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Side note: The fairy tale of trust November 25, 2020 from Kalte Sonne Contribution from a guest author We are happy to pass on praise and criticism to the author Once upon a time, there was a multitude of opportunities in our lives and in our environment to achieve “small victories”. Whether they were worthwhile in the long term often very much depended on the degree of trust placed in them. The opposite of trust is known to be mistrust. This usually goes hand in hand with the expectation that the other side should change first. In fact, this can lead to manipulation of the other person. Conversely, trust means showing willingness to change one's own behavior for the benefit of the other side, which admittedly is not always easy. In our brains there is something like a general "switch" that is either -trust- or -mistrustpoled. We will not succeed and it would also not be sensible or advisable to set the switch permanently to -trust-. A healthy distrust, on the other hand, goes hand in hand with skepticism or caution and is therefore recommended for meaningful application. Here is a practical example: I sit in a taxi and trust that the taxi driver will take me to the desired destination without having to carry out extensive cross-checks. There will be places and times when this doesn't work. Nevertheless, it hardly makes sense to even sit in a taxi without a trustworthy person. If, on the other hand, I want to make a larger investment, then it is advisable to obtain a 2nd or 3rd offer. Trust is good - control is legitimate. 1