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YOUR PREGNANCY 8 Hospital Delivery

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10 Ask the Experts

7 Finger Puppets

12 Surprise Pandemic Pregnancy

20 Ways to Support a New Mom

28 Best Books

14 Items to Keep

22 Surviving Newborn Isolation

30 Spring Fun for Little Ones

16 Labor & Delivery Guide

24 Baby Skin Care 101

32 Playdates

18 The Home Stretch 26 Pregnancy Perks 29 Product Reviews 33 Parents Night Out

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o you like surprises? I like them in the form of a surprise birthday party or a surprise trip, although I’m not sure I’ve ever received a surprise trip—but I’m open to it! But in my everyday life, I like to prepare and plan, and a surprise can often throw a wrench in those plans.

Frequent contributing writer Lauren Greenlee shares a story about a big stunner she received in the form of a surprise pregnancy.

Not only was it a surprise, but it was during a global pandemic! Her story is a reminder that while we may make plans, life often has other plans for us! I so enjoyed reading about her journey and know you will as well on pg. 12.

If you’d like to share your pregnancy or birth story with our readers, reach out! I’d love to hear from you.

If you are expecting your first and are a little apprehensive about what will happen once labor begins and you arrive at the hospital, then this is the issue for you! We’ve got an article on pg. 8 that tells you what to expect from when you arrive at the hospital to when Baby arrives. Now, if you’re pregnant with number two (or three or four), head to pg. 14 for great ideas on items you can keep from the first time around and those that probably need to be tossed. If you are past the baby stage and have a toddler in your home, you’ll enjoy reading about great spring outings for little ones on pg. 30. And if you are thinking to yourself, well, I’m not expecting, but my friend is, then go to pg.

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Step one: Wrap the pipe cleaner around a finger to create the body of the puppet. You can try to see whether your kiddos will let you wrap them around their fingers! If not, they might still enjoy playing with the pipe cleaners while you do the wrapping. *If you are using larger puff balls for the head, you will want to leave a larger section at the top of the body to support the head.

Step two: Cut a second pipe cleaner in half and then fold and wrap the half of pipe cleaner around the side of the body you created. Leave a little bit on the ends to open as the hands.

Step three: Glue the puff ball onto the top of the puppet and let dry.

Step four: Add googly eyes to be used with supervision.

Step five: Once they dry, put on a puppet show with your new friends!

Janelle Cumro-Sultzer lives in Overland Park with her husband, son and two dogs. Janelle is a former health care executive director and is a mediator in Kansas, helping families in conflict. She loves to focus on learning through play and getting messy with crafts.

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s a new mom-to-be pushing through your final months of pregnancy, you’re likely wondering what the labor and delivery process will really be like once you’re in the hospital. Will it be

the same as what you see on TV? Will you be wheeled to different rooms between labor and the actual delivery? What actually happens in the delivery room? And how long will you need to stay before returning home with your new bundle?

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When it comes time to go to the hospital, you’ll most likely be in labor, and if not, you’ll be on your way for a scheduled c-section or induction. If you’ve already taken a tour of the hospital, you probably already know where to park and check in, but if not, call first to find out. During check-in, the nurse at the front desk will put a wristband on you, and you’ll be escorted by another nurse to a triage room, unless you have a scheduled delivery. In that case, you’ll be taken to labor and delivery.

If you’re taken to the triage room, you can expect to be connected to a fetal monitor so the staff can monitor your contractions to see how far apart they are. They’ll also check your cervix to see how dilated you are. If your labor is progressing slowly, they may send you back home. However, if your labor is progressing at a steady pace, you’ll most likely be admitted and moved to the labor and delivery room, which is where you’ll spend the most time. What happens in there depends on your birth plan and the amenities offered to you by the hospital.

You might bounce on a yoga ball, labor in a warm bath or even take a shower as you wait for your contractions to get closer together.

Your labor and the baby’s heart rate will be monitored regularly. If you choose to have an epidural, an anesthesiologist will come into the room and administer it. And when the time comes, unless you’re having a c-section, this labor and delivery room is where you will give birth.

You may be wondering how many of your family members are allowed in the room with you. That’s a good question to ask during your hospital tour if you haven’t already had one, or by calling the hospital.

Most hospitals allow you to have your loved ones, midwives and/or doulas in the room with you while you’re in labor, but expect there to be a limit on how many people are allowed. You should also expect quite a few hospital staff coming and going during the labor and delivery process—and they change shifts every eight to 12 hours, so, depending on how long you’re in labor, you may see several new faces!

When Baby decides it’s time to enter the world and you’ve dilated to 10 centimeters, it’s time to push. An OBGYN will then come into the room to help deliver the baby. Be

What You Can Take with You: Most hospitals send you home with a few freebies. Here are some items you can expect to go home with:

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Peri bottle – for cleansing Large maxi pads and mesh underwear Donut pillow – for postpartum sitting Newborn hat for your baby Breastfeeding supplies Receiving blanket and diapers Nasal aspirator Bottles and pacifiers Formula samples

aware that this may not be the doctor you’ve been seeing throughout your pregnancy, but it’s completely normal. (If you’re concerned about this, speak with your doctor or midwife beforehand about the other OBGYNs who work at the hospital and ask to meet them so you feel more comfortable.)

So what happens after your little one enters the world? First, the doctor or nurse may put the baby on your chest for some bonding time. Then they’ll weigh and measure Baby, take footprints and run routine tests, such as the APGAR. They’ll perform the APGAR score at 1 and 5 minutes to assess how Baby tolerated the birth and then how she’s adapting to life outside the womb. What they look for are appearance (skin color), pulse (heart rate), grimace (reflex irritability), activity (muscle tone) and respiration (breathing effort).

Each of these is scored on a scale of 0 to 2, with 2 being the best score.

After you’ve given birth, you will enter the third stage of labor, which is delivering the placenta. You’ll typically deliver the placenta within 5 to 30 minutes following birth. The nurses will monitor you, keeping an eye on your blood pressure and making sure there aren’t any labor and delivery complications.

How long it takes to recover after delivery depends on the birth, but it typically won’t be more than a couple of hours. During this time, your family and friends can visit you in the room and meet your new baby!

When the doctor and nurses are sure that all is well with you and your little one, they’ll move you to a recovery room where you’ll spend a night or two. How long depends on many things such as

your hospital’s regulations, your insurance company’s requirements, the type of birth you had and any post-birth complications you may be experiencing. Nursing staff will be checking on you every few hours, making sure you have everything you need.

If you decide to breastfeed, you’ll get plenty of practice time and will most likely receive help from a lactation consultant. Your partner is allowed to stay in the room with you, and if you’d like for your baby to sleep in the room with you, the hospital staff will provide a bedside bassinet. And although siblings are not allowed to stay the night in the recovery room, they can visit during visiting hours.

When your time is up in recovery, you’ll get to pack up and head home with your new baby. Be aware that a c-section requires a longer stay. You’ll be given a final checkup before departing, along with plenty of instructions. Hospital staff will walk you down to your car and make sure you have Baby’s car seat installed correctly before saying their final goodbye.

It’s exciting bringing Baby home; however, be sure to take it easy even after you get home.

Try not to push yourself to do everything.

If you have any help available, accept it graciously. You need time to recover.

Kansas City mom and author Gina Klein loves reminiscing about her days in labor and delivery with her two daughters. Both births were so special, and the hospital staff were amazing.

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Is it safe to have caffeine during pregnancy?

“Baby bottle tooth decay” can develop when children’s teeth and gums are exposed to milk, juice or food for long periods of time or frequently throughout the day. The most common way this happens is when children go to bed with formula, milk or juice. It can also occur when children carry a snack and a milk or juice drink around with them throughout the day. For optimal dental health, food and drink other than water should only be served at designated meal and snack times, allowing the teeth to rest from sugar in between feedings. Food and drinks other than water should never be served right before nap or bedtime without first properly brushing.

Moderate caffeine intake is okay during pregnancy, but don’t consume more than 200mg of caffeine per day. That’s the amount in one 12-ounce cup of coffee. According to ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists), research suggests that moderate caffeine intake does not cause miscarriage or preterm birth. Don’t forget that caffeine is also found in tea, chocolate, energy drinks and soft drinks. While caffeine can interfere with your sleep and contribute to nausea and lightheadedness, it can help with fatigue and lack of focus (pregnancy brain, right?). If you’re still unsure, it is best that you consult your obstetrician.

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What are some signs that my baby could have food allergies?

I recommend having a conversation with children of all ages about your pet’s needs. Explain to them that their dog has feelings just like them and discuss what the dog will look like when it is happy, sad or scared. We must teach our young children to give animals the space they need and how to play with them in a way that makes them feel safe and comfortable. That said, young children often forget how to behave around dogs, so it is an absolute must that young children and animals be supervised for their mutual safety.

A food allergy is a reaction that will occur every time a certain food is ingested. The most common foods are milk, egg, wheat, soy, peanut, tree nut, fish, shellfish and sesame. Symptoms of a reaction can include hives (welts), swelling, vomiting, cough, wheeze and trouble breathing. Symptoms typically occur within minutes to 2 hours after ingestion.

Reactions occurring outside of this time or in absence of ingestion are unlikely to be allergic reactions. If you think your infant has a food allergy, speak to your PCP or allergist.

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Food Allergy Program APRN Coordinator, Children’s Mercy

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“You’re what?!?!” my husband asked incredulously. His steely blue eyes— the ones that made me weak in the knees when we first met—were now as big as saucers as I thrust a stick with two pink lines toward him. I took a test and aced it, I told him. At least that’s what a plus sign means, right? We were pregnant.

As middle-aged parents to three children ranging from middle school to middle elementary school, we hadn’t put having another baby on the docket.

Basketball practice and piano lessons? Sure.

Monitoring screen time and Googling how to help my sixth-grader with math homework? You better believe it. Like so many other families, all our regular plans went out the window with the craziness that was 2020, and my husband and I found ourselves in the precarious position of navigating a full-time work-at-home and school-at-home dynamic. It hadn’t been on our radar to live through a worldwide pandemic, but hey, we were doing it (and rocking our new routine, I might add).

The storms of 2020 had rocked the boat so much we were convinced there wasn’t much left that could come as a surprise, but that candy cane striped pregnancy test result had us eating our words. Evidently, there was something that could still render us speechless. I’d heard of pandemic puppies, pets purchased as emotional support during a time of otherwise deep isolation. Apparently, we bypassed that step and took it one farther.

My husband and I embraced, both of us crying, then laughing, then bouncing between every emotional extreme like a pinball machine gone wild.

“I can’t believe we’re doing this again!” I shrieked. “I mean, we’re so old!”

Sure, 36 might not be exactly geriatric, but it makes you rethink the whole “age is just a number” idea when the medical establishment gives you the upgraded title “advanced maternal age” at the first prenatal visit. Translation? You’re no longer a spring chicken, honey!

Quickly, my mind went to the issue of logistics. I’d held onto maternity clothes from three past pregnancies for nearly a decade only to donate them all to a local pregnancy resource center a few months prior. I thought I would never need them again! And all the baby gear—oh, the baby gear! After having a passel of children, we had it all—and I’d had a storage room stuffed with gear to prove it! Navigating around the swing, the bassinet, the exersaucer, the bouncy seat and the millions of other bulky baby items that made their way in there was like navigating a minefield. In fact, I claimed victory anytime I could get

seasonal decor bins out without whacking a shin on some piece of baby apparatus. After years of trying to dodge entanglement in a Johnny Jump-Up while reaching for the Christmas wreath, I determined it was better that the items go to a good home where a new baby would use them. I could also stop collecting battle wounds for unintentionally colliding with them. So, off the things went to a cousin who was enjoying the elation of being a first-time parent. I had reclaimed the storage room for precisely six months and it had felt like sweet victory! Only now this victory had a shelf life of approximately three trimesters.

There were highs. There were lows.

And then there was the question of how?

Obviously, we had three kids, so we knew where they came from. But this was such an unexpected surprise! I thought back to how our third-born had been begging for a baby sibling over the summer. I told him to pray about it, not thinking much of it.

Apparently, he did so with all the fervency that a 7-year-old could muster!

Our world was changed in that moment, but our kids, working on homework on the other side of the house, were none the wiser. My husband and I took our time digesting this new information, lips sealed like trained Secret Servicemen. Keeping a secret from a crew you are around 24/7 is easier said than done, but as the days and weeks went by, we found ourselves cracking a grin every time we locked eyes. Keeping a classified operation to just the two of us was kind of fun—not to mention romantic!

A month later, we broke the news to our kids over pizza and gelato at a favorite local restaurant. Three boys. Three very different reactions. All were over-the-moon excited.

My oldest, quite reserved, kept things closer to the vest, while our animated second-born expressed enough enthusiasm for the both of them. “I thought you were going to tell us we were going to get a puppy,” he later told us, “but this is WAY better!” Our youngest instantly began happy crying, sliding closer to me so he could talk to the baby. “That way it’ll know my voice,” he declared.

I don’t know what’s more shocking: having a “surprise” baby or having a baby during such a surprisingly odd year. In either event, the notion of having something sweet around the bend has our whole family celebrating. Perhaps the best things in life aren’t planned after all.

Lauren Greenlee is a boy mom of three (soon to be four) that can add pandemic pregnancy to her resume. She writes from her Olathe home.

Reasons Why Having a Surprise Baby During a Surprising Year Is a Surprising Gift You get to be the deliverer of good news. When it comes to headlines, no news is good news. But baby news is always good news, and friends and family are twice as eager to celebrate in a year of otherwise depressing newsreels.

You get to bond with other pregnant moms in your social circle. Pregnancy brings women closer together. Having a pandemic pregnancy secures that bond even tighter.

You have something special to anticipate and look forward to.

Vacations and graduations may have been suspended in 2020, but there’s nothing stopping a baby on the way.

The inexplicable joy of entering a new chapter of life awaits you.

Babies build community. Baby showers and meal trains are great ways to support families with new additions, and it helps friends and family find ways to connect during an otherwise lonely year. Not able to be there in person? Show that you care by hosting an online shower or coordinate payment for groceries to be delivered to your mama friend.

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irst-time moms have it made! I mean, really, think about it—with a new baby there’s absolutely no remorse for taking everything. Baby toys come in handy, clothes, diaper pails, bottles—you simply cannot go wrong.

So how do we manage when a second or third baby comes into the picture? What do you keep? What do you get rid of? What aisle do you completely dodge when you go to the store? Fear not, my friend, keep reading and you’ll be a pro in no time.

Save where you can manage!

Now that you’re bringing an additional child into the world, saving is essential. It’s okay to feel guilty for a second but don’t wallow in remorse. Reusing things as a repeat parent is okay. Saving older bottles and replacing used nipples is a great way to save money. With a new baby coming and your current tots growing, your expenses will only grow. Do yourself a favor and save whenever and wherever you can manage.

Reusing things like old clothing is another great way to creatively save big bucks. Break out that old box of clothes you know your kids can’t fit anymore. Children seem to grow overnight, and even if you don’t have the old onesies, you’re sure to have a few old two-piece sets that will fit soon enough. If your kids aren’t the same gender, relax. Here’s your chance to get creative! Don’t be ashamed to do a bit of crafting. You’ll be surprised at all the ironon patches and unique relics craft stores like Hobby Lobby and Michaels carry. It’ll be fun to remake a few things, and you’ll save oodles of cash.

Get rid of the shoes.

Let’s get real for a second here. How many babies wear shoes? Really, they’re just extra bits of clothing that we buy and babies kick off. Truly, your baby is far more comfortable in socks and, more than likely, will only be aggravated by having to wear those oddly shaped, often ugly, shoes. I know it may be hard to believe, but baby shoes aren’t really necessary. Ditch the sneaks and save the money.

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Eighty-six the tub.

Don’t buy a baby tub and don’t recycle one.

All in all, just don’t. Not only do they take up valuable space, but they accomplish little. In a baby tub, the baby is elevated out of the bath, the baby gets cold, and the baby really doesn’t clean up. You then end up picking up your baby and giving him a good wash. So cut out the baby tub. The baby is comfortable without it, and you ensure he’s clean!

Consider the sitter.

Childcare options are key when bringing an additional child into your home. Services get more expensive, and quality packages seem to get smaller. If you come to a point of contention with a trusted caregiver, stick with the negotiation process. Good help is hard to find, and trust does not come easy.

Where most first-time and often repeat parents fall short is in asking the right questions. If you have a trusted and reliable nanny, ask her about the different packages she offers. Ask about discount options for multiples. You can also ask your childcare provider about bartering. If you have a

hobby or love for something nonmonetary, you can ask the nanny whether she would trade her service for your good or services.

A lot of providers are open to the idea and looking for new and fresh ways to expand business. Be their push! You can achieve more than you think simply by asking the right questions. The worst she can say is no.

Put the blanket down.

Think carefully about buying any additional baby blankets or changing pads. If you buy more baby blankets, you may just end up with an overflowing linen closet or dresser. On the other hand, you might find extra blankets a handy substitute for changing pads. Most secondtime parents end up using extra blankets to change the baby. It’s easier, it’s efficient and it’s more comfortable for the baby. Figure out what lightens your load and works for your family.

Focus on the kids … there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

It’s easy to get lost in the specifics, and it’s even easier to get lost in the prize of a new baby. While you’re preparing for your

new arrival, love on all your little ones and treasure the time you have with them. You are not a bad parent if you get a little flustered and can’t manage to be in 12 places at once. It’s okay if you can’t remember your kids’ names (we all do it), and it’s okay to throw some old things away. And before your delivery if you have to really think hard about whether you should keep or toss an item, hold onto it for the first few weeks with the new child.

If you don’t use it, that’s usually your signal to toss it.

With the arrival of an additional baby, the flow of things will definitely be different, but you’ll get the hang of it. If you struggle, look to your support system, whether that be your partner, friends or family. They’ll give you the insight, love and support you need. None of us should go it alone.

Jessica Samuel lives in Kansas City and is a freelance writer and photographer.

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FINAL PREP BEFORE BABY’S ARRIVAL

hat third trimester—it’s exciting, anxiety-inducing and exhausting all at once. But mostly exciting. While you’re counting down the days until your expected due date, try to stay calm, breathe and maybe do a quick happy dance as you’re packing your hospital bag. Try to cross items off your mental checklist while you’re at it.

I happen to be in the home stretch of my (second-ish) pregnancy, so I’ve been nesting all over the place, making lists, going to OB appointments, packing and repacking my hospital bag, washing onesies, diffusing lavender essential oil, etc.

I’m excited to share what’s been working for me.

I made a “third trimester of pregnancy to-do list” and have been adding and checking items off my list on the notes app on my phone for weeks. I also have a physical list, but this one is easier to modify.

I won’t tackle every single detail, but here are a few of the essentials to take care of before the arrival of your newest little roommate.

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• your driver’s license, insurance, any important paperwork • a written birth plan (if you have one) • toiletries (toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, dry shampoo, hair brush, makeup, sanitary pads, lotion) • a bath robe or nightgown, socks and slippers • your pillow, essential oils, a blanket • phone charger • nursing pillow • snacks • outfit for you and for Baby • nursing bras • baby blanket

Order your breast pump Are you planning to breastfeed or use formula? If breastfeeding is your goal, now is a good time to order a pump, either through insurance or by other means. Find out whether you can get one for free through insurance and which ones you are eligible for. My insurance covered a few specific brands, so I chose one, placed an order and, before I knew it, it was in a box at my doorstep. Research your favorites and go from there.

Install a car seat Go ahead and install your car seat as soon as you purchase one. This will be the most important tool for bringing your baby home, so you might as well cross this off your list right away and not have to worry about it last-minute.

Wash baby clothes, swaddles, blankets It’s helpful to have as many clean onesies on hand as possible, though you’ll only need one to bring Baby home from the hospital in. Once you get home, you’ll likely be way too tired to think about laundry, so go ahead and wash any and all baby items while you still have the stamina.

Pick a pediatrician

Make and freeze meals

If you already have a kid or two, this will be easy—you’ll probably just use the same pediatrician they do. If this is your first baby or you’ve moved, you may need to put more thought into this.

Choose someone, so you can make that first check-up appointment as soon as possible.

A lot of people organize meal trains, but right now you may opt for a DIY kind of experience. Go ahead and meal-prep so you don’t have to worry about it the first few weeks at home with your baby. Soups, casseroles or enchiladas freeze and reheat well.

Reserve some time for self-care

Set up your bassinet or crib

Make child care arrangements

Make sure that wherever Baby will be sleeping is clean, safe, secure and ready.

Make sure it is free of any extra blankets or stuffed toys.

Of course, while you’re away at the hospital, you’ll need to make arrangements for your other children, especially if your partner will be joining you at the hospital for the birth.We plan to do a practice run of Grandma and Grandpa’s watching our son at our house and practicing his nighttime routine with them, so he knows what to expect. If your kiddo has separation anxiety like ours does, you may need more preparation.

Make a (tentative) birth plan Talk with your OB at one of your upcoming appointments. Do you want to induce, have Baby naturally or schedule a c-section? What does your OB recommend?

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Last but not least, try to find moments to relax before the big day, even if it’s just in the tub, at a hair appointment or a pedicure.

You want to be as calm and relaxed as possible and in a positive mindset when Baby makes her debut.

Emily Morrison is a freelance writer, former copy editor, full-time mommy and Disney fanatic who lives in Independence with her husband, 5-year old son and dog. She’s in the “home stretch” with baby #2.

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WAYS TO

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djusting to having a new baby in the house can be difficult for the whole family. Sleepless nights and a change in routine can leave Mom feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.

Offering support to a family with a new baby can help them adjust to their new normal. Often when you ask, Mom isn’t able to think of the exact way she needs help. Here are some ideas:

STOP BY THE STORE.

HELP AROUND THE HOUSE.

Going to the store with newborn and possibly older children for the first time can be daunting. Offer to pick up a few things the family needs. This is especially easy if you will be out running errands already. Many grocery stores now offer drive-through pickup. Have the family order and pay for groceries online, then you pick them up and deliver them. Helping to put them away would be an extra bonus.

Sweep the floor, fold laundry, vacuum or do dishes. Even a little bit of tidying up can make a big difference. A clean house during a time of transition can bring order to a time that feels chaotic. However, Mom may prefer to clean things herself.

Offer to care for the baby and other children while she works on a household project.

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COME WHEN OTHERS DON’T. Not all new moms are “new moms.”

Families that are adding their second, third or fourth child need help just as much as firsttimers, if not more. When there are older children, there is no time for resting when the baby rests. Older children do not stop activities just because a new baby has arrived, and Mom and Dad are tired. Entertaining a toddler while Mom is nursing or changing diapers can overwhelm. Offer to take care of the older children for Mom or offer to take care of Baby so she can spend some time alone with her older children.

PROVIDE A MEAL. Friends and family often send versatile casseroles like lasagna after the new baby is home. Try thinking outside the 9x13 pan. Why not bring the family the fixings for breakfast and lunch rather than just dinner? Or stock

the freezer with easy, ready-to-make items like pizza, pasta dishes, soups and crock pot meals.

Then the family can pull something out of the freezer when they are not up to cooking.

Crunched for time or don’t feel like making an extra meal? Bring the family their favorite takeout or send a gift card.

great gifts are ones that pamper Mom or make her feel beautiful and comfortable in her postpartum body. Lotion, perfume, a new nightgown or slippers are some good ideas. A delivery of flowers is another great way to bring cheer and make Mom feel special.

SET UP A TRAIN.

DON’T STAY TOO LONG.

When one meal just doesn’t cover it, set up a meal train using websites like SignUpGenius.com or TakeThemAMeal.com.

Discuss with the family the most convenient dates and times to deliver meals and solicit friends to fill all the open spots. Social media is a great place to recruit people you might not think to ask.

Families who have newborns generally like to have company, especially if they pitch in around the house and with the other kids.

However, don’t overstay your welcome. New parents tire easily. Visit the family, bring a meal and help out, but watch for clues from Mom as to when the family would like some alone time.

LET HER SHOWER.

TAKE HER SOMEWHERE.

A new mom may feel she doesn’t have time for basic things like a shower or time to eat a meal. One of the simplest ways to help a new mom is to hold the baby and watch the other children while she eats lunch, enjoys a relaxing shower or takes a short nap. When Mom is rested, fed and freshened up, she feels more ready to take on the rest of the day.

Mom may not be able to drive for a few weeks after birth. Offer to take her on errands or just out for coffee. Being able to get out of the house can do wonders for anyone’s attitude.

DON’T GIVE ADVICE. An important tip for anyone chatting with a new mom is to listen but not give advice unless you are asked. It can be frustrating and overwhelming for a mom to get unsolicited advice from everyone she bumps into.

It’s important to ask Mom what would help her. Would she prefer to have help with housework? Would she like you to hold the baby while she gets some things done? Some moms would prefer to have someone to chat with for a while, and some moms may want to get out of the house for a bit. Offer several options and see what sounds most appealing to the new mom. Any offer to help is always appreciated by a family adjusting to having a new baby in the house.

Sarah Lyons, mom of six, has learned firsthand what it’s like to adjust to a new baby in the house. She is so grateful for the family and friends that helped her as each baby came home and loves to return the favor to others.

HELP WITH THE OLDER KIDS. Show support by offering to pick up the older kids, even if it’s just for a couple hours.

If you are taking your own children to the park, swing by and pick up hers for the afternoon. This gets them out of the house and gives Mom a break. Driving the kids to school or activities is also a big help for a family with a new baby. Time alone with Baby may be just what Mom needs.

ASK ABOUT HER BIRTH STORY. Giving birth is a huge milestone, an experience no mom will ever forget. Every birth has a story, and many times, there aren’t a lot of chances to tell it. Ask about her birth story and listen. Becoming a mom is a joyful, stressful, awe-inspiring and life-changing experience. Telling the birth story helps women to process and embrace this new journey.

BRING A GIFT FOR MOM. Many people bring gifts for the baby, but Mom is usually the one doing all the work.

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Surviving

Newborn Isolation Focus on your new angel to combat loneliness

The best baby stage is the one you are currently in. It is true, they grow up so very fast. Cherish and enjoy the time you spend with your child.

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eeling like you are closed inside four walls and barely able to find time to shower? Those first days when hubby goes back to work, family leaves and friends are off following their own agendas can leave you feeling isolated. It doesn’t help that you can’t squeeze into your favorite jeans yet and putting on makeup seems a chore.

This is when you need to remember why you are here, alone with this squirming, beautiful creature. You went through the nine months feeling him or her kick and wiggle, and now that tiny body is swaddled and breathing in your lap. Make a conscious effort to know how lucky you are and what a miracle this all is.

In these days of iPhones and Zooming, staying in touch is much easier than ever. And grandparents, your best friend and sisters adore seeing every tiny antic performed by your baby, so don’t hesitate to call them when you feel the walls close in.

Having a new baby in the middle of COVID-19’s shutdown of normalcy is no small thing. When you’d naturally be going to the coffee shop or grocery store with your baby, now ordering Uber Eats and having groceries delivered is on the day’s agenda. Some new moms even are fearful of going to postnatal doctor appointments for vaccines and well checks. Don’t do this—those vaccines are vital! Hand sanitizer, a mask and disinfecting wipes are your close defensive allies now, and doctors have protocols in place so you either wait in your car for your appointment, or they whisk you quickly into a private room.

People naturally thrive with connection and social support, so it is important to get teletherapy with a trained perinatal practitioner and join an online support group. When your tears are flowing too often, tune into yourself.

Turn Alexa to the happy tunes, get some sunshine on your face and hold that baby close. Look at what is right in front of you. Try not to look too far forward or back—just do what you can today and know that is enough. Even if it is just changing out of your pajamas or getting a load of laundry done!

Ideas to truly enjoy your new baby Remember, asking for help does not make you needy or incompetent. Never let guilt or embarrassment or even your ego get in the way of accepting help.

Babies don’t really need as many new clothes and things as you think. They outgrow everything, so don’t go overboard on all the cutesy, expensive clothes. Items such as swings and bouncy seats are used for such short periods, consider borrowing from a friend or look online for gently used items.

Figure out how to get your baby to go to sleep, stay asleep and take regular naps quickly, so you can avoid becoming sleepdeprived yourself. Avoid feeding your baby to put him to sleep or that will become a crutch for you—and him. Turn Baby’s room in a sleep haven, with blackout shades and a white-noise machine, and avoid catnaps

throughout the day. This way, naps will be more consistent and bedtime will be easier.

Avoid comparing your little one to other babies. All children develop at different rates, so if Sandy’s babe is crawling and saying “mama” while your child is just now rolling over, don’t stress. If you are truly concerned, talk to your pediatrician.

Although there is nothing better than holding, cuddling and carrying your baby, remember, you both need some alone time. If he is screaming and you are at your wits’ end, hand him off to Daddy or simply lay that little body in the crib and walk away for a minute or so. Your baby is safe, and it is ok to take time for yourself so you can be there for your baby.

The best baby stage is the one you are currently in. It is true, they grow up so very fast. Cherish and enjoy the time you

spend with your child. Take time each day, real time, to hold your little one and do nothing else but use your senses to connect with him. Smell that baby sweetness and look at those tiny fingers and toes and amazing tiny nose!

Remember, you are you. You do the best you can, and no one knows your baby like you do. If at the end of the day your child has laughed and is clean and fed, you can go to sleep knowing you did what you are supposed to. Be proud that you are perfecting this mommy thing!

An avid outdoors girl, Judy Goppert lives in Lee’s Summit. She enjoys drawing on her personal experiences to write about the nuances of everything wonderful about life.

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

Sources: WeForum.org, Parenting.com

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BABY SKIN CARE

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ilky smooth, mega soft, sweet smelling—that’s how we usually imagine newborn skin. But did you know it’s not always like that? Babies, especially newborns, are prone to many rashes and skin issues. Obviously, the transition from the womb to the big wide world is a huge adjustment, and a baby’s delicate skin needs time to acclimate. “A misconception I had was that baby skin was smooth and soft and perfect. I had no idea how many different little skin bumps, rashes, dry spots, etc., could pop up on a baby!” shares Jessica, an Overland Park mom of one. Let’s take a look at some common baby skincare issues and what can be done to help.

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BABY ACNE The tiny pimples are most frequently found on the face but can appear on the upper body too. Although causes are unknown, according to WhatToExpect.com, hormones from Mom that are still circulating through the baby can cause the innocent breakouts. The pimples will clear up on their own in a matter of time.

Some moms swear by a dab of breastmilk on the acne to clear it more quickly.

DRY, FLAKY SKIN Since baby skin needs time to adjust to its new environment, extreme dryness, flaking and peeling can happen. This is a common occurrence in babies born after 40 weeks.

Although this will clear up quite quickly on its own, be sure you aren’t bathing Baby too frequently or using a ton of products, as these can dry out the skin even more.

CRADLE CAP Anne, a Lenexa mom of three, says, “With my first child, I was not expecting her scalp to flake. My mom taught me to use baby oil on my daughter’s head after her bath to avoid a flaky scalp. Now my third baby’s scalp is smooth under his fuzz of 3-month-old hair growth!”

The flaky scalp Anne refers to is commonly known as cradle cap. These are oily or crusty patches on your baby’s scalp. While not easy to remove, they are harmless and not painful to your baby. To help get rid of it, you may need to wash your baby’s hair more often, but be sure not to use any products formulated for dandruff. These are not meant for babies. You can also use a soft brush after washing to help the patches loosen and fall off. If the cradle cap is severe, you can visit with your pediatrician for suggestions.

DIAPER RASH Diaper rash in babies is a red rash around the diaper area and can be caused by a variety of things. Leaving wet diapers on for too long, fastening diapers too tight or using a certain brand of diaper that doesn’t agree with your baby’s sensitive skin are all reasons diaper rash can occur. Sometimes, it is simply enzymes in your baby’s poop which irritate the skin. Whatever the reason, you can usually take care of it without a doctor.

Air out the diaper area for as long as possible, change diapers right away, use warm cloths

for changing instead of wipes (which can sometimes exacerbate the issue) and load up the area with a good diaper rash cream, such as Boudreaux’s Butt Paste.

I had no idea how many different little skin bumps, rashes, dry spots, etc., could pop up on a baby!

ECZEMA Another type of issue you may notice is eczema, which is dry, scaly, sometimes red patches on your baby’s skin. Eczema can be hereditary, environmental or a combination of the two. Babies whose parents have eczema are more likely to develop it themselves.

Although it can show up anywhere, eczema typically is found on the face, knees or elbows, and can be behind the ears too.

Your doctor will most likely recommend environmental strategies to control the eczema, such as bathing with mild or no soap, laundering with mild detergents, avoiding fragrance in products, and dressing your baby in soft, breathable clothing.

Lynn, an Independence mom of one, adds, “If eczema does not go away with OTC

treatments, then to speak to a pediatrician as this could be indicative of an allergy. My son had a dairy allergy and there was a spot on his forehead that was there for months. It only went away after dairy was removed.”

Winter months can be especially difficult for eczema sufferers because of the dryness, and baby drool adds to it even more.

Be aware and try to have a product like Vanicream or Aquaphor on hand to quickly treat areas before they get too serious.

So ... who knew these little tiny creatures could have this many issues? And that’s just with their skin! Bear in mind most of the concerns here will resolve on their own but occasionally can take a turn for the worse.

Your pediatrician’s office is there for you, so don’t hesitate to call and never feel bad or silly for doing so. After all, you are just trying to do the best you can to take care of a tiny human who cannot speak up for himself!

Julie Collett writes from Overland Park. Her children, ages 10, 8, 6 and 3, don’t have many of these skin issues anymore but still love taking baths!

As always, please consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns.

BABY BATHING TIPS: • NEVER leave a baby unattended, even for a quick second.

• Keep the water shallow and use

a smaller bathtub in your regular bathtub or sink to keep your baby secure.

• Check the water temperature against the inside of your wrist, like you would a bottle.

• Have all supplies, towels, fresh clothes and diapers within reach.

• Use mild products and try to steer clear of dyes, fragrances, parabens and phthalates. As Ashley, doula and owner of Home Holistic, says, “Don’t use anything you wouldn’t eat!”

• Cover your baby with a cloth or towel to keep him warm while you bathe him.

• Pat your baby dry instead of rubbing since her skin is so sensitive.

• If your baby isn’t a fan of baths, spot clean the areas that need it most...and forget the rest!

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ust when you’re starting to feel like you couldn’t possibly stretch your belly any further, you need to think about some of the perks you’ve experienced during your pregnancy—or even as you begin your pregnancy journey.

My pregnant years are behind me these days, but I can fondly look back on all three of my pregnancies. I actually did enjoy being pregnant—for the most part at least!

Some of my favorite things included feeling Baby move within me like a special secret, seeing people smile knowingly at the excitement a new baby can bring, preparing a nursery, coming up with a name for a whole new person, enjoying eating for two, and not having to suck my belly in! Here’s a list in no particular order that fellow mothers have helped me put together.

The Kindness of Strangers

Freebies

It can be challenging to see the good in our world today, but as Mr. Rogers once said, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” Lendy Bix, mother of six from Bloomington, IL, says, “You never realize how many people will hold the door for you or carry something heavy for you until you are no longer pregnant and have to do it yourself!” Allyce Trusheim, mother of two from Cedar Falls, IA, says,“I liked all of the smiles I would get from older ladies and moms past the baby stage that would just smile at you encouragingly.

I always thought that was super sweet.”

If you know who to ask, you could be eligible for some free products, and who doesn’t love free things? “Receiving a free breast pump through our insurance and a baby gift box from Amazon for using them for our registry was a perk for me,” says Kim Rauscher, mother of three from Overland Park.

“When I was pregnant with my twins, I was given a list of companies with addresses that had ‘parents with multiples’ programs.

I sent about 20 letters with a copy of the twins’ birth certificates and received all kinds of freebies! I received Halo sleep sacks, cases of formula, free diaper coupons, Dr. Brown bottles, pacifiers and a ton of sample products. I also wrote to the White House after each of my kids were born so they all have letters from President Obama,” says Jennifer Willis, mother of four from Blue Springs.

Parking Perks!

Even some businesses offer perks for expectant and new moms. “Front row parking at some stores!” exclaims Carly Rickard, mother of two from Bloomington. But nowadays, curbside pickup is hard to beat!

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Beauty Benefits

A Chance to Put Your Feet Up

A Reason to Celebrate!

We have heard of some beauty benefits from those extra hormones, and these moms share their experiences. Jennifer Gentry, mother of four from Overland Park, says, “The hair on my legs and armpits barely grew when I was pregnant with any of my four babies. I barely had to shave!” Heather Miller, mother of three from Bloomington, says, “Gotta love the luxurious locks!” Terri Demarest, a mother of three from Correctionville, IA, says she enjoyed having “a reason to get some new clothes and being able to eat random cravings.”

“Not having to suck in!” says Bradey Turner, mother of two from Parker, CO. Trusheim says, “Being pregnant gave me grace for my body, and if I worked out or ate healthy, it wasn’t just for me but also for another little human being.”

Growing an entire new human is tough work! It can cause extreme fatigue, so take this time to cash in! I remember reading to my older preschoolers while pregnant with my third baby and almost always nodding off while reading. If you have littles at home with you while you’re pregnant, take advantage of their nap or rest time while you can. “Unlimited naps and help with chores were perks for me!” exclaims Joellyn Nauman, Bloomington mother of three.

“A huge baby shower at work with cake and presents was a fun perk!” shares Danielle O’Kelley, mother of three from Bloomington. We need all the reasons to celebrate this year, and even if the pandemic doesn’t allow for a typical baby shower, people are so creative with celebrations during this time. Start scouring Pinterest or put someone else in charge of making this a celebration you won’t forget. Besides a party, a pregnancy can be worth privately celebrating too. Trusheim explains, “As an art teacher it was just the coolest thing ever!

I had made paintings before and had done all kinds of crafty things, but a baby was by far the coolest thing I’ve made!”

Fun facts!

Drea Fecht, mother of one from Normal, IL says, “Emails comparing my baby’s size to fruit and vegetables was a perk.” Nowadays, there are fun apps as well as the informative What to Expect When You’re Expecting book that helps you understand just what you and your baby are accomplishing during this time. It’s amazing!

Feeling the Baby I always felt like it was a special secret that I was able to feel that baby move around inside me. It’s fun for others to be able to feel Baby eventually too, but it’s not the same.

“Getting to feel the baby move and being able to bond with the baby was definitely a perk,” says Demarest.

Growing an entire new human is tough work!

It can cause extreme fatigue, so take this time to cash in!

Something to Look Forward To We could all use a little joy to look forward to these days, and what’s more joyful than a new baby? It can give us hope for the future and something to look forward to—as well as having an opportunity to create a new nursery or a big kid room for any older children if you keep the same nursery. It just keeps us moving forward. As well as looking forward to that new baby smell, warm snuggles, seeing what the baby will look like, what his name will be, and all the firsts that come with a new member of the family.

There is definitely a lot to be grateful for during these nine months of growing another whole human, but it’s not always rainbows and sunshine for every motherto-be. Some women really do have a hard time during pregnancy, and we don’t want to discredit that. When asked what her perks of being pregnant were, Rachel D’Ardenne, mother of three from Parker, CO, simply says, “None.” So enjoy what you can while you can but know that you’re not alone if you’re looking forward to it all being over with either.

Stephanie Loux is the mother of Layla, 10, Mason, 9, and Slade, 6, and remembers her pregnancies fondly—except for the worsening of her heartburn for all three of her bald babies.

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MEDIAMIX

Whose Knees Are These?

Written by Jabari Asim and illustrated by LeUyen Pham This sweet concept book starts by asking, “Whose knees are these?” and then proceeds to take the reader through a series of beautifully illustrated, brightly colored pages until we find out exactly who those knees belong to! The book is written in a simple, cheerful rhyme.

Children will enjoy the partial glimpses they get of the knees in action and may even find themselves moving their knees along with the protagonist!

Asim is a poet and author and works at Emerson College in Boston as an associate professor of writing, literature and publishing. He is also the recipient of a Guggenheim Fellowship in creative arts and has written numerous books for children and adults.

Pham is a children’s author and illustrator. She won a Caldecott Honor in 2020 for her illustrations in Bear Came Along.

Paris, A Book of Shapes Written and illustrated by Ashley Evanson This is another darling concept book, but one that introduces shapes … found in Paris!

From searching for circles at the Eiffel Tower to tracking down ovals at Versailles, the soft pastel illustrations are a combination of travel and shapes found in architecture. Counting is another concept that could be easily incorporated into reading time with your children.

Paris, A Book of Shapes is just one in a series of Hello World Board Books by Evanson.

Other titles include Rio De Janeiro, A Book of Sounds, Toyoko, A Book of Senses and San Francisco, A Book of Numbers, among others.

Evanson has a degree in journalism from Brigham Young University. She worked previously as a writer and editor for LDS Living magazine.

Peek-A-Boo Baby!

By Scholastic, Inc. Early Learners Babies of all ages enjoy playing peek-a-boo, but the age of the child will determine the level of play. Newborns 0-3 months will typically watch and may coo or smile, while an older baby (3-6 months) may track your actions. This adorable little book is very playful and perfect for those early “readers.”

Peek-A-Boo Baby! is a sturdy board book that encourages children to lift the flap on each brightly colored page. As they do, they will uncover the faces of different children while playing a game of peek-a-boo. A simple question is asked of the child on each page and is a great opportunity for the reader to engage with the child. Parents can also reinforce emotional awareness as their child uncovers the faces of the children in the book while reading.

Other titles in the First Steps series include Touch and Feel Farm, Touch and Feel Dinos, First Words, Baby Signing and Touch and Feel Winter.

Sandy Foster lives in Grain Valley and is a Bookstagrammer (@picturebookapotamus), freelance writer, and mother of two. You can find children’s book reviews and resources at HappyBeingMom.com.

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ways to enjoy spring in kc with little ones Beautiful places on sunny days, super fun places on get-out-the-wiggle days and favorite indoor places for rainy or mega-hot days, these are 20 of our favorite ways to enjoy spring with infants and toddlers in Kansas City.

Urban Air Trampoline Park (locations in Overland Park and Lenexa) is one of our favorite indoor attractions in the city. They offer a terrific toddler play space in addition to trampolines and attractions for all ages.

Their special Jumperoo play sessions (on the KC Parent calendar) are exclusively for tots.

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Something is always blooming at Family Tree Nursery (three metro locations, FamilyTreeNursery.com). Family Tree offers some of the largest nurseries in the area with wide selections to enjoy through one of the most unique and fun shopping experiences in the city. Little ones love the fairy gardens and displays.

Take photos in the sculpture park at the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art (Nelson-Atkins.org).

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2 Ride the carousel at the Kansas City Zoo (KansasCityZoo.org). The zoo is always a favorite destination, with polar bears, penguins, elephants, kangaroos, sea lions and hundreds more animals to enjoy. Purchase a FOTZ pass to include rides and visit often, plus zoo memberships are reciprocal with other zoos if your family travels.

Visit Kauffman Memorial Garden.

This free botanical garden offers a beautiful place to enjoy flowers and fountains and is a great spot to take photos of your family.

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Visit Ceramic Café (CeramicCafeKC.com), where moms and tots can paint something together.

Let your little one get creative or design a handprint or footprint keepsake.

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Watch the fish at Bass Pro (BassPro.com). The outdoors shop featuries giant fish tanks kids love.

8 Explore Leawood City Park (Leawood.org/parks/citypark.aspx), one of the Variety KC parks in the city featuring a fully accessible playground for little ones of all abilities to enjoy!

The Overland Park Arboretum (ArtsAndRec-op.org/arboretum/) is a delightful place to spend a spring day. With blooming flowers to enjoy and the charming children’s garden, the whimsical train garden and the stunning Monet garden, as well as miles of trails to walk and explore—you and your little ones will have an enchanted visit.

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Stop and smell the roses at Loose Park.

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11 Search “Best Parks” on KCParent.com to find whimsical and enchanting playgrounds to explore across the metro.

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The Kansas Children’s Discovery Center is a 15,000-square-foot hands-on children’s museum with indoor education exhibits, including science, careers, building, art and a Nature Explorer Outdoor Classroom.

Meet sea animals face to face at Sea Life Aquarium (VisitSeaLfe.com/kansas-city).

Come nose to nose with sharks and enjoy astonishingly close views of everything from starfish and seahorses to graceful rays.

Tip: Enter to win FREE passes on KCParent.com.

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Powell Gardens (PowellGardens. org), the area’s botanical gardens, is a delightful place to spend a spring day. With flowers in bloom, the charming Heartland Harvest Garden (entirely edible landscape), rock wall garden and more, there is much to see and explore— including play areas for children.

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Explore at Brumble’s Forest at Meadowmere Park The forest theme at this park is beautiful and features a wooded landscape that is one-of-a-kind in the metro.

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Feed fish from the dock at Longview Lake Marina. Purchase fish food for a dollar or two in the marina shop and enjoy the feeding frenzy as carp splash for the food.

Tip: Remember life jackets.

Build a giant Duplo tower at Legoland Discovery Center (LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com/ KansasCity).

Tip: Enter to win FREE passes on KCParent.com.

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Play at Penguin Park.

Penguin Park is one of the most beloved parks in the city, with giant penguins, elephants and kangaroos adorning the expansive playground. This is one park worth the drive for a special playdate!

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Play pretend at KidScape at the Johnson County Museum (JCPRD.com/musuem). This 3,500-sqaure-foot indoor play village is an imaginative and interactive experience allowing children to “work on the farm, perform at the theater or the puppet show, teach in the school, deliver mail, care for patients at the hospital or fry up some burgers at the diner.”

Play at Wonderscope Children’s Museum (Wonderscope.org). The museum reopened in a brand new space in the Red Bridge neighborhood in October 2020, offering amazing hands-on exhibits specially designed for early learning and play.

18 Visit KCParent.com for a full list of places to adventure with the little ones.

Some of Kristina Light’s favorite memories are enjoying these great KC places with her girls when they were toddlers. Feeding fish at the lake was a favorite for the whole family.

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>> SPRING 2021 CALENDAR Visit the KCParent.com calendar for over 1,000 more events!

playdates WEEKLY

TUESDAY Jumperoo 9:00, Tue, Fri and Sat,

Note: Many places now require advance reservations. Please check before heading out.

DAILY Story Time: Visit MyMCPL.org or JoCoLibrary.org to find a complete list of virtual story times.

MONDAY Elephant Expedition 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. The new elephant exhibition is open at the zoo. Reserve a time online and plan a visit with the family.

KansasCItyZoo.org

Mom or Dad & Me Bumper Bowling 9:30, Summit Lanes. For just $3.25 per person, you get a game, shoe rental and drink on Mondays and Wednesdays. SummitLanes.com

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Urban Air (Lenexa). A special time when entire park is open for children 5 and under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl!

UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com

Visit Sea Life 10:00, Sea Life Aquarium.

Bring the kids to see the Doodle Reef, the touch pool, Stingray Bay and more! Purchase tickets online at VisitSeaLife.com.

Tots on Tuesday 10:30, Kemper Museum. Tots on Tuesday is now online! Sing songs, read books, explore art and make your own art with a Kemper Museum educator and a Kansas City librarian. Register online.

Facebook.com/KemperMuseum/events

WEDNESDAY Jumperoo 9:00, Wed, Fri and Sat, Urban Air (Overland Park). A special time when entire park is open for children 5 and under with a parent. Jump, bounce and crawl!

UrbanAirTrampolinePark.com

Retro Story Time Second Wednesday of the month, 10:00-10:45, Johnson County Arts & Heritage Center.

Preschoolers love the stories from long ago, read by a special guest from the 1950s All-Electric House! Craft activity included. Pre-reg at 913.831.3359.

Preschool Story Time Third Wednesday of the month, 10:30-11:00, Ernie Miller Nature Center. For ages 2-6. $2/person, including adults. Visit the nature center for stories, songs and surprises geared to preschool children. JCPRD.com

THURSDAY Toddler Time 10:00, Ceramic Café. On Thursdays from 10:00 to 2:00, toddlers 5 and under can paint a selected item for only $10! CeramicCafeKC.com

Polar Bear Passage 10:00, Kansas City Zoo. Visit Nuniq, the zoo’s newest polar bear at home in Polar Bear Passage.

KansasCityZoo.org

Visit Legoland 10:00, Legoland Discovery Center. Take the kids to the ultimate indoor playground for the biggest fans of Lego. Purchase tickets at LegolandDiscoveryCenter.com.

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parents night out Eat, Drink, Play: New Beginnings with Opus 76 Quartet April 1-15, virtual event through the Midwest Trust Center. Create a date night at home with beautiful chamber music and a fabulous recipe from a local chef.

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

Whose Live Anyway? June 12, 7:30, Arvest Bank Theatre at the Midland.

You’ve seen them make up scenes right before your eyes on television’s Whose Line Is It Anyway?, now see them live and in person.

ArvestBankTheatre.com/events

Back to the ’50s Bowling Sundays, Noon-5:00, Summit Lanes. Games, shoe rentals, hot dogs and sodas are just 50 cents each from Noon to 5:00 with a $5 cover charge. Bowling is a classic way to enjoy some family fun with the whole gang! SummitLanes.com

Wine Tastings at the Arboretum April 22, May 13 & 27, June 10, 6:00-8:00, Overland Park Arboretum. These will be pleasant evenings, each featuring different wines paired with light fare to complement.

You might even learn a little about how wine is grown and blended.

ArtsAndRec-op.org/arboretum/wine-tastings

Yesterday and Today: The Interactive Beatles Experience May 22, Midwest Trust Center. Yesterday and Today’s all-request show does away with the wigs, costumes and fake accents. Instead, it recreates the energy and spirit of the world’s most popular band. JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center

Sons of Brasil June 13, 7:00, Midwest

Stanley Station Second Saturday

Trust Center. Kansas City natives, led by trumpeter Stan Kessler, transport audiences to a nightclub in Ipanema or Leblon.

JCCC.edu/midwest-trust-center/events

Brunch Bingo Saturdays, 11:00-1:00,

Second Saturday of the month, 11:00-6:00, Stanley Station. Live music, food trucks and vendors. Support local businesses! A responsible, socially distanced outdoor event. Facebook.com/ StanleyStationSecondSaturday

Chicken N Pickle. Brunch is great, but it’s even more fun when you throw in a game of bingo! Join us every Sunday for Brunch Bingo on the rooftop. Enjoy a Boulevard Beer with your brunch and win Chicken N Pickle gift cards and more. ChickeNPickle.com

Axe Throwing Blade & Timber Multiple locations. Blade & Timber is the perfect date night destination. Experience axe throwing with their coaches who teach you how to hit the target.

BladeAndTimber.com

PLEASE CONFIRM EVENT DETAILS WITH LOCATIONS.

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Whenever my son, 5, asks how I did something— “Mommy magic,” I reply.

– Audra

We asked KC Parent’s 54,000+ Facebook fans: What clever/funny fibs have you told your children?

Lindsay: I told my kids if they didn’t behave in the car, when we went through the drive-thru they would receive a Sad Meal instead of a Happy Meal.

Lucinda: I left the clock at “spring forward” for an extra week after it was supposed to “fall back.” Kids went to bed an hour early, and I got an extra hour in the evenings.

Katie: My daughter thinks Chuck E. Cheese is only open for birthday parties.

Kourtney: When my daughter asked for ice cream we gave her yogurt. She was shocked at a birthday party when she was about 5!

Marjorie: When I’m extremely tired of hearing and answering “why” questions from my nearly 4-year-old son, I tell him that my mouth is broken and I can’t talk anymore.

Timothy: Cranberry juice is “red pop.” So the only “pop” they knew was cranberry juice. Too bad they learned the facts of “pop” from classmates.

Jamie: That the finely chopped spinach in all of their meals was actually a spice. I even showed them a jar of dried parsley.

Audra: Whenever my son, 5, asks how I did something— “Mommy magic,” I reply.

Christina: When the very loud and obnoxious toy ran out of batteries, I told my son it was broken.

Mary: I told my kids they only get 10,000 words to speak each month. When they are extra chatty I tell them, “Careful, you’re close to 9,000!”

Tina: When I have a food I don’t want to share with my kids, I tell them it’s spicy.

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