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Veterans honored with breakfast at Howe Church of Christ

Howe 6U softball wins fall championship

Pradera Hosts Halloween Trick or Treat

For several years now the Howe Church of Christ

The Howe 6U team played in a triple -overtime

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Got a call this week that donkey was on the loose around Bethel Baptist Church. We must have been too late as no donkey was in sight and no donkey -chasers. Darn.

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In the tunnel moments before their performance— HHS Band Director Angie Liss stand with Drum Major Erin Catching (left), Asst. Drum Major Chloe Scoggins, and Vale Langford (right).

Last Tuesday, The Pride of Howe Marching Band exited Howe with a police and fire escort and around the school campuses and around the main parts of Howe. Their destination was San Antonio for another trip to the UIL State Marching Band Championship where they ultimately placed 17 of the 22 bands. But in reality, they placed 17 of over 200 bands in Class 3A. Howe is no stranger to state competition as they have made it to the state prelims 22 times in the last 26 contests and have made the finals 17 times and ultimately winning the championship three times (1980, 1995, and 1997).

Since 1980, Howe has missed state competition in four years (1985, 2005, 2007, and 2015).

Statistically speaking as far as state appearances are

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concerned, there is no band program in any classification over the past 39 years that has been better than The Pride of Howe.

“Obviously it got started with Elmer (Schenk) and I haven’t killed it yet,” said HHS Band Director Angie Liss while laughing.

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Summit Gardens celebrates long-awaited grand opening

Jean Norman, chairman of the Howe Development Foundation readies to cut the ribbon for Summit Gardens on Saturday night.

Michelle Walker/Howe Enterprise.

The moment finally arrived Saturday night as Summit Gardens finally opened the doors to the public for the first time after the completion of the 4-year

renovation project. The wedding and event venue began with an acoustic performance by hometown music artist Brent (Continued on page 2)

Agee places 75 of 150 at state cross country meet

Howe did not make the finals this time around and Liss says there were tears from students and staff after the realization that they would not perform again after the prelims.

“We’re not used to not being in the finals. Most of the time we are,” said Liss.

“Most of the times we are, and we felt like we’d had a good run. So, there were tears and disappointment.

We were also tired because there’s a lot of walking and Howe’s Marissa Agee ran her second-fastest time at (Continued on page 3) 13:12 at the state cross country meet on Saturday.

The junior is a state qualifier in track also.

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Top picture: The former First Christian Church in June 2015.

Bottom picture: Summit Gardens wedding and event venue in November 2018.

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Hollensed who was joined with Bent Creek band mate Claude Webb.

Giving opening remarks were City of Howe Director of Economic Development Monte Walker and Chairman of the Howe Development Foundation Jean Norman. Boyd Dunn, the man who spent four years of his life dedicated to the hands-on construction of the renovation also gave a brief emotional speech.

Residents of Howe and even people not associated with the city complained for years about the look of the now-126-year-old structure that was originally built and housed the First Christian Church for 99 years.

The structure was granted to the city over 30 years ago and leased to the Howe Historical Society for several years after serving as the Community Center from 1982

-1992. The historical group’s efforts raised some money for the renovation of the building, but the team headed by Carrie Waller and Jean Norman ran out of steam.

However, they kept the money that they had raised which helped the beginning of the newest renovation project.

The City of Howe had received renovation quotes in 2009 and 2010 which each was over $450,000 and one was $693,000. During that time, the city also received quotes for the demolition of the structure which was as low as $12,000.

In June of 2015, Walker, who was also serving as president of Keep Howe Beautiful at the time met with members of the Great Days of Service including Clyde Hepner and Bruce Evans. Plans were laid out to complete the restoration in phases. The volunteer group completed the first phase that month by boarding up broken windows and clearing (Continued on page 5)

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Veterans honored with breakfast at Howe Church of Christ

Veterans help themselves to some good cookin’ at the Howe Church of Christ on Saturday.

For several years now the Howe Church of Christ has invited veterans for a breakfast at the church on the Saturday before Veterans Day. The morning began with prayer followed by good food and fellowship.

“It seems like all the guys enjoy it

and we enjoy doing it for them to celebrate our veterans in our area,” said Judy Finney who was helping serve food to the veterans.

Veterans came from as far as Anna and Pottsboro to enjoy the good food and fellowship.

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The Pride of Howe during their performance at the state championship in San Antonio. it’s very intense.

Liss says that she’ll remember the 2019 Pride of Howe band as one that had to get where were because of the overall unity.

“This band didn’t have that bighuge personality superstar, but it was a group where they all played, all contributed and it was definitely a team effort to get that thing out there on the field,” Liss said. “It’s a young band and we had inexperienced people in the front ensemble. They went from never touching a certain instrument before July 31 to playing on the floor at the Alamodome.”

Mineola eventually became the state champion for the second year in a row. From the area, Whitesboro advanced as the number two seed and eventually finished second in state. Van

Alstyne also did not make the finals and finished 11 of the 22 bands.

Liss says that each Howe band is different and has their own identity and personality. This particular band did not like to perform in hot weather, whereas some of her bands do not adapt well to the cold weather.

“You have to figure out quickly ‘what’s this group like? How do they respond?’, said Liss. “I don’t care how much you prepare and how much you work, something’s going to be thrown at you that you weren’t suspecting.

Whether it’s a speaker not working or a change of warmup location. Something is going to be different, so you have to figure out how that group is going to adapt.”

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Texoma Patriots to meet Tuesday Richard Green of the Clarion Project will be speaking about Islam and showing the new film Kids: Chasing Paradise due for release in 2020. Kids is a powerful new film that takes an unflinching look at the brutal exploitation of youth by extremists worldwide. International law states that it is illegal for children to be trained and take part in armed conflicts. However, parents of child soldiers believe that these conventions should be disregarded as their children are fighting a holy battle. The documentary features compelling personal stories of children who are actively influenced by extremists and their families, and it showcases activists and experts who confront this growing global threat. The film depicts radical Islam’s battle for our children’s future. Watch the original footage of a child solider, who tells about his experiences on the front lines and explains his dream of becoming a martyr. We need to spread the word about radical Islam’s battle for our children’s future.

Please see the trailer for this upcoming film Kids:Chasing Paradise.

The meeting will be held at Buck Snort BBQ, 224 E. Jefferson St, Van Alstyne TX. Doors will open at 5 pm with the meeting starting at 7 pm. Jim Smith offers

Richard Green a special price for the buffet on meeting nights. Everyone is welcome. There is no charge to attend the meeting.

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Summit Gardens

Jean Norman gave a wonderful recap and recognized everyone who had a hand in the renovation.

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brush around the premises.

“I would like this to be a community-vested project,” said Walker in a 2015 Howe Enterprise article. “It’s already being jump-started by one of the best community-based groups – Great Days of Service. I’m envisioning a rally of “Save the Church.” I know how hard Jean (Norman) worked to be able to one day see the end results and have that old church beautiful again. To me, that day will be my favorite. To see that smile on her face when it’s completed.

That’s the day I’m ready for.

There will be tears that day.”

In July that year, the money that the Howe Historical Society raised many years ago went to fix the foundation of the structure for $15,000. Then the city used the Collins Memorial Foundation money left from the Collins family for the upkeep of the building to cover the exterior with new premium siding for $25,000.

In late July, former City Administrator Joe Fenton came to Walker with an idea of how a fundraiser that takes place in Muenster could work for Howe. Their fundraiser raises massive amounts of dollars on an annual basis with a dinner and live and silent auction. The promotion heavily involves a partnership from their local newspaper. That meeting with Fenton evolved into a full-blown “Save the Church” fundraiser set for Nov. 7, 2015.

On Aug. 6, 2015 the “Save the Church” committee was formed where Jean Norman was elected president of the organization. Those heavily

involved in the beginning also were Hepner, Georgia Caraway, Alton Norman, Dusty Williams, Linda Wall, Mary Jo Wren, Beverly Martin Mary Stonebarger, Sheri Folkes, Donna Pelkey, Curt and LeAndra Beckemeyer, and Boyd Dunn. The committee determined that the end result of the building would be used to serve as a wedding and event venue.

Once the exterior became visible to citizens that a true effort to renovate the building was being made, it stirred interest from other willing donors to help out financially to turn the eyesore to the most beautiful structure in the city.

On Nov. 7, 2015, a live auction and silent auction took place at the Howe Fire Department and Howe Development Alliance office. Keep Howe Beautiful hosted an all-you-can-eat BBQ dinner for $10. All proceeds went towards the Save the Church project. Close to 200 auction items were available for people to bid on.

Rob Hunt and a group called “Not in Grayson County” had money left over from a previous rally and donated $10,505 to the cause. After the donation, the dinner and auction, the Save the Church group collected over $25,000.

Boyd Dunn and Mike Barlow began construction in November 2015 with the removal of the baptistry that was penetrating the floor due to the settling of the building. Dunn and Barlow spent the next four years of their lives donating their labor for the

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Boyd Dunn (left) and Mike Barlow (right) spent four years donating their craftsman skills to renovating the former First Christian Church.

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renovation of the building.

The Howe Development Foundation (HDF) began in the summer of 2016 to work as a supplement to the economic development for Howe. One of the initiatives of the 501c6 was to oversee and operate the organization that began as “Save the Church” and evolved into “Summit Gardens” which the wedding and event venue was named. Walker serves as president of HDF while Jean Norman serves as chairman.

With funds from the initial fundraiser running low by the end of 2016, the group held another BBQ Dinner and Auction that raised over $9,000. In both auctions, funds from the dinner went to Keep Howe Beautiful for the garden area outdoors while the remainder went for materials for construction.

The first auction Nov. 7, 2015.

Health issues with Dunn forced a delay in the renovation. Rick Owens Construction picked up the slack and helped install drywall and electric for $10,000. Baker A/C & Heating installed new units and converted

the building from gas to electric for $8,000. Darrah Dunn, a master carpenter finished the vestibule area for $5,000. All the broken wooden bell tower louvers were replaced by metal ones with a screen to keep birds out. Three louvers cost $2,800 and were installed by Roger Brown of Metal Masters. Brown also painted the exterior fish scales and trim to match the white siding.

Dunn and Mike Barlow completed a porch to wrap around the north side of the building to the tune of $3,000. Georgia Caraway and Oscar Blankenmeyer donated over $1,000 to replace the broken windows, and the City of Howe had the roof replaced in 2017 and updated the sidewalk entrance in 2018.

Upon finishing touches, Janie and Harold Finney donated kitchen appliances and a large screen TV to the facility.

Even as Denton money filtered to the project through sales at the Howe Mercantile, the group again began to run low on funding as materials costs began to accumulate. An anonymous citizen then stepped up and offered a $15,000 no-interest loan to finish out the construction. The HDF could not have finished out the work on a timely basis if that person did not come forward and offer help.

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The organization has grown to include hard-working members Dick and Daisy Smithwick, Becky Hogenson, Donna Wormsbaker, Janie Finney, Mary Stonebarger, and many others. Jerry Welch created the frame for the sign that now sits in front of the building and Finney painted the entire porch in the heat of the summer. She also cleaned the inside of the building on numerous occasions.

“All of our working volunteers brought their own skill sets that made this dream a reality,” said Walker. “From Jean Norman’s leadership, to Boyd (Dunn) and Mike’s (Barlow) craftmanship, to Georgia’s (Caraway) fundraising expertise, to Janie Finney’s hard worker-bee-like mentality, to Becky’s (Hogenson) vision for the garden, it’s been a working ensemble of amazing people will a variety of talents.”

Claude Webb (left) and Brent Hollensed (right).

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2019 State Marching Band Results Rank

School

J1

J2

J3

J4

J5

1

Mineola HS

1

1

1

1

1

5

2

Whitesboro HS

2

6

4

3

4

19

3

Queen City HS

3

8

2

8

3

24

4

White Oak HS

4

2

7

7

7

27

5

Atlanta HS

8

3

9

5

2

27

6

C.H. Yoe HS

5

10

3

6

5

29

7

Holliday HS

9

5

5

4

6

29

8

Redwater HS

6

9

6

2

9

32

9

Crane HS

7

4

10

10

8

39

10

Lyford HS

10

7

8

9

10

44

Total

Local church calendar A Christian Fellowship 150 Fellowship Ln, Sherman, TX 75090 (903) 815-1333 Wednesday 6:30 pm – Potluck Meal 7:00 pm – Worship Service 7:00 pm – Jr & Sr High Youth Sunday 9:30 am – Sunday School (all ages) 10:30 am – Worship Service 10:30 am – KidZone Children’s Service (5yr – 12 yr.)

Community Bible Fellowship 415 S Collins Fwy, Howe, TX 75459 Wednesday 6:30 pm - Food and Fellowship 7:00 pm - Community Kids (ages 3 - 6th grade, nursery available) 7:00 pm - Youth and Adult Bible Study Sunday 10:30 am - Worship Service First Baptist Church Dorchester 11831 FM 902, Dorchester, TX 75459 903-476-5525 Wednesday 6:00 pm - Meal (Donations for adults and kids eat free) 6:30 pm - Praise service 7:00 pm - Youth Bible Study 7:00 pm - Adult Bible Study 7:00 pm - RA's/GA's/children's group Sunday 9:00 am - Men's Prayer Time 9:45 am - Sunday School 10:45 am - A.M. Worship Service 5:00 pm - Adult Choir Practice 6:00 pm - Evening Worship First Baptist Church Howe 100 E. Davis St., Howe, TX 903532-5504 Tuesday 7:00 pm - Bible Study Wednesday 5:30 pm - Kids Choir 6:30 pm - Team Kid 6:30 pm - Youth Ministry 6:30 pm - Adult Bible Fellowship Sunday 9:15 am - Bible Fellowship 10:30 am - Kids Church 10:30am - Worship Service

First United Methodist Church of Howe 810 N Denny St, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6718 Monday 9:30 am - Care Team Meeting 10:30 am - Pastor's Bible Study Tuesday 9:30 am - Women's Bible Study 11:30 am - Out and About with Pastor Zack 6:30 pm Boy Scouts Wednesday 9:00 am - Wednesday Workers 6:30 pm - Jr. High and Sr. High Youth Saturday 9:00 am - Feed My Sheep (1st and 3rd Sat each month) Sunday 8:40 am - Fellowship and Donuts 9:00 am - Sunday School 10:00 am - Worship service 3:00 pm - Cub Scouts

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Howe Church of Christ 1205 N Collins Fwy, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6441 Wednesday 7:00 pm - Bible Classes (all ages) Sunday 9:00 am - Bible Classes (all ages) 10:00 am - Worship Service 5:00 pm - Worship Service New Beginning Fellowship 910 S Denny St, Howe, TX 75459 903-532-6828 Wednesday 7:00 pm - Radiate Youth 7:00 pm - Sanctuary of for prayer Sunday 9:30 am - Sunday School (kids, youth, women, men) 10:30 am - Worship Service 10:30 am - Kids Church

Times are subject to change. Please check with each church for any possible changes

"With a united effort we can make the place in which we live clean, wholesome, attractive. We can make the crowded city dweller homesick to come back to us and real living. We can bring new life, new business, new beauty, to the little towns." - Mame Roberts

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that didn’t march on the field.

big picture.”

“So many kids took on roles, whether it was rolling that speaker around or operating the metronome, they all fell into the role they had and gave it their best,” said Liss.

In the pit where eighth graders that had not played certain instruments before.

Some students hesitated to participate this year because they struggled with marching a year ago. But Liss says they “got it” this year and performed well and she hopes that was a good lesson in sticking with things throughout life.

Being interviewed by a UIL official after the performance was Erin Catching (left), Chloe Scoggins (middle) and Jade Cox. (Continued from page 3)

It was two years, or 729 days, or 1,049,760 minutes, or nearly 63 million seconds between the two state experiences for the Pride of Howe. For band directors like Liss, the experience of standing in the tunnel the moment before performing is the big moment— the calm before the storm, so to speak. The moment only lasts a few minutes and then the goal to reach that moment again begins.

“I want that tunnel experience for those kids so bad,” said Liss.

“There’s just something about it.

To stand there in this tunnel and look out and know that you’re

about to walk out and perform in front of all these people under the lights in this venue that’s nothing like any place we will ever perform like around here.”

In the Texas world of football and marching band, Liss says they work very hard for the other events, but one eye has always been on this big prize.

“Fall is where it’s at in Texas.

It’s the one that gets all of the attention and the big state that people see,” said Liss who says they are already planning for the 2020 show and the 2021 show.

Liss says she’s so proud of all the kids and pointed out even the kids

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Each year, the Pride of Howe train keeps rolling with some seniors stepping off and turning in their instruments while others grab their ticket and begin their five year journey. Over half of the band were underclassmen and only 12 seniors will graduate. Of this year’s performers in San Antonio, several were from the eighth grade. Assistant Drum Major Chloe Scoggins is a sophomore which means if Howe again can qualify for state in 2021, she’ll have the same type of experience as a senior that current Drum Major Erin Catching had going into this year’s championship.

“I’ve definitely got some kids in that sophomore class and there’s a lot talent in that freshman class too. Some of those kids really “get it” and there’s some maturity there where they already see the

The band was in existence for three years before Liss was a fifth grader at Howe. She’s been a part of the program as a member of the band or an instructor of the band in all but those previous years and a short time from the fall of 1983 and the fall of 1994.

“I think about that and what I ask these kids to do. It’s pretty amazing what they’re able to accomplish,” said Liss. “They are playing the right notes, articulating them correctly, in tune with the people around them, pulling their toes up, posture up, holding their instrument straight, halfway between the two people—all of those things are happening at once and I’m asking 13 and 14-year-olds to do that.

And they do it.”

In rehearsal, just as legendary Howe Band Director Elmer Schenk walked out the door, Liss gave a talk to the band deep in the heart of the Alamodome. All eyes were upon her in that pindrop moment and everywhere she walked, all eyes followed. That moment had arrived after 1,049,760 minutes. She told them, “I love you more than Dr. Pepper” and they filed out into the hallway that led to the tunnel.

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Breed champion

An American writer named Sarah Josepha Hale, who also happens to be the author of the nursery rhyme “Mary Had a Little Lamb,” is credited with promoting Thanksgiving as a national holiday. Born in 1788, Hale was a popular editor and became a champion of women of her time. She set standards for taste in topics like cooking, fashion, and literature.

She wrote a novel in 1827 called "Northwood," in which she described what would be the ideal Thanksgiving meal, featuring turkey as the main course: "[It] is considered as an appropriate tribute of gratitude to God to set apart one day of Thanksgiving in each year; and autumn is the time when the overflowing garners of America call for this expression of joyful gratitude."

For years she wrote editorials encouraging the 150,000 readers of the “Boston Ladies Magazine” and “Godey’s Lady’s Book” to join with her in soliciting support for a Thanksgiving holiday, even writing letters to five presidents.

Hale continuously touted her idea of the perfect Thanksgiving, and turkey was always at its center.

The bird was as symbolic as the holiday itself: a sign of America as a land of plenty.

Hale’s letter to Abraham Lincoln led to the creation of the holiday. In 1863, in an effort to unify the country in the aftermath of a bitter Civil War, in a proclamation dated October 3, Lincoln invited Americans to "observe the last Thursday of November as a day of thanksgiving.” It wasn't until after Hale's death that the U.S. Senate and House of Representatives and President Franklin Delano Roosevelt established Thanksgiving as a legal holiday.

I have a large collection

of Thanksgiving postcards all featuring the turkey. (After last week’s column exposed that I have 40 sets of turkey salt and pepper shakers, I hesitate to admit that the turkey is the subject of another of my stashes.)

Many of the turkey designs on postcards have comic quotations. But the most valued cards are those that have a patriotic theme. One interesting card depicts the American eagle and the Thanksgiving turkey. The greeting reads, “May one give us peace in all our states, the other a piece for all our plates.” Turkey postcards are generally inexpensive at $2.00 to $10, however some of the patriotic cards can cost in the $20 -$25 range.

Presley Shockey of Howe won Breed Champion Polled Hereford over the weekend at the North Texas Fall Buckle Showdown in McKinney. Courtesy photo.

A Thanksgiving joke: What are turkeys thankful for at Thanksgiving? Vegetarians.

Dr. Georgia Caraway and her friends operate Howe Mercantile at 107 East Haning. A HUGE sale is going on behind the Mercantile on the Pavilion between now and the end of the year. Think of us for a unique Thanksgiving and Christmas shopping experience. SHOP LOCALLY!! We can show you Howe!!

Howe 6U softball wins fall championship The Howe 6U team played in a triple -overtime game to win 1312 to go into the Championship game against Bells. Howe became the champions as they won 10-3.

The team was undefeated during their fall ball season. Payton Cartwright, Stella Thomas, Kaydence Barnhart, and Avery Landino all hit home runs during the tournament.

Team members were Kayden, Evelyn, Tatum, Stella, Payton, Brooklynn, Leena, Hana, Charlie, Avery, and Paisley

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tdefrange@tldconsulting.net American Efficiency Solutions 2917 Wolf Front Rd Van Alstyne TX 75495 americanefficiency solutions.com/ 214-284-6309 mike@aes-llc.net DENTAL Howe Family Dentistry 100 S. Collins Freeway, PO Box 960 Howe TX 75459 howefamilydentistry.com 903.532.5545 EDUCATION Howe Community Library 315 S. Collins Freeway Howe TX 75459 www.howeisd.net/Page/83 903-745-4050 atchison.melissa@howeisd.net Howe Independent School District 105 W. Tutt St. Howe TX 75459 howeisd.net/ (903) 745-4000 ENTERTAINMENT Twisted Balloons & Magic 1174 Dicken Rd. Howe TX 75459 903-815-6093 bentleym6144@gmail.com FUNERAL HOME Scoggins Funeral Home & Crematory 637 W. Van Alstyne Parkway Van Alstyne TX 75495 scogginsfuneralhome.com 903-482-5225 tommywscoggins@hotmail.com GOVERNMENT Rita Noel, Justice of the Peace P.O. Box 672 Howe TX 75459 903-821-0018 ritanoel169@yahoo.com HAIR SALON Girls Next Door 102 S. Collins Frwy Howe TX 75459 (903) 532-0526 HEALTH AND FITNESS LZfit (personal training) Lauren Zepeda (972-489-4246 Lauren_zepeda@yahoo.com Facebook page Laurenzepedafitness HEALTHCARE Angels of Care Pediatric Home Health 8001 S. U.S. Highway 75 Sherman TX 75090 angelsofcare.com 903-532-1400 jriggs@angelsofcare.com

Bee Square Body Care 26 Williams Trail Howe TX 75459 http://beesquarebodycare.com/ 903-819-0192 Godisgood1@hotmail.com HEATING/AIR CONDITIONING Baker A/C & Heating, Inc. 215 N. Denny St. Howe TX 75459 903-532-6225 bakerac.mark@yahoo.com HOUSING Bainbrook Apartments 511 S. Collins Fwy Howe, TX 75459 (469) 712-4082 bainbrook75459.com Pradera Manufactured Home Park 709 N. Collins Freeway Howe TX 75459 http://praderamhp.com (903) 532-0014 felix@havenparkmgmt.com M&M Properties 901 N. Denny St Howe TX 75459 903-815-9223 marvincurtis2@gmail.com INSURANCE David Morgan Insurance 255 E. Jefferson St, P.O. Box 2105 Van Alstyne TX 75495 http://farmersagent.com/ dmorgan1 903-482-4063 dmorgan1@farmersagent.com Ed Meacham, State Farm 2624 Loy Lake Rd., Suite B Sherman TX 75090 https://www.statefarm.com/ agent/US/TX/Sherman/EdMeacham-3TGY5753JAK 903-892-3923 ed@mredinsurance.com Kathy McGarry, Mayo Agency 215 S Ray Roberts Pkwy, P.O. Box 519 Tioga TX 76271 940-437-2378 kathy.mayoagency@gmail.com Texas Farm Bureau Insurance, Darren Foster – Agent 1363 S Waco St Van Alstyne TX 75495 https://www.txfbins.com/ insurance/agent/grayson/ 32707/darrenfoster 903-436-2470 dfoster@txfb-ins.com Texas Farm Bureau Insurance, Loretta Anderson – Agent

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1363 S Waco St Van Alstyne TX 75495 https://www.txfb -ins.com/ insurance/agent/grayson/ 23242/lorettaanderson 903-819-1041 landerson@txfb-ins.com Aflac Agent Chyna Vincent 1671 Taylor Rd Dorchester TX 75459 940-641-1714 chynakv@live.com INTERNET TekWav 223 N. Walnut St. Sherman TX 75090 http://www.tekwav.com 903-375-9787 jj@tekwav.com NON-PROFIT Goodwill Industries of Northeast Texas 2206 E. Lamar St. Sherman, TX 75090 goodwillnorthtexas.org spierce@goodwillnorthtexas.org PERSONAL SERVICES & CARE Servpro of Sherman/Denison PO Box 1851 Sherman TX 75091 ervproshermandenison.com/ 903-893-7166 belinda.servpro8117@gmail.com PHOTOGRAPHY Melissa Millsap Photography melissa.millsapphotography @gmail.com

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PLUMBING Skinner Plumbing Supply 200 S. Denny St. Howe TX 75459 (903) 532-0034 skinnersupply@yahoo.com Torque Plumbing 102 S. Collins Frwy Howe TX 75459 (972) 658-1515 torquemayes@yahoo.com PUBLIC UTILITIES Atmos Energy 5111 Blue Flame Rd. Sherman TX 75090 http://www.atmosenergy.com/ 1-888-286-6700 (Main) 1-866-322-8667 Natural Gas Emergency Jan.Rugg@atmosenergy.com Billy’s Trash Service 800 S. Andrews Sherman TX 75090 903-814-9070 jeffstanley@cableone.net Grayson -Collin Electric Cooperative, Inc. P.O. Box 548 Van Alstyne TX 75495 www.grayson-collin.coop 903-482-7100 mmcginnis@gcec.net Cavender Home Theater DISH 6202 Texoma Parkway Sherman TX 75090 http://www.cavendertv.com/ 903-892-3499 chris@cavenderht.com REAL ESTATE

Bill French Properties 315 N Travis Suite B-3 Sherman TX 75090 billfrenchproperties.com 903-893-BILL (2455) bill@billfrenchproperties.com Sheryl Bentley, Ebby Halliday REALTORS 3445 FM 1417 N Sherman TX 75092 http://www.ebby.com/agents_ offices/find_agent/info/ sherylbentley (903) 821-7653 sherylbentley@ebby.com The Uselton Group 382 Eagle Point Rd Van Alstyne TX 75495 theuseltongroup.com 469-525-7281 kim@theuseltongroup.com

The following information is required to add a telephone number into the "CodeRED" database: first and last name; address (physical address, no P.O. boxes); city; state; Zip Code; and primary phone number. The system works with cellular phones but requires a valid street address. When entering information, please fill out all of the screens because the newest data entered will replace the old data. Sign up by visiting http:// www.co.grayson.tx.us/page/oem.cred

2019-20 Local taxation State Sales Tax General Revenue Sales Tax Ad valorem reduction Sales Tax Economic Development (Type B) Sales Tax Total

6.25 % 1.00 % 0.50 % 0.50 % 8.25 %

City of Howe Tax Rate Howe I.S.D Tax Rate Grayson County Tax Rate Grayson County Junior College Tax Rate Total (per $100 valuation)

$0.57 $1.43 $0.42 $0.17 $2.59

City of Howe Budget

$3,788,977

elpatioescondido.com 903-482-5538 williampacheco519@yahoo.com

903-532-7867 amanda.garner@howecpa.com

Abby’s Restaurant 110 E. Haning St Howe TX 75459 abbys-restaurant.com/ 903-487-8860 abbysrestaurant@yahoo.com

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Palio’s Pizza Cafe 303 W. Haning St. Howe TX 75459 https://www.palioshowe.com/ 903-532-0390 paliospizza@att.net ROOFING HIT Exteriors, LLC Howe, TX 75459 972-977-1523 sergio@hitexteriors.com

Vincent Realty Group 324 Meadows Estate St., P.O. Box 756 Tom Bean TX 75489 vincentrealtygroup.com/ 903-870-8528 benvincent@cableone.net

Adams Automotive & Towing 85 Redden Rd Van Alstyne TX 75495 adamsautotow.com 903-482-5784 Pristine Towing & Roadside Assistance 135 Hodgins Rd. P.O. Box 1672 Van Alstyne TX 75495 (903) 814-8064 VIDEO Summit Media Service PO.O. Box 1197 Howe, TX 75459 www.summitmediaservice.co m 214-843-1495 WINERY Homestead Winery 220 W. Main St. Denison TX 75020 homesteadwinery.com/ 903-464-0030 sammeanslump@gmail.com

Michael Taylor – Keller Williams Realty P.O. Box 575 Howe TX 75459 mtaylor@kw.com RESTAURANTS El Patio Escondido Mexican Restaurant & Cantina 495 W. Van Alstyne Pkwy, P.O. Box 637 Van Alstyne TX 75495

STORAGE Howe Mini-Storage 609 N. Denny St. Howe TX 75459

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City of Howe SECONDS COUNT IN AN EMERGENCY! That's why the City of Howe has instituted the CodeRED Emergency Notification System - an ultra high-speed telephone communication service for emergency notifications. This system allows us to telephone all or targeted areas in case of an emergency situation that requires immediate action (such as a boilwater notice, missing child or evacuation notices). The system is capable of dialing 60,000 phone numbers per hour. It then delivers a pre-recorded message describing the situations to a live person or an answering machine in the affected area possibly including instructions requiring action on the part of the recipient. Once the situation is remedied, another call will be placed to the area signaling that the issue has been addressed and that normal activities can be resumed.

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City Hall 116 E. Haning St., 903-532-5571 Mayor: Bill French City Administrator: Joe Shephard City Secretary: Joy Stevens Utility Billing and Municipal Court 116 E. Haning St. 903-532-5571 Utility Clerk: Beccy Roberts Court Clerk: Kerri Cheatham (After hours night drop available) Public Works 317 S. Hughes St. Public Works Director: David Wortham Code Enforcement 317 S. Hughes St. Code Enforcement Officer: Bert Dowlen

2019 City of Howe Water, Sewer, Refuse collection rates - one bill $27.15 $7.45 $8.35 $9.30 $9.90 $33.60 $5.25

Howe Fire Department 118 E. Haning 903-532-6888 (nonemergency) Fire Chief: Robert Maniet

$13.35 $1.10

Howe Police Department 700 W. Haning St. 903-532-9971 (non-emergency) Dispatch 903813-4411 Police Chief: Carl Hudman Police Sergeant: Keith Milks Economic Development

$27.15 $33.60 $13.35 $1.10 $75.20

101 E. Haning St. 903-532-6080 EDC Director: Monte Walker City Council meets third Tuesday at 700 W. Haning St. at 6 pm.

Planning & Zoning Commission Meets third Monday as needed Howe Community Facilities Development Corporation Meets as needed For more information visit the city website www.cityofhowe.org

$56.95 $54.60 $13.35 $1.10 $126.00 $98.70 $80.85 $13.35 $1.10 $194.00

WATER Base per 1,000 next 4,000 per 1,000 next 20,000 per 1,000 next 20,000 per 1,000 all over 45,000 SEWER Base per additional metered 1,000 gallons TRASH (solid waste) Base Tax MINIMUM BILL Water Sewer Trash Tax Total 5,000 gallons usage Water Sewer Trash Tax Total 10,000 gallons usage Water Sewer Trash Tax Total

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Pradera Hosts Halloween Trick or Treat Howe, TX (November 1, 2019) – Pradera, a Havenpark Community, hosted a Trick or Treat event on October 31, 2019, to offer residents and area families a safe and fun opportunity to celebrate Halloween and enjoy seasonal treats.

Residents of the manufactured homes community and nearby community members gathered to participate in trick-or-treating and enjoy donuts and cider at the community clubhouse. All food and activities were sponsored by Havenpark management.

“It was wonderful to connect with Pradera residents at Trick or Treat,” said Felix Tormos, Community Manager for Havenpark.

“Pradera has a great reputation of being a safe and close-knit community, and we look forward to keeping that reputation with more community events like Trick or Treat.”

Pradera is a manufactured home community managed by Havenpark Capital and located in Grayson County at 709 N Collins Fwy, Howe, TX 75459.

Havenpark Capital is a company focused on securing and improving manufactured home communities to preserve long term affordable housing for their residents. Learn more about Pradera by calling (903) 532-0014.

About Havenpark Capital:

Residents of Pradera celebrated Halloween festivities at the community’s Trick or Treat event. Submitted photo.

Havenpark Capital is a Utahbased company focused on securing and improving manufactured home communities to preserve long term affordable housing for their residents. Havenpark Capital owns and manages a number of manufactured home communities across the country, continually investing in these communities to offer excellent amenities as well as a safe and affordable place to live. To learn more or find out about investment opportunities, visit havenparkcap.com.

Band Boosters held annual Arts & Crafts Show

Patrons sift through items for sale at the annual Howe Band Boosters Arts & Crafts Show. There were 66 vendors at Howe High School for the show.

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Texas History Minute During World War II, the United States was encouraging every able-bodied man to enKen Bridges list. However, swept up in the patriotism of the time and seeing the dangers the nation faced, many boys under 18 also enlisted, often without the military ever realizing. The youngest of these enlistees was a 12-year-old Texas boy named Calvin Graham, who was decorated for bravery and for injuries at Guadalcanal.

Calvin Leon Graham was born on April 3, 1930, in Canton, east of Dallas. He was one of seven children into a troubled family that faced many hardships. His father died when he was still very young, and his mother remarried to a man Graham later described as very abusive. The family moved to Crockett, north of Houston, where Graham began attending the local schools.

At the age of 11, he ran away from home with an older brother – moving to a rented room across town. Being quite resourceful, he managed to find work selling newspapers and working as a messenger while out of school. In August 1942, now 12, he enlisted in the navy. He told his mother he was going to live with distant relatives but instead had his grandmother lie about his age so he could enlist.

He showed up at his induction in Houston wearing his brother’s suit and disguising his voice. In a story he recounted years later, Graham claimed he stood in line with a number of young boys he knew for certain were only 14 to 15. As part of the induction process, all recruits had to be examined by physicians and dentists to check their overall health. Young men grow and physically mature at vastly different rates, making it possible to appear older or younger than their actual age. With dentistry, rates of maturity tend to be much more uniform, making it easier to determine chronological age from examining teeth. A navy dentist immediately saw that Graham could not be much older than 12, but Graham insisted he was 18 and pointed out that several minors had just been examined without questions as to their ages. So the 12-year-old boy talked

a navy dentist into letting him enlist.

After his basic training, he was assigned as a gunner on the battleship USS South Dakota. In November 1942, the ship was sent into the bitter Guadalcanal campaign. In one fierce battle, the South Dakota found itself in a fight with 8 Japanese destroyers. It sank three while suffering critical damage. Many sailors were killed on the South Dakota, and Graham spent most of the night trying to tend to as many of his wounded crewmates as possible even though he had minor injuries himself. For his valor, he was awarded the Bronze Star, and the entire crew was cited for their courage under fire. Graham also received the Purple Heart for his injuries. The South Dakota then limped back to port in December.

While the ship underwent repairs, he learned his grandmother had died. Distraught, he raced back to Texas, missing the funeral by one day. His mother learned by this point he had lied about his age and joined the navy. His problems only grew worse. Since he left his post without permission, the navy had him arrested and imprisoned him for three months for desertion, refusing to give him access to his family or an attorney. Since the navy believed what he initially said about his age, he could not get anyone to believe otherwise. Eventually, his mother and sister managed to get him released after threatening the navy with a publicity campaign.

The navy threw him out of the service, voiding his enlistment and stripping him of his medals and benefits. From the military’s perspective, it could not have a child serving in combat. The law prohibited it, and the military could not be seen to be encouraging children to lie about their ages and enlist. He was released two days before his thirteenth birthday, now the youngest veteran of the war but with few prospects ahead of him. (continued in next week’s edition) Dr. Bridges is a Texas native, writer, and history professor. He can be reached at drkenbridges@gmail.com.

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The best advice is from Heaven Generally speaking, people are not excited about being told what to do.

This is probably one of the greatest reaDr. Billy sons why the Holland world rejects the Bible and the ways of God. In fact, it’s rare to find anyone that is excited about taking advice, even good advice. Think about yourself for a moment. How often do you read God’s Word or hear a message and come away saying, “that’s a great idea and I am going to incorporate and apply this truth into my life!” When it comes to wise people trying to give us counsel, I suggest we at least listen because when we consider the strengths and expertise of others, we are being given an excellent opportunity to glean wisdom. When is the last time you heard someone say they hate being wise and are trying to avoid success? Being a stubborn knowit-all reveals our arrogance and many times will end up with us struggling to climb our mountain when we could have taken the chair lift.

There have been many times where I have simply acknowledged that I do not know what to do and I admit that I do not particularly enjoy being in these places. As I have said in the past, it would be wonderful if God would meet us at the kitchen table each morning and we could go over the day while drinking our coffee but that would just be too easy. It’s important to have devotions every day, but I am sure you have noticed that much of the time we are doing all the talking? Speaking of prayer, when we are facing critical situations and really need a definite answer, it’s common to feel like our requests are going no higher than the ceiling. Why? Well, there is good news and bad news.

The good news is that God is listening to every word. Just because it does not seem like we are

getting through does not mean the Lord is too busy to deal with us or not interested – He is. The bad news is that this silent treatment could be the result of our own doing. There is an encouraging passage in Isaiah chapter fifty-nine and verse one that declares, “Behold the Lord’s hand is not shortened that it cannot save; neither His ear heavy that He cannot hear.” This was a message to God’s people explaining why they had not received the miracles they were desperately needing and the next verse reveals the true problem. Come to find out, it was not a power shortage on God’s part but rather their sin had locked the windows of Heaven.

This is a hard lesson but God is not a Jeanie who lives in a magic lamp and stands ready to grant our wishes. He is the Sovereign Almighty Creator that operates according to His perfect will and conditions associated with our obedience.

There is usually no shortage of advice as parents, teachers, family, and friends are trying to help, but ultimately, the person who is in charge of making decisions is you. Sincerely ask God to speak into your life and He will be happy to guide your life. Our world is filled with distractions so try spending time in the stillness of solitude as this can make it easier to hear His still small voice. I’m sure that others are sincere and have good intentions but it’s more profitable to draw near to God so that we can understand our destiny straight from the source. Proverbs chapter three and verse five says, “Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.” This is a loving warning which graciously explains how to avoid depending and following our own ideas.

Much more than earthly advice is the spiritual reality of God’s desire to speak to us and I believe we can agree that His voice is the most important of them all. I’ve often thought about how difficult it is to hear someone whisper when they are down the street and the logical way to hear more

clearly is to minimize the distance. James 4:8 invites us to approach God and promises if we will come toward Him, we will be able to communicate and comprehend who He is and what He wants us to do. “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.”

Dr. Holland is a Christian author, freelance writer, outreach minister and community chaplain. To learn more visit: billyhollandministries.com

Verse of the week John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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Tips to manage your holiday spending Hey Taylor Every year, I feel my anxiety levels shoot up at the beginning of November.

Any tips for surTaylor viving ThanksKovar giving and Christmas without going broke? - Gwen Hey Gwen - I sympathize completely. We want our holiday seasons to be full of joy, and yet this time of year is absolutely treacherous when it comes to finances.

You have to bite the bullet on certain expenses, but you can find a few ways to cut costs and come out ahead. Here are the three main areas of concern.

Travel. If you fly to see family for either Thanksgiving or Christmas, you can’t really escape the price of plane tickets. Thanksgiving hosts the two most expensive travel days of the year - the Wednesday before and the Sunday after - so avoiding those days will make at least some difference. Christmas isn’t much better unless you choose to fly on Christmas Day or Christmas Eve. The best solutions are to travel on unconventional days, rack up miles during the year, and buy your tickets about one month before you fly. When it comes to sales sites, I really like CheapOair.com. I’ve had success finding cheap flights all over the country with this site, even during busy travel times.

Gifts. Do you make a list of who you need to buy for before you create a holiday budget? If so, you need to flip your process. Figure out how much you can spend and then break it down to see how much you can afford per person.

If you have a lot of debt, it might require less gift-giving than

you’re used to, but that’s the only way to turn things around and stop feeling the financial dread you’re currently experiencing.

You can also shop wisely - using 2-for-1 deals and homemade gifts that help you save. Generosity is a wonderful thing, but you can’t let it put you in the red.

Incidentals. Most people don’t realize how much unnecessary spending happens as a result of all the necessary holiday purchases. After a trip to the mall, you’ll be well aware of the $300 you spent on toys and electronics.

However, the $20 you dropped on coffee and lunch might slip out of your brain. With all the time off from work and disruption to your routine, you can drop $500 on food and gas and movies without blinking an eye. If you can fight these spending urges, you’ll save a ton of money over the next two months.

I’ve got a few more tricks for holiday savings in my Thanksgiving post at GoFarWithKovar.com.

The more you plan ahead, the less terrifying the holidays will be.

Taylor Kovar, CEO of Kovar Capital. Read more about Taylor at GoFarWithKovar.com Disclaimer: Information presented is for educational purposes only and is not an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any specific securities, investments, or investment strategies.

Investments involve risk and, unless otherwise stated, are not guaranteed. Be sure to first consult with a qualified financial adviser and/or tax professional before implementing any strategy discussed herein. To submit a question to be answered in this column, please send it via email to Question@GoFarWithKovar.com, or via USPS to Taylor Kovar, 415 S 1st St, Suite 300, Lufkin, TX 75901.

Local high school football playoffs 6A Division I, Region II Allen (10-0) vs Sachse (8-2), 7 p.m. Friday at Allen’s Eagle Stadium Wylie (6-4) vs Prosper (8-2), 7 p.m. Friday at Wylie’s Wylie Stadium 6A Division II, Region I Denton Guyer (9-1) vs Hebron (8-2), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Prosper’s Children’s Health Stadium Class 5A Division I, Region II Highland Park (9-1) vs Frisco Wakeland (5-5), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Highland Park’s Highlander Stadium McKinney North (9-1) vs Magnolia West (5-5), 7 p.m. Friday at McKinney’s McKinney ISD Stadium 5A Division II, Region II Denton Braswell (9-1) vs Corsicana (7-3), 7:00 p.m. Friday at Denton’s Collins Athletic Complex Frisco (9-1) vs Greenville (6-4), 7:00 p.m. Thursday at Frisco’s Ford Center 4A Division I, Region II Carrollton Ranchview (9-1) vs Celina (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Denton’s Bronco Stadium Melissa (7-3) vs Wilmer-Hutchins (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Grapevine’s MustangPanther Stadium 3A Division I, Region II Pottsboro (10-0) vs Kemp (3-7), 7 p.m. Thursday at McKinney’s McKinney ISD Stadium Van Alstyne (6-4) vs Dallas Life Oak Cliff (8-2), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Richardson’s Eagle-Mustang Stadium Malakoff (9-1) vs Commerce (4-6), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Terrell’s Memorial Stadium Dallas Madison (8-2) vs Emory Rains (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Mesquite’s Hanby Stadium

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Living with children The myth of the first three years has it that whatever habits, traits, dysfunctions and so on that a child develops during John this admittedly Rosemond formative period are going to stay with him for life. That is not necessarily so. For example, Romanian orphans that had suffered severe emotional and physical neglect during infancy and toddlerhood recovered fully after being placed with American families.

When put in play groups with American-born kids who were living with biological parents, they could not be identified reliably. The adoption-babblers have a difficult time explaining that, by the way.

Nonetheless, the third birthday is a parenting “hump” of sorts. Pre1960s parents understood that the so-called “terrible twos” were just that: to wit, an eighteen-month developmental period (roughly between eighteen and thirty-six months) marked by tantrums, defiance, violent outbursts and other anti-social behaviors. During this same period, it is essential that effective disciplinary precedents be set such that the terrible twos do not become the terrifying threes, frightful fours, fearsome fives, shocking sixes and so on (the nauseating nineteens?).

Behavior problems not resolved by the third birthday (or thereabouts) are going to be increasingly challenging for both parents and child. The parents are now behind the curve concerning the discipline of the child, and the further behind the curve they fall, the more difficult it will be for them to establish their authority.

For the child, the further and faster the proverbial snowball of his misbehavior rolls downhill, the more havoc it plays with his emotional health. Good research confirms what common sense verifies: Disobedient kids are not happy campers.

Parents who come to me for help saying, “My kid is driving me crazy” want me to fix the problem for their benefit, to prevent them further emotional toll. But the emotional toll of the problem is being visited primarily upon the child. He’s being denied the right to a happy childhood by parents who love him deeply but don’t

understand that – to employ a paraphrase – children do not thrive on love alone. Children need authority. They benefit greatly from having to accept that what their parents tell them to do, they must do, not because of reward or punishment, but simply because the Big People say so.

“Does that mean, John,” a mother recently asked, “that I shouldn’t give my teenager reasons for my decisions and instructions?”

A child’s age does not determine when it’s time for parents to begin explaining themselves. The prerequisite to explanation is obedience. You cannot explain a child into obedience, but once obedience has taken root and is flourishing, you can venture the occasional explanation. I say occasional because obedient children do not generally ask for explanations.

They are content without them; besides, they’re usually able to figure them out on their own.

A parent’s love should be BIG and unconditional, but if it isn’t balanced with equally BIG, unambiguous authority, it’s most accurately termed enabling codependence. Likewise, if authority is BIG but love is weak and small, authority isn’t authority at all; it’s abuse of one form or another.

The “trick” of this is letting the monster-in-the-making know, early on, when the monster first makes its appearance, that he will not be allowed to let his dark side rule either himself or the people he lives with. The formula can be expressed this simply: The child NEVER gets anything even close to what he wants when he misbehaves; rather, when he lets his monster off the leash, he loses things he doesn’t want to lose for memorable stretches of time. A child’s covetous nature can be used to everyone’s advantage.

Some children get it quickly. Others, not so much. Which is why a sense of humor always helps.

Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, parent guru.com.

John Rosemond has worked with families, children, and parents since 1971 in the field of family psychology. In 1971, John earned his masters in psychology from Western Illinois University and was elected to the Phi Kappa Phi National Honor Society.

3A, Division II, Region II Gunter (9-1) vs Tolar (5-5), 7 p.m. Thursday at Springtown’s Porcupine Stadium 3A, Division II, Region III Bells (7-3) vs Winona (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Sulphur Springs’ Prim Stadium Gilmer Harmony (7-3) vs Whitewright (5-5), 7:30 p.m. Thursday at Sulphur Springs’ Prim Stadium Leonard (6-4) vs Troup (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Forney’s City Bank Stadium Grand Saline (7-3) vs Blue Ridge (6-4), 7:30 p.m. Friday at Emory’s Wildcat Stadium 2A, Division I, Region II Honey Grove (9-1) vs Trenton (4-5), 7 p.m. Friday at Denison’s Munson Stadium Wolfe City (8-2) vs Collinsville (5-5), 7 p.m. Thursday at Anna’s Coyote Stadium Tom Bean (4-6) vs Bogota Rivercrest (9-1), TBA

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