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Are You Getting Enough Out of Life? Are you getting enough out of life? I am your Personal Life Coach and as you read these monthly columns (and I am sure you do), you most likely realize that my belief is you can accomplish anything in Carol Juergensen Sheets life if you put your mind to it. My hope is that I teach you self-empowerment and the first way to do that is to change your thinking.
When you find yourself saying or thinking the word “I can’t”, stop yourself and change the word to, “I choose not to”. This gives you power.
Today, we are going to focus on your thinking. In previous columns, you learned that “no” was a complete sentence and hopefully you are continuing to practice saying “no” without regrets. I know it’s harder than you thought because it’s not natural. Once you practice it, it really simplifies your life and teaches you to follow through with your inclination and not to people-please.
• “I can’t find time to read or exercise or get away.” Replace it with “I choose not to find time…”
This month, I want you to replace the word “can’t” with “I choose not to.” This too will be a powerful tool in making your life different. “Getting what you need” requires that you either change or fine-tune your internal dialogue so that you will feel differently about you and your choices. I want you to shift your negative dialogue into powerful thoughts. When people listen to their own internal negative dialogue it keeps them from reaching their goals. In therapy, we call this “critical thinking” or “the critical parent”. Your parents were typically well meaning in their attempts to protect you, yet they instilled the “what could go wrong” approach. Do you remember your parents warning you to watch out for cars or not to trust people or to stay away from something? This conditioned you to look at negatives first.
Let’s look at some typical examples: • “I can’t get over him.” Replace it with “I choose not to get over him.” • “I can’t lose weight.” Replace it with “I choose not to lose weight right now.” • “I can’t get up early.” Replace it with “I choose not to get up early today.”
You may be wondering how the words “I choose not to” empowers. The word “can’t” infers inadequacy. “I choose not to” presupposes that you can, but you choose not to today. The mind is a very powerful tool and your thinking is constantly feeding into your sense of self-esteem and confidence. Let’s start out with the basics. For the next week I want you to: • Stop yourself when you hear the word “can’t”. • Replace it with “I choose not to”. • Notice how different it feels consciously to make the choice not to do it. By working on this assignment you will be primed for the next step, which is to figure out how you will accomplish getting up earlier, losing weight, moving on to another relationship or finding time for yourself. Next month you will be learning how to use thought stopping to bypass your negative thinking and reconstruct your critical thoughts into selfaffirming ones. Your power to change your life comes from changing your thinking!
Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. She does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings locally and nationally. To find out more about her services--contact her at www.carolthecoach.com or call her at 317 218-3479. You can watch Carol the Coach segments on WTHR’s Channel 13 Wednesdays @ 12:50PM. Please say “I found it in Indy Metro Woman Magazine!” Thanks!
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Coburn Place: 25 Years of Empowering Survivors “Everyone deserves a safe home,” says Coburn Place CEO Julia Kathary. “And that’s where we start.” Coburn Place has been serving survivors since 1996 and has provided lifechanging support to more than 4,000 people since then. In 2011, Coburn Place became the first residential domestic violence program in Indiana to implement a voluntary, trauma-informed model of service delivery. “Our programs and services are designed to empower clients on their journey and partner with them along the way,” says Kathary. It’s a success. In 2019, a team from Michigan State University studied Coburn Place and titled it “Coburn Place: An Exemplar of the Domestic Violence Transitional Housing Model.” One in 3 women and 1 in 4 men experience domestic violence in their lifetime. Annually, 15.5 million children live in homes where domestic violence occurs. At any given time, more than 150 people are on the Coburn Place wait list, and during the pandemic, the need for services has soared. In 2020, Coburn Place served nearly 400 adult survivors of interpersonal abuse and more than 400 children. Seventy-eight adults and children moved into 35 fully furnished apartments in its historic building on 38th Street. Coburn Place advocates placed an additional 200 adults and children in safe housing in the community. Survivors can stay in an apartment at Coburn Place rent- and utility-free for up to 24 months. They are encouraged to save those funds toward their permanent housing and selfsufficiency One program graduate, LaToya, says “Coburn Place is transitional housing, and it's exactly what I did. I transitioned into a stronger and better woman for myself and my kids.” Clients dealing with less severe safety, selfsufficiency and housing barriers can receive up to 12 months of rental assistance in communitybased housing, allowing them to get back on their feet in a short amount of time. 6
Well-being and children’s services are available to survivors in the building, in community-based housing and on the wait list, and to program graduates. Coburn Place offers support groups, individual and family therapy, financial literacy and employment help, budget-stretching direct aid for food, medical and transportation assistance, and more. About a quarter of the clients who graduated from Coburn Place programs saw an increase in their employment income, either from new job placement or improved career skills. For children of survivors, Coburn Place has indoor and outdoor play spaces, support groups, homework help and tutoring, healthy relationship classes, field trips, after-school programs and school break camps – all crucial to breaking the cycle of violence. “Coburn Place saved my life,” says Juana, a program graduate. “When someone doesn’t have a support system and then all of a sudden a whole building of people are there for you it changes your life. Because of Coburn Place, I learned what I wanted and what I didn’t want in my life and how to fight for that.” “We are so proud to have empowered survivors and their children for the past 25 years,” says Kathary. “We’re constantly evolving to be a best-in-class program and a leader in the field to support our clients in the best possible way.” For more information on Coburn Place or to find out how you can help survivors and their children, visit coburnplace.org. If you need help, call (317) 923-5750 or text (317) 864-0832 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
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May 2021 April 21st to July 10th Nickelodeon’s Dora & Diego - Let’s Explore The Children's Museum of Indianapolis 3000 N. Meridian St., P.O. Box 3000, Indianapolis, IN 46206 . It’s time for adventure when preschoolers and their families experience Dora & DiegoLet’s Explore, which takes visitors on an active adventure in the enchanting world of Dora the Explorer, her animalrescuing cousin Diego and their friends. This exhibit is presented both Spanish and English.
garage sale in the nation returns to Indianapolis. The 45th Annual Greater Indianapolis Garage Sale & Marketplace is a bargain hunter's paradise that will fill the Blue Ribbon Pavilion and Champions Pavilion at the Indiana State Fairgrounds with hundreds of booths offering a plethora of items at unbelievable, rock bottom prices. Treasure seekers will find antiques, collectibles, jewelry, new and gently used clothing, arts and crafts, furniture, electronics and more.
April 21-May 9, 2021 Creativity vs. COVID: Ending the Pandemic for Good Herron School of Art and Design 735 W. New York Indianapolis In 46202 "Creativity vs. COVID: Free the Vaccine for Good" is a virtual exhibition that provides creative ways for anyone to advocate for global health equity and affordable vaccines for the benefit for all.This innovative, virtual exhibition shares the compelling creative work of the Free the Vaccine for COVID-19 campaign – from poster designs to viral parody music videos. In doing so, it introduces audiences to key issues that limit access to medicine and provides robust methods that anyone can use to advocate for change from anywhere especially at this time of social distancing.
May 4th Star Wars Trivia Metazoa Brewing Co. 140 S. College Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46202 It's time to put your Star Wars trivia knowledge to the test To accommodate for social distancing and limited capacity, this is a pre-sale and reserved seating event. Only indoor table dining will be available for this event. This is a ticketed, 21+ only event. Masks must be worn at all times unless you are sitting at your reserved table enjoying a Metazoa beer or eating food.
April 24-May8 2021 St Margaret’s Home Show Supporting Eskenazi Health Joins us for the 60th Anniversary Decorators’ Show House and Gardens beginning Saturday, April 24th through Mother’s Day, May 9. Located at 5417 North Meridian Street, the 2021 Columns on Meridian is a beautiful Colonial home completed in 1930. The home features just under 8,000 square feet of stunning architecture with eight massive Corinthian columns on its front porch. May 1st and 2nd Indiana State Fairgrounds and Event Center 1202 E. 38th St., Indianapolis, IN Greater Indianapolis Garage Sale & Marketplace The largest indoor 10
May6th to 16th 23021 Cirque Italia Water Circus Greenwood Mall 7:30pm HAVE YOU EVER HAD SUCH A VIVID DREAM YOU THOUGHT IT WAS REAL? Cirque Italia has pulled out all the stops this year to take you on a magical dream adventure. Trust us GREENWOOD, IN, this is one escapade you cannot afford to miss! Have you ever wished you could turn back time? To go back to a simpler, happy time filled with sock hops, drive-in theaters, muscle cars, and thick sideburns? Well get out your poodle skirts and leather jackets!Cirque Italia’s Gold Unit performers can’t wait to take you back to a time when hula hoops and soda fountains were abundant, Elvis Presley dominated the airwaves, greased hair was all the rage, and street racing was a parent’s greatest concern! Come along for the ride when a 1950s-obsessed adolescent falls asleep and dreams of living in this revolutionary era. This high-octane show is guaranteed to
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Calendar of Events captivate and engage every kiddo and Daddy-O in the audience. May 15th Piazzolla Centenary Clowes Memorial Hall of Butler University 4602 Sunset Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46208 Performance is Piazzolla Centenary on Saturday, May 15, 2021. If you wish to purchase in-person tickets for this concert, please visit Butler Arts and Events Center's website, here. In-Person Concert: Saturday, May 15, 2021 Virtual Concert Access: Available late May- late June Event Time 7:30 PM/ Doors 6:30 PM Filmed at Clowes Memorial Hall Cost is $35 plus fees Programming: Gabriela Lena Frank- Concertino Cusqueño Piazzolla- The Four Seasons of Buenos Aires Hector del Curto, Bandoneon Ginastera- Variaciones Concertantes Piazzolla- Oblivion and Libertango Hector del Curto, Bandoneon Tickets for this event can be purchased through Butler Arts & Events Center’s website, here- Piazzolla CentenaryMay 15 at 7:30 PM EST Tickets for this performance are on sale now- Avoid Ticketmaster fees and purchase and ICO Chamber Choice subscription to receive 4 tickets to use in any combination for ICO’s remaining performances. May 25th 2pm Luminaries - Stories & Songs of Indiana's Great Songwriter, Cole Porter The Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts The 1,600-seat Palladium is a world-class concert hall with stateof-the-art acoustics and striking Italian Renaissance architecture. The largest of three venues at the Center for the Performing Arts in Carmel, it is the primary home of the Center Presents performance series, featuring top national and international artists in classical, jazz, pop, rock, country, comedy and other genres. The Palladium also is home to the Carmel Symphony Orchestra and hosts performances by student and community arts groups.
Its performance hall, lobbies and meeting rooms are available for rent for weddings, corporate meetings and other public and private gatherings. On the Palladium’s Gallery Level is the Great American Songbook Foundation and its Songbook Archives and Exhibit Gallery, which features rotating installations of artifacts and images commemorating our nation’s rich legacy of timeless popular music. May 30th 2021 Indianapolis 500 Mile Race Indianapolis Motor Speedway The riveting countdown to “The Greatest Spectacle in Racing” begins now! The 105th Running of the Indianapolis 500 presented by PennGrade Motor Oil will take place Sunday, May 30, 2021. Thirty-three drivers. 200 laps. 500 miles. One bottle of cold milk. The only thing missing from this magical Indianapolis 500 mix is you. Taking place at the historic Indianapolis Motor Speedway, the world's largest single-day spectator sporting event has something for everyone, from children to those who have been attending for generations. Whether you're continuing a tradition, or starting a new one, this is a race that can't be missed.
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Meals on Wheels of Central Indiana is more than a home meal delivery service; it is the only provider of medically-tailored meals to the area’s homebound and chronically-ill community. These meals are prepared by Central Indiana’s world class healthcare institutions and delivered each weekday by our volunteers. At Meals on WheeIs’ core is the belief that food is medicine. Their clients receive meals that are prescribed by their physician, taking out the guesswork when trying to meet their dietary needs. Most special diets can be accommodated (i.e. heart healthy, diabetic, low sodium, renal, etc.). Malnutrition is costly for the healthcare system and studies show that access to nutritious meals improves health outcomes, lowers healthcare costs, and improves the quality of patient care. Simply put, medically-tailored, home-delivered meals are high-impact and low-cost for homebound and chronically-ill neighbors. At the beginning of the year, Meals on Wheels could not have known just how quickly the organization would be thrust into the front-lines of a global pandemic. COVID-19 exacerbated the financial and logistical challenges in accessing food, and the program became a critically necessary resource. As the impact of the pandemic deepened
and spread, so did the anxiety among many of our clients, wondering if they will get their meals or if they should let anyone into their homes. With the recent implementation of a “no-touch” delivery protocol, Meals on Wheels is creating a safer home for the client by limiting outside exposure; and additionally, reducing the needs of personal transportation. Throughout these unprecedented times, Meals on Wheels can be proud that they have had zero delivery disruptions and in fact, were able to step up by serving additional family members in the household also adversely affected by COVID-19. Meals on Wheels of Central Indiana relies on the generous support of individuals, corporations, foundations, and grants for the majority of funds that make their mission possible. In fact, 88 cents of every dollar go to clients through their Virginia Wesley Financial Assistance Fund, which means your donations will have an immediate impact on their clients. Meals on Wheels also has a community of individual and corporate volunteer delivery drivers who are the backbone of their organization. Your time is as valuable as your treasure and they welcome both. If you are interested in volunteering, please contact their Volunteer Development Director, Barb Renshaw at brenshaw@ mealsonwheelsindy.org. To learn more about their program and ways you can donate, please visit www.mealsonwheelsindy.org.
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