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9 COVER STORY Keeping Fit for Summer
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13 INNER FASHIONISTA Weekend Getaways 14 ABOUT A GIRL Shekiba Amere 16 SHE SAID/HE SAID 19 SINGLE IN THE VALLEY
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A Salute to Dads By Tania McLean-Nicholas
As Father’s Day approaches, let us take a moment to say “thank you,” “well done,” “kudos” to those men who have made a commitment to being a dad to their children. Your role is not just appreciated, it is necessary to your child’s physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. The male parent of a child may share the same DNA, but that doesn’t always mean he shares responsibility in his child’s growth and development. One could argue that both terms, “father” and “dad,” mean the same and carry the same implication, however there is a distinct difference. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A FATHER AND A DAD
Not all fathers are dads. “Father” is a biological term. A dad’s relationship is emotional. Fathering is an act of nature; being a dad is about nurturing. It’s easy to become a father, many do it unintentionally, but it’s much harder to commit to being a dad. “Dad” is a term of endearment, affection and familiarity. A more fitting title for June’s celebration might be “Dad’s Day.” There are too many fathers who limit their involvement to providing food and shelter, if that, and only scratch the surface of a personal relationship with their children. If a father fails to know his son’s or daughter’s likes, dislikes, and what’s going on with the child personally, he falls short of being the dad his child needs. A dad is committed to taking full responsibility for all the role encompasses. He acts as a mentor to his child, and has the unique privilege of modeling effective parenthood and leadership in his home and community. A dad may or may not be a child’s biological father. He could be an adoptive father, step-father, family member, or even a family friend. THE ROLE OF FATHERHOOD IS IN CRISIS
According to the U.S Census Bureau, 24 million children in America, one out of every three, live without their biological father in the home. Countless more have only distant relationships with their biological fathers. Research shows that when a dad is actively involved in his child’s life, it increases a child’s social stability, educational success, and overall mental health. So this month we salute dads. Thank you for your sacrifices, sleepless nights, open ears, and caring hearts. Thank you for sitting in the summer heat to support your children’s games and practices, for teaching them how to ride a bike, tie their shoes, drive a car, and most importantly for loving them at the most difficult times. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I see many children and adults who seek counseling to resolve feelings of hurt and loss stemming from the poor relationships they have with their fathers. Advertorial
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Want Beach-Ready Abs? 10 Steps! By Holly Humphreys Reyes | Photos by Amy Dawnelle
SUMMER IS OFFICIALLY HERE THIS MONTH, bringing the promise of warm weather here to stay. You know what happens when the weather warms up? People put on bathing suits. Are you ready to bare it all on the beach? If not, no worries, there’s still time. Follow these simple steps … June/July 2014 • 9
COVER STORY 1. Do Some Burpees.
2. Reduce Sodium. Did you know that salt causes water retention?
Puffy skin is not going to make your abs look great in a bathing suit! Take the time to pay attention to the sodium content of your food. Limit salt intake by not eating packaged foods and by putting down the salt shaker. Your six pack will thank you.
3. Pick Up a Medicine Ball. Challenging the muscles of your core
with resistance is a proven way to create a tighter midsection. The medicine ball is a wonderful tool to provide such resistance. Do a sit-up holding a medicine ball at your chest, then throw it to a partner as you raise your chest toward your knees, or hold a medicine ball with arms straight up in the air as you do crunches.
Can burpees really help flatten your abs? Yes they can. Incorporate a few minutes of burpees into your workouts to burn extra calories and tighten your core. Here’s how: 1) Stand with feet shoulder-width apart. 2) Drop to a squat with your hands on the ground. 3) Kick feet back while lowering into a push-up. 4) Return to squat position. 5) Jump up with arms overhead.
4. Load Up on Fiber. Wonder how fiber could help you shed pounds
and look great on the beach? It’s actually quite simple. High fiber foods are nutrient dense and low in calories. This means you’ll feel full from fewer calories, encouraging weight loss. Try these high-fiber favorites: spinach, raspberries, pears (with skin), artichokes, peas, apples (with skin), broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and carrots. Check out the high-fiber recipe for pasta salad on page 11.
5. Crank Out Some V-Sits. One of the most problematic areas for
women when it comes to baring it all in a bathing suit, are the sides of your waist or obliques. This is partly because the sides of your abs are not challenged with traditional crunches and situps.
Enter the oblique V-sits. Target that problematic, muffin-top area with this effective move. 1) Lie on your side with legs straight and hands behind your head. 2) Raise your arms and legs simultaneously, while exhaling and squeezing your obliques. 3) Repeat on the other side.
6. Eat Lots of Lean Protein. Don’t be afraid to eat when you’re on the
Hanging Leg Raises are one of the most effective ways to strengthen your abdominals. 1) Hang from pull-up bar with legs fully extended. 2) Exhale and drive your knees up toward your chest. 3) Inhale as you slowly lower your legs back down.
Lean protein helps support muscle growth while controlling blood sugar — all important factors when it comes to washboard abs. Good sources of protein include chicken breasts, ground turkey, egg whites, and grilled fish.
8. Stop Eating Sugar. If you only did this step and skipped all the
7. Do Some Hanging Leg Raises. Now it’s time to target your lower
Yes, sugar tastes good, but indulging in it causes your body to store layers of fat. Enjoy fresh fruit rather than refined sugar. Once you stop eating sugar your body will no longer crave it, so don’t give in to the initial cravings.
get-great-abs-quickly plan. It is really important that you nourish your body with quality, lean protein in order to develop that six-pack.
abs, which are also a problem area for most of us. Traditional crunches and sit-ups neglect to strengthen and tighten the lower part of your abs, so a focused effort is required.
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rest, your abs would look significantly flatter. I can’t emphasize enough how quickly sugar will cover your hard earned stomach muscles with a soft layer of fat.
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• 3 organic zucchini • ½ cup organic cherry tomatoes, quartered • 2 tbsp. olive oil • 1 clove garlic, crushed • Juice of ½ lemon • 1 tsp. dried basil • Dash salt and pepper Directions
9. Do Some Mountain Climbers. Here’s
an exercise that is intensely cardiovascular while also working your core. Add these to your routine to really whittle down your waistline.
Here’s how: 1) Get into push-up position. 2) Exhale as you alternately drive your knees in toward your chest, keeping your back flat.
1. Trim the zucchini ends. Peel down the length of each zucchini until you reach the seeded center, creating long noodle strands. 2. Place noodles in a medium bowl; add the quartered cherry tomatoes. 3. In a small bowl combine oil, garlic, lemon juice, dried basil, salt and pepper. Pour over noodles and mix to combine. 4. Refrigerate for at least 20 minutes.
10. Do Some Sprints. High intensity bursts of cardio are a proven way to burn away layers of
5. Optional: If you’d like, garnish with drops of balsamic vinegar glaze before serving.
Run 60-90 second sprints in between resistance training sets to really kick your fat burning mechanism into high gear.
Nutritional Analysis: 92 calories, 7g fat, 68 mg sodium, 7g carbohydrate, 2g fiber, 2g protein
fat, so incorporate sprints into your exercise routine. If you haven’t run for a while, take it easy as you start, and gradually increase the intensity of your sprints.
These 10 steps will get your abs beach-ready in no time.
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WOMEN’S WELLNESS
3 Simple Steps to Feeling Good – Today By Angelena Bosco
So you want to feel good, do you? How about energized or even vibrant? I promise, it’s possible. Are you someone who wakes up and says, “Nobody speak until I have my coffee,” or “Aww, I’m not ready to get out of bed”? We tend to think this is normal behavior, but it’s not. It is possible to wake up each day feeling jazzed. From my book Fall In Love With Feeling Good, 11 Simple Steps to a Healthy Life, here are three simple steps to feeling good today … ONE: Drink water and fresh juice. When we are properly hydrated we thrive. Anything other than water and fresh juice is a pollutant and makes us feel tired, thirsty, falsely hungry, and even anxious. Consuming soda, coffee, alcohol, etc. can lead to health problems including weight gain, diabetes and depression, to name a few. By cleaning up what we drink all day, we are able to think clearly and help our body rejuvenate and power up. If you do only one good thing for yourself, this step is paramount. It may take about three to seven days to get through withdrawal symptoms from caffeine and sugar consumption. I’ve guided many people through this detox phase, and with a mentor it can be conquered in short order. TWO: Think positive. Take a moment and see the good in your everyday life. Keep a “Great Things that Happened Today” journal. It can be as exciting as “My baby took his first steps today” or as simple as “I found the most perfect parking spot at the office this morning.” Getting accustomed to seeing just how fabulous each day is, will get your mojo hopping. When we acknowledge good, it perpetuates itself. THREE: Get outside. Take a walk, whether short or long, it doesn’t matter. Sit on your porch for 20 minutes. Get out of your house or office and take a moment to breathe. I was in a three-day conference recently, and at one break each day I went to a grassy spot, took off my shoes and enjoyed feeling my feet on the cool ground. It was invigorating and helped me clear my mind to get ready for more information over the following two hours.
One step at a time is the simplest way to achieve results with any goal. With these three simple steps you have an amazing transformation to look forward to.
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INNER FASHIONISTA
Weekend Getaways By Grayse Kelly | Photos by Gabriella Santos
Breezy sunny days and sultry romantic nights are the perfect remedy to alleviate stress for any hard working woman. An occasional weekend getaway can be essential to remaining sane from the monotony of a weekly work schedule. Your destination has been chosen, flights have been booked, and your favorite hideaway has been reserved. The most important part of your mini vacation now is what to pack in your weekender bag. You’ve got the basics: makeup bag, pajamas and toiletries, but how do you decide what clothes to pack? For starters, traveling by plane can be a hassle, especially if there are layovers and delays. Packing lightweight rompers are a great way to stay cool and stylish on your mini vacation, while still being able to maneuver through the airport without too much effort. Throw in a pair of your favorite jeans as an alternate bottom piece to your weekend wardrobe. Your tops? One or two casual tops and a dressy blouse should do it. A long sleeved tee is ideal for everyday activities. You’ll also want a lightweight, airy option. Another option is pairing the dressy blouse with your denim jeans for a night out without being overly dressy. Wear a jean jacket, light weight cardigan, hoodie, or blazer to combat the coolness of the airport, and you’ll also be ready for the chill of ocean breezes or quiet evening strolls. It’s always smart to pack two dress options. The short, flirty dress is perfect for laid back leisure, combining effortless style with comfort. Pack flat sandals for a very feminine look. The forever classic little black dress (LBD) is a necessity for the nights you want to turn up the party. Pack a statement accessory such as a large chunky necklace to add pizzazz to your dress. A blazer can be worn over the dress during cool evenings, and remember to pack heels to compliment your evening look. What’s a weekend away without a swimsuit? You’ll need it to get your cardio going with a swim, or for lazing around the pool. Pack your fave one- or two-piece for your day of soaking up the sun. With room to spare, don’t forget to throw in extra shoes and accessories. Be sure to pack a pair of sneakers for walking and sightseeing. Comfy flat sandals are great for everyday excursions and the heels you chose for your LBD will be perfect for a night out on the town with the ladies, or a quiet moonlight dinner. A quick weekend trip is a great refresher. It’s hard not to over-pack, but keep it light. Make clothing choices that are interchangeable. Pack your bags ladies, and enjoy a fabulous stress-free weekend!
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ABOUT A GIRL
From a Golden Cage to Freedom By Holly Suhi | Photos by Amy Dawnelle
When you meet Shekiba Amere at Macy’s Bobbie Brown counter, you’re in for a beautiful experience. Her enthusiasm for helping you look your most beautiful draws you in. She listens, asks questions, and suggests things you might not have considered. Shekiba is a certified makeup artist, and far more. I met Shekiba a year ago, when I was in a makeup rut, applying the same cosmetics every day with just a little more for special occasions. After my makeover, I left with a more glamorous sense of myself and a profound admiration for a woman with a powerful story. A woman who found her way out of a tradition that had kept her spirit locked inside for more than 20 years. Shekiba’s Story
Shekiba was born in 1972 in Mazar Sharif, Afghanistan. When she was young, her father decided to take a second wife and her mother moved with their five children to Kabul, the capital. Although Shekiba’s mother wasn’t educated, she was a skilled seamstress and earned an income, unusual for an Afghan woman. There were no department stores or boutiques in Kabul. Instead, people purchased fabric at the bazaar, and many brought their goods to Shekiba’s mother to make the family’s clothing. Her 18-year-old brother also helped support the family by opening a watch store. “Life was not easy,” she said, “but we had food, clothing, shelter, and we attended school.” (This was before Russia pulled out of Afghanistan and the Mujahideen and Taliban took over, forbidding girls to attend school.) Shekiba’s mother wanted her children to have an easier life, and in the Afghan tradition began looking for a man for Shekiba to marry. At the age of 13 she was betrothed to a family friend who was five years older than she. He came from a well-to-do family who had an import/export business. The couple was wed when Shekiba was just 14-years old. She had her first child at the age of 15. “My mother thought I’d be happy because I had no financial worries, but my husband’s family was steeped in strict traditions and very close-minded,” Shekiba said. “They didn’t allow females to go to school or to work. A woman’s only role was to be a good wife and mother.” By the time she was 17, she was the mother of three. In 1994 the young family fled Afghanistan to America, settling in Southern California. “I thought I was the luckiest woman in the world,” she said, “but soon discovered I had no freedom here either. 14 •
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My husband did not allow me to go to school, leave the house on my own, or have friends outside his family. It was as though I lived in a golden cage. I would have traded all my comforts for freedom.” Shekiba’s husband frequently traveled out of the country for business and as the children got older, they needed to be taken to school. She was finally allowed to get a driver’s license. “It was my first taste of freedom,” she said. “I was thrilled, even though I had to report everything I was doing. If I needed to go to the grocery store or run an errand, I notified my husband. But as I observed the American women all around me, I ached for a different kind of life.” Shekiba thought about divorce, but in her culture it was a shameful taboo. Her only social life was with relatives, and if she divorced her husband she felt they would blame her and look down on her. Her brother who lived in San Diego encouraged her to be strong. “Do what feels right and you will be okay,” he advised. But for the sake of her children, she stayed in the marriage. Finally, after 20 years of marriage and suffering with depression, Shekiba found the courage to break free. It was her children that helped her take that leap of faith. “We can see how unhappy you are,” they told her. “We love our dad, but don’t stay in this marriage for us.” Shekiba filed for divorce knowing it would mean the end of her financial support. She also knew she would find a way to make a living. The cosmetic industry had always appealed to her, and she was soon hired as a free-lance perfume model and eventually trained as a Bobbie Brown makeup artist. Today she is thriving in her success with Bobbie Brown, winning sales awards. “My success is all about relationships,” she says. “I love getting to know my customers, learning about their lifestyles, and helping them look even better than they had imagined. Today I am happier than I’ve ever been. I don’t blame my husband for his extreme control over my life; he was a victim of his traditions. I respect him as the father of my children. It was all part of my journey.” Like her mother, Shekiba hopes for an easier life for her kids, and they’ve all attended college. “My three beautiful kids have been my motivation and inspiration all my life,” she says. “They are the best thing that ever happened to me.” Shekiba dates but is in no hurry to marry. She is soaring in her freedom as an independent woman.
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She Said/He Said Get great advice on life and love, from a woman’s perspective and a man’s perspective. Question from Danning, Temecula: I’m 25-years-old and haven’t been on a really good date
since college. I work really hard as a marketing research analyst for a San Diego company and commute from Temecula. I spend my personal time between San Diego’s and Temecula’s social scenes, and have been set up on dates by my parents and college buddies but haven’t met anyone that I want a second date with. I’m pretty smart, I dress well, and I’m not at all hard on the eyes. I’m considering wearing a sign that says “Date me.” Before desperation sets in, please offer some advice on how to get a good date, one that could lead to a relationship. Missy Jones: Sounds like you have a lot of great things going
for you. It’s intriguing to me that you choose to commute from Temecula to San Diego. It’s fine that you are “casting your net” in two different areas, but maybe you should focus on one location. San Diego is especially great for young singles. There are lots of trendy apartments and because of its size, there may be more activities, groups, and night-life that practically cater to single people. You seem open-minded. So join a new group where you don’t know anyone. Start a new hobby. VAVi and Meetup are great websites that offer groups for adults, especially singles. I believe in the dating advice of Patti Stanger, the Millionaire Matchmaker. She says to create a “Top 5” list of non-negotiable traits you must have in a relationship. Include things like “wants kids or doesn’t want kids,” or “has a college education,” or “practices the same religion.” This will help you determine if the guy meets your most important criteria, and after a first date, whether you should give him a second chance. Dominic Carcioppolo: Just so happens I’ve been in your exact
spot. My friends and family even told me I should consider lowering my standards! Can you believe that? What you need to know is actually quite simple: Dating is like fishing. The man is the fisherman and the woman is the fish ... stick with me on this. A man throws lots of hooks in the water in hopes that a fish bites, but as a woman, you are tasked with finding the right hook to bite. After you’ve made a list of things you’d like in a guy, find out where those types of men hang out. Then be a fish in that kind of pond. If you’re looking for a rocker-type, go to local shows. If you’re looking for a professional type, go golfing. And join online dating sites. Like fishing, finding the right person requires a little bit of skill and a lot of being in the right place at the right time. Have a comment or a question for Missy & Dominic? Send an email to ireadlola@lolamagazine.com. Subject line: She Said He Said All information expressed on this page is a matter of the writers’ individual opinions. None of the advice is intended to take the place of legal or professional counsel. 16 •
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BUSINESS SAVVY
Investing in The Bank So much to do in Temecula. Just don’t rob a bank. That’s exactly what happened on the corner of Old Town Front Street and Main Street at the First National Bank of Temecula on August 14, 1930. At 9 a.m. on that fateful day, Jerry Diaz, a local farm hand, entered the bank and held the employees at gunpoint, getting away with $2,000. Diaz’s criminal streak came to an abrupt end as the bank manager, John Chisholm, along with a local rancher who happened to witness the getaway attempt, chased him, forced him to surrender, and handed Diaz over to the police. The event went down in history as the first bank robbery ever to take place in Riverside County. For their bravery, bank employee Agnes Freeman was awarded a diamond brooch, and John Chisholm was awarded a nickel-plated .45 caliber pistol. Although there are no pistols and diamonds awarded at the bank these days, you can grab a cold margarita and a spicy enchilada at The Bank Mexican Restaurant and Bar, which stands in that very spot. The historic bank closed its doors to business shortly after WWII. In 1978 the building took on a new life as an authentic home-style Mexican restaurant. Then in February 2007, Christy and Craig Pauma purchased the restaurant and its recipes, gave it a major face lift, and continued its business as the second oldest restaurant in Temecula.
and rubs, and the décor has completely changed,” said Craig. Both Third Street Barbecue and The Bank Mexican Restaurant and Bar offer catering and event space for rent. Christy and Craig Pauma have been married for 25 years. They have two children, Kaylee who does office work for the restaurants, and Christopher who attends the University of Oregon. Celebrate with The Bank this month as the historic building turns 100 years old. Three days of events are planned. • June 10: Mayor Maryann Edwards will kick off the weekend
celebration; Model A cars will surround the building
• June 11: The Temecula Gunfighters Club will re-enact the
famous bank robbery; automobiles from the 30s and 40s will be on display
• June 12: There will be a celebration of the 50s and 60s and an
old school car show
All patrons who dress in costume for the 100th anniversary celebration will receive a 10% discount at The Bank Mexican Restaurant and Bar!
Craig initially thought of investing in real estate and while looking for homes he could rehab, learned that The Bank of Mexican Food restaurant was for sale. He visited the restaurant and spent time as a customer, watching the way the place operated. Craig says he quickly realized that some TLC would make it “a killer little restaurant.” He took the idea to Christy, and the couple decided to go for it. Craig continued working outside the home while Christy became a self-taught restaurateur who manned the kitchen, managed the wait staff, and handled all the business aspects. “One day after about three-and-a-half years, Christy called Craig and said, ‘You have to quit your job. I can’t do this by myself anymore.’” This was a clear sign that the couple had made a very wise investment. “The resurgence of Old Town in the last few years‒ its night life, the shopping ‒ has brought more local business to the restaurant. There’s a lot of cool stuff to do in Old Town, and you have to stop and eat at some point!” Craig says. So they tried their hand at it again. In 2012, Christy and Craig had invested in Sweet Lumpy’s Restaurant, also in Old Town, but after a few months, the couple took possession of the financially troubled spot and turned it around. Renamed “Third Street Smokehouse,” the restaurant offers all-American fare … barbecue ribs, brisket, tri-tip, smoked sausages, burgers, and sides galore. “It’s similar to Sweet Lumpy’s, especially what people loved such as some of the sauces, but the whole vibe is different. I introduced some new sauces Advertorial
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SINGLE IN THE VALLEY
Elizabeth Henry By Shelly Moore
When I started my journey as a newly single woman, the first thing I did —other than reading 100 books on how to get through divorce, single parenting, you name it— was reach out to girlfriends. Sadly, during my marriage, I had alienated myself from many of my friends, and it was a choice I deeply regretted later. It was during this difficult time in my life that I remembered girlfriends are not just for shopping and lunch. We need female peers in our life for a multitude of reasons and when I made the choice to actively seek a supportive female community, the result was one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Everywhere I would go, whether work or play, I would take the time to talk with other women and build connections. And that is exactly how I met Elizabeth Henry. We were both working at a Chamber Mega Mixer in January of this year, and I walked up to Elizabeth’s vendor table where we began to chat. We realized instantly that we had a connection … single moms trying to juggle career, dating and just life in general. Since then, I have spent time with Elizabeth socially but sitting down with her at her home to talk about being single in the Valley, took our new friendship to another level that I am excited about. Elizabeth has been on her own for three years now. After ending 10 years of marriage, she jumped into another serious relationship which she thought would be forever. She didn’t understand that she needed time to discover herself after her divorce. Five years into the second relationship, the couple split up. “I didn’t know how to be alone,” Elizabeth told me. “For 15 years I had been in two relationships. I had lost contact with many of my friends, and had no family living nearby. I felt very isolated.” Learning how to be alone was a big step for Elizabeth but it gave her the time she needed to learn more about herself. We talked about her girlfriends and the types of friendships she has now formed. “I realized I am a people person. I have made a point of meeting strong women, both married and single, that I can connect with. I really enjoy all the different girlfriends I have. If one group of friends is busy, I know I have another group of friends I can hang out with.”
As much as she enjoys her girlfriends, Elizabeth’s priorities are her kids, 12-year-old Natalie and 14-year-old Jack. She cherishes her time with them and because she has shared custody, she makes sure that she is mom first whenever they are home, saving her social time for when they are away. She loves taking them hiking, rock climbing and on other adventures where they have quality time together. But make no mistake, she also loves her free time which she says makes her a happier, better mom when the kids come home. Dating has had its challenges for Elizabeth, but she refuses to throw in the towel. She says that she is an old school romantic and is hopeful she will find love again. Although it would be nice to meet someone unexpectedly, she has taken things into her own hands by dabbling in online dating. “It’s been interesting to say the least, but life is short so you need to put yourself out there,” she said. “Since I love meeting new people, I don’t have a problem going on dates. I get to enjoy dinner or a drink, and if there isn’t chemistry, at least I have a new friend.” Elizabeth has an infectious smile and personality, and is up for new ways of having fun, including modeling in the Inland Valley Business and Community Foundation’s spring fashion show at Pechanga. She also loves visiting our Temecula wineries, going to concerts, dancing, hanging out in Old Town Temecula, cooking, and doing pretty much anything where she can enjoy her many friends. I am thrilled to have met Elizabeth because I have found another soul sister. Girls … it’s okay to have more than one soul mate. Women are social creatures that need love, contact, exchange and affirmation. Soul mates are those you connect with on a deeper level. They make up your closest community. But it’s wonderful to have lots of girlfriends. I do because it is rare that one person can meet all the emotional and social needs of another. Wow! I am learning a lot since I’ve been writing for Lola. How fun is that? “Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.” – Helen Keller
Photos from left to right: Elizabeth; Elizabeth with friends and family; and with Shelly Moore.
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TAMMY’S TABLE
Father’s Day Minty Loin Lamb Chops By Tammy Albery Ingredients
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8 one-inch thick lamb loin chops 2 organic oranges (zest of one, juice of both) 1 tbsp. fresh rosemary, chopped ¼ packed cup chopped mint 3 cloves garlic, minced ½ tsp. kosher salt 4 - 5 grinds black pepper ⅛ - ¼ tsp. crushed red pepper flakes (How hot does Dad like it?) • ¼ cup EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) This would be a perfect dinner for a young LoLa (local lady) who would like to impress her dad with her junior grill master skills. Simply serve the lamb with asparagus drizzled with a little EVOO, and season with salt and pepper. When grilling the lamb, put the asparagus on the grill for the last three minutes, turning it over after 1 ½ minutes. While your meat is resting, heat a bag of organic brown rice and quinoa (micro-waved in 90 seconds; you know the one) and serve a purchased dessert. Viola! You look like a seasoned chef. I think nothing says love more than something you create and share at the dinner table. Your parents would rather spend time with you and enjoy something you made for them than anything you could purchase. Directions
1. Put all ingredients except lamb in food processor. Pulse a few times until ingredients are combined. 2. Pour marinade over lamb, cover and refrigerate for 2-6 hours. 3. Remove lamb from marinade and put the chops on a plate for 30-45 minutes at room temperature. In the meantime, heat grill to medium/high temperature. 4. Grill the chops for 4-5 minutes per side for medium-rare, or until desired doneness. Remove chops from the grill and tent lightly with foil. Let chops rest for 5-8 minutes before serving. Serves 4 Tammy Albery is a private chef and cooking instructor. tammystable22@gmail.com facebook.com/tammystable22 20 •
June/July 2014
GIRLS NEXT DOOR
Gabriella Santos is 20 years old and resides in Temecula. She moved to the area
a year ago to pursue her modeling and photography career, and has signed with the LA talent agency Mavrick Artists, specializing in fit and commercial modeling. Gabriella is a woman of many interests and attends college online. In two years she plans to transfer to a university to earn her bachelor’s degree in business communications. When Gabriella is not in front of or behind the camera, she loves to hike, support her little brother, Luc, with his motocross racing career, spend time with her family, or read a good book. She says she loves California with its amazing people and wonderful opportunities for a young entrepreneur. Look for Gabriella’s photography in LoLa Magazine.
Estella Cline has been married for 30 years to Edward Cline, US Navy Retired. They
have lived in the Valley for over 18 years. Their son Christopher, 28, is a federal law enforcement officer, and son Dante, 20, is a student at San Jacinto College with plans to transfer to San Marcos in the spring. Estella is very active in the community and serves on the board of directors for Mountain View Community Church and Habitat for Humanity Inland Valley. The Murrieta Chamber of Commerce has nominated her twice for the Citizen of the Year award. Before becoming a realtor with Exit Twin Advantage Realty, Estella spent over 20 years in the credit union industry working her way from teller to vice president/senior branch manager. She believes, if given the opportunity, everyone has the power to succeed and use their experiences to mentor others.
Caroline Miller has been involved in business management and development
since 1998 when she received her bachelor’s degree in psychology. She recently started her own business, Sublime Skincare To Go, providing esthetician services with an emphasis on beauty enhancement and relaxation. Her business offers both mobile, “in home” treatment and “in treatment room” services. Caroline, her husband and teenage son are enjoying their new home in Murrieta after having relocated to the area from San Diego. As a military family, the three have explored and lived in many regions of the country, and had the wonderful opportunity of spending three years in Japan. Caroline is excited about becoming active in the local Temecula Valley community in business, social and charitable endeavors.
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RESTAURANT REVIEW
La Bella Vita Story and photos by Kathy Zelasko
Looking for exceptional homemade Italian cuisine at a reasonable price? Look no further than La Bella Vita. This family-owned restaurant is perfect for that special date night, family dinners, or even a private party. Tucked away in the Bev Mo/Sprouts shopping center on the corner of Winchester and Nicolas Road, La Bella Vita features superb, mouth-watering dishes, a warm, friendly staff, and the amazingly talented executive chef, Louis Lepe, who early in his career trained under some of the world’s finest culinary artists, including master chefs in France and Italy.
After spending time with Chef Louis and sampling all his wonderful dishes, I can honestly say, “Grandma Angelina, you have met your match. “ La Bella Vita is open seven days a week with live music Tuesday through Sunday evenings. On Sundays they offer a fabulous champagne brunch with made-from-scratch pastas, delectable pastries, crab legs, cold oysters, Mediterranean dishes, and more.
Chef Louis is a graduate of Orange Coast College Culinary Arts, Costa Mesa and California School of Culinary Arts, Le Cordon Bleu, Pasadena. He is a quiet-spoken man who genuinely loves what he does, evidenced by his 22-year career as executive chef for some of the finest California restaurants. LoLa Publisher Angela Mains and I had the opportunity to spend time with Chef Louis and Neda Alikhani, the restaurant’s marketing and public relations manager. Alikhani, whose parents Ed and Lupe opened La Bella Vita in June 2013, is passionate about the family business. Upon arriving, Angela and I immediately felt at home in the warm, cozy atmosphere. I am part Italian and vividly remember my Italian grandmother’s cooking, and have to admit I doubted whether the food could come close to her homemade pastas and sauces. Chef Louis prepared an incredible array of samples for us to try. Together we sampled Tri Baci Antipasti — bruschetta, crostini with goat cheese, carciofi (artichokes) and calamari served with Arrabiata sauce, a spicy sauce made from garlic, tomatoes and chili peppers. Other dishes included Marconi Chef Bowl made with gouda cheese sauce, applewood bacon and breadcrumbs; Amore Salad, select greens with pomegranate dressing; and Pappardelle Alla Romana, pasta with sauteed porcini mushrooms, caramelized onions and creamy demi-glaze. Chef Louis graciously explained how each dish was prepared. We could see that his creations were an expression of his love for cooking. Each was artistically displayed, served at the ideal temperature, and tantalizing with delicious aromas and flavors. For dessert we were presented with a delectable assortment of Italian pastries including scrumptious canoli, tiramisu, and mango mouse cake. Lastly, we sampled Estate d’Lacobelli wine. When I asked Neda what makes La Bella Vita different from other Italian restaurants, she proudly replied, “We want our guests to experience authentic homemade Italian dishes. We want them to see how passionate we are about our food.” 22 •
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Chef Louis and Neda Alikhani La Bella Vita 39738 Winchester Road, Temecula 951.699.5999 labellavitatemecula.com
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