rifka Schoenfeld

THE TAINTED TIARA: THE CLASS QUEEN CRISIS

“Leah, I love your hair like that!”

“What do you think, Leah. Should I trade my snack with Chavi?”

“Do you want to come to my house after school, Leah? My mother is baking cookies.”

“Leah, you are so smart!”

All the girls loved Leah. They shared their favorite pencils and always let her go first when they played hopscotch in the yard. She was the first girl to be asked over for a playdate and no one ever interrupted her when she was talking. There was no doubt that Leah was the most popular girl in the class.

But, even though Leah was the most popular girl in class, the other girls didn’t really like her. In fact, they were a little bit scared of getting on her bad side. Everyone knew that you had to be nice to Leah. If not, you might find yourself left out of the next game of dodge ball or being whispered about during recess.

Leah can best be described as a class queen. Class queens are girls who are conceited, not very nice, and rule over everyone. They cut girls out of their inner circles of friends and are always surrounded by a group of girls fawning over them.

Bullying and Girls

From the teacher’s perspective, it is often difficult to detect a class queen. As girls get older their peer interactions become less physical and more cerebral. Girls bond by sharing stories, hopes, and dreams, whereas many boys bond over shared interests such as baseball. Since girls bond differently than boys, it makes sense that when they bully it would be different too. While teachers are on often on the lookout for physical bullying, they might miss the verbal bullying that is typical of girls.

Whereas male bullies will generally chose to attack a girl or boy who they do not like, female bullies (or class queens) will choose someone who they see as a rival. They will use tactics such as alienation, ostracism, exclusion, and spreading rumors to harass their peers. Girls will form alliances with other social groups in order to become more popular and have higher social status. Girls use relationships to bully each other. This starts as early as preschool, when a girl realizes the supremacy of “I won’t be your friend anymore.” Relationships are of the utmost importance to girls in elementary and high school. They are the measure girls use to evaluate their own worth. By the third grade, the esteem and friendship of peers is nearly as important to girls as that of their families, and is more important than the esteem of their teachers. If someone threatens a girl with removing her friendship, she using the most powerful weapon in her arsenal. By threatening to withhold friendship and approval from other girls, she can effectively control a group of friends. Whereas bullying by boys is often addressed and condemned, social bullying by girls is usually brushed off as cruel but normal social interactions.

Below is a list of some of the tactics that class queens employ in order to keep their high social standing:

•Playing jokes or tricks designed to embarrass and humiliate

•Deliberate exclusion of other kids for no real reason

•Whispering in front of other kids with the intent to make them feel left out

•Making mean facial expressions, rolling eyes, and giving dirty looks

•Name calling, rumor spreading and other malicious verbal interactions

•Being friends one week and then turning against a peer the next week with no incident or reason for the alienation

•Encouraging other kids to ignore or pick on a specific child

•Inciting others to act out violently or aggressively

Effects on the Victims

Girls who are bullied socially can be seriously scarred. Loss of friendships and social status is emotionally damaging and isolation can be unbearable for the victim. This is especially true for girls because they place such a high value on friendships. In addition, many victims believe that they are to blame for the bullying and therefore deserve to be isolated. This can lead them to become more isolated and socially inept, causing a further drop in self-esteem.

At its most severe, social bullying can lead to clinical depression and anxiety. And, many times, girls who experience bullying will become reluctant to go to school – and their grades will suffer as a consequence.

How Can Parents Help

For the class queen:

•Get serious about consequences. Just because there are no physical wounds, it does not mean no real harm is being done. What would you do if your child was hitting another girl? Treat your daughter with respect, but let her know in no uncertain terms that bullying will not be tolerated.

•Instill empathy. Ask your daughter to “walk in someone else’s shoes” in order to feel how they feel. Get her involved in community service projects that help her see the plight of others. Empathy is not an innate emotion and therefore you can help your daughter develop it through careful coaching.

•Role-play. Your daughter might simply not be aware that she can act in other ways. Act out different situations – as this will both give her an alternate course of action in the future and help her see the other person’s perspective.

For the victim:

•Encourage outside friendships: Get your daughter involved in activities within school and outside of school that expose her to a different group of girls. Without the class queen making her feel unworthy, your daughter’s self-esteem will soar when she realizes that she can make new friends.

•Journaling: Expressing her feelings in a safe and private manner, will help your daughter work through her pain. Journaling can also help your daughter express happy feelings as she experiences them.

•Home as a “put-down free zone”: Do not allow people to put themselves down in your home. Create a code word that indicates negative language. If people in your home say something negative about themselves, such as, “I’m bad at writing” or “I look so big in this outfit,” use the code to signal that it is not okay. This will make your home a place where positive self-esteem is of the utmost importance.

Bullying, whether with boys or girls, is a serious issue that must be addressed in all of our schools today. But, hopefully, with a little bit of elbow grease, we will be able to ensure that those class queens are transformed into the shaina maidelehs we all know they truly are inside!

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The Junior Diplomats

“The interrogation is over,” Adolf said, spitting in Eli and Jake’s direction. “Now we want only quiet from the two of you!”

“Not another word from either of you until we come back in here and take you to a better place.” Adolf’s partner, whose name the boys had still not learned, smiled wickedly. “And that will be very, very soon.”

The Austrians got up and dragged their chairs across the room to the doorway. Eli and Jake, sitting uncomfortably on the floor, struggled to retain their composure.

“Jüdisches schwein — Jewish swine.” Adolf spat the words out, while cocking his gun at the boys from the doorway of the room.

“Too bad the boss told us not to finish you off here,” his partner added.

The men brandished their guns wickedly once more and offered a few more choice words before finally leaving the room and locking the door shut.

Click. Clang.

Eli shivered. He wished there were some way to unremember the German that Herr Schultz had taught him so as not to understand the men the next time he saw them.

What an awful language.

What awful people.

As the men continued to talk loudly beyond the door, a wave of nausea engulfed him. His stomach, unfortunately, had an inexplicable tendency to act up whenever he felt scared. “They’re not going to do anything to us,” he forced himself to whisper to Jake. He felt horrifically guilty for dragging his friend into their current mess, and wished that there were some way to calm him. “We Jews are eternal. Am Yisroel chai ”

Jake’s face was white. “Do you realize that we’re the world’s biggest fools?” he asked. “Who else walks into a lion’s den like we did?”

Eli didn’t respond. He knew that Jake had a point and he didn’t have much to offer in the way of his defense. He also didn’t have any other positive sentences to add with his stomach feeling so very queasy. With a deep sense of unease, he rubbed his shoe back and forth against the floor. Moments ago, there’d been two chairs in the room that the boys’ captors had sat on, but now that they’d taken those out with them the room was completely bare — it had no furniture.

The most remarkable thing about the room was its utter lack of remarkability and its bareness. And the single, fully barred, window across from the doorway.

It was a room that seemed almost predestined to hold hostages in it.

Indeed, perhaps the two men had chosen that apartment both because it allowed them to spy on the Katzes, and because they wanted to eventually lure a Katz family member inside.

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Recap: Two men arrive to help the Katz and Green families, but when they launch a seemingly endless list of questions without doing anything to rescue the boys, Rachel wonders if they belong to the wrong team.

Jake is right, Eli thought. I was a complete and utter fool to take him with me on such an idiotic adventure.

If — or rather, when — they finally got out alive, he’d owe it to Jake big time.

“Der Yuden… kinder spionered …. Okay, auf Wiedersehen — the Jews…. The kids have been spying… Okay, we’ll see you.”

The conversation taking place, over the phone by one of the men standing beyond their door, had a guttural and sinister flavor to it. Eli wished, again, that there were some way for him to not understand the German, but unfortunately there was none.

He understood every word.

Apparently one, or both, of his captors was briefing someone about the boys’ interrogation.

Who was that someone? Their boss?

Eli rubbed his wrists together. The men had bound his hands with a rope and he felt terribly uncomfortable.

As he looked more closely at the ropes, however, he realized that they were probably loose enough for him to remove. Perhaps his captors had applied them loosely on purpose — not expecting the boys to actually be able to go anywhere. The door to their room, after all, was locked. And the window inside was barred. Eli and Jake were being held hostage by men with guns and had no real way to go outside.

Eli looked at Jake again. His friend was busily twisting his hands in various directions to free them of the loose-enough rope. “Guys in Boston once tried to tie me up,” Jake muttered now. “But I outwitted them.”

Eli studied Jake’s movements carefully and began to mimic them. His mind churned. Who had nearly tied Jake up in Boston? And why?

Did Jake have enemies back in the States?

Or maybe his enemies were bullies.

Bullies, Eli finally decided. He’s somewhat awkward so he probably attracted them…

Eli didn’t consider himself to be socially awkward in any way, and he’d thought that he was doing Jake a favor by drawing him into the crowd.

But now, he wondered if Jake might not have been better off not to have met him.

He’d certainly have been safer.

Either way, when this escapade finally ended, Eli would owe Jake big time.

“The devices are working!” The men behind the door sounded jubilant. “We can hear the Israelis!”

Eli shuddered. If the devices in the Katz home were really working, then he and Jake were in even deeper trouble than

he’d thought. Because working devices meant that any plans that his father might be drawing up to rescue the boys could now be overheard by their captors.

“Swine,” Adolf guffawed loudly from the next room. “Their discussing the size of our apartment and its location. They don’t realize that we’ll be out of here before they put a plan into action.”

Eli’s stomach heaved dangerously. “My father won’t be able to help us if these men can overhear every word,” he whispered through pale lips. “And I’m scared to think of where they’re going to take us.”

Jake didn’t respond. Instead, he continued to twist his wrists to wriggle out of the rope that bound them. Several moments passed and, finally, he held his rope aloft.

Eli smiled sadly.

Jake’s free hands weren’t worth much with two horrible, gunbrandishing men patrolling about right night to their room.

One of the men’s phones rang.

Eli inhaled deeply as he listened to the man’s terse exchange.

“Two o’clock. We’ll leave the apartment with the cargo then. Auf wiedersehn.”

Eli glanced at his bound wrists again. His captors had taken his watch from him, but based on the angle of the sun he sensed that it was around 10:30 a.m.

That meant that he and Jake had been in captivity for nearly four hours.

If his father was indeed trying to help him, his plan was being intercepted by the men beyond the door.

What a hopeless-looking situation.

With a sigh, Eli tried twisting the rope off his wrists again.

“Everything that happens, happens with a purpose,” Jake intoned quietly.

Eli lifted his eyebrows. “What?”.

“Rabbi Zilberberg taught us that,” Jake said. “He explained that Hashem is in charge of this world, and that everything that happens, happens with a purpose.”

Eli blinked. Jake’s words, which he was quoting from their bar mitzvah teacher, weren’t new to him. It was a message that he’d heard many times in the past. But somehow, hearing the words in their current surroundings cast them into a whole new light.

What purpose could there possibly be to their captivity and plight?

What deeper reason, or good, was there to being held captive by the two sinister men just beyond their door?

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1) Which names of the םיטבש were on the first of the םהש ינבא?

2) Why did Hashem command that the לודג ןהכ should wear the םהש ינבא?

3) Why was the ןשוח called טפשמ ןשוח?

4 In which order were the names of the םיטבש on the ןשוח?

5) What does חזי אלו mean?

6) What was placed in the fold of the ןשוח?

7) Did the לודג ןהכ have the םימותו םירוא during the second שדקמה תיב?

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Two years ago on lag baomer I was buying a fire and the fire was full of cardboard and gas, papers and wood. My tzitzis we're hanging out, I didn't realize that they were hit by a piece of cardboard that was on fire that flew away from the bonfire. We finished the dancing and we went to Daven mincha, and my friend screamed to me your tzitzis are burning there was a big hole in them on the bottom of my tzitzis. I quickly took them off and stamped them out to put out the fire. Later I told my mother what happened and we realize that my pants were 100% cotton and if my tzitzis we're not hanging out I would have gotten burnt on my legs. Chas vshalom.

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It was after my class finished learning a hard chapter in math, so my teacher decided that we are going to make a math fun booklet. My class and I got to work. I worked very hard on my fun sheet, as I made “a crack the code”. The day that was the deadline, I was absent. I was so upset as I worked so hard. I decided to show the fun sheet to my mother, and then she told me that the examples did not make sense! B”h I was able to fix my mistake and I wasn’t embarrassed.

I was in Boston MA for Shabbos in a hachnosas orchim apartment. I was recovering from eye surgery that i had on Friday. It was a winter shabbos but for some reason the apartment was very stuffy and hot. We opened up the windows to get some fresh air. Later that day my mother went outside the apartment building and she forgot the combination to get back in. She was banging on the door but i was a few flights up and i didnt hear her knocking. I was getting nervous, wondering where my mother was and what was taking so long. I really wasnt feeling well and I needed her. Then my mother remembered that the windows were open. She ran around to the back of the building and screamed my name until I heard her. B”H I remembered the combination and she was able to get in. It was hashgacha pratis that the temperature was so warm and therefore the windows were open. Thank you Hashem!

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תומר תומוחה ירמוש ללוכ י’’עש ןעגערסאס הארוה תיב הזוזמ תעיבק דמעמ A kviyas mezuzah ceremony at the new Beis Hora’ah Sasregen under the auspices of Kollel Shomrei Hachomos.

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1. What sin did the me’il atone for?

2. What color was the me’il?

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5. What was kept under the choshen?

6. Which fruit hung at the bottom of the me’il?

7. What was the menorah lit with? olive

8. When the jasper stone got lost, who did the chachamim buy a new one from?

11. What article of clothing was the choshen attached to?

12. How many gemstones were on the choshen?

13. In what month did Moshe Rabbeinu pass away?

17. What material was the kesones (tunic) made of?

20. How many garments did the kohen gadol wear?

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3. How many garments did a kohen hedyot wear?

4. What korban was offered up on the golden mizbeach?

9. Which shevet did the jasper stone represent?

10. Whose names were inscribed on the avnei shoham?

14. What color were the bells on the me’il?

15. How many times in this week’s parshah is Moshe’s name mentioned?

16. At what time of day was the menorah lit?

18. What is the name of the sash that the kohanim wore?

19. What color were the clothes of a kohen hedyot?

21. Who lit the menorah in the mishkan every day?

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Moshe Wolfe making a siyom on mesechta Rosh Hashanah

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The Slabadka Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Moshe Hillel Hirsh, visited Kollel Cheshek Shlomo Friday morning. The Rosh Yeshiva held a Q&A with some Lakewood residents and afterward gave a schmooze to the yungerleit of the kollel.

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- Make Your Own -

Candied Apple Clowns

This year we celebrate Adar for sixty days, instead of thirty. Let’s commemorate that with cute and delicious candied apple clowns. These treats can be made as an Adar Shabbos dessert, or as a fun and joyous way to spice up a random Adar afternoon.

Remember to be as creative as you desire with the clowns’ embellishments!

Ingredients:

• 6-8 medium-sized apples

• 2 cups granulated sugar

• 1/2 cup light corn syrup

• 1 cup water

• 1 tsp food coloring

• 1 tsp vanilla or cinnamon extract (optional)

• White and brown chocolate melts

• Assorted colorful candies (like gummy candies, M&M’s, etc.)

• Colored icing or frosting (in tubes for easy application)

• 6-8 Ice cream cones

• Candy thermometer (If you don’t have one, see the note on what to do instead)

• Wooden sticks or popsicle sticks

Instructions:

Step #1

Prepare the Apples

Wash and thoroughly dry the apples. Insert wooden sticks or popsicle sticks into the stem end of each apple and set aside.

Step #2

Prepare the Candy Coating

In a medium-sized saucepan, combine sugar, corn syrup, and water over medium-high heat. Stir until the sugar dissolves and let the mixture come to a boil. The mixture then needs to reach a temperature of 300°F. Check this by inserting a candy thermometer into the saucepan.

Note: If you don’t have a candy thermometer, test the temperature of the syrup by dropping a spoonful into a cup of cold water. If the syrup is at the desired temperature it should form brittle strands in the water, and, when removed, those strands should crack when bent.

Step #3

Add Color

If the candy mixture is at the desired temperature, turn the flame off under the saucepan and add drops of your favorite food coloring, stirring well.

Step #4

Dip the Apples

Dip apples into the mixture, one at a time, coating fully by tilting the saucepan. Allow excess candy coating to drip back into the saucepan.

Step #5

Cool the Apples

Place the coated apples on a parchment-lined baking sheet or a silicone mat to cool and harden. Make sure the apples don’t touch each other to prevent sticking and allow them to cool completely.

Step #6

Melt Chocolate

Melt chocolate or candy melts according to the package instructions. This will serve as “glue” and additional embellishments.

Step #7

Decorate the Clown Face

Decorate the candied apples with your choice of candies, using the melted cholate to “glue” the embellishments and add splashes of color to the color. Use the decorating suggestions below, or come up with your own:

Eyes: Use melted white chocolate to form circles and place small dark cholate chips in the center of each one.

Nose: Place a small, colorful M&M in the center of the apple.

Mouth: Use colored icing or frosting to draw a smiling mouth. Add cute details like a red tongue or teeth.

Hair: Create the clown’s hair using colorful candies or licorice strips. Attach with chocolate to the top of the apple.

Step #8

Affix the Clown Hat

Use melted chocolate to glue ice cream cones to the top of the candied apples as clown hats. Add M&M buttons to each one, if desired.

Step #9

Let it Set

Let the decorated candied apples set completely. Serve and enjoy!

HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY

It’s the month of Adar which for us, Yidden, means a month of happiness and joy. The awesome Purim miracle happened in Adar which is one reason Hashem picked it as a time for happiness for years to come.

The way happiness feels inside is usually the same for most people. It’s often described as a light and warm feeling that starts in your heart and spreads from your head to your toes.

But what makes people feel happy differs from person to person. Like: some people feel happy when they get a good mark on their test; some people feel happy when it’s a beautiful, sunny day outside; and some folks feel happy when they do zany things like have a tomato fight (see below)!

How people express their happiness is also another story. And it can change for the same person depending on what they’re happy about. It can also change depending on where a person lives, what culture they come from, their personality, and even the weather! In some countries and cultures, people dance or sing when they’re happy, while in others, people express their happiness through a tasty meal. Sometimes, people show happiness by laughing or jumping around. And sometimes, like in Japan, people do this by simply smiling.

Join us now as we explore what makes people around the world happy and how they express their happiness. Because here’s the thing: As long as it’s at the right time and place, it’s totally okay for people to express their happiness by jumping up and down. Or by singing out loud.

Malkie Schulman

JAPAN: THE SUBTLE SMILE

In Japan, when people are happy, they don’t show it with big, toothy grins like you might see in the United States. Instead, their joy comes out in a gentler way. Since Japanese culture values being calm and showing respect for others, even the smiles there are softer and more controlled. Smiles in Japan can mean lots of things: from being happy, excited or thankful, to just being friendly or saying “peace” without words.

The gentle smiles of people in Japan show a deep, peaceful kind of happiness, different from the loud and super expressive ways Americans might be used to. Or the happy people in South America.

SOUTH AMERICAN FESTIVITIES

Dancing our way to South America, we find that happiness is often a loud affair. Unlike their Japanese counterparts, Brazilians, Argentinians, and other South Americans, have no problem with being noisy about their joy. Big laughs and hugs, and even dancing out of sheer happiness, is the name of the game in this part of the world. Mexicans, for instance, celebrate all their birthdays, national holidays and local festivals as colorful fiestas (parties) involving lots of lively music, dance and yummy (spicy) food.

LA TOMATINA IN SPAIN

Imagine a festival where the main event is throwing ripe tomatoes at each other! In Buñol, Spain, thousands of people come together every August for La Tomatina, a gigantic tomato fight. It’s a wild, messy, and very fun way for people to share happiness and laughter. You get to throw tomatoes, get covered in red goo, and go away very happy. I wouldn’t recommend you wear your Shabbos clothes for this kind of event, however.

RUSSIAN VODKA

Face it, Russians like to drink. For the people of Russia, it’s like Purim all year long. So, any occasion will be a cause to pull out the vodka and make a toast. and toasting in Russia is more than a simple l’chayim – it usually includes a heartfelt speech, often accompanied by short stories or anecdotes and (depending on how much vodka they’ve drunk) lots of laughter, followed by a clink of glasses. Toasting is the Russian traditional way of expressing joy and well-wishes. My only question is - which comes first? They’re happy so they drink, or they drink and that makes them happy?

FINLAND –HAPPIEST COUNTRY OF THE YEAR WINNER

Moving right along to Finland, listed as the number one happiest country in the world for the sixth year in a row, let’s look at some of the quirky ways Finns celebrate their happiness.

In a hilarious Finnish event, men race while carrying their wives on their backs. It’s a test of strength, teamwork, but mostly lots of laughter. Imagine running through obstacles with someone on your back – and yes, it looks as funny as it sounds!

If that doesn’t make you laugh out loud, try the annual ‘Mobile Phone Throwing World Championships,’ a fun and unique event where Finns compete to see who can throw a cell phone the farthest. Now, do you understand why Finland is the happiest country in the world?? Actually, I’m not so sure what’s so funny about seeing who can throw their cell phone the farthest. If they’d leave their phones where they threw them and get rid of them altogether, then I could see they’d be happier!

CHEESE ROLLING IN ENGLAND

In England, people claim to get great joy out of an event known as cheese rolling. Every spring, In Gloucestershire, England, the townsfolk chase a large wheel of cheese down a steep hill while competitors race after it. The first person to reach the bottom of the hill wins the race, and traditionally, the cheese. Despite its potential for tumbles and falls (or maybe because of it), all those who participate have an amazing time.

AFRICA: SONGS AND MUSIC

Who doesn’t feel like dancing when they hear a lively jig? Lebedig music can get you out of your rotten mood or perk you up because, uh…maybe your best friend just moved to Kansas. In many African countries, music is the way people show happiness and bring on happiness. Natives of Nigeria, for example, often spontaneously start to dance and sing when they feel happy. Whether it’s through traditional rhythmic drumming or modern Afrobeats, Nigerians use music to celebrate.

In Kenya, sharing stories and songs is a cool way to spread happiness. When people gather, they tell amazing stories and sing together, passing on ancient traditions and celebrating life. In these African countries, it’s all about being together and sharing the happy vibes with everyone in the community.

EATING ITALIAN STYLE

Everybody knows that there’s no Jewish celebration without food. All of our parties and holidays center around delicious dishes. But did you know that Italians also express their happiness through their food? Whether it’s a family gathering around a homemade pizza or friends sharing gelato (frozen desserts) on a sunny day, Italians find joy in eating together. Meals are not just about the food; they’re about laughter, conversation, and creating happy memories.

HAPPY TIMES IN THAILAND

Animal lovers will like this one. In Lopburi, Thailand, people aren’t just into making humans happy, they’re into spreading joy to their monkey buddies too. Every year, there’s this super Monkey Buffet Festival where Thais throw a giant party just for monkeys. It’s like a big feast where all the local monkeys are the guests of honor. They (the people, not the monkeys) set up tables piled with all kinds of fruits, veggies, rice, and even soda. This festival is the town’s way of saying thank you to the monkeys because they help bring lots of tourists. There aren’t any speeches or anything, but there’s plenty of music, dancing, and lots of fun. For people who aren’t afraid of monkeys, that is… Thailand also enjoys another kind of weird event called the Songkran Water Festival which many Thais look forward to. Songkran is the Thai New Year, and it’s celebrated with one of the world’s biggest water fights. For three days, people splash water on each other for good luck. It’s a joyful, refreshing way to welcome the new year and wash away the old. For clean freaks, it’s certainly a lot better than an all-out tomato fight!

From the chilly plunge into icy waters in Canada, to the laughter-filled sessions in India, there are many traditions that show us a unique side of happiness. Across the world, people have found some of the most unexpected and entertaining ways to express joy and bring on joy. Whether it’s through laughter, dance, or even a food fight, these traditions remind us that happiness can be found in the most unusual places and forms. So, next time you’re feeling down, remember the cheese rollers in England or the monkey parties in Thailand and crack a smile — any kind of smile —whether it’s a big, wide grin or just a gentle smirk. It’s amazing to think about all the wild and wonderful ways joy is celebrated across the globe!

But always remember, the best happiness, especially as a Yid, comes from deep inside, knowing that we are beloved children of Hashem and that He has created this beautiful world for our pleasure. Whether it’s the joy of keeping Shabbos with family and friends every week, our many yomim tovim sprinkled throughout the year, or the fun daily stuff we enjoy doing, happiness is what we were born for!

Happy Adar!

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Rav Yosef Efrati Inspires Kollel Cheshek Shlomo with Rare Shmuess In Lakewood Kollel Cheshek Shlomo on Sunday was graced by an address from Rav Yosef Efrati shlit”a, one of the most foremost rabbanim in Yerushalayim and a close confidante of Rav Elyashiv zt”l for more than 45 years.

Rav Efrati, who is a member of Degel’s Vaad HaRabbanim, is the widely recognized mumcha on mitzvos hateluyos ba’aretz, and he leads a kollel of some 500 yungerleit in Har Nof where the halachos pertaining to those mitzvos are studied.

The address at Kollel Cheshek Shlomo provided a rare opportunity for the yungerleit to engage directly with Rav Efrati and glean from his wealth of insight, with his shmuess covering a range of topics.

Seeing the yungerleit horeving in learning, Rav Efrati remarked: “Arayos alu mi’bavel!” - ‘Lions have risen from Bavel!’ expressing his profound joy at seeing the young talmidei chachomim who fill the Kollel’s walls with kol hatorah.

Rav Efrati further added that upon seeing the Kollel yungerleit, he is sure that this was exactly what Rav Aharon Kotler zt”l had in mind when he established Bais Medrash Govoha in Lakewood.

ללוכ עשידיסח וגאקיש יד ייב ךאוו יד ךוזאב א ףיוא דאווקייל ןעלוקסמ ר”ומדאה Skulener Rebbe of Lakewood visits the Chicago Chassidishe Kollel.

Great White Pelican

ןאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג

Great White Pelicans are majestically large birds. They actually only weigh about 30 lbs, but when they soar into the air and spread their beautiful wings it can span a length of almost 12 feet!

Their entire body is snow white, however, circling their eyes, their elongated beak (which can reach a length of 18.5 inches!) and webb feet, are colored pink-orange. Under their beak they have a huge pouch which they use to catch fish. The pouch can hold 3.5 gallons of water and fish!

ייז .לגייפ עסיורג עשיטעטסעיימ ןענעז 'סנַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' ךיז ןבייה ייז ןעוו רעבא ,טנופ 30 ךרעב יוו רעמ טשינ עקאט ןגעוו סאד ןעק ,ןעלגילפ עכילרעה רעייז סיוא ןטיירפש ןוא ןטפול יד ןיא !סיפ 12 טעמכ ןופ גנעל יד וצ ןעמוקנא רעייז ,ןגיוא יד םורא רעבא ,סייוו-יינש זיא רעפרעק עצנאג רעייז סיפ ןוא )!סעשטניא 18.5 גנאל ןייז ןעק עכלעוו( לבאנש עגנאל ,'שטוַאפ' ןזיר א ייז ןבאה לבאנש ןרעטנוא .שזדנארא-זואר זיא ןאלאג 3.5 ךיז ןיא ןטלאה ןעק 'שטוַאפ' יד .ןעגנאפ ייז עכלעוו טימ !שיפ ןוא רעסאוו

תונחמ עסיוועג .תונחמ ןזיר ןיא ךיז ןעניפעג 'סנַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' יד .לגייפ רעטנזיוט עגילדנעצ ךיז ןיא ןבאה ןענעק לאמ בור רעבא ,םיוב ןפיוא טסענ א ןכאמ ייז ןלעוו רעלעפ ענלצנייא ןיא ,ךעלעגייווצ ,זארג טימ טעבעגסיוא זיא עכלעוו ,דרע ןפיוא םתס סאד זיא .)סקניל ןטנוא דליב עז( ןלאירעטאמ עכייוו ערעדנא ןוא ןרעדעפ לאמראנ רעבא ,לאמאפיוא רעייא 4 ןוא 1 ןשיווצ ןגייל טעוו עמאמ יד ןוא געט 29-36 ראפ רעייא יד ףיוא ןציז עמאמ ןוא עטאט .2 ןייז סאד טעוו לענש רעבא ,טעקאנ ייז ןענעז ןריובעג םייב .עניילק יד סיורא ןעמוק ןאד ךאנ .)סקניל דליב עז( ראה עניורב-ץראווש ןסקאוו ייז ףיוא טעוו ךאנרעד .ןרעטלע יד יוו סייוו לאמראנ ןייז ייז ןלעוו םישדח ייווצ ךרעב ןענעק סרעלדא .ייז ףיוא ןרעקאל ךאסא ןלעוו ןטאנאמ עטשרע יד ןיא ךיוא ןלעוו ןבייל ןוא 'סלקעשזד' .רעייא יד רעדא םעניילק א ןפאכ גנירג .ןבעלרעביא ןלעוו טנעצארפ 64 רעבא ,עגנוי ןריקאטא 'סליידעקארק' סאוו ץארט ,הנכס ןייק ןיא טשינ טעמכ ןענעז ענעסקאוורע

.רעסאוו ןפיוא גיאור ןעמיווש ייז ןעוו ןפאכ ייז טייצ-וצ-טייצ ןופ ןענעק

The great white pelicans live in giant flocks. Some flocks can count tens of thousands of birds.

Very seldom, they will build a nest on a tree, but mostly they will simply build it on the ground insulated with grass, twigs, feathers and other soft materials (see picture below to left). The mother bird will lay between 1 and 4 eggs at a time, however typically it will be 2. The father and mother sit on the eggs for 29-36 days and then the babies hatch. At birth, the babies have naked skin, but right away they grow a black/brown fur (see picture left). After approximately 2 months they will become white like the adults.

In the first few months many predators will stalk them. Eagles can easily swoop and snatch a baby or an egg. Jackals and lions will also attack the young ones, but 64% will survive. Adults are almost completely protected, although, from time-to-time, as they swim calmly in the water, they can be captured by crocodiles.

טייוו טיערג' יד ראפ ןעקנאשעג טאה רעפעשאב רעסיורג רעד טימ ,לפעל-פעש עסיורג א יוו ייז טניד סאוו ,'שטוַאפ' ןזיר א 'סנַאקילעפּ .החלצה סיורג טימ שיפ ןפאכ ןוא ןעגנאפ ייז עכלעוו ןטימ פאק רעייז ןייא ןגייב ,רעסאוו יד ףיוא זייוו'תונחמ סיורא ךיז ןזאל ייז םעד ןענעפע ,)סקניל ןטנוא דליב עז( רעסאוו ןרעטנוא פארא ףיט ליומ .רעטנורא טמוק סע ראנ סאוו טימ 'שטוַאפ' םעד ןא ןלופ ןוא סיורג ליומ ןוא 'שטוַאפ' םענופ סיורא טניר רעסאוו עלא ,פעק יד ףיוא ייז ןבייה ןאד !ךעלשיפ יד טימ רעביא ןביילב ייז ןסע לאמראנ .שיפ רקיעב ןסע ןוא ,טיטעפא סיורג ןבאה סנַאקילעפּ יד רעביא שפיה ןעילפ ןלעוו ייז ןוא )טנופ א רעביא ןופ( שיפ עסיורג ץנאג ייז עקירפא ןיא .ךילגעט טסע רעדעי סאוו ,טנופ 2-3 רעייז ןפערט וצ ליימ 60 ןפראד ייז .סנַאקילעפּ טנזיוט 75 טעמכ טלייצ עכלעוו ,הנחמ ןזיר א אד זיא !שיפ טנופ ןאילימ 62 ךילרעי ןבאה עמעראוו וצ 'סנַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' יד ןטיערגיימ ,לגייפ ךאסא רעייז יוו סאד זיא ,ןעילפ ןוא ךיז ןבייה ייז ןעוו .ןסע ךיז טניפעג סע ואוו ןוא רעצעלפ ןייק ןא ןוא סיורא ךיז ןזאל תונחמ-תונחמ .דליב עדנפאכראפ-םעטא ןא ןטייצ עכלעוו ןיא ךיוא ןוא ןעמוקוצנא ואוו ךילקטנופ ייז ןסייוו סע-יפ-ישזד !'ה ךישעמ ובר המ !ןעילפוצסיורא ראי ןופ

Hashem created the pelican with a large pouch which serves as a huge ladle that they use to catch fish successfully.

They set out in flocks to the waterfront and dip their heads and mouth deep underwater (see picture below left), open their mouths wide and fill up the pouch with whatever comes their way. Then they lift their heads, all water drains out and they remain with the fish!

The pelicans have a hearty appetite and feed mainly on fish. Normally they eat pretty large fish (over a lb.) and they will fly more than 60 miles to find their 2-3 lbs that they need for their daily diet. In Africa there is a massive flock, counting almost 75,000 pelicans. They need a yearly supply of 62 million lbs. of fish!

Like many other birds, The great white pelicans migrate to warmer climates and plentiful supply of food. When they take flight it’s a breathtaking scene. Flocks upon flocks fly in the air and without the aid of a GPS know exactly their destination and also the season to migrate. Ma rabbu maasechu Hashem!

ןרעפיצ ןוא ןטקאפ

עקירפא ןוא עיזא ,עפארייא ןיא רעצעלפ עטרילאזיא :ץאלפ

רעסערג םירכז ,טנופ 20-33 :גאוו סיפ 6 זיב 4.5 ןופ :גנעל סעשטניא 18.5 זיב :לבאנש

סיפ 12 טעמכ זיב 7.5 ןופ :לגילפ

2 לאמראנ ,4 ןוא 1 ןשיווצ ,ךילרעי :רעייא רעייא ןוא לגייפ ערעדנא ךיוא רעבא ,שיפ רקיעב :ןסע סליידעקארק ןוא ןבייל ,'סלקעשזד' ,סרעלדא :םיאנוש

ראי 15 זיב :ןבעל 350,000 ךרעב :גנורעקלעפאב

TIDBITS

Habitat: isolated areas in Europe, Asia and Africa

Weight: 20-33 lbs. males larger

Length: 4.5-6 ft.

Beak: up to 18.5 inches

Wings: from 7.5 to almost 12 ft.

Eggs: yearly between 1-4, typically 2

Food: Mostly fish, also other birds and eggs

Predators: eagles, jackals, lions and crocodiles

Lifespan: up to 15 years

Population: approximately 350,000

ןזאל ןוא ןעילפ 'סנַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' הנחמ א :דליב עכילרעה א .1 .ןטנוא רעסאוו םוצ פארא ךעלסיבוצ ךיז

עסיורג-ןזיר ןייז .ןעגנאפ טגידנעעג טאה 'ןַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' א .2 .שיפ טימ טלופעגנא זיא 'שטוַאפ' .גאט ןטימניא למירד א טפאכ 'ןַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' א .3 'ירעסרונ' עצנאג א ףיוא טכא טביג 'ןַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' עמאמ א .4 ייז תעשב - ראה עיורג-ץראווש ךאנ ןבאה ייז ןעוו - ךעלקישט עניילק ןופ .טסענ םעניא ךיז ןעניפעג רעסאוו םעניא ןעוו ,ןטראב םייב טעדנאל 'ןַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' א .5 .'סָאגנימעלפ' ךיז ןעניפעג א ןטפול יד ןיא טפאכ 'ןַאקילעפּ טייוו טיערג' א :דליב שיטאמארד א .6 !רשב לכל םחל ןתונ .לשיפ

1. A beautiful picture: A flock of pelicans coming in slowly for a landing in the water.

2. A great white pelican just finished hunting. His pouch is loaded with fish.

3. A great white pelican napping mid-day.

4. A mommy pelican babysitting a whole nursery of small chicks, still in the black/grey fur, as they sit in the nest.

5. A great white pelican landing on the waterfront, and a flock of flamingos are seen in the background.

6. A dramatic picture: A great white pelican capturing a fish in the air. “He provides sustenance to every living thing.”

Motzei Shabbos Sheva Bruches for daughter of the Zvehill Rebbe

ךאבנזייא .א :םוליצ

הנרובדנמ ר”ומדאה ונב לצא ע”יז הנרובדנמ בקעי ראבה לעב תלוליה

Yurtzeit of the Beier Yakov of Nadvorna Zy”’u by his son the Nadvorna Rebbe ש”מ :םוליצ

ןאמגרעב יבצ ריאמ ’ר ןואגה תדכנל הנותחה תחמש Wedding for Granddaughter of Hagaon Rabbi Meir Tzvi Bergman

והיתתמ תיב תבישי שאר ל”צז רקבסיו ב”רגה לש ’יולה עסמ Levayah of Hagaon Rabbi Boruch Weisbecker Zt”l Rosh Yeshivas Beis Matisyahu

ץיבוקרפ הדוהי ,ררל יקוש :םוליצ

יולרעמ ר”ומדאה ןינל תירבה תחמש Bris for a Great grandson of the Erlau Rebbe

רעטכירט ימולש :םוליצ

ןאיאבמ ר”ומדאה לצא ע”יז ןאיאבמ המלש יכדרמ יבר ק”הרה תלוליה

Yurtzeit of Rabbi Mordchai Shlome of Boyan Zy”u by the Boyan Rebbe

רעטכירט ימולש :םוליצ

גרובסלראק – טסוח - ץיוואנרעשט תיבב הנותחה תחמש Wedding in Courts of Chernovitz, Chist and Karlesburg ה”א :םוליצ

יברעמה לתוכב הליפתב אקווירטסמחארמ ר”ומדאה Rachmestrivkah Rebbe Davening at the Kosel

ותדכנ

תארקל ראמטאס יר”ומדא ןויצל ’ילעב ראמטאסמ ר”ומדאה Satmar Rebbe davening at the Ohel Admorei Satmar in Preparation for his Granddaughters Wedding ןייטש .י :םוליצ

דאווקיעלב רוקיבב ןילראק קסניפמ ר”ומדאה Pinsk Karlin Rebbe visits Lakewood

והיתתמ

Nichem Avelim by the family of Hagaon Rabbi Boruch Weisbecker Zt”l Rosh Yeshivas Beis Matisyahu

יאושינ תחמש

תיב תבישי שאר ל”צז רקבסיו ב”רגה תריטפ לע םילבא םוחינ

WEIGHT LOSS FOR NURSING MOMS

Women who give birth (minus a few very lucky ones) have weight to lose. Nursing moms have added challenges. Since nursing burns a lot of calories, moms who nurse tend to feel much hungrier. Exhaustion (typical for new moms) is also a weight loss barrier, both physiologically and mentally. Physiologically, it is hard for the body to burn calories when it is tired. Mentally, it is very hard for us to make good food choices when we are exhausted. Here are tips to combat some of a nursing mother’s challenges.

Practical tips and suggestions:

1) A nursing mom should be eating an extra 500 calories a day!

This is even more than the 300 calories recommended for a pregnant woman. Nursing burns a lot of calories, and those calories need to be replaced. The key is to use these calories wisely and make good choices. You will be a lot more satisfied with an extra piece of grilled chicken and an extra serving of rice versus a bag of potato chips or chocolate.

2) Be very prepared for nighttime nursing.

Have cut-up veggies and fruits in the refrigerator. This way if you do start opening the fridge in search of “something” you are more likely to choose less damaging food.

If you give the baby a bottle in the middle of the night, keep a small refrigerator and hot water upstairs. One client was great on her food plan all day and always cheated at night when going downstairs to make the baby a bottle. Once she began keeping the items she needed upstairs, she saved herself a trip downstairs (and the extra calories).

3) Stay busy while nursing.

In an ideal world, you are supposed to bond with your baby for the entire duration of the nursing session. In real life, this does not always happen. Many women tell me they get “bored” or “restless” while nursing and end up munching the wrong foods. My suggestion is to plan ahead with things to do. Listen to a lecture, make some calls you need to handle, prepare books and magazines you might want to read, etc. You can also sing or read to the baby as well.

Happy Nursing! (And getting back to yourself!)

5 MORE TIPS FOR STEADY WEIGHT LOSS AFTER A BABY

1) Nursing is NOT a reason to “eat for two” again. Nursing moms require an average of an extra 500 calories a day. That’s 500 extra healthy calories and not more.

2) Change your attitude and the number on the scale will change too.

So often I hear women saying they don’t think they can ever look the way they did before the baby, at their wedding, etc. My response to that is “Why not”? Anyone at any stage or age can be in shape. In fact, many of my clients will say they look and feel better than they did before their baby.

3) Monitor, monitor, monitor.

In order to succeed, you must have a system of tracking progress. Some examples of monitoring include a weekly weigh-in, monthly measuring of inches and body fat, tracking food in a journal, or ideally, all three.

4) Stop waiting for it to come off “on its own” or “melt away.”

Have you noticed that it’s not going to happen? Okay, there are a few very lucky people to whom it may happen. Chances are that you (and I) are not one of them. There are no shortcuts or magic to getting in shape.

5) Don’t forget to exercise.

Dieting is important and if you are eating right, you will see the results on the scale. However, if you want your “old body” back (or even a better one), exercise is the key. Strength training, weight lifting, and Pilates are examples of workouts that will firm you up, help you lose inches, and get rid of that unwanted flab.

Make sure to take some time and care of yourself. A healthy and fit mommy is a happy one. ������������

Tanya Rosen is the owner of Nutrition by Tanya and Sculpt by Tanya with 12 locations in NY, NJ, and Israel with 2 locations right here in Lakewood and Jackson. Tanya is also the creator of the TAP food line, Shape Fitness kosher workout DVD’s, and Cooking with Tanya cookbook series.

אטעג-עשראוו ןופ רעדניק

2,500 טעוועטארעגסיורא

טאה עכלעוו ,רעלדנעס אנעריא

רעשעלפ ןיא רעדניק

:רעירפ ןופ ןצרוק ןיא

ריא טימ ןפלעה וצ טיירג ריא ןענעז עכלעוו ןריטנולאוו ןופ ץענ א ףיוא טלעטש ,עשראוו ןיא ארויב טעברא-עלאיצאס םעניא גידנטעברא ,רעלדנעס אנעריא עכילקערש יד טנאנ רעד ןופ וצ טעז ןוא סאפּ לארטנאק-עימעדיפּע ריא טימ אטעג ןיא ןיירא טייג יז .ןטנעמוקאד ןשלעפ ןופ טעברא עשיאארעה ,עטגאוועג טנאלפּ יז זא ריא טלייצראפ ןוא רתסא ןידניירפ עשידיא ריא טימ ריצאפּש א טפּאכ אנעריא .ןדנואוושראפ ןרעוו תוחפּשמ עצנאג יוו ,אטעג ןיא ןדנעטשמוא .אטעג ןופ רעדניק ןעוועטארוצסיורא !גנונאפּש טימ רעטייוו טנייל

עלעגנוי א :22 לטיפאק

שזארוק בעג'כ ןוא ןסע ףאשראפ'כ .רעדניק ןטימ ,ןייפ ןייז לעוו'כ .ךעל'םימותי יד ראפ .ןייגרעבירא טעוו סע .ףליה ס'רעפעשאב

".אנעריא ,ןעז ךאנ טסעוו ןיב'כ .רתסא ,טניירפ עטנאנ ןיימ טסיב וד" .גינייוועניא אד ןעז וצ ריד גירעיורט רעייז ".ןפלעה ריד ליוו'כ יד .אנעריא ,טייקראטש ןייד טלאה" ןרעגלאוו עכלעוו ךעל'םימותי ןוא סרעראנש ךיא .ףליה ןייד ןפראד ןסאג יד ףיוא ךיז טייקמעראוו לסיבא – ןעניואוו וצ ואוו באה סאד ןוא םעלא רעביא .ןסע לסיבא ןוא ןוא .החפּשמ ןיימ באה'כ ,עטסגיטכיוו

".לאומש ךיוא באה'כ

"?לאומש רעד זיא רעוו" ךיז סנטצעל טאה רע .ןיזאק ןיימ זיא רע"

".ייצילאפּ עשידיא יד ןיא ןסאלשעגנא

ןבאה םינפּ ן'פיוא ןסאמירג ס'אנעריא יד רעביא טכארט יז סאוו טגאזעג ראלק .ןטנאיצילאפּ עשידיא א זיא'ס" .טגאזעג רתסא טאה ",ןיינ ,ןיינ" עגנוי ךאסא .ןוטעג טאה רע סאוו ךאז עטוג

ןייא ןופ ןייג ןעק ןעמ ןכלעוו ןופ ,רעלעק םוצ ".ןטייווצ םוצ עדייבעג קע :קאש טימ טרעהעגסיוא טאה רתסא ,רעהא רימ טימ טנייה טמוק אלעבאזיא"

ןיא לענוט םעד ןייגכרוד ןלעוו רימ ןוא סע ןלעוו רימ ביוא ןריבורפּוצסיוא ,רעלעק ךיז טסלאז וד זא קשח באה'כ .ןצינ ןענעק ךיז טעוו סעלא ביוא .אלעבאזיא טימ ןפערט

".ריא ןופ רעמ ןרעה וטסעוו ,ןטעבראסיוא טסייוו וד" :טגיילעגוצ טאה אנעריא רעווש ןייז טשינ ללכב טעוו סע ,רתסא סייוו'כ .אטעג םענופ ןעמענוצסיורא ריד "...ןשטנעמ טסנעק" :ןכאל ןביוהעגנא טאה רתסא קוק ?זאנ עיינ א ןפאש ךיוא רשפא רימ ןענעז ןכירטש עשידיא עניימ .ןא רימ ןעק אטעג יד .םינפּ ןיימ ףיוא ןסאגעגסיוא א וליפא רעדא עמרוט א יוו ןייז עקאט ןענעז ,רעיומ םעד ןופ ןסיורדניא רעבא ,וז ךיא באה ,אד .תויח עטגאיעג יוו עלא רימ ליצ

רעבמעצעד ,עשראוו

.1941 ראונאי1940ןעמאזוצ ןבאה רתסא ןוא אנעריא טנאוו ן'פיוא .סאג אנשעל טריצאפּשפּארא יוו טשינ .טאקאלפּ רעיינ א ןעגנאהעג זיא ןטלאהטנא ןגעלפ עכלעוו ךעלטעצ עלא עלאגעל עכילדנעטשראפמוא ,עגנאל ךאסא טאהעג טאקאלפּ רעד טאה ,ןענימרעט – ןדיא" :רעטרעוו ע'טושפּ ,עכילטע זיולב ראנ ,אטעג ןיא ראנ טשינ ".סופיט – זייל ןבאה ,טנגעגמוא ןוא עשראוו ץנאג רעביא עשיטימעסיטנא יד ןעגנאהאב ןשטייד יד .ןטאקאלפּ טאה ,זיוהטכירעג םוצ גידנעמוקנא ןוא גנאגניירא םייב טלעטשעגפּא ךיז אנעריא זיוהטכירעג סאד" :רתסא וצ ןפורעגנא ךיז ;ןסיורדניא בלאה ןוא אטעג םעניא בלאה זיא ןוא ןצרעוושוצכרוד ךיז ןגעוו אד ןענעז סע אלעבאזיא .ןריט עטכאמראפ יד ןייגכרוד םענופ רעגינייר םעד טוג ןעק אקסוואקזעק ןעלסילש יד טאה רע .ףעסאשזד ,זיוהטכירעג

ןוא ןשטייטרעביא וצ ,ןטאדלאס רעניווטיל

ךיוא ןענעז טראד .סרעשטעמלאד סלא ןעניד

.ןטנאיצילאפּ עשידיא עכילטע ןעוועג

יוו ןעזעג אנעריא טאה ,רעביא ןגעק ןופ טימ םורא טכאל ןוא טסעומש לאומש יוזא

טלאה סאווראפ' .ןטנאיצילאפּ עשיליופּ יד רעשידיא א ןייז וצ ךיז טניול סע זא רתסא ,ךיז וצ טכארטעג אנעריא טאה '?טנאיצילאפּ זא גידנקרעמאב ןוא לאומש ףיוא גידנקוק םעניא ןדיא עלא יוו ראד יוזא טשינ זיא רע

.אטעג

יירעבייר א טרעהעג ןעמ טאה גנילצולפּ

רעיומ יד רעבירא ןופ רעדורעג א ,סיפ ןופ רעדא ףניפ ןופ רעמ טשינ ,עלעגנוי א ןוא

גנונעפע יד ןסירעגכרוד ךיז טאה ,ראי סקעז םיא טאה גידנפיולכרוד .רעיוט םענופ

-ראג ןייז ייב טפּאכעג ,טקרעמאב לאומש

ןענעז סיפ עניילק ענייז זא לטנאמ רעסיורג

ןבעגעג טאה לאומש .טפול רעד ןיא ןבילבעג

ףיוא עקייגאנ ענימוג ןייז טימ סיימש א טאה דניק סאד ןוא ךעלעסיפ עניילק ענייז

גידנעיירש ,דרע ן'פיוא טעקסארטעגפּארא

ךאנ ןבעגעג םיא טאה לאומש .תוללי טימ

טימ ףייפ א טזאלעגסיורא ןאד ןוא סיימש א טנאיצילאפּ רעשידיא רעטייווצ א .רעפייפ ןייז םיא ייז ןבאה ןעמאזוצ ןוא ןעמוקעגנא זיא .אטעג ןיא טפּעלשעגניירא קירוצ ,טונימ עכילטע טראוועג טאה אנעריא

ואוו עקדוב םוצ ןעגנאגעגוצ יז זיא ןאד ןוא ריא ןזיוועג טאה יז .ןענאטשעג זיא לאומש לארטנאק-עימעדיפּע ןוא 'עטראקננעק' טאה רע .ראדנאשז ןשטייד ןראפ סאפּ

ריא ןוא ףיורעד קילב א טפּאכעג םיוק

-טנאה ריא ןיא ןקוקניירא ןא טזאלעגכרוד .לקעז

:ןיזאק ס'רתסא וצ ןעגנאגעגעגוצ זיא יז

"?אי ,לאומש טסיב וד"

"?קוליח א זיא סאוו"

".ןאמטכער רתסא טימ ןידניירפ א ןיב'כ"

ךיז רע טאה עמיטש ערעגיאור א ןיא

"?ריד ראפ ןוט ךיא ןעק סאוו" :ןפורעגנא

"?טאווירפּ ןדער רימ ןענעק"

ןיא טריצאפּשניירא טאה רע ".רעכיז" עקערטש עצרוק א ,אנעריא טימ אטעג ןיוש ךיז ןבאה ייז ואוו ,לסעג ןיילק א ןיא .ןדיא רעטרעדנוה ןשיווצ טשימעגסיוא .טגערפעג ריא רע טאה "?וטסליוו סאוו" דניק סאד" :ןגערפ טזומעג טאה אנעריא טעוו סאוו ,טפּאכעג סאווראנ טאה ןעמ סאוו "?םיא טימ ןריסאפּ

א ןבעגעג טאה לאומש ענימוג ןייז טימ סיימש עניילק ענייז ףיוא עקייגאנ דניק סאד ןוא ךעלעסיפ

טעקסארטעגפארא טאה גידנעיירש ,דרע ן'פיוא .תוללי טימ

רתסא טאה ".אנעריא ,קראטש ןיב ךיא" סע זא ןטלאה אד ןשטנעמ ךאסא" .טגאזעג .טפארק ייצילאפּ ענעגייא ןא ןבאה וצ טוג זיא ןדער ןענעק עכלעוו ,רעדורב ענעגייא ערעזנוא .דיא א זיא סאד סאוו ןעייטשראפ ןוא שידיא ןענעז רימ .טכערעג זיא לאומש זא ןיימ'כ יד ןופ תונמחר יד ףיוא ןדנאוועגנא טצעי וצ ראנ ,הרירב ןייק טשינ ןבאה רימ .ןשטייד .ןצעזעג ןוא תוריזג ערעייז עלא ןגלאפסיוא טאה סאוו טנאיצילאפּ רעשידיא א רעסעב רענעסערפעגנא א יוו ,רעוולאווער ןייק טשינ טפּאזעגנא זיא סאוו טימעסיטנא רעשיליופּ ".ןדיא וצ האנש טימ ***

ןגיטסארפ א ןיא ,ךאנרעד געט עכילטע ייב ןענאטשעג אנעריא זיא ,גאט ראונאי עטייוו א ןופ .אטעג םוצ ןרעיוט יד ןופ ענייא רעד ,לאומש טכארטאב יז טאה ,עקערטש טרילארטאפּ רע יוו ,טנאיצילאפּ רעשידיא .ןסאג עכילטע

ןטנאיצילאפּ עשידיא יד ןופ ןרידנומ יד קאר רעצראווש א – ענדאמ ןעוועג ןענעז רעגנאל א ןטייצ ערעדנא ןיא ,רעמוז רעד ןיא ;ףיורעד קיסאפּ א טימ ,לטנאמ רעלעקנוט עצראווש א ;לספּינש א ןוא דמעה עסייוו א עגידענייש ;ףיורעד דוד-ןגמ א טימ לטיה ףיוא .ןקעטש רענימוג א ןוא לוויטש עכיוה -ןגמ םעד רעטנוא ,למרע עטכער ס'לאומש -םערא ייצילאפּ-עשידיא ןייז ןעוועג זיא ,דוד .דנאב -אטעג ענעמונראפ-ראג יד ןופ עדעי ייווצ ךרוד טכאוואב ןעוועג זיא ןרעיוט ןבאה עכלעוו ,ןטאדלאס עשטייד ןופ ןטנעמוקאד ןוא ןריפּאפּ טקוקעגכרוד ןענאטשעג ןענעז ייז ןבענ .רעייגייבראפ יד רעדא רעניירקוא לאמוצ ןוא ,ןקאלאפּ ייווצ

ערעייז ןיא ןסאלשעגנא ךיז ןבאה ןשטנעמ ראפ קראטש ראג ךיז טגראז לאומש .ןעייר ןטנאיצילאפּ עשידיא יד .החפּשמ רעזנוא ןוא ךעלטראק-ןענאיצאר עגירביא ןעמוקאב ןרעטלע עניימ .זייפּש רעמ ייז ןבאה יוזא ןא זיא רע ;לאומש קראטש ןריטקעפּסער .ןסע וצ סלא זנוא טגנערב רע ןוא רעכילרע .ךילרע יוזא טשינ זיא ,םהרבא רעדורב ןיימ ןופ שפנ-תמגע ךאסא ןבאה ןרעטלע עניימ רעדילגטימ יד זא ךיוא ט'הנעט םהרבא .םיא ןטנאיצילאפּ עשידיא יד ןוא 'טארנדוי' םענופ ןוא ןפלעה עכלעוו ,ןראטאראבאלאק ןענעז ,ריד גאז'כ רעבא .ןשטייד יד טימ ןטעברא ".עטוג יד ןופ זיא לאומש ,ןגאז סעפּע טלאוועג טאה אנעריא טאה רעגניפ עטראדעגסיוא ס'רתסא רעבא טאה יז ןוא םערא ריא ףיוא טפּאלקעג טסנעק וד" :ןאט ןכייוו א טימ ,טצעזעגראפ וצ זיא סע יוזא יוו ןלעטשראפ טשינ ךיז טשינ טסייוו וד .אנעריא ,גינייוועניא אד ןבעל גאט ןצנאג א ןעמונראפ ןייז וצ טניימ סאוו .קראמ ןצראווש ן'פיוא ןסע סעפּע ןכוז וצ ןעוט עלא רימ .ןלאנימירק ןענעז עלא רימ עלא יד .ןזומ רימ סאוו ןוא ןענעק רימ סאוו טיוט ןענעז ןצעזעג יד סיוא ןגלאפ עכלעוו ".ןיהא געוו ן'פיוא רעדא אנעריא טאה טמעשראפ גידנריפּש ךיז ןיימ ,רימ בעגראפ .טכערעג" :ןפורעגנא ךיז ןעוועטאר ראנ ריד ליוו'כ ...טניירפ ערעייט ".םעלא םעד ןופ .טרעקעגקירוצ ךיז טאה לכיימש ס'רתסא ןגעוו .ךיא גנאלאב אד ,ערעייט אנעריא" וד :ךאז ןייא ןגאז ריד ךיא ליוו לאומש לפּעק טוג א טאה רע .םיא וצ ןייג טספראד זנוא טגנערב רע .ץראה ענעדלאג א ןוא טימ ןטקאטנאק ךיוא ןוא זייפּש ךאסא ךיז ןזאלראפ ןשטייד יד .רעלגומש עשירא ייז ןופ ןעמעוו טוג טסייוו רע ןוא םיא ףיוא ".ןפיוקרעטנוא ןעק ןעמ .טקעוורע ךיז טאה עסערעטניא ס'אנעריא סעגירטניא טכוז סאוו חומ ןיא לרעמעק סאד טאה יז .ןדניצעגנא ךיז טאה ךעלדיירד ןוא אזא ןופ ןצינ ןבאה ןעק יז זא טסואוועג זיא רתסא .לאומש יוו טנאיצילאפּ רעשידיא יוו ןטכארט סלא ףראד ןעמ ;טכערעג ןעוועג .לאנימירק א

-רעטסעווש ןייד טימ ןפערט ךיז ליוו'כ" םיא ליוו'כ" .טגאזעג אנעריא טאה ",דניק ןדירפוצ טסיב וד זא .טנאנ רעד ןופ ןענעק ".ןייז ךיוא לעוו ךיא זא ךיא ביילג ,םיא ןופ

Chinese Chicken and Fried Rice

3 SERVINGS 1 HOUR

INGREDIENTS

1 cup Brown Rice (dry, rinsed)

3 tbsps Sesame Oil (divided)

2 Egg (whisked)

1 lb Chicken Breast (chopped)

1 Red Bell Pepper (medium, diced)

1 cup Snow Peas (chopped)

4 stalks green Onion (chopped, plus more for garnish)

2 Garlic (clove, chopped)

3 tbsps Tamari

DIRECTIONS

Cook the rice according to the package directions.

1. In a large wok or pan, heat 1/3 of the oil over medium-high heat. Add the eggs and scramble them until fully cooked. Remove eggs and set aside.

2. In the same pan, add the remaining oil. Cook the chicken for three minutes over medium-high heat.

3. Add the bell peppers, snow peas, green onions, and garlic to the pan. Stir-fry until the chicken is cooked through and the vegetables are tender-crisp, three to five minutes.

4. Stir the rice and eggs into the chicken and vegetable mixture. Add the tamari and mix to coat.

6.

5. Garnish with green onions (optional) and enjoy!

8 servings20 min

Orange Cranberry sauce

ingredients

2 cups Frozen Cranberries

1 Navel Orange (large, juiced, zested)

1/4 cup Maple Syrup

1/8 tsp Sea Salt

1 1/2 cups Water

directions

Add all of the ingredients to a small pot over high heat. Bring to a boil and then reduce the heat to a simmer and cover. Cook for 12 minutes.

2.

1. Gently mash the cranberries with a wooden spoon. Put the cranberry sauce into a jar and let it cool on the counter before storing. Enjoy!

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And a pair of black high heels size 40 for 150 company name Louis Vuitton value at 1,500 Please leave a message at 848-224-3873

Dress for sale

Stunning black dress , size 4, worn once. Orig. $700, rent $230/ sell $400 neg. call/ text. 848-223-1904

Stunning Black and Floral gowns for rent/ sale. Girls Zoe size 8 and teens 12/14 and ladies size 6 and 8, Text 732-497-8671

Dresser, Nightstand, Mirror

Dark grey wood. Dresser and nightstand have a glass top. Very

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good condition. Selling as a set for $300. Call or text 347-491-9184

Brand New Recliner

Beautiful slim modern recliner for sale. Very comfortable. $250. call or text 347-491-9184

Perfect condition starters DJ board with case (Hercules Dj control impulse 200). call 848-469-9516

Elliptical Bike

Proform 2-in-1 elliptical + bike. Perfect condition. $300. Call or text 347-491-9184

Like new Frederique

Constant mens watch with black leather band - barely worn. $550 obo. Call or text 248-607-1802

Selling fridge about 3-4 cubic feet excellent condition $95 call only no text 732-228-2103

Selling new open box manfrotto gimbal for $250 sold on manfrotto website for $699 call only 732-930-0035

Gown for sale/rent

Updated Ivory teen/ladies gown size sm. Lots of room to let out . Petticoat included. $200 rent / $285 buy OBO. Call/text 848 525 9077.

Gown for sale!

Cream and gold women size 12/14, Beautiful & Slenderizing! Selling for $275 obo! Text 848-525-9077

Magnificent Brand New

Green gown available

for Rent/sale. Costum made, size 2. Text for pics/call 718-669-1271

Van/Car For Sale

2016 Mitsubishi Outlander SE

112,000 miles new brakes and rotors. Drive good, 7 seats, Text 646-342-5457

2017 Buick Enclave Premium Suv

Fully loaded ,Leather Seats, 7 Seats 105,000 miles $11,900 obo 732209-1017

Handyman

Highly experienced and reliable handyman for any type of work! Very reasonable rates. Please call/text/

WhatsApp: 845-584-2432

Babysitting

Experienced Morah

Available for subbing Monday – Thursday, Available for evening and overnight babysitting Bergen/clover area. Call 732.503.8590 / Text 347.409.6070

Tutors/Courses

Att: high school / seminary girls or anyone else that wants to tutor. Kriah to Perfection is offering private or group Kriah courses multi sensory approach. Bonus Watch Actual Session. Also Available for Private Tutoring

732-503-8590/347-4096070

Issues Rebbe

Shyness, social issues, won’t join in sports, speaking up/ in front of the class, etc

Many years of experience..proven track record..Let me help your son! 718-614-1141

Lost and Found Found

Shaitel on White Dove Court 732-233-8786

Gemachs

Beautiful current style and current season children, teen, infant dresses avail for a Simcha, such as brothers bar mitzvah or cousins wedding...Call\ text 7326911666 to inquire Lzchus r’s refael Moshe Chaim ben chana

New tznius hospital gowns in Oak and Vine. Please call: 347-486-2994 or 347633-6329

Vort Dress Gemach

If you have a perfect condition Simcha dress that you would like others to benefit from, please call/ text (848) 245-2633.

The Pickup Gmach-Picking up your current last season’s kids clothing in good condition and passing it on to local Lakewood families who appreciate it and wear it right. We keep outfits and matching together as sets. For pickups email

pickupgmach@gmail. com

Free Giveaway

Bunny with a cage pleas call ben at 848-224-1346

Brand new bumper for a Toyota Camry 2002-2004, no fog lights please text 908-943-8537

Driver/Delivery

Need a Driver?

Heading to airport? Need a driver by the hour?Need a package delivered? Call/ text/WhatsApp to schedule your affordable ride! 347-391-4301

Misc.

Mishnayos for the Kedoshim

Many of those killed on Simchas Torah and during the current war may not have ppl to learn Mishnayos/say Kaddish for them. Please learn a perek/ mesechta Leili Nishmas text 201-241-2875

Ayin Horah

The renowned Rebetzin Aidel Miller from Yerushalayim Is now available to remove “Ayin Horah” over the phone. Call till 5:00 PM: 718.689.1902 or 516.300.1490

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