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first words It’s graduation season and with it comes many emotions — pride, nostalgia, anticipation and nervousness. And for some, just a touch of despair. Those would be the people who have long since graduated and have sat through dozens of such ceremonies, and now face yet another perfectly good evening taken up by speeches, caps and gowns. Let’s be blunt, graduates: As you sit through more ceremonies in the coming years, that raw graduation enthusiasm will wane. Take the speeches. As many graduation speakers have wondered, how many different ways are there to say, “Congratulations, graduates,” or “You finally made it after all these years of studying”? These oratories float the standard clichés: Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, Never give up, Be true to yourself, Reach for the stars, Give it your all, Never forget (insert event, teacher, school, or important moral value here), and so on. These sentiments are more impressive the first time you hear them than the 51st. So what powerful force impels us to keep coming back for it, relative after relative? For starters, despite the difficulty of coming up with a new way to say it, graduating from high school is a significant event. Otherwise, we would just kick the kids out the door and say, “OK, you’re done, good luck
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with the rest of your life.” We need a ceremony of some kind. One reason graduating from high school is significant is that it takes an immense amount of work; thousands of mornings for parents to get children up, dressed, fed and on the bus; thousands of hours of homework; thousands of dollars to pay for it all. Sadly, some kids don’t have the support they need to get all this work done, and not everyone graduates. But graduation is a time to tell those students who did make it that we are proud of what they’ve done, that we admire them for sticking with it, that we expect them to be grateful for the help we have given them along the way.
Despite the sunny optimism of many of the ceremonies, not all graduates will reach the stars, or even do well. Life is tough. That’s another reason to hold a big ceremony. It’s a time for us to tell the students that their success matters to us and that we wish them the best as they start life as adults. By celebrating, we also affirm important values we hold as a community — that education is important, that ignorance is dangerous. We believe that literacy and knowledge give power. Children who learn history better understand their own time. Children who learn to read can teach themselves even more. Children who learn science can help us live better while, we hope, making the planet flourish. While education isn’t a magic pill that makes people nice to others, it is a tool they can use to be better citizens and neighbors. By showing up to celebrate, we help communicate these values, at least on some level, to the young people who are graduating. So yes, it is worth taking the time to attend that graduation ceremony, celebrating the students with speeches and ceremony, high fives and hugs. A hearty congratulations, class of 2014! We wish you the best.
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SUPPORTING OUR TEACHERS A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE Mr. BC Special to I Love Rutland
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To all my teaching friends I wish we paid you
That’s right. Let’s give teachers $3.00 an hour and only the hours they worked; not any of that silly planning time, or any time they spend before or after school. That would be $19.50 a day (7:45 to 3:00 PM with 45 min. off for lunch and planning -- that equals 6-1/2 hours). So each parent should pay $19.50 a day for these teachers to baby-sit their children. Now how many students do they teach in a day...maybe 30? So that’s $19.50 x 30 = $585 a day. However, remember they only work 180 days a year!!! I am not going to pay them for any vacations. That’s $585 X 180= $105,300 per year. What about those special education teachers and the ones with Master’s degrees? Well, we could pay them minimum wage ($10.25),$10.25 X 6-1/2 hours X 30 children X 180 days = $359775.00 per year.
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PRIDE IT’S IN ALL OF US!
When I look around this tight knit community we call Rutland I see and feel a lot of different emotions. Pride, grit, industriousness, hopeful and friendly. Yes, Rutland does receive some bad press due to some of the things that happen but at the end of the day each community endures troubles of their own.
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Put some potted plants in front of your business during business hours. When your business looks spruced up, it makes the entire community look better as well.
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Getting to know the people and the businesses has shown me the reality of Rutland...they are a “proud, loyal, genuine and hard-working community”.
Join us when we host the local events: we have a Chili Cook Off on June 8th at Blue Sky @ Black Mountain, a Classic Car Show August 16th, Scarecrow October 5th and Christmas Light Up Dec 7th. They all have free admission and activities for everyone to enjoy.
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I love coming to work each day because I know the people I work with and for are here because they want to be here.
Look for opportunities to give in your community. Volunteering at events in our area gives your business added exposure and it also makes you feel good!
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Over the next year you will continue to see positive things happening in Rutland. It’s a place we are proud to work, live and play in. We need to show the rest of the world what we see and feel each and every day, and that is optimism and growth.
Do your part by contributing to the community via Sponsorship. When you do this, you add people to your circle of influence and gain opportunities to network; then more people will know about you and your business.
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We have an election coming up in November: write a letter or email the candidates encouraging them to make sound decisions for Rutland. They will be looking for your support and your input is important for them to hear.
When I took this job last March I was anxious and excited at the same time. I was scared because I didn’t know the players or what made Rutland unique in a positive way. Like most of the Okanagan, all I heard was the bad.
I know some people don’t like change or feel it’s going to make things worse. Check out this statement I read recently. “Growth requires Change and Change creates Growth.” When I saw it I thought of Rutland. I am here to increase exposure for the retailers, motivate other businesses to join us, encourage young families to begin their lives here and provide space and opportunities for UBCO students. I can’t do it alone so here are some things I would like each of you to do: •
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Rutland has a recipe for success because it is rich with history and residents who started here and are still here. Their children live here or came back and are showing the next generation what pride is all about.
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A TIME FOR REFLECTION Riley Dickson, Savannah Fredrick and Phillip Schrod Special to I Love Rutland
“Today is the oldest you have ever been and the youngest you will ever be”. This year at RSS we have ventured through a marathon of excitement, adventure and growth. Walking through the front doors as a senior, the final stretch approaching, the weight of the future bearing down, the graduates are here at RSS to make the best of it all. The beginning of the year was full of excitement and the rekindling of friendships lost over the summer. Readily getting back into the classroom, seniors began to settle in and focus on the pivotal year ahead. Although being a senior does have its pressures, it also has its perks such as the legendary Crystal Ball and the classic end of the year Prom. All the events of the year lead up to the right of passage that is graduation. The senior year is a time of reflection for the students on whom they really are and where they want to go. Some students choose to take the year following graduation off from school, to travel or work and then later move on to start their lives. Other students choose to continue onto postsecondary education. This is not an easy process. Regardless of which program or degree that the student wants to go into, planning ahead throughout high school is the key, by figuring out which classes are needed to be taken while education is still free. While the process of applying for these universities and colleges can be tedious at times, they open up a number of avenues for you to pursue come the end of the year. Although going to these places can be somewhat financially straining, there are programs such as the Central Okanagan Bursary and Scholarship Society, or COBSS for short, that allow students to apply for numerous financial aid to help them through this. Many students could not go into post-secondary without their help. Thinking about life outside of high school can be scary but it can also be the key to salvation for moving down the road of life and making it through the last year of high school. One of the main highlights of this year was the Crystal Ball, a semi-formal dance for the graduating class where students can enjoy a nice dinner and show off their moves. This year’s theme was the roaring twenties. High energy flowed through everyone as parent volunteers ensured that everything went smoothly. The food was delicious to say the least but the highlight of that evening had to be the dance that followed. Music has this magical ability to melt barriers between different groups and allow them to come together to unite as a grad class. Let’s not forget about the RSS sports teams. Whether its fall football, winter basketball and volleyball or spring rugby and soccer, all year round young athletes participate in the sports they love. A lot of pride is held in our Voodoos as they compete with other schools to show off the Rutland athletic talent and spirit. Some of our athletes have even appeared in the news all around the country and have
The Annual Crystal Ball was one of the many highlights for the past year for the grads.
received scholarships to help them continue with their love for their sport into post-secondary. This year RSS introduced the new archery program that allowed students to explore a new past time and compete in this sport. Being a senior playing on the team for the last year was both a saddening feeling but also an uplifting one as you leave your lasting impression on RSS forever. One word says it all, PROM. Right from the beginning, whether it was the whispers of what dress you wanted or who you were going to ask to go with you, prom was on everyone’s mind early and the day finally came. For girls this was no easy task with many of them getting up in the early hours just to make sure that everything was going to be perfect and having hair and makeup appointments set well in advance. After everybody was dressed to the nines, they made their way down to the dolphins to have a massive photo shoot. After posing for a million or so photos it was off for the grad march, the red carpet portion of the evening. Nothing beats the feeling of walking along the board walk with the sun shining on your back knowing that all eyes are on you. Unfortunately the red carpet doesn’t go on forever and it’s off to dinner, speeches and the dance at The Grand. This one evening of fun and unforgettable experiences will forever be in the memories of this year’s grad class. The grad year could not have run as smoothly without the hard work of the Grad Council. This group of student volunteers gave up many of their valued lunch hours and after school time to make sure those events, such as the Crystal Ball, Prom and the Graduation Ceremonies went off without a hitch. As members of the Grad Council it was an honour to make sure that the grad class of 2014 was the best grad class EVER! The anticipation of the final rite of passage is upon us. The Graduation Ceremonies will be the crowning moment, recognizing all of the efforts of the class with Continued Next Page Moving On
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peers, teachers, parents and guests watching in admiration. This will likely be the last occasion where the entire class will be together, it will certainly be one to remember. After graduation people tend to diverge. Some decide to embark to other destinations, some will go on to pursue careers locally, while others may choose to take time off to travel. As for the three of us, Riley will be moving to California for a Pre-Med Program, Phillip will be pursuing Social Sciences and a Bachelor of Education at UVIC, while Savannah will be heading off to UBC Okanagan for the Human Kinetics Program, staying at home The 2014 Grad Council for her studies. No matter the next connected through the shared experience of our time at endeavor, the graduating class of 2014 will always stay Rutland Senior Secondary.
CELEBRATING RUTLAND Evelyn Vielvoye Special to I Love Rutland
The Kelowna branch of the Okanagan Historical Society will be having their annual “Family Pioneer Picnic” on Sunday 27th July at the Parkinson Recreation Centre (next to the creek) from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. This year they are recognizing the arrival of RUTLAND Families to the area. We hope that all members and friends of Rutland families will join in this year’s celebration. In 1812, Louis Peon journeyed to the Okanagan Valley with the fur trader, Ross Cox. Louis wintered near the head of Okanagan Lake in 1814 to 1815 and later lived in the Okanagan Valley.
settlement in our area. Frederick Brendt arrived in 1865 and later built the first grist mill in the Okanagan Valley in the Rutland area. Soon many other people arrived in the valley and settled to raise their families.
The Parson Brothers squatted at Schloocum Lake (now Duck Lake) in 1857 and in 1858 Father Pandosy came to first settle near them. This was the beginning of the white
Rutland has a varied multicultural history that has grown to produce a town and area that was called, “Rutland.”
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It has always been a vibrant, spirited Community. The people work well together and are proud of their Community. Please come to celebrate our Rutland Community on Sunday, 27th July. You may bring a bag lunch. Coffee, juice, cake and ice cream will be provided. There will be Rutland memorabilia and OHS reports available. For more information you can call:Lois Marshall at 250-717-6765 or Ev Vielvoye at 250-765-7220
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REUNION TIME Congratulations to the class of ‘64. This is it – a good old Rutland Bash. Classmates will meet for a great weekend of fun, food and entertainment on June 13 & 14, 2014. On Friday, June 13th we will meet for a 1hr tour of Rutland Middle School (former Rutland Jr. High School) and RSS. Later we shall meet and greet at Ancient Hill Winery for wine tasting and appetizers. Saturday, June 14th includes Best Ball Golf and the main event - the dinner & dance at Kelowna Springs. A DVD will be made available for classmates to purchase. Many thanks to local businesses for door prize donations. I Love Rutland │ june 2014 11
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DRIVER TRAINING AND MUCH MORE
Tania Meyer Special to I Love Rutland
Right in the heart of Rutland, the Kelowna & District Safety Council is a vibrant non-profit organization and the home to a bevy of widely loved and greatly respected safety programs for children, adults, and seniors. What is KDSC best known for? Well, the answer depends on whom you’re talking to! Children and parents know KDSC as the home of the Little Travellers’ Safety Village, the motorcycle community knows KDSC as the home of the largest Rider Training Program outside of the Lower Mainland, and now teens and seniors are getting to know KDSC as a Top Notch Driver Training School as well. “Historically, our main focus has been on traffic safety,” says Tania Meyer, who has been KDSC’s Fun and Safety at the Little Traveller’s Sefety Village Executive Director for over 10 years. “We’ve expanded Not only is KDSC’s course certified (which means that it this focus with our kids programs and we always try to adapt or add to our programs as the needs of our growing meets or exceeds all provincial standards and gets audited by community change. And whatever we’re doing, we set the ICBC on a regular basis) but it also includes the Motorcycle standard and provide our students with the best professional Skills Test. And with a team of 10 provincially licensed and experienced Instructors, 5 MSA Officers, 3 full-time office training available.” staff during the busy spring and summer seasons, and a fleet The Little Travellers’ Safety Village is a miniature of over 30 cruiser, sport, and dual sport bikes, KDSC serves village complete with roads, traffic lights, and pedal cars. approximately 400 riders a year. Of these riders, almost Thousands of children visit the Village each year to learn 60% are women and a large majority of them fall into the about traffic, pedestrian, and bicycle safety, or to take one 45+ age group. of our popular Babysitter Training courses. This year, in KDSC provides the motorcycles, full-face helmet, response to ongoing requests by parents, Home Alone and First Aid courses were added as well. Although based in motorcycle jacket, gloves, heated vests in the cooler months, Kelowna, KDSC also offers its classroom-based programs in and even has a supply of boots” says Meyer. “This is an West Kelowna, Vernon, and Penticton. From school field expensive sport to get into, so we try to make it as easy trips to birthday parties, summer programs, and the annual on our students as possible when they’re first starting out. Halloween Haunt, KDSC is helping kids in the Okanagan Providing most of the gear can help make spending money on safety training more affordable for new riders.” stay safe and have fun doing it! Shortly after the Safety Village opened in the spring of 1980, KDSC opened the doors to its Rider Training Program. “We’ve got a fantastic Rider Training Program and people come from all over BC and even from other provinces to take our Ride Safe Learn to Ride course,” says Meyer. “In addition to the great Okanagan weather, we have a strong in-traffic component to our course, whereas many other schools and provinces offer only a short intro to traffic or no traffic training at all.” The Ride Safe program features 8 hours of classroom theory, 10 hours of basic control skills, and 12 hours of in-traffic training. In addition to the two-weekend group training courses, KDSC also offers flexible, customized courses for students with busy schedules or who just prefer a one-on-one training environment. KDSC also provides training for licensed riders and for riders who have learnt to ride on their own but who need help honing their skills prior to ICBC testing. 12 june 2014 │ www.iloverutland.com
In 2011, KDSC added driver training to its program roster, and after more than a two-year process, was awarded provincial status as a certified Graduated Licensing Program. “Obtaining GLP status was a big coup for us,” says Meyer. “ICBC updated its course standards in 2007 but all existing schools were grandfathered in. So we’re the first school in the Okanagan to have an approved course under the current standards, which means that our students are getting the most up-to-date curriculum and teaching methods.” The GLP course consists of 20 hours of classroom teaching and eight 90 minute driving lessons and earns students 6 months off their N-stage license and 2 high school credits. KDSC is also the only school in the Okanagan with dual gas and brake pedals for greater student safety. KDSC employs three driving instructors who work mostly with teens who are just learning to drive and with seniors Continued Next Page Many Programs Available
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MANY PROGRAMS AVAILABLE who want a refresher to help them prepare for mandatory provincial retesting programs. “I have the best job,” says Uwe Beilstein who is both a riding and driving instructor for KDSC. “It’s not work when you love what you do, and seeing students go out for their first lesson feeling nervous and come back with big smiles on their faces and they can’t wait for their next lesson makes it all worth while.” Continued from Page 12
KDSC has built its reputation on the quality professional programs it offers and on its experienced, friendly, and supportive instructors. “Most of our customers come to us through referrals. We’re all really proud of what we do here at KDSC, but it’s great to The Motorcycle course meets or exceeds all Provincial Standards know that our customers trust us enough to recommend part-time seasonal organization in the 1980’s and 1990’s, their friends and family to us, and it’s happening more and more as we grow: kids who visited the Safety Village and now to a full-time, year-round organization that is in the 1980’s are coming to us now for motorcycle training, recognized throughout the province, KDSC is still very Babysitter Training Course participants from a few years much a community organization whose focus is on making ago are coming to us for driver training, and motorcycle the Okanagan a safer place to live, work, and play for all of students are referring their children, their grandchildren, its residents. and even their parents to us for driver training.” For information on all of the Kelowna & District Safety From its early roots in the 1970’s as a group of concerned citizens who met monthly to discuss traffic safety, to a
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½ lb (250 g) freshly cooked and peeled shrimp
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1 – 6 oz (180 g) jar marinated artichokes, quartered, reserve liquid
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sea salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste
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½ red onion, finely chopped
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1 lemon, zest and juice
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½ cup (125 ml) ricotta
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¼ cup (50 ml) grated romano or parmesan cheese
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½ cup (125 ml) niçoise olives or quartered, pitted Kalamata olives
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A DENTAL DISASTER I’m a single woman in my 30s. I met a guy a couple of months ago through an online dating website and we hit it off and are spending a lot of time together. He is funny, smart, articulate, sensitive, talented, and seems to adore me. The catch is that he is missing several of his teeth. In the front. This completely threw me off on our first date (his profile pictures all featured closed-mouth smiles, obviously). C. Dnaltur & Rutland Girl I Love Rutland
But I kept seeing him because we got along so well. Now we’re on the brink of entering a committed relationship. He has already introduced me to many of his friends and family members. My parents and most of my friends live in another state and, frankly, I would be embarrassed to introduce him to them because of his dental situation. He is in college and works part time, so I assume he doesn’t have health insurance. I would temporarily go into debt to fill in any holes in my mouth if I had them, but obviously this isn’t a priority for him. I need some perspective on whether this is something worth feeling hesitant about. I don’t know if I should even broach the subject with him. How would I suggest he consider cosmetic dentistry? We’ve been very open and honest in our communication on other sticky matters, but I just don’t know if I can go there. Please help! Hung up on teeth
whom you are embarrassed to be seen with. Yes, that’s a shallow way to look at it, but if you aren’t comfortable with how you look together in public then perhaps it’s best that you aren’t together. It’s definitely not your spot to have to pay for cosmetic dentistry. Really, tell him to man up and get something done, or hit the highway. Life is too short to not be happy with who you are or who you are with. And, if looks are really that important, what does it say about you?
He Said: When you say missing several teeth, is this like a snaggletooth situation or just a few holes? I mean obviously this guy has no self-respect. Insurance or not, you would think that if he cared about himself, he would make some effort to rectify the situation. If, as you say, all his online pictures are closed mouth, then he knows it’s an issue and the fact that he is not doing anything about it is completely in his own head. If I were you, I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone
She Said: For starters – if you’re that close and have already dealt with other “sticky matters”, this will likely be easier than you think. I bet you are over thinking his reaction; men don’t take this kind of thing quite as personally as women tend to. The real issue here is Do You or Don’t you? I don’t see that you have any choice – this relationship is dead in the water if you are too embarrassed to introduce Continued Next Page It’s worth it
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him to the people that matter to you: friends, family, co-workers. Frankly, I’m surprised you made it past the first date. We are a very visual society and while not everyone can be beautiful, we are expected to be well groomed and take care of ourselves and yes that includes teeth – a full set! Many people don’t realize this but Canadians are known for our dental care. Statistically, Canadians have the best teeth in the world! Your choice in a partner is a reflection of yourself, it’s very important to have someone that you are proud of. You referred to it as “cosmetic dentistry”;
I’m not sure this quite fits into that category. Cosmetic procedures are usually something that is optional, an enhancement that one wants but doesn’t necessarily need. A full set of teeth is a requirement in our society. He is doing himself a disservice by not fixing them and, whether he realizes it or not, he is being stereotyped by others in several ways.
WORDS OF WISDOM I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou
He needs to have his teeth fixed whether he has dental insurance or not; dentists take Visa, too. Bypass “broaching the subject” and go straight to fixing the problem – find him a dentist (he obviously doesn’t have one) – he will appreciate your effort in the long run.
When they’re not arguing with each other, Rutland Girl and C. Dnaltur make up the senior writing staff for I Love Rutland. Ironically, once you get past all the tension, they’re actually really good friends. Just don’t tell them that. With their constant bickering, the two have made it possible to come up with two very different opinions on just about everything. Truly one of them has to be right. Do you have a question to be pondered by our pair of experts? E-mail chase@iloverutland.com and he will be sure to share your thoughts with them.
Maya Angelou (April 4, 1928 – May 28, 2014) was an American author and poet. She published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, and several books of poetry, and was credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning more than 50 years. She received dozens of awards and over 30 honorary doctoral degrees.
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IT’S YOUR ADVENTURE Wendi Swarbrick I Love Rutland
How do you come up with a truly unique business idea? You could sit on your deck, enjoying the sunshine with a few friends, pop a cork on some fantastic Okanagan wine while exclaiming about the beauty and diversity of where we live! Well – that’s how it’s done in Rutland anyway. Patrick & Dorothy Wilkins were doing just that last fall. On a perfect September day, they were brainstorming with friends on what kind of business they could start that would incorporate their love of the Okanagan and the outdoors, Patrick’s lifelong passion for motorcycles and photography, their natural entrepreneurial spirit and more than a little creativity – and so Kelowna Custom Sidecar Tours was born. When you’re lucky enough to live in the Okanagan, you can be guaranteed more than a few visitors and house guests over the summer/fall and one of the favourite activities for visitors is definitely wine touring. This is a truly unique and very exhilarating way to experience a wine tour. Patrick rides a Honda Gold Wing GL1800 (fully loaded of course!); he researched and ultimately ordered a custom sidecar from MetalMorphasis in Kamloops, BC (He’s a big believer in shopping local). This is no run of the mill sidecar, if there is such a thing – this is a Daytona 2 plus 2 convertible soft top sidecar built by Brock Smith the owner of MetalMorphasis. The original Daytona sidecar was designed by Brock’s dad. This baby has all the bells and whistles including enough trunk space for three cases of wine - no I’m not kidding! A sidecar allows you to enjoy the motorcycle experience with the wind in your face and the feel of the open road combined with the amenities,
smoothness and safety of a small car – personal stereo included! It is a fantastic way to spend an afternoon – and something that all ages can enjoy. As an ex-military man, Patrick puts a lot of emphasis on safety, so while you are having a blast and feeling more than a little daring, there is also a very reassuring sense of safety. An added feature is Patrick’s incredible talent as a photographer; not only can you have the time of your life on a really unique wine tour, you can have Patrick capture the moment forever! Everyone loves the experience from the two 15 year olds on a first date to the 95 and 92 year old couple that wanted to experience motorcycle riding and even a happy squealing 2 year old. But don’t take my word for it – this is one of those things you need to experience! Check out their website – www.customsidecartours.ca for additional information on how to book your next tour, you can also follow them on Facebook and twitter. Truly an experience you will never forget!
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about the house
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I’m sure you’ll agree that the sun has some strength to it now as things are warming up. That means that you’ll be calling on your air conditioning system soon to keep you comfortable indoors. Now is a great time to uncover and test your air conditioner for proper operation. Hugh Cairns, RHI Special to I Love Rutland
For most of us, air conditioners are a great convenience and we take them for granted until they stop working. We just flip the switch, set the temperature and wait to be comfortable. To HVAC techs, air conditioners are a series of mechanical parts working in unison to produce conditioned air. From condensers to evaporators, compressors motors, motor controls, operating and safety controls, and refrigerant circuits, pumps, fans and piping, they have to know how they work. I suppose that wall mount air conditioners are pretty much regarded as a recyclable commodity now. They’re economical to obtain and usually straight forward to install and you’ll be chillin’ in short order. When something does go wrong with them, a quick fix is usually passed by as it’s likely to exceed the value of the unit. It’s the bigger units, the ones connected to your furnace blower that should be maintained and are often repaired. Now is the time towards making the steps to turning the hottest days of the year into the most comfortable ones indoors. The easiest thing you can do to ready your A/C equipment is to a qualified HVAC professional come out and take a look at it. Your HVAC tech will do a number of checks on your equipment to prove that it is capable of working efficiently and effectively this year. If you’re the DIY’er, here are some steps to get the unit up and running on your own: •
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The air conditioner pad is slightly slanted likely to erosion or substandard pad preparation. As a result, the unit has been operating on a tilt. This condition may affect the operation of the unit and its components.
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No vegetation – your A/C unit moves a ton of air. Make sure that plants and bushes are well away from the unit.
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Clean the unit – With your garden hose and a blower. Get rid of any debris from the unit.
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Check the hoses and pipes – Much better left to a HVAC pro, but you can check your hoses and pipes for damage.
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Change your furnace filter – yep, you’re A/C unit uses the blower motor from your furnace to move the cool air around the home. Blocked or dirty filters will reduce efficiency and will add extra load to your equipment.
Hugh Cairns is a Registered Home Inspector and owner of Subject 2 Home Inspections serving the Okanagan with his years of experience in the construction industry. He is also a regular columnist for Castanet.net. To find out more, contact Hugh at 250-808-5777 or online at www.subject2homeinspections.com
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SET A GOAL FOR YOURSELF Start with a Clean Slate! If it’s taking more and more tricks to get you up and moving, consider taking a few days off. Maybe even a week or more, the time off will give you a chance to rekindle your motivation and gain perspective. During this time, try to think back to what might have caused the slump, review everything and be honest with yourself. This is how Tamara has managed to start back in full force and ready to overcome any future challenges. Luckily for Tamara, she knew exactly what was holding her back and didn’t let the temporary slowdown get her down. Tamara has had a very stressful and demanding work schedule over the past few weeks but is now well rested and back on track. Many people would have become frustrated and given up but Tamara has managed to maintain her weight and I am very proud to say “nailed” FitCamp this week. Great job Tamara!! Rhonda Laturnus Results 4 Life Fitness
“Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines” With the beautiful weather here, there are no excuses not to get plenty of exercise; regardless of what type of activity, you are burning calories (the more you do, the more you burn). I know I have said this before but I can’t stress it enough, set a goal for yourself. This can be done at any point; it doesn’t have to be your end goal! If you want to work out twice a week, have a goal of two times a week, if you want to run 10 miles a week, have that be your goal. Smaller goals (rather than losing 50 pounds, say) bring the light at the end of the tunnel a bit nearer, making it more achievable. Sign up for a charity walk or run that will encourage you to train. Once you have a set date to work towards, you’ll have a goal in mind while you are working out. Don’t be hard on yourself, when you stumble and fall; you have to understand that that’s normal. It happens to everyone. It’s unimportant that you have had a setback, it’s only important that you get back up. Tamara has definitely shown how important it is not to give up; I am so excited to share with you our ongoing progress.
There are no excuses not to get plenty of exercise
Working out is such a common thing nowadays. If it’s not working out, it’s dieting. Nobody is happy with what they look like or their health levels it seems. Use this to your advantage! Do you have a group of coworkers, friends or family members that are going through the same thing? Suggest you team up! After all, there’s strength in numbers. Maybe you would like to start setting some goals now and join Results 4 Life Fitness “FitCamp”, group, partner or personal training. Teams are already being registered in several upcoming 5 and 10k’s; you can join one or better yet join them all. I am very excited to have started training out of the newly renovated fitness s facility in Black Mountain and would love to show it off to you! Give me a call anytime.
IRRATIONAL FEARS Tamara Henderson Special to I Love Rutland
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I’ve spent the last month THINKING about losing weight and what it means to me. This is going to sound insane since so many people lose weight to look better and I am loving my results so far...but I have an irrational fear of what I am going to look like at a lower weight. Big me is me, this is how I looked in high school. This is how I learned to like myself and feel beautiful. So I am trading comfy, curvy and cute for loose skin and actually
looking my age……the horror! Between the bikini pic of Brooke Birmingham that got rejected by Shape and Rachel Fredrickson the latest winner on Biggest Loser adding 15 years to her looks, I really got caught up in my head. That’s the thing though; it is all in my head. Pretty much everyone does look better when they go from an unhealthy weight to a healthy one. I’m going to keep on liking myself and feeling pretty as I shrink and I am going to get healthier and healthier. I’m going to get stronger, fitter and have more energy. I just have to light a fire under my butt and do it. I Love Rutland │ june 2014 21
your finances
YOUR MORTGAGE PROTECTION You’re sitting in an office across from a mortgage loans officer. It could be in a bank, a credit union, or another lender. You’ve signed all the papers for your mortgage. Christine Lwowiski Sun Life Financial
Now comes a question that you haven’t thought about: “Would you like to have mortgage life insurance?” “What’s that?” you ask. “If you die, the mortgage life insurance will pay off your mortgage so your spouse or family doesn’t have to worry about it.” You, like many others, are tempted to respond, “Where do I sign?” But wait a minute! Think about what you’re getting before you put your name on that mortgage life insurance application. Put yourself in charge The primary difference between a life insurance policy and mortgage life insurance from a mortgage lender is control. With a life insurance policy that you own, you decide who the beneficiary will be; with mortgage life insurance, the financial institution is the beneficiary and gets all of the death benefit. With life insurance, your beneficiary chooses how to spend the tax-free death benefit from your life insurance policy. That could be to pay down the mortgage or other debts, invest rather than pay off a low-interest mortgage, cover living expenses, or make important purchases. These options don’t exist when your mortgage lender controls the proceeds. Many homeowners don’t realize that mortgage life insurance is actually decreasing term insurance. The amount you owe on your mortgage goes down as you make payments on the principal. At the same time, the death benefit of the mortgage life insurance goes down by the same amount. But your mortgage life insurance premiums stay the same, so you’re actually getting less coverage for your money every time you make a mortgage payment. Here’s another point worth considering. Many homeowners will change mortgage lenders during the time they’re paying off their home, especially if they can get a lower interest rate somewhere else. If you take your mortgage to another company, in most cases, you lose your mortgage insurance and have to apply again at the new company. In short, you lose control, value, and flexibility when you sign for mortgage life insurance with your mortgage lender. An alternative to consider Using an individual life insurance policy to protect your mortgage offers numerous 22 june 2014 │ www.iloverutland.com
advantages. It’s important to note the difference between an individual and group insurance policy. With mortgage life insurance, you’re a member of a group -- a collection of people who have mortgage debt with the same lender. The lender or insurer may cancel a group policy at any time, and that means you could lose your coverage. With an individual life insurance policy, you’re in control, so you’re the only person who can cancel or alter your policy. Another benefit if you choose the life insurance route: the value of the death benefit doesn’t decrease as you make mortgage payments. A life insurance policy with a face value of $100,000 will be worth that much as long as you make the premium payments. Control leads to flexibility If you have a life insurance policy to protect your mortgage, and a better mortgage rate exists at another company, you can transfer your mortgage to that company knowing your insurance remains in force. You don’t need to re-apply. You’re protected from the danger of not qualifying for a new life insurance policy if your health changes. If price is a concern, be sure to consider all your options and what value you get for your money. Depending on the policyholder’s age and the amount of the insurance policy, individual life insurance may be cheaper than the lender’s mortgage life insurance. It’s worth talking to an advisor to see how the policies compare. Articles supporting mortgage insurance rather than a policy to protect your mortgage have indicated the lender probably won’t ask you to fill out a medical questionnaire. If you’re applying for a large mortgage, however, banks in particular will likely demand that you fill out a more detailed health application, and perhaps ask for a blood or urine sample. Usually the more detailed medical information required by insurance companies actually protects you. In short, these articles often fail to explain the benefits of value, control, flexibility, and security when an individual life insurance policy covers mortgage debt. The final choice is up to you. Weighing your options will help you get the most out of your money.
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YOUR HOROSCOPES Horoscopes by Paige I Love Rutland
ARIES June could see your world turned upside down, especially in the romance department. You may find love is front and centre! Use this as an opportunity to fine tune your skills in romance and relationships, be the best lover you can be. No, you don’t have to compromise your fiery nature, just try to perfect your skills and get out of your comfort zone more often; shed those traits that you no longer need, they are bogging you down. The payoff will be more than worth it for you and your partner. TAURUS June will be an enlightening period for you, Taurus – you feel your life force come back strong. Your urge to take care of yourself right now is not selfish; true to your nature, you are leaving a long period of neglecting your own needs and problems. You have to take care of yourself in order to care for those around you. Find that balance you’ve been searching for – rest, exercise and organization. Don’t be afraid to get rid of some of those material possessions you’ve been meaning to – you won’t regret it.
GEMINI Many of you Gemini’s started to reap the rewards of your perseverance and drive near the end of 2013 and that momentum has continued into 2014. You have been very dedicated to work and progress, but the beginning of summer brings on a new phase for you, Gemini. It’s now time to focus some of your energy on romance and creativity and enjoying your friends. If the travel bug bites, pack your bags and don’t look back – you’ve earned it! CANCER You have been doing a fair amount of work on yourself lately, Cancer – you had to. Your tolerance for drama and instability is at an all time low. You know your limits and like to consider yourself a work in progress, and at this time you find yourself looking at things in a more long term view. You know you are incredibly blessed, but that doesn’t mean you can sit back and be happy with the status quo. Ambition and fate may feel like they are pulling you in two different
directions, ambition will win this time, Cancer! LEO You love to be the centre of attention and often feel more powerful and charismatic as summer approaches. You can absorb the energy of those around you and enjoy attention and the spotlight like few other signs can, but don’t get too carried away, Leo – Continued Next Page
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there can be dangers in your extreme behavior. Don’t forget the lessons of the past, Leo! While you are amazing, you are not invincible. VIRGO The transformation of your love life will continue well into summer, so expect another layer of life lessons and experience in the romance department. This applies to both existing relationships and new romances. Relationships are grounding for you and despite your love of alone time, you are willing to sacrifice some of it for companionship. One of the lessons you’ve recently learned again is just how important mental compatibility is for you, Virgo. You need a partner with intelligence – you simply can’t compromise on your need for a challenging, stimulating conversation. LIBRA Many of you have noticed that things seem to be going your way the past few months – in love and romance, as well as career and finance. This is a trend that will
continue for most of you well into 2014. This month will see more good fortune and love come your way. Don’t take it for granted though, always look at the big picture and ask yourself why? Positive trends in our life are usually the outcome of changed behaviors and new progressive thinking. You’re obviously doing something right – keep it up and stay off the fence and away from those co-dependant, negative patterns you’re famous for – good things are happening for you! SCORPIO You have an intensity about you that few others have and this month will see that intensity stronger than ever. These days change is the only constant in your life. Never one to sit on the side lines, you have been transforming your life, facing your fears and letting go of all that has been holding you back. For you, it’s all or nothing and you wouldn’t have it any other way. Always look to yourself, Scorpio – the answer to all your problems and issues can be found within. SAGITTARIUS The feelings of isolation and loneliness that have been plaguing you will be a thing of the past very soon. You are entering a very social period that will see your spirits much improved!
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relationships can be a very powerful thing to deal with. If you are dealing with lingering memories and regrets of past relationships you need to deal with the unfinished business that is haunting you. A healthy, happy Capricorn needs a clear mind to move forward. It’s ok to be introspective, and reflection on the past is ok too, just don’t get lost in the process. Don’t make any big decisions that could affect your current relationships while you are stuck in this unhealthy place. Apply what you’ve learned in practical, Capricorn fashion and you will find the energy to move forward. AQUARIUS The travel bug has bitten many of you and you can’t shake the feeling that you need the freedom of just breaking out and going somewhere – anywhere! A little adventure and some new experiences is just what you need. Your energy level is really ramping up and you need something to focus on. Your work life has been very busy lately and an over worked, under-stimulated Aquarius is trouble for all. Let your child-like nature flourish; do something new if you can’t travel but don’t ignore your inner voice – it needs what it needs! PISCES The creative and productive slump you’ve been experiencing is about to come to a screeching halt. Jupiter is entering your zone and any lack of inspiration you’ve been feeling will be gone before you know it. You may find yourself with more work and projects than you know what to do with. Just make your choices carefully and get to it! This is also a good time to work on balance – work-life balance and of course your least favourite – money. You don’t deal with debt well and now is your chance to focus on wiping it out for good. Make this one a reality, Pisces!
lifestyle
RELATIONAL COMMUNICATION – PART 3 There is something special that happens when we have that opportunity to get on the same page as another person, when we have that sense that the other person “gets it” or “gets us”. This can happen in casual connections and needs to happen in our closer relationships for them to thrive. A sales clerk who is paying attention and takes the time to figure out what we really need can make our day. I had that happen yesterday with an insurance adjuster and it did make my day (thank you). A spouse or close friend who takes the time to really understand what is going on in our moment, day or week is an amazing gift. Garth Walker, MA, RCC Life Choice Consulting
Relational communication is both a skill and a gift to those around us, so it is not hard to imagine it’s power to enhance our lives and the lives we connect with. So far in the first two segments we have covered: •
Learn to listen well.
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Ask questions about what you observe about body language or about the tone that you hear – don’t assume what it means.
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Reflecting – Putting into your own words what you think the other person is saying.
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Avoid assuming the motives underlying what someone says or does (or doesn’t say or do).
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Look underneath the tip of the iceberg (anger) to find out what is really fueling another person’s emotions or choices.
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Accept another person’s initial feelings. They are never right or wrong.
So here we go with the last installment in this series. 7. Allow time for feelings to be unpacked – It is not always immediately clear why someone has certain feelings. They can even be unclear as to what it is that they are feeling. They may not even have a vocabulary for describing it, particularly if they have grown up in an environment where emotions were never discussed or were poorly handled. So if we pick up on the negative vibes of our partner and want to help, we can be frustrated by our partner saying “I don’t know” when we ask “What’s up with you today ...?” I know for me this was a challenge in the early years of our marriage. I would think and sometimes actually say (ouch) “what do you mean you don’t know – how can you not know?” A part of my frustration was born out of my desire to help and how could I help my wife if I didn’t know what the problem was. The truth is that there are times when we can’t put our
finger on what’s up and we need some time to figure it out. The gift of space to figure it out is invaluable to opening up communication when we do figure it out. There are also times when we know what is bugging us but are not ready to talk yet, so in those times we need to be truthful and say that we are not quite ready to talk, and to set a time or day when we can. 8. Make “I” statements about how you feel about what is happening. Be specific about a current event. It is almost never helpful do drag in the history of the past by saying things like “you never” or “you always”. I call this the “dumping the garbage” technique. It can be a part of guilt tripping to try and change another’s behaviour. News flash - it doesn’t work – I know because I tried it a lot in my early years of parenting. Most of us tend to get defensive when we feel like we are getting dumped on. So instead of yelling “you never call when you are going to be late from work”, a more effective response could be “When you didn’t call from work that you would be late, I kept the roast in the oven and now it is all dried out. That is really disappointing for me because I was looking forward to having a special supper with you tonight.” Specific - one event – focused on the impact on yourself – not on attacking the other person. Chances are that they will respond better and over time, behaviours usually change. Sidenote: Husband could call to warn wife that a special supper is planned and in doing so, might find that she has no choice and he turns down the oven. 9. Ask permission to give feedback to another person. Before giving advice or opinions, before saying “you should ...”, ask if they are interested in hearing it or are in a good space to listen. Ultimately this is a huge way of showing respect to the other person. It even works well with children and especially teens – “Would you mind if I gave you an idea about how to handle that situation?” It also takes into account whether they are in a good space to listen. Sometimes our child or spouse can be overwhelmed in the moment and they are not going to process even great advice very well. Timing our offer of feedback or deeper conversation can be really important. It is probably not the best time to do so when the other person is going out the door for an appointment or is dead tired and heading for bed. Sometimes we need to set an “appointment” to have those intentional conversations and not do them on the fly. For some of us, we need to put them in our daytimer to remind ourselves (that would be me). 10. Ask yourself, what is my #1 Priority in any given Continued Next Page Share without Attacking
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SHARE WITHOUT ATTACKING communication, to understand or to be understood? Focusing on understanding the other person – their point of view or their emotional connection to the issue – can provide some great opportunities to communicate and build relationship – to show love and respect. Focusing on being understood is often our default mode and we end up defending our perspective or emotions, leading to the other person feeling unheard or not understood and defensive. This is a lose/lose situation.
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If two people are trying to understand the other person, they might actually learn something and their combined perspectives could generate some creative and insightful outcomes – as well as help them stay connected. That is a win/win. Take special note that it takes two people to create a win/win but it only takes one person to get it started. Ultimately, all of these relational tools and skills could be summed up in the concept of becoming INQUISITIVE – about what is really going on in each other and what is going on in myself. What does tone
of voice and body language really mean – ASK. What is motivating their choices – ASK. What is fueling their anger – ASK. What am I feeling as a result of their choices – SHARE WITHOUT ATTACKING. None of this is rocket science but quite a challenge to incorporate into our thinking and processing of the emotions that accompany relationships, casual or intimate. Practice them and it could change your life in some amazing ways. Have some friends hold you accountable to practice one or two key skills at a time. Whenever things are going south, pull this list out, figure out where you got off the tracks, back up the train and start over. Have some fun with this, go ahead and laugh when you mess up (which might include asking forgiveness too), but become intentional about learning to communicate and build relationships that will stand the test of time.
Garth Walker is a Registered Clinical Counsellor as well as being a husband for 37 years, grandpa for 9 years, kayaker and woodworker. He has resided in Rutland the majority of his adult life. He loves to help people build solid relationships and find out their unique strengths and S.H.A.P.E. For more information go to www.lifechoiceconsult.com
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HEATHER’S PICK OF THE MONTH The Forest Laird by Jack Whyte
Nicole Dumontier Lives in Rutland Specializes in Rutland Rutland Comparative Real Estate Statistics May 2014 Single Family Homes 2013
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Listings 117 106 Units Sold 22 20 Days to Sell 71 56 Avg. Sale Price $346,000 $360,500
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Listings 52 59 Units Sold 5 7 Days to Sell 139 74 Avg. Sale Price $270,000 $210,000
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2014
Listings 81 65 Units Sold 12 12 Days to Sell 84 77 Avg. Sale Price $170,000 $141,000
In the pre-dawn hours of August 24, 1305 A.D., in London’s Smithfield Prison, the outlaw William Wallace, who is to be executed at dawn, is visited by a Scottish priest who has come to hear his last Confession. So begins The Forest Laird, the first book in Kelowna Author Jack Whyte’s masterful new trilogy. Wallace’s story leads us through his many lives—as an outlaw and a fugitive, a hero and a patriot, a rebel and a kingmaker. He is the first heroic figure from the Scottish Wars of Independence brought blazingly to life in Jack Whyte’s new trilogy, the Guardians, and will be followed by his two compatriots Robert the Bruce, King of Scots; and Sir James
Douglas, known as The Black Douglas. Their exploits and escapades, desperate struggles and medieval savagery, high ideals and fierce patriotism are the stuff of legends, and the soul and substance of these epic novels. What I so appreciated about this book is that it is narrated by Jamie, Wallace’s cousin. He brings a new outlook to the man known as Braveheart. I no longer picture Mel Gibson, but a much more well rounded man that loved, lost and tried to do his very best for his country men. The Guardian Trilogy is, in my opinion, Jack Whyte’s best work to date. I devoured the first two and can hardly wait for book three. I may even buy it new.
Half Duplex 2013
Heather Freisen is the owner of Flip Flop Books. Rutland’s own used bookstore. Find this title and many others at Flip Flop Books on Gray Road. Looking for a particular title? Call Heather at 778-353-0655. For more great book titles to check out, goto www.flipflopbookstore.com
2014
Listings 24 17 Units Sold 3 1 Days to Sell 31 119 Avg. Sale Price $262,000 $347,000
Sales vs. Listings Sales Listings
2013
44 295
2014
45 280
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Rutland Homeowners will recieve $1000 off their selling costs and Buyers will enjoy a cash back bonus of $500!
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nicoledumontier.ca Statistical information provided by OMREB. 2014 Stats to May 28, 2014
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Rage
207 Rutland Road North
778.753.0330
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Robert (Bob) Chartrand 350 Gray Road Kelowna BC V1X 1X1
250.765.7416
Where the good people go for the best food, the best prices and the best place to meet old friends. A casual setting with a warm homelike feel. Homemade Classic Cusine made to perfection.
asual ravings afé Open Monday - Saturday from 7AM Featuring our Breakfast Special: 2 Farm Fresh Eggs, your choice of Bacon, Ham or Sausage, 2 pieces of toast & hand cut hashbrowns
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$ 50
Located Inside Plaza 33 • By Defy Hair Salon
Congratulations to the Class of 2014!
Amir’s
Market & Café SINGAPORE CUISINE
Best Fish & Chips in Rutland! Regular or Gluten-Free Batter Available
Baked Chicken Wings ! Tandori Style Delicious!
112 Gray Road · 778.753.5900
“For a Lifetime of Healthy Vision”
Dr. Manley M. March* - Optometrist *Optometric Corporation
Plaza 33 46 - 301 Hwy. 33 W. Kelowna, B.C. V1X 1X8
250-765-EYES (3937) www.lifetimeoptometry.ca
Dinah’s Drycleaning Alterations & Repairs
250.765.6669 172 Asher Road, Kelowna BC
● Drapery Cleaning ● Wedding Gowns ●
T-Shirts AND MUCH MORE!! 8-1060 Leathead Rd 250-491-4716 or see us on FacebOOk I Love Rutland │ june 2014 29
business spotlights Treeetz Candy Store, opened recently, is set to satisfy every Rutland kid’s sweet tooth and bring back nostalgic memories to those adults who grew up enjoying Pop Rocks and Chicken Bones. Located on Rutland Road, across from Centennial Park, Treetz is a family business owned and operated by long term Rutland residents with a passion for the family oriented community all those who live here know Rutland to be. Old time favorites such as Salt Water Taffy and real Turkish Delight, can be found along with more unique International (British, German and American) candies and chocolate bars, as well as some Okanagan offerings from Summerland Sweets.
Treeetz Candy Store 207 Rutland Road North
There are candies with unusual names and flavors such as the rainbow coloured Unicorn Boogers, the crunchy Pig Boogers, made with Bacon Bits, and the spicy Dragon Boogers, made with Ghost Chili Peppers. As if candy stores were not fun enough, Treeetz also carries an assortment of coloured Sand Candy, with which kids can fill clear plastic tubes (Pixie Sticks) with their own arrangement of colours. Not just a candy store, Treeetz also offers yummy ice cream from Alberta based Foothills Creamery and look to soon be offering an assortment of unique pop drinks, including Dog Drool.
Golden Gems Jewellery is a family owned and operated retail jewelry store that has been serving the Rutland, Kelowna community since 1991.
Golden Gems Jewellery
Ken Ly and his family are dedicated to providing friendly customer service and offering a wide variety of high quality merchandise to fit your needs and budget. With a qualified jeweler on the premises, they are are able to guarantee quality on site repairs, appraisals, custom design, knowledgeable assistance and prompt service.
105 Highway 33 West
where to go this summer murphy’s landing · nakusp bc
You’ll Love It! Enjoy a 40-acre exclusive Lakefront & Creekside Resort situated within walking distance of our quaint little town practically all to yourself. Your private delightfully designed Cabin or spacious 30/50 amp full service RV site is nestled around lush green landscape. Views of majestic mountains, sounds of the Kuskanax Creek and a tranquil stream of cascading waterfalls will thoroughly delight you. Soak up the sun as you lounge on our private sandy beach along side a fresh water natural pool or relax on your private deck equipped with BBQ and patio furniture. 3 Golf Courses, Hot Springs, World Class Fishing, Outdoor activities are endless. Reservations recommended. It’s Where You Want to Be Naturally!
250.265.0020 · www.murphyslanding.net
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GREAT FOOD GREAT ENTERTAINMENT Join us all summer long for fabulous dinner specials and live entertainment! Hosted Patio Parties every Tuesday! Prime Rib Dinner Every Friday & Saturday $2395 ! Four Points by Sheraton Kelowna Airport
5505 Airport Way, Kelowna, BC V1V 3C3 www.fourpointskelownaairport.com
YOU WORK. YOU DRIVE. REGARDLESS OF CREDIT HISTORY Society is now bombarded with ads directed at credit challenged or “BAD CREDIT” individuals because the reality is that over 26% of consumers in the Okanagan are suffering with some form of credit challenges, in most cases by no fault of their own. If you have a job and believe you can afford car payments but are tired †of being turned away at the car dealerships call Vernon Kia 1-888-545-7281 or check us out online www.vernonkia.ca and let Dionne go to work on securing you auto financing that is affordable for you.
6365 Highway 97, Vernon
1.888.545.7281 vernonkia.ca 2014
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Graduates will recieve $500 off the purchase price of a used car
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Vernon Kia will make the first two payments based upon approval