HOW DOES A COUNSELLOR DIFFER FROM A FRIEND? Folashade Oloniyo
Abstract In this essay, the characteristics of a counsellor and a friend will be expanded upon in order to gain a greater knowledge for deciphering the two. We all have been in situations where we hit a brick wall in our life and are unsure of the next step or the next move to make. We have close friends to whom we can turn and reach out to, but in some situations, are they really our best option for help? Friends are needed for support on many levels, but on others, professional reinforcement may be of greater good. With that said, I challenge you the reader and ask the questions: What is counselling? How does a counsellor...show more content...
I told her that as long as she keeps the door to her life open, he will continue to come back and let himself in. she says its hard, that she's afraid to let him go and stand alone. My question to her was, 'are you happy now? He sleeps with you when he needs a fix, but lives with another woman and their child. You can't tell me that you're happy. It may hurt for a while, but trust me; you'll thank God that you did it in the end. I'm sorry about your loss, and please don't get upset when I say this, but I do believe everything happens for a reason. You should deem this your second chance.' I could feel she didn't like my delivery, but I also felt that I was heard. All I can do is hope and pray that my words solidify in the back of her mind.'' As a counsellor, you have an obligation to remain objective and non–judgmental at whatever is said to you by your client. I can recall feeling slightly judgmental; I thought to myself that my client/friend was making completely unhealthy and unwise decisions. Her actions were so silly and desperate and completely opposite to how I would have acted. I attempted to transfer my views as diplomatically as possible, trying not to cause a wall of defense to be built. In an actual client and counsellor setting, this type of thinking definitely defies objectivity standpoints that counsellors should ensue. Objectivity is Get more content
INTRODUCTION
In a dynamic economic where change seems very pivotal as we move into the twenty–first century. Acquiring self–development and being self–aware as a manager is very essential in the business environment in order to stand out of a large crowd also gaining competitive advantage in the work place, one needs to continuously develop new learnings in becoming a "knowledge worker" in his or her organisation (Telford, 2006). The higher the level of education of a manager the better the salary he receives .it is very vital at this point to examine the usefulness of self –awareness and self–development and how it adds value to an organisations success also how it creates competitive advantage for an effective manager in the business...show more content...
Self–awareness practice theoretically takes an individual beyond his or her present context; by reflecting on their performance they gain a greater influence towards the nature of present experience. Self–analysis is very emancipatory because it contributes to the development of person knowledge (dekeyster et al, 2008). Self–awareness has three components that stand useful for an effective manager which are
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Emotional awareness
Self–assessment
Self confidence
THE IMPORTANTCE OF SELF AWARENESS TO MANAGERIAL EFFECTIVENESS OF A MANAGER
In becoming an effective manager for my future career self–awareness wound enhance my ability to identify myself constantly in order to manage myself and order individual in the organisation, it we help me identify area of success and areas of growth in knowing my strength and weakness that seeks for improvement as a manager it will help me to be more effective in performing my job as a manager, self–analysis will aid me as a manage in decision process in knowing where am heading to and why in order to achieve my goals; self–awareness gives me effective possibilities for understanding my own emotional dynamics. This awareness also helps me to oversee group emotions in working in team and directly stirring up their productivity (Baldwin et al 2008).
WHAT IS CONTINOUS SELF DEVELOPMENT?
Self–awareness, knowledge of oneself, can begin to grow as early as 12 months of age (Feldman, 2014). The notion of self–awareness in a child, can further develop into a form of self–esteem and self–concept within the child. In most cases, this knowledge of oneself, can play a critical role in a child's development (Rochat, 2003). During the progression of middle childhood years, children can begin to develop a high or low self–esteem, otherwise known as a positive or negative self–evaluation (Feldman, 2014). Generally, a low or high self–esteem or self–concept within a child, can cause harm. Several outside factors can either aid or hinder the development of a growing child with a high or low self–esteem, factors such as the child's environment, peers, family, culture, and education. The various influences on a child's life, as well as the role of self–esteem and self–concept, are important components to consider throughout the growing formation of a child's identity. For a child to develop a self–esteem, they must first become aware of themselves. An early research study conducted by Philippe Rochat and Susan J. Hespos, from Emory University, purposed the notion that from birth, and long before mirror self–recognition, infants manifest a sense of self as a differentiated and situated entity in the environment (Rochat & Hespos, 1997). The research method conducted, had consisted of five newborns and eleven 4 week–old infants being observed throughout their
Introduction: What does it mean to be self–aware? In simple terms, it is the ability to know who you are. Although self–awareness seems like a simple practice, it can be extremely difficult due to the way we perceive ourselves. We perceive ourselves as something we are not, usually influencing our self–awareness with the bias of who we think we are in terms of who we want to be. The key to self–awareness is removing bias from the equation and making a truthful evaluation of who we are. This includes actually being aware of how we live, think, and act. In Consideration of my self–awareness, I consider myself to be moderately self–aware. As a person, I am relatively confident in evaluating and analyzing the way I live, however, what comes as...show more content...
As a person with a strong desire to achieve, I rely heavily on organization. I systematically plan my life and usually have a plan or solution for every problem or opportunity I face. In addition, I live to succeed and excel. Even in University, I strive to excel, not simply pass with a minimal grade. Having said that, I am currently enjoying success in post–secondary education as I have been able to maintain an 81% average, even earning a $1200 scholarship for the school year. Now, because I have recognized what I feel like is a positive trait, I must touch on my tendency to be pessimistic. I usually get worked up and tend to plan for negative consequences in life. Essentially, I want to be prepared for anything. However, I do not necessarily view my preparedness as a negative trait, but, the feeling and thinking associated is negative. Not only can my thinking negatively affect those around me, it is both stressful and psychologically taxing for myself. Recognizing this, I look to remain prepared, but also stay cool, calm, and collected, eventually striving for optimistic behaviour. What I Have Learned During the semester, I was able to increase my self–awareness due to multiple tools, such as the Myers Briggs Test Indicator (MBTI), consultation of family and friends, and
Learning about myself is always something I appreciate and enjoy; because, these objective evaluations help me understand myself in a way that inspires growth; the questions and structure of the assessment resonated with my true feelings, inciting reflection, and making me more transparent. Dissecting my personality type has improved the understand of myself and others, allowing me to appreciate my strengths more, and improve my weaknesses. Self–awareness is a powerful mechanism for evaluating individual, group, and organizational dynamics in and way that is enriching and positive. Becoming a better, more Christ–like version of myself is my passion; this will translate into individual development and understanding when relating to...show more content...
Values an Attitude Insights Being my best at being me, is a liberating attitude, and has galvanized my determination to focus on the values, attitudes, and insights that are most significant; subsequently, this focus constrains me to cut improvident expenditures from every area of my life and thinking, deciding, as the McGraw–Hill (2016) assessment asks, "What are my core values?" (p. 2). Receiving and evaluation of high, on a scale of 8–10, in both achievement (10) and self–direction (9), the assessment deepened my resolve that my ultimate core value is to cultivate a more Christ–like attitude to guide my life, superior to all other desires. Genuine success in this regard dictates that I have full reliance on His intrinsic and extrinsic strength and control. Accordingly, love is my highest value; and, I accept there will always be room for improvement; this is the essence of my trust and risk taking, knowing I will fall short, but striving to excel none–the–less. Motivation Insights Discovering what motivates my communications has been an extraordinary and interesting process. Candidly answering the questions of the evaluation had fundamental, intrinsic impact when considering why I sometimes engage as I do, and, revealed an element of subconscious fear which motivated certain extrinsic behaviors.
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As individuals, we tend to formulate both positive and negative opinions of others based on personal experiences and life exposures. These exposures help shape our belief systems and perceptions towards others. Our different perceptions cause us to generate biases and prejudices towards groups that we might not always affiliate with. However, we are often not aware that westereotype others and regard them in a negative manner. The realization of the concept can be uncomfortable to grasp, which is why we often deny the beliefs all together. It is often believed that therapists have the required knowledge to help different groups of individuals with an open mind, but that is not always the case. As a psychologist in training, I understand that the first step to being culturally competent is to have self–awareness and recognize your own biases and prejudices. As an Iranian–American, I grew up identifying with my Persian culture, but not with the religious aspect of being Muslim. My immediate family never stressed religious beliefs upon me and I did not have exposure to the practice. In my hometown of Palos Verdes, I never witnessed individuals around me wearing hijab or affiliating with the Muslim religion. It was not until later in my childhood that I met a member of my distant family who had strict religious viewpoints. During our first encounter, I vividly remember how he refused to shake my hand because I was of the opposite sex and not in his immediate family. He had
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Self–Awareness
Today I was very apprehensive about having to work solo. It felt nerve–wracking to have my own patient and the pressure was on to ensure that I was completing all of the assessments, vitals and medication administration correctly and on time. I was surprised that I did not think about the patient having cancer once during the experience. Previously, I thought that given that I am on an oncology unit I would be constantly aware of the patients having cancer and struggle with feeling hopeless for them. It was actually the opposite and I did not view the patient as their illness, but just as an individual who was living with their illness. I was also aware of how much my patient and I connected over small things such as sports and current news. We only placed focus on his health when doing assessments and vitals otherwise, I could tell he liked to have something else to talk about. I also felt relieved towards the end at how well I did working alone compared to what I had imagined in the beginning of the clinical rotation. I am still aware of a sense of anxiety at having to increasingly do more by myself however, I feel that if I approach each day like I did today then it will be a great learning experience.
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Today, the patient I was in charge of was an elderly man who had relapsed AML. I was able to administer the morning and noon meds, conduct vitals and conduct assessments. He was very pleasant and enjoyed joking about what was on the television
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Codependency: Self–Reflection and Self–Awareness Reflection Paper
In the last several weeks, I had an opportunity to look back and analyze the events that has shaped my life. This was a unique experience where I was emotionally comfortable enough to look back at life. I was able too objectively revisit many events that were often buried and too painful to face. While doing this, I felt I had finally become free from the turmoil of fears of failure, anger, regret and isolation, which often clouded my perception. I was able to dwell on many pleasant and unpleasant events with more comfort and confidence of knowing that every road that taken in my life led to me to where I am today. There are many of us walking around trying to figure out who we are and what we stand for. Self–reflection conveyed in many different ways, using many different adjectives to describe the person we are. Many will give an honest description of one's self and then there is some whom become delusional with the perception they want others to see. With that said, I was one of those who fell into the delusional category. What I also discovered about myself while being in this course, I have more codependency traits than previously believed. The moment I became honest with myself, can admit that I have codependency issues. A few codependency traits I discovered concerning myself, beyond the ones been known for a while would be as follows: people pleaser, poor boundaries, and reactivity. Those along Get
Introduction
Emotional intelligence is conceptualized as a person's ability to overcome stress, communicate effectively, understand others, cope with challenges, and solve conflicts by identifying, using, understanding, and managing their emotions positively (Gines, 2015). Emotional intelligence allows individuals to understand others, without necessarily talking to them. This understanding is vital since it influences the way we relate with other people. Emotional intelligence can be defined using four components which include self–awareness, self–management, social awareness, and relationship management (Segal, Smith, & Shubin, 2016). The essay focuses on these four components and the skills that help in building emotional intelligence.
Components of Emotional Intelligence
Self–awareness involves the ability to understand and evaluate your own emotions through reflection, self–comparisons and feedback from others (Steiner, 2014). Self–awareness aims at enhancing self–knowledge, behavioral, and emotional improvements, and accommodating weaknesses (Steiner, 2014). It allows individuals to understand how they think, behave, and respond to situations that they encounter. To achieve this, feedback from other people is required. People who are self–aware are self–driven, resourceful, eager to learn, self–motivated, and problem–solvers. They also portray independence of self–concept (Steiner, 2014). Self–awareness helps an individual to practice effective self–management.