FAITH Grand Rapids September 2011 Edition

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The preacher’s saint

St. John of Chrysostom Feast: Sept. 13

ohn of Chrysostom (347-407) abandoned a career in law to devote himself to the study of Scripture. After his ordination, St. John dedicated his life to preaching.

He was so good, that his reputation spread throughout the Christian world. Upon his death (he actually died en route to his exile for speaking out against the excesses of the wealthy in Constantinople) the people gave him the surname of Chrysostom, or, literally, “golden-mouthed.”

One of the themes of his preaching was the danger of “outward shows.” Indifference to material possessions and to worldly power is a good thing, but Chrysostom warned that there may be one earthly attribute to which a person might cling: reputation. This is because reputation is far more difficult to give up than power or material possession. In fact, St. John once said, “To be falsely accused and remain spiritually serene is the ultimate test of faith.”

Where might we see evidence of this concern for reputation in the Christian life? The great saint explains that some Christians may wish to be regarded as virtuous, to be admired for their charity, honesty, integrity and self-denial. While not drawing attention to these qualities, these Christians are pleased to know others respect them. “Thus when someone falsely accuses them of some wrongdoing, they react with furious indignation. They protect their reputation with the same ferocity as the rich people protect their gold.”

El santo del predicador San Juan Crisóstomo Juan de Crisóstomo (347 a 407 A.D.) abandonó una carrera de abogado para dedicarse al estudio de las Sagradas Escrituras. Después de su ordenación, San Juan dedicó su vida a la prédica. Era tan bueno que su reputación se difundió por todo el mundo cristiano. Al morir (murió en camino a su destierro por hablar contra los excesos de los ricos en Constantinopla) la gente le dio el sobrenombre der Crisóstomo, o literalmente «boca de oro».

Uno de los temas de sus prédicas fue el peligro de las «apariencias». La indiferencia hacia las posesiones materiales y el poder mundano es algo bueno, pero Crisóstomo advirtió que puede haber un atributo terreno al cual una persona podría aferrarse: la reputación. Esto es porque es mucho más difícil renunciar a la reputación que el poder o las posesiones materiales. De hecho, San Juan dijo una vez que «Ser acusado falsamente y permanecer espiritualmente sereno es la prueba fundamental de la fe».

This danger of the spiritual life explains why one must be vigilant at all times. The Christian life consists of an interiority that simply refuses to allow us to divert our eyes from ourselves and our own spiritual condition. It insists that this focus on our own life is the only way to change the world. It also grounds us in humility as the journey to spiritual perfection does not find its fruition in this life, but in the next through the grace of God alone.

13 de septiembre ¿Dónde podríamos ver evidencia de esta preocupación por la reputación en la vida cristiana? El gran santo explica que algunos cristianos podrían desear que se les considerase virtuosos, para ser admirados por su caridad, honestidad, integridad y abnegación. Aunque sin atraer la atención a esas cualidades, estos cristianos se complacen en saber que otros les respetan.

«Así que cuando alguien los acusa falsamente de obrar mal, reaccionan con furiosa indignación. Protegen su reputación con la misma ferocidad con que la gente rica protege su oro.»

Este peligro de la vida espiritual explica por qué uno debe estar vigilante en todo momento. La vida cristiana consiste en una interioridad que no nos deja que desviar los ojos de nosotros mismos y de nuestra condición espiritual. Insiste que el estar centrado en nuestra propia vida es la única manera de cambiar el mundo. También nos motiva en la humildad ya que el recorrido hacia la perfección espiritual no es fructífero en esta vida, sino en la próxima, sólo mediante la gracia de Dios.

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contents Teen Effort – Ludington High School senior likes being part of a team – God’s team The Magazine of the Catholic Diocese of Grand Rapids

September 2011• Volume 5: Issue 7

Bishop Walter A. Hurley PUBLISHER

Mary Haarman

EDITOR IN CHIEF

Cami Beecroft

MANAGING EDITOR

Msgr. Gaspar F. Ancona | Maureen Burns Father Ron Hutchinson | Molly Klimas Patricia Mish CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Sue Brown | T.J. Hamilton CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHER

FAITH Catholic Rev. Dwight Ezop CHAIRMAN

Patrick M. O’Brien

PRESIDENT/CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER

Elizabeth Martin Solsburg

DIRECTOR OF CUSTOM PUBLISHING/ EDITORIAL DIRECTOR

Cynthia Vandecar

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It started with a text invitation to attend a church youth group meeting. Matt O’Callaghan reluctantly went, but he didn’t stay reluctant for long. As he prepares to attend college in a year, the 17-year old Ludington teen says he’ll miss the friends he’s made, retreats he’s led and the times he’s shared with others, but he’ll take those memories and most importantly, his relationship with God with him wherever the Spirit leads his life.

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MARkETING MANAGER

Patrick Dally

ART DIRECTOR

Michelle Hildebrandt

GRAPHIC DESIGNER/WEB MASTER

Frank Iacovella | Lynne Hsu Janna Stellwag | Abby Wieber GRAPHIC DESIGNERS

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EDITORIAL ASSISTANT

Michelle Sessions DiFranco Deacon Tom Fogle and JoAnne Fogle Paul Jarzembowski | Father Joseph Krupp Dr. Gelasia Marquez Dr. Cathleen McGreal | Sister Ann Shields Rita Thiron CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Philip Shippert

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At 16, West Catholic High School student Jeff Ford isn’t one to talk up his Catholic faith.

He’s too busy living it.

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Maggie Timmer

4 from the bishop 6 parenting journey Survivor’s guilt after a fatal accident 6 conflict resolution My neighbor painted their house hot pink! What can I do?

7 marriage matters She says “His anger scares me.” She says, “I would never hurt her” 8 culture Christian friendship 10 in the know with Father Joe What happens inside the confessional 11 In the spirit When a child leaves 12 theology 101 It is right to give God thanks and praise: the Eucharistic Prayer 14 spiritual fitness Is God telling you, ‘Enough!’?

30 vocations Contemplating my treasure 31 last word Back to school

Scott Herdegen

Alexis Hartman

Liturgical calendar: St. Gregory the Great, pope and doctor of the Church September 3 | Feast of the Nativity of the Blessed Virgin Mary September 8

Nick Baker

4 from the bishop

Bishop speaking with students attending San Juan Diego Academy.

Growing in faith and knowledge –

catechesis and education in the Diocese of Grand Rapids

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y dear friends, As we in Michigan experience again the change of season and the hot summer days turn to fall, the liturgical calendar is a reminder to us that we continue to celebrate Ordinary Time, the time when we as church observe and rejoice in the mystery of Christ in all its aspects.

Each fall schools and religious education programs gear up for their year-long programs. On August 29 the Catholic school staff came together for prayer and reflection during the back to school kick-off held at Cathedral Square. In late August, with backpacks and school supplies in hand, our students converged on classrooms in our Catholic schools throughout the diocese to be greeted by teachers and administrators prepared to provide them with a quality educational experience, focused on affecting change in students hearts and minds, through instruction infused with the teachings of Christ.

With the same focus and enthusiasm our parish religious

education directors and catechists have been planning their programs which will assist our 22,000 young people with formation experiences and programs to guide them in their faith development.

I ask that you remember our parish catechists and Catholic school teachers in a special way on Catechetical Sunday, September 18 when parishes throughout the United States are encouraged to recognize and to pray for those who inform our young people about the Catholic faith. In addition, the diocesan Office of faith formation is hosting its annual Catechetical Conference for teachers, parish catechists and others who would like to learn more about our faith and methods for sharing it. Approximately 600 people attended last year with even more participants anticipated to register this year. More information is available in this magazine.

Expanding our understanding of our faith and our practices is certainly not limited to youth. The Catholic Information Center and many parishes continue to offer life-long learning opportunities for all people of all ages. Our clergy and parish musicians are studying the response changes outlined in the New Roman Missal which we begin to use the first Sunday of Advent. Each parish and Catholic institution in the diocese as well as each individual priest will receive a complimentary copy of the New Roman Missal.

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St. Peter Claver, priest September 9 | The Most Holy Name of the Bless

5 Once again, Cathedral Square will serve as an exhibition center for ArtPrize. This is a chance for us to learn about the many expressions of art and the various mediums used. On Friday, September 23, 6:30 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. there will be an open house at Cathedral Square Center attended by the 32 artists who will be displaying here. Please come and meet them if you are able. The church has a long and rich tradition of supporting the arts and I see our involvement as an extension of that tradition.

On a personal note: I am grateful for the many prayers, cards and kindnesses extended to me during and after my open heart surgery on June 28. It was the first time in my life that I have

had a truly serious health issue to deal with. Now that fall is here I hope to be up and running. I also have come to a deeper appreciation of the work provided by doctors, surgeons, nurses, aides and other hospital and medical staff. Their care and kindness, always given with a smile, seem to be a part of who they are. I am extremely grateful to the staff at the University of Michigan Cardiovascular Center in Ann Arbor and at Saint Mary’s Health Care here in Grand Rapids.

May God bless all of you, Bishop Hurley

Creciendo en fe y Conocimiento

catequesis y educación en la Diócesis de Grand Rapids

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is queridos amigos, Mientras en Michigan volvemos a experimentar el cambio de estación y los cálidos días de verano se convierten en otoño, el calendario litúrgico nos recuerda que seguimos celebrando el Tiempo Ordinario, el tiempo en que nosotros como Iglesia observamos y nos regocijamos en el misterio de Cristo en todos sus aspectos.

Cada otoño, las escuelas y programas de educación religiosa se preparan para sus programas anuales. El 29 de agosto el personal de las escuelas católicas se reune para orar y reflexionar durante la celebración del inicio del regreso a la escuela celebrada en la Plaza de la Catedral. A finales de Agosto, con mochilas y útiles escolares en mano, nuestros estudiantes llegan a las aulas de las escuelas católicas en toda la Diócesis y son recibidos por los maestros y administradores quienes están dispuestos a brindarles una experiencia educativa de calidad, centrada en promover el cambio de corazón y mente de los estudiantes a través de instrucción con las enseñanzas de Cristo.

Con el mismo interés y entusiasmo los directores de educación religiosa parroquial y catequistas han estado planificando los programas que ayudarán a 22.000 jóvenes con experiencias de formación y programas para guiarlos en el desarrollo de la fe.

Por favor recuerden a los catequistas parroquiales y profesores de las escuelas católicas de manera especial el Domingo

Catequético, el 18 de septiembre cuando las parroquias a lo largo de los Estados Unidos reconocen y oran por quienes informan a nuestros jóvenes sobre la fe católica. Además, la oficina diocesana de formación en la fe celebra su conferencia anual catequética para profesores, catequistas parroquiales y a cuantos les gustaría aprender más acerca de nuestra fe y los métodos para compartirla.

Aproximadamente 600 personas asistieron el año pasado, se prevé que habrá más participantes este año. Más información al respecto está disponible en esta revista.

Ampliar la comprensión de nuestra fe y nuestras prácticas, sin duda, no se limita a los jóvenes. El Centro de Información Católica y muchas parroquias continuarán ofreciendo oportunidades de aprendizaje permanente para todas las personas y todas las edades. Nuestro clero y músicos parroquiales están estudiando la respuesta a los cambios sugeridos en el nuevo Misal Romano que comenzaremos a utilizar en inglés el primer domingo de Adviento.

Cada parroquia e institución católica en la diócesis, así como cada sacerdote individualmente recibirá una copia gratuita

del nuevo Misal Romano.

Una vez más, la Plaza Catedral prestará su servicio como centro de exposición para ArtPrize. Esta es una oportunidad para obtener información acerca de las innumerables expresiones del arte y los diversos medios utilizados. El viernes, 23 de septiembre, 6:30 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. habrá un Open House en el centro de la plaza Catedral a la que asistirán los 32 artistas que expondrán aquí. Por favor venga y participe si puede. La iglesia tiene una larga y rica tradición de apoyo a las Artes y yo veo nuestra participación como una extensión de esa tradición.

En una nota personal: estoy agradecido por las muchas oraciones, tarjetas y bondad que me fueron expresadas durante y después de la cirugía de corazón abierto el 28 de junio. Fue la primera vez en mi vida que tuve que hacer frente a un problema grave de salud . Ahora que llega el otoño espero estar en pleno funcionamiento. También he llegado a apreciar más profundamente el trabajo de los médicos, cirujanos, enfermeras, asistentes y otro personal médico y hospitalario. Su atención y amabilidad, dados siempre con una sonrisa, parecen ser parte de lo que son. Le estoy muy agradecido al personal del Centro Cardiovascular de la Universidad de Michigan en Ann Arbor y a Saint Mary’s Health Care aquí en Grand Rapids.

Que Dios bendiga a todos ustedes, Obispo Hurley

sed Virgin Mary September 12 | St. John Chrysostom, bishop and doctor of the Church September 13 | Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross September 14 | Our Lady of Sorrows September 15

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Survivor’s guilt after a fatal accident

parenting journey

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My son and one of his friends were in a horrible car accident last year. My son survived, but his friend did not. We were very close to his parents, but we haven’t known how to talk to them since the accident. How can I get past this and reach out to our friends?

Many parents have felt the terror of a phone call about an accident or hearing a diagnosis from a doctor. Whatever the source, there is a sense of distorted reality that can never be forgotten. You and your friends shared the horror of the accident, but your relief doesn’t require an equal measure of guilt. It’s appropriate to express the compassion that you obviously feel.

• Make a photo memory book. Ask your son to go through his digital pictures and look through photos of birthday parties, scouting events and other highlights that the boys celebrated together. Let your friends know that you have the book ready as a gift for them and see if they would like to share their pictures, as well.

• Ask God’s assistance. Spend time asking God that you be able to recognize any way that you may bring comfort to your friends. “ … I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.” (Exodus 4:12) The book Mistaken Identity: Two Families, One Survivor, Unwavering Hope details how the Van Ryn and Cerak families learned that the identities of their daughters had been switched after a fatal car accident. Although Whitney Cerak’s mom struggled with her “happy ending,” the Van Ryns’ prayerful reaction helped ease the sense of survivor guilt.

Dr. Cathleen McGreal is a psychology professor and certified spiritual advisor.

My neighbor painted their house hot pink! What can I do?

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• Share a meal. What did you do together before the accident? If you went out to dinner or had each other over, then issue an invitation. Our society tends to avoid discussions of death, but bringing up memories of the friendship between your sons is meaningful. You are not going to be reminding them of the loss because they

think of their son from the moment they wake up. Sharing your memories acknowledges the importance of his life. Let them know that you don’t have the words to describe what you would like to say, but you want to be there for them.

• Include the parents in social events.

Let your friends decide whether they want to participate in ongoing traditions. For example, if you sat side-by-side watching your boys play football, then they still may want to go to the games. Don’t exclude them because it seems too heartbreaking to you.

conflict resolution

My neighbor decided to paint his house a color that defies description – it could be called hot pink. It’s sure to drive down our already-low property values. Can I do anything about it? as organizations that offer legal information, counseling, and conflict resolution programs.

I assume there is nothing illegal in your neighbor painting his house hot pink. Your next step is simple: go to your neighbor and bring up the topic in a friendly way. Your neighbors may not be aware of how the color looks to oth-

ers. Perhaps share with them some magazines that offer paint color ideas. Remember, a friendly approach is always the best approach.

In the end, painting an entire house is costly, so you may just have to deal with the color. A good relationship with a neighbor is well worth not making a big deal out of this.

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S. Kendrick

We can’t choose our neighbors, but all of us will have to deal with them at some point. There are laws that govern the ways we use our residential property. First, you should investigate what your community has to offer. There are private and governmental organizations to help communities run smoothly as well

Dr. Gelasia Marquez is a psychologist and family counselor.

St. Cornelius, pope and martyr and

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“His anger scares me!”

SayS:

he

“I would never hurt her!”

Susan says: Bob is a great guy! Most of the time he treats me like a princess: holding open doors, helping me with my coat, buying me small gifts – all the little gestures that my dad taught me were important.

The only problem is his temper. He gets so angry that he slams things around and hits walls. He has never hit me, but I have to admit that I get a little afraid at his level of rage over small things. He just proposed. Because of this, I’m not sure how to answer.

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Bob says: Susan is right, I do have a bit of a temper. I’ve tried keeping it under control, but sometimes I get so angry that I lash out. I would never hit her, though – and I really believe we’d have a great marriage. I just think she’s making too big a deal out of a couple of dents in the drywall.

What

couple of dents in the drywall” and you think she is making too big a deal out of it? Come on, Bob, you are only kidding yourself if you do not think it is a big deal.

do they do?

controllable temper (to any degree) it will tend to escalate the difficulties and lead both parties into disillusionment about their marriage relationship. Susan is asking the right question, “Do I really want to marry this person whom I am afraid of?”

Susan, if you are afraid of Bob now, during the courting phase of your relationship, then what will marriage bring?

Ask any couple who has been married longer than a few months and they will tell you that when difficult situations come up, it becomes even more challenging to control their emotions and tempers.

Because Bob realizes he has a “bit of a temper” and Susan is “a little afraid,” the most prudent action for both is to work out a solution now before committing to a life together. Be open to each other in discussing your expectations, what your hopes are for your marriage.

You can start by talking about it with each other in a non-defensive manner that does not include accusatory statements such as, “You are just making a big

your marriage matters deal out of nothing.” Being sensitive and respectful of each other’s feelings will help change negative behaviors and make your love grow stronger.

If talking together does not offer solutions, ask your local parish or diocesan family life office for assistance. Should none of these options meet the need, we would highly recommend professional counseling for Bob in an attempt to discover the source of his uncontrollable temper.

We also suggest you both take it to prayer, calling upon the Holy Spirit for wisdom and understanding.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, on your intelligence rely not; in all your ways be mindful of him and he will make straight your paths.”

After all there are three involved in this relationship: Bob, Susan and God. T. Gennara

Let us start off by telling you that it is a big deal. Susan has a right to be concerned because “what you see is what you get.”

People do not change simply because they get married, particularly those behavioral habits that have been acquired and developed over an extended period of time.

It is our experience that if you really look at your anger and when it started, you will begin to learn what triggers your angry reactions. Seldom does an uncontrollable temper just magically appear out of the clear blue sky. It most likely started with small bouts of unmet expectations or disappointments and grew into more violent actions. Yes, putting dents in the drywall is considered a violent action.

Married life is difficult enough when both spouses are able to control their tempers; however, when you add un-

SayS:

Deacon Tom Fogle and JoAnne Fogle help prepare couples for marriage.

St. Cyprian, bishop and martyr September 16 | St. Robert Bellarmine, bishop and doctor of the Church September 17 | St. Januarius, bishop and martyr September 19

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C.S.

Lewis said, “What draws people to be friends is that they see the same truth.

They share it.” I recently came across that quote and couldn’t help but think of how relevant it is in my relationship with a dear friend of mine. grow together in faith and build each other up spiritually and emotionally. It is a true Christian friendship. It is, in a word, healthy.

I certainly have friends who do not share my faith – I cherish those friendships greatly. And I definitely

appreciate and value counsel received from all of my friends. But when I am offering or receiving help with the deepest hurts, conflicts and decisions of life, the best support and understanding that can be shared is between those friends with whom I share my faith. It is because, as C.S. Lewis so eloquently stated, we see the same truth.

pita chips or pita bread.

This incredible appetizer can be served hot. Transfer to a small casserole, sprinkle with ¼ cup or more of Parmesan cheese and bake for 15-20 minutes at 400 degrees.

Now my friend and I cannot offer each other the right answer for every question and problem. But there is never a time we meet that I don’t come home feeling fulfilled by the way our faith forms the base for our conversations. It is definitely a healthy relationship.

Like the artichoke dip we enjoyed that night, knowing something is healthy makes it worth sharing.

T. Gennara

A short time ago, that friend and I put an evening aside for our “GNO.” That is, “Girls’ Night Out.” We usually go somewhere for dinner, after the kids are in bed. This time, her husband had an evening band practice for an upcoming gig, so we planned to hang out at her house. Nice! That meant the ultimate comfort of wearing a sweatshirt, jogging pants and no make-up. And the added bonus was her reminder to come hungry. She had prepared a lot of food, including an incredible spinach artichoke dip that is not only delicious, but healthy.

All that made for an evening to look forward to. But the principal reasons for our getting together go beyond the superficial ones. Ours is a friendship where we’ve come to trust in each other,

In a large bowl, combine spinach, artichokes, garlic, tomatoes, Parmesan cheese, onion salt and jalapeno pepper. Drizzle with olive oil, balsamic vinegar and lemon juice. Add salt and pepper to taste. Toss until well coated. Serve with

Michelle DiFranco is a designer and the busy mom of two children.

Paul Chong Hasang, martyr and their companions, martyrs September 20 | Feast of St. Matthew, apostle and evangelist September 21 | St. Pio of Pietrelcina, priest September 23

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ourfaith Once he’s spoken to you, he’ll offer you a penance. What is a penance? Penance is another word for a discipline to help guide the process of your repentance. For example, if you are sinning against purity, then he may ask you to pray a certain number of Hail Marys, asking our Mother to send you the grace of her Son for purity. If you are sinning by being selfish or disrespectful to your spouse or stingy, he may ask you to volunteer impatient with your kids. If he wants more details, he’ll ask for at the local homeless shelter. Each act of penance is not done to them. You also want to be sure “make up for” your sin: Jesus did that you remember that these that. It’s to help you practice the are sins. This is not something you “are working on” – these are virtue that God wants you to live.

Now, once you’ve gotten your sins. We confess them because penance, he’ll invite you to offer they are bad for us and God an Act of Contrition or Prayer of wants to free us! We work on Sorrow or something similar. This cars, not our sins. is where you’ll say something that Tip: You may not be sure expresses that you know your sins, if something is a sin. Don’t are sorry for your sins and trust hesitate to ask! in God’s mercy. There are many I know some people worry options out there for you, pick one about getting emotional: Please don’t worry. If the priest is worth that you like best. his salt, he’ll not only be ready Tip: Print out your Act of for it, but also expect it. The Contrition and bring it with beautiful, life-giving process of you so you can read it! receiving God’s mercy is often Once that is done, the priest very emotional. Don’t apologize will stretch out his hand and for your tears – these are gifts that pray what is called the “Prayer you offer God. of Absolution.”

The key is when When you are finished, let the he says the last line, which is “I priest know in some way. I like absolve you of your sins, in the the old “These are my sins.” name of the Father, the Son and At this point, the priest the Holy Spirit.” may offer you some words When that is finished, the priest of consolation or challenge. will say any number of things as a Remember, for this sacrament closing.

I say “The Lord has freed to work best, you’ll need three you, go in peace,” to which you things: can respond, “Thanks be to God!” Now, you aren’t finished yet!

1. Knowledge of your sins It turns out that, after you leave, 2. Sorrow for your sins you’ve got a couple more things 3. Trust in God’s mercy to do.

Everything the priest says First, be sure and thank should take you back to those God because, according to our three points.

in the know with Father Joe

What happens inside the confessional?

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Father, It’s been a long time since I’ve gone to confession – what should I expect?

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Last time, I talked about how to go to confession. We made an examination of conscience and I got you inside the confessional. Now, let’s look at what to expect next.

At this point, you’ll tell your sins. In terms of confessing, you want to remember that this is not spiritual direction. Spiritual direction is a “gathering together” of two in the name of Jesus, the spiritual director and the directee, to help a person to develop a closer relationship with God and to better discern how the Holy Spirit is leading in their life.

The sacrament of reconciliation is not really the time for that. This is the time to ask God’s forgiveness and receive it with joy. If you have a situation in your life where you need guidance, or if you have theological questions, you may want to make an appointment to talk to the priest later.

So, if you made a list, this is the time to share it. Remember a couple of things here – you don’t need to tell the priest the “whole story” of why you were

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T. Gennara

Dear Fr. Joe:

Send your questions to: JoeInBlack@priest.com catechism, you and Jesus just accomplished the following: You’ve reconciled with God and his Church and received his grace. You’ve allowed God to take away the punishments our sins merit, you’ve received the gift of consolation and you’ve been given what you need to fight the good fight of faith!

Second, ask the Holy Spirit to give you the gift of accepting the mercy that has been offered to you.

I often will explain this to people in the sacrament this way: In reconciliation, you are giving Jesus your sins. He is taking those sins with him to the Garden of Gethsemane and then to the cross.

He is killing your sins – and that would be enough to give you joy all of your days.

But he did even more. By rising from the dead, he shows us that all of our sin, all of our guilt were not strong enough to overcome his love.

So, those sins you confessed?

Gone. Not your property anymore.

They belong to God and you can’t have them back. When or if you start to feel guilt again about what you’ve confessed, reject that guilt in the name of Jesus. He took care of it. It’s over.

I personally believe that everyone should go to confession at least once a month. It’s a great gift that the Church offers us and an amazing experience.

Enjoy another day in God’s presence!

Ss. Cosmas and Damian, martyrs September 26 | St. Vincent de Paul, p

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oday my friend told me a little one had asked her, “Did your baby come out of your stomach or on a plane?” It really doesn’t matter how they come. They come. They brighten our lives. They enrich us. They become our purpose and our focus. They keep us busy. Oh, how busy.

For most of us, this parenting thing is a joy – an all consuming joy. Our lives pretty much take on a new dimension when we begin parenting. Everything comes second after taking care of the kids. Going to their sports and activities, being involved in whatever they are involved with, taking care of them, feeding them, doing laundry – the list goes on.

Sometimes we are too tired to enjoy it all or to get it done the way we want.

Sometimes we say or do the wrong thing.

We try so hard to be the parents we feel God wants us to be. It is a tall order.

As our babies grow to toddlers and school-age kids and teens, the joys and frustrations grow too. Dangers become greater as peers replace some of our parental influence. We have to have faith.

We have to pray.

As parents, we give. We give help and caring. We give rides, advice, discipline, faith, money. We give love.

And then, one day, children leave the nest.

Some are going to kindergarten. Some are going to college. Some are just moving out.

The time is here. We knew this day was coming. Yet it feels like BOOM. When my first child got on the school bus for kindergarten, I stood waving and crying. I wasn’t sure I would live. I’m such a baby that way. He never looked back. He was a big boy and he was so excited.

Me? Not so much. I needed to mourn, to wallow in my memories, to focus on all the experiences of raising this child. I was overcome with sadness, emotion and reflection.

When we took our children to college, each time I felt like I was giving birth to them

for the second time. We packed them up.

We unloaded them. We helped them settle in. We made optimistic small talk, both for their sake and for ours. And then we left them.

We are happy for our children when they get old enough to go to school or leave for college or go off on their own. It is what we want for them, after all. But it comes so soon.

We wonder. Was I a good enough parent?

Did I tell them how much I love them?

I remembered all the parents who had told us through the years, “Enjoy those kids.

They grow way too fast.” How true those words were.

Can one ever really prepare for children leaving? Can we prepare for the day they won’t really need us in the same ways anymore?

With those we love we are vulnerable, with our children, the most. We don’t hold back. We love them with inseparable bonds that deepen through years and years of caring.

As we return to our lives after our child leaves, we have new questions. Can I begin to exercise now that I’ll have more time?

Can I finally have time to renew myself spiritually? Can I still get my groove back?

There will be time now - time to reflect; time to grow; time to clean; time to do. Yes, to everything there is a season.

Home is never the same after a child leaves. There is an empty bed and closet.

There is one less plate at the table. There is much more silence.

I have never liked change. I wish I did. I teach how change is good for us. I believe it.

I just don’t like it. It never feels good to me as it is happening.

But, what I do believe and what does feel good is my faith - faith that God will continue to envelope my child with caring and love, even when I am not physically there to do it and faith that God will comfort and guide me with what to do in my new role.

FAITH When you come to the edge of all the light you have known and are about to step out into the darkness, faith is knowing one of two things will happen . . . there will be something to stand on or you will be taught how to fly.

– Jonathan Livingston Seagull

I read and reread this and I feel stronger and peaceful. I know my child and I will both be okay. Even though we are not together as we had been, God is still holding on to us both. The circle remains unbroken.

Maureen Burns is an international professional speaker and author of five books. you may contact her at maureenburns@ maureenburns.com or on her website maureenburns.com

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It is right to give God thanks and praise:

the Eucharistic Prayer

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he Eucharistic Prayer is the center and summit of our entire celebration (GIRM 78). Like many of our traditions, it has its origin in Jewish practices. The leader of the meal would have offered a blessing (barekah) over the bread that praised God, acknowledging his past and present deeds. Over the wine, he’d offer a three-part prayer that would include praise for creation, thanksgiving for salvation history, and petition that God’s saving acts would continue.

Though scholars debate whether or not the Last Supper was a Passover meal, Jesus, too, offered such prayers to his Father. He added an important dimension when he said “… this is my body” and “This is my blood.” Further, he commanded his disciples to “Do this in memory of me.”

The early Christian communities continued to gather in table fellowship and to use traditional prayer forms as they broke bread in memory of the Lord. Most of these prayers were extemporaneous until about the fourth century when texts became fixed in various regions. In the West, they used the term canon (Latin for “rule” or “law”) and in the East, they used the term anaphora (Greek for “lifting up” or “offering”).

By the fourth century, the prayers that made up the Roman Canon became fixed.

The canon was formalized by Gregory the Great (590-604).

It was sung or recited out loud until the ninth century, when it began to be prayed in a low voice. Vatican II restored the practice of the presider saying the prayer out loud so that the assembly might pray as he

leads it.

The Council also expanded our repertoire of canons. Eucharistic Prayer I is the Roman Canon. Eucharistic Prayer II is based on the Apostolic Tradition (attributed to Hippolytus in Rome, 215 AD); Eucharistic Prayer III is a modern composition based on the Mozarabic (Spanish) rite; and Eucharistic Prayer IV is based on Eastern anaphoras, especially from St. Basil and St. John Chrysostom. In 1974, Eucharistic Prayers for Children were developed; they included acclamations that heightened a child’s attentiveness. In 1975, two Eucharistic Prayers for Reconciliation were added. In 1995, the Swiss Synod Prayer or the “Eucharistic Prayer for Masses for Various Needs and Occasions” was added to the official list.

No matter which one is chosen for Mass, each eucharistic prayer has these eight elements (GIRM 79): • Thanksgiving – throughout the prayer, but especially in the Preface, naming what God has done • Acclamations – including the Sanctus and the Memo-

rial Acclamations • Epiclesis – (“a calling upon”) invocation of the Holy Spirit upon the gifts and upon us • Institution Narrative/ Consecration – the Scriptural account of Jesus’ institution of the Eucharist; the words the priest uses to consecrate the bread and wine into the Body and Blood of Christ • Anamnesis – This is not a mere recollection, but a remembering that makes an historic event present here and now • Offering – we offer Christ’s sacrifice with him to the Father, in the Holy Spirit • Intercessions – we pray for the living and the dead, in communion with all the saints • Final Doxology – concluding words of praise offered through, with, and in Christ (per ipsum) to which we add “Amen.”

Soon, you’ll notice significant changes to the translations of our eucharistic prayers. But the structure of the prayers will remain the same. You will still recognize the eight elements listed above. Listen carefully for some new words.

You will hear the word “chalice” instead of “cup.” This links the narrative closer to the ceremonial vessel we use today and to the original Latin word.

The priest will simply say “The mystery of faith.” “Let us proclaim the…” has been omitted since it seemed out of place to suddenly address the

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Rita Thiron is director of the Office of Worship for the Catholic Diocese of Lansing and a member of the board of the Federation of Diocesan Liturgical Commissions.

assembly in the middle of a prayer directed to the Father.

One of our responses – “Christ has died. Christ is risen. Christ will come again.” – will no longer be used. These three declarative sentences are good strong statements about Christ; but they do not match the other responses, which are prayers directed to Christ. In addition, the other responses acknowledge our sharing in Christ’s sacrifice and its fulfillment.

In the words of consecration over the precious blood, you’ll note several changes. The word “everlasting” is replaced by “eternal.” The former refers to something that lasts a long time; the latter describes something for which no measurement of time is possible.

There will be a new translation of pro multis. Where we used to hear “for you and for all so that sins may be forgiven” we will now hear “…poured out for you and for the many for the forgiveness of sins.” Jesus did indeed die to forgive sin and he sacrificed his life so that all may have salvation. Some will freely choose to reject this great gift, so the Holy Father chose the words “for the many.”

As we join in this great prayer of thanksgiving and sanctification, let us be aware that we are offering a sacrifice of praise for all that God has done for us and that we are, once again and still, joining in the great sacrifice of Christ.

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Is God telling you,

‘Enough!’?

ecently, I read an article by Cardinal Francis George of Chicago in which he described, through a friend’s eyewitness account, the bombing of a Catholic Church in Bagdad. Two priests were killed – one at the altar, one coming out of a confessional. Many people were shot down as they tried to escape the brutal massacre.

Cardinal George went on to relate a particularly important incident that occurred that day in the church. A 3-year-old named Adam saw his parents brutally shot in front of him. For three hours, he walked among the bodies saying only one word to the terrorists, “ENOUGH!” At the end of those hours, they shot and killed him.

I don’t think I would be overstating to say that child was like the Christ Child saying to all of us, “Enough!” Enough war and bloodshed, bitterness and envy, jealousy and hatred. Enough anger and envy, un-forgiveness and withholding mercy, lying and cheating. Enough verbal and physical abuse, stealing people’s goods and also their honor and reputation; stop the lust and using others’ bodies to satisfy ourselves. Enough! It is important for all of us to let that word sink into our own minds and hearts and spirits.

When we were baptized, we were brought into the family of God – we actually became the sons and daughters of God. Do we live as though we know who we are or do we live like orphans and aliens with no roots?

I believe God used this child Adam to cry out the truth to us. Stop going down these paths; stop acting as though you don’t know who you are; stop letting yourselves be used as tools of the enemy to sow strife and destruction and death. Enough!

September is a month of new beginnings. Summer is over; cooler weather is on the way; school is starting; crops are being harvested. This is a good time to take stock of our internal and spiritual life. If I were asked to render an account today before God, how would the ledger look? my spouse, friends or coworkers?

• With what do I fill my mind?

Do I read what will inspire and encourage me to do good or do I read about what others have done wrong?

• What part does daily Scripture reading have in my life? What part do good biographies of saints play in my weekly reading?

• Have I developed an attitude of gratitude?

The phrase “an attitude of gratitude” can sound trite, but it is imperative in the negative attitude that pervades our airwaves and print media. Having eyes and ears to give and receive gratitude can destroy the plague of anger, jealousy and envy. Those evil fruits grow out of a negative attitude toward daily life and relationships. We can choose – and it is a choice – to live out of gratitude, thankful that we are children of a God who loves us and gives us His Spirit to guide us daily, hourly and moment to moment. So often we miss the gifts that God lavishly gives us because we are looking “down” instead of “up.” Daily ask the Holy Spirit to give you grace to “see” his loving care for you day in and day out. (I also recommend a book on the New York Times’, best-seller list: A Thousand Gifts by Ann Vosskamp.)

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• Do I seek, where possible, to be a peacemaker, or do I always find fault and “pick” a fight?

• Do my conversations promote peace and hope or do they produce tension, doubt, jealousy and suspicion? Am I more negative or positive in my interactions with others?

• Do I quickly forgive or do I hold grudges?

• Do I share the good things I have with

Sister Ann Shields is a renowned author and a member of the Servants of God’s Love. Questions can be addressed to Sister Ann Shields, Renewal Ministries, 230 Collingwood, Suite 240, Ann Arbor, MI 48103

None of us wants war and bloodshed.

The change has to begin not with nations, but in each person’s heart. As each heart changes, the “climate” begins to change.

Mother Teresa’s life brought enormous social change for her country and for the world. As she would say, “One life at a time.” May it be so with us!

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Gradual introduction of new Mass settings to begin this fall In correspondence with the decision of the USCCB Committee on Divine Worship, Bishop Walter Hurley has given parishes permission to begin introducing the new musical settings of the people’s parts of the Mass from the new Roman Missal this September. The Committee on Divine Worship made the decision in response to requests from several bishops, echoed by the National Advisory Council. “This will be helpful for many parishes so that when the full Missal is implemented on the First Sunday of Advent, congregations will have already become familiar with the prayers that are sung,” Bishop Hurley wrote in a letter to pastors.

Composers have been busy drafting new musical settings or revising familiar melodies to accommodate the changes in phrasing that come from new rules for translating liturgical texts from Latin to the vernacular languages. Most popular Masses, such as “Mass of Creation” have been revised to accommodate the changes however the current phrasing is so engrained in people’s minds that pastoral musicians do not advise the use of the revised settings until the new translations are well known.

Meanwhile, the “Mass of Resurrection” has been selected to be used for diocesan liturgies at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew.

“While parishes will inevitably learn various musical settings that reflect their local style, having one common Mass in our repertoire throughout the diocese will create a sense of unity,” the bishop said.

The Mass of Resurrection was composed by Randall DeBruyn and is published by Oregon Catholic Press (OCP).

Dennis Rybicki, diocesan director of liturgical music, said the Mass was chosen because it is very singable and offers many options for parishes, depending on the availability of musicians and instruments.

“There are great choir parts, but you can also do it with a cantor,” he said. “It’s very accessible to parishes whether they are using organ, piano, or guitar. It also has brass parts, which are important for

confirmation, the chrism Mass and ordinations at the Cathedral.”

The musical parts that are affected by the English Translation of the Third Edition of the Roman Missal are the Gloria, the Holy, Holy and the Memorial Acclamations.

Although the Eucharist can be licitly celebrated with these parts recited, church documents strongly encourage that they be sung at every Mass – even at daily Mass and with small congregations.

“Ideally, the people should know the acclamations by heart and should be able to sing them readily, even without accompaniment,” states “Sing to the Lord: Music in Divine Worship,” the

Roman Missal 2007 document by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.

If the texts are recited at Mass, the current translation from the Sacramentary must be used until Nov. 27, 2011.

The Mass of Resurrection was among a number of compositions that were reviewed at reading sessions at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew to acquaint musicians with the new music. Other popular Mass settings were “Mass of Christ the Savior” by Dan Schutte (OCP) and several compositions offered

by World Library Publications.

Rybicki did observe that the Gloria might be a challenge to some parishes.

The Mass of Resurrection Gloria is “through composed,” meaning there is no refrain.

“Many of the newer Mass settings are in this through composed style,” Rybicki said. “The advantage is that the Gloria is about two minutes shorter which really helps the Opening Rite of the liturgy feel lighter and more balanced. Once parishes adapt to this style of singing the Gloria hymn without repeated refrains, I believe, they will really come to like it.” – Excerpted from the diocesan Office for Worship’s Summer 2011 Zeal and Patience newsletter.

Holy Words for Holy People Regional Gatherings The Offices of Worship and Faith Formation are developing and scheduling one 2 ½ hour session in five different regions of the diocese. These gatherings will target liturgical ministers, catechists and educators and provide excellent experiences of liturgical catechesis on the new Roman Missal. Details may be found below: Upcoming Formation Sessions 7-9 p.m., Thursday, Oct. 6, St. Patrick Parish, Grand Haven 7-9 p.m., Thursday, Oct. 20, Cathedral Square Center, Grand Rapids 7-9 p.m., Tuesday, Oct. 25, St. John Vianney Parish, Wyoming 7-9 p.m., Thursday, Oct 27, St. Charles Parish, Greenville 10 a.m.-Noon, Saturday, Oct. 29, St. Mary Parish, Big Rapids 10 a.m.-Noon, Saturday, Nov. 5, St. Gregory Parish, Hart Registration begins 1/2 hour before each session, which begins promptly at time listed.

To aid in the planning for these sessions, please RSVP your attendance to the Office for Worship, 616.246.0588 or email Jean Kastenholz, jkastenholz@dioceseofgrandrapids.org.

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t started with a text – “Matt, hey, get over here!” Megan Kokx was asking friend Matt O’Callaghan to attend a church youth group meeting.

A reluctant Matt went. He didn’t stay reluctant for long.

Four years and more than 100 youth ministry meetings later, the 17-year-old Ludington teen says he’ll miss the friends he’s made, retreats he’s led and times he’s shared with others who have been a huge part of his life through St. Simon Parish’s youth ministry.

He’s got one more year before he says goodbye and leaves for college. When he does, he takes not only memories, but also – and always – his relationship with God. “Because of the youth ministry, I spend more time with God,” Matt said. “It has strengthened my faith.”

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att is the youngest son of Drs. Tim and Mary O’Callaghan, who moved to Ludington years ago after meeting in medical school.

Tim’s a general practitioner. Mary’s an internist. Matt’s older brothers, Pat and Mike, are students at Michigan State University. Both are preparing for careers in medicine.

Matt will likely go a different route than his parents and siblings. He loves math, especially calculus.

He tore through the honors math courses at Ludington High School, finishing them by his sophomore year. In his junior year, he started taking collegelevel math courses.

“God is in math – in the perfection of it. There is no way [math] could accidentally happen,” Matt said.

Matt’s friends and family find God in Matt.

“He really listens to what people have to say, and it shows when he talks to me and our peers,” longtime friend Megan Kokx said.

His empathy also stands out in his mother Mary’s mind: “Matt does not seem to need accolades and is more gratified when he has been a part of a successful group, especially if someone who usually is not recognized shines. He enjoys … encouraging others to rise up to meet

“I remember being skeptical about the retreat but, by the end, I thought it was awesome.” their own potential.”

Matt’s potential shone at an early age with a penchant for numbers and an aptitude for soccer.

“He had a lot of energy,” Mary said.

Sometimes, his energy would manifest as the class clown – “the class clown with sincere faith,” added Megan’s mom, Emily Kokx, who leads the church youth ministry and is coordinator of faith formation at St. Simon.

“Matt always has been the person to make you smile; he gets along with everyone,” Megan said.

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He’s a little older and a lot taller now and maybe a bit more serious. Big college decisions loom, as they do for most teens Matt’s age.

Just a few short years ago, he was a grade-school student at Ludington Area Catholic School, a close-knit school community tied to St. Simon Parish.

The O’Callaghan family belonged – still does – to St. Simon, where Matt served as an altar server for many years. Faith was – is – the focal point for the family. He remembers his dad always having wisdom in his words and his mom always with the word of God on her lips.

Even though a firm faith foundation was cemented early on, Matt experienced an expansion of faith at his first youth retreat through St. Simon Parish and later during his confirmation.

“I remember being skeptical about the retreat but, by the end, I thought it was awesome. It was just really fun,” Matt said.

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Over the course of the three-day weekend at a retreat center in Onekama, a small town on the shores of Portage Lake not too far from Lake Michigan, 15 or so teen mentors would give talks

to the younger students preparing for confirmation. Faith experiences, dealing with the pressures of high school and how to stay away from drugs and alcohol were some of the topics they covered.

They’d break into even smaller groups for discussion and, later, each student would be paired up with a prayer partner.

“Hearing the older teens talk about how God helped them really helped me,” Matt

Left to right: Bishop Hurley anoints Matt’s head with the oil of chrism during celebration of the rite of confirmation at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew. Matt’s brother Patrick was his confirmation sponsor.

The three O’Callaghan brothers (from left to right: Matt, Michael and Patrick) in their younger years following a successful fishing excursion on Lake Michigan.

Matt’s baptism in 1994 at St. Simon Parish in Ludington. Pictured (from left, back row) are then parish pastor Father Ken Schichtel, Tim and Mary O’Callaghan – Mary is holding Matt. In front (from left) are brothers Patrick and Michael.

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Matt sits outside “The Rock”, the youth ministry center at St. Simon Parish.

said.

The rite of confirmation was a couple of months later at the Cathedral of St. Andrew in downtown Grand Rapids.

“It was a really moving experience,” Matt said. “I remember Bishop Hurley talking about having a lifelong relationship with God – to give God ‘this dance’ for the rest of your life. That really spoke to me.”

Following the 8th grade retreat and confirmation, Matt had a “burst of eagerness to be active in the sharing of the Catholic faith on a greater level in leadership,” Emily

Kokx said.

Matt jumped in and got involved – as a small- and large-group leader and mentor for the youth ministry, and as a Bible camp counselor. He reached out to other youth, not only in local programs, but also at the National Catholic Youth Conference.

He developed ties to other churches in the Ludington area by forging friendships with other teens. Most recently, Matt attended a gathering for the Fellowship of Christian Athletes, where he brought a Catholic perspective.

“Matt makes faith fun,” Mary said. “He likes outings, projects, skits and hanging out at ‘The Rock’ (St. Simon’s youth ministry center).”

The Rock has practically been Matt’s second home these past four years. Every Sunday evening except during the summer, The Rock hosts youth group meetings and events – games, activities, icebreakers and prayer time.

“I’ve met some of my best friends there,” Matt said.

On Sundays from 4 p.m. to 5:30 p.m., the peer ministry team leaders, including Matt, meet to plan programs.

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From 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m., the younger students arrive, and the older teens lead them through discussions and fun activities.

The goal is to build faith and friendships and instill Catholic values in young people at a vulnerable time in life.

“I’ve never had trouble staying out of trouble,” Matt said, “because I have friends who share the same values as me.”

One of Matt’s favorite math teachers, Tom Kudwa, said: “I’ve had the opportunity to observe Matt under conditions of peer pressure and stress. Matt has never blinked on his character one bit. He is a role model for other students. Never would he consider cheating or bending the rules for self gain or to appease others. While the above bodes more about his actions and character, it also attests to his faith and commitment to the word of God. Matt has gone on faith trips with his peers and is willing to stand up and proclaim the good of such endeavors.”

Despite being the stilloccasional class clown, Matt has a quiet side and a calming presence. Friend Megan recalled a time when Matt helped her through a period where she questioned her faith: “He gave me the courage to go to reconciliation and talk to a priest, telling me it was okay not to understand and to ask questions. He really listens ... he makes everyone comfortable and willing to share and talk about their faith.”

Matt’s mother, Mary, recalled how all three sons helped the family cope with the loss of two grandparents in the span of a year: “My husband, Tim, lost his mom over Christmas.

My father died a year-and-ahalf ago. We took Tim’s mom off life support and my dad died at home in hospice. Our sons were so supportive and wonderful through it all – it was unbelievable. They stayed by our

21 God helps to make decisions easier. When things seem difficult, I know I can turn to him.” side when we needed them and times were tough. The love we shared as a family, and our Catholic faith, carried us through these challenging times. I remember Matt reassuring me that my dad was with the Lord, and when he said it, I knew it was true.”

This summer just past, Matt helped out again at Bible camp. “He especially enjoys joining with his friends in helping little ones to explore their faith,” Mary said.

In June, he participated in “work week” in which St. Simon youth get out into the community and do projects for those in need. He also spent the summer helping his parents at their medical practice by cleaning offices and doing other tasks.

At church, he’s “graduated” from altar server to usher.

Matt’s final year of high school will be spent much as the first three – playing mid-defensive for the high school soccer team and a community recreational league, participating on the high school’s Quiz Bowl team, taking more math classes at the local community college and, of course, being an active member of St. Simon Youth Ministry. In November, participants will travel to Indianapolis for the biennial National Catholic Youth Conference (see sidebar for details on this year’s conference).

“I went two years ago to the one in Kansas City – it was great – and I’m really excited for this next one,” Matt said.

Most important, Matt will be discerning where to attend college. He’s looking at MIT, the University of Michigan and – of course – Michigan State University. He’s doing a lot of reflecting, and putting much of the decision in the Lord’s hands.

“God helps to make decisions easier,” Matt said. “When things seem difficult, I know I can turn to him.”

The O’Callaghan family at home, (from left) Michael, Tim, Mary and Matt. Patrick, who is away at school, is not pictured.

National Catholic Youth Conference Indianapolis Nov. 17-19, 2011 What is the National Catholic Youth Conference (NCYC)?

The National Catholic Youth Conference is an exciting, biennial three-day experience of prayer, community and empowerment for Catholic teenagers and their adult chaperones. The schedule includes keynote addresses, concurrent and workshop sessions addressing a wide variety of topics. There also are opportunities for liturgy, reconciliation, prayer and worship, recreation and special activities such as concerts, exhibits and the interactive thematic park.

Who attends NCYC? NCYC is open to high school age young people and their chaperones. Most participants are Catholic. Many youth participants are leaders in their local parishes, schools and/ or diocese, though many are just beginning to connect to their faith. Some attendees may have participated in previous national or international events such as the World Youth Day. Many are experiencing this type of gathering for the first time.

NFCYM requires that chaperones be 21 years or older. The diocesan group must have at least two chaperones for the first one to ten youth and one additional adult for each additional one to six youth.

Who sponsors NCYC? The National Federation for Catholic Youth Ministry (NFCYM) sponsors NCYC. What is National Federation for Catholic Youth Ministry (NFCYM)?

Located in Washington, D.C., and led by an energetic and creative national staff, the National Federation for Catholic Youth Ministry is a membership organization working on behalf of youth and diocesan youth ministry leadership across the country and on U.S. military bases in Europe. Members include 95 percent of all Catholic dioceses, the National Catholic Committee on Girl Scouts and Camp Fire, and 50 youth-serving organizations.

Source: National Catholic Youth Conference, http://ncyc.nfcym.org/index.htm

Information on diocesan youth programs: Family, Youth and Young Adults Mark Mann, director 360 Division Avenue S. Grand Rapids, MI 49503-4501 Phone: 616.475.1243, Fax: 616.551.5638 Email: mmann@dioceseofgrandrapids.org

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Jeff talks with a West Catholic High School classmate

Living his faith

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t 16, Jeff Ford is not one to talk up his Catholic faith.

He’s too busy living it.

During his freshman and sophomore years at West Catholic, he logged 86 and 194 service hours, more than four times the school’s requirement.

He sings at Mass on Sundays at his parish, St. Anthony of Padua in Grand Rapids, where he helped direct a play for middle-school students and participates in youth ministry.

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Jeff, who plays varsity soccer for West Catholic, scrambles for possession of the ball.

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At West Catholic, Jeff is a part of the Life Force team, student leaders who coordinate Catholics in Action.

Catholics in Action is a club for West Catholic students hoping to deepen their Catholic faith.

“I would say Jeff is one of the most well-rounded students at West Catholic who embraces all of the things we hold in high esteem,” says Cathy Pearce, a West Catholic religion teacher who has known Jeff since his elementary-school days.

The Life Force team is a leadership group that meets Sunday nights and participates in an annual retreat. “Life Force is a fun way to connect with God,” says Jeff. The year culminates with a retreat that includes testimonies, talks (last year they brought in a Dallas Cowboys quarterback), eucharistic adoration and the rosary.

Life Force leads a larger group at West Catholic called Catholics in Action. Every Friday, students meet during lunch hour. They eat, play games and a student gives a 10-minute faith talk.

Life Force and Catholics in Action provide a place where students who want to deepen their spirituality and faith can support each other.

The group enriches me every time when I get to go and hear these kids getting up and witnessing to their faith,” says Cathy.

For one talk, Jeff recalls telling his classmates about an incident at work, when two employees fought over a headset. It felt awkward to be around them. In contrast, “when people are being nice, you feel welcome and you feel God’s presence.”

“As far as his faith goes, it’s very deep. He lives it in a real manner,” she said. “He’s happy, care-free. He’s the kind of young man that’s happy in his own skin.”

That was evident during an interview on a recent Sunday in his Grand Rapids’ home.

Born April 12, 1995, Jeff is the middle child of Rob and Shelly Ford. He has an older brother, Chris, 17, and a younger sister, Cassie, 13.

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The Ford Family left to right: Chris, Cassie, Jeff, Shelly and Rob

He’s truly grown spiritually and his confidence has grown. I’m just excited to see him step forward – say, ‘Yes, Lord, I’m your faithful servant.’”

The family attends Mass weekly at St. Anthony, where all three kids have attended grade school. The faith foundation instilled by his parents and grandparents has provided an anchor for Jeff as he has faced the challenges of high school and peer pressure.

“I try to make my decisions based on what Jesus would do,” says Jeff. He admits that can be hard at times.

This summer, he joined about 20 parish youth ministry members on a mission trip to Queens, N.Y., where they helped to run a camp for inner-city youth.

Jeff also finds time to play varsity soccer, work part-time at a local restaurant and participate in theater, chorus and band at

West Catholic.

Another way Jeff expresses his faith is through music.

Last spring, he played trumpet as part of the West Catholic band that traveled to Italy and performed for Pope Benedict XVI. He performed in the chorus as part of West Catholic’s production of “Godspell,” and sings in choir at his parish on Sundays.

“Singing is a better way for me to connect with God than sitting in church,” he said.

Cathy said she is excited to see Jeff step up as a leader in Life Force next school year. “He’s truly grown spiritually and his confidence has grown,” she said.

“I’m just excited to see him step forward – say, `Yes, Lord, I’m your faithful servant.’”

Growing in faith is earnestly setting out on the journey to the God we have come to love and who loves us eternally. God walks with us and blesses us with others who help show us the way.

The mission of the Catholic Schools in our diocese and the Office of Faith Formation is to educate and form the total person in the mystery of Christ and the Church.

The Office of Catholic Schools assists the Catholic schools in the diocese to share in the teaching ministry of Jesus and the Church. Rooted in Gospel values, Catholic schools work to develop a faith community, to preserve and teach doctrines and traditions of the Catholic faith, and to provide a learning environment which fosters academic excellence.

For information about faith formation, contact: Sr. Barbara Cline, FSE, director of the Office of Catechesis Phone: 616-551-4742 Fax: 616-551-4744 Email: bcline@dioceseofgrandrapids.org For information about Catholic schools, contact: Mr. David Faber, superintendent of Diocesan Catholic Schools Phone: 616-233-5975 Fax: 616-551-5641 Email: dfaber@dioceseofgrandrapids.org Catholic High Schools in the Diocese of Grand Rapids • Catholic Central High School, Grand Rapids: http://www.grcatholiccentral.com/grcs/cchs/ • Muskegon Catholic Central, Muskegon: http://muskegoncatholic.org/ • St. Patrick School, Portland: http://www.portlandstpats.com/ • West Catholic High School, Grand Rapids: http://www.grwestcatholic.org/grcs/wchs/ For a list of all the Catholic schools in the Diocese of Grand Rapids, please visit http:// www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org/our_diocese/ schools/Pages/Schools.aspx.

FAITH Grand Rapids / September 2011 / www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org | www.FAITHgrandrapids.org

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ArtPrize at Cathedral Square Exhibition Center

• Would you like easy access to ArtPrize?

• Interested in FREE parking?

• Make your ArtPrize experience stress free and start at Cathedral Square!

Join us at the Cathedral Square Exhibition Center September 21 through October 9 for the third annual

Events at Cathedral Square Exhibition Center ArtPrize has several exciting things happening daily from September 21-October 9. “Like” ArtPrize at Cathedral Square on facebook to get daily updates on information about our artists and events!

ArtPrize Opening Night Cathedral Square Center Gallery 2nd Floor Wednesday, September 21, 6:00 p.m.- 10:00 p.m.

Come view art and meet Christ LaPorte!

ArtPrize Celebration. ArtPrize is an international art contest throughout the city of Grand Rapids, Michigan.

The diocese is proud to host ArtPrize at Cathedral Square which includes Piazza Secchia, Wege Gardens, Keeler Plaza, Catholic Information Center, the Cathedral of Saint Andrew and the Cathedral Square Center Gallery.

Thirty-two artists, from the United

Budding Artists Room for our young future artists to come and create a piece to hang at Cathedral Square during ArtPrize 2011! Room open to public during gallery hours.

Slow Art: Lunch with artist Rick Beerhorst at the Catholic Information Center Thursday, September 22 11:00 p.m.- 1:00 p.m.

RSVP at 616.243.5014 Reception: Meet the Artists Cathedral Square Center Gallery 2nd Floor Friday, September 23, 6:00 p.m.- 9:00 p.m.

local news States and Canada, will display a wide variety of pieces indoors and out. One of our artists is the 2010 ArtPrize Grand Prize Winner Chris LaPorte!

Come meet Chris opening night, September 21 from 6:00-8:30 p.m. and talk with him about his new 2011 ArtPrize piece titled Funeral.

ArtPrize at Cathedral Square is located at the corner of Division and Wealthy in the Heartside District of Grand Rapids. Our Exhibition Center has art for all ages and eyes. It is truly a family friendly exhibit with a drawing room for the kids! Staff and volunteers will be on hand to help voting registration go quickly and smoothly. So why not START your ArtPrize at the Cathedral Square Exhibition Center. FREE parking, an inviting space, and some of the best artwork in ArtPrize 2011!

Aquinas Alumni Reception at Catholic Information Center Sponsored by Aquinas College Alumni Association Cathedral Square Center Gallery 2nd floor Friday, September 23, 6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.

Church Walk with LaGrave CRC, Westminister Presbyterian, and the Cathedral of Saint Andrew Monday, September 26, Begins at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew 7:00 p.m. -9:00 p.m.

Education Days Tuesday, September 27, and October 4, 8:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m. (registration required/ artprize@dioceseof grandrapids.org)

A Meditative Walk: Poetry and the Natural World with Linda Nemec Foster Tuesday, September 27, 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

Slow Art: Lunch with artist Gregory Roll at the Catholic Information Center Thursday, September 29, 11:00 a.m. -1:00 p.m.

RSVP at 616.243.5014 Art for Christ’s Sake with Fr. Marcos Zamora Wednesday, October 5, 7:00 p.m. - 8:45 p.m.

RSVP at 616.243.5014 Saint Andrew Cathedral Tours Wednesday, September 21, – Sunday, October 2, Monday-Friday 1:00 p.m. -7:00 p.m.

Sundays 2:00 p.m. -5:00 p.m.

Would you like to be part of ArtPrize? Enjoy Volunteering? Come and join the ArtPrize at Cathedral Square Volunteer Team! If interested please contact us at: artprize@dioceseofgrandrapids.org or call 219-309-5483.

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You could be anyw ...why DYMO? In her words…

DYMO is the one place where I am always accepted for who I am and what I do. Other people in the world will look down on you for yelling loud or acting crazy; it’s not that way at DYMO. In your youth sometimes it may be hard to make friends. DYMO is the first time I have a lot of friends. I know everyone’s name at DYMO. Everyone loves each other. They give hugs and say hello and good morning. It’s a family here. I choose to come back and see my family every year.

DYMO helps me connect the dots between my “regular” life and my “church” life. I would say there used to be a separation between the two. I went to youth ministry and sang at Masses. I had friends at school and there was a difference. At DYMO I have learned to put God into everything I do. Each day at camp you take an aspect of your life – yourself, your relationships with God and with the community as a whole – and learn how God connects each one of those things. I started to see God in all the little things I do in my daily life, such as brushing my teeth and saying” hi” to people on the street. I see the world in a different way than I ever did before. This definitely happened to me because of DYMO.

daughter Maggie Timmer tie Timmer of Jeff and Mat rtland – St Patrick, Po

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In his words…

DYMO has the best people in the world. At DYMO, you learn more about your faith, yourself and other people. You create bonds that a last a really long time. I have been coming here since my freshman year, four years ago. I have very good friends that I made all those years ago.

The connection between my “regular” life and “church” life wasn’t much of a stretch for me. I do a lot with theater and most people in theater seem to be spiritually oriented. We gather before each performance and pray for a good show. We pray to break a leg – not figuratively, though. It really hasn’t been a big struggle for me to bring both aspects of my life together. DYMO helps me grow in my faith, which shows up in my life.

For over 40 years DYMO camp has been offering an experience of Christian community. It is a gift to the diocese as DYMO alumni now serve in church leadership as youth ministry coordinator, directors of religious education, music ministry leaders and Catholic school teachers.

– Mark Mann diocesan director of family, youth and young adult ministry.

FAITH Grand Rapids / September 2011 / www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org | www.FAITHgrandrapids.org

Scott Herdege n son of Joseph and D ebbie Herdege n – St Robert N ew Minister

For more information, visit dymo.org

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where this week... ...why work camp?

Alexis Hartm an 17, daughte r of Bruce and Jennifer Hartm an - Saint John Vianney

In her words…

The total experience of giving back in the name of Christ, the good feeling of helping out the poor and elderly… makes young people excited year after year.

– Scott Lillie community outreach director Catholic Charities West Michigan

In his words…

This is my first work camp.

My church inspired me to go and I have an older brother who went to work camp and he had a great experience. Work camp is a great time to get out and help the community.

Helping others is a big part of the Church. Seeing people smile and making them happy are what I look forward to during work camp. I also look forward to meeting people from all over the country and making new friends.

Nick Baker 15 son of Bruce and Lisa Baker – Saint Sebastian

Work camp at St John Vianney always has been a really big deal. I listened to stories from older friends and parents who had gone on work camp trips before and always wanted to go. I have never not thought about it.

This is my fourth work camp. It is the best week of the summer. I am blessed to meet new people from different states and the residents of the homes we work on. I make new friends in devotional time. It’s the atmosphere I love.

I get so much out of it. It’s why I go every year.

Growing up with a strong faith, I was taught you always give to the poor and work for the needy. I never questioned that we shouldn’t be doing it. It’s been embedded in me since I was young. As I really grow to understand my faith it means so much more to me.

Some of the challenges at work camp are during devotional time. Devotional time takes place every evening. It’s a time for parish groups to grow in faith together. It’s hard sometimes to make everyone feel comfortable and want to share. Some people are shy and it’s hard for them to bring out what they want to say and feel.

The most meaningful time at work camp is Friday night, when all the residents whose houses get worked on come and join us for dinner. It’s a special time to see how we touch the lives of the residents and how they touch our lives. It’s nice to hear how the week went for other work crews.

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ourcommunity local news Wedding anniversary Mass Together with your families, the Church in the Diocese of Grand Rapids honors the faithful witness to your vocation of marriage and wishes to celebrate with you. Bishop Hurley is inviting all couples celebrating anniversaries of 25, 30, 40, 50, 60 or more years to join him on Sunday, Oct. 2 at the 10 a.m. Mass at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew (265 Sheldon Blvd., Grand Rapids). A simple reception will immediately follow. Please RSVP by calling your parish office.

Bishop Hurley announces the following: Very Reverend Edward A. Hankiewicz is appointed pastor of St. Mary Parish, Lowell while continuing as Judicial Vicar at the Diocesan Tribunal, effective September 14, 2011. In addition to these responsibilities, it is anticipated that St. Anthony Parish, Saranac will also become Father Hankiewicz’s responsibility as the Our Faith, Our Future recommendations move towards implementation.

Reverend Aaron R. Ferris is appointed canonical administrator of Sacred Heart of Jesus Parish, Grand Rapids, effective September 14, 2011.

Misa de Aniversario de Bodas Unidos a sus familiares, la Iglesia de la Diócesis de Grand Rapids honra el fiel testimonio de su vocación matrimonial y desea celebrarlo con ustedes. El Obispo Hurley esta invitando a todas las parejas que están celebrando el 25, 30, 40, 50, 60 aniversarios de bodas ó más años para que se unan a él, Domingo, 2 de Octubre a las 10:00 a.m. para una Misa en la Catedral de San Andrés (265 Sheldon Blvd., Grand Rapids).

Una pequeña recepción tendrá lugar inmediatamente después de la misa. Por favor confirme su asistencia (RSVP) llamando a la oficina parroquial o llenando y enviando el formulario de abajo.

Retrouvaille weekend offers opportunity for marital healing

Blessing of Musicians

Retrouvaille is a peer ministry for couples experiencing discord or pain who want to rediscover a loving marriage relationship.

Couples considering separation, those who have separated, and divorced couples who want marriage help are invited to participate.

No couple will be denied the opportunity to participate based on financial restrictions.

To register for the fall weekend of Sept. 16-18, contact Dan and Susan Wolf at 616.752.7004 or by e-mail accept2love@ live.com. Additional information about Retrouvaille is available at www.helpourmarriage.com

Wednesday, September 14, 2011, 7:00 pm All pastoral musicians (directors, cantors, choir members, instrumentalists) throughout the diocese are invited to Evening Prayer and Blessing on September 14 at 7 p.m. at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew (265 Sheldon SE, Grand Rapids, 49503). Following Evening Prayer, there will be refreshments and fellowship on the Piazza Secchia. For additional information, contact Dennis Rybicki, diocesan director of Liturgical Music, 616-481-4583 or by email, drybicki@dioceseofgrandrapids.org.

FAITH Grand Rapids / September 2011 / www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org | www.FAITHgrandrapids.org

CIC programs for spiritual growth The Catholic Information Center (CIC) is offering a variety programs for Catholics and others seeking to learn more about Catholic belief, practice and other faith issues.

To register, or for more information, call 459.7267, ext. 1801 or go to catholicinformationcenter.org.

The Festival Scrolls

Mondays, October 3, 10, 17, 24 and 31, 7:00 p.m.8:45 p.m.

Presented by Fr. Tom Tavella, CSP The books of Ruth, Song of Songs, Ecclesiastes, Lamentations and Esther form a collection in the Hebrew Scriptures called the 5 Festival scrolls (Megillot) which are used as a lectionary for 5 of the great festivals in the Jewish liturgical year. This five-week course will examine each of these books and their use in the Jewish festival liturgies.

Ser Católico! Lo básico de la Fe Católica

Martes, Octubre 4 - Octubre 25, 6:30 p.m.-8:30 p.m., en el Centro de Información Católica Presentado por el Padre Marcos Zamora, C.S.P. Este curso de cuatro semanas está programado para enseñar lo que quiere decir ser Católico: Credo, Sacramentos y Tradiciones. Las sesiones están dirigidas especialmente para adultos a quienes les faltan algunos sacramentos y para catequistas de niños. CFD: Contenido 4 de Oct 11 de Oct 18 de Oct 25 de Oct

semana 1 Jesucristo y la Iglesia Católica (Misa) semana 2 Los Sacramentos semana 3 Historia y Enseñanzas semana 4 La Biblia y moralidad

Walking with Matthew the Evangelist

Tuesday, October 11, 10:00 a.m.-11:30 a.m.

Or Wednesday, October 12, 7:00 p.m.-8:45 p.m.

Presented by Paulist Seminarian Jimmy Hsu, CSP What was it like to walk with Jesus through his ministry? To hear what his disciples heard? To see what they saw? In the Gospel of Matthew, modern day disciples are given a window into the life and ministry, the message of the one called Christ. This class will examine the background, nuances and theological themes found in the gospels as written by St. Matthew. Each session will include both a presentation on the gospel and directed discussions.

The Empty Nest: Living with Meaning through Change

Thursday, October 13, 10:00 a.m.-11:45 a.m. OR 7:00 p.m. – 8:45 p.m.

Presented by Judy Hahn (Catholic Charities West Michigan) When our daughters and sons leave home for college, for marriage, or for vocational choices, parents enter new uncharted territories which often change the way life looks.

During our time together we will explore what may happen

on this journey from the known roles of raising and parenting children into new ways of relating to oneself, to one’s marriage, and to one’s adult children. Through input and the sharing of experiences, this important stage of growth for parents and children will be discussed in order to better understand not only the pitfalls but more importantly the emotional, relational, and spiritual gifts discovered during this season of change.

Catholic Health Care: Sustaining the Ministry in an Era of Change and Uncertainty Monday, October 17 and 24, 7:00 p.m.-8:45 p.m.

Presented by Sr Myra Bergman, RSM The moral and ethical challenges associated with modern health care are becoming more complex. Health care reform adds yet another layer of challenges and opportunities. This two part series will address the role of Catholic health care in the overall healing mission of the Church.

10/17: Current issues (e.g., increasingly high costs and access to health care) which impact the ability of Catholic health care to sustain its identity and integrity.

10/24: Contraception, sterilization, withholding and withdrawing of life sustaining treatments, advance directives, and medically assisted nutrition and hydration, are just a few of the moral challenges faced daily in Catholic hospitals. How do these facilities comply with Catholic moral teaching? How do they deal with the diversity of faith, beliefs and values of the patients and professionals providing the services?

Building Interfaith Friendships: Mosque Tour

Tuesday, October, 18, 6:30 p.m.- 9:15 p.m.

(Hosted at the Islamic Center of West Michigan/Masjid of Grand Rapids, 1301 Burton St SE Grand Rapids Michigan 49507, www.islamiccentergr.org ) In October 2010, people of many faiths gathered at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew to discuss the problem of anti-Muslim sentiment in West Michigan. In February 2011, another such event was held at the Islamic Mosque and Religious Institute.

Now the Islamic Center of West Michigan is hosting a similar gathering. This evening will include a tour of the Mosque, an explanation of its architecture and design, the opportunity to watch prayers, offer more information about Islam and will provide small group interfaith dialogue. Since much of the program will be held in the prayer hall, participants are asked to dress appropriately: long sleeved shirts and long pants or skirts. Women are asked to bring head scarves to wear in the prayer hall. Some scarves may be available in case you forget.

This program is co-sponsored by the CIC; Bosnian Cultural Center; Grand Rapids Area Center for Ecumenism (GRACE); ICC Behar; Interfaith Dialogue Association (IDA); Islamic Center and Mosque of Grand Rapids; and Islamic Mosque and Religious Institute.

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open to God’s call

Contemplating my treasure

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ast month my parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. It was an opportunity for their family and friends to gather and congratulate them on 50 years of marriage. The reception my sisters and I planned for them turned out to be a time of laughter and celebration as vignettes from my mom and dad’s courtship to the present day were recounted by guest after guest. It was wonderful to be gathered Ray and Nancy Hutchinson, married with all my family, as well as our family friends, to celebrate August 12, 1961 the intersection of all our lives made possible by my parents’ marriage on Aug. 12, 1961. The days leading up to the party, as well as the days following, gave me the opportunity to reflect on how important my family is to me.

It was in my family that my faith and my vocation were nurtured. I don’t want you to think that I came from the type of home where we only read the Bible and were kneeling together in prayer every evening.

Not that anything would have been wrong with such an upbringing. But that wasn’t my family. We never missed Mass each weekend, even if we were on vacation. I attended religious education classes through high school. I was an altar server until I graduated from high school. I sang in various ensembles and choirs at Mass. And I even thought about going to high school seminary, but we didn’t talk about our faith all the time, nor did I feel it was something that I was being forced to do. It was just who we were.

We also fought, teased each other, and faced difficulties individually and as a family. In other words, my family was, and is a very normal family.

We are a family who loves each other fiercely and we are all strong willed; both of which can lead to strong opinions that get strongly worded at times. Needless to say, some of us are more opinionated and strong willed than others, but that is what makes being a family interesting. If it were easy, it wouldn’t be special. Like diamonds, my family’s beauty has been forged by all the forces good, bad, and otherwise – that we have faced ... together.

I guess what I am trying to say is that from the outside (and the inside) no one would have thought that I was going to end up being ordained to the priesthood.

But at the same time, no one I have known from my childhood is shocked that I am a priest either.

When I take to time to reflect upon it, it is was my family and my upbringing that gave me the inner strength to respond to God’s call to be a priest. And it is my family that gives me the inner strength to keep responding to God’s call to give my life in service to God and God’s people.

Yes, at times, I take my family for granted by being a workaholic who is always saying yes to ministry and therefore becoming less and less available for family.

But it is my family’s unconditional love, support and understanding that allow me to generously give of my time to my priestly ministry. However, it is important for me to have balance in my life, which I admit I do not have at this point in my life. I regret that it is always my family and friends who are at the bottom of the list.

It is not my preference that I make time for everything and everyone else ahead of them. Many Catholics may think that this is just one of the acceptable hazards of priestly ministry, but I don’t believe it should be the case. I find myself at a place

in my life where I am starting to recognize the mistakes I have made in maintaining balance in my life, and I want the coming years of my priestly ministry to reflect a greater commitment to my family and friends, so that I don’t continually feel as if I am apologizing for not being available to the people who first supported my response to God’s call to priesthood.

Like all big moments in one’s life, my parent’s anniversary has caused me to take stock of my blessings. I am truly blessed to have such supportive and loving parents who are not half as proud of me as I am of them. I am blessed to have two wonderfuly encouraging sisters who are married to great guys. I am blessed to have two incredible nieces and two incredible nephews who keep me energized for the future. I am blessed that every one of them has only wanted me to find the path that God has intended for me and then to follow that path unreservedly. I may not always say it or show it, but my family is my greatest blessing and I give thanks for them each and every time that I sit down to pray.

Father Ron Hutchinson is director of priestly vocations for the Catholic Diocese of Grand Rapids. Contact Father Hutchinson at, rhutchinson@dioceseofgrandrapids.org.

FAITH Grand Rapids / September 2011 / www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org | www.FAITHgrandrapids.org

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Sept.

“We Remember, We Celebrate, We Believe” 24 will bring parish catechetical leaders, catechists, school teachers, parish youth ministry leaders and volunteers, adult faith formation leaders, RCIA teams, parish liturgical and music ministry leaders together for the 28th annual Catechetical Conference.

SEPT 20: REGISTRATION DEADLINE Time: 8:15 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Place: West Catholic High School Keynote: Dr. Carole Eipers Mass: 4:20 p.m., Bishop Walter A. Hurley presiding For additional information or a brochure and registration form, contact Jean Kastenholz, jkastenholz@dioceseofgrandrapids.org 616.246.0588.

Diocesan Men’s Conference

Oct.

Hospitality: 9 a.m., Wege Conference Center at 15 Cathedral Square Prayer: 9:30 a.m., Keynote : 10 a.m., Mike Patan For additional information, please contact Mark Mann at mmann@ dioceseofgrandrapids.org or call 616.475.1243.

Rachel’s Vineyard Retreat

Oct.

Peace starts here - healing the wounds of abortion. This 28-30 weekend retreat is designed for women and men and is a beautiful opportunity for any person who has struggled with the emotional or spiritual pain of an abortion. Retreat sponsored

by Project Rachel. For more information or to register, call 616.340.1824, 800.800.8284 or e-mail mwalsh@ ccwestmi.org. ALL inquiries are strictly confidential.

last word

Back to school

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here’s always a special energy crackling in the air this time of year. It’s generated by all the school kids getting back to their classrooms after the long summer break. There are many who try to get in on the act, from stores selling school supplies and clothes, to parents puzzling out the latest electronic gadgetry that becomes a “must” for the season.

Truth to tell, it’s more than the buzz over all these “things” that captivate so many. It’s the prospect of reuniting with old friends after the summer separation. It’s the thrill and apprehension of meeting new faces. It’s the mystery of unfamiliar subjects to study, and the challenge of a new set of teachers, some with fearsome reputations and others totally untried.

After all the anticipation, real learning will eventually take place; and, for more than a few, it will prove to be an enjoyable and thrilling experience.

Some will savor for a lifetime the special joy that comes from acquiring new knowledge.

Skills do get rusty, and information falls out of date all too quickly. No matter what the field of human experience, there are constantly new developments to keep up with. That’s why, over the last 30 years, the Diocese of Grand Rapids has had a “refresher program” for its clergy. In the autumn of every year, the clergy are invited to a conference, usually up North, away from their places of pastoral service, to listen to experienced teachers and leaders in some aspect of the Christian life and to discuss the best ways of serving God’s people. There is always more to know about God and the ways

of God; about Jesus and his mission among us; about his community, the Church in which we serve; about the ways in which we can better our service and enrich the life of our communities and not weaken it.

So off we go, the bishops and clergy of the diocese, to our own refresher courses for a few days away. Not quite “back to school,” but definitely back to learning, and to prayer and fellowship together.

Msgr. Gaspar F. Ancona is a senior priest of the Catholic Diocese of Grand Rapids.

360 Division Avenue S. Grand Rapids, MI 49503-4539 online: www.dioceseofgrandrapids.org www.FAITHgrandrapids.org

Honor and Remember September 11 Join us as we honor the courage and commitment of our military and local police, fire and EMS responders, forever remembering the lives lost in the terrorist attack of September 11.

Sunday, September 11 7:15 a.m.

Boy Scout Salute begins, Gerald R. Ford Museum

8:46 a.m.

9-11 Remembrance Program, Gerald R. Ford Museum

1:30 p.m.

Gathering at the Cathedral of Saint Andrew

2:00 p.m.

Interfaith service, Cathedral Square

3:00 p.m.

Blessing of the vehicles and start of walk

4:00 p.m.

Heroes Honor Program, Gerald R. Ford Museum

8:00 p.m.

Sunset Salute candlelight vigil, Gerald R. Ford Museum

A detailed list of activities can be found at http://tinyurl.com/3o9calm

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