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06 | ENTERTAINING A catered affair for the holidays 08 | WHEELS Getting your start in a Chevy Sonic 09 | GIFT GUIDE Luxuries for the season of giving 10 | LOOKING GOOD Inspiring fragrances for all tastes 11 | ON THE TOWN Scenes from the party circuit 12 | ON RELATIONSHIPS When he says go, and he says no 13 | the doctor is in Smart new treatments for diabetes

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18 | ALAN CUMMING HAS THE LAST WORD The versatile actor speaks to IN about his compelling new memoir 28 | LOVE’S LABOUR FOUND Breathing new life into an old house


15 | FRIENDLY FORT LAUDERDALE Still a haven for boys, still oceans of fun


22 | SLEEK PREVIEW Dressing up in classics with an edge


32 | CULTURAL CALENDAR Events of LGBT interest across Canada 34 | FLASHBACK Quebec to the rescue

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INfront collective wisdom for living well


Holiday Helping Hands → Expert tips on making the most of a caterer when you throw your party By Mary Anne Terry


ince we don’t all have a troupe of elves at our disposal, it only makes sense (and sometimes can save dollars) to get a little help: consider a caterer. “This approach both elevates your event while allowing you to be a guest,” advises Mark Budden, associate director of Oliver &

Bonacini Events. But where to begin? PLAN TO PARTY “We invite clients to share their event objectives and restraints from the start, so we can make informed recommendations on menus, service needs and space optimizing,” says Budden,

describing his m.o. at O&B’s catering arm. “You need to look at your home through a different lens to identify how many people you can comfortably invite and how furnishings can be repurposed or relocated to promote a good flow.” His advice: for standing cocktail receptions, plan to provide

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occasional seating for approximately 50 percent of your guest count. EAT, DRINK AND BE MERRY With the support of your caterer, make an all-important decision: buffet or passed dishes? Buffets can be more cost-effective (less labour), and the table allows you to integrate more décor. Passed dishes, on the other hand, put your guests at ease and encourage them to partake of the food without interrupting their socializing. As delicious as a buffet spread may appear, many guests do not want to be spotted piling a plate high. Bear in mind that if passed plates are chosen for guest comfort, then it’s not a good idea to serve hard-to-manage foods. Skip things requiring complicated cutlery and clunky vessels; instead, select items that can be enjoyed in a few bites and with one hand (the other, hopefully, being occupied by a celebratory beverage). If your party has a particular theme or motif, tell your caterer, who can weave a common thread throughout the menu. If your party takes place at a traditional meal time, ensure there is enough food to satisfy. Budden recommends allowing guests a minimum of 30 minutes to settle in, then serving most of the food over the one- to twohour typical meal period. “Independently or with your caterer’s help,” he says, “you can then set up some stationary items, such as cheese plates, charcuterie platters or a sweets table, for any late-comers, drop-ins or just for guests to enjoy as they please for the rest of the evening.” This also helps control labour and allows the caterer an opportunity to wrap up the evening. You will likely have to commit to food quantities with your caterer about a week out, so be sure the RSVP instructions are clear on your invitations. Of course, with good company and cuisine come good cocktails. To help set the festive

mood, offer at least one specialty drink, such as a warming Bourbon Cider or a Holiday Cosmo with a kick. Also, for the convenience of your guests, set up your bar in the main event space—or at least far from the kitchen to give the caterer room and to avoid bottlenecking. While a well-organized selfserve bar might work, you may opt to have your caterer service it. A money-saver: hire the bartender but provide the festive cocktail recipes and stock the bar yourself. DECK THE HALLS “You can further personalize the experience of hosting at home by having the caterer use your own platters and serving vessels,” advises Budden. For glassware, however, he recommends rentals, as they help unify the event and limit clean-up, not to mention the cost of potential breakage. For a full festive ambience, Budden suggests striving to appeal to all of the senses. Taste: your caterer has you covered on the food front, and you have your cocktails planned. Smell: brew some mulled wine or an orange clove mead. Sound: get your jingle on; use music to ramp up and wind down the party. Touch: food can be almost as much about texture as it is taste, as inspirational this time of year as a mistletoe. Sight: seasonal décor lends to the festiveness and sets the party apart from those held at other times in the year. As for holiday decorating, Paul Brans, O&B’s culinary stylist, highlights the year’s top four trends. 1. Big is big! Think oversized garlands and bows. 2. Monotone is now exciting–and great for small spaces. Imagine a tree sprayed gold, layered with large, textured champagne and amber accessories. 3. Rustic chic is in. A crafty, natural homemade look can be achieved with elements like burlap lace and woodland colours. 4. The classic snow and frost is back, but this year with more sparkle,

sequins, diamante and glitter. Remember, though, that if you deck the halls, be sure to clear the kitchen for your caterer. Let the elves-for-hire do the work, while you relax and enjoy the good cheer!

A TOAST: TO THE HOLIDAYS! Julien Lavoie, bar manager of Toronto’s Jump Restaurant, prepares two seasonal winners.

Bourbon Cider • coffee mug, rimmed with equal parts cinnamon and sugar • 1 oz Woodford Reserve bourbon (recommended for its vanilla tones, but any bourbon works) • 4 oz hot apple cider • cinnamon stick to garnish This is a great welcome drink, especially for guests coming in from the cold.

Holiday Cosmo • 1.5 oz Absolut Mandrin vodka • 0.5 oz Goldschläger • 1.5 oz cranberry juice • fresh cranberries

→ THE EXPERTS Paul Brans (left), O & B’s culinary stylist, and Mark Budden, associate events director, say preparation is key to catered affairs.

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INFRONT Wh e e l s

Sonic Boom → The LTZ ups Chevy’s place among stylish compacts By Casey Williams


ith the Sonic, you might say that Chevrolet went from worst to first in the subcompact segment. After decades of trying, it leads the pack when it was once embarrassed by it. Sonic is roomy, well built and expressively styled. If you get the sporty LTZ sedan, you’ll have a barnstormer with a price that won’t bust your bloomers. I prefer the available fivedoor hatchback’s utility, but the sedan is handsome with a planted stance and aggressive front design. Creased sidelines impart a sporty character, while neatly sculpted curves around the front-wheel openings lend the automobile a touch of grace. I love the LTZ five-spoke alloys, ground affects and flashy fog lamps. Its sporty attitude is fortified with deeply bolstered, heated, perforated leather sport seats, aluminum pedals and grey finish around the centre controls. Grip the thick leather-wrapped steering wheel to get busy. And the motorcycle-inspired digital gauges rock. Better, connect smartphones to access apps for Pandora, Stitcher, TuneIn global radio and BringGo navigation through the touch screen. A back-up camera, forward collision alert and lanedeparture warning systems go a long way to enhance safety. Even if you’re accustomed to luxury cars, you won’t find the Sonic’s interior lacking for much. Shoving it forward is a 103kW/138 horsepower, 1.4-litre turbo-four connected to a sixspeed manual transmission. Forget racing Corvettes, but dip into the turbo on the freeway to pulse forward with a big grin across your face. More smiles: fuel

economy rates 7.3/5.1 litre/100km city/hwy. Add to that a firm suspension, 17-inch alloys and brakes that grab like Super Glue for a car that devours back roads, while pumping up for high-speed highways. Especially in LTZ trim, Sonic delights urbanites without boring enthusiasts. Better, it’s a great first car for those who care about style A base price of $13,995, or $24,490 as-tested, brings it within reach of consumers who don’t want to sacrifice style for savings.

A contributing writer for, Casey Williams is a frequent business traveller to Montreal. He contributes to the New York-based LGBT magazine Metrosource and the Chicago Tribune. He and his husband live in Indianapolis, where Williams is a columnist for that city’s newspaper, the Star.

Chevy Sonic LTZ Five-passenger, FWD sedan Powertrain: 103kW/138hp 1.4-litre Turbo-4, 6-spd. manual transmission Suspension f/r: Ind/Torsion beam Wheels: 17”/17” alloy f/r Brakes: disc/disc fr/rr Must-have features: Style, Performance Fuel economy: 7.3/5.1 litre/100km city/hwy Assembly: Lake Orion, Mich. Base/As-tested price: $13,995/$24,490

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INFRONT Gift Guide

Little Luxuries → A sampling with something for everyone on your holiday list

SCENT-SATIONAL If it bears the name Tom Ford, it’s sure to make a splash. The private-blend collection set features such fragrances as Jasmin Rouge and Tuscan Leather ($355; Harry Rosen, BRIEF ENCOUNTERS The businessperson on your list will go to work in style with Tumi’s Indianapolis Slim Brief. Made from an exclusive high-performance fabric, it features a padded tablet pocket ($1,125; Harry Rosen,

EXPRESS YOURSELF Enjoy your favourite brew at home with KRUPS EA9010 Barista espresso machine. Its user-friendly features include a full-colour digital screen and two-step frothing technology ($2,999.99; KRUPS dealers across Canada,

GOOD TIME You’ll get noticed with a chic timepiece from Projects. The new Witherspoon in navy is made of brushed stainless steel and has a salmon-coloured leather band ($135;

LINKED TO LUXURY Turn heads in these cufflinks by the London jeweller Tateossian. The Square Gear Cufflinks celebrate motion with their visible inner workings ($195; Holt Renfrew stores across Canada,

ICE GOING You don’t have to be a pro to play like one. The Bauer Nexus 4000 Sr. Composite Hockey Stick is a fun and meaningful gift designed to maximize balance and power ($109.99; at Bauer dealers across Canada,

A HOME RUN You’ll be set for that Christmas-morning run in new NIKE Air Zoom Structure 18s. The maker has poured years of research into the right balance of comfort and performance ($155; NIKE dealers across Canada,

IN THE SNOW Why not double the fun when giving the kids a ride in the snow? The LL Bean Kids’ Tandem Pull Sled Set with cushion is sure to make you the Santa of your family ($219; LL Bean dealers across Canada, NOTE: PRICES MAY VARY.

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INFRONT Looking Good

Cologne Again, Naturally → Making a splash this season with scents inspired by the great outdoors By Tracy Howard


hether dressing for a festive cocktail at a bar or in full-on holiday party mode, there’s no accessory as celebratory as fragrance. But wearing it can be tricky; after all, who wants to overwhelm a new crush under the mistletoe in the wrong way—or be

Go for gold. The latest riff on Calvin Klein’s Euphoria franchise, Euphoria Gold for Men is a limited-edition eau de toilette subtly evoking traditional festive-season aromas with ginger and lemon top notes leading to cinnamon bark, honey and basil; and a dry-down of amber, patchouli and vanilla ($92 for 100 ml, exclusively at Hudson’s Bay and the for the holidays).

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known at the gym as the “aftershave guy.” To avoid committing olfactory assault, apply two sprays maximum and switch up fragrances so your nose doesn’t become desensitized. For inspiration, check out these recent releases to add to your scent wardrobe or to your holiday shopping list.

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Selfless scent. For those who want their fragrance to do good while making them smell good, there’s Halifaxbased The 7 Virtues, a line created with essential oils purchased from countries rebuilding after war or other crisis. The organic patchouli oil for the company’s latest fragrance, Patchouli of Rwanda, is harvested by adult orphans and widows from that country’s genocide. Phthalate- and paraben-free, the unisex eau de parfum’s red grapefruit and green hibiscus provide a lighter citrus balance to the patchouli oil and cedar layer ($70 for 50 ml, at Hudson’s Bay and

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O n Re l at i o n s h i ps

One-Sided Sexiness? → What to do when you’re in third and he’s stuck in neutral By Adam Segal

I feel caught in an ongoing fighting loop with my partner. Essentially, we are arguing about sex more than we’re actually having it. Our heated discussions, when they happen, seem to go on forever and don’t land anywhere positive. I’m often so sexually frustrated—I seem to want sex way more than he does, and I can’t even remember the last time I wasn’t the one to initiate. He would probably say that my need for sex comes across as nagging, while he needs it to feel more “organic.” But if I leave it just to chance it will never happen. I feel that if he really cared for me he would be more hot for sex with me. A lot of resentment has built up around this issue and we’re going on a three-month dry spell. How do we get out of this rut? Ravi

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Dear Ravi, You might want to get your partner to pull up a chair, because I’ve got some things to say to both of you. Because the conflict surrounding sex has been going on for some time, it’s likely become very difficult to approach each other sexually without it feeling overly heavy. When every sexual moment starts to feel like a gigantic statement about whether the relationship is working or not, it becomes that much easier to avoid the bedroom at all costs. An essential step toward recovering some of the levity in your sex life requires both of you to let go of past resentments and pressure so that sex can become the playful and connected thing you both really need. I feel for you as you sound like a pretty burnt-out lover. It can get exhausting to be the one always initiating—and that nagging role certainly isn’t going to boost your sex appeal. See if you can’t learn more about what helps your man get into the mood (whether it be showers together or you finally cleaning the oven). Think less in terms of “how can I get off

today” and more about approaching your partner with the interest and curiosity you likely showed at the beginning. If your guy continues to think that good sex can only come about organically, you two are in for an even longer dry spell. When a relationship begins moving into LTR territory, you can’t bank on the lustful intensity that often accompanies a new romantic connection—eventually, that new-guy smell starts to wear off. He needs to meet you halfway and be willing to be more intentional about sex. You both could try shaking up the narrow focus on actual sex by weaving more flirtatious energy into your day-to-day lives together. This will undoubtedly help you see each other as sexual beings again. Remember: a lot of couples get so focused on the act of sex that they forget the virtue of good old-fashioned sexiness.

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IN front

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Conquering Diabetes → An ancient disease enters the era of modern treatments By Dr. Malcolm Hedgcock


he world of diabetes management has changed dramatically over the past few years. New testing and treatment strategies are making life with diabetes easier, and it couldn’t come at a better time. It’s estimated that 9 million Canadians are living with diabetes or “pre-diabetes,” and many of them have no idea they even have a problem. This number is expected to explode as the population ages, and it has been estimated that it will cost the health-care system $16.5 billion a year by 2020. The key problem with diabetes

is the body’s inability to control sugar (glucose) levels in the blood. When glucose enters the bloodstream after a meal, insulin released by the pancreas helps those sugar molecules enter the cells that need them. What we see in diabetes is that there is either not enough insulin, or the body isn’t able to use the insulin that it makes. Type 1 diabetes is rare and usually discovered in patients at a young age. It’s caused by an immune destruction of the pancreatic cells that produce insulin. These diabetics are often very sick at the time of diagnosis

and need to take supplementary insulin for life. As for type 2 diabetes, it accounts for 90 percent of cases and is caused by a gradual inability of the body to respond to insulin. We often see the sugar slowly rise until it reaches the threshold where we can make the diagnosis. Meanwhile, the phase between having a normal blood sugar and one high enough to be considered a diabetic is often called “prediabetes.” Progression to type 2 diabetes can be prevented, however, if changes are made during this important stage.

While typical features of high blood sugar include fatigue and frequent urination, often there are no early warning signs. Screening for diabetes is therefore very important and should generally begin at age 40. Without proper treatment, diabetes can lead to devastating complications. It is the leading cause of blindness in Canada, for instance, and a major contributor to chronic kidney disease. It is also considered a risk factor for heart attack, stroke and nerve damage. The first step in treating or preventing type 2 diabetes is physical exercise and weight loss. One study concluded that prediabetics could decrease their risk of progression by 16 percent for every kilogram of weight they lose. A balanced diet that favours complex carbohydrates over simple sugars is essential, along with a recommended 150 minutes of physical activity per week. Smokers who quit will also significantly reduce their risk of diabetes and its complications. When these strategies can’t quite get the sugar under control, medication is added to the mix. Health Canada’s approval of several new drugs now means that we can create a treatment plan tailored specifically for each individual, regardless of coexisting medical conditions or allergies. These modern treatments can help release more insulin or make the body more sensitive to what is already there—all with very few apparent side effects. Discovering that you have diabetes can be frightening. But working with your doctor to diagnose it early and starting lifestyle or medication therapy immediately can drastically improve your chances of successful management of this serious disease.

Dr. Malcolm Hedgcock is a Torontotrained family doctor living and working in Vancouver. He has a special interest in gay men’s health issues, including the primary care of those living with HIV and AIDS.

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Fort Lauderdale Still where the boys are, the Florida beach resort is oceans of fun By Michael Pihach


t’s 2:45 a.m. in Fort Lauderdale, and I can’t find a taxi. It was my first night out in Wilton Manors, a section of the Florida city popularly known as the gay village. It’s here that I’d spent one Wednesday night taking advantage of the $1 vodka sodas at Rumors (, a popular watering hole located in the thick of village strip. I was beginning to see why the “u” in the Rumors sign is shaped like a wine glass: just five American bucks afforded plenty of enjoyment. And I was certainly enjoying myself in the world-famous LGBT-friendly metropolis on the Atlantic coast. Out on the town solo, I was pleasantly absorbing the scene around me. A good hundred or so Floridians and visitors of all ages had come to the bar to flirt, dance, play pool and, oh yeah, knock back a drink or two—although at any given moment, it seemed about half of the crowd was outside in the parking lot smoking. As the night at Rumors drifted into memory—I remembered a drag queen named Jazlyn Alezae and the throbbing music of disco diva Martha Wash—I was out in the dark in search of that cab. The sunny beach city, comprising 60 unique neighborhoods and a vast network of intracoastal waterways (which have lent Fort Lauderdale the nickname “The Venice of America”) is so spread out that practically everyone drives. Wilton Manors was a good 20 minutes’ drive from my ocean-side hotel. Fortunately, a man named Charles with whom I’d struck up a conversation at the bar came to my rescue. He and his boyfriend, both into leather, as Charles had volunteered, took pity on this hapless out-oftowner and offered me a lift. My leather guardian angels. “The great thing about Fort Lauderdale is that if you’re personable and tip well, people get to know

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you,” shouted Charles from the driver’s seat of his black Cadillac Escalade, as he zipped down the freeway, passing rows of mansions and lush palm trees. I had to ask: “What makes Fort Lauderdale any more special than South Beach?” If you’re a gay snowbird, most so-called A-gays— especially the contingent known as the circuit boys— would tell you to start with Miami’s posh South Beach. “[But] South Beach is pretentious, and people are cold as ice if you’re not in their circle,” contends Matt, the younger friend of Charles. “Fort Lauderdale isn’t like that.” I was hard-pressed to disagree. After all, here I was sitting in a vehicle with two nearly complete strangers who were doing me a huge favour in the middle of the night. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg: beyond its lively party scene, Fort Lauderdale has all the ingredients for a memorable gay-cation. “We sell sun and beaches, but we have a very large LGBT scene,” says Richard Gray, managing

director of the LGBT market for the Greater Fort Lauderdale Convention and Visitors Bureau. That includes almost 20 gay resorts, dozens of bars and attractions of LGBT interest, such as the world’s first AIDS Museum ( and the Stonewall Museum ( The latter is one of the few spaces in the U.S. devoted to exhibitions about LGBT history and culture. Not to mention that lots, and I mean lots, of gay people live in Fort Lauderdale. The 2012 U.S. census revealed that it has the country’s highest concentration of same-sex households, out-gaying such obvious contenders as San Francisco. Samesex couples in Fort Lauderdale make up 2.8 percent of total households. What’s even more telling is Fort Lauderdale’s leadership in honouring the “T” in LGBT. The city’s visitors bureau recently led a groundbreaking study on transgender travel trends, in which 700 selfidentified members of the transgender community

→ Always on One of Fort Lauderdale’s most gayfriendly beaches (top). The city’s nightlife rocks (above, left). Guests of the W hotel (above) enjoy celebrated ocean views.

were surveyed about their travel habits—from what kind of hotels they prefer to what they value in a destination. It’s no wonder the Southern Comfort Transgender Conference ( has signed on to bring its 2015, 2016 and 2017 events to Fort Lauderdale. And Gay Days (, the popular gay vacation series that takes place at Disney World in Orlando, held its first Fort Lauderdale edition last month at the W Hotel ( The W Fort Lauderdale is a trendy spot “where all the gays stay,” as one local told me. Coincidently, that was where I was staying, and I quickly discovered the W’s 50 shades of gay. Case in point: just 30 minutes after landing at Fort Lauderdale’s airport (which is relatively close to downtown), I was in the W lobby checking in and walked into the thicket of an Equality

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Florida same-sex marriage event set for the hotel that afternoon. It’s clear that somewhere in the course of the hotel’s evolution, the W adopted a look and sensibility that many in the gay community would find welcoming. The lobby looks and feels like a nightclub, the men who man the front desk could be ordered up by Central Casting and the guestroom interiors have been appointed with attention to every plush detail. The hotel’s on-site Bliss Spa offers treatments that will make you feel like a new man—or woman (go for the Oxygen Facial). On a more practical note: my bed provided one of the most comfortable surfaces I’ve ever slept on. And, thanks to the hotel’s unique angle, all of the W Fort Lauderdale suites have stunning ocean views. Because you’re in a city known for holidays, the W staff gets into the spirit of fun. They leave white stuffed alligators on your bed when they make up the rooms (sometimes even sneaking in when you’re out and leaving tiny mints in the alligator’s mouth). The hotel has a relaxed pet policy, too, so tiny dogs are going in and out at all hours. The rooftop pool deck, with its spectacular views of the Atlantic, is where you’ll find camps of guys basking in the sun on any given afternoon. To help stay in shape, the W hosts early-morning fitness classes—from boot camp to yoga—on the beach, mere steps away. The W’s attentive staff are efficient and friendly in giving directions. And they’re always happy to hail a cab for you—that is, if you haven’t met a local couple eager to provide car service.

Where to go in Fort Lauderdale for … Dancing The Manor, 2345 Wilton Dr. Located along the gay strip in Wilton Manors, this two-storey hot spot is where to get your bump ’n’ grind on. Funky décor, smoke machines and chandeliers give the complex a vintagemeets-cosmopolitan feel. Fierce vocal remixes and drag queens included. Brunch Steak 954, 401 N. Fort Lauderdale Beach Blvd. A luxury boutique steakhouse with a wall of glowing blue jellyfish in the W Fort Lauderdale Hotel. Imagine a short-rib potato-pancake benedict with a side of applewood-smoked bacon. (A hot dinner destination, too; the Australian wagyu filet mignon is scrumptious). Sunbathing Sebastian Beach, Fort Lauderdale’s popular gay beach, Sebastian Street and North Atlantic Blvd. “It’s like a penguin colony on Saturday and Sunday,” says Richard Gray of the Greater Fort Lauderdale Convention and Visitors Bureau. “A cute guy walks by, and you see everyone move their head.” Shopping Sawgrass Mills, 12801 W. Sunrise Blvd. Located in Sunrise, a city in east-central Broward County, this outlet mall is home to a world of luxury retailers—Gucci, Prada, you name it. “We get so many Europeans who literally buy suitcases and fill them up with clothes,” says Gray. Culture It’s a city best known for fun in the sun, but in recent years Fort Lauderdale has stepped up its local museum scene. One standout—if only for that rainy afternoon—is the Museum of Art/Fort Lauderdale, where the permanent offerings include one of America’s largest collections of works from the so-called CoBrA movement (so named for artists from Copenhagen, Brussels and Amsterdam). 1 E. Las Olas Blvd. Dinner Dos Caminos, 1140 Seabreeze Blvd. The much-talked-about modern Mexican chain has foodies from New York to Miami swooning. Traditional Day of the Dead calaveras (skeletons) keep watch as patrons indulge in reposado tequila, spicy margaritas and smoked brisket stacked enchiladas. Nostalgia Trips The Worthington, 543 N. Birch Rd. A popular gay men’s resort with three 24-hour clothing-optional pools and two large hot tubs set among garden walkways and manicured palm trees. As Gray demurs, “It’s not a bathhouse but has a frisky vibe to it.”

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Alan Cumming Has the Last Word Behind his TV, movie and stage work, a dark, troubling drama played out. But the loveable actor’s new memoir shows the triumph of pluck over the past. By Jim Brosseau - Photography by Francis Hills


henever I’d seen Alan Cumming on TV, in movies or onstage— where he’s dazzling Broadway audiences once more in Cabaret—there was always something about his face that struck me as boyish. Today, that observation feels more than a little ironic with the release of the actor’s heartwarming, heartbreaking memoir, Not My Father’s Son (Dey St., a William Morrow Publishers imprint). As its title deftly suggests, the book chronicles a father-son relationship built on deception and self-delusion. The unravelling of these, prompted by Cumming’s appearance on a British reality show that probes celebrities’ lineage, underpins the memoir. When fans see the cool customer of Eli Gold in TV’s The Good Wife or the brash exuberance of the Emcee in Cabaret, they’re not only watching a supple actor’s range but also a triumph of the human spirit. Given the emotional and physical brutality Cumming endured

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→ VERSED IN VERSATILITY Cumming as Eli Gold (above, left) in TV’s popular The Good Wife; flying high in his award-winning role as the Emcee (above, right) on the Broadway stage in Cabaret; the cover of his revealing new memoir (opposite).

“In the unlikely event that there was a gun to my head, I’d choose stage [over film and TV], purely because of the immediate contact and connection with the audience, but I like doing them all.”

at the hands of his father while growing up in a tiny Scottish town, coming out in one piece might have been victory enough. Which makes Cumming’s acting ascent as bright as his sly, disarming smile. In his refreshing acknowledgement of the good life fame has brought him, he credits a strong brother and, especially, a mother who in every way lives up to her maiden name of Darling. He’s also generous to his husband, Grant Shaffer, a man he contends, half jokingly, descended from a planet called “Kindness.” In taking readers behind the scenes of the family-excavation show—brilliantly named Who Do You Think You Are?—a simmering debate about the fate of Cumming’s late grandfather is at long last settled. Its resolution, as well as cameos by other members of the actor’s clan, provides a window into the depth and humour Cumming lends to his work—and his life. With both on display, he speaks to IN Magazine. IN The discovery about your father, behind the compelling title of your new book, makes me wonder what advice you might give others who learn jarring things about the families they think they know. ALAN CUMMING I would say that you need to take some time with it. It is very shocking and overwhelming to discover something so life-altering, but it’s a mistake to immediately react or act upon it. Let the dust settle, and give yourself

time to calm down and breathe before you do anything rash. IN Has writing the book helped ease the shock of what you learned about your father—and is there something reassuring that you took away from the process? AC The book has definitely been very therapeutic, not so much about the shock of the discovery but more about how he [his father] treated me as a child. In writing it, I was able to analyze him and understand him and ultimately come to a really great place where I know that all of it had nothing to do with me. I learned some not-so-good things, too, though— like I’m probably an actor because I needed to be one so early to survive him. IN You and countless other celebrities can’t seem to escape the sexuality tag when you’re identified in profiles, etc., in mainstream media. For some, though, there’s almost a nostalgia, a holding on to what makes a person gay or bi—can you understand where they’re coming from? AC I can see this issue from both sides, absolutely. I actually think I have a sexuality prefix more often in gay press than in the straight world. I think that when gay outlets do it, I get that it’s signalling what a positive thing it is for someone to be open and out, and sometimes when straight ones do it, I find it ghettoizing and inappropriate. I’m

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really fine with everything, but it would be nice for all of us to get to a point where our sexuality isn’t the first or even the second adjective that is most associated with us. IN Having seen you in Cabaret, I’m astounded by the energy each performance takes. Anything you can share about your diet or exercise routine that gives you the strength for a physically demanding role? AC Well, first of all, I’m vegan and second of all, doing the show itself keeps me incredibly fit. It is a workout in itself. But I really do think being vegan and eating well also keeps me buzzing. I eat lots of little meals throughout the day, and, in fact, I find that I can’t manage a whole meal anymore. I just have to lie down right away. So I have to be very careful about the timing of food and any exercise. But I have always been a person with a lot of energy. I think I get it from my mom. She’s a firecracker. IN Of stage, TV or movies, do you have a favourite and why? Which would you like to do more of? AC I always say when I’m asked this question: In the unlikely event that there was a gun to my head, I’d choose stage, purely because of the immediate contact and connection with the audience, but I like doing them all. I haven’t done many films over the past few years, because of The Good Wife. I do miss the way in a film

you know how the story ends and how it’s finite rather than playing someone over several years. IN Is there another book you have in mind? Any hints? AC My next book is a book of photos and stories. A couple of years ago I did an exhibition of photographs called Alan Cumming Snaps, and I wrote a little story with each picture to explain and give more depth to each image. So now this book is going to expand on that. It will be a smorgasbord of my life and experiences. IN You mentioned in a New York Times interview the haunting song And So It Goes. Is there a song you can’t hear without getting emotional? AC I can have it playing, but if I listen too closely to Adel’s version of Make you Feel My Love, I’m just a wreck. I would love to sing it in concert, but I really don’t think I could get through it. IN You’ve got a long, long way to go, but when you look at the likes of Chita Rivera or Marilyn Maye still out there performing, does it make the thought of growing older less daunting? AC Seriously, I am not daunted by the thought of growing older, but, yes, it’s heartening to see those people still kicking, literally, at their age and that there are people—like myself—who want to see them. Maybe I still have one more round as the Emcee in me!

“It would be nice for all of us to get to a point where our sexuality isn’t the first or even the second adjective that is most associated with us.”

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Love’s Labour Found A couple of homebodies more than happy to keep the lights on for company By Jim Brosseau


nyone who’s ever been to the Schomberg, Ont., home of Philip Beatty and Steven Frankowski knows that a subsequent invitation is not to be turned down. “Because of our busy schedules, we don’t get to entertain nearly as much as we’d like to,” says Frankowski, who works for Rolex Canada, an hour’s drive away in Toronto. “But when we do entertain, we like to pamper our guests.” And how. “The atmosphere is relaxed and fun, with lots of interesting conversation,” says Beatty, whose hospital job in Oakville keeps him on the road as much as his husband each day. “We can’t

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stand pretentiousness. It sucks the life out of a room.” Each room in this 104-year-old, 3,000-squarefoot house—originally built for a retired Quaker farmer—exudes the warmth its owners had always hoped to give their home from the moment they moved in nearly 15 years ago. Unapologetic romantics, the couple nicknamed the house “Stilhaven.” “The ‘St’ part from the start of Steve and the ‘il’ part from Phil,” Beatty explains. “Then we attached ‘haven’ to the end, because it definitely is our haven. Arriving home to our haven in

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Schomberg keeps us sane and brings us peace of mind after a long day.” The couple have spent their days together for almost 20 years, having met at what was once The Barn, a bar on Church Street in the heart of Toronto’s gay village. They were unofficially married two years later at the city’s Metropolitan Community Church. Then, in October 2005, three months after same-sex marriage was legalized in Canada, they oficially tied the knot. Shortly after moving into the home they would call their haven, reality bit. “The place had been neglected for years,” notes Beatty, “and our mission from the beginning was not just to bring the house back to its original beauty, but to update its charm and make it better in both appearance and function.” And so began a renovation project that has been completed in stages for more than a decade. “Thankfully, Steve is extremely handy and he has

done a great deal of the work—drywalling, crown moulding, built-ins—himself, with me acting as his assistant,” says Beatty. But planning is more of a joint effort. “We do all of that together,” says Frankowski, “hashing out sometimes conflicting ideas and coming to an eventual compromise that turns out to be even better than we originally imagined it would.” In the past year and a half alone, the couple had the original front porch torn off and a historically accurate copy rebuilt in its place (one pillar was drastically leaning and the porch was slowly pulling away from the rest of the structure). With that ambitious job complete, they began major work on the kitchen, including a full gutting and redesign that lasted nearly eight months. Oh, and as if that weren’t enough, it was followed by having new asphalt poured in the driveway and the rear yard fenced. When they put their saws, shovels and other

→ a hearty welcome (clockwise from above) Bedecked for the holidays. The kitchen was renovated after a complete gutting. Sprawling, open living and dining rooms are suited to the owners’ casual entertaining style. The inviting foyer sets the tone for visits with Philip Beatty, left, and his husband, Steven Frankowski. A holiday touch in the foyer (opposite, left); the updated master bath (opposite, right).

tools aside, there comes the pleasure of sharing their home with company. A typical evening would start with drinks in the soft-lighted living room or—in warmer weather—perhaps in the terraced patio leading to the backyard. (“We’re both avid gardeners,” says Frankowski, “and gardens can be found throughout our front and rear yards.”) Dinner is served in the adjoining dining room. One house rule dictates that guests consume whichever wine they prefer with the main course.

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“We believe that you should drink what you like, not what you’re told to have with a certain dish,” insists Beatty. “Food and drink are all about pleasure, not following rules.” The meal never ends without a scrumptious dessert, before guests retire to the living room for after-dinner drinks and what the couple always hope will be “more great conversation.” Alone time might include curling up with a good

book in one of several sitting nooks. Or the luxury of down time might be filled with a languorous soak in the master bath—another room that, despite renovation, stayed true to its original character with its careful tile work and claw-foot tub. Rare times away from their house are usually spent on cruises, often on such LGBT-friendly lines as RSVP. “We’ve found we love the comfort factor on a gay cruise,” says Beatty. “We can hold hands

and be ourselves.” Back home, visitors—lingering in the ample foyer or sipping cocktails in the gazebo—have the sense of a house fully realized. Still, its owners can’t stop thinking about what they might just do next to lend something fresh to what they call “our sweet gem.” And what might that be? Stay tuned. As Beatty observes affectionately, “It’s definitely an ongoing labour of love.”

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Cultural Calendar

december 2014

Events of LGBT Interest Across Canada By David Wright


Gala Fundraiser

To commemorate World AIDS Day 2014, the Canadian AIDS Society hosts its seventh annual Rouge Gala at the Ottawa Marriott Hotel, with a cocktail reception, banquet dinner, silent auction and live entertainment.

6 Photography Winnipeg-born photographer Elaine Stocki’s exhibition opens this month at the Southern Alberta Art Gallery in Lethbridge. Although staged and shot in studio, her clever images capture the candid look and feel of vintage street photography (including Nudes Moving an Abstract Painting II, pictured).

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Darrin Hagen’s yuletide treat With Bells On runs until Dec. 24 at Calgary’s Lunchbox Theatre. Sit back and watch the sparks fly when a mild-mannered accountant and a tinselspangled drag queen get stuck on an elevator together. Time stands still, hilarity ensues.


film festival

LGBT-friendly ski-resort town Whistler, B.C., hosts its renowned international film festival, this year introducing a new slate of “female-focused” entries among its various genre categories. Screenings also include What an Idiot, in which a straight guy pretends to be gay just to get close to his knock-out boss (pictured).

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7 concert Mary Noël offers an afternoon of heartwarming Christmas carols performed by the Choeur gai d’Ottawa Gay Men’s Chorus at Ottawa’s First Baptist Church. Guaranteed to put you in the festive spirit.

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Fans of Greek gods? Spend a day traversing five millennia of ancient Greek culture at the Montreal Museum of Archaeology and History. Agamemnon to Alexander the Great features 520 rare artifacts collected from 22 Greek museums, predating the age of Alexander III of Macedon.

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Cirque du Solei’s 30th-anniversary concert features songs and music culled from 35 of its spectacular circus performances throughout the years. Sung by a 70-voice choir and accompanied by 28 musicians amid the splendour of Montreal’s grand Église Saint-Jean-Baptiste, the concert runs until Dec. 28.

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Visit the Art Gallery of Ontario this month to see how one of the world’s greatest living cartoonists revolutionized the graphic novel. Along with 300 works on paper ranging from trading cards to magazine covers, Art Spiegelman’s CO-MIX: A Retrospective offers a rare glimpse of original manuscripts from the artist’s groundbreaking Maus series.

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It wouldn’t be the holidays without The Nutcracker. Enjoy the Toronto International Ballet Theatre’s presentation of the crowd-pleaser at the Sony Centre for the Performing Arts. Artistic director Tatiana Stepanova infuses her highly polished choreography with fresh, innovative flourishes.


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FLASHBACK December 1977 in LGBT history

Merci, Quebec


s the French expression goes, vive la différence. The phrase sounded like much more than a mere collection of words 37 years ago this month. That’s when Quebec became Canada’s first province—and only the second jurisdiction worldwide—to enact legislation outlawing discrimination based on sexual orientation. Until then, Denmark was alone in extending full equality to all of its citizens. Quebec’s brave move helped pave the way for the LGBT rights that are part of the very fabric of Canada today. Vive le Quebec.

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