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IN THIS ISSUE: Amanda ForrestALSOLandscape Designs Outdoor Living Spaces Jim Sheils Colour Trends for 2017 Shawn Hunter Paul LaFrance Cobi Ladner Pat Belding Jarred Dooley Dan Clark

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Welcome to KITCHEN FASHIONS

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hanks for joining us for our fourth edition of Kitchen Fashions Magazine. We have been blown away by the response to our last issue and can’t wait to share this one with you. The team here has worked hard to create and bring you articles which we hope you will find both interesting and useful. We once again feature photos from several of our recent local projects and articles from our staff. We have had the wonderful opportunity to team up with Jillian Harris, Cobi Ladner, Amanda Forrest, Paul LaFrance, Jim Sheils and Shawn Hunter. As well, we feature another great recipe from Jamie Oliver.

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We would also like to take this chance to say that here at Kitchen Fashions, we recognize that we are who we are because of our team. We couldn’t do it without our talented team members, and we are proud to be able to feature their hard work for all the world to see.

Our team members’ dedication and determination, combined with our phenomenal clients, have led us to where we are today, and we want to say thank you.

We hope this and every future issue of our magazine will inform and inspire you. If you need even more inspiration and want to see more of our team’s fantastic work, check out our social media channels and our website.

Sincerely, Dan Clark, Pat Belding and Jarred Dooley www.kitchenfashions.ca

CONTENTS 5 LETTER FROM THE OWNERS 6 BACK TO BLACK: FEATURE PROJECT 8 CHBA AWARD OF EXCELLENCE 9 COVER STORY: JILLIAN HARRIS' KITCHEN 12 AMANDA FORREST: LUXURY FIREPLACES 14 COBI LADNER: FALL COLOURS 16 THE RESPONSIBILITY TO BE IRRESPONSIBLE 18 HEALTHIER EVERYDAY LIFE: JAMIE OLIVER 20 AVOID STRESS, FRUSTRATION AND MELTDOWNS 22 PAUL LAFRANCE: "THE DECK GUY" 26 THE FUNCTIONAL BEAUTY OF KITCHEN DESIGN 29 DEFINING DESIGN

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DESIGN DETAILS 1. Frameless Cabinet Style 2. Birch cabinets painted in black lacquer with worn off edges 3. Maple melamine interiors 4. Hardware from Amerock速 5. Rococo Quartz Countertop from LG速 6. Custom Range hood made

by DJC Carpentry

7. Manor House Fireclay White Sink from Franke速 8. Victorian Single Lever Faucet from American Standard速 9. Pull-outs for spice or baking storage 10. Trash compactor and mircowave drawer in island.

11. Double wall ovens with storage drawer below and cabinet above.

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n most houses, the kitchen is the heart of the home. It is a place where people gather to eat, talk, laugh, and—most of the time—cook. Sometimes, however, the kitchen is something more. It becomes a piece of art, something to not only live in, but to admire as well. It fits so beautifully into the aesthetic of the home that you can hardly tell where the living space ends and the kitchen begins. This is such a kitchen.

The marble-looking rococo quartz countertop, combined with the light grey tones in the herringbone-patterned backsplash tile, help to balance the darker cabinetry and bring some light back into the space. Large windows on either side of the range hood (pg. 6 bottom right photo), along with the open-concept design and twelve-foot ceiling, offer plenty of light, which is accented by the beautiful double chandelier pendants over the island.

This project wasn’t a renovation but rather a new construction, which meant that before the walls were even built, details were being ironed out to create a seamlessly designed space for both form and function. The kitchen was placed in the middle of the home and is open on one side to the foyer, and on the other to an expansive dining and living area. This layout creates a feeling of grandeur in the space, which, along with the tastes of the homeowners, lent itself to a more traditional design style.

This kitchen is loaded with hidden elements that allow the aesthetics to be maintained while keeping functionality intact. The two decorative spindles on either side of the cooktop pull out for spice or baking storage (pg. 6 top left photo); a microwave drawer and trash compactor in the island blend into the cabinetry and maximize counter space (pg. 6 top right photo). There are pull-out trays in the pantry surrounding the fridge and the double wall ovens off to the side allow for large meal preparation without taking space away from lower cabinetry. The corner pillars which support the countertop overhang (pg. 7 bottom photo) not only open for more hidden storage but also allow for plenty of room for seating.

The raised-panel door, the black lacquer finish with worn edges, the decorative spindles and crown moulding; the corbels, furniture toe-kicks, and custom range hood—made

by DJC Carpentry and Millwork, the sister company to Kitchen Fashions, and painted to match the cabinetry; all seamlessly create a traditional and timeless classic style.

Overall, this kitchen is unique and timeless, ideal for entertaining, cooking and living and perfectly designed for this family’s style, taste and needs.

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itchen Fashions was pleased to be presented with the award for the Best Bathroom Renovation of 2016 from the NB chapter of Canadian Home Builders Assoication.

Kitchen Fashions received two of the top three nominations for the bathroom category, as well as a nomination for the best kitchen of 2016.

This renovation included a new walk-in tile shower with seat, vanity, full height pantry and linen closet, drywall, paint and new LVT flooring.

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Jillian Harris

GIRLS AFTERNOON IN MY KITCHEN

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Meet Jillian Founder & Creative Director Host of Love it or List It Vancouver (Canada) & Love It Or List It Too (USA), spokesperson for international brands, interior designer, and publisher of original lifestyle content, Jillian Harris is a quintessential busy-bee who pours her heart and soul into every endeavor. Jillian’s signature blend of high-brow/low-brow style makes her relatable to both small-town and city gals alike.

With creativity and infectious energy, Jillian’s love for fashion, decor, food, fitness, travel and family is fully expressed at JillianHarris.com and through her JH for Privilege and JH for Melanie Auld collections. Her other happy place? Surrounded by family and friends at home in Kelowna with her fiancé Justin, son Leo, and their boxer pup Nacho Cilantro

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elcome to my new dining room.

What do you think?!?!? I just recently upgraded my table and it has completely transformed my kitchen and dining room space. I had the table custom built by my friend who owns Urban Roots. I have always loved his work but never imagined the table that we designed together would turn out this beautifully.

I originally bought farmhouse metal chairs to go with it, but I thought the space lacked character and texture. SO…I returned them and went to Taylor’s antiques (one of my favourite antique stores in Kelowna) and rummaged through their stuff. I found 8 mismatched vintage chairs all within the same colour scheme and brought them home to try. I absolutely love them and they were a fraction of the price!!!

I picked some fresh apples off my tree and threw some BC Tree Fruit plums in a bowl…and decided to invite the girls over for an afternoon lunch. Tori from Fraiche Nutrition of course brought an amazing charcuterie spread (she never disappoints) which was the cherry on top to breaking in the new dining room!!!

What are you and your girlfriends doing this weekend!?!?! I suggest an impromptu lunch!

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Jilly JILLIANHARRIS.COM

Photo Credit: Janis Nicolay

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Amanda Forrest

LUXURY ELECTRIC FIREPLACES

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2 1 The gold skull in our logo has become a recognizable figure for the Amanda Forrest brand and is reflective of Amanda’s belief that the skull offers a home protection from negative energy and is a celebration of her Cree Ancestry.

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he world of fireplaces has evolved greatly - there are many great options on the market but the ease of installation with these Dimplex Fireplace units really impressed me. Generally, they install in minutes with no specialty wiring required, making them perfect for renters, condo owners or homeowners wanting a weekend refresh with big return on their investment.

dramatic focal point. This particular fireplace is the sexiest one of all! Its sleek lines are perfect for a modern, luxurious look and feel. All of these electric fireplaces allow you to have the ambiance of fire with or without heat, perfect all year round and the one-stop solution when gas or wood are not options.

On the note of fireplaces - I can’t resist giving a little mantle styling advice - here are my top 3 tips to getting the most dramatic look to compliment your fireplace:

One of the more popular models is the Charlotte Media Unit (photo 1). It’s easy to see why her style is so popular; she offers dual function as a fireplace and a media console.

This creates instant ambiance, provides storage and because of it’s dual function I can easily create a nice furniture grouping around the fireplace without two separate focal points fighting for attention. Charlotte is preassembled so very easy to get down into a basement or condo elevator and sets up in minutes! It can accurately reproduce a natural woodburning fire or gas look and warm up to 1000 square feet.

1. Group art in 3’s using various heightskeep to complimentary colours.

2. Add one sculptural element like a vase or statue.

3. Layer in some greens for softness.

Amanda Forrest is a celebrity designer, brand ambassador and media influencer. She is a nationally recognized expert in home construction, project management, design and lifestyle trends. With 20 years of practical experience and taste making, her industry leading concepts are featured on television, print and advertising as well as many national and international events like IDS West, The National Home Show and The International Builders Conference.

Opti-myst (photo 2) is the world’s safest fireplace technology that turns water into flames! This beauty blew me away!

I could not believe how real the flames look. As the mist rises up through the bed, light reflects against the water molecules creating a convincing illusion of flames and smoke. It is so life-like in appearance that it is often mistaken for a traditional wood-burning fireplace, yet it is 100% safe to the touch. This fireplace unit is so flexible it can be installed just about anywhere, from a family room to a hotel lobby. I was able to use river rocks, branches or even faux antler horns to change the look seasonally! So versatile.

Amanda’s approachable, fun and informative broadcast segments are seen on multiple networks, heard on radio and shared on social media outlets with a reach of approximately 3 million viewers in the last 100 days.

IgniteXL (photo 3) is Dimplex’s premium linear electric fireplace with interchangeable driftwood or diamond like rocks.

IgniteXL is available in lengths up to 100 inches of flawless panoramic flames that boast a “less frame-more flame” for a

As a devoted mother to 5 children, Amanda appreciates the value in teaching and believes she is here to make a difference. She is a proud supporter of creative entrepreneurs and children’s rights initiatives.

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hair. They loved the colour blue and extolled the virtues of it as they shrouded both themselves and their home in all shades from powder to cobalt to pewter. In fact, they were as passionate about the coolness of their side of the colour wheel as my mom was about the warmth of hers. I was left confused and conflicted in the middle.

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grew up with a mom who loved “fall colours”. Perhaps because she was born in October or because she was a redhead who was told to wear olive and gold all her life. Or maybe it was just because I was growing up in the 70s. Whatever the reason, our house (and cottage) were bathed in the warm glow of fall colours all year round.

When I caught the decorating bug in my early teens, I was naturally curious about the merits of the other side of the colour wheel - mauves and blues and God forbid - greys. My mother spoke of them with distain as if they were the cold and unwelcoming cousins to our warm and fun-loving fall colours.

It just so happened that my best friend was a blue-eyed blond with a mom who had pink lipstick and frost-and-tip

As the groovy 70s turned in the posh 80s, over-used earthtones took a back seat to rich jewel-tones and I found myself once again swayed from my roots, this time to a cleaner, brighter look as I decorated my first apartment in crisp white with Marimekko prints in the kitchen and oversized birds-of-paradise on the bed-not an earthtone to behold. Surprisingly, my mother loved it.

Today my mom is open to all kinds of colours but her favorite is still yellow. As I look around my own home I see I’ve found my comfort zone smack in the middle. Our house is split with the warmth and comfort of "fall colours" in the living spaces like living, dining and family rooms and hallways and the cool, clean and soothing shades of

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"watery colours" decorate the kitchen, bathrooms and bedroom. Our living room is made up of a collection of colorus ranging from orange to camel to red with gold accents. It could be a forest of leaves if it weren’t for the crisp white backdrop of the walls. Our dining room has dark brown furniture, honey-coloured carpet and woven raffia on the walls that glow like candlelight in the evening.

Coming from someone who has owned two red sofas in her life (I replaced a worn-out one with virtually the same colour) I don’t believe in fearing colour. I know the palette(s) I feel most at home with and can’t imagine living with any other way, therefore "getting sick of them" isn’t a worry. Our personal palette comes from a blend of lifelong influences and usually we know what’s right if we listen and trust our instincts. Thankfully home fashion is all about personal taste now rather than conformist trends. Go with your gut; enjoy your home with passion, and be confident in your choices, knowing you can’t go wrong if it feels right. And your rooms will show it.

All furnishings and accessories, cobistyle. For more information see www.cobistyle.com.

THREE TIPS FOR DECORATING WITH FALL COLOURS 1. OFFSETTING Offset the warmth of "fall colours" with a crisp, clean backdrop of warm white walls.

2. METALLICS Bring some lustre into the mix by using touches of warm metals like brass, gold leaf and bronze.

3. SEASONAL COLOURS In summer, use brilliant citrusy yellow, orange and lime accents to brighten the mix through the use of throws and decorative pillows. In winter, cozy up with deep reds, russets and purple.

Cobi Ladner, past editor of Canadian House & Home Magazine, is one of Canada's leading design and decorating authorities.

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THE RESPONSIBILITY TO BE IRRESPONSIBLE Jim Sheils has a clear purpose: to deepen relationships and improve education. He is an entrepreneur and author of the popular book, The Family Board Meeting, which is helping parents worldwide reconnect with their kids in fun and experiential ways. Jim is an avid surfer and lives in St Augustine, Florida, with his beautiful wife, Jamie, and his four children.

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saw it time and time again. I’d attend events in personal development, entrepreneurship, financial intelligence and relationship building. I was able to apply the lessons taught directly to help improve my life. The results committed me to becoming a lifelong student in these subjects.

These were smart men and women with money. I believe they had good hearts and the best intentions when starting the journey, but they lost their way and their priorities. They stopped living the message they were marketing on late night TV and in the big magazines.

However, some of the “gurus,” at these events shared something in common. On stage they’d flash a picture of theirselves sitting on the hood of a sports car in front of a mansion. Along with that, there would be a picture of their family on vacation in a tropical destination.

Earl Nightingale once said, “As you attempt to put yourself in a position to acquire all the things that money can buy, don’t sacrifice the things money can’t buy.”

I’ve never cared much about sport cars or mansions. Still, I really looked up to all these people – until I started guest speaking and saw behind the curtain. People say a picture says a thousand words – but they don’t always say what the people on stage want them to.

Behind the curtain, some of these gurus were always on the road. Some of them were closet alcoholics. Some worse.

Their marriages were failing or over. Saddest of all, many of them had barely any relationship with their children.

This saying haunted me. It haunted my surf buddies.

We’d talk about it at length on our surf trips. We made a pact not to fall into this trap. Relationships would come first and there would be no substitute for quality time.

This was the birth of the Board Meeting Strategy – a simple rhythm that has been a grounding pillar for building a relationship with our kids.

It works like this: every 90 days we have a Board Meeting with our children. It’s a minimum of four uninterrupted hours and it’s always: •

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One-on-one

«As you attempt to put yourself in a position to acquire all the things that money can buy, don’t sacrifice the things money can’t buy.»

- Earl Nightingale • Without electronics

put their relationship ahead of their work – an issue I see dividing a lot of working parents from their children.

• Doing a fun activity of their choice, with some open communication saved for the end (this step is the basis of experiential education.)

Missing two days of school per year is a small price to pay for real connection between parent and child.

With the Board Meeting Strategy, children get the respect their business-owner parents usually only give to their key team members or largest investors.

Each Board Meeting I come back to work more energized, more productive, more focussed. To steal Steve Covey’s analogy “the saw has been sharpened”. I’ve given time and space to people that mean the most to me.

I’ve done the strategy for years, and it works extremely well.

I even wrote a book about it and shared some personal stories and breakthroughs I had with my adopted sons as a result.

The longer I do these Board Meetings, the more I want to keep doing them. One of the greatest things about doing these Board Meetings is that I often get to pull my boys out of school to have one. It’s great doing a fun activity during the week when every one else is grinding away. There’s something special about breaking this routine and having an experience with your son or daughter. If you’ve done it, you understand.

A lot of people don’t understand this. They see it as irresponsible beyond belief. They say, “You pull them out of school to spend a day at the beach with you? Don’t you believe in a good education and the value of school?”

Of course I do. I like my boys’ school, too. However, I believe in the importance of our relationship more.

On occasion we need to break the normal routine to remember what’s most important. Work and school can easily dictate our schedule forever if we let them. I refuse to let this happen. Therefore, two to three days per year each of my kids will miss school and I’ll miss work to have a Board Meeting.

This makes perfect attendance loyalists and workaholics want to throw up. They are usually the first ones to say to me, “What kind of example are you setting?!”

This is something I’ve thought on a lot. It’s something that takes me back to the gurus I saw on stage. They were successful in the eyes of the unimportant majority but unknown and disconnected to an important minority.

I believe the example I’m setting is this: When my kids grow up they will have a habit instilled within them to play hooky from work and school every 90 days to spend time with their most important relationships – without remorse and without guilt. It will also prove to their own kids that they can and will

Showing this type of, “irresponsibility” putting work and school 2nd, helps marks the time and ground the most important relationship. Most people – and society as a whole - would be better off if more people took the responsibility to be what most would consider irresponsible.

Without fail, every New Year’s we reflect back on our year as a family and ask the boys for highlights. Every Year they always talk about their Board Meetings.

I have a simple goal in all this. When my children turn eighteen and leave the house to start the next phase of their life, I plan to hand each of them a yearbook of our Board Meetings over the years – a short log I’ve been keeping since we started the practice. It will include the dates, a few details of the fun adventure they chose for that day, a photo, and notes of reflection from the conversations we had.

Four meetings a year for 15 years commemorated forever.

Visualizing this day keeps me committed to my responsibility to be “irresponsible.”

Let me ask you: if you had received a log like this from your father on your 18th birthday, do you think you’d have said, “I can’t believe I missed those days of school"?

I can't speak for anyone else but I know what I would say. I didn't have this with my father growing up and I wish I had.

Thanks to some great mentors I learned how to have a great relationship with my dad. I’m one of the lucky ones, but like the gurus on stage I know hundreds – perhaps thousands – of people who never learned this skill and now have a huge void within themselves. They were taught to be responsible, to put school and work first and to wear this commitment like a badge of honor. Now they’re alone and unfulfilled. Their children barely know them. If they had only taken the time to be a little more irresponsible…

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- RECIPE FOR A HEALTHIER EVERYDAY LIFE A RECIPE FROM JAMIE OLIVER Credit: Super Food Family Classics by Jamie Oliver is published by Penguin Random House ©

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(2016 Super Food Family Classics) Photographer: Jamie Oliver

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Jamie Oliver is a worldtraveled chef with a mission to make healthy food accessible to everyone.

ITALIAN SUPERFOOD BURGERS BALSAMIC ONIONS, MOZZARELLA & SLAW The secret here is to use lean minced beef, which is just as protein-packed as the higherfat stuff, bulked up with high-fibre navy beans. We even get a bit of mozzarella, too!

Serves 6 Total time: 40 minutes 2 small red onions 100ml cheap balsamic vinegar 500g lean minced beef 1 x 400g tin of navy beans 1 large free-range egg 6 wholemeal buns 2 tablespoons sesame seeds ½ a small white cabbage (500g) 3 tablespoons natural yoghurt 1 heaped teaspoon English mustard 1 teaspoon dried red chilli flakes 1 lemon olive oil 1 x 125g ball of mozzarella cheese 2 sprigs of fresh rosemary 2 ripe mixed-colour tomatoes 100g arugula

Preheat the oven to 200ºC/400ºF/gas 6. Peel the onions, finely slice into rounds and place in a bowl.

Add the balsamic and a couple of good pinches of sea salt to draw out excess moisture (you’ll drain the liquor off, so don’t worry about the amount of salt).

a medium-high heat with 1 teaspoon of oil in each (or cook in batches). Add three balls of mixture to each pan, gently squash into patties about 2cm thick, cook for 2 minutes, or until golden, then flip over. Top each burger with a slice of mozzarella and strip in the rosemary leaves around them. Pop into the oven for 2 minutes so the mozzarella melts, with the buns alongside to warm through.

Slice the tomatoes and divide between the bun bases with the cheesy burgers, crispy rosemary and balsamic onions, then pop the tops on, toss the slaw with the arugula, and serve.

Put the minced beef into a bowl with a big pinch of black pepper and a small pinch of salt. Drain and add the beans. Separate the egg and add the yolk to the mixture, then scrunch together really well with clean hands. Whisk the egg white, halve your burger buns, put back together, brush just the tops with egg white, then scatter over the sesame seeds to create a nice, even layer (you can even make stencils for a bit of fun, if you want to get the kids involved).

Pull off any tatty outer leaves from the cabbage. Very finely slice it, ideally on a mandolin (use the guard!). In a large bowl, toss the cabbage with the yoghurt, mustard, chilli flakes, lemon juice and a pinch of black pepper.

Divide the burger mixture into six equal-sized balls.

Place two large non-stick ovenproof frying pans on

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CALORIES - 446KCAL FAT - 15.6G SAT FAT - 6G PROTEIN - 34.5G CARBS - 38.9G SUGAR - 11.3G SALT - 1.5G FIBRE - 10G

2 PORTIONS OF VEGETABLES & FRUITS

A SECRET TO AVOID STRESS, FRUSTRATION AND MELTDOWNS

«Our expectation made us feel dejected and miserable.»

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Entrepreneur, author, idea developer. Shawn Hunter has collaborated with hundreds of business authors, executives, and researchers to create learning solutions. Shawn’s first company, Targeted Learning, was acquired by Skillsoft in February 2007.

He is the author of Out•Think and Small Acts of Leadership. mindscaling.com

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omeone in a big SUV, talking on the phone, oblivious to everyone around them, just cut you off. How do you feel? Just today, in a meeting, your boss contradicted you, again. How do you feel?

That imbecile over in product management just got the promotion you wanted. How about now?

The plane has just landed, and already, the guy behind you is talking loudly on the phone while you taxi to the gate. Now, how do you feel?

basketball game is on hold, but I can do many enjoyable and new things over the next few months.” Or “This sucks and is going to take some work, but I’ll have a little more time to work on my other projects.”

The difference is that little “but” inserted where we add the positives and hopeful outcomes. A healthy reaction acknowledges circumstances and adjusts to anticipate optimistic outcomes and choices.

The world is uncertain. People are irrational. Traffic happens. Cell phone batteries sometimes die.

Here’s an idea: When we get annoyed, frustrated, angry, and miserable over events and circumstances in our lives, we are also being unfair to ourselves. By berating ourselves, we are being unethical and unjust to ourselves. And when we make ourselves miserable, we make the people around us miserable. Instead, be kind to yourself, and find the kindness in others.

It wasn’t the traffic, it was our reaction to the traffic. It wasn’t losing that big contract that made us dejected.

Our expectation made us feel dejected and miserable.

Albert Ellis is regarded as one of the most influential psychologists of the 20th century. One of his signature ideas is called Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), which has been used to effectively to change the attitudes and behaviors of millions of people.

The promise of REBT is this: no matter how badly you sometimes think about yourself, and no matter how horrible others sometimes treat you, and no matter how awful our circumstances are…. we always have the power to change our feelings of hostility, despair, or stress. Always.

Next, look for should, must, and ought, in our selftalk. When we think, “My boss must never speak to me that way!” or “I should get that promotion. I deserve it!”, we are extending our own wishes and preferences to the behavior of others. And we can’t control the behavior of others. We can only control how we react and feel in the face of circumstances.

Should, must, and ought are absolute and rigid values. As Dr. Ellis writes: “When you insist, however, that you always must have or do something, you often think in this way: 'Because I would very much like or prefer to have success, approval, or pleasure, I absolutely, under practically all conditions, must have it.

And if I don’t get it, as I completely must, it’s awful, I can’t stand it, I am an inferior person for not arranging to get it, and the world is a horrible place for not giving me what I must have! I am sure that I’ll never get it, and therefore can’t be happy at all!'"

– Albert Ellis, Ph.D., from How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable About Anything. Yes, Anything!

Dr. Ellis doesn’t go all zen meditative to the extent that he suggests you deny all of your feelings and emotions and view the world utterly impassively, like a robot. Not at all. REBT recognizes that caution, concern or suspicion are normal emotions which are useful for making decisions. Yet allowing those emotions to turn into outright panic, dread or despair is not useful. It’s worse. It’s self-destructive.

Here’s a short version of how it works. First, imagine an unfortunate event occurring in your life. Let’s say, you break your leg badly and have to be in a wheelchair, and work through physical therapy for months. How do you think about this hypothetical circumstance?

Healthy concern or annoyance self-talk might sound like, “Wow. What a bummer. I guess my weekly

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When we think in these rigid ways we become anxious and self-pitying. Try instead Dr. Ellis’ prescription of self-talk that goes like this: “I would very much like or prefer to have success, approval, or comfort, but I don’t have to have it. I won’t die without it. And I could be happy (though not as happy) without it.”

The kinds of thoughts that create anxiety are those that demand success or approval, such as, “I must impress everyone at the meeting because I’m smart.” or, “This deal will propel me to the top of my team, so I have to win it!”

The advice is this: Turn should, must, ought to, and have to statements into preferences instead of demands.

Accept what is going on (WIGO) around you without feeling the need to control people and circumstances.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well.

You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

- Albert Ellis, Ph.D.

Paul LaFrance "THE DECK GUY"

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aul LaFrance, known internationally as “The Deck Guy,” has wowed television audiences for years with his cutting-edge design concepts for outdoor living. Several years after the premier seasons of “Decked Out,” “Deck Wars,” and “Disaster Decks,” Paul was able to showcase his unique talent for interior design as well, in the hit series “Custom Built.” Paul was also a judge on “Canada’s Handyman Challenge” as well as being featured on the recent HGTV hit “Home To Win.” Paul is renowned for his ability to “get inside people’s heads” and incorporate personal stories into his designs. “Most people in the world believe that not only do others not know their story, but they don’t care to,” says Paul. The result of his approach is that people’s redesigned homes reflect their unique interests and family life in truly remarkable ways. His philosophy is to constantly push past barriers, both in design and in life, which has not only made countless jaw-dropping designs possible, but also has made a real impact on the lives of those he’s worked with.

As a public speaker, Paul has built a reputation for having an undeniable mix of the deep and ridiculous. Whether he’s talking about the importance of intentional design, keys to building with integrity and efficiency or addressing crowds of aspiring craftspeople and artisans, Paul has a unique talent for inspiring people to push past the barriers in their own lives as well.

Paul is passionate about the idea that everyone has a story. Helping others to discover what truly makes them come alive and to find their own unique abilities to impact the world around them is a constant theme when he speaks. From home and garden shows to charity events to college and university campuses, he has proven to be both a dynamic and motivating force on stage and off.

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Paul speaks frequently to educators and students about the imperative need for us to embrace the skilled trades and the arts as critical vocations in our society. With a national trades crisis upon us, Paul actively supports organizations that seek to promote and encourage young people to pursue careers in an area that was for a long time not recognized as essential.

“In an age where so much is produced on assembly lines and reproductions of masterpieces are created a dime a dozen, it is sometimes difficult for us to appreciate the talent and creativity that goes into original artwork; whether it be a painting, a bridge, a novel or even the plumbing that winds its way silently behind our walls,” says Paul. “An artisan is someone who creates something with their hands.”

In an effort to add his voice to what he believes is nothing less than an international revolution for artisans and tradespeople, Paul, along with his wife, Janna, has opened a studio in Pickering, Ontario, which features unique handcrafted artwork by artists from all across Canada. The shop showcases original paintings, photography, jewellery, glasswork, metalwork, custom furniture and even his own music.

Paul is also a musician and author. His band, Found in the Fury, released their debut album in 2012 and are working on a second. For Paul, music has always been a major influence on all his work, whether it be designing, public speaking or writing. He is working on two books: one a highly-anticipated book on deck design, with a twist, and another exploring the plight of the modern-day man, called I Don’t Want to be an Adult Anymore.

Find out more about Paul’s design company at www.PaulLafranceDesign.com or on any social media outlet. Information about the art shop can be found at www.LartisanArt. com and information on music and literature can be found at www.SafehouseMedia.ca.

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Good kitchen design has a way of integrating function and form into a final product that feels right for working in or just relaxing in with family and friends. While a kitchen must be tailored to each family’s own needs, there are some universal principles which should be followed when setting out to design a kitchen that will work for multiple purposes for years to come.

PROPER LIGHTING Most rooms in a house are going to utilize overhead lighting. Unfortunately, kitchens typically require a little bit more than that. The light should fall in front of you rather than behind you. Anyone who has ever tried to work in a space where their body is casting a shadow over their workspace understands this.

Consider those areas where you may need additional lighting shining directly onto the countertops and other work areas. Consider options such as pot lights, pendants or under the cabinet lighting.

CONSIDER SAFETY Good visibility, nonslip surfaces, proper ventilation, rounded countertops, and more—everything should be considered when it comes to safety. It is essential to keep in mind that the kitchen is a unique space in the house, and safety is always paramount. For example, if you have small children, consider the dangers of having a cooktop in the island where they will sit for breakfast. Are you someone who has mobility issues? Make sure there is enough room for a wheelchair or walker to pass through your kitchen in the future.

TRASH, RECYCLING AND COMPOST Refuse comes in all shapes and sizes. Do you want your trash and recycling bins to be out in the open, or would you rather them hidden inside a lower cabinet? Don’t forget about compost as well.

Something else to consider is size. Do you have a large family who will fill a small bin in a day? Then perhaps opting for one large bin is a better choice for you rather than having a garbage bin and a recycling bin which need to be emptied frequently.

STORAGE SPACE Pots, pans, utensils, spices—you will likely be storing more things and tools in your kitchen than anywhere else in your home. Consider your work zones. Where and when do you most commonly work? This will help prevent issues like your spice rack ending up on the opposite side of the kitchen from where you usually bake and cook.

APPLIANCES When you are designing a new kitchen, it is the ideal time to buy new appliances. That said, if it is not in your current budget or things are in good working order and you do not wish to replace them, try to keep in mind the size of newer appliances.

This is so that in the future when you do purchase new appliances, they will fit without a struggle.

FLOORING There is a reason slip-resistant tile and other hard flooring are typically used in kitchens. Hardwood may look beautiful, but imagine what happens to it when you begin spilling things and wear starts to set in. After all, this is likely the floor to see the most hard use and require the most maintenance in the entire house. There are many great new products—such as luxury vinyl tile—that are ideal for the wear and tear of a kitchen, come in various styles, can look like hardwood or tile, but are much easier to live with and maintain.

EASE OF MOVEMENT People are like water; they will take the path of least resistance. Consider how traffic might flow into and out of the kitchen from various rooms and how people may move through the space. For example, does placing a peninsula in the kitchen cut off an entrance point?

Perhaps in that instance, an island is a better option.

For instance, newer fridges are often taller and larger, and nothing is worse then buying a new fridge after having a new kitchen recently put in, only to have it not fit the space. Building in a frame around the existing fridge completes the design and can be easily modified to accommodate larger appliances down the road.

CONSIDER YOUR FUTURE NEEDS When setting out to design your kitchen, consider not only the situation you are currently in but also the one that you may be in later. Do you plan to have friends and family visiting on a regular basis? Is your family going to grow?

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DEFINING DESIGN CONTEMPORARY DESIGN By its very nature, contemporary design uses elements of what is currently popular. It follows trends rather than longstanding design principles. As a result, contemporary design is inherently hard to define. It is constantly shifting and evolving depending on what is becoming popular and what is going out of style. Borrowing from many different styles from many different eras, contemporary design tends to rework and recombine things in a different way to create a new look and feel for design elements which may have existed for decades.

MODERN DESIGN When people talk about modern design, they are usually talking about “midcentury modern,” a very popular style in the 1950s and ’60s which is now seeing a resurgence. This type of design is typically defined by its clean lines and minimalism. Nothing extra is added and the elements are simple, without flourishes.

Natural elements are typically utilized including linen, leather and wood, along with solid, neutral colours.

Colour accents can sometimes be thrown in for effect.

TRANSITIONAL STYLE Transitional style is characterized by a combination of contemporary furnishings and elements with traditional design styles. The detailing is less ornate than it would be on some more traditional styles, but curves and details are an important aspect. The clean lines of midcentury modern are generally not going to be used in this type of styling.

TRADITIONAL STYLE Traditional style is a more classic type of design.

It uses elements from different time periods, rich textures and warm colours. Curves and details are included along with aesthetic flourishes such as stained glass, glazed doors, decorative crown moulding and rich colours in wood stain.

Whatever design style you choose to go with should match the overall design of your home. It wouldn’t make sense to place the focus on midcentury styles in the living room and then switch to a more traditional style in the kitchen—the clash will be hard to overcome and jarring to visitors. Design doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does need to be consistent.

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