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‘YOU SHOULDN’T FEAR THE ONE YOU LOVE’ -LINDSAY PINGEL Director of Community Engagement for the Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence
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Corinne Googe, senior in animal science, was involved in a emotionally and sexually abusive relationship as an undergraduate at Creighton University.
Sexual assault is a complex and horrible issue. It is personal, it is heartbreaking and it is different in every case. But if we ever
want to put an end to sexual assault, we have to stop letting its complexity get in our way. This is the last story in a
semester-long series where the Daily will publish a multitude of stories related to sexual assault, including discussions about various
resources survivors can obtain if they are comfortable doing so. — Emily Barske, editor in chief
CONFRONTING ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS TRIGGER WARNING
This content uses language that may trigger sexual assault survivors. By Alex.Connor @iowastatedaily.com A simple thought runs repeatedly through Corinne’s mind. Put the car in reverse. Take your foot off the brake. Go. She’s sitting outside a gas station in Omaha, Nebraska. It’s 3 a.m. Her boyfriend is inside buying cigarettes. He is going to kill me, she fears. Yet, Corinne sits frozen. She considers sliding her hand onto the gear shift. She could go home and lock the doors. She could drive anywhere but here – anywhere away from him. He walks out of the gas station. She’s going to do whatever she needs to do so that he will calm down. “It started off fine. Just like any other domestic violence and sexual assault relationship,” said Corinne Googe, now an Iowa State senior in animal science.
Corinne is a domestic violence and sexual assault survivor. It’s not what defines her, but a part of who she is – it’s a part of her package. It’s summer 2012, Corinne and her friends are in Lincoln, Nebraska, at her favorite gay bar. She’s a senior at Creighton University and tonight, she’s the group mom. Toward the end of the night, a man slips her his phone number – a piece of paper with four appealing words on it. “I love your smile.” Corinne turns around, but she can’t tell who had just handed her the note. She mulls over it in her mind. Should she text him? What’s the harm? “You were the most beautiful person in the room,” he texts her later that evening. She’s excited. None of her other friends had gotten anyone’s number. They text for the rest of the night. Within months the two are inseparable – Corinne usually driving to Lincoln every weekend so that they can spend time with each other, eventually meeting his friends and even family. He could have noticed a lot of
other things about her that night, she jokes. But instead he focused on her smile rather than her chest. He was charming. Kristen Faisal, director of training and technical assistance with the Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence, said that most often, the abuse begins once you’re already engaged with someone to some level. For Corinne, it was soon after they started dating. For others, Faisal said, it could begin after the couple has moved in together, or even after they got married. While education surrounding domestic violence may play a factor in helping victims suffering from intimate partner abuse, it doesn’t help serve as prevention. If anything, it helps the survivor understand, name and have words for their experience sooner, Faisal said. “We focus so much on hitting and physical violence,” Faisal said. “If that’s not the majority or if that hasn’t happened at all, they might not know this is domestic violence.” In a series on criminal victimization conducted in 2015, 1,094,660
RESOURCES Sexual Assault Response Team 515-294-3116
Student Counseling Services 515-294-5056
LGBTSS 515-294-5433
ISU Police 515-294-4428
Dean of Students 515-294-1020
Ames Police 515-239-5133
Sloss House 515-294-4154
ACCESS 515-292-5378
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