{ KAREN’S { JOURNEY’S KOACHING BY KARIN KORNER } } Is anger useful? Is it productive? These are questions we need to ask ourselves when we feel angry. The definition of anger is: “a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.”
resentful. Most people think that when they feel angry or resentful, the other person experiences it. Other people do not experience your emotions. They only experience their interpretation of YOUR behavior and actions. We tend to think that somehow our angry thoughts and behavior are punishing the other person, but that is never the case. We are the only ones who feel it. Think about what you are doing to exhibit your anger, ….the silent treatment, yelling or rude 340
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comments. In reality, other people are only experiencing their own interpretation of how you are acting, which may only make you look like you are not in control and proves how little control you have over someone else’s emotions. If you think that not forgiving someone is somehow serving you and hurting them, you have it completely backwards. You are only hurting yourself because the emotions of anger and resentment are painful. Let’s circle back to the definition of
forgiveness, it is YOU voluntarily changing your attitude and feelings about an offense. It is all about you. To learn more about this concept you can contact me via my webpage to set up a free mini session at https://kmessin. wixsite.com/coach Or email me at kmessinalifecoach@gmail.com