What’s Your Apology Type?

What’s Your Apology Type?

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W h a t ’ s Y our Apology Type?

Most of us apologise more than necessary. In fact, if you are British, then it’s well documented that we over-apologise! For example, a third of Brits would apologise about sneezing, compared to just a fifth of Americans. Furthermore, statistically, women apologise more than men, with 65% of women apologising if a joke offends someone compared to just 49% of men.

Many of us know what it is like when someone apologises, but it doesn’t feel like an apology. We can often believe that someone is not really sorry when they apologise to us. However, this isn’t because they didn’t mean their apology. Instead, it could be that someone has a different apology language to you. So, what are the different apology types, and which one do you identify with?

What Is An Apology Language?

An apology language is similar to the love languages that I have covered in the past. The apology languages have been created by psychologist, Jennifer Thomas, and counsellor and creator of love languages, Gary Chapman.

Just like love languages, individuals will usually find they lean to one type of apology language more than others. However, it is possible to have multiple apology languages that you deploy depending on the situation.

So, which is your preferred apology language?

Five Apology Languages Accepting Responsibility When someone apologises to you, you want someone to; Take ownership Admit the part they played in the situation Not make excuses If this is how you apologise; With this apology style, you earnestly admit when you are wrong. You will feel comfortable admitting you were wrong, or something was your fault. This type of apology is for those who like to take ownership of any hurt caused, and you dislike apologies that are full of excuses.

With an apology, it is often easier to say, ‘you are right’. However, with this responsibility apology style, you want to acknowledge your fault in the situation and are more likely to say, ‘I am wrong’.

Feeling Regret When someone apologises to you, you want someone to; Show genuine remorse Validate your emotions (not just sorry for getting caught) Regret their actions If this is how you apologise; This type of apology style seems like the simplest form of apology where you actually say; ‘I’m sorry’.

It is easy to apologise without actually feeling remorse for your actions. However, with this type of apology language, pride, or ego doesn’t get in the way, you understand the hurt your actions have caused. You’ll also recognise the harmful effects of your actions and want to show how sorry you feel.

Repenting Sincerely When someone apologises to you, you want; Proof that they are going to change Assurance you won’t be let down again An apology gesture that goes beyond words If this is how you apologise; The repenting apology type will mean you’ll want to change your behaviour in order to show you are genuinely sorry. For those who repent sincerely, you will think that just saying ‘I’m sorry’ is not enough. Instead, you will reflect on what went wrong, solve the problem, take action and strive to do better.

Correcting And Restoring When someone apologises to you, you want; Willingness to make reparations or correct the problem Them to make things right again A decisive action to restore the situation If this is how you apologise; This is your apology language if you like to take action to correct the situation. For example, if you lose or damage something, you will want to replace the item or pay for repairs. The idea behind this apology is that you want to take the lead and put the situation right, and words are less important than action. This apology style is also known as making restitution.

Asking For Forgiveness When someone apologises to you, you want; The power to be back in your hands To have time and space and to receive the apology when you are ready The person to be willing to wait until you’re ready for reconciliation.

If this is how you apologise; You’ll understand the hurt you have caused and that an apology will not be a quick fix. Instead, you respect the person you have hurt and that it may take time for them to accept your apology and grant forgiveness. This type of apology language differs from others because instead of taking control of the situation, you are putting the hurt party back in control and giving them the power to accept your apology or not.

Should You Apologise?

Often, we apologise too much. Research suggests the average Brit will say sorry at least eight times a day. That’s 4,380 apologies a year! However, saying sorry is crucial if you want to repair relationships and make reconciliations.

If you’re struggling to accept an apology and forgive wrongdoing, then understanding your apology type can really help. If you need any further help, hypnotherapy can help to understand exactly what blocks are in the way and help you overcome them.

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