Lake Norman Woman Magazine - November 2020

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be grateful for the “pause” and come back to yourself WHAT IF THIS FORCED DOWN TIME IS A GIFT? What if it’s an

opportunity to get the rest and clarity we so desperately long for and need? What can we learn from disruptions like this? How can we transform a shocking event into an opportunity for self-examination and gratitude? It’s an odd time, to be sure. We find ourselves forced into unexpected isolation. But there is a difference between being lonely and being alone. I wonder what healing we would find if we shifted our perspective and saw this as a gift of solitude and retreat—a unique opportunity for withdrawal from the daily hustle that demands our attention and strains our focus. The way I see it, this is a sort of “spiritual time-out” … an opportunity to distance ourselves from the things that we would normally allow to control us in order to become grounded. Yes, we are in challenging times, but you will be able to grow when you surrender to the reality of what is. You can find energy in gratitude. There is light at the end of the tunnel. How we show up now is predictive of our future in many arenas. w H E R E A R E A F E W T H I N G S T H AT W I L L F O ST E R G R AT I T U D E :

honor your feelings

Honor your feelings in this moment. What name would you give them? Are you restless? Anxious? Afraid? Know that your feelings are valid. They’re integral to your processing and healing. It’s ok to feel however you’re feeling. Don’t run from your emotions; sit with them and listen to them. Peel them back and see what lies underneath them.

develop a contemplative practice Every now and then, we need to give ourselves space to think so that we can move forward with more energy. This inflicted pause is an opportunity to examine where your heart is and what is holding it captive in order to “flip the script” and form a strategy to peacefully and proactively recalibrate and move forward with more intentionality.

Activities like prayer, meditation, study, journaling, breath-work, and moving your body are good ways to examine and nourish your inner being … and gratitude will follow!

rest and reset

Rest has been proven time and time again to dramatically increase our well-being … and yet, we don’t do it. Due to technology advances and constant access to information, the cognitive load on each of us is heavier than ever before. Our minds simply don’t have the capacity to process the ever-increasing hurry of everyday life. When we rest, we come back to ourselves. We reduce the clutter to the essential. Take this time to rest in solitude and silence, which will increase your inner tranquility and enable you to reset. Rest is the most reliable path to equanimity and peace, and is essential for mental, physical, and spiritual health.

Hilary Porta is the founder of R3 International, Inc. and is the Principal/CEO of H Porta Coaching, a leading-edge transformational company based out of Mooresville, with a satellite office in the UK. Known as The Life Architect, Chief Shame Slayer, human behavior hacker, and business strategist, Hilary is an international speaker (shared the stage with Dr. Deepak Chopra) and a frequent contributor to numerous national publications. Her work embraces everyone from professional athletes, to the military, to celebrities, to teens struggling with anxiety.

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