ISSUE#26 – 2/28/2024

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In this week’s issue of Lakewood Vibes, we welcome back an old and beloved column, Vibes of Humor. With war raging in Eretz Yisroel we put the column on hold for a while, but now that Adar is upon us—and with two Adars this year, at that—the column is back. The wit and humor of the bimonthly column is sure to add to your experience of joy and simchah this month.

The war in Eretz Yisroel is not yet over, and our tefillos are sorely needed in that realm still, but there is little that can overcome the enemy like the joyous certainty that we will win. “Simchah poretz gader — Simchah has the power to break all boundaries.” This is a Chassidic concept, attributed to the fifth Lubavitcher Rebbe, the Rebbe Rashab, and it has been proven time and again. When we are joyous, we can achieve so much more than when we are sad, worried, or anxious. And this is true, even more so, in times of distress.

Eis tzarah hi L’Yaakov. We are still in Galus and are keenly aware of that fact every day. And yet, as the pessukim tell us: “All these curses will befall you… because you did not serve Hashem, with happiness and with gladness of heart…” (Devarim 28:45-47).

Happiness is an antidote to so much suffering, and true joyousness comes from within. It comes from the certainty that Hashem is with us at every moment

of the day and night, and that we are constantly enveloped by His presence — in times of good and lesser good.

The return of our Vibes of Humor is meant to offset that joy and knowledge from within. And we’re sure that you’ll find this week’s article especially enjoyable.

On the subject of joy and its power, I recently heard the parents of freed hostage, Sapir Cohen, speak. Sapir’s mother said that people came from all over to try and offer comfort during her daughter’s time in captivity, but people were also clueless as to how to do so. They’d come into the house with lowered heads and a look of sad commiseration on their faces, but the hostage’s mother would tell them: “Not here. In this house we’re joyous. That’s our way to win them.”

Indeed, the approach worked. Sapir is now safely back home.

Joy has so much power. It’s our job to tap into it. And to believe that things will indeed turn around and that we will be surrounded by only revealed good.

On the subject of joy and happiness, you’re sure to enjoy our craft l’kavod Adar this week. Send in photos of your creations. We’d love to see them!

Have a great week!

The Lakewood Vibes Editorial Team

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Blurred Lines Between Good and Bad

When Moshe descended from Har Sinai, the passuk describes what he saw. “Moshe drew near the camp and saw the calf and the dances, and he was angry. He threw down the luchos and broke them at the bottom of the mountain.” (Shemos 32:19)

The chet haegel is one of the most puzzling incidents in the Torah. Rashi explains that this sin brought about serious repercussions as its punishment is included in every punishment that Hashem gives us for our sins. What was Klal Yisroel’s sin? What makes it so serious? And why did Moshe take the irrevocable step of breaking the luchos, the work of Hashem?

Chet Haegel took place forty days after Matan Torah, the biggest revelation of Hashem’s presence in history. Not long before that, the Yidden experienced numerous miracles leaving Mitzrayim and crossing the Yam Suf. Yetzias Mitzrayim came on the heels of seeing a year of punishment being meted out to the Egyptians. How could things have turned around so badly?

The Ohr Hachaim explains that the egel was not typical idolatry. The Yidden wanted to create an intermediary between Hashem and themselves. They feared that Moshe had disappeared and they would therefore no longer be able to connect to Hashem. They wanted to use the egel to enable them to connect. They even thought that it was appropriate to use the form of a calf because at the time of Matan Torah the Heavens opened and they saw the Kisei Hakavod with the image of a calf engraved upon it.

Rav Pam explains that when a person openly serves idolatry, people can see and protest, or they can stay away from him. But when someone disguises evil intentions by making it seem like he is pious, this poses a big danger to anyone who doesn’t understand what is truly happening. Klal Yisroel believed that Hashem would be pleased if they created an intermediary in the form of a calf. They began with good intentions, but their actions spiraled out of control leading to the terrible aveiros of murder and immorality.

The basis of Klal Yisroel’s sin was the lack of separation between the holy and the mundane, the blurring of the lines between kedushah and tumah.

The Jews’ belief in Hashem was intertwined with denial. They believed that Hashem would be pleased with an intermediary in the form of a calf… The situation was dangerous and thus required a dramatic reaction. Klal Yisroel needed to learn the importance of making a clear demarcation between good and evil. Moshe Rabeinu accomplished this by shattering the luchos.

The Sichos Mussar explains that man consists of two separate entities: good and bad. It is crucial to recognize this so that the two remain separate.

The following example illustrates the resultant danger of good and bad blending into an amorphous identity.

In the time of Shlomo Hamelech, two women came before him for judgement. Both had given birth and one baby had died. Both women claimed that the living child was hers. Shlomo Hamelech decreed that the living child be cut in two and one of the women agreed but the other refused. Shlomo Hamelech gave the baby to the woman who’d refused, for she was the true mother.

A closer analysis of this example shows that the woman who wanted the other woman’s baby had a tremendous desire to give. Even if she’d go through life knowing that she was giving to a child who wasn’t hers, she still wanted to give.

Yet taking a child from its true mother is intensely cruel. How could this woman be willing to shoulder a lifetime of physical, monetary, and emotional

resources for someone else while at the same time not caring about the ramifications this would create for the real mother?

This scenario is what happens when light and dark are mixed. Man has both powers and unless he separates them, they can be used simultaneously.

When Shlomo Hamelech decreed that the live child be cut in two, he understood that the true mother would never agree and would rather give up her son so that he would live. Yet, could he be certain that the woman who’d stolen the child would agree to his proposition?

Shlomo Hamelech was certain because he understood that when a person sins he is sinking, and once he begins to fall he is in danger of reaching the point of agreeing to murder.

This theme also ties into this week’s haftorah which tells the story of Eliyahu Hanavi confronting the 450 false neviim of the Baal (Melachim I, 18). These neviim served Achav, king of Yisroel, and they convinced most of Klal Yisroel that they were true prophets. They blamed Eliyahu for being the source of the drought that they were experiencing. Eliyahu brought these prophets to Har Carmel and asked them, “Until when will you continue jumping between two ideas? If Hashem is your G-d, go after Him. And if the Baal is the true god, go after it,” (Melachim I 18, 21). Eliyahu was stating that jumping between light and dark is worse than going after the Baal in full force.

The end of the passuk states: “The nation didn’t answer him,” (Melachim I 18, 21). The Jews were confused; they didn’t know who the true G-d was.

The concept of light and dark both reigning within a person may make us wonder how to differentiate and separate between the two. Unfortunately, even in our times, this dilemma exists and the lines between purity and impurity are often blurred. But, ultimately, in every generation, Hashem has given us talmidei chachomim who are blessed with undiluted daas Torah to enable us to know what is right and what is not.

A situation I recently experienced may help with this dilemma. B”H we were privileged to make a bar mitzvah in Kislev, about six weeks after the war started, and I grappled with mixed feelings. Klal Yisroel had been thrust into a difficult situation (may it end soon with the geulah b’meheirah) and I worried about the families from the south and the soldiers in Gaza. At the same, our son was anticipating the very momentous occasion of his bar mitzvah.

It was very hard for me to be involved in the minute aspects of picking out tablecloths and napkins when I thought about the displaced families, the wounded soldiers, and the many people experiencing intense grief. I shared my angst with a friend who reminded me of an idea that we’d learned in seminary: people are above malachim. Whereas malachim only have one duty and one emotion, we can feel more than one emotion at a time. Being able to feel conflicted is what makes us special.

If we understand that light and dark are two separate entities and we treat them as such, we will have the ability to address the dark and to rid ourselves of it while connecting to the light and building the good.

Leora Gruen is an NLP business and life direction coach who facilitates networking groups for self-employed women and personal development. Her workshops are avaiable in Eretz Yisroel and internationally via Zoom.

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Reb Shlomo Mayer of Sassov The Sassover Rebbe (1835–1918)

First Sassover rebbe was Reb Moshe Leib Erblich of Sassov, a talmid of the Maggid of Mezritch. Sassov is located in Eastern Galicia, which is currently a part of Ukraine. By the late 1800s, the descendants of Reb Moshe Leib had become rabbonim in other cities, and the Jews in Sassov found themselves without a rav. They asked the Sar Shalom of Belz (Reb Shalom Rokeach) for guidance and he advised them to appoint his grandson, Reb Shlomo Mayer, as rebbe.

Reb Shlomo Mayer thus moved to Sassov and took on the title “Sassover Rebbe,” even though he was a scion of the Belzer dynasty, and not a relative of the original Sassover rebbe.

Reb Shlomo was known as a wonder healer, and he also expelled dybbuks from people’s bodies. During World War I he moved to Lvov (modern day Lviv), where he was niftar. His sons continued the Sassov dynasty in Lvov.

The mayor of Sasov respected Reb Shlomo very much, and he once explained the reason for this reverence to the people of his city.

It all started when the mayor’s daughter became very sick. She was attended to by the best doctors, but they eventually gave up. There was nothing more they could do, and all hope for her recovery was lost.

Now, Reb Shlomo had a gabbai named Reb Avraham. Reb Avraham advised the mayor to bring his daughter to Reb Shlomo and to ask the rebbe to heal his daughter.

The mayor consulted with the local priest about this, and the priest told him, “You have nothing to lose by trying.”

The mayor thus placed his paralyzed

daughter in a wagon and traveled with her to the rebbe.

When they reached Reb Shlomo, the mayor described the problem to him. The rebbe asked him, “Do you believe that I can help you, even though the expert doctors whom you consulted with have all despaired of helping you?”

“Yes,” the mayor answered. “I believe that G-d will send my daughter a complete

recovery in the merit of your prayers.” The mayor then added, “The priest advised me to come to you because we believe in G-d and His salvation.”

Reb Shlomo began to pace to-and-fro in his room. Then he took a piece of silk cloth, gave it to the mayor, and said, “Bathe your daughter three times a day with this cloth. As you are washing her, say, ‘The rebbe of Sassov commanded me to do this.’ I hope that within a week Hashem will heal her completely.”

Reb Shlomo then continued, “After the week in which your daughter is cured, you must keep her in your house another week. If she goes outside during that week she will get sick again, and I won’t be able to help her.”

And so it was. Within a week of baths with the silk cloth, the mayor’s daughter recovered. The mayor and his wife watched over her so that she wouldn’t step outside the house. But on the last day of the second week, when the mayor was busy with his work, and his wife was busy in the kitchen, they didn’t notice that their daughter slipped out to the yard to play with the other children there.

Immediately, the girl fainted.

The mayor ran to Reb Shlomo and begged him to pray for my daughter.

Reb Shlomo was silent at first, but then he asked the mayor to bring him the silk cloth.

When the mayor arrived with the cloth, Reb Shlomo said, “Bathe your daughter three times a day with this cloth and as you wash her, say, ‘The rebbe of Sasov commanded me to do this.’ Hopefully she will be healed again, but you should know that she will bear evidence of her illness for the rest of her life.”

And so it was. The mayor’s daughter recovered, but one of her feet remained affected.

This, the mayor explained to the residents of his city, was why he respected Reb Shlomo so much. He saw that Reb Shlomo was a true man of G-d. The best doctors had already given up on his daughter, but even the priest told him to turn to Reb Shlomo, knowing that he’d be able to save his daughter.

As was indeed the case.

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Reb Shlomo’s yahrzeit is Yud Beis Adar Aleph.

(Adapted from Nifla’os HaTzaddikim by Reb Yaron Amit)

Shira Yael Klein

Reb Elchanan Perlmutter

Rosh Yeshivah of Yeshivas Chadera

Reb Elchanan Perlmutter was a graduate of the famed Novardok Yeshivah, one of the largest yeshivos of the Mussar movement in Europe prior to the onset of World War II. In Eretz Yisroel, in the year 1950, Reb Elchanan and his friend, Reb Yaakov Galinsky, became roshei yeshivah of the fledgling Yeshivas Chadera — which ran on many of the principles of the original Novardok yeshivah. ***

It was into this Yeshivas Chadera that a new fridge arrived one day. Even without measuring the doorways, the porter and technician saw that the fridge stood no chance of passing through.

“So, what do we do now?” the porter asked the technician.

“We take it apart.”

“And then?””

“And then we put it back together again,” the technician said, and then he smiled. “It’s a good thing that I’m such an expert in my field. Putting together a fridge is like child’s play for me.”

Soon the fridge was disassembled into components and parts. Shelves and drawers, doors and trays, the thermostat and the compressor….

Students, making their way to the dining room, escorted the fridge parts with curiosity, as they watched the burly porter and self-assured technician work together to reassembled the refrigerator.

“This shelf goes here…. Now the compressor… Good. Now the drawers…. It’s like putting a puzzle together. A piece of game”

As the fridge came together, the bachurim smiled with delight. Yeshivas Chadera had been established in a large local shul on a non-existent budget. Nonetheless, when the yeshivah’s administrators saw that they had no place to store perishable food items and that fruits and vegetables were rotting, they knew they needed to buy a refrigerator.

And now the fridge was in the process of being built.

Only one thing was missing. Despite the technician’s expertise, he couldn’t seem to affix the door to the fridge. A stubborn screw kept refusing to slip into place.

It was strange. The technician had dealt with greater complications over the course of his lengthy career, and yet there was still something stubborn and unyielding about the screw.

“It’s not a problem,” the technician announced, “I’ve been a refrigerator technician for twenty years. I’ll get this straightened out in no time. It’s just technicality.”

Another ten minutes passed. Then twenty.

Half an hour….

The technician remained engaged in battle with the spunky screw. And the screw was winning.

Someone entered the dining room and calmly observed the scene. It was the rosh yeshivah, Reb Elchanan Perlmutter.

He looked at the flustered technician and offered his help.

“What?! You want to help me ? Mah pitom? I’m an experienced technician,

one of the best in the field. If I can’t do it, how will you?”

The technician went back to trying to force the screw into place. But much as he tried he continued to fail. “You know what?” he finally told Reb Elchanan. “Maybe you should give it a shot. Yalah, try.”

Reb Elchanan took the screw, focused on what needed to be done — and the screw slipped into place!

The refrigerator was complete. The porter plugged it in, and it whirred to life.

The technician was rendered speechless as he took his payment and left the scene.

The bachurim remained gathered around their rosh yeshivah. They wondered how in the world he had managed to defeat the spunky screw, when the experienced technician hadn’t been able?

Reb Elchanan smiled. “Do you think that the technician was wrong? He was right! He really is an expert, and much more experienced than I am. But I learned my trade in the Novardok yeshivah.”

“Which trade?” the bachurim wondered.

“In Novardok, I learned bitachon. I learned that when we stop depending on kochi ve’otzem yadi , our own capabilities, then the siyata dishmaya starts.”

***

(Adapted from Marveh Latzamah, Issue 2648)

Shira Yael Klein

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The Guy Next Door

Chapter 24

“Well?” Kenny wanted to know, and understandably so, “you dragged me over here for something. I killed myself rushing here instead of hanging out with my mates after school. I’d like to know. Did it help?”

We stared at him. Eventually I spoke, as no one else seemed able.

“It certainly clarified certain things,” I said. “And it made other things …less clear.” I looked at my womenfolk, and they kind of nodded, so I knew they were kind of with me on this.

“There’s no more footage of our son?” Debbie asked Jamie.

“I think you’ve seen it all,” Jamie said. “Question is, who removed the missing five minutes, and more importantly, why?”

“Don’t you have that on the CCTV too?” Rikki queried. Jamie shot her a look of pity. “Whoever can delete footage can delete his or herself removing it. Kenny could probably look for that too, but I can’t see how it would help. You need to know the “why” more than the “who”. “Who” is probably the big guy in the beanie, but the “why” we may never know. Now,” he added, looking pointedly at the clock on the wall above his head, “I’ve gone above and beyond for you. I really must get back

to work. Give me your contact details. If anything else surfaces, I’ll let you know.”

So that was that. Back in the car, I started the engine. “Home?” I asked.

“Yeah,” Rikki said. “No point going elsewhere. I have the flash drive. I’ll study it more intensively at home on my own computer. But I think I can safely say, Avi wasn’t manhandled or forced to go with Beanie Guy.”

“I think,” I said as I drove out of the car park and got snarled up in the homegoing traffic, “that Beanie Guy is Xavier Roberts.”

“Certainly looks that way,” Debbie said kindly. She probably wanted to say: “Duuuh, Sherlock.”

“What I feel like doing,” I said, “is going next door and punching his lights out.”

“Uhhh, is your medical insurance cover up to date, Dad?” Rikki ventured. “He’s much bigger than you, and he looks tougher too. Feel like doing it to your heart’s content, just don’t actually do it. Please. For us. “

“Nachman,” Debbie said, “as far as I recall you telling me, you came bottom of the class in martial arts at school.”

I almost said: “And therefore?” but I knew she had a point.

Ruthie Pearlman

Recap: Kenny brings up the missing piece of footage on the CCTV of the bowling alley. The Felds see someone come over to Avi, talk to him, and hand him something. Avi then willingly follows the man out of the bowling alley.

“Look,” Debbie said in a soothing tone, “you’re a wonderful husband and father. But as a cave man, you come somewhere between D and a fail. So stick to what you’re good at.”

“But he has our Avi!” I pointed out in a raised voice, as I drew up outside our house and parked. There was no answer to that one. He had our Avi. We trudged into the house disconsolately. Debbie put the kettle on. That was her go-to action when she couldn’t think of anything else to do. Put the kettle on, make some tea. That would make everything better. Or less worse, at any rate.

Rikki however, headed straight upstairs. “I’m going to do some work on my computer,” she called out. “I’ll see if I can’t find out more about where Avi is from that burner phone message.”

“I thought you did that before we went to the bowling alley,” Debbie called back. “That’s what you said you were going to do, anyway.”

“I didn’t get very far,” Rikki responded. “Because you found that soap wrapper, remember? That threw all of us for six.” That’s a cricket analogy. It meant we were all discombobulated. And if you don’t know what that means, look it up.

“Oh right,” Debbie said helplessly. We heard Rikki’s door close decisively and knew she Meant Business. If she left her door ajar, it meant we could venture in and see what she was up to. If it was closed, it meant she wanted complete privacy. If it was locked, it meant she was Really Serious.

We heard the lock click and we looked at each other. Finally, Debbie spoke, which was just as well, as I certainly couldn’t think of anything to fill the silence after that final fatal click.

“If anyone can find out anything about where Avi is,” she said, “it will be Rikki. She’s not only quite techie herself, but she also has a network of extremely techie friends and colleagues whom she can call upon for help. I think what we can do in the meantime is daven, and get on with our lives, and…” she looked at her watch, “call Misper, because it’s definitely more than twenty-four hours now since Avi went missing.”

“I agree with all of that,” I said, nodding. “But I’d also like to just go next door to see if Xavier is home. I won’t challenge him in any way, I just want to know. Because from that video, it looks like wherever Avi is, Xavier will be with him.”

This time it was Debbie’s turn to nod. “Good plan, as long as you don’t lose the plot and start getting all failed caveman on me,” she warned.

I squared my shoulders to try and look tough.

“No improvement,” she grinned. “Stick to what you’re good at.”

“I’m still trying to work out what that is,” I admitted. I decided to go to shul and daven, then come back and try next door. I left Debbie dedicatedly saying Tehillim in the living room with Rikki’s door upstairs still closed. And presumably locked.

I’m embarrassed to confess, but since Avi went missing, I hadn’t been to shul. I couldn’t face the outside world with my firstborn missing. But, now I said to myself, the time had come. I couldn’t shut myself away forever.

In shul, I was met with a couple of curious glances, probably due to my absence the previous day. That was what I thought anyway, until I caught sight of my reflection in a window. Why hadn’t I noticed what I looked like at home, where there were actual mirrors around?

I was a mess. My hair was tousled; my jacket was crooked, with the collar up at one part, down at the other, and buttoned wrong; and my shirt was untucked though it wasn’t the untucked kind of shirt. My trousers too, were stained. And I’d totally forgotten to put on a tie. In Golders Green, we wear ties.

I made a dash into the men’s room and straightened myself up. I dabbed water on the stains on my pants and rubbed them until they looked clean. Then, I wetted and flattened my hair with my fingers, as I didn’t have a comb with me. (Which man takes a comb with him when he goes to shul?) Then I rejoined the minyan and caught a few grins and thumbs-up from the guys who knew me. As you surely know how observant men are in general, I must have been a real mess if they noticed the improvement. I felt my face flaming. Had I really deteriorated so much in such a short time? Debbie was usually the one who pointed out such things to me, and she was a psychological— if not physical — mess at the moment. But Debbie was always nicely put together; she never let her standards slip.

All these thoughts plowed through my befuddled brain like a tsunami. Then, I caught myself. Hashem is watching you, I remonstrated myself. He needs to know that you are still relying on Him and not worrying about nahrishkeiten, like whether you’re wearing a tie or not.

And with that thought in mind I threw myself into the tefilla and prayed like my life depended on it. Like someone’s life depended on it. Which it did. To be continued…

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Conversations in my head always there but never to be said, Can’t escape my childish dreams, my fantasies, the unreal realities, Talking to myself again no one seems to be around, I hide myself inside myself, never thinking I’ll be found…

-Jamie Sue Reinhart

The above poem was written by someone who struggled with social interactions and felt the need to hide from those around her. There are many children who feel the same way in our schools today.

Did you ever notice the child in the recess yard walking around by himself? What about the girl who never has a partner on line? Or the boy who does not have any play dates after school? Is it shyness or something more than that?

In today’s high-paced and increasingly technologically-based society, we are seeming an increase in children with social skills deficits. Some children might simply be shy and experiencing some pain from being teased or left out is a normal part of social development. However, for some socially awkward children, ostracism may be a regular part of their daily lives.

Elementary Students

Katharine Beals, a professor at University of Pennsylvania, recently authored a book entitled “Raising a Left-Brain Child in a Right-Brain World.” In her book, she argues that “bright, quirky, socially awkward children” are at a disadvantage in today’s schools because contemporary education emphasizes group learning and class participation. Some socially awkward are in fact the stereotypical “nerd” – children who process things linearly, think abstractly and logically, attune themselves to verbal rather than nonverbal communication, and prefer to work independently.

Beals argues that these children, who might call nebbish or nebs, need help from parents and schools to help them make their way in the world. So, what can parents do to help the socially awkward elementary school student?

Here are some suggestions for helping your school age child acclimate to the social environment:

•Provide a variety of social activities. There are so many social opportunities that are available to children – shul groups, baseball leagues, art classes, play dates, park outings, and many more. Giving your child the opportunity to explore his social behavior in these different contexts will help him expand his social repertoire.

•Consider a social skills coach. Social skills coaches can help children learn about nonverbal communication and teamwork. The goal of coaches is to provide children with a safe environment to practice their still emerging communication skills.

•Initiate and practice pro-social behavior at home. Even if you are not a social skills coach, you have the ability to help your child understand proper social behavior. Talk about the ways that you greet people, how you can guess what they are feeling based on their facial expressions, and ways to initiate conversations. The more aware your child is of social behavior, the more likely he will be to practice it.

Middle School Girls

While children who are extremely socially awkward will often be ostracized by their peers in elementary school, middle school is when a child’s social development becomes more apparent. In order to demonstrate their maturity, many girls will interact with their peers in more adult-like ways. This means that middle

school girls who fail to mature at the same pace as their peers will begin to feel left out and not accepted.

Of course, there are many different levels of maturity among middle school girls and therefore it is hard to determine what is problematic. To that end, I have compiled a list of warning signs of poor social development for middle school girls:

•A lack of consistency in friendships

•No friends

•Unable to set limits with friendships and therefore cannot identify her own likes and dislikes

•Unable to coordinate her own playdates; parents still required to set them up

•Poor eye contact

•Poor hygiene

•Disinterest in extracurricular activities that had once been appealing

•Severe unhappiness when returning home from school

There are multiple reasons why a middle school girl struggles socially. The simplest reason is that she needs to be taught social skills that come naturally to other girls her age. Alternatively, she might be suffering from a mild form of a nonverbal learning disorder (NVLD), which can cause difficulty reading social cues. Or, she might have Aspergers Syndrome which is often called a high-functioning autism that can result in an inability to read nonverbal communication. All three of these situations can cause children to have social anxiety which can lead to further awkward behavior.

Here are some suggestions of how to help middle school girls who are struggling socially:

•Social skills group. There are social skills groups run by professionals who can help teenagers master appropriate behavior and interactions. While at first, these groups might be intimidating to children who are socially awkward, with time they provide a community of people who help each other learn and grow.

•Reward proper personal hygiene. Hygiene is an easy “social skill” to help your child master because it is concrete rather than abstract. Create a chart with your child with all of different elements of personal hygiene (teeth-brushing, showering, nail clipping, deodorant, hair-combing). Then, set goals with your daughter that when achieved she gets rewarded for. While she might not be aware of her lack of grooming, her peers will certainly notice the change.

•Help her find children with similar interests. If your daughter loves art or music, consider signing her up for an after school activity (preferably not offered by her school at first) in which she can meet other children who share her interests. These shared interests will create a common ground and help your daughter bond with her peers.

•Do not “go back to school” yourself. As painful as it is to watch your child struggle socially, if you step in to smooth over socially awkward moments, your daughter will not learn how to do this herself. Therefore, unless the situation is painful or dangerous, keep out of the situation while it is happening. Feel free to talk about it with your daughter before and after, but getting involved at the moment will only stunt her social progress.

Socially awkward children do not have to turn into socially awkward adults, with intervention and patience, they can make friends and live fuller lives.

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The Junior Diplomats

The conversation within the Katz living room was going no place. But outside, on the street beyond their home and the apartment that Eli and Jake were being held in, something was clearly going on.

The man in gray, whom Rachel had noticed at about 10:15, was still outside, doing nothing, an hour later.

Not that he was loitering. No, he was simply sitting in a nondescript car, in nondescript clothing, reading a newspaper.

He’s probably an undercover policeman, Rachel thought. Or a detective.

The thing was that her father hadn’t brought the police into the story yet, as far as she knew. Which was strange, since kidnaping was illegal and the police might have been able to help them.

There was surely enough evidence of the fact that the boys were being held in the house across the street against their will. So why hadn’t her father brought the cops in?

And who was the man across the street really?

“We need to draw up a plan,” Kobi said, from his seat near Rachel’s father at the dining room table.

Rachel moved away from the window with a sigh.

“You think they’ll finally do something?” Lillian whispered.

“You mean you also think they’re schlepping the planning stage

out?” Rachel asked.

Lillian nodded.

Rachel was silent. She watched her father tap the house phone beside him.

One minute… Since when did her father even use the house phone? He always said that the house phone was for the kids because his line of work disallowed conversations on an ordinary house phone.

That was the way that things had worked back in Holland, and it was surely the way that they worked in their current home in Austria.

So then why had Mr. Katz chosen today, of all days, to keep the home phone in plain view? Not that he was even speaking into it. No, if anything he had the on button on as if he wanted someone to overhear his conversation with Kobi and Yoav — but it was a conversation that should have been kept completely confidential because it involved rescue plans for Eli and Jake.

“Right,” Mr. Katz told Kobi and Yoav now. “We do need to draw up a plan and that plan needs to take nighttime into account. Rescue missions are best pulled off under cover of darkness.”

“Nightfall tonight is around 5:30 p.m.,” Yoav said. “We’ll wait until then to pull off our rescue mission.”

Rachel looked at Lillian. Both girls wore identical expressions

Recap: Jake and Eli are locked into a room by their captors. They realize that the listening devices in the Katz home have begun to work and their captors can now overhear everything.

of helplessness on their faces. The agents’ plan sounded horrible! How could the men even consider waiting until nightfall to rescue the boys? What if something terrible happened to them while the sun was still out?! It wasn’t as if they were being held in an unknown place — they were right there across the street. Why didn’t the men just get up and do something?

The atmosphere in the room was one of tense preparedness. Tension because nothing was being done just then.

Preparedness because some sort of plan was being discussed. “That makes sense,” Mr. Green said slowly. “But obviously we’ll shift gears if the boys somehow come home on their own before it grows dark.”

“I doubt that they will,” Mrs. Green murmured. “According to what Rachel told us, that seems unlikely.” She sighed. “I’m starting to think we should just go to the police with all of this.”

Mr. Green nodded in agreement, while Mrs. Katz extended her hand to stroke Mrs. Green’s shoulder.

Rachel’s stomach twisted. Her mother didn’t seem to agree with Mrs. Green’s idea, but she still seemed eager to offer her sympathy.

Or perhaps she was somehow telling her not to worry.

Mr. Katz tapped the side of the house phone again. Yoav and Kobi moved on to discussing the pros and cons of bringing more men onto the scene.

“I think it’s unnecessary,” Yoav finally said decisively. “At five o’clock p.m. we’ll gear up. Yair will stay here while Kobi and I head across the street with guns and a megaphone. We’ll announce that two boys are being held hostage and must be released or we’ll shoot. The building’s residents will be home at that time of day, so we’ll have civilian support available, just in case that become a necessity.”

At least a plan is finally starting to take on shape, Rachel thought. But for some reason she longed to jot notes down in her Notebook of Suspicions. Yoav’s eyes had darted around the room wildly as he announced his words, and that seemed strangely suspicious.

Never mind the fact that all manner of oomph seemed to be missing from his words.

Mr. Katz tapped the house phone once again.

Just. One. Minute, Rachel thought

That phone was tapped. Her father knew that. And yet he was actively planning a rescue mission, even though his enemies could overhear every word.

Clearly her father’s plans were meant to throw the boys’ captors off their scent, while leaving room for another plan to unfold in the spoken plan’s stead.

Heart racing, Rachel hurried over to the window to check her theory. Lillian and Becky both followed her.

The man in the nondescript gray clothing was still there. He was sitting behind the wheel of his car, perusing his newspaper — while keeping an eye on everything and everyone on the block. Rachel could see that clearly now, and it was apparent to her that the man was there on an official mission.

Was his mission perhaps to make sure that no strangers entered or exited the building that the boys were in?

A truck rumbled onto the block. It was a Wiene Electrik truck, a truck that serviced the local electric company.

The truck pulled up to building twenty-two, where Jake and Eli were being held, and two men jumped out.

The men headed to the electric pipes on the outside of the building and began examining them.

One of the men shook his head. He seemed to be saying that the issue that they’d come to fix was sourced in the building, not outside it.

The second man nodded. Slowly, the men headed toward the front door of the building, and one of the men pressed the bell. A moment later they were buzzed in.

Out of sight, out of mind.

Only they weren’t.

For some reason, Rachel was sure that that despite the plans being drawn up around her family’s dining room table, the true plan was actually in the offing right there across the street.

“Look,” Lillian said suddenly, pointing. “That man looks funny, doesn’t he?”

Rachel looked at the man who Lilian was pointing toward. It was the man in the car, and he was still holding the newspaper that he’d started reading an hour ago. His position as he read however, was strange. It was almost as though his mind was elsewhere, and not on the news in the paper. He was also wearing sunglasses now, which he hadn’t been wearing earlier.

Perhaps those sunglasses had a reflective mirror in them, Rachel thought suddenly. She’d seen a pair of sunglasses like that once at a spy museum and if the man were wearing a pair like that then the mirror in the glass area would allow him to keep tabs on people on the street behind him.

The men who’d come out of the truck earlier were completely out of view by now, but had the man in the car seen them somehow. Were the two scenes that she and Lillian had witnessed on the block intertwined, or were they completely unrelated?

Somehow, Rachel had a feeling that it was all connected

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4 What punishment did they give to a ןהכ that entered the ןכשמ or served on the חבזמ , without first washing from the רויכ?

5) How many ןיגול are in a ןיה?

6) From what word in the השרפ do we know that the החשמה ןמש will still be around when חישמ comes?

7) What punishment does someone get if he makes תרוטק for himself?

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My sister need new shoes. One Sunday we decided to get her new shoes. We entered the store, and scanned the large array of shoes. There was a huge variety to choose from, and she was able to try on multiple pair of shoes.Like most families, we all give her our opinions, get this one, don’t get this one etc. After a while of choosing, she finally choose a beautiful pair of shoes. We headed toward the register to pay for the shoes. There was a small line, and so we waited our turn patiently. While waiting on line, my mothers eyes darted around the room, and she came across a sign that said that all shoes in the store were on sale. There we were standing on line ready to pay full price for a pair of shoes. Yet, Hashem in His infinite kindness, made the store have a sale, so we can get it for cheaper. We could’ve visited a different store that day, and pay full price for shoes, maybe even the exact same ones, but Hashem didn’t want us to, so He made us walk into that exact store so will be able to buy shoes during the sale. He also made my sister need new shoes right then, when a sale was going on. The ways of Hashem are truly incredible.

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I would like to share a hashgacha protis story it was late at night after our uncles wedding my family was inside our car already ready to leave when my father saw my great uncle and aunt passing , and he went out of the car to tell them good night when he came back to the car he saw my mothers phone on the floor that fell out when she entered the car ,If my great aunt and uncle wouldn’t be passing and my father decided to go out to them than my mothers phone would be lost forever!

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One cold winter night me and my mother went to my aunt's house who lives a few blocks away to pick up medicine. When we got there my aunt asked us if we could drop off something at her daughter's house. Her husband was going to pick it up but he didn't come yet so we ended up dropping it off . it would have been out of the way for him and it wasnt out of the way for us sowe saved him a trip that would have been out of the way.

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An Exclusive View into... The Interview

Chashie Stern

There comes a time in many a young lady’s life when she will be put on the spot to answer some life-altering questions.

She will be preened and primed and primped for this exceptional moment by her parents, teachers, and mentors. And she will be well-trained to make nary a flinch during her moment of truth, or rather, moment of purported truth —as I’ve come to learn.

And this remarkable occasion, as any female high-school senior — or her mother — may have already guessed, is none other than her seminary interview.

I was graciously put to the task of acting the part of Senior at Her Seminary Interview while my lovely daughter played the part of Seminary Principal. She asked the prospective questions that her high school principal had told her would be asked — in lieu of her principal going to the interview and answering those questions herself.

“How should I answer these questions?” I asked. “I mean, I can just tell the truth! What’s the big deal?”

“Are you kidding?” My daughter retorted. “No one says the truth at a seminary interview! You give the answers the principal wants to hear! Otherwise, you’ll never get–“

“Hold on!” I interrupted. “You mean all the girls have to sound exactly the same?”

“Duh.”

“No, that can’t be right. Don’t they want color? Diversity? Authenticity?”

“They don’t want color. They want black. Which reminds me, where are those ugly black loafers I put in your closet, Mommy?”

Okay, so I was about to give answers that would sound like everyone else’s—as a preparation for my daughter’s upcoming role. Taking my role seriously now, I squared my shoulders and sat down at the dining room table after clearing away the dirty supper dishes (okay, plasticware) first, and making a show of wiping away the post-tornado-like debris.

And, let me tell you, it was a sobering experience. The interview, not the table clearing.

As for all you curious folks who have not yet been to a seminary interview, I will graciously share

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זנאצ תודסומ יכמותל הפסכנ תבש Shabbos Hisvadus for Donors of Mosdos Sanz Zvehill

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some potential questions and possible vs. merely passable answers. Get ready to file these away for when you do become a seminary applicant. Or ex-applicant. But first, change into your freshly pleated uniform skirt and your grand-mother’s pearl earrings. And now, let’s begin!

So… Tell me about yourself.

Possible: I love to go shopping with my friends, and I can’t wait to graduate and get super annoyed when my mother dresses the little ones in hand-medowns. Ugh!

Passable: I love learning, and I enjoy spending time with my family – but only after I finish my schoolwork!

Why do you want to come to our seminary?

Possible: So my principal recommended it for, you know, girls like me… But the truth is that most of the seminaries sound exactly the same. And, honestly, yours is third on my list because I was told the food is a little iffy. If you know what I mean…

Passable: I’m so impressed by the girls who have graduated from your seminary. They’re aidel, refined, tznius, and virtual fountains of Tanach. What more can a girl ask for?

Would you describe yourself as an introvert or an extrovert?

Possible: I’m an extrovert with my friends and an introvert with everyone else .You know, like, legit in-towny.

Passable: I enjoy making new friends, but I also cherish my daily session of pre-dawn hisbodedus.

What kind of books do you read?

Possible: Binah, Ami, Mishpachah and –obviously! – The Circle.

Passable: Zera Shimshon, The Shabbos Kitchen, and when I need some down time, Melachim Aleph and Bais.

Why do you want to go to seminary?

Possible: Two words: Shidduch Resume.

Passable: To ultimately become the best bas Yisroel I can and to bring nachas ruach to the Eibishter.

Why did you choose to go to your high school?

Possible: So actually, I would have preferred homeschooling, but my parents kinda forced me to go there so that I wouldn’t be a social outcast.

Passable: Because, as an eighth grader, I heard that the graduates of this Bais Yaakov display sterling middos and exemplary Rashi skills.

If you could change something about your high school years, what would it be?

Possible: OMG, the options are endless! Let’s see, I’d start with canceling all homework and tests, renovating the bathrooms, and I’d for sure expell those snobs in the middle row...

Passable: I would have added a night seder to the curriculum.

What do you enjoy doing in your free time?

Possible: Chilling with my friends, music, and Slurpees.

Passable: Baking for Shabbos, reviewing my Chumash notes, and babysitting so that my mother can take a nap.

Tell me about your family. If I walked into your house, what would I see?

Possible: Um… Please don’t! But if you insist, please come only on a Thursday afternoon after the cleaning lady has left and before everyone has come home from school. Certainly do NOT come on a Wednesday, the farthest day from when the cleaning lady comes, and not on erev Shabbos when you might get hit on the head by my brother’s shoe as he kvetches about doing his erev Shabbos jobs.

Passable: My father would be learning with my

brothers at the dining room table, my mother would be baking cinnamon buns while holding the baby and humming “A Yid Never Breaks,” and the little ones would be playing together with mitzvah mentchies. I would, of course, be helping my mother bake, with my ear perked wistfully towards the learning in the dining room.

Where does your family come from?

Possible: Is this, like, a yichus question? Probably from Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov, no? But I can send you a copy of the family tree my sister made last year if you really want it — although my little brother cut off my father’s side of the family by accident .

Passable: Reb Akiva Eiger, for sure.

Do you consider yourself a leader, follower, or supporter?

Possible: That depends entirely on who’s running GO. Like, if they’re capable and take us on good trips, then I’ll be a follower. But if the only thing they do is give out apricots on Tu b’Shevat then I may change my mind. Know what I mean?

Passable: I’m a leader over my yetzer hara, a follower of the Torah, and a supporter of your seminary.

How do you think you would enjoy dorm life?

Possible: That would clearly depend on who my roommates are. Is now a good time to put in my requests?

Passable: Sharing my things and space with other girls, reviewing mefarshim with friends (eyes should take on a dreamy look here), I mean, what can be better?

If you could be any animal, which would you choose to be?

Possible: Now what kind of question is that?

Passable: A camel, of course. So that I can carry the heavy loads of others.

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

Possible: Tanning on a Caribbean cruise. Seriously, how am I supposed to know? Hashem’s in charge!

Passable: Teaching Chumash and supporting my Kollel husband and children.

What do you plan to do after seminary?

Possible: Come home, clean my room (that my sisters will no doubt mess up while I’m away), and go on a diet.

Passable: Teach in the local Bais Yaakov and start shidduchim.

What is your greatest weakness?

Possible: Definitely kibbud av v’em. Like, when my mother wore that horrendous sweater and I gave her this withering look, refusing to get into the car until she took it off. Let’s just say she wasn’t too happy about that.

Passable: My greatest weakness is when I get so wrapped up in my Chumash that I don’t notice when my parents walk into the room, and I miss the opportunity to stand up for them. ***

There you have it, future seminary-applicants, free of charge.

As for this year’s applicants, with Adar Aleph upon us, your acceptance letters are no doubt on their way!

Feel free to make a copy of these questions to store in your fireproof safe until next time.

And when you’ve become a pro, you can go ahead and start your own seminary. Just don’t forget to send me a list of your interview questions!

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Wedding in courts of Sanz Yerishulayim, Chebin and Ratzfert בצק יתיא :םוליצ

ןאמגרעב יבצ ריאמ ’ר ןואגה לצא רוקיבב רוגמ ר”ומדאה Ger Rebbe visits Hagaon Rabbi Meir Tzvi Bergman ץראווש לאפר :םוליצ

והיתתמ תיב תבישי שאר ל”צז רקבסיו ב”רגה תריטפ לע דפסהב דאווקיעל י”ר רעלטאק מ”רגה

Hagaon Rabbi Malkiel Kotler Rosh Yeshivas BMG Lakewood at Hesped on Hagaon Rabbi Boruch Weisbecker Zt”l

Rosh Yeshivas Beis Matisyahu ררל יקוש :םוליצ

שטיוועלאומש יבצ םהרבא יבר ןואגה תאופרל םילשוריב רימ תבישיב הליפת תרצע Atzeres Tefilah in Yeshivas Mir in Yerishulayim for Hagaon Rabbi Avrohom Tzvi Shmuelewitz ררל יקוש :םוליצ

45-בובאב שדוקה רצחב ןטק םירופ Purim Kuten in Bobov-45 ש”ל לליה :םוליצ

Plains Zebra

ערבעז סניעלפ

‘Plains’ Zebras are one of 3 zebra families located in Africa. The (almost) only marked difference between the 3 is the design of their beautiful stripes. The plains zebras are found nearly in all countries of South Africa.

The skeletal build of the zebras is very similar to horses. However, unlike horses, Hashem decorated their fur in striking, wide, black and white stripes. Their nose and mouth is jet black and they have a strip of hair running from the tip of their head all the way down their back.

תוחפשמ ערבעז יירד יד ןופ סנייא ןענעז ,סערבעז 'סניעלפּ' םוצ החפשמ ןייא ןופ םיקוליח יד .עקירפא ןיא ךיז ןעניפעג עכלעוו עכילרעה ערעייז ןופ לעטשסיוא יד ןיא ראנ טעמכ ןענעז ןטייווצ רעדנעל עלא טעמכ ןיא ךיז ןעניפעג סערבעז 'סניעלפּ' יד .ןפיירטש .עקירפא-םורד ןופ רעסיורג רעד רעבא .דרעפ וצ ךיילג רעייז יובעג א ןבאה סערבעז עטיירב ,עכילרעה רעפרעק רעייז וצ טגיילעגוצ טאה רעפעשאב ןוא ,ץראווש-ךעפ זיא ליומ-זאנ רעייז .ןפיירטש עסייוו-ןוא-ץראווש זיב פאק ץיפש םענופ טפיול סאוו ראה ןופ עייר א ךיוא ןבאה ייז .ןקור םעד פארא

יד - 'סניעלפּ' יד ףיוא ךיז ןעיירד ןוא ךיז ןעניפעג ,סערבעז 'סניעלפּ' יד .עקירפא ץנאג טעמכ רעביא רעדלעפ ןוא םיחטש ענעסקאוואב-זארג ןזיר ןיא ןלייצ ךיז ןעק עכלעוו ,תונחמ עסיורג ןיא לאמעלא ךיז ןעניפעג ייז עכלעוו ןיא - סעפורג עניילק אד ןענעז תונחמ יד ןיא .רעטנזיוט עכיוה יד .רעדניק ערעייז ןוא עמאמ ,עטאט :תוחפשמ ךיז ןעניפעג סע ריא וצ םענייק ןזאלוצ טשינ עמאמ יד טעוו ,דניק סאד ןבאה ןכאנ עמאמ יד טעוו ,ןעיירד ךיז טעוו דניק יד ואוו .עטאט רעד וליפא ,םעניילק .ןעז ןענעק ריא ראנ לאז דניק סאד זא ןלעטשראפ ריא ערעדנוזאב ןבאה ןשטנעמ יוו טקנופ ?עמאמ יד סאד טוט סאווראפ .ןפיירטש ןופ לעטשסיוא ערעדנוזאב א סערבעז ןבאה ,ןקורדפא-רעגניפ

ןיא ןקוקנייא טוג ךיז דניק סאד טעוו ,ןריובעג ןכאנ טייצ עטשרע יד ןיא ,ןבעל ץנאג א ןענעקרעד ריא יז טעוו ןאד ןוא ,ןעמאמ ריא ןופ ןפיירטש יד .הנחמ עסיורג א ןיא וליפא ןוא ךעלצראוו ,רעטעלב זיא עגירביא יד .זארג זיא ןסע רעייז ןופ 92% ייז סאוו ,רעסאוו וצ טנאנ ןעניפעג גיבייא ךיז ןלעוו סערבעז .ךעלגייווצ .ןעקנירט וצ ךילגעט ןבאה ןפראד

The plains zebras inhabit the ‘plains’ - vast grass covered areas and fields spread over all of Africa. They always congregate in large herds which can count in the high thousands. Within the herds they are split in smaller groups which include each family: father, mother and their offspring.

After a baby is born, the mother won’t allow anyone access to her baby, even the father. Wherever the baby will wander the mother will block her view of the surroundings.

Why will the mother do this? Just like humans have individual fingerprints, the zebras each have a personal design of stripes. As a newborn, the zebra baby will intensely study the pattern of her mom’s stripes and will thus always recognize her, even distinguishing her within the herd.

92% of their diet is comprised of grass. The rest will be leaves, roots and twigs. Zebras will always be near water which they need for their daily fluid intake.

ןעמוקנא גיאור ןענעק ןוא ךאסא שפיה ןגעוו סערבעז 'סניעלפּ' יד ערעייז ךרוד טכוזעג קראטש ייז ןענעז םעד בילוצ .טנופ 850 טעמכ וצ ןוא סעניאייה ,ןבייל :םיאנוש עכילטע ןבאה סערבעז ענעסקאוורע .םיאנוש .סליידעקארק -רעפ-ליימ 40 רעביא וצ גידנעמוקנא ,ןפיול לענש רעייז ןענעק סערבעז ייז ןפאכ ןבייל .סעיניאייה ןוא ןבייל יוו רעלענש לאמ בור זיא סאד .העש ןטימ סאד ןעוט סעניאייה ;ןריקאטא גנולצולפ ןוא ןטלאהאבסיוא ךיז ךרוד .ערבעז יד ךאנ ןפיול ןוא ןעמאזוצ םאצ ךיז ןעמענ ייז :םיברה חוכ רע טריבורפ טשרע םוצ .ףיוא לענש יוזא טשינ רעבא טביג ערבעז יד א ןפאכ בייל א ןעק ,טשינ טגנולעג סאד ביוא .ןפיולטנא טימ לזמ ןייז לאמוצ ,טעדנואווראפ טסנרע ןרעוו ןוא )ןטנוא דליב עז( פאק ןיא סיוטש ןפאכ וליפא רעדא ןרעוו ןסיוטשוצ ךיוא ןענעק סעניאייה יד .לאטאפ וליפא .ןייצ עקראטש סערבעז יד ןופ סיב עטסנרע ןא 'סניעלפּ' יד .אנוש ערעטסנרע ןא ךאסא ןיוש ןענעז סליידעקארק ,ןאשיערגיימ עלופראפעג א ףיוא סיורא ךילרעי ךיז ןזאל סערבעז טלופעגנא ןענעז עכלעוו ןכייט )סקניל דליב עז( ןעמיוושכרוד גידנפראד וצ ךיז ןוט טשינראג טעמכ ייז ןענעק רעסאוו ןיא .סליידעקארק טימ ץארט .)ןביוא רעדליב 2( סיוא טוג סאד ןצינ סליידעקארק יד ןוא ןצישאב .געוו עגיד'נכוסמ םעד ךרוד רעטנזיוט ןכאמ ,טקוצראפ ןרעוו ךאסא סאוו

The plains zebras weigh quite a lot and can reach a total of almost 850 lbs., which is why they are especially sought after by their predators. Adult zebras have a few predators: lions, hyenas, and crocodiles.

The zebras can run very fast, reaching more than 40 miles per hour. This is usually quicker than lions and hyenas. Lions capture them by hiding out and waiting in ambush, hyenas summon the strength of numbers: they gather together and chase the zebra.

The zebra, however, doesn’t capitulate so fast. First, he will try his luck to escape. If he’s not successful, he can seriously wound the lion with a kick in the head (see bottom picture) sometimes fatally harming him. The hyenas can also get kicked or bitten from the zebras strong teeth.

Crocodiles are far more brutal opponents. The plains zebras journey yearly on a dangerous migration, that involves crossing rivers (see picture left) teeming with crocodiles. In the water they are almost completely helpless to defend themselves and the crocodiles take advantage (2 top pictures). Although many don’t survive, thousands persevere on this perilous trip.

ןרעפיצ ןוא ןטקאפ

עקירפא-םורד ןיא רעדנעל עלא טעמכ :ץאלפ

רעסערג 10% םירכז ,טנופ 849 זיב 386 ןופ :גאוו סיפ 8.1 זיב 7.1 ןופ :גנעל

סיפ 4.8 זיב 3.6 ןופ :ךעייה

סעשטניא 22 זיב 19 ןופ :לדייוו

ראי ייווצ עדעי דניק 1 :רעדניק

ךעלגייווצ ןוא ךעלצראוו ,רעטעלב ךיוא ;זארג רקיעב :ןסע סליידעקארק ןוא טנוה עדליוו ,סעניאייה ,ןבייל :םיאנוש

ראי 25-30 :ןבעל 750,000 ךרעב :גנורעקלעפאב

TIDBITS

Habitat: Almost all countries in South Africa

Weight: 386-849 lbs. males 10% bigger

Length: 7.1 - 8.1 ft.

Height: 3.6-4.8 ft

Tail: 19-22 inches

Offspring: 1 baby every 2 years

Food: mostly grass; also leaves, roots & twigs

Predators: lions, hyenas, wild dogs and crocodiles

Lifespan: 25-30 years

Population: approximately 750,000

ןפיוא ןפראוופארא ךיז - 'גנילאר טסאד' טכאמ ערבעז 'סניעלפּ' א .1 .דמאז ןפיוא ןבייר ןוא ןרעליוק ןאד ,דרע

טאה רע סאוו ךאנ ,ערבעז א ןופ סיוטש ןטוג א טפאכ ליידעקארק א .2

.ןקוצראפ ןוא ןפאכ וצ ריא טריבורפ ןיא דניק ןיילק ריא טימ ןעמאזוצ םיווש ןוא דאב א טפאכ עמאמ א .3

.לכייט א ךיז טסייב ןעמ ןוא טסיוטש ןעמ :ךיז ןגאלש ערבעז 'סניעלפּ' ייווצ .4

.רעגיז א אד זיא סע זיב ,ןטייווצ םעד רענייא גידנריבורפ ,ערבעז 'סניעלפּ' א םורא ןעמענ טנוה עדליוו עכילטע .5 .ןקוצראפ וצ םיא עשירפ ןכוז וצ געוו ןיא סיורא ךיז ןזאל סערבעז 'סניעלפּ' הנחמ א .6 .ןסע וצ זארג

1

. A plains zebra engaging in “dust rolling”, hurling himself to the ground, rolling and rubbing on the sand.

2. A crocodile getting a deliberate blow from a zebra after attempting to eat it.

3

. A mother and her baby bathing and swimming in a small lake.

4. 2 plains zebras fighting: they kick and bite each other until one emerges victorious.

5

. Some wild dogs surrounding a plains zebra trying to kill it.

6

. A herd of plains zebras setting out in search of fresh grass to graze on.

אטעג-עשראוו ןופ רעדניק 2,500

טעוועטארעגסיורא

טאה עכלעוו ,רעלדנעס אנעריא

רעשעלפ ןיא רעדניק

:רעירפ ןופ ןצרוק ןיא ריא טימ ןפלעה וצ טיירג ריא ןענעז עכלעוו ןריטנולאוו ןופ ץענ א ףיוא טלעטש ,עשראוו ןיא ארויב טעברא-עלאיצאס םעניא גידנטעברא ,רעלדנעס אנעריא עכילקערש יד טנאנ רעד ןופ וצ טעז ןוא סאפּ לארטנאק-עימעדיפּע ריא טימ אטעג ןיא ןיירא טייג יז .ןטנעמוקאד ןשלעפ ןופ טעברא עשיאארעה ,עטגאוועג טנאלפּ יז זא ריא טלייצראפ ןוא רתסא ןידניירפ עשידיא ריא טימ ריצאפּש א טפּאכ אנעריא .ןדנואוושראפ ןרעוו תוחפּשמ עצנאג יוו ,אטעג ןיא ןדנעטשמוא .אטעג ןופ רעדניק ןעוועטארוצסיורא

!גנונאפּש טימ רעטייוו טנייל

ןעיירעלגומש :23 לטיפאק

רעד ןעוועג טשינ טייוו זיא סאד ".ןגראמ" סאוו דניק-רעטסעווש רענייפ ,רעלעדייא טאה גאטייוו טימ .ןלאמעגפּארא טאה רתסא טימ טריסאפּ טאה סאוו טכארטאב אנעריא עשיאייצילאפּ ןיא ןוטעגנא גידנעייז לאומש יד ןדנעל ענייז ףיוא גידנגארט ןוא ןרידנומ .עקייגאנ ענימוג .טגערפעג יז טאה "?אד וטסיב גנאל יוו" טעוו ,ןגראמ ךאנ .סקעז רעגייז זיב ראנ"

".סעטאלז 3,000 ןייז סע ".סקעז ראפעב ןייז אד לעוו'כ .יעקא"

ןיא טשיוטנא ןעוועג עקאט זיא אנעריא

םיא טעיירפעג ךיז טאה יז רעבא ,לאומש

טאה ,ןטייצ עלופראפעג יד ןיא .ןפערט וצ ןראוועג זיא רע ןוא טצינעגסיוא טוג םיא יז עכלעוו ןשטנעמ ץענ ריא ןופ לייט א – אטעג ןיא ןכאז ןצרעווש ןפלאהעג ןבאה ינאטנא ןוא סראטאלאטסניא ,רעקירטקעלע ארויב-רעלאיצאס רעד – יקסווארבנאד א טאהעג ןבאה עלא .רעוויירד סנאלובמא טראד ןענעז סאוו ןעיירעלגומש יד ןיא לייט .ןשטייד יד ןופ זאנ יד רעטנוא ןעמוקעגראפ

ןלעטשוצנא טריבורפּ טאה אנעריא עכילטע באה ךיא" .םינפּ םענעכעלב א סאוו – ןעיילפּוס עשיניצידעמ – ךעלקעפּ סע ליוו'כ .אטעג ןיא ןגארטפּא ףראד'כ .ןעמעלבארפּ ענא רעיוט םעד ןגארטכרוד םעד ראפ ןעמ טלאצ סאוו ,גירעגיינ ןיב ךיא "?געט יד ןא זיא'ס" .טלכיימשעג טאה לאומש

"?ךאז עגילאמנייא סע ןטלאוו טניירפ עניימ .ךיז טדנעוו"

".ןריבורפּ טלאוועג ליפיוו .געט יד טניירפ ףראד רעדעי ,אי"

"?סע טגעוו ליפיוו ?ךעלקעפּ עדעי טנופ 50 ךרעב ,ךעלקעפּ ןעצ" ןא ןיא טקאפּעגניירא ןייז טעוו סע .סנייא ".סנאלובמא לאומש יוזא יוו טכאבאאב טאה אנעריא וד דלאביוו" .פּאק ןיא סיוא סע טנכער ריד ךיא לעוו ,רתסא ןופ ענידניירפ א טסיב .סעטאלז 2,000 – זיירפּ עלעיצעפּס א ןבעג ןעוו .רעיוט םייב ןלאצאב סאד רימ טסעוו "?וטסמוק

רעבמעצעד ,עשראוו

.1941 ראונאי1940ךיז טאה רע ".רעכיז ,עמרוט עיסנעג" קנילב א גידנבעג ןוא ןקור ןייז ןכילגעגסיוא .ךיוא ,םיא ראפ טוג" :טגאזעג גיוא ןטימ ן'כרוד טייצלאמ ןייא ןבאה רע לאז שטאכ ".ןפאלש וצ ואוו ץאלפּ א ןוא גאט טרימראפניאסימ ןעוועג זיא לאומש אנעריא .טנגיל רעבארג א טגאזעג רעדא עמרוט עיסנעג םעניא זא טסואוועג טאה ןענעז עכלעוו ןעגנוי ואוו ,רעדניק ראפ ןענעז ןעלגומש םייב ןראוועג ןסאשעג טשינ ןעמוקאב ןעמ טאה ,ןראוועג טריצאלפּ ןעמ ןוא טייצלאמ רעטרעגאמעגסיוא ןייא ןצארטאמ ענעיורטש ףיוא ןפאלשעג זיא עטאר-טיוט יד .יראטימראד עטלאק א ןיא יד .ךיוה ראג ןעוועג זיא עמרוט םעניא וצ טבעלעגרעביא ןבאה עכלעוו םימותי א ןיא טריצאלפּ ןעמ טאה ,טיירפאב ןרעוו ךיוא ןענעז רעדניק ךאסא ואוו ,םייה םימותי .ןבראטשעג

ןבעג וצ םיא טלעג גונעג טאהעג טאה יז

ריא .דאש א ןעוועג זיא סע רעבא ,דחוש .סעכ וצ טעיירדעגרעביא ןראוועג זיא קערש לאמא טאה יז סאוו טנאמרעד ךיז טאה יז ןיא ןצעזעג זיא סאוו ,ןדייז ריא ןופ טרעהעג ;ךאווש ריד טכאמ קערש" :סעמרוט עשיסור ".קראטש ריד טכאמ סעכ

טעיירדעגרעביא טאה ןאמ סע-סע רעד ןופ הרוחס יד ןסירעגפיוא ןוא לקעז ריא

טאה קאש טימ .רעסעמ א טימ גינייוועניא

סעטאלז 10,000 יד יוו טקוקעגוצ אנעריא טאה יז .שיט ן'פיוא סיורא ךיז ןסיג אד סאוו ןעז ךיא לאז' :פּאק ןיא טריטאבעד ,עדנע ןזיב ןטראוו ןוא ןליפּשסיוא ךיז טעוו א ןגארטנא ןוא ןייז הדומ ךיז ךיילג רעדא '?ראבאכ עמוס עסיורג ריא טימ ץעז א ןבעגעג יז טאה סעכ טימ סאד ןעגנערבוצניירא טכער באה'כ" .סופ לארטנאק-עיצקעפניא ראפ אטעג ןיא טלעג סאפּ םעד ןזיוועג םיא טאה יז "!ןטקעיארפּ .יקסוואקאשזדאמ ראטקאד ןופ טאה יז סאוו רעד טאה ",ןעז ןיוש ןלעוו רימ"

סאד ןביוהעגפיוא ןוא ,טגאזעג ראדנאשז ראטקאד טרינאפעלעט טאה רע .לביירט

זא ןטעבעג ןוא ארויב ס'יקסוואקאשזדאמ

.םיא טימ ןדער ליוו רע

רעד יוו טכאבאאב טאה אנעריא ראטקאד ןופ קספּ א טפּאכ שטייד

רע טאה טמעשראפ .יקסוואקאשזדאמ :ןפורעגנא ךיז ןוא לביירט סאד טגיילעגפּארא טגיטעטשאב יקסוואקאשזדאמ ראטקאד" רע ראפעב ".ןייג טסנעק .טסגאז וד סאוו סע-סע רעד טאה ,טזאלעג יירפ ריא טאה 1,000 ןעמונעג השוב פּארט ןייק ןא ןאמ ןענעז עכלעוו ןטאנקנאב יד ןופ סעטאלז

.ןגילעג טראד ןריצאפּשוצקעווא טריבורפּ טאה אנעריא ,ןקור ןכיילג א טימ ןוא קראטש טראד ןופ טעיירדעגניירא ךיז טאה יז ןעוו ךיילג רעבא ןייז ןופ סיורא ןעוועג זיא ןוא סאג א ןיא א ףיוא ןפראוועגפיורא ךיז יז טאה ,קילב ןוא עדייבעג-טנעמטראפּא ןא ןופ טנאוו .ןרערט עריא ןטלאהנייא טנעקעג טשינ טאהעג ארומ יז טאה ,עדנוקעס א ראפ יז רעבא .ןענייוו ןקרעמאב ריא טעוו ןעמ זא ערעטיב יד ןיא זא ,טפּאכעג לענש ךיז טאה לאז יורפ א זא לאמראנמוא טשינ זיא ,ןטייצ .סאג ן'פיוא ןענייוו

ךיז רע טאה ,טנאיצילאפּ רעשיליופּ א

.ךרוד סע טכוז ןוא טקוקאב רע יוו טכאמעג טכארטאב טאה ראדנאשז רעשטייד רעד טאה ץראה ס'אנעריא ןוא ,ןטנעמוקאד יד טשינ טאה ראבאכ .לענש ראג טצעזעג ךאסא ןענעז סרעלגומש .טעבראעג לאמעלא

ןייק ןא ,ץאלפּ ן'פיוא ןראוועג ןסאשעג לאמ .גנונעראוו עגידרעירפ לאומש טאה ,שטייד םענופ לעפאב ן'פיוא גיאור זיא ינאטנא ןוא רעיוט םעד טנפעעג ךעלסעג עניילק עלאמש ךרוד .ןראפעגכרוד זיא סאוו ,עדייבעג א וצ ןעמוקעגנא רע זיא ,גנוטכא" ןטאקאלפּ טימ ןעגנאהאב ןעוועג יד .טלעטשעגפּא טראד ךיז ןוא "!סופיט עשיליופּ טימ טצישאב ןעוועג זיא עדייבעג רעירפ ןופ ןיוש ןענעז עכלעוו ,ןטנאיצילאפּ ןכאמראפ וצ רתסא ךרוד ןראוועג טלאצאב .ןגיוא ערעייז גנילצולפּ ןענעז ךעל'מירוחב ןוא רעדניק ןעצ יד ןגארטעגניירא ןוא ןסקאוועגסיורא זיא סאוו ריט א ךרוד ,זייפּש קעז עסיורג זיא עיצקא יד .טכאוואב ןעוועג טשינ ללכב .ןעגנולעג

אנעריא טאה ,גאט ןגידנעמוק רעטסעווש-ןקנארק ריא ןיא טעיינעגניירא טאה יז ראפעב ,סעטאלז 10,000 לקעז סאד .אטעג םוצ טירט עריא טלעטשעג ןוא רעיוט ןטייווצ א טצינעג יז טאה לאמ ראדנאשז רעשטייד א טראד טקרעמאב .ןעזעג טשינ לאמנייק ךאנ טאה יז ןעמעוו שטייד רעד טאה לכיימש עשיניצ א טימ טנאה ןיא גידנטלאה ,ריא וצ ןפורעגנא ךיז ןייד רימ זייוו !גנוטכא" :רעוולאווער ןייז טאה טנאיצילאפּ רעשיליופּ א "!לקעז אנעריא .רעטרעוו ענייז טשטייטעגרעביא ריא טאה ןעמ זא טאהעג ארומ טאה .ןטארראפ טייהרעדליוו ריא טאה שטייד רעד טפּעלשעגניירא ןוא םערא םייב טפּאכעגנא ריד ןלעוו רימ" .עקדוב-רעטכעוו םוצ ןיא טגאזעג רע טאה ",ןכוזרעטנוא ןביוהעגנא ןוא שיליופּ עטקאהוצ א עגירביא יד .לטנאמ ריא ןפּעלשוצפּארא .טכאלעג ךיוה ןבאה עקדוב םעניא ןשטייד םיא טנאה ןייז טפּאכעגנא טאה אנעריא א טגנאלרעד ריא טאה רע ןוא ,ןלעטשוצפּא סאד ךיז וטסגאוו יוזא יוו" .םינפּ ןיא קסארפ וטסאה רשפא" ,ןגירשעג רע טאה "?ןוט וצ טאה ,געט יד ןיא ?אד ןטלאהאב סעפּע ".סעפּע רענייא רעדעי

יירטעג רעייז ןעוועג זיא יקסווארבנאד טייהנעגנאגראפ רעד ןיא .טעברא ןייז וצ ןוט וצ ןטעבעג טאהעג םיא אנעריא טאה עניילק ןעלגומשוצרעבירא ,ןטייקיניילק ,ןעניצידעמ ןוא זייפּש ןופ ןעמוטנאווק רעטנוא ןטלאהאב ,ןסע ייווצ-קאז א רעדא טצעי .רעכעלייל עשיניצידעמ עטרימשראפ ןייז ןעק רע ביוא טגערפעג םיא יז טאה א סעפּע" ראפ ,גאטימכאנ ןגראמ טיירג ךילטקנופּ רעגייזא ריפ ,עיסימ עלעיצעפּס "?ןיזאגאמ-זייפּש םייב רע טאה ",ןאגאוו םעד ראנ ריפ ךיא" לעוו'כ" .ןגיוא יד טימ טלקניפעג ןוא טגאזעג קראטש ןענעז רעכעלייל יד זא ןכאמ רעכיז עפראש ןופ ןקעמש ןוא טרימשראפ ".ןעניצידעמ יקסניסארבאד טאה גאט ןגידנעמוק םעד ןעק יז זא לטעצ ס'אנעריא ןבירשעגרעטנוא קעז ןזיר ןעצ ןיזאגאמ םענופ ןעמענסיורא

.גייצנירג-לצראוו ןוא לעמ ,האובת טימ א ןיא טגנאלרעד ריא רע טאה םעד רעסיוא .סעטאלז 2,000 טרעוונאק יד ,אגאשזד טאה ",גנוטכא ביג" ארויב-עלאיצאס םענופ ןיראטערקעס .ןגירשעגכאנ ריא ,יקסניסארבאד ראטקעריד ןבענ ינאטנא ןפארטעג טאה אנעריא קעז ראפּ עטצעל יד ןעוו ,ןיזאגאמ םעד םענופ ןטניה ןראוועג טנדאלעגפיורא ןענעז ןופ קעמש רעקראטש רעד .ןאגאוו ענעיגיה טריפּשעג ךיז טאה ןעניצידעמ עפראש יד םעניא טצעזעגניירא ךיז טאה יז .לארעביא ןדניבראפ קראטש ךיז ןוא ץיז-רישזאסאפּ .טרעטיצעג ןבאה ןעינק עריא .לכיט ריא טימ טראה רעיוט םוצ ןעמוקעגנא ןענעז ייז טייצ ענעמונראפ-ראג א ,סקעז רעגייז ראפ ןריבורפּ ,עדימ ןוא עגירעגנוה ,רעטכעוו ןעוו םייב ,טעברא ןופ גאט א ךאנ ןגיטראפ וצ רעטרעדנוה ןכוזרעטנוא ןוא ןקוקכרוד .רעטעברא-ןפאלקש ןבענ ןאגאוו םעד טריפעגוצ טאה ינאטנא .ןעמוקעגוצ ךיילג זיא לאומש ןוא ,רעיוט םעד א ןוא ןריפּאפּ ערעייז ןעמונעג טאה רע טרעדנוה גיצנאווצ טימ טלופעגנא טרעוונאק ןריפּאפּ ס'ינאטנא .ןטאנקנאב סעטאלז טפירשרעטנוא עשלאפ יד טאהעג ןבאה רעטסינימ-טייהנוזעג ןשטייד םענופ םיא גידנביולרע ,ןעגאה םלעהליוו ראטקאד .סיוא טלעפ סע ןעוו ןראפוצכרוד עטשרעטניה סאד טנפעעג טאה לאומש טימ ןעמאזוצ ןוא ,לקערט םענופ ריט

Eggs & Black Bean Tacos

2 SERVINGS 15 MINUTES

INGREDIENTS

1/2 cup Cooked Black Beans

1/2 Lime (juiced)

Sea Salt & Black Pepper (to taste)

1 tsp Butter

5 Eggs (whisked)

3 oz Cheddar Cheese (shredded)

4 Corn Tortillas (small, warmed)

1/2 Avocado (cubed)

2 Tbsp Cilantro (chopped)

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DIRECTIONS

1. Heat a non-stick pan over medium heat and melt the butter.

In a bowl, add the black beans and the lime juice. Use a fork and smash the beans until mostly mashed. Season with salt and pepper.

2. Add the whisked eggs to the pan and season with salt and pepper.

3. Stir the eggs frequently until cooked through. During the last minute of cooking, top with the cheese and cover to let it melt.

5.

4. Sprea d the mashed beans onto the tortillas. Top with the egg, avocado, and cilantro.

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ראמטאס שדוקה רצחב ןטק םירופ Purim Kuten in Satmar ןייטש .י :םוליצ

דודשאב ד”מהיבב ןאמרעדיב ךלמילא ’ר צ”הגה לצא ןטק םירופ Purim Kuten by Hagaon Rabbi Elimelch Biderman in Ashdod יול יסוי :םוליצ

דג ינג אקניפסמ ר”ומדאה ןבל הוצמ רבה תחמש Bar Mitzvah for son of the Spinka Ganei Gad Rebbe ץיבוקרפ הדוהי :םוליצ

הפיח הנרובדנ - ץינזיוו תיבב תוכרב עבשה תחמש Sheva Bruches in Courts of Visnitz and Nadvorna Haifa ה”פש :םוליצ

ה”ע אריווקסמ תינברה ותוחא פ”ע ץינזיוומ ר”ומדאה לצא םילבא םוחינ Nichem Aveilem by the Visnitz Rebbe רעטכורפ עשוהי :םוליצ

8 servings20 min

Coconut & Apricot Grain Free Granola

ingredients

2 cups Unsweetened Coconut Flakes

1/2 cup Dried Apricots (chopped)

2 Tbsp Coconut Butter (melted)

2 Tbsp Maple Syrup

1 tsp Cinnamon

1/8 tsp Sea Salt

1.

directions

Preheat the oven to 300oF (149oC) and line a baking sheet with parchment paper.

2.

In a medium-sized bowl add the coconut flakes, dried apricots, melted coconut butter, maple syrup, cinnamon and sea salt. Mix well

Place the mixture on the prepared baking sheet and flatten it out with the back of a spoon. Bake for 14 minutes, stirring halfway through.

4.

3. Let it cool on the baking sheet for 5 to 10 minutes. Serve and enjoy!

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ICE CREAM Let's Make Lotus Canollis

INGRIDIENTS :

1/2 a tub of pareve vanilla ice cream

1/2 jar lotus

1 cup rice Krispies

2 packages canollis

PROCEDURE :

Soften ice cream

Melt lotus in microwave, mix in rice Krispies, fold mixture into ice cream

Pour into a large Ziploc, cut a small hole on top and pipe into canollis, freeze until ready to serve

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Zuchinni Pasta

6 SERVINGS30 MINUTES

1 Medium Zuchinni

1 Medium Onion

1/2 Stick of butter

DIRECTIONS

INGREDIENTS Cook noodles and drain

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2 Cups of heavy cream

Salt and Garlic to taste

1 Cup shredded cheese

1 Package of pasta (16oz)

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2. Saute in butter until soft

4.

Cut up squash and onion into small cubes

3. Add in heavy cream , garlic and salt and cook over medium heat until a little thick

5.

Add in pasta and cheese and mix until cheese melts

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Shyness, social issues, won’t join in sports, speaking up/ in front of the class, etc

Many years of experience... proven track record..Let me help your son! 718-614-1141

Need a Driver?

Heading to airport? Need a driver by the hour?Need a package delivered? Call/ text/WhatsApp to schedule your affordable ride! 347-391-4301

Lost and Found

Found

Shaitel on White Dove Court 732-233-8786

Gemachs

Beautiful current style and current season children, teen, infant dresses avail for a Simcha, such as brothers bar mitzvah or cousins wedding...Call\ text 7326911666 to inquire Lzchus r’s refael Moshe Chaim ben chana

New tznius hospital gowns in Oak and Vine. Please call: 347-486-2994 or 347633-6329

Vort Dress Gemach

If you have a perfect condition Simcha dress that you would like others to benefit from, please call/ text (848) 245-2633.

The Pickup Gmach-Picking up your current last season’s kids clothing in good condition and passing it on to local Lakewood families who appreciate it and wear it right. We keep outfits and matching together as sets. For pickups email pickupgmach@gmail.com

Free Giveaway

Bunny with a cage pleas call ben at 848-224-1346

Brand new bumper for a Toyota Camry 2002-2004, no fog lights please text 908-943-8537

Misc.

Mishnayos for the Kedoshim

Many of those killed on Simchas Torah and during the current war may not have ppl to learn Mishnayos/say Kaddish for them. Please learn a perek/mesechta Leili Nishmas text 201-241-2875

Ayin Horah

The renowned Rebetzin Aidel Miller from Yerushalayim Is now available to remove “Ayin Horah” over the phone. Call till 5:00 PM: 718.689.1902 or 516.300.1490

Wanna make some extra money?? You sure do! TEXT the word “MONEY” to 718-887-5180 for details. (or call)

יבר ג”הרה הליהקה ץ”מוד םענופ ודובכל יסנאמ ןיא .טס ןיעמ ףיוא גרובנעזיולק זנאצ ד”מהיב ןיא תוכרב עבש

גרובנעזיולק זנאצמ ר”ומדאה תושארב רעדעיוו בוד רכשי Sheva Bruches in Honor of Harav Yisocher Dov Wieder Sanz Klausenberg Dayen in Monsey רעגרעבדלאג יסוי :םוליצ

םינומא ירמושמ ר”ומדאה ןבל תוכרב עבשה תחמש Sheva Bruches for son of the Shomrei Emunim Rebbe

לגס ידוד

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רתיבב קחצי םהרבא תודלותמ ר”ומדאה דכנל ףורפיוא תבש Shabbos Aufrif for Grandson of the Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok Rebbe in Beitar ךאבנזייא .א :םוליצ

אקניפס יבצ לאומש תיב שדוקה רצחב ןטק םירופ Purim Kuten in Beis Shmiel Tzvi Spinka ד”במ :םוליצ

אפאפ שדוקה רצחב ןטק םירופ Purim Kuten in Pupa

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