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Omaha, NE
23 Chesvan, 5762
November 9,2001
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now hanging in t h e Gallery of t h e J e w i s h Community Center, onee flew over the United States Capitol, according to Osten, a deeorated veteran of World War EL.
Dr. Richard Freund Returnsto Omaha for Jewish, Christian, Muslim Trialogue at Temple Israel by CLAUDIA SHERMAN, Temple Israel Communications Coordinator Although planned months ago, the first of four Scholar-in-Residenee weekends for the 2001-2002 year at Temple Israel takes on profound significance less than three months after the terrorist attacks on the United States and the multi-faceted, ongoing American response. Former University of Nebraska (UNO) Professor Dr. Richard Freund will return to Omaha Nov. 30 through Dec. 2 to present, "Jews, Christians and Muslims in Trialogue." Dr. Freund is the Maurice Greenberg Professor and Director of the Greenberg Center for Judaic Studies at the University of Hartford, CT. He is also the Director of the Bethsaida Excavations Project at UNO and the University of Hartford, as well as Director of the John and Carol Merrill Cave of Letters Project. At Shabbat services on Friday, Nov. 30, 8 p.m., at Temple, Dr. Freund will'begin the Scholar-inResidenee weekend with the topic, "Jews, Christians and Muslims—Connected and Distinct," concerning texts that join and divide as well as those that heal and hurt. On Saturday, Dec. 1, 3:30 pan., at Temple, Dr. Freund will present the world premiere of the television documentary, The Road to Morocco: American Jews, Christians and Muslims in Dialogue, followed by a panel discussion. Since the early 1990s, the Duncan Black Macdonald Center for the Study of Islam and Christian-Muslim Relations at Hartford Seminary and the University of Hartford's Maurice Greenberg Center have been involved in a multiyear informal trialogue between individual Jews, Christians and Muslims in the Hartford area. Thenconversations resulted in the creation of a more formal set of discussions and educational offerings. Funded by a grant from the Henry R. Luce Forum, the program that grew out of the trialogue discussions set a goal to explore ways to create an
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interreligious dialogue to prepare for a religiously diverse world in the 21st century, which will require interreligious interchange to promote domestic and social tranquility in society. Freund is one of three co-directors of the program. The other two are Dr. Jane I. Smith and Dr. Ibrahim Abu-Rabi', co-directors of the Macdonald Center at the Hartford
Seminary. To spark a deeper understanding and sustained conversation, the Director of the Luce Forum opted for an educational study-tour of Morocco's Jewish, Christian and Muslim shrines and sites. Among the 70 American Jews, Christians and Muslims sent on the tour was Suzanne Singer, a member of Temple Israel. UNO was selected to film a documentary of the May 24 to June 8, 2000, trip as participants visited and attended cultural events, archaeological sites, cemeteries, churches, synagogues and mosques, and met with leaders of various communities. Morocco's natural beauty and its people were highlighted by the dialogue among the Americans. A panel discussion will follow the 56-minute documentary. A dessert reception is also planned for Saturday evening. At a bagel brunch on Sunday, Dec 2,10 am., at Temple, Dr. Freund will talk about another documentary, Return to the Cave of Letters, which wab broadcast statewide on Nebraska ETV. (Continued on page 2)
On Tuesday and Wednesday, Nov. 27-28, Beth El students ages 12-18, together with their parents, will participate in two "Raising Souls" workshops. This highly-regarded program was designed by Rabbi Mark Borovitz and Harriet Eossetto, MSW, of Beit TShuvah, a residential center affiliated with the United Way of Los Angeles and the Jewish Federation Council of Los Angeles, •"Raising Souls" lets teens, together with their parents and guardians, utilize the spiritual aad emotional richness of Judaism to identify the underlying causes of substance abuse in an effort to educate and prevent the disease of addiction. Health professionals acknowledge that no ethnic or sodoeconomic group is exempt from drug, alcohol, gambling or other addictions that plague our society. Furthermore, child and adolescent, psychiafary experts feei that youths who have a spiritual dimension in their lives are only half as likely to become involved in addictive behaviors. According to Rabbi Borovite, "Many difficult decisions face our young people and the parents and guardians who love them, raise them aad try to provide a safe structure In wHch to make decisions that can affect a lifetime. It is not always easy for teenagers and the adults who care for them and about them to have the necessary discussions and dialogues in a safe and trust-filled atmosphere." Among its many objectives, "Raising Souls" strives to help Jewish teens develop the ability to make positive life choices, manageJuaner conflict, realize their own taieats, individuality and, ultimately, their own unique neshama to prevent addiction of all kinds. Anna Golegorsky, Beth EFs Education Director, explained that '"Raising Souls" will provide an opportunity to explore topics through exercises, discussion, questionnaires, videos and traditional texts. T h e workshops will help adolescents and their parents examine and clarify basic values through open and honest communication," she explained. "The participants will use the Book of Genesis as a starting point to identify with the process of human struggle through life's stages. Well see how the Bible's characters grow and mature in ways that parallel our own development through life." "The objectives of this program can actually save lives," said Susie Drazen, Beth El's Program Director. "'Raising Souls will help our kids move closer to Judaism as a path to shleimut—wholeness. It will help teens and their parents learn the signs of addictive disease and how to get help if it's needed. And it will help spare the students and families the terrible emotional and physical upheaval caused by substance abuse. We strongly encourage all teens and their parents to enroll in this program." Both Rabbi Borovitz and Rossetto have worked in the field of faith-based spiritual recovery for the past 14 years. In 1991, Rossetto received the Alan Kassin Award for professional achievement from the Jewish Communal Professionals. She is a popular speaker and lecturer as well as a trainer for the National Association of Social Workers, teaching classes in the prevention and treatment of addicti01
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FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 9 BBYO New Members Convention in St. Louis, through Sunday, Nov. 9 OTYG Fall Conclave, through Sunday, Nov. 9 SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10 Beth Israel Shabbos House, 3 p.m., at the home P of Janet & David Kohll P I SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 11 , P Outreach Committee Meeting., 9 a.m., at Temple P Adult Education, 10 a.m., at Temple Israel * Yachad Get Together, 12:30 p.m. & 5 Veterans Day Dinner, 5p.m., at Beth Israel s A MONDAY, NOVEMBER 12 A V YES Program, 10 a.m. V E OTYG Board Meeting, 6 p.m., at Temple Israel E TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 13 55 Alive Driving Course, noon Sisterhood Donor Luncheon, 12:30 p.m., Beth Israel BBYO Night, 6 p.m. Executive Meeting, 7:30 p.m., at Beth El Talmud Class with Rabbi Kutner, 7:30 p.m., at Beth Israel WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 14 Mah Jong Club, 11:30 a.m. 55 Alive Driving Course, noon Bible Quiz Rehearsal, 5 p.m., at Temple Israel Chabad Jewish Learning Institute, 7 p.m. Board Meeting, 7:30 p.m., at Beth Israel C Board Meeting, 7:30 p.m., at Beth El V \ THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 10 | p Adult Education, 9 a.m., at Temple Israel p Kripke Library Book Discussion, 1 p.m. & 6 RBJH Family Night, 5:30 p.m. Exodus World Tour Movie Event, 6 p.m., , g . at Brandeis Theatre A V All events held at the JCC unless otherwise indicated. The Jewish Y, E Press is not responsible for the accuracy of events. To keep cal- E endar accurate or for questions, call Marlene Hert at 334-6437. FOR A COMPLETE LISTING, VISIT THE FEDERATIONS WEBSITE: www.JewishOmaha.org (click on calendar)
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He refused Temple Israel. to bargain with the Hittites for the spot he wanted. Indeed the usual Middle Eastern bargaining went NEIL STUART SIMON the other way. Abraham showed his earnestness, Former Omahan Neil Simon died in Daytona which no doubt hiked up the price. The first exorbi- Beach, FL, at the age of 55. Services were held tant price mentioned was immediately accepted Nov. 8 at Temple Beth Shalom in Palm Coast, FL. and Abraham bought the Cave of Machpela. This Simon, most currently Vice-presidtent and "burial place is still revered by Jews and Muslims, Executive recruiter for Eggers Consulting, lived in and is frequently the subject of heated argument. Phoenix. Prior to that, he was a Program Director Whether there was immediate influence of this for the federal government and a Director of Biblical account on later generations, or not, Jews regional sales for Simon Meats; he was elected to always made sure of three things when a new com- the Nebraska Unicameral in 1976 at the age of 30, munity was established. There had to be a school after having served on dozens of community and a synagogue. But first of all, they had to buy boards. He was also named one of 10 Outstanding qarqa (or karka). This was land for burial. Young Omahans by the Jaycees. The need for a synagogue was obvious; and the Survivors include his parents, former Omahans need for a school preceded the synagogue both in Miriam and Ervin Simon of Palm Coast, FL; sistime and importance. But usually the need for bur- ters and brothers-in-law, Julie and Rainer Martens ial space preceded both. It was common for a Jew of Champaign, IL, and Ormond Beach, FL, and moving to a new community to provide himself Sara and Baruch Gold of Betar Mit, Israel; three with burial space as quickly as possible. nieces and three nephews. Traditional Judaism thought in terms of life after Memorials to the Multiple Myeloma Research death, of a kind of spiritual immortality. But this Foundation, 3 Forest St., New Canaan, CT 06840. did not confuse the mind. Much more important was the practical understanding that burial space would be needed. Whether there was life after death was God's business, and it would be left to Him (or Her). One has to excuse Abraham for not having pre- by PAM MONSKY pared burial space in advance. He was a stranger Federation Communications Director-' '• *.« •;'• < ' An exclusive showing of the epic film Exodus will in the land, and he was moving from place to place. There was no assured stopping place for him in be presented at the Brandeis Art Cinemas for one show only, Thursday, Nov. 1.5 at 7 p.m. This is this new land of Canaan. It is not surprising that Jewish communities in the first opportunity for many people to see tho the United States give careful attention to burial film on the big screen since its release 40 years grounds. In some cases, the cost of individual ago. In addition, the Helmsman-of.the ship graves is so high that complaints are made that Exodus, William Millman, will speak before the the communities, or individual cemeteries, try to film, according to chairman Mark Sherman. A make the bereaved families support synagogues or dessert reception will be served at intermission. The first major American film produced in Israel, burial associations. In some of our communities, synagogues, joined together, have had to lay the Exodus is a chronicle of the rebirth of the Jewish law down to mortuaries that so much and so much people and the establishment of the State of Israel. The event is sponsored by the Jewish Federation of must be the limit of their charges. All of this reminds us that our communities do Omaha, Jewish Educational and Library Services, not necessarily deal gently with this problem. Since Brandeis Art Cinemas, Israel Tennis Centers and the Alan and Marcia Baer Foundation. Tickets for the need is inevitable, a sellers' market prevails. Have you heard about the two Jews who came to the premier of Exodus are $5. All students are free the rabbi to settle the dispute over who owned a with a valid student ID. Tickets can be purchased certain grave space. The rabbi said, "Whoever in advance by calling 334-6402. needs it first gets it."
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(Continued from page 1) • "'„• (Continued from page 1) ' Rabbi Borovitz earned a Masters in Rabbinic Yielding the largest collection of personal correLiterature from National University. He has spondence ever discovered in the 2nd century CE, served on the faculty of the University of Judaism, the largest collection of bronze Roman artifacts, both in Los Angeles and Jerusalem, and won coins and scrolls dating to the first century CE, the numerous awards for outstanding contributions to Cave of Letters was never fully excavated because Jewish values. His approach to the teaching of its roof had collapsed in many areas. Torah-based on both traditional scholarship and Knowing the cave still held secrets, Baruch the principles of the 12-Step Program of Alcoholics Safrai, Israeli sailor and Kibbutz member with an Anonymous-makes his message uniquely accessiarchaeology background, contacted Dr. Freund in ble to those who want to reorder their lives based 1997. Among Safrai's stacks of literature was a on Jewish teachings and practice. book by Professor Yochandn Ahararoni, who wrote, "Raising Souls" is open to the entire Jewish com"clearly visible under the huge deposit of the colmunity and is underwritten by a grant from the lapsed ceiling are the bones of a man, wearing an Lazier L. Singer Memorial Fund for Youth. ancient linen tunic..." For registration information, call Anna In 1998, a survey team, led by UNO geologist Dr. Gologorsky at 492-8550. Jack Shroder, documented what may be the last remains of the Temple of Jerusalem stored in the EARLY DEADLINE NOTICE cave, along with its other treasures. In 1999, 14 Due to the Thanksgiving holiday, the deadline for scholars, students and a UNO TV crew ventured upcoming issues of the Jewish Press is noon, back to the Cave of Letters to film the documenWednesday, as follows: tary which broadcasts Nov. 12, 11 a.m. a n d Deadline Issue 3:30 p.m., and Nov. 27, 11 a.m. , on Nebraska Nov. 14 Nov. 23 ETV. Other showings will be on NETV 2. Nov. 21 Nov. 30 Dr. Freund's presentations are sponsored by the (Hanukkah Gift Guide) Hermene Zweiback Center for Lifelong Jewish Questions? Call 334-644g Learning and are free and open to the community. i.
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Rabbi Aryeh Azriel and Cantor Wendy Shermet will officiate. Guest speaker Jerry Kaye, Director of Olin-Sang Ruby Union Institute, will give the sermon, "Now is the Time." Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Amy and Richard Katz in honor of the Bar Mitzvah of their son, Maxwell, and by the Women of Reform Judaism. SATURDAY: Bagels and Sacred Books, 9:3010:15 a.m. Please join us as we continue our study of "Traditional Prayers, Modern Commentaries: The S'hma and It's Blessings;" Services, 10:30 a.m. Maxwell Katz will celebrate his Bar Mitzvah, SITTER SERVICE Available for Shabbat evening, 7:15 p.m. o r 8 p.m. service, Saturday mornings when there is a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, Also, Sunday mornings when there is Religious School. Make a reservation with the Temple office. No facilities for infants* Gost is $2 per family. ADULT EDUCATION SUNDAY, Nov. 11, Seminars on Sunday: "Are
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EDITORIAL The temperature is in the high 60s; it's sunny and the plants are still in bloom. It must be spring (well, it feels like spring!), We know the calendar Says Thanksgiving is approaching, but for us at the Jewish Press, Passover is right around the corner! The theme for our annual Passover issue, to be published on March 22, 2002, is Jews in Sports: Omaha Hosts the 2002 Maccabi Games. If you go by the old joke, this should be a 'thin' issue. Surprisingly, we've had no trouble rounding up the names of star athletes over the years. Nebraska has had its share of state swim champs, varsity basketball players, and Golden Glove boxers. Add to that list long-time yoga enthusiasts, as well as the 42 kids already signed up for the 2002 Maccabi Games, and you've got the makings of another terrific holiday issue of the Press! But we want more. . .so, if you or someone you know is a Masters swimmer, amateur golf champ, volunteer -..coach, marathon runner or Ironman triathlete, give us a call at 334-6448.
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Passover Already? If you've got photos of Jewish athletes from a generation ago, we'd love to share those with the community, too. In addition to the athletes and coaches, we'll be featuring all the hoopla surrounding the first time Omaha's Jewish Community Center will be hosting the Maccabi Games. More than 1000 athletes and their families are expected to participate in these annual Games, scheduled for the first week in August, 2002. If you're interested in hosting teen athletes, working on a committee, or signing up your teen, call Lisa Shkolnick at the Maccabi office, 3346425 or Traci Kugler, 334-6418. We'd love to include as many Jewish athletes as we can—even if it's only a photo and a caption—in this special issue. Whether you write your own story or call to be interviewed, we need to hear from you no later than Dec. 21. Our list is growing, so let us know as quickly as possible before we run out of time and space. Let's ensure the shortest book in the Kripke Jewish Federation Library is not the one on Jews in Sports!
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Egg-buying comes as a shock to American visitors to Israel, for Israeli eggs are not sold within refrigerated cases. Yes, though they are usually placed within tantalizing reach of the chilled dairy cases, even at major supermarkets Israeli eggs are just stacked up and sold like so many common cans of corn. The major egg producers stamp each egg with two dates: the expiration date for those eggs unlucky enough to have owners who refuse them refrigerated sanctuary (this date is about two weeks from the purchase day), and an expiration date for those eggs who get to spend up to the next six weeks in blissful refrigeration. [Important kashrut note: about 18 months ago, the Israeli rabbinate proudly announced a major breakthrough (I am not making this up): the dyes used to mark egg expiration dates were declared Kosher for Passover,] The eggs we usually buy for my home, however, are unmarked by chemical dyes. More earthy marks may be found on them. (Warning: please stop reading at this point if you think that you may find yourself as a guest at my dining-room table in the foreseeable future.) Unlike those pristine store-bought eggs, which seem to have appeared in their cartons without any human or animal involvement, no one could look at the variegated (in terms of both size and color) eggs I buy without immediately realizing that they in fact come from the bodies of chickens. Within the egg carton, one may often discern feathers, blood, and other matter that I try desperately not to think about. As you might have guessed by now, the eggs we buy are purchased at the open-air market known as the shuk. "What, you ask, can eggs really be sold outdoors even through the hot summer months? Not to worry: they are shaded by a trusty umbrella. (Hey, don't forget, a person who is brave enough to enter the shuk in the first place is not going to be
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scared off by itty bitty eggs). Before I buy the eggs, I ask the price from the vendor, a young Arab man. I know that it will be around 13 shekels (about $3) for an egg-flat of twoand-a-half dozen eggs, but at the shuk it's better to establish the price of something beforehand. I order two of these egg flats. Before the vendor ties up the cartons and puts them into a plastic bag, I ask to RIBO examine the bottom of the two egg flats I am buying—on those occasions when I have not done this I sometimes receive especially 'earthy' eggs. If all goes well, only one or two of the eggs will be cracked by the time I get home. The savings in any case will be relatively large: for the same price that I purchased five dozen eggs, I would only have been able to purchase three dozen in a supermarket. Now I call that a big savings. Why, in another 40 years or so, I will be able to purchase up to one additional full week of nursing-home care thanks to this little nest-egg.. I guess that this is the point in my column for me to disclose all the cases of salmonella in my family since we moved here. The thing is, there aren't any. Nor have I heard or read about any illnesses or diseases stemming from the Israeli way of selling eggs. So, the real question here is not why Israel sells unrefrigerated eggs but why America sells refrigerated ones. One could be that America's supermarkets are further removed from America's egg-farms than is the case in Israel. Yet, this can't be the reason, because even if American eggs arrive in the stores a full day later than Israeli eggs, such a difference would hardly justify the cost of refrigeration (since unrefrigerated eggs can last up to 14 days). Another possibility is that America's fondness for selling refrigerated eggs goes way back to its Puritan roots (though it's a good bet to say that even the Puritans did not refrigerate their eggs). The refrigerated egg is inanimate; the Israeli egg is
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carnal. And even if you seal the egg away in your refrigerator when you take it home (which I always do-I'm not that crazy), you can't help but feel its warmth as you transfer it from the carton to the egg compartment. Whatever the reason, it's clear that Israel's way of selling eggs has made a deep and lasting impression upon Israeli culture. The sensuous and sexy nature of Israelis is obviously connected to what Israel does with its eggs. It's time for America to realize that she can look to Israel for things other than weapons and anti-terrorism strategies. It's time for American stores to do away with their egg-oppression. It's time for America to liberate her eggs. Viva Ova Librel
LETTERS TO THE EDITOR To the Editor. The Simon Wisenthal Center is currently on a project examining the different forms of resistance during World War II and the Holocaust. To this end, we are attempting to locate people who either worked with or were saved by Dr. William Perl, a prominent figure in the resistance movement in Austria during the 1930s. If you or someone you know had contact with Dr. Perl during this period, please contact me at the Center by calling (310) 772-2437, faxing (310) 7727652, or e-mailing: pro6enhaft<&wiesenthal.n.et. Phyllis Rosenhaft, Production Manager Moriah Films, Simon Wieeenthal Center Los Angeles, CA, To the Editor: The Shanghai Holocaust Survivors are having a reunion in San Francisco from April 19-21, 2002. For more information, please contact me at www.rickshaw.org1. Judy Jarvis
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WASHINGTON (JTAKIsrael's exclusion from the global Red Cross organization appears to have been the pivotal factor in the resignation of the head of the American Red Cross. Dr. Bernadine Healy said last Friday that she had been forced out of her job over policy differences with her board. In particular, she noted her unpopular decision to withhold American Red Cross dues from the International Committee of the Red Cross to protest the group's refusal to give full membership to Magen David Adorn, the Israeli relief group. Contrary to reports, Heaiys ouster had very little to do with the issue of how to use funds collected for the victims of the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks, according to an official at the American Red Cross. "It's just not the case," the official said. Healy had taken the lead on what she termed a "controversial but principled stand" supporting Israel's demand for membership in the international organization, Healy advocated withholding American Red Cross dues to the international group until the Israeli branch was included. Magen David Adorn currently has only observer status. The American Red Cross has so far withheld two years of dues-approximately $10-12 million—as well as voluntary contributions to the international group. Israel's humanitarian relief movement haa been barred from the Red Cross movement, which allows only the red cross and, in Muslim countries, the red crescent. Israel insists on keeping its rod Star of David, Israel's exclusion has been a long-standing point of contention between the American Red Cross and the international bodies. The exclusion generally is'attributed to intense lobbying against Israel from Arab and Muslim members of the International Red Cross. Officially, the reason given is that allowing the Star of David might encourage ofchex groups to press for inclusion
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'Deep Principle' of Israel Issue Pushed Red Cross Leader to Quit of their emblems as well. Alluding to her difficulties on this issue with the board of governors, Healy said "reasonable people have differed with me on this and certain other matters, but this is an area of deep principle for me not easily compromised." Earlier this month the board tried to reverse course and pay its back dues to the international body, even passing a resolution to do so, the American Red Cross official told JTA. Healy refused to back down, however. In her resignation speech, she said, "the policy is now up for grabs." The following day, however, the American Red Cross voted to keep current policy, passing a resolution affirming its commitment to Magen David Adom's struggle. "It is one of our top international policy priorities," said Leslie VanSant, a spokesperson with the American Red Cross. It remains to be seen how aggressively the American Red Cross will pursue the issue. Healy"s resignation may help solidify American Red Cross support for Magen David Adorn, the official said, but she remains doubtful about the Israeli group's ultimate prospects of joining the world body. Red Cross officials announced that Harold Decker had been appointed interim CEO, According to the organisation, Decker supports full membership for Magon David Adorn, and agrees that duos should bo withheld from the intornntiouul group until the Israeli group is admitted. Whon she began her tenure, Healy said tho Star of David emblem should be recognised by the International Red Cross. The exclusion of the Israelis is "a betrayal of tho sacred principles of this movement" and "cannot be tolerated any longer," sho said. Lawrence Eagleburger, a former U.S. Secretary of State, said Hoaly had askod his advice in forcing
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OLDTIMERS/Y.E.S REVIEW Our co-president, Sarah Lewis, opened the last Early Bird discussion in October by quoting EHe Wiesel's message on the cover of Parade magazine: "Even when faced with the murderous madness of criminals, and in the presence of the silent agony of their victims, it is incumbent upon us to choose* between escape and solidarity, shame and honor. The terrorists have chosen shame. We choose honor." A brilliant wordsmith, Wiesel has been described as a "messenger to mankind." He has written more than 40 books, including Night, about his experi-
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IN THE NEWS The University of Nebraska Medical Center (UNMC) will host a free public education foruiti on bioterrorism, Thursday, Nov. 15, 6:30-8:30 p.m., via satellite at any site with the capability to receive NebSat system, Network 2 channel 106; it will also be broadcast live on the Internet at: www.unmc.edu/bioterrorism. Panelists include Dr. Steven Hinrichs, Director of the Nebraska Public Health Laboratory at UNMC; Dr. Phil Smith, Professor and section chief in the UNMG department of infectious diseases; Psychiatrist Dr. Matt Egbert; and Social Worker Robin Zagurski, who spent two weeks counseling families and victims in New York City after the Sept. 11 attacks.
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The buzz around the country is to get back to life as usual. And life as usual at Temple Israel means community action. Temple Israel's Middle/ High school student body has been quite active pursuing answers in its^";';*; reaction to the terrorist. T* attacks and military cam-'t *' paign. One student stated: "If you get to know someone, or get to know someone's culture, it will be obvious that this is not a black and white issue. Certainly, you can find more in com- i mon with Islamic teachings '/• ;: than uncommon." This particular student Jewish and Muslim Youth discuss their differences and similarities. belongs to the Social Justice Middle/High School Group and they have Both youth groups and their advisors expressed an set out to do just that-find out more about interest in continuing the dialogue, even coming up with questions and programs that would further Muslims and their teachings. Students have created a climate of respect where conversations." The dialogue between the two groups was a powboth Jewish and Islamic youth can listen respecterful experience for all participants. Another facilifully and learn to care about each other. They tator for the evening was Dr. David Oatnpt. He curbegan to build a community as they reflected on rently provides consultation about race iscmaa to their personal experiences, similarities and differthe congressional representatives, various philanences in the framework of their religions, and thropic foundations and community organizations struggled together to achieve a common goal: jusaround the country, and has extensive experience tice, tolerance, equality and respect. as a dialogue facilitator and university lecturer. For some, it was first hearing directly the percepTemple Israel's Social Justice youth participants tions of the other. in the first session were Jake and Josh Bleieher, "This youth dialogue between Jews and muslims Jessie Danon, Daniel Gutman, Molly Noodolman, begins an important relationship, said Patrick Jacquelyn Neesman, Amy Schwoid, Rebecca McNamara, Director of the Omaha Hate Crimes Sternberg, Hannah and Alex Wolf nnd Taylor Project, find session facilitator. "Without ignoring Workman. Others in the club includes Ram tho differences of oach faith, the youth learned they 1 Andoroon, Kyle Baine.a, Joel Paswor, Sara Rips, share, muny similarities of belief, practice- and, especially in tlu-we times, being victims of bias. Rebecca Smedlund, Hmtly and Stovon Stwnborg nnd Vic Gutman, advisor.
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The Trauma of the Hidden Child Revealed by LEO ADAM BIGA, Special to the Jewish Press » _ .
A gathering unlike any other took place just after but anyone suffering from post traumatic stress, Rosh Hashanah at the home of Omaha Holocaust which he added is a timely addition to research on researcher Ben Nachman. Over the course of sever- the subject in light of the emotional toll the events al hours, a diverse group of guests heard three men of Sept. 11 and after have taken on the damaged discuss a shared legacy of survival-one that saw American psyche. On hand that evening at Nachman's were educathem persevere through the Shoah as hidden chiltors, lawyers and journalists, all of whom came to dren in their native Belgium. Two of the men, Fred Kader and Tom Jaeger, are learn something about the ordeal the three men well-known Omaha physicians. The third, Marcel underwent. As the night unwound, it became clear Frydman, is Professor Emeritus at the University that the hidden experience is one marked by proof Mons in Mons, Belgium, where he is a psycholo- found separation anxiety, where youths are taken gist and author of a book exploring the long-term from homes and families go into hiding among total strangers and try to conceal their Jewish identity traumatic effects of the hidden child experience. Kader and Jaeger, who already knew each other, in order to save their lives. were eager to meet Frydman and hear his findings, As each survivor described the since they shared a common past and homeland. According to Kader, a pediatric neurologist, the story of his survival, he revealed hidden experience is one that unites men and something of the psychological women, even of different ages and nationalities, in scars borne from these searing a special fraternity, "Because of the nature of our experiences, events so far outside the normal whether in Holland or France or Belgium, you do stream of human conduct. They form this kind of a bond with another hidden child. explained how, even after escapIt's a thing where we both survived, we both were hidden. The feelings we have just resonate back ing extermination and building and forth. It's a common understanding. It's comsuccessful adult lives now a munication at a different level," he explained. half-century removed from their Until recently, hidden children rarely spoke ordeal, they remain haunted by about their wartime experiences. For many, the events were simply too painful or too suppressed to the specter of their hidden tackle. But since a 1991 international hidden chilodyssey, anodyssey that has both dren's conference, attended by all three men, more driven them and frustrated and more long-silent survivors have been seeking each other out to talk about thei* shared heritage them. in hiding. There was something nearly sacred in this Frydman, who came to Omaha at the invitation of Nachman and through the auspices of the solemn exchange between the survivors and their Hidden Heroes of the Holocaust Foundation, hopes rapt audience. The men and women huddled to have his French-language book published in around the Nachman living room listened intently English. Jaeger, a pediatric psychiatrist, has read to every word uttered and asked questions that the book and feels it offers valuable insights into begged for more detail. the whole host of circumstances that determines The evening was also meaningful for the surhow individuals cope with the emotional baggage of vivors. For Kader and Jaeger, meeting Frydman childhood trauma well into adulthood. and learning of his work helped further validate He said the book provides a therapeutic frame- their own hidden histories, which remained work for treating not only former hidden children shrouded and inarticulated until they began piec-
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ing together their own backgrounds at that 1991 conference in New York. Kader said a book like Frydman's "gives more credence to the feelings that survivors have. When hidden children get together they end up talking about the same kinds of things, and what they talk about has often been well-repressed." Kader said the more hidden children he gets to know, the more he realizes "all of us, in our own way, have the same sort of common thread of experiences and we all go through the same kind of process of finding a way out of it (the trauma) to make something of ourselves." He said Frydman's work helps demonstrate survivors "can cope and manage. Even though you may have these recollections of traumatic experiences in the back of your mind, you. can get past that point and go on with your life. His research shows all sorts of common denominators. You realize what you're going through is a natural evolution other survivors go through. It's reassuring to know we're all not crazy." For Frydman, whose work in this area was sparked by a group of survivors who asked him to lead their counseling sessions, the evening was a chance to share his findings with fellow countrymen who endured a similar fate during and after the war. In writing his 1999 book, The Trauma of the Hidden Child: Short and Long Term Repercussions, Frydman found an outlet for his own survivor issues and a forum for examining the consequences of the hidden experience, many of which he found overlap from one survivor to another. For his book, he returned to the very site Where he was sheltered after the war—a home for hidden and abandoned children of both Jewish and nonJewish descent-and to the same group of individuals with whom he shared his early adolescence. To his astonishment, he discovered that in spite of their war deprivation, many of these individuals have achieved great professional success, with an unusually high percentage ending up in the healing arts, as evidenced by himself, Kader and Jaeger. Aa he studied this population, he identified elements and conditions that explained the apparent anomaly of survivors reaching such heights from such depths. "In my opinion, two factors were important," Frydman said. "First, the quality of family life before the war. These children knew there was a possibility o( recovering the family unit. They felt forsaken but they knew their parents didn't abandon them. This was very important when they were confronted with the conditions of an institution where the affective life was very low. "The second factor," he added, "was the quality of the environment in which the child was placed during and after the war. If this environment was good and supportive, he could find again a normal life, mobilize his potentialities and perform very high. It's no accident that hidden children have chosen social or therapeutic professions. If you have experienced something as hard as we did you may be more skilled to help others." (Continued on page 11)
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Hidden Child Revealed (Continued from page 10) • • » — • > •••••»•«• m . . Prydman finds survivors exhibit a remarkable resilience as a result of having endured what they did, and Jaeger believes he and his peers managed • compensating for the trials and deficits of their interrupted childhood because attaining success, coming as it did against all odds, became an act of defiance. "Resiliency is an act of defiance in some ways," Jaeger said. "It's a way of saying, ^You were wrong,' to those people who said, *You can't do this', or, *You won't ever reach a certain point.' As Marcel (Frydman) points out, the thing that contributed to this resilience was the love and nurturance we were inculcated with despite everything going on around us," Recently, Jaeger found poignant evidence of the love he was endowed with via two formal family photographs his mother, who escaped the Shoah, commissioned at the time of the deportation. "I was struck by the fact that she felt it was important to have a memory to sustain our family even in the midst of what was going on. It probably provided a buffer that sustained us when we went via this underground railroad into hiding," Another impetus for survivors to strive so hard, Jaeger said, was their strong desire "to get on with things and to accomplish anything and everything we could. Most of us wanted to find acceptance-to be included in the mainstream." Frydman, Kader and Jaeger were hidden at several sites, but their protective custody mainly cam© in institutions run by various good Samaritans, including Catholic nuns. They are glad to have ended up in such good, caring hands. Frydman said there long was an assumption children placed with foster families were more fortunate than those placed in institutions, "but now I can say that wasn't true because the child placed in a family was alone in his stress-tha family sheltered him but couldn't share his loneliness and sense of forsukoncias-whereus the child in ati institution eventually discovered ho was not ulone, nnd any strews experience! is mndn more bearable when the stress is ahanid." Iu addition to drawing on his own experiences for the book, Frydman draw on his past work counseling "forsaken children"~orphnned or otherwise abandoned youths-which provided a field of reference from which to extrapolate. What he found in comparing and contrasting hidden children with abandoned children is that "the trauma of the hid» den group is more complex and is provoked not by one factor but by a succession of factors," he said. For example, he points to the roundups of Jews that Nazi authorities began staging in the early part of the war that invariably sent detainees to death camps, The fear signaled to children that they, their families, their friends and their neighbors were in peril. He added, "Even if you were not deported, you heard about what was happening from other Jews who witnessed these events, and the anxiety of the adults was communicated to the children." , As it became evident the only way to save children was to hide them, an underground network
formed to shield them. chologists. And adults Because it was easier and didn't understand what less conspicuous to hide a to say, so if they spoke child alone as opposed to a about the war at all, family, children were usuthey said, 'You were ally separated from their •I lucky.' If every adult 1 parents. • says to you, 'You were "Little children couldn't lucky,' you haven't even understand why they had the possibility to express to be hidden without their your suffering," parents," Frydman said. "It Or, as Jaeger explains, was a safe thing to sepa"People were getting on rate them, but, for the chilwith their lives and dren, it wasn't a healthy ...._ g away „„ from .,... that moving D r F r e d Kader thing. > D r - Marvel Frydman and Dr. o r d e a l a n d j i n e f f e c t > "They understood there Tom Jaeger met at the homo of Dr. Ben Nachman r e a l l y nobody was there was a danger of being tod.scusstheirhvesasUddenchildrea psychologically who denounced. We were told not to reveal our real gave you permission to speak. That listening ear name and not to reveal our Jewish, identity. and that permission just weren't there." Sometimes, he knew one or both of the parents had As the trauma is denied or ignored, Jaeger said, been arrested and deported, and, sometimes, he it festers like an untreated wound, only buried out hadn't any news of their whereabouts." of view, yet never too far away to be reopened. Prolonged exposure to such danger and distress "In psychology, there's a phenomenon where you left many former hidden children with deep-seated either dissociate or you compartmentalize things feelings of apprehension and insecurity, said that have been extremely bad," Jaeger explained. Frydman. "Children exposed to bad events can lose memory of "Because they lived for years in an environment those things. That's a protective mechanism to perceived as menacing, they have some problems enable you to go on, but those feelings are always associated with anxiety. There's often a lack of there at the surface. Certain sounds can evoke fear trust and a sense of guardedneas toward others. and anxiety in former hidden children. The sound Some of them think they must control every aspect of a truck is one of the most feared sounds because of a relationship because, during the war, they had trucks were used in the roundups. It was the sound of your futuro-of being rounded up, deported to no control." Even when in the same institution, Frydman said camps and confronting almost certain death. hidden children demonstrated fewer issues of Vulnerability is always just below the surface for desertion than abandoned children because, prior some of us." to being harbored, hidden children presumably Symbols can also summon the horror of a perilous enjoyed a stable home life. childhood. For example, Jaeger said, some survivors "They had the chance to be in a normal family have "a problem trusting authority or trusting the before," he anid, "HO they were better prepared to system" because they associate those things with confront the separation. They knew there might be the uniformed soldiers or officials who menaced a family to try and find tiflor the war; whereas, the them and their families. forsaken children know thorn was no family to he Jaeger tidmires Frydman's book for its clear, found," ho continued. thonmgfi) assses&meHftt of the hidden (Utperieuce. The author conducted hia research for the book "It is) an exquisite explanation of the dynamics of with the aid of otic of his Btuderils. Interviews were the experience and of its long term effects," Jaeger completed with more than 50 adults who found continued. "There are people who, to this day, still sanctuary in Belgium or surrounding countries don't say anything. They haven't reached that during the war. point. This is so applicable to what happened at the "The interview was a non-directive one," World Trade Center because that trauma will be Frydman said. "We didn't ask questions. We just imprinted over generations in some cases." gave the subject the opportunity to evoke his expeUltimately, only fellow survivors can truly underrience and helped him express what he had to nay. stand what their brothers or sisters of the For some of the subjects, recalling the past was an HolocauBt have gone through. Still, every time they ordeal. Some cried. They couldn't stop. The trauma share their story with others, it gives added meancame back. And, yes, for some* it was tho. first time ing to their witness bearing-allowing their testithey'd spoken about it." mony to live on in others. The need to testify grows The fact that so many hidden children remained more urgent as the number of survivors dwindles. "Time is of the essence in that we're the last genresolutely silent about their past for so long is a pheeration of witnesses left," Jaeger aaid, referring to nomenon Frydman has tried to explain in his book, "Just after the war, hidden children didn't feel hidden children like himself, Kader and Frydman. In an era when the nation's moral fortitude is they had the right to speak because speaking about the trauma implied reliving it," he said. "They being tested by the threat of terrorism at home, he would have spoken if they could have found some said, it is more vital than ever to stand up and help, but in post-war Europe, we hadn't any psy- speak out against evil.
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Community Invited to View 'Omaha Jewish Teen Artists1 by JOANiE JACOBSON, Project Coordinator
4 Look at Jewish Life and Families Concludes House Party Series by LINDA SALTZMAN
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Two house parties that affect all members of the Jewish community Newman, Stephanie The community is conclude the series of 90-minute in for a real treat. Glesh, Michael Parhouse parties sponsored by the The Jewish Press sow, Aaron Passer, Jewish Federation of Omaha Joel Passer, Ariel and Temple Israel Women's Division. have teamed up to Shukert, Rebecca "Planting A Jewish Family Tree/* co-sponsor the "OmaSmedlund, Josh presented by Jordana Glazer, will be ha Jewish Teen Sweet, Ben Taxman, Wednesday, Nov. 28, 10 a-m. and Artists" exhibit. This Margaret Terry, An7 pjn. Hostesses are Ozzie Nogg and project was funded in na Turetsky and Shelly Picbik. honor of TeenAge, a Naomi Wolfson. The house party will examine how monthly feature in Ducky Milder agaia the Press since 1993, volunteered to design the Internet and its associated techand will be on disand hang the exhibit, nologies make it easier to research play through this assisted by Lee family genealogy. Presenters will show how Web sites, chat rooms and month in the Gallery Needelman. other technologies assist people in of the Jewish Com"What I love is that tracking down fascinating informamunity Center. we've offered a cretion about their family histories. experience "The quality of the Pencil drawing by Lexie Newman ative Patty Nogg, co-chair of the within a Jewish enviwork is amazing, Women's Campaign, said particironment," noted Elyce Azriel, said Carol Katzman, Editor of the pants can pick up invaluable ideas for Press. "Not only was the response Director of Temple Israel's Middle keeping track of family members. great, but the talent of these young and High School. "While the work Tve always beea fascinated by the people, and the maturity of that- tal- might not be Jewish in content, it can pictures and memorabilia left in my be just as valuable to acknowledge ent, is really something to see." keeping after my parents died/ she The 30 artists have submitted work our Jewish youth for their many said. "In the same way. the names on in a variety of mediums—pencil, pen interests, art being one of those and ink, acrylic, watercolor, pottery, expressions." Katzman explained the exhibit is sculpture, photography and, perhaps, Ik one newly-discovered art form, open to the community, free of Ozzie Mogg, and charge, and is "a wonderful thing to left, doodling. Participants include Jeff Baum, share with children of all ages, her daughJake Bleicher, Amy Bresel, Dani whether they're aspiring young ter, Shelly Burr, Amy Cotton, Samantha artists or not. Everyone can be very P i c h i c k , Friedman, Sarah Grossman, Michael proud of these young people—of all •will faclli- | tate the; Hellman, Rachel Javitch, Alex Katz, our young people!" next House The community is invited to attend Rachel Katzman, Inga Konfisakhar, on Sarah Linn, David Martin, Max a reception honoring the artists and Party Nov. 28. their families on Tuesday, Nov. 27, McCann, Shaina Meyers, Molly Needelman, Lesie Newman, Nick 7-8:30 pan., following BBYO night.
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