Hotspots! July 8, 2021 (Issue 3614)

Issue 14 • July 8 - July 21, 2021

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What’s Hot • Feature: Disney Goes Gay Again in 2022 • Hot Eats Feature: Queer Facts About Baseball • Rupaul’s Drag Race: Silky Ganache Feature: The Queer Library is Open

Upfront • Out with Scott | Scott Holland’s Guide to Events • Hot Places • Pix Pages | Le Boy Sex Talk • Hot Talk • Pix Pages | Twist’s 28th Anniversary • To Your Health Names & Faces | The Man Behind Mona’s • Hot Bodies | A Good Sweaty Workout • Hot Advice

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36th Year

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WHO WE ARE

WMEG Inc., is a Community Marketing and Events organization incorporating Hotspots magazine and Happening Out Television Network.

Our mission as a 501 (c)(3) nonprot is to promote South Florida, and especially Wilton Manors, as a welcoming LGBTQ+ destination through marketing and events. WMEG produces about 50 events a year, including the annual Stonewall Pride Parade and Festival in Wilton Manors. Other events include Art Walk on Wilton Drive and Vibes On The Drive. Visit WMEG.org for more info.

WMEG also manages the Sculpture Walk project which is responsible for the installation of sculptures in public spaces in Wilton Manors.

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi | Tom Bonanti Katina Caraganis | S. Elfman Mike Jeknavorian | Andreus Quinones CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS J.R. Davis | Dale Stine | Dennis Dean CELEBRITY HOST Shawn Palacious (“Kitty Meow”)

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A LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHER

BY PETER JACKSON

Welcoming the world to Wilton Manors

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escribing Wilton Manors to a closeted LGBTQ+ individual living in small town USA can be somewhat like trying to verbalize the magic of Disney World to a child.

“Imagine a lush, tropical island city with 15 parks, eternal blue skies and seven miles of waterways where you are free to be whoever you were meant to be. There are more than 16 gay bars and nightlife venues as well as two theater companies for your entertainment, offering everything from world-class drag shows to leather scenes, premium all-night dancing to strip shows.

“Before you hit the town, you can stop at a gay men’s spa for an invigorating body scrub and massage, get a stylish haircut from a gay barber, and buy a hot new outfit from a gay boutique. On your way to a gay café to meet friends, you can shop for treasures at a gay thrift store, call a gay real estate agent to find a place to live or stop in at a gay travel agent to plan a gay cruise…”

All kidding aside, in a world with an abundance of hate and intolerance, Wilton Manors is a magical place for LGBTQ+ people.

It’s also the best example, comparable only to Provincetown, Massachusetts, of a city whose economy is driven by LGBTQ+ dollars.

Fact: There are approximately 1.4 million LGBT-owned businesses in the United States who generate more than $1.7 trillion dollars in annual economic impact, according to the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. Wilton Manors is a major contributor to that — and therein lies the key to the Island City’s economic growth and strength as a beacon for LGBTQ+ visitors regionally and internationally.

UNION For 36 years, Hotspots magazine has been connecting gay-owned businesses and telling the story of LGBTQ+ South Florida. Today, through a multichannel print and digital network, Hotspots reaches a verifiable audience of 300,000 readers and viewers monthly — making it one of the oldest and largest gay media

companies in the nation, if not the world.

The union last December of Hotspots Media and the Wilton Manors Entertainment Group (WMEG), therefore, made perfect sense.

WMEG is a non-profit dedicated to promoting South Florida, and specifically Wilton Manors, as a welcoming destination for the LGBTQ+ community. It produces some 50 community events annually including the million-dollar Stonewall Pride Parade and Street Festival for the last seven years of that event’s 23-year history.

WMEG also manages the Sculpture Walk project in Wilton Manors which has so far placed seven sculptures in outdoor public spaces.

This September 1-6, WMEG will be presenting “Bears In Lauderdale”, the first major collaboration of more than a dozen bar owners to produce a week-long celebration for the Bear Community.

TELEVISION In addition to publishing Hotspots, the rebranded WMEG Community Marketing and Events today is pleased to announce its merger with Happening Out Television Network, producers of Queer News Tonight and other livestreaming shows.

We welcome Darren Loli, founder of Happening Out Television Network, to our consolidated management team as Vice President of TV and Digital.

This merging of resources will dramatically increase the engagement and size of our audience in print, via live-streaming television, e-mail, social media, websites and live events.

Come to think of it, Wilton Manors is a lot like Disney World — and it’s our privilege to promote this magical city and LGBTQ+ friendly South Florida to the world.

CORRECTION

On page 36 of our June 24 edition, we bungled the name of the Fort Lauderdale Gay Men’s Chorus. Our apologies.

WHAT’S HOT WHO •WHAT•WHEN•WHERE

By Scott Holland

Art Serve Thursday, July 8 ArtServe (1350 Sunrise Blvd) presents Superficial Impressions, a photography exhibition from today through August 21. They will be showcasing original works by a variety of South Florida photographers. The invite you to their opening night reception will be next week, Thursday, July 15 from 7-9pm, where they will be celebrating contemporary works of art and exploring how we perceive and experience photography as an art form. To attend you must RSVP at Artserve.org.

The Temple Emanu-El Cultural Arts Center and Miami Beach Music Festival Orchestra will present Console the Soul, an interfaith musical gathering in support of the victims and families of the Surfside condominium collapse. The gathering will take place at 8pm at Temple Emanu-El, where they welcome the community into a space for unity and healing. The evening will consist of soothing classical music interlaced with inspirational texts from their

Carlos Mencia

religious community leaders including Rabbi Marc Philippe (Rabbi of Temple Emanu-El), Reverend Juan J. Sosa (Pastor of St. Joseph Church Miami Beach), and Rabbi Fred Klein (Greater Miami Jewish Federation). This musical gathering is free and open to all, please RSVP to reserve your seats at tesobe.org The Washington Avenue Business Improvement District (BID) is pleased to announce the “WAVE Fashion Show” - Pink Influence, at 7pm. The Fashion Show is part of the positive transformation on Washington Avenue (WAVE), Miami Beach. The show will spotlight Resort Wear and “A Touch of Euphoria” during Swim Week Miami Beach. The show will feature 6 Designers, 24 Models, an 80-foot runway, Pink People, and the entire block on Espanola Way between Washington Avenue and Collins Avenue. Watch designers like Lila Nikole, House of Athletes, Soledemar Beachwear, Rosmio, Mursrswag, and notable guest designers fashion paraded on historic

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Washington Avenue. Charity: Washington Avenue BID adopted Silent Victims of Crime, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that works to empower children of incarcerated parents in Florida by providing educational enrichment, social support, and positive mentoring. SVC's goal is to mitigate the risk factors associated with incarceration and help these children succeed in life.

The Miami Improv presents Comedian Carlos Mencia from today through July 11. Mencia began his career doing stand-up on amateur night at the world renowned comedy club, Laugh Factory. He later showcased at The Comedy Store and became a regular, performing nightly. Mencia continued his journey up the comedy ladder by headlining “The Three Amigos” tour with Freddy Soto and Pablo Francisco in 2002, which sold out in record time around the United States. In 2002, “Mind of Mencia” went into development. The show was an instant hit and after the first season, Comedy Central signed Mencia back for his own original stand-up special, “Carlos Mencia: No Strings Attached.” The special was the first Comedy Central Stand-up Special DVD to achieve Platinum sales status. “Mind of Mencia” became one of the strongest shows in the network's history, averaging about 1.5 million total viewers.” For more information, please visit www.carlosmencia.com Tickets are $30 for General Admission and $40 for VIP seats atMiamiimprov.com Saturday, July 10 Flockfest takes place at Fort Lauderdale Beach Park from 11am to 4pm and is presented by Hunters Nightclubs and their media partner It's Happening Out TV and Hotspots Magazine. VIP Package Includes: Open Bar and Food Provided Access to FlockFest Float - Blown up and ready for you, Gift Bag with FlockFest Swag as well as the VIP Appreciation Party at Hunter's Nightclub (Friday July 9, 2021 @ 6:00pm8:30pm). Flockfest Ft. Lauderdale raises money for several local non-profit organizations. The idea that started in 2015 with a small number of floats has grown to over 500 floats and 1800 attendees in 2018. For more information, or to purchase tickets, go to: Flockfestevents.org.

The Aventura Arts and Cultural Center presents The Motowners, the definitive Motown Tribute show. After their sold-out concert two summers ago, they return as part of the Summer Concert Series to once again take you on a musical journey back in time with the sounds of Motown! This incredible tribute band brings the sounds of downtown with songs from artists including: The Temptations, The Four Tops, Diana Ross & The Supremes, Smokey Robinson, Sam Cooke, Wilson Pickett, Stevie Wonder and many more timeless tunes from the 60s and 70s. When they hit the stage, you'll be transported back in time and dancing in the aisles. Facial coverings are required for patrons at this performance, with physically distanced pods of 2 and 4 seats available for purchase. Tickets are $45 at Browardcenter.org Oh Yeah, A triple bill that will really get your country hearts a-beating. Brad Paisley at the iTHINK Financial Amphitheatre (formerly known as Coral Sky Amphitheatre - 601-7 Sansburys Way, West Palm Beach). For one night only, Brad Paisley is headlining with Jimmie Allen and Kameron Marlowe, three powerhouses of country music. Grab your tickets at

Flockfest

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thePUB Westpalmbeachamphitheatre.com now and get ready to rock those country boots!

Sunday, July 11 Sunserve presents Revival, a Gospel Brunch to celebrate your soul at 2pm at Hunters. The brunch benefits their programs for LGBTQ+ youth, adults, and seniors. The emcees are Shawn Palacious and Missy Meyakie Le Paige who will take you on a journey with amazing food and beverages, great music, and fantastic special guest entertainers. Admission is $30, at Sunserve.org/brunch, and includes your brunch entrée. There will also be a silent auction.

The Pub presents Boozy Belters (Miss Bouvee & Jennifer McClain) brunch from 2-4pm. They will be singing Broadway, Pop, Rock and more!

Two hours later phenomenal violinist Stephen Neil tales the stage at 6pm.

Friday, July 16 Eagle Wilton Manors Debuts Megawoof FTL tonight from 10pm to 3am hosted by Tony Desantiago. The night will feature the sounds of DJ Glovibes and DJ Bill James.

The Palm Beach Improv presents Sommore today and tomorrow, Saturday, July 17.

Sommore reigns as the undisputed “Queen of

Eagle Wilton Manors Comedy.” This trendsetting, highly acclaimed veteran entertainer is widely considered one of America's top funny women. With a winning combination of class and sass, Sommore offers audiences a hilarious, yet piercing look at today's issues from a woman's perspective. She is frank and fearless in her routines, tackling topics that range from the mundane to the controversial with wit, intelligence and style. Praised by critics, respected by her peers, and adored by a diverse fan base, she performs her stand-up act to soldout audiences across the country, and she is among the top-grossing stand-up comediennes in the United States and abroad. Oprah Winfrey proclaimed her “a force to be reckoned with in the new millennium.” Tickets are $30 for general Admission and $40 for VIP at PalmBeachimprov.com.

The Miami Improv presents Television and film star Damon Wayans in his “Just Sayin' Tour” today through Sunday, July 18. Wayans is known throughout the world for his comedic genius and is most fondly remembered for the Emmy Award winning series “In Living Color” where he created sketch characters like Homey the Clown, Handiman, and Blaine from Men on Film. His writing for the series earned him personally two Emmy nominations in addition to the show's nominations. Damon also co-created, starred

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Also great for theater enthusiasts looking to be involved on the technical side of a show, or for folks looking to obtain community service hours in a friendly and welcoming environment. All interested parties, please contact artistic director Daniel Eilola at daniel@lakeworthplayhouse.org.

Damon Wayans and executive produced the hit series, “My Wife and Kids” which is currently in syndication worldwide and received numerous awards. On the big screen, Damon starred in Spike Lee's critically acclaimed film “Bamboozled, “Major Payne,” “Blankman,” and “Mo Money,” which he also wrote and executive produced. Damon has always enjoyed tremendous success in stand-up.

Tickets are $40 for general admission and $50 for VIP at MiamiImprov.com.

Saturday, July17 The Pub presents “Gaywatch,” a Riptide Softball Turnabout Fundraiser at 7pm hosted by Nicolette. This event, which will also feature a silent auction and VIP tables is to Support Their Bid for the Gay Softball World Series in Columbus, Ohio.

Eagle Wilton Manors presents the premiere of DJ Alex Ramos from 10pm to 3am with a $10 cover.

Noche Latina Saturday's at The Manor Complex celebrate Colombia's Independence starring Colombian's Sasha Lords and Noel Leon along with DJ Duniel and sexy Latin Go-Go Papi's.

Lake Worth Playhouse Looking for Volunteers The Playhouse needs volunteer stage managers, assistant stage managers, costume assistants and various crew positions for their upcoming mainstage and black box seasons.

Perfect for theater students or recent theater grads looking for hands on experience and the opportunity to work with industry professionals.

Jan de Bont's action thriller Speed races to 4K Ultra HD for the first time including a limited-edition SteelBook found only at Best Buy. Hold on tight for a rush of pulsepounding thrills, breathtaking stunts and unexpected romance in a film you'll want to see again and again. Keanu Reeves stars as an L.A.P.D. SWAT team specialist who is sent to diffuse a bomb that a revenge-driven extortionist (Dennis Hopper) has planted on a city bus. But until he does, one of the passengers (Sandra Bullock) must keep the bus speeding through the streets of Los Angeles at more than 50 miles per hour – or the bomb will explode. A highoctane chase of suspense, nonstop action and surprise twists, Speed is a joyride sure to keep you on the edge of your seat!

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OUT WITH SCOTT

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a proclamation from the city that read that Jan 30, 2021 will always be known as Joel Stedman day! Congrats to Joel and his team for a fab anniversary, and we here at Hotspots wish them many more years of success!!

Afterwards we headed down to South Miami for the annual Miss, Mr., and Miss at Large Azúcar pageant. The club was packed, and in the end your new Azúcar Court is Morphine Love, Xtian Saint Cartier and Tayanna Love. A special shout out to Angelie Montier, Endy Morffi and Zara Houston who did a fabulous job reigning for 2 years.

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On Saturday, June 26, Le Boy and Grindr presented the Comeback Pride Party where everyone who showed their Grindr app at the door got either a free drink, free swag, or free Grindr unlimited. They were banging with boy dancers all over the place, DJ Drew dropping the beats and lots of fun!

Later on, we headed to The Manor to see RuPaul's Drag Race’s Utica and hear the sounds of DJ Alexander. Once again, the club was packed in every room.

On Wednesday, June 30, there were two th events in Miami. The first was the 28 anniversary of Twist, which was packed with a who’s who in South Florida. Seen amongst the crowd were photographer Dale Stine, Kitty Meow, DJ Sushiman, TP Lords and Commissioner and Vice Mayor Michael Gongora, who gave Joel Stedman Twist

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DISNEY GOES GAY AGAIN IN 2022 Gay Days, One Magical Weekend, Tidal Wave Party and Girls in Wonderland By: Scott Holland Gay Disney weekend has been missed by the Florida community for the last two years, but I am happy to report we are all getting back to normal, and the proof is that the Gay Disney schedule is set for the major players for 2022. Read on to find out all the details.

Gay Days Gay Days is excited to host Gay Days 2022 as they return to the heart of Orlando and onto International Drive at The Avanti Palms Resort May 31st - June 6th, 2022. Although Gay Days had looked forward to hosting events in both 2020 & 2021, the decision was made, for the health and safety of guests and staff, to cancel their events. Gay Days offered full refunds to its guests as they wanted to ensure that none of its guests were struggling financially because of the Covid-19 Pandemic.

The Avanti Palms Resort and Convention Center, the newest home for Gay Days, has one of the best pools that Gay Days attendees will be able to party to with DJs

from all over the country till 2am. In addition to the beautiful pool, The Avanti Palms Resort also has a large convention space, which will house the annual expo and additional events throughout the week. Gay Days is looking to take their new home and “re-imagine” some of their specialty events in order to bring it's guests a new twist on

Avanti Palms Resort and Convention Center

events outside of the pool parties.

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tower which has views of Orlando, and Universal Studios. Rooms at Gay Days are already selling out from guests that had booked for the prior two years!

Some of the events Gaydays have become famous for are:

Mr. Gay Days Leather

Mr. Gay Days Leather - returns for its 4th year, and for those of you who haven't been this is a fun contest even for those of us who are vanilla. This ism a preliminary to Mr. IML in Chicago.

Miss Gay Days – This pageant has been going on since 2008 and includes formers

Gay Days Expo – Taking place Thursday thru Sunday, experience one of the largest Gay & Lesbian Expos in the world featuring of businesses from all over the world!

Showcasing a variety of goods and services.

Over 20,000 attendees, over 100 booths, giveaways, AND free prize raffles. The expo is open through Sunday.

Taste of Gay Days – On Thursday, June 2, one of the tastiest annual events returns!

Enjoy samplings from local restaurants, exciting beverages, and live entertainment!

Note: This is not intended to be a dinner, just light bites and drinks.

Drag Queen Bingo – on Friday, June 3 Family friendly event Drag Bingo! Join all the fun of bingo with a twist! All the fun of bingo and all of the fun of a Drag Show mixed together. Soon we will announce this year's host!!

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Miss Gay Days

Buena Vista (12205 S Apopka Vineland Road, Orlando, FL 32836) , where rooms start at only $179 a night (3 night minimum).

such as: Coco Montrese, Tiffany McCray, Alisa Summers, Harmony Breeze, Imani Valentino, Alexis Mateo, Naliyah Brooks, Chantel Reshae and your current Miss Gay Days Twila Holiday.

If you have any questions or concerns, please email them at info@gaydays.com. For more information, or to purchase tickets as the events become available go to: Gaydays.com.

One Magical Weekend OMW returns from June 2nd to the 6th, and will be celebrating the 30th year that the LGBTQ+ Community has journeyed to Orlando to freely express themselves. One Magical Weekend will kick-off June Pride Month with international DJs, spectacular nightly events & daytime pool parties where everyone is welcome at the most MAGICAL place on Earth; Orlando, Florida at Walt Disney World Resorts!

Their host hotel, is once again, the Sheraton Lake

Friday - DJs Joe Ross + Edil Hernandez Saturday - DJs Cindel + Sinna-G Sunday - Sweet Spot – DJs Deanne and Pride Riptide at Typhoon Lagoon - For one night, Friday, June 3, 8pm to 2am, Disney's Typhoon Lagoon Waterpark becomes

Riptide at Typhoon Lagoon

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One Magical Weekend

Therapy Pool Parties – (Hotel Guests get in free) The parties take place Friday, Saturday and Sunday alongside – and in – the two sprawling pools, and bring the concept of “pool party” to a whole new level.

Whether just soaking in the rays and the manfilled landscape; dancing to the sounds of world-class DJs; or enjoying the refreshing drinks and light items from the Pool Bar & Grill, being surrounded by all your current (and new) friends is the kind of physical therapy you'll only find at One Magical Weekend.

entirely yours for the party of the year. DJ's Edgar and Oscar Velazquez will keep you dancing all night long. The weekend's signature event once again washes ashore Disney's entire 52-acre fantasy water park, where 6,000 party animals clad in little more than a bathing suit thrill to dancing, amazing water rides, or chill out inside this sprawling theme park. BACK FOR 2022 are two rides open all night. Board Miss Adventure Falls treasure raft and Crush “n” Gusher water-coaster. It's no wonder Disney's Typhoon Lagoon Waterpark is known around the world. Imagine you've been washed ashore a giant hidden lagoon where you encounter a massive sixfoot wave pool and giant water slides. All around you lies the strewn debris of abandoned fishing ships. Explore isolated alcoves with your friends – or a special new friend.

Red Volume V – Varsity - Their RED inspired event comes back to Disney Springs House of Blues at Disney Springs on Saturday, June 4 from 9pm to 2am.

Gear up and get ready to show your true colors with DJ Paulo! With heart thumping sound and euphoric visuals, grab your friends and make sure you are all in the Dress code: Show your RED Athletic Spirit.

Wig Party - Get ready to strike a POSE and let your inner diva run WILD at the Sheraton Lake Buena Vista Resort for a closing Sunday T-Dance party not-to-bemissed on Sunday, June 5, from 9pm to 1am! Whether you prefer a short bob, or a full blow out, rock your favorite wig and

DJ Alex Acosta

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DJ Nina Flowers

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DJ Abel

join all the diva's on the dancefloor with the sounds of DJ Twisted Dee! Heels & harnesses are not necessary, but they are more than welcome at WIG party! Come to slay! Tens across the board henny!

Cadabra After Hours – June 3, 4 and 5.

The Magic continues into the late hours as One Magical Weekend presents a series of After-hour Dance Parties: a sensual musical journey just for you at Sheraton Lake Buena Vista Resort. Cadabra presents a world class dance extravaganza with a DJ line-up of only the very best. Welcome to Cadabra... the ONLY Afterhours to be held in Orlando during this weekend. Cadabra nights are 21+.

Friday - DJs Nina Flowers and Obra Primitiva Saturday – DJ Abel Sunday – DJ's Alex Acosta and Bio Zounds

For more information, or to book Hotel rooms or purchase tickets, go to: OneMagicalWeekend.com Tidal Wave Party 14: Jocks, Jerseys, and Bears th Celebrating its 14 year, Tidal Wave Party is the premier, inclusive event for bears, cubs, chubs, chasers, and their admirers. Tidal Wave Party provides a safe, welcoming 4-day event to kick off pride month from June 2-6, 2022, in Orlando. The 4-day event will include Host/Overflow hotels, Live DJs, Day and Evening Poolside Events, Live Entertainment, Karaoke, Bear Bingo, Vendor Fair, and the Bear Lagoon during RIPTIDE at Disney's Typhoon Lagoon Waterpark.

Tickets will go on sale in August 2021.

For more information, please visit Their website at Tidalwaveparty.com.

Girls in Wonderland In 2022, their dates are June 2nd – 5, and their host hotel will be the Grand Orlando Resort at Celebration 2900 Parkway Blvd, Kissimmee, FL 34747. That's all the info they have for

2022, However, they are having a 2021 celebration and here's that info: Girls In Wonderland 2021 - October 14th th 17 - Celebrating their 20th Year Anniversary at the Grand Orlando Resort at Celebration, where room start at $129 a night and include pool party passes. The weekend long event will include dance parties, pool parties, live music, comedy shows, after-hours parties and thousands of lgbtq women and their allies celebrating in Wonderland!

They only have around 50 rooms left, so book soon at: Girlsinwonderland.com Their talent includes Comedian and Actress Jen Kober (American Horror Stories, The Mindy Project), and DJ's Citizen Jane, Zehno, Whitney Day, Delux, and Nela.

Since I am close friends with one of the owners of Girls in Wonderland, over the years I have been to a few of their parties and let me tell you, the GIRLS know how to party!!!

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Pita Pride 2400 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors 954-412-1209 www.pitapride.com If you're looking for a restaurant serving hearty Mediterranean cuisine just off the beaten path, Pita Pride may be just the place. While the address is on Wilton Drive, it's located just off NE 9th Street with a quiet, secluded neighborhood feel.

With a fresh and modern dining room as well as outdoor seating, you can enjoy a wide variety of food from falafel to hummus and everything in between.

Operating hours: Sunday 12:30pm to 10pm; Monday through Thursday 12:30pm to 11pm; Friday and Saturday 12:30pm to 1am.

Komodo Miami 801 Bricknell Ave, Miami 305-534-2211 www.komodomiami.com Situated in the heart of the eclectic Brickell neighborhood in Miami, Komodo is a three-story indoor/outdoor restaurant and lounge combining Southeast Asian cuisine with a South Florida vibe. The menu features a number of fan favorites, including Peking Duck, Tuna & Toro Roll, and Lobster Dynamite. The 300-seat restaurant offers multi-level seating options, complete with three bars and outdoor floating “bird nests” seating that gives guests a treehouse like feel.

Operating hours: Sunday through Wednesday 6pm to 11pm; Thursday through Saturday 6pm to 12am.

Shawn and Nick's Courtyard Café 2211 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors 954-563-2499 www.wiltonmanorscourtyardcafe.com Whether you're looking for breakfast, lunch, dinner or late-night snacks, the Courtyard Café has a little bit of everything to meet your needs. Situated in the heart of Wilton Manors for more than 50 years, the staff at Courtyard Café prides themselves on good service with quality food. Be sure to drop by every Monday night from 4pm to 10pm for burger madness, where you can choose from 26 different mouth-watering burgers and receive a free drink.

Operating hours: Sun to Thursday 7am to 10pm; Friday and Saturday - 24 hours.

Inika Foods 2410 North Dixie Highway, Wilton Manors 954-444-8176 www.inikafoods.com www.ristorantefratellimilano.com Inika Foods serves healthy Mediterranean cuisine specializing in vegan and gluten free foods. Inika comes from a Sanskrit word that means little earth. The larger world is made smaller by people's ties to each other. Their menu is packed full of dishes based on international cuisine blending dishes from around the world. The inspiration for the menu is healthy, delicious food that draws its flavor from quality ingredients and spices.

Operating hours: Monday, Tuesday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday 11am to 7pm.

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28th Anniversary Celebration

Ball Beachwear 2252 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors 954-564-0777 www.ballbeachwear.com The countdown to summer is officially on, and Ball Beachwear is the place to go to get outfitted in the trendiest beach attire from top designers. Whether you're looking for bathing suits, shorts or tank tops, Ball Beachwear has what you need to look your best this summer. Whether you're looking for brands like Psycho Bunny, Steele, and Nasty Pig, the store has everything you're looking for.

Operating hours: Monday through Thursday 12pm to 10pm; Friday through Sunday 11am to 10pm.

Vivelo Bicycles 2032 NW 2nd Ave, Miami 786-508 1714 www.vivelo.com Vivelo is a premium bicycle brand with its roots based in Europe. They're known for high quality, handcrafted and customizable bicycles. With the showroom and production line located in the heart of Wynwood, Vivelo bikes are made with the highest quality parts and are designed down to the finest detail, including colorful spokes or hand-woven seats. They specialize in beach cruisers and chopper bikes.

Operating hours: Monday through Saturday 10am to 8pm.

Oakland Park Flea Market Mall 3161 West Oakland Park Boulevard, Oakland Park 954-733-4617 www.oaklandparkfleamarket.com The Oakland Park Flea Market Mall has something for everyone. It first opened its doors in 1972 and was the first indoor flea market in South Florida.

Whether you're looking to get your hair cut, your nails done, or do some shopping, you're bound to find whatever you need at one of the 220 booths.

Operating hours: Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday 10am to 7pm; Friday and Saturday 10am to 9pm; closed Monday and Tuesday.

Ft. Lauderdale Swap Shop 3291 West Sunrise Boulevard, Ft. Lauderdale 954-791-7927 www.floridaswapshop.com The Swap Shop is a must see for anyone visiting South Florida. An 18,000 square foot shopping and entertainment complex, it features brand-name merchandise, international restaurants, and a 14-screen drive-in theater. Here you can find discount jewelry, clothes, perfumes, electronics, plants, artwork and so much more. There is also an arcade and amusement park rides.

Operating hours: Monday through Friday 9am to 5pm and 7:30pm to 11pm; Saturday and Sunday 8am to 6pm and 7:30pm to 11pm.

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By Mike Jeknavorian

THE MAN BEHIND MONA’S

JERRY SCHULTZ One of South Florida’s favorite watering holes is almost 25, but Mona ain’t no lady!

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ona’s Cocktail Lounge has stood the test of time as an LBGTQ staple in South Florida for almost 24 years under the watchful eye of founder and owner, Jerry Schultz, both avuncular and dog-lover. But what did Schultz say that he regrets in life? And exactly who is Mona?

In Chicago. Specifically, in the Harlem and Foster area.

What do you miss about it there?

Family and friends.

How long have you lived in South Florida?

For 40 years.

What’s your claim-to-fame?

I’m the owner and founder of Mona’s Cocktail Lounge.

Why did you move here?

Fred Allegretti built Shooter’s. I move here to be the general manager.

Where did you grow up?

What part of South Florida

do you live in?

In Pompano Beach.

What do you like most about living here?

The quiet.

Where do you hang out in South Florida?

At Mona’s Bar and at home.

What South Florida venue do you miss that’s gone?

Lefty’s bar.

If you had to live somewhere else other than here, where would you live?

I don’t have any plans to move!

Yes, the patio is named after a dog as well (laughs). The patio is called “Lisa’s Backyard.”

How did you come up with all the wild décor in the bar?

With the help of Martell [a brand of cognac] and pot.

What’s the craziest thing that’s ever happened at Mona’s?

The AIDS Walk, years ago. I walked that with an itsy, bitsy, yellow bikini, and Mona’s raised $21,500.

When did you open Mona’s?

Mona’s celebrates its 24th anniversary on August 2nd.

Who is Mona’s named after?

Mona’s is named after my dog, Miss Mona I. I’m now raising Miss Mona III. And I’m looking for Miss Lisa III (laughs).

Is Mona’s patio named after a dog, too?

What would your drag name be?

How about Miss WTF? What’s the weirdest question that a customer has asked you?

“What are you worth?”

What have you personally been doing to keep yourself busy during the quarantine?

Spending a lot of money refreshing the bar—everyday!

What celebrity did you act like a “fan” around?

Bob Hope—I met him twice.

What’s the last thing that you looked at online?

Sheets and pillowcases. And cooking recipes…

Why did you open it?

Because I always loved the small-bar businesses.

What did you do before you opened Mona’s?

I had a painting company for 22 years. It was called Do-It Rite Wallcovering.

Which one of your old jobs least prepared you for what you do now?

I don’t know. Maybe pumping gas…? Checking oil…?

Jerry Schultz: Would I pose nude? It depends.

What have you done with Mona’s to meet the challenges of the pandemic?

We’re wide awake to this, and we’re doing our part 100 percent.

Would you ever pose nude?

At my age? That depends!

What’s the best place that you’ve ever visited?

Hawaii.

Will you ever retire?

I’m 73, so no!

What are you an expert at?

Leading, not following.

What’s your succession plan?

Been there; done that!

Next!!

If God were to take you tomorrow, how would you like to be remembered?

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You all know, I pay it forward. I hope you loved Mona’s Cocktail Lounge, like I loved Lefty’s.

What do you want to live long enough to see?

Women running our country.

What’s your favorite movie?

Burlesque.

What drives you crazy?

People who want to “be,” but they’re not!

How many pets have you had in your lifetime?

Way too many to mention.

How would you feel if your pet was the master in heaven, and you were the pet?

What goes around, comes around, right?!

Do you like zoos?

I would rather see animals in the wild.

Would you give a kidney to a relative or close friend?

Yes! What’s something that you learned in life only when you got older?

That success knows no failure.

What did you learn from your parents?

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mom, and I learned compassion, love and acceptance. Fuck my old man.

From him, I learned nothing!

Nothing!

Who’s your favorite performer?

I have many — more than one.

What’s your best characteristic?

Generosity.

If you were a musical instrument, what would you be?

The drums.

How do you enjoy spending your time?

With my dogs at home.

What celebrity do you have crush on?

Male or female? I have 12 of each!

Who do you admire?

Me! If you could bring one person back from the dead, who would it be?

My mom.

Where would you go in a time machine?

I would go back in time, and I would come out younger.

How old were you when you came out?

Twenty-four.

What would your last meal be?

Do I have to say his name (laughs)?

What do you worry about?

What are you afraid of?

Nothing scares me anymore.

Are you more like a sheep or a wolf?

“Woof!”

Who depends on you, and for what?

My family and staff do for support.

Who are you closest with?

My staff.

What would your autobiography be called?

Just Me! What’s on your bucket list?

An African safari.

What’s your greatest regret in life?

Coming out way too late in life.

What’s something secretive about you that people don’t know?

All my dirty little secrets.

Where can we see you?

I’m all over town supporting the small businesses.

They need us now. And don’t forget to tip the staff well. They need help, too!

SEX Talk SEX AND THE

STONEWALL GENERATION

Himeros doesn’t retire when you do

by Richard Firsten “Who is Himeros?” you ask.

He’s the Greek god of your libido, your ability to show affection, your level of sexual desire, and along with his brother Eros, he gives you the ability to love.

But most of all, Himeros personifies lust, with which he’s generously imbued many of us, reasonably gifted others of us, and decided not to share with a few of us.

When I was 62, I retired from my work, but Himeros didn’t retire along with me.

Quite the contrary; I still feel his magical power inside me.

Among groups of friends in their 60s, 70s, and even 80s – let’s call them the Stonewall Generation – topics they discuss differ little from what younger men talk about outside of discussions about their aches and pains. They chat about the dating scene, escapades at the baths, or meeting guys at bars or clubs.

The Stonewall Generation is very much alive when it comes to matters of eroticism, sensuality, and just plain sex.

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men don’t have that inner sexual spark anymore. What they would understand if they have sex with men of the Stonewall Generation is that the spark in those older men easily turns into a flame and that they will often experience a depth of empathy, sensitivity, and sexual finesse from older men that they themselves haven’t developed yet.

Himeros has made sure that in most of the Stonewall Generation, his gift of lust hasn’t gone into retirement.

As for older men, preferences in selecting sexual partners vary a great deal. Among those preferences there are older guys who prefer sexual partners in their own age range, while there are others who want younger guys. A man with this preference is known as a “daddy.” The young gay community may not realize how many members of their generation like having sexual relations with daddies. The “boy,” as the younger man is known, has experienced the depth of empathy, sensitivity, and sexual finesse that his daddy can offer – and he keeps coming back for more, much to the delight of his daddy. In fact, this was the most common

and openly accepted partnership in Ancient Greek culture: the erastes (the daddy) with his eromenos.

FOREPLAY One thing that younger men soon learn when they have sex with someone of the Stonewall Generation is that older men, on the whole, consider foreplay and kissing very important.

Younger men tend to neglect decent foreplay and don’t spend much time on kissing.

They want to get to the “main course” sooner rather than later, while many of the Stonewall Generation have learned to enjoy the “appetizers” and relish the increasing intimacy that foreplay and kissing provide, whether with younger men or men of their own age group. This was affirmed by the majority of respondents to Hotspots’ “First Annual Sex Survey” (66.3%) who were 54+ years old.

One question in the Survey, however, may have been misinterpreted. The question was “How long should an individual sex session last?” Almost half of the respondents (41.5%) said no more than an hour.

Hotspots concluded this to mean, “The days of all-day love

The Stonewall Generation is very much alive when it comes to matters of eroticism, sensuality, and just plain sex...

making – or at least an afternoon of it – are long gone…”

But this may not be so.

Even though almost half the respondents said a sex session shouldn’t go over an hour, that doesn’t preclude taking breaks and continuing sexual activity, which could involve more sessions that stretch out to a whole afternoon or even a full day of love making. That’s why I disagree with that conclusion. In fact, I dare to say that a great number of Stonewall Generation men would definitely prefer to have all-afternoon or all-day love making if schedules permit and Himeros has been generous to them.

RESPECT There are two reasons that I wanted to write this article.

One was to let younger men know that when they get older, they can still look forward to an active sex life in most cases, perhaps slowed down a little, but still active.

The other was to advise the younger gay generation that they need to be much more empathetic and respectful of older gay men, because one day that will be them, and how they treat older men now will influence how they are treated

Bruce Fontaine (left) and Richard Firsten

when they’re up in years.

I have one request to make of all the younger gay men who read this article. I’m sure that many of you have heard of Davey Wavey from his numerous gay-themed videos on YouTube.

Please watch two very short videos of his and take to heart what Davey has to say. The titles are “Show Some F*cking Respect!” and “Young Gay Men Make Me Sad …”

Please do this.

SEX AND THE STONEWALL GENERATION: Bruce Fontaine and Richard Firsten met at the Stonewall Inn and have been a couple for 52 years. They have been legally married for the last six and a half years. They live in Wilton Manors.

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HOT Talk lgbtq+ chatter on socia

media

PICK A SIDE, ANHEUSER-BUSCH...

“You can’t turn your logo rainbow on social media, call yourself an ally, and then turn around and make donations that fuel hate. There are really no excuses, and companies like Anheuser-Busch need to own up to what they’ve done.”

- Stacy Lentz, co-owner of New York City’s famed Stonewall Inn, explaining why Budweiser, Bud Light, and all other Anheuser-Busch products were banned from the gay bar during Pride weekend. It was revealed that Anheuser-Busch made contributions for years to lawmakers who supported anti-LGBTQ+ legislation.

THANK YOU, MAYOR GELLER!

STEVE GELLER

“Broward County has a proud history of supporting LGBTQIA+ equality, including being among the rst counties to provide domestic partnmerships for same-sex couples, offer health benets to its employees’ domestic partners and adopting a human rights ordinance barring discrimination in employment and housing based on sexual orientation…”

—Broward County Mayor Steve Geller, in an historic proclamation last month designating June Pride Month and remembering the Pulse Nightclub shooting.

‘ENDURING COMMITMENT’

SECRETARY BLINKEN

“With this action, I express our enduring commitment to the LGBTQI+ community today and moving forward.”

—U.S. Secretary of State Antony J. Blinken announcing a change in policy to allow transgender, non-binary and gender non-conforming individuals to list “X” on their passports and removing the requirement for medical checks for trans individuals.

A VIEW WITH A RAINBOW?

RANDY RAINBOW

“I will be replacing all of the women of The View. Thank you, this is a press release.”

—Comedian Randy Rainbow, on Twitter, nominating himself to replace conservative Meghan McCain who is leaving the popular show after four years.

WE’RE GONNA LEAVE YOU LOCKED IN A CAR!

JASON WETHERINGTON

“Thank you Fort Lauderdale Fire Rescue and Wilton Manors Police for responding so quickly to my call. Not one but two cars parked right next to one another with dogs left inside while their ‘owners’ did their grocery shopping! With a heat index over 100 degrees. Shame on people who do this…”

—Wilton Manors REALTOR® Jason Wetherington, on Facebook.

— Compiled by Hotspots Staff Writers

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By Tom Bonanti

A GOOD SWEATY WORKOUT: Your Best Investment!

A healthy lifestyle takes commitment and planning. Adhering to a sound nutritional program, keeping up with regular medical check-ups, and getting enough sleep are just a beginning.

Sticking to these basic habits along with meeting the demands of work and a social life can be overwhelming. So how do you squeeze in regular exercise on top of everything else?

Good health and an active lifestyle

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require daily commitment. Working out with weights and doing regular cardio are draining and time consuming. Yet their benefits are infinite. You'll not only look better, you'll live longer and save hundreds of thousands of dollars in health care expenses.

Doubt me? Just get sick, I mean really sick, like a week in the hospital and you'll see what I mean. Don't know where to start? Begin with activities you like, such as walking the dog, taking a dip in the ocean after work, or going

for a nature hike with a buddy. If you learn to enjoy yourself, eventually exercise will become a part of your daily routine!

When it comes to staying fit, there are no shortcuts available. Sure, you can try fad diets, plastic- surgery, and steroids, but these are quick, patchy and expensive fixes compared to what discipline and hard work can achieve. A beautiful, natural body at every age obtained through sacrifice, dedication and lots of sweat is a wonderful thing to behold and possess!

Why not start today and design a winning program to get and stay fit.

Consider three factors as you ponder a program: schedule flexibility, workout simplification, and diversification.

Schedule flexibility is crucial in these times of unplanned events, hectic traffic, and even more chaotic work schedules. A sharp guy begins the day with a plan so that he can accomplish everything that is important. Nothing is more crucial than your workout, so schedule a time and try to stick with it.

Join a gym that is

conveniently located between work and home.

Most gyms have extended hours, so if you get derailed don't despair. Your body responds to exercise whether it's 7am or 7pm.

Workout simplification and diversification allow you to train regardless of what you had planned and where you had planned it. If you were set to hit the weight room at 6pm, but had to work late, then pump-up at home. A few dumbbells are inexpensive, but they can make a difference on days you don't get to the gym. Do some push-ups, crunches and stretches during breaks at work. Bike around your neighborhood on weekends.

Take a swim in that pool you pay someone big bucks to maintain for you all year long.

Do something, anything. Just put those muscles in motion! Among all the investments you make, a commitment to regular exercise will reap the greatest benefits. Life is too short to miss out on being all that you can be.

Tom Bonanti is a certified fitness trainer and massage therapist in Ft. Lauderdale.

TO YOUR

Health

Alive & Well Community Partners Alive & Well Community Partners is a community-based organization bringing awareness to the community about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and offering testing along with that awareness. Their mission is to provide their clients with quality and affordable care that will allow our community to have a safer more enjoyable life. They service the Miami-Dade and Broward County communities.

Their clinic is there to offer you professional assistance, counseling and free testing (on some of their services) to help our community stay safe in intimate relations.

It is part of their responsibility to raise awareness about the risk of having unprotected sex with your sexual partners.

They want our community to be safe.

Alive & Well Community Partners prides itself on having the following attributes: Friendliness - Their team will always consider you first. You can expect a friendly staff to service you when you are interacting with them.

Dedication - Their team is dedicated to making sure you experience with them is one of excellence. If there is anything they can do for you, please just let them know.

Trustworthiness - They want to gain your trust and keep it. All medical records and communications with them will remain confidential.

The services they offer are: HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus)Testing, Treatment and Prevention is available. Come and speak with our friendly medical staff. They provide free confidential

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HIV testing with bioLytical which is a rapid test that uses a small amount of blood by pricking the finger with a lancet and results given in 1 minute. If the test results are Reactive or preliminary positive, then a confirmatory test is done through a blood draw. The blood sample is sent to a laboratory for the screening of the HIV antibodies and results can take 3-5 days.

Testing for HIV is the only way to know for sure if you have the virus that causes AIDS. Many people do not have any symptoms and can live for many years without knowing they have the virus. Testing at Alive & Well Community Partners is quick, easy, painless, confidential and FREE. Gonorrhea/Chlamydia - Testing and Treatment are available. This STD is most commonly detected.

Herpes Simplex Virus I/II (HSV I/HSV II) - Screening and Testing is Available for HSV I/HSV II. This STD is visible on private areas.

Syphilis - Currently offering FREE Syphilis testing. Treatment is quick and available if detected early.

HPV (Human Papillomavirus) - Alive and Well screens for HPV and has Treatment options.

Hepatitis A, B and C - Screening for Hepatitis A/B/C. Individual Hepatitis Testing Available. Different Treatment and Care Plans are available after screenings.

Alive and Well Community Partners is located at 18425 NW 2nd Avenue PH #7, Miami Gardens, FL 33169. For more information call them at 800-434-1366 or email them at admin@aliveandwellprogram.com or go to their website AliveandwellProgram.com

Sha-wing Batter!

by Mikey Rox After a season-long hiatus from hosting in-the-stands fans at its 30 ballparks and stadiums due to the Covid-19 pandemic, Major League Baseball (and its Minor League Baseball feeder system) is back – and you know what that means: All them butts! Aside from gawking at your favorite players' posteriors in form-fitting pinstriped pants – while following CDC protocol, of course – there are plenty of queer cheers to give for America's national pastime. These are gayest things you didn't know about pro ball.

Glenn Burke broke the first barrier – but it may have cost him As an outfielder for the Los Angeles Dodgers from 1976 to '78 (and widely regarded co-inventor of the high-five – true story), Glenn Burke broke ground as the first active MLB player to come out as gay to his teammates and bosses. While he was asked to refrain from making his sexual orientation public by Dodgers' top brass, Burke told People magazine in 1994 that his “mission as a gay ballplayer was to 74 | HotspotsMagazine.com

break a stereotype” and he thought it worked. In other interviews and in his autobiograph y, however, he suggested that prejudice drove him out of the sport, not the injury that sent him back down to the minors after a year with the Oakland Athletics.

The A's released Burke from his contract before the end of his injured farm-team season, and he retired from the game in 1980.

In the initial years following his retirement, Burke competed in 100- and 200-meter sprints at the inaugural Gay Games in 1982 and in basketball at the

1986 Games, and for many years he played for the San Francisco Gay Softball League.

Burke died of complications from AIDS in 1995.

Burke befriended Tommy Lasorda Jr. – and Tommy Senior wasn't happy about it Legendary Dodgers manager Tommy Lasorda Sr. – who led the team to two World Series championships, four National League pennants and eight division titles during his 20-year stewardship from 1976 to 1996 – had a gay son. Burke befriended the younger Lasorda Jr., which angered the “family values” manager, causing a rift that likely contributed to Burke being traded to the A's after three seasons in Los Angeles.

Lasorda Jr. died of AIDS complications in 1991 at age 33. Lasorda Sr. died earlier this year without ever having admitted he had a gay son.

It's been 22 years since the second MLB player publicly acknowledged his sexual orientation Billy Bean, an outfielder for the Detroit Tigers, L.A. Dodgers and San Diego Padres from 1987 to 1995, came out in the Miami Herald in 1999, four years after retiring.

Besides Burke, he remains the only other former MLB player to publicly acknowledge his homosexuality post-career; no active player has ever come out publicly and no former players have come out since. In 2003, Bean released his autobiography Going the Other Way: Lessons from a Life in and out of Major League Baseball, and in 2014 he was named MLB's first Ambassador for Inclusion. In 2016 that role was expanded to Vice President of Social Responsibility and Inclusion, and today Bean serves as Vice President and Special Assistant to the Commissioner.

Photo: Wikimedia.org - Greg Hernandez from California, CA, USA

The L.A. Dodgers are the only team with both players who have come out as gay Both Burke and Bean played for the Dodgers during their MLB careers – and as history tends to repeat itself, maybe there's a gayboy on the Dodgers' roster right now. If that's true, here's hoping he has the courage to come out and make history while an active player, put the final nail in the coffin of the Dodgers' homophobic past, and serve as an inspiration to aspiring young pro ball players everywhere.

No pressure.

Billy Bean

Statistics suggest there are dozens of closeted pro baseball players In a 2015 article for the New York Times, economist and public policy scholar Justin Wolfers wrote that based on the proportion of American men who have admitted to being gay or bisexual (though not necessarily out), there must be closeted MLB players actively taking the field. Thirty MLB teams each have 40-men rosters equaling 1,200 players who don't publicly identify as queer.

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“If baseball players are as likely to be gay as other men their age – let's go with an estimate of 1 in 25 – then the odds that none of these men are gay is one in two sextillion,” Wolfers wrote. “A sextillion comes after a trillion, quadrillion and quintillion; it is a thousand billion billion.”

Of course, there may be gay or bisexual men in MLB who have ripped a page from Burke's playbook and only confided within their own club. Time will tell.

cause-based logos and patches into their uniforms throughout the season, like the pink breast cancer awareness ribbon, for instance, or camouflage to show military appreciation. But on June 5, 2021, the San Francisco Giants became the first team in big-league history to rainbow-ize its uniforms, including a right-sleeve home jersey patch in Pride colors and a matching logo on players' hats, in celebration of its LGBTQ+ fans.

There are 30 MLB teams – and all but one of them host a Pride night Twenty years ago, this summer, the Chicago Cubs kicked off MLB's Pride-night tradition with its now-annual “Out at Wrigley” celebration, and almost every club in the organization has followed suit. Twenty-eight teams in the United States and one in Canada host an evening of LGBTQ inclusiveness, usually with special ticket packages that include seats in a dedicated Pride section and rainbow-colored baseball swag. The lone holdout? The two-decades-too-late New York Yankees.

Two years ago, the Yanks acknowledged th the 50 anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising and honored five first-annual YankeesStonewall Scholarship winners in a special pre-game commemoration ceremony that unveiled a plaque behind the center-field fence dedicated to the occasion. Yet still no Pride night.

The San Francisco Giants made rainbow history for Pride 2021 MLB teams are known to incorporate

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Lower-level pro ball has a much better coming-out average Since Sean Conroy, former pitcher for the independent Sonoma Stompers, came out publicly in 2015 while still on the team's roster – the first-ever active pro ball player to do so – a handful of others have followed in his pioneering footsteps (at various stages of their careers), including MiLB players David Denson, Tyler Dunnington, Jason Burch, and John Dillinger.

Larry Baer

"We are extremely proud to stand with the LGBTQ+ community as we kick off one of the best annual celebrations in San Francisco by paying honor to the countless achievements and contributions of all those who identify as LGBTQ+ and are allies of the LGBTQ+ community," San Francisco Giants CEO Larry Baer said in a statement.

A scripted series about gay professional ball players may be coming soon Author Peter Lefcourt's novel, The Dreyfus Affair: A Love Story (1992), about homophobia in baseball that follows two MLB players who get caught up in a sex scandal should be required reading for any on-the-spectrum queer sports fans, but if you're adverse to cracking open a dusty book, the live-action TV adaptation may be coming to a streaming service near you.

The project has been in development in some form for the past 28 years.

Studios put the kibosh on Lefcourt's and Frankel's original movie scripts in 1996 – Disney was even interested as one point – citing lack of commercial appeal.

But we all know that's just industry code for “We're too pussy to make this gay movie, so here's Evita.”

David Peralta

These are the best butts in baseball according to Us magazine There's no definitive queer ranking of the best butts in baseball (and it's a shame there isn't) but a few years ago Us magazine asked its readers, majority

females, to rank MLB's greatest assets.

Phillies left fielder Rhys Hoskins, Cincinnati Reds pitcher Matt Harvey, New York Yankee Giancarlo Stanton, Nationals right fielder Bryce Harper, and Dodger Cody Bellinger rounded out the top five – figuratively and literally.

Perfectly acceptable.

Fine donkadonks all around.

Photo: Arturo Pardavila III from Hoboken, NJ, USA

But are there better booties at-bat?

Consider Diamondback David Peralta, Los Angeles Angel Mike Trout, and Orioles first baseman Chris Davis the next time they take the plate.

Seventh-inning stretch, anyone?

Bryce Harper & Giancarlo Stanton

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He currently works for the Atlanta Braves. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels

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Universal Television has optioned the novel for development with Oscar- and Emmy-winner David Frankel (The Devil Wears Prada) tapped to direct and co-write the pilot with Lefcourt.

RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars Season 6

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pisode three starts out with the girls counting the votes and finding out that 9 votes went to Jiggly and 2 to Yara. Obviously Jiggly voted for Yara, so they ask who was the other vote, and Trinity fessed up immediately. She said her vote was based on the fact that she felt that Jiggly tried harder.

Ru comes into the workroom and explains to the girls that for the next Maxi challenge they will be working in teams to write, and star in, a commerical that will sell a sickening side hustle. She lines them up based on height and thats how the groups are chosen. The first group (Ginger, Jan, Akeria and Silky) will be selling "Rent A Queen to a stranger for a special occassion." The second group (Trinity, Yara, Pandora and Ra'jah) will be selling "Drag 80 | HotspotsMagazine.com

Fixers: there aint no scandal they cant fix." and the third group (Eureka, Sonique and Scarlet) will be selling "Drag Exorcist: aint nobody got time for demons." There commercials will be directed by Michelle and Ross.

On the main stage, joining Ru, Michelle and Ross is Tia Mowry, and the runway look is "Rudemption: A chance to do over a past look." In the end the winning group was Drag Fixers and Trinity was named the winner (her runway look was SICKENING).

The bottom group was Rent a Queen and all four girls were up for elimination, but it was clear from the comments that Ginger and Jan did a good job, so the girls were deciding between A'Keria and Silky, and in the end Silky was sent sashaying away. It was, once again, a pleasure to sit down

with Silky for this exclusive Hotspots interview: How has your life changed since you were on Drag race the first time?

I now have a platform I didnt have before, and my life is a lot easier. I am doing what is more needed in the community, so that people can be themselves, unapologetically no matter where they came from. I am a natural creator!

What has been some of your favorite cities to visit as a RuPaul Alumni?

For sure its Toronto Canada, as they always treat me like family, and the other queens there are great!

How exciting was it to get called back to All Stars and did you consider not coming back?

Making the decision was not easy at all, but I am glad I did it. It let me change the way I was perceived.

How did you prepare differently for AllStars than you did the first time you were on Drag Race?

I just had more money, so I could get nicer things. On Season 11, I literaly had a budget of $300, and everything else came out of my closet.

Is there anything you would have done differently?

Absolutely not. I went in to compete, and nobody expected me to compete as hard as I did.

Now that you have been eliminated, who do you want to win and why?

I want to see Ra'jah O'hara win. I believe she was treated unfairly on season 11, and I think this time around she is playing a smart game and is prepared mentally.

You said you had a hard time after your original season, can you explain?

I had a very well known magazine that wrote very negative things about me. I felt they lied about who I was as a person. Words are powerful and can affect people's lives very negatively. It did not only affect my life, it affected my families lives as well. It took me a long time to rebuild myself after being dragged down so much.

I hear that you are entering Continental Plus again. Are you excited to compete again?

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I am excited to compete again and to give back, as I want to bridge a gap between Drag Race and Pageantry. After all, everything that I originally brought to Drag Race was from competing at Continental.

What's Ahead for Silky, besides Continental?

I have recently released a book called "Cocktails for a Queen," where I dedicate a recipe to each queen from Season 11 and from All-Stars 6. The book is available at SilkyGanache.com and will be available at Amazon.com very soon. I hope that this book is the first of many (I am writng a few right now), and my goal is to be a NY Times best selling author.

For more information on Silky, follow her at Instagram.com/silkyganache

The Queer Library Is Open:

15 LGBTQ+ Must-Reads For the Summer!

By D'Anne Witkowski Finding LGBTQ+ books used to be a challenge. You couldn't just Google “gay romance novels” or “books with trans characters.” But now, luckily, that's no longer the case. Whether a breezy-beach read is your thing, or you're more of a heartfelt memoir kind of queer, or you're looking for books that tackle social justice, there's something for everyone.

Black Boy Out of Time, Hari Ziyad (Memoir) The struggle to reconcile faith and queerness is at the heart of this intimate and sharply observed memoir of growing up queer and Black in Cleveland, Ohio. As Ziyad, who identifies as nonbinary, grapples with the pain they've experienced and the pain they've caused 84 84 || HotspotsMagazine.com HotspotsMagazine.com

others, they search for their identity amidst a backdrop of racism, family rejection, heteronormativity, faith and the deeply rooted need to be understood.

Broken Horses, Brandi Carlile (Memoir) When Grammy winner Brandi Carlile opens her memoir, she's a 4year-old with meningitis living in a trailer and things don't look good. But she survives, and if you've ever wondered where she gets her emotional material from, her vulnerability in “Broken Horses” will have you wondering no more.

How Y'all Doing? Misadventures and Mischief from a Life Well Lived, Leslie Jordan (Memoir) You may remember him from “Will & Grace,” but today's Instagays know Emmy

winner Leslie Jordan from social media, where he laughs about his failed diets and shares his thoughts on Kim and Kanye.

During the pandemic, his nearly 6 million IG followers have given his career new life.

There are a lot of dumpster fires in the world today, but Leslie Jordan is a goddamn delight. So, as an act of selfcare, “hunker down” with this one.

Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing, Lauren Hough (Memoir) Lauren Hough grew up in a cult, but for years she didn't want anyone to know. For her, coming out as a lesbian was easier to do, even though she was forced out of the military when she did. But now she's bursting that closet wide open. Whether she's recounting her time as a bouncer at a gay bar, meeting Dick Cheney and lonely housewives while working as a cable guy, or dealing with sexist assholes in the military, Hough is honest, funny, self-effacing and unafraid to be vulnerable.

Black Girl, Call Home, Jasmine Mans (Poetry) Behind every woman is the girl they used to be. And poet Jasmine Mans wants to make sure those girls are heard. Especially the Black girls who love

girls and get their hearts broken by girls.

Mans's book explores growing up in an America that is racist, that is deadly, that is dangerous. And how love can be the way out of pain, while also being the way in.

These poems pulse with heart, shimmer in beauty.

One Last Stop, Casey McQuiston (Fiction) After August moves to New York City, her experience there has been, well, mostly meh. That is until she sees the Girl on the Train. No, not the book or the movie. A real person. Or is she?

August is determined to find out who this hottie in the leather jacket is, and maybe even find love. If you read McQuiston's “Red, White & Royal Blue,” then you know exactly what you're getting: a sweet, charming queer love story.

The Chosen and the Beautiful, Nghi Vo (Fiction) I had to read “The Great Gatsby” in high school and I… did not love it.

OK, yes, the writing was beautiful, but I just didn't care what happened to the characters. If only I'd have been given “The Chosen and the Beautiful,” a retelling of “Gatsby,” to read instead: gorgeous prose that is faithful to the original, but with a queer Asian as the central character, thereby complicating the themes of wealth, excess,

class and human connections that are at the heart of this story. The result? Magical.

needs Auntie Po more than ever. But will she come to the rescue? (Out June 15)

The Kingdom's Sandcastle, Luai Qubain (Fiction) "The Kingdom had me in her steely clutches in that closeted purgatory,” thinks Louie, the narrator of this first novel in a series based on true events. That Kingdom is Jordan, a country where homosexuality can be a death sentence.

But trying to stay hidden can also be a death sentence, and Louie grapples with this paradox as he faces blackmail and abuse, not to mention a deep well of grief after his mother's death. Who can you trust when revealing your identity is a terrifying gamble? And yet finding someone to trust is his only way out of a crumbling castle.

Can't Take That Away, Steven Salvatore (YA Fiction) Carey Parker worships divas like Mariah Carey and Freddie Mercury and dreams of strutting across a stage with the lights turned on them, belting out songs that make the audience roar. But Carey is a high school student, not Mariah herself. Still, music is a current running through their veins, and they use it as armor against homophobic bullying and as a way to communicate with and connect to the grandmother they are losing to dementia.

Then they meet Cris. Buoyed by this new spark, Carey braves tryouts for the school's production of “The Wizard of Oz.” But there's a real-life wicked witch aiming to snuff out Carey's newfound light.

The Legend of Auntie Po, Shing Yin Khor (Fiction, Graphic Novel) Imagine Paul Bunyan as a Chinese woman and you've got Auntie Po who, along with her trusty ox, guides 13-year-old Mei through life in the lumber camp where Mei and her father work feeding the lumberjacks. Mei is trying to navigate her relationship with Bee, the foreman's daughter, who may be more than just a friend. She's also dealing with racial tensions in 1885, just three years after the passage of the Chinese Exclusion Act, which banned Chinese people from immigrating to the U.S. When a logging accident shakes the camp to its core, Mei 86 | HotspotsMagazine.com

Fifteen Hundred Miles from the Sun, Jonny Garza Villa (YA Fiction) Julián Luna spends a good deal of time and energy “keeping himself in check,” which entails making sure that he's being super masc at all times so that he's not called a “joto” at school. (He gets enough grief for being a vegetarian.) But one night he drinks way too much and reveals even more on Twitter.

Thankfully he's got a support system of loving friends, but not everybody is so accepting of the news. As he navigates life outside of the closet, he gets closer and closer to Mat, a guy he meets online. But no

matter how close they get; they're still separated by 1,500 miles too many.

How to Become a Planet, Nicole Melleby (YA Fiction) Lambda Literary Award-nominated author Nicole Melleby says her goal for this book was to “write a story that normalizes childhood depression and makes those readers feel less alone." It's the story of Pluto. Not the planet, but the person. And Pluto has just been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and is trying to figure out how to get her “old” selfback. Her support system grows from just the person on the other end of the Hayden Planetarium Astronomy Question and Answer Hotline to include a therapist, and a new nonbinary friend with a strong gravitational pull.

This one's an astute and much-needed portrayal of mental illness in young people.

The Witch King, H.E. Edgmon (YA Fiction) Setting: Asalin, which is ruled by the fae. Witches like Wyatt, who is trans, are oppressed in Asalin. “Wyatt's struggles as a witch mirror many of the struggles queer people, especially trans people, face in the real world,” the author writes in the book's forward. Wyatt's ex-fiancé, a fae prince, is basically the definition of a boyfriend from hell. Only this one has magical powers and is determined to get him back. The throne is at stake, after all.

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are all too familiar here on earth.

Both Sides Now, Peyton Thomas (YA Fiction) High school debate champ Finch Kelly is on his way to Nationals. A win here would be a big help when it comes to getting into college in D.C. But he's ready.

Until he learns that the topic of debate will be transgender rights. See, in debate, winning isn't dependent on arguing your truth with moral conviction. It's more technical, meaning that sometimes you have to argue something you don't actually believe. And Kelly is trans. This is an excellent, engaging read. And I just can't help but feel a particular affection for a kid who dreams of egging Mitch McConnell's house. (Out Aug. 24) Last Call, Elon Green (Nonfiction) Most true-crime tales focus on the criminals more than the victims. Not this time. “Last Call” is a harrowing picture of the danger of being closeted in the 1990s. When you can't be honest about who you are, who you are spending time with, and what you've been doing, you're relegated to the margins of society. Which makes you an attractive target for criminals — in this case a serial killer who targeted gay men.

Homophobia and fears of AIDS colored the investigation, if you're wondering why this story isn't more widely known.

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My husband has the absolute best parents. They are kind, supportive and very accommodating, even though they are up in age, and very Southern- bible belt people. The issue is that every time they speak to us, they use terms like “you homos” or “you queers”. I don't think it comes from a place of ill intent, but I find it offensive. My husband says they are just joking, or that is they way they know how to relate to our lifestyle, but I don't see that as an excuse. I have asked him to speak to them, but he refuses, because he doesn't see it as a big deal. I am now wondering if I should say something. Any advice?

Sincerely, Randall Q. Dear Randall, It certainly sounds like they are from a different time. As to whether it is intentional or not, it is certainly not appropriate. It is unfortunately a form of microaggression. It is absolutely not okay, and you may need to give an ultimatum. Sometimes people must be educated, because as you know, ignorance is bliss. Certainly, don't make him feel like he must choose between you and his parents, but let him know that if he doesn't talk to them about it, that you will.

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Dear Andreus, I have been dating a guy for some time now and thought that we were open and honest with each other.

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What should I do?

Sincerely, Jeffrey P. Dear Jeffrey, Love is about forgiveness. You must decide if you can look beyond his past and see the person that he is now, the person that you were drawn to begin with. Even though he probably should have told you, I am sure that he avoided it for exactly this reason. Most everyone has something that they are not proud of, and we would hope that people would not see us any differently if they knew. Take some time, think about the situation, and consider what he means to you. Everyone has a past, but the past is exactly that. I wish you both the best.