58.46 Howe Enterprise March 29, 2021

Walk-off crushes the Dogs

Summit Hill Top Dogs

Lady Bulldogs ‘Snapp back’ on Friday from Bells’ perfect game on Tuesday

The storyline is much the same as a week ago as the

Second grade Kristin Walker, Kaydence

The Howe Lady Bulldogs (3-8) made up for an

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XYZ Meeting, pg. 5 Public Works honored, pg. 6 Founders Day overflow, pg. 7 Peggy’s Porch, pg. 8 Chamber members, pg. 10 Chamber events, pg. 11 Hot Jobs, pg. 12 Texas History, pg. 13 Christian, pg. 14 Finance/Children, pg. 15 Past front pages, pg. 16-24

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Future development the topic Local church at chamber luncheon Easter schedules

You can’t make any of this up: Judicial Watch received emails indicating Dr. Fauci agreed to China's terms of confidentiality in relation to COVID-19 in February 2020. *** The Biden administration is trying to push a bill that would give police officers the right to enter a home and confiscate firearms if they deem it necessary. *** Green Bay officials declined a request to testify on March 31 after giving Democratic operators access to the voting room and the Internet during the election. They say they're busy. *** Democrats claim that excluding dead people from the voter rolls is " voter suppression."

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Bulk Trash Pickup 2nd Friday of each month in Howe.

The Howe Area Chamber of Commerce hosted their first ever luncheon last Tuesday at Summit Gardens which featured guest speaker Scott Norris of Tomlin Investments. The event was sponsored

by Sheryl Bentley, a realtor with REMAX Properties who provided boxed lunches for the approximately 20 that were in attendance.

Norris, spoke on the 469.7 acre Hilltop Ranch development that will take place at the southern entrance of Howe at the north-

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All-School Reunion set for Oct. 15-16 The Howe ExStudents Association will be hosting the All -School reunion on the weekend of Oct. 15-16. The event begins at Bulldog Stadium on Friday and moves to the high school. On Saturday, a coffee and donuts meet and greet will start a 8 am followed by a luncheon at the high school at 11 am.

On Saturday night at 7:30, a benefit concert featuring Chicago Tribute Authority Texas will take place.

The most important weekend of Christian faith is coming up starting with Good Friday where Jesus was crucified on the cross in Jerusalem over 2,000 years ago.

Three days later, He rose from the grave and overcame this world. Local churches have set their schedules and invite any and all who wish to attend.

Scott Norris discussed the future Hilltop Ranch development in South Howe.

Community Bible Fellowship will hold their

Easter service at Summit Hill Elementary at 10:30 am. There will be a nursery and children’s bible study during the service.

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Lady Bulldogs finish first at Decatur The Howe Lady Bulldogs continue their dominance on golf courses. They finished first at the Decatur Country Club with a combined score of 371, finishing one stroke ahead of Callisburg.

Kriston Harris was second overall with a score of 86 while Katie Grogan was fifth at 92. Reagan Troxtell and Brooke Robinson also finished in the top 10 overall with scores of 95 and 98, respectively.

The District meet is today at Stone Creek in Sherman. The girls are coached by Derek Lands.

Left to right: Grace Brennan, Brooke Robinson, Katie Grogan, Kriston Harris, and Reagan Troxtell.

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Hilltop Ranch

A panoramic view of inside Summit Gardens for the Howe Chamber luncheon.

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east corner of Blythe Road and US Highway 75. This tract of land was purchased by Howe Commercial LTD back in 2006 for investment purposes. But the downturn of 2007-2008 stalled any immediate plans. In 2010, they approached the City of Howe about infrastructure improvements as well as Grayson County and the State of Texas.

“We had to create a special financing district as the first property north of Van Alstyne because there was no sewer or water,” said Norris. “We created terms of agreement with the city first. The cost is extreme, so we figured out a way to work through that and came up with what we thought was fair.”

Those agreements resulted in a Municipal Utility District (MUD).

The primary function of a MUD is to provide water, sewer, and stormwater drainage services in areas where municipal services are not available. MUDs are typically financed through the sale of bonds which, in turn, are serviced by the taxes levied and collected by the MUD. Norris said the future development will contain mostly singlefamily homes with some multifamily and commercial properties. In order to accomplish commercial goals, rooftops will come first which.

He gave comparisons to cities south of Howe to set an example of pattern growth. Melissa built 857 homes in 2020 which equates roughly to 2.3 sales per day. Anna built 976 homes which is about 2.6 units per day. In Celina, they built 1,862 homes which is five home sales per day.

“That tidal wave is heading this way as it gets cheaper to finance and the infrastructure runs out as McKinney as recently experienced.” said Norris.

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Norris says that the property in Howe would create around 1,200 home and are ready to start when they can get going. He said there were three builders in place to begin all at one time, but a downturn stalled. He then had one large builder in place ready to start, but COVID halted plans for that builder.

“We’re trying to restructure some of the financing and various other things,” said Norris. “The first question we always get is ‘when are you going to build?’”

He then outlined the process of creating the financial district through the legislature in 2019 and then obtaining a wastewater treatment permit in conjunction with the city which takes about a year. Developing plans through the county for road improvements also factors into the timing.

“Typically, from the time we start, the first swoon of dirt doesn't’ really turn until about 24 to 30 months,” said Norris. “Once we start, it takes about 18 months to put the first house on the ground.

Once we get the first houses started, we anticipate three houses a month for the first year and then 10 to 12 houses (beyond).”

Norris said that some of the largest builders in the nation are interested in the property but each of them dropped all of their contracts for construction about a year ago due to COVID. “(DR) Horton was involved with one of our projects and they dropped all real estate contracts within 12 days,” said Norris.

“With that, some of the other private industry builders picked up a lot of those contracts. After even dropping all of their contracts, Horton continued to a record year of home sales. The market really took off in spite of COVID in the real estate industry.”

Norris said a project that they recently worked in Corinth was 193 lots which was completed in approximately nine months. The homes included the spec model all sold in 11 days.

“That’s how strong the industry is if you’re in the right spot and we think Howe’s in the right spot,” said Norris.

An audience member asked if nearby home developments such as one in Mantua would affect sales in the Hilltop Ranch development to which Norris stated that market is deep enough to handle 10 developments, and all would be successful.

“Obviously, the first ones off the ground are going to sell instantly,

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Walk-off crushes the Dogs

Sophomore Ryan Hough put the ball in play against Bonham on Tuesday. Photo by Carla Burnett.

The storyline is much the same as a week ago as the Howe Bulldogs (5-11) were throttled on Tuesday and walked-off on Friday. This time it was not the Pottsboro Cardinals, but the Bonham Warriors who crushed the hopes of Howe with late-inning heroics.

The Bulldogs opened at home against Bonham and struggled throughout the game committing four errors which led to five unearned runs. Senior Dylan Hughs got the start and pitched 3.1 innings, allowing four earned runs on seven hits and three walks while striking out three. He was relieved by Luke Lopez who pitched two-thirds of an inning allowing three earned runs on four hits and a walk. He struck out both hitters for the outs. Carson Daniels finished the night on the mound for Howe by pitching the final inning allowing three earned runs on three hits and a walk.

At the plate, sophomore Ryan Hough had two of the Dogs four hits on the evening. Sophomore Austin Haley drove in Howe’s lone run on a double that plated Luke Lopez in the third inning.

Bonham scored two runs in the first inning, six in the fourth, seven in the fifth, to account for their 15 runs on 14 hits.

On Friday, the game was much more evenly matched with Parker Pecina on the hill. He continues to pitch well as he went all 6.2 innings, allowing four earned runs

on seven hits and three walks. He struck out six Warriors in his effort.

The bats again were stymied, and the defense again committed four errors. Haley collected two doubles including an RBI that scored Ryan Hough to lead off the game.

Howe added two more runs in the first inning as Luke Lopez singled home Haley and Ethan Lopez drove in his brother.

Howe’s 3-0 lead carried until the bottom of the third when Bonham put up a 2-spot to bring the game within a run. The Bulldogs were three outs away from the win in the bottom of the seventh inning, but the Warriors tied the game on an RBI single by Trystan Mallory.

A batter later, Mallory was thrown out trying to advance to third on a double to right by Brant Stuber. With two outs and courtesy runner Jeren Ross (who had played in the JV game prior to the varsity game) at second base, Mason Rodriguez singled to right to drive in Ross for the walk-off win.

Howe will take on Gunter this week starting on the road Tuesday and back home Friday to finish the series.

Howe vs. Bonham Howe at Bonham

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Summit Hill Top Dogs

Second grade - Kristin Walker, Kaydence Shirley, Hunter Coker, Garrett Culp, Cairo Thomas. First grade - Keagan Case, Ruby Harvey, Daleyza Rico Vera. Kindergarten - Ben Petty, Mylove Hambrick, Israel Amaya, Sarah Abolos, Jaxon Smith. Pre-K - Ellie Duncan, Taylynn Derichsweiler.

Copeland makes first team all-district Howe senior Sierra Copeland was named First Team All-District in 11-3A. She was joined with honorable mentions going to Katie Grogan and Trinity Williams.

Copeland averaged 12.24 points per game and 9.12 rebounds in her 3-year career in Howe. She pulled down a total of 784 rebounds, 144 blocked shots, and scored 1,053 points.

Most Valuable Player – Alyssa Tarpley, Jr., Gunter; Offensive Player of the Year – Cheznie Hale, Sr., Bells; Defensive Player of the Year – Hannah Fellinger, Sr., Pottsboro; Sixth Man of the Year – Rhyan Pogue, Jr., Gunter.

Newcomer of the Year – Kayanna Cox, Fr., Whitewright; Coaching Staff of the Year – Gunter.

First team Sierra Copeland, Sr., Howe; Hadley Williams, Sr., Pottsboro; Autumn Graley, Jr., Pottsboro; Sarah Putnicki, Sr., Gunter; Blakely Esnard, Jr., Gunter; Natalie Alex-

ander, Jr., Whitewright; Gabby Smith, Sr., Bells; Raven Fox, Sr., Leonard.

Second team Emma Powlison, Sr., Pottsboro; Bailee Dorris, Fr., Bells; Mia Moore, Sr., Bells; Ashton Long, Soph., Whitewright; Emily Barnhurst, Sr., Whitewright; Taylor Boddie, Sr., Gunter; Alexa Rhone, Sr., Leonard; Kylie Mathers, Jr., Blue Ridge.

Academic all-district Howe – Katie Grogan, Sierra Copeland, Reagan Troxtell, Kendall Griffin, Landry Sanders, Avery Snapp, Emory Snapp, Matalee Stewart, Teagan Stubblefield, Trinity Williams.

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Easter schedules (Continued from page 1)

First Baptist Church of Howe will have Bible Fellowships at 9:15 am followed by Worship Service at 10:30.

First United Methodist Church will have online worship at 9 am and in-person worship at 10 am.

The Howe Church of Christ will have Bible Classes at 9 am for all ages with worship beginning at 10 am. They are planning an Easter Egg Hunt at 10 am on April 3.

New Beginning Fellowship will have Good Friday Communion Service at 6 pm on Friday, April 2. Easter Worship Service will be from 10:30 to noon.

XYZ Meeting planned The XYZ (Xtra Years of Zest) group of First Baptist Church Howe will meet Thursday, April 8, 2021 at 10:30 a.m. in the Fellowship Hall at the church at 100 E. East Davis Street.

After a short business meeting, a program will be presented by a representative of the United States Postal Service, Marla Garcia, who will share information about our own Howe Post Office, as well.

The group meets on the second Thursday of the month but has only met once since March of 2020. So, it will be a nice “welcome-back, good-to-see-you” meeting.

Following the program will be potluck lunch, food brought by each member. Guests are welcome.

For more information call the church office at 903-532-5504.

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Public Works honored at council meeting

At the most recent Howe City Council meeting, Mayor Bill French recognized members of the public works department for their effort during the historic freeze. Their efforts helped keep water flowing to homes while also responding to over 50 emergency calls to disconnect water services throughout the city due

to frozen and busted pipes. The City of Howe was also the first to be taken from the boil notice of the surrounding area.

Those above as seen left to right: Blake Hamner, Mayor Bill French, Mickey Phillips (Director), Chris Bristow, and Kyle Thompson (not pictured).

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Founders Day Festival in overflow mode The Howe Area Chamber of Commerce has officially sold out of vendor spaces on Haning Street for the May 8 Founders Day Festival. Overflow spaces are now being sold on O’Connell Street in front of Summit Gardens.

This is the 35th Annual event which began in 1986 as part of the Texas Sesquicentennial celebration. That year the former Howe Lions Club hosted a PRCA Rodeo at the location which is now the Howe Youth Softball fields.

To this point, there are nearly 70 vendor spaces accounted for including food items such as kettle

corn, hot dogs, chili pie, nachos, and cotton candy from The Crazy Red Rooster. There will also be tamales from Mama D’s. Howe Youth Volleyball will have funnel cakes and Howe Youth Baseball will have hot dogs, hamburgers, and sausage on a stick.

Bent Creek will be the featured musical guest on stage in front of the Howe Area Chamber of Commerce.

Star Auto Body & Alignment has again sponsored the Interurban Kid Train which will run through the alley in downtown for access of both Haning and O’Connell Streets.

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Lady Bulldogs ‘Snapp back’ on Friday from Bells’ perfect game on Tuesday

Harley Brockelman pitching on Tuesday at Bells.

Photo by Alexa Brunner.

The Howe Lady Bulldogs (3-8) made up for an ugly 15-0 loss at Bells on Tuesday to jump back into the win column on Friday with a 10-5 thumping of Leonard.

At Bells, Lady Panther Alexis Tanguma hurled two perfect innings striking out five Lady Bulldogs while Chloe Russum came in relief to throw another perfect inning with one strikeout.

Howe committed three errors defensively behind the pitching of Harley Brockelman who went 1.2 innings allowing nine earned runs on four hits and five walks. She gave up a homer to Bailee Davis in the first inning as the Lady Panthers put up a 4-spot in the first.

On Friday, things were much more crisp for Howe as the Lady Bulldogs put up a 4-spot of their own in the second inning. Freshman Emery Snapp, who went 4for-5 with a double and two RBI, led off the inning with a single.

Talia Bjorn’s grounder scored Snapp to start the inning. Hannah Dwyer reached on one of seven

errors by the Lady Tigers which brough home Bjorn and Brockelman. Dwyer would later score on an error.

Howe plated two more in the third inning when Snapp doubled home Alexia Womack and Gracie Lankford’s fielder’s choice scored Snapp. Leonard scored two runs in the fourth but Howe answered back with a run in the fifth when another error brought home Snapp. Snapp then drove home Riley Craven in the sixth and Dwyer singled home Kaitlyn Fuhr in the sixth. Howe rounded out the scoring in the seventh with RBI from Dwyer and Womack. Railyn Murphy pitched all seven innings, allowing four earned runs on 11 hits. She struck out five Lady Tigers.

Howe will play Whitewright at home Tuesday and at Pottsboro Friday.

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Peggy’s Porch free clothing Each Sat from 9 am – 11 am, Peggy’s Porch is open for free clothing giveaway to anyone. Donated clothing is sorted and hung by sizes so grab a bag when you come in and start choosing.

There are lots of winter/warm clothes need to be taken/gone within the next couple of weeks

because it’s time for the spring clothing to be hung up.

So come to Peggy’s Porch, behind City Hall , Sat. from 9 am 11 am. ( Two customers at a time for 15 minutes, and masks, please.)

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Kenneth Lyndbergh (Bergie) Stuteville Kenneth Lyndbergh Stuteville, whom everyone knew simply as Bergie, went home to his Lord and Savior in the early hours of March 15th, 2021 at the age of 88. Bergie was born on July 30th, 1932 and raised in Whitewright, Texas to Charles Holmes and Fannie Mae (Hall) Stuteville and eventually moved to Van Alstyne at an early age to open a Dry Goods Grocery Store with his family and remained a proud citizen of Van Alstyne and a VA Panther for the remainder of his life.

He was an avid football, basketball and baseball fan but not only did he love sports, his true passion was the Boy Scouts of America and at the time of his passing he was the oldest living Eagle Scout in the Nation originally obtaining his Eagle Scout in 1948 at the age of 16 while being a member of Troop 44 in Van Alstyne, the nation’s 5th Scout Troop to be created. Following Graduation from Van Alstyne High School in 1949 and Graduation from North Texas State College (now known as The University of North Texas) in 1953 with a General Business Degree, Bergie then Joined the Army serving his country at Redstone Arsenal near Huntsville, AL and played halfback for the Redstone Rockets Football Team during his tenure in the Military. Bergie then worked for Magnolia Petroleum (now Mobil) until he began his service of 29 years as the Financial Manager for the City of Sherman and in his time there created award winning budgets and financial planning for the city that are still used to this day. Bergie would eventually help start Troop 45 in Howe and remain one of its key members until his passing.

Bergie was the embodiment of the Boy Scouts law by living his life Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean and Reverent at all times to anyone and everyone. After his retirement Bergie worked for Grayson County as the custodian of Loy Lake Park and as a volunteer for the National Parks Service at Rocky Mountain National Park in Estes Park, Colorado during the summers planting plants and cleaning trail systems. Bergie lived a large life and everyone around him was considered a true friend. You always knew Bergie by his simple greeting of a very loud “HEYYYY!” that would preface any greeting that brought smiles to those who knew him.

He was a lifelong member of the First United Methodist Church in

Bergie Stuteville

Howe, Texas and volunteered as the Financial Officer and with the Feed My Sheep Food Pantry with the church bringing his life full circle with the grocery business.

Bergie also enjoyed raising cattle on his farm and living a simple life of selfless service to God. Bergie is survived by his wife Nancy Stuteville of Gunter. Son, Kevin Stuteville of San Jose, California. Son and Daughter in law, Steve and Kathy Stuteville of Arlington, Texas. The Mother of his Son’s Barbara Dorene Stiles, of Garland, Texas. Son and Daughter in law, Edward and Cynthia Ward of Pottsboro, Texas. Daughter and Son in law, Jeanine and Paul Wolf of Oglesby, Texas.

Many Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren, Nieces, and Nephews. He is also survived by his brother BJ and sisters Charlene, Patty Ann and their respective Spouses and Family Members. Bergie was preceded in death by his Parents. His Sister Laura Mae Brown. His Grandson Roston Ward, whom he would call his best of friends. The Family would like to ask that in lieu of flowers that Donations be made to the Autism Society of America by calling 800-328-8476 option 3 to support finding a cure for people, like his beloved Grandson Roston, that live with Autism and the challenges that they face every day.

A celebration of life will be held at 10:00 AM Saturday, March 27, 2021 at the First United Methodist Church of Howe, located at 810 N Denny St, Howe, TX 75459. Burial will be held at a later date. You may sign the online register book at www.scogginsfuneralhome.com.

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Kathy McGarry, Mayo Agency 215 S Ray Roberts Pkwy, P.O. Box 519 Tioga TX 76271 940-437-2378 kathy.mayoagency@gmail.com

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Texas Farm Bureau Insurance, Darren Foster – Agent 1363 S Waco St Van Alstyne TX 75495 https://www.txfbins.com/ insurance/agent/grayson/ 32707/darrenfoster 903-436-2470 dfoster@txfb-ins.com

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REAL ESTATE Bill French Properties 315 N Travis Suite B-3 Sherman TX 75090 billfrenchproperties.com 903-893-BILL (2455) bill@billfrenchproperties.com Sheryl Bentley, REMAX REALTORS (903) 821-7653 yourrealtorsheryl@gmail.com Michael Taylor – Keller Williams Realty P.O. Box 575 Howe TX 75459 mtaylor@kw.com RESTAURANTS

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El Patio Escondido Mexican Restaurant & Cantina 495 W. Van Alstyne Pkwy, P.O. Box 637 Van Alstyne TX 75495 elpatioescondido.com 903-482-5538 williampacheco519@yahoo.com

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HIT Exteriors, LLC Howe, TX 75459 972-977-1523 sergio@hitexteriors.com STORAGE Howe Mini-Storage 609 N. Denny St. Howe TX 75459 903-532-7867 amanda.garner@howecpa.com TOWING Adams Automotive & Towing 85 Redden Rd Van Alstyne TX 75495 adamsautotow.com 903-482-5784 Pristine Towing & Roadside Assistance 135 Hodgins Rd. P.O. Box 1672 Van Alstyne TX 75495 (903) 814-8064 INDIVIDUAL MEMBERS Clarissia Doty Donna Wormsbaker Freddy Holcomb Jesse Davis Ned & Connie Culp Joe Shephard

2021 Howe Chamber event schedule

The Howe Area Chamber of Commerce is organized for the purpose of advancing the commercial, industrial, civic and general interest of the City of Howe, Texas.

Howe, Texas is at the intersection of U.S. Highway 75, State Highway 5, and Farm Road 902, on the Southern Pacific line ten miles south of Sherman in southern Grayson County. Howe is the highest point between the Red River and the Gulf of Mexico at 873 ft above sea level. The city was originated in 1872. The Howe Area Chamber of Commerce was first organized in 1964, with President Cleon Hamilton. It was reorganized in 1972 with Ray Hamilton as president. In 1984, it was once again reorganized with President James Ogle. In 2015, the organization revamped for the fourth time under new leadership from President Robert Cannaday. The current elected president in 2021 is Monte Walker.

Become a member today!

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City of Howe SECONDS COUNT IN AN EMERGENCY! That's why the City of Howe has instituted the CodeRED Emergency Notification System - an ultra high-speed telephone communication service for emergency notifications.

This system allows us to telephone all or targeted areas in case of an emergency situation that requires immediate action (such as a boil-water notice, missing child or evacuation notices). The system is capable of dialing 60,000 phone numbers per hour. It then delivers a prerecorded message describing the situations to a live person or an answering machine in the affected area possibly including instructions requiring action on the part of the recipient. Once the situation is remedied, another call will be placed to the area signaling that the issue has been addressed and that normal activities can be resumed.

The following information is required to add a telephone number into the "CodeRED" database: first and last name; address (physical address, no P.O. boxes); city; state; Zip Code; and primary phone number. The system works with cellular phones but requires a valid street address. When entering information, please fill out all of the screens because the newest data entered will replace the old data. Sign up by visiting http://www.co.grayson.tx.us/page/oem.cred

2020-21 Local taxation State Sales Tax General Revenue Sales Tax Ad valorem reduction Sales Tax Economic Development (Type B) Sales Tax Total

6.25 % 1.00 % 0.50 % 0.50 % 8.25 %

City of Howe Tax Rate Howe I.S.D Tax Rate Grayson County Tax Rate Grayson County Junior College Tax Rate Total (per $100 valuation)

$0.57 $1.43 $0.42 $0.17 $2.59

City of Howe Budget

$3,805,.346

Cityofhowe.org City Hall 116 E. Haning St., 903-532-5571 Mayor: Bill French City Administrator: Joe Shephard City Secretary: Joy Stevens Utility Billing and Municipal Court 116 E. Haning St. 903-532-5571 Utility Clerk: Beccy Roberts Court Clerk: Kerri Cheatham (After hours night drop available) Public Works 317 S. Hughes St. Public Works Director: Mickey Phillips Code Enforcement 317 S. Hughes St. Code Enforcement Officer: Bert Dowlen Howe Fire Department 118 E. Haning 903-532-6888 (nonemergency) Fire Chief: Robert Maniet Howe Police Department 700 W. Haning St. 903-532-9971 (non-emergency) Dispatch 903813-4411 Police Chief: Carl Hudman Police Sergeant: Keith Milks Economic Development 101 E. Haning St. 903-532-6080 EDC Director: Monte Walker City Council meets third Tuesday at 700 W. Haning St. at 6 pm.

Planning & Zoning Commission Meets third Monday as needed Howe Community Facilities Development Corporation Meets as needed For more information visit the city website www.cityofhowe.org

2021 City of Howe Water, Sewer, Refuse collection rates - one bill $27.15 $7.45 $8.35 $9.30 $9.90 $33.60 $5.25 $13.35 $1.10 $27.15 $33.60 $13.35 $1.10 $75.20 $56.95 $54.60 $13.35 $1.10 $126.00 $98.70 $80.85 $13.35 $1.10 $194.00

WATER Base per 1,000 next 4,000 per 1,000 next 20,000 per 1,000 next 20,000 per 1,000 all over 45,000 SEWER Base per additional metered 1,000 gallons TRASH (solid waste) Base Tax MINIMUM BILL Water Sewer Trash Tax Total 5,000 gallons usage Water Sewer Trash Tax Total 10,000 gallons usage Water Sewer Trash Tax Total

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Hilltop Ranch

Attendees of the luncheon included City Councilmember Georgia Richardson (second from left).

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but with the market and the depth of the market today, there’s no inventory,” said Norris who said each city should have approximately 24 months of inventory.

The lack of capacity for new buyers is assisting the existing homes that are being resold where people are getting 10 to 20 percent above asking price just due to availability. He said that is not only happening up to Sherman, but also as far south as Red Oak. “This region has brought so much attention nationwide for our stability. I’m hoping we don’t get an influx of instability, but so far we’re managing it as an industry,” said Norris. “A lot of cities are paying attention to infrastructure needs.”

Norris said that he has 394 lots near completion in Celina of which 87 have pre-sold.

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“I don’t even have the subdivision finished yet, and earnest money is up on over 80 lots,” said Norris. “It’s amazing times.”

Sheryl Bentley delivered a message to Norris of the Field of Dreams method of, if you build— people will come. Norris stated that he believed that was true and people in this area can see that.

He stated that getting public builders and their accountants that are reporting to Wall Street to understand the justification of building in a new market.

“COVID really disrupted a lot of companies industry-wide, not just retail. Construction is going to be the first one that comes back, and I hope this will continue up to Howe,” said Norris.

Grayson County Commissioner Jeff Whitmire spoke up about Howe’s first need which is the sewer plant and asked when that could be completed. Norris said that the sewer plant would go in conjunction with Phase I and

hoped that it would all work at the same time.

“We’re looking for a financial partner to step in for builder commitments,” said Norris who indicated they are just now getting back into the recovery of being this far north (of Dallas) with the private industry builders.

Howe’s Economic Development Director Monte Walker posed to question in regard to starting price for the homes in the development.

“What we’re seeing is if you start at $200,000 or less, those are getting gobbled up by investors which in turn become rental properties. How do we get those starters up out of the rent market?”

Norris responded that the developers would be responsible for the starting cost and deed restrictions could be placed such that the first acquisition must live in the property for a minimum of two years and that ownership could not exist in a certain area.

He said the starting point for homes in the development would most likely begin at $265,000 and improve from there based on upgrades from the builder.

“We try and sell as many as we can as fast as we can to get into Phase II for financial reasons and infrastructure payoffs,” said Norris.

Howe ISD Superintendent asked if the Hilltop Ranch development would include a school site.

“We always see elementary schools as a benefit to residential development,” said Norris. “It is a positive situation where typically these (the buyers) are young families that promotes a lot of kids.”

Some of those in attendance were Howe City Council member Georgia Richardson, Howe ISD Superintendent Kevin Wilson, Grayson County Commissioner Jeff Whitmire, City of Dorchester Mayor David Smith, and City of Howe Economic Development Director Monte Walker.

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Texas History Minute He was best known for a short pen name, “O. Henry.” The man behind the stories, William Sydney Porter, was a complicatKen Bridges ed character with a sharp imagination. Porter wrote hundreds of stories in his short career and became one of the best-known short story writers of the twentieth century.

Porter was born in Greensboro, North Carolina, in 1862. His father was a doctor. His mother died of tuberculosis when he was a child.

He showed a deep imagination and strong artistic talents as a child. He loved reading from an early age.

As a teenager, he began working at his uncle’s drugstore as a pharmacist and drew sketches of the customers in his spare time.

In 1882, he moved with a friend to South Texas to attempt to rehabilitate his shaky health. He worked for a time on a sheep ranch as a ranch hand and a cook. Two years later, he moved to Austin to work as a pharmacist. It was in Austin that Porter began writing. Initially, it was a hobby, but it gradually took up more and more of his time.

In 1887, he married and took up a new job. Porter worked for four years at the Texas General Land Office drawing maps and took a job as an accountant at an area bank in 1891. However, three years later, the bank came across several accounting errors, accused him of embezzlement, and fired him. At that point, he took up writing full time, publishing his own weekly humor magazine, The Rolling Stone. Though popular, the magazine failed within a year and Porter soon found work with The Houston Post.

Not long after the move to Houston, federal auditors charged him with embezzlement from his former bank job. He was arrested but released on bail. He soon fled to New Orleans where he continued to write and took up the pen name of O. Henry after a conversation with a friend. He then fled to Honduras but returned to the United States when his wife’s health col-

lapsed. His wife died within weeks of his arrival, and he was again arrested.

The trial was held in Austin, where he was sentenced to five years in prison in 1898. Ironically, the same courthouse today is owned by the University of Texas and has been rechristened O. Henry Hall.

He was released in 1901 for good behavior. In 1902, he moved to New York where he landed a job writing weekly stories for The New York World Sunday Magazine. He would write more than 300 short stories between 1902 and his death, many known for a sudden, surprise twist at the end.

Perhaps his most famous story was "The Gift of the Magi," originally appearing in December 1905. It is the touching tale of a young couple in turn-of the-century New York who want to get something special for each other for Christmas but have no money. Unbeknownst to each other, they give up something they prize to buy their gifts. The wife sells her luxuriant hair to afford a silver chain for her husband’s pocket watch. The husband, however, had sold his watch to pay for jeweled hair combs for his wife which were so popular at that time.

The story has since been retold many times and dramatized on screen in many forms.

Two other stories included “The Caballero’s Way,” (1907) which introduced The Cisco Kid, a character reproduced by many other authors; and “The Ransom of Red Chief,” which appeared in The Saturday Evening Post in 1907 as the tale of two kidnappers who kidnap a rich, spoiled brat in hopes of ransom but end up paying the father for him to take the incorrigible child back.

His heavy drinking steadily took its toll on him. It cost him his marriage. His second wife left him in 1909. He descended further into the bottle and died in 1910 at age 47. In spite of his sad end, he was praised in later years. Schools in Garland and Austin were named for him as well as in his native Greensboro. In 1918, the prestigious O. Henry Award was established in his memory for outstanding short story writers.

Dr. Bridges is a Texas native, writer, and history professor. He can be reached at drkenbridges@gmail.com. © 2021 The Howe Enterprise

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God is still in the miracle business Many people around the world have heard of the Moron Brothers, (Michael Carr and Michael Hammond) who live in my hometown.

Dr. Billy Mike Carr is a Holland good friend and I’ve actually performed music with him in church events and we are also members of a gospel quartet. As a dedicated Christian, he’s had some amazing spiritual experiences and I want to share one of these true accounts with you.

It was around 6:00 am on a rainy morning in September 1999, when the fire station where Mike was serving received an emergency call saying there had been a serious accident out on a country road. A young couple was driving into town where they both worked, when tragically a drunk driver that was heading home after partying all night, crossed into their lane and hit them head-on.

Mike and his crew were the first to reach the scene, and it was a horrible sight. The driver who had hit the couple had died instantly, then immediately they began to work feverishly to help the couple. The wife was behind the steering wheel and was very pregnant. The terrible news was the front end of their car had been crushed toward them and the steering wheel was squeezing her to where she could hardly breathe. Mike ran to get the jaws of life and began trying to cut the steering wheel so they could pull her free. Her husband was unconscious and Mike heard his partner say that among other problems, he had a ruptured aorta and that he could not stop the internal bleeding. The wife had been screaming the entire time and through the chaos and the roaring sound of cutting metal, Mike looked at the other paramedic and saw him shake his head as the husband now had no pulse.

Suddenly, Mike said he clearly heard the voice of God within his conscience. The Lord told him to relay to the wife that everything was going to be fine with her, the baby, and her husband. This went against what he was seeing and

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thinking in the natural, but he stopped the machine, took her by the hand, and calmly said, “God told me that everything is going to be alright with all three of you.” As the rain continued to fall, an indescribable peace came over her and as she stared at him through her tears, she simply said thank you. He went back to work and freed her and in a flash, they were in the ambulance and gone.

Mike said he would have never said that on his own because he thought they were all going to die, but he knew the Lord wanted him to reassure her that God was going to save them. Three months later on Christmas Eve, Mike was on his shift at the station and this family walked in holding a beautiful little baby. God had miraculously healed each of them and everything was alright just like God had promised. They were excited to tell Mike how much they appreciated him being there and listening to the Lord when it looked like there was no hope.

Mike got on his knees and they all gave thanks to God and said they would never forget this miracle from heaven.

Yes, God still speaks and gives miracles! The sea of darkness and hopelessness wants to drown all of us, but the Almighty is saying for us to reach out to Him as Peter did when he began to sink and God will not only save us from our sins but also from fear, worries, and sadness. For those who have never committed their lives to God, He is inviting you today to call upon Him and to ask Him to come into your life and save you. Christ died on the cross for you and rose from the dead to spiritually redeem and rescue all who would believe in Him. “Seek the Lord while he may be found, call upon him while he is near.

Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, and God will have mercy on him; for He will abundantly pardon” Isaiah 55:6-7. We can encourage ourselves in the Lord as David did, just tell Jesus how you feel and He will fill your heart with His joy, hope, and peace. If you do not believe or expect a miracle, how will you ever receive one?

This is an excerpt from Billy’s new book, “Receiving our Healing” billyhollandministries.com

Local church calendar A Christian Fellowship 150 Fellowship Ln, Sherman, TX 75090 (903) 815-1333 Wednesday 6:30 pm – Potluck Meal 7:00 pm – Worship Service 7:00 pm – Jr & Sr High Youth Sunday 9:30 am – Sunday School (all ages) 10:30 am – Worship Service 10:30 am – KidZone Children’s Service (5yr – 12 yr.)

Community Bible Fellowship 415 S Collins Fwy, Howe, TX 75459 Wednesday 6:30 pm - Food and Fellowship 7:00 pm - Community Kids (ages 3 - 6th grade, nursery available) 7:00 pm - Youth and Adult Bible Study Sunday 10:30 am - Worship Service First Baptist Church Dorchester 11831 FM 902, Dorchester, TX 75459 903-476-5525 Wednesday 6:00 pm - Meal (Donations for adults and kids eat free) 6:30 pm - Praise service 7:00 pm - Youth Bible Study 7:00 pm - Adult Bible Study 7:00 pm - RA's/GA's/children's group Sunday 9:00 am - Men's Prayer Time 9:45 am - Sunday School 10:45 am - A.M. Worship Service 5:00 pm - Adult Choir Practice 6:00 pm - Evening Worship First Baptist Church Howe 100 E. Davis St., Howe, TX 903532-5504 Tuesday 7:00 pm - Bible Study Wednesday 5:30 pm - Kids Choir 6:30 pm - Team Kid 6:30 pm - Youth Ministry 6:30 pm - Adult Bible Fellowship Sunday 9:15 am - Bible Fellowship 10:30 am - Kids Church 10:30am - Worship Service

First United Methodist Church of Howe 810 N Denny St, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6718 Monday 9:30 am - Care Team Meeting 10:30 am - Pastor's Bible Study Tuesday 9:30 am - Women's Bible Study 11:30 am - Out and About with Pastor Zack 6:30 pm Boy Scouts Wednesday 9:00 am - Wednesday Workers 6:30 pm - Jr. High and Sr. High Youth Saturday 9:00 am - Feed My Sheep (1st and 3rd Sat each month) Sunday 8:40 am - Fellowship and Donuts 9:00 am - Sunday School 10:00 am - Worship service 3:00 pm - Cub Scouts Howe Church of Christ 1205 N Collins Fwy, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6441 Wednesday 7:00 pm - Bible Classes (all ages) Sunday 9:00 am - Bible Classes (all ages) 10:00 am - Worship Service 5:00 pm - Worship Service New Beginning Fellowship 910 S Denny St, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6828 Wednesday 7:00 pm - Radiate Youth 7:00 pm - Sanctuary of for prayer Sunday 9:30 am - Sunday School (kids, youth, women, men) 10:30 am - Worship Service 10:30 am - Kids Church

Times are subject to change. Please check with each church for any possible changes

Verse of the week Numbers 14:19 In accordance with your great love, forgive the sin of these people, just as you have pardoned them from the time they left Egypt until now.”

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How should I spend my stimulus check?

Hey Taylor: Bet you haven’t heard this question before (haha). Any tips for the best way to make Taylor my stimulus Kovar check count?

Don’t love the idea of a handout so if I’ve got the money I want it to go to good use. - Nico Hey Nico: Another month, another round of stimulus! The whole goal of these payments is to stimulate the economy, so that’s our job as recipients. Of course, there are a lot of ways to go about this.

Get your finances back under control. If you’re one of the workers who was hit hardest by this pandemic and the ensuing shutdowns, you need to use this money wisely. Do whatever you can to get back on your feet and comfortable. The economy does much better when more people are self-sufficient, so if you can turn a stimulus check into a new job, then you’ve done the best thing possible for your situation.

Shop local. As you’ve probably heard, big companies like Amazon didn’t struggle much over the last year. It’s the small businesses that took the biggest hit, so that’s where you need to spend if possible. Take your bike to get repaired at the local shop or donate some of your cash to an afterschool program that hasn’t been able to hold classes. Those of us who were fortunate enough to keep earning a paycheck should try to think of the ways we can help people who had a tougher go of it while things were shut down.

Go to restaurants. When you go out to eat, you spread the wealth

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very effectively. Cooks, wait staff, and food and drink vendors all take home a slice of that pie, so you can feel good about your choice to dine out instead of cooking at home. This is also a great opportunity to tip big, as we all know waiters and waitresses who could use a little extra padding in their wallets.

Get out of debt, invest, save for a home. If you’re all square on the points above, go ahead and use this money to better your life in whatever way you see fit. Pay off a credit card or open a brokerage account. If you’ve been meaning to start saving up to buy a house or a car but never felt like the money was there, this could be the first step. As soon as this money hits your bank account, it’s yours to use in whatever way you want. Don’t stress too hard about making the “right” choice with how to spend money that’s rightfully yours.

This is always a good question, so I appreciate you asking it.

Hope everything works out!

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Living with children To most folks, micromanagement has to do with tasks or performance.

The micromanaging parent, for example, is genJohn erally thought of Rosemond as one who hovers over a child’s homework or academics in general. Indeed, that is the most common form, but parental micromanagement can also extend to organizing and directing a child’s social life and recreation.

Whatever the context, micromanagement is driven by anxiety. The micromanaging parent is anxious that the child might do something that reflects badly on the parent, which means that parental micromanagement is a variation on the theme of codependency. It is almost always the case that the attempt to micromanage a child engenders relationship problems of one sort or another, including rebellion.

The least obvious form of parental micromanagement involves the attempt to perfect a child’s behavior. The parent in question is affected by a type of obsessivecompulsive disorder, symptoms of which include over-attending to misbehavior, persistent nagging, frequent lecturing, and the over-use of punitive consequences. There is no doubt concerning the parent’s love for his or her child, but it is demonstrated in the most paradoxical of ways. How, pray tell, is a child to understand that someone who is often angry at him genuinely loves him?

It goes without saying, parents who micromanages misbehavior are overly vigilant. They can’t bring themselves to let even the smallest infraction – the child makes a sour face at some instruction, for example – go by the boards. Every little thing is a big deal, worthy of agitation, a lecture, and even punishment. Their kids eventually become immune to lecturing and being punished, which is a rather understandable defense mechanism. Unfortunately, the parent interprets the child’s

immunity as evidence of disrespect and the need for more “discipline.” And around and around they go.

Micromanagers are their own worst enemies. By being on the constant lookout for a problem, they activate a self-fulfilling prophecy and problems are what they get. So, for example, the parent who is constantly on the lookout for disrespect gets precisely what she’s looking for. The smallest nuance of body language becomes confirmation that her child doesn’t respect her and needs more correction. Eventually, a child who was just being a child – kids wear their emotions on their sleeves – becomes truly disrespectful. By what magic does a person come to respect a person who is constantly on their back about something or other?

A functional relationship between a superior and a subordinate requires more of the former than the latter. For one thing, it requires that the superior overlook what is nothing but “background noise” – quirks of personality, for instance.

Not sweating every little peccadillo is an important part of what being authentically superior is all about.

I hate to bust a bubble or two out there in Reader Land, but parents do not deserve respect. If you want your child to “invest” in your authority, you must act like you know what you are doing.

Micromanagers think they know what they’re doing, but thinking is as far as it goes because what they’re doing is counterproductive, always.

And their children know that.

Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parent guru.com.

John Rosemond has worked with families, children, and parents since 1971 in the field of family psychology. In 1971, John earned his masters in psychology from Western Illinois University and was elected to the Phi Kappa Phi National Honor Society.

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